Peter Crouch Opens Up About His Dark Times & Crying Himself To Sleep | E196

I've seen things that I'd never seen. before you know the proudest moment of. my life has been taken away because of. that. [Applause]. the people that know me would say I'm a. nice guy born to pitch I had to be a. different person if I wanted to succeed. the top level players that I played with. Lampard John Surrey Steven Gerrard I. think look like they don't enjoy it. constantly battling for the next thing.

were they intense so intense yeah and. you know a big reason why I'm the person. I am I pay for England and era where it. felt like there was a huge pressure you. know we had an opportunity to win World. Cups and because we didn't it was heaped. on players I've got my mum my dad and. friends in the crowd and then you come. on and get both at five seventy thousand. it's hard to come back from that my mom. was crying my dad had to have a fight I. was thinking about giving up football I. think I wasn't seen as what an England. Striker should look like I was so scared.

I was just wanted to hide away in that. phase you were turning to drink more. than you should have been well I alluded. to at that time you're not seen as. people it's like you're well paid so you. have to endure this abuse you know you. put yourself in a position to be shot at. but like what I've seen with certainly. Harry MaGuire the criticism goes beyond. criticism it's gone too far. so proud to represent my country but. before this episode starts I have a.

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[Music]. where do I need to start in your story. to really understand. you what's the most pertinent relevant. things that someone listening to this. needs to know about you to understand. you. um. well right at the start I suppose I. think it's everything comes from. um your childhood right. um. I am who I am and shaped by by my. parents and my friends uh and I suppose.

people see me now obviously like I had a. determination to be a footballer a huge. determination to be a footballer. and then people see me now. um as a footballer who has a laugh I. suppose and that is my Persona um and. but that stems from from my childhood. really and being a little bit different. looking a little bit different and. having a maybe a defense mechanism. um and that humor or probably that you.

see which is me now. um yeah it was a little bit of a defense. mechanism when someone came at me I'd. always be funnier than they would be and. then that stops. whoever saying it in their tracks you. know and then that being so tall at such. a young age was was difficult at times. but. that kind of defense mechanism was. I laugh at myself before you can laugh. at me and that stood me a good stead and. and even now that's you know that's the. way I get through things when was that. when was the first time that you that.

you realized that you were. different because like I remember coming. to the UK from Botswana in Africa and I. was the only black kid in Norway school. and there was like there's some day I. think I remember specifically a comment. that a kid made to win the playground. which really put into like perspective. that I was actually different to them it. was something about my hair. um I had like a little little like kind. of Jackson 5 afro going on that I'd. combed out and from that day onwards. there was I kind of noticed that I was. different can you recall a time where. you've you realize that you being taller.

Was Made You Different yeah well I think. it's only it's only people with with. experience like older people that that. notice anything like that isn't it. really I think like as kids we just grow. up everyone's the same aren't they and. then. um it's older kids so like when I was. you know I was always the tallest in my. class but my mum and dad may have never. made a big deal of it up to me. um I was always taller than everyone. else and then when we started to play. football and then when I started to be. good at football you would hear things. on the sideliner yeah but he's a couple.

of years older or yeah he's good but. he's he's too old and um because you're. only judged by your height at that at. that age so I would hear things from the. parents and then um you know I'd hear. like little remarks like people laughing. little Japes and jiving and. um yeah because like people saying or. you're skinny or your lanky is is seen. as um it's sort of like you're allowed. to say it in some ways do you know what. I mean like. it's just it's a describing word but. like that's how it was for me.

um but I love it it feels to me like. it's part of me it's me now I've always. been taller than everyone else it wasn't. as if I just shot up. um and was different I was just always. ahead above everyone else and that is a. part of me now which I love Richard I. was Richard Osmond who came on the. podcast. um was the first person who kind of. stunned me into silence because I have. to be completely honest I didn't realize. that. heightism.

abusing people for being tall. was such a sort of consequential. um. thing for those people I was one of the. people who who didn't didn't realize. that someone who's lived their height. being very very tall will be told about. it everywhere they go every second and. how that can impact someone and how they. feel it honestly I remember doing that. podcast I remember sitting here [ __ ]. oh of course of course it'd be like. anything else with me if I had the third. arm and everyone said everywhere I go it. would make me subconscious about it. exactly right yeah.

um and you know it's because there's. bigger problems everywhere you know. there's bigger problems but my prob my. problem or you know it was I think it. was different was my height you know. like I I recently you know added did a. joke of like all the questions that I. was permanently asked I had a a series. of cards in my inside pocket to answer. every single question that everyone the. people I knew were going to ask me so it. was uh what's the weather like up there. um do you play basketball uh how tall of.

you. um do you sleep in a grow bag is the. weather different up there right five. questions but I had all the answers in. my inside pocket so before they even. open their mouth I could give them a. card. um and it was just something funny you. know that that changed the subject but. it's amazing how many times I think it's. less so now because people know who I am. and know what I'm about but before. um people I became well known. um those questions were just constant. what impact is that we joke about it as.

you know now but what impact does that. have on a young man well it on an. impressionable young teenager it had a. it had a big impact. um me now you know it's water for ducks. back you know it doesn't it doesn't. matter to me. um but yeah as a young lad it was it was. a little bit different I remember my dad. getting you know really angry about it. um. because as a teenager you're going. through things that are a little bit. um you know you're always you're not. comfortable within your own skin are you.

as a young as a young lad. um so I was the same as everyone else. but I found it difficult at times really. difficult and especially football. Terraces like as I got older and I was. playing professionally. um and then I started playing in the. first team. and all of a sudden it was like you know. dealing with there's one thing dealing. with the odd person in the in the street. saying oh aren't you talking and another. thing dealing with 30. 000 people screaming like. of Senate is that you you know taking.

the piss out of the way you look. laughing at you. that that was difficult. when you say difficult what do you mean. um in a practical because I read it like. 14 and 15 years old you're crying. yourself to sleep sometimes because of. this and having conversations with your. dad about it yeah yeah I think there was. times where I thought to myself is it is. it worth it is it worth going through. this. um why am I putting myself through this. it's all I've ever loved it's all I've. ever wanted to do.

but if people are going to laugh at me. and take the piss out of me. um what is the point you know. um do I want it that much I was lucky I. had a good support network around me you. know I had good people around me my dad. was was great with me he'd always and he. was harsh with me at times as well but. he was also really really good and at. pulling me back up and sort of giving. myself more confidence and. um listen I don't look like your average. footballer and I've known that since I. was 10 11 years old you know when I.

watched football on the TV I don't see. anyone that represented me. um really like the odd like tour Andre. Flo was was potentially one had good. technique. um there was a couple of players that. but but not many so I thought to myself. maybe I'm just not I'm not right maybe I. don't look right I don't I shouldn't be. a player you know I had all these things. going on in your mind but. ultimately if you know I had the. determination and I had the ability to. and I suppose the thick skin which you.

have to have to to go past it. you said that there was thoughts in your. head of maybe I should maybe I should. quit maybe I should go do something else. was were those like real considerations. you had. at some point oh without doubt they were. that was um I I'm just I just think to. myself is it worth it like why I always. remember the game it was West Brom away. and I came on and uh. I missed the chance and nobody knew who. I was I was just a kid you know I was. probably the same height as I am now and.

probably about. I was probably about nine Stone nine and. a half Stone I was you know much. skinnier than I am now believe it or not. and I'm trying to be a premier league. player you know it's just. people just thought it was absolutely. ridiculous and at times I thought it. myself I thought well I know I've got. ability but I'm looking at these big. strong you know developed men like I. can't compete with this. um I always remember coming on people. actually laughing at me and then. um there was another game away at. Gillingham where I just got absolutely.

abused to the point where you know. people were shouting freak and does the. circus know you're here like this these. were these are the things that what. people were saying and uh my dad was in. the crowd I always remember it I was. walking. I was walking uh out. uh at half time of the game and my dad. was rolling down the aisle in in the. Gillingham and having a fight with. someone I thought oh my God this is not. this is my first season in professional. football I think my dad's having a fight. I'm getting absolutely abused my mom's. crying. you know what am I doing why why am I.

putting myself through this of course I. love football and that's you know what I. want to be but is it worth all this. how do you feel about those people that. are shouting like freak at you when you. come on the pitch and upset in your. family like how do you like think about. them and that kind of culture now like. you know what like it'd be easy for me. to say here sit here and go uh oh you. know the brain dead this that but. growing up in a football culture it was. like I've been there myself on a. football tourist where you you know and.

you hear things my dad used to cover my. ears and stuff. um let's go to Chelsea as a kid and. um I don't know it's it's like it's like. almost normal and I know it's wrong and. obviously there's a line you know I mean. obviously we've seen it recently you. know with racism and you know there's. certain things that go well over the. line but you know being tall wasn't. considered you know over the line so it. was something that I just I just decided. was that was the way football is you.

know can we change that can I change. that I don't think so so I just got on. with it um and how do I think about them. now I think yeah it was Reckless I think. I think I've sat down on a drillingham. fan that was abusing me that day and I. said shoot you know what you really like. my mom was crying my dad had to have a. fight I was thinking about giving up. football I think you'd I think he'd say. oh God I'm sorry I think he would but. I don't think in that moment. he saw us as as people it's like you're. a footballer on the pitch and.

you're not seen as it's like. such tribalism. that you're just gonna. enjoy you have to endure it for you know. you're well paid so you have to endure. this kind of level of abuse. um and I think things are changing you. know I'd like to think they are we're. trying to help that but and certainly in. those days it was a case of. get on with it did that put a chip on. your shoulder you know when you hear. those things and you're running onto the. pitch and you hear people abusing you or. whatever else or you're aware of that.

that narrative in your head when you. come on do you think to yourself I'm. gonna [ __ ] show these people. I'm gonna does it give you did it give. you doubt or did it give you an extra. bit of confidence it's a little bit of. both I think like when I was like I I. didn't know whether I was going to play. for England or I was going to be a. non-league player and either of them. would have been fine like I wasn't on. the map to go and play for England you. know I wasn't Steven Gerald I wasn't. Michael Owen I wasn't Wayne Rooney you. know I had a different path I wasn't.

ready for the Premier League till I was. 22 23 probably you know so I didn't know. where my career was going to go so yeah. there were times where I doubted myself. but then I think you know I think I. scored my first goal. and uh and things just changed and I. just it was well it was the most. important moment of my life and it was. against Gillingham again believe it or. not funny how it comes around but I yeah. chest the ball down and I've only. disappointed I was at QPR and I knew. then that I'd have a career in football. like.

I didn't know I'd play for Liverpool I. didn't know I'd play for England but I I. didn't know what I want to achieve but I. knew then I'd have a career in football. and that was where my confidence grew. and and then I thought no no I can do. this your dad. had he was um. quite tough at times. from what I read yeah yeah like really. tough yeah. um what does that mean well. yeah I mean I think at times he probably. went a little bit too too far but like I.

wouldn't I wouldn't be sat here having. played for England or I've been playing. achieving the things that I've done. achieving my dreams. without him. being hard on me like I wouldn't would I. go maybe to the lengths at times that he. he did maybe not but what lengths uh. well we um just certain things like I. think the heart the harshest one was. when he um it obviously left me at uh.

I was at the ball court in um at. Tottenham and um. I jumped out of a tackle and his thing. was look I came from a nice background. and a lot of kids were playing football. to survive you know so I had to toughen. up and that's the truth like. was I going to go into a tackle like my. life depended on it like the kids from. from the estate around Edmonton or east. London and. probably not at that time so you know.

when I got up to. um. after the. after training you're like my dad he'd. gone. [Music]. yeah yeah so he left me and uh I had to. get home I'm bearing in mind I grew up. in in healing uh getting home from. wildlame with an overground. Seven Sisters talked to the circus. Oxford Circus twirling Broadway and then. walk home from there. um oh it's probably about I was probably.

13 or 14. but I hadn't been on a tube before. I had but not on my own so. it's a tough lesson did he tell you he. was going no I went up there and he was. gone and did you not think I'll give him. a call tomorrow well I didn't have a. mobile yeah yeah yeah it was different. and when did you find out it was because. if you weren't tackling people well I. thought I thought it might be. wasn't no I didn't tackle I think I. remember jumping out of one particular. tackle uh for my dad's gonna kill me for.

that uh. do you know what though I never jumped. out of a tackle again and you know. like I say is a harsh lesson. but I'm not gonna I'm gonna sit here and. say. it wasn't the right lesson I think it. might have been a tad harsh. would I do would I do that to my son I'm. not sure. I don't probably not but. I think potentially I'm too I'm too easy. on my kids a bit.

um. it's it's a tough lesson to learn but I. think if you want to be a top Elite. footballer. you need to want it as much as the next. person and I did want it but. I I hadn't had to fight as much as these. kids you know and um and don't get me. wrong these kids these kids are they're. my friends now you know like I have some. good some good lads that. came from tough upbringings that went on. to be really good players.

um you know ledley King I remember like. ledley King Stephen Mills James Carter. these boys that I met in the bull Court. you know Nikki hunt they were. the tough Lads you know from you know Bo. in in East London you know an estate. where like Ashley Cole grew up Lily King. grew up and and I ended up playing in. the ball court. um where they grew up you know and. that's a different kind of environment. to where I was playing you know but. I think when you can hold your own in. there and you know you can go you can. rough it up you can fly into tackles. I basically changed my whole.

personality. well I played football you know like I. can sit here now and I'd like to say. that I'm gonna I'd like to think that. I'm a nice guy I think people that know. me would say I'm a nice guy but on the. pitch I had to be a different person if. I wanted to succeed and then that was. just one lesson when you got home from. that little football game where you. didn't put the tackle or jumped out of. the tackle did your dad have a. conversation with you about it about why. he left yeah so he told you why at the. end he said yeah listen there's a few.

things that like sugar remain privacy. remember that but. um. let's just say I was I was told you know. uncertain times to not jump out of a. tackle again okay okay good and your mum. what was your her broader influence on. you yeah mum. um. she is very much like me uh. yeah I think most of my my traits. probably come come from my mum. um. you know obviously the love of football.

came from my dad and stuff and you know. he was very good with me but my mum was. uh. was was very good with me and um you. know she was I thank her every day about. you know she's taking me to. to matches I remember seeing her just. you know she was the only mum on the. side with the barley when it was lashing. down and. um she was incredible taking me to. places she was like my shoulder to cry. on she was the person that I would. provide in. um. they're both both very very good and you. know a big reason why I'm the person I.

am. those players from the estate that you. you played amongst one of the things I. read about. um. in your book was how. you could see how attitude played such. an important role in who would make it. because getting from like the estate to. you know. sort of Semi-Pro level and then getting. to the Premier League is a long [ __ ]. journey and there's only a few seats at. that top table so when you think about. like why including yourself why in terms.

of mindset and attitude some of of your. colleagues and some of your peers made. it and didn't make it what's your answer. to that yeah it's funny like everyone. every footballer that's played for. England or played I've played with in. the Premier League. um they've all got a story all of them. I've got every single one will tell you. a story about the player that was better. than them. that no one knows. um there's so many of them out there and. it's sad. um but for whatever reason injury you. know there's lots of uh temptation as a.

young footballer especially when you're. that good. um you know if you're earning money you. don't know how to handle that money. friends and parties you know. distractions of of all different kinds. um you know actually will you know the. determination dedication there's so many. factors alongside ability. um luck there's there's so many factors. um but I sometimes think we don't. you know a lot of the time we look at. the negative side of football. um but I think sometimes when you see.

the kids that have come from absolutely. I'm talking absolutely nothing some of. these kids uh who are now playing for. England or you know and they make. mistakes they make mistakes in the. public eye they make mistakes high. profile mistakes and everyone goes ass. footballers you know that's what. that you know that's what they're like. if you'd have seen what they've come. from. to playing in a Champions League final. like I think that's a success story you. know I think sometimes we should. celebrate that fact not not Kinder for.

making those mistakes that they've made. um and yeah of course it depends what. kind of if it's you know too too big a. mistake obviously you can't condone some. things but some of these players who. have come basically with no mum and dad. you know someone's picked them up with. one particular player you know not had. any boots I've been thrown on a football. pitch and has ended up playing in a. Champions League final but yeah he's. made of mistakes along the way but I. think sometimes we should we should. consider that a success. yeah we don't really have a lot of.

empathy do we when it comes down because. it's because it's because it's a highly. profession. um you know and sometimes. um you know there's a stigma on uh you. know why are these why are these players. getting paid so well. um and I get I get that you know there's. uh there's a lot of money in football. and um you know it's just could it be. spent Elsewhere on people in the NHS or. you know people uh who've you are doing. pretty much more harder jobs than a. footballer but um it is what it is you.

can't change it but I do think. um. yeah there is there is that stigma. Associated to footballers I sat with Tim. Grover who was the guy that trained. Michael Jordan and Kobe and he also. trained some Premier League football. players now gives them like coaching. advice and one of the things he told me. was how he's seen the pressure of being. a high-level Premier League football. player completely destroys some players. and it's something that was the first. time I'd kind of heard that because as a.

fan as I've always been you know all you. know we're all tweet and we're all. having our say all commenting we're all. at the game shouting in our little mob. mentality whatever but then we don't. really think that the all of that. pressure especially on like as you say a. kid that's come from the estate who's 18. and isn't like doesn't have the tools to. deal with that pressure how they can be. going home out can severely impact their. performance and how it can kind of like. just. cause them to collapse a little bit. um I got to be honest I've seen a. similar thing in my view with like the. the mob. attacking like someone like Harry.

MaGuire rashford had it a lot last year. as well but. um what's your take on all of that and. have you seen that yourself in the. dressing room yeah no I've seen it and I. played I've played in um. I'll play for England in Era where. um it was it felt like there was a huge. pressure there was it was the golden. generation you know the players were the. best we've ever had since 66. um you know we had an opportunity to win. World Cups and you know because we. didn't it was you know it felt like it. was heaped on certain players.

um and that kind of pressure but when. you're talking about rashford and and. Maguire like I think we were all. entitled to criticize players like we. put ourselves in that in that position. but like what I've seen with. certainly Harry MaGuire I feel like it. goes it's gone really too far I think. you know it's. it's harsh it's you know I'm just. thinking of his family you know because. I've been in that position I've been. booed for England I've I've remember. playing Old Trafford in the game.

and coming on and it's the proudest. moment you'll ever have in your life. and your home fans are burning you know. I've been in that situation and it feels. like Harry MaGuire is going through you. know what seems to be a prolonged period. of this and yeah regardless of form I. think some of you know the Social Media. stuff I see you know ridiculing. um. I think he's having a difficult time to. as a player. but I think some of the criticism goes. beyond criticism it becomes.

um too harsh in my opinion. having been in a situation where you've. been booed by the fans of the club. you're playing for. what does that do to you what did it do. to you when you came up was it for. England yeah well that's devastating. yeah I'm um I'm playing for England. listen you know there might be an. element of the fact I was my Liverpool. player I'm an Old Trafford. um you know obviously a lot many live. fans. um. but. it was during the course of when I I. wasn't score of Liverpool and I was.

having a real tough time anyway I had 18. games where I didn't score for Liverpool. and um the fact that. it goes back to I I felt like within the. land to be superhuman it goes back to. the thing where because I look different. a bit I I wasn't seen as what an England. Striker should look like. um and I think that was genuinely a. thing. but um I I then you know I'm so proud to. represent my country but I've got my. sister my mum and my dad. uh all friends in the crowd.

and everyone's excited you know they're. all talking to me before the game about. you know makeup potentially coming on. and making an appearance getting the cap. and then you come on and get booed by. seventy thousand of your own fans yeah. so so what I'm saying is um don't ever. feel sorry for footballers don't but you. know don't don't have to we we expect. that but. my family like my mom was in bits. um you know the proudest moment of my. life has sort of been taken away a bit.

because of that. um. but you know we put ourselves in in the. position there's no I'm not gonna I'm. gonna sit here and and cry about it just. it's just disappointing for my family. more than anything. what happens when the whistle blows the. game ends on days like that you're going. back and see your family is there a bit. of an awkwardness to it a bit of. embarrassment you know because uh you. want to be the one who comes down with a. with a champagne in your hand you know. and everyone claps you in and your.

family gives you a big hug you know and. most of the lads did that you know. they've got a shirt they've got a cap. like I'm I'll come down to the Players. Lounge after and I'm a bit sheepish all. right. sorry about that Mom you know it's like. you're apologizing for doing the thing. that you've worked so hard to do your. whole life. um so that is that's difficult. dealing with the. the family side of it because I I know. what I've done I've put myself in a.

position to be shot at I'm sure you feel. the same you know doing this podcast. whatever you do that's you know you put. yourself in a position to be shot at but. your mum hasn't you know she doesn't she. doesn't need to hear that and it kills. it killed her but it's funny isn't it. when you're when you put yourself in a. position to be shower I really like that. phrase. um and then you know you get shot at. your family try and stand in the way of. the bullets to some degree yeah and it's. like no no please don't send me the. Articles please don't tell me your. thoughts on it and WhatsApp I don't need. to uh like persuade you out of this.

situation and like sort of counsel you. on why these people are saying this. about me so how do you deal with that. how do you deal with like. um you know do you just part of the. guard and pretend it's not happening it. depends on the issue but I mean I'll. probably get canceled once once every. quarter for something I've said on this. podcast or whatever. um Dragon Center sometimes because the. way it's edited it can make it seem like. I said something I didn't say or. whatever but. um so my friends know not to send me. articles just assume I've seen it yeah. yeah I don't need my best maker have you.

seen that this is that this is something. that happened like early on in my career. and I was like no stop all that like I'm. not I'm not reading new I don't watch. match of the day if I haven't scored. that's the way I deal with it yeah it's. like you know that doesn't exist yeah. yeah and when I do something good I'm. like online. be very selective in what you watch or. listen to but. was there a moment in Ukraine where you. said I'm not going to read the. newspapers anymore I'm not going to. watch the Telly I'm just gonna yeah was. that that Liverpool Facebook yeah that.

liberal phase was like radio silent no I. was gone I was relaxed to the thing like. everyone's the problem with now I could. stop. buying a newspaper I can stop watching. telly I can do other things you know I. can do but nobody can live without their. phone now and this is the problem like. for young footballers that are worried. if I do I'd like you've got to worry. about it because no one can put their. phone down from no one can. um Sony football is the same especially. a young player you know you pick up your.

phone for it right I've got what's on. the diary I've got a text message then. you did you find yourself on Instagram. on Twitter or on whatever you're on and. you can't get away from it and they and. no matter what the players tell you. whoever they are I don't listen to it. they they do they do you can't get away. from. what what it is now with the phones you. can't everyone's got one and everyone's. looking. um with me to get through that yeah I. didn't I didn't watch I was getting. ridiculed that time where I didn't score.

for Liverpool. was. such a hard time like for me I was just. wanted to hide away in in a in a dark. room until I scored basically so I don't. know what I would do if I was hiding. away in a dark room with a mobile phone. right you might as well just not you. might as well go out and face it all. because it's a lot harsher on the on the. phone than it is when you see people in. person if I was in your so you signed. for Liverpool and then you go 18 games. without screwing 18 appearances right.

well that's great. um if I was. in your household at that time if I was. behind the scenes in your Camp what. would have I actually what would have. what would I have seen. um. or someone who's depressed I suppose I. mean outwardly outwardly not I've never. been that person to sort of to wallow in. it you know I've always been the sort of. I suppose a bubbly character I always. see the positive in everything. um but that at that time like it felt.

like I was getting ridiculed and it was. really tough I had to sort of fight my. way through it but. what was so amazing was the Liverpool. fans stuck with me and uh that's. something that I'll never forget because. I I swear to you any club in the world. um having just won the Champions League. in one of the best finals we've ever. seen in Istanbul in 2005 they signed me. right I turn up and I don't score for 18. games right I don't think there's a club. a top club in the world that tolerates.

that as a fan base. um apart from Liverpool fans and they. stopped by me and it was like a Siege. mentality it was like everyone else is. attacking him but he's one of ours and. we're. um with him and it felt like. every time I played it they were. willingly to score and when I eventually. did. um. you can see the the footage of it the. camera's shaking and like the it's like. we've won a European Cup Final like. people wanted to score that much.

and I you know I'm thankful to this day. that they they did stick with me and. because I managed to turn it round after. that and. um it was a special moment uh at a. special Club. I was reading them in that phase you. you were turning to drink more than you. should have been a little bit after. games and stuff yeah because my dad you. know to be fair to him would say to me. and I'd be like no I'm not going out. don't even like you're going out like. he'd make me go out after games and I'd. be like I don't want people laughing at.

me but he dragged me out we'd have a few. beers like it wasn't as if I was. drinking at home on my own it wasn't. like a dark kind of thing it was he was. making he was dragging me out and he was. making me have a few drinks and then I. realized actually no one because it's. I've built it up it's everyone's. laughing at me it's my it it's my world. that's. you know not actually no one really. cares you know they might have a laugh. at you on a Saturday but they're going. back to their own lives you know I've if. I feel like it's everyone's laughing at.

me at all times you know you build these. things up in your head and they're never. as bad as you think they are so his way. of dealing with it you know with me was. to take me out for a beer and yeah I. probably did drink a little bit more. than I should do as a as a premier. league player but I needed to at that. time. and you you bounce between what six. clubs before the age of 25. yeah six yeah that's a lot of moving. it's a lot of moving around yeah but I I. classed that as um like if I'm if I'm at.

Liverpool or you know you're starting. Manchester United or Chelsea you know. Bayern Munich Real Madrid you don't have. to move anywhere if you're playing do. you don't have to the course of my. career was very different to anyone. else's courses of my career and those. moves that I had where QPR was I had a. chance to Showcase my talent you know I. did very well the club went into. Administration I went to Portsmouth and. they bought me for like a record fee I. then. um did really really well in a. championship and got a move to Aston. Villa in a premier league you know I. felt like my dream had arrived.

and then it didn't quite work out I. wasn't ready for the Premier League um I. always remember my debut was against. Newcastle and Alan Shearer was up the. other end of the pitch and I was at this. end of the pit obviously the the. opposite Striker and I thought if that's. what I need to be a premier league. player. I'm not one I'm not one because he was. so good and I and I I just thought. I maybe I maybe I'm a championship. player. um so I ended up having to move again uh.

to Southampton to get games and then. things took off so like all my moves. were like. for for a reason for the from a club. point of view or for a financial thing. for the club or for me having to go out. and get football or for me to progress. as a player so I would have loved. nothing more than to stay at one club. for my whole life uh but that wasn't. that wasn't my journey you moved from um. Liverpool to Spurs. um how would you sort of summarize your.

time at Spurs. um I I absolutely loved it because I. started at Spurs as a youngster and I. played in that book called White heart. Lane and I tried to play in a youth team. and I was in the reserves and me and. ledley King came through together. ledley when you obviously was there and. I went throughout all this whole journey. of Liverpool England QPR Portsmouth. Southampton or Norwich on loan dulwich. Hamlet alone. and I came back to Tottenham and ledley.

was in the same place I left him. which was. another first team for Tottenham I'd. come through there in the youth team I. had so many players ahead of me I wasn't. ready so for when I when I come back for. 10 million pounds and I I'd already. played in the Champions League final I. played in a World Cup. eyes achieve things. that nobody in that Tottenham sort of. dressing room at the time would would. say I would achieve I wasn't even good.

enough for you know to play in their. first team which is correct at the time. so to come back it felt like unfinished. business if you like so. so then when I scored some important. goals for Spurs and we got into the. champions league for the first time and. we had good success. um that felt like it was almost like a. coming home if you like and that ended a. little bit to abruptly for your liking a. bit yeah yeah it did. um. I I liked it at Spurs it was it was. funny because I uh.

it was deadline day and um. they Harry redknapp was talking about. bringing Emmanuel alviorian and it's. funny how it works for a footballer but. I I went. to work. call it work for now and I left Abby and. and the kids and I said um. I'll see you I'll see you this afternoon. and then this afternoon never came I. never came home. and I'll just give her a course if we. live in Stoke now. it's the life of a footballer I was.

happy he had a two-year contract left at. Tottenham. but I was just you know that bit came in. of 10 million pounds for a 30 year old. and I can understand from a club's. perspective. that they wanted to accept your father. they wanted to bring added by Oren and I. spoke to Harry and he said obviously. yeah we do want to bring out a buyer in. but Daniel Levy wants to accept this bid. um. obviously I wasn't happy about it you. know I was happy where I was I was at a. great club and I wanted to stay but um.

certain bits and pieces happened and uh. I said to have where uh we're on the. move. how does Daniel he's a a figure that's. talked about a lot as being quite a. tough tough guy he does does very um. what's the word tough business that's. what I hear a lot. well listen this is you know star River. CEO right yeah if I was around the. football club I'd probably have him in. charge really yeah it is a harsh. businessman right but.

is looking after you know a billion. pound asset you know he's. he's not necessarily the owner but he's. running it like it's his own. um and I think. I understand that like the the bid of 10. million came in for me I'm a I'm an. asset to the business and I know I'm a. person but if you look at it purely from. from a business perspective. I'm a depreciating asset at 30 years old. potentially I went on to 38 to be fair.

but in his eyes maybe. um Wilson Palacios was was another six. millions ago so 16 million they're. getting four it's good money it's good. business potentially. but you know I'm not I'm not stupid. either so. I had two years left on my deal and you. must have had it been over well if you. think about it he's getting 16 million. right yeah. um it's not yeah it's not like I know.

what he's getting you know. I'm entitled to to see some of that if. you want me to leave. I did okay and it worked out for for. both of us. um. but I don't know I don't think there's. many people that come out of a. maybe an incident like that with Daniel. leaving and come out. smiling. um because he is he is Harsh. um but like I say you know I had my. running with him and there were times.

where I said no it's okay I'm happy I'll. see you in the morning I'm happy at. Tottenham I was comfortable there. and I just said I'll see you in the. morning and uh you know I suppose you've. got to be prepared to hang out the phone. and say say that. um and then he kept coming back and. telling me that I wouldn't get a squad. number. I wouldn't um I'll be training with the. kids. trying to make my life difficult uh and. I was like no problem what was that. initial conversation he calls you in and. says you're off do they not say I'm. interested in the world of football like.

because in the world I'm from in. business. there's a high degree of empathy it's a. very you know conversation there's. performance reviews it's very but we. don't have an impending deadline day. either so I'm just trying to figure out. if it's like a go get your stuff you're. off or if it's uh but I think I think I. think it would be different if you did. have a deadline day you know yeah. so I I think you know that rushes people. obviously but. um yeah definitely your scene like.

there's a there's this there's this. whole thing about a player should show. loyalty and but there's also works both. ways you know you know Club clubs at. times uh if you aren't performing or. you're maybe having other issues or. problems off the field uh sometimes that. side of it doesn't get shown as well you. know where the club will quite happily. get rid of you. um so yeah it works it works both ways. um but yeah unfortunately the the. business that they're in is what is fine.

and selling players and winning football. matches and ears of Ruthless industry. um but I went into that I've realized. that very quickly to be quite honest. um but I'll I'll enter that with with. open eyes do you do you regret leaving. Liverpool yeah. I'll do a bit I had a I had a great time. at Portsmouth though so and some of. those memories were will stay with me. forever but leaving Liverpool is a. difficult thing to do and um. I was playing for England at the time. and I was loving playing for England I.

was playing well and I just thought we. signed philando Torres. alum. on pragmatic I understand my role if you. know what I mean as a player he was. better than me right so what do I do now. uh he's always going to play formed a. great partnership with Stephen Gerrard. um he's on absolute fire I still believe. myself I still believe I can play for. England I'm still a very good player I'm. just not on torres's level so I think. he's not. he just wasn't getting injured the whole. time I was there and then.

you know I'd left. and then he he was sold quite quickly to. to Chelsea. and I saw players obviously that were. playing. Andy Carroll yeah I mean you know Andy. Carrollton you know there was Warren in. and Gog players that um I felt that you. know I basically I felt like I should I. could have played. um I haven't said that I'll never looked. back. I've not looked back on any of my people. even say to me now like do you miss.

football no I don't miss football that. was a time that I had that was the best. I look back with such fond memories of. it same at Liverpool I don't think ah. should have played there for 10 years. it would have been nice. but it was that I still cherished the. moments that I had with Liverpool and. also the people I've met some great. people at Portsmouth and it's a such a. good club and that was just off the back. of winning the FA Cup and I really. thought we'd get into the to the. Champions League our team was that good. so. it was a it was a it gave me the.

opportunity to play and to enjoy my. football and to carry on playing for. England so do I regret it it's the one. thing I look back on and think could I. have stayed and could have I've been a. top top club for longer but I love my. time at Portsmouth as well you mentioned. Gerard there and I've seen you. um talk about Lampard and Beckham and. Gerard and carragher. what was it that made those individuals.

great in your view what did you see. I saw something in like in those players. that uh. that was slightly different to me like. I'm not gonna I enjoy it. what I was doing like I looked at the. the top top level players that I played. with and they never looked like they. enjoyed it ever. like yeah Gerard. carragher a class in that John Terry. Lampard like the. it was always the next game you know and.

I think that's the top level mentality. you need to have like for me at times. I'd go we'd oh we've won this Landslide. let's enjoy this one a little bit. because we had a massive game on Tuesday. they would already be thinking about. yeah that was good. but it's about the next one it's always. about the next one. and. I admire that in people. um and I I had a I had a Steely. mentality but I also thought. what are we doing it for you know what.

yeah of course it's about winning. trophies. but also it's about this moment we've. just won like a huge game like in the. last minute let's celebrate this moment. and deal with tomorrow tomorrow. whereas sometimes the top level players. right here yeah like Steven Gerard prime. example of that. um. just a constant. it looked like there was there was no. enjoyment obviously it was enjoyment at. times but it felt like it was just the.

next game was. was more important than enjoying this. one. and yeah of course it was but. I was always a little bit like can I. just enjoy this one a little bit. um. which is you know I think separates the. I'd class myself as an elite Sportsman I. played at the top level but I'm talking. top top. um and that's why they're. who they are were they intense so. intense yeah yeah that's what but I. think that's what separates people isn't.

it I think. you know you've got to want to. um sacrifice everything and you know I. did when I was when I was younger and I. did throughout my career but what I'm. saying is that it's that point five. percent that one percent difference of. um. I've just already thinking about the. next game of you know managers Do It um. and as players sometimes. we of course enjoy that win and and. think about the next game when it when. it comes but the top level players that.

I've played with like you say Lampard. John Terry. Steven Gerrard. Jamie carrigo I put in that you know the. demo United boys like the consistent. winners are the ones that. I think look like they don't enjoy it. and um because they are constantly. battling for the next. the next thing well we've got I read. that you said um some players couldn't. deal with the intensity of a Steven. gerund and a carragher and that you also. were much more orientated to try and.

please them than the manager which I. think was Rafa at the time that's right. you were trying to please more concern. with pleasing carragher and Gerard who. are the you know like Club Captain. Captain whatever of the team than the. manager yeah that's true. I'm trying I'm trying to put myself into. the changing moments and and understand. why that is what were they doing. um. they're local boys right they're they're. Legends at the club. um when I think of Liverpool I think of. Stephen Gerard and and Jamie carragher.

um like Rapha Benitez I suppose was a. top manager and he signed me and I you. know I I got only good words to say. about him but. absolute Legends of the club and um. quite ruthless in there and and quite. harsh in their appraisal of some players. uh so I found myself in constantly. seeking their approval and my training. was. you know I always remember the first.

training session when Steve wrapped a. ball into my into my feet and I. miscontrolled One. and it's like it's like a one look. would be. you know you don't do that here you're. in Liverpool now it's one one Bad Touch. isn't tolerated here so he said it's. only a look but it was enough to to make. me not do that again you know that that. kind of. standards are different and I think you. get that from from certain players like. like Stephen and Jamie would they go.

individuals oh yeah yeah I mean it's. their Club you know and I think some. people didn't understand that. um the level of passion that they had. for. the club uh and like there's players. that on you know everyone's different. like you you'll know only so well like. in a in a place of work if there's no. two character to say you know so you. need to know what what makes people tick.

and um. some people couldn't understand the. level of. of passion that they had for the club of. standards that they had they might have. come from a more relaxed Club but. unfortunately if you want to play for. Liverpool you have to have a certain. um way about you in a certain standard. and that you've below that standard then. players like Stephen and Jamie would. show you very quickly in front of. everyone yeah yeah yeah I mean I've seen.

I've seen players be signed and be. written off in one training session you. know really 15 million pound players. coming in and like he's [ __ ] really but. I never like. it died I mean that was. you wouldn't get many chances. um. but then I've also seen players be. written off and then come back. um which obviously in their eyes would. would make them a good good fit for for. Liverpool. what do you think of Liverpool right now.

uh got the new Nunez guy coming yeah I I. like Nunez I think you know he's a bit. I think it's going to take him time to. settle in I don't think we've seen the. best of him yet but um as a club what. Jurgen klopp's done there you know I. think I look at young kids now who just. expect Liverpool to win champ the. Champions League or win the leagues. um you know I suppose 30 odd years. before it was a long time and Jurgen. klops just changed the DNA back into. you know where they were in the 80s I. mean is that it's that good and yeah.

they're struggling a little bit now. um but what he's done for that football. club has has been nothing short of. incredible and you know we had some. great players at my time at the club but. um you know what they've done as a group. has surpassed anything that um you know. that that spell I had Has Done Quick One. some of you may know we've got a brand. new sponsor for this podcast it's. American Express and this partnership. still blows my mind as I'm an avid user. of American Express so with that being. said let me tell you about their new. business Platinum Card benefits firstly.

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more than 10 footballing managers at. varying different levels and also at the. very very top of international and. Premier League football what made a. really good manager. um I I think there's lots of ways to. manage and you know I did my coaching. badges just before I retired and you try. and use a little bit of the good stuff. out of out of everyone but you know. obviously Rapha very tactically. um you know Harry Harry redknapp was a. great people person you know like he. understood people and what they wanted. and uh he made it a nice sort of.

environment you know Sven the same was. so relaxed you know in a pressured. environment when you were going into a. World Cup. you just spend out that aura of calmness. around you which you you needed. um so like yeah great managers that I've. had along the way. um but very very different qualities in. in all of them. what about the the opposite what was the. instances where you thought that's not. good management. um. well there were certain things like uh.

you know with rafroth there was a. tendency to be too intricate to be too. um methodical to. um precise at times. if you could mix a little bit of raffle. a bit of Harry together off of it you'd. have the perfect manager because. with with Rafa it was like we're playing. Wolves at home and we've got Steven. Gerard Javier Alonso uh Fernando Torres. we've got the best back four in the. league at the moment. um and one of the best goalkeepers just. go out and beat them you know like I.

don't think it's that difficult I don't. think you have to play with a couple of. holding Midfield players and you have to. have all you know this what we do if we. don't just go and beat them we're at. anfield. let's go and express ourselves. um and that was my only criticism you. know like that that I could have I think. there was too many times where we. we're thinking about the opposition. instead of saying we're Liverpool let's. go and let's go out and Ambassador them. who was the best manager you played for. um.

what is you know there's so many reasons. for for each moment Jerry Francis gave. him my debut Graham Rex was a big. influence on my. on my career. um you know there's good qualities of. Sven I thought Rapha was at times was. incredible when some of the work they. did some of the sessions and someone. that's things tactically were were. really eye-opening. um but Harry redknapp was I I don't. think I'll be sitting here without him.

um. just because he understood football he. understood a player. and he understood how to get the best. out of you and I think he got the best. out of me. uh certainly at at Portsmouth you know. at Southampton at Southampton I was. struggling I thought. I've just had a a horrible time at Aston. Villa. this isn't my time in the Premier League. and it's not going well I'm not playing. the manager leaves Harry comes in and he. goes you know this is my last chance. Saloon.

and I'm thinking right well maybe I'm. just a championship player Harry comes. in it just changes like that he says you. and Kevin FedEx will be in my front too. uh for the rest of the season you'll. score us enough goals for us to stay up. and uh. just that confidence that belief and. what like. I suppose I uh. I felt my height for you know for the. first time that season and I went out. and scored 16 goals I think after. Christmas I was on absolute fire got in. the England squad and moved to Liverpool. at the end of the year. um so that that little spell of six.

months was crucial. um to my development as a as a player as. a person and would I be sitting here. without that you know there's lots of. things you look at. you know would I be would I be here. without that without that and there's. lots of really key important moments and. that was definitely one of them Harry. coming in it's crazy how much is like. someone believing in you at some point. where maybe you don't believe in. yourself can have such a huge impact on. how you're behaving and ultimately what. results you get yeah if you're if you're.

getting told that you're you know you're. this and you're that you're no good. you're it's not I don't I don't think. you have to be a real strong character. to to be able to to cope with that. um and when someone comes in and goes. actually no you're you're doing great. stuff you know keep you like yeah it. lifts you it does it makes you feel it. makes you feel better and um you know. that's the way I would manage and that's. the way I think you have to manage these. days I think players are different to to. to how it was when I was coming through.

it was very much quite harsh industry. and I think now players are a bit more. you have to be a bit more of an arm. around the shoulder guy. you know. um crack the whip kind of manager when I. sat here with like Patrice and Patrice. Evra Gary Neville Rio Ferdinand they all. say the same thing about Sir Alex the. first comment they'll make when you ask. why he was so good they all say Mana. management and they tell this story of. how he was kind of this bespoke almost. like a unique shape jigsaw piece for. each person so for Nanny.

he was one Sir Alex Ferguson and for. like for Gary Neville he was a different. shape because he understood everybody. and understood which plans to press how. hard he could press to get the best out. of them and we tend to think of like. management as. one been one thing like being one uh one. person to everybody but even from what. you've said there and what they've told. me it seems that great management is. being like a bit of a shape-shifter. depending on who you're dealing with I. think that is exactly right I think. you've hit the nail on the head there. and the boys that you know you talk. about there of uh it's spot on because.

you can't treat everyone the sort of. saying well you can't even train the. same way if you go in you know you're. telling all the players to go in the gym. and you know do this do a certain weight. or you know be a certain speed you can't. everyone is different everyone's a. different character everyone's a. different mold as a player. um you know certain players you can like. Canton are for instance you talk about. Ceramics Ferguson you know not many. players could could handle cancer Alex. Ferguson got the best out of Canton are. because he treated him different to how.

he would treat Gary Neville and it's not. you know it's not rocket science but. it's it's something it's a quality that. not many people have they're not able to. adapt it's like this is my management. style everyone has to fall in line with. it I I don't think. as a manager that is the best way to go. about things it's about adapting to to. people that you might need to speak to. on a regular basis certain people you. might need to tell. you know some home truths certain people.

that you might need to. um you know constantly get into the. office or you know let someone else deal. with him potentially you know you might. spot a problem that it might have off. the field that needs addressing you know. there's so many factors to being a. manager. um and I think Alex Ferguson was well. he's proven to be the best at that. reminds me of watching that Netflix. documentary about Michael Jordan and. called The Last Dance brilliant. brilliant [ __ ] night changed my life. now I think I like I've got like a. Michael Jordan thing upstairs oh yeah. yeah I always you know when people ask. me if I was a basketball player I.

actually wanted to be there. it was uh not a phenomenal documentary. yeah changed really really changed I'll. be honest and people will be surprised. to hear this I understood that Michael. Jordan made shoes but I didn't really. know who he was before then and when I. watched that it was one of those ones. where you put it on and you watch the. whole thing in one sitting I was it. changed my life you're younger than me I. remember him clear as day they're really. playing with the balls yeah I mean he I. think he's the greatest Sportsman that's. ever been as a controversial statement. you know there's so many Sportsmen out.

there but what Michael Jordan did was. was was unbelievable and that like I. loved that kind of mentality going into. that mentality of like winning at all. costs and. um watching that balls thing because he. wasn't just Jordan like that that whole. that whole team was was special that's. what I was gonna say like Dennis Rodman. he was a character aware which sounds to. look much like Cantona in a way where. yeah he would go on Benders for a couple. of days yeah he goes listen that's. Dennis. so honestly no I want everything yeah.

exactly but like that's what I'm saying. you're like could you Dennis was a huge. part defensively of that setup with the. balls and uh if you didn't have him if. you didn't I don't know let him I think. this is obviously like you know that. probably too far but let him go to Vegas. for a couple of weeks at least you get. Dennis back for those games at the end. that are important and I think it's. obviously ridiculous for him to do that. but. that was his in his makeup that was in. his DNA and you know is it is it better. for you to let him go to a rival or do.

you do you accept that. and when the. win the titles they did. all the great managers like the ones. we've talked about seemed to have. instances where they were okay to make. an exception I guess the risk is what. message does that send to the other. players it's almost a bit of an. unfairness if how Cantona or Dennis. Rodman or whoever can go and do that. yeah you're having me [ __ ] show up. every day and you're pressing me in a. different way that's not fair well yeah. I I totally agree with you.

um but I don't know if the boys told. this story last time but. um you know the story of of of Ryan. Giggs um when they turn up for a team. event and he's got no tie on and Eric. Canton walks in with no title pair of. trainers and uh Alex Ferguson's. obviously absolutely you know Kane Ryan. Giggs and told him to go home and get. get a tie on like who do you think you. are Eric walks in sits down doesn't say. a word. really yeah because. is Sarah cancer now you know and I think.

Ryan Giggs was just a this is just. capable of of winning a football match. is there a cancer now but where you do. where where this does fall down is when. those players stop performing and I've. seen that I've seen players get treated. differently. and that's fine until. they're not Eric Cantona they're not. Michael Jordan they're not Tiger Woods. they're not constantly winning games for. you because if you set yourself up like. that. you you better perform and a lot quite.

often they can because the top players. but you are. you are creating a problem for yourself. I think if you if you don't consistently. deliver but maybe that's the reason they. do consistently deliver because they are. wired up differently to a lot of the. rest of us which kind of makes me think. about Ronaldo. and what happened the other week with. him storming down the tunnel etc etc now. me and my friends in our group chat we. all have kind of different points of. view on it you know people are saying oh. Sir Alex would have let him do that this.

whatever whatever for as someone that's. been inside the changing room and. probably seen seen moments where a. certain player was being disruptive. what was your read on that situation and. the impact of it but it's in all honesty. it's nothing new I think it's because. it's Ronaldo it's a huge story but I've. seen it over the course of my career at. players who aren't playing. call it throwing the toys at the prom. um you know being uh disruptive uh. letting their feelings be known that.

they're not happy with the situation. um as players it's constantly happening. so you don't worry because it's Ronaldo. it's blown out of proportion I've seen. it many times I've seen it with a. particular player we're playing in a. pre-season match he just walked off the. pitch while we're playing. you know this is absolutely ridiculous. he's literally walked over down to 10. men and no one even noticed he'd gone. for the first couple of minutes and um. just yeah like just just fuming um but. my take on the situation is I I think.

it's disrespectful to the players that. are playing still they've just won. um or just they were winning at the time. uh I think. it was something that he probably. regrets. um and I think it's something that the. manager dealt with and I think dealt. with well yeah that's what I was going. to say because I remember you saying. that good managers that you've worked. with could keep the respect and that. being a keyword respect now if he.

doesn't deal with that properly. without doubt I mean listen players are. on every little moment like if you don't. know the answer to a particular question. lie and lie well because players will if. they if they sense an element of you've. been unsure about a situation they'll. pounce on it. um you know you're talking about a. manager I'm talking about management. managers you know players if you're if. you're a manager and you don't have. control of the dress room at all times. it's hard to come back from that like. you need to command respect and. um it's a harsh industry like lots of.

players with egos uh and trying to. manage players that aren't playing with. those egos is a tough thing to do and. when you've got someone of the stature. of Ronaldo like managing him not playing. in the dressing room is a difficult. thing to do you know put yourself in 10. hard shoes it's a it's a situation where. the club have I think I believe told me. he has to stay because they want to play. him now he's not playing and the. window's shut. how do you deal with that problem it's. it's going to be a huge issue but I felt.

we dealt with it well I think the club. potentially didn't do very very well if. he wasn't going to play they should have. they should have sold him. but they're now in that situation where. yeah he's done that he's been fined I. assume and he's been dropped for the. next Squad but it looks like he's. potentially. getting back in. um and that is what is is the best. situation for the club because you don't. want Ronaldo training with the kids away. from the. um away from the first team you want him.

in and around it because he'll be an. asset potentially at the end of games or. or to start some games I'm really. compelled by that point you made about. like as a manager if you don't know the. answer to maybe a strategic thing you're. better off just lying than like losing. the control of the room well like say if. you're in your industry right if you're. an employee of yours asks you. what should we do here. I don't know if it's this Cutthroat as. football but.

I I think it's better to have an answer. than to say you don't know yeah yeah. right so even if you don't know because. it's giving them confidence even if you. don't know you say we're looking into. that we've worked on that you know. that's something that we you know just. make the moment you say you don't know I. think there's an element of um. yeah I think and I think it was. Guardiola who said it. um you know these wise words didn't come. from me personally they were they were.

quite the owner's words and I think it. was something to do with. um if someone asked you a question you. have an answer for them. um even if you don't know it you'll. you'll go do your homework and come back. to to that question because you you need. to be seen as a level above. um The Players you need to have you know. more you need to be more clued up you. need to have more. um intricate details on the opposition. you need to know about football more. than the players do. um so they have that respect for you was. there other times you know you talked.

about losing the dressing room now I. hear that on like from pundits I hear uh. maybe it's not a dressing room you. sometimes hear that from like other. commentators online but I I wondered if. that's an actual thing that happens that. you've observed where you go man I just. [ __ ] lost this now players start. questioning him you know behind his back. or yeah I think I think you can see it. um when did you see it uh I've seen it. at certain times I don't think it'd be. fair to me for me to say names. um but I have seen it in certain. dressing rooms where a manager has lost.

lost it a little bit um we had. we had the situation at Stoke where we. had probably the best dresser room I've. ever been a part of. and then. we added sort of some more talented. players more than sort of hard-working. honest players if you like and we had a. for a spell we had a really good mix. of that real quality and that. kind of determination and spirit. um and then it went too far the other.

way it was you know almost almost too. much quality and not enough effort. determination team spirit ethics. standards. they slipped you know and. asking things that I'd never seen before. um. I talked about the player walking off. the pitch that happened at in that in. that season and it culminated in in. relegation you know so when you talk. about lost the dress room rather than so. I classed myself in that in that. scenario because I was more of a I was.

an older player then. and maybe I let things go. things go A bit as well you know like. this not my standards personally didn't. drop but I let people get away with. things when I was an older player like I. should have been the Stephen Gerard in. this situation you know I should really. reply that flagged it up maybe. um that wrangles with me like I I let. things go I know it wasn't my job to do. that but I was a an experienced player.

um when you say you've not seen you saw. things you hadn't seen before it kind of. reminded me somewhat of what I remember. Rio saying about when he moved I think. it was QPR from Manchester United and he. saw just a completely different dressing. room culture. yeah exactly right well let's ask our. friends already I speak to him about. that time feels similar feels similar in. some ways like you you have almost too. many. um doing what they want. um you know just being late or little.

little things like that like being like. being like on the training pitch being. like. um for games you know not wearing the. right. suit or not wearing the right track. suits again whatever they want you know. wearing caps when you're not supposed to. um just little things like that that. makes you become lacks like and we won't. go a goal down two goals down and you. can see players sort of you know waving. their arms around and not tracking back. and I remember asking a particular. player like.

you stop trying you stopped working and. he said yeah I said. what and he said I did yeah I said why. he said we were three down. [Music]. I couldn't believe it that's that you. know it's 30 000 people in a stadium. right that paid to watch us play and. you've given up. and I know it's hot it's horrible those. games they're horrible you just but at. least you got those run round. um and that's that's when I knew if we.

were in big trouble. it's funny that it's the small the small. things like just yeah. they will light up. does that not start with a manager. though in those situations where the. manager is just not calling it out. enough he's not punishing you know he. lets one thing slide let's two things. slide before you know it you're at the. bottom of the [ __ ] slope yeah that. was exactly what happened. um there was certain things that were. let go and you're like well and then you. feel like you can get away with more. with more with more and there was a.

certain thing you'd have to run after a. game if you didn't play so that time. like I was on I was 37 years old you. know I was sometimes I was on the bench. and I'd be out there running and you. know there was a younger player not not. out after the game doing this Fitness. work and I came in I'm like what's going. on you know. why why am I 37 I'm out here running. after a game and this 25 year old is. is not which I didn't want to he didn't. want to didn't want to right so these.

are the standards I'm talking about so. you've got to that's that's you've been. asked to do it you don't pick and choose. whether you do it or not but that was. allowed to happen anyway it happened. again. anyways this particular player said. right because he hasn't run after. um the game we're all in on Sunday right. so the whole team come in on Sunday. um. we were coming this is supposed to be. our day off. so we're all in training and the. particular player didn't turn up for.

training right so we're all in because. of because of him and uh and he doesn't. turn up so I mean you can imagine what. the what the lads are like but. just little I say little things I mean. that was a big thing but just standard. slipping and listen you know it all ends. everyone knows where it ends ends badly. when did you decide that your football. career was over tell me about that. decision and that that time in your life. uh yeah I was lucky I got the. opportunity to get out of that that. dresser room that I was in at slope. which was difficult.

um and I got the opportunity to play for. the exact opposite at Burnley and I. finished in the Premier League and I. knew that I was done that season because. I was on the Venture lot and there was. players playing ahead of me that I knew. should have been ahead of me and my. thoughts myself. I am just a plan B now. um you know I'm coming at the end of. games and I still felt fit I still felt. I could have an impact but I knew inside. my own head so I told my family I told. um you know I told Abby and I told you. know the kids are still very young.

and uh we all went to the game so they. you know they didn't all come out you. know a young baby you know they didn't. often come to the games now I didn't. play much. so they all came and it was nice because. I knew no one else knew but I knew that. it was my last game of football was. against Arsenal. um at at Burley and uh all the family. came on and you know when he walked. around the pitch at the end and I've got. a picture at home on the wall of me and. it was three kids we had at Target four. now I believe what not but the three of.

us. um on the pitch and a lovely picture of. me walking out is my last game of. professional football I must have played. you know 600 700 games it was my last. game I knew it but no one else did. um but yeah lovely picture a lovely. moment and then it just sort of comes. flooding in that it's it's over 20 years. I played I left school at 16 I retired. at 38. 22 years every day of my life. doing something that you laughed I. looked back on it with such fond. memories I was so lucky to have played.

um. in an era that was was full of great. players I managed to play for England. and you know I probably exceeded what I. thought I would could ever achieve so. always look back on it fondly when. people ask me. um no do you miss it no I don't miss it. I cherished the moments I had. I knew that was your dad there that day. I know you played a huge yeah that was. there that day yeah and uh you know he. was the one because he was there every. single I don't think he missed a game. and he was part of my Superstition uh.

bizarrely he was part of. you know if I didn't see him before a. game I feel unnerved you know like I'd. feel like where is he and don't get me. wrong there were times where I was on. the bench towards the end and he got a. season ticket QPR. and deservedly so you know I didn't want. to put him through that. um but it was yeah I mean he was he was. with me or stepping away he came to. every game yeah yeah I really didn't I. don't think he missed many. handful you know of those 600 700 right. from when I was a kid.

um so yeah it was like a comfort blanket. when I saw and he would he would watch. me. not even a kickoff he would watch me. he'd be the first in the stadium I would. walk out at. um. before the warm-up. and I'd see him and I'd always see him. you know six or five I'd always be able. to see him uh and he'd give me a little. wave and he'd watch how warmed up and. then after the game he'd even say like I. knew you'd have a good game in the. warm-up because he'd always watch even. the warm-up. so yeah when your career ended did you. ever ever have a conversation with him.

about. um. about your journey in football I guess. was there ever like a any conclusive. conversations about how it all went and. yeah you know what like. uh we had sort of like a like a bit of a. retirement um video if you like and I've. got to cover a load of ex-players and. managers that I played with which was. nice and laid it put it on a big screen. um but I don't think I've ever sat down. and discussed at length. um. my career I mean life's too busy in it.

you know like I look at I've got a you. know a wall like you have and a few sort. of accolades matchables ignorant caps on. the wall only in one particular room I. only allowed like a little dungeon room. um but I've got them on and I look back. and I look got some pictures on there. and I look at the moments and I think. like they were some great times. um but like I say life moves quick and I. love I love what I'm doing now and I've. gone straight into doing other things. and I was very conscious of that like I.

planned I planned a little bit of that. you know I planned while I was still. playing I did the podcast and I did the. the first book that I did I like and I. did my coaching badges as well so my. coach I thought you know maybe I'll be a. manager I didn't know but I just. basically I was so scared of waking up. on that Monday because every player that. I've I've ever played with. says to me like when you're retired like. you've forgotten like that you it's. difficult it's hard to get your head. around it keep playing as long as you.

can you always hear these horror stories. so I was so worried about it I just. thought right I need to do everything. now before I retire and I think it was. the best thing I ever did was to stay. was to do things while I was still. playing to to test things out and see. what I want to go into and start. building that bridge I guess a little. bit Yeah to the other side if you like. and um like I say the book and the. podcast just went bang and that I just. got propelled into a into a world in the. in the media really was there ever a. moment when you were after you'd retired.

where you where you had a bit of a down. day and you thought you know because I. remember reading I think in your book. where you talk about how you spend those. 20 years like everything sorted for you. your schedule sorted you know where. you're going to be you kind of know. there's so much structure in your life. and then suddenly the structure's gone. and a real clear sense of like. orientation and Collective purpose is. gone. was there ever a post-retirement moment. where you go ugh. I don't think I've had that really and I. feel really lucky like because I know so. many players that have really struggled.

since they retired and I feel so lucky. in in what I'm doing now like I'd love. to sit here and I've got to be honest. with you no I can't I I have I haven't. had that and what I what I don't like is. not having that that structure like for. for instance I know exactly where I'm. going to be on September the 16th on you. know February the 12th I know where I'm. going to be I know where I'm going to be. training like now I couldn't tell you. what I'm doing next week like things. come up things change.

um I don't like that I like I've been. institutionalized if you like I'm in a I. like getting told on a Monday we do this. and I don't wanna. it was I suppose for 20 years I didn't. have to grow up yeah you know now I do. um I came straight from school to people. no they should take our passports offers. you know we won't even allowed to they. didn't trust us enough to to get. ourselves to the airport you know it was. that's how football is everything's done.

for you so you can purely concentrate on. football and I I quite like that in a. weird way because you you solely focus. on one thing whereas now. there's lots of different things that I. do. um and lots of choice choices yeah like. lots of decisions yeah it's like being. an adult it's not great. was the guy who was um imprisoned when. he was younger for a crime he didn't. commit sentence to life came out and he.

was telling me it was like honestly when. I came out it's like I went to a. supermarket and there's like seven types. of beans yeah and he stood in the. supermarket and what the [ __ ] do I do. what do I do he hated it him and his. partner would Clash because he was never. used to making decisions in prison you. get one type of [ __ ] beans so true. love and I like that I honestly like. with with football like you are you that. you are told what had to be what to do. at all times until you're on a football. pitch or even something really that as. well you know your manager's telling you. what to do but I quite liked it in some. ways but obviously the freedom is great.

in other ways you know like I have at. Christmas now I can spend time with the. kids if I choose to have a week off it. during the winter I can have that you. know there's there's pros and negatives. to both are you a workaholic. um I think I've got a good work ethic. definitely. um. without doubt I enjoy it I enjoy getting. up and having a purpose do you feel like. you're out of balance though yeah I'm. finding the balance really tough okay. yeah same really tough yeah.

um obviously you know speak to other. about this as well because we I struggle. like I'll have one week where I'm. constantly on the go and. um and then we'll Wicked you know a. little bit quieter but yeah I sort of. soldered the dream of retirement as. being retirement and it hasn't quite. worked out that way because I love doing. what I'm doing where did you sell her. well I sold it like we'd be getting the. gym every day you know little juices. it would be on dog walks I said you know. they're just Rome yeah we'll go through.

we'll go quality time. um and yeah it's not quite worked out. that way. but she knows I'm passionate about what. I do I'm very I love what I do now and. um I'm still involved in football which. I love you know like I like I say I do. the podcast that I absolutely love doing. and various other bits and pieces come. up and I'm in a fortunate position I. know I'm in a fortunate position to be. able to pick and choose. the stuff that I do and I do it purely. for enjoyment.

um and of course you know I try and make. it as the best it can be and so I can. earn off it but the the main focus was. the same as my football career really. was to do something that you enjoy and. I'm lucky in the fact that I I can still. do that is your main. um. dispute in your relationship because. this is the answer for mine is is this. issue of quality time it's like that's. the thing I struggle with most is doing. all this stuff and constantly and then. being there to be to give this person.

quality time that they want where you. just go for the [ __ ] walk and you. just do nothing it seems like nothing. but obviously there's something it's. something picnic but you must find that. hard like I I find that hard to but. she's the same you know. like um I think it'll be easy to say. that uh. I don't know like there's a. misconception of um maybe footballers. wives that you know they're just relax. all day and you know she's so driven and. she drives me to be honest and she's uh.

I run all my decisions past her and I. don't think a lot of people know that. about her but she's like uh she's on it. and um you know so that's that's good in. the fact that if we go for a walk. together we'll have some quality time. together but we both won't switch off. together. you know like we're still bouncing ideas. off each other and um and I'm glad that. I can have someone like that so you know. yeah of course we switch off at times. but we we're still we're still very on. it both of us so your podcast absolute.

smash here a lot of a lot of ex-players. ex-athletes have started podcasts. I can't think of any that have risen to. the heights that yours has risen to Mike. Tyson has a great podcast in the United. States. um. it's really been a bit of a cult. phenomenon the show and as you kind of. said you know I've heard you talk about. the drivers here a few times and it's. always you're always you know saying. very nice things and saying that you. know our production and stuff is is um. is great.

but it is like a couple of lads in a pub. chatting yeah I suppose that is that is. our thing I I think it was it is a. reflection of me it's what I like to do. so and I think I suppose we could now. because things have gone well upgrade. our setup a little bit. um but it doesn't it feels like we need. to stay where we are we love being in. the pub we like. um you know having a bit of a drink. while we do it. um and it feels certainly during. lockdown. you know we have lots of comments from.

listeners and people writing in and. they feel like they're in there with us. you know and it feels like obviously. this is a different kind of whole class. you know more serious more enlightening. maybe. um but I try and I try and take people. inside the world of what it's like being. a footballer and it's a mad funny world. it is and and of course it's. light-hearted but hopefully it's a. little bit informative as well and uh. when I say I love doing it it's. genuinely the most fun when I say to web.

um I'm going to work. she's like are you joking. I've been there with the four children. and I'm going to uh to a pub in town. um to record with uh Lads that I get on. really really well with and um just. talking football I suppose that is. that is the you know for a lot of people. certainly in my world that's the ideal. job and I'm I feel very fortunate I've. got it. the podcast offers people that kind of.

that sense of connection and Community. like they are in the pub with you. um which some people don't have. unfortunately these days and in a world. that's getting lonelier but at the same. time it's not just like it's not just. banter I remember seeing the episode. with Prince William and where you talked. about mental health and. um those kind of topics and I think one. of your your co-hosts I can't remember. which one shared um some of the feedback. that you guys get from the audience that. are listening that particular episode. with Prince William how the [ __ ] did you. get it from a fresh start. how did you how did you get Prince.

William to come on I have a point with. you on the podcast there are points in. this podcast like obviously like where. it all started from I Didn't Have You. know I was just telling a story I don't. know what a podcast was you know. obviously now I know that you know. there's a huge industry of things but I. I was just talking literally as I was. talking to my how I talked to my mates. and uh obviously yeah we built up like a. like a big following and then people. started calling us about coming up about. coming on. um and that was a call we had from the. palace was was I promise you it was you.

know we had we had there was one point. there was like we had Elton John I'd. called. and uh and Prince William had called not. not personally but you know their team. of people had called us about coming on. and. obviously uh without no that's a. different story it was funny but um with. Prince William you know we made it. happen and we ended up going to Kingston. Palace. um which was an amazing day out because. we we took it you know our our group of. lads and we had a we had a beer over the. road well we went in and then um you.

know Prince William I talk about the. samrat you know the Indian restaurant um. that I used to go to with my mates as a. kid and when Prince William brought in. the delivery. um and put it down and I was thinking if. what you know my mates if you used to go. there as kids my family and you know. he's doing this and it was just so. surreal um but like you say we got to. talk about a range of topics and I. suppose you know certainly in football. there's a lot because there's a stigma. in football of um you know it's very. Macho and you have to you know you have.

to be. um you have to man up you know like you. you have to there's this stigma and I. think that this is why sort of the. target audience for Prince William and. his heads I think his heads together or. heads up Charity. um for mental health is targeting the. right people if you like the people that. don't speak out. um so I think he wanted to tap into sort. of our audience that would be very much. uh don't show any weakness. um you know that football world if you. know what I mean so yeah I think that. was something that he wanted to to touch.

touch base with I've done something with. him called a um uh a a team talk I think. it was a royal team talk I think it was. called on BBC and we talked about you. know mental health and stories and. football that's the first time I shared. my issues is um you know I'd never ever. talked about anything I was one of those. people that kept everything so yeah it. was a nice it was a it was great it was. a great experience for us as a podcast. and and I think hopefully it helped a. few people as well you talked about on. that podcast going into the changing.

room and like opening up to your. teammates at one point. yeah I mean I I found it really. difficult to um I'm one of those people. that keeps everything inside right I. don't I wouldn't I wouldn't talk about I. see Abby every single night like. picking up the phone to my friends and. chatting about anything I mean I just. don't do that I don't I wouldn't dream. of picking up the phone and and ex you. know talk about a problem. um but since these kinds of things that. I've done since that podcast since uh.

you know I've done a a various you know. the um November campaign I've worked. with them I've worked with uh various. kind of men's mental health Charities. and they it is it does make you think. and you know I have started doing more. stuff I have started you know reaching. out to my friends and you realize. actually that people aren't always. people say they're always all right but. they're not. there's something I've realized I think. the quote from that from that podcast. with um Prince William was you gone into.

the dressing room you'd shared how you. were feeling with your teammates and. instantly you kind of felt lighter. because of it you felt better for. opening up yeah that's that's something. that I definitely found like I've. when was that. um. no that was the royal team talk we. opened up so it was me yeah Thierry. Henry. um Danny Rose who was quite open with. his mental health problems. um Gareth Southgate uh I think Dan.

Walker that was the presenter and Prince. William. and like when when you actually get like. a. like a group of lads there talking like. Prince Prince William wasn't Prince. William you know Thierry Henry wasn't. Thierry Henry it was just a group of. blokes talking. and. you know Prince William's talking about. bereavement and you think you know oh my. God like you don't. I don't know it's like that's not real. it's like a not real life but you think. actually when he's sitting there he's. just a lad he's lost his mum. like yeah like.

it was an amazing talk because you're. not seeing her as Princess Diana and. you're not seeing him as the Future King. of England you're seeing him as a man. who's struggling who's lost his mum. um and I think sometimes when you read. things and you you look at things. like I say it's that it's that thing of. playing football and not realizing that. they're actually it's on a human level. it's just he's just a fella that's. that's lost his that's lost his mum and. struggled with that over time and you.

when you say you you opened up you're. referring to the stuff you've talked. about today with yeah me personally yeah. I opened up about uh yeah looking. different a bit you know like and. getting the heckled and. being sort of that impressionable. teenager and sort of dealing with that. with that kind of pressure of looking. different if you like. um bizarrely that's become sort of like. my superpower now uh it's become sort of. me it's like. unrecognizable I am um.

I think people understand like all my. insecurities if you like. I've been what has probably made me. successful in in the stuff that I've. gone on to do. when you do look back at your success. and in hindsight and you go okay maybe. this was a big part of it this was part. of it what are the the key things that. in hindsight you go that's why I was. successful because earlier on you said. like most of the football players. especially the strikers didn't look like.

you but you were still successful you. still played at the very top of the game. you still had the England caps you still. scored all those goals for England so. what was it about you. um I I listen I had I had ability. you know I did I did I felt like I was a. good player and I worked on that like. that was something that if I was going. to be tall I wasn't going to be this. what everyone thought I was going to be. you know. um which was that big Target you can. lump the ball up to you know I wanted to.

have technical abilities I worked on. that I constantly worked on that. um so that was obviously something that. stood me out um and then I had to work. on my on my heading. um because I was incredibly tall but I. didn't have to jump as a young lad and. then when you get to play professional. football you then realized that you know. people are going to jump they're going. to beat you in the air and it looks. ridiculous if you're six foot seven and. you're losing headers so I had to work. on on my heading and obviously it's. determination it's the the world to. succeed.

um it's the desire. um it's the ability to deal with. knockbacks. um that stand you out probably from from. the rest not backs ever did you ever. have a experience with especially. through the period with Liverpool where. you when it's 18 games without scoring. and the various twists and turns. throughout your career did you ever. experience anxiety. uh yeah I'd say so I mean listen I'm not. an expert on this field. um I I wouldn't say I'm an anxious.

person. um like I say I'm a glass half full kind. of person but. um I would say of course like in. football in terms of course I was. anxious I was snatching at uh chances. um and was I anxious off the field yeah. couldn't switch off from it couldn't. stop thinking about it couldn't sleep. so couldn't sleep yeah I wouldn't I. wouldn't have been able to sleep. um certainly after games but I found. that difficult anyway that the kind of. buzz that you get from playing a match.

under lights especially is. so difficult to sleep after that I think. physically impossible at times where are. you now in terms of. your mental well-being and your mental. health yeah good good yeah like I would. never I would never um. I don't think I'd ask myself as ever as. having problems. um I've had issues that I've had to. manage personally like everyone has I. think but I'd say I'm in a good place I. just need to get the balance right.

between. um you know this new field that I mean. if you like. and and family life you know I need to I. need to get the right the right balance. when I'm working enough to sort of. satisfy that. that hunger to keep going. um and not miss. what is important you know which is my. kids which are at the door and I want to. see. I want to see grow up um and I want to. be here at the Forefront of that I want. to be hands on you know so I've got to. try and work that balance out something.

that's my biggest problem I always you. know I think I always hear this voice. which is like when is enough enough like. when is enough going to be enough like. podcast is going great business is going. great you've done achieve loads of. things like. um what else do you need when is enough. enough it's difficult one because I I. think it's that for me it's about it's. about like the work but I was about. enjoying it and um you know if it stops. being fun and I think that's the time to. to call it quits. crouchfest.

19th of November yeah 19th of November. it's um I mean I've seen it because I. watched all the videos from like 2019. yeah that's right [ __ ] life guys this. is so much fun yeah but the thing is. like people buy tickets and not have a. clue what they're letting themselves and. um it is one of the one of the best. things that we've ever done and we just. thought we'd scale it up this time last. time we had Liam Gallagher on I had. Catherine Jenkins singing the Champions. League Anthem or the fella that wrote.

The Champions League Anthem spoke to us. uh Tom Grant and knew me at six we had. um you know people dressed as referees. fancy dress. um it was absolute Carnage and uh yeah. now we're at Wembley Arena we've scaled. it up Wembley around Wembley Arena yeah. so. I mean we've probably bitten off more. than we can shoot. but yeah great guests and and looking. forward to it so much what what what are. you promising for this Crouch first well. what that's the thing we don't promise.

anything okay so you don't say anything. you really don't say a word to anyone. and we've got obviously I mean some of. the things that we've we've been getting. up to has been uh a lot of fun and some. of the knockbacks that we've had have. been been priceless because we're asking. things that Wembley Arena has never seen. before. um but yeah I'm honestly I can't tell. you how much fun the last one was and if. it was hot if it's half as good it will. be it'd be a great event well everyone. listening can there's a few tickets left. so you can go they're probably they. might not be by the time this comes out.

but you can go buy tickets online for. Crouch first it looks like I mean I. watched the highlights from 2019 and it. looked like it looked like a huge group. of mates pissed having a laugh that's. exactly what it is yeah I can't dress it. up anymore but you're welcome to come if. I'm here I'll come for sure for sure. they look really really good what is is. what is your goal now what is next for. you you've all these things going on in. your life the media stuff you're. presenting on BT etc etc you've got the. podcast you've got this amazing book. you've just written well it's just come.

out in October I believe how to be an. ex-footballer. um the reviews for this book are insane. much of the stories you've told. um told me today some of them are in. here some of them are in your previous. book but both books are Sunday Times top. bins bestseller. um what is next what is this yeah I like. I say like this. um I'm finding my feet I have no clue I. had no clue where I was gonna go I I. didn't know what angle to to go for. um I I'm doing things because I enjoy.

them and like when you say what is your. goal. it it I don't want to come on here Diary. of a CEO right and everyone's got a goal. everyone's got a purpose everyone knows. what they're gonna do. I have to be honest with you I don't I. don't have a goal I I don't have I don't. want to be doing this in five years or. that in five years my goal was achieved. like all I wanted to be was a football. player all I wanted to do was be uh was. do it at any level.

every single day and then I felt like I. did that I achieved it I achieved more. than I ever thought I would and now. everything is you know that that's. happening to me is is the things that. I'm enjoying and their roots and avenues. that I'm taking but there's no. particular goal. um I don't know that might be difficult. for you to not to to understand but I I. just can't I'm I haven't got a a motive. or a plan I'm just living each day and.

enjoying each day. um that I'm given and I feel like I'm. blessed in the situation I'm in but this. is genuine that is the most genuine. thing I can tell you I don't have a an. end goal I think you'd be surprised how. um. common that is. I've you know I think people think that. I have everything figured out or so like. a North star a God but I've said on this. podcast a million times that I've never. written a business plan in my life it's. really about like doing my best today. and doing that every day and kind of. being open to the things that come along. because goals can also be really.

unhelpful in the sense of like it might. make you miss an opportunity if you had. a goal when you left football to become. a coach you might miss the opportunity. to do the podcast. or all these other things well I feel. like it's also now reminded in some way. you go like you have the end goal but. like you say these missed opportunities. like every like I did the book I did the. podcast and things took off and then. opportunities come off the back of that. and as long as those things are going. well the opportunities will continue to. come and then you might find that you. enjoy something else or a different.

Avenue and that is where I'm going I'm. on a journey that I have no clue where. it's going but I'm enjoying it and a. long way at last at the start you. mentioned that. the way you were treated when you're. younger looking a bit different meant. that you used kind of self-disparagement. criticizing yourself making a joke at. yourself first as a defense mechanism. much of the reason why people love your. books love your podcast is because. they're like really really funny and. they make people laugh. and even from like hanging out with you. today for a couple of hours whatever you.

are one of those real funny people I. mean on the front of your book it says a. comedy genius I didn't like that by the. way yes you did it. no but I it's interesting I just find it. interesting as an observation that the. thing. that people criticized you for created. equality in you which is seems to be. from my very naive assumption like. critical now to your success and why. people are so fond of you is that an. accurate assessment oh there's a spot on. um you know I sort of I my kind of like.

humor and being able to laugh at myself. was a was a self-defense mechanism where. people were trying to take the mick out. of me I would take the mick out myself. in a better way than they were about to. do so that makes me self. self-deprecating and I think that is. very uncommon for a footballer to be. self-deprecating it was groundbreaking. and I don't think it should be but let's. be honest I think it probably it was a. bit you know not many players that play. for England let their guard down at any.

point or want to criticize themselves. um or have a laugh at themselves and. that and that that is something Navy. that has set me apart that I'm aware of. um from other players and that is not me. being contrived or you know trying to. force an agenda I think anyone who has. played with me over the course of 20. years will say to you this is the person. that they they knew in the dressing room. but I think I'm able to to Showcase that.

a little bit more by being less guarded. because I haven't got a football club uh. telling me to not. talk too much or you know you're a. footballer shut up you're like now I can. do whatever I like and fortunately I've. been in a position where the hospital is. the general public or fans that are are. buying into what I'm doing are enjoying. it and um you know for as long as they. are enjoying it I'll continue to do it. and when they're not I'll [ __ ] off.

it reminds me a lot of um Lewis Capaldi. who I sat with where he's just seems to. just be doing whatever the [ __ ] he wants. to do yeah. admire him so much you know like he's. the kind of thing that I you know I love. to see like and I watched it obviously. recently I think he was on Jonathan Ross. and uh I was brilliant like he's. hilarious and he looks like he wants. he's enjoying what he's doing and um you.

know he's himself and I think that is. what I'm doing and I'm thankfully. um people are in hopefully enjoying it. 100 they are enjoying it I think that's. a huge understatement and it seems to be. the case from the people I've sat here. with on this podcast. um seems to be the case that those that. are themselves that are able to build a. life based on being themselves. are living the most sustainable and. fulfilling lives it's [ __ ] difficult. not being yourself for a long period of. time and it's not fun right yeah well. you can't get tripped up if you're if. you're being yourself yeah you caught.

the guard never slips does it but it. feels like a risk to some people well. let's see why yeah it's a risk if not. hey. you're right you're actually right it's. only a risk if you're a [ __ ] but. you're completely right. um be someone else if you're one of. those. [Laughter]. we have a closing tradition on this. podcast where the last guest asks a. question for the next guest not knowing. who they're gonna ask it for and the. question that's been left for you.

is. what moment has caused you to be the. most afraid in your life. it's difficult I think I've been in. situations where um. none of this matters does it let's be. honest right I I'm thinking about. football terms I was thinking straight. away I went to like. what about when I didn't score when I. did this when I wasn't going to make it. as a footballer like or like none of. that matters does it. um.

your family's the most important thing. and when you have a. a scare. personally. or you're one of your you know close. people your wife or your kids has an. issue. um. that is when you're the most scared that. you'll ever be and I think. you know I've had I've had those those. worries. um. and and that's when you you really. realize what's what's important. obviously when the.

you know the the pandemic and you know. we were in lockdown and that kind of. thing and you realize actually. none of it matters you know like it was. just it was. I had my family and we were fortunate. obviously to be in a in a nice house and. I just thought. you know what we are incredibly lucky. even if we don't have. if we don't have anything we've got each. other you know and that I think that was. I think some most scared when someone. when when you have a scare with someone.

close to you which we have had and um. you get through that that's that's the. Michigan that's exactly what came to. mind for me it was when I think it must. have been 10 and my mum. called me and told me I believe she. called me and told me she had cancer in. her breast because she had found a lump. and then it transpired it was assist it. was fine but that period of like. several days believing that my mum's. gonna die when I'm 10. yeah nothing I. mean everything else in comparison and. you realize that [ __ ] all matters as you.

said yeah like that like it's so weird. like I went to like football then like. straight away then you actually think oh. wait a minute that doesn't matter does. it no it's really scared I've been is. when you have a scare in the family. without doubt Peter thank you thank you. for so many reasons thank you for. inspiring me in this podcast you've been. a big inspiration for us you know like. the production is one thing I know. you've commented on the production. before but what you have is something. that's so like authentic and Brilliant. and that's the impossible thing to. create to find like a authentic formula.

that's resonant with with the audience. that you have and give so much to them. it's like it's it's a lot and it's not. [ __ ] easy and you know I I watched. your playing career I've watched you. know I've watched you play in all the. clothes you've played in the thing that. I'm like that is [ __ ] unbelievable is. actually what you've been able to do. since you know and that says a lot. because you've got to Champions League. finals and you paid for the best clubs. in the land but watching what you've. done since I think is even tougher. um that's just my perspective and I've. taken a huge amount of inspiration from.

that your book is amazing Crouch first. is obviously going to be amazing because. you guys just have a magic that is like. um impossible to replicate and so. you got you know like it's fun to watch. you guys it's really really fun to watch. your journey and to not know where it's. going to go I mean like Prince William. walking in you're in this Pub toilet. like oh you know I just don't it's. [ __ ] brilliant and it's it's. perfectly authentically brilliant so. thank you for coming and doing this it's. a huge compliment to us that you come. and do it and it's been great to chant. you and meet you no my pleasure thanks. for having me I really appreciate it I'm.

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