Unlock The Secrets Of Your Mind, Boost Productivity & Reduce Stress! - Yung Pueblo | E255

People don't understand their capacity. You don't need to hit rock bottom to be. the best version of yourself. What you. just have to do is. I love that. Young Pueblo, the expert in unlocking. your true potential. He's a meditator. and best-selling author whose work has. impacted the lives of millions. World is. incredibly challenging. The demands are. intense, and whether you've experienced. serious trauma or not, hard moments get. accumulated into the mind. We're trapped. in this tight little bubble by our past.

It keeps us in a loop. You react very. intensely with anger, with sadness, with. fear to feel anxiety, stress, but. healing and letting go are possible. How? The best tool that we don't access. is meditation. If there's someone. listening to this now and they go, "I. don't meditate. I've tried it, didn't. work." What is the pitch you'd make to. them? Steve Jobs, the same argument. High-performing people cultivate their. minds and meditate. They stay cool under. pressure, make more creative decisions, and can do more with less stress. It's. essential for your mental health. When I. grew up, I didn't want to admit to.

myself that I didn't feel good. Constantly trying to coat myself in. pleasure by drinking as much as. possible, doing tons of drugs where I. almost lost my life. Everything was. going terrible, but when I started. meditating, everything changed. Requires. this application of self-awareness to. really unlock your happiness. You got to. see what you're doing to yourself. Meditating has been the biggest. investment that I've made in my life. In. a specific way, how does your meditation. look? There's two main things. One is.

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Young Pueblo, Diego Perez. When you. look at the body of work you've produced. and you look specifically at the the. writing, the content that you've put out. into the world. What mission are you on? What is it. you're trying to do? What effect are you. trying to have on society at large? I think the mission is really helping to. raise self-awareness around the fact. that healing and letting go are. possible. So, I got into this world.

really early on. I think uh it was 2011. when I started realizing that healing. was even possible, and this was before. wellness was even a giant, sort of this. giant world that it is today. And um. to me it was a shock. You know, when I. grew up, I thought that. if you were sick physically or mentally. in some manner, you just had to deal. with that for the rest of your life. You. couldn't really fix that in any way. And. when I started.

when I started changing what I was. eating, when I started reassessing my. friend group, and then eventually when I. started meditating, the changes were so. massive that I was so shocked by them. that I. wanted to really check in with myself. and see that is this real? And it was. real. So, that just kind of pushed me. into writing where I felt this sort of. creative pull to to share the little bit. of that I that I know, you know, and it. it was interesting because I know that I.

don't know everything. I'm not fully. healed. I'm not fully wise. I have a. long way to go, but hopefully some of the things that. I'm reflecting on could inspire other. people to do the serious work as well. And and why? Why does it matter that we. heal? Why does it matter? I think it's. because it's pretty necessary to live a. better life. Like I I think whether. you've experienced serious trauma or. not, you've definitely had hard moments. in your life. And those hard moments. get accumulated into the mind. They. literally, you know, the times when you.

react very intensely with anger, with. sadness, with whatever emotion it is, that reaction gets accumulated in your. mind and predisposes you to feeling that. same thing again. And. often times we don't quite realize that. we're sort of like trapped in this tight. little bubble by our past, and we're. thinking the same things, saying the. same things, making the same actions, and it keeps us in a loop. But if you. start healing, you can basically get. access to your freedom. So, so thinking about what you said.

there about your own healing journey. where you couldn't believe the results. were real and true. What did you heal from? I think a lot of it was anxiety and. stress and um this sort of scarcity. mindset. So, I was born in Ecuador in. the city called Guayaquil. I came to the. United States when I was about 4 years. old with my parents. When we got to the United States, it was. incredibly difficult. Like we were stuck. in the classic American poverty trap. Uh.

my mom, she worked cleaning houses. My. dad, he worked. um. at a supermarket. So, there was no. upward mobility for us. Um they didn't know English. You know, we were. in we were we went through a really. difficult time. So, as I was growing up, I didn't notice how. that was affecting me until I got to. college where, you know, I had so much. anxiety and stress about, you know, I. would see my parents fight constantly. about how they were going to pay the.

rent, how they were going to get more. groceries. I experienced multiple times. where I was, you know, 8-year-old child. and I'm so hungry cuz there wasn't. enough food in the fridge. And this all. got accumulated over time and never. really properly processed, you know, like I didn't have access to a therapist. back then, no meditating back then. It. was sort of just um. you know, coping mechanisms. And. when I got to university, I hit this. breaking point where. I didn't want to admit to myself that I.

didn't feel good. I was. constantly trying to coat myself in. pleasure by drinking as much as. possible, smoking as much as possible, um always with friends, never alone. And. I ended up just like building all these. bad habits where I was partying. constantly, doing tons of drugs, and um. eventually hit that breaking point in. the summer of 2011 where I almost lost. my life. Um. I talked to a doctor afterwards and. described to them what happened, and. they were like, "Oh yeah, that sounds.

like a mild heart attack." Where I had. just taken way too many drugs one night, was on the floor. crying, basically, you know, praying, begging for my life um cuz I didn't I. didn't want to go out like that. And. going through that experience and then. basically taking a different route into. the life that I have now, I think um. I'm really grateful that I had that. strength, and I want other people to. know that they have that strength, too. Zooming in on that moment then, when you. you go off to college, you, you know, find yourself in addictive cycles with.

drugs and alcohol and cocaine, I. believe. Yeah. You have that miniature heart attack. Yeah. And then at that point you make a. decision that you're not going to let. this thing kill you. Yeah. What is the. next step in your journey towards. healing? Walking. Uh walking. Something's I mean, I was. incredibly unhealthy, right? I was. definitely overweight at the time, but. um but internally, right? I hadn't. exercised probably in like 4 years, 4 or. 5 years. And um so, I knew I took the.

drugs, threw them away. Um. you know, I'm home, and I'm like, "Okay, how do I. like revamp my life?" And I remember. seeing some YouTube video or stumble. upon or I saw something back then where. um. it was talking about how important it is. to have more nutrition. So, I ended up. buying a like huge tub of barley grass. You know, back barley grass used to be. like really hip back then, and um I. needed some type of superfood cuz I knew.

I'm you know, every day I'm just eating, you know, rice and meat, rice and meat, just like a very like South American. diet. And I was like, "Okay, let me get. some nutrition. Let me get this barley. grass stuff. I can put it in my orange. juice and just knock it back." And I was. like, "I got to do something. Like I. have to go outside." And I just started. walking. And I remember I was so. unhealthy, started walking, lightly. jogging, that I got the worst shin. splints. Like I literally my legs hurt. so bad that I was having trouble going. up the stairs. But I kept going, and I.

kept going. And like, you know, even. this morning, this morning I I ran 4. miles, no problem. And thinking about. that time, it's. yeah, I've come come a long way. I was I was thinking as you were. speaking about. Yeah. the catalyst of change in people's. lives. Mhm. Like that moment where they hit. rock bottom and they say enough is. enough. And what it takes for for them to make a. meaningful sustained change in any. element of their life, whether it's a. relationship and leaving and going. finding a better Yeah. situation or a.

job, or just life in general, like. you're describing where you realize. you're on the wrong track and you make. the decision. to to to to go in a new direction. Two. questions there. What do you think it is. that from your experience that starts. that journey of change for people? And. the second thing is when we often speak. to people who've changed, the process seems to be really linear. and quick. Like I made the decision to. change, then I changed. I think people doubt their power, honestly, man. I've seen that happen.

time and time again where people don't. quite understand their capacity, and. especially when the situation gets. severe. And of course, like, you know, not everybody makes it. Like some people. get. destroyed by the process of hitting rock. bottom. But other people stand up. It's. almost like a phoenix. I remember. writing a poem called Phoenix in my. first book, Inward. And um. I think that, you know, it's pretty. personalized. Like I really don't think. everybody has to hit rock bottom. And I.

think um I like having that point of. view cuz I think people want to like go. to extremes often and kind of dramatize. things, but you don't need to hit rock. bottom to be the best version of. yourself. I think that's that's kind of. the situation that I was personally in. Um. but for me, man, I remember when I was. on the floor and I kept thinking. about I was like, man, I I feel my life. like. you know, it's it's running out. Like I. felt it running out. And. I kept thinking about my parents. And I. was like, they worked so hard. Like, you.

know, they I I wasn't even mad at them. they didn't have time for me because I. knew their struggle. Like I understood. Like I got it. You they rolled the dice. by coming to the United States because. everybody doesn't win here. The other major major major thing, like. when I. you know, the few days after where I. almost lost my life. I remember sitting. in my room. um at my mom and dad's house. And this. was, you know, I had just graduated from. college. It was 2011. The economy was.

was pretty bad. It was hard to get a job. at the time. And I remember sitting in. the room and I was like, okay, I was. like, what's the problem here? Like what. like how did this almost happen? And it. hit me. I was like, oh, is it because. you didn't want to admit that you didn't. feel good. Now, if that's what got you here, what can. get you out of this? And it's oh, it's. telling yourself the truth. And this was, you know, before I had. learned how to meditate or anything, but. I would just sit in my bed.

and I would challenge myself to stay. with the feelings that I used to run. away from. So, like I like to call it. radical honesty with yourself. Like it's. not it's not really about other people, but it's between you and yourself. And when those heavy emotions would come. up, normally I would just roll a joint, smoke, and just, you know, it helped. cover whatever was there. But when the anxiety would arise, when. the stress would arise, when those. feelings of worthlessness would arise, I would. just sit with them. And, you know, first. it was a few minutes, then 10 minutes,

15 minutes. And I was like, okay. Like and I learned. a lot. You know, I learned that. these little storms that come up, like. they don't need to blow you over. They. don't need to totally overwhelm you. They don't even need to govern your. actions. If you just sit there and feel. them, you realize they're totally temporary. and it's going to be okay. You know, and. and I I didn't know that before until I. started challenging myself to just be. with that. And I don't really know where that came. from. You know, like I had hadn't really.

I hadn't really read self-improvement. books or seen these things online or. anything like that, but I think. instinctually I was like, okay, if if. you were lying to yourself before, now. tell yourself the truth. And what does. that look like a lot of the time? It. looks like feeling your emotions and not. running from them. We don't do that, do we? We um. we distract ourselves. Constantly. Constantly. Yeah. It's It's I was just thinking then, how. many how many of us really know how.

we're feeling? Like, how many of us. really know how we ourselves are. feeling? Truly. Like when was the last time I. think for most people listening to this, have you really sat there on the end of. your bed or wherever and asked yourself. how you're actually feeling, all things. considered? What's out of balance? It's rare, but I think it's becoming. more popular. I'm pretty inspired by. what's happening now. I've um. I've been watching this whole wellness.

world brew and grow and develop. And. obviously it's had has its downs. It has. a lot of consumerism around it. But. there are a lot of positives. And there. are just millions and millions of people. who are seeing therapists now. There's. millions and millions people who are. meditating. And there are millions and. millions more journaling, reflecting, building self-awareness, building. language around these, you know, newer. ideas. Um I mean, actually old ideas, but that have, you know, come back. around. Um Isn't that also slightly.

concerning? What do you mean? Because it it's. it's a sign that there is a increasing. demand potentially. for. You know what I mean? If it's if if. there's more fire extinguishers being. sold. Right. Right. Right. Right. Oh, it's. totally concerning. I'm I think um. it's concerning, but I think to me it. gives it gives us gives me hope, honestly, because. of course, the world is incredibly. challenging. You know, the advent of technology,

especially with social media, the. increases in loneliness. Like we know. We know. Like the cause and effect are. very clear, right? But these tools have been around for. like, you know, the western tools of. therapy, what, 100 150 years? The. eastern tools of different forms of. meditation, indigenous healing. practices, these things have been around. for millennia. And now that the world is. globalized, people in major cities. especially have access to them. Like you. can type in like, what what what can I.

do to deal with my anxiety? And you have. like, you know, things from from psychiatrists, like, you know, you can go to your like local. meditation center. There are tons of. things that you can do now. And what you. just have to do is find something that. meets you where you're at. So, you do. see these two things rise together where. the demand for your attention is through. the roof now from the media, from tech, from everything that's happening around. you, family and friends. But at the same. time, here are a bunch of tools for you.

to get your mind right so that you can. not be overwhelmed by these demands. I. am certainly guilty of using screens and. other means to distract myself from how. I'm feeling. In fact, you know, when I'm. feeling tired or. so, you know, bothered in some way or a. little bit agitated in whatever it way. it might be, my way of dealing with that is to pick. up a screen. Yeah. I was going to be. honest. Pick up a screen. and either watch something on YouTube,

distract myself from the feeling, maybe. watch some football. Mhm. Um or. something else, you know, something else. that's probably not so good for me. Um and I think that, you know, scrolling. on my phone for example, I think that. represents the the majority of people. We use distraction as a way to. avoid confronting how we're feeling. because confronting how we're feeling is. can be uncomfortable. Absolutely. I. mean, confronting how you're feeling for a lot. of us, that's the gateway to growth, right? So, if you're going to be there. and stand with your emotions,

you either see so much that you want to. keep running or you're like, okay, I'm. going to accept this challenge and let's. see how I should grow next. So, it is. quite difficult. Is it called Vipassana? Vipassana? Vipassana. Vipassana Vipassana. There's. a bunch of ways to say it. What is that? It's a meditation. that's been around. that originated from the Buddhist. teaching. So, 2,600 years where you. basically.

uh. do your best to see reality as it really. is. And it's very different from how we. normally see reality, right? You and I. are hanging out. We're talking. We're. having this conversation. It feels like. it's two individuals speaking, but let's. ask ourselves what's happening at the. ultimate level where well, Diego and. Steven were basically just these like. bundles of atoms that are changing so. incredibly rapidly, trillions of times. And at the same time, it's just mental. and physical phenomena interlocking at.

incredibly high speeds that makes the. illusion that we're here. Um but in reality, are we real? No, not really. Why is that an important or valuable. exercise? It's quite valuable. I think. the sense of self. um. when it becomes overgrown, when it when. it becomes highly traumatized, um it creates a barrier to happiness. So, what I found through Vipassana. meditation was that. as I was observing the truth of.

impermanence, literally within the. framework of the body, you know, when. you start learning that everything that. arises ultimately passes away and you. start understanding that change is it. exists within the fabric of every single. thing in this universe, you start. loosening up your identity. It's not as. rigid as it was before. It's not like. Diego always reads science fiction and. he always loves blueberries. Actually, it's not true. Sometimes I love. watermelon. Sometimes I love, you know, like reading fiction. Some You know, so. it allows this.

uh understanding of change to help you. loosen up and really evolve. Um and I. have have found that. quite beneficial to my personal joy and. happiness and definitely in my. relationships. Because if you embrace. change, you're not going to be as. attached. It's not going to be like, I. want you to do this this way all the. time. In fact, you're going to. understand, oh, no, different conditions create different. situations. So, yes, I can have goals, but if they don't come about, I'm not. going to be crying on the floor. I'm.

just going to try again. How do you think our earliest. experiences. impact the relationship we have with. change? Because change It's funny cuz. there's this almost duality of being a. human where. we seem to like things staying the same. There's a certain security and comfort. Even the idea of self identity, that's. almost like an a resistance to change. It allows me to be understood. If I if I. give you my. Totally. bio, my business card, it will. say CEO of marketing company. Then you. get me. You know where I fit I feel like.

I'm I fit somewhere and there's there's. a tribe somewhere. But at the same time, the human experience yearns for. progress. Totally. And we're not trying to have. people get rid of their identities, right? What we're trying to do is create. um a sense of flexibility within that. identity. Where we don't often see that. human beings we tend to side on the. extreme of the apparent reality. That's. what I was mentioning before. Like, I am. here, you are there, we're speaking to. each other. That's apparently happening. But, we totally forget the ultimate.

reality. We totally forget that. everything is constantly changing. Even. this hard table, it's changing so fast, so fast that you can't even witness it. You can't even see it unless you. profoundly calm down the mind and start. developing your awareness, your. equanimity, and you do this within the. framework of the body. Because when you. understand what's happening within the. body, you actually understand universal. law. You understand what's happening, you know, throughout the universe. And. missing that undercurrent of change, missing that understanding that your ego.

is not this permanent thing, it helps you tremendously so that you're. not as attached as you're moving through. the world because we're constantly. trying to control everything, control. ourselves, control the people around us, control whatever situation we can get. our hands on. And what happens when. you're just trying to constantly control. things? Misery. So much misery. So much. struggle. So much mental tension. And I. think that's why. embracing change, like your original. question, you know, what is our. relationship with change? It's a. combative one. It's a It's a situation.

where, you know, we grow up as children. and we, you know, all we're focusing on is. building our identity, right? When. you're becoming little, you're learning. the culture, you're sort of taking it. all in, and you develop your sense of. self. But, when you become older, you. know, when you're grounded and you have. a, you know, a good sense of identity, you also need to develop an. understanding of what's ultimately. happening around here. And I think when. you get a real taste of ultimate truth, it helps you tremendously because I I.

think if if I didn't have if I didn't. switch around my relationship with. change, um. like I would have no access to peace. It's interesting cuz you're you're. totally right. When I was younger, I. grew up hoovering information that. allowed me to survive, and I built my. identity around the character that was. required to survive in that context. Right. Not the character that would. make me happiest in my life or for most. fulfilled or best in relationships. So, what was formed by the age of 18 was. this like insecure, shame-ridden kid who.

would run from relationships cuz he. thought those were prison. Mhm. Um and. that stood in the way of all of my so. many of my goals. It certainly stood in. the way of me being really happy, but it. also stood in the way of me finding. romantic love. Right. And it was. unpacking that identity, and becoming. aware of its existence, and then. unpacking it, trying to unlearn it, that. allowed me to pursue the things that now. make me fulfilled and happy. I'm still. not there yet. I haven't really met anybody that is. Um. but I find that really interesting that.

like we build that identity around. survival, and then as an adult at some. point we need to like review it. You hit. it on the dot. So, I think when we It. makes sense evolutionarily. Like, you. evolution wants you to be able to. survive. It does not care about your. happiness. It does not care about your. sense of thriving. But, as you come to. fruition and you come into being, and. you're like you're here, you have your. sense of identity, you realize that there's so much misery. wrapped in the sense of self, wrapped in. wrapped in your attachments, and to be.

able to really thrive and to be happy, it requires letting go. I mean, how much. stress have you caused yourself? Right? There's like we have to ask. ourselves this. Like, of course, you. know, sometimes people get offended by this. question, but. you have to realize that There have. definitely been people in your life. who've caused you harm. People who've. done terrible things. But, it's you and yourself in that mind. of yours, right? It's It's just you. And.

I And we don't quite understand how many. times we replay the past over and over, and then those same feelings of tension. come up again and again, and we have no. way to really process that unless we try. to actively find some sort of tool that. will help us let go. Uh and I think it's. really important to just, you know, you. got to see what you're doing to. yourself. How? Self-awareness, time alone, reflecting, have a good teacher, you know, have.

someone who can point things out to you. that you couldn't see before. I think. that's. ultimately what a lot of therapists are. doing is like, have you asked yourself. this? Have you been honest about this? And similar with meditation, and it's. it's you developing a um. you know, a sense of. an ability to observe instead of just. judgment. Cuz constantly when I'm. looking out on the world, I'm just. evaluating things. Giving you this. evaluation according to the memory that. I have, this record inside of my mind. But, instead of constantly just.

evaluating things, why can't I just. observe? Why does it have to be plus or. minus? Let me just watch what's. happening right now. We're all in cycles, aren't we? Every. facet Most facets of my life, I think. pretty much every facet of my life is in. some kind of cycle. Now, some of these. cycles are positive. So, me working out. and going to the gym, that seems to be a. positive cycle that I've managed to. build. Some people might call that a. habit. And then I do have other cycles. in my life where I go, that happened, I. reacted like that. That was not the the. reaction that would bring me closer to. my goals and fulfillment.

Um. I'll try and not to do that again, and. then the thing happens, and I that kind. of cycle repeats itself. And in so many, you know, I think about myself, I think. about my friends, I think about, you know, even some of my. my close sort of mentors, um I observe. those cycles in their life that they're. trying to break out of, but they just. they just seem so stubborn. Right. I've. lived through so many of those stubborn. cycles where for years and years and. years I've known it's a problem. Mhm. I've not known how to get out of it. What advice would you give me or someone.

else in in a situation where we we know. we're in a cycle, whether it's. relationships or work, or how we're. responding to things, and we feel stuck in that cycle? Yeah, I think that's that's what a lot. of us are going through is that. the past is constantly on a loop, right? A lot of like we are very largely formed. by those first few years of life, you. know, a lot of psychologists say. to about the age of seven. I would say. it's more. It's like it's um every time.

that you react, it gets accumulated. So, those moments of heartbreak, like your. first love, your first loss, like all of. these things that have um really formed. your sense of self, they are impacting. the way that you're perceiving and the. way that you're reacting to the world. And. I think for a lot of us, we probably one. of the best tools that we don't access. is just the ability to slow down. Is. just slowing down. Literally just. pumping the brakes. And what you just.

talked about, what you just described, being able to. spend time observing, okay, this is what. I'm feeling. This is how I want to. react. You know, I have this cuz. initially our initial reaction is pretty. rough. It's like the most defensive one, the most survival-oriented one. But, it's like, okay, that That's actually. going to make a bigger mess of things. What can I do differently? Like, what. can I do to change this play that's. happening around me so that I can put a. different input and hopefully get a. different output. And I think when we.

slow down, we see that. And that's one. of the gifts that I personally got from. meditating was I didn't have that. ability ability before. Like, the. reaction was lightning fast. You know, someone said something about me I didn't. like, immediately, like hate. Like, I. would be so upset, so like, you know, wanting to control their view of me. And. now it's like, let me slow down. Let me. see how I would have dealt with this. before. What's like the actually the. most skillful thing that I can do in. this moment to like, you know, to just.

stay in value with myself, and at the. same time just like maneuver out of. this. Like, is this even worth my time? You know. where that reaction's coming from? Do. you need to know the root cause? No. No. I think a lot of people get. stuck in like examining the past and. like peeling like, okay, like my mom. said this one thing to me one time, and. then my dad did this other thing. Like, it's totally valuable to understand your. past, but healing happens in the present. moment. Like, those feelings, like if. you want to deal with your past, you.

need to be able to create space for the. feelings that are coming up right now. because often those feelings that are. coming up right now are just echoes of. the past. You don't need to know a. narrative. Like, you don't need to give. a narrative to every single feeling. You. know, you literally just have to be able. to hold space for them, and when you do. hold space space for them, a lot of the. unbinding happens so that you're not as. knotted up inside. On a. You talked about what meditation being. critical for you there to kind of slow. down and have that space to reflect on.

how you're responding and and so on. In a. in a specific way, how does your meditation look? Does it. Is it once a day for 5 minutes? Is it, you know, you go off to a retreat? Yeah, so um. you learn Vipassana. It's in this is in. the S.N. Goenka tradition, same. tradition that Yuval Noah Harari also. meditates in. Um. We You learn the technique by going away. to one silent 10-day course. Um so, it's a big commitment. It's hard.

It's not easy. You know, the first one. that I did was incredibly difficult. Like, I just thought about running away. for the first 7 days. Um. but you learn a technique that, you. know, the first 3 days you learn how to. observe your respiration, and you're. given this tool called Anapana where, you know, you're literally observing the. natural breath. And then that helps calm. down the mind enough where you can start. feeling a lot more in your body than. what's usual. Um. you know, for some meditators, they can.

feel like the crispness of the pain that. they're that they might feel from. sitting long hours a day where they can. like feel it to just like this hyper HD. detail, and it's not as overwhelming, right? Because they're there with it. Um. and or on the other end, you know, some. meditators will be able to feel this. like flow of, you know, rapid energy. moving through the body. And it's almost. like like an atomic river that you're. sort of fine-tuning your mind to be able. to feel. And you can feel how like,

yeah, this is my bicep, but it's. actually it feels like tens of thousands. of like changing vibrations that are. moving incredibly rapidly. And You sit. there in silence for 10 days. Total. silence for 10 days. You can talk to the. teacher, ask questions. Um, but you're. like you're there totally by yourself. Um, you're there with a group of people, but you're like in an environment where. it's basically by yourself. You're not. allowed to speak to those other people? No. No eye contact, no speaking. You're.

like basically living like a monk. And what about on a day-to-day basis? What is your like daily. On a day-to-day basis, I meditate 2. hours a day. 2 hours a day? That's right. Every day? Every day. I've been doing. that for I think about 8 years now. Um, and I meditate 1 hour in the morning, 1. hour in the evening. Or like, you know, late afternoon or something like that. What does that look like? Just sitting. on your own or Yeah, I mean, this. morning it looked like, you know, came. to New York City to to come hang out. with you. Woke up this morning,

um, and just like sat up on the bed and put. my timer for 1 hour and started. meditating. Yeah. But we also, you know, meditate at. home. We have our a little meditation. room where my wife and I meditate and. um, and it's honestly it's amazing. It's. I know to a lot of people like 2 hours a. day, wow, so much time. But I think about it to myself like, how. much time do I waste? Like I waste tons. of time. Like I get a lot done, but I'm. also constantly wasting time every day. And.

what I've understood is that these 2. hours a day that I've been meditating. for the past 8 years, they've been the. biggest investment that I've made in my. life. Like by far, cuz it's one thing, you know, you go away to these retreats. Um, and it's incredibly valuable. You. know, you can come out totally. transformed. But to keep the process. going at home, it just adds a deeper. element to it that helps you continue. evolving, continue evolving. And I think. because I've spent that time my.

relationship with my wife has flourished. because it was rough. Like before we. started meditating, there was a 6-year. period where we were together and before. we started meditating and our. relationship was chaos. It was It was. like living in a hurricane. Constantly. fighting each fighting each other, constantly blaming each other. You know, my relationship with my parents was very. shallow. My relationships with my. brother and sister were even more. shallow. You know, same thing with. friends, like work life, everything was. going terrible. But when I started. meditating. everything changed. Everything opened. up. I didn't even know that I would that.

I should write. You know, like all of. this came from. cleaning up my mind and then like my. intuition started waking up and I was. like, oh, you know, try writing. You. know, you know you know that you don't. know everything. But share, share the process. If you. were to give me instructions then on the. meditation you did this morning. what instructions would you give me to. replicate what you did? I think so this is the thing. It's like. this style of meditation, um. you can't pay for it. You can't,

um, like get it off of a YouTube video. Like you you have to go to a 10-day. course because it's not I can tell you. the instructions. but do you have enough of the cultivated. qualities to be able to actually deeply. feel the body? Like that's why it's a. step-by-step. That 10 days is literally. like one giant guided meditation. Incredibly simple instructions, but. you won't be able to do them unless your. mind is like calm enough, unless it's. You know, it's like going to the gym. It's like if you were to ask me to go.

run a marathon right now, like I. wouldn't be able to do it. You know, I'd. have to train for it. Okay, so I'm not going to be able to do. it just based on your instructions. I. get that. Yeah. But I'm I'm curious as to. the specific like. Yeah, the specific like. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So so the the two the. two basics are, um, you know, like what. I was describing to you. The first 3. days you're observing the breath. I. mean, this morning. And this morning, same thing. Well, this morning, um, I was basically observing my body. You.

know, bringing my attention to my body. You know, start at the top of the head. and keep feeling my body as I'm moving. down. And. you know, it sounds. really simple, but when you put time. into it, when you like keep going to. courses, the amount that you feel, um, it it expands pretty pretty incredibly. Yeah. Do you think the most important. answers that we're searching for are. within us? Totally. Totally. If you spend your. whole life looking outside you could.

read every book in the world and still. be absolutely miserable. I think you it. requires this application of. self-awareness to really unlock your. happiness. Like you have to develop what. you're missing. Like develop like. compassion is in your mind, but it's. undeveloped. Like self-awareness, it's. it's a capacity you have, totally. undeveloped. Like that's that's what was. shocking to me when I went to go. meditate was like. my mind could do these things, but my. awareness was so meek when I first. started because it was like a muscle.

Like when I go to these meditation. courses, you know, I've gone to courses. that are 20, 30, 45 days long. You know, I come out of them and I'm like I just. spent my whole time at the gym. Like it. was just a mental gym. I was like. literally developing my ability to be. aware, my ability to be equanimous, and. my ability to have love for myself and. all beings. That's my favorite ever, um. quote that I've ever shared on Instagram. is what you've just said, which is. there's no self-development without. self-awareness. You can read as many. books as you like, but if you can't read.

yourself, you'll never learn a thing. Well, this this is why I so like, uh, people listening around. Like this is. why I became so interested in you. Right. Whereas when I first came around. your work and the algorithm started, you. know, it started popping it up. This was. like two, two and a half, maybe even 3. years ago. And I was like I was like, dude, we're on the same wave. Like, you. know, we're not doing the same thing. We. live totally different lives, but. there's something there that's like, um, yeah, it's the same wave. It's a it's an it's a curiosity. It's a. curiosity that I see, um,

in your work and in you. And it's funny. because the subject matter. is not subject matter that is for. everybody. And you'll know this from. doing the work you do. There's There's. some people that when they read terms. like self-love and healing they go, "Fuck you.". What is this. You know what I mean? But it's But it's. funny. I just wish those people knew. that all of their goals start with that. If they want to be a billionaire or a. millionaire for whatever reasons they. want. I don't want to judge you. You. want a Lamborghini. If you want to be. happy, you want a beautiful. relationship, it all starts with these.

these words that self-love and healing. It's And it's interesting, man. Like I. you know, I just saw the movie Air. Oh, I just watched that. And and it was I loved it. You know, it. was incredible. But what was really. telling to me was that the guy who owned. Nike he was meditating a lot. Yeah. You know? And like it was really helping. him. It was helping him stay cool under. pressure. You know, it was helping him. like make more creative decisions. Like. same thing with, um.

Steve Jobs. Like he is like he was a. serious meditator. And same thing with, um. uh, Sam Altman. You know, created. OpenAI. Like he's a serious meditator. You know, just met him the other day and. like he's meditating quite seriously. But like these are people who are. high-performing people who are make it a. point to cultivate their minds. And. these are people that are obsessed with. productivity. Totally. And you know, that. that's something that has that blew my. mind experiencing it personally where as.

I kept going, as I kept going to courses. I realized like I can just I can do. more. I can do more with less stress. And to me that's been incredible. Like. at first I was a writer and then I. started opening up and going into the. venture capital world and even later I'm. thinking about opening a business, but I. wouldn't have been able to do anything. if it wasn't really for that basic. development of self-awareness and you. know, equanimity. And I keep using the. word and equanimity what I'm talking.

about is basically your ability to. observe something as it really is. without craving it or without having any. aversion towards it. You're not hating. it, you're not loving it and wanting it. You're just observing it as it is. It's a balanced mind. Why so this When I start The Diary of a. CEO, the the the base sort of premise of. it was me to share my diary in with. complete honesty. So I feel I feel. compelled to do that. I've for a long. time viewed meditation as a waste of.

time. Like I think that was my the. thought of sitting there and just. cuz it you know. what it appears to be on the surface is. sitting there and just not thinking. about anything. Yeah. Yeah. But then as you say, all of. these incredible people who are obsessed. with productivity and efficiency and. time and are very, very, very busy. Chamath as well, um, from from The. All-in podcast. So many people that I. follow and watch and listen to. they all and so many of the guests that. have come here and that are wildly. successful, they all talk about the. benefits of meditation. Right.

If there's someone listening to this now. and they go, "I don't meditate and I in. any way, whatever technique, you know, they might might use. I think I've always thought it's a waste. of time. I've tried it, didn't work.". What is the pitch you'd make to them. about why they should. persevere and persist? Well, there's two main things. One is. you tried it, it didn't work. Of course. Of course it didn't work. Like you no. one starts out being good at meditation.

Like what the mind knows is distraction. It's literally jumping from one thing to. another, flying from the past to the. future, from the past to the future, just swimming in imagination. So that. moment when you ask your mind to stay in. one place for a few seconds, it'll be. gone. Totally gone. So, of course you're. bad at it, right? But, that's why you. try again. You keep trying. You calmly, you know, without getting upset with. yourself, you put time into it the same. way where you would, you know, used to.

build your muscles or educate yourself. on, you know, if you want to learn. Spanish, you're not just going to know. Spanish. You need to study. You need to. spend You're not going to know You know. zero Spanish when you begin. And you put. four, five, six years of serious work. into it, and you get really good at. Spanish. It's the same thing with. meditation. So, one thing is accept that. it's going to be extremely hard in the. beginning, and it will humble you. Cuz. you're like, "Damn, I suck at this.". Good. Then you keep going. And the. second part of it is.

it's an investment. You're making a huge. time investment that produces incredible. results inside of you, in the way that. you see the world, in the way that you. talk to people, in the way that you. create whatever it is that you want to. give to the world. I think you But, you have to give it. time. You have to give it time to really. be able to see the results. Maybe the very crux of this I was. thinking as you're speaking then, people. do what they want to do, and most of the. things they want they do because they. want to do them are.

because they are clear on the reward of. doing it. Totally. Think about human behavior. Like, I went. to the toilet. I was clear on the. results of going to the toilet and also. not going to the toilet, so I went to. the toilet. Results of not going for a wee before. you came here was I would urinate in my. pants, so I did it. I ate breakfast this. morning because I was clear on the. upside of that, and also had the the. urge to do it. Um when we think about. meditation, I think. when I think about the equation of why. people do things, the bit that I think a. lot of people aren't clear on is that. first part, which is like, "What is the. upside?" Yeah. I can take your word for. it. Yeah. Um I can take a lot of very credible.

people's word for it. But, I think that's the That's the issue. It's the issue. It's like you have to. experience it for yourself. And I think. a lot of people go into meditation for. like it's initial goals, you know, for. liberation, for you to be free from. suffering, which is. the most important goal. Like, that's. why I do it. Like, I don't I don't. meditate to be a better writer, right? I. don't meditate to like. for anything else other than to take. small steps forward on the path of. liberation, to truly try to cease the.

mechanism of my mind that's causing me. suffering. And. the outside sort of the externality of. that, right? Is that you become. incredibly creative. Like, you don't. need to be, you know, in film or writing. or whatever. You can be in whatever. field that it is. You can be an. engineer. You can be a doctor, a. dentist. But, you become so much more creative. cuz your mind isn't as stressed as it. used to be, and it's able to make. connections a lot more quickly cuz.

your mind is sharper. And understanding. that creativity and understanding how it. impacts your relationships, it makes. them so much more deeper than before. I think it gives you an access to new. beauty in life, and. why not? You know, why not spend that. time on yourself? So, you meditate to. avoid suffering? Not avoid. To be able to understand. reality so well that I don't cause. myself suffering.

What are the main causes of suffering. as far as you're concerned? It's. craving. Craving. Craving. Yeah, totally. And it's not the same as. wanting. I think that there was a big. issue when um. especially when the Buddhist teaching. came over to the West, where it was translated as this desire. um is the cause of suffering. And you can look at it that way to some. extent, but what seems much more. approachable to me and makes more sense. is craving. Like, craving is not the. same thing as. as wanting something, right? As having a. goal. Cuz there's a difference between.

having a goal and having a craving. You. can have a goal. and put your mind to it, put a lot of. work in, but then the moment that you. don't get what you want, and you're like, "Okay. It's okay. You. know, let me go back to the drawing. board. Let me re-strategize. Let me. figure out how to do this better than. before." And you do all that without. crying, without being super upset, without punching the wall. You just you keep diligently working and. moving forward. It's possible. The other side of that is. craving. It's doing everything with.

craving, when your energy's all knotted. up, when your mind is super tense, because craving is basically the. combination of wanting and tension. Like, you're really craving something. bad, and you're you're sort of the mind. is rippled with stress in the moment of. craving something, and in the moment. even worse when you don't get it. When. you don't get what you were really. striving for. So, I don't want to live like with a mind. that's craving. Like, I'm a householder, right? I'm not a. monk. Like, I.

I have a I have a wife, you know? Someday we're going to have kids. Like, I have a mother and father that I need. to help take care of. Like, I have to. have goals, right? When I when I write a. new book or when I start a new venture. or do something, like, yeah, I want to. do my best. And but, I try to do that as. calmly and as balanced as possible. without stressing myself out that much. in the process. I'm not perfect at it, but to me it seems like a. much more effective way to live than. just like making myself stressed all the. time. How do I know if I'm craving a. goal that I have in my life or if I just.

you know, it's just a goal? It's the. moment when you don't get it. It's the. moment that you know, if you don't get. what you were craving, and you're super. stressed out, and it just makes you so. upset, then you're like crying, and you. know, you were craving. You can even. feel that tension in your mind. You're. like you're wanting that ice cream so. bad. Do you think people that crave. achieve more. professionally? I don't You know, that's a really good. question. I think definitely there have.

been some like incredible high-achieving. people who are totally driven by. craving, dominated. But, were they happy? Like, were they okay inside? Like, what. you know, what is their karmic. situation? Like, I have no you know, like. Genghis Khan, like people who conquered. the world. possible to conquer the world. with no morality. Mhm. But, I wouldn't. want to live like that. Like, to me it's. like I I'd rather be super intentional. and aware of how I'm moving about in the.

world. so that I don't cause myself harm or. other people harm. Like, that's my thing. now is like. compassion's really powerful. Like, you. can create businesses in a compassionate. manner and still be super successful. Like, you can do the work that you want. to do in a compassionate manner and be a. high-achiever. That intentionality around your goals is. something I've I think I've struggled. with for for the last 10 years. It's. being clear with myself on why. I have certain things as goals. Yeah. You know, cuz I think in the first. chapter of my life, when I was very.

shame-ridden, my goals were. driven by meeting. really like trying to dissolve the shame. that I experienced as a kid, and like. get the things that I thought would make. me love myself Yeah. or feel like I was. enough. I didn't know that, though. So, I was. pursuing these material things. Yeah. these like superficial things, thinking that they were my my ambitions. Upon getting there, the anticlimax, the. yeah, the underwhelm signaled that I was.

aiming at the wrong things. And there. was a big piece of work, actually. That's why it resonates so much about. what you write about in chapter one of. your book about self-love. There was a. big piece of work for me to figure out. that none of this stuff was ever going. to make me worth more Yeah. inside. Yeah. And that the place for me to to. actually build my ambitions from was. that place of feeling enoughness. Um. Can I ask you something? Sure. I'm quite curious. Um. Now, like. I've seen your success, you know? And I. really commend you. I think it's it's. quite beautiful, and I think you're.

inspiring so many people. But, knowing your background, knowing. this shame, know like coming from a. place of not having everything, like now that you do have so much, so. much success, all the material things, you can just, you know, buy whatever you. want, why do you keep going? It's a great. question. So, it's something I've mulled over, because. there's still a part of me Yeah. that. wants to accumulate wealth. Yeah. And I. keep asking myself why. Yeah. You know,

because I also I spoke to someone. earlier, and I said, "I'm. at a conscious level aware that there's. nothing more that I could buy that would. have an impact on my happiness. In fact, Yeah. it's probably the opposite. to some degree. Yeah. You know, if I if. things were a bit more simple, maybe. maybe I'd be more happier. Um why do I. keep going? So, I. I'm going to throw out my hypothesis, and please don't interrogate it, because. I'd love to chew it over with. No, please. I'm so curious. I believe. that for me to be. happy, I believe st-. chaos is my stability. And I think it is.

for most people. I feel like there's a. certain type of chaos which is my. stability, and that my stability is. chaos. So, what I mean by that is when. everything in my life is achieved and. accomplished, and I have nothing else to. strive for. You see this a lot in. Olympians or anyone that achieves their. goals, they then fall into chaos. Mhm. We all need to live in a certain um. state of. m- worthwhile, meaningful, voluntary. chaos. Which means like having. uncompleted goals. Like, I sometimes.

ponder whether that's hardwired into the. human condition, whether the reason why. we're in a skyscraper now in the middle. of Manhattan is because our ancestors. had that hardwired into them. They they. had it hardwired that they would build. and progress and move forward. I did. some research in preparation for my. book, and they asked people in work, "What's the most enjoyable day. of your professional career?" Yeah. And. everyone points at a day when there was. some sense of progress. I think that's hardwired into us. So, if. I I almost feel like if I stopped, I. would become disorientated. Mhm. Um.

professionally, I'm looking for five. things. I'm looking to pursue goals that. are meaningful and worthwhile. I'm. looking to have a high degree of. autonomy, I'm looking to have a a re-. sufficiency amount of challenge. Again, if something's too easy, people lose. motivation for some reason. If. something's too difficult, they become. intimidated and lose motivation. I'm looking for a sense of forward. motion. And lastly, to work with people. that I love. Mhm. Mhm. Um, I think that. recipe is the recipe for my professional. happiness. So, that is what I'm doing.

Ever bigger goals with people I love. towards worthwhile. challenges that I think are worthwhile. Um, and I'm trying to remain as. conscious as I can about the. dishonest motivations that sit amongst. that. Mhm. Like. Mhm. certain decisions I'll make or. consider, I'll buy a Rolls-Royce. Mhm. Like, why did that come into my mind? And where is that from? Yeah. Um, does that answer the question? It. absolutely answers it. And you know, one. what I'm noticing from that trend of.

what you just described is you realize. that these five things that you lined. out and the chaos versus stability that. all of that to me sounds like this is. essential for your mental health. Mhm. Right? That it's almost like it's. giving you reason. That's, you know, to. keep taking steps forward to and to do. so in a way where life doesn't become a. mess. So, I think that's pretty cool. Let me challenge myself. Yeah. Yeah. And let This is maybe the answer I'm. scared of giving. Yeah. Um, I'm still trying to prove to myself that. I'm enough. Mhm.

Yeah. I haven't grown out of that. I'm just. doing it with different games now. I'm. doing it with podcasting. I'm doing it. in business still. They're just bigger games. They're just. different games, right? They're like. different status games. They're not. materialistic status games because maybe. I've evolved out of that, but they are. professional status games that I'm. playing. Yeah. Um, Now, that what I want to point out to. you that it's So, if you bring that up, one of the most challenging truths to. accept is that life is inherently. dissatisfactory. This is one of the the.

things that the Buddha pointed out. He. pointed out, you know, these three major. truths that everything's changing, um, that there's suffering, which can also. be translated into dissatisfaction, um, and that there's no self, right? Your ego, not real. Um, but that second one, I think is it's a. difficult one to totally embrace. But. once embraced that, you know, you can. keep winning, winning, winning, winning, winning, but there's still more. There's still. like, you know, there's still something.

else to want because we live in the. situation, you know, this the way this. universe works where we can continue. ideating into infinity. We can continue. like developing more knowledge. There's. more books to read. There's more to. understand. So, we're functioning almost. on an infinite spectrum even though we. ourselves are very finite. And. I think that creates a situation where. things can be so, so dissatisfying. because you never quite get there. And. like, I've been trying to accept that.

understanding into my life and seeing. like, you know, people ask me like, "How. did you feel after you became a number. one New York Times bestseller?" And I'm. like, "Oh, well, you know, it was really. nice for like a few minutes." And it was. like, "Yeah, that was cool." And then it. was done. Like, it was like, "Well, you. know, what happens after that?" It was. like, "Well, you just keep living your. life, you know?" And I could have got. wrapped into the sort of the the deeper. existential dissatisfaction of that of. like, "Oh, like, you know, what happens. next?". Um, but it was like, "Okay, let me just. be with it as it is.". Um,

but. I want to ask you the same question. It's tricky. Yeah. Why do you keep Why. do you keep doing what you're doing? Cuz. you're I I just realized successful. writer. You've done all of these amazing. things. Your books are all smash hits. You're a venture capitalist now. You're. an an investor in great companies. You're building businesses. Why? I keep going, um, like on a mundane level, like I only. write books. if, um, if I actually have something to. say, if there's an another topic that I. want to cover. So, I.

don't do them for like the big check, like, you know, I do them to. to really be able to be of service. And in terms of building companies, like. all of the companies that I, um, you know, have invested in with Wisdom. Ventures, they're all companies that are. trying basically trying to prove that. compassion is good business. So, to me. that feels really critical. On a deeper. level, right? Like, why even put myself. out there? I think it's just to have the ability to. give.

Honestly, like just to be able to give. I think, um, like I don't gain. myself-worth from being a number one New. York Times bestseller, from you know, like from selling over a million books. or, you know, all that stuff. It's like. that those. over a million. How many? Yeah, a. million. Yeah, it's wild. It's it's wild, but. those are just numbers. Like, I don't I. can't imagine a million. Like, I don't. know what that really is, you know? I. can I can wrap myself around stories. Like, you know, I just I just talked to. someone the other day. I was speaking at.

an event in San Francisco. And this woman was telling me like, you. know, how these three books that I. wrote, like they saved her life. And I. was just I was like talking to her and. I'm like, "What? Like, what?" I'm like, "Are you okay now? Like, are you like. are you good now?" And she's like, "I'm. good." And I was just like I couldn't. So, to me, like a story like that. I can actually feel. But when I see the. numbers, like, you know, I can't even. pretend to imagine what a million is. But I I keep going cuz, um, you know,

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Yeah. This size, whatever. Yeah. I matured a little bit, I tried to con-. consolidate that list into like the the. non-negotiables. Yeah. I I landed on. intellectually stimulating, which I. think is kind of what you've described. there. Where you can have that kind of. intellectual conversation. Totally. And build and grow. intellectually together. This one's a bit of an interesting one. They make me better at my what I do, my. mission. Yeah. that in whatever way. And I have to say. that's something that you have to be.

willing to reciprocate. And then the. third one is sexual attraction. Yeah. Yeah. say physical attraction. I'm very. specific about having to have sexual. attraction. Simon Sinek added one. He. said it's 3 + 1. He said the the one you. need on top of that is timing. Mhm. So, he goes it we and concluded it. was 3 + 1. Anything else you would add. to that in terms of I would actually. simplify it. I think, um, it comes down. to. the intuitive click. I think that there. are some people, um, like when my wife.

and I, when we physically came across. each other, you know, she was, um, 18, I was 19. She was a freshman, I was. a sophomore. Like, literally from the. moment that we met, we both, um, come from very different. backgrounds. Like, I grew up in the. city, she grew up in the burbs. Our. idea, right? Like, our like list of like. what we wanted in a partner was not each. other. We were like, but there was just. like this. incredible pull to just like discover.

like, who is this person, you know? And. like, we spent like two two and a half. months being friends. And then the. moment that I saw that other guys were. trying to pair up with her and be her be. their boy be, you know, get together. with her. I was like, "Oh, no." I was. like, "That And I And I realized my. deeper feelings." And I was like, "No, no, no." I was like, "I I actually have. feelings for you. I want to be with. you." And, um, did you come out of the. friend zone? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Basically. came out of the friend zone. to ever make it out of friend zone?

Oh, man. But I think it's it's the. intuitive click. plus the willingness to grow. I think that's what really can make a. relationship healthy and productive. because like we're we're all in. different starting points, but if you. have the willingness to grow like I'm. here, like I want to learn for myself, I. want to learn from you, like how can I. how can we both do this better? I think. that you can make real magic from that. When you encountered challenges in your. relationship, what was the root cause of. that? Or what was missing?

Um I mean between the two of us, if you. were to add up how much emotional. maturity there was, it would be zero. like during that time. Like zero. self-awareness, zero emotional maturity. Like if one of us got upset. about whatever, you know, whatever it. could be, it would immediately be finger pointing. like this is your fault, you know, like. and this is why you need to change and. if you change, then I'll be happy. But when we started meditating, we. started realizing it was like, oh wait, this isn't about you at all. This is.

between me and myself and I'm actually. just taking these dense emotions and. allowing narratives to be built around. them that somehow just take the blame. away from me and so that I take no. accountability. And. it was rough, man. Like when we were. when we first got together, like the. connection was there, but there was no. there's no willingness to grow, there. was no emotional maturity to really hold. it. So we were like constantly fighting, we break up, get back together, break. up, get back together and it was we were.

always it always felt like we were at. square one. Like we were never really. like flowering and blossoming together. And when we started meditating, we. started noticing like. our fights got a little calmer, right? Screams got a little lower and we. started in the the switch was very slow. where when the fight would happen, it. wasn't like you did this, you did that, it became. how do you feel? Like what's happening? Like why you know, what are you seeing? And then I explain what I'm seeing and. it's like we're trying to understand.

each other's perspectives as a post as. opposed to making each other say sorry. and like winning the argument, you know, it went from. fighting as a thing for victory to like. fighting as. a moment that we can develop. understanding. Like what's happening. with you? Let me tell you what's. happening with me. You and her against the problem. Yeah. Yeah. Versus you versus her. Totally. Totally. That's really rare. That's so rare. Yeah, no. And we're.

yeah, and same thing. Like we're not. perfect, you know, we still argue, have. conflict. Um. but it's way less dramatic than it used. to be. The first chapter in your book is about. self-love, your new book, your newest. book, Lighter, is about self-love. The. subtitle here is let go of the past, connect with the present, expand the. future. Self-love, what does that actually mean? That that just means loving myself, right? No, there's a lot more to that. Come on, Steven.

Don't don't take that away from you. Yeah, no. I think um when I started. asking myself the same question that the. whole internet was asking itself back in. 2015, 2016 when self-love just burst. onto the scene. Like I don't know if you. remember that time, but on Instagram, like everybody was trying to explore. like what does self-love really mean? And I asked myself the same question. back then. And to me, the way I learned. to define it was that it's doing what. you need to do to heal and free.

yourself. Um and I think of it as an energy. Like. it's the energy that you use to evolve. And I wanted to sort of put that. definition out there because I'm like. that's how I'm enacting self-love in my. life. And it's very different from what. I was learning from you know, the. materialistic sort of consumer side of. self-love which is just like buy. yourself whatever you want, take a. bubble bath, like all these external. things that I personally think don't. they don't, you know, definitely treat. yourself well, but like that's not going. to add up to that much. Like the problem. is like you know, in your own mind, in.

your own heart. of that's still distraction, isn't it? It's totally distraction. It's just. you're just sugarcoating the situation, but you're not really going to the. depth, going to the root problem. So I. think self-love is you know, using that. energy to heal and free yourself, to. really go deep within yourself and. basically. discover like you know, you go you walk. through your own inner forest. Like. there's so much. Like when you turn that. lens inward and you start examining like. what have I gone through? Like what have. I overcome? Like where do I struggle?

Where are my blocks? And you learn to. learn you know, you you learn from that. and you accept it simultaneously, it's it's beautiful the way you know, the evolution can really flourish from. there. You describe it as going through that. forest. Yeah. For a lot of people, it's not quite a. forest. It's like. a big dark canyon that there might be. lions and tigers inside. Yeah. So who wants to go into the canyon? You know, I've got I think so much about. some people in my life where.

they. are seeing their behavior doesn't. correlate or isn't aligned with who they. want to be and how they want to behave. Yeah. But the thought of going into the. canyon or the forest or however you want. to describe it is also scary. It's also. really scary. Absolutely. Absolutely, but. you're not going to have victory without. challenge. Like these two things go hand in hand. Like you're not just going to be given. peace. Like no one's going to be like, oh you're free now, you know, like you.

have to put in the work and sometimes. the work is like pretty scary, you know, to really go in there, to like sit there. with yourself while all this anxiety or. like you know, panic attack energy or. like whatever it is, you know, like this. like this deep stuff starts coming up. and you're with yourself and you're calm. and you're patient and you're loving. yourself through it. Like. I think there's there's there's really. no other way, especially if you're. trying to like. you know, just build a new structure in.

your mind and come out with you know, peace at the center of it. What's your view broadly on the the. current state of talked about your wife. a second ago, but the current state of. like relationships and dating and what. are people. getting wrong? I think a lot about this. because again, um. I'm at that age now. I'm 30 years old. I'm lucky enough to be in a. relationship, but I I see a lot of. people that are struggling because I. almost feel like there's a generation. trapped between the technological. revolution where there's this one.

generation that are kind of accustomed. to social media and dating. Yeah. Dating. apps. And then there's this other. generation that kind of got trapped and. they're now in their like early 30s. Right. And um they don't quite resonate. with the. the culture of dating apps or social. media. But when you look at the data, then more. than 50% of meeting are now more than. 50% of people are now meeting online. Mhm. So they're struggling. Yeah. What's. your overview? What's your sort of. opinion on dating and where we are in. culture? I think there's two main. problems.

Perfection and craving. Um. often times we. want the person that we're going to be. with to be. so incredible, there's never a problem. with them. Always good times, you know, they know. how to support us perfectly when there's. a moment of struggle. And it's just not. going to be like that. You know, to be. able to develop a good rhythm with each. other means that your flaws are going to. come up that you know, you're going to. be such clear mirrors for each other.

that you're going to see parts of. yourself that you have to face and do. something about. So being able to throw. out this idea of perfection, especially. when like you know, date one, date two, date three and then the first. disagreement happens and it's like. blank, you cut it, you know? The second. part of it is craving where I've seen. you know, with a number of friends and. just kind of like what's happening out. there is like you'll have a relationship. for an X number of months, but then there's the craving is like, oh. there might be something better out.

there for me, you know? But like it's. always going to be like that. So how. many fantastic relationships have been. ruined by this idea that oh there might. be something else out there that's. better for me. And then you just throw. away a fantastic thing. I've got a. question to ask you. Yeah. I've got a friend. who has been single for a while and. she's been on hundreds and hundreds of. dates. Yeah. Hundreds and hundreds of dates. And she. asked me for advice the other day and I. didn't actually know what to say to her. because she's going on the dates. Um.

I would assume that in hundreds and. hundreds, I literally mean three to four. a week. I would assume that she's met. someone, yeah. Yeah. And. you know, I wasn't necessarily sure what. to say to her. I almost look at think. about better like a marketing funnel. where I think there's different in. marketing you have at the top of the. funnel you have awareness. Mhm. And then as the funnel gets thinner, so. you might meet awareness might be just. like impressions on social media sites. You might get a million impressions, a. million guys or women that you see.

interact with, come across. Then we have. the. maybe in the marketing context, then we. have the date. Then the date might. convert into a relationship and the. relationship might convert into a. marriage. Yeah. Her top of the funnel seems to be. going great. Yeah. But there's lots of like, you know, impressions, awareness. But then that. second stage in the funnel which is. converting that date into something that. is a relationship seems to be. I don't know. Seems to be a problem. What would you say to someone like that? That's interesting. know her. I get the context information,

but what would you say on the surface? But if she gets hundreds of dates, like. she. imagine she's beautiful. She's. beautiful. Yeah. And. I think that there needs to be two. things. Like. there needs to be self-analysis on her. part. Like what is going on, right? Because I'm sure out of those hundreds, like there's probably a few people who. were like ready to you know, build. something. Let's Let's something. together. Just if you're playing the. game of numbers, know, like.

there's definitely someone who's like, "Hey, you know, let's let's go on a. second date, a third date. Let's go on a. trip. Let's, you know, build something. together." Um so, I think there has to. be a self-analysis where like is there a. part of her that's afraid to actually. like bring in that next level of. vulnerability where we can like, you know, develop something beautiful. together. Um the other aspect of it, I would say. like. the dating, that's fine, but. make sure that you are not stuck in a. loop. Like that you're answering.

questions the same way, that you're. asking the same questions over and over, that you're not sort of like stuck in. this system that your mind has created. about what dating is. Like break that. habit. Like create something new. It's. an Make it into a different play between. you and the other person. How? Um I. think yeah, if you're always meeting at. a bar, don't meet at a bar. Like go Go. out. Meet in the park. Meet in the you. know, go for If you're living in New. York City, walk 50 blocks together. Just. like just do different things that you.

can do together. Um. Cuz if you get stuck in that same mode. of doing it the way that you're familiar. with, then you're going to be saying the. same things over and over, and your. mind's going to want like similar. things. So, you won't be open to like. fully embrace fully embracing a person. as they really are. And the And And the. added third thing is just throw away. perfection. Like you got You got to like. You're looking for something and like. you might be missing what's the the. fantastic thing that's right in front of. you. The idea of being stuck in a loop is so.

interesting to me because you can be. stuck in a self-sabotaging loop and not. even know it. Totally, man. I So, I. learned this. between me and my dad. So, like my dad, he is like just. hard hard working individual. Like. that's how he shows you love for you. He's going to break his back so that he. can support you. um by giving you the monetary things. that can help you. Um So, my dad has. been busting his butt, just working. working working, but I realized that. like I love this man. Like I don't know.

what it is. Like me and him have a deep. connection, but our relationship was so stale. And. it was the same. It was like the same. light topics that we would talk about. And I And I remember specifically. remember this was like in that first. year when I started my my personal. growth journey. I was like, "My relationship with my. dad, it sucks. But like how What can I. do to make it better?". I And And, you know, the first thing you. think is like you need to change. And I. was like, "No, no, no." I was like, "I. need to change. Like I need to switch. the game up." Because we have this play.

going on between the two of us, but I. keep doing and saying the same thing. So, let me switch it up. And I remember. one day he comes home from work, you. know, super tired. And I was like, "You know what? Like. [ __ ] it. Let me just give him this huge. hug.". And I remember I remember hugging him. because we weren't that affectionate. like that, you know? I remember hugging. him. and being like, "I love you, man." And. like dude, let me tell you that totally. changed our relationship. And it was. you know, I don't want to give myself.

too much credit, but. there were a lot of things happening. inside him, but he's changed a lot since. that. Like he used to be hard like a. rock, and now he's so open with what he. feels. And he wasn't open with his. feelings at all before. And that might. have been because we were very very. young. And now that, you know, we're. adults and we can like properly hold. space with each other. But I remember like that moment being. like a clear like I changed the play, you know? And I was just like hugged him. and was just like, "I love you." And.

now, you know, we text each other all. the time and it's deeper and we're. solving problems together. Like we solve. family problems together where um like. that it wasn't quite like that before. And like he cries, you know, I'll hold. space for him and it's it's a real real. relationship. And before it was just. totally surface level. Had you not done a lot of work, would. you have been in a situation where you. could have given him that hug and said. those words? I think with I think with courage. Yeah.

And I think just with slowing down and. being able to observe because like at. that time I hadn't done a lot of work. This was like two three months after I. almost died. And I I just, you know, was. examining. like spending time with my emotions and. examining like, you know, what am I. doing like with. with my wife? Like what's, you know, what's going on? Like why does my. relationship with my little sister suck? Like you know, what what more can I do? And um And then when I came to my dad, I. was like, "Yo, like. you know, our relationship is stale. And.

I need to I need to I want him to know. how much I love him cuz this man works. so hard. Like he should know, you know? He gave me life, and I'm so grateful.". What Why didn't you say that sooner? I think because my mind was like my. attention was totally consumed on. running away from myself. And that's. what made me hyper self-centered at that. time. Like I was only worried about what. I craved, only worried about what I. wanted to watch on TV, what I wanted to.

eat, you know, what party I wanted to go. to next. And. like I couldn't I like I didn't have the. mental space to actually like think. about other people well. Mhm. It's a lot of distraction, it sounds. like. Totally. Totally. A miserable period. I can I can I can relate in a tremendous. tremendous way. This conversation is is really made me. um. realize how much I need to create spaces.

for myself. Mhm. I think that's one of. the the big big takeaways. Just. I'm definitely addicted to distraction. Mhm. I think most of us are, especially. in the modern world where technology has. been designed to. um. to take advantage of our brains Yeah. in. a way that will, you know, I was. chatting to some of my friends this week. and we had our stag do. So, my six best. friends came together and. halfway through the stag do, I looked. around and saw that we were a lot of us. were on our phones. So, I said, "Let's. compare screen time." Yeah. And we all.

whipped out our phones. And my one. friend, who I won't name, you know who. you are, um had 14 hours a day screen. time. He was the the record holder. No. 14 hours a day. And there was this. really interesting moment where we We. never We don't see each other much cuz. we all live in different parts of the. world. Yeah. And we all just started roasting him. because he was on his phone the entire. time. We'd gone jet skiing, we'd gone. this and that. And it wasn't just him, it was most of us. But the thought that. you could be with your best friends in. on planet Earth and still be spending 10.

hours a day on your mobile phone. There's something And I remember we went. to a restaurant and I looked over at the. table behind us. Yeah. guy was watching the basketball. We're. in a restaurant. It's It's 9:00 p.m. at. night. One guy is watching the. basketball on his phone. There's a date. across from us. Both of the people on. the date were on their phones. I. thought, "Fucking hell, there must be a. cost to this." Like cultural addiction. to distraction. But do you see the paradox in that, right? Where like I'm not trying to. shame your friend or anything. Like so. much love to him. I'm sure he's a homie. Mhm. Um But if you spend that much time.

on your phone, a tool that's supposed to make you. connected, you're actually incredibly. disconnected. Like totally cuz you spend. that much time looking here, and the whole world like the whole your. your life is happening around you, but. you're not plugged into it, you know? So, there's there's no presence there. That's hard. These apps were sold to us on the basis. of connection. And that's the that's the. Yeah. crazy thing. We thought we'd. become more connected. We just became a. lot more distracted and disconnected. Yeah. And the loneliness stats are.

horrifying. The suicide rates, how teenagers feel. about themselves these days, and what's. coming out about the impact of social. media on like young minds, it's pretty. dangerous. And I mean, I've seen it. Like it's it's. quite rough. Like I see it in myself and. I've seen it in young people around me, too. But um. like the the internet that we have now, like it has to be reformed with. compassionate design. You know, we have to think about the way.

that we build our products with the. users' well-being in mind. And I mean, that's why that's why we decided to. build Wisdom Ventures. Like myself um. and five other friends from Silicon. Valley who all um, you know, worked in. different areas of the tech world. Uh we. came together and we basically wanted to. create a a venture capital firm that. focuses on funding. pre-seed and seed companies, you know, so brand new startups, but that are. intentionally building their products in.

a compassionate manner. Like when. they're when Whatever is that they're. trying to do, you know, whether it's in. the well-being space or not, they build in a way where. they think about the user and they think. about the mental well-being of the user. Like it Are they going to be hurt using. this program? Like are they going to be. hurt using this platform? And let's make. it in a way where it provides the. service that they want, but. you know, keeps them sane and balanced. as much as possible.

In a society based on speed and. productivity, moving slowly is a radical. act. I love that quote. Chapter eight of your. book. You In the chapter about. challenges during healing. In a society based on speed and. productivity, moving slowly is a radical. act. Yeah, I think um it's something that. is so challenging because the demands. are intense and they're just they just.

keep raising. You know, everyone is. trying to reach these incredible levels. of productivity. And, you know, our. capitalism is just geared that way where. it's just it's pushing for growth growth. growth growth. And not internal growth, like material growth. Um. so, to be able to look at your life and. say, "You know what? I just can't answer. any more emails right now. I don't feel. good. Like I need to go for a long walk. I need to sit down and meditate. Like I. need to take some time for myself." It's.

absolutely a radical act, and it's. necessary because if you're trying to. live a life of thriving, like a good. life, then you need to be able to live. that life at your own pace. If I'm. trying to match your pace, then it's not. going to work for me. You and I are very. different people. We can both be. productive in different ways, but we. have to do it in a way that honors our. internal system, and we're we're just. not going to be the same. What's the most important thing that we. haven't talked about. in your view?

I think. how healing changes the world. Cuz I think people like, uh, man, I read. a review of Lighter, and it's funny. because the feedback that I got from the. book from the audience was so like they, you know, they love the last two. chapters. And I remember writing that. book, and I was like, okay, the purpose. of this book is for me to put everything. together. that I believe is important for personal. transformation. So, I cover the whole. thing, you know, self-love, letting go,

um, the challenges that you face, emotional maturity, um, how that change ripples outward. But. when I started going outward, you know, that's the whole purpose of my. pen name. My pen name is Young Pueblo. Like my my real name is Diego Perez, but. I I wanted to write. within a particular frame. And Young. Pueblo means young people. Like Pueblo. is just a, you know, Spanish word, and. it has different definitions all over. Latin America, but from where I come. from, it refers to the masses of.

impoverished people. When I started meditating, I realized. I'm incredibly immature. But the world is immature, too. Cuz I've. always loved studying history, and I've. seen how. the basic things that we were taught as. children, right? To clean up after. yourself, to share with each other, to tell the. truth, to not hit each other, to. generally be kind with one another, these things.

are done on an individual basis by some. people, but if you're scale it up to the human. collective, we don't know how to do. these things at all, right? We're. terrible at sharing with each other. We're constantly hitting each other. through all these wars that we're. fighting. We're not kind to one another. We're lying to each other like. systemically, as one humanity, we have. not mastered the fundamentals that we. were taught as children. And. uh, that's really, you know, I wanted to. basically put that frame because I.

really believe that society emerges from. the individual and from our. relationships, right? Our society is a. reflection of these relationships. So, I. thought, you know, let me spend a lot of. time talking and writing about personal. development because hopefully, if people. do develop self-love, like real. self-love, then they're going to be much. less interested in harming each other. Diego Perez, Young Pueblo,

you have. 30 seconds. 30 seconds left to live. You're. laid there on your. final bed. Your work is done. You have a conclusive message to send. out to the world. Everybody is on the end of the phone. All 8 billion of us. What do you say? If I could speak,

I'd probably have everybody meditate. with me. I'd make I'd I'd have them. be aware of their breath, and then die peacefully. I was thinking when you first asked, I. was like, I'd say nothing. I'd just be. meditating. But if there are people waiting for. something, then then we have to meditate. together. Is there anything else you wanted to. talk about? You know, we've kind of known each other. from afar for a Yeah. a long time. Is. there anything else you're curious about.

or before we close out this. conversation? Um, I I, you know, I want to get into the. sort of the technical aspects of like. how you manage your time, you know? Cuz. I I've been noticing one thing. where now that I'm doing multiple things. at once, when I go into a new project, I never specify how many hours I'm going. to work on it. What I do specify is what. I can do for you. Like what I can bring. to the table. And what I'm going to be. able to deliver on, which is very.

different from saying I can give you 20. hours of my time. Yeah. Right? Because that that doesn't mean. anything. Like, you know, sometimes when. you when you create a project, you. you know, you put things together and. they happen like quick, you know? And a. bunch of the rest of time you you are. not using that time that well. And, um, I've found that to be really. useful to just say, "This is what I can. do for you," but not how long I'm going. to work. And also never be in a. situation where someone's my boss. Like. it's always equal partnerships.

I think that makes a ton of sense. Yeah, is that what you do, too? Um, so, I these days I. I guess I do both. So, if I'm going into. a new partnership or an investment, I. want to be very clear because I know. expectations are the root cause of all. unhappiness in business and in any form. of relationship. I want to be super. clear on the expectations. So, um, A, what I'll deliver, but also, um, clear deliverables in terms of like. time. Mhm. Like when? Yeah, and I know that my.

time is literally the most scarce asset. that I have. Like right now before you. arrived, I'm being hounded by several. members of my team for urgent things. They're telling me that if I don't. deliver X, Y, and Z on my book today, then we'll have to move the publication. date beyond August. At the same time, I. said something I was like, all of these. things are in my head. Mhm. Um, and then I have to say the most. important thing is just this idea of. who, not how. I think a lot of people, especially entrepreneurs, get caught up. in. trying to figure out how to do stuff, but the big unlock for me after meeting.

certain entrepreneurs and spending time. with Richard Branson and great people is. those people default to who, as in, who. can do this, Mhm. versus trying to. figure it out or do it myself. And I'm. very lucky now to have great teams of. people where. it's meant that I can spend the time I. do have on the. small thing that I'm good at, and that only I can do. And that's like. really my strategy to life. It's like. there's a there's a small thing that. only I can do that I'm specifically good. at. Mhm. Try and spend all 16 waking hours doing.

that thing if I can. Um, yeah, but it's a mess. And that is the most important thing I. could probably say. It is a total mess. I hear about all these successful people. or business people, and they're like, oh, 30-minute routine, and I have this. time blocking technique, and blah blah. blah. I can't, yeah. I I. I can't. Yeah. I mean, my life is a mess. Um, it's a balanced chaotic mess where. each element of my life kind of.

shrinks and expands in priority and. attention. Mhm. as I go through different seasons. Right. now, I'm in a season of work because I'm. filming a TV show, and then I'm doing. this This is my week off, and I'm back. to filming the TV show. So, where's my. partner in all of that? Mhm. After the TV show is done, I'll be. back with my partner, and we'll go on. holiday. So, that will expand. Mhm. It's. a I'm okay with it being a mess. Yeah. I. think I've, um, one of the one of the things I'm most. grateful for is I never believed in what. you said, which is perfection. Yeah. I. never believed it. I I saw all of my. idols, and I the way that they're. portrayed in interviews and stuff is.

like these superheroes or whatever. I'm a total mess in so many facets of my. life, and I always believed that that. was both okay and enough for me to. achieve what I wanted to do. That's. really helped me. Cuz perfection creates that sense of. inadequacy, doesn't it? It totally does. That's beautiful to hear cuz I've been. learning that like I can do it my way. Yeah. same thing that you were just saying, you know, I can do it my way. I don't. have to be like the people around me. I.

can learn from them, you know, have role. models, but I don't need to be exactly. like my role models. I can just, you. know, just figure out how to, you know, achieve well in the way that works best. for me. And, um, I think coming to peace. with the fact that, you know, there are just some things that I'm good. at and other things that I'm not. And. like when you're when there are some. things that you're not good at, like. I don't need to get an MBA. I need to. hire out an MBA, you know? Yeah, that's.

the who, not how. Like I'm good at. marketing, I'm good at vision, and I'm. good at writing, and I can meditate. That's all I can do. Mhm. And that is. more than enough. Yeah. And especially if you're good if. you're good at those, and you just focus. on those things, you're going to be in. that, you know, irreplaceable category. of people that can do that. Yeah. And. the world needs that. Some of my best. teammates are like fundamentally, including myself, some of the best. people that work in some of my companies. are fundamentally. bad at critical things. They're not good. managers. They're unorganized. They're a.

mess. But they are the most incredible. creatives. Mhm. So, instead of trying to. fight that that what might be seen as. their deficiency, we've come to learn over time and with. experience to nurture their their. brilliance. Yeah. And that that gets the. best out of them. Same with Richard. Branson. He can't look at presentations, can't do English, can't do math, he. said. Yeah. Um, at a high level, but he's built one. of the most incredible companies in the. world. We have a closing tradition on. this podcast where the last guest asks a. question for the next guest not knowing. who they're going to leave it for. And.

the question left for you. is. what is. your. rich life? Mhm. My rich life. would be. being able to meditate as much as I. want, to to to you know, do more of. these consecutive long courses and still. be able to amply support my parents,

like take super fantastic care of my. wife and you know, my children's or if. my you know, siblings or my wife's. siblings or parents need support that. I'm just like I can just give without. any sort of worry. And being able to you. know, sit is what we you know, we call. it being able to meditate and still be. able to give without worry, I think. that's like that's the place where I'm. trying to get to is um. I've had a lot of success, but I've also.

I also know that I'm still in a building. stage, like I'm still growing. Yeah. That's very beautiful. All your work is. very beautiful. It's um the way I would. describe it is it feels incredibly. refreshing to hear someone that has a. such a what I feel like is such a pure. perspective about the path to um. becoming our aligned happiest self. Like. meeting you makes me feel refreshed. Mhm. It's almost like I've you've. cleaned out a bunch of stuff in my head.

that needed to be cleaned out for me to. get closer to. the happiest life that I could live. That's the like the way that I would. viscerally describe it. And that's. exactly what your book is. I mean, that's what it's called, lighter. Mhm. Mhm. After meeting you and after having. this conversation, I feel inherently. lighter. This is what the book does to people. It. makes them feel lighter. What a perfect. title. What a perfect title cuz that's exactly. how I feel right now. It's a pleasure to meet you. It's a. pleasure to talk to you. Thank you for. doing such a necessary work and I I'm so. excited to follow your journey through. entrepreneurship, but also through.

publications like this one over the next. many, many decades. Thank you so much, my friend. It makes. me feel so. uh happy that this moment finally came. together and that you know, just. watching you from afar, like I've been. appreciating you. all along the way and. I've been you know, supported by the. wisdom that you've been putting out. there, but to also see you. act and create in the world to literally. you know, create things that people can. benefit from. Like that's beautiful and.

I'm. happy to see people doing both. Like you. can grow as an individual and. you know, be effective and supportive in. this world and give people things they. need. Yeah, so thank you. Thank you. Quick one. As you guys know, we're lucky. enough to have Blue Jeans by Verizon as. a sponsor of this podcast and for anyone. that doesn't know, Blue Jeans is an. online video conferencing tool that. allows you to have slick, fast, high-quality online meetings without all. the glitches you might normally find.

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