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I'm so excited to do this. >> because we have wine. >> Well, now because we have wine, which it. is wine, people like I've I've gotten an. insane amount of DMs lately being like, I feel like you're pregnant. I feel like. you're pregnant. You guys will be the. first to know. So, not yet. Um, it is. actual wine. But you haven't been on an. episode with me, just me and you solo in. forever. >> Since 2022. No, but it honestly it's.

been it's been quite some time. >> Yeah. >> And this is a theme that was inspired by. you. >> Really? >> Well, from what I was hearing before, I. don't know how I feel about that. >> The stories. Um, well, in the sense that. you've been working on a confessions. theme for Father Knows Something, the. podcast we have with my dad, and I'm. like, well, that sounds fun. I'm I'm. going to copy you. So, now it's a race. to see who can get their confessions. theme out first. Will it be me? Will it.

be you? I'm not sure. But we are going. to be stealing a couple confessions off. the two hot takes subreddit and reading. it over on Father Knows because we did. we did a diaper story last week on the. episode with Michaela. >> Mhm. >> And there's an unreal diaper confession. again on the two outakes sub. And I'm. like, I feel like two diapers in a row. just felt like a lot for you guys. So, we're going to have dad react to the. diaper story and see what his dad advice.

would be on it, which I think is a fun. spin. >> Yeah, >> diaper diaper dilemmas. It's really. really popping up right now. But yeah, I'm just I'm really excited to get into. these. There are some doozies. We've got. some updates. I'm just really I'm. feeling really good. I'm feeling light. as a feather. The theme is fire. I. haven't read any of these stories. Bailey found them all. I just know. titles. And I'm just so excited for. October. We've got a true crime episode.

coming out. We've got a spooky. paranormal episode coming out. And. you're going to be obsessed with the. guests we have. So, I just feel like I'm. really hitting my stride right now. >> And Halloween. >> Well, yeah. Your favorite holiday. >> Yeah. Feel like that's better than all. of that. >> Yeah. We're going to stock up on candy. gonna really blow our trick-or-treaters. minds this year. >> Yeah, it's gonna be good. >> Okay. >> What are you guys gonna be for. Halloween? >> I don't know yet. If anyone has any good. couple Halloween idea costumes for.

Justin and I, put it in the comments. >> Yeah, >> you got to get going on Halloween. costumes early. If there's a good one, I'll do it. >> Morgan doesn't like Halloween. >> I like Christmas better. I like. presents. >> So, I'm on an island. An a Halloween. island. I dress up by myself. That could. be a movie. Without further ado, my. friends, let's dive in.

>> Okay. Up first. >> Yes. Coming from Tiff today. I [ __ ] up. by not telling my doctor how many Tic. Tacs I eat per day. >> Been there. >> So, I'm absolutely [ __ ] obsessed with. the fruit adventure flavor of Tic Tacs. The flavor combined with the soft smoosh. they make between your teeth when you. chew them makes my brain very happy.

I've been buying them in bulk where each. container has 200 candies each and they. come in bulk packs of 12 containers. I. tend to eat them by the handful while. I'm working or gaming. So, in a day I. can easily slam through one to two. containers, 200 to 400 candies. Now, keep in mind that on the nutrition. level, it says that the serving size is. one candy and is listed as having zero.

calories, which I thought was awesome. because I could have as many as I want. Over the past year, I found that I. gained about 40 lb and nothing about my. eating habits has changed as far as I. was aware. I told my doctor about it, and she was a bit worried, so she had me. do a bunch of blood work to see if there. was a reason why I gained so much weight. in a short period of time. Everything. came back normal. She referred me to see. a weight loss doctor who would also have. me see a dietitian. I've been working. with the dietitian for a few months now.

and we have me keep a food log. I had a. virtual visit with her today and during. it I was fiddling around with an empty. container to keep my hands busy. She saw. it and asked where I got such a large. container from. So I told her about it. and how I eat one to two of those per. day. She asked why those weren't on my. food tracker, and I said it was because. they're zero calories, so they wouldn't. count. Apparently, I was very, very.

wrong about this. She explained to me. that food companies can label something. as being zero calories if the food's. serving size contains five or less. calories. In reality, each individual. Tic Tac actually has about two calories. So essentially, since each container has. 200 pieces and I typically have one to. two of those, I've been eating 400 to. 800 plus calories per day of Tik Toks in.

addition to all the other food I've been. eating, which is very likely why I've. gained so much weight today. I [ __ ]. up. >> You'd never think. You would never. think. >> Never in a million years. >> It's like water. You can have as much. water as you want and water, you know, you're fine. But but I guess when you. think about it, where does it go? It's. made out of something. >> See, that's how I feel about Diet Coke. I literally Why did I just Google how. many calories are in Diet Coke? First.

thing that crossed into my head, I'm. like, how many things are out there that. are actually like four or right at five? But if it's five, do they have to label. it as zero still? You know what I mean? How many things out there are all of us. eating, chewing on, snacking on every. day that we're like thinking we're doing. right? Oh, zero cal. Zero cal. >> See, the thing about it though, I I used. to fancy a Tic Tac back in the day. I. like the orange kind. >> Oh, >> the orange. I don't know flavor. Orange.

probably was the flavor. >> I used to get a normal size. >> Mhm. >> But after a few of them, I'm kind of. over it. So even if. >> but these have a smush. This is like. probably, you know, a light crunch and. then a smush. It's not like sucking on a. Tic Tac. This is kind of like a gummy. It's like a gummy bear but Tic Tac form. >> But still, >> oh, I could get behind it. >> that many. >> If I could eat a bag of gummy bears a. day, I would. Absolutely. If it says. zero cal.

spread out enough so the 800 calories. doesn't actually fill you up. >> probably. >> cuz I would start to think well if it's. that many calories wouldn't you find. yourself you know at 8:00 p.m. being. like, "hm, I'm really not that hungry. for dinner yet." And you start, >> you know, doesn't it all kind of balance. out? >> You know, it's it's spread out and. they're also so tiny. Like, they're. never filling up his stomach. This is. something I actually was questioning. after the state fair. We went to the. Minnesota State Fair. Amazing. iconic. I. hope everyone gets to experience it in. their lifetime. But you eat all day. All.

day. You're just snacking. And after the. fair, we were leaving and I'm like, I'm. still kind of hungry. And I saw Tik Tok. and real after real that people were. like, "Why am I still hungry?" And it's. just cuz you're eating kind of like. these empty foods, not a lot of fiber, not a lot of protein, it's fried, and so. it doesn't really fill you up. And I'm. like, that's probably what the Tic Tacs. are doing. I'm not I'm not a gastro doc. I'm not a dietitian. >> Yeah. But clearly he was not getting.

full and 800 calories extra a day when. you're already eating maybe 2,00 2500. whatever like. >> insane. >> that that sneaks up on you. >> And then I just love that he was playing. with the empty pack. >> and it's like oh. >> what is that? >> Well, >> what a good dietitian to be like what do. you got there? >> Yeah. To actually catch on. >> Yeah. but he's been working with them. for months and they're just finding out. and it's like they're probably thinking.

the worst about this guy. They're. probably like, "I have this one patient. I can't figure out what's going on with. him.". >> Well, unexpected weight gain or weight. loss is can be very scary. >> Yeah. It's typically not a good sign, >> right? >> Yeah. >> All from Tic Tacs. >> 40 lbs. How many Tic Tacs is that? >> I mean 400 a day. >> Over how long? 4 months. No, he's been. doing this for over a year. >> 400 tic tacs a day basically. >> Is that Guinness World Record, you know,

level? >> I would assume. >> I mean, >> yeah. >> Who in their right mind? >> I would absolutely bet he'd be in the. book. >> I'd get sick of it. >> So, we do have a couple edits. Edit: Just want to clarify that I'm super. aware that sugar will in fact make you. gain weight. I'm not that stupid, but I. never actually read the product. ingredients. I assumed they must have. been made with something like xylitol or. some other artificial sweetener to make. them zero calories, so it never crossed. my mind to check. Edit two. Dang, y'all. are brutal. Laughing my ass off. But at.

least some good came out of it since. apparently, like me, a lot of people. didn't realize about the less than 5. calories per serving rule and how it can. be legally classified as zero in the US. Personally, I wish we could have the. model they do in other countries where. they list calories per X amount of. grams. Edit three, all caps. My teeth. are fine. I actually just had a dentist. appointment 2 weeks ago. No cavities or. decay. Gums are healthy despite my candy.

habit. I do take good care of my teeth. >> Wow, strong teeth. >> There's a couple of comments that are. really good. Top one, Tic Tacs are small. enough to legally be labeled sugar-free. even though they're almost pure sugar. Next comment, bro ate 40 pounds of Tic. Tacs. >> So, okay. So, it applies to sugar and. calories. >> Yeah. So, someone comments under that. and goes, "Well, sugar is less calories. dense than fat. So, working for the. basis that a Tic Tac is 2 cal and weighs.

half a gram and OP gained 40 lb body. fat. Then it ate 35 kg of Tic Tacs or 77. lb worth. 77 lb of Tic Tac. >> I want to see that pile right here on. the floor. >> Cuz if you did that, that is an. intervention. He needs to walk in family. sitting there and there's the pile. Here's what you consumed. >> Yeah. How many Tic Tacs would get you? 75 77bs. >> A lot. >> So, we've got Bailey crunching numbers.

behind the camera here, too. He is. spending about $3,000 a year on these. Tik Toks, too, which like, hey, >> cheaper than some bad habits, right? But. >> still, 3K on Tik Toks. If I found that. out after, I'd be so sad. >> And I'm also now I'm just very curious. what he does for work. >> to where like he didn't even notice the. spending buying this much Tik Tok. pallets. >> Yeah. >> You know what I mean? >> Maybe there's like an underground black. market of Tic Tacs. Do you think he's.

buying pallets actually? Like do you can. you imagine if a forklift shows up to. his house and unloads the pallet of Tic. Tacs in his garage? >> I could he should buy Yeah, he should. buy in pallets. >> Just my Tic Tac delivery for the year. >> So, we do get an update. >> This just came out August 15th, 2026. Bailey's birthday. How ironic. Edit 4. It's 8:15 26 and I actually forgot about.

this post until the other day and I. figured I'd share an update. So, I did. stop eating the Tic Tacs, but did find. out I have a legitimate health condition. afterwards. After my gallbladder removal. a few years ago, I kept having issues. where I felt shaky, confused, lethargic, dizzy, irritable, and sweaty shortly. after eating meals, especially in the. middle of the day. All I knew was that. if I grazed on Tic Tacs throughout the. day, my symptoms would go away. When I. stopped eating the Tic Tacs, my symptoms.

came back. And my doctor had me wear. continuous blood glucose monitor, which. was showing readings that kept hitting. the low 60s, high50s, indicating. hypoglycemia. It turns out I developed a condition as. a result of the gallbladder removal. called postprandial hypoglycemia, meaning you get rapidly dropping blood. sugar shortly after eating meals. They. don't exactly know why the gallbladder. removal causes it, but it explains why. the Tic Tacs made me feel better because.

it prevented those huge drops. >> Mhm. >> After we figured this out, doctor put me. on Zepbound in hopes that it will stop. those blood sugar crashes. Thankfully, it worked and I no longer need to eat. candy to feel normal again. And I've. been losing some of that weight I. gained, too. But yeah, it was a wild. ride. >> Wow. So, you're almost almost self. diagnosted. yourself the. >> the Tic Tacs, >> the treatment. >> Yeah. >> And it masked the actual issue going on.

>> Oh my gosh. >> With, you know, just some weight gain. So, I guess I would say you could choose. between the zap bound or you could just. keep going on the tic tacs. It's not. hurting your teeth. You just gain a. little extra pounds. >> No. Oh my god. No. >> Problem solved. I mean, >> there's probably a doctor prescribed. happier medium here. >> Clearly. >> Well, it's just interesting that that. was sort of fixing it, but wow, there's. a lot of layers here. >> And then cuz I was going to say right. when you get off the Tic Tacs, the first.

reaction would have been like. withdrawal. Well, you're just having Tic. Tac withdrawal. I I think even from the. habit like. >> I love a little sweet treat after every. meal and that's just such a habit of. mine. You're popping these Tic Tacs. non-stop throughout the day. How do you. break that habit? >> You almost have You almost have to act. like treat it like you were on. cigarettes and you got to find something. to replace that habit. You have to find. something to replace the tic tacs. >> I am just blown away by this story.

I'm just like what? And I think this next one's going to be. pretty good, too. Okay, so this is. coming from our very own Two Aake. subreddit, 26 days old now, titled, "I. found out I'm not related to my dad. while I was in labor.". I tried to post this on another sub on. my other Reddit account, but they just. kept taking it down. I don't know why. So, I'm trying this account and this sub. because I watch the show. When I, 26. female, was 22 years old and in labor.

with my first child, I discovered that. it is impossible for me to be related to. my mom's husband, 52 male. His blood. type is not compatible with having a. child with my blood type. I hadn't known. my blood type before they tested me for. my blood type while I was in labor. Mom's husband is O positive and mine is. AB positive. I tried to confront my mom, 52 female, about it, but she tried to. insist that it's just a medical.

abnormality and told me that I probably. got her wrong. However, I decided to try. to investigate further. Since I tried. confronting my mom about it, I have had. my blood type tested three more times, and I've been given the same answer. It. is impossible for him to be my father. based off the fact that his blood type. is incompatible to having a child with. my blood type. I decided to ask my. grandma, '7s female, if my mom had told.

her anything. She said she didn't know, but wasn't surprised. I then reached out. and asked my parents best friend, 47. male, about it, and gave him the. timeline of when this affair could have. happened. and he told me he really. didn't know. Fast forward three and a. half years, the best friend messages me. on Facebook and confesses that he is. more than likely my biological father. >> The best friend.

>> and we are getting a paternity test. He. told me he's known the entire time that. I'm more than likely his child. He just. quote didn't want to explode their. marriage. Too late. But that's probably. besides the point. He's so certain I'm. probably his biological child that he. paid for a paternity test to be done. Hasn't come in yet. Will update when the. results are in if anyone wants. Anyways, I'm just really hurt, confused, and I. feel like the entire 26 years of my life.

has been a complete lie. I'm also very. angry that I asked this man point blank. and he lied to my face and didn't bring. it up again for nearly 4 years. This. honestly doesn't feel real, but it is. And my best friend called it quote tel. nolla core. >> Hey, it feels like that movie that I. hate where you can't trust anyone. >> Oh my god, Justin. Not Austin Land. again. It's It's a romcom. It's a happy.

ending. >> Is it not similar? Hey, you're not my. like my parents aren't my parents. My. parents are lying to me. this random guy. lied to me and then apparently he's my. real dad. He can't trust anybody. >> Oh my god. >> But also with the title, I was wondering. if she realized this during labor cuz as. it was stated, I mean, I did not know that certain. blood types could not pass down certain. blood types. >> Honestly, it's probably something I. learned in biology ages ago, but I don't.

even know how it works. >> Like the pun square of AB and I'm just. like, "Oh my god, no. It's too much. >> So, I was just picturing middle of. labor. Wait, my blood type's what? >> Mhm. >> And then realizing which maybe it. happened after, but still, this is kind. of what I was nervous about with the. ancestry DNA testing. >> Yeah, I was nervous that you'd find. another sibling. >> or just you just never know. Also, >> hoping mine would come back. >> What if your parents didn't truly know?

Like, what if it wasn't? Cuz her mom. probably knows. I mean, her mom was. basically like not surprised. Ooh, the shade. But then grandma was. like, "Oh, well, go ask so and so.". Basically sending OP to this other guy. So, I think Granny knew and just didn't. want to be the one to like actually. break the news. Or maybe Granny had a. hunch and just isn't 100% so can't say. with confidence.

>> Do you feel like that's how the best. friend was operating as well? No, I. think to come clean three and a half. years later is kind of weird. But. >> but we're already so deep in not even. not up to the point where she even. asked. >> Yeah. >> If you would know. >> I mean but it sounded like parents still. together. So. >> but even still if you know you have a. child I mean. >> are you just going to be like I mean I. guess people do but like all the time. >> right? But in this case, >> you're watching I mean, they're still.

best friends. OP knows this other guy as. my dad's best friend, parents best. friend, whatever it is. Like, this guy's. been in her life. And in his head, he's. like, I've known the whole time. Huh? Known the whole time. How weird for you. to watch your kid grow up, but again, you were sleeping with your best. friend's wife, and you probably don't. want that to get out. So, >> this is just a twisted little web of. lies. I just I'm the type of person I. could never keep this stuff buried that.

long. >> I hate a secret. >> I mean, I I can try. >> I want the tea, >> but I can't I don't know. I feel really. bad lying or holding if Well, it's. different. If someone comes to me with. information and says, "Hey, this is just. between us." I'm good at that. I'm not. the like pass it around to everyone I. know type. >> But if it involves me, >> I would think about it all the time. And. you're telling me best friend hasn't. thought about it all the time, >> especially once asked. Why do you think.

it took so long? Why do you think it. took three and a half years then to come. >> back? >> I guess fear of being rejected, fear of. >> Well, I don't know what you have to lose. at that point besides a best friend. >> But I think it was like fear that maybe. I don't know, she wasn't his because. he's so now like we got to know, we got. to know, we got to know. Like I'll pay. for the paternity test. We got to know. >> Yeah, you got to find out. >> Yeah. >> So, is that the update? Do we find out? Tell me there's an update.

>> We do get an update. >> cuz otherwise otherwise what's in the. box? >> No, I didn't know if there was an. update. I was literally going to be. like, Bailey, how dare you put this in. here? Cuz now that was like a taste of. my own medicine cuz I'm like, holy. smokes. This is just again tea. >> Are you reading blind? >> Everything today. >> Everything today. Yeah. So, if there's. any annunciation mistakes, I'm so sorry. Um, reading it for the very first time. with you all. So, before we get into the. update though, top comment on this one.

So, grandma wasn't surprised that your. mom had an affair. OP responds, no, she. wasn't. Someone goes, why? And OP goes, I mean, it's her mom. People tend to. know their children very well. And then. that emoji that is like kind of melting. into the ground. >> Oh, yeah. Mhm. >> Someone basically goes, true. Maybe your. mom had a history of affairs or your. grandma knew that the bio dad and your. mom were getting close. I'm so sorry. this happened to you. It's got to be. rough. And someone else goes, "More like. she suspected something. Saw certain.

timelines and partners didn't add up but. kept quiet because she can't prove. anything without the mother coming clean. or a DNA test to be done. Plus, she. probably wanted to see her grandkid." OP. responds, "Me and her were best friends. before she passed, so that's probably. it.". >> Yeah, that would freak me out. realizing that this guy I've called dad. forever is not. >> it's identity maybe new. >> shattering. >> that's you that's the worst like if they. didn't know cuz there's been the baby.

switched at the hospital and then the. kid doesn't look like either parents. kind of thing. >> then it's different but I don't know. it's just freaky think how your life. would be different. >> yeah and where do you go from there. >> and because it's so late in life you're. like your whole world and everything you. thought you knew is turned on its head. and I would be in a crash out tail spin. like who am I? Everything's been a lie. >> Who can I believe anymore? >> It would be very upsetting. There's.

another comment here that goes I'm sorry. about this. Your grandma's reaction is. pretty funny though. Have you talked to. your non biod dad the man you believe to. be your bioad or is he still in the dark. about this? Oh, Pierce Bonds tried to. tell him he doesn't believe me because. of my mom lying to him, >> right? >> Yeah. It's a tangled web. >> Yeah. And so seeing here, everyone in. the comments is like, "Udate me, update. me, update me." Yep. >> And 12 days ago, OP said, "Update.

posted.". >> Okay. >> So, for that update, I just want to. address some things and then get into an. update because there was a lot of people. saying the same things. I did not start. searching for my biological parent to. acquire a new family or dad. I started. the search because I wanted an accurate. family medical history. My mother is not. a human chimera, nor was I switched at. birth. Part of how she was able to pull. this off is because I was a preeie and. everybody was preoccupied with whether. or not I would live or not to question.

timelines. I don't hate either parent. who raised me. Me taking a paternity. test was not done in malice or with the. intention to hurt either of my parents. Again, I just wanted an accurate family. medical history because I have children. and that's important. I went thinking I. could try to get the medical history and. amicably ceasing further communication. The reason I asked my grandma and my. dad's best friend, was at the suggestion. of my older sister, 32 female, so we.

wouldn't rock the boat too much and then. get the information I needed. She was in. the room when I was told. I did not. expect it to be my dad's best friend. I. saw a lot of people saying that I should. have dropped it. I did. I was approached. over 3 and 1/2 years later by my dad's. best friend and told the information. My. dad and his best friend became best. friends after the affair, which how the heck does that work? To be.

a fly on the wall. >> Mhm. >> Hey buddy, what? Anyways, on to the update. The paternity. test came back 99.99%. match for paternity. So, I am most. likely my dad's best friend's biological. child, which is such an odd thing to. say. My biological father keeps. apologizing for being absent my entire. life and not fighting for more answers. He is livid with my mom for lying to. everyone and making him inadvertently be.

an absentee parent when all he wanted. growing up was to be a dad. Frankly, that's between them. Honestly, I'm not. touching that fight with a 10-ft pole. Well, and also he made that choice, too. It's not like you were forced against. your will and chained up the your whole. life, so you couldn't. >> be a dad. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. OP goes on to say, "But I got the. family medical history from his mom, my. grandma, I guess." And I'm going to the.

doctor and my kid's pediatrician soon to. have that updated. I've been processing. a lot and genuinely don't know where. things are going to go from here. I feel. like it would be the morally correct. thing to tell my dad myself simply. because the other option is hearing it. from his best friend and I just don't. think he wants to hear it from the. affair partner. So any advice on that. would be appreciated. I don't want to. break his heart but either I tell him, biological father tells him or he finds. out from somebody else entirely.

And then we get update two. >> Okay. I told my dad. He genuinely. appreciates that I was the only one in. this situation who decided to be honest. with him. We had a heart-to-heart about. how this doesn't affect us. He still. raised me and my three children do love. him regardless of what DNA says. He's no. longer best friends with my biological. father. Duh. He also told my mom he. knows. Told her not to speak to him. and. he is staying in their garage at the.

moment while he decides what he's going. to do as a next step. The garage has AC, a mini fridge, TV, a recliner, and some. of his hobby stuff, so he'll be okay. staying in there, I guess. >> Yep. >> My husband and I did offer that he stay. with us while he thinks, but he turned. it down. My bof did provide my dad other. evidence that he may need. Screenshots. of bof trying to confront my mom and her. lying. My husband also made memes of. this situation so we can all laugh.

instead of cry. >> See, I don't know who to be upset with. Like, are you upset with Bodad? >> I I mean, I I just think it'd be such a. mix of emotions. You wouldn't really. know what to feel. >> I honestly think the only person I would. be upset if this were me and this would. be my mom. >> for sure. >> because she was the one that knew. She. was the one that chose to step out on. her marriage and have this affair. The.

other guy, best friend, which again, I'm. so curious how they became best friends. after the affair. Still a puzzle, but. he's trying not to rock the boat. They're still married. He's not going to. be like, "That's my baby." And blow. everyone's life up, >> right? >> And the the dad, who is your dad at the. end of the day, he's none the wiser. Like, he doesn't know any of this. So, the only one to really be mad at for, you know, having this lie and keeping. everyone in the dark for so long is mom.

>> Yeah. >> And I know, you know, bio dad being. like, I'm sorry I was such a absentee. father. Yeah, that's true. That's. shitty. But your mom didn't open the. door for him, but you're going to feel. how you want to feel. And no matter what. you're feeling, it's not wrong. >> Yeah. I I went through like getting my. DNA test results back and like every day. until I got it back, I was just like. praying there was some mistake and like. Jerry was my dad, which Jerry, if you.

don't know this, is who I call my dad, but he's not my bio dad. He adopted me. and all of my brothers, but him and my. mom were like dating on and off and then. I was an oops baby. And so it's just. like kind of this complicated thing. So. >> yeah, >> to be faced with this like identity. crisis, it is so jarring. >> and it's tough, but you have an amazing. husband. I love that he made memes, so. supportive. I want to see some of them. Just send me a DM if you don't want to.

share publicly. It sounds like your dad, too, is great. And we've had so many. reactions on this show where a dad will. find out, you know, biologically. not my kid, and they freak out. And. that's not what you're getting here. And. I know you're going to be just fine, but. obviously you're grieving something that. you thought was your truth, and you'll. work your way through it, but whatever. you're feeling is okay. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. That was a wild ride. Thank you.

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>> You want to know a fun fact? >> Yeah. >> I've never been bothered about stuff. like that while eating. >> I don't know what it is. I could see. horrible things in front of me, hear. horrible things, and I'll still just eat. like it's popcorn at a movie. >> No. No. >> Not even for stuff. I like movies a bad. example cuz generally you enjoy the. movie. >> Like Fear Factor, Survivor, when they're. eating or doing. >> the gross stuff. >> Oh yeah. >> I If they're gagging, I start gagging.

I'm a sympathetic gagger. >> See, I can just eat right through it. >> It doesn't There's that. I don't know. >> Well, let's see. Let's see if this. >> I I wish I had a snack cuz I'd eat it. right now. >> God. This is coming from r/confessions. titled, "One of my buttworms got on his. finger.". >> Just one. >> I, 18 female, and my boyfriend, 18 male, were being a bit silly and making butt. finger jokes. I told him my butt was. itchy and joked about it being the.

thread worms I had a month or two prior. He unexpectedly. shoved his finger all the way up my bum. It was consensual. And in shock, I just. sat up and stared. I grabbed his hand. because I wanted to make sure he didn't. just get my poop on his finger. And. that's when I saw it. A tiny white line. on his finger. I looked at it closer, thinking it might have been like a piece.

of thread or something. No, it was alive and wiggling. There was. no poop on his finger at all. Just a. worm. He wiped it on a tissue, walked to. the kitchen, and poured a quarter of the. dish soap all over his hand. We're both. humiliated. I'm taking this with me to. the grave, hence the throwaway account. That's all. That's That's all we got. Just Just that. Well, it's certainly.

worse than getting poop on your hand. >> I would rather have the poop. >> Yeah. >> But also to just like stick your finger. up someone's [ __ ] Like what if she. was about to be groundhogging or. turtling and you just and you feel a. turd. >> It's just the way it goes. It comes with. the territory. >> Oh my god. >> I mean, like, you know, put your ant h. hand in an antill, you're going to get. ants on your hand. It's just kind of. just the way it goes. You know what I. learned? So, I'm obsessed with Jen.

Hamilton. I find her to be just the most. cute, relatable person ever on TikTok. I'm trying to get her on the show. Please go spam her comments. I just I'd. love to have her on. But Jen Hamilton. talks about when people are giving birth. and they like go to look and feel, like. you can feel poop through the vaginal. wall. And so, you can press on the. bottom and. scoop it out.

>> So then then people won't poop. themselves as they push. >> I don't know if that's the way I'd like. to be segueed into the story. >> I don't know how I got there, but it. just popped into my head. >> By the way, the story reminds me of like. I just chewed. Okay, but all right, >> but the back to the worm. >> How does the worm end up there? >> Um, it sounds like she has parasites. I've never seen a thread worm in my. life. Um, oh yeah, they look nasty.

Nasty little things. It honestly looks. like a finely ground piece of parmesan. >> See, I could eat pasta while looking at. that. Doesn't bother me, >> dude. >> Um, yeah, I would want to. put a firecracker in my butt and light. it off. >> to get rid of the worms. >> I I don't even know what that would. feel. I would want to drink rubbing. alcohol. I Justin, that's not medical. advice. Do not do this. You can just go.

to your doctors and. >> No, that's in Thousand Ways to Die. The. guy that bathed in rubbing alcohol. >> I know. Cuz his pores, everything. absorbed it. >> Yes, you absorbed through your skin. >> Don't do that. >> Think about the next time you're in a. hot tub where everyone's peeing. >> Don't Don't do it. I feel like. >> What's the condition? >> Thread worms. You need to get a parasite. cleanse. Your doctor. >> Where do you get them? >> You get them from other people. >> How? from them shoving your their. fingers up there. >> The boyfriend's very comfortable with. her [ __ ] He's probably giving her.

rim jobs. >> Okay. >> He's tongue punching her fart box. >> So, they came from his tongue. >> He's got the worms, too. >> Where? >> The same place. >> Yeah. In his ass. >> Yeah. >> So, how does one how does a worm How. does it originate? Just toilet seat to. toilet seat? >> No. >> I'm trying to avoid this. It says here. you can get them from family members and. in schools or child care centers. Oh. god. Another thing you have to worry. about with kids. Your kids coming home.

with worms. Head lice now worms. How do how do they how do they spread? Cuz what are the kids doing? Eating each. other's poop? No. Are they poopy hands? >> If those worms were in the house, we're. getting out of the house and we're. lighting the thing on fire. >> I think a lot of people have worms and. we just don't know. >> Lovely. >> Yeah. My friend uh Chill Alexis, if you. were at our Arizona live show a couple. years ago, you met her. She pulled a. tapeworm out of her dog's ass. >> Great. >> So, she could have tapeworms now. I.

don't know. I don't know how any of it. works. >> Probably does. We all just have worms. >> So, we have a comment here. So, you. still have worms? Dot dot dot. And it's. possible he will, too. Someone responds, if they're fingering each other's. [ __ ] they definitely both have it, lol. Right. Well, yeah. >> Next comment down. Saw the title and. still decided to read this. The [ __ ] is. wrong with me? >> True.

>> Someone goes, "Dude, same." And another. comment, "Go see a doctor, both of you.". >> I mean, do we not like assume that's. what happened right after? How do if. that happens, >> and you're just like, "Well, what should. we get for dinner? What are we watching. tonight?" There's no way. >> I'd immediately be going to urgent care. Do not pass. Go. Give me the bill. I. just give me a parasite. I might call an. ambulance. >> I need these worms.

>> I need immediate. >> out of my [ __ ] I mean, if you're. literally if you're just sticking a. finger up and pulling it out and having. a worm on it, you've got to be infested. >> Yeah. How far up do they go? >> The whole colon, probably. >> See, I would feel like they're inside me. everywhere. In my fingers, my toes. >> Chime in. I would feel like. >> I I just I don't know. I would not know. what to do with myself. >> No, I'm uncomfortable. I'm very. uncomfortable. So, OP does have a. comment that she thinks she got it from.

his younger siblings cuz she basically. lives with them. >> Okay. So, how do we prevent this in our. future? Lice, worms, any of this? >> Um, >> I understand we're going to get sick a. lot cuz that's just what comes with it. To prevent thread worms, also known as. pin worms, you must stop the tiny eggs. from entering your mouth. >> How is that so hard? What are they. sharing? >> Clean your fingernails with a nail.

brush. Use warm wa water and soap. Um, this can happen from changing diapers. and then not washing your hands or then. touching food. >> So, kids just have them. It's just. default. Babies have worms. I think. kids, especially if they're, you know, going to daycare and things like that, >> stuff spreads quick. Daycare, school, not saying that either of those places. are bad. Obviously, kids need to go. there. But. >> remember when we were at Disney and we. saw the kid licking the handrail?

>> Yeah, I'm not touching anything anymore. >> Like the in line for the ride, just just. along the whole rail. Dude, kids are. nasty. >> Pin worms. >> Worms and [ __ ]. >> Yeah. >> Are we sure? You out there have had your. kids get worms? I need to know now. And. did you get worms from your kids? >> There's probably other types, too. >> Oh, there's a lot of worms. Yeah, there's a lot of other steps to clean. your house. Don't shake the laundry. Wash in hot water. Clean hard surfaces.

Rinse toothbrushes. >> Explain. Shake the laundry. >> If you shake it, it can send microscopic eggs floating. into the air. Who's shaking laundry? What does that. even mean? What do you shake it for? >> Oh my god. I I don't know. Shake the. dirt off of it. And then. >> No, >> I don't know. I'm disgusted. We're. moving along. >> See, I still have a full appetite. >> I'm not into it, but I just have a full. appetite still. >> You're going to be known as like the.

worm boy. Pin worm boy. >> I'm not the pinw worm boy. I can just. eat through stuff. Okay, see if you could eat through this. Okay, >> get your popcorn, I guess, cuz this. one's a doozy, too. This is coming from our SL relationship. advice titled, "My 19 female significant. other, 22 female, has been ignoring. quarantine to attend orgies.". Now, this is a little vintage. It's.

coming from 513 2020. >> Classic. >> So, co times. >> What a year. Okay, so this is a lot for me to unpack. Little bit of context. Been dating my. significant other for 9 months now. She's by and I'm still discovering. myself a bit. It's been a good. relationship aside from occasional. arguments about my religious values. I. was raised Catholic and prefer to save. myself until marriage. We fooled around. a bit, but nothing too much. Hadn't.

really dated anyone before, and she. really got me out of my shell. She's a. bit of a private person. I always. assumed that she was introverted like. me. I didn't think she was intentionally. keeping secrets. For the last 5 months. or so, she'd been going to group therapy. sessions. It made me worried that she. might be depressed. Sometimes I would. ask if I could go with her, but she. would get defensive and say that it's. too personal for her. I respected her. wishes, but I felt shut out. Sometimes I.

would notice her texting members from. the group and it was like she had. developed a new friend circle that I. wasn't allowed to meet. Significant. other goes to these meetings on a. bi-weekly basis. The meetings were still. happening during quarantine which. surprised me. We live in the UK and. things are pretty strict here. Only. strange thing I noticed in the past was. a weird phone call that I got from her. I heard some heavy breathing like she. was suffocating. I freaked and started.

screaming for her to answer. She said, "Procodile. Oops." And hung up. I made. her explain it to me when she got back. And she said it was a super emotional. session. >> Oh, yeah. >> Fast forward to this week. We had a. fight about sex, specifically my. hesitation of it. And I told her it. doesn't help that she is so distant. We. started to calm down a bit and then she. asked what she could do to open up. I. said going to one of her counseling.

meetings might be a start, but she got. very defensive. Told me I was being too. invasive and I shouldn't give her. ultimatums. I wasn't trying to force. anything. It was just a suggestion and. I'd never want to make her. uncomfortable. We didn't really talk. after that argument and things were. worse than ever. Last night, significant. other went to one of her group meetings. I decided to follow her. >> Yes, >> I know this sounds really shitty of me,

but after that pocket dial and. everything going on, I had to know what. was up. I thought maybe I could speak to. a head counselor or something, tell her. I loved her and was just worried. Maybe. we could figure this out together. I. follow her to this old looking community. center. Nothing weird, right? She goes. in and I start to second guess what I'm. doing there. I think it over in my head. for a good 15 minutes or so and then I. decide to step in. I'm pretty tense as I.

do this feeling so much guilt. Walking. through a hallway when I hear a faint. music coming from one of the rooms. Figured it must be a social event. As I. walked towards it, I hear music and. noise coming from the other rooms. I. open the door and briefly notice some. people going at it. Embarrassed, I. quickly close the door and go to check. one of the other rooms. I gradually open. another door and peer in carefully. Even. more confused as I see people sprawled.

across the floor having sex. I think the. floor had mattresses on it. And at the. back of the room, I saw my significant. other grinding against some stranger. I. was in shock and darted out of the. building. Don't think she saw me. I've. been typing this out over and over. trying to come to terms with it. Haven't. spoken to her since she got back. She. probably thinks we're not talking. because of our fight. I don't even know. who I can talk to about this. And I feel.

so isolated not being able to talk about. this with my significant other. I'm kind. of freaking out about her not social. distancing. She's the only person I have. physical contact with, and this unnerves. me now. How can I broach this subject. with her? Is there any way I can talk to. her without her feeling spied on? What's. the best way to resolve the tension. between my values and her romantic. needs? I know this is a lot, but so much. is going around in my mind right now,

and I feel like my trust has been. violated. I don't hate her for this. It's just a lot to process. Any advice. would be really appreciated. >> So, are they officially together? I mean significant other. >> I 19 female have been dating my. significant other 22 female for 9 months. now. >> So arguably. >> there's no. we are exclusive. >> but there's also not we are in an open.

relationship which people generally. mention. >> Correct. So yeah, it's shitty and it's. cheating. And from doing a million of. these types of relationship stories on. Father Knows and on this show, I don't. really think there is a path forward. >> Hell no. >> Because the needs are so different. >> Have all the orgies you want. Don't lie. to me and say it's counseling and oops, you pocket dialed me while you were. [ __ ] somebody, but oh no, it was just. a really emotional session. What the.

[ __ ] Well, but you can also understand. the type of person OP is. >> They're inexperienced, very sweet, very. just trying to figure this out. >> and very kind and like accommodating, >> but it's like their first relationship, so they're being taken advantage of. It. sucks, but we all need to go through a. little bit of that at some point so that. we know what we're not going to put up. with in the future and what actually is. a good partner for us. That aside,

technically. technically it is group therapy. So. >> I get it's wrong. I get it's cheating, but technically the term kind of works. Kind of works. It's probably very. therapeutic and they're in a group. setting. The other thing is that I'm. shocked it was in a that it's in a a uh. what do they call it? It look like a. community center. >> Community center.

>> I don't think. >> this is so strange. >> I don't think I would trust a community. center orgy. I would go I would, you. know, think it was at a home, someone's. house. >> So, I've had friends that have gone to. sex parties and it usually is in like. someone's. >> house condo. >> Who's What community center is this with. mattresses all over the floor? >> No. To me, I'm like, this was being. described and I'm like, it's giving. abandoned hospital that they've brought. in mattresses.

>> Yeah. And I don't know about that. >> This is giving unsafe. And that's the. other thing of this where OP's like, I'm. saving myself until marriage, but like. we're still being intimate. We're still. doing stuff. What is this partner doing. to prevent STDs? And you're not telling me. I'm not fully. able to consent to sex with you because. you are hiding what you're doing with. other people from me. You're not being. honest. >> I'm thinking we're monogamous and that. you're actually going to therapy when in.

reality you're having sex with a bunch. of people. I don't know if you're being. safe and you're lying to me about it. >> Not to mention the CO strains back then. were nuts. >> Yeah. >> Like we got [ __ ] up. >> I still feel like I have CO stuff and. this is from that early CO. This is like. what was this? May. >> Yes. >> May. And like CO really shut things down. like end of April. >> So. >> this is like a couple weeks into co and. the UK got hit really hard. >> and we didn't know what it was going to. turn out to be at that point. No.

>> Could have been I am legend. We don't. know. >> Yeah. >> We like you don't know. >> Yeah. No, you don't. >> So. >> are we reading this now because there's. an update now? Otherwise, I'm just thinking like. >> I'm trying to go to 2020 mind. >> and think like okay first of all yeah co. not that's that's a risk in itself B we. have STDs C we have a lying cheating. partner.

>> significant other. >> [ __ ]. >> who's really not a partner. >> not a partner and this is that biggest. op. >> this is the first big. thing that's happened relationship-wise. for you. That's a big learning. lesson. I guess you gota like the bright. side is you'll now know what this looks. like when another partner is being. sketchy and you can call it out way. quicker. >> Yeah. Well, and that's the other part of. this. You had to follow her to get the.

truth, >> which probably was kind of fun but also. very scary. >> Oh, my heart would be beating out of my. chest. I would be sick. >> Especially when you open the first door, >> dude. >> The trauma of like all the things you. expect to like follow your partner to. get the truth. And you think, I'm just. going to their therapy session. Maybe I. can talk to the main counselor. Maybe, you know, we can go through and figure. this out together and be stronger. And. then you find out she's going to sex. parties the whole time, which again, my.

problem is not with the sex parties. Have fun if that's what you want to do. But if you got someone at home that. thinks you're monogous and you're going. to therapy and you're lying, not okay. >> So, how would you bring it up? >> I'd say, "Hey, >> would you just be done and not even say. anything?". >> No, I'd say, "Hey, we I would Yes. I'd. break up with her on the spot." And I'd. be like, "This is because you are lying. to me. I know about your sex parties. I. know that you don't actually go to group. therapy. >> because you don't have to say you. followed. you just. >> I would never ever me I don't need to.

but I'm done and wish you well. >> Thank you very much. >> Goodbye. >> And the top comment does kind of. recommend that too. I mean. >> it only has 526 up votes. I think this. whole thing kind of flew under the radar. a little bit. But Lizosaurus. says, "You seem to still be in the. hurt/shock phase of all of this, but I. suggest you move quickly into anger. Your partner's not only been lying to. your face for quite some time. What's.

the likelihood that you followed her to. the first orgy she attended about trying. to take care of her mental health, which. she knew you would support and respect, but then has been gaslighting you into. feeling guilty for asking questions out. of concern for her mental health and. wanting to be closer to her. If it all. stopped there, that would be enough. reason to leave right away. This is not. what people who care about each other do. to one another. I'm so so sorry that. your first real relationship has to. teach this lesson so awfully.

>> Yeah, >> but to make matters worse, we're in the. middle of a freaking global pandemic. One of the most offensive parts of. cheating to me has always been the idea. that your partner's desire for sex rules. over their concern for your health, possibly giving you an STD without your. knowledge. You and your partner aren't. having sex right now, thank God, but. this is almost worse. The whole world. understands how easily CO is. transferable. And now she's putting your. life at risk every time she goes out. just to get off. All caps. She doesn't.

care about you. Please, please consider. leaving before she or you get sick. No. matter what you decide to tell her, you. know, or how she tries to beg you to. stay, understand that when she thought. you weren't looking, she put your life. at risk just to grind on a stranger and. then come home to you. Yeah, the. manipulation is is really bad using the. group therapy mentality because you. would you know you would fully support. your partner want to wanting to better. themselves.

>> Absolutely. I mean, that's why like OP, you know, a lot of people might use the. word naive, but. >> I think OP was just like so hopeful and. really wanted to be a good partner in. this first relationship of theirs and. was. >> almost too accommodating because of that. >> and too kind and too permissive. And. it's just like h you think you're doing. what's right and trying to be what a. good partner is, but in the meantime, you've been getting gaslit, lied to,

taken advantage of, and that sucks. >> Well, yeah. And then there's nothing. like getting burned while you're doing. that. We both been there. >> I know a lot of people do question like. orgy being held in a community building, >> right? Yeah. I wouldn't be surprised. though like I think about. uh small town Minnesota. There's. multiple little town halls you can rent. I'm thinking about the Soulway town hall.

located in Munger. And when you rent the. building, they come bring you the keys. and the whole thing's yours for the day. >> Yeah. But. >> they're not like watching what you're. doing in the building. >> Sure. But I always think like what about. the janitor that rolls through and. doesn't know? What about the the blah. blah blah technician that was hired to. fix something like that just walks in? >> I could not being that discreet. >> No, but I I mean they're shutting the. doors to the rooms they're going in. >> Like up north in Minnesota there's old.

schools that have been converted to. community centers. Kind of the same. vibe. I mean they seem very open with. their parameters. It seems like there. were a lot of people there in all these. rooms. >> which create a lot of noise even if the. door is shut. >> Insane to me. >> But we do get a little baby update. >> Okay, >> update. It's still very hard to cope. with this, but your advice has helped. put some things into perspective. I'm. not ready to flat out break up with her.

as I've shared a lot with her. emotionally. I'm going to contact some. family and see if I can stay with them. I realize now that I shouldn't stay with. her since she's been ignoring social. distancing. The conversation about my. moving out won't be easy. I'll do it. tonight. We'll update you all. I am. grateful for the support, however. critical it may be, of my attitude about. this. Also, I'm a girl if that wasn't. clear. >> It's very clear. >> And then we get a longer update.

>> Yep. Yep. Run it. >> I'm nervous. A lot has happened and I'd like to think. this chapter of my life is over now. But. still early days yet, I guess. Thank you. all for the support and advice. After. all the feedback from you, Reddit, I. knew I had to move out and break up with. her. I packed my essentials and I. contacted my family asking if I could. move home. When I finally told. significant other about what I was. doing, she didn't understand why I would.

leave and asked for an explanation. I. told her that I knew about everything. and how she'd been lying to me as well. as risking my health during quarantine. This quickly turned into a shouting. match. I'll admit that I didn't do much. of the shouting. I began tearing up. She. called me a prudy [ __ ] and said I was. too draining for her. Anyways, >> even told me that I'd be at square one. if I moved back in with my parents. When.

my parents, 55 female and 53 male, arrived to pick me up, significant other. kept giving us dirty looks from the. window. As we left, I started crying. again. I gradually explained everything. to my parents during the car ride home. I don't know if they believed me. They. laughed at one point. My dad laughed and. said it was probably one of those. dogging sites. I guess my parents. couldn't help but laugh at how bizarre. this is. As we arrived home, mom said.

that if I was serious, I should give her. the details, address of the community. center, etc., so she can report it. She. said she'll organize collecting the rest. of my belongings from the flat. That. way, I don't have to worry about seeing. significant other. All things. considered, my parents have been more. supportive than I could have hoped. They. never really approved of my relationship. with her. Fortunately, for the most. part, they've been very caring given the. circumstances. This is far from the outcome I had hoped.

for. I think all of your tough advice. made me realize how dependent I was on. significant other and how easily she. could manipulate me. I've got a lot of. work to do on myself, so I'm just going. to take it easy for now. I'm going to. try and take a break from social media. Despite the support from Reddit, I. received some harassment after my. initial post. I'm not bitter about these. hurtful comments, but I don't feel. confident enough to read through stuff. like that right now. I've told my. parents I don't care about the outcome.

of their report to the authorities. I. would rather just put all of this behind. me because right now I feel very stupid. I feel exhausted. This update is my. effort to try and vent. So sorry for the. rant. Once again, thank you Reddit for. the help. I really needed it. >> Yeah. Oh, >> well, and you're really not. I mean, square one's better than where you were. >> You're not even in square one. >> Negative square. >> No, she was just being a manipulative. [ __ ] again, trying to manipulate you,

trying to use whatever insecurity you. have against you. And I mean, OP, >> we've got a lot of nuance here, a lot of. context we don't have, but Catholic, still very somewhat religious, trying to. grapple with what her sexuality means. with the religion. parents that didn't. really like significant other maybe. because of the sexuality of it. I mean, there's so much here. So, the partner, significant other knows this and then. it's going to be like, you're going to. go back to square one. Like, that is.

manipulation to keep her from actually. breaking up with her and leaving, which. is crazy. >> Yeah. >> And to be confronted, I know what you've. been doing, and you immediately turn. this into a shouting match. You're. unhinged. That's how you know you're. right. >> And you need to work on yourself. Like, you're not fit for a relationship right. now. And don't take it out on me. >> Well, and why would you want a. relationship right now?

>> Just It seems you're very passionate. about the single life or an open. relationship. I mean, find someone that. you can be open and honest with and. maybe wants to go to these parties with. you and you know, like you don't have to. hold a blindfold over someone so you can. have your cake eat it too and take. advantage of them and manipulate them. >> Yeah, >> that's unhinged. >> Yeah. >> I She's so young. But what a powerful. experience to have so young because.

going forward your radar is going to be. so clocked in. you're going to know what. you deserve and you're going home with. your parents. You get, you know, to. unpack and have more time with them and. just figure your life out. And hey, if. they're unsupportive about who you date. going forward, then, you know, you can. get back on your feet and move out and. live on your own. >> and not move in with a partner right. away. >> But, you know, get on your own two feet. and have some freedom and boundaries.

with them that make it so your. relationship is good. I mean, positive. positive ending. I know it sucks, but it. is. >> terrible experience, but you do what you. learn. >> is I don't want to say worth it, >> but it it does really impact going. forward. >> Mhm. >> So that you can avoid this cuz there's. people also that don't learn and they go. from bad to bad to bad to bad. >> That was me high school, beginning of.

college. Woo. We had some some rough. times with guys. >> For me, it was the one just unbelievably. bad experience and then. >> then I met you. >> Yeah. But you dated in New York. You you. had a a spreading your wings. >> Yeah. But I think that there's there's. more of I missed the discovery phase of. high school college. So I feel like that. was almost flipped with serious.

relationship then that sort of discovery. phase. >> which allowed for me to heal and truly. heal. So then I had all that experience. and it was like all right I'm ready to. find. the one you know cuz then I think if you. prematurely find the one it can also be. tough too. >> Yeah. even if they end up being the one. cuz we've seen the people that then go. and and break up for a while and go. figure it out and then they do come. back. So, it's. >> Yeah, >> it's interesting. >> I know everyone has such unique journeys.

and it's beautiful to see, but I think. at the end of the day, just like make. sure you're happy, make sure your. partner is supportive and loving and a. team player and. >> think how refreshing that'll be. I know. >> For the next person she finds. >> Exactly. Okay, I'm very excited about this next. story. So, let's get into it. This next. story is brought to you by State Farm.

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success. >> Okay, >> so this is coming from a post on r/. askreddit. It's titled, "What's a secret. you'll never tell your partner, but are. willing to tell strangers on Reddit?". >> Yeah. >> And here is the comment. My girlfriend. of 5 years has been deaf since she was. six. She reads lips pretty well, but. prefers sign language. I didn't know a. single sign when I met her, but I could.

tell right away that there was something. between us. So, I started learning after. I got home from our first date. Fast. forward a few years. I'm now fluent in. ASL and we use it to talk almost. exclusively. When she's not looking, though, I talk to her even though she. can't hear me or see my lips to read. I. tell her how much I love her, how I'm. going to marry her someday, how. beautiful she is, etc. I've even been. practicing proposing, so it's not so.

terrifying when I actually do it. She. has no idea, and I plan to keep it that. way. I mean, it still doesn't make it any. trust me, you can practice a million. times, but. that's one where I don't think you can. ever truly be prepared. But. >> did you get down on one knee? Did you. practice kneeling? >> Well, I in in my workouts, of course. I. mean, it's that's why Alejandra said I. had such good form, perfect 90°, because the split squat, I mean, I I did. it all the time, so I guess I was.

prepared in that sense. Yeah. >> Yeah. I absolutely love this. I think. like preparing for this huge life event, practicing your signs, but I mean look. at the effort he went through for this. relationship, felt the spark, and then. learned a whole another language to be a. part of her world and actually. communicate. >> Yeah, >> this is absolutely beautiful. And we. have some really good feelood comments, too. >> So, the secret is that he talks to her. >> when she's not looking. Is that the.

secret? Cuz that's the what you would. never tell. >> Yeah. like when her back is turned, she's not able to see him read his lips. or their lips. There actually is no. mention in the the post here, the. comment, >> but is like out loud being like, "I love. you. You're so beautiful." But she can't. hear. It doesn't sound like, you know, Klear implant or anything like that. So, >> no, it's like out of a movie. That's how. I pictured it. It's like a movie scene. >> It's just so cute. And the comments are. really heartwarming, too. Someone goes, "Dude, from the mother of two young deaf.

daughters, thank you. The [ __ ] world. feels scarily unaccommodating sometimes, and it's so good to know hearts like. yours are out there. OP responds, "My. girlfriend often feels like the rest of. the world would rather she didn't exist. So, I go out of my way to show how glad. I am that she does. All it takes is one. person who really cares to make all the. difference. So, try to be that. difference for your daughters. It helps. them more than they'll ever say.". >> Yeah. Uggh.

I'm like about to cry. Someone else says, "I need an update on. this. That's wonderful. It's surprising. how many family members of deaf people. don't learn sign language." OP responds, "She's lucky her immediate family are. all fluent, and most of her extended. family has learned at least a few simple. phrases and words. My side of the family. has started learning, too, since they. know she'll be a part of the family. pretty soon. Most deaf people aren't so. lucky. I'm really glad she has such good.

people in her life. And then we get an. >> Okay, I was I was hoping that this was. headed. Shoot. >> Oh my gosh. After all the comments. urging me not to wait, I decided to do. it. Life is too short to waste even a. day. I bought a very nice ring, silver. with three small diamonds. It's nothing. too special, but it's exactly her style. and expensive by our standards without. breaking the bank. So, it was perfect. I.

told her family my plans and they. approved. Of course, my family was 100%. behind it, too. With that arranged, I. started planning the proposal. Both of. us had already agreed that we didn't. want it to be a huge disruptive event, just the two of us, no family to make a. scene. She trusted me to pick a good. place. I decided on the beach, and we. happened to live just a few hours from. one of the best beaches in the world, so. it was perfect. Our anniversary was. coming up and we both had the day off.

We planned to go to a local museum, but. I asked to change plans to the beach. She was definitely a little suspicious, but she didn't say anything at the time. At the beach, I let the first few hours. pass normally, just relaxing, playing in. the waves, having snacks. I kept the. ring hidden in a zippered pocket in my. shorts. And even though I knew it was. safe, I think I checked it every 5. minutes at least. When the sun started. going down, I led her away from the. crowded area to a more secluded spot. We.

had a great view of the water, the sun, and some boats further out, but a. cluster of palm trees and low bushes. blocked us from other people. At this. point, she realized something was up. She started looking at me funny, so I. knew I had to be quick. I reached for. the ring, and dot dot dot. This is where. the anxiety hit. I'm not a very. confident person. I knew she would say. yes, and I knew I'd planned everything. perfectly. There was no possible reason. this could go badly, but I was still.

nearly paralyzed. That's probably why I. dropped the ring. Telling you, you can't be prepared for. it. >> As soon as I grabbed the ring, it. slipped out of my fingers and got lost. in the sand. I [ __ ] panicked. I got. on my knees and started digging through. the sand like an animal. The whole time. she was trying to ask me what was going. on. I wanted to explain, but where would. I even start? >> I found it after about 10 seconds, which.

felt like 10 hours. Luckily, unharmed. As soon as I picked it up, she saw it. and realized what had happened. She. completely froze for a second and then. started shaking and wheezing like she. was having an asthma attack. Then I. panicked again because I had no clue. what was happening and I thought. something was even more wrong than it. already was. Then I realized she was. crying and laughing at the same time and. I started crying and laughing too. I. figured the proposal was already a mess,

so it couldn't get any worse. I held it. up to her and just said, quote, "I think. you dropped this.". Oh no. It sounded a lot better in my. head to be fair. She [ __ ] lost it. I. don't think I've ever seen her laugh. that much. Once we both calmed down, I. did it right. And of course, she said. yes. Despite the complications, it. couldn't have gone better and we're both.

very happy. We talked about the wedding. a little and it will probably be. sometime next summer, but we haven't. decided yet. I'm not expecting to make. another post on this account after this. As far as I'm concerned, our story is. told, and now it's time for the next one. to start. I have no idea what's next for. us after the wedding. We've talked about. living in a van to travel the country, so maybe that whatever happens, we'll. still be together and I'll still be. talking behind her back as long as I. can. To all you guys, I hope you all.

have wonderful lives. There's someone. out there for all of us. Just be patient. and you'll find them. And if you found. them but haven't made it official yet, do it. Life is short and you only get. one, so you shouldn't waste a single. moment of it. Don't let anything hold. you back. >> See, I like that. That story is so much. better than if it had gone perfectly and. the sun was shining perfectly. I don't. know. I I it makes for a good story to. tell, too. It really does. >> It just makes it more fun than so prim.

and proper. And. >> I don't know. I thought you were going. to say. >> what happens is beautiful and special. Well, I thought what you were going to. say is and then we got to the right. place. I reached down and after checking. all day, the ring wasn't in the pocket. I thought that's where you were headed. >> But I mean, kind of with the dropping, but. >> stuff gets lost quick in the sand, but. >> to say I think you dropped this. >> Oh, buddy.

>> But she loved it. She loved it. So, clearly good match, beautiful proposal, beautiful couple. So cute. But hey, he prepared as best he. could. He went the extra mile. And if he. wouldn't have prepared, maybe the ring. would have gotten lost. Maybe it. wouldn't have gone so well. Maybe she. wouldn't have said yes. Big life moments. can come with a lot of change. But when. you take the time to prepare, like. talking with a State Farm agent, you set. yourself up for what may come next. I.

mean, give yourself the best odds, right? Like a good neighbor, State Farm. is there. Okay, we could end the episode. here because, you know, it would be a. full episode still, but not doing that. for you guys, but do have to run to a. work dinner and then we will be back to. finish out confessions. So, enjoy this. ad. >> You ready to get back into this? >> Yes. >> Okay, here we go. Story number six for. you guys. This is coming from our very. own Twatake subreddit titled, "I found.

underwear in my closet that are not. mine, and I think my mother-in-law. planted them. Need advice." Hi guys, longtime listener to the show. Please. give me advice. Let me give some context. here. I'm trying to make this as short. as I can. So, I, 29, female, have been. married to my husband, 33 male, for. almost 5 years. We've been together for. eight. I am a stay-at-home mom to two. kids, ages 4 and 10 months old. A little. over a year ago, we packed up and moved.

states because I've always wanted to. live in the South, and my husband found. a great job. I gave birth last. September, a few months after we got. settled into the new house, and we're. extremely happy. My husband has never. been unfaithful. We never really fight. We are truly best friends and work so. well together. Well, a few months ago, I. go to our closet. It's a walk-in closet. in our bathroom. And I go to my bathing. suit bin that's sitting on a shelf in. our closet. Sitting right on top is a.

pair of women's underwear that I have. never seen before. Not my size and dot. dot dot dot used. Like crusty dried. discharge in them. And they were kind of. winched at the bottom and just used. Side note, because we moved states, my. family comes to visit and stays with us. for three or four days at a time. We're. really close. I asked my mom and sister. if the underwear were theirs. They said. no. I asked them probably 100 times now,

and they swear on everything that it's. not theirs and they have never seen them. before in their life, which I believe. because we're extremely close. My kids. love them and my husband has a great. relationship with them. Also, those. underwear are not really their size. My. husband swears on everything, that he. has absolutely no idea where they could. have possibly come from, and that he. wouldn't ever cheat on me. And I believe.

him, too. I'm a stay-at-home mom and. since we are still kind of new to the. area and I don't have many friends here. and he works 45 minutes away from our. home, it just doesn't make sense that. another woman would be in our home. Any. possibility you can think of, I've. thought of. The closet was 100%. completely cleaned out before we moved. in, and I also did a deep dive on it. before we put clothes in. Was any other. woman in this house? This leads to one. suspect, my husband's mother. I could.

probably sit here and write for hours of. the context and all of the terrible. fights and awful things his mother has. said to me and about me. She is really. crazy and I truly do not like her. Well, when we moved in and I gave birth, his. parents wanted to come visit. They got a. hotel and they were only in my home. about 2 hours. She went to use the. bathroom and that was the only other. woman that I know of at least in our.

home. My husband swears it is his. mother's and that she planted them there. to start something between me and him. That's the only truly believable. explanation we have. Is this too. far-fetched? I bring this up to my. husband so much since it happened months. ago. His parents wanted to visit again. in a few months for my daughter's first. birthday. and I do not want to see them, but I also can't prove that it is his. mother and obviously have not confronted.

her about it. The underwear were found. shortly after she visited as well. The. underwear were not there before her. visit, as I used my bathing suit bin a. lot because of where we live. Is my. husband cheating? Is this. mother-in-laws? Is someone playing a. sick joke? I'm going crazy. What do I. do? pick of crusty underwear in the. comments. >> Just over and over with the crusty. Just. over and over. >> Here's the.

>> I don't need to see the crusty. >> underwear. It doesn't really like show the crotch. You're not getting. >> Yeah, it does. >> a view of but like you're not seeing. >> Why is it dark? >> I think that's a shadow. You're not. seeing like the inner lining of the. underwear. So, you're not seeing the. discharge. >> I don't know if that's a shadow. Anyway, few things. >> Okay. >> I think that most people that cheat, >> well, I think most people I'd like to. think that they're not dumb enough to do. it at home,

>> but a lot of times they are. So many. people get caught at home, >> which I just I guess if you're dumb. enough to cheat, >> you're dumb enough to think you can. bring someone home and get away with it. Even if that's the case, how do they end. up up there? just cuz we've we've heard. about people planting even mistresses or. >> nails, eyelashes, >> planting things around, >> jewelry, >> and that would be a weird I don't know. It just And also, if this is. mother-in-law, then mother-in-law is an.

idiot because that's the worst place to. plant him. Might as well put him on the. kitchen counter. >> Uh, but no, I don't think he's cheating. I think you'd have a feeling about that, especially because I don't think it. would be at home regardless. >> I mean, there's no mention of cameras in. the house. OP stay-at-home mom doesn't. seem like traveling a lot, especially. with a, you know, 10-month old newborn. So, probably not leaving the house that. much, especially for extended stays.

where the opportunity to bring someone. back could happen. But hey, we've seen. some crazy things over the years. Anything is possible when people want to. cheat. Like they will find a way. >> Do I That's not my gut feeling. >> Do I think that's what's happening? >> It is interesting that mother-in-law. would plant those underwear. I mean, I. believe the brand is Hannes. They give. very. homely underwear. >> They give like 1940s. >> Yeah. They're a flower pattern um bikini.

cut like so they're granny panties as. one would say. It's not lingerie. It's. not a thong. It's not anything. I don't know cute. Which leads me to. believe it was very very unplanned. because I do think if an affair partner. was going to come in and plant. underwear, I do think it would have been. sexy lingerie, a thong, something with. maybe a little rhinestone on it. And I. don't think an affair partner would have. planted dirty underwear.

>> No. >> I think. >> what the hell. >> I think what happened is mom went to the. bathroom sitting there going pee got. this crazy intrusive idea batshit. diabolical if it is mother-in-law and. took her underwear off and put them in. the bikini bin. Like she didn't plan to. do this because otherwise if she would. have planned I'm assuming she would have. left clean underwear. That's why the. whole thing is it's doesn't make any. it's just. >> crime of passion. I mean, she just was.

like, I'm going to stir the pot here. And it is also crazy like you're coming. to visit your son and daughter-in-law. and meet their new baby. >> and you take your underwear off and. plant them. >> and this is when you're going to stir. the pot. Like, you really hate this. woman. Like, she's freshly postpartum. and you're like, "Let me throw a wrench. into this. Let me plant my underwear.". So, she thinks my son, her husband, is. having an affair. >> Yeah. >> I mean, it's absolutely deranged. But a.

lot of people also could look at this. and be like, uh, kind of convenient that. the husband is jumping right to blaming. his mom, too. Like, oh, yeah, must be my. mom. Haha. >> Yeah, >> a lot of people could go that way. >> I don't have that gut feeling. But then. again, when I've been cheated on, I also. didn't have a gut feeling until it was. pretty far along. So, it's hard it's. hard to say, but I would then just have. my guard up regardless.

I don't think I'm going to be one to. start going through phones and do that. because even if I had found underwear. tossed up in somewhere cuz we've found. random clothing items that we can't. explain. >> Mhm. >> And with all the cameras and stuff we. got going on, it just literally is. impossible. So, it's like a ghost or I. don't know what's going on. But I've. never then been like, "Oh, yep. Cheating. Someone's been here.". >> Yeah. We do find a lot of crazy clothes.

But I I think there's like We've got. friends that come and stay. We've got my. brother. I borrow my brother's clothes. from Minnesota to wear as like grubby. clothes. But if I found if I found. another woman's underwear, I'd be like, "What the [ __ ] is this?" is like I'd be. sketched out like our writer here. >> Yeah. I don't know. I guess I would just. look for other signs then, but I don't. want to jump right into. I'm going to force there to be a problem. when there's not.

>> Yeah. >> I think I would quietly be more of a. detective. >> waiting for other signs. >> Mhm. >> Because I don't think I would be. convinced. I'm not beyond a reasonable doubt. I'm. gonna keep my guard up around. mother-in-law and then I'm gonna see if. anything else weird. shows up without her involvement. >> So, that would be my plan. In-laws want. to come over for baby's first birthday, come on over. But there's going to be. cameras hidden in my closet now. There's.

going to be cameras in my room because I. imagine there's multiple bathrooms in. the house. There's no reason for you to. come and use the primary suite's. bathroom unless someone is violently. [ __ ] themselves in the other. >> Sure. But I let them come and I'd have. some cameras and then you have proof. that oh no, she is stirring the pot and. placing this. We do get a picture of the. bikini bin in the closet. It's a clear. bin, very open shelves. It's clear that.

whoever placed them there wanted them to. be found. >> But what's the point of placing them. there? I get that. So she would see them. and not. >> him. spot that husband wouldn't touch. Husband could help with laundry. Husband. could then find and throw them away. It's a spot that only our writer would. likely find, which if you're a mistress. or a mother-in-law that wants to start. an affair thought, you only want the.

wife to find it. Bikini bin. It's. logical. >> Yeah. >> So, a lot of people respond to that. picture. That was 100% intentionally. placed. Makes me think your. mother-in-law did it to start something. I still can't get over the fact that. they were crusty used ones. There's. something seriously wrong with her in. this fact. Someone goes, "Agreed. There's no way those weren't put there. intentionally." And someone responds, "Honestly, it could be mother-in-law or.

a mistress. They were placed. intentionally. Tell him you're going to. do a DNA test and see how he reacts." I. was thinking about that cuz you could. get mother-in-law's hair pluck. and then you could test. Is that. illegal? I think that's illegal. >> I don't know. >> The [ __ ] I mean, hey, if they visit and. mother-in-law's hair, there's a hair on. the chair. >> Yeah. >> Is that illegal. >> to take her hair?

>> No. >> Well, she left it. >> She left it. So could you I mean also. imagine walking into a DNA office or. where where do you go to do this. >> and you bring in the. >> please test the discharge. compared to the hair? >> I mean that would be that would give it. away for sure. >> It definitely would. >> But can you do that? >> I'm sure you can find a way. Also it's. more about his reaction. >> Well I know but I I want to take it. further. >> Yeah. So, I'm not seeing any other.

pictures that were shared. The top. comment on this post, obviously, the. first thing anyone will think is that. your husband is cheating and trying to. blame his mom. But there are a few. things that make me think otherwise. You. didn't see the underwear until just. after your mother-in-law left your. house, and they were in a place you. would have noticed. You and your. mother-in-law have a rocky relationship. the fact that you are home the vast. majority of the time. Those underwear. are not sexy, like at all. I would be.

surprised if a mistress wore those to. sleep with your husband. I hope you. figure this out. If it were me, I would. actually let my mother-in-law come and. visit to see if anything suspicious. happens. She might think her plan didn't. work and she's trying to set something. more obvious at your house. Someone. responds, "I would pack these in her bag. on the way out. stuff them in her. luggage when loading the luggage into. the trunk, then deny anything. >> Or the next time you go visit his.

parents where they live, do you run off. to go look through mother-in-law's. underwear drawer? >> I mean, these are probably a pair of. underwear that were sold in a pack. >> Yeah. >> Like, >> no one buys oneoffs. >> Not like that. Typically, like I do. think they say Hannes on them and. they're just like a floral. Like I'm. envisioning they come in like a pack of. five. Pain's always come in a pack. Three-pack, five pack, 10 pack. >> You wouldn't see this underwear just. like hanging on a shelf. >> No. >> Yeah. >> No, >> it's giving pack. There are a lot of.

comments from OP. We don't have an official update yet. I. don't think anything's happened. Like. obviously mother-in-law hasn't come. >> back yet. So OP does comment to people. like no update yet. This was re-shared. on Am I the angel? And OP goes and. comments there and she's like, "As the. OP of this original post, I'm enjoying. these comments. I can promise you that. this is not fake or rage bait. I don't. know what I got to do to prove this is. real. I promise you it's not fake.

whatsoever. I wish this was fake.". >> Right. >> OP just kind of shares like in one of. the comments, "She doesn't like me. because I'm not Catholic and I took her. son." And I have a friend that actually. just got into a big fight with her. boyfriend's parents because she said she. wasn't going to convert to Catholicism. And I'm like, we're still doing that? Like, >> no. That's how I feel, too. >> What? >> Yeah. Like, what is this? The 1800s?

It'd be hard to to work through that. over time, too, cuz you would just. always think there's that feeling. >> Yeah. There's definitely a grudge. >> This is, too. I don't know. I I I want. there to be some action taken. >> Yeah. >> Whether it be the DNA or the I don't. know. >> I know. I'm just trying to read other. comments from OP and see if we get any. other tea. Um husband works from home on. Fridays. We're usually home with him as. well. He never goes anywhere on the. weekends. Um you know what? I do want to.

DNA test them. The only reason we. haven't brought it up to his mom is. because she will deny it either way. If. they are hers, she'll probably say no. and then know it got to me and that was. the goal of planting them there anyways. if they aren't hers and we bring it up. she gets the satisfaction as well. knowing that something may be going on. Um OP shares every relationship I've. ever had before my husband I was cheated. on. I know the signs to look for and he. knows that I'm not about to tolerate any. kind of cheating. He's encouraging DNA.

testing on the underwear but I don't. even know how to go about that. >> Got to find a hair. >> Yeah, there is a small window here. Sometimes I take my daughter to open gym. gymnastics Friday morning while my. husband is home. I also brought this up. to him because he said, "When would I. ever even have time to bring a woman to. this house? I'd have to have her idling. in the street waiting for you to leave.". Which, like, again, that's not. impossible, >> right? >> Like a fair partners are willing to do. that. People will find ways.

>> I don't know. I feel like I can tell. when someone's been in your space. And. also you need to contend with perfume. and perfume in the house, perfume on the. sheets, you'd have to wash the sheets, you'd have to make, you'd have to do all. of these things within that time frame. The whole time, you know, not knowing if your partner. has turned around to come home for. something they forgot or, oh, we're.

going to practice. Oh, practice got. cancelled. Turning around. It's there's. too many whatifs. There's too much risk. with that. I don't feel like that. >> Well, and OP does share an example of. how weird and crazy mother-in-law is. She suggested using a pad with sharp. pricks instead of a baby gate near the. top of my stairs so that it would prick. my daughter's hand and teach her not to. go near the stairs. >> Might as well put an electric fence. >> What the [ __ ] That's so weird. There's.

no house cleaners. OP is definitely. going to update when she gets to the. bottom of it. And again, in the comments. is really trying to work this out with. everyone and being like, "I've thought. of this. I've thought of this. I've. thought of this. I've thought of this. It's not any of these really. It only. can be mother-in-law.". >> Well, and that's the beauty of putting. it on Reddit because you'll have all. these people. >> point out things you may not have ever. thought of. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> And then you can then think through. those and it it'll more draw you towards.

one conclusion generally. >> Yeah. Apparently. someone comments here, OP, I remember. your other post. One or both of them are. definitely predators. And honestly, it. might be your mother-in-law or she knew. of your father-in-law abusing your. husband or his sister because reading. your post back to back, it is so very. clear. You need to go no contact. They.

will abuse your children at some point. If you let them alone with them, don't. be a shitty mom. All it takes is 5. minutes alone. This is really weird. An. OP does share a comment in response and. it could be a little trigger warning for. sexual abuse. Just seemingly a very. inappropriate comment for sure at the. very least. But OP says this is true. My. husband told me as a child he has a. memory of him sitting on his dad's. shoulders and his dad said, quote,

"Whose little penis do I feel on the. back of my neck? Doesn't that scream. pervert to you? That's [ __ ] gross. >> Well, I wouldn't trust the my kids with. them regardless because of the even gate. comment. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. There's a couple posts here in. our/in-laws. My in-laws are confused. Do I believe my mother-in-law's excuses. for not interacting with my daughter? We. need outside opinions. And that was.

posted in mother-in-laws from hell. I. mean, there's a lot of tea here. I'm not. going to read all these posts. There's. so so many posts, but clearly having a. very strained bad relationship with. in-laws and the earliest post we have is. 2 years ago. The post on the underwear. is coming a month ago. >> So, this has been happening for years. >> Yeah, >> there's no doubt in my mind this is. mother-in-law stirring the pot, trying. to [ __ ] [ __ ] up, and probably just.

getting a kick out of this. >> She's deranged, clearly. I I really hope. they find a way to do the DNA and then. use that as a tool to confront and. >> go no contact. >> Yeah. No, you're. >> But leaving it with that. >> and I know that's the part of me that. like wants to leave with we won, >> but I no one really wins in this whole. deal. I think based on all of these. posts, based on the potential.

inappropriate behavior, like you can't. trust them with your kids. And I think. at that point, what's the point? Go meet. them and go to lunch at Applebee's or. Chili's, whatever. But to let them in. your home when you are clearly having. issues the second you do, not worth it. The second you have someone in your home. that's a family member or a friend or. someone that should be trustworthy and. you have the need to feel like I'm going. to put up cameras or we should put a.

camera up just in case. That's that's a good sign. >> Cut them off. Yeah. Done. >> Done. This next person. >> might need to be cut off as well. >> Okay. >> This is coming from r/ relationships. I, 29 female, recently discovered my. boyfriend, 32 male, of four years, has. been keeping a blog mocking my business. >> Yeah, >> this is probably going to be a very. controversial post as I know Reddit.

isn't fond of any religions, especially. ones that aren't mainstream. That might. be a weird way of putting it, so I. apologize if that offended anyone. I. really truly don't want to. When Maya. Abua died, I inherited the keys to her. long-standing Botanica. For anyone who. doesn't know, this is a shop run by. Latinos whose purpose is to sell. religious esoterica things. We sell the. 7-day candles you'll see at memorial. sites, herbs, oils, statues, books, services, etc. These are all the things.

I grew up surrounded by and things that. mean the world to me. I love them. To. me, the scent of Florida water and Hoits. cologne are home. I took business. classes to run the shop properly, and it. is a successful business. We profit off. of it nicely, and we made some changes. over the years, including services that. you can't get at shops around us. We. care deeply for all of our customers. I. spend about 8:00 a.m. to 400 p.m. there. every day, and it's like going to my.

other home. My boyfriend Thomas works. from home. He does tech work and things. like that. He's always been a huge. supporter of my business because he. knows how much it means to me. He knows. it's a part of my cultural heritage, of. my life, and of my ancestors and family. He also knows that I do not 100% believe. in the things we do. I believe in many. of them, but I am not hard-boiled. religious, and I don't adhere to many. religious rules. That's enough. backstory. Well, the other day I made us.

some breakfast. He finished very fast. and went out for his morning jog. I. asked him if I could use his computer to. do a few things since it was right there. and I'm a slow eater. He agreed and just. turned it over to me. He left to go on. his run and I got to work. I just wanted. to do a few accounting type things and. also do some research for an upcoming. trip that we have to Havana. But when I. opened his browser, several tabs were. open. So, I clicked to a different. browser as not to disturb his since I.

never know what's work and what's play. with him. The other browser had one. thing up, the blog. I noticed he didn't. use the name of the shop, but there was. a clear picture of it, and underneath. there were probably 50 entries so far. I. didn't go through and read them all. because after I saw the first one, I got. the idea as clear as day. He was making. fun of it. All of it. everything. My. heart shattered. He made fun of the. customers of some of the products we.

have. One of the things we are known for. is an extensive collection of candles. for different saints, orishas, and. figures. He mocks some of the orishas. and their candles and the novenas. What. broke my heart the most is that he made. fun of the one figure who I like the. most, who I don't want to mention. because I don't want to offend. I keep a. small home altar to the figure and tend. to it carefully and with love. He makes. fun of the altar and talks about how. nonsensical it is and everything. The.

comments range from nothing to spam to. dedicated followers who talk about his. crazy girlfriend and how I'm absolutely. nuts and he should run away. Who would. believe in any of this? A lot of people. and things like that. I was so stunned. and absolutely hurt that I had to check. how long ago he made it. I saved the. address and read through all of it while. I was at work and cried. I don't know. how to address this with him. He's been.

keeping the blog for 2 years now. My. heart is shattered because our. relationship has been nothing but love. and smooth sailing, excitement and joy. He never shared my spirituality with me. and it was never something that I. requested of him. I even keep my altar. out of view, out of respect for his own. preferences. What do I do? How do we. come back from this? To me, it's not. just about the spirituality. I've grown. up hearing people laugh at it and call. it kooky and made up, strange, all of.

that. But it is my grandmother's. business. It is my ancestry and it is my. heritage. To me, he is mocking those. directly. What do I do? I'm actually a little surprised you're. asking how do we come back from this? >> You're done. >> Because. it's it's too deep. Seeing something. like this, I would know that this person. is not my partner, does not have my. back, and I would never trust that they. ever really would, no matter what they'd.

say, because their real thoughts are. posted here. And I found it. And yeah, everything might seem fine and and seem. like such a great relationship, but this. would color all of that for me. All of a. sudden, everything else to me would feel. fake. And this would feel like the most. real thing I would have known about them. and how they feel about me. >> Yeah. >> Despite anything they've said to me or. shown me, >> this is what's really behind the scenes.

of what they're thinking about you and. your family and your beliefs. And I know. this isn't so much about religion and. maybe this isn't your full identity as. having this store and everything, but. it's a part of who you are in some sense. and it's important to you as it should. be and you get so much joy and you feel. so connected to your family and the. history because of that. >> Yeah. I mean, for OP to say, "It is my.

ancestry. It is my heritage.". >> I do think this is a big part of her. identity. >> And so, when you have someone who's. supposed to love you and be with you, you find out they've been mocking it, been being a troll for the past 2 years, half your relationship. There isn't a. way forward, >> right? >> I don't think there's a way that you. come back from this. If I found out. tomorrow that you were on the YouTube. comments trolling me every week, I would.

be done. Like, that would be so. incredibly hurtful because you know how. much time, love, care goes into this. Like, this is my business. That's her. business. That's her work. That's her. livelihood. And she's like, it's making. a pretty good profit actually, >> which is allowing us to live this life. And so it's like if I found out that you. were hating on me in any way, done. Absolutely not. Your partner is supposed. to be your biggest fan, your biggest. cheerleader, not your hater, not your.

biggest op for what? >> Yeah. >> Are you so insecure about. your life or what I do? How does what I. do for a job affect you? So you don't. like me. You don't respect me. You think. what I do is weird. Done. Right. >> Done. Like he's letting people call you. crazy. He's posting this for. entertainment. Done. How do you date someone, marry. someone, potentially have kids with.

someone who does not like you? >> You can't. >> Well, it's not even like you found a. personal journal, which that gets into. an interesting gray area where there's. >> Yeah. No, this is not not a private. journal. And then but even still if you. found that and that was someone's true. thoughts about you I still can't right. but I still. >> wouldn't move forward but I'm just. trying to. >> I'm trying to show how that's even.

different than posting online and having. a community forum. >> where everyone piles on. >> and it's making it worse with. >> if you have a picture of the shop. It's. not going to be that hard to identify. everyone knows what they're referencing. and talking about. It's not like we're. talking about the topic. >> No, it's directed specifically. >> at this shop, at you, and at your. family. So, and even if somehow you did.

find a way to. quote unquote move forward, I think when you come to reality with. that, even if you were back in it and. like he said all these things and took. the blog down, at some point it's going. to eat away at you that you deep down. you'll still know how he feels. >> Yeah. This will never be recoverable. >> and that eventually will hit an. inevitable wall. So, I just don't think. there's a reason to hope to move.

forward, want to move forward. I think. it's coming to terms with the fact that. this person does not support you and is. not your partner. >> Top comment on this one. My goodness, OP, that is so awful. It makes me want. to cry just hearing that this happened. to you. The one thing you can do is talk. to him about it. And I think you need to. say something along the lines of this. To me, it's not just about the. spirituality. I've grown up hearing. people laugh at it and call it kooky and. madeup, strange, all of that. But it is. my grandmother's business. It is my.

ancestry, my heritage. To me, he is. mocking those things directly. Basically. like quoting like, "Say this. Say this. is all you got to say.". >> Yeah. >> It's not funny. It's not a laughing. matter. And it is insanely. disrespectful. And the fact that he's. been carrying on with it for so long. I. really can't wrap my head around why. someone would mock something so personal. and cherish that belongs to someone they. supposedly love. That's the most. childish thing I've ever heard. I had to. go back and check his age at the top of. the post. Confront him, OP. He needs to. apologize, take this blog down, and beg.

for your forgiveness. OP responds, "How. do I confront him? I've honestly never. had to confront someone about something. like this before." And someone just. goes, "So, I found your blog. That's. literally all you need to say to start. with. Focus on how it makes you feel and. that you feel like he doesn't respect. you." Opie responds, "Focus on how it. makes me feel. I can do that." There's. another comment here from someone. Why. does he even deserve a full.

confrontation? Do you think you need the. closure? Because unless this is. something you need, I would pack your. things, tell him you saw the blog, and. leave. Or better yet, ask him to leave. instead. Opie responds, "I'm not crazy. about just upping and leaving without a. word after 4 years. That's all.". >> Yeah, it's tough. It is tough. I get when you're in it, it. just can be like you almost wish it. could just go away. You could push it. under the rug and you could continue.

what otherwise from your perspective has. been a really good relationship. I just. for me once I know this that 4 years. feels fake. and I I wouldn't be able to move forward. thinking we're going to continue this. I. would be like what are we continuing? There's nothing nothing. >> It's heartbreaking and you're going to. want to cling on to things, but again, I. think you would end up with the reality. of of you would never truly trust how he. sees you, what he thinks of you because.

no matter what he says, >> he still believes. >> there's going to be some secret thoughts. that are either posted online or not. Even if the blog gets deleted, even if. he apologizes, it's always in the back. of your head that he thought those. things, he said those things, he laughed. at you online with strangers. >> There'll be another outlet. >> It's horrible. >> There'll be something. >> So, we do get an update. >> Okay. >> I had my heart set on not just getting. up and leaving. There were still some. things that we needed to talk about. So,

when I got home 2 days after I made that. post and had time to think about it, I. confronted him. I started reading off. one of his posts to him. He asked me how. I found out I was honest and told him. He started to get annoyed and asked me. why I was snooping. >> I knew that was coming. >> I wasn't. And then he started up with. his defense before I could even get a. word in. He told me that he always had a. hard time understanding how I could be a. part of something where there was no. logic behind it. How I could take money.

from anyone knowing that that stuff is. fake and everything. I let him say what. he needed to say. I asked him, "Is that. really how you feel?" And he said yes, and that he was happy to finally get it. off his chest. He had just insulted me, my beliefs, my family history, all of it. in the span of 20 minutes. I told him. that if that's how he feels, he needs to. leave. The place we live in was mine. originally. He just moved in after we. were dating for a while because it was.

easier. I didn't want to have to stoop. that low. But living with someone who. thinks that little of what I do in my. business, the business that supported. our very comfortable lives for all of. this time, isn't something I can. compromise on. He asked me if I was. breaking up with him because of this. Said that it was his right as an. American with free speech to do what. he's doing and that I'm trying to censor. him like quote all religious nuts do. I. couldn't believe what I was hearing, so.

I just asked him to leave. Over the next. days, he collected his things, and when. he got out his last box, he told me that. he would not come back, but that I could. bet he would still be posting on his. blog about my shop. I think the last. thing I said to him was to have fun with. his 15 blog readers. I'm really. heartbroken over this and very sad it's. come to this. It's going to be a long. time before I can try dating again. That's fair, but now you know you made. the right choice. It's always nice when.

when you have to make a difficult choice. and then right at the end it's confirmed. like yes, I made the right choice. As. hard as it is, that would make me feel. like, yep, there's no other option here. Turn around and say that [ __ ] He's. just like there's no words for him to. pull out the as an American, it is my. first amendment right to have free. speech. >> Sure. Legally. Yeah. Sure.

>> Uh-huh. >> I'm not saying you're breaking the law. >> Not breaking the law, but you're being. an [ __ ] to your partner, and I want. no relationship with you. >> We all know this type of person. Of. course, they're going to jump to that. >> I'm just like, I'm so overwhelmed. I. know. I do know this person. This is a. person that totally agrees with the fact. that Elon Musk has been trying to say. creating child porn on Grock is a first. amendment right. It's free speech. It's insane. And a court I think just.

cited that it's actually okay because. they're not real images. You know how AI. is trained on real images. So in order. to create seam like it was using real. images. So what the [ __ ] are we doing? I'm just like I know exactly who this is. and it's insane. And so many people. around the world believe in religions. believe in saints. Believe in all of. these things. If that's what they. believe in, if that makes them feel. better, okay. If it's not hurting.

anyone, right? >> Okay. when it starts hurting people then. obviously there's reason to have issue. but buying some candles that you believe. protects you or brings good energy or. good fortune whatever. okay like [ __ ] you dude and has. basically supported you for the last few. years reality will strike but also with. people like this reality never truly. hits them even when it smacks them in.

the face they're like. >> oh no this I it was me. I was right. >> A defensive. flip around gaslighter. You were. snooping. How'd you find that? >> Snoopy. >> No, that was. >> Grow up. Grow up. I'm so glad OP dodged. this bullet. Post is now 11 years old. We have no updates beyond that, but. >> happy ever after. >> I'm going to hope OP is out there just. thriving, owning the shop, having a good.

time, >> has a partner that runs it with her. Yeah, >> you know, expanded it. Second location. that partner's running. >> Come on now. >> Okay, one last one to kind of pallet. cleanse a little bit for us here. Coming. from our/confession, titled, "My whole family doesn't know. that I lost track of which triplet was. which. I know I was lazy. I helped take. care of babies when I was young and I. never thought taking care of triplets is.

extremely hard and timeconsuming." A. family member sometimes asks, "Who is. Bubbles or Buttercup or Blossom?". Obviously, not their real names. And my. wife says their clothes are colorcoded, but in reality, I already got the babies. mixed up. No one, including my wife, has. the attention to detail to know which is. which besides the clothes. I don't have. the same time, was working two jobs, and. patients, burned out with the extra. steps my wife does. So whenever it's my.

turn to care for the babies, I do what's. convenient and often times I get them. swapped. When they got a little bit. older, they basically chose their own. names. Only one kid responds to one. name. And now that they have grown a. lot, it's easy to know which is which, but no one really knows who the original. Blossom Bubbles Buttercup is. >> What? >> That's it. >> But they were So they they were named. >> Yep. And now we don't know who truly. was. Nope.

>> Whose birth certificate is whose? >> Nope. No idea. >> Are they identical in the same sense as. twins or do triplets. >> triplets can include a pair of identical. twins? >> But you don't have identical triplets. Like my three step siblings that are. triplet boys were hard to figure out who. is who very early on when you're getting. to know them. But when you have your own.

kids, I mean, how did she even keep it? How do you keep them straight without. keeping their birth certificate taped to. them? >> I you just. >> I know a lot of people I think this is a. common thing. A lot of people will. pierce baby's ears to be able to tell. twins or triplets apart. Sometimes. they'll do like a little dot on them and. keep redoing the dot or they'll paint a. toenail and then okay, twin A has blue. toe, twin B has red toe, and they'll do.

that. But it is a lot and I I think. commonly babies get mixed up. >> Yeah. I mean, I've never even considered. it really. But now that we are where we. are, does it really matter who's is. whose? >> No. Not if they're all going by the name. that they're going by, >> they could all kind of pick and choose. which birth certificate and social. security number they want. >> I know. Yeah. Just what one do you align. with more? Would you come clean about.

this? Would you be like, "Babe, I think. I mixed them up.". >> Well, if she has them not mixed up, then. couldn't she straighten you out? But if. he mixed them up and she's going off. basically just being like, "Okay, Blossom is always in yellow.". >> She's going yellow jumpsuit to yellow. onesie to yellow socks to yellow sleeps. sack. >> Wife is like diligent in baby color. >> You think he could have mixed up the.

colors and changing them or something? >> Yeah, cuz he's like, "I don't care. I'm. not as diligent as her." So, would you. come clean? >> Oh, man. honesty the best policy. >> I Well, yeah, probably. But like I just. feel like is there no way how old are. the kids now? How long of a period of a. time of time are we talking about? >> I mean, when do babies start responding. to their own name? >> Well, it's got to be at least. >> So, like after all that time, is there.

not any distinguishing feature, especially for her, that she could tell. between them? M. >> there's got to be something, right? It. can't be that identical. Even if two are. identical twins, you'd know who the. third was. >> So Opie does have an edit. I did this. when they were babies. My kids are. preschoolers now and can be easily. identified and have their own. identities. I love the suggestions and I. would have done it if I had known then, but it's pointless now. And a lot of. people in the comments are just like,

"As a triplet, my parents have confirmed. that they don't know if we were mixed up. or not." At some point, someone goes, "Were you identical?" And. they respond, "No, we aren't, but as. babies, we did look a lot alike. One of. us has a scar from an emergency surgery, but the other one and I look similar. enough that we could have been easily. switched.". >> H Do you think that would inspire some. sort of identity crisis or not really? Because because it doesn't technically. matter. >> Mhm.

>> Would that inspire something inside of. you where you don't really know if that. was supposed to be you or you were. second or third? >> Not really. Unless you're like, I don't. feel like a blossom. I feel like a. buttercup. And then you could go to. Buttercup and be like, do you want to. switch names? Do you feel like a. buttercup? Because maybe we were. switched. Maybe you're Blossom cuz I. feel like a buttercup. Well, isn't there. a way even within triplets, isn't there. a way to tell who's first child, middle. child, >> if you DNA test them right away? Probably. >> Well, no. I mean, like in in how that. affects people behaviorally, like, oh,

they're the middle child, so they're. always like this. I don't know if that's. >> they're the firstborn. science birth order. >> Yeah. Isn't that a thing behaviorally? >> More so with siblings that are years. apart or months apart. >> I guess so, cuz they're so close. Like they all have kind of the same. vibe. Someone says here in a comment, "20-ish years ago, I knew triplets that. were born. They put one dot tattoo on. baby. Baby two had two dots and baby. three had three dots when they were. born." Great idea. Did they catch any.

flak for that? That person didn't. respond, but basically a little tattoo, just a dot. >> It's no different than a shot. It's no. different than a shot, you know. >> No, I know, but I'm just thinking. through it. So OP does share an update. with us. So an update on this. I did not. expect it to be shared so many times. that my wife will see a repost on. Instagram. >> She showed this to me and admitted that. she mixed our babies up too. >> Yes. Okay.

>> Apparently she stopped tracking as well. and thought of getting it accurate again. if one gets sick and needs medical. attention, but that day never happened. The kids have their own passports now. and know their own names. And where I. live, no one cares about birth records, only passports and driver's license. Quite a relief in the end. To us, it. really was just names. >> Right. Right. Well, you I guess you. don't really know how someone else is. going to feel about it, too. I had a. sense that she may have done the same.

>> Yeah. >> But I guess it really doesn't matter in. the end. It's all sorted out. >> Doesn't matter. No, but I love this. confessions theme. It was so so fun. I'd. love to see your confessions in the. comments. I will make a video reading. the best ones. So, please drop your. confessions in the comments and head. over to Father Knows because the week. after this episode comes out, we are. doing a confessions on Father Knows and.

we're reading some stories from the two. subreddit that are confessions. So, we've got a doozy of a theme over there. and I think it's going to be really, really good. >> Well, the thing that's so fun about. confessions in this way is especially if. it's submitted to Father Knows, you can. tell a whole group of people something. >> Mhm. >> That you wouldn't that no one else like. in your circle would ever know.

>> Yeah. >> It's something you've always wanted to. say and you can broadcast it. >> Yeah. But still a secret cuz it's all. anonymous. >> It's all anonymous over there. All of. it. Thank you guys so much for being. here. Another episode, another week, another month, another year. I hope you. had a good walk, house cleaning, gym, workout, drive, whatever you're doing. But thank you guys. Until next time. >> Until next time. >> Bye.