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Would you like a cake pop? >> Yes, please. Now, now you're just Now. I'm I'm feeling kind of seen by you, to. be honest. >> That's what we aim to do here. >> Yeah. I just feel like you've kind of. read my vibe correctly and you're like, "Today is about treats.". >> Every day should be about a sweet treat. >> Every day should have the capacity. But. I think if if it's at a regular time, every day no longer becomes a treat. So. treats have to be. >> sporadic. >> Definitionally, yes. Surprising or.

irregular in nature to be a treat. >> I like that. Yeah. >> Well, this is a treat. >> It's a treat to be here. >> Now we're rolling. >> Okay, let's roll. >> We're ready. >> Let's do it. >> Um, welcome back to another episode of. Two Hot Tastes, you guys. I'm your host, Morgan, and today I've got Lucas Zelnik. in the house. >> Thanks for having me. >> That was really good. You might put me. out of a job with that. Uh, I mean, I. think a soundboard would be the best, but. >> I know the buttons are they're too far. >> They're so far, and we're so comfy. already.

>> I know. And we don't wear headphones. I. used to wear headphones, but no. headphones anymore. >> This is like I'm I'm It's already my. favorite podcast I've ever done. It's. I'm reclined. I have a blankie. I love a. favorite. >> I love a blankie. I mean, I do my work. from bed. Like, most of the work I do is. from bed. So to feel bed adjacent, obviously I don't feel bedridden right. now, but to feel bed adjacent is. meaningful. >> Bed adjacent that that's got a ring to. it. >> Yeah, >> I'm bed adjacent most of the time. Even.

the couch, I'm like kicked out kind of. reclined on the couch as I'm working. >> I need to get a standing desk. I need to. be more functional. >> You really want to do that to yourself? Let yourself enjoy life a little bit. >> I feel like I'm getting a hump. >> A hump where? Like you know when you get. you have bad posture. >> like the like the the hunch you mean a. like the hunchback of Notre Dame. >> Yeah. >> Like that. >> Yeah. And everyone's like get trap. Botox. And I'm like I feel like I could. just maybe change my posture a little. >> Trap Botox. That's real.

>> They'll literally inject your traps with. Botox. So you like. >> And then you just have to be. >> you're more erect. >> You have to be like Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Positionally erect. >> Yeah. So, I'm like, I think this the. standing desk is going to come Q3. >> I mean, listen, alternatively, you could. just not inject Botox into your traps. and not get the standing desk and then. just kind of see where gravity takes. you. >> Okay. People are like, where are you. guys going with this? That's a great. question. You know, you might feel at.

this point in the episode, I'm heckling. you. I'm giving you a hard time. And. that is something you come into contact. with, I feel like, every show. >> Nice. That was a good transition. You. get the best hecklers. >> Well, I. >> at least from what I see. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I guess I don't love it when they. talk first, but if I'm talking to them, Fun, fun, fun. >> You have to initiate it. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. On my terms. >> Okay. >> On my terms. >> But all those clips are like the whole. amount of that that's in the show.

usually. So, it's not like all that, but. it is always fun and I think people. enjoy. I like learning about people and. doing a regular stand-up show without it. is can be a little bit monotonous. because you know what you're gonna say. I mean, you know, your goal is that. everyone else is surprised and loves it, but when you get to meet people in the. audience, especially when you meet. people with like crazy stories, it is uh. it's it hopefully you can make it funny, but I'm also just like sometimes. fascinated, especially like I was just. in Oklahoma.

>> Oh, wow. And it's like you talk to. anyone from Oklahoma and I'm interested. just cuz I'm like what is your. >> what's your vibe. >> life? >> Yeah. I grew up with my neighbors being. from Oklahoma and they talked about like. skunk busting and possum hunting and. like crazy stuff. >> I met a guy So I was in Wait, where did. you grow up? >> Minnesota. >> Maybe I should know this. >> Where in Minnesota? >> Duth. >> Duth. Okay. I've been to Duth. >> Waterfront. Well, yeah. I performed at. the University of Minnesota Duth. >> Oh [laughter] my god. It was. >> Bulldogs.

>> Yeah. >> Yeah. You know, Duth. >> and so there's that water. It's I mean. it's freezing obviously. >> canal park. >> but there's that lake all and I would. right that's I should know that anyway. [laughter]. but but then there's like all those good. food places kind of right on the lake. >> You know what I'm talking about? >> Canal Park. >> Mhm. That was awesome. >> Duth is really underrated. It's very. niche. It's practically Canada but. really crazy you went there. But yeah, Oklahoma's wild. So, I was I was in. Oklahoma and I was in a vintage store.

cuz sometimes what I do when I go on. tours, I go to vint I go vintage. shopping because it's my belief that. that will lead me to the cool. neighborhood. Sometimes true, sometimes. isn't, >> but like if there's a lot of vintage. stores next to each other, usually. you're in the kind of like trendy part. of town, then there's good coffee, then. there's good brunch. So, it's like. vintage is for some reason the thing I. picked. >> because. >> vintage is the gateway to everything. good in a community. >> Yeah. because I've picked good. restaurants that aren't around other. good restaurants and I've picked good.

coffee shops that aren't around other. good coffee shops, but vintage seems to. be around both of those things. >> It's upping your odds for sure. >> Mhm. >> Okay. >> So, I go to a vintage store and I'm. looking at like, I don't know, t-shirts. or something. And then I see probably a. three-month-old kangaroo hop into the. door of the vintage store. >> Real wasn't taxiderermy. >> Real kangaroo hopping. >> Kangaroo or walabe? kangaroo. >> How did they get that? >> So, I obviously am looking for his owner.

and I find the owner. The kangaroo is. also wearing a diaper and the owner. >> kangaroo was just on its own. >> Kangaroo was on its own just hopping. around freely in the vintage store, not. even on a leash or anything. >> No chaperone in a vintage store is. actually wild. >> The guy was like two rows down just like. hanging out. And he was like, "Oh yeah, you want to hold my kangaroo?" And I was. like, "Yeah, I want to hold your. kangaroo.". >> You have a picture of the kangaroo? Yeah, I have a picture with me in the. kangaroo. >> And so I end up getting to talking to. him.

>> and he is in fact the owner of an exotic. animals ranch called HQ Ranch in. Oklahoma. >> Joe Exotic. >> He knew Joe Exotic because Oklahoma is. where Joe Exotic is from. And the reason. why all these exotic animal ranches. exist in Oklahoma is because of their. laws. >> Yeah. Sorry, it's going to take. >> kind of the wild west. Maybe if you type. kangaroo in pictures, it'll pop up. >> That helps sometimes. >> So, yep. Well, this is me on the ranch. It.

didn't pull the. >> Okay, wait. So, you got invited to the. ranch. >> So, he So, I get to talking to him. He's. like, "What do you do?" I'm like, "I'm a. comedian. I'm just in town for the. weekend." He's like, "I've got this. ranch. Do you want to come out and and. see the ranch?" I was like, "Yeah.". So, okay. >> This is my dream. >> This is me and a giraffe. >> Oh my god. First of all, like I was a. little nervous when I met him. >> cuz they Yeah, >> he was like very tatted up. Like I was. like, I'm in Oklahoma. We had to drive, you know, an hour out of Tulsa, Oklahoma. into just. >> Were you in his car or yours?

>> No, we had a rental. >> Okay, that's positive at least. >> So, we drove in ours and I was like, part of me was I was like, is this guy. like one of these like doomsday prepping. >> white supremacist freaking like. >> I mean, he could have been in Noah's. arc. Modern day Noah's arc. >> Yeah. Or like Yeah. like a religious. thing or like flags with groups that I. don't you you know that I want to stay. away from. >> And so I was nervous but I get there. it's first of all [gasps] beautiful.

>> it's his it's him and his wife. They're. taking amazing care of the animals. It's. called. >> I was going to ask I'm like how ethical. >> Oh no ethical. Like I was shocked. They. do a lot of education. They do a lot of. work for zoos. So they they're like. >> are they on TikTok? >> It's called HQ Ranch. Shout them out. Shout out. I told them I would promote. them always because they were just so. sweet to me and they took such good care. of me. >> Oh my god. Yeah. Oh my god. This is him. >> Yeah, that's him. That's my guy. >> Wow. >> And it it was just this is me in a.

Mongolian camel. Um. >> Oh my gosh. I can send you the time of. your life. >> Oh, it was a blast. And I had this local. opener, this guy named Caleb who was. like hosting my shows out there. Very. quiet guy. Sweet guy. Very quiet. and he. hadn't said much um kind of like the. whole weekend, but we invited him out. because we being the opener that I. brought from New York who's like a. friend of mine that I bring out and then. you always like you kind of meet a local. who's working it from the club and I was. like, "Yeah, do you want to come out?".

And then when we got out there with. Caleb, >> he just had this like special bond with. all the animals. Like he didn't say much. but all the animals like gravitated. towards him in a really. >> strange he was like a silent savant. Look this is him like. >> all the kangaroos were like flocking to. him and he had this really peaceful. energy. >> He must have like some aura like that. just like he's putting off some energy. >> Horses can you hear your heartbeat from. like 8t away? >> Really? >> Yeah. So I wonder if he's just like.

emitting some energy. >> That's super cool. >> Super cool. Whatever it was, I wasn't. admitting it. Although this giraffe. likes me. [laughter]. >> And giraffes can be mean. They can. headbutt. >> Well, he he could whip his neck up like. like it was. >> a girl in LA. I ended up like at a. promoter dinner with her and she got her. nose broken from a draft and like. Malibu. >> Really? >> Yeah. Swung and just took her out. >> Wow. >> I know. I know. But let's get into these. stories. They're all crazy off the.

charts kind of like don't be a heckler. vibe. >> Okay. and we're going to we're going to. see what you think about him. Our first one we've got here coming from. Am I the [ __ ] It is titled, "Am I. the [ __ ] for refusing to eat my. wife's spaghetti after I found out what. she put in it?" H.

>> last night my wife made spaghetti and it. smelled amazing. She said she tried. something new and wanted me to just eat. it before asking questions. I had a few. bites and it kind of tasted off but not. terrible, just weirdly sweet and earthy. I asked what she changed and she told me. that she blended up leftover spaghetti. from 6 days ago and mixed it into the. sauce to thicken it. I immediately. stopped eating. I know it is technically.

the same ingredients, but the idea of. blended old noodles mixed into fresh. sauce made me feel sick. She got. offended and said I already ate half of. a plate, so clearly it was fine and I. was just being dramatic now that I knew. I told her that is exactly the point. I. did not know. If I had known beforehand, I would not have eaten it. She said I. was being wasteful and disrespectful and. acting like she served me garbage. I.

ended up making a sandwich because I. could not finish it and she got really. upset and barely talked to me the rest. of the night. Now she told her family. and they think that I embarrassed her. But my mom thinks it's gross and I. should not have been tricked into eating. it. I feel bad for hurting her feelings, but I also feel like I should get a say. in what I'm eating. Am I the [ __ ]. >> Wow. Are they lesbians? >> No mention of gender or ages. >> I just can't picture a man.

stopping eating that [laughter]. >> if he was hungry. >> The minute I find out something's old. though, like I'm I love a leftover, but. six days you're kind of bordering on. >> mold. >> Well, it's definitely yucky. I feel like. I have a girlfriend and she often she's. a great cook but she oftenimes likes to. throw things in that's like oh let me.

experiment like that's part of her. >> what she what's she doing to your food. >> I'm trying to think of like a time where. I was like what did you put in here a. lot of like okay I'm going to I don't. know anything about cooking so I don't. know how normal these things are. >> but I know that like reusing the oils. and the pasta water. >> Oh yeah, that's. >> and pouring that kind of stuff in. She. does a lot of like she drains it out and. then she takes the drained thing and. then she drains that again and then. there's like a.

>> that I mean that's how like you make. gravy by like draining fat and whatever. >> This sounds like a person that thought. they were going to I know we were just. dashing before this. [laughter]. >> We don't cook. >> both of us trying to talk about cooking. Like, what is that? >> Is the I'm like, I don't know if you're. the [ __ ] cuz I don't know enough. about the culinary arts. Um, [laughter]. I mean, it's gross. You think 6 days is. mold mold prone? >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> Right. >> I don't know. I mean, I don't like I'll.

I'll leave a pizza on the counter, not. refrigerate it, and eat it for a few. days. >> Days or one night? >> One night. Now that I've seen your. reaction, >> you days. >> maybe like definitely the next morning. and maybe more that day. >> later. >> Oh, no. [sighs and gasps]. >> So, >> no, >> I don't know. I I don't I guess you're. not an [ __ ] because you should decide. I think it's all to me it's all in the. messaging like you have to be grateful.

that your significant other is cooking. for you because that is never expected. >> True. So I think along with a healthy. dose of gratitude, it is fair to say now. that I know what's in the food, I don't. want to eat it. Especially if you're. worried that the food is unhealthy. >> Yeah. >> So I don't think that makes you the. [ __ ] However, I think if someone. feels disrespected when they cook for. you based on your reaction, it's. possible that your reaction is airing on.

the side of disrespectful. I think you. have to be a little extra thankful when. anyone cooks for you. >> How are you envisioning the reaction? Are you envisioning a like yuck, I'm dis. like are you envisioning like outrage or. just like I'm envisioning like a slow. push the plate away like h not going to. not going to be able to finish that. >> with a slow push the plate away. I think. you're so not the [ __ ]. >> Okay, so reaction would matter here. According to Google, cooked pasta.

usually only lasts 3 to 5 days in the. refrigerator before spoiling. >> Oh no. >> And this was day six. >> Okay. You're not the [ __ ] Especially. if you knew this. I didn't know this. >> I mean, >> if you know that pasta goes bad within a. few days. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I mean, it I would have thought to. Google it quickly before I'm like, let. me blend up this old food that's kind of. starting to stink into my new food. Cuz.

wouldn't that make the new food spoil. faster as well? You know, >> probably. Yeah. I mean, if you're. introducing like mold to it for sure, cuz then the mold could grow in the new. food. >> Also, I have some unfortunate news about. pizza. >> Oh, no. >> Yeah, it's not good. Michigan State did. a study. They sampled the pizza. >> Spartans. >> I don't know. >> Or the state of Michigan. >> Michigan State. That's the the school.

>> Okay. Yeah. Michigan State. >> Michigan State. >> Spartans. Food safety expert, Dr. Terresa Berg Holes. And they swabbed. pizza just 6 hours after it being out on. the counter. >> And what was in the swab? >> Bacteria cultures already. >> Does that mean. that's going to You know what? You know. what that's going to do to me? make you. eat the pizza right away and then put it. in the fridge. >> That is gonna change the way that I eat. leftover pizza forever. >> I mean, six hours you're still, she says.

it's still like very low level. >> Mhm. >> But. >> I put I closed the box. >> I don't. >> like the bacteria. >> I think it's more like. >> can't fly in through the box. >> I think it's temperature. [laughter]. >> I think it's temperature. >> [ __ ]. >> I know. >> This is like one of those things. So, like, so my girlfriend's British and. when I travel all around like America. for comedy, she wouldn't want to drink. the tap water. >> in certain hotel sinks. And I was like, >> "No, if it's like a big hotel chain,

it's totally fine. Marriott's not going. to let me sue them because I got sick. from their tap water.". >> I honestly don't think they're putting. reverse osmosis systems in their in. their stuff. >> Reverse osmosis systems. >> Yeah. takes Pavs and like like let. >> How do you know all this about this? >> I don't know. I'm I'm weird with water. I like don't drink tap water. >> So, okay. So, this h So, I start calling. hotels like gradually. >> and asking them about their.

>> asking them how the water is and like at. least 50% of the time they were like, "Oh, don't drink that." And I was like, "Really?". >> Yeah, she was right. >> And then I was looking up like different. states. It turns out like many states. have water that's sort of in violation. of what you'd want it to be. >> Yeah. Think about poor Flint, Michigan, how long they went without. >> clean. But I thought like in my mind I'm. like, well, Flint was a national news. story because they didn't have clean.

water. I ipso facto. >> The assumption is it does. But I'm from. New York, so it's like New York has some. of the highest. >> rating about the tap water there. >> Tap water. >> Yeah. People are kind of snobs about New. York's tap water. They're like, I I. can't eat bagels anywhere else. [laughter] because the New York water. makes the bagel. [clears throat]. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> It's raved about. >> I don't know. Now, so now I'm like kind. of off tap water and then you're. drinking bottles and now you're into. microlasticville. >> I know. Yeah. You have to get glass. jugs, which they do have, but then if.

you look at the brand of water that's in. the glass jugs, they have a class action. lawsuit for like Chromon or something. No, >> it's just a whole thing. We can't escape. it this way. >> So, what do you do? What's your. practice? Do you Do you ignore the. microplastics thing, >> you know? I try to. >> Yeah, >> I try to. It. >> They're already in my brain clearly. I. think we see that every week. You can. only do so much. >> Sure. >> So, it's hard. But this is why like I. think colon cancer's shooting up. Just.

everyone's getting like. >> Yeah. I'm like always constipated. >> How old are you? >> 30. >> Have you talked to a GI specialist? No, I don't really go to the doctor. >> What do you mean? >> Because I find that more often than not, they tell me everything's fine. [sighs and gasps]. >> Unfortunately, you do have to advocate. for yourself. >> Mhm. >> It's um very unfortunate. Colon cancer. is a big care in the Two Hot Takes. universe. Um and March was colon cancer. awareness month and so Oh, >> we talked a lot about that and we've had.

a lot of listeners because of the show. go and get like diagnosed with colon. cancer. >> Really? >> Mhm. So I. >> not saying that's what you have, but. like stomach bowel irregularities. You. should. >> constant constipation can probably. increase your risk. >> Do you get enough fiber? >> I do, but isn't fiber one of the this. Okay, this is where I go with every. health thing is like you you look into. fiber. They're like, okay, if you eat. fiber, it makes you poo. >> If you eat too much fiber, it. constipates you. >> It's a fine line with everything. >> So it's like, >> where's the balance? >> Where's the balance? And then I like I. hope that I'm just getting enough.

>> fiber. But last time I went to get a. physical, my doctor, I think I was like. 23, so it's been a while. It's been like. seven years. >> Seven years, Lucas. >> I know. >> It's time. >> It's probably time. >> It's time. Just like even like get your. blood work up, your normal preventative. care. >> Dentist, you should be going every six. months. >> I'm not doing that, but I am going. probably once a year. >> Oh. Do you get cavities often? >> I do usually have them when I go back. >> Maybe every six months would be better. No cavities. >> Unquestionably so. And and [laughter].

>> there's probably so many people. listening where they're like, I haven't. been to the dentist in 4 years. >> I guess right in like, am I driving you. nuts right now or are you feeling seen. or maybe it's 50/50? >> We could do a poll. >> We could do a poll. >> When was the last time you went to the. dentist? >> Yeah. Are you being driven nuts by this. lack of medical attention or or are you. >> I will say I'm a bit of a hypochondriac, so like don't let my anxiety rub off on. you. Well, LA in general is a different. culture around self-care, physical.

self-care. And so, I think when I come. out here, I just feel like a total piece. of [ __ ] because in. >> No, >> New York, it's like everyone's like, "Well, whatever. We're all We live. We. are the rats, you know?" But [laughter]. then out here, it's like, >> "Oh my god, >> it's like everyone looks amazing all the. time. >> The rats are going to hate to see you. coming or whatever." That like What was. that clip? It was like one of your like. mayors or like public health workers. >> Mhm. >> I I know what you're talking about. >> The rat press conference. Yeah. >> Insert clip here. >> It's a big problem. >> The rats are absolutely going to hate.

this announcement. >> The rats don't run this city. We do. >> Uh oh. Last time I went for a physical, the doctor. >> tried to put his fingers up my butt. >> He said, I'm going to look around. I. said he said prostate exam. I said, well, what is the what is the risk of. prostate cancer for a 23-year-old? He. said almost zero. I said, >> let's pass then. >> I said maybe we could not do this, you. know. >> [laughter]. >> No wonder why you didn't go back. >> I And I swear to God. I go I go, "Can we. skip it?" And he goes, "Okay.".

I was like, "Are you bummed?". >> Yeah, he is. >> I was like, "Either.". >> He wanted to palpate your prostate. >> I was like, "If you tell me you need to. do this, you better not be like, >> what was the medical indication?" Like. what? Like what. >> what was the why? >> Like what was his indication that he. needed to do that? >> I don't know. I think he just felt it. would be good to start. >> Were you constipated back then, too? >> No. [laughter]. No. >> Why is it happening? >> No, I think he just wanted to see what. was going on.

>> Okay. Well, >> and I was like, >> that's scary. >> It scared me that he backed off of it so. quickly. >> Like, it's like if you're a doctor and I. say, "I don't want to do this." He he. should go, "Well, really, you know, it's. it's important to do this." But instead, he was like, >> "It's fine. Whatever." He was like He's. like, "We don't even have to do this.". >> That's crazy. >> Yeah. >> Oh my god. But I don't even know what to. think about this. Me out, man. >> Wow. If we have any MDs. in the in the chat, let us know what.

that was about. >> Yeah, let us know how normal it is for a. 23-year-old male to get a prostate exam. Am I the [ __ ] [laughter]. >> God, >> is my [ __ ] the [ __ ]. >> I'm just perplexed. The spaghetti. though. >> Mhm. >> Top comment, not the [ __ ] They. quoted what OP said. It tasted kind of. off, but not terrible, just weirdly. sweet and earthy. And then they go, "You. want to know what that earthy taste. probably was? Mold.". >> Oh, no. >> Next comment down. Yep.

Next comment down. This is the one. You. get an earthy taste in something that. shouldn't taste earthy if you are. tasting mold and fungus. Now I'm [snorts] like, I've I've. definitely took a bite of some earthy. bread. >> I mean, listen, earthy is not always. bad, but Well, or so it is. I mean, in this case, >> I guess it is. >> Oh my god. >> God, I'm going to leave here like a. different guy for the I'm going to be. like I'm going to be like a germaphobe. when I leave here.

>> Well, this is I think this is the only. like gross one. >> Okay, good. >> This is It's okay. Yeah, >> I I guess. Yeah, we should all take good. care of ourselves. >> Take good care of yourself. Not the. [ __ ] I know like people comment. And. they're like, "I know times are tough, but like you maybe saved $2 by doing. this and like your health and like. getting food poisoning is not worth the. more cost than you will.". >> Yeah. Yeah. So they're like, "Do not do. this, people. Earthy taste would most. likely be mold." Mold and rot.

>> Rot. >> Not the [ __ ] Leftover pasta can. actually make you very sick. That's the. thing. If you leave pasta out on the. counter, even like there's a time limit, it can have this like rare bacteria. you. can like die. Pasta and rice, there's. like a cool down period. You can't put. it in if it's too hot and it it has to. be in within like 30 minutes of it. becoming room temperature. This is like. the food safety stuff. They don't teach. us and they really should. >> I think I guess I would rather they not.

because I would like never function. [laughter]. Like it's like the tick. Have you heard. of the tick that if it bites you, you. get allergic to red meat forever? >> No. There's a tick. and it's a you can look it up but if it. bites you it's in the northeast like. >> is it a version of lime disease? >> I think it it is it's it's certainly. >> it's called alpha gal syndrome. It's. from the lonear tick. >> Mhm. >> Potentially life-threatening allergy to.

red meat and dairy. >> for the rest of your life. >> Oh, that's really tough. And I love a. steak. >> That's crazy. >> That's scary for me. That's like a big. piece of my food triangle. >> Yeah. Wow. Okay, we're going to stop. giving you guys nightmares and new. things to worry about and move on to. this next one. Okay, this one is coming. from Am I the [ __ ] It is titled, "Am. I the [ __ ] for drinking the beers I. brought to a party even though it was. more than people were allowed to drink?".

I, 30s male, am in a graduate program. where most of my classmates are either. fresh out of college or have had one or. two years since graduating. I was. invited to a party by one of my. classmates, early mid20s male. He said. everyone was going to bring a six-pack. of beer and we would all swap and try. each others. My partner, 30's male, came. with me, but he said he didn't want to. drink because he wanted to work on. something the next morning. My partner.

and I both chose a six-pack of beer to. bring. Nothing fancy, just two types of. IPAs. We showed up and hung out and had. a good time. I thought everyone put. their six-packs on the table and. everyone would just walk up and grab one. when they needed another drink. I ended. up having eight beers that night. >> [snorts]. >> My partner, my partner didn't have any. But then my. classmate who invited me got mad because. I had eight and we were only allowed six.

each. I said that since my partner and I. brought 12, it was okay that I drank. eight because my partner didn't drink. any. Like, as a couple, we brought more. than we drank. But my classmate told me. that was [ __ ] and asked me to pay. for the two extra beers I drank. Am I. being crazy or is this whole thing. unnecessary? >> Uh, you're not the [ __ ] You're just. an alcoholic. [laughter].

>> The [ __ ] You ended up having eight who. blinks and is eight beers in. >> I mean, we don't get a mention over how. long it was. It would have to be. >> so long for eight beers to go down. without noticing it. >> See, and then I'm like, this is how I. know like I'm not maybe the best. response on this cuz I'm like I'm from. the Midwest and people there will bring. a pack of Natty Light and just. >> I'll have a beers, but that's behavior.

when you're trying to get [ __ ] fixed. >> It's Yeah. No, it's binge drinking for. sure. And they're IPAs which have like a. higher alcohol content. You're drinking like eight hamburgers. Like those are like those are meaty. beers. >> Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. But I I will say. overall the concept regardless of him. being, you know, maybe having a a. drinking problem, I think there is a. little bit of injustice here. >> Oh, there's great injustice because if.

you bring 12 beers and you drink eight, you should never be on the hook to pay. No matter what the formulation of the. party is, that makes no sense. What. about those four other beers he left. behind? Yeah. What about that? Are you. gonna pay me for the four? >> Yeah. In fact, let's make a deal. You have. those four. >> Yeah. >> And we're even. >> Like what? What? >> No, that doesn't make any sense. >> I'm like, are they just. >> They might just hate you. >> Yeah. They're kind of like I don't know. They're heckling, but like just kind of.

like a mentally [ __ ] with him a. little Are you leaving out the part. where you were so drunk that you punched. a hole in the wall at this guy's house? [laughter]. >> I know. I'm curious if there's other. >> am I the [ __ ] because I have eight. beers. Sure. There's a couple hours of. the night I don't really recall and then. everyone's mad at me the next day. Feels. like it's about something else. >> If it's just about this, no way you're. the [ __ ] But it can't be just about. this. >> Maybe it's an age thing though. They're. kind of younger 20s. He's mid30s,

>> but everyone's what? This is a graduate. program. >> Everyone's getting an advanced degree. I'm surely. >> You think they could count? >> Yeah. And understand, >> you think this wouldn't be a contentious. issue if everyone's paid for a six-pack. They've paid for two six-packs. >> This basic math going on here. >> Some people cannot do basic math, though. >> I'd be curious what kind of graduate.

program it is. Is it like anthropology? >> Let's see if we have any comments from. OP. The top comment is not the [ __ ]. First of all, that's a ridiculous level. of bean counting for a party set up in. this way. >> Agree. >> Secondly, coup's contributions do count. together. But never mind any of that. I. would just tell this guy, "Okay, I don't. agree with this, but I'll be the bigger. person and give money to whomever ended. up short." Oh, and by the way, partner. brought six and drank zero. So, when. should he expect to get his money back.

and from whom? >> Yeah, someone responds to that and goes, "Oh, devious little creature.". [laughter] I love this. Yes, the partner. should definitely get back money for. four beers if they want to tango this. way. >> Mhm. Okay, let's see if there's any. comments from OP here. Um, don't know. where this guy's coming from. Maybe he's. still drunk, lol. M. >> yeah, this whole thing's weird to me. Like, okay, if you want to be mad I. drank too much, that's your prerogative,

but it's not like you're the one who. paid for it. >> Yeah, that that I agree with. It's like. if this is about something else, then. tell him. >> Mhm. >> If you're mad he drank too much because. this was a six-pack party. >> Well, admittedly, if this is a six-pack. party and everyone's supposed to have. six, >> eight's not crazy. Because once you're. having six, like six beers is. >> to me like a chill night is like two. maybe three. >> Okay. >> And I say this as a six foot two man.

You know what I mean? Like I could have. more but that's it's it's just not chill. to have five plus beers ever in my. opinion. >> Yeah. Okay. So I'm I'm I was trying to. like put into concept how many drinks. that would be cuz I'm not a beer. drinker. I have like no idea the concept. of beers. So, I'm thinking like, oh, 5%. alcohol, like whatever. But, um, if it. was eight 12 oz beers, that equals eight.

standard drinks. But, if they were. stronger beers, like an IPA and larger, eight beers could roughly equal 10 to 16. standard drinks. >> Oh, yeah. If they're drinking tall boys, >> that's okay. That's insane. That's a. problem. But I Okay, I'm I'm going to. assume they were just the regular like. 12 oz. I assume they were. Yeah. I'm. picturing like a regular like a can of. this size, >> but it's an IPA. >> Yeah. >> So, you're not That's not eight Bud. Lights. And by the way, eight Bud Lights.

>> also a problem. >> Yeah. >> Okay. I'm getting more on I'm like, "Oh, fuck.". >> You know what I mean? >> Yeah. >> Cuz even six to me, drinking a full. six-pack Yeah. >> is like I'm watching the Super Bowl with. my friends. >> Yeah. And I I'm not too heavy of a. drinker, so maybe I'm being a little. prude in the eyes of the listeners. >> I think this is probably a healthy good. take. >> I feel like now that I'm 30 at least, like in college, of course, you you. know, you're trying to binge drink. pretty much every time you go out. >> Yeah. >> But we would drink hard liquor in.

college just to like actually get drunk. cuz we were in such good drinking shape. at that time that probably six beers. would have just taken too long and my. body would have been processing it too. quickly. these days. >> Graduate school is kind of a I went to. graduate school and it's. >> Okay, nice. Where did you or what did. you do? >> Uh, I got a doctorate in occupational. therapy. >> Oh [ __ ] Okay. So, you're. >> I don't use it. So, it's weird. >> Yes, you do. This is Oh, wait. Occupational therapy is different than. talk therapy.

>> Yeah. >> Occupational therapy is like speech. pathology. >> Um, speech pathology is different. It's. it's more comparable to like physical. therapy, but we focus more, I would say, on like neuro and in the context of like. functional activities like your. day-to-day tasks or things like that. We. don't help people find jobs. We could, but. >> it's more so like. >> dressing, bathing, grooming, things like. that. >> Got it. So, there's not much connection. between that and reading Reddit stories. and then analyzing. >> I would say very little. >> Okay. [laughter].

>> Very little. >> Sure. Well, I went to business school, >> which teaches you nothing about. anything. So, don't worry. I never have. to wonder if I'm. >> using your. >> using it because you can't there's no. way to use it. >> I feel like you could in stand up, but. okay. >> I mean, standup's a little like. entrepreneurial in a sense, but I can't. >> necessarily point to too much that. happened in business school that, you. know, I couldn't have learned with my. own. >> economics of it all. Micro macro, what's. going on there? >> Mhm. Yeah. the the Fed rates don't.

really impact my my ticket sales for my. tours, but uh it was a big drinking. culture. >> Is that a finance thing. >> more so than like grad school? >> I think it's also like I went cuz I was. at a bit of an impass of like. >> I had just started doing standup comedy, but I wasn't ready to go all in on it. and I wanted a plan B. And I think it. was sort of a I was a bit lost and I. think a lot of people go and they're a. bit lost and a lot of people go and.

they're single and they're lost and it. all of that kind of contributes to like. a bit of a party party and hookup. culture. >> It can be like college round two for. people that felt they didn't do college. right, which wasn't how I used it, but. >> some people do. >> Yeah, mine I would say was not super. drink heavy. Like there were definitely. nights out. Um but I would say like my. my group was probably a little more uh. nose to the grind. No. What's that? >> To the grindstone.

>> Yeah, that one. So I didn't have that. college 2.0 experience, but I also had. friends that were like in my area cuz. like my grad school is here. So. >> Right. So you didn't you weren't like in. the community as much as some people. might have been if they were away from. home. >> Exactly. >> Uh OP does have an edit on this post. Lesson learned. Don't party with grad. students. >> Yeah. Well, that I will say this, like. so OP sounds like he's in a good.

relationship. >> Yeah. >> And I think grad school partying can be. a bit of a single man's game. Like it. can be it can be clicky. It can be I. noticed that when I was there. Well, and. like when people put it into perspective. in the comments too, is this really. worth the confrontation over $4, people. are like, "Just pay it. Never party with. these weirdos again. They sound lame as. fuck.". >> Yeah. >> And that's also true. Like if you have. to be in grad school with them for. another two years. >> Yeah, just pay it. >> Four bucks. Like maybe he really like.

>> definitely pay it cuz then otherwise. they're going to go around and be like. he [ __ ] didn't pay us for the you. know there's going to be a story. Yeah. you know, there's going to be a story. that like isn't what happened. So, you. always just pay it. Unless it's an. amount of money that's like you you. simply have. >> What's the limit? Like I feel like the. most they could ask for I mean a. six-pack 20 bucks. >> Yeah. I think unless you're. [clears throat] in Canada saying the two. beers Oh, this isn't Canada. >> No, no, we don't know. But like Canada. beers. >> Oh, unless you're in Canada.

>> Yeah. Like how much are they really. asking for? >> Like Molson's. >> so expensive. >> Yeah, two beers would be maybe. >> eight tops. Yeah, probably because. they're like they bought them in. six-pack formation. >> Divide by six. >> I think if it's over 20 bucks, you have. to be like, "Guys, what's going on?". >> Okay. I think. >> I think under 20 bucks. As it approaches. 20, like 20 would be kind of an annoying. amount. Cuz keep in mind, you've already. each bought two. >> So now you're in for like 40 or maybe if.

you and your partner split it, 30 each. for this party that like. >> you've left with a bad taste in your. mouth. >> I think 10 bucks would be my limit. I'm. willing to pay $10 to not deal with. drama, but after that I'm like the. injustice and the principle of it all. No, [ __ ] [ __ ] you. >> I think 20. Well, I've definitely paid more to. [laughter]. not. >> deal with drama for sure. >> Really? >> But I also think it depend. I don't. know. I had like a situation where.

someone that was working for me, we had. a misunderstanding. >> Okay. where I had a I had offered a. bonus for a certain project and this. person took it to mean that this bonus. exists for all of his work. Like I. basically he had been making clips for. me and I said for every clip that does. this well, I'll give you a financial. bonus. >> Yeah. >> But it was attached to a certain batch.

of clips I was giving him. And. >> then like three months later, he had a. couple clips perform that well and he. was like, "Can I get the bonus?". >> And I was like, "You know what? You can. because. >> I was like a. >> little bit of a miscommunication maybe.". >> Yeah. I was like, "One, I don't think. you're acting in the wrong." And also, I'm like, you did get the result that I. was attaching a financial bonus to, but. this isn't the same thing. You know what. I mean? This is very different. >> Move forward. >> So, I just paid him and I was like, I. want to have a relationship with you. over the long term. Like I'm sure if I.

tried to explain how my perspective. Yeah. >> he might understand, but I'm sure he. also wouldn't feel good about it. >> Exactly. Yeah. No. So there's I mean. there's times pick your battles and this. might be one of them. >> if it's under $10. That's my hottake. But not the [ __ ] I think these. people are weirdos. >> I agree. >> But we'll see what we think about the. next one. >> Yeah. >> This is coming from r/ relationship. advice. M. >> it is titled I 29 female slept with a.

new guy 34 male for the first time and. felt he was rude to me. Was he dated a. new guy for a month? He was a gentleman. and very kind towards me. He very. recently just told me how much he liked. me and that I'm quote pretty, but most. of all I'm a kind person with a good. heart which is most important above. anything end. His intentions seemed. genuine towards me. We had texted.

slashspoke on the phone every day up. until Thursday when I came to his side. of the city we live in and went out for. cocktails and to watch a band. Afterwards, we went back to his place. which was around the corner from the. venue. Everything felt right and we. slept together for the first time. First. time I had had sex in 9 months. It was. very good, passionate. We both enjoyed. it. everything I thought it would be. The second it was over and he had. finished, he exclaimed how good it was,

then got off me and walked into his. kitchen to check his phone, which was. charging on the kitchen worktop. He. lives in an apartment, so I could see. this from his bed. He then stood there. and watched the football highlights. Then he started to type for a while, so. I assumed he was replying to text. messages. Then he went and sat on the. sofa for a few minutes. He eventually. came back in his room, didn't say a. word, just plugged in his phone to. charge and set an alarm for 7:00 a.m. We. both were off work the next day. He.

said, quote, "You can stay if you want, but just so you know, I'll be up at 7:00. a.m. I want to go to the gym. Night." He. said this while his back was to me, then. went straight to sleep, not facing me. I. stayed on the other side of the bed and. eventually fell asleep myself. I felt. awkward being there. Alarm went off at. 7:00 a.m. We both woke up. I said good. morning. He replied in kind again. No. touching or looking over at me. He.

jumped straight out of bed. We got to. sleep at 2:00 a.m. So, I'm pretty tired, but I get out of bed myself and go to. his bathroom. By the time I get out, he's looking through his wardrobe, deciding what he wants to wear for the. day. I sit on my bed and book my Uber. I. attempt to make small talk and ask more. about his plans for the day with his. friend. Again, doesn't look at me while. replying. Just looked through his. wardrobe. At this point, I felt like I. had served my purpose the night before. and was no longer necessary. My Uber.

arrives. He walks me to his door. The. Uber driver has parked at the end of his. street due to the road work that had. taken place over the week. He says bye. to me as I walk down the road. This was. on Thursday night/ Friday morning. No. quote, "Did you get home okay?" or "I. had a good night text." Nothing. Nothing. for over 2 days until an hour ago when. he texted simply quote recovered yet. I've not texted back and I don't think I.

even want to see him again. My friend is. trying to convince me that he was just. busy today, but being busy has never. stopped him before. We had texted every. day and to be honest, I'm put out by how. distant he was after we had sex for the. first time. He knows I don't have casual. sex and I hadn't slept with anyone for. over 9 months. I felt like his behavior. was inconsiderate and I feel quite used. I wasn't expecting a marriage proposal. after sex, just basic eye contact,

conversation, maybe a hug. My friends. think I'm overreacting. Am I? Okay, here's what I'll say. She's. describing a lot of micro moments. and so it's hard to say without being. there how all these micro moments might. have felt to him versus you. Like I. think when you're getting to know. someone, especially early on, especially the. first time you sleep together, there.

could be a lot of moments that you may. read as distance that he may feel. vulnerable in or shy in. Just here's. here's where I'm before before I get in. trouble with the girlies, [laughter] I. want to say this. >> I am leaning towards saying that she is. not in the wrong at all. But before I do. that, I just want to. >> Are you devil's advocating a little bit? I mean, I'm a white man. This is my job. to devil's advocate. This is [laughter]. This is I went to Devil's Advocate. University. You have to understand this,

>> ladies. Ladies, quiet down. It's It's. man time now, ladies. >> Let me mansplain this. >> Let me explain something to you. No, but. this is this is important to know. Okay. First of all, he should have texted. I. think he should have texted that day. Yeah. >> So, I don't think you're overreacting in. that regard. I think it's the plight. thing to do. Did you get home safe? Any. of those. Yeah. I think waiting 2 days. is rude. I think waking up at 7 a.m. is. a little psycho if it's not normal for. him, but you've gotten to know him a. little bit. Some guys are kind of psycho.

like that. Like some guys have the day. off work and they do want to wake up and. I wouldn't, you know, I would want. >> I would want to sleep in and get brunch. or something if I if I were into you. Like I' I'd be excited about spending. the morning together. >> Yes. >> So clearly there's something going on. which is that he's not gushing. this did. not bring him closer to you in the way. that it felt like maybe it brought you. closer to him. So that's that's without. question and I don't think you're crazy. for picking up on that, noticing that.

and feeling some type of way about it. I. think that's a pretty reasonable and and. and normal way to react. The one thing I. will say is when you come as a man, we. we do not unlock physiologically the. same feelings that women you do. I'm. assuming this woman didn't come cuz it's. the first time we they had sex, but. >> I don't know. I mean, she said it was. passionate. >> She did say it was good. It. >> was very good. Passionate. >> If if if women if you enjoy having sex.

with a man, it seems. And I think this. is backed up biologically that a lot of. oxytocin is released. You want to. cuddle. You're feeling connected. >> Yes. And I do think and this I think is. also backed up by science that the. second we come we feel shy, distant, like a little bit vulnerable, a little. bit embarrassed, like we want to get. lost. >> Yeah. No, it's it is backed by science. It's like literally women have the love. hormone and men get the opposite hormone.

and they're like, "Yep, I'm good. Bye.". >> Yeah. And so I'll say this, okay? When I. really like someone, like my girlfriend. now, I remember I was so nervous having. sex with her for the first time because. I knew I was so into her and I was like, "Ugh, I don't want to [ __ ] this up.". >> Yeah. Like, it's got to be good. >> Yeah. And it was kind of clunky as a. result. >> I feel like most first times with a new. person are. >> totally. And when I came, because I was.

so into her, I didn't feel that I want. to get out. So, >> I think these things always come down to. like. >> if he were obsessed with you, you'd. know. >> And clearly, it's not that. >> But what I will say is I'm not sure you. can know right now how bad it is. Because if it's anywhere from. he's still getting to know you all the. way to he's really not into it, these. behaviors could possibly. be I'm not going to say reasonable, but.

they could be I wouldn't be shocked to. see them out of a man who's maybe not. the most socially aware and not the most. thoughtful person. >> Do you confront him? Cuz I I agree. I. don't think she's overreacting at all. My instincts say he was just looking for. sex and you kind of got lovebombed. >> in all of this. I mean, the line here, it's a beautiful line. Beautiful line. I. mean, who doesn't want to be told this? You're pretty, but most of all, I'm a. kind person with a good heart, which is.

most important above anything. Like, wow. Okay, Mr. Darcy. Like, >> okay. But I'm getting like I'm like, was. that real or was that just to get in my. pants? Because then once you did, you're. like, "Okay, take it or leave you.". >> I think she said that she doesn't like. to have casual sex. >> From what I'm hearing, this is a pathway. to casual sex. >> It's giving let me put you in the. friends with benefit box. >> Yeah. Especially the texting pattern.

recovered yet? It's just. >> also ew. >> Yeah. It's just not It's not warm. And. if you're looking for warmth, I think. you shouldn't go see this guy again. And. truthfully, if he really [ __ ] up and. he seemingly has no self-awareness over. that, if you say, "Hey, that would, you. know, I had fun getting to know you, but. I think that's it for me." Ironically, he'll probably be like, "What?" And.

he'll probably like try and chase you. down and love bomb you again. Because. these kinds of guys find it pathetic. when they have the full attention of. someone, but they find it completely. hard to put their finger on when they. don't. And these guys have like an. insecurity problem. So when someone. doesn't like them, when someone does. like them, they're like, "Oh, of. course." But when someone. >> doesn't like them, they're like, "What. the hell is going on?" So my guess is if. you tried to poo poo him, he would come. running. But I think you might as well.

do that because whether you're into him. or not, he's not showing the signals of. someone that's looking to date you. And. it sounds like that's what you're. looking for. And off that alone, you. know, if if you're interested in casual, solid sex with someone that's like not. going to treat you like [ __ ] I'm not. sure he's treating you like [ __ ] Like. he's just being distant and not. particularly warm. If if that's what you. wanted, like someone that you could just.

hit up and have sex with, >> then it could be up to you to sus out, okay, does he like did something happen. when we had sex that made him this way. or are we just going to be like buddies. who [ __ ] sometimes? But if that's not. what you want, I would cut it right there. >> You are on the money. So top comment. says recovered from what his personality. [laughter]. and OP responds like the line the. laughing crying emoji and then someone.

down after that goes like someone said. in another thread you really ought to. reply sorry the sex wasn't good enough. for me to be interested in anything. casual good luck to you. Okay. Well, that [laughter]. that is some wild. >> It was kind of on similar to what you. were saying. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's what you're. thinking, but you don't have to say that. to this [ __ ] guy. >> Someone does respond and goes, "Yeah, this is a devastating maneuver. Do it, OP." [laughter]. >> Just like little pot stirers.

>> Yeah. I I I think Yeah. simple like, hey, I'm not, you know, this isn't. exactly what I'm looking for right now, but it was really nice getting to know. to know you is the most courteous way to. go. >> Okay. >> I just. >> You don't think he needs a punch to his. ego? >> I don't know because the only. >> deal with kindness. >> The the only thing that I know for a. fact, >> okay, >> is the texting. We know the texting for. a fact. you know, if I were there and he. literally didn't look at her once. But I.

think a lot of these like micro things. of like he had his back turned to me or. he was texting on his phone and sitting. on the I don't want that. I'm going I. can already tell I'm going to get in. trouble for invalidating the experience. of a woman. But I'm just saying. [laughter]. that when two people have sex, they may. be experiencing very different. realities. But I think the texting tells. you exactly what you need to know. >> Well, yeah. I think I agree. There's one. more comment where someone's like, "OP, you could put it this way. Our. experience answered all of my questions. I'm not looking for a repeat. Good luck.

to you in the future. It'll kill him.". And it's a whole lot more subtle than. the other one. But I will say I think. that's like almost something with. anxiety, too. Like I I think what she. went through is probably pretty damn. near close to how it happened. But. maybe, you know, she had anxiety after, like, was it good? Is he still into me? And then she's looking at the micro. like things in this experience and it's. like oh my god like I feel like anxiety. can do that to a person like yeah or you. go to a family event and you're I don't.

know your partner isn't holding your. hand as much in front of family and. you're like oh my god is he mad at me. it's like retroactive. >> and then you just spiral or like you. know so. >> maybe that happened because like sex. especially if you're not into casual sex. is like very vulnerable. >> Yeah. And so she could have, you know, gotten one thing and spiraled, but. overall looking at it, I'm like, no. He. went to the kitchen immediately after. He hopped off her, climbed off her, whatever she said. >> No. No. I mean, I think without. question, like this this is not the.

behavior of a guy that you're going to. want to be dating for sure. What I will. say this though, this is the last thing, >> okay? is if you really want to like chew. this guy up and spit him out, you don't. say from the man's perspective, you. don't say something like, "Sorry, the. sex wasn't good enough for me to do this. again." Cuz when a man reads that, they. go, "Oh, she's like bitter." or. something. >> That what you do is you act sweet as. pie. You go, "Oh my god, it was so great. getting to know you. I just, you know, I.

really am am like I just don't think we. should hang out again." cuz then it. looks like. >> Oh, he lost a big catch. >> Well, it looks like you don't care. literally at all because you're being so. nice. And that's that would drive me. nuts as a guy is like, "Oh, no." Like. she like I [ __ ] up the sex. >> Yeah. The Jedi mind trick of it all. >> Yeah. Because if if you read to me as. pissed off, I know you cared at least. somewhat. >> That's true. >> And I know that it was me that did this.

to you. If you don't read at all as. pissed off, I really wonder like almost. like you feel bad like you're like, "Oh, how do I let this guy down?" Picture. Picture Flip. Say picture. >> what would be the message you sent if. you guys had sex and this guy was so. clingy, the sex was bad, and it was like. a total turnoff. What would be the. message you would send then? Send that. guy that text and you will make him. think about you for the rest of his.

life. But do not go back down the road. Like don't [ __ ] that guy again. You. can't like then get lovebombed again and. go back down the road which can happen. Like I went through the most horrific. friends with benefits situation and like. it went on for 3 years. Like it was. brutal and like it started I visited him. in Germany and had this horrible like. last day of the trip where like I was. like this guy's an [ __ ] Mhm. >> And then he came back to LA when I was.

here and like lived here when I was in. grad school. And so it was just like it. was convenient. It was easy. And it. literally took me meeting my partner and. being like, "Oh my god, it actually. feels great when you're treated nice and. someone likes you.". >> Mhm. >> I'm like kind of like reminiscent of. this guy. Like yeah, there's road work. on the street, but the fact he didn't. walk you to the Uber like. >> Oh, yeah. Yeah. Fair enough. The. chivalry is dead in this man. And like. thinking about my partner now, it's like. he would have walked me to the Uber. He. would have actually probably called me.

the Uber or driven me home. And like I'm. just like find someone that likes you. because when you do, >> it feels really nice. >> Yeah. Don't go back to this. Well, don't. go back to this. Well, especially unless. you know exactly what this is and you're. okay with it, >> which it doesn't sound like you are. No, >> but on the message front, >> if you really want to [ __ ] up that guy's. day, >> do not do not send a message that. reflects your state of mind. Send a. message like that you that you would.

send to someone who you think is. pathetic. >> Yeah, >> I really like this. >> Destroy him. >> I'm game. I'm game. I think a lot of. people I think you can take notes out. there. >> Take notes on that tactic for real. picture him as the worst [ __ ] you've. ever had and think about the message you. would nicely send to let that guy down. and send every guy. >> it's mean. >> yeah I just have to work on myself right. now I'm so slam I'm so sorry like I'm.

sure maybe in the future we could you. know. >> is it a little like toxic I no honestly. cuz he was an ass I. >> to me it's less toxic than being like. you weren't even good enough for this. like. >> yeah cuz he's going to hear that and be. like, I know that's a lie. >> Yeah, exactly. >> Oh my god. Okay, wait. I love this. >> Yep. >> Um, we don't have any updates from OP. We have a lot of comments, and I'll be. sure to share the link for the post in. the YouTube description, but I mean, the. comments are never ending. Like OP at.

certain points looks like she's fighting. for her life. People being like, "After. a month, you had slept with you slept. with him. That is casual sex." and she's. like, "We were talking every day, three. dates a week for three weeks." I didn't. feel like it was super casual. >> Yeah. I think it so depends like the. circumstances and the culture of the. place. I mean, the more I travel, the. more I realize like in New York, it would feel very rare for me, whether.

you're serious about each other or. casual about each other, to be seeing. each other for a month and not have. already had sex. Like in New York, I. think people are dating very frequently. and you would go on maybe two or three. dates over the course of two weeks and. then sleep together is like I would. think the most normal cadence. And then. you know when I was in Oklahoma I asked. my opener how the dating scene is and he. was like girls only want men with land. And I was like oh [laughter] my god who. was that? What was his name? Caleb.

>> Yeah. So. >> it's a different world down there for. Caleb. I was like, uh, I this is not a. one-sizefits-all approach, but if if. they're in a medium to large city, I. don't think by having sex with someone. in a month, you're sending a message. that you want casual sex. I think it's a. natural, you know, raising Yeah. stakes of of. getting to know someone. >> I know. Especially if you live in a city. that has decent public transportation. because you see each other a lot more. You can cover a lot more ground. There's.

one comment where OP just says not only. was he rude, he was cheap, too. >> And he's also 34. I like how. >> he should have bought the Uber, too. He. should have bought the Uber. >> Come on. >> Yeah, you played an away game. He should. Uber you home for sure. >> That's what I'm saying. I did send OP a. message. I was like, "Girl, I need an. update. Did you ever respond back to. this horrible man?" So, we'll see if. anything comes through. >> Now, people do Do you have a fancy. Reddit? Do they know you're you?

>> Yeah, but I have a fake one, too. >> Which one did you use? >> My real one. >> Okay, so they know. >> Yeah, I feel like that encourages. responses a lot of times. >> Okay, so don't fault me for not knowing. this, but would are these coming from. just the Reddit community or they. >> are to you. >> for this? They're all just coming from. Reddit, but we do have our own subreddit. now because like I wanted a place for. listeners to submit their writeins and I.

used to have a Google like form and that. just got. >> it got blown up. >> It got way it was too much. So then we. started our own subreddit so then people. can go and post. >> But these aren't out of. >> Not yet. >> Subre not yet. >> Okay. >> Hi friends. popping in for a quick story. with Justin and Lauren because it is. time for the value vibe check. brought to you by McDonald's. As you all know, we live for drama on.

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this person, this person was definitely. midspiral. >> Okay, >> this is titled, "Am I wrong for not. leaving work to help my wife when she. ran out of gas? My wife, 38, female, and. I, 41, male, have been married for 11. years and have two kids, nine and seven. I work full-time and she works part-time. while also doing online classes to. finish her degree. She dropped out of. college after 2 years and now wants to. finish. She has ADHD and anxiety and if. I'm being honest, sometimes it feels.

like our entire lives revolve around her. symptoms. Last Friday, my wife didn't. have to work and decided to go visit her. sister, who lives in a small town about. 45 minutes away. She didn't tell me she. was going, so I was very surprised when. she called me shortly afternoon. She was. obviously upset when I answered, and. between sobs, I was able to make out. that there was an issue with the car. Eventually, she calmed down and told me. that she ran out of gas in the middle of. nowhere and didn't know what to do.

because she hadn't told me she was. visiting her sister. I was very confused. and had a lot of questions, which only. made her more upset. I was getting. frustrated, too. So, I finally just. asked her what she wanted me to do. She. told me she needed me to come and get. her. I told her I was at work and had. meetings in the afternoon that I. couldn't skip. I suggested she call her. sister, but she went to work after my. wife visited, and my wife didn't want to. bother her. I suggested she call.

roadside assistance to come and help, but she said she didn't know how to do. that. I suggested she call an Uber, but. she said she was in the middle of. nowhere and it didn't show any cars. available. I suggested she call a friend. or someone else that might be able to. help, and she yelled at me to just come. blinking get her. I tried to remain calm. and reiterated that I am sorry she's in. this position, but at this moment I'm. unable to help her. I told her I'd. offered numerous suggestions that she.

could try to help herself, but I can't. just leave work. She then hung up on me. My first meeting of the afternoon was. starting in 5 minutes. So, I tried. calling her back and she didn't answer. I kept trying to text her during my. meeting, too, but she never responded. I. tried calling again between my meetings. and still no answer, which I admit. pissed me off because even if I was. trying to come help her at that point, I. couldn't reach her. She is the one who. picks up our kids from school. So, I was.

kind of freaking out at this point. because I was completely in the dark. about whether I would need to get them. or if my wife was even okay. So, I. called the school and asked them to. please let me know if my wife comes to. get the kids because I can't reach her. I didn't include any details about why. The school called me back at pickup time. and told me that my wife was there for. pickup. When I got home at the end of. the day, my wife refused to talk to me. She gave me the cold shoulder the entire. weekend. I apologized for not being able.

to help multiple times. Finally, this. morning, she spoke to me, but all she. said was, quote, "I can't count on you. anymore.". Did I really mess up that bad? Am I the. jerk? >> No, this is excessive on her part. Um, there were many options of things that. >> So many. >> Yeah. So, this is this is a rough one. She created so much chaos and I.

understand. being, you know, panicked in the middle. of nowhere. You ran out of gas. What do. you do? Like, I understand that. I've. got ADHD anxiety as well. Like I kind of. run it run it close sometimes putting my. car on on empty. But your husband just. provided you with so many options like. calling roadside assistance and your. response back to him was I don't know. how to do that. Yeah. That that gets me. like that would really bother me because.

if they didn't have that set up and if. sister was out of town if you know then. I understand being in the middle of. nowhere and wanting your partner to come. help you but the fact that your partner. is working hard which is also helping to. help you provide for you. >> and you're asking your partner to drop. everything before trying an alternate. solution. that would even that would work just as.

well. It's gas, you know. It's not The. car didn't go and drive into a pond. >> It's that would have been worse. >> Yeah. >> That definitely would have been worse. >> Yeah. I'm saying it it didn't she's not. in a place where at least it doesn't. sound like where she's in danger. She. just needs gas. >> It could be so simple. >> Yeah. And so I think the fact that she's. giving him such a cold shoulder. afterwards for like an extend extended. period of time.

is not uh I don't think it fits the. quote unquote crime. >> It's not constructive. >> No. >> Yeah. I think even if let's say you. weren't at work, let's say you were at. home, it's the weekend, you're chilling, still probably. if you already have the roadside. assistance set up, it's still probably. more convenient for both of you for them. to just come put gas in real quick and. you just come home. >> I know. >> it seems like that's probably more.

convenient all around if we're. considering all of our time. Unless you. are in the middle of nowhere and it's. going to take forever for them to get. you. But. >> it wasn't that impossible because you. still made it to the school to pick up. the kids. So what what method was. chosen? >> I completely agree with the both of you. Also looking at the way he got ignored, stonewalled, like ma'am, it does not. need to be that big of a deal. You ran. out of gas. That's that was on you. >> And maybe the car didn't beep at you.

Sometimes they're quiet and sneaky. I. get it. But that is still on you. So to. freak out and create such madness and. spiral out to where you don't talk to. your husband all weekend. >> Mhm. >> Insane. I also don't know how people get. away with that. Like I couldn't get away. with that even if I wanted to. Like kind. of a side note, but like my my partner. would literally not leave me alone. He. he would just be like, "Can we talk? Can.

we talk? Can we [laughter] talk?" Yeah. I don't know how people get away with. this. >> Mine? >> Yeah. That's exactly what I was thinking. in the first I like I I couldn't I. literally couldn't like cold shoulder. him for a weekend, >> even if I wanted to. I mean, it's so. unhealthy. >> when you're just taking it so far, right? I mean, you you can be upset. about the about the one instance that. this happened and but you can't go but. you can't take it to I can't depend on.

you cuz now we're we're casting this. huge thing over the entire relationship. of I can't depend on you. >> after you've probably been able to. depend on him many many many many times. before. >> Yeah. So the one time that you made a. mistake and it wasn't convenient cuz. he's at work, has meetings, and you're. far away, it doesn't mean you can't. depend on him. And that's a lowb blow. >> I feel like she could have been hangry.

in that moment, too. [laughter] She. could have just been so hungry and that. was the straw that broke the camel's. back. But it still doesn't excuse the. behavior. That is when you go and get. yourself a McChick and Mc chill. There. is a comment here that says, "Need more. info. Did she ever explain how she. resolved her issue? How did she get the. car working again? How did she pick up. the kids on time? Where exactly was she. when she called? And OP responds, "She. has not given me answers to any of those. questions, and I've asked multiple.

times. >> What's the point? Why why didn't she. tell me to do I I I'm kind of curious. because this move is this to teach him a. lesson so that he never does this again. >> or is it just like so angry that you. can't you can't you just can't get. yourself to speak to him or she. embarrassed and it's an I don't know cuz. like I think about it and like I I I get. really angry sometimes but like but.

being angry for for like a whole weekend. like that. >> [laughter]. >> That hurts me. Like that hurts me where. it's like it's like I. >> I don't want to feel that angry for that. long. And so I'm just curious if like. she really couldn't help herself or if. she was like, "No, this is going to. teach him a lesson so he never does it. again." [clears throat] I feel like it's. an ego thing. I feel like it is teach a. lesson. >> Top comment, not the [ __ ] Your wife. just proved that she was in fact able to. deal with the situation herself. I have.

zero patience for adults who can't. manage situations like this. A, it was. of her own making, and B, there were so. many options for solving it and dropping. everything to go save her. That just. enables her dysfunction further. It. teaches her that she doesn't need to be. responsible for herself. What if. she never actually feels supported from. him in a time like in general and it's. been building up where in in terms of. like his language maybe you know maybe. like when she's sad she feels like he's.

really dismissive and this was finally. like the last straw for her even though. it sounds ridiculous to us. What if. she's just was like, "If if he hears me. crying scared on the road, will he. actually help me this time and he. didn't?" And then she's just like, "Screw it.". >> I [laughter] don't know. That would be. pretty diabolical if it was a test. Of. course. >> Yeah. And I feel like it'd be mentioned. if it's a pattern when people write. these. It would say, "And this is just.

another thing in the string of this. happening many times." Whereas it's not. so much we need the other side's. perspective to gain that. It would I. feel like it would be part of it maybe. >> Yeah. >> It wouldn't be so isolated, >> right? Yeah. And I mean, this is just. like I'm just throwing stuff out. We. could add, you know, a little advocation. for the other side. >> It's not even like I don't I wouldn't. even call it advocating. It's just kind. of more of like I'm just curious because. we were talking about it a lot lately.

about like when we listen to these. stories, we're always curious what the. other side would say and like how would. she write this in? >> Would she be like, "I have been begging. him for 5 years to just show me any. ounce of support rather than just. question me and be like, well, why were. you out there anyway?" I just want him. to be like, "Hey, like let me like let's. talk this through. Like, deep breaths. we can do this and like maybe she you. the you. >> Yeah. [laughter].

>> You're trying to rationalize why it got. so crazy, >> right? >> When it didn't need to be. >> Was it inconvenient? Was it annoying? >> Yeah. Yeah. Running out of gas is not. fun. It's happened to me. I drove an old. car and my gas gauge was broken and I. thought I had gas and I didn't. And. right in the middle of Dinky Towns. Actually, I was passing by a McDonald's. in Dinky Town and pup pup putt. Real bad. place for your car to stop. The Dinky. Town is the best McDonald's. It was I.

have great memories there. I'm not even. kidding. >> I know. That's where everyone used to. hang out. >> No, literally, I'm not kidding. I. actually kind of forgot about this, but. truly, did you you were No, you were St. Thomas. So he missed out on that great. experience. >> It was great. Like specifically when you. were like never mind. It was just so. fun. [laughter]. Well, we don't have an update from OP. That is all we got. That is your value.

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refusing to cat call a customer's wife. even though he asked us to cat call?". >> Okay. I, 32 male, work as a cook in a. restaurant with an open kitchen so. guests can see us and even talk to us. while we work. 2 days ago, while things. were slow, a guy walks past our station. and asked us for a favor. He tells us. his wife would be walking by in a few. minutes and he wanted us to cat call her.

while she walked past. Stuff like. whistling and telling her that she looks. good. [laughter]. There are three of us on the stations at. the time. Me, I'm black, a Hispanic guy, and a white guy. Before I could even. process what he was asking me, the white. guy speaks up and says, "Yeah, man. We. got you." After the customer left, me. and the other cook approached the white. cook, who had agreed and told him we. were not comfortable with what he had. agreed to do and that we were not going.

to do it. He got mad and said, "We. already agreed." But we reminded him, "No, we didn't." He agreed. Before he. could reply, a server came and told us. the guy's wife was about to walk by. I. guess the server who took him to his. seat told the other servers what was. happening. A few minutes later, his wife. walks by, and honestly, she was. gorgeous. She was basically walking like. she was on a runway. And it was pretty. obvious that she knew what her husband.

had asked us to do because she was. smiling the whole way to her table. But. only the white cook who had agreed was. whistling and cheering. Me and the other. guy just stayed quiet and kept working. Once she sat down, the cook who did it. and some of the servers who knew about. the plan actually got on our case. They. said we were spoil sports and made the. whole thing awkward by not joining in. But I just didn't feel comfortable as a. black man cat calling a white woman in a. public space and felt it was totally.

different situation for me than my white. coworker. Now the vibe in the kitchen is. weird because they think we were being. too serious. Am I the [ __ ] here for. just staying silent? >> You're so not the [ __ ] First of all, >> before the racial stuff, which totally. changes it, like totally makes it a. different thing. But before that, you're. a cook. It's not your You don't have to. cat call. You don't have to do anything.

other than your job there. And I get it. It's like, "Oh, yeah. Well, we're all. trying to have fun and we're doing and. there's like a culture of the kitchen.". This is so far beyond the bounds of. where reasonable fun can be had. If you. don't feel comfortable doing that, then. to add to it, you're a black man who. would be cat calling a white woman in in. public. >> Yeah. >> Totally. You don't have to do that. >> No, not at all. You're there to work and. make food, not participate in some.

customers weird side quest/kink. >> Yeah. >> Like I don't want to be a part of this. >> I didn't sign up for this. >> Yeah. And also, everyone gets their own. answer on that one. No one can answer. for the three of you guys to say we're. all going to do this. >> No. >> And the guy did it. She laughed. Great. They all had fun. You guys didn't want to do it. You. didn't do it. That's fine, too. >> Yeah. >> Sounds like everyone It actually sounds.

like it was the best case scenario. because. >> the guy got one person in on it. >> So, one participated. >> I'm still shocked even that. I don't. know where this happened. I can tell you. that in a restaurant in New York, if you. asked cooks to do that, there's no. [ __ ] way they would say yes to that. >> They'd be like, "Get the [ __ ] out of. here. [laughter] Shut the [ __ ] up." I'm. very curious where it is. Also, you. don't know when you're getting. approached with this situation, you. don't even know if the wife knows. Like, you don't know if the wife is on board.

for this. And if this did happen and. goes wrong, sexual harassment. >> Totally. >> Like, then you're fired. You're without. a job for someone's silly little prank. >> Yeah. >> No. >> I also [ __ ] hate that [ __ ] when like. a couple's like, "Oh, come on. mess with. mess with my it's like I don't know your. you know I get this at shows where where. people you know will be like [ __ ]. destroy my boyfriend destroy my.

boyfriend and I'm like like roast him to. shred and I'm like. >> I don't know your boyfriend first of all. I'm not in the business of wanting to. destroy anyone but like. >> I'm not here to set I'm here to do what. I do and if that so happens to intersect. with what you wanted to happen. Wonderful. But I'm not taking requests. and nor should these people. specifically. I mean, in my case, it's a. little more reasonable cuz they're like, "Oh, he's a comedian that does crowd.

work. Maybe he would take requests." I. don't, but it's at least more reasonable. to think I might. If you're a cook, you. do not have to take requests for social. things that happen at the restaurant. >> No. Also, I'm like so confused about the. roast my boyfriend, roast my boyfriend. I'm like, "Do you like him?" And I get. some people like have that sense of. humor, but I'm like, >> I feel like that's a paid for request. Like, you should find someone on. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, go to Cameo, find some dominatrix to do that, you.

know? >> Yeah. >> I don't like up his alley. >> It's also not my Yeah. It's not my. style. >> You don't know him. What are you. >> Exactly. >> I feel like roasts are kind of like a. little personal. >> and like they have an inside scoop on. the person. >> Yeah. >> How do you roast a stranger? >> Yeah. you can like do like a, oh, you. look like, you know, blah, blah, blah. And and if it ever jumps out to me, like. if I see someone that really looks like. >> someone that I'm thinking of that I. think is funny, I might say it. >> Yeah. >> But like I heer on the side of never.

talking about how anyone looks, which I. think is a good thing for everyone. >> I love that. >> Um, yeah, this is so crazy. >> It's insane. Top comment, you do not. have to participate in other people's. kink. Resounding not the [ __ ] The. whole situation was weird. Always follow. your instincts when it can be twisted. out of perspective into something. nefarious. And a lot of people then start. commenting about recording and how the.

husband could have been recording this. to then put it on social media for like. fake rage or whatever. Like I just saw this video coming out of. New York where this person was like. walking in front of a restaurant and. they were like they just turned me away. because of blah blah blah blah blah. And. then the restaurant posted their. security footage and was like he never. came in. He actually didn't step foot in. our restaurant. So not sure what's.

happening. >> Yeah. I didn't I'm probably like too. naive to even think about that scenario. but that's like totally valid. >> Yeah. Do you I mean I feel like every. person has their own rules with. recording, but like no recording at your. shows. It's typically a standup. >> Yeah. I mean I don't I'm not like a. bulldog about it in that like. >> I know at a at certain points I've been. on stage and I have seen someone with a. camera out and I sort of just keep an. eye on it. Like if it's if it's out and.

then down pretty quickly. The the. original risk I think with standup is. like if someone would record one of your. jokes and put it out and then it would. go viral and sort of like quote like. burn that joke, right? Cuz like I don't. So I do a lot of jokes at the live show, but I don't put them out for free. I. save them because you have your set. >> Yeah. I want to sell them to like. Netflix or someone and and put them out. as a special when they're ready. and to. have someone capture them either when. they're not ready or when I didn't.

consent to them being captured. It's. like it's a minor concern, but the the. truth is like if you want to record my. joke and you want to put it out and it. goes so viral that that joke is burned. I do see it as kind of helping me like. all views sort of help. So, I'm not I'm. not crazily, >> you know, but one thing that does happen. is sometimes I'll be talking to someone. or like doing crowd work with someone. and someone next to them will record me. >> That just gets me in my head.

>> Yeah. >> It's not that I care, but I'm like, >> what I say nicely is I go, I recording. it and I can get you guys a copy of it. >> I watched one of your segments with. that. I think it was in like was it in. Canada or something? >> Yeah, exactly. And it's like I say. things live on stage. Yeah, >> that I wouldn't put on the internet. >> Well, and I think there's like a lot of. like context within that room. And when. you clip one little thing, it's like, well, you don't know what happened 15. minutes earlier that led us to this. moment and how comfortable the room is.

With this train of comedy and where we. got to, so it's really hard when people. then start recording, but when when like. with this one, you're like, "Oh, no.". Like this is actually like this could. have been disastrous. Totally. especially like all of these race. implications, which someone does say. like not the [ __ ] Very easy way to. get fired. Someone else responds, plus. Jesus Christ, asking a black and. Hispanic man to sexually harass a white. woman is absolutely a dumbass and. potentially dangerous thing to do.

>> Agreed. >> You absolutely made the right call. Plus, you probably feel this way being, you know, the public facing nature of. what you do similarly. But like you. probably give more thought to being. recorded, being paid attention to in. public, how you act in public. That. would would you say that's correct? >> Yeah. Yeah. I think like I'm still I'm. in a really really sweet spot where like. I really don't get recognized that much. Like it's it's really nice. People will.

recognize my voice quicker than they'll. recognize my face, which is great. I can. still grocery shop, I can go to Costco, I can do these things, but once I notice. that someone has kind of seen me and. like you get that like. >> double or triple take and you're like, "Oh, fuck." And then it's it's like even. more mentally like goofy when they don't. say anything and then and then I'm in my. head I'm like, "Well, did they?" And I'm. like, and then I'm hyper aware of how. I'm acting, which isn't so different, but it's a weird concept when you feel.

that everyone's watching you. >> Totally. >> Even if they're not, like it just I. don't know. >> Exactly. All that all that has to happen. is it happens [snorts] once. >> and then you're just more attuned to it. than you would have been. Even if you're. wrong, it's still the feeling that it. might happen. >> But that causes you to be more. thoughtful about these things probably. Like. >> in my instance, I'm like. >> if I'm at a restaurant and I think the. service is bad or someone's being rude. to me, >> I do think about the fact that it's like.

in addition to you should always do the. right thing. Even when I'm frustrated or. having a bad day, I try to remember that. in addition to doing the right thing, it's best to just. >> just ignore and keep a low profile. um but the people that don't have jobs. like these probably don't give these. things a lot of thought and then it's. like someone puts you on the spot and. >> this is an easy thing that he could have. been like yeah okay whatever just like. to exactly. >> and not make everything uncomfortable.

but like. >> it's so sad that like him standing his. ground is getting him all this flak and. like. >> you're actually a good guy for saying. that like it was a smart it was smart. >> snap decision immediately go absolutely. not. >> overall vote on it is not the [ __ ]. >> Yeah, you killed it. >> There's no update. It's 19 days old at. this point in time. We don't know where. it is. It's just kind of this that's. where it ends. >> That's where it ends for us. Also, I.

feel like you have a pretty high. emotional intelligence. >> I do. >> Yeah. >> I'm still reflecting on the fact that. I'm going to get killed over what I said. about the [ __ ] boy guy. >> I think you're fine. I think I'm going. to get killed. >> Well, here I'll give you another. opportunity to make amends. >> The guy was a dick. The guy was a dick. >> He's so scared. You guys be nice. Okay. >> The guy was a dick. No, I really do. think the guy was a dick. I guess I'm. just saying that when people are meeting. each other and they're dating early on. You some everyone is overthinking what's.

happening and looking at the small stuff. and wondering if there's meaning. ascribed to it. And sometimes there. isn't, sometimes there isn't. That's. that's my take. Um, but do I hear often. that I have a high emotional. intelligence? I do hear that often. >> Okay, I like that. I can see it. >> I do think I'm I'm a little bit more. logic oriented than I should be in terms. of relationship. >> Maybe did that to you. Numbers. >> Yeah. [clears throat] Like a lot of. times when I have fights in my.

relationship, it's about the fact that. I'm sort of trying to walk out the. logical steps. And sometimes it's not. about that. It's about how someone's. feeling. Whether or not you get on board. with their rationale, it's kind of. irrelevant. So, I'm I come up short sometimes in. that department. But. >> self-awareness though, like I mean, even. your self-awareness, you're like, I try. to do this, which I know like isn't. what's needed in that moment. It's more. about the feelings. Like, I mean, you're. saying it so which means like you're. aware of it and working on it.

>> Yeah. Working on it. >> We all fall short from time to time. Yeah. >> No one's going to have a perfect. response 100% of the time. It's so. interesting cuz like in my relationship. we what we need from each other are the. opposite of what we need for ourselves. >> So like when I when something like. really pisses me off. >> I want my girlfriend to call me and be. like, "Hey, it's not a big deal. >> You're going to get through it. It's. going to be fine.". >> She doesn't do that because what she.

needs for herself in that circumstances. is the opposite. So when she. >> solution based. What? >> Like, have you ever heard like the like. the question you should ask someone. like, "Do you want a solution or do you. want comfort?" Exactly. >> And like she's solution based. >> No, no, no. She is emotion based. So. like. >> Okay. >> So when she if she calls me and she's. like, "This [ __ ] up thing happened.". >> The last thing she wants is a solution. The thing she wants is me to go, "You're. right. That is so [ __ ] up. And how. you're feeling is absolutely valid." And. what I want is for her to go,

>> forget about it's not a big deal. It's. going to be solved this way. Sometimes. what she does is she reacts the way she. treats me the way she would want to be. treated and I treat her the way I would. want to be treated and it's not the. golden rule does not apply in in. relationships all the time. You got to. treat them how they would want to be. treated, not how you would want to be. treated. >> I know. I honestly think it's just like. best to ask too cuz like I'm immediately. like my brain jumps to solutions. I'm. like, "Oh my god, how can I fix this?

It's going to be fine. You can do X, Y, and Z." And then the person is like, "I. just wanted you to tell me that was. [ __ ] up and let me vent." And I'm. like, "Okay, I should have asked.". >> I'm bad at that. I'm bad at at being. like, "Yeah, [ __ ] that." Because to me, it it doesn't feel productive. >> and I feel concerned that I'm just. winding this person up. >> True. It's like you're increasing that. helping them, >> feeding into it. Whereas like to me it. feels most helpful to be like well let's.

just take a breath and like let's but. but I think to some people it's like no. see what this is and be upset on my. behalf and like. >> don't just tell me to wind down like I. don't want to wind down I'm wound up you. know. >> and so that's I struggle with that a lot. and but I have learned it's so funny as. you stay in a relationship with someone. for longer you learn to do it and so. like I am learning to be like [ __ ] [ __ ]. him. Like, [laughter] [ __ ] him. >> How long have you guys been together?

>> Uh, two years. >> Oh my gosh. Yeah. Okay. So, you're kind. of in that spot of like we're really. starting to understand each other, anticipate needs a bit of. >> Yeah. We're cruising into that like. longterm relationship where it's like. >> you've had the fights now. You like, okay, we needed that growth. >> Yeah. I feel like you have the fights, then you have the fights again, [laughter] then you have the fight about. how you keep fighting about the same. thing. >> Okay. And then it all comes to a head. and you're like, are we going to learn. how to avoid these fights or are we. going to break up?

>> And then eventually, like I think we're. entering this phase where it's like, oh. right, we've had this fight before and. we've had the fight about this fight. before and we've had a fight about the. fact that we've fought about this a. bunch before. >> and now I'm finally realizing like, okay, this is how we avoid this fight. >> I like it. >> Yeah. >> It takes time. Two years, you're like I. feel like by the threeear mark, you're. like, okay, >> we know what a boundary is now. We can. do [laughter] this. >> Yeah. I love that. >> So, you're about to be a best man? >> I am. >> Okay. This. >> I've been before, too.

>> Have you? >> This is my second. >> Another sibling. >> No, this one's for your brother. >> My best friend. >> Okay. Not your first rodeo. >> Yes. >> This one I'm very curious what you think. of coming from Am I the [ __ ] Titled, "Am I the [ __ ] for making a kind of. snarky comment at my sister's engagement. dinner? And now everyone's mad at me.". Okay, so this literally just happened. last weekend and it's still blowing up. in my family group chat, so I need some. outside opinions. My sister, 31 female, just got engaged and we had this dinner.

thing at a kind of nice place. Like not. a crazy fancy place, but still the type. where you feel like you shouldn't laugh. too loud, lol. Everything was fine. We. were doing toasts and stuff. Her fiance. is giving this speech and at one point. he says something like how much he loves. that she's so honest and never hides. anything which I don't know just kind of. hit me weird because like she absolutely. has hidden stuff before specifically.

from me. Basically, when we were. younger, like 10 years ago, she secretly. dated one of my close friends for months. and I only found out because I walked in. on them. It caused a whole thing and I. lost that friendship over it. She really. never apologized, just kind of brushed. it off as we were young, which okay, but. still. Anyways, I wasn't planning on. saying anything, but I'd had a couple of. drinks and I just kind of muttered.

something like, "Yeah, unless she decides to keep it a. secret." And it got quiet fast. She. immediately got mad and was like, "Are. you serious right now?" And her fianceé. was confused and asking what I meant. I. didn't fully explain it. I just said it. was old stuff and whatever. But yeah, the mood was dead after that. Dinner. ended pretty awkwardly and she texted me. later saying that I humiliated her and. that I always do this, which I don't.

My parents are also on her side, saying. I picked the worst possible time and. should have just let it go. I mean, maybe the timing sucked, but also, am I. wrong for still being annoyed about. something she never actually owned up. to? I don't know. Am I the [ __ ]. >> Yes. Yes. To me, yes. Because. >> Yeah. There's a different venue for this. conversation. You're you're not the. [ __ ] for feeling some type of way. about this. This is way in the past and.

taking a moment that she is celebrating. a big moment for her when any day of the. week you could have this conversation in. the past. I mean, I understand why you. were spurred by this comment of I never. hide anything and why that might have. rubbed you the wrong way in the moment. and you'd had a couple drinks and fine. like that. It was that comment that. triggered you to respond. But you don't. have to respond. You don't have to. respond. This is her day, her moment,

and you can you can fix the relationship. or not. Is this something that's on your. mind a lot? If not, you can let it go. I. actually think it's totally fair to hold. on to something that happened when you. were way younger, but not to air it out. in front of your family, in front of the. fiance. That is a private conversation. Yeah. Like and clearly you didn't say it. really in justest because it wasn't. received in justest and you didn't even. seem to think you said it in justest. So. yes, you're the [ __ ]. >> Also, you didn't say like, "Oh, you lied.

to me about your ex." Like, you. literally said, "Yeah, unless she. decides to keep it a secret." No. context. >> Yeah. It sounds very ominous. It's like. It almost sounds like you're accusing. her of like cheating on her fiance. >> Thank you. Yes. Yeah. >> Like in my head I'd be like, "Oh my. god.". >> Yeah. Did you just drop a bomb? >> Are you accusing her of cheating right. now on him? >> Yeah. >> That's horrible. Also, this is where I might have my hot take. for the day. I might I don't know. You.

might yell at me, you guys. I do think. she's kind of ridiculous for holding on. to this. 10 years later. Sister was 21. at the time and you're mad 10 years. later that she lied to you about hooking. up with one of your friends. >> I will take the other side of this. >> Okay. >> The reason is not because of. the incident. I wait was it was it. hooking up with one of the friends or. someone that she was hooking up with. too? >> I think it was just one of her friends.

>> It was just one of her friends. >> Yeah. Oh, I thought she had like sto. secretly dated one of my close friends. for months. >> Listen, when someone does some like. shady secret [ __ ]. >> whether how shady it was is debatable. Like. >> still hurt. Okay, it's. >> my view is I just like when someone. who's like if it's my sibling or a best. friend keeps something from me like. that, >> I'm just like, okay, now I know this. about you that you're like willing to. >> to lie to me. >> Yeah. In that way, like.

>> like the trust is gone. >> Like Yeah. like you don't think I could. have handled it if we had just had a. mature conversation. So like. >> I understand why that might be buried. somewhere within her. Same reason why. like you know every once in I mean I. don't know if you've ever had like the. misfortune of you know I've been to my. grandparents funerals and you like know. that your mom or dad has like a. complicated relationship with them and. then you watch these like all ultra. positive eulogies and I just see my mom. like well that's not always how he was. It's like [laughter] I understand why.

these moments where someone. >> where you see praise being hept upon. someone. >> whom you have certain issues with. I. understand why that's challenging. because you're like, >> "Okay, we're just going to ignore all. the negative stuff." And the answer is. >> yes. At an engagement dinner, you ignore. all the negative stuff. At a wedding, you ignore the negative stuff. At a. funeral, in the eulogy, you ignore the. negative stuff. or you say the negative. stuff as a joke really diplomatically. But these are not the moments, you know,

where you where you air out the shitty. things about someone. They get these. days. >> to to be to to have the record. whitewashed a little bit. >> I completely agree. Like time and place. for everything. I also just feel I'm. like if you're still dealing with this. 10 years later, like it doesn't sound. like she ended up with that friend. anyways. I'm curious if it impacted. their friendship so greatly that like. you lost that best friend of yours then. okay that really sucks and is obviously.

maybe more justified. We don't have any. comments from OP highlighting or. alluding to any of that. But I would say. like if you couldn't keep it in at this. very important dinner for your sister, >> you need to go to therapy. Like you need. to address this. And maybe it's therapy. with her. Maybe you literally go and. you're like we need to hash this out cuz. this feels like [ __ ]. >> Yeah. You got to hash it out, but like. >> not there. >> Not there. Not in these moments. Like. >> whether you still have a little bit of. hurt inside over what happened 10 years.

ago, >> it shouldn't be so close to the surface. that you're willing to to just kind of. like refer to it. >> to to like backhandedly undercut her in. in this moment. Like it should be you. have to process it enough over the. course of 10 years that. >> I don't blame you one bit for that. little light bulb going off where she. goes I never hide anything and you're. like [ __ ] yeah you [ __ ] do. >> Yeah. >> But that's but that is not a moment for. you to mention it. >> And overall vote did agree. Overall vote.

[ __ ]. >> Yeah. >> Big red banner at the top top comment. You're the [ __ ] It wasn't kind of. snarky. It was, "I'm intentionally going. to ruin this night for my sister because. she hooked up with someone over 10 years. ago, and I reacted so poorly to it that. I lost a friendship over it. Now you get. to lose a sister, too.". >> That that might be a a little harsh. Hopefully, their relationship can. recover from this. >> Next comment. You're the [ __ ] You. held a grudge for 10 years and decided.

to make a snarky remark at her. engagement dinner. How childish. Next comment. Hard. You're the [ __ ]. Grow up. you were kids. Choosing her. wedding event to make a public snarky. comment is appropriate and immature. And. they just keep just pounding pounding it. on. >> adding it on. Okay, I've got one last. one for you. It's titled, "Am I the. [ __ ] for not putting a garden gnome. on my lawn?" I only ever take to the.

subreddit for stupid things, it seems. Hi, 26 female here. I recently bought my. first house in a cute little. neighborhood. There's 12 houses in our. street. No HOA. No rules about lawn. design. Only a rule that roofs can't be. black. Cool. Whatever. My neighbor, we'll call him Mr. Thomas, 65ish male, right across the street, has his garden. stuffed, and I mean stuffed, all caps,

with garden gnomes. They're everywhere. They climb up the water drain. They're. on the porch, on the grass. It's a whole. thing. Not my style, but fine. I moved. in the first week of March and the day. after Mr. Thomas came to say hello. He. introduced himself and brought me a. garden gnome as a welcome gift. I. thought it was absolutely hideous, but I. thanked him and then I put it in the. shed after he left. The following day, I. brought all neighbors some self-made. cookies. Mr. Thomas and his wife got. some, too, and they seemed happy about.

it. 2 or 3 days later, I was walking my. dog and Mr. Thomas stopped me and asked. why I hadn't put my gnome in my front. yard. I didn't [snorts] tell him I hated the. gnome. I just told him I had something. else in mind for my garden, which I just. hadn't gotten around to yet. And the. gnome was doing a formidable job. guarding my tools in the shed. He got. really upset and snappy with me and told. me that he's been living on this street. for 30 years and every neighbor gets a.

gnome as a welcome gift. and every. neighbor puts them up in the front yard. I hadn't really paid it any mind up. until that point, but once he mentioned. it, I noticed that there was a garden. gnome in every front yard. He mentioned. how it's tradition and everybody's got. to do it. [snorts] I asked him if he. wanted the gnome back if he didn't like. where I put it. He said no. So, I just. calmly told him that I most likely.

wasn't going to put the gnome on the. front lawn. thanked him for the gift. again, wished him a nice day, and I. left. Ever since then, I noticed that a. handful of other neighbors have let. their gnomes disappear. And now, Mr. Thomas, hates me. I get a. stink eye every time we spot each other. And my neighbor next door, the sweetest. old lady, bless her heart, told me that. he's apparently complaining about me on.

the regular. I told my friends this. story and one of them said I should have. just put the gnome on the front lawn to. make the old man happy. Am I the [ __ ]. for not doing this? >> This is fascinating. First of all, you're not the [ __ ] You're not the. [ __ ]. >> That's just goes without saying. Okay, >> this guy's obviously mentally ill. [laughter] I mean, obviously this guy. has a thing with gnomes and it's not. your job to appease his thing for. gnomes. >> No. That said, if you had taken me back.

to the dead, you're here you are. You've. made your bed and clearly you started a. bit of a revolt among the neighbors. >> Oh, they are rising up. >> Yeah. If the other gnomes are. disappearing, everyone went, "Wait, wait, hold on. She's just not going to. do this." So then none of us have to do. this. So you've you've actually. [laughter] you've started a a a movement. in your neighborhood, a revolution, >> and you are the messenger that will be. killed as a result. >> I think at this point you've taken a.

stand, and I respect the stand you took. >> And I don't think there's anything to do. from here. I think he's he doesn't like. you because he's a sick man. He's he's. he's. sick and and he's not you know it. doesn't. >> the gnomes are a disease. >> The gnomes he's he's not. >> he's not well well people don't behave. this way. So he's obviously. >> have gnomes or react badly to not. putting a gnome. >> Yes. gifted. >> Correct.

>> Both being overflowing with gnomes is. weird. >> and it's the and it's a disease and then. caring whether you you know how you use. his gift. >> and actually being like public facing. about it like badmouthing you is weird. and and not well. What I would have said. if you had if we were all to go back in. time, but again, this does not make you. the [ __ ] is I would have said just. put out the [ __ ] gnome because you.

just moved into this neighborhood and. the last thing you want is a guy that. lives next to you being pissed off at. you for like some stupid reason. And. maybe over time you can slowly move it a. foot back every day until it's. >> behind a bush. >> until Yeah. And or, you know, or just. deal with it. Like I so I move I live in. a co-op in New York City. >> Okay. >> And it's New York City. Co-ops are very. famously like very beefy, crazy, hard to. get into.

>> Fun. >> And I have there's only four units in my. building. >> Okay. >> And I have one of them. So, you know, >> tight-knit group. >> Yes. And my unit has the roof on it. >> Oh. And. >> there's two portions of the roof. >> There's an unfinished portion of the. roof that is basically like where the. HVAC stuff, you know, like all the. machinery that kind of the generators. and stuff lives. Okay. >> And technically when you're in a co-op,

everyone owns 1/4 of the building. So. technically, we all own 1/4 of the back. portion of the roof. >> And then I have a private area that it. came with my apartment that is my. private roof deck. And when I was. getting the place, all of the people who were on the board. to approve me were like, "Hey, one thing. we've been thinking is we should take. the portion of the roof that we all own. and build it out and put like different.

stuff there and furniture and make it. like a shared roof deck." Meanwhile, I'm. thinking like, "No [ __ ] way." Because. like I'm paying for a my thing was. advertised as you have the private roof. And though on a technicality, we all own. this like 1/4 area of the roof. >> Like I don't want that to be public. access because one, it's right next to. my bedroom. My bedroom's like this. >> I was going to ask like is your unit. still like you'd hear them trumping. around. >> I would lose a lot of privacy. A lot.

And I was not okay with that. >> So you lied. >> So I was like, "Yeah, let's just see. Like let's just vibe it out." Like I'm. totally not opposed to that. Meanwhile, in my head, I'm like, I'm totally. opposed to this. [laughter] But I'm. like, let me just get into the building. Let me build a relationship with these. people. And as I built a relationship. with them, first of all, >> no one has mentioned it since. And I've. been in there. >> I mean, granted, I got in in the in the. winter. So, >> is this your first summer? >> Yeah, it's going to be my first summer. So, maybe it comes back. Maybe I'll be. watching this podcast like, "Fuck, I.

handled this wrong." But but so far. >> No, cuz you got in. >> Yeah, I got it. >> There's no contract. You didn't sign. anything. >> And so far, no one's mentioned it. And I. think what I would do is and now that. I've built a relationship, now that I. have a good relationship with these. people, they're not unreasonable people. Do you know what I mean? So it's like. >> I just think you never want your the. first thing you do in a relationship to. be like you poo pooing someone because. they will read you as a person even if. you're totally in the right, which you. are in this case. by no obligation to have a gnome in your.

yard, but you never want that to be like. the first. >> thing that people know about you is that. you're like a you're like a no person. >> So instead, I you know that I've said. yes to now so many things that I'm. hoping that if the roof conversation is. raised again, I could politely be like, "Hey guys, I've given it some thought. It's really close to my bedroom and like. I'm not gonna fight you tooth and nail. on this, but like.

>> if we could not build that unfinished. portion of the roof into a a shared roof. deck, that would really really mean a. lot to me and the way that I conduct. myself in my apartment. >> And my hope would be, and I think this. is correct, that they'd be like, "Yeah, fair enough." You know? >> Yeah, my fingers are crossed for you. >> Mine are crossed for me, too. Well, I. also have neighbor beef now, >> but it's from the other building. >> cuz I have a dog. >> and my dog pees on the roof and on the. unfinished part actually.

>> And this neighbor, an older lady, >> has started to open up her window and. just scream, "Get your [ __ ] dog off. the roof." But she doesn't live in our. building. And so I've never seen her. It's only my girlfriend that's seen her. I've been on tour every time. It's our. roof. She has nothing to do with it. >> Where does this bee go? Do you wash it? Do you like have a hose and spray down? >> Yeah, we have a hose. >> Do you have one of those grass pads? They. >> get those. We did get those. But then we. just kind of There's drains up there. So, we just kind of And it's not a roof.

that anyone inhabits. Like there's no. furniture on this. >> Gotcha. >> So, it's like trash goes there. >> Pee goes there. >> In New York, it's so different cuz like. I know. >> we don't have a yard we can just let her. out on. So, >> I literally was walking down the street. the other day and like just I mean dogs. just have to poop on the sidewalk. It's. It's a tough life for a city dog. >> I wish like we could just have a doggy. door to a place where she could freely. run and anytime she needed to go. >> I like the grass pad. When my dog had. surgery on her hip, we ordered like the. grass subscription. It's like it's.

literally real grass. Yeah, that's what. we did. >> Got a tray and you rinse the tray, which. I guess I don't know, maybe it's the. same if you're just rinsing your. >> We ordered it, but then eventually. realized that it was ultimately kind of. the same to like put like cuz we didn't. need the space beneath the grass to be. clean. Oh, that's crazy. >> But so she yelled. >> sitting at her window waiting for you. >> Yeah. And she I think her issue was like. one time our dog was barking, so she. yelled, but it was barking at 400 p.m. on a Tuesday and it's New York City. Like dogs bark in New York City and uh.

then she was like yelling about the. barking, but then the more she yelled at. our dog, the dog started barking at her. >> Well, of course. >> And then now the dog when the dog sees. her, our dog barks at her. And so that. makes her even more angry. And then the. other problem is like the roof doesn't. have like adequate guard rails. Okay. >> So, she's worried that our dog will run. off the roof, >> which like. >> that might be valid. >> Fair, but she doesn't have to like. scream at us about it. And also, like. our dog's not going to run off the roof. because like our dog has walked up to. the edge, looked over, and realizes that.

it's a building. So, our dog's not going. to like kill herself. >> Well, I don't uh I don't want to scare. you. >> I'm going to get in trouble. >> No, no, no, no, no. I Well, I think some. sort of railing would be advisable. >> Well, yeah. Our roof portion has. >> so well the back area has no adequate. railing. She just goes out, pees, and. then we leave. >> She doesn't like play out there or. anything. Where she plays, we have. railings. >> Yeah. So I had a German Shepherd. He. loved balls. Loved a ball. And his ball. rolled off of our deck. He jumped off.

the deck and broke his leg. So they're. smart until they're not. >> Yeah. Well, definitely. We're never. going to throw. >> Not unattended. Yeah. There you go. >> Off of our roof cuz it is didn't throw. it. He pushed just like push he pushed. it off. >> We don't have balls up there for. >> There you go. You're fine. You're fine. >> But [laughter]. she's a puppy still and I'm a new dog. owner. So now that I think about this, I. go, >> "Yeah, I've definitely seen her walk up. to the edge close enough that I've. screamed at her.". >> Yeah. >> And I've been like, "Yo, like don't.

>> Yeah, you stay away." And now she stays. away. But. >> okay, >> it did it is occurring to me as you say. this that that's not an adequate level. of. >> just a fence. Little fence. She's less. likely to hop a fence. >> I'm so sorry. I'm like literally sending. you out of here with so many new fears. >> Yeah, I'm so [ __ ] up. >> I'm so sorry. This is just the way my. brain thinks. I catastrophize. everything. Um. >> No, but this one I Well, kind of all of. them you've been right on. So, >> I don't know if I.

>> I might be under catastrophizing things. I might lack a level of anxiety I should. have. >> No, no, please don't. Don't. No. It's an. unhealthy world to live in anxiously. because you want to know what my first. thought when I heard this story? >> I go, "What's in those gnomes? Is there. a microphone in those gnomes? Is he. spying on all the neighbors? Is that why. every neighbor gets a gnome and he's so. adamant? Put it on your front porch.". >> He totally could be, but it's like. >> I know, but that's I don't think Mr. Thomas is mking up the gnomes. I think.

it's just like neighborhood is so weird. and. >> it's political. >> Yeah. Because people their head and this. isn't where their heads should go in my. opinion, but your first thought when you. have any kind of issue with a neighbor. isn't just are we having an issue. It's. and then it's forever next to this. person. >> It's like a marriage you didn't sign up. for. And so people get extra worried. because it's got contains all this. heightened emotion of forever when in. reality a lot of things are forever and.

relationships can be repaired. >> as can be you know I've been watching. this documentary Neighbors on. >> I was going to bring it up. It's so. good. >> Did you see the Judge Judy one about the. cat? >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Okay. It's unreal you guys. Neighbors on. HBO is so funny and palatable and crazy. and just. >> it's like kind of a weird mix to me. between like documentary and reality cuz. it's got kind of a reality element but. it's fundamentally shot like a.

documentary. It's great, but my view is. like things can be fixed and absolutely. and like [clears throat] if if this guy. starts to make your life hell or like if. you're anxious walking out of your house. cuz you're like, "Fuck, I'm going to run. into this [ __ ] guy.". >> Then I bet you could still like take the. gnome, put it out somewhere where he. wants it and be like, "Hey, you know, I. thought about it and like. >> it was really considerate of you to get. us a gnome and I'm sorry for putting it. in the shed." Like that was really incon. You could just say something you don't. believe. just tell this old man what he.

wants to hear if you want. Or if you. want. Yeah. >> Or you can just be But you're not the. [ __ ]. >> No, not the [ __ ] at all. And like I. think in some cases I do like placating. people. There's a story I have saved and. it's this person who's like me and my, you know, ex we're getting divorced and. he's making me sign a stipulation that. he'll only agree to the divorce if I. change my last name. And I'm like, what? Like just lie. just say like don't put. it in the contract cuz then if you sign. it,

>> but just say yeah, okay, I'm I'm for. sure I'll change it. >> Of course I'll change my line. >> You don't have to change it. >> Yeah. >> Just lie. And I'm like people people. probably like lying's bad. I'm like but. in certain cases with certain people. it's just kind of the easiest way. forward. And if it's a lie that's like I. don't know doesn't hurt anyone. >> Yeah. >> Or or even you know I'm probably down. >> You know what I mean? like. >> not non-committal. >> Yeah, I'll get to it. >> Cuz you don't know how you'll feel. Maybe you'll want to change your name.

later. You probably won't, >> but it's like just. >> I like the non-committal. >> Yeah. >> Not Don't lie. Just be non-committal. >> Yeah, >> that's a happy medium for everyone. Top. comment on this one. I love that the. other gnomes have been disappearing once. they saw you take a stand. The idea that. this gnome guy has been bullying the. whole neighborhood with gnomes for years. and they were just waiting for a hero to. come along to free them from the gnomes. is so funny. Not the [ __ ] Amazing. >> Agree. Not the [ __ ]. >> We do get an update.

>> Thanks [clears throat] all for the. input. I gave the gnome a new home at my. local secondhand shop this morning. >> Oh. Oh [ __ ] You've raised the stakes. >> To the people asking about the roof. color. Yeah, it's a heat absorption. thing. And to the people worrying about. me being ostracized from the community, it's literally just Mr. Thomas that I. have an issue with. The rest is friendly. towards me. Even Mrs. Thomas smiled back. at me last night when I got home from. work while Mr. Thomas ignored me. So, I. think I'll be fine.

>> Yeah, it's fine. As long Yeah. The. biggest thing is like you don't seem. anxious about it. So, if it's not. ruining your life, then it's totally. fine. I honestly wish I had this level. of. confidence. >> Yeah, me too. Anxious. I'd be like, "Oh, >> I would have put it out. I would have. folded.". >> Me, too. I'm a bit of a people pleaser. and I would have definitely put that. out. >> I respect her for not. >> Mhm. >> But yeah, I agree. I would have just. done it. >> Yeah. No update. So, I mean, for beyond.

that, I mean, >> die soon. I mean, yeah, >> he's only 65. >> Oh, really? >> 65ish. >> I don't know. Just like people that have. >> You were so optimistic a second ago. Don't wish death upon him. >> I No, no, I don't wish death upon him. I'm just saying it. >> Don't do that. >> Once you get to the phase of your life. where you're like hoarding gnomes, it. feels like death is not far. >> Do you not hoard anything? >> No, I don't think. >> you don't have any yogurt collections. >> No, >> that was a big story. This guy had a. yogurt collection.

>> Oh, really? >> Yeah. He had. >> anything? Vintage furniture. M. >> I um unfortunately collect vintage. furniture with my dad. >> and we ran out of space so we had to. rent a airplane hanger. >> and now that's full and so now I have to. stay off Facebook Marketplace. >> Whoa. >> It's a problem. >> That's really cool though. Have you. thought of selling it? >> So that's our plan but we have to. refinish it. >> Whoa. Hit me up. I love that [ __ ].

>> I'll show you I'll show you some stuff. >> like some ' 70s. >> It's 60s7s. Yeah. That's from this one. designer that was like in LA and it's. >> I love like [ __ ] that looks like it's. built in. >> Yeah. >> You know what I mean? >> Oh, >> seats within larger wood things. >> I'll show you the design on my house cuz. we did like. >> a 70s inspired LA type of vibe. But you. can't go all the way in New York cuz. it's. >> New York. >> Yeah. You just can't have too much wood. inside New York cuz then you look. outside and it's concrete and it's all. wrong. >> Interesting.

>> But we did kind of that and you might be. in that. >> I'm excited to see it. >> Yeah. Lucas, thank you so much for. coming on. Where can people find you? You're on tour. You have a podcast with. your mom. >> Oh, yeah. So, I'm dropping It's going to. be a limited series. If you liked my. advice vibes, I it's going to be an. advice podcast not dissimilar from this. format, >> but with listener advice questions, uh, but done by myself and my mother. And. we're going to do a limited 3 to four. episode series in the 3 to four weeks.

leading up to Mother's Day. So, it'll be. there, put on YouTube, and then never. again. >> Oh, it's like right around the corner, too. >> Yeah, it's not going to be recurring. It's just going to be those few. episodes. And then besides that, I'm a. stand-up comic. Check me out. Uh, lucazelnick.com is all of my tour dates. And, uh, Lucasnik on Instagram and Tik. Tok. And then I'm on YouTube. Forgot. what my YouTube handle is, but just look. up Lucasnik. >> It'll all be tagged in the description. Super easy for you guys to find. And. check out a show. I I like need to come. to a show and witness all of this in. person.

>> because your inquisit inquisitiveness. >> I don't know. You're just so inquisitive. with people and the way you can handle. such awkward situations and like sit in. it and yet comfortably ask questions and. move through it while being funny is. just like such an art and a gift. So, >> thank you. >> You guys definitely want to check out a. show um you're doing like Netflix as a. joke. So much cool stuff. So, be sure to. look at Lucas's links in the. description. And other than that, until.

next time, guys. Bye. [music].