Bethany Hamilton: Men in Women’s Sports, Marriage Advice, and Why You Need to Homeschool Your Kids

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how do you deal with fear okay so I deal. with fear maybe more naturally and. better than your average human but I. would say it's not like a really. thoughtful process for me it's truly. just facing my fears and not letting my. fears like over take me so much that I. get paralyzed and so I think maybe since. I you know when I lost my arm when I was. 13 years. old I had such a deep passion for.

surfing that my decision to get back in. the ocean was based off of like getting. back to my passion and my love for. riding waves and not just facing my. fears you know I had like a deeper. reason like I just love doing what I did. and so I wanted to see if it was. possible with one arm so I truly just. faced my fears and over time I think. facing them over and over and over again. I eventually became less fearful full of.

sharks so to say and it's funny I've. heard that uh sharks and motivational. speaking are like people's two greatest. fears and that's like the two things. that I do I surf with sharks in the. ocean or I've like you know overcome my. like incident with the shark and then I. do motivational speaking which I I would. say I didn't like that at first but. eventually I overcame that like that. dislike or that fear or that.

uncomfortability and I think so often in. life we we naturally want to like run. from discomfort you know we want to make. things as easy and comfortable as. possible and so if you can learn to. recognize that sometimes you can't do. that and sometimes you have to like walk. into uncomfortable you know I find in. like relationships for. example sometimes you have to have the. uncomfortable. conversations to make that relationship. sh more beautiful yes but a lot of us.

just want to like avoid that instead and. the in the long run that just makes the. relationship less beautiful and less. meaningful and less filled with depth. and then eventually that relationship. May. dissipate absolutely right um that's a. more subtle process of course that's. it's sort of like you know getting. diabetes doesn't happen all at once it's. like over time getting in ocean to go.

surfing again is a very abrupt. experience yeah and I think for me it. wasn't like I was going out to like the. sharkiest location you know when you're. as a surfer there's certain spots that. you're like o I got the heie jeebies. here or you know when you surf at sunset. hour or if the water is a little more. murky you're like ooh this feels a. little more like sketchy or more. uncomfortable so I started off in like. the shallow clear Blue Waters and it so. my initial surf was one arm wasn't.

filled with a deep fear like of course I. was thinking of them I mean it was so. recent I started surfing with one arm. three and a half weeks after I lost my. arm three and a half weeks yeah well. that's that's wild I was on a mission I. basically went as soon as the doctor. said I could and my my healing was. really fast because everything was. really cleancut and I had a great. surgeon and you know I just had one of. those cases that was uh um I would say a.

little easier than most um you know. trauma traumatic limb loss and so here I. am less than four weeks later getting. back on my board and what did your. parents say uh I think my mom was scared. that I wouldn't be able to do it so. she's trying to come up with new you. know options like you could be a. photographer or like we can go to we can. go to the mountain and. Snowboard um but my dad I think think he.

saw it and he was like let's go and he. was like there with me trying to help me. catch my first waves and I'm like no. doubt I got this on my own and lo and. behold I popped up on my third wave and. rode it all the way to the beach and. felt like one of the best waves in my. life just tears of joy and just that. sense of like wow I can do. this yeah I I surfed as a child I don't. I don't see how just the paddling part I. don't see how you could do that.

yes it's definitely I've adopted in my. own unique way and thankfully I have one. really strong arm so we make the most of. what we got here um but yeah my approach. to catching waves is different like a. lot of times people will take like 10 15. Strokes whereas me I'm trying to. position as close to the takeoff as. possible so that I take one to three. Strokes to catch the wave and so it's. definitely different um but I make it.

work wow but your father didn't hesitate. in bringing you back to the o no I think. my dad just he like both my parents were. Surfers so they get it they get that. love for the ocean they get that need to. like get back out. there and yeah you know you could be. fearful of sharks I think that's like. one of the number one questions I get. it's like why would you go back into the. ocean um but for me.

you know it was my way of life it was. something I did every single day and. even though I was young I wanted to be. the best in the world and I had the. potential to be the best in the world at. that age like very highly competitive I. was winning just about every event that. I entered um the summer before at 13 or. 12 I finished second in the national. titles in the 18 and under division so I. was like kind of heading on that. trajectory so to say of like she could. be World.

Champ um and so on top of being. competitive though like competition. aside I could care less about a jersey. at the end of the day like I just love. being in the ocean and now fast forward. I'm a mom of four and I'm passing on my. love to my. children yeah um you don't I'm just so. struck we you had breakfast and your. total lack of bitterness or. self-pity um which leads to optimism and. joy fulness of course but how how long.

did that take to. reach I am so grateful you know I have. my mom was very encouraging to me in my. childhood to know God and to have faith. and so I look at my 13-year-old self and. really think like childlike Faith Like. that's what Bethany had at that time and. that helped me to overcome That season. and to be grateful for life like I woke. up thinking.

I could have died but I'm still here and. I'm so grateful to be alive and even. though my life felt upside down and my. future felt uncertain and like it was. obviously a really hard chaotic time but. I had this peace that I believe only God. can bring um that even though I didn't. know what my future was going to hold I. trust that there's more for my life and. I'm grateful to be alive and that. gratitude really pushed me forward I. think like I didn't mope a lot I didn't.

like sit and focus on like the negative. of the situation and how awful it was. and I would even say too like I did. media really early on um kind of. willingly like as a little 13-year-old. because I had a heart for other people. and I wanted to encourage other people. and so I started surfing four weeks. later and then people were like oh my. gosh this little girls like learning how. to surf with one arm right after she. loses her arm to a shark so people were. just on spired this is like before.

social media but my story truly went. super viral I remember and I would get. letters from all different walks of life. like inmates to like people all over the. world like little girls like if Bethany. can surf with an arm I can overcome my. Challenge and so I had a heart for other. people and so I was willing to talk. about my story and like share what I had. went through and my desire to keep going. and. overcoming and but I think talking about. it really helped me to overcome the tra.

traumatic side of it like just facing. that traumatic incident and talking. about it like now I think I can think. about that exact moment and I don't feel. like overwhelmed with sadness or anger. or you know it's just it is what it is. sort of a feeling um and I think talking. about it really helped that in itself. you if I understood you correctly you. woke up the next day after losing your. arm feeling grateful yes that's wild.

yeah I was in the hospital and I was. just really grateful to be alive and I. think the doctors painted the picture of. like hey you lost over 60% of your blood. you could have died like it's a blessing. that you're still here but more. importantly I trusted that God had more. for my life and that you certainly did. you know what did you think you were. going to do did you have any sense of. what your life would look like oh I had. no clue and I think that uncertainty. felt really hard hard.

and I think a lot of people who face. traumatic. situations they want to just get back to. normal life so maybe that was part of my. desire to get back into surfing was like. let's just get back to normal life like. I want to be back in the ocean doing. what I love being with my friends you. know and so once I proved that I could. do it then there was no turning back I. started surfing all day or not all day. but surfing every day again and just. getting back to normal life and it took.

time to adapt and adjust and figure out. how to do things and there was. definitely days where i' would be. completely frustrated and crying and. like the waves were just sending me back. to the beach and just so frustrating. like I think anyone who spends time in. the ocean can know that like it's such a. humbling place like oh yeah no matter. how um strong or capable you are it will. humble you regardless oh and it can hurt. you at any time yeah and so doing it. with one arm I think that also gave me.

confidence to face the other challenges. in my life I'm like if I can surf with. one arm what else is possible with one. arm and like all the other areas of my. life so it really set me on this. trajectory to be willing to adopt and to. just make the most of what I have and. have caught and so lo and behold little. Bethany just adopting in every which way. did you ever think you would have four. children I always really looked forward. to being a mom and I think because my. mom had so much fun with me and I was a.

parent that she loved being a mom and. that she loved adventuring with me and. my. brothers that showed and so I think that. inspired me to want to be a mom and so. yeah fast forward being a mom is such a. joy in my life and I always thought I. would have three but here we are we have. four how that happened it just. happened yeah it was crazy like we got. married and you know typical like.

married couple like let's wait 5 years. before we have children and then like. about a year and a half later I got. pregnant and I'm like okay let's go even. though I felt scared at that time like I. think God's timing was perfect and I. loved just basically bringing our little. guy into our life and taking him along. for the ride I I was in a unique season. in that I'd kind of quit competing and. thankfully did because that's when I met.

my husband and then we got married and. he's like hey what else do you want to. do in Surf cuz it's not like that's. something you can do forever so let's. just like do a little more surfing and. you can like check off all your goals. and your dreams in Surf so we started. traveling and filming my documentary. Unstoppable and then I get pregnant I'm. like oh my gosh like I felt like my. world was flipped upside down but I just. ended up we brought our little Tobias. along for the ride with us and and I had. some of my greatest succcess in surfing.

um in that season after having my first. child um and I finished my documentary. and then and you brought him with you. yeah so my one-year-old had like more. passport stamps than like your average. human and we did I remember this one. flight it was 13 hours uh across the. world to the Mal Dives and we did some. shooting down there and and then I'm. like nursing him and about to paddle out.

for my heat and Fiji competing and we. just made it work you know most young. parents well you know I include myself. in this find it really hard to travel. with little kids oh my gosh like having. babies on an airplane is not easy and so. but we kind of just figured out how to. make it work and I think because we. immersed into that early on you get your. little tricks on the on the road and you. just become more adoptable I think like.

I think routine is so good for children. but we definitely had a lot of routine. disrupt and we just had to like create. our own routine on the. road and yeah it was really a lot of fun. I like look back on that season and I. mean My Season hasn't changed that much. we still travel quite a bit with all of. our four four little well I've noticed. that they're all here here on the other. side of the world from where you live. and you brought all of your children and. they're young your little ones one yep. my little ones won and then I got a.

three-year-old six-year-old and. nine-year-old it's it's interesting that. you do that when did you decide that you. were just going to stay a unit wherever. you went yes I think we realized that we. were just still traveling a lot and we. actually were trying to create a. business um that would be sustainable. within Hawaii and we actually ran into. some business trouble so we had to like.

reconfigure how we did did everything. and we it just ended up being that. traveling for work I do a lot of. motivational speaking which I absolutely. love doing that I love being able to be. an encouragement and inspire people but. obviously traveling with a family of six. is not ideal yeah but I like the last. thing I want to do is leave them home. like I would have inner angst and um I. just wouldn't I know that wouldn't work. for me like I would lose my mind and I.

know that my greatest god-given role is. to be a mother and if I'm neglecting. that rule like I won't be able to live. at peace and so just bringing them along. is the way we've we're doing it right. now and it's working and they're just. blossoming as humans like it's really. fun to see them growing in their own. ways and um yeah just being being along. for the ride I mean they must get closer. to each other. oh yeah last night yesterday was rough.

we were all super jet lag we had done a. red eyee and I'm like at one point I'm. like go outside like don't come back in. until you're ready to be at. peace so you know there's rough moments. but for the most part um they get along. really well I love that and and you. travel with your husband everywhere yes. so we're just family unit my husband and. I teamwork everything so he's kind of. like behind the scenes making things. happen and then I'm showing up and doing.

a lot of like what we do and so yeah. it's really a unique life and I love. doing it though with my husband and it's. just like we're the ultimate team and. then the littles are like our little. minions along for the ride it's just a. completely different model of living. from the one that most Americans. certainly I grew up with where you know. the father or both parents sort of head.

out you know in the morning to their own. totally separate spheres of work and. then the kids go out to school their. separate spheres and then possibly they. all meet together for a meal at night. and then they go to bed yeah it's. definitely different and I think what. made me more open to this life that. we've chosen to live um was I. homeschooled from seventh grade on and. we you grew up being homeschooled yeah I. grew up being homeschooled myself so my.

mom kept me home from seventh grade on I. did elementary school and then I stayed. home after that and it was primarily. like there was a few different reasons. our local public school was super bad we. couldn't afford private and I was also. like really highly competitive I was. already starting to travel for Surf and. so my parents decided to keep me home. and save that drive time too our school. is really far away it's like 45 minute. drive hour. our um one way so 2 hours just driving.

to school and so we just decided to stay. home and um my parents just kind of let. me run with things and then I started. surfing with one arm and even competing. with one arm and that started less than. a year later after I losing my arm and. so two summers later I went a national. title and then I started. competing um in the world qualifying. Series so just like the biggest league.

in Surf to be a professional and so I. started traveling International around. 16 17 18 I'm like traveling around the. world already so just being able to. finish school while I'm traveling and. have that flexibility was really um just. made it possible you know some of my. peers did finish normal school and then. they started competing so there's. different ways about it um either way. you can be highly competitive you just. have to work with what you got you know.

but I feel like traveling and surfing. taught me more than you know school um. did and. so it just made me a savier human it. made me like understand the world more. you know I saw a lot of different. cultures and you know I had to build my. own independence really. young and it just you know I blossomed a. little younger I would say than most. people I haven't always been proud of.

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in hindsight I look back and I'm like. you know I had some teenage Vibes going. on but for the most part yeah I think. for the most part we had a really. awesome relationship and my parents. would take turns traveling with me so. you know we lived in Hawaii price of. living is really high and they're just. barely scraping by but they still gave. me so much to and you lived on an outer. Island yeah we lived on the outer Island. too so we're always inner Island hopping. and then once we started traveling more.

internationally it was just a lot on. them but thankfully like I was surfing. so well and I had I started supporting. myself around age 16 financially so I. was traveling um under my own dollar at. that point but my parents would come. along for the ride with me sometimes and. I think sometimes they were pitching in. but uh yeah it just kind of started. young for me what a different childhood. yes very different and I think too being.

a professional athlete you. learn diligence and ownership over your. life you have to push yourself you have. to be self-motivated you have to you. know really work hard at your sport and. nobody else is going to do it for you. and so I learned that really young and. that has served me in so many different. ways um throughout my life are you going. to homeschool your children yeah so. we're in the early stage of. homeschooling and it's a beast is it I.

think it is but I also think we make it. more of a beast than we need to be and. can you just I mean I think a lot of. people um well certainly my age whose. kids are grown you know sort of think. well probably should have done that. didn't even really think about it should. have done it but now with you know the. sort of obvious evil going on in. government schools and private schools I. think a lot of people would like to. homeschool I mean the how hard is it.

what is it what is it exactly the rate. of homeschool has grown by like millions. and millions of more Americans. homeschooling and so what's really cool. is there is a lot of resources and tools. and information to make it more. possible and I think a lot of people get. overwhelmed at the thought of H school. because you think of Traditional School. which is 7 hours a day but a lot of that. time is wasted time. that isn't actually learning or.

educating and so taking the model and. changing it to be less than two hours a. day and chances are they're learning. more than they would um in a school day. plus there wait less than two hours a. day yes yeah you don't need a whole lot. of time to accomplish a lot of your. educating um in each day and so then why. are we sending. kids to school all day I I mean that's a.

big question right yeah it. is you know I I think it's primarily the. financial system you you bring it back. to the financial system and it is a lot. harder to survive on one. income now fast forward in this day and. age it's it's a you know my parents made. it work and that my mom was working and. so there was a little pass back and. forth or I would go stay with my friend.

if my mom was working a night shift and. so I just remember like she just worked. the restaurant industry both my parents. were in the restaurant industry so they. were very like simple life like not a. high income just barely getting by but. they did show that you can homeschool on. a lower income yes and still do a whole. lot and. so I think seeing them worked hard was. really inspiring for me because I just.

saw them dedicate a lot to me but also. work really hard. and I think a lot of people are. overwhelmed at the thought of homeschool. because you know parenting in itself is. pretty hard yeah it is um but I wonder. why it's become so hard for us like for. me I've had to unpack a lot of like my. habits or you know things that I'm not. necessarily proud of like you know I had. a season where I was really like. short-tempered and like I had to work.

through some health things to get on to. the other side of that and like support. myself to better mother my children and. I look back on that season and I hate. that version of myself like I me I'm. forgiving of her but I'm like why was I. like how bad was she H I was just like. really like you know I think women tend. to be more emotional and and they're. hard on themselves that's yeah and I. look back on that season and I realized.

that it was more than just being a woman. like I wasn't being supported. nutritionally like my sleep was really. bad and like there was a few other. things going on where I was like just. high stress and I was very like easily. angered and I had to really like work on. my nutrition and my lifestyle Habits. Like I stopped watching TV at night like. sometimes you know I would want to just. like wind down and I stopped doing that. I would just focus on getting to bed.

sooner making sure I'm eating enough in. the day getting enough protein and carbs. throughout the day and just making some. health shifts that really like changed. who I was like I'm way more patient now. I'm way more like I can hold the needs. of my children and their emotions. because children are more like they're. not as emotionally stable and I really. think that we help them stabilize by how. we are yes you know and a lot of people. are just struggling to remain calm when.

their child's having a full-blown. tantrum it's like the parent is having a. tantrum with the child yes but we need. to do the opposite we need to like Hold. Steady while they're having their. tantrum and like help them work through. that and so yeah mothering's taught me a. lot and has challenged me in ways that. no other role in life has challenged me. and but I'm so grateful for that because. it's sharpened me it's mean me you know. really have to dig deeper and like work.

through my issues and work through my. challenges that were some some of them. were probably learned too like my mom's. my parents are amazing but I still like. had some learned habits that weren't. great that I needed to like unlearn and. like reform and currently still working. through some of them but you know for. the most part I can look back on this. season that wasn't so good and I'm so. grateful that I was willing to ad. and challenge myself and look for help.

and educate myself and dive into health. and like be an advocate for myself. because at the end of the day nobody. else was going to do that for me um and. fast forward even to like the influence. I have on my household and like helping. my husband to be healthy and helping him. to um take ownership in that area as. like the leader of our household um and. now I'm like just the line that we have. as a family as a married couple like.

continually working through the. different little challenges along the. way we're a unit and as him and and I as. the like leaders were leading our. children and I think that you know we. look through some of the challenges. we've had along the way and our children. are watching this and we're literally. their role models and we're shaping this. Next. Generation and so there's a lot of.

weight that comes with that and I feel. like Society has let go of that in a. sense of like we're just we're going to. school and we're going to sports and. we're just trying to get by and there's. lack of intentionality in the. household and so I think I have a heart. to not only work with teenagers. specifically in America and help them to. think through their future better but. now like seeing the influence that you. know the family has in society it's so.

important and so going back to like the. foundation of the family husband and. wife and what does that relationship. look like and how can you you know work. through your challenges together and. overcome together so that you grow. closer together as you go through life. rather than growing apart and. um yeah just seeing the way Society is. now and like the talk on the family and. the talk on young people and.

their uh their gender so to say and like. the way social media has a role in. society there's a lot that's not good. and that we have to like think through. and be intentional about and so yeah you. say there's a you said there's a lack of. int of intentional behavior. intentionality in the household what. what do you mean I feel like kind of. like. what I would want to word it is maybe. it's just a passiveness like we're just.

kind of being passive about things and. we're letting things happen versus like. choosing how we see things happen in the. household we're just being passive and. letting our children grow up letting. them see and learn whatever they can. learn out in society you know children. are given iPads and iPhones super young. and they're instantly being like told a. lot of different compelling. things that aren't necessarily filled.

with truth and. so I think as a role as a mom and you. know my husband as a father um you know. were thinking through that because our. children are still young but our. nine-year-old is going to be a teenager. in you know a few years and like life's. going to change and so how can we be. proactive and not just be passive in his. life but really like Mentor him and. speak into his life and you know help.

him find his career path so to say and. help him to become uh a brave and. leading young man even if his nature. isn't necessarily a leader actually our. eldest is a natural leader but I'm just. saying like we'll look at our other boys. and maybe they won't be natural born. leaders but they're going to have to. lead at some point and so equipping them. to lead and like showing them the way. more than just by example but really. like coming alongside of them and. helping them find their way until they.

truly are ready to spread their wings. and then letting them know that the. phone is always there and like the arms. are always open so so you said that um. of your you've got three boys and one. daughter your oldest son is a natural. leader he's the oldest not surprised um. but that all your boys are going to have. to be leaders what did what did you mean. and how would you train them to be. leaders yeah you know I just think of. the god-given beauty of marriage and.

matrimony and um that relationship and. when done right like the man is meant to. be the leader yes and I feel I think. that in. society you know with the current. culture especially in America a lot of. that's been flipped upside down and. disregarded and it's not serving Society. in my how is that working flipping that.

upside down like just the woman is maybe. maybe she's not overtly leading the. household but maybe she's manipulating. the household or maybe she's living in. the same household but doing her own. thing and it's just kind of like two. separate lives together but like she's. doing her own thing and not really. necessarily following a lead or maybe. it's simply that the husband isn't. leading and he's being passive yes and. that is affecting the household in ways.

that maybe the husband and wife don't. really realize and it's harmful. and it doesn't serve the household and. it's hard to recognize it at first but. at some point it will. backfire and I think that's partially. why there's so many broken marriages now. but there's so much we could unpack. there right there's so much to a society. that um is broken and lacking.

wholeness and you know maybe the husband. isn't being faithful or maybe the wife. is being you know reacting in a way. that's pushing him away and there's just. so much to unpack you know I'm not like. a marriage expert and you know I don't. know I think you've identified the big. ones though I think you actually it. sounds like you are a marriag expert cuz. you you've just described well the many. varieties of dysfunction in. the passive husband is a much more.

common thing than it used to be yeah and. it's hard because a lot of like what we. know is what we've been taught or what. we've you know learned from our own. parents and so you could hardly blame. the husband for for being that way they. maybe never had someone come alongside. of them and truly show them the way in a. healthy way and or simply having. conversations that are intentional. around this area like hey like these are. things you're going to need to do as.

like the leader of your household like. just simple conversations that are never. held if you were to give that advice to. one of your boys what would you say oh I. mean from a mother's perspective it's. just knowing that like hey like you need. to provide for your wife mentally. emotionally and physically and what that. looks like is this this this and this. and if she's reacting in certain ways. it's likely that you're not providing in. one of those um one of those key points. and so being willing to problem solve as.

like a husband and you know to be honest. like it's because I've felt this in my. own marriage. and having to work through that with my. husband and rather than like letting the. the. the rather than letting like the. darkness te apart and pull us apart like. our faith has grown us closer we've had. to work through some of our issues. and just seeing him grow as the leader.

of our household um has been really. beautiful and uh I'm just so grateful. but I felt like the before and after so. are you saying maybe make it more. General so yeah I definitely make it. more General but you know what you're. talking about do you think that um a. woman should encourage explicitly. encourage her husband to be a leader a. better leader I think I mean yes for. sure we should be encouraging like that. is our role is to be encouraging and. cheer on and support and you know be.

supportive um but also to allow that to. happen and sometimes you have to let go. of things. to but I also like there's a lot of. conversation that comes with that and. like talking about it and working. through it and um it's it's hard because. this is such like a deep deep. issue and but it's the core issue yeah. and I if a husband and wife can't get.

along then how does society continue. actually no for sure and that's why I. talked like when I started opened up. this little can of worms I was like. talking about it from the perspective of. like Society why is there so much. Brokenness in society we've lost our. problem solving abilities and instead of. like you know having those deep. meaningful conversations that are. essential over time not having those. conversations. then they just break apart okay so let's.

be specific you've got four kids I have. four kids so I know I know what it's. like to have you know nine through one. and what it really is is just kind of. chaotic there's just a lot going on a. lot of people with immediate needs that. must be met a lot of Filth that must be. cleaned etc etc a lot of noise hard to. have conversations with your spouse. under those circumstance you're living. in so how do you have a conversation. like that's that heavy and that.

important when you've got all these. other demands yeah it it's super hard. and that's why like I talked I always. bring up my health Journey um it's not. like I went super deep in on that but. realizing that I needed the. energy you know throughout the whole day. not half of the day the whole day until. I make it to my bed at bedtime yeah I. need the energy to serve my family well. and so I'm very passionate about health. because I recognize that like the common. meme is like but first coffee but first.

like I need some me time to like survive. this chaos but we're really not as. resilient as we should be because our. health isn't being supported in the way. that it needs to be to be the best. mother to be the best wife to be the. best daughter um in life and so first. supporting yourself so that you can um. overcome the hardship that comes your. way. and so for me like you know I'm not.

watching Netflix or TV or anything at. bedtime I'm going to bed or I'm or I'm. having a conversation with my husband so. it's like the relationship and my health. first before any. entertainment and trying to did you feel. like just to pause on this for a second. because I think it's a it's a big thing. particularly for busy people people with. little kids it's like all right the. second they go to bed I'm just going to. zone out on my own world with Netflix or. whatever why why is that bad well you.

know why did you stop doing it I stopped. because I felt like I needed to stop for. my own like. survival survival like like you know I. do try to find you know a 20 30 minute. sometimes hour and a half window for. myself in the day which that looks like. surfing or getting a little movement or. going on a la walk or laying in my bed. praying or doing something just by.

myself for a quick. minute but there's like so much time. that is wasted whether it's scrolling on. social media or watching TV it's very. consumeristic and I want to create and I. want to build and U make beautiful and. to me consuming doesn't allow for that. as much you know when I'm consuming I'm. essentially not.

creating and so I knew it would be worth. asking you that question cuz that's a. wonderful answer when I'm consuming I'm. not creating yes and so for me you know. we always want to justify our actions um. every now and then I like to sit down. and watch alone and it's usually with my. husband and sometimes with my children. like that's the one TV show we watch. lately in the last year um but otherwise. I'm not consuming and you know I am on. social media but I try to like keep tabs.

on that and not let it like overtake my. life I have it typically have it on a. separate device um lately I haven't cuz. I broke my old device phone but I I had. to move it off my main phone device. because I was like needed to control. that time so to say spent like not. randomly scrolling when I didn't. necessarily want to you know kind of. putting some boundaries there cuz yeah. it became like a easy reflex to like. kill time and space and so I I moved it.

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to kind of get by versus like planning. and being proactive and saying no to. certain things and saying you know like. choosing what comes in the household and. how we use our time and how we converse. with one another and you know I think of. like the marriage as the foundation of. the household and so being proactive in. that relationship and like really. working for that rather than letting. time kind of. um turn it into this passive.

relationship that eventually Fizzles out. because we weren't proactive in it and. so yeah it'd be fun if Adam was here he. could speak to that in his own sense and. I am grateful to God for him every. single day and we've had our own journey. of like growing and learning and. becoming more proactive and like working. through our challenges um one thing. struck by is you your you keep coming. back to time how you spend time and when.

you said that homeschooling can be done. a child can be educated to at least the. standard of a public school in two. hours and then you said but for most. parents just like send your kids to. school take them to sports there's like. a whole kind of program that families. sign up for that they have no control. over at all yeah the may or may not be. good for their children and they just. react to it but you're instead figuring. out how to spend you know the other 22. hours of the day with your kids mhm.

that's that's a big change from the way. most people live yeah it is a big change. and I I think it's. because you. know I was like the last generation to. not have social media for most of my. childhood so I remember I got an. Instagram about when I was 15 and I had. this season where I was highly addicted. to it I would with be with all my. friends and I would like randomly start. scrolling and then I would try to show.

them stuff and they're like we're having. fun together like we don't need that and. so I was this last generation to like I. grew up diving into the ocean and. swimming with turtles and going surfing. and playing Kick the Can in the yard and. um filming little movies on a camcorder. that were like gory and we put ketchup. on my left arm and like we were truly. children like filming horror movies in. our backyard because it was hilarious. and funny and like just being really.

creative and now I look at this. generation and you'll be driving and. you'll see kids on the side of the road. hunched over looking at devices waiting. for their school bus. like not full of life like not full of. joy and beauty and passion and. creativity but rather. being sent into this Society realm that. is. just passive it's uh being entertained.

it's being. consumeristic it's just lacking this. beauty in life that I really like I look. back on my childhood and I love my. childhood you know I did grow up with. amazing parents that you know they they. devoted a lot of time it's just funny. because you're famous for being attacked. by a shark and losing your arm in your. childhood and how is your childhood the. best it was well that's just yeah it was.

so amazing and you know the the loss of. the arm was just like a little speed. bump in the road like I continued to. have like an amazing childhood after I. lost my arm and so now I'm looking at. this generation it feels like you really. mean that yeah I do mean that I loved my. childhood even the the hardship that I. fac like it created me to be an. overcomer to be an adopter to be someone. who who has to work through a challenge. in a healthy way and I did figure that.

out I would say for the most part you. know there's always things we have to. unpack at some point or another but yeah. and now being fast forward being a mom. and I'm like looking at this generation. and it's just so vastly different I will. say like I did watch my I would leave my. house at like 8 in the morning to go. surf my brothers were Gamers so I would. leave the house and like go do a bunch. of different things and then come back. like eight hours later and like my. brothers hadn't left their spot on the.

couch and that also had a huge impact on. me I was like what are you guys doing. you literally haven't left the couch for. like 8 hours straight and I hated seeing. that I think being like a nature lover. and someone who like grew up in nature. and like found my creativity In Waves. granted both my brothers were great uh. ocean men as well they were like really. talented on waves so it wasn't like were. so stuck to the gaming that they didn't. go surf but I saw this like side that I.

just didn't like and I was like there's. no way I'm allowing that in my household. as I grow up or as I'm raising my. children because I want them to be. creating and um you know I want them to. just be super healthy I think too like I. have like a unique perspective of like. being an a former professional athlete. really having to push it physically and. mentally and like knowing KN that I had. to support that nutritionally and just.

through various Avenues of Health I now. bring that into my household and I'm. like if there's one area in your life as. a parent to not be passive it's like. well actually I don't think I can narrow. it down to one thing but it's like your. faith and health like at least give your. children those two things because. otherwise Society will eat them up and. there's so much junk out there that will. like okay I'm first of all I feel like a. consumerist slug listening to you I've.

never played a video game but I have. wasted a lot of my life now that I'm. think and I think of it and I'm sorry. that I have but let's just stop with. those two things you if the two things. you said you can give a child or four. children or faith and health so let's. just start with faith how do you do that. well I guess you have to go on the. journey. yourself um first you have to be able to. know what you believe um you know my. parents encouraged me to know God at a.

young age um in the Christian faith and. I mentioned earlier after I lost my arm. I had a peace that I believe only God. could have brought like through that. season even though it felt chaotic and. upside down and like the most. unimaginable thing happened to me and. I'm a very rare human to have that. circumstance but even in the chaos I had. a sense of peace that God was with me. and he was not going to leave my side. and I don't think that he ever did like.

the way I worked through that season was. so beautiful and so full of a confidence. that I believe only God could have. brought. and I'm thankful that you know my mom. and dad weren't perfect but they were. there for me and my mom would read the. Psalms and Proverbs in particular. because it's very inviting I like the. Proverbs because it unpacks the wisdom. of God like there's 30 one Proverbs y. all could read one Proverbs a day and it. would be less than five minutes of your.

day could you take five minutes of your. day to like read God's word I think so. and they're amazing and they even if you. don't believe in God an atheist could. read the proverb gosh anyone Come Away. improved yes be blessed by the Proverbs. but the Proverbs and Psalms was like one. thing that my mom did read with me she. would read that and pray with me at. bedtime and that was such a blessing and. I think that helped Sprout my own faith. my own childlike faith that eventually.

grew into its own As I Grew into an. adult and now I want to give my children. that so that if they have something like. a shark attack in their life they're. going to be able to work through that. with or without mama like they'll be. able to survive the challenges of this. world they'll be able to see through the. lies that are being spoken on a daily. basis in our society they'll be able to. see through the lies that aren't going. to serve them in their life and I.

believe that that's in God's word first. and foremost and so for me it looks like. praying with my children at bedtime and. throughout the day and it's reading the. Bible and it's encouraging them in their. faith and talking through um. philosophical ideas that at the end of. the day you can look to God's word and. know what is truth um and so. I forget your original question but how. do you oh yeah yeah how do youart faith.

and health yeah and and then too just. like praying for my children because at. the end of the day it's not me who does. their faith it's God God will gift you. that Faith he will speak into your life. and so to me the most important thing is. to read God's word because that is the. thing that will sharpen them and speak. into their life and it's ultimately the. Lord says that that is his word and when. we hear his word that can work and move. in our hearts and minds and so and then.

when it comes to health like just uh. living out healthy healthy lifestyle. teaching them what is good and what is. not good my children know that like. we're not eating red D five because it's. not good for us so they're choosing not. to do that at 6 and 9 already and they. know like we still have treats so it's. not like they're so deprived that like. they're like oh my gosh I need the red D. five because I have this opportunity to.

have it red D five pardon my ignorance. what's red Dy five you know the red dye. that they put in food but it's not. really like food and it's like highly. toxic you need to Deep dive that Tucker. come on get your AC I don't know if I. want to know it sounds bad though but. like if you go into the grocery stores. now like majority of the grocery store. is not even things we should be. consuming and I know a lot of people are. like well that's. expensive you know to a certain extent.

it is going to take a little more. investment to bring real food into your. house but when you educate yourselves. and start to understand why it becomes. an easier decision and there's a lot of. things you can do that are more. affordable to just eat real food. basically what do you serve your kids um. and that's the cool thing is I'm the one. with the wallet so I get to bring what.

is in the house my husband and I of. course and he does half of the grocery. shopping whoever just is out there. picking up the F most money in every. household is spent by the woman she. makes those decisions yes yes yes so you. know I'm the one that's choosing what. comes into the house so it's easy to. make the household healthy because I'm. not going to buy the junk that doesn't. serve them and their health in the long. run um so for example for breakfast. we'll have Crepes pancakes waffles or.

like egg toast and I'm like blending it. in the blender and I'm putting the. ingredients in there and it's all. wholesome ingredients and like lots of. good eggs eggs are such a great way to. start your day my children are fairly. like mentally stable and I think it's. cuz we eat really good like we eat clean. healthy foods and they're not like you. know very roller coaster in their mental. stability and so I'm seeing it play out. in real time like wow they're really.

healthy children cuz they sugar levels. aren't spiking and crashing times and. and then you know it's not even that we. don't eat sugar we're just making sure. we're getting enough protein to to. balance out that glucose so as long as. you're balancing out your diet you're. going to be okay if you have a little. treat here and there but there are a few. things we avoid like red D fives. artificial ingredients um seed oils uh a. few other things that just aren't really.

like real foods and so we just keep it. wholesome and real we eat a lot of your. like normal meals but just the healthy. version of it and none of the junk. process and like you know we'll stop. shop at like Costco for example because. that's like the one of the only grocery. stores we have on our Island and 90% of. what's in there we're not bringing home. so we're choosing to find the good stuff. that is wholesome and real but no Lucky.

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any day I feel kind of stressed or. overwhelmed in motherhood I'm like we're. going to the beach we're going to Nature. we're getting out of the house and into. like um just this place where they can. be creative and uh just be grounded. again you know and so I found that like. I definitely Thrive as a mother in. nature so I'm trying to like find those. thriving locations so that we can um. thrive in. life um how much contact do you have.

with your larger. family yes I mean we have such a. beautiful setup um my parents they live. on the same property as us and my both. my older brothers live within a. 10-minute drive and so I got all my. niece and nephews my brothers um we have. about 12 or 13 grandkids now my parents. and so it's just like and they all live. next to each other yeah we're all like. within 10minute Drive of each other so. it's really easy to get together and.

like help each other raise each other's. children and my mom is a super Grandma. she's so supportive and like is truly. there for us and like um you know if I'm. having a rough season in motherhood. which they come and go you know yeah. it's just part of life I'm like my mom's. there and she's giving me advice and I'm. asking her for advice and I'm like how. do I get through this mom or on the rare. occasion please take the children before. I lose my. mind um which isn't very often because I.

have a great relationship with my. children and I am healthy so it's not. like I need that all the time but it is. just a blessing to have that so just for. perspective because you're famous I. people might think well you know that. you can live that way when you're really. rich but um having just been in Hawaii. recently I was reminded it's I think the. most expensive State it's one of the. hardest places to live. um and it doesn't sound like your. family's. rich no I mean right we make decent.

money and we are a unique situation but. I grew up with five of my best friends. from childhood born and raised in Hawaii. they're now married and have children. and almost all of them are homeschooling. and they're living a normal very normal. life and they're getting by and they're. choosing to live a lifestyle that is. different but they aren't anyone you. know unique or out there so that's kind.

of what I'm saying it's achievable then. it it you can choose to live a certain. lifestyle you know and I think the. common thing in America too is like we. want to live above our means so figuring. out what is your means and are you. living within your means and what. adaptations can you make so that you. could make your dreams come true if you. have certain dreams so to say. and if you choose to not go down that. route at least being intentional with.

the time that you do have your with your. children so when they come home from. school having that energy and that. mental uh capability to be intentional. to give them eye contact to give them. that quality time I feel like. specifically from Junior High to high. school it's like the most pivotal years. besides obviously childhood's pretty. pivotal um and they're worldviews are. pretty formed I'm very young but there's.

these pivotal years where parents get. very little time with their children. because they're in school they're in. sports then they come home and they have. homework and random chores maybe and the. parents barely get that time with their. children and so obviously my children. aren't in those years but I'm thinking. about those years and how I'm going to. approach it and I don't want it to be U. mundane or unintentional like I want my.

husband to have quality time with his. sons so that his sons have a good grasp. on the world and what they're getting. themselves into as they become adults. you know and so what do you think. they're getting themselves into as they. become adults no really I mean you've. got three boys and yeah I mean there's a. lot out there but I I hope that they'll. you know find a wife pretty young and be. good leaders of their household and I. want to encourage them and like help.

them find their way so that they can. afford to be a husband and a provider so. working with them to like figure out. what their talents are and like what. sort of work they could do to survive. and not just survive but. Thrive um and to say no to the. Temptations of the world and to respect. women and to. you know choose a life that is Honorable.

and just and not just go with the flow. of like what Society is currently at and. I think as a male in particular there's. a lot of Temptation around women and. pornography and none of that really. serves society it's become so. normalized you know you look you know I. grew up in Hawaii and like it's the most. uncovered area of the world like people. are literally walking around in in close. to nothing on a regular basis and but I.

feel like now young men in particular. it's like there's social media and it's. just there's so many dark holes they can. get caught up in and even gaming like I. am really against gaming I haven't even. really talked about that publicly but. there's no way I'm bringing that into my. household because I want my boys. creating becoming like building up their. skills in life like I want them to have. you know Mentor under a plumber.

electrician like mechanic have these. basic skills so that they're not. completely helpless when they you know. start living on their own like just. basic life skills that instead they. could be. gaming and where is that going to get. them and then when they have to start. living a real life and they run into. challenge what are they going to do are. they going to problem solve or are they. going to just go zone out in gaming. there's a lot of husbands that aren't.

showing up because they're busy gaming. or. pornography and so equipping our boys to. say no and to say yes to the good and. beautiful things that they could be. doing in life and to learn how to. provide and Serve and. Protect you've got such an interesting. way of presenting what you think so you. have a very gentle affect and Calon laid. back but what you're saying is like. really radical as compared to me I think.

every word you've said is true just for. the record but it's so different it's so. different you live on an outer island in. the farthest away State out of 50 in. pretty rural State I think um so maybe. you don't know how radical what you're. say do you have a sense of how different. how you live is from how many other. people live I mean I've started to. realize that in raising children of like. trying to find good friends for my. children and just like some of the.

boundaries that we are setting on behalf. of our children and trying to like you. know what who can they play with what. households are good for them to be in. and it's it I think it's going to get. even harder in the teenage years so it. sounds like you think you have the right. to make those decisions as a parent oh. 100% like I think that if I. didn't lead guide and protect them like. nobody else will.

yes no I mean I couldn't agree more and. and and don't we have an understanding. that the brain isn't fully developed. till 25 yes for males I think it is. somewhere 30 somewhere around there um. so why would you like hold back. protecting them and helping serve and. guide and lead them in a healthy. direction I think of myself as super. healthy and so of course I'm going to. like help lead and guide them along the. way and not like just let them hopefully.

float out there and figure it. out but that is kind of the strategy for. many people but even to the extent of. like hey you're invited to question me. son like question what I'm saying. question what your auntie or uncle is. saying ask questions and don't be so. passive that everything mama and D says. is you know the end all say all so to. the extent of like yes you respect your. mother and father but you're still.

allowed to ask questions and have your. own. opinion. but you. know I do see it in my 9-year-old how. much he looks up to his dad and me and. how he's willing to like he knows that. when Mama says like don't eat red die. five it's cuz she loves him and she's. protecting him from eating these. neurotoxins. that will give him ADHD and he doesn't. have that currently so we don't want him.

to get that but he could have it if he. keeps eating those over and over and. over again and so he trusts me in that I. explain why I'm not just like nope you. can't have that I explain why he can't. have that and why I don't want him and. you know what if he ate it once or twice. a year I'm not making a huge deal out of. it I'm just like hey like we're not. bringing that into our household at. least how are you going to navigate. marijuana oo I. mean for me it was actually a really.

easy one to navigate as a. teenager because I think like the way my. mom might have talked about it and then. even in the public school was like I was. highly athletic driven and so I could. see that it was a common theme that. people lost their Drive in life with. marijuana in particular. and then even I've had a motherdaughter. mentorship program and one of our calls. is focus on drugs and the coolest thing.

is we'll show the girls the brain. without marijuana and alcohol and the. Brain with and they look very different. like it's very noticeable how healthier. like we had a brain specialist kind of. explain the differences and you could. see it with your own eye and so that was. really cool to me as an adult who's. chosen not to like. uh do marijuana or anything like that. but just talking about it from a.

perspective of health so that's why you. know I said earlier like encouraging. your children in faith and understanding. health is so important and talking about. like I talk about hey you know if you go. through a challenging season in your. life do you want to go to alcohol or do. you want to go to God like what's going. to be your strength what's going to. serve you and your family is is alcohol. going to serve your family or is God. like what's going to lead you forward.

and help you to overcome and adopt and. persevere through the challenges that. will inevitably come your. way um certainly not alcohol and drugs. which a lot of society is going to that. because. we essentially aren't happy with our. life or we're looking for an outlet that. um numbs some of the pain and so you. know working with our. children to face their hardship and to.

work through their pain and to have a. plan for when that comes if they don't. have any of that prior to leaving the. household like having a good plan like. what are you going to do when you face. hardship are you going to go to these. Outlets or are you going to come back to. Mom and Dad or someone who's respectable. in your life to help you work through it. cuz there's certainly been seasons in my. life where I'm like why didn't I go to. someone to help me through that exactly. and I tried to navigate it by myself and.

it was it sucked and it was hard and it. was awful and I'm like why didn't I ask. for. help and um I just like that's not what. I want for my children I want them to go. and ask someone for help whether it's me. or not like that's okay but I hope it's. me and if it's not me like they're going. to have a few other people in their life. that I'm going to be like this would be. a great person if you don't for some. reason don't feel feel comfortable. talking to me go to this person and like. have them spend time with that person in.

their um late seniors so that they have. a relationship that's you know. encouraging why do you think this pretty. common human experience but people have. problems that they could probably sort. out quickly if they articulated them in. front of somebody else but they don't. why oh my gosh I feel like there's a lot. of reasons why. and I. think you know that's why earlier in our.

conversation I talked about working. through some of my issues in motherhood. is. because you know I think sometimes we. get closed in Life or. we aren't open to teaching or wisdom or. you know respecting our. elders it's almost like there's this un. talked about level of being where and we. have pride and we just think we can do.

it. ourselves and I feel like that's almost. growing even more now with social media. because they're like oh I can just. Google what to do yeah rather than ask. uh someone respectable in your life like. hey like do you think this is a good. life decision like should I go down this. route um so for me I don't know I'm kind. of going about this answer in a long way. but. I'm now asking three different people. for advice if I have something that. feels overwhelming or challenging I mean.

I'm going to the three different people. and trying to see if it will align for. them if their advice to me will align or. you know like just having someone. respectable to speak into my life over. challenging subjects that feel like I. need help in this area so you're. approaching your own life with humility. you're acknowledging you don't you don't. know every answer to question yeah and. you know if it feels like something. really hard just not being afraid to ask.

for help and you know maybe there's this. level of. like that distancing in junior high in. high school where like you're almost. like separating from your parents too. early yes and then you go off to college. and adult life and you're like well I. don't really have that relationship with. my mom and dad so I'm not going to ask. them for help or we didn't work through. some of our issu ues as in that. relationship through the high school. years and so there's not that level of.

like you can come to me like I'm here. for you and I'll like accept you no. matter what the challenge is and so. trying to keep that relationship open. and um just communicative so that when. the real challenges come there is an. openness and like I'm they'll be willing. to ask for help and obviously there's. different characters and um you know I. can see already like trying to raise the. different characters in my children I'm. like they're very different and it's. going to require like some problem.

solving or adoptability to their. different um you know personality and. character and so yeah genetics is real. yeah kids are different so um you said. you have a mentorship program where. you're dealing with young people who are. not your children yeah what do you. notice about them. what yeah so I I've always just had a. heart for teenage girls and maybe it's. because of what I faced at such a young. age like when I lost my arm I was 13.

years old and it's such a pivotal season. going into those teenage years but then. there was this one woman who would pick. up my girlfriends and I and speak into. our lives she mentored us and encouraged. Us in relationships in particular she. like like equipped us to um enter into. the dating realm and to look for a. husband in a healthy way and and this. woman wasn't like super appealing so to. say like I would say the fact that she.

like brought Chocolat brought chocolate. and like brought us to the beach was. like the lur so to say yeah but she was. willing to just show up and like even if. she wasn't like super cool you know like. as a teenager you're looking for those. cool people to hang out with she wasn't. like super cool but she like spoke into. her lives and she made the most of what. she had and she made such an impact. walked in my life and so I just feel. like I've been given a unique platform. to speak into young people's lives and I.

very passionate about like social media. as well like the big thing I've noticed. is the girls who you know I'm working. with girls between like 9 to. 18 and they're alongside of their. mothers but the girls who are highly. active on social media like you can just. tell right away like they dress more. permiss uous they're very aware of their. being um you know they're very like.

aware of just how they look and how they. carry themselves and it's almost like. they've got something to prove um. they're trying to be cool or like you. know be accepted in a certain way and I. just I really just noticed a vast. difference in the girls that are active. on social media and the girls that are. not and you know either way they're very. lovable who's. happier definitely the girls that are. not active on social media have less.

issues yes they have a lot less issues. and. um yeah it's definitely really. interesting and there have been extreme. cases where we've had some girls who are. really struggling in their life and. their mom's like we've already done. everything we've done counseling we've. done like drugs to try to like calm them. down or like help them not be depressed. and it's just not working and so they're. coming into this this program like let's. just like try it you never know and I. think there's just something about the.

community element and like talking about. the truth and the challenges of the. world so we're talking about all these. different topics dating drugs conflict. resolution Faith um all the different. topics that I'm like naturally. passionate about and even like health. and stuff and like just trying to equip. the girls but at the end of the day like. the young girls might be really excited. to see Bethany like as their Mentor but. the goal is not me it's their mom so. their mom's coming in and doing it with.

their daughter and it's about that. mother daughter relationship cuz I. remind the girls I'm like hey girls like. I'm not going to be there for you when. the going gets rough but your mom is. like she's the one that will die for you. and like do whatever it takes to be. there for you in your tough seasons and. so maybe you don't see eye to eye with. her on everything and maybe you have a. little sandpaper of a relationship but. your mom loves you so much and so it's. just kind of about bringing back that. family unit and making that be the focal.

point of the mentorship um experience. program and so it's just been yeah it's. really interesting though to unpack like. the difference in the children who are. being exposed a lot more and then the. ones who are not and to me it feels a. little devastating because I'm like I. had such a good childhood like you girls. should be like adventuring in nature and. filing filming like cute little like. funny movies on a little. camcorder and instead we got like Tick.

Tock dancing and like just like endless. media scrolling and TV watching and you. know I I don't want to be so negative. cuz I know there's Beautiful Moments in. everyone's lives but um I just feel like. there's so much more to be had when. we're creating and um being artistic and. letting our strengths and talents be. used. and um pursuing like the good and. beautiful things in life and having like.

really open Like Loving relationships. and quality time and one thing I'm. working with my children is like. teaching them like I try to look in. their eyes like I've met a lot of people. and it's like we almost are losing eye. contact like something as simple as that. like trying to look people in the eye. and starting in your own household like. once you start to be aware of it you're. like wo like they haven't looked me in. the eye today and so you have to but. like I have to lead my children to be. able to look me in the eye and so like.

making sure I'm not so busy that I can't. like slow down and like check them out. and like give them that eye contact that. they deserve and that like quality time. so one thing I love to do with my. six-year-old in particular and he's. super sweet and but he has like this. interesting personality that you know it. feels a little harder to get through to. and so one thing I like to do with him. is play Ry cards so he's only six and. he's doing so amazing like he beats me. all the time at Ry and like he'll be.

like calculating how much points he has. versus how much points I have throughout. the game and like this is like one way. that I like to connect with him that is. really sweet and there's nothing else. going on I mean obviously there's little. trying to steal the cards but for. the most part it's just him and me. having this moment to you're not. checking Instagram during the games no. phone set aside and it's just like him. and I my six-year-old who actually can. play cards really well and like he's.

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so that's becoming more and more rare. like children don't stare out the window. they don't have that moment to be bored. I'm like I grew up staring out the. window and looking at the clouds like. and like looking for dead animals on the. side of the road you know like this is. like the life I had I'm like you boys. can do the same I'm not giving them my. phone to entertain them while we drive. even if they're being a little fussy or. whiny like it's just not an option like. I don't allow that and. so we'll turn on stories I'll let them.

um Pitch in sometimes they get to pick. the music so like my six-year-old he. either wants country music or he wants. piano that's his top two choices and so. I'll give them ownership sometimes like. or take turns with sometimes we're. listening to mama music sometimes we're. listening to Baby music if the baby is. fussing and then sometimes we're. listening to like classical piano or um. a story on the podcast the audiobook and. so that's an example of like yeah we're.

using technology but we're not like. giving our phones to like shush our. children so to say and it's interesting. because it doesn't really ever cuss my. mind to need to like quiet my children. with a device like because we just have. things established and they're already. you know doing their own how do you. handle long. flights oh we let them watch movies on. Long airplane rides and they're stoked. and they're like getting their movie. time but then like it makes them look.

forward to traveling and I feel okay. with that cuz it's like we're not. consuming all the time and it's not like. the 20th movie they've watched this this. week um do your neighbor so you said you. had five friends from childhood who all. kind of wound up living like you yeah I. mean yeah very similar but we're all. kind of scattered throughout the island. sometimes we'll meet up at the beach but. we don't see each other as much as we'd. like but are do you stick out in your. community I think I do but also I would.

say a lot of people in Hawaii are. spending like we live to live we don't. work to live like we're all going to the. beach as soon as we're not working. everyone's like checking the surf. forecast and scheduling their life. around the surf forecast I mean if they. can sometimes like you got to work when. you got to work but I feel like people. in Hawaii my friend actually brought. this up the other day like we very much. so live to live and we're going to like. enjoy the sunset a lot and like you know.

get out in nature because it's so easy. to access out there um but there's also. I've seen people live in beautiful. places and never go outside yeah true. that's probably true yeah so I don't. know I try not to like pay attention too. much to what everyone else is doing but. you're not considered like a freak or. people are nice to you at the grocery. store yeah I know like it's very like. lowkey I mean I would say Hawaii has a. lot of pocket of like you know people. living outside of the box um how yeah.

but you're I mean how is Christianity. viewed um I feel like that's an. interesting one and it feels like it's. changing right now with like kind of. this new world religion of like the. pride L gtq. plus whatever movement um you you said. the him wrong and I'm glad yeah yeah. yeah so anyway but I feel like there's. like this new surgence of a new religion.

and it's almost like anti-religion so it. doesn't matter what your religion is. it's like against all the religion so to. say unless the religion tends to be a. little more like uh like relaxed so to. say um it's definitely. anti-christian and I think because it. feels a talk by Christianity because. there's moral ground in Christianity. like the Bible says Thou shalt not lie.

but then it has all the other Ten. Commandments and when you look at. someone's life who maybe lives more in. that. fashion they bring a lot less pain into. the world you know when you're lying. killing stealing like that's not good. for the world yeah and so like there's. so much beauty within it but people are. rejecting it because there's a few of. the things like you should be. faithful before you're even married you. should be faithful and Society does not.

want to be faithful and so that is a. it's a it feels unachievable and. unapproachable because Society has. normalized being unfaithful and so. people feel defensive when they feel. like they are being told what to do yes. but yet someone who lives out a faithful. life is such a blessing right. they like you know when you meet a. married couple who've been married 50. years you're like that is incredible.

like that's so beautiful and they've. been faithful and they've chosen to love. and serve whoever they committed their. life to their spouse and that is such a. blessing in society and it's likely that. their children are more stable and. healthy in society and. so I just get so stoked on that like I'm. like when I meet the per couple that's. been married 50 years I'm like give me. advice tell me like what should I do. like how can I achieve what you've.

achieved you know and what do they say. uh I mean the answers are very different. but um I'm just always willing to like. ask them for advice I can't think of. any any big ones right I can't think of. any well you could give advice you. haven't been married 50 years but you. have a successful marriage we're at 11. years and uh. I would say the biggest thing in our. relationship is truly the grace of God.

and looking to God to be the author and. finisher of our faith. to understand that like his grace is. sufficient for me and when I understand. that then I know his grace is sufficient. for my. husband and if God is sufficient for my. husband then that then leads me to be. gracious on my husband and vice versa. him on me and that is the foundation of. a healthy marriage and no matter what.

you're going to go through and like how. hard the seasons may be you're going to. be able to work through it because your. foundation is not in yourself and your. ability to be the perfect husband or. wife but your foundation is in the. ability to trust in God or not even the. ability but to allow God to work through. your life yes and. so that would be my number one advice oh. that's great advice so you said that you. see the rise of a global.

religion um are you ever confronted by. people who believe in that. religion yeah I mean and how do you how. do you respond yeah it's interesting. because I've just been trying to unpack. to unpack it so I can better understand. it and it's being promoted under the. lens the lens of being loving right. right to be loving towards all those. people but to everyone around you.

regardless of their. views and so it's almost disregarding. having an opinion or a worldview or you. know a belief system it's like. disregarding having any kind of like. moral. foundation and that you have to love and. be accepting of whatever they want to do. regardless of how destructive it may be. um and so you know to me like I think. faithfulness is essential for a healthy.

society and yet people don't want to. embrace that um they want to be free so. to say and like do whatever they want. with whoever they want um at any point. in time in their life and what they. don't understand is that that is painful. in the long run to not have a. relationship that is stable and faithful. and committed and enduring that is hard.

and that is painful and yet Society just. wants to promote that as if it's a good. like it's you know do whatever makes you. happy in the moment and. so I the way I view it is like to be. unfaithful is not good it's not healthy. for a a strong Society it doesn't lead. for you know confident children when. their parents are you know breaking.

apart and you know maybe you have. already maybe you've already hit that. point in life where you've split from. your partner it became unbearable it was. painful and I wouldn't go so far as to. say like God's grace is not sufficient. for you like his grace can be sufficient. for you no matter how awful things may. be and he can work in your children's. lives so I'm not like saying you. know but I just think that if.

Society can strive to be faithful like. that alone could flip Society on its. head to be more beautiful and. more um just full of life and passion. and purpose and you know I think most of. society when they see a a married couple. who are in good relations with one. another 50 years later like everyone's. celebrating like everyone's cheering.

that on and like in awe of that because. it is hard and it is hard to make it. that long I think and it's already seen. to be you know you look at the the. divorce rates so to say and it's it's. super hard out there and people aren't. making it very far yeah I think it's. that's probably harder than sticking. together long run yes totally so tell me. about Brave books so I feel like the. last few years has been crazy starting.

with 20120 like I would say I was pretty. passive when it came to like the World. Views so to say like I had my World. Views and I had things I wanted to live. out in my own life but I wasn't like. hyper aware of like what's going on in. society and then when like right you I. can't overstate I've been to where you. live so I know how far away you live. yeah and so then 2020 2021 hit and like. all this craziness started happening and. like you can kind of start to see.

through like what is actually going on. here cuz I don't think it's as simple as. a virus being you know you don't just. emerge from a wet Market organically and. no so so then you know I just started to. realize like who I partner with and. where I put my money matters and as as a. professional athlete like you're given. all kinds of deals that you know could. make you money you know yeah and but.

they're not necessarily like good things. you know like for example I've had a. professional career in surfing and I. never took a deal with an energy drink. because I just don't believe in those. and that was an area where I drew the. line because I didn't think it was. healthy and it's not something I want to. promote to anyone let alone children who. look up to me what if it was Mountain. Dew berry blast no Mountain Dew Berry.

blasts there okay just what I'm I'm. trying to find your red lines yeah yeah. yeah you know I do drink coffee so I. might have promoted a little coffee. drink here and there I love coffee um. you know but I'm promoting smoothies and. I'm promoting like finding your fuel and. energy and food and taking care of. yourself and like just living a healthy. lifestyle but fast forward 2020 and all. that chaos hits and I'm like where what. are we promoting and so I get this.

opportunity to I get Brave books. emailing me and being like hey do you. want to write a children's book with us. and I'm like oh yeah let's go but this. company is standing against a lot of the. societal norms and they're trying to. build the family they're trying to build. up children to have solid identities to. say no to the lies of the world to be. aware of like the challenges that. they're going to face uh as they grow. about life and now I'm reading them to.

my children I'm like this is the radest. book ever to be able to read my children. to sleep and when you say something for. people not from Hawaii when you say. something it's the radest book ever. that's good good epic. solid so like for example one of my. favorite Brave books besides my own I. mean like I like my book but I'm just. not like that but um it's about this. little boy who has to say of his sister. and he has to like go on this crazy. journey to find this Ice Flower and if. he drips the little ice flower on her.

lips she'll she'll survive the the Pokey. that she stepped on that's going to. poison her and so he's having to like. basically become a man and like save his. little sister and it's like the sweetest. little story and now my three-year-old's. like I'm going to go find an ice flower. for my baby sister and it's like it's. Computing in his head like the life that. he should live is to save the the young. woman in his life and to protect her and. to um you.

know face his fears on her behalf and he. goes on this like gnarly journey and. he's crying at one point and it's just. this rad little book uh it's I think it. was called the son of truth no no it. wasn't the son of truth but that's. another one that's really good too but. anyway I'm like my agent's like hey are. you sure you want to partner with this. company cuz once all the big. corporational sort of companies see you. partnering with Brave books they're not. likely going to want to um partner with. you as much anymore and I'm like oh my.

gosh it felt like I was like walking off. a cliff and I think I kind of did walk. off some sort of Cliff but like it felt. like a good one a good Cliff yeah and. and then like so I partner with bra. books I wrote my book surfing past fear. it's a really sweet story inspiring. children to overcome their. fears and and then about 9 months later. the world surf League starts allowing. males to compete in the female Division.

and I'm the only one walking off that. Cliff saying no like this is not okay. and we're not about to allow males to. compete against I'm not about to have. males competing against me. willingly and that was a whole another. just step of faith in that someone's got. to say no and nobody else. did literally I don't think one female.

maybe like a couple lesser known like. kind of like not very vocal girls like I. think there was a lot of women not for. it but the unfortunate thing was the. world surf League had all the athletes. say like hey you're not allowed to say. anything deemed derogatory or negative. towards the world surf League or we will. find you and disqualify you from. competing so shut up and Obey yeah and. so that was like the the contract they.

had signed um the December prior to that. year and they literally get an email. they didn't even get a vocal warning. like hey males are not allowed to. compete in the female division as long. as their hormones Reach This certain. level and they didn't even get a warning. they just get an email in the Inbox and. I'm like oh no way this is not okay. and I'm not for this and I think I lost. some major deals that year I think uh I.

had had a deal on the table with Ford. and that never happened and I think it. was around that time when I was like. nope I'm not for this and I like made a. public statement and and what kind of. reaction did you get to that I would say. it was mostly positive like but there. was some gnarly negative intertwined but. I feel like most of the I had people out. of the Woodworks like stopping me in our. local grocery store like thank you so. much for speaking up like we're so proud.

of you but there was also some really. aggressive like I have like this shark. gang on Tik Tok that like they're like. we're on team. shark. what yeah some like crazies out there. but you know whatever side of the. spectrum you are I feel like there's. crazies in the mix of like either end. like there's just extremists that are. hateful and harsh and we'll say gnarly. things and but it definitely was like an. intense season and I probably let it.

like affect me more than I should though. I didn't look too much I was like H you. can look if you want but I'm not looking. cuz I need to go to sleep tonight good. for you not looking is a is a huge step. I know sometimes you just have to not. look and um I've never looked not a. looker yeah you're probably better off. much better off yeah and. yeah so anyway partnering with companies. like Brave books and now I'm partnered. with Public Square like you can.

literally put your dollar where your. values matter and I think that really. matters like there is a team of amazing. people trying to build a parallel. economy that isn't founded on these. weird agendas and these hate division. death yeah just this gnarliness or this. new world religion that they're trying. to shove down children's throats to make. them like more confused than ever and so. brave books is inspiring families to. speak into their children's.

lives early on so that they can go into. society and not be confused not be uh. hateful on themselves and you know. reject their god-given Beauties but to. embrace their god-given. talents and the person that they've been. formed to be and I feel like this new. world religion is like oh just be. whatever you want flow whatever. Direction you want and like it really. doesn't lead to happiness it leads to.

Despair and darkness and you know you. can even look at the statistics and know. that you know some of these people that. are choosing to amputate their body. parts are not healthy and they're. regretting their decisions and they're. taking hormones that essentially make. them get disease earlier on in life than. they should and I'm like we're cheering. this on because they just feel like they. want to be different than they actually. are like I have one arm I would never.

wish that on anyone like why would you. amputate perfectly good body parts just. to look a certain way like it doesn't. make sense to look and be a certain way. and like to do such Extreme Measures and. yeah Society is like woohoo let's go. granted I think after I spoke out. against males in female sports I think. this majority of society is like nope. this ain't okay but they just might not. be voicing their opinions did the surf.

League change their position no and I. think ultimately they're trying to be. accepted into the. Olympic uh rules so they're following. the Olympic rules so the. Olympics is choosing to allow males into. female sports and so the world surf. league is just following their lead so. to say little a joke yeah I mean I would. say the athletes are incredible and I. would like highly um I highly celebrate.

the athleticism and the hard work of. these athletes but the organization. behind is definitely not serving the. athletes to the best of its ability and. it's not looking at the realities of. like a male competing against a female. is just simply not fair and like should. never be okay I couldn't agree. more so I wanted to end on something. that we were talking about off camera. that I thought was so cool and revealing. we're talking about social media and um.

my daughters is a huge fan of yours so. she was showing me your social media. last night I don't actually have the app. Instagram but she was showing me this so. cool and she was saying this woman has. the most beautiful children I've I've. ever seen um so we were talking about. social media this morning and you were. saying what you just said on camera. which is that you really notice its. effects on young women. and but you've chosen to put your own. children in some of your pictures and. videos for a very specific reason that I. want you to explain because I thought it.

was just wonderful yeah I mean I've gone. back and forth on like do I share my. family life on social media or not and I. just from my perspective like I want to. inspire the Next Generation to embrace. and look forward to. Motherhood and there are people that I. follow that make me like just look. forward to waking up to my children. every day they have a really positive. outlook on motherhood they inspire me to.

be the best Mothers mother I can be and. they're not hiding their family life so. to say and so there is this like kind of. balance that like a lot of people will. just refuse to show family but I really. want to inspire this next generation and. I think like so many people have gotten. so many messages of like your family is. so beautiful like I want to be a mom. someday and like that to me is like so. encouraging and I just want people to. know that motherhood is a blessing and.

to be a mom is one of the greatest roles. in life and I feel like there's a big. movement that is against that right now. yes and it's you know there's a lot of. meming. around I just can't wait to go to bed. can't wait to like silence the children. like just kind of like frustrations over. like motherhood and I want to just. encourage women to know that. motherhood's such a blessing and that. children. are you know like that is the high of my.

day I go to bed and even if I had an. amazing day aside from them like they. are my highlight they are the thing that. I'm thinking about when I go to bed and. I'm like oh my gosh even on the rough. days I'm like there's always that sweet. moment that I am like thinking about how. my three-year-old came and gave me a big. hug and kiss when I G came back from. surfing or something like that and he.

was the highlight of my 2-hour window. like it wasn't the Surfing by myself it. was like the coming home and getting a. big hug and kiss from my three-year-old. and so I'm hoping to inspire this next. Generation to know that motherhood is. such a gift and to look forward to that. because it's such a blessing I won't. even ask why anyone would want to deny. people the greatest pleasure in life um. but I just commend you for reminding the. rest of us that it is the greatest. pleasure in life it is it's such a. blessing Bethany Hamilton thank you very.

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