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Do you guys plug Justin's music on here. often? >> Why not? It just doesn't come up. organically. >> But you should. We got a talented. musician. >> You got to bring it up. >> Yeah, Justin is very, very talented and. he's very humble. Doesn't talk about. himself very much. He's working on a. really amazing musical that's going to, you know, make its way into the world. here very soon. So, it is in the world, but in a big way. Mhm. >> So. >> Mhm. >> He's very [clears throat] very talented.

>> Well, thank you. >> Very proud of you. Today's theme, are you guys ready? >> Mhm. >> Have you got your ticket? >> I might not survive it, but. >> are you ready to come aboard? >> I don't have it in me for that. I love I could I could have waited for. so much longer. I was hoping that you. guys were going to like try to make it a. challenge. >> I was running out of breath. >> I was going to pass out. I literally.

>> I'm already like at 40% right now. So, >> it felt very culty. Like I wish you guys. could have seen it from my angle. The. way you guys looked at the same time. [laughter]. >> Well, I felt judged or something. >> I felt judged. I felt made fun of. >> I felt like I was not cool because of. the way you looked at me. >> Yeah. >> So, thanks. I feel like you that is so. unfair for you to do that. >> You call us a cult of disdain for us.

>> We can't give our side. >> We can't give our side. >> Your feelings are valid. >> Um so I just feel like you shouldn't do. this after the last time we did a three. of us episode. >> I know. And I was like. >> people can't tell when we're kidding. >> I know. And I was just trying to be. playful and people were like, "Oh my. god, like she's bullying Justin." And. I'm like, "No, you guys should hear him. off camera what he says to me.". [laughter]. Okay. Okay. Well, here's how you make up. for it. Okay. >> Okay. >> Give me your best train sound. >> No, I don't want your best today. >> Just your best choo choo.

>> We should get a solo. >> Yeah, I did mine. >> Choo choo. That [laughter] was great. >> Thank you. Good job. >> I was purposely trying to make it like. teenage angsty. >> I appreciated it. I really value your. participation and appreciate your. effort, even if it was against your will. somewhat. >> E for effort. >> Yeah. >> Mhm. I'm entertaining. >> A for effort. Yeah. >> Okay, let's hear yours. >> I would go for like a all aboard. >> Wow, that brought me right back to Polar. Express.

>> It did give a little Tom Hanks energy. >> Did anyone have that wooden train. whistle growing up? That's what I want. right now to. >> Yeah, >> but I'm not going to try and make that. sound. >> Okay. Okay, >> guys. I literally am obsessed with. trains now because of how much I love. the trains in France. >> I love a good train. >> It was just so easy. I love good public. transportation. So affordable and the. train straight to can. Took 30 minutes. and it was I I paid for like the upgrade.

which was like an extra $5 and it was. like this really cozy cabin area. Like. >> it was you chargers and everything. [clears throat] Like I got to like. sprawl out. >> for five bucks. >> Wow. >> Yeah. >> Oh man. >> I know. I wish I would have taken the. train now. Yeah. I don't even think I. said what the theme is, but all aboard. the hot mess express. >> I forgot to. >> Oh, we are coming off some crazy energy. The three of us went to Can together and.

Mayorca and just had like an amazing tht. trio trip and just like really just had. a good time. Little bit of work, a lot. of bit of work and then some play at the. end. just like relax, regroup. And I. think our bonding experience of thinking. I was booking a boat and I accidentally. booked a van has really just bonded us. >> And that was a hot mess. And today we're. getting into a lot more of those stories. of just people that you just hear and.

you're like, "Oh my god, please don't do. that." Or. >> and you can just you grimace at them. because that word. >> bad. Well, I'm excited. >> Okay, are we ready? >> Yes. >> Buckled my seat belts. >> Oh, >> we're riding this train. >> Yeah, baby. [laughter]. Everyone's buckled in. Okay, without. further ado, let's dive in. >> Let's do it. >> Choo choo. [laughter].

[music]. Okay, y'all. This first one is coming. from our very own Two Hot Takes. subreddit. It's titled, "Women always. call me a lucky guy when they meet my. girlfriend." And it's not feeling like a. compliment anymore. Me, 25, male, and my.

girlfriend, 21, female, have been. together for a few years. I want to. start by saying that I love my. girlfriend and I know that I bagged. She. is smart, funny, charismatic, a great. cook, fit, and happens to have a rather. impressive behind. When we go out and meet women, or when. she meets my friends or their. girlfriends, I always hear, "You're so. lucky." Or,

"I hope you know how lucky you are." I. understand that this is a compliment and. I reply by saying something along the. lines of I know it or luckiest man in. the world today. It happened three. separate times in the same night. I. don't know if I'm being extra insecure, but I just wish that some people would. tell her that she is lucky. I also think. that I'm an attractive and valuable.

person, but I'm always the lucky one. It's not feeling like a compliment. anymore. I wish that she would tell them. that she's also lucky to have me. I feel. like I should communicate that to her, but I also don't want to make a big deal. out of it, but it is starting to hurt my. self-esteem. Any advice or alternative. perspective that I should be looking at. this from? I just so wanted to like give him [ __ ]. but like it's hurting his self-esteem.

and that means something. Like he should. address it. If he's having these. feelings, he should talk about it and. try to figure it out and solve it. But. like I genuinely really wanted to give. him [ __ ] [laughter]. >> I mean, yeah, cuz like how far does it. go? >> Does this bother you to the point where. you'd consider leaving? I don't think. so. >> No, but it still hurts. Like it would. almost give me. >> an insecurity. >> I'd be like, "God, am I like am I really.

that something? Like am I someone that. people are kind of pitying me and I'm it. would almost give me a complex. So, you. know, it's hard for me because I think. if it was like roles reversed and like. guys kept coming up to me saying that. about like my partner, I would start to. get annoyed too. But like I feel like. that's not as common. Whereas like. girls, like I've been around girls that. do this. Like I've probably done this. before. Like it's like I feel like it's. a sign of respect for the girl. You.

know, if a girl is there and saying, "Oh, you're so lucky. Your girl is. amazing." It's kind of like showing, I'm. not a threat. I'm here. I'm a. cheerleader and a champion for this. girl. Like that's at least how I've. taken it. But it's so funny because I. was [laughter]. when I was in New York once um I was. with some girls at a table and this. other girl came in with her boyfriend.

asked if they could join us and like. talk with us and then all of the girls. all my friends were like, "Oh my god, you are so lucky to be with her. She's. so She was literally a model. She was a. model and she was absolutely beautiful. and he was beautiful, too. And like. something in her snapped and she goes, >> "I'm lucky to be with him, too. How dare. you disrespect my man.". >> Oh. >> And we were like, and the guy was like, "Oh." Like kind of like embarrassed cuz. I think.

>> I think I think she must like kind of. have like moments where she snaps. >> And he was just like, "I'm so sorry.". But she was literally like waving her. finger and everyone was like, "Oh, no, no. We were just trying to like give you. a compliment." And she was like, "Okay, fine." But we were like, "This is weird. now. Can you leave? >> Why'd you sit down here? Bye. >> Go away.". >> Yeah. >> So, how do you feel it's different if uh. it's not a girl saying it? If it's a guy. to a guy, how do you feel that that.

would be different? >> Are these all guys or these were girls, right? >> We don't know. Do we know? >> I thought I thought he. >> When we go out and meet women or when. she meets my friends or their. girlfriends, I always hear, "You're so. lucky." And I hope you know how lucky. you are. No mention of who it's coming. from, but. >> so women and girlfriends. >> Yeah, it sounds like kind of everyone. >> Oh, yeah. >> But it is a little different from a guy. It depends though. >> Like almost like boys to. >> like a guy you didn't know. >> Yeah. It's all in. >> if it's a guy you didn't know, it could.

also feel weird where it's like, "Dude, you're so lucky.". >> It's all contextual like what's the. relationship? Who are they? How did they. say it? >> There's so much. meaning that's not in just the words. themselves. and how it's presented. because if it were presented a certain. way from people you didn't know then it. would be like hm yeah it would make you. start to think. >> yeah it could be a slap in the face. >> but I mean all I can think about is you.

must have one hell of a partner. >> well yeah. >> and so it's like you're in a good. position I get how something could be. annoying but. >> even if I started to feel that way at. some point I would just be like I'm. going to count my lucky stars and this. I'm just going to I'm going to go with. it cuz clearly everyone around me is. like damn you. >> have it [clears throat] made. So. >> that's the right way to go about that's. why I wanted to give this guy some crap. But like again if it's messing with his,

>> you know, then like his self-esteem, then it's good that he's talking about. it instead of just like. >> brushing it off. >> and pushing it down and then like. popping off one day and it seems like. it's out of nowhere. So like that's. good. Um, but I do think sometimes I. like think about how you know how. partners like they should be saying like. you're the most beautiful woman in the. world when they're dating you and they. should believe that and all that good. stuff. I was thinking about how crazy it. would be to be like dating Gigi Hadid or. something and be like no but no but.

really [laughter]. no but like and everyone else agree. >> And it's like if I like if I were to be. dating someone like. >> but someone does look at you. >> on a on a better level than Gigi Hadid. You just need to find that person that. has those. glasses on and sees you that way. Yeah. I think that I genuinely think that like. every person that dates somebody should. feel like they're the most beautiful. person. >> Yeah. Yeah. And with with that, I would.

just imagine like if I was dating. someone who like I find like that I. would expect that people are going to be. coming up to me and be like, "Oh my. god." I still though like no matter how. much I loved my partner and how. beautiful I thought they are and like if. it's never like you guys are a great. couple. If it's never that and it's. always you're so lucky, you're so lucky. I really hope you know how lucky you.

are. Like I would just start to feel. like my chop liver like I understand. where he's coming from. However, I think. talk to your partner about it and you. know, maybe if she overhears it every. now and again, she's like, "I'm lucky, too." I think that's great. We're a. great partner. We're a great match. >> because I think like it's also your. person hyping you up and just feeling. like your person has your back. >> because you are together for seemingly. good reasons and you realize how lucky. you are. You say it, >> but it's nice to feel appreciated and.

loved and, you know, you have your tires. pumped every once in a while. I really. think that that would just be the like. would solve it if like he if he had his. partner being like I'm lucky too because. he even mentioned that I really think. it's a quick fix. Um. >> it's I think it's an easy fix. >> Yeah. Cuz you you can't control other. people. You can't control the public and. like what they come up and say to you. like that. So, um I think that really. like you just have to go inward and be. like I just want to make sure that you. know our bond is as strong as I think it.

is and like I just wanted to talk to you. about that and how it made me feel and. then you know hopefully. >> yeah girlfriend is like oh I got you. baby. Well and I don't know if this is. true. I'm literally speaking out of thin. air right now. I have no idea about this. like statistically or whatever, >> but I think from my perspective as a. woman like. >> growing up you always want to be told. like you look good, you look pretty. Like I think that's how I grew up and. wanting that validation externally. >> I don't know if guys are like used to.

getting complimented. Like how often do. guys get flowers? Not often. How often. do guys get told you look really good. today? Great outfit. I like your style. Like I think there's kind of a. difference in traditional gender norms. of how often we pump up guys. And so. like when Justin complime gets. complimented on like a jacket he wears. >> We literally just talked about this the. other day cuz I commented a lady at the. supertore and he's like, "You're so good. at complimenting people.". >> Yeah, you're exceptionally good.

>> And I'm just like, but it's so genuine. It's not fake. It's just organic. I saw. her belt. I was like, "Damn, your belt. is so you like make people's days.". >> I just like I just love complimenting. people and I'm trying to be better about. it even like do it more because I think. it a lot too and I don't say it. >> Yeah, same. >> But he is like I think about every. single compliment I've ever gotten. >> And he brought it up. He's like that guy. that really liked my jacket at that bar. in Hollywood. Like I remember every. compliment. And I'm like. >> I could never say that.

>> And not to say I get complimented all. the time, but like it's it's so much. more normal for me. It is in in the. girly girly world for us girls. >> It is it is much more normal and that's. exactly why I was saying that like you. know we always are trying to do like. role reversal for a lot of these things. but I do think that there's some things. where it's like just a little bit hard. because because of the fact that like me. I am a girl who's like like trying to. hype up all of my girls and new girls. that I meet and just like and that. doesn't happen [clears throat] like I.

watch any person I've ever dated. they. don't do that with each other, you know? So, it's like it's just different. And. so, that's why I think that I was kind. of, you know, at first. >> annoyed because I'm just like. >> if it's girls, >> you are lucky to have her. >> Yeah. If it's girls all like hyping up. like the girl and trying to be like. she's amazing, >> especially in today to like have a group. of friends and girls be girls. >> That's also a newer thing. >> It's great. >> It feels good. >> Yeah, it feels really good. >> Women sporting women like Yes.

>> So, we do get an edit. Okay, so edit. additional info. We've been together for. 3 years. We met when she was 18 and I. was 21. It was a meat cute, not an app. If you want specifics, our age gap is. just over 3 years. So, there is a period. of time where it seems like our age gap. is 4 years. Either way, I don't think. our age is as relevant to the advice I'm. asking. Lol. I have friends that are 28. who are married to 36year-olds. Me and. my girlfriend both have had several. long-term relationships over a year.

prior to meeting. So, I don't know why. so many comments think that we're too. young to last. We have similar. relationship experience. Also, damn. y'all. Give me some time to respond. Second, I am a good-looking guy. I may. be modest and bashful, but I know that I. am a catch despite having my own. insecurities. She hit on me when we met. I know that some commenters here are. imagining a two with an 11, but that's. not the case. We look good together.

saying that cuz that's not what I was. butring. That's funny. >> No context. People are asking what does. she do and how does she present herself. compared to me? Here's the context. My. buddy needed some help working on his. house. So, me and another friend were. helping him and planned on eating food. cooked by my girlfriend and his later in. the day. There are three guys including. me and four girls including my. girlfriend. The first comment came when. we were eating and one of the girls said. that she hopes I know how lucky I am in.

reference to my girlfriend's cooking. because it's delicious. The second. comment came when the boys were outside. working and the girls were chilling by. an inflatable pool and augling over my. girlfriend's butt. The third comment. came after my girlfriend told one of the. girls that she was studying a hard STEM. field at university, saying how lucky I. was that she was smart and has a big. butt. This seemed like a you better wife. her up moment. Lots of talk about her. butt. Anyways, after reading some of.

your guys' comments, I don't think it's. the intention behind what people are. saying, but how often happened this. particular night? Mixed along with. feeling more insecure that particular. evening. I'm not as outgoing as she is. when we go out. But I certainly wouldn't. consider myself a stick in the mud, lol. I know how to have fun at my own pace. This story makes me feel like you don't. [laughter]. [gasps]. >> Just kidding. >> No, I think he was just in his feels and. just being a dick for no reason. Sorry. >> It's okay. We've been there. [laughter].

>> I mean, but we've all done that where. you take things too far in your own. mind. You just go down this rabbit hole. But yeah, and and it shows how things. that. >> really. not shouldn't, but things that wouldn't. otherwise be an issue can become this. huge problem. >> And then when it becomes this huge. problem internally for you, you can. bring it to someone else, tell them how. you feel, and they're like, >> "What do you even mean?" Cuz they don't.

even understand how that could become a. problem because you haven't. >> maybe you waited too long to share those. feelings or something. But I think it's. not surprising when things that seem. like to all of us that should be a. non-issue have built up and turned into. this big thing. >> Yeah. >> Snowballs rolled down the whole hill and. become this giant boulder. >> that, you know, it's not it's it's hard. to explain, but it's like it's not. >> so surprising when it's like, oh, that.

became this issue. Yeah. Well, and I. think all of us out there, like we all. get in our heads about something that no. one else would think twice about. >> And I think that's what it is. I think. he was also trying to like gauge like, >> am I thinking too into this? Like he was. also trying to be like, am I. overreacting in a sense? Because there. are comments here from OP that say, "Our. communication is great. I just didn't. know whether this is something valid to. bring up or not, but I don't see a. downside to having it out in the open. I. don't want to make her feel.

uncomfortable in future interactions or. make her feel as if she's obligated to. interject whenever someone mentions how. lucky I am. >> Right. >> Another comment. She hypes me up plenty. Thankfully, it's the comments from. others that are starting to make it seem. like I'm the luckiest person in the. world because why would someone like her. be with me, you know? And it's basically. what we talked about, but I think it did. kind of snowball for him. And you know, our worries, our insecurities can get. the best of us. But yeah, >> I think this is a super easy fix. And I.

would just say like, I love you. Like, gosh, those you're so. lucky comments got to me. Or, you know, maybe he hears all these takes and he's. like, not a big deal anymore. Oh well. I. also have um gotten hung up over and. obsessed over ruminated over much much. smaller things. So. >> So like I I I I get. >> this would shake me. >> Yeah. >> This would have me a little in my head.

>> and it's and I think it's doing the. right thing. you're going to Reddit. first and asking about it and trying to. get some advice rather than like. >> blowing up on your partner and being. like, "You need to say nice things and. then like then like you said, that would. be awful if she then felt uncomfortable. every time somebody said that.". >> Well, it feels forced, >> right? Exactly. >> It's like, no, I just want to feel. loved, too. >> Yeah. No, so it's it's the right routes. Um I was I was being a little too hard. on him. >> It's okay. Top comment. It sounds like. you want more validation from your.

partner. This is a very normal thing to. ask for in a relationship, and I would. try having a discussion about what you. actually need from her as a supportive. partner. There's nothing wrong with also. wanting to feel beautiful and loved, but. if you bottle it up forever and sit on. resentment, it's not going to be good. Next comment down, I had to ask my wife. to give me compliments. It wasn't that. she didn't think highly of me, but. rather that she was raised in a home in. which she never received compliments or. affirmations herself.

>> So, she didn't really know how to. Now, she compliments me all the time, both. privately and publicly. >> But here's the thing. I think between. partners, I think it's important that you're. always still fighting for each other in. the sense that you're still not to win. them over cuz once you're married and. all that, you're not winning them over. But I think it that same essence I think. you should always be fighting to, for.

lack of a better term right now, win. over your partner. >> You should always be trying that. No, it's there was an Uber driver was like. basically saying what you're saying and. but he was so funny. I think he was. recently divorced at the time and he was. like, "Let me tell you something. When. you get really comfortable in a. relationship, he goes, don't walk around. the house naked. Save it for [laughter]. those like special moments." And and he. goes, "Close the door and you're using. the bathroom." He's like, "Let the.

relationship still have that. >> it's a mystery.". >> Yeah. >> That like excitement so that it doesn't. tune it out and then make it like u. mundane. >> Yeah. >> How'd you get to that topic? >> Isn't that what you were saying? >> No. In the Uber. [laughter] Oh, >> you know, I mean, >> no, I think it's Uber and we all talk. like that. [laughter] No, I have had. some really intense deep conversations. with Uber drivers. We had one lady and. she was so sweet and she was like.

literally driving to support her kids. who have all had kids and like. >> it was like she had such an intense. story and I had just gotten like a bunch. of like. >> makeup PR stuff and I was like let me go. in the house and grab you some stuff. >> Gave her a whole bag of goodies and she. was like and we just like we bought it. We were buddies. >> So yeah, I get that. No, I've had. especially in like my younger years, I've had like I've been like, "Pull the. car over, turn the Uber off, and turn. the meter off. >> and come party with us tonight." Wait,

no, we did that. >> I know. >> We used to Yeah. No, I was like, I was. there. >> That was a true story. >> I was there. We did take our Uber driver. out. >> It was fun. >> But yeah. No. So, that's that's nothing. The the one I told you. >> Yeah. Anyway. >> Okay. Let's move along to this next. story. >> Let's do it. This is coming from Am I. the [ __ ] It is titled, "Am I the. [ __ ] for beating my girlfriend's dad. in a hot dog eating contest?" I'm 25. male, girlfriend 24 female, girlfriend's.

dad 51 male. Okay, so the hot dog eating. contest happened like 6 months ago and I. had no idea that I did anything wrong. But my girlfriend and I were arguing. about something else and she brought up. the contest and said I had acted. childishly and I wanted to know if there. was anything that I had to apologize. for. So basically 6 months ago, my. girlfriend invited me to a food festival. in her hometown. The day I arrived, I.

learned that there was a hot dog eating. contest, and the prize would be a $100. gift card to a large tech retail store. Being a casual competitive eater in. college, I decided that it would be a. fun idea to enter, and I signed up on. the website. When I told my girlfriend's. family that I had entered the contest, my girlfriend's dad goodnaturedly. clapped me on the back and said, "Let. the best man win." Oh, he did himself. >> Apparently, my girlfriend's dad had won.

the hot dog eating contest for the last. 4 years. and was somewhat expecting to win again. Wanting the gift card, I decided to give. the contest my all. I ate a bunch of hot. dogs. I wasn't even paying attention to. what I was doing. But by the time I was. done, I had eaten 16 hot dogs in 5. minutes. beating my girlfriend's dad, who only ate 12 hot dogs. When I was.

done, my girlfriend's brother Liam, 14. male, and a bunch of his friends mobbed. me, calling me quote the dogler, giving. me high fives and clapping me on the. back. [laughter]. >> The dad is just stewing over there. watching that. They said that I had. dethroned the dogler, pointing to my. girlfriend's dad, and that I was the new. doggler, and that I was real gizzyed. Rizzler or something like that, and that.

I was just shoving gizzy after gizzy. down my gullet. I don't know, you guys. Boys are weird. >> It's worse than moist. >> They posed for pictures with me. It was. weird, but kind of fun. Later, my. girlfriend's dad came up to me, shook my. hand, and said that I was good. competition. He went home to do. something in his wood shop. So, I hung. out with my girlfriend Liam and his. friends, going around to various food. stalls and games. When we all ate dinner.

that night, the hot dog contest didn't. come up at all, except for when Liam. kept referring to me as the dogler and. saying that he wanted to make a special. dogler shirt for me. We had a nice. breakfast the next morning. No sign that. anything was wrong. Today though, my. girlfriend brought up in our argument. that her dad was actually really wounded. by losing the hot dog eating contest, but just didn't say anything to me. I.

said that if I wasn't supposed to enter. the contest, then was it really a. contest at all? >> Mhm. And she said that it was less about. the contest, but about the special. Doggler shirt. Liam made his dad a. Dogler shirt for the years he won the. contest, but I got the Doggler 2024. shirt. She said that her dad only wanted. to win the contest to connect with Liam. And if anything, I should be able to. understand the masculine ego. >> Shut up. This is so stupid. >> So, Reddit, am I the [ __ ].

>> No. This. >> a personal problem. >> This is really, really stupid. Yeah. >> What. >> that's like it's not like you're playing. your your baby niece in a game of I. don't know checkers or some [ __ ] where. you you let the kid win. Not all the. time cuz they got to learn the real. world. But. >> it's a competition. >> You show up, you do your best. That's. what we've all learned to do. That's. human nature. >> Yeah. >> How are you going to know the subcontext. of, oh,

>> dad wants to connect with Liam and this. is the one way they do it? It's like. >> this is your first year. >> Yo, dad's got to work on relationship. with Liam if the only way they can. connect is winning this hot dog eating. contest. [laughter]. >> There's there's other things at play. here and now we're grasping at things to. say to try and make me feel bad for. winning. >> Yet, it's just like no, I would show up. and want to dominate everyone. It's like. I went and played the softball league. with your dad. >> I know you did. >> With Jerry. And it's not like I'm gonna.

go easy. I played. Everyone was. expecting, "Oh, we got this young guy. here. He's going to come in and help us. win." It's like, >> "Yeah, that's what you do.". >> Yeah. I mean, he's clearly good. He What. did he say? He was an amateur. >> He just like did it in his free time. >> He was a casual competitive eater in. college. This. >> was OP. So, it's like he's. >> Yeah. And good. >> 16 hot dogs in 5 minutes is crazy. And. when you like are.

abusing yourself, I mean, I feel like. that feels like abusing yourself cuz I. feel like that would be painful. personally. Maybe it's not. >> They train for it. Have you ever watched. the Nathan's hot dog eating competition? >> Yeah, I tried to actually get um Joey. >> We watched it with her. We were on there. >> fourth of July one year. >> Okay. Do you What's Joey's last name. again? >> He's like the most famous hot dog eater. >> I tried to get him Joey Chestnut. >> Yes. Yeah. And I tried to I got him for. like a birthday thing or cameo. Yeah. Cameo. And then he cancelled it. And.

he's was no longer doing cameos. And I. was like, >> a. >> very upset about it. Joey Chestnut, if. you're out there, help a girl out. [laughter]. >> You got a big fan. You got a big fan out. there. >> Well, somebody somebody is a big fan. And so I was trying to do that as a gift. for someone, but. >> Mhm. >> whatever. >> Yeah. But I think they do prep before. the competition. So they do, you know, >> it's like doing a marathon without. training. Exactly. >> But my point is is like why would this. OP be like, "Let me join this contest to. eat 11 hot dogs really fast, but stop.

right there so that I can let this guy. win." I feel like if you're going to do. a competition and let someone else win, I feel like. >> a hot dog eating contest is not the one, you know, like. >> Yeah. Go big or go home. Try to win it. or don't play that game cuz that doesn't. sound fun. >> No. And I do understand where the dad's. coming from, right? Like it's probably. amazing to be a hero in your kid's eyes, >> like a parent, >> then do better. >> But hey, maybe you ask him for some. advice and say, "Next year, let's train.

a little bit." We do get a picture of. the shirt. >> Okay, >> we do get a picture of the dogler. Adorable. Pretty good, actually. >> We could also improve the shirt a. little, >> you know. I like it actually more than I. would have thought. >> Look at the year. The year is the year. could be better. Yeah, that's true. I. want to see the year written on the bun. of the hot dog. 2024. >> Visually, that would look better. That's. true. But I like the hot dog, though. I. don't know if I want it to be touched. >> The hot dog's an interesting color.

>> I mean, it looks like it's handmade with. pens. So, I'm sure, you know, that's the only. >> We should hire him for our next merch uh. release. Liam, hey, looking for some new. merch, >> buddy. Liam, >> the hotties. It would sell that. They. would just be sold out instantly. >> Honestly, I think Liam might be better. than what I could do. So, I know it's. good. >> Looks like the the Grudge wrote it. It's. like horror film writing. Look at that. That's like when you walk into the.

mirror and they go, "You're going to. die." And it's written in blood. That's. the font. Mhm. >> Maybe the doggler is still pretty safe. Maybe it's cuz it says doggler. It's. never would be a scary thing. >> Those G's would [ __ ] you up. They look. like nails scratched. >> How did we get here? [laughter] How did. we. >> There's not much else to go on on this. story. >> Well, let's get into some comments then. Top comment, not the [ __ ] You didn't. really have any idea this was an. important family tradition and moment.

until after you signed up. And who has. control of the actions of a crowd of. 14year-olds? Anyways, that said, all. this tension for a gift card is kind of. intense. I hope you got something good. with the prize money. OP responds, well, she did tell me that it was a tradition, but I didn't think it was as big of a. deal as apparently it is. I got a couple. of video games I had been eyeing. Finances have been kind of tight. recently, so it was nice. Someone.

responds to that. I mean, if it is a. tradition, dad, if anything, should be. proud that if he was going to lose, it. was to you. his progyny's significant. other. >> Yeah. And he can train for next year. Like, let's build up the competition for. a big 2025. >> Yeah. Someone responds to that. Exactly. Who else does he trust more with his. daughter than the dogler? >> True, true. >> You know, it's pass him the res, >> especially wearing the shirt. You think.

he wears the shirt now when they do it? It really bothers me that the uh. girlfriend was like, "Oh, you know, male. egos, like it's her dad. You know, she's. trying to I think it's ridiculous.". Point blank. >> I think male egos are annoying, so I'm. annoyed that she said it. Like, it's a. reason to excuse it. [laughter]. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> No, it's silly. I think I'd be like, "Dad, grow up. Come on, Dad." I'd be. more so like talking to my dad if he was. seriously upset. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Someone goes, "Not the [ __ ] when we. all ate dinner that night. So, you had.

dinner after eating 16 hot dogs? >> Jesus Christ. [laughter]. >> OP responds, I ate some green beans, I. think, but man, the toilet was. >> full, >> destroyed, >> double flush, maybe triple. [laughter]. >> I don't like that. That gave me a. visual. >> I wanted a I wanted a full poop episode. >> No, [laughter]. Justin. Call it Justin's poop episode. >> You [laughter] can put that on your own.

channel. >> My first video. >> Yeah. [gasps] Someone responds to that. Well, [laughter]. I'm certainly glad you added that. detailed dogler. [laughter]. >> Oh my god. >> Oh my god. Okay, guys. We do get an. update. >> Oh, let's hear it. I can't wait. >> 2025. Okay, as a little update, my girlfriend. found this post. She was a little mad at. first. Yeah, you put the Dogler shirt on. there. [laughter].

Dead giveaway. [gasps] But overall, our original. argument kind of went away because I put. all of my clothes in the dryer. And. luckily, I booked two consultation. appointments. So, that part of the. argument went away as well. >> Say what? >> They missed something. Maybe because the. job like finances were kind of hard like. job stuff. >> So that part of the argument went away. as well. The hot dog thing was kind of. just a bonus jab she threw in my face. when she found the dogler shirt in the.

washer. She doesn't really care about it. now. She agreed to stop bringing stuff. up from a long time ago and said she. accidentally overexaggerated. how sad her dad was about the contest. I. had a feeling. I had a feeling. So, overall, things are nice. She's a little. surprised and upset at the amount of. posters that suggested we break up. Also, I was a little surprised by all. the people who called me the [ __ ]. just for entering the contest. Also,

after a lot of asking, I've decided to. post the shirt. I smoked a little too. much before I fell asleep, and I forgot. to take the shirt out of the dryer. before I spent all day running my. business. But I remembered now. I posted. the shirt and had to make an account on. IMER just for this. So, I hope you're. happy. >> Okay. I am I was posted originally. >> No. >> So, they're probably not He's probably. not wearing the shirt when they do it. >> No, >> it's a sore topic now.

>> That's just They're having sex. He's. Winnie the Poohing with just the dog on. >> Oh my god. Winnie the Pooing. >> No thanks. [laughter]. >> Winnie the Poo. >> That's a good one. >> Oh my god. Wait. Why is that? Like that. image is just so. >> I hate it, but I love it. It's. hilarious. >> Immediately. Yeah, you get it. >> It's not really a comfy get up, you. know, just wearing a t-shirt around. It's not really. >> Yeah. Yeah. I also don't like how now. that I look back at the original post, my girlfriend and I were arguing about. something else and she brought up the.

contest and said I'd acted childishly. like we're going to be in a in a fight. about finances and like I don't know. paying our bills and and then it's. thrown in your face like Yeah. and 6. months ago you beat my dad in that hot. dog contest and he was sad. >> Yeah. No. And she's trying to accuse him. of being childish and then she throws. that in there. >> Ma'am, the minute you bring up the. dogler, you're done. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Exactly. Credibility lost. >> Out the window. >> People do that all the time. >> It's It's in the toilet.

>> People are pulling [ __ ] up. all the time. in our. >> I've been there. It does feel nice to. sling a little mud when you're feeling. >> fiery and hurt and whatever, but. >> you're slinging the dogler as you're. >> That's what I was going to say. I was. like, it's actually maybe it's even a. nicer thing than what I like I would. have done cuz I feel like if I were to. be mad bringing something up, it would. be something that like actually was like. >> really hurtful for me. >> You could hold a candle, too. Yeah. >> More valid. So, it's it's almost like it.

seems actually kind of innocent in. hindsight that it was like, "Yeah, well. well you eat a lot of hot dogs.". [laughter]. >> That is true. That is very true. Well, >> I like the doggler. >> Me, too. Our guy that needs to be on a. merch at some point. >> Hot dog. >> Yeah. Right next to the coconut. Just. kidding. Too soon. >> The dogler. >> This episode is brought to you by Skims. I don't know about you guys, but I love. the feel of cotton undergarments. They're lightweight, breathable, leave.

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No, same. God, we're so. >> Now she wants to do the chance, but she. didn't at the start. >> That's a good one. >> A train is a little intimidating. Okay, >> especially you guys should have seen. you. I need to take a video. Wait, can. you put it on the Instagram and I'll. take a video and you can include it. because [laughter]. I know it is just like that like too. this was the way that Am I taking a. video right now? >> No, no, no. We We can roll the tapes.

>> But no, you don't see it from my angle. though. >> Uhhuh. I get I get why you were scared. >> Don't need to. >> It's better from our angle. >> True. feel like I have the best angle. >> I don't understand that. >> This one is coming from our very own Two. Hotics subreddit. It's titled, "I told. my wife she's extremely insecure and. that I'm not going to throw away my. childhood diaries just because they. involve my ex." Am I wrong? >> No. >> I've been married to my wife for 8 years.

and we have two kids together. Before I. met my wife, I was with my ex for 14. years. We started dating in middle. school and were together for pretty much. my entire teenage years and most of my. 20s. We eventually broke up because we. wanted to prioritize our careers and. would have meant spending years in a. long-distance relationship. It was sad. but mutual. During our relationship, we. both kept diaries. They weren't shared. journals. We each had our own personal. diaries where we wrote about our lives,

our relationship, our hopes, fears, and. pretty much everything else. We also. kept photos, ticket stubs, letters, and. other little momentos. When we broke up, she asked if we could swap them. She. wanted my diaries so she could remember. that chapter of her life, and she gave. me all of hers for the same reason. A. couple of months after the breakup, I. met my now wife. Since then, I honestly. haven't paid much attention to those. diaries. They were shoved in a bag.

somewhere and basically forgotten about. Last week, my wife was away on a. business trip and I was sort of bored. I. wanted to finally read those diaries and. I spent an evening reading through the. diaries and looking at the old photos. It was really nostalgic. Reading about. what life was like back then and seeing. everything that we had saved brought. back a lot of memories. Her diary. entries were full of how much she loved. me and how she thought we would spend. our lives together. When my wife got.

home and saw the diaries on the table. and asked what they were, I told her the. truth and even let her look through. them. She got really upset. She told me. I should throw everything away because. it's disrespectful to our marriage. She. also told me that I should stop having. any contact with my ex. For context, my. ex moved to another country years ago. We sometimes exchange a text maybe a few. times a year, usually something like, "Happy birthday," or, "Hope you're doing.

well." She's usually the one who texts. me first. And I usually respond in one. or two lines. I told my wife that I. wasn't throwing the diaries away. To me, they're not just about my ex. They're a. huge part of my childhood and the 14. years of my life. They're memories of. who I was, not something I'm keeping. because I want my ex back. I told my. wife that she should stop being so. insecure. Am I wrong? Well, okay. Cuz I, you know, the title.

kind of made me feel like it was um his. diaries. >> Yeah. >> And a little more like more innocent. being just like, "Oh, I have a crush on. Susie in my class." But like this is. like. it doesn't feel great. >> It feels like a romance movie and. >> it doesn't feel like you really shut the. door. I I'm not I'm not sure. I'm not. sure. I'm not sure. >> I don't know.

>> You're dead on romance movie is the. perfect way to put it. >> Yeah. >> Where they he finally opens these. diaries and. >> she opens hers and it just happens to be. at the same time. They text each other. If it was truly his diaries, I have no. problem, right? That's amazing to relive. your life. Or I know like some people's. kids want to read their diaries. Like I. have friends that read their parents'. diaries. My grandma and my mom have read. my great grandma's diaries. >> That's really cool. But it's not his.

writing. It's this other person who he's. not married to and has kids with. It is. >> to me very strange. >> The swap originally is kind of strange. Here's the thing. I'm so nostalgic and. like I like to keep all of those type of. things. I was just talking about how I. have my homecoming. dress from sophomore year. It's like so. random. It's not even senior year. Like. why? I don't. Anyway, >> so I would have a hard time throwing it. away, too. So, it's like a paradox. I'm.

like, I don't even know which one. Wait, that's not the right way to use paradox. Anyway, um [laughter]. >> I'm the exact same way. >> Yeah. I can't get rid of stuff either. >> Um my mom's going through our house. right now pulling out all this old stuff. and we're to the point where it's like. >> take a picture of it. >> and then get rid of it cuz. >> you just want the a lot of the the stuff. is tied to memories and being nostalgic. It's not actually physically having it. It's. >> well maybe Yeah. No, it depends on what.

it is. Yeah. >> In going through all that stuff, I found. a big box. >> that was from. >> when me and my ex were together. >> It was his love box. >> and it was all the same stuff. It was. all the notes from in high school. It. was all the movie tickets, everything. you can think of, right? >> All the little things that mean things. >> But they don't anymore. And it's not I. wasn't even interested in opening up the. letters and seeing I mean. >> I think you just tossed it. I was.

literally sitting there. We were all. watching like Timberwolves game or. something and I had a recycling bag and. a garbage bag in front of me and I was. just like, >> "Oh, look at that.". >> But I'm exactly the same with the. nostalgic thing. >> But when it came to items that are the. similar to these diaries, I don't even I'm not even curious to. read through them. Those aren't the. memories I'm I'm like nostalgic about. >> That's what I wanted to bring up because. he's like, "I want the memories and blah. blah blah." They're not your memories,

though. They're not your words. They're. someone else's most inner thoughts. >> Did you read these diaries before when. you broke up? Or are you literally just. reading them now 14 years later? And. >> when your wife's out of town, >> it's just. >> like if this were me and you, >> I don't know if it would really bother. me, but like maybe it would like these. inner thoughts and then I read them and. it's like this is the love of my life, Justin. We're going to get married. And. I'm just like, >> exactly like maybe it would bother me, >> but I think it's fair to be like, hey,

do you think you could reach out to her. and maybe switch back? If you want to. keep these diaries, I understand, but. they're also not yours. Why can't we. make a little switcheroo? >> Romance movie continues. [laughter]. >> There's that risk. >> setting them up. >> But the whole tone of the story from the. way it was written from the beginning. does feel exactly like how you pinned. it. It feels like the door is open. because it feels like he's reading these. letters being like, "Oh, that's so nice.

That was such a nice thing to say. Oh, we had such a great love for one. another.". >> That's the issue. >> The issue is not that they exist. The. issue is that the way he's going about. all this, leaving them out and just. being purposefully, I think, leaving. them out and then being so proud to say, "Oh, these are diaries from when I was. with blah blah blah." You can read all. of them. Read through them. Please read. through them. It's like he wants. >> like leaving them out on the table.

People in the comments do ask about. that. Like, why would you leave them out. if you knew your wife was insecure? Like. why would you kind of set that up? >> Cuz I'm not hiding anything. >> That's fine. But again, like what were you really. that bored with me out of town that you. had to bring up these diaries? That's. the thing. I would do that. Like one. time I remember I was like looking on. social media and I like pulled up. somebody's name that I had messages with.

and like scrolled through our. conversation. I it like I accidentally. got there but then I got interested. >> That's less weird. And I'm like reading. all like these messages and I was like. starting to feel like those feelings. that I felt so long ago that I've. forgotten about. And it was like whoa. It brings you back. >> Yeah. It brings you back for a second. It kind of feels. >> it kind of feels cool like to it does. time [clears throat] travel a little. bit. >> But were those your writings, your. memories, >> right? >> Again, everyone is on board. >> until we swap the journals. And that's. the top comment. I was with you until. you swapped journals.

>> That is weird to me. If I was your wife, I'd be okay with you revisiting your old. journals, but keeping and reading the. ex's. Oof. Next comment. The worst part. is he left them out on the table for his. wife to find when she got back from her. trip. Same. Ask the ex if she wants them. back. If not, toss them. Next comment. This is absolutely the way to go. Maybe. he can see if you can get his back. Definitely weird to keep and reminisce. over his ex's diaries. Someone goes, "I.

bet she threw his away a long time ago.". >> Be curious. I'd be curious. >> Someone goes, "So, you left them out on. purpose to trigger your wife, and now. you can blame her for being upset. Sounds like you are not overly satisfied. with how your life is now.". >> Mhm. >> So strange. >> I want to know what OP says. >> Um, well, upon refresh, when I had the. tab and I could see how old it was, it. was 27 minutes old. Upon refresh, it is. three hours old. OP has deleted their.

account and removed the post. Damn it, Morgan. Don't do that to me. We can't have an. update every time. But I want one. [sighs] D I really want one on this one. cuz I really wanted to hear like if he's. like confessed that he does have. feelings or if that he's like, whoa, what are you guys talking about? It's. not that deep. I just wanted to hear. from Obie. Hey, I mean posted on the two. hot takes Reddit. I looked at the. account before deleted. Didn't seem like. a fake account. Maybe they'll be back.

Okay, so they know where to find us. >> Someone DM me a fake ending to this so I. can have some closure. >> See, here's the thing. Not getting an. update does not bother me. I just. envision. something in my head. Typically the. worst case scenario, but. >> I fill in the blanks and then if I get. an update, hey, Christmas morning. But I. will say we are working on an update. episode. I have a new producer. She's. amazing. You'll meet her soon. Maybe. familiar face for some of you. But we.

are going to be working on an update. episode and like going back and going. through our thousands and thousands of. stories that we've read and seeing which. ones have had updates. >> And we'll finally find out what was in. the box. >> Oh my god. I I just like I think it's so funny that. you had a love box. [laughter]. >> Didn't you have that? >> No. >> Oh, I had that for my high school. boyfriends. I wish I had one. Like.

that's like. >> got a stack of them. >> That's I [laughter] don't love the love. boxes. No, >> I didn't. Yeah, I didn't keep stuff like. that. I think there is like my prom. picture though that's like up on my. dresser in Minnesota still. >> I have our first movie tickets. >> You do? >> Yeah. >> That's adorable. The Nun. >> Of course it had to be that movie. >> Oh god. Brutal. But. >> part of our story, Lauren. >> I know. I just It just sounds. >> How What is that? How scary is that.

movie? >> Not bad. You should watch it tonight. >> It's a good one to watch by yourself. >> Six and a half. >> Oh. >> yeah. Nothing. >> You should put it on. >> Seven. >> Is it kind of like a jump scary? >> It's creepy looking nun. It's not great. It's It's good though. It was It was a. good move because then you get uh Morgan. to cuddle with you. So, I did. >> That's the point. >> It is. It's always. >> That's how I knew he wasn't. friend-zoned. >> Oh, >> cuz we're sitting there in this movie. and we went to the theater that had like.

the recliners and there's no like no. separation in the middle. You could put. the armrest up. So, it's like a chase. for the two of you. >> And we're sitting there and it's getting. scary and I'm like covering my eyes and. all of a sudden he puts his hand on my. leg and I'm like, "Oh, fuck.". >> He doesn't want to just be friends. ly. Lauren already knew that though. >> Not by that point. She hadn't met you. yet. Yeah. I don't know what. >> No, she knew from you texting. >> That was down the road. >> Oh. >> Mhm. >> Timeline. >> I didn't know. That was the first time I.

knew you. I don't know the timeline of. like how long you were seen him before I. >> We all went to Yard House. It's the. first time we all. >> Yeah. You drove. It was not You weren't. a good driver. >> Well, you feel that way about everyone. So, >> it's true. Thank you, Lauren. I'm I'm. just a very good driver. She asked me if. I wanted to drive today and I was like, "No, I don't like driving you. >> I don't want to be judged." [laughter]. >> No, you're so funny. I was like, one day. we were going somewhere. I was like, "Do. you want to drive?" And you're like, "Anyone but you." [laughter] I'm like, I.

just have really bad car anxiety, so I. just like I'm anxious and. >> Yes. >> Yeah. And I already like get paranoid. that people are judging my driving if. when they're in my seat. So, you did really good that day, though. You did end up driving me. Oh, and you did great. Thank you. [snorts]. >> Okay, moving along. We are still choo. choo chugging along. But this next story. is brought to you by State Farm. Sometimes it feels like life just. changes overnight. One day you're.

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we are moving in together in a flat. around 10 minutes drive away from his. family. I am moving across the city away. from my parents for us to live together. and finally have a fresh start just the. three of us. I am excited but also. feeling worried for my parents as I take. on a lot of household chores for them. and look after our pets. So, it's. bittersweet I suppose. Nonetheless, I'm. really happy for us to be under the same. roof. And I've expressed this. My. partner said they feel sad to move out.

from their parents' home and said, quote, "Deep inside, I don't want to. move out, but on the other hand, I have. to and I'm going to. I feel offended by. this. I get moving out is a big step, but I'm making the bigger sacrifice as. my family will be further away." This. comment made me feel like me and our. baby are a burden and living with us is. merely a duty or an obligation rather. than something they desire. Please tell. me if I'm overreacting. Appreciate all.

and any advice. >> Uh, I feel that it's not it's not not. normal. >> to be sad that you're moving out of. anywhere. Unless you're in a really bad. situation, >> any place I've ever moved from, even a. rental place, I cry. >> I'm kind of like, >> goodbye room, [laughter] goodbye living. room, goodbye kitchen. You know, you you. have this moment, especially with your. childhood home. >> Yeah. Um, so it's sad regardless, but. and that's not where the problem was. The problem is,

>> but I don't want to. I mean, actions. speak louder than words. So, the fact. that they are committed to doing so is a. big thing regardless. And I would see if. this keeps coming up, as in you move, there's more comments prior to moving or. you move in and it's still like, I miss. living over there. I miss living at. home, I miss. That's when it becomes. more of a problem to me. But the. emotions of moving, especially if it's a. childhood home, I don't think we have. that context, >> are.

they're strong. And so you I could see. how it might lead to someone saying. something like that in the moment. It's. like, but I don't want to. But we all. know the right answer is we should be. living together with our child, [laughter]. >> right? I mean, that's obvious. >> No, they've gone through so many big big. life changes. This is like such a big. life step. and to feel so unsupported. and just like someone feels meh about. moving in with you and your child.

>> And I completely agree. So sad moving. out of your home, moving away from your. parents. I moved out of my dad's house. when I was like basically turning 30. I. think I was like just about to turn 30. >> Yeah. Remember how excited we were? Like. we were. >> we were ready. >> We were I know we were ready. I know. that. But. >> but it was still sad. >> Yes. Exactly. Sad. >> So, I would see how it evolves. >> Yeah. >> It's got to be a pattern. Otherwise, if. And if this is a one-off, then yeah, it's not great, but then it was a.

one-off. If there's further comments or. further references or things, then it. starts to become a bigger problem where. you start to consider, is this the right. fit? But you have a child together, so. you might as well see if this was just. kind of a a fluke. I don't know. Well, and I was going to say too, when I got. into grad school, I was super excited. when I immediately found out. But then. from the time I immediately found out. until my first day, I cried basically. every day. I was like, I don't want to. move. I don't want to go to grad school. I was just like so.

>> scared. And it's again a big change. And. so I think LP used the word bittersweet. Her partner is using the word sad. I. honestly feel like they're the same. word. Like it is kind of bittersweet. It's a big change. like leaving your. family and moving out of your home is. it's hard, >> right? Well, and the reality is you can. always go and support your parents when. they need it. >> Mhm. >> You need to be where you need to be. >> Yeah. >> And if you're that dissatisfied with.

where you live, then then it becomes a. relationship problem like we've said. But the reality is like yes, you shift. over here, but that doesn't mean you. don't still support your your family and. you don't go spend time with them or. especially support them when in need. >> You still have that ability, >> but we have priorities. >> And by the sounds of it, they're still. going to be very close to his. >> Yes. >> So, the comments on this one, top. comment, you already have a baby and. he's dragging his feet moving in with.

you. Girl, what? All caps. Next comment. He's having separation anxiety. He might. have some issues around his parents that. are not understood here. Yeah, it's rude. and you should wait for it. Talk to him. about it. Let him know how they made you. feel. Ask him what he's feeling and let. him know that you're excited to be a. family and it's hurtful that he doesn't. seem to be. You deserve someone who. wants to be a family with you. Find out. now if this guy is that guy. You don't. want to be living forever with someone. who doesn't want to be there. Someone.

goes, "Not overreacting. that's a. stupidly insensitive thing to say about. moving in with your partner. And they. like paraphrase, I don't want to leave. my parents. Again, like someone finally kind of. responds to that and goes, it's a normal. feeling. They're definitely. overreacting. Your little comment sucks. >> I Yes, I can see things on both sides. it. >> Again, we need the context of the whole. relationship cuz I always go into these.

things when they don't mention a bunch. of relationship issues. >> I assume, oh, relationship's strong and. it's good, but there's this thing. >> Well, and it sounds like they're both. coming from living with their parents. So, maybe, you know, finances, that is. what they were able to do, right? >> Yeah. It's like it is such a big step. forward for their relationship, their. lives, their baby. So, they really just. need to get on the same page and. communicate and work this out and start. supporting each other maybe a little. more and better.

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male. Will and I have been friends since. pretty much forever. We literally grew. up together. Our mothers are best. friends, and we were raised by each. other's families in this sort of. semicomune type situation. His mom is. like a second mom to me and mine is the. same to him. We've both always said that. we lucked out to have two sets of. parents and this huge extended family. because of it. I see him as a brother.

Exactly as a brother. I feel the same. way about him as I do my bio brothers. I've never had any romantic feelings for. him. And it's honestly disgusting when. people make jokes about that to me. I. always thought it was the same for him. because that's what he told me several. times over the years. We all went to the. same local university and lived at home. And by all, I mean me, my siblings, Will. and his siblings to save some money. And. because honestly, it's a great school. So, because we stayed so close, we all.

met everyone's significant others and. really got to know them. I clicked with. Will's college girlfriend, Sarah, who he. proposed to last year and married last. week. I couldn't be happier for them and. to have Sarah as a sister in our weird. little family, which is what makes the. next part even worse because I'm not. sure how to handle this. Will messaged. me on their wedding night and told me. that he had always loved me and had.

hoped that I'd feel the same way, too, and that he only got married to Sarah as. a way to make me realize my feelings for. him and fight for him. Oh my god. >> He had tried to provoke a reaction and. he didn't love her. He didn't want to be. with her. And now he just wanted to tell. me because he would leave her for me if. I wanted. I didn't know what to say. So. I just signed out of everything for the. night and cried because everything about.

that just made me feel sick. And it was. too much. Just too much to process. It. was like my brother was admitting. incestuous feelings for me. He messaged. me throughout his honeymoon. Almost all. of them begging me to run away with him. and a few of them were blaming me for. leading him on. >> Oh my god. >> Which still makes zero sense to me. I've. never flirted with him. I act the same. way around him as I do any of my.

siblings. Literally nothing is. different. He said that he'd always see. me in his head as the other woman. And. because of me, he had never fully been. able to love Sarah, who he admits on. paper is his ideal spouse. >> Okay. >> Such an [ __ ]. >> I don't know what to do because both of. us stand to lose a lot. No matter how. all of this goes down, I'm afraid that. I'm going to lose my family because of.

this and not just his side. Everyone is. close. And if I'm identified as the. problem, I'm afraid that I'm going to be. pushed out. But maybe that's what needs. to happen. I really don't know. Reddit, how the [ __ ] do I deal with this hugely. [ __ ] up situation? I need some outside. advice, and I don't have anyone in my. life who doesn't know any of the people. involved in this. If they think that. you're the problem, and if they push you. out, oh my god, those are not people.

that you want in your life. That would. be nuts. I would genuinely be like, "Am. I in a dream? Did everyone lose their. minds? Literally, >> is this the quiet place and some like. alien invaded? Like, what's going on?". >> Right? >> That would be insane. You're not the. problem. Also, >> I know it feels like a lot, but like, hey, I love you like a brother. I don't. share those feelings. I think we should. go no contact for a while. I wish you. the best. >> Yeah. I mean, that's what you have to.

literally, he's the problem. >> And you have to distance from your. second family in a way. >> I don't even know because I think if you. went to your second mom and was like, Will just confessed his feelings to to. me like. >> I feel like, you know, like I feel like. she'd be like, "What?" Well, the bigger. thing. >> you guys shared a bathtub. What the. bigger issue in all of this is that what. he's doing to poor Sarah to use her as a. pawn in his game and his sick little.

game for someone who has said she just. doesn't have feelings for him. It's like. how are you going to do that to this. poor girl that's so mean? >> Well, because it it was taken that far. That's why I don't think even with a. lifetime of no contact, I don't think. the feelings are going to change. >> No, it seems like a an obsession, like a. really unhealthy obsession. >> That's why I'm saying I think the no. contact has to go beyond him. Unfort.

like terrible. It's one of these things. we always talk about where you end up in. a situation you did nothing to cause it, but you need to deal with all this. [ __ ] and it drastically affects your. life. So, >> but you're going to for your own sanity, you're going to have to figure out that. balance of. >> where the no contact has to go. It's. terrible. >> I would talk to my mom. Like, I think if. you're close with your mom, like for me, I would go to my mom and be like, "What. the what do I do? Like, what is wrong.

with him? I've never led him on." Even. if he's never done anything even if she. did flirt with him or whatever, like. that doesn't excuse anything that he's. doing. >> No. And I I do think like to your point, what he's doing to Sarah is horrible. You got engaged. >> Yeah. >> Maybe you getting engaged would have. flipped a switch for me. That didn't. work. So you went all the way through. with your wedding. >> Did you expect me to run down the aisle. and object? >> Right. >> And then you text me on your wedding. night. You couldn't even like get.

through the wedding night. What did you. do all this for? If that was truly your. end game, do you think me being the. other woman or you leaving this nice. girl for me is going to is going to sell. me on you? >> No, you're an [ __ ]. >> You're not a good nice person. >> Well, and like confessing your feelings. isn't wrong. It's the timing in which. you did it. It's the way in which you how long you.

waited to do it. Because if this was. written from his perspective and we were. much earlier and he said, "Hey, I've had. these feelings for this person. I'm in a. relationship. I think I'm in too deep. She's kind of wanting to take next. steps. Should I confess my feelings to. who I. >> who I consider my one true love?" We. would all say, "Yes, you should do it.". >> Yeah. But that's then it almost gets to. the point where once you've gotten. engaged, gotten married, it almost flips.

to where it's like you shouldn't confess. your feelings cuz look what you're about. to do to so many people's lives, >> especially the one you're with and this. one who's been a sister for your whole. life. Like, it's. >> I don't know. There's really no right. path. There's no good way about it. I. mean. >> I mean the the messed up thing is that. he is trying to flip it on her. >> and be like what? Like you've been. leading me on. It's your fault. I have.

these lustuous feelings. >> Just lashing out. >> Yeah. For him to be like I only did this. for you like to try to make you jealous. It's like. >> it's just so so shitty. >> I know. Imagine me and the other person. >> Yeah. >> Like holy hell. >> Exactly. Yeah. So I just it's so shitty. And like the way that he handled it. again like when people are truly in love. and I get wanting to express that and. like see if there's a shot. The way that. it was handled was wild. Wild. It is. It's really bad. top.

comment is, "I think you need to send. him one single message that tells him. you're sorry, but your feelings are so. polar opposite to his and that you do. not and never have and never will have. romantic feelings for him because you. don't have the capacity to see him as. anything but a brother. Tell him you. hope that this is a strange. manifestation of cold feet and encourage. him to work on his relationship. After. that, I'd probably go quiet with him, at. least for a while. Keep all.

communications courteous, but not close, and do not pursue a conversation in. writing or in person anytime soon. Hopefully, when you see him again, it. will be as it always has been. It is. very troubling, though, that he'd go so. far with this charade that he says now. after the vows are made that he only. pursued a relationship with Sarah to get. your attention. >> I mean, what the [ __ ] that's psychotic. >> And that he is now trying to paint you. as a villain, suggesting you've messed. with him by insinuating romantic.

interest. >> just sort of puts the nail in the. coffin. >> Given these things, I think you should. seriously consider alerting your own. family and possibly at least his mother. to the situation. >> It isn't just that someone you always. considered a brother has confessed. romantic feelings. He is becoming. manipulative of you and has been. terribly irresponsible and harmful in. his handling of the Sarah situation. >> Yeah. >> And I do. >> 100% all of that mic drop. >> Mhm.

>> And that's kind of what we were saying. It's like. >> he got engaged, wedding planned, got. married. What was he expecting? And the you've led me on. That's that's. bad. That is extremely scary behavior. Mhm. >> He was hoping for the romcom situation, the obje like you brought up the. objection at the wedding or. >> I think there would have been signs. though. >> Yeah, >> my guy. >> No, I fully agree. I mean signs in. college signs long even before.

engagement, but especially between. engagement and marriage. I mean that. like you said that would have been the. >> that would have been the time. >> That's when like I mean we hear these. stories all the time. Like that's. typically when people are like, "Oh my. god, I realized I was in love with my. best friend.". >> Yeah. And. >> engagement or a big change. >> And I think that like if he would have. approached it that way and been like, I. I am so sorry, but I'm sitting here. about to and I I can't stop thinking. about you and I can't stop thinking like. like what am I doing? And I I just like.

care about you so much. And I don't. know. And then she could be like, "Uh, no." And then he that's what he needs to. realize, okay, >> then I'm probably not with the right. person and I probably should call off. the wedding. Even if this person doesn't. want to be with me because. I clearly don't like this person enough. who I'm going to marry like should be. somebody that's not making me I think. he's honestly got a screw loose. It. sounds like it from those texts. Yeah. So OP does have an edit. I'm sorry I. didn't include this to begin with, but.

I'm not thinking 100% clearly right now, and I still just feel terrible about. everything. More info. Our families live. in the same house, and our parents share. parenting duties for all children. When. I called out for daddy in the middle of. the night as a little girl, both dads. came running, for example. Our families. are so intertwined. >> and always have been. >> I was thinking Polycule. Yeah, >> I was giving Pol. >> Our families are so intertwined and.

always have been, and I feel like Will. just handed me this huge bomb. I think. there's going to be a massive fallout. from this, and that breaks my heart. We're all very close and tightly knit. I. keep cycling between sad, angry, and. betrayed. I'm upset because I feel like. he's tasking me with breaking Sarah's. heart, and I hate him for that right. now. >> Yeah, >> I love Sarah possibly more than he does. at this point. I wonder if that's actually the real. reason. I wonder if maybe this is fake.

I'm I'm just like, God, I'm like praying. like, "Please don't be actually like. trying to go for her. Please just be. such a coward. You don't want to say you. married the wrong person and you're. trying to I don't know." I'm like, "What. other plausible excuse could there be. for this?" Because knowing that they. grew up in the same house, knowing that. it's daddy and it's literally both dads, like they're this really blended, maybe. a polycule family, that would feel. incestuous. I I'm like I didn't really.

grasp the incestuous. It feels like my. brother, >> but no, that is your brother. >> You were raised together under the same. roof, >> right? >> That is your brother. You know, I I just. I it's so interesting because I have. like mixed feelings on if that's weird. or not because I do I do think that it's. her brother. She was raised to feel like. it's her brother. That's how she feels. Like, but I also think like you hear. stories sometimes where people are like. raised under the same household but not. related and then they like end up like.

loving each other in later years. And. I'm like, >> it depends. It depends on how you grow. up. We've talked about this so much of. like can step siblings. >> get married and it's like well when did. you become step siblings? Did you grow. up together? There's a lot of nuance to. that but this. >> they're very clearly. >> blended family brother. >> Did you ever watch the Umbrella Academy? >> No. >> Okay. So it's something like that cuz.

they're all like superheroes and they're. raised by the same dad but like. >> it's giving X-Men. >> kind of. Yeah. And it's like a really. like cold the dad's really cold. So the. siblings like really bond with each. other but they also don't have that like. same type of like family dynamic and. then one of them like is in love with. one of the other ones and it was like. >> they like grew up together and they all. referred to each other as like their. siblings and so it like I just felt. weird about it. >> But then I'm like but is it weird? >> They don't look anything alike. They're.

not related. [laughter]. >> But if you looked at each other as. siblings and then. >> [sighs and gasps]. >> that I have a hard time with. >> It's a little bit odd, but I you know, >> if your parents got married when you. were both 18 and then you didn't really. grow up together and you both went off. to college and are like, "Wait, I like. you." Okay. >> It's almost like he never did see her as. a sibling based on I think. >> that's what I'm saying. Like, you know, if he was a little boy and like had a. crush on her when he was a little boy, like like knew that it wasn't his actual.

sister. And so from a young age, he'd be. like so excited to see like his crush. like, you know what I mean? Like I guess. it just. >> Yeah. >> I don't know. >> They're both interesting. >> It still doesn't remove taking it so far. and being just terrible in that that. part stays. >> Yeah, but it just Yeah. Wow. >> Well, let's see what we learn in the. update. Oh god, yes. Oh god, yes. Holy. crap. Has it been a stressful month? The.

original plan was to wait 2 weeks from. the time I posted to deal with it with. Sarah and Will, but I ended up spilling. the beans to my mom around 3 days after. the post went up. She noticed that I. wasn't my usual self and pried it out of. me like moms tend to be able to do. She. was flabbergasted. and honestly didn't believe me until I. showed her the messages on my phone. She. called my dad and Will's parents in to.

an emergency family meeting and we all. talked about it. I broke down crying and. I told them everything that I had told. you guys and to my surprise rallied. around me in support. We all ended up. crying and had a really long talk about. our combined family and what this could. mean for all of us. It was agreed that. something somewhere went wrong because. while the sibling flag was raised in my. mind, when it comes to Will, it wasn't. with him. I didn't get into this in my.

original post, but Will and I were the. youngest. We were born just a matter of. days apart, and he and I are closer than. we are to any of our siblings because we. always did everything together. He's my. best friend, but more importantly, in my. mind and my heart, he's my brother. I. expressed all of that to them, and they. agreed that my feelings were what they. were going for when they opted for a. shared family. >> And we all felt like this was incest.

That night, we started researching local. therapists who deal with situations like. this, and the next day, we chose one for. me to go to because honestly, it was. traumatic, and I had a lot of feelings. that I just didn't know how to cope. with. >> Yeah. I'm still in therapy and it's. going pretty well. I'm dealing with a. lot of [ __ ] and starting to feel better. We decided to keep this between the. parents and I until Will and Sarah got. back from their honeymoon. The night. they got back, we had a huge family. dinner with her family there, too.

>> Oh [ __ ] None of us parents and I were. excited about it, but we couldn't cancel. because it had been set in stone as the. only time it would work for everyone for. a longish period of time. Still cancel. I would cancel. I spent that night. trying to keep my distance from Will. because honestly, I couldn't handle. being around him. He thought this was. odd and ended up cornering me outside in. the garden. He asked me what was up. Why.

was I acting so weirdly? Okay. What a. weirdo. >> Where you been, dog? >> I told him that he knows why, and I. tried to walk away. He grabbed my arm. and tried to pull me back towards him, but I resisted. I ended up breaking down. and telling him that I would never and. could never feel the same way about him. that he felt about me. I saw a look of. genuine confusion. It was her and my. heart and my stomach sunk.

>> You guys wrote the text. >> I have no idea this is. >> I I not No, I'm not kidding. Like. whenever you started saying this, I was. like, "What if it was her?" I It didn't. cross my mind. >> Or what if he's just plain that it was. her so that he can pretend this never. happened cuz he's embarrassed. Okay, tell us everything. I need to know. OP. goes on to say he had no idea what I was. talking about. Those of you who guessed. that it was Sarah all along were.

actually correct. His phone went missing. during their trip and he hadn't cared. because he was excited to be on his. destination honeymoon. >> Oh [ __ ]. >> I told him everything. He threw up in the koi pond [laughter]. >> and we for what felt like forever. I. broke down crying again because my. knee-jerk reaction had been to cut him. out of my life. And through sobs, I was. able to get that out. He comforted me. and told me that he understood because.

almost anyone whose friend and brother. decided to hit on them would probably. feel similarly. He said that he would. never hold my hurt reaction against me. We've been friends and family for a long. time. We just sat there for a while. because neither of us knew what to do. because come on, this situation is. [ __ ]. >> dude. >> Eventually, our moms came out and. flipped out when they saw us together. and like amazing moms sprung to my. defense. [laughter] We got them to calm.

down and explained everything that it. had been Sarah. [gasps] And Will's mom. lost her cool. She went into the house. and ended up apparently tearing Sarah a. new one. I don't know all of what was. said because I remained outside with. Will trying to calm down from. everything. Fast forwarding a bit, Will. decided to divorce Sarah. It came out. that she had always been jealous when it. came to me and absolutely hated me.

>> Wow. Her goal had been to either get me. to admit feelings to Will so that he'd. cut me out or to get me to cut him out. It also came out that she had never been. faithful to Will and had regularly. cheated on him throughout their. relationship. >> Wow. >> So, honestly, he dodged a bullet, albeit. a bit too late. >> Will has moved back in, and we are both. looking at finding a place together as. roommates, and he's gotten into therapy. as well to deal with everything on his. end. So, in the end, my world didn't.

collapse, and my bond with my best. friend and quasi brother only deepened, but he ended up heartbroken. I'm so. angry at Sarah for putting us all. through that when really, she should. have and could have expressed her. feelings to me, and we could have. probably addressed things, but then. again, she was still a cheater. just. >> Yeah, >> I don't even know what to think.

>> So, I guess it's a happy update. >> Yeah, >> 100%. So, she. >> definitely, but like also really messed. up. Like, what the [ __ ] Sarah, I was. defending you. >> Yeah, I was thinking that. [laughter]. So, Sarah was hoping that she would like. go no contact by the time they got back. basically. >> Yeah. and that they. >> or I think like if OP would have been. like yeah will I have feelings for you. >> Oh no I get that. >> and then she'd delete the other messages. and be like what that's inappropriate. you need to cut her out.

>> No I get that but I'm saying on the way. it it went. >> Mhm. >> Then you're going to I mean imagine I. know she's the villain in the story. Imagine coming into that dinner though. >> Yeah I know right. >> Wouldn't you be like they can't. interact. They can't interact. They. can't inter like you've already set the. groundwork. >> right? I'm just thinking as a criminal. right now, basically. >> Well, you don't think they're going to. talk. >> Exactly. >> Wouldn't you be like trying to keep them. se like I don't know that moment though. that he shows that confused look.

>> Oh, you guys, it did. I had no idea this. was coming. >> That was crazy. >> I had no idea this was coming. This is. coming from our friend Direct. Caterpillar. Yeah. >> I read the title. I trusted him. >> Yeah. >> Uh-huh. >> I literally have been emailing him. today. >> [laughter]. >> I'm so excited. >> I love that he's going to come on. >> Wow. >> I This was a great one. This was a great. twist. This rocked me. And I get why you. guys like updates. >> We all love an update. >> Yes.

>> But you know, we got to we got to have a. good variety. >> Morgan here. I'll just make it up. myself. No, I need to know. [laughter]. >> No, I do like it, but unfortunately like. not every story gets an update. This. story is coming from February 25th, 2016. >> Oh, what? >> It is very, very old. >> I would love to know what they're up to. now. >> Yeah, we don't have an update. The last. comment we have is from 10 years ago in. the process of getting divorced, but. okay. In reference to how is Will doing?

And I think people were asking like why. did he throw up? And OP was like because. people have visceral reactions to things. that disgust them. His world was also. just turned upside down. Like the person. that he thought that he was like. >> in love with and going to spend the rest. of his life with now. >> everything has changed in that moment. So outside of just being like grossed. out by the fact like the idea of. >> oh my god. >> his his sister thinking that he was in.

love with her then there's also just the. world being. >> too much to handle. I'd crash out. >> Yeah, >> I'd crash out. Can you imagine though. the those two weeks for OP thinking. like, "Oh my god, my brother's in love. with me.". >> No, I know. That's. >> And then the whole family together the. night before. >> Dude, I. >> the family meeting. >> I would be not there. I would not have. been able to sit through that dinner. I. would have found any excuse for me to be. gone. So. >> totally. >> kudos to OP,

>> which is what she wanted. I know. >> that was the whole strategy. >> literally. And then they never would. have talked. >> because the family wasn't going to. confront him. >> Yeah. They weren't going to. >> not there in front of the dinner and her. family. >> Then it would have come out, right? >> It would have come out eventually. >> Yeah. So, it's just. >> I don't understand her endgame. Like I'm. very like I get you. I get what you were. trying to do, but didn't you think the. other five to 10 steps ahead of how this. was potentially going to play out? I. think that she was convinced she was. going to get a confession and which is. why she kept hounding her because she.

wanted to get a confession and since she. kept digging herself deeper because she. was like [ __ ] I need to get a confession. otherwise yeah this might happen and now. my only hope is that she just disappears. and doesn't say anything cuz she feels. the how Opie originally said she was. feeling like do I need to leave my. family like. >> right and is too [clears throat] scared. to tell the rest of the family cuz she. doesn't want to break up the whole. dynamic. >> Yeah. So that that's probably was her. last like hope, but she probably knew. that she was kind of screwed.

>> Damn. >> Wow. >> This one's like up there, guys. This is. like top 10. >> This next one might rock you guys a. little more. >> Okay, our next story comes from our/. relationship advice. It is titled, "My. fiance wants me to get circumcised. before our wedding." H [snorts]. >> so you can show it off. What? >> Well, it's like what's the point? I. don't I don't understand. Like, you're. not going to It's not like at weddings. you go around like, "All right,

everyone, drop them. Let's see this. wedding." And. >> like most people lose weight for their. wedding to look good for their photos or. they do XYZ. But this one is like. >> she wanted him to lose a little bit of. weight. [laughter]. Oh, you two. Okay. [laughter]. I feel like Justin didn't get that. >> Oh, I understood fully. I was just I was. going to let it sit out there. Okay, just we met in the summer of 2018 and. got engaged last year. Although our.

relationship is pretty solid, she can be. very hot-headed. For example, she gets. upset when things don't go her way and. takes it as a personal insult. It's. definitely a princess syndrome that can. be difficult to deal with, but it's. never caused serious issues. A couple of. months ago, she told me that I will get. circumcised before our wedding later. this year. I said no. And she straight. up told me that quote, "It's not a. choice." Actually, it is. So,

there's that friendly reminder. We argued for a bit and she said that I. wouldn't be attracted to her if she had. an Audi vagina with extra skin hanging. Her words, not mine. >> Damn. >> Wow. >> I told her that it's not really the same. thing at all and that I would be. attracted to her regardless. However, she got very irritated and ignored me.

for the rest of the evening. She has not. stopped talking about this since that. day. Every day she sends me articles. talking about the benefits of. circumcision, that it's totally healthy. and safe. >> She's a freak. Leave her immediately. I. hate her so much. >> And why I should do it. >> I hate it. >> She She says that civilized men get. circumcised and that we're not like. those Europeans. The thing is, she's mixed race, half. French, and grew up in France.

[laughter]. So, I don't understand her thought. process here. Her ex was French, but she. repeatedly said that she dislikes French. people and wants me to be better than. that. According to her, that includes. getting a circumcision. Yesterday, she. brought it up again, and I said that she. has no right to tell me what to do with. my body. She yelled that she spends a. lot of time and effort on her appearance. and isn't asking for much in return. While it's true she spends a lot of. money on beauty, hair, facial.

treatments, around 800 a month, I don't. think you can compare that to a. circumcision. >> No, >> she got very upset, calling me selfish. and heartless and basically told me to. [ __ ] off. Normally, when we argue, she. doesn't get that heated, but I could. hardly tolerate her attitude yesterday. >> Later that evening, we had sex. >> Ew. >> Yes, I'm stupid. >> Wow. gross. >> And in the middle of it, she brought up.

that topic again. It felt very. manipulative. And when I told her that. this is not the right time, she accused. me of not loving her and actually. started crying since she rarely cries, this didn't seem genuine. She got up and. told me that we will get this done. either way and that I shouldn't let such. a small issue ruin what we have. Hm. Look at the mirror, [ __ ]. >> To be honest, that sounded ominous. And.

I don't even know what to think of it. Is this something that we can work out. at all? Throughout our entire. relationship, she never complained about. my uncircumcised penis. And now it's. such a big deal to her. It's giving me. anxiety about our future, and I don't. even know what to do. We've had so many. discussions about it, and it always ends. the same way. There's no future here. Leave immediately. >> One easy question. Is this someone you want to raise kids. with? And I get some people are. child-free, but I think that's a good.

qualifying question to a long-term. partner. Is this someone I want to raise. children with? Do I trust this person to. raise children with? >> Would you? >> I'm I'm just. >> with a fixation on something like this. And it's like you're going to do. >> No, I'm I'm genuinely terrified of her. in general. >> Sick. The fact that she's Yeah. that. she's body shaming other women, too. Like what a what an actual [ __ ] I hate. her. Like what? >> Every vagina looks different. Also, if. the roles were reversed and your partner. was saying to you, you need to get.

laboplasty and cut your vagina lips off. so you can look like an 18-year-old. >> the way I want you to look. Just like. the entire topic of trying to tell. someone to change that part of them is. like no that you don't do that. Let like. let everyone Come on. Like, don't don't. do that. >> Especially cuz it's like it's sort of. like get a boob job or I won't marry. you. It's you're you're holding it over.

Honestly, I feel like we will get this. done. >> They're both really wrong, but I I. almost feel like a circumcision is worse. than a job. I mean, it's like. >> any surgery. >> It's volatile to like demand that on. someone. >> And it's all of it's bad. All of it's. bad. >> But it's a we we. >> No. And that we will get this done. That's what really messed me up. Her. saying, "We will get this done either. way." What does that mean? Are you going. to Are you going to like chloroform me. and make me pass out and drag me to a.

clinic? Like what? Yeah. I think it's. like really like for an adult, it's like. like is a not a pretty healing process. This attitude. over anything would be concerning, but. over this is just like I. I don't know. She makes me so mad. I'm I. don't even have words. >> I mean, like, you can have your. preference, >> but don't project it on me. Go find. someone that has what you want. >> Yeah, exactly. >> It's not wrong to want what you want,

but you can't go force someone to be. exactly what you want. Go find someone. that is. >> Also, what if like they're just. genuinely not sexually compatible and. she thinks this is going to fix that? Say he were to do it and then your sex. still doesn't get better. Are you. kidding me? Just find someone else. You're clearly testing the car before. you're driving it off the lot. >> How and how long until it starts to be. an insecurity for him after you have. someone who's like your life partner.

telling you constantly that it's a. defect on you and. >> she's literally saying she's not. attracted to you because of it. >> No, that's. how did they get to the point that. they're getting married? Like, >> and that's what the comments start. getting into. Top comment, this. relationship sounds hellish. I can't. imagine wanting to stay with someone who. makes such demands and who cries during. sex in an attempt to influence me. >> Manipulate. >> What are you doing? >> Yeah. >> OP responds, I'll be honest. I don't.

know. >> Yeah, get the [ __ ] out. Someone else. says, "Wow, this girl sounds absolutely. awful. It's bad enough to try and. pressure your partner to change their. appearance in small ways, but she's. trying to force you to get an. unnecessary procedure on your dick and. harping on it." Her tears were 100%. manipulation. >> You need to tell her that you are. absolutely not altering your body for. her ridiculous preference. And if it. bothers her that much, you will leave. and you should. >> This is a woman that doesn't respect.

your bodily autonomy and therefore. doesn't respect you as a person. >> I honestly don't think this relationship. will last. And if you stay with her or. god forbid go through with this, you're. setting yourself and potential future. children up for a lifetime of emotional. abuse and being controlled. >> Yep. >> I have to add to that I find it pretty. strange she's been presumably [ __ ]. you for quite some time now and is just. insisting you get circumcised now that.

you're going to be married. >> So weird. >> OP responds, that's what I don't. understand. When we first had sex, she. didn't even comment on it. This came out. of nowhere. And I don't understand why. she didn't bring it up earlier. She. needed to get him locked in before she. started editing him. >> It's like she had an experience with. someone else. She cheated and then she. decided she liked it more. I literally. was like even thinking about that. >> It's such a fixation out of nowhere and.

it's like if I'm going to be married to. you, you got to be exactly what I want. to have. >> I was wondering if she cheated. It is. cheating and like. >> that didn't even cross my mind for some. reason. But that's that would be a good. that'd be a good point. Yeah. So, someone responds to that though like why. she didn't bring it up earlier OP's. comment and someone goes, "Did you ask. her why she suddenly feels this way?" I. mean, I don't think the answers will. change what I think about her or that. this won't last, but I'm genuinely.

curious. OP responds, I asked her, but. she won't give me a reason. She just. says that it's her preference and that. she discussed it with her friend. >> Oh, great. >> Your her friend that she sleeps with. [laughter]. [sighs and gasps]. >> What? That's what we got. That's all we. got. That's the end. You're lying to me. I know you're [laughter] lying, FaZe. Yes, we do get an update. I don't know.

where to start, but I'd like to say. thank you to everyone on here first. I've received countless private. messages, all pretty much saying the. same thing. Yet, I still wanted to work. things out and marry her. Then, a few. days after my post, we had a huge fight. She threatened me. I won't give too many. details, but it was more than enough to. give me a wakeup call. And that's when I. finally realized that this relationship. isn't healthy or normal. I had those.

thoughts before, but her action that day. confirmed it. Right now, I'm in the. process of completely removing her from. my life. That incident had a significant. impact on my mental health, and at this. point, I just need a long break. I've. spoken to her parents in private and. they're almost begging me to rethink the. whole situation. I won't. I still love. her, but couldn't do this anymore. It's. a shock to the system. I went from. planning my future with her to actively.

cutting off everything that connects us. I read through all the comments again. after the incident and they put things. into perspective. Thank you again for. all of the advice and private messages. Thank God. God bless. I just. h this just the story really really. pissed me off because it's just like. such a like delicate thing for people to. and to for that to be the hill that you. die on. Like shaming somebody about that. part of them is just. >> find a different partner if you don't.

like that. Like don't try to change. that. It's just like. >> I just it's rough and intimate body. part. >> I know. And I'm even like worried about. the listeners here like getting. insecurities based off of this girl's. opinion. Like I'm like it's so mean. It's so mean. It's weird. It's weird. And this is like I I feel like not a lot. of countries do circumcise their kids. Like it is a decision. >> There's nothing wrong with it. It's. literally more normal.

>> It's so [ __ ] normal. >> It's the most normal. It's like it. literally is how you're designed. Yeah, [laughter]. >> it's the most normal. >> Yeah. No, but I do I just think like if. anyone's going to pressure you or make. you feel bad about your body, you're not. with the right person. >> Like you're just not like your body's. >> aren't meant to be. They're not meant to. be. They're just not right. And so. hearing this and it's just like. >> God, it's just it's. >> it's I have no words. I feel like I'm.

you. In the episode that came out this. week where you just sat there and you're. like, >> and people literally the comments have. been so funny on it. People are like, I. literally had to go and make sure my. phone didn't disconnect from my car or. that the video boss. >> I know. Sometime like I assume that. you'll edit that out and just make it. like [laughter]. >> It was so good though. It was so good. I. got the edit back from Jenna because. Jenna will edit it first and then I do. like another pass and like took it out. and you put it back in.

>> No, she didn't. She thought it was so. funny. She was laughing. I was dying. again when I watched it because your. face just says so much. And that's how I. feel right now. I'm like I don't have. words. It's just such depraved, disrespectful, horrific behavior from. someone and you don't deserve that. Like. love is respect and that is not respect. >> No. That's what I'm hoping uh OP will. gain from this is not to have to go all. the way. I mean, the first sentence of.

that update was scary. >> I was still planning on going forward. and getting married. >> despite everything we had heard in the. original post. >> I know. >> And what I'm hoping for OP is that okay, you can see from this that based on all. the comments and the, you know, just the. experience, everyone already knew where. we were headed. But for you, it took, and I I get it's harder when you're in. it, but it took even another step. further of something even that much. worse happening for then you to realize.

and be like, "Oh [ __ ] okay, this isn't. good for me." So, I'm hoping for OP that. this has. >> made your radar stronger to this type of. thing. So, you can. >> not have to go so far down and. experience such bad [ __ ] to realize. someone isn't good for you. And you know. the the good thing is that once you go. through something like this, you will. have that naturally. You'll know the. second someone feels a little bit like. that and all your flags will go up and.

be like, "Nope, not going down that. rabbit hole." But you'll also know when. someone is the opposite of that. And. you'll be able to quickly know, oh wow, this is so much better than what I was. dealing with before. And then it's the. classic, I can't believe I stay in that. so long. But again, easier said looking. back 2020. >> Absolutely. >> And much easier said from an outsider. looking in, >> but you know, you just hope someone it. it allows for someone to grow and just.

be able to have better experiences. because you get rid of the bad ones. quicker. >> Yeah. I mean, his radar is going to be. more in tune. Hopefully, she will now. get maybe some help that she needs. >> I hope so. and [sighs and gasps]. he can just move on and find his person. But. >> wow, >> wild. >> I also loved Morgan that you go, I have. no words. And then you like went and. like dropped three big words and then. like ended with like a like poetry. I.

was like, you found the words, [ __ ]. >> You found the words. [laughter]. Choo choo. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. No, and I just I just want to plug. this quiz again because I've shared it. on two out takes in the past. I've. shared it on Father Knows. I've shared. it on clues. because we do have, you know, so many of. you out there listening where sometimes. it's one of these stories that. >> makes you realize like, oh, >> like, wow, maybe. >> maybe I'm not in the right relationship, >> not in the right, or maybe, oh god, that.

feels like that's hitting a little too. close to home. And. >> yeah, >> there's a website. It's called. loveisrespect.org. They have a quiz on there that basically. you just answer very general questions. about your relationship and it gets to. the end and it tells you like, hey, maybe you're not in a healthy. relationship. The website also has. safety features built into it. So if you. hit escape twice, it just goes to Google. and if you hit back, it doesn't go. anywhere. Like it's it's meant for.

people that need it. And so I've shared. this now a couple times on all the shows. and I actually have multiple messages. now from listeners that have used that. quiz as a way to have a conversation. with their friend because what they've. said in the past hasn't worked. It's. made their friend not share or it's made. their friend not feel like the. relationship is safe to share or that. their friend isn't going to judge them. >> And so multiple listeners have reached. out and said, "I sent it to my friend.

she's now getting out. >> And so just like it's so it's so amazing. like what this show can do in terms of. like helping people realize you do. deserve love and a healthy relationship. and respect. So I'll post that quiz. again in the description. And I took it like I literally took it. just to like see. I'm like I think I'm. good but let me see. [laughter]. >> Jeez. Please don't. >> You need to zoom in on Justin's face.

right there. [laughter]. >> I just think everyone should take it. Like I do think it's a good barometer of. like let me just be sure. You can take. it too. You take it. >> I've got to make sure guys. I mean [ __ ]. You never know. >> You never know though. You do. Like I. think that's like it's so easy to slip. into like toxic patterns and it's like. ah it's not that bad or ah it's one time. it's it gets it um snowballs you start. to think it's normal. It's it's each. like little thing and then and you're.

like it's not that bad. But if if they. were to do this on the first date, you. would be like, >> "See you, but it's like it's there's. this goalpost investment and you're now. married and it's not that easy to unwind. your lives and we've got kids and. >> I really don't want to separate and give. up 50% of time with my kids." And so. there's so much context and nuance and. you know life is messy and big and.

>> you know not everything's black and. white. It is. >> often times really gray. >> Well you need to address things as they. are. >> in recent times. >> We're not staying together married. because we've been married for 25 years. We're not going to continue our. friendship. >> just because we've been friends for 10. years. >> We need to look at. >> how the relationship is now. >> We don't make decisions based on the. past. Make decisions based on now. >> Yeah, that's all I got. You know, a lot.

of updates this one. >> You know, that's why I do also like not. having so many updates on an episode. because then we get through a lot of. stories. >> But this was really good. Crazy chugga. chug train mess. Jug, >> hot mess. >> I um I did want to say though, like when. we did the live shows. >> and we would do meet and greets, that. was a thing that we had a lot is that. people came up to us and they shared. their stories that they were in the. worst relationship of their life. They.

listened to the show, they decided, they. got the courage to to leave and then. they found the love of their life. Literally, there was one woman, forgetting what city it was. Please. comment if you're comfortable, of. course. But she was like, "I left. I got. out because of the show and now I'm. sitting front row with my new boyfriend. and like and I've never been happier and. he treats me so well and I didn't know. that this was even possible." Like it is. it's so beautiful to get those stories. I think that is one of the.

>> best things about this show is is people. realizing. >> that they deserve better. >> Yeah. I I'm oftent times. really. aruck in how the show reaches people. >> Don't make me cry. >> It's just it's such a gift and I'm I'm. so thankful for everyone listening. No, I honestly the the last episode that we. had, I asked for dental advice and the.

amount of people that have reached out. to me, like even like outside of the. Reddit, people have come and found my. Instagram and reached out to me and it's. like it makes me feel so close to you. guys and it makes feel so real and it. makes me so grateful. >> This is our village. >> Yeah. And it's just like the fact that. like there's this support and people who. are willing to reach out and and give. advice or share their stories about. their vulnerable. >> Yeah. It's just so it means so much to.

me. So I just really really grateful for. you guys. >> I know. >> I love our little hottie community. Our. hotties out there. Speaking of live. shows, we do have one coming up now. >> Oh my god. When I posted that, everyone. thought that we were going on tour. They. were like so upset. I know. Oh, we're. going to get there. Next year is tour. year again. We're going to get back out. there. I see you. I see where you want. us to come. But, you know, if you. haven't told us yet, please drop it in. the comments. I see Canada. I see. >> I was going to say it like Canada wants.

us there. >> Ohio. Um, a lot of Florida. Can we go to Canada? >> I want to go to Canada. >> Okay. I don't know if there was like a. weird like tax thing. >> There is. might be a pro bono show, but. can you say proono for this scenario? [laughter]. >> I don't know. Well, because like we'll. have to look into it. >> I liked it, but I'm like, does it. actually fit? Cuz I like. >> it does. Yeah, we just. >> donated to Canadian charity instead. >> Musicians tour all over the world. You.

just have an accountant. >> We're baby. We're baby. We're baby. >> We're baby. You know, we're not selling. out stadiums yet. We're baby. We're. still just a little tight-knit family. over here, guys. But I still feel like. babies. do tours around the world, don't they? [laughter]. >> Yes, there's lots of baby tours. >> Boss baby on tour. Gosh, >> there's a baby in my apartment complex. that I swear to God is Boss Baby.

>> He is up to something. You should. introduce him to Michaela. It's her. favorite movie. >> Oh my god. finger. >> And then literally one of the listeners. was like, "Thank you, Michaela.". >> Smiling deviously. >> Does he wear sunglasses? >> That would be that would be. >> crazy. Someone um one of the listeners. though, I think like her dad wrote boss. baby. >> That's so dumb. [clears throat]. >> Something something they reached out to. Michaela or they commented and Michaela. saw it cuz I remember her talking to me. about it. But. >> Oh, I love that. Yeah, we're going um. we're doing a live show in Irvine.

November 15th for For You Fest. So, I'll. put the link for that in the. description, too, in case you guys want. to come and see us. We might also have a. very special guest along with us. >> Am I special, too? >> You're the most special. [laughter]. The most. I love you guys. I love you. guys. But until next time. Until next. time. >> Until next time. >> Choo choo.

>> Bye. Bye. One chug for the road. One. chug. Just one chug. >> That was so good.