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Here we go. Welcome back to another. episode. This is releasing sometime in. July, so we've got some fun colors in. the studio. But this is a theme I've been thinking. about for some time. Calculated cruelty. Or another way to. put it, going out of your way to be. strategically mean. It's a doozy. >> Tough. [sighs]. I I'm very curious what you think of.

these stories cuz some of them are like. a question mark at the end like was he. being really calculatedly cruel or was. it a blessing in disguise or was she. doing her a favor? We will see. But I. think a lot of times in life you have. something that happens to you and you're. just like that was really mean. Like. that there's no other way to interpret. that, right? Like it was so calculated. and. >> thought out and purposeful that you're.

you kind of like second guess and you're. like [sighs]. >> that had to be vicious, right? That had. to be mean. Like there's no accident or. oops, I didn't know involved there. Like. it is calculated. >> Yeah. >> So I think it'll be good. >> Yay. >> Are you ready? Chatty McGee. >> Yes. >> Buck. >> Yeah. Chatty McGee. It. >> is ironic. >> [laughter]. >> ironic um the irony. >> So, well, cuz I started doing this thing. where like as you're talking, I'm.

thinking about. like a calculated mean moment that I had. and one that came to mind and then I was. thinking like I don't need to air that. out, but. >> air it out. It was just um when I was. serving, there was a manager who I don't. know what her deal was, but like she. would do things that were no other way. to describe than just like purposefully. mean. [laughter]. >> There's a lot of those people out there. >> So, I just remember being confused by. that because.

why? that's not helping our work. environment and. I don't know it's. you hurt my feelings. [laughter]. >> I hate that [ __ ] and it honestly it's. really frustrating because it feels like. it's harder to be mean. Like you're. going out of your way to be mean. It's. so it's so much easier to just be nice. or just be neutral. Like you don't even. have to be overly nice. I think the. thing though. is that I think humans really want.

people to feel on their level. So like. people that are like really happy. I. mean this is a conversation that that's. been had many times before. I'm not the. first one here. Um but like people that. are really happy then they like to make. other people happier because. >> they're happy. >> I just saw a Tik Tok on this really. It. was like um successful people compliment. and don't block others and happy people. are always positive. And it was just. like this Tik Tok. Yeah, I literally.

just saw this. I wonder if I can find. it. But if somebody is like really. unhappy and then they see somebody who. looks to be happier than them, then they. want to pull them down to their level. I. don't think that they necessarily want. them to be less happy than they are, but. I think that they want to feel that that. they're at a baseline. And so therefore, they try to bring the people around them. to match them so that they don't feel as. bad as they do. Um or as as if it's as. lonely or like isolated. I I don't know.

But like cuz when I think about it, when. when she was mean, >> a lot of people said that she just would. pick on people to be mean to and that. that she was h like that she had. struggles in her own life and that she. was unhappy. And so that's just. something that she did. And again, that. didn't come from her. It came from other. people, >> but it would make sense. It just would. make sense. And it's not, it's. unfortunate that that happens so often. >> It sucks. >> It does. It sucks. And people need to.

look within and go to therapy because. it's also not fun to be that miserable. and mean. Let's get into these stories. and see what you think. And can't wait. to hear you all sound off in the. comments. Let's dive in. >> Let's do it. Okay, this first one we have comes with. a little homework from Lauren. Lauren is.

on the hunt for something. >> Mhm. Tell them what you're looking for. Okay. So, actually, just to like go back. in time, apparently. when people get braces, sometimes they. pushed it out too far. So, your tooth is. like against the bone in your gum and. over time it starts to wear, which that. is what causes the recession. So, a lot. of people if they see it, they see the.

gum recession, but it's actually cuz. your the bone is having recession. So. then your gum follows it because it can. only go so as where your bone is, right? So even if you floss every night like I. do, um, and are very like adamant about. everything, retainers and all that. stuff, um, it's just over time that this. is something that can happen. And. unfortunately, it wore so much to the point that I'm. like really. worried about how many years I have.

until. potentially like I have like a loose. tooth. So, I just wanted to ask you guys. because it was like a very. emotional. um experience when I went to the dentist. last and went to the orthodontist too. Um, I would just love to know if you. guys have any really like highly. recommended people that you could send. my way. It could be Southern California. that obviously be more convenient, but. even if it's somewhere else, um, anybody. that's just like blows it out of the.

water or if you know of anything because. I've been looking up and trying to. figure out if there's any. >> options to help with like bone growth. And um, sorry for the people who like I. know some of this stuff like makes. people cringe, so sorry for that. But I. do know that there's other people that. have dealt with this. So hopefully this. like brings awareness. Um. >> cuz it's really frustrating. It's. frustrating when you're trying to do all. the things and um you still are, you. know, >> met with like issues. >> Yeah. Health, teeth, anything mouth.

related is just so hard to deal with. So. Lauren is essentially looking for any. solutions for like bone growth in your. jawbone. Um, I know we've like talked. about stem cells and things like that or. if you've done um maybe like implants. for bone growth or a bone graft or if. you have any recommendations for dentist. surgical people like please please send. them her way and nerves and scarring too. because I try to do I went to a.

parodontist gum. Yeah, I did a gum graft. and like if you guys have been following. along for a while like I talked about it. years ago. I like was like swollen in. one of the episodes and it ended up. leaving this nerve dam damage and I it. never it never went away. So that's. annoying. So if any anything that you. guys have that you could send my way, I. would just appreciate it so much. Maybe. you go and post on the two hot take. subreddit too so it's easy for people to. just like leave. >> all their feedback and stuff there.

>> Yeah. >> And they can also message you on. Instagram, but I feel like that's going. to get a little lost. So, I'll put a. link for a post on Reddit and you can. leave all your wrecks there. And again, like. >> that would be amazing. >> It would just be so helpful. And you. guys will see why we kind of plugged. this before this story because this. story is about orthodontist work and I. mean just insecurities and dealing with. stuff like that and it's it's so. >> like traumatizing and tough to deal with. and so kind of nice to have a little.

village when dealing with stuff like. this. So, this first one is coming from. r/offmychest. It's a month old titled I cry when I. think about what my orthodontist told. me. The day I got home after getting my. braces off at 15, my mom saw me and. became absolutely livid. She took me. back to my orthodontist office and. demanded that they quote fix my face. The doctors didn't understand what she. meant, so they brought out the before.

and after photos, and my mom started. pointing out every single little flaw in. my appearance. For example, she said. that from my side, my chin sticks out so. far, that I look like a witch when I. didn't before. I like love that look, by. the way. So, that's crazy. They said. that these were minor things that may. not have been a result of the braces and. could just be genetic. But my mom was. insistent that they had ruined my face. and needed to continue working on it to. correct their mistake. At that moment,

one of the orthodontists asked me to. speak with me outside the office. She. told me that I was beautiful and to not. let my mom's words affect me. >> Oh, that's so important. >> I said, "Okay." But at the time, I. didn't realize how deeply this would. impact me for the rest of my life. We. came back inside and my mom told me to. choose whether or not I wanted them to. continue to work on me. I had hated. having braces for the past 3 years and. chose not to get any further work done.

My mom looked me in the eyes and said, quote, "Fine, but don't blame me when. you're older." A few years later, she. took me to a celebrity dental surgeon. and asked what he could do to fix my. face. He pointed out the asymmetry, but. said that the only thing that could. change it was jaw surgery, which he. thought would be too complicated and. painful to be worth it. After that, my. mom told me not to show people the left. side of my face. >> Oh my god. >> Especially if it was a guy that I liked.

Wow. She even told me not to wear my. retainer in hopes that my face would. revert back to how it was before. Oh my. god. When it was my sister's turn to get. braces, my mom took her to a different. orthodontist. She said verbatim, quote, "I don't want them ruining your face. like they did to your sister." Unreal. Since then, I haven't stopped seeing. every flaw my mom mentioned when I look. in the mirror. It has deeply affected my. life to the point where I was too scared.

to date anyone until my early 20s. because I felt so ugly and I didn't want. to face the rejection. Now, she wonders. why I have such low self-esteem. People. tell me that I'm pretty or beautiful, but because of what has been drilled. into my head since I was 15, I just. can't believe them. I really can't. believe them. I was also diagnosed with. BPD. So, on top of having no stable. sense of identity, I also don't even. know what I look like anymore. I cry. when I think about the kindness my. orthodontist showed me that day. I.

realize now why they were so appalled to. hear what this woman said in front of. her own daughter. how cruel you must be. to do that to your child. Oh, this. hurts. This hurts so much because it's. it's crazy that this is coming from her. own mother and this is hurtful no matter. what. But to have a like your family. member, the person who's supposed to be. looking out for you. And I just want to. like absolutely give major props to the. orthodontist who pulled her to the side.

and did that because I also if anyone's. listening who is in the medical. profession or or just in a role where. people are looking to you when they're. vulnerable, when they're hurt, when. they're trying to make sure they're not. hurt. So if you're a doctor or a dentist. or an orthodontist or anything, anything, it's just like keep in mind. how much your words matter and your. words matter so much. If you are having.

a bad day and it's impacting your. bedside manner, you need to remove. yourself. You need to go outside the. place, get a coffee, do something to. shake it up. Like you do not need to be. patient facing if you have a [ __ ]. bedside manner. >> Exactly. Because people are in their. most vulnerable state. like you go to. the doctors, you go to the gynecologist, like you don't you don't get in that. position for any like other people. It's. like you're with your with like a. professional who you trust is going to. make you feel comfortable in an. uncomfortable situation. So if you can't. get it together and say things that are.

going to be comforting, then you need to. take the day off. >> Go home. Literally go home. Go home. That is on you. Like do not shame. people. You have to look at it like. >> this is their worst day. This is. extremely hard. This is extremely. vulnerable. Mhm. >> Don't shame. Don't judge. Be kind. >> Think before you talk. >> It's so important. >> I've had healthcare stuff where like. literally I went in for like I went to. urgent care and I was in high school and.

I had like a bump and I was just like. panicking like as any sexually active. 16-year-old does. And I went in and this. urgent care doctor shamed me so much and. was so judgy and belittling and was. like, "This is what you get.". >> So messed up. >> And it's just like, it ended up not. being anything. But I was like, you. caused me to panic and spiral and. >> I was a kid. >> Yeah. >> Like and you were judging and being. weird. [ __ ] weirdo.

>> So messed up. Yeah. Yeah. And that's why. I just like want it to be such a big. reminder because like I've had like a. couple of like like doctors who like I. think were or dentists like that were in. a bad mood or something. I don't know. like throughout my lifetime but like. where it's like when they say something. that's like weird like you remember. that. You remember that from like your. experience when you were a kid and like. I just think everyone needs to remember. how like anything that people say right. like there's a chance that it can impact. them. But like when you're in a position. of power like that, like really you got.

to watch your work. So I just like. that's why I want to give such major. flowers to this woman who pulled her to. the side and was like. >> amazing orthodontist because it does. matter. So again, I'll get off like my. my rant there. >> No, it's very personal for you right. now. And I mean, you just went to the. dentist last week and had a horrible. experience. So it's like it's so close. to home. It's hitting so close to home. for you. And I think it is a good. reminder. I know we have a lot of. providers out there that listen and you.

show the opposite side like how good. that orthodontist was. But unfortunately. our writer here has a mom that was just. >> absolutely off her rocker and Opie said. it herself cruel. Like ridiculously. cruel. And I think even if you're a. parent, like there's something to take. from every single story we read, but if. you're a parent, like your words in. front of your kids and what you say and. how you talk to them and what you. comment on their bodies and features. matters. >> Mhm.

>> So, we do have a picture of OP. Oh, wow. OP's Reddit account is 10 years old, has. more achievements than I think I've seen. on a Reddit account in quite some time. Over 10,000 karma. Show us the photo. And OP posted in another subreddit. r/hair dying only gray hairs. This is. our writer. Oh my god. How absolutely. beautiful. >> Yeah. Beautiful. And like I'm just like.

>> I just How is her mom doing that? That's. crazy. That's crazy. >> Insane. And it's just like I think I'm. like God, was the mom jealous? Was the. mom jealous? like really trying to. destroy her and bring her down. >> It's crazy to me because it's like. >> the fact that her mom is trying to like. say that her chin looks like a witch or. whatever is the is so crazy to me. I'm. like what? >> Honestly, like so pretty and I'm looking.

I'm like face is really symmetrical. >> Yes. That is so wild. >> Honestly, a really nice chin. >> Yes, that's what I'm saying. Like. >> yeah, people do jaw surgeries to get. that. >> to look like that. Yeah. Like what? It's. insane. Absolutely. >> I mean, it would be insane no matter. >> regardless. No matter. But like it's. just like crazy that like for her to. that's that's when you just know that it. really is just so cruel to like say that. her chin looks like a witch. I love. pointy chins. So like even you saying. that in the start, I was like that's.

weird in in general. But like it's. that's crazy. Crazy. Top comment. Is. that really you in the photo on your. other post? Yes, you are beautiful. I'm. sorry your mother destroyed your. self-esteem. That is really hard to get. back. My self-esteem issues aren't. related to my looks and I still struggle. accepting compliments on my looks and my. personality from my husband. Over time, you can work through it. Next comment. Oh my god, I just went and looked. because of this comment and you are. absolutely right. OP is really. beautiful. Her mother definitely has.

issues. >> A bunch of people then go look see the. photo. Same. I had to look and. completely agree. She's beautiful. OP, please don't listen to those defeating. memories. Your mom was harsh and rude. You were quite attractive and I see. kindness in your eyes. That speaks. volumes after what you've been through. Best of life to you. And so much. support. Just people commenting. Please. know that your mother's comments were a. reflection of her own insecurity and. control issues and not of you and your.

appearance. Moms are unfortunately often. their daughter's first and crulest. bullies. >> That's horrible. I hope you are able to. work on your self-esteem, identity, and. sense of self. You deserve to feel good. in your skin and confident in who you. are. Sending so much love and peace. Okay, so I saw this thing the other day. and it says, "The more controlling a. person is, the greater amount of shame. and fear that lives inside of them. People try to control others in an.

attempt to avoid facing their own fear. and shame." And I just think that that. rings so true. >> Yeah. No, that is really profound. >> So true. And so with these comments and. they're talking about like OP's mom and. how OP's mom showed up, it's like that's. because OP's mom has an insane amount of. fear and shame inside of her. Mhm. >> And that's just so sad because I assume. that Opie's mom loves her daughter, but.

she she couldn't navigate her own issue, like the own issues that she has well. enough to be able to protect her. daughter from them. And that and it. sucks when that happens. >> It's insane. And I think there's a big. push for people to get therapy and be. healed. I think if you're going to have. kids, you really got to work on your. [ __ ] so you don't take out whatever. shame issues you were scarred with. >> out on your kids. Like break the cycle, >> right? >> Break the cycle. >> Yeah.

>> I think that's something I look at my. myself and something I've really really. tried to work to do. >> of like breaking the cycle. >> Yeah, that's good. [sighs]. >> Yeah, it's it's crazy. >> It's just hard. We And that's the thing. is that like I think a lot of people. look at other people and think that just. because they don't see. insecurities outwardly. They like forget. that like we all have them. >> Oh, we all have them. It doesn't matter. how famous or beautiful like somebody. is. Like those people that we're looking.

up to like they also have insecurities. Absolutely. >> And they can if we if we dwell on them, they can really consume us. And it's. it's awful. It's a horrible feeling. That's why like particularly like I feel. for OP so much because it becomes like a. ruminating and like obsessive thought. and it's it's impacting the way that she. shows up and like her true happiness and. experiencing life and like I mean like. I've yeah I've just I felt like the. reason me and Morgan were talking about.

this is because I I just I had like a. dentist who like kind of like recoiled. at the recession that I have on this one. tooth and it just it It it like it shook. me and it. >> so unprofessional. >> It maybe it maybe seems like a small. thing to a lot of people and the dentist. probably like didn't even think that it. was that big of a deal of his reaction. But it's like when it's something that. is already like made me feel so. frustrated and insecure over then like.

to have the professional react that way. just like really really shook me. again. extremely unprofessional. But. >> moral of the story, like everyone is. dealing with their own insecurities and. >> just be kind to each other. And if you. know for OP, go to therapy. Realize you. are beautiful. Realize you're kind. Your. mom, whatever crazy place she was coming. from is not true. And to find your sense. of self, I really think a big part of.

that is like finding things you love. What makes you feel happy? What makes. you feel passionate? It could be. something as simple as pottery or I love. my dog and I'm going to go walk my dog. and be mindful and like I think. practicing more gratitude is so healing. I'm grateful for this. Like one thing. every day can change your brain. >> So lessons for. >> I have another thing that's profound. that I kind of want to share. >> Okay. Can you give me a second? Okay. >> I can't find it. Um, but basically it.

was this guy talking about how I don't. know the exact way he framed it, but. it's like you don't have to you don't. have to like pretend that you don't have. problems or issues. It's about. acknowledging all of the other good. things around it. So like each time. something happens like, "Oh, it's such a. bummer that I'm so late to work right. now. I'm so stressed." But then you go, but I'm but I'm very happy that I have a.

car to get to work and I'm so grateful. that I have a job to get to and I'm I'm. so grateful that you know like there's. it's like a one in three rule or. something like that. So, it's basically. and it, you know, this person put it way. better than I'm trying to repeat it, but. I I just think it's like a really. empowering. uh concept where it's like each time you. run into an issue, you don't have to. pretend that the issue isn't there, but. like just like doing adding to the.

gratitude of it, it just retrains your. brain to like actually focus on these. things that. >> bring you happiness. And and over time, if you continuously practice that, then. >> you you just start being a happier. person. >> Well, and it's the reframing, right, where it's like, yeah, I might have been. late, but look at what I have. And it's. like, let's reframe and like check back. in with reality. Like, that wasn't a big. deal. >> This is actually what reality is. >> I love that. >> Yeah. >> Okay. Well, put your thoughts in the.

comments. And moving on to this next. one. This one is coming from our very. own two hottakes subreddit couple days. old titled mother-in-law came to my. house to dig up my flower bed because my. husband's ex-girlfriend asked her to. For context, my husband, male 37, and I, female 30, had both recently gotten out. of long-term relationships when we met, and we got married after only 6 months. together. I moved out of my apartment.

and moved into the house that he has. also owned and lived in for the past 10. years. Four of those being with his ex. There is a flower bed surrounding the. perimeter of the house with a mix of. flowers that she planted and also. flowers that my husband says have been. there since he bought the house. I also. looked at the old house listing from. 2016. And yep, most of the stuff in the. front flower bed was still there. I've. never owned a house before, so I was. excited to have a garden and plant some. new flowers and take care of the.

existing ones. Today, I was supposed to. work, but I had the day off. I usually. work Monday through Friday evenings and. my husband works all day every day. typically. So, I'm coming home and I. pass by my husband's mom in the car, clearly passing our house. I stop, roll. down the window to say hello, and before. I can even say anything, she says to me. along the lines of. here to feel the ground to see if it's. soft enough to dig up because. ex-girlfriend's name had asked me to dig.

up the flowers she planted. She didn't. really want to come to it herself, then. asked me to, then said never mind, but I. still am going to. Literally, I don't. know what to say. I said it was fine and. went into my house while she poked. around the flower bed. I immediately. called my husband and told him that this. isn't okay. He needs to talk to her. I. feel uncomfortable that one, his mom. talks to her to the point where she felt. comfortable asking his elderly mother to.

dig up our flower bed, and two, that his. mom would actually come to my house to. do it while I'm at work. That's crazy. >> I don't even know what else to do or how. to handle this. I just feel incredibly. disrespected as his wife. I should also. mention that his mom and his two sisters. had taken her to dinner for her birthday. after they had been broken up for a. month and she was in the process of. moving out. But when that happened, his. best friend told me that they weren't. even close to her and didn't like her. that much. So, it's just confusing to.

me. How am I supposed to feel. comfortable with his family and form a. relationship with them? Am I. overreacting? Would you drive to your. adult son's house that he owns and. shares with his wife to dig up the. flower bed because his ex-girlfriend. asked you to? That's insane. This is so. weird. You're going to come steal flowers back? Go to Lowe's, baby. They got sales on. >> Also, how long? >> If she's married, then how long has it.

been? I know. Got married after only 6. months, but yeah. Have you been married. for a week, two months, a year? And how. long were they like broken up for? I. don't know. The whole thing is just. weird to me. I one of my like boyfriend. at the time, his ex after we were dating. and they had been broken up for whatever. it was, a long time. She realized that. he was staying with me and being with me. and that like I'm his girlfriend. Then.

she started pulling stuff like that. where she would be like, "By the way, I. have sweatshirts of yours that I need to. get back." Or like like stuff like that. where it was just like, "When can I. bring like your sweatshirts?" And he was. like, "I don't I don't really care about. them. Like you can keep them. >> Keep them or donate them.". >> Yeah. Give them to one of my friends. that like I'm going to you see cuz they. were in college. We were in college and. he can bring it back. And she's like, "Nope, I need to hand deliver them to. you.". >> Because it's an excuse. Exactly. It's an. excuse to like and like control where. it's like you're going to give me your.

time. >> Yeah. >> And it's just some weird manipulative. thing. It's like flowers, you know, dude. pulling them out of the ground, replotting them. Maybe they'll take, but you could also. kill them. And flowers can add up and be. pricey. But just ask him to reimburse. you and go get new flowers. >> Exactly. like, "Hey, I made improvements. to your home that I'm not going to. benefit from. Can you please reimburse.

me for the flowers?". >> Right? >> There's no mention how long they've been. married. OP did post this in a couple. other subreddits, >> but I'm not seeing really any other. context comments about how long they've. been together. There is a comment here. that says, "I think your mother-in-law. thinks you were the mistress." which I. mean they were together for four years. and then he marries this new person. after six months. Family's probably. they're Gabbin. They're talking their.

[ __ ] They're coming up with all sorts. of rumors and hypothesis. OP does. respond. She totally does. Which I. believe the ex-girlfriend does too. I. can't blame them. I probably would too. if I were on the other end. And someone. responds, "Your husband needs to clear. that up for you.". >> Yeah. Like don't don't run my name. through the mud. >> Mhm. Hell no. So, how did husband react? Like, there's a comment here that says. he hasn't been home from work yet to.

actually discuss and all he has said so. far is that it's weird. He feels. violated and he will handle it and talk. to his mom. [clears throat]. >> So, he's not feeling great about it. either. >> Yeah. >> Feels super weird. Feels like it's. crossing a boundary, [laughter]. which Yeah. It's like like out of all. the ways to just like jab at me, >> you're going to come to my house and. just dig up my flowers. >> I would be pissed. >> It feels really weird. >> Yeah. >> So, we don't have any update on this one. yet. OP, if you're out there listening,

please keep us posted. Top comment, your. husband needs to put a stop to this. It's his crazy ass mom causing. unnecessary drama. Next one down for. real. Why is his mom still taking orders. from an ex who moved out? And why is she. showing up to your house while you're at. work? That's insane behavior. Feel free. to call the cops for destruction of. property since that's what this is. I. would also put up a camera. Like if you. don't have home security cameras. already, you should put up a camera. And um.

there's brands that are amazing like. Yuthi. I love Yuthi. They don't have a. subscription. Not sponsored. I just. genuinely love them. And I think they're. less problematic than other home. security brands. I saw someone post a. video of their Amazon Alexa like talking. at them. >> and it's like some agent on the other. end of that device turned their mic on. and was just like. >> that's insane. >> It's scary actually. Like and that's the. other thing. It's like uh all these. cameras and all these devices and all.

these things tracking us and it's just. like we're going to be we're going to. have like zero privacy eventually. Like. I don't know how we're going to. >> I came across this video the other day. where a guy was talking to his Alexa and. was like, "How did you know. >> the nursing?". >> Yeah. >> Yes. That one freaked me out, too. >> I thought I was trying to figure out if. it was like a prank or something. >> I don't think so. So, basically, this. guy was just like confronting his Alexa. because the Alexa said he was a nurse. and he's like, "I've never mentioned.

that to you. How would you know this. about me?" And there's all of these. other cameras like flock like flock. cameras are going up in every city. across the US. All of these new data. centers are basically to store all of. this surveillance on on US citizens and. it's terrifying. And so all of these. flock cameras are going up and they're. already massively being violated. There's already massive lawsuits from. people like basically being like my. rights have been violated. people that. have access to them. The people that.

I've seen that these news articles are. coming out about are police and police. are stalking people. This one guy used. flock and access to the cameras over. 3,000 times to stalk someone he was. dating. >> It's like. >> shouldn't have access to stuff like. that. >> Terrifying. >> Like why are we creating this. >> hyper surveillance state? If it's like. this now, I just wonder what it's going. to look like in 10 years. Scary ass. thought. >> Mhm. Scary ass thought. But um yeah, I. think you definitely need to get your.

husband on board if he's not and set. some boundaries and get a security. camera for your house. And I get that's. it kind of feels bad, but if they show. up at at your house, you need to know if. they go harvest to these plants, you. need them on tape. [laughter]. >> So, it's a little catch 22 there. >> So weird. I was was there communication. beforehand like about No, we didn't have. anything like being like, "Hey, like I. know this is weird, but like those. plants mean a lot to me and they were.

expensive and I really want them for my. yard and I bought them. So like. >> is there a time that I can do this, please?". >> No, there's no mention of that. And a. lot of plants I'm like I'm so curious. what are they? Like are they tulips? Maybe she got some tulip bulbs when she. went to Amsterdam and planted them in. the garden. Like are they sentimental? If they are, just communicate, >> right? That's what makes me feel like. it's just like a weird move. >> Calculated. >> Yeah. >> Okay, moving on to this next one. This.

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can count on Credit Karma for less. craziness and more credit. Thanks to. Credit Karma, I realized I missed some. student loan payments. Thanks, Credit. Karma. This one is coming from our very. own Twatic subreddit titled, "Is it. unreasonable to treat masturbation as. cheating?" In order to avoid bias, I'm. going to keep all pronouns neutral, but. this is about my heterosexual. relationship. There's also an age gap of. 15 years and we have two children.

together. We've been together for a. little over 10 years now. I'm just. looking for some honest opinions. Yes, I. have had this talk with my partner a. couple of times over the years, but it. is still a recurring problem. I believe. in masturbation. I used to do it a lot. more often when I was younger, but it. has slowed down a lot as I've gotten. older, and I only do it occasionally. now, like once or twice every few. months. My partner and I have fairly. high sex drives, and even after 10 years. together, we still have intimacy at.

least two to three times a week, minus. the occasional dry spell of a week or. two when things are super stressful over. the past years. My partner doesn't. masturbate and never has, as far as I. know, not even when they were a teen or. young adult. Recently, over the last 2. to 3 years, my partner has expressed. that I should not masturbate either. and. doing so is essentially cheating. They. were in a previous abusive relationship. before me where their partner cheated. repeatedly, including stuff like phone.

sex. I've never been even slightly. unfaithful to my partner and usually. don't even watch porn when I masturbate. I also use a toy that my partner got for. me that I use with them in the bedroom. regularly. It is typically a very quick. activity, less than 5 minutes, and. coming gives me a nice little boost of. energy. None of this matters though, and. my partner has said that if I want. pleasure like that, then I should be. going to them for it. And doing it.

myself makes them feel that I don't. desire them. I've tried to explain that. masturbation is a personal thing for me. and it feels very controlling to have my. partner telling me what I can and cannot. do to my own body. >> when I am alone. We've never come to any. kind of agreement or compromise on the. topic. Now, it has gotten to a point. where anytime I masturbate, they give me. the cold shoulder for days. >> Oh my god. I'm not even sure how they.

know when I do it, but the reaction is. always immediate. >> That feels like a camera. Terrifying. >> If I masturbate before they get home. from work, then they come home already. knowing somehow and being upset about. it. I don't know what to do here. Am I. in the wrong for refusing to give up, occasionally masturbating, or am I right. to feel like this is controlling. behavior from my partner? It's very. controlling and scary and I think you. should look for cameras. You need to be.

checking for cameras. >> Like they know immediately. >> They come home from work, what do they. do? Sniff around? No, there's a camera. There's a camera. They're getting little. pings watching you. The other thing that. I find interesting is that like there's. not a mention of like specific like like. as if OP is viewing. certain like porn websites or something. like that. Like we're not. So it's like. is it rarely watching porn?

>> It doesn't mention that. It's not. focused on that. Like if the partner was. just like you looking at other people. while like doing that makes me feel. horrible. Like then like that's yeah. that's a different conversation. But. like what's interesting to me is like. does OP's partner still feel that way if. OP has like pictures of their partner. >> or I mean I don't even think it's that. though. I think it's it's literally the. control. >> That's what I'm saying. That's why I'm.

like that that's what's like very cuz. you know everyone has different feelings. about that. Like some people do like to. they they want to be like I I want you. to only like think of me. Yeah. Yeah. So, like some people like have those. conversations and some couples are on. board with that and everything. So, but. like what's interesting is that like it. seems like it's just the act it set off. >> Doesn't matter if it's like. >> photos of OP's partner or whatnot. So,

that's what makes it feel like extremely. controlling. >> Extremely. and the stonewalling that is. so bad to punish your partner for not. behaving in the way that you're. expecting. >> But it's. >> beyond controlling. It just feels. absolutely illogically insane to me. >> My partner has said that if I want. pleasure like that, then I should be. going to them. You have no bodily. autonomy. Then you have no control over.

your body, your desires, your wants, your needs. that you can't even touch. yourself if your partner's not around or. like, "Hey, I just want to get my rocks. off. I'm stressed. I I want a boost of. energy." Whatever it is. Like, no, no, no. If you want that, you need to check. in with me. I need to provide that for. you. >> That is. >> preposterous. Preposterous. >> Yeah. >> Like, honestly, >> if this continues to be a massive issue. and they continue to stonewall you and. punish you, this will end your. relationship. No one wants to feel that.

way with their partner because it. creates such an unsafe dynamic. Like you. can't actually be yourself. And that's. like something that I've been thinking. about a lot lately is like editing. yourself. Like how how do you have to. edit yourself in certain situations? And. for example, work, you know, you're. going to have different conversations. with people at work than you are, you.

know, when you're at the bar with your. friends. Um, but I think about this a. lot with like with the people that you. spend the most time with that you're the. closest with. It's just like, are you. editing yourself? And like, if so, why? And do you feel like you have to? Is it. something you can talk through? Is it. something where maybe this is just not a. like a good dynamic and it's not a. match? And that's that's what I'm like. when I hear this. How how could you with.

the person you're supposed to be the. most comfortable with feel like you have. to hide and be shamed about yourself? You I mean you shouldn't have to do. that. And if you are doing that then. you're not friends with the right. people. You're not with the right. person. >> Be yourself. Point blank. Mhm. >> Love me for me or this ain't going to. work. >> Like there's just there's no ifands or. buts about that. >> I do appreciate the fact that OP kept. this super neutral cuz I'm thinking.

about it in my head too and I'm like. >> what am I envisioning OP to be? >> Does gender to me in this does not. matter? But I do find it I'm like so. curious because I'm so interested in. like the dynamic. >> Yeah. But whether OP is. woman, man, non-binary, they that, I'm. like, whatever, it's still so so toxic. Yeah. People don't like to believe this. about anybody on this podcast, but like. I actually do flip it in my head a lot.

when I hear stories. Like I do think of. it in this way where it's written where. I'm like, "Okay, how would I feel if. this was happening to me versus like how. would I feel if like I was doing this?". Mhm. >> And and so I do try to like put it in. >> I put myself in all the shoes. >> Yeah. So I try to do that which is like. which again is like. >> a lot of times people are like oh you're. just on like the the girl side or like. oh you're like you're you're on the. guy's side you're being a like it's all. these things but like I really do I. really do flip it around. So I do like.

that this like story is just neutral. Yeah. It's really nice. >> No one can accuse us of anything. [laughter]. >> No top comment. No it's not cheating. And are there cameras you don't know. about or something? How on earth would. they know with certainty? >> Mhm. >> OP responds, that has been a recent. concern of mine just because of how. immediately they know when I do it. >> Next comment, oh wow, this is a massive. red flag. >> Terrifying.

>> And another person responds just like. the 15-year age gap. Next person, that. depends entirely on the ages they were. when they met. Someone responds to that. They've been together for 10 years, which makes the age gap more concerning. because there was a 15-year age gap when. OP was 10 years younger. OP chimes back. in and responds, "We met shortly before. my 30th. They were 45. We were both. grown and had a casual friends with. benefit situation for a short time. before dating exclusively. A little more.

than a year in a dating, we got pregnant. with our first and moved in together. shortly after the birth. Our second was. born exactly 3 years and 13 days after. our first. Someone responds to that. That clears up the genders. Check your. house for cameras. I'm very serious. This is a psychopath level of control. Not allowing your partner to touch. themselves, even when you're not around, is unhinged. But him knowing exactly. when you do it, means he deliberately. violates your privacy just for the sake.

of control. A partner that truly cares. would be happy for the other or. genuinely and kindly ask to watch. instead of you need to come to me for. pleasure blah. Wow. I didn't What did. you think? I thought female when I was. in my head and then I was shocked where. I'm like a guy not masturbating at all. Yeah. Which, okay, maybe I'm like I feel. like everyone doesn't everyone try to. get off like now and again,

>> right? >> Like never, >> right? >> Never is like a pretty big like never, >> right? >> That's why that's why I think I I kind. of was, if I had to guess, was thinking. the opposite. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> True. Yeah, >> because I mean we've talked we've had. like girlfriend nights where like. everyone's talked and like there's been. like multiple friends of mine that are. just like I'm not really into it. I. would rather do it with someone. So. yeah. >> Mhm. >> Literally as people are hearing it, I. think it'll go either way for a lot of.

people. >> Yeah. >> But no, this is insane. >> There are a couple of other comments. from OP. We have talked about it. multiple times. We just can't reach an. agreement or even agree to disagree. peacefully. I guess I've also begun to. worry about the possibility of cameras I. don't know about. >> I'm so creeped out. I'm so creeped out. >> OPA's asked like, "How do I check?" Cuz. people are like, "Please do a sweep for. cameras. >> in chargers and small appliances, nanny. cams and teddy bears and such." And OPA. is like, "How do I do that?" And then. people just share that there's various.

signal detection apps and devices out. there. Don't know how effective any of. them are. I've also seen the hack where. if you shut all the lights off and take. your phone camera and scan it around a. room like no lights, anything with a. camera or like an infrared will have a. glow to it. >> Okay, >> so that's one way. >> Yeah, >> but you got to do a sweep. You. absolutely got to do a sweep. >> So OP says this, I think I will try the. toy first because we have extremely. unreliable Wi-Fi that has been down for.

weeks. So, that seems to rule out a. hidden camera, at least for the most. recent incident, 48 hours. I don't think. it has Bluetooth, but I don't know what. else it could be. So, OP is thinking. that maybe that toy, because the the. partner got her the toy, got them the. toy, whatever it is. Like, >> and so they're thinking that maybe the. partner knows cuz anytime you turn on. the toy, it goes to like a freaking a. phone. >> Oh, >> there's toys that you can control from. your phone, >> right? Right,

>> dude. That would be so insane. People are asking like, "Well, he'd be. upset if he's not getting any." And OP's. like, "This isn't an instead of. situation. It's on top of our normal. active sex life." Sex two to three times. a week. >> Yeah. >> After children. >> Hats off to you. >> I'm like, even so though, like even. >> even if No, I'm just impressed by it. like not not anything really related.

I'm just like good for you cuz I'm 32. with no kids and it's you know we're. having a hard time right now. We're a. little busy. [laughter]. >> Yeah. I just don't even have words. because this this really creeps me out. Like I don't I don't like how it feels. at all and it's like they're so deep. into the relationship too and I'm. curious like how else the rest of the. relationship is because I don't feel. like this can just be a oneoff. I mean, maybe, but like it feels like this type.

of control, it probably seeps into other. areas too of their relationship. So, I. would just be really curious to hear if. there's anything else or if this is like. very isolated because it's like a huge. trigger for OP's partner because of. their last relationship. And so, it's. like something that like the partner. needs needs to work through on their. own. And like if you're gonna have those. type of expectations of people like. feel like you need to talk about them. upfront like before you guys even say.

like let's be boyfriend and girlfriend. because if you're going to have that. restrictive of expectations you got to. find someone else who feels the exact. same way as you. I wonder if it's a. newer thing. I'm very curious as you. said if there's other issues. Does this. bleed in anywhere else or is it only. this? >> And. wow, because this is an insane level of. control and then abuse following by the. stonewalling. >> So, I have a hard time believing it. doesn't seep elsewhere. >> But I would start to make this a hill I.

would die on to be honest. Like, I would. probably try couples therapy and try to. get a neutral third party to explain to. my partner that this is healthy. This is. normal. it's not right for you to try to. inhibit that and then punish your. partner for it. >> I would try to work through it with. someone, >> but if they don't respond and this. continues to be an issue, >> I honestly wouldn't feel safe anymore. >> No. >> Like, I wouldn't be able to stay in that. relationship. >> No. >> OP posted on our subreddit, likely out.

there listening, >> six-year-old account, verified email. >> I thought you were going to say an. update. No, >> you said it like it was going to be an. update. >> Sad. I'm so sorry. But what has happened. with a lot of the two hot takes stories. that I've read, they hear it on the. episode and then they come back. >> Oh. >> So, I like to read these ones in hopes. it inspires an update. Like, >> or people, even if it's not on the two. takes subreddit, like then people will. from the podcast be like, I heard it on.

the podcast. Is everything okay? And. then they update. So, it does help us. get updates by reading these stories. Well, honestly, the two out takes um. subreddit is so there's so much there. now. It's grown so large that I saw in. the comment section once that people. were like, "Oh my god, I didn't even. know that this was a podcast.". >> Yeah. It was on the post where our. listener was writing about um being. like, "Two takes is the reason I'm. alive." And shared about their leukemia.

experience and they were like, "I didn't. know it was a. >> I just come here for the tea.". >> Right. But I remember when it was. created, when it was like so so small. >> Mhm. >> It was just like like. >> just a baby, >> just a few people on there and then so. and I didn't look for a while and I. remember looking back later like a few. months later and I was like, "Oh my. gosh.". >> I know. [gasps and laughter]. It's really crazy. I just like clicked. on the inside. So I'm like, "How many. people see this sub?". >> Over 11 million people have been on it. in the past 30 days.

>> Wow. >> Which is just like what the hell? >> That's insane. Yeah, >> that's insane. >> It's so nuts. I used to um I used to see. like this little flare Reddit used to. have where it was like top 1%. But I. don't see that anymore. I don't know if. they still do it. Maybe it's gone. I. don't know. Maybe it's not the top 1%. anymore. I guess that just means you. guys are going to go have to write your. two out takes posts on there. But again, update us OP. And moving along to the. next one. This is coming from r/am I.

overreacting. It's titled My girlfriend. of 3 years gifted my biggest insecurity. to her friends as a funny story at game. night. >> Oh no. >> And I laughed. Am I overreacting? >> No. It's your biggest insecurity. >> Last weekend we did our usual game night. at home. Everything was great until we. had had a few drinks and found ourselves. playing a classic never have I ever. game. Out of nowhere, my girlfriend, 28,

female, starts sharing the story about. how when we first started dating, I was. really anxious about being naked around. her because I've got a scar from surgery. I had as a kid. She went into detail, even striking the awkward pose I. apparently did that first time. Everyone. burst out laughing. >> Meanwhile, I was sitting right there, my. face probably as red as a tomato, but I. kept quiet. Didn't want to ruin the fun, you know. Later, when the guest left, I told her.

calmly that it really stung. That's a. personal story I shared with her, not. fodder for laughs. She just rolled her. eyes and said, "Babe, it was funny. You're way too sensitive. They're our. friends." So, I crashed on the couch. Come morning, she acted like nothing had. happened. Even made a joke about it. again. I packed a bag and went to stay. with my brother for a few days. Now. she's blowing up my phone, saying I'm. ruining the relationship over a stupid. joke and that I embarrassed her in front.

of our friends by being distant all. night. I get that couples poke fun at. each other, but this felt different. It. was like she took something I've. genuinely struggled with, something I. cried to her about early on, and turned. it into a punchline. I've told her so. many times that I really hate when. people bring up the scar. She absolutely. knows this. Now I'm feeling guilty since. she's crying and saying it wasn't meant. to hurt. Part of me wonders if I'm. overreacting and should just let it.

slide. But another part thinks she. crossed a line and doesn't even. recognize it. What should I do? See, that's the thing is that like if they. had the type of. relationship where they were constantly. poking fun at each other and. >> there's couples that do that and they. love it and they get off on it, it's. great. >> and that's fine. >> Yeah. But if somebody comes to you, even. even if even if they had that. relationship, if they if someone comes. to you crying about something saying.

that it is their biggest insecurity, don't turn around and make a mockery of. it specifically in front of people. Like. >> no. >> Like it's like what was she thinking? >> Exactly. Like even doing that if it was. just like oneon-one. that could really really hurt. Sometimes. people will cross the line like and. think that like it's something that was. in the past because they don't find it. something that you should be ashamed of. and that like they don't see it as. something that should be an insecurity.

and so they're like oh no that's fine. like it's fine to make fun of now that. they've probably gotten past it. But. it's like no if somebody came to you and. like cried to you and said that that's. like one of their biggest insecurities. then it doesn't matter how like how. ridiculous it might be. Like it's just. like you got to respect that. >> Respect it. Yeah. >> That's it. Not that hard. I mean, OP. said I've told her so many times that I. really hate when people bring up the. scar. She absolutely knows this. And. then you talk about like, okay, the. scar, they are.

>> insecure about the scar. >> and then because they're so insecure. about the scar the first time we hooked. up, they did this awkward pose. >> Yeah. >> And then you act out the pose, >> right? >> Does do you think that's going to make. that person ever want to be intimate. with you again? >> Yeah. like ever want to be vulnerable. with you again? Like what were you. thinking? That's not even something I. would enjoy hearing, >> right? >> Like that's not as I watched my friends. and then they're a couple do that. >> I would feel really uncomfortable. I'd.

feel bad. >> and I just like what the hell. >> Yeah. >> What the hell? >> Yeah. >> Not overreacting. [sighs and gasps]. You've been dating for 3 years. It's a. long time, but I would have a hard time. getting over this. Like, you know, I'm. insecure about stretch marks. And if. Justin made a comment in front of. everyone like Morgan and her stretch, oh, it'd be on site. >> Yeah. >> It'd be just.

it would not go well. >> And so, it's like again, why do you want. to belittle me? Why do you want to. demean me? Why do you want to make me. feel worse about something that you. already know I'm insecure and struggling. with? >> Yeah. >> Why? I will say though that I don't. think I don't think this one was like. intentionally cruel. I think this one. was. >> okay. >> I think this one was like a. >> accidental. >> Yeah. Like there's like embarrassment. that comes with saying a a joke that. doesn't land a a joke that hurts.

somebody's feelings. like there's a lot. of embarrassment and and so we've had a. lot of stories like this and it's a. typical reaction to be like no you're. being sensitive because like they now. they feel as embarrassed as you do. I. mean, not necessarily, but you know what. I mean? Like now they feel that way, so. they're trying to deflect and be like, "No, no, no." Like, "No, you're like, "You need to be okay with this because. it wasn't that big of a deal." And so, I. think that that's probably what. happened. And OP's partner was just.

trying to make light of it still. And. then once like OP actually left, that's. when the partner like spiraled because. then they were like, "Okay, what I did. actually did damage." And um I don't. know like how did the partner how did. the part did the partner ever come. around? >> No, >> not yet. Not yet. Not as far as we know. I mean. >> Yeah. >> And the problem I have too, >> okay, I'm with you for maybe it wasn't. intentional. Maybe it was accidental and.

you're just a [ __ ] horrible comedian. But to then flip it and say you're the. one ruining our relationship over a mess. >> stupid joke and you embarrassed me by. acting distant all night. >> and now you're the one crying and you're. the one making this about you. >> Just [ __ ] admit you're wrong. >> Just fall on your sword, people. If you. can take one thing maybe from this. story, be okay falling on your sword. because it is going to get you better.

results. >> Exactly. >> If you genuinely did this on accident, if you genuinely feel bad, >> don't let the shame take over and then. try to flip it. Fall on your sword. >> So true. >> It can just be a [ __ ] butter knife. It doesn't have to be a dagger. Like. just. >> No, it's so true. And I think that not. even like not even for the people out. there who are like you don't have to be. you don't have to be a bad person, you. know? You don't have to like make some. huge mistake. Like you could just make a. small mistake and and fall on your.

sword. Like it's okay. >> Yeah. It's okay like to you know to own. that. And I think that like it's a very. like common like human reaction for us. to just try to like protect ourselves by. like I don't know whatever. I mean, it's. unfortunate that the partner still won't. let up. The first few like responses. would be more natural. The like dying on. this hill, you're ruining our. relationship. Like, >> that's crazy. >> Now you're Now you're getting to the.

point where like you're really losing. the plot and you're like losing the. point of of a relationship. Relationships are to be able to hear. each other and respect each other, love. each other, take each other's feelings. into consideration. So, it's like now. no, like you're losing the plot. Like. your partner is explaining to you and. has explained to you beforehand how much. this is painful for them. And instead of. taking a second to be like, hm, do I. love and care and respect and want to be. with this person? Yes. Okay, then maybe.

I should act like it. You're just going. to like double down and die on this. hill. And that's that's the unfortunate. thing that that happens sometimes. But but I do but with that being said. like I don't without any other context. like I just don't think that like the. partner was like trying to be evil. >> You know what I mean? >> But you're also not overreacting. >> No, of course not. Do not feel like. you're overreacting and you're wrong for. these feelings. >> Exactly. >> Which the top comment does agree. Not. overreacting. So disrespectful to tell. the story in the first place, but even.

more so to react like that when you. brought up the issue. >> Mhm. >> Next comment down. and to triple down on. it when he left to stay with family. trying to turn it around on him. Classic. manipulator tactics. Sorry OP, that's. really [ __ ] up. Not overreacting. >> And then someone responds and goes, "Darvo at work. Deny, attack, reverse, victim, and offender." And this is. something I wanted to bring up and I I. really want psychologists to chime in. because I am very curious about this and. I know with a lot of psychology phrasing.

and terminology like gaslighting and. narcissist and things like that, it's. kind of with the internet and pop. culture, it's been twisted in a way. that's not necessarily accurate. Like, oh, he gas lit me. And it's like, no, no, no, it wasn't actually gaslighting. And I'm curious if we're getting to a. place like that with Darvo. >> because this Darvo is this truly like. someone who's using this in an abusive. way or is this someone being just.

defensive which is also a innately human. thing to do? >> And so are we, you know, how should we. be using Darvo to be true to what Darvo. is? I guess like when people like use. abusive tactics in relationships, I. think a lot of it is because it's like. self-preservation, like defense. mechanisms, like feeling shameful, feeling, you know, kind of like we're.

talking about like the fear and shame. turning into control. So that's why I'm. like and it ends up being abusive, but. like I don't think that there's there's. obviously a difference between intending. to be abusive and then just being. abusive because you're trying to, you know, save face for yourself. >> It's a fine line, I guess. >> Yeah. I'd love for psychologists or any. psychiatrists or any, you know, people. that have really studied that to be. like, "Okay, Darvo applies here, doesn't.

apply here. This is when you should use. it." cuz I'm like, is it one of those. things? What is the definition of. abusive or like an abusive? Abusive behavior includes actions that. engender fear and intimidation or. undermine the other person's. self-determination. Many controlling behaviors may also be. abusive within the context of physical. or psychological abuse. >> Yeah. So I think that that's why I'm. like in terms of. >> undermine the other person's.

self-determination that I mean that's. very broadact that that literally could. be in this case like you're undermining. [clears throat] his feelings. >> So it's tough. It's really tough. >> That's why I'm saying like. >> so much nuance, >> right? That's why I'm saying like. abusive the word abuse and abusive. sounds like really heavy and it and it. is but I think that it it can be these. smaller moments. Mhm. I mean, there's. another broader definition here coming. from the United Nations. Includes any. behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate,

blame, injure, or wound someone. >> And then it's like it can be all of. these other like I mean it's like again. if it feels wrong and it feels like that. to you, >> it probably would qualify. >> Yeah. I think a lot of people with that. being said, a lot of people fall into. this like Darvo trap is and they're not. trying to I can see it. It's easy. It's. easy to get defensive, >> right? I've seen articles talk about. like this innate human desire to always.

defend yourself. >> And by defending it, you can. accidentally deny and be like, "No, no, but like I was coming from this place.". As you explain your intentions to try to. defend yourself, it can then turn into. >> garble. Yeah, exactly. >> Yeah. Know, it's tough. Again, I'm. excited to see the comments on this one, but that's uh all we got. >> Okay, >> that's all we got. So, moving along. >> Okay, we back. >> We stepped away. We're like, okay, are.

we giving funky energy? We stepped away. We walked across the street on an. adventure. had three of the craziest. interactions I've had in quite some. time. >> We got some wine. I wouldn't even call. them crazy. They were just so odd. [laughter]. >> Like I I told Morgan I was standing. behind her and I like wanted to lean. over and look and see what Morgan's face. was doing cuz I was like, "Is she making. weird faces?". >> I was just smiling at the person. >> What are these people being? So. >> we went to three different stores and.

not a single person there. >> knew how to handle us. Um, it was like. everything we were saying was like like. I was like we went to a wine store, got. wine. I was like, "This place is so. cute. You have so many great wines. Like. you have so many good little snacks.". And I was just like, "Uh-huh." And then. Lauren was asking about a claw clip. And. you're like, "Who are these made by?". And she like said the name that was on. there. And I was like, >> "Is it is it like a small business?".

>> Small business. And she's like, "Everything here is a small or local. business." And I was like, "Yay.". >> Like I don't It was just so like. >> Well, it was like everywhere we went, it. was like, "You should know this. already.". >> Yeah. >> Like, "You should know this." And then. we went to a coffee place and I. literally went to the coffee place to. get. >> clear cups for the wine. >> And I was like, "Yeah, can I get uh two. shots of espresso and then like an oat. milk chaser?" [laughter]. It just it didn't go well. But everyone. everyone was nice, but just didn't she.

was like. >> they thought we were weird. She was. like, "Oat milk like on on the side.". And Morgan was like, "Yeah." And she's. like, "Okay, I guess sure." She's like, "Yeah, just. like in in a little espresso cup as. well." She's like. And then I asked for a cup. [laughter]. She's like, "Can I have like two cups. for water?" And she was like, "There's. cups over there and you can take as many.

as you want." [laughter]. >> And I was like, "What's happening?". Maybe she thought that I thought they. charged per cup. >> I don't know. I don't know. It wasn't It. wasn't the words she was saying. It was. the way that they were all saying the. words. It was so crazy. >> It was like as if they were like, "Um, you're like, "You good?". >> Yeah. She was so cute, too. I'm like I'm. like, "Did I scare you with my smile?". I don't know. Yeah, she didn't want to. smile. >> None of them were big fans of smiling,

[laughter]. but here we go. Got a couple more crazy, calculated, cruel ones. I've also got. more light-hearted ones towards the end. and a little bit of a crazy palette. cleanser maybe. So, >> let's get back in. Oh, so um I don't. drink coffee that often anymore. >> Usually have decaf. >> Uhhuh. So, >> are you shaking? What's happening? >> Yeah, I I am. >> I don't know if you see that.

>> It's very subtle. >> But my point is is that like if I start. getting like jittery and weird, like. just don't mind me. [laughter] Just. ignore us today. Focus on the stories. >> Yeah, exactly. [gasps] Okay, this next. one, this is coming from relationship. advice. My fiance, 27 female, ended our. engagement over text and exploded when. I, 27 male, accepted the breakup. I'm. numb trying to process how my engagement. evaporated over text last night. We've.

been together for 1 year and 8 months, engaged since October. She's bisexual. with two female exes, and she constantly. compared me to them. In those past. relationships, she was always the. masculine one. Early on, I told her it. was completely okay and that I accepted. that about her. But she never treated me. like a fiance. When she took me to hang. out with her friends, she wouldn't even. introduce me. She just told me I'm a. grown man and should interact with them. myself. >> H okay. >> I'm introverted and too shy to initiate.

without an introduction. So, I was just. left sitting there like a rock. That's. so mean. >> I had my shortcomings, too. I was. constantly stressed, managing a heavy. workload, paying bills, and financially. supporting my cousin through college. It. made me preoccupied and spaced out. Meanwhile, she always demanded weekend. travels, leaving me no money or time to. rest. The breaking point happened when. she had a female friend stay at our. house. For two nights, they cuddled in. bed. >> Knowing her history, I admitted it made.

me jealous and uncomfortable. She. brushed me off. I will do what I want to. do. Blah blah blah blah blah. Deal with. it. Okay. Communication shattered. We. had a massive fight on June 1st and she. checked out. I spent days begging her to. give us another chance, but she kept. saying she didn't love me anymore. Clearly, yesterday, completely. exhausted, I finally texted her that I. wanted to break up since I couldn't keep. chasing someone who didn't care. Tonight, she sent the final blow, telling me she doesn't love me and to. not waste her time. It broke me. But I.

didn't beg this time. I took the high. road. I calmly texted back accepting her. decision, apologized for my flaws, and. thanked her for everything. My calm. acceptance drove her insane. She. exploded into brutal personal attacks, text shouting, "You're proving me right. You're okay right away with the breakup. What the [ __ ] Where is your manhood?". Oh, wow. She called me a backboneless. boy who needs his mother, and no girl. would ever want me. And demanded I go.

tell her family we are over. Her text. was an emotional trap. She expected me. to crawl and beg again. When I acted. like an adult and accepted her boundary, she lost her leverage and lost her mind. I sent one final text. I told her to. enjoy her weekend and that I'm coming. over this Saturday to face her parents. directly, explained the breakup, get my. things, and return her motorcycle. She. immediately replied with more rage, blaming me for not fighting for her. I. left her on red. How do I handle facing.

her parents this Saturday to explain the. breakup? And how do I maintain my. boundaries if she shows up? [laughter]. Sorry. Um, wow. >> Have you ever explained your breakup to. someone's parents? >> No. >> I don't I I'd be like, I'm not doing. that. >> No. >> I just want my stuff. Here's your. motorcycle. Let's call it good. >> Um, Opie's ex [laughter]. scares me first of all.

scary. And. [laughter] I can't. if you have to look at Lauren's face for. that. Just like headshake, disheveled, just enraged, looking for the [laughter]. words. >> No, I was hoping you would cut that part. out. >> [laughter]. >> It was so like your expression though. says so much without saying nothing at. all. [laughter].

[gasps]. >> That espresso shots hidden, man. Wow. [laughter]. >> Oh my god. Um yeah, I mean. that's that's all I got for you guys is. nothing. [laughter]. So, what's that audio clip where it's. like, oh my god, it's like, God, there's an. audio that would just like be perfect. for that where it's like. a nothing sandwich or like, no, that's. Gordon Ramsay. I can't envision it and.

it's in there so deep where it's like. and you get nothing. [laughter] I don't. know. I don't know what's happening. Um, we're like chocolate wasted. Like we. didn't we took one sip of this wine, so. it's not that. It's the espresso. >> It's the espresso. Literally, it just. like hit my head. Now I'm sweating. >> And the odd interactions. [laughter]. >> Yeah. If this were me, I would really. set the boundary of like, hey, let's. meet on neutral turf and exchange goods. and then go our own ways. I mean,

>> you're together for a year and 8 months, engaged after just a year. moved pretty. quick, but it's clear that the. relationship is not respectful, not. healthy. >> And thank God you're learning this now. I mean, you guys are 27. A lot of. maturing to do. And. >> I think this is like dodging a bullet of. like your person who you thought you. were going to be with doesn't really. respect you. >> No. >> Doesn't treat you kindly, >> it's time to move on. >> Yeah. It already hurts me when people.

don't introduce me to other people, even. if they do it like completely on. accident. Like I did that, too. We. talked about this. >> Yeah, that one time. And like I I it. already makes me feel kind of like uh. like like awkward. But like if I were to. ask and then the person were to be like, "Grow up." I would be like, "No, I'm a. baby.". >> No, but that's that is actually social. etiquette. So that's something that like. I'm genuinely bad at and I know it. because I always go into a conversation. it's like to like agree. I was just.

>> No, no, no. It's something I really have. tried to work on because it's like when. do you like if you're like hey how are. you and you reconnect and then someone. else is with you. It's like when's the. appropriate time to be like okay before. we get any further this is my friend. Lauren. >> Lauren, this is Doug. Like how do you go. about that? And I actually got this. etiquette video of this instructor. teaching children how to make proper. introductions. And I'm like, >> can I sign up? And there's rules to do. it where you should repeat the name.

twice within a certain amount of time. and you say every name in whatever. specific order. And it's like it's. different depending on genders and which. you say first. And I'm like. >> there's actually a lot of rules and. techniques for introductions. >> But it's like that's the bare minimum. Like when it's your partner, you think. you would want to introduce them and be. like, "This is my boyfriend, right? This. is my fianceé." It almost feels like, "Oh, you want to hide me?". >> Well, I just can't imagine like like. turning around and being like, "Grow. up." I think that's so it's again it's.

just I and I do I recognize too that. like this is something that I do more. often than other people because I'll. host happy hours and so I will I want to. make sure that everybody who doesn't. know each other like feels comfortable. So, it's like become kind of ingrained. in me to make sure that like when a new. person enters the room that like even if. somebody's in the middle of their. sentence, like I'm I'm going to I'm. going to interrupt in order to let this. person feel comfortable because.

>> the the best thing is that everybody. there feels comfortable and feels known. So even if it's like I normally wouldn't. interrupt, but that's like the. init. So I realize a lot of people cuz like. even like my partner like um it doesn't. come natural to him either. Like it's. just it's not something that like he. normally like does on a daily basis. And. like honestly too with like with how. long we all were like. >> doing stuff virtually with with co and.

everything like even more so doesn't. come naturally to a lot of us. So um. feel that. Yeah. But for someone to. reach out and say please like intro like. introduce me asking so nicely. >> Oh my god. I that's just such a mean. response back. Um everything about this. is like there's not anything positive. here. There's the the lack of respect is. so loud. >> It's barking at us. >> Like why does that happen in. relationships too? Like where people.

just start losing respect for each. other. I think resentment. >> Yeah. >> I think your partner doesn't wash a. dish. Doesn't wash a dish and resentment. builds and then you don't respect them. anymore and it's like. >> Yeah. >> When you start feeling that. >> so true. That was like the the book um. that it talks about that. I know that. it's. >> John Gottman. >> Yeah, I know. >> And I I remember that part of the book. of where it was like that's exactly what. happens. It's these little moments of. resentment that build up over time and.

then once you like lose the respect in. the relationship, it's like it makes. everything really really hard. >> Yeah. The roach motel, as he calls it. Top comment, and they're just quoting. OP's examples. She had a female friend. stay at my house for two nights. They. cuddled in bed. I spent days begging. She doesn't love me. >> This was an absolute train wreck. Dude. bullet. >> Yeah. And I think that's another point. too where it's like she had a friend. over, stayed at my house, cuddled in bed.

for two days. >> I do think like you can do those things. with friends. Like if me and you were. cuddled up on the couch, I think that's. fine. >> But it's like they're in their bed and. your partner is saying like, "Hey, it's. just making me feel kind of. uncomfortable." Like. >> I don't know. You You still have to. respect your partner's feelings. Yeah. And I don't know like I don't I feel. like there's a difference between like. hanging out with your friend and like an.

closeness and like just a normal. friendship intimacy versus like they're. cuddling in bed. >> And so I'm like. >> I don't know kind of odd. >> Yeah. I mean, I think that again, it. just boils down to each relationship and. how each person feels because it's like, yeah, some people like I know like. sisters that will like cuddle before. falling asleep and it's just that's like. normal for them and like. >> so I think that if that was the only.

thing then OP probably wouldn't really. care but it's there's too many things so. then it feels just like a disrespect and. >> I've seen some weird stories on Reddit. lately with like sisters being naked in. bed together watching movies. Like some. guy was like my roommate and her sister. were naked in my bed watching movies and. I came home and I'm like there's been. like a lot of weird stories where I'm. like is that normal? >> I don't know. Honestly, >> my sister showering together all the. time. >> Yeah. >> Like just in like a normal like not a. gym, not like not at the gym like in a.

house bathtub shower setup. >> Yeah. >> I'm like it's not even fun showering. with your partner. One of you is always. cold. >> Yes. You're trying to share the water. awkwardly moving around. What happens if. you drop the soap? It's not fun. >> I don't know cuz I didn't I I never had. a relationship like that with like my. family members growing up. But like I. know some people do. So it's I don't. really have a say on it. Kind of like. I'm going to I'm going to maybe that's. my hot take for the day. I think it's. kind of weird. >> Yeah. I don't know. >> But then other people think it's weird. that some people have problems with. nakedness.

>> Yeah. That people have to sexualize. nakedness, which. >> I don't know. Whatever. I know naked. colonies are popping back up though. >> Well, to each their own. >> Would you go to one? >> Have you been to a naked beach? >> No. >> That is on my list. That's my first. stop. >> I would I don't want bottoms, though. I. want top off only. >> That Yeah. So, I mean, if everyone had. their bottoms off, then who cares? >> Yeah. My See, I don't think I would do.

that because there's, as we were talking. about earlier in the episode, everything. is being recorded. >> True. >> You just can't get away from it. And. like I don't need that being shared and. passed around. Like, >> no. >> No. >> Okay, friends. We're moving on to this. next one. >> Specifically for free. >> For free. >> No chance. >> Okay, this next one is one of the. weirder ones I think I've come across. lately. And this is definitely going to. be one where like determine if it's. intentional or not. Okay, so this is.

coming from Am I the [ __ ] It's. titled, "Am I the [ __ ] for shushing. my girlfriend in public? I was driving. with my girlfriend in the passenger seat. a few days ago. We were stuck at a busy. intersection in traffic. There was a. young woman trying to turn across the. traffic and seemed hesitant even though. there was a gap. So I waved her through. Instead of going, she slowly crept. forward and kind of froze. At that. point, another car was coming closer. So.

I waved more urgently and beeped my horn. once to basically say, "Go now." She. finally went, but really slowly, and got. t-boned by the oncoming car. Oh my god. [ __ ] [laughter]. Nobody was seriously hurt thankfully, but both cars pulled over. I stayed. because I have a dash cam and wanted to. give the footage to the cops and the. other driver. While we were standing. there waiting, my girlfriend suddenly.

said pretty loudly, quote, "You did that. on purpose." She started arguing with me. right there in front of everyone, saying. that I pressured the girl into going. when it wasn't safe. I immediately. shushed her because from the outside it. probably sounded like she was accusing. me of intentionally causing the. accident. I didn't want the cops or. drivers getting the wrong idea. The. driver passing through admitted fault. and was shaken up and crying, but did.

not accuse me of anything and said she. was a new driver. Oh, >> now my girlfriend's angry because she. says I embarrassed and silenced her in. public. She also brought up another. incident from a few months ago where I. waved someone through and there was. another accident afterwards. Oh my. Okay. [snorts] She claims I quote keep. doing this to young women specifically. and that it's messed up. I think that's.

ridiculous because I wave people through. all the time, including men, and I was. genuinely trying to help traffic move. along. She thinks the shushing was. disrespectful and controlling. I think. accusing me of intentionally causing an. accident in front of strangers was way. worse. Am I the [ __ ] I don't know if. everyone's going to disagree, but like. OP, you're pissing me off. [laughter]. Why? >> Because stop. I This is probably just a.

personal thing, but like I don't like. when other cars make me feel pressured. for anything. >> Mind your business on the road. >> Yeah. If if I'm taking, for example, if. I'm trying to take a left turn and I'm. and I don't have a arrow, I just have to. like wait until there's a space. >> halfway in the intersection and then you. Yeah. >> and then there's a car behind me that. that honks because there is an open. space. I'm like, if I don't feel. comfortable yet to zoom in front of this. car, if I feel like that car is going. too fast and I just don't want to have a.

close call, then just leave me be. Well, and also you might have a better visual. than I do. I'm closer up getting ready. for my turn. You're further back. You. might be able to see, >> but I need to be safe. I'm the car. that's out there trying to make the. turn. I need to be safe. Mind your. business back there. >> Right. And so, >> unless the light turns and I'm sitting. there in the intersection. >> and I'm doing and I'm Yeah. And I'm not. I'm just messing around and they know. that I'm like just not paying attention. But like I think that that's why this. just like makes me feel a certain way is.

because there's times where I've almost. gone. >> because I've felt pressured. Yeah. And. then it was like a little bit too late. to go at that point where if I went it. would be a close call, but I have this. knee-jerk reaction to do so. And then I. get frustrated cuz I'm like nobody. should be making like making you feel. pressured. So, even though OP's. intentions were likely pure and that. OP's partner is probably maybe like. jumping conclusions, but like for OP to.

have an accident happen once and then. continue to rush people in, like the. fact that he saw there was another car. coming and so then he's like, "Go, go, go." Like, no. At that point, be like, "Stop. There's a car coming." You just, you literally, somebody just got an. accident because you did the same thing. So maybe just put your hands down and. don't do anything. Just let the person. figure it out on their own. >> Just like don't try because you keep. because your attempt of helping is not. And even if you have a good heart, >> just just keep to yourself on this one.

for a while. >> Mhm. >> You're not a traffic guard. You're not a. traffic controller. What? I'm trying to. like think of the word for that. Like. what is it when someone's like out in. the intersection guiding traffic? >> Traffic controller is the thing. >> Okay. That's not your job. Mm-. >> And then it's like [laughter]. then you're like, "Okay, well, I'm going. to stay and involve myself and give them. my dash cam footage." And it's like, you. literally caused the accident. You. actually did cause it. And so, okay. And. that's going to show up on the dash cam. footage, too. You sitting there honking. >> Why did you feel the need to involve. yourself? And again, after you already.

caused an accident, just sit in your. car. >> If she's going slow, maybe it slows down. everything in that world a minute. >> Maybe you sit there one more light. cycle. Okay, 2 minutes. >> slows things down a lot more when people. get in accidents. Yeah, >> just sit down, keep your hands inside. the vehicle and remain calm at. >> all times. [snorts]. >> It is weird though, the shushing. Are. you the [ __ ] for shushing? It depends. on the shush. I honestly think that. there is some shushes that are so. offensive and actually me and one of our.

friends were just talking about this. Like there's there is a person who like. had that I dated that would shush me. that what? Yeah. that like I thought. >> in public. >> No, not in public, but it would be like. I don't know, let's say I didn't know. that they were doing something like. they'd be like on the phone or something. I didn't know and I'd like walk into the. room and start talking and the shush was. so aggressive that like I would like. feel it in my bones and I'm like like it. was such an angry shush and such an. aggressive shush that I'm just like I.

I'm not a baby. I don't like that at all. at all. [laughter]. Um, and then one of our friends had that. happen and she reached out to me cuz she. was like, "I know what you were saying. now. I I get what cuz it feels funny to. be like, "Oh, they shushed me and I'm. like hurt offended by it." But like it's. a type of really aggressive shush that. feels different. So that's. >> like I don't even want to do it cuz it's. Do it. >> No. No. No. >> Do it. No. >> I don't know if I'll be able to repeat.

it the same way. I don't want to. It's. too angry. >> It's that bad. Yeah. Anybody who's had. this happen will understand. What the. hell? It's not. Come on. Why is it that bad of. a shush? I don't know. Cuz it it'll. remind me of the times that it happened. [laughter] I don't like it. [gasps]. But anyway, so I Yeah. So that's why I'm. like, although I don't think OP's. partner should have been loudly saying. that in front of everybody that you did.

this, that should be a conversation. for another time. But I do understand if. OP did like a a really aggressive one, then like I get why the partner was. thrown off by that. Um, but sometimes. people are just like sh like don't and. it's not that big of a deal in my. opinion. Anyway, back to you. Back to. you, Morgan. [laughter] So, top comment. has been removed by the moderator at. this point, but the one after it says,

"Seriously, I can't stand with people. Ignore the rules of traffic flow to let. me in when there's a whole second lane. who might not be following suit. If you. have a rightway, just go and stop. forcing people to go on ahead of me." I. think the top comment was probably. making a reference to like you should. understand the rules of the roadway and. quit directing people. Like, let people. just follow the rules. >> Yeah. Okay, I'm glad. I thought that. everyone was gonna say the opposite, so. I'm glad that. >> Yeah. Someone says, "You're the [ __ ].

Stop waving people through. Two car. accidents within the space of a few. months is far more than the rest of us. are going around causing. That's not. normal." Next comment. You're the. [ __ ] I had a car totaled by another. car. Being waved through by some jackass. just like you. It's not your job to. conduct traffic, and you've already. caused two accidents by doing so. You. put people in such an uncomfortable. situation where like now they feel. pressured like they have to go because. the panic how he said that he started.

going really fast. No. Okay. I'm so glad. that people agree with me. I thought I. thought it was going to be the opposite. for some reason. >> No. Again, you're asking the wrong. question here. And maybe that's an. upcoming theme where it's like you're. asking the wrong question. You're not. the [ __ ] for shushing. You're the. [ __ ] for waving people through. And I. know that's not the question he asked. >> Mhm. But yes, you are the [ __ ] but. not for the question you're asking. You're you're asking the wrong question. It's going to be a theme I do soon. >> I like that. >> Everyone's just pissed about it. Stop.

waving people through intersections. You're the [ __ ]. >> Someone goes, "Oh my god, stop causing. accidents for content for your dash cam. channel.". >> Literally, >> I didn't even like think of that. >> Yeah, that's crazy. >> So, yeah, major [ __ ]. major [ __ ] Truly, I'm so happy. people feel that way because. I know. I'm going to see if there's any. comments from OP here.

We do have a couple comments. Info, do. you have a dash cam channel? Have you. put the videos of these accidents. online? >> Oh my god. >> OP goes, I do, but I've not yet put this. online. Also, I don't just share things. from my own dash cam on there. >> Oh, you are sick. >> He is purposefully causing these. >> I think the girlfriend's right. >> I think so, too. >> I think he's intentionally causing these. accidents. >> Totally. How would people pick that out.

of this? Like, I wouldn't even That. wouldn't have crossed my head that he's. got a dash cam channel, but it would. make sense why he's so egregiously like. involving himself in traffic issues. >> I wave people all the time. Oh, you are sick. Oh, yeah. Someone here. says, "Not the asshole." She should have. not said that. And she should be. embarrassed for trying to get you into. trouble. >> Shut up. >> In terms of like the girlfriend. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> It was safe when you waved the driver to. go. She just didn't go. And even if it.

wasn't, the driver would still be at. fault. I don't know what she means by. you keep doing this to young women. I'd. be asking her because her behavior was. unacceptable. Wrong. OP responds. >> She claims she has observed me. intentionally attempt to rush young. women when it is not clear and that I. somehow find it funny or do it to. generate content because I have a dash. cam channel. >> and that supposedly if it were a man or.

older person, I'd have waved them to. stop instead. >> I believe her. >> I believe her 100%. >> Mhm. There's another comment. She tries. to claim that I always intentionally. lure and rush women into such situations. and find it funny or something. >> Sicko. >> I honestly think this person is like. getting off by like even posting this. here. I. >> I think so too. >> I was screaming in my car one time like. the most I mean nobody was around at.

this point and I'll get to the reason. why because I was in this really really. long long line. It was weird how the the. roads like like forked off and so I. didn't realize that this highway like. split into two and that I had to be on. the right. So I'm going along on this. left side and then my GPS lets me know I. need to get over and I had I couldn't. get over for so all of the cars were so. close to each other and I was trying to.

like find anywhere in and there was. another car that was doing that too. So, this car finally gets a spot in. And I. was thinking since this car just dealt. with this, they'll let me get through, too. They like they did the same thing. as me. This was a zipper merge. I don't. know what that means. >> Okay. But so anyway, I'm like I'm trying. to get over and then this like it's like. this. truck that I don't know. [sighs and gasps]. literally. move like like pretends to let me go in.

like gives me a bunch of space and then. like rears into me or like pretends to. rear into me like swerves to the left. super hard and then I had to like swerve. to the left to dodge this person and. then they I look over like what just. happened. Like, why would you do that? Like, I was so shocked. And this person. and the person in the car in the seat. next to him laughing their asses off, belly laughing so hard. And it was at. the very end I couldn't get in. So, I.

had to go in the highway that was free. and drive longer. It was like a really. long highway, too. I was going to. Coachella and so I'm I wasn't familiar. with the roads either. So anyway, that. entire long stretch that I'm just. driving by myself, I was screaming. because it was so unsettling that like. somebody would mess with somebody in. their car like that to get enjoyment, to. pretend to let me in and then completely. like ran into me. When this person, it's. not like this person had been sitting in.

a long line and was pissed off. This. person did the same thing as me where. they like I assumed accidentally didn't. realize that that was where I wasn't. trying to be. It was like a split where. the two highways split and then you have. a limited amount of time to get. >> Exactly. And like I wasn't trying to be. sneaky and like miss the lines. I didn't. know. >> You can't try to get in the first chance. either because then you back up traffic. You kind of have to maintain your flow. and then get over and that's the way of. the road. >> But I was So that's the thing is that. this person in in front of me was trying. to do the same thing. Find a spot where.

they could get in. >> It was the weirdest thing. >> I don't respect cars and like cars can. be weapons. Well, the. >> cars are very. >> that's what that's why I thought it was. that's why I was like screaming in my. car because I just can't believe that. people could think that's a funny thing. Like to scare the [ __ ] out of me. It's. weird. >> Like in a car and think that that's. hilarious. Like I'm like you're sick. And that's what this person has reminded. me of which is why I'm like I mean maybe. it's innocent but like. >> I don't know.

>> Not a good case for me right now. I'm my. personal experiences are making me not. like Obie. >> Yeah. No, I think he's an [ __ ] I do. think he's doing it purposefully for his. dash cam content channel. >> Sick. >> And someone should report him. Like he. should actually get his license. suspended for a little bit and. >> simmer down. >> If you're the person that was in this. accident and you're listening to this, like you should sue him. >> You said that he sent you the stuff. Like. >> I know. Follow up on his dash cam and. like let us know if you think that it's. sketch. You should. Okay, moving along.

to this next one. This is coming from. r/petty revenge titled, "After being. left out of multiple family trips, I. went on my mom's dream vacation to. Scotland. My mom is constantly taking. trips with my sister, her husband, and. their kids. I'm always the one they ask. to watch their house and animals while. they're gone. I've always felt left out. of family vacations and that my mom.

prefers my sister over me. I recently. saved up enough money to take a trip of. my own. My mom has always wanted to go. to Scotland. It's like a life dream for. her. I decided that I was going to take. my own vacation to Scotland. And for a. companion, I chose my aunt, who is my. mom's least favorite sister and the only. family member that supports me. My mom. is constantly arguing with my aunt, probably because she's always been. jealous of her lifestyle. Aunt is very. wealthy. Of course, my mom begged me to.

take her instead, but I absolutely. refused her, stating my reasons, never. being included in her trips and using me. as a dog/housitter. I made sure to send her updates of. everywhere I went and sent all of my. pictures to her daily. [laughter]. justifiable calculated cruelty. Yeah, I. like this one. I do like it. I I bet it. feels good. I've just been thinking a lot though.

about how when people wrong us, we spend. a lot of time wanting the other person. to think a certain way or like be hurt. because they've hurt us. And I don't. know, like lately I've just real like. thought about the fact that like if we. all instead just like forgot that person. existed and then went off and lived our. best life and focused on what what we. want to do differently. Like okay, if we. see signs of that person of a person. treating us like this again, how can we.

maneuver differently? like and really. focused on like what makes us happy and. like instead of like focusing on how can. we hurt the person who hurt us. I'm like. what could humanity be a really healed. and healthy take? >> No. Cuz I do think a lot of times we. give so much thought to people that. genuinely don't care. >> Yeah. >> Like they don't care that they wrong us. They don't even realize that they're the. problem. They are just so selfdiluted in. their own head. >> You're an afterthought. Yeah.

>> Why are you letting them dictate your. feelings, your life, whatever? >> I think I would use this as a reset. >> Mhm. >> You got a little bit of a petty revenge. Super satisfactory. Now move forward and. >> go onward. Don't housesit. Don't dogsit. >> They're not going to use you as this. free labor and then. >> bye. Yeah. like don't do it. You also. have the power to say no.

>> So, choose your own destiny. Grab life. by the horns. >> You went to Scotland. You got your petty. revenge. Maybe she'll think twice going. forward, but if not, [ __ ] it. And don't. help them out, >> right? Move on with your life. Family. can be chosen. >> Yeah. Because the only because the only. thing that makes me a little bit sad. about this is like how often were you. thinking about this is going to be great. content in spite of you know my parent. and then taking it in with that as the.

motivation and then that kind of takes. over a lot of your like the space in. your head over this amazing trip that. you have. So. >> yeah, don't like I hope you did enjoy. the trip and didn't give it that much. space like you didn't let your mom take. up more space than she's worth. Yeah, exactly. You You'd hope, but like that's. my that's my only concern about stuff. like this is like. >> I wouldn't want that to be now like the. >> head force. >> Yeah. Like the headline of the trip was. that like I got back at my mom. But um. but I also think like I mean sometimes.

people do things to kind of send a. message in relationships that they still. do care about. So like maybe this is. something that now maybe your mom will. be like, "Wow, okay, now I see how it. feels. Now this will make me think." So. if that's. >> what I was saying like I hope it gets. her thinking and she thinks about this. going forward, >> right? So I'm like if that's the. motivation then like and and you think. that that is a possibility then I think. it's like good strategy. >> Um I just think that like if it's if. it's if you're starting to think it's a. person that maybe you need to distance. yourself from and like maybe it's not.

like the healthiest dynamic then and you. want to let go of them to just really. let go. But [clears throat] this is a. parent so I guess this is completely. different. So forget everything I said. No, stop doubting yourself, you. goofball. Top comment on this one. Good. for you. I hope you and your aunt had an. epic adventure. OP responded, "We had a. blast. Thank you.". >> Next comment, "And even if things. improve between you and your mom, please. don't forget about your aunt. She sounds. like a real one.".

>> Yeah. >> OP says, "She definitely is and we've. always been close." Next comment down, "The best revenge is a life well-lived.". Someone responds to that. Doesn't hurt. to season the food. Rub it in. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. But did OP even want to go to. Scotland or was this a spite vacation? Larry David would be proud. Someone. goes, "Who wouldn't want to go to. Scotland? Amazing country, great. people." Yeah. So, I actually just. posted an Instagram, which I want to do. more often. I want to do jogging.

Instagram or jogging videos and post. them on Instagram like once a week just. to inspire me to go outside more often. >> There you go. >> And somebody commented on this one that. I just posted because I talked about how. happy I am that the sun stays out until. 8:00 p.m. And they were like, "You. should come to Scotland. It stays out. until 11:00." And I have wanted to go to. Scotland or Norway. like just I I'm my. my.

greatgrandparents, great great. grandparents are from Norway and. Scotland and so I've always wanted to. see those countries and um specifically. during the time where it's just like. light. >> Yeah. No, there's a lot of places like. Iceland is light for like 23 hours a. day. >> Insane. >> I mean, I love it. >> Zora Larson, Midnight Sun, baby. >> Yeah, >> it's cuz the sun is out at midnight. >> We were just listening to that song in. the coffee shop. >> I love it. >> Yeah, >> I love this. a lot of positive comments. that um aunt is just super fun.

>> to be around and uh. >> love that. >> someone goes, "Did you ask your mom to. housesit?" And OP goes, "No, but that. would have been the ultimate revenge. I. wish I had thought of it.". >> So, this is this is a good one. Okay, this next one is coming from Am I the. [ __ ] Titled, "Am I the [ __ ] for. having our kids make a list of things my. wife does that they don't like?" Oh, I. really didn't think when this happened. that I would be posting this. My wife. and I are both 39 and have a 9-year-old.

and a 6-year-old. On Friday, my. 9-year-old went to a friend's house, and. when I picked him up, he was complaining. that my wife still calls him baby in. front of his friends. Okay. Then he said. his friend's mom doesn't make them be. under supervision when using the. trampoline. also that his friend's mom. doesn't make his friend wear sunscreen. supposedly. I told him that he should. make a list of stuff that my wife does. that bothers him. Maybe she just doesn't.

know that it bothers him. So, he did. And since our six-year-old saw him doing. it, she decided to make a list of her. own. But her list was 99% things that. she just doesn't like doing that has to. be done anyways. The kids then gave. their lists to my wife. This was not. discussed with wife prior. Mistake number one, buddy. [laughter]. And probably told her that I told them. to do it since my wife was immediately.

mad at me for telling them to make a. quote passive aggressive list. [laughter]. I'd be so annoyed. She actually seemed. really in her feelings about it. And I. told her that if she didn't take it as. personal, she could actually look at the. complaints and know where to change. At. least for the 9-year-old. We sat there. for 2 hours watching a show in silence. As in, she didn't want to talk to me. Wait, nowhere to change. Didn't the.

Didn't they say they don't want to wear. sunscreen? This was some time ago, but she was. still kind of sore about it the. following day. Am I the [ __ ]. Yes. Yes, you are. Come on, buddy. >> Buddy. >> Yes. If my husband told my kids, "Make a. list of the [ __ ] your mom does that you. hate.". >> I'd be like, "You [ __ ] [laughter]. >> I birthed these little gremlins. I've. raised them. I make sure they're safe.". Yeah. 9-year-old on a trampoline. Those.

things snap necks all the time. Sunscreen. Like, I'm keeping you safe. and you're going to then make a list. about how I'm a horrible mom. That would. be a dagger to the heart. There's so. many things that are annoying about. this. And the worst part is that OP is. probably like, "This is such hands-on. parenting." I think you could have been. on to something if you went to with your.

wife and were like, "Let's sit down with. these kids and be like, "Express. yourself to us. How do you feel?" and. then we'll hear you out and then we'll. we'll discuss the reasons why we do the. things we do and you know we'll have a. conversation about it like maybe like. maybe that could kind of go down well. but like. this dude and then and then the. confusion afterwards like what I do yeah. sir you know it's hurtful.

>> here's the thing and this is how I will. try to tackle things in an ideal world. not a parent yet. >> Yeah. >> You know, but you hear that from people. that have grown up in really happy homes. with parents that just love each other. that the best thing their parents did, I'm like, I don't know what that's like. says with venom. I'm jealous. [laughter]. But the best thing that their parents. did was always be on each other's side,

always be a team. >> There was never this pitting against. each other. And so as a dad, you know, when the child's coming to you and being. like, "Johnny's mom lets us jump on the. trampoline alone and Johnny's mom. doesn't make him wear sunscreen." That's. where it's your job to be your wife's. advocate in that moment and be like, you. know, we do that to make sure you're. safe. We love you. Your mom really loves. you and she's just trying to make sure. you're safe. >> You'll realize someday what it's all. about. Sunscreen's important. Yeah, it's. annoying to put on, but it's important.

>> and that's your job as a parent, >> right? >> His feelings, you know, he's entitled to. his little feelings, and yay for. communicating them, but um you also have. to like redirect and be like, you know, >> that's fair that your mom does those. things. It's important you explain to. him that maybe he's lacking education. >> Yeah. Yeah. Uh, and that and and maybe. even just like every parent is going to.

parent a little bit differently and. there's. well I don't even want to say there's. nothing wrong with that because then. they could end up in a situation where. it's something wrong with it and they're. like there's nothing wrong with this. >> But didn't you hear that growing up too. where it's like well. >> Blank's mom lets us stay up until. midnight. >> Yeah. >> I'm not Blank's mom. Like my mom always. used that when I wanted to be like I. want to go here. I want to do this or. >> so and so's mom lets them do it. And. it's like, "Do I look like so and so's. mom?". >> That was that was probably the everyone. who hung out with me at my house, that's.

probably the conversations that they had. with their parents when they went, "Do I. [laughter] look like Lauren's mom? Why. does why why does Lauren's mom let us. eat all this candy?" Like, [laughter]. [gasps]. >> all that. So, that's funny. Um, what's. next? What happened? >> Well, OP has since deleted his account. Oh, overall vote was [ __ ] Yeah, >> big red badge at the top there. Top. comment, you're the [ __ ] For. teaching your kids that this is good. communication and for not being a team.

with your wife. You've just shown your. kids they don't have to respect her. because you don't. >> Ooh. He was like, "Delete, delete, delete. I. do not need my wife to find this.". >> Next comment. Yes. And especially when. the kid was complaining about things. like not wearing sunscreen. Shouldn't OP. be backing up his wife there? Also much. better to just tell him that different. families have different rules. >> OP is an [ __ ] [sighs and gasps]. >> and an idiot. Don't forget the idiot. part. You're the [ __ ] That's not. effective parenting. Nor is it teaching.

effective communication. You should have. explained why sunscreen is important and. why your wife wants them to be. supervised while using the trampoline. For the baby comment, you could have. coached your son in how to approach your. wife to be like, "Hey mom, it's. embarrassing when you call me baby in. front of my friends. Can you please stop. that?". >> Yeah. Jesus, you're the [ __ ] Now. have the kids make a list of everything. they love about her. Then send her on a. weekend mom trip while you watch those. kids. That's a start. Yeah. Someone. goes, "What the [ __ ] You told your kids.

to make a list of things they don't like. about your wife instead of explaining. why they need to wear sunscreen and be. supervised on a trampoline?" [laughter]. [gasps] Exactly. Um, someone goes, "I. would struggle to ever respect my man. again if he took feedback from children. and used it to form a strategy for my. behavior change.". >> Literally, >> cuz that's the point too where he's. like, "You should just take it as. feedback, babe, so you can in, you know, change your behavior.". >> That was the worst part. It's like, is.

is this a job review? Like, no. >> A performance review. Performance. review. That's what it feels like. actually. That's a really good. comparison. M there is one comment here I see. Yeah, you're the [ __ ] for not siding with. your wife for basic parenting things. like putting on sunscreen and basic. supervision around a trampoline. You. sided with your 9-year-old child over. your wife over completely legitimate. parenting things. >> Yeah. >> And OP responded and it's been downvoted. 671 times. I didn't say I disagreed on.

the sunscreen and supervision thing, though. >> Okay. >> If you didn't disagree, then why didn't. you just tell your kid that in the. moment? >> Yeah. Literally, just. >> why are you letting your wife be the bad. guy? Exactly. That's what I was about to. say. It's like and that that's an issue. a lot with parenting is like the one. there's one parent who wants to be. >> the fun parent, >> the fun parent and the good guy and that. like the good girl or whatever that the. kids just like. >> and it's and it sucks because there. needs to be a parent.

>> There needs to be actually both parents. that care about the safety and all of. that. And it really sucks when that. dynamic happens like and yeah, unfortunate. So hopefully this is a. lesson for OP and everyone else who. obviously being the fun parent would be. fun, >> but it's very unfair. >> Oh, dude. I already know I'm not going. to be the fun parent. >> I You guys are both going to be a united. front though. There's no problem there. >> Yeah.

>> Yeah. Like there's there's that. I have. no concerns about that. I don't. [laughter]. um there are some relationships. [laughter]. where where I do worry about there being. a fun parent and then there being the. one who has to like. >> Oh [laughter] yeah, you definitely have. to worry. >> Yeah. >> No, I think he'd balance it out. >> Yeah. >> He'd be he's very on your team when it. comes to you. He's so on your team that. I think he'd he'd be fine. >> Yeah. He'd be he might be a little slow.

to grasp it and just be like, >> "Yeah, that's really Yeah, good point.". And then you'd look at him and be like, "Just kidding.". >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> No, you'd be good. >> Okay. >> But I would love to hear any like parent. horror stories. Like I've talked about. this. I think. >> I feel like it's been on Patreon, but. I'm definitely having baby fever and I'm. like, >> "Are you. >> okay?" Yeah. >> Whoa. >> Yeah. We've talked about this a little. bit, but I didn't know fever. I didn't. know. Let me see your forehead. I. [ __ ] see a baby and I'm like, I want.

one. Really? Kaylin's baby's 6 months. old and he's like got a little. personality now and it's kind of like. more conscious and aware and I'm like, yeah, he looks fun. See, first 6 months, that's the thing is like. >> it's such a long stretch to get there. Yeah. >> Before I I mean, of course, I think. babies are cute, but like anytime I talk. to a parent with a newborn, they're. like, >> "Oh, no. It's horrible. It's definitely. horrible.". >> And so then I'm like, "You're in the. trenches." Ooh. I'm like, am I ready to. go through? Like, who knows what. pregnancy is going to feel like. And so,

>> is anyone ready though? >> No. They always say no. But like, no. I. know. I want the baby, but the birth is. still really freaking me out. And I saw. a Tik Tok today where someone was like, I asked a woman to describe birth, and. she basically said that it was like a. full moon and she was the werewolf. transforming. And I'm like, >> uh-huh. And then someone went in the. comments of that video and they go, I. had a C-section. And it basically was. like someone I was the purse and they. were digging around the purse looking. for something small and tiny. And I go, "What the [ __ ] do I do with both of.

those?". >> I don't What do I do with either of. those things? >> Going to be honest. Kind of like the. werewolf one. [laughter]. Don't love the purse. >> No, it's horrifying. And then someone. underneath it shared. >> I know how that feels. I hate it. No, but then someone underneath shared a. picture of a taxi dermade squirrel purse. and they go, "This is what I felt like.". And I'm like, "You guys are making this. horrible." So I Why is Where did the. squirrel come from? I don't know, but I. need positive affirmations about. positive bursts and hypno breathing and.

I want fun, chaotic parenting stories. I. need a full explanation on the squirrel. >> I'll find it again. >> Drink that back up. >> I'll find it. Yeah, >> it was a squirrel purse and she said she. felt like that. >> She felt like a squirrel. >> She felt like the squirrel purse. a. squirrel. That's just adding a level that I don't. understand. >> This was the picture. This was the. picture she shared. She said, "I felt. like this. It's a squirrel that's a. purse." I don't like that. I don't like. it at all. I hate it. I absolutely hate. it. But then it's so funny cuz then like.

after they they convince you for me like. after like people like make me they see. that I'm terrified and they're like, "Oh, but it's the best thing in the. entire world." And I'm like, >> "You're just saying that. >> Am I supposed to believe you? >> You don't suffer alone. [laughter]. I know. I know. I know. I'm like, I. think it's going to be next year. But. then everyone got me freaked out about. the year of the ram. They're like, you. don't want a baby in the year of the. ram. >> Oh, don't buy into that stuff. >> It's very important. >> What is it? What is What's they want a.

year? >> They're a passive follower of a person. >> Allegedly. >> Am I a [ __ ] ram? Did I get born in. the ram year? Sometimes I wish I was a. little bit more. less passive. >> [laughter]. >> You're [snorts] a rooster. Oh, I knew. that actually. Water rooster. I do like. water. What is What is the rooster. though? I'm a wood dog if you just. wanted to know. Water roosters are the. most intellectual, compassionate, and. adaptable of all the roosters. Blending.

the signs natural sharp focus with the. fluidity of the water element. Mhm. >> They are charismatic communicators who. excel at rallying people together. without coming across as demanding or. rigid. >> I'll take it. Seems pretty positive to. me. [laughter]. Adaptable, intuitive, compassionate, sociable, exceptional communicators, intellectual, and curious. Very curious. I literally can't go to bed these days. without searching a million things.

>> I like that. Um, wood dogs. I'm like, you got me over here curious. It's a. working memory though. Like I like I the. amount of things that I research and. then I like. >> either forget or I don't know how to. reexplain it. >> But like I am constantly asking. questions and researching things like. that. >> So you're very curious. >> Yeah. Very curious. >> Very curious. >> Wood dogs cooperative, team focused, highly ethical, strong moral compass, can't stand unfairness. Can't stand.

unfairness is actually like one of my. core traits. It comes up in every. personality test. Yeah. >> I thought it was just the autism, >> but maybe it's the wood dog. >> Maybe it's the wood dog. Yeah. >> Generous and warm, practical, resilient. >> You are very resilient. >> I'm a scrappy [ __ ]. >> You are so scrappy. [laughter]. >> Uh, okay. So, let me know about the year. of the ram and if I should have a baby. next year because. >> yeah, >> it's been a consideration. >> I I actually Let's scare her. >> Let's do a poll. Let's scare her so we. can have a baby next year. Let's scare.

her so that it's so that it's 2 years. from now because then maybe I will be. more ready and then we could have our. babies around the same time and it's so. fun to be friends. >> That would be ideal honestly. What is. next year? Next year is 2027. >> Mhm. >> So the following year would be 2028. It's the year of the monkey. >> Earth monkey. >> Earth monkey. >> That does sound really good. >> That does sound pretty cool. >> Uh does anyone else like. The Last Airbender Avatar? >> I love Little Egg. Did you watch the.

live version? >> No. >> Oh, it's so good. And there's a new one. coming out. >> I started re-watching the first one. It's just so good. >> Okay. >> Love it. You love it. >> I'm going to be honest. >> Earth Monkey sounds sick. >> It does. >> Intelligence, versatility, adaptability. >> Yeah. >> People born with these years are. typically witty, curious, inventive, problem solvers. >> That's the one. [ __ ] [laughter]. >> Earth monkey, man. Okay. [gasps]. So, when does that put me?

>> March, add 9 months. Okay. Okay. I can. do an Earth monkey. >> Okay, cool. But you got to you got to be. you got to hustle then. >> Yeah. Yeah, you're right. >> Snap snap. Get mentally prepared. >> What's the last day? Like, what's my. cutout? What's my deadline? >> Um, Earth Monkey begins January 26, ends. February 12th, 2029. >> Oh, okay. We can make that happen. [laughter] We. got this.

Okay, let's lighten this up at the end. of the episode here, shall we? >> Let's lighten this up. So, this is. coming from Am I overreacting? Titled, "Am I overreacting? My 32 female. husband 34 male farted on my mom.". >> M not overreacting. >> [laughter and gasps]. >> My mother has been chronically depressed. since I was 6 years old, and I started. using humor early on to cheer her up. As. a result, our relationship is marked by.

utter silliness. I always aim to make. her laugh, especially via slapstick, which she loves. I've been with my. husband for about 4 years. My mom and. him aren't very close, mostly because we. live a few hours from her and don't get. to see her very often. They also don't. FaceTime or call unless necessary. Over. time, he's understood our motherdaughter. dynamic. He always hears me goofing. about with her and recognizes her as a. kind, warm woman. He also knows about.

her depression. However, when we visited. her this past weekend, my husband did. the unfathomable. Things were going fine initially. We. were exchanging jokes and the overall. vibe was warm. But while returning from. the bathroom about an hour in, my. husband literally bent over her side of. the couch and ripped a monstrous fart in. her direction. He chuckled and walked away like it was.

a genius move. >> He did it on purpose. >> Oh, [laughter]. I could not believe it. I kid you not. My mom literally had a look of horror. like when she heard that her chinchilla. had to be put down. >> When he realized his fart bit didn't. land, he apologized profusely. But that. didn't fix anything because the rest of. the visit was excruciatingly awkward and.

quiet, interspersed with reality TV. sounds. I knew my mom's depression was. biasing her towards thinking the fart. was malicious. Unfortunately, I was so. shocked that I couldn't spit out an. excuse on his behalf right then. On his. end, he was completely checked out. When. my husband and I got back in the car, I. went berserk on him, pressing him on why. he thought it was okay to fart on my sad. mother. He [laughter].

explained that he thought she enjoyed. that type of humor. [laughter]. I had to explain that their relationship. was not like our 32-year-old. motherdaughter relationship and that he. did not have free license to fart on my. mother. [laughter] Additionally, throughout my life, I have done all. sorts of slapstick comedy, but never. that. I called her after we got home. As. expected, she thought he had farted out.

of hatred, but was okay after I. explained everything. I am taking distance from husband for. the next couple of days as I wrap my. head around this incident. I am still. pretty upset. He said he's taking some. time to reflect and has been sympathetic. towards my needing space. Huh. >> Edit: The fart was dealt about a foot. away from her face for those who are. wondering. Oh my god. I was about to say. like I feel like they're kind of blowing.

this out of proportion. Like it's just a. fart and like it was accidental. really. thought he was trying to be funny, but. then to know that he literally walked up. to where she was on the couch and farted. a foot from her face. Like, I know it's a I know it's a rumor, but like don't give me pink eye. I don't. You just came out of the bathroom. Did. you just Did you forget to [ __ ] while. you were in there? >> I don't understand because like I do. understand people thinking farts are. funny. I mean, they are funny. Um, [laughter] but like but like.

unless you really know the person and. know that they'll think it's funny, then. that is a risky move. >> Yeah. What I Okay, [laughter] so I will. say one of my favorite favorite Tik Tok. channels to watch is this guy that goes. around New York City. >> pretends to fart and farts. It's. hilarious. >> I actually think his farts are real. >> I don't think so. >> I think his farts are real. can fart. like that. >> I think he eats a lot of dairy. I. genuinely think his farts are real. >> I eat a lot of dairy.

>> I It It sounds too real to be a fart. machine. And the way people react where. they start plugging their nose, I think his farts might be real. And. maybe I'm I am I know I'm gullible, but. like. >> like I don't know. But I love the fart. Like awkward interactions. I just love. how you pause that. I love the fart. >> But I love the fart. >> [laughter]. >> I I just find farts funny. >> Just end the episode. >> Not when I do them. Not when I do them. I'm not My farts I'm scared about them.

I'm embarrassed by them. >> No, farts are hilarious. >> The right context. >> He could have done something funny. Not. farted in her face. But if he just like. walked in the living room and like. tooted and then go, "Oops, got to go. back in there." [laughter] I don't know. Like he just came out of the bathroom. Like maybe he had some unfinished. business. But to go up to someone and. fart in their face. >> in their face. >> But okay, I will say though that to take. space for a few days is like feels very.

>> for for manipulative mean. I don't even know if I would say it's. manipulative because I think that it. sounds like OP is genuinely like needs. some space. not like a I'm gonna because. if it was manipulative like it might be. more of uh less of a conversation and. just like a ghosting, you know, >> but OP like communicated and OP's. partner understood. So like I think. because that was there clearly OP. actually wanted the space in like a. communicative healthy type of way. But.

I you they they recognize they're wrong. They apologized. They were trying to. mimic you. Like they were trying to be. He wanted to be a part of the family. >> He wanted to be like you. >> He wanted to fit in with your family. >> I have a hard time with fart shaming. Just kidding. [laughter]. >> No, I actually do get. >> so pissed at an inappropriate fart. Like. I'm I'm like. >> really. You have a farter, don't you?

>> I I'm like how. >> I don't have one. How How do you think. that? No. Like I. >> Yeah, I don't have one. I've had to have. a few conversations. >> Oh my god. >> Yeah. >> Damn. He's lighting it up. >> So, I do understand being offended by a. fart like and an inappropriate fart. Like, I get that feeling. >> But at the same time, like he explained. where he was coming from. >> Exactly. >> Let's give him a little more grace here. >> Top comment. Quote, "Pressing him on why. he thought it was okay to fart on my sad.

mother is an amazing sentence.". [laughter]. >> I know. I know. I'm so glad. It was okay. to fart on my sad mother. [laughter]. >> Next comment. Also, >> I'm going to write a book with that. being the title. >> Why do you think it was okay to fart on. my sad mother? >> Yeah, [laughter and gasps]. >> it has a ring to it. >> Yeah. >> Next comment. Also, quote, she thought. he had farted out of hatred. >> Can you imagine thinking someone. literally just farted on you because. they hate you? >> Yes. What [laughter] are you going.

through? What happens to you? >> [gasps]. >> Well, just end it there. I can't imagine. that. [laughter]. >> Oh my god. >> No, I'm just being dramatic. >> The concept of farting out of hatred. Yeah, I'm hoping OP doesn't update just. so it will make it to bore you and I can. use this as my flare. Let's see. Um, no update from OP yet. Seemingly a.

pretty real Reddit account though, almost a year old. a part of some uh. some streaks and various subreddits. But. um yeah, are you overreacting? >> No one's giving not overreacting or. overreacting. They're all just. responding. to the funniness of it. Someone goes. crazy that he still had a massive fart. in the barrel when returning from the. toilet.

>> That's what I'm saying. >> That's what I was saying. Yeah, that's. what you were saying. You're right. [laughter]. >> Trying to take credit. >> No, like I didn't mean it like that. I. just meant like totally. >> Yeah, but it's like did do you have some. unfinished business? [gasps]. >> Like you know when you at least this is. something my mom said to me like I'd be. just tooting all over or my dad would. say it all the time too. I'd just be. ripping it and he goes, "Do you have to. go to the bathroom?" [laughter]. >> Like how was your parents always said. that to you? Yeah. >> Do you have to go to the bathroom?

[laughter]. >> Yeah. Yeah. It's like kind of like a cue. like, "Hey, >> maybe you need to all seven years old.". And you're like, "No, you noticed.". >> Yeah. >> Someone goes, "He said he was sorry and. feels bad. It's up to you to either. accept his apology or not. The bigger. issue is that you seem to feel. responsible for your mom's emotions. That isn't healthy for you or her. I. hope she's getting real help." And that. you get help for your codependency and. enabling. >> A lot of people then agree to that and. keep chiming in. >> Please update on how his reflection goes. and what he learned. why he thought it.

was okay to fart on my sad mother. Oh my. [ __ ] god, I cannot. I'm laughing so. hard at this. Let it go. Someone. responds, "He did. That's the problem.". [laughter]. [gasps]. >> Um, here we go. You're overreacting. He. misjudged the situation and surely he. has learned his lesson. Honest, forgivable mistake. >> I feel like that's my gut, too. >> Mhm. >> I do feel like taking multiple days. Multiple days. >> I know.

>> Not just an evening. I love you. I just. I need to reflect on this. I just want. some alone time tonight. >> Multiple days. Are you going to divorce. over your husband farting on your mom? >> On your sad mom. >> On your sad mom. >> Oh, you're in front of a judge. Ma'am, why would you like to get divorced? You. know, irreconcilable differences. He. farted on my sad mother. >> Yeah. [laughter]. >> Hey, people have divorced over less. I'm. sure. >> that's true. But does he deserve the D? >> I don't know. He seems remorseful.

>> No, I don't think he deserves the D. >> No, we're overdue for a give him the D. We haven't said that in a long time. >> Give him the D. >> That reminds me back in the day, though, when people were like, you guys just. [laughter] we've always jumped to. divorce. You guys don't know. And we're. like, yeah, we don't. We didn't come. here on this podcast to know things. [laughter] Okay. They give mics to anyone, you know. >> Yeah. >> You just go online and you buy it. You.

don't have to fill out an application. It's not like adopting a dog. They just. let you have them. If you think that. we're stupid, we are. >> No, no, no, no. [laughter]. If you if you think that we're stupid. because we come in on here and we talk. about stupid topics, you're stupid. because you came to a podcast that talks. about stupid topics and you thought that. we were going to be here being smart. [laughter] You're stupid. We're not. stupid. >> I like that. Okay. Thank you. We're. capitalizing on our on our dumb moments.

and you're over here calling us stupid. for talking about stupid topics. Don't come to a stupid topic podcast and. try to get smart. >> Thank you. If you get smarter from this. podcast, that's a win. But don't expect. to. >> Yeah. What's that saying? What's that. one saying? It's like don't don't don't. come to a a gun show with a knife. What's that saying? Yeah. >> Don't come to a.

>> Don't come to a sword fight gunfight. >> Don't come to a. >> gunfight with a with a knife. >> Wait. See, this is what we're talking. about. [laughter]. >> Um, >> it's like bringing a knife to a. gunfight. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yes. >> So, it's like. >> Yes. I'm literally. >> Don't come here expecting something. you're not going to get. >> I'm not a psychologist. >> I didn't listen to this episode, but I. was looking at the comments. >> No, I was laughing so hard. >> I know what [laughter] I know exactly.

what one. I couldn't sleep with myself. I need to go find that. Please someone. send me the time stamp. I was crying. laughing at that comment. >> I said, >> well, it was Sarah Sherman [laughter]. and I don't even think she gave me a. funny look. I I think she was so nice. about it, but I was like, I wouldn't be. able to sleep with myself. [laughter]. >> Clearly, but apparently the one husband from the. first story thinks masturbation is.

cheating, so maybe I could sleep with. myself. Yeah. [laughter]. My point is is that we are smart because. we capitalize off of our our dumbms. We're smart girls with dumbisms. [laughter]. >> I feel like dumbisms isn't like we need. something really good. >> No. >> Like we need something really good. Like. >> what? >> It's not coming to me. It's not coming. to me. But there's like another like. >> idio idiot. There's something there. >> There's something there. >> Okay. It's like a blonde moment, but not.

like it's there's going to be a word. that we create. >> We need to have something that we create. for our silliness, our goofy moments, our lapse in brain power that we can get. into Webster. >> So, let's all think about that. That's. going to be a team effort. [laughter]. >> All the little hotties out there. >> Um, [clears throat] but yeah, so anyway, that's I mean that's that's my statement. that I'm going to [laughter]. leave for you guys. >> I like that. I also really I think it's. over, you know, it's overdue that we.

have like a really resounding team name. >> You know, we've we've joked about it. over the years. And is it the hotties? Like what are we feeling? >> Are you a hottie? >> I think the hotties is a. >> Are you a hottie? >> Are are you flirting with me? >> Are you a hottie? Oh my god, you're. making me blush. >> What are [laughter] you a hottie? >> Um. >> or is it something else? >> A tottie? >> Well, I'm like it can't be the takers. We're the takers. [laughter]. >> It could be. What are you taking? When, where, and how? >> We're taking Never mind. I don't know. I.

That could get real sexual. >> Oh, the hotties. >> I didn't even think of it that way. >> You're a taker. >> It could. >> It could. I think my toe is out. >> I feel like it's a song. [clears throat]. Isn't like an Ariana Grande song like. I'm a give, I'm a take. Maybe not. >> Maybe. >> Okay. >> Maybe. >> Well, let's let's uh let's circle back. on that. >> Yeah, >> let's circle back on that. >> Circle back. I hope this, you know, binds you well. Circling back. Yes. What. episode was that? That was a good one, too. Let's circle back. Thank you all so.

so so much for being here. This was a. fun one. Had you in the first half, right? That espresso shot. I think we. have to go over there and like rip an. espresso shot before every episode. That. was a good a good twist. Okay, I'll. consider it. I get a little jittery. though. So, >> you did great. Well, sometimes it it hit. me okay this time, but sometimes it can. get a little weird and then I'm just. like stressed out. I'm like, [laughter]. >> I really like that.

>> But we will be continuing this theme. over on Patreon. I have so many tabs for. this theme. I really like this one. >> And just all these stories. Like I. really found this good one about a. secret and this husband that kept a. 10year secret from his wife, but it is. like the whole reason they ended up. together. And I'm like, "Oo, [sighs]. I really like it.". >> I was like, "The coffee bean one.". >> Coffee bean. >> Don't remember when the guy for like 10. years was lying to his wife about the.

coffee. >> No, this one's It's a doozy. It's really. good. It's on the two out subreddits. >> Don't doozy mean like a. >> Oh, doozy. Just like goofy, confusing, crazy. >> Oh, >> it's a doozy. >> Okay. I thought it meant like a a fail. >> Yeah. >> No, no. But um we'll be finishing it out. over on Patreon, so come on over. And. other than that, until next time. >> Until next time. >> Bye. >> bye. [music].