Katt Williams: They Tied Me To A Pole And Beat Me Bloody Every Week!

From 5 to 12, I was tied up to a pole in. the basement hours at a time. Yeah. My parents thought you could beat a. child half to death on a weekly basis to. the point where they're unconscious in a. bathtub before school. Because in order. for me to live this religious life that. I was set up to live, it meant that I. had to be 100% invested. [music]. And early on, I had decided I'm just not.

going to do it. >> Kad Williams, [screaming]. >> you left home at 13 years old. This is. where you slept in the city of Miami. You end up being a salesman and you. became a pimp. >> Yes. I knocked on a door where some. ladies of the night resided and their. pimp had been killed. And they would. have conversations on a nightly basis. that I know for a [music] fact are. responsible for me becoming a better. man. And then your first standup comedy. event was you lying to a bouncer to get. in because you're 16 years old and you.

win the competition. >> Yes. But I don't do comedy again for. another 5 years because I still didn't. understand this was a job you could do. But it was one of the first medicines. that I discovered. It was super. important in me just making it. dayto-day. And at some point I was more. sure that this was part of my [music]. destiny. I read that you wrote down the. names of 300 comedians and you made the. decision that you were going to study. all of them. >> because they were funnier [music] than. me and that's what I had to fix because. I'm in LA. I'm on comic view doing.

acting on sitcoms. >> Your parents, they're still alive. >> Yes. >> How do you feel about them today? >> Um. before this episode starts, I have a. small favor to ask you. 2 months ago, 61% of the people that watched this. channel weren't subscribed. And we're. now down to 58%. My goal is 50%. So, if. you've ever liked any of the videos. we've made on this channel, if you like. this channel, can you do me a small. quick favor and hit the subscribe. button? It helps this channel more than. you know. And the bigger the channel. gets, the more we can invest in the. guests and the production. Thank you and.

enjoy this episode. [music]. Cat, can you take me into your your. earliest context? If I was a fly on the. wall in your life under the age of 10, what would I have seen, experienced, felt? Well, those were great years for me. I. learned to read pretty early, like. three. I felt like I was growing so much. because I was reading adult stories and. I was reading what adults were going.

through and I was trying to figure out. how old am I going to be before I get. this thing figured out because I. couldn't figure out who gets to take. adventures, who gets to be on. adventures, who like how do you put. yourself in these situations that I find. all of these people in these books in. like soldiers and captains and stole. ways. And I love that part. I just. wanted to try to figure out how to make. myself one of those people.

>> Be careful what you wish for. You wanted. an an adventure. You certainly got an. adventure. >> Right. Right. Yeah. But I I I just. assumed that's how it worked out for the. hero. Like five bad things had to happen. to Cinderella before she was able to be. the heroin. Like she had to have a. terrible family life. They had to treat. her bad. She was being verbally abused. She was given a terrible job. The step. sisters were awful. But for some reason, she maintained and she um.

she kept the type of person as she was. still until things lined up. So I. naively thought that that's how it. worked out for all heroes, that it was. just bad. And then it it got greater. later. I just held on to that. And so I. was looking for my opportunities. >> It's funny cuz I have thoroughly. researched your story and I had no idea.

how much you have been on an adventure. to say the least. And it's funny you. talk about Cinderella then. Maybe you. are the Cinderella of of comedy because. it really is a hero's journey. Your. story. >> as much as you can do for 5'5. It's. >> Yeah. It's as much a short king story as. anything else. >> And you had a strict religious. upbringing, >> right? >> Tell me about that. >> We didn't celebrate uh holidays and. birthdays and things like that. And I I.

wasn't um able to do a lot of. extracurricular activities. All of the. activities were Bible based, but I got a. pass with books. And so that became my. pressure valve for feeling. restricted and suffocated. I could go to. my room and get in these books and be. somewhere completely different for 2. hours and come out of my room feeling an.

entirely different way like I had been. part of something a lot bigger than me. Were you different from your peers at. that age? Did you feel different? >> I knew that my upbringing was not the. same as my peers and I knew that there. was a lot more leeway and freedom out. there in the world of being a kid um. than I was experiencing. Even when it was super bad, I didn't.

look at it as bad as it was. I I just. assumed that if it was more difficult. that just meant I was destined for. better things. I thought. >> And now as an adult, when you look back. on this little guy? >> Mhm. >> Have you noticed that he was different. in hindsight as an adult? >> No. >> No. That's probably the thing I did the. best was I preserved.

as much of him as I could in 55 years. I. was always cognizant of this guy and. what he was thinking and um I've been a. happy person my whole life. >> I mean, how old are you here? You're. probably what, five to. >> So I'm five there and seven there. How. did it feel to see these photos? >> Um, >> I say that because you pass them back. pretty quick.

[laughter]. >> Is that not normal? >> People don't usually pick them up and. pass them back. >> like playing cards. >> Yeah. >> Redal. >> I kind of feel sorry for him. Now I can. look back at the pictures and see um how. happy and carefree that he was. also. knowing what he was going through even. at that time behind the scenes. I'm just. incredibly proud for the little guy that.

it worked out. for him the way that it did. Yeah, cuz that's all the pictures of me. All the pictures of me. I'm I'm happy. just like that, [laughter]. but probably had a terrible day. You. feel sorry for him because of what he. was going through, >> right? >> What was he going through? >> There are times when being. joyful and inquisitive and um on go 24/7.

can. probably be more than a handful for. young parents. um with their first child. And you know, they should be able to make mistakes as. well. But um. >> I know there was from reading your book, there was abuse in the home. [clears throat] from your parents. Is. that what you're referring to? >> Uh corporal punishment wasn't really.

useful in my life. It was um. my parents believed in spare the rod, spoil the child. So, um, if there were. issues, you could just beat it out of. them, whatever it was. That didn't. really work for me. I I handled it, um, a different way. And I kind of felt like. it was just more evidence. that I had meaning in my life and that I.

could potentially. turn out to do something meaningful. Or, what would all of this be for? Um, when. I leave home at 13, it's it's been. almost. 6 years, almost half my life coming like. I've been preparing. from this point to 12 that if I get an. opportunity. to uh go on my way as an adventurer that.

that's what I'm going to do. If you're 5. and 7 years old here, at what age did. the the beatings start in your. household? >> Just from 5 to 12. So that's a 7-year period. I've forgiven all the participants. So, it doesn't um make it easier to.

go back and peel scabs off um just. because I've forgiven everybody. involved. It's such an important part of. my life just because we need to be put. in difficult situations for us to be. able to find out what we're made of and. what we're capable of. How I. handled that situation was one of the.

first instances of me actually being a. man to me to myself because I had to. make uh grown decisions a little earlier. than most and um it's certainly not. pleasant to discuss. I don't I don't. enjoy discussing it but um still a. critical. part of the story. As I was reading your book in this. chapter chapter says this is for your. own good. Between 8 and 12 my life.

turned into a private war zone disguised. as our basement. It started small if you. can call it about small. At first it was. three or four whoopings a week. Then I. say whooping because that's what they. called it. like it was some wholesome. southern tradition passed down from Big. Mama. However, the whoopings matured. into something monstrous. The belt. turned into an extension cord and the. extension cord turned into a water hose. When that started tearing skin instead. of teaching lessons, they switched to a. 2x4. And they claimed it was because I.

was [sighs and gasps] hardheaded and. knew too much. I say this because, you know, some. people hear about tough parents, but. this is a different category of. punishment. >> Yeah. This is tied up to a pole in the. basement. >> Your parents. >> hours at a time. Yeah. >> Hours at a time. >> Yeah. >> But to their credit, I was fast and. evasive and they tried [laughter]. they tried it without tying me and that.

didn't work well. I was able to maneuver. the entire house. Uh, [laughter]. so that's where it eventually came to. >> Because you knew too much. >> Not because I knew too much, more. because. I said too much and I would know what. the repercussions were going to be and. still say it. The things that I was. questioning them on were a lot of times.

biblical in nature. you know, you're. trying to instill upon me this. particular truth that we collectively. believe in. And um. I'm explaining to you. I I don't believe that and it's going to. have to be discussed because you told me. the Bible was written by God. So I don't.

want to see any errors. I don't want to. see any mistakes. I don't want to see a. passage that talks about how you should. treat your slaves because now I have a. different conversation that I need to. have. And um. yeah, even at that point in my life, I. just wanted to know what the truth was. about things. And I thought that that. was a safe place for it. But, you know, I was still willing to to take whatever.

came. with it. Did you as a child at that age. have any idea that that treating a child. that way is unacceptable or did you. think that was normal? And how has time. changed your perception of what that. was? And do you now classify that as. abuse? >> Yeah, I I was cognizant. I I understood. that. the things that my peers were getting in. trouble for, I had never done any of. those things, like I had never committed.

any crimes. I was a virgin. I had never. snuck out the house to go to events. I. just knew that they didn't. care for me as a person. And so for the. first few years, I was just trying to. figure out what what it was about me. that they didn't like. Once I realized. that it was out of my hands, then I. privately just got defiant about it. Beat to your heart's content. I'm going.

to still keep talking [ __ ] through the. process and I'm going to commentate this. for myself and I'm gonna say things. like, "How does this make you feel? you. sure are beating your baby a lot. You. say God loves this. That's uh that's me during the process. because that's how I was able to handle. it. But yeah, I I knew it was abuse. then. >> You said you realized at at a young age. they didn't care for you as a person, right? >> Was there any sign of love in that.

relationship with your parents. or was it all this abuse? No, I I I felt. like it made them better parents. Like I appreciated them more than I. think I would have. Like. because all the mothers that I saw seem. to love their kids, you know. Um and I. wasn't really sure why my mother didn't. feel that way. I was really thankful.

that they took as good a care of me as. they did considering. how they [clears throat] felt. >> Were they loving affectionate at all. outside of this war zone in the basement. as you call it? >> No, but they didn't they didn't start. off that way. So, they didn't have to. make any adjustments. I I would watch a. sitcom and see those families. Uh, that's where I would notice. that this isn't exactly how the family. dynamic is supposed to go. I'm watching. the Waltons or something, you know? Oh,

she's supposed to kiss me every night, huh? Huh? It's interesting. Yeah, it. wasn't it wasn't loveydovey like that. But again, I was thankful for how well. they treated me. Considering. >> I read you were an extremely intelligent. young child, especially as it relates to. books smarts. Your seventh grade. placement test results were so high that. your school said you could go straight. to college. You are a different thinker. You think very differently to others. I. think you you observe the world.

differently to many people as well. And. you know, also hearing about your great. love for some of these books that I have. here. Ah, look at there. Two great. books. Mhm. These were two of your. favorites. >> White Fang, Call of the Wild by Jack. London. I was just mesmerized that he. was able to. create this captivating story that had. me fully taken like this was one of the.

first ones where I couldn't start. another book. I had to finish this and. um. and understand it. And the Swiss Family. Robinson. was just so proud of them as a family. and seeing what the dynamic was of. everybody working together and everybody. having different strengths and. weaknesses and uh always having to. depend on one another. And um I could.

find something in each of these tales. that I could directly put into my life. You know what I mean? Like. >> Mhm. >> Yeah. >> You had um two younger brothers, Steven. and Brian. >> Correct. >> Was the treatment the same for Steven. and Brian or was it different? >> It was different, which. made me feel like it had been more me. But yeah, one of my brothers uh.

suffers with mental illness and my baby. brother is a genius. When my. middle brother was born, he looked. exactly like my father. It made the. whole house better. Like they were so. happy to have him. [laughter]. They were so happy to have him. um that. I realized what a disappointment I must.

have been to them for whatever reasons. It was eight years in between them and I. so I'd lived quite a long time as the. only child um before they showed up. >> Were they ever tied up in the basement? >> No. To their credit, they were aware of. the fact that that didn't work. They understood it didn't work if. nothing else. >> As I've gotten older, I've realized that.

I learned a model for what relationships. are and love is from watching my. parents. And I didn't realize that until. I looked at some of my. habits and responses when I became an. adult in romantic contexts. I discovered. that I was heavily avoidant because I. grew up in a household where my Nigerian. mother and my father were often at sort. of verbal war. My my Nigerian mother. would often, you know, spend many many.

hours a day um shouting at my father. My. father would never say anything. It was. just 7 hours of screaming in my house. >> And I used to wonder like why wouldn't. my dad leave? Like I I I wanted him to. leave. >> I was willing them to break up because. it was so um volatile. And then, you. know, you don't really know as a young. person whether that's changed you in any. way until you, you know, you get to 21. or you're 14 and someone wants to be in. a relationship with you and you find. yourself running away from it. >> because I think at a young age I I'd.

learned that commitment is prison. Like. my father in my mind was in prison. >> So 14, 15, 16, I spent four years. pursuing this girl. She turns around. finally and says she would be in a. relationship with me and I got the same. feeling of like that someone was taking. me to prison. It's like a trigger went. off and I dissuaded her from being in a. relationship with me after four years of. pursuing her. >> Right. >> And then I didn't get into a. relationship until I was almost I was. closer to 30 was my first relationship. And so I reflect and go, "Oh my god, I. didn't realize that I had learned a. model for love and relationship and.

affection." And at some point I have to. do the work to sort of unlearn that. >> Yeah. Well, it was the opposite. My. mother and father's relationship. equals out to the greatest love story. I've known my whole life. Like um my. parents were married when I met them and. they're still married to this day. Their. love for one another is. what I base marriage on. Like I've never.

seen or heard them argue with one. another. I've never seen them have a. disagreement between [snorts] one. another. I've only saw love. in their relationship with one another. my entire life, >> which is very confusing. >> Right. Outwardly, they were perfect. Everything they presented was a perfect. view of what you would think it should. be. There were just things behind the.

scenes that were terrible. But when they. did a great job, they did a great job. And I I can't uh [gasps]. I can't tell the story fairly without. mentioning that those things. >> In um 100 page 165 in your book, you. say, "If I'm being honest, my. complicated pattern with women didn't. start in adulthood. It started at home. My mama was ground zero.". That's supposed to be your first lesson. in love, warmth, reassurance. Instead, I. got love in sample sizes. That kind of.

shortage doesn't scream at you. It moves. in silently and reshuffles the furniture. in your heart. >> Right? Because not getting the love from. somewhere where you assume that it. naturally comes in is a little bit um. more difficult uh to process. why that's not happening. The love from. other women was all around me and.

present with every new woman that I met, it seemed. But because of my upbringing, I didn't have any sisters and my mother. wasn't engaged personally with me like. that. So I I didn't have a frame of. reference for how women thought or. dialogued. I was getting it from books I. was reading. I remember reading Little.

Women. and I read the entire book. and when I got to the end, I didn't. understand any part of it. I didn't I. just didn't understand the different. women and how they could all be related. and yet all have these completely. different viewpoints on things. And. yeah, I probably had to read it two or. three times just to understand. I I. think up until that point I thought that.

um men and women were pretty similar in. their thought processes and in their. um communication only to find out. there's almost no more intriguing. subject than women and [laughter] how. important they are to our world and and. um. >> because the model of a woman in your. life was your mother. >> Right. Right. >> Was the abuse dealt at the hands of both. your mother and your father?

>> Evenly. >> Evenly. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. [gasps]. In order for me to live this religious. life that I was set up to live, it meant. that I had to be 100% invested and I had. to act the way that I believed. And. early on, I had decided that I wasn't going to. live a double life. I wasn't going to. pretend for you that this is my life and.

I'm happy with this. And. >> the religious part, >> right, with these answers to these. questions and yeah, I'm just not going. to do it. >> Were they Jehovah's Witnesses? >> Allegedly. could have been Scientologist, but yes. >> What [laughter] do you say allegedly? Well, because this isn't in anybody's.

religious framework, you know, like they. weren't doing this to stay in good. graces. of the religion. Like the religion. wasn't condoning this. Even then, nobody. thought you could beat a child half to. death on a weekly basis to the point. where they're unconscious in a bathtub. before school and you're having to try. to get them to where they can um where. the bleeding will stop so they can go to.

school. Like no, no religion condones. that. But we were high up in the. religion and an example to a lot of. people. So, it was necessary that I do a. better acting job or give in. >> Unconscious in a bathtub before school. >> and they put you in the bathtub because. you were bleeding, >> right? Well, we had like an hour. to play with sometimes as far as um what.

just happened and now I'm in no shape. to be getting ready for a school day. But we got to get the bleeding to stop. and we got to, you know, Epsom salts, I believe, just. so we can get a good scab on so he can. afford to put his clothes on and get on. off to school. Cuz no matter what. happened, I was never missing school. School was like everything in my world.

just to get a chance to be out of this. situation and in a different situation. where they don't even know that that. situation took place. Like that's why I. look happy in all the school pictures. >> They they beat you until you. unconscious. >> Yeah. They had great stamina. Yeah. The. these would go on for hours. Like. generally that's when they felt like. they had done too much. Cuz when it. first started, like I had neighbors next. door that loved me, an older white.

couple, and I knew their house was too. close to our house for them not to be. [clears throat] able to hear. So a lot. of times I would make sure that it was. boisterous enough that the neighbors. could all. bear witness to what I was going. through. And when I saw them years. later, they were they were so. crestfalling. They were like, "We just. didn't understand what was going on. because we would hear it for hours and. hours at night." And then we would see.

you at 700 a.m. and you'd be all dressed. and smiling and your way to school like. it didn't happen. And uh I got so much. from that. Like I was so prepared for. what might happen out in the world. considering just cuz I knew I could. count on me in those situations. to figure an answer out where we could. be good.

I know you're going somewhere with that. >> No, I'm I'm just so fascinated. This is. why I'm not looking down at my notes. because it's so I'm fascinated by how in. my words such a horrific early. experience ends up leaving scars on you. and you know I um I sat and interviewed. Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryan's coach. and they one of the things he said to me. is our our we have a dark side and a. light side as he referred to it and he. said our dark side is fundamentally. connected to our light side. So in the. case often when you meet you know.

comedians there's a stereotype that they. were trying to make someone happy. whether it was themselves or a parent. when they were younger and that's really. where comedy originated from often this. is the stereotype and that's what's. what's made them the great comedian or. performer or artist they are today and. that's kind of what I was mulling is how. how this experience is at all connected. to what you then went on to do in your. life professionally. >> That's not really where the bridge for. me was. I I never thought I would be. involved in comedy, but I learned early. that I could count on comedy to help me.

change how I felt. So, I was interested. in all forms of comedy, no matter who. was doing it, no matter if it was. slapstick or silent or whether it was. literary or whether it was Don Knots. I. appreciated the fact that it didn't. matter what you were going through. If you could put yourself in a position.

to get a laugh, it would absolutely make. things better. >> Make you better or the audience? >> There was no audience. It was just me. I. just knew that. watching a comedy film is going to. change my day. Like I'm going to laugh. enough times in this that when I come. out of this situation, I won't I won't. feel the way it was when I started. And. comedy always came through for me.

>> You're describing comedy as if it's. medicine. >> I would have used anything that worked. Comedy. made light of all situations, even at a funeral. If you're in a. funeral proceeding and a joke is told, it hits even harder because um we need. the laugh. When I shut that room door. that soon as I shut that door, I'm in.

control now. >> Your bedroom door. >> Yeah. And I know things about my brain. that I don't think other people know. I. know that I can put things in here and. it will change. how I see things. I fed myself on comedy. things, just comedy material because it. was just so helpful. When it came a. point where I could do comedy, [gasps].

that [clears throat] was out of nowhere. That's the one thing I had never even. put in my head is that I could be. involved in comedy, but I I already had. a proper respect for how important it. was. >> You left home at 13 years old, >> right, >> and ran away. Take me into what led up. to that decision. >> I didn't run away. It was only a matter. of time before the authorities were. involved and that's just how it. happened. like I I never said anything.

to anyone. My parents never said. anything. It was wonderful, blessed. administrators at school that um noticed. that the guy who loved nothing more than. gym physical education wasn't dressing. out for Jim sometimes and they found. that to be odd and unlike him. So, you. know, the police were called to the. school. They did uh an investigation, took pictures, and the plan was that.

they were going to come to our house the. next day and make arrests. And so I I. needed to. not be there when that happened so that. my younger brothers had a chance. >> So the police took photos of your body? >> Yeah. >> And what did they find? >> Well, it was obvious. It's like I I got. I'm [clears throat] covered in um.

extension cord wounds. Like it's they're. pretty deep. They're often you can see. the progression from the extension cords. to the water holes. So you can there's. damage on my body. >> Did you want the police to know? No, but um I I didn't have a way of. proving to myself that this is egregious. and outside the way outside the norm. This is beyond the pale. This is um.

criminal. I didn't really have a frame. for that, but they did. And they were. quite clear that it doesn't go like. this. Like nobody gets to do this. [gasps]. to a child and it doesn't matter what. you did. So, um, when I asked them, "So, what's what's going to happen tomorrow?". And they were like, "We're coming to the. house. We're going to arrest your. parents, and we're going to move your. brothers to a safe place, you and your.

brothers, where everybody can be safe.". And um my question was could they at. least. promise that um my two younger brothers. wouldn't be separated, you know, because. we had loads of family in the city, you. know, and there were many options for. that. So I I just wanted that as a. guarantee from them. And they explained. to me that they couldn't make any. guarantees like that. That that's not. they weren't part of the system. Their.

job is to remove the kids. And however. the system has to deal with it, that's. how they deal with it. And um so that. was basically what I was trying to. circumvent was letting my situation. ruin my brother's situations. >> Who told your parents that the police. were coming? >> I told them everything that had happened. that day in school. >> How did they react? >> I guess they took it well from the. story. They knew I couldn't have had.

anything to to do with it. >> And when you're so you sit with them, you're 13 years old at the dinner table. and you say, "Listen, I'm going to. leave.". Did you have a plan for where you were. going to go and what you were going to. do? Did they try and stop you leaving? Well, I think many parents of the time. had a thing where as long as you live. under this roof, these are the rules, you know, and arts was no different. And. I was just letting them know that I.

could no longer. live with the rules and regulations. And. uh. >> But you're 13 years old. You're not. you're not a man yet. But but I'm 5'5. and my father's 5'3, so I'm taller than. the man of this house and. I'm not going to let you. beat me again. That's where we are now. So, whatever. one you got off, that was the last one.

of those. If you're in a situation that. is no longer feasible for you as a. person and it's bad for your health. literally and figuratively, whatever age you are, you've got to make. a grown decision and a right decision. And that that was certainly it for me. >> Did you have a plan? >> No. [clears throat] No. No. I No, certainly.

not. >> Did you have money? Mhm. It was millions. of dollars for a 12y old, but I think I. had like I think I had like $1,200. >> $1,200. >> So, I was literally hemorrhaging cash. >> Did you move into somewhere else or were. you homeless at from 13 years old? I. went to um a truck stop, found out which. trucks were going to warm weather places. because I was had been in Ohio my whole. life and I just knew I didn't want to.

deal with being out there by myself and. the winter weather. And so it really. left me like California, Texas, and. Florida as my options. And uh Florida is. where I ended up. So immediately upon. getting to Florida to Miami, I'm. homeless as you put it. But I didn't I. didn't feel like that. I didn't own the. home I was just at, you know, and I.

didn't feel comfortable there. So I I. didn't feel homeless. I felt I felt. free. And I felt like today I'm not a. victim of any circumstances. >> I found a sign of of the park that you. slept in. from 13 years old, [laughter]. >> which is Peacock Park in the city of. Miami. >> So, isn't it interesting that it. literally says where magic happens?

[laughter]. Like, what other park in America has. that? Like, why would you why is that. there? But my life story says magic. happened there. That's crazy. Yeah, you certainly do your due. diligence. I've never even seen that. sign. >> What What magic took place in Peacock. Park when you were 13? for somebody who. didn't really have a social footprint in.

the world. and somebody who loves stories, this was um a front seat. viewing of some of life's turmoil and. tribulation. So, I'll say it's 1983. Miami Vice. [laughter]. There's a lot of things going on in. Miami at the time. And there's this.

homeless. enclave that exists at the back of this. park. Everybody in this enclave was. doing terribly in life and it was a new. circumstance for them. They were just a. doctor and they were just a lawyer and. they were just a nurse recently and they. just had a wife and a family and people. that loved them and they made this. particular decision and they got on this. particular drug and then the whole story.

is downhill from there and this guy. who's telling me about his whole life. until alcoholism. shows up and he can't hang on and he. loses everything that means something to. him. And that's 100% responsible. for why I never tried hard drugs because. I got scared straight like too early.

Like nobody told the story of good. times, how great being on LSD was or how. greatly cocaine had changed and affected. their life. like they were living good. lives. They were good people. It was. just certain decisions that you make. that you can't get back. [clears throat]. No peacocks at the park, interestingly. enough, but yes, magic definitely. happened for me there.

>> Were you taken care of by the homeless. community in the park? Was it a safe. place for you? >> No, I don't think there were any safe. places. And some people are homeless. because they're terrible people. >> [laughter]. >> Some people are terrible people and. they've burned all of the bridges in. their life and they've hurt people that. didn't deserve it and they've made awful. decisions and that's how they end up in. that situation. I had to learn that. there's good and bad people out there.

>> What were you doing to make money at at. that time? For the most part, I was able. to find some employment that didn't need. my identification and just somebody that. owned a business that didn't mind a guy. coming in and um working after hours. So, God looked out for me there. And I I. tried my hand at u car theft, which was. a lucrative thing in the area that I was.

in. I really gave myself a hard time. about it and couldn't morally. continue just because I didn't want to I. didn't want this to be the one thing I. was good at is doing something illegal. So I I had a very brief stent with um. with that. On page 55 in your book, you. talk about how one day you're walking. along the highway and your parents and. brother found you and they pulled up. beside you in their car. Take me into.

that moment. What did they say? What did. you say? >> It was probably like the most movie like. scenario I've ever been a part of. outside of a movie. And this is now. a year and a half later and I've been to. three or four different locations. in this state [sighs and gasps]. and I am literally just walking.

alongside the highway when a vehicle. pulls over. So, up until this point, I've been checking all the milk cartons. I can find at the stores, and I know. that nobody's looking for me. There's no. missing persons. >> You were actually checking milk cartons. >> Well, yeah, because I I had such a large. family and I I was certain that I had. been missed. Um, [laughter] I thought I. was a great kid and so I had to come to.

grips with the fact that no, nobody. misses you and nobody cares that you're. gone and nobody noticed. You're just out. there. I was just really in shock. because I wasn't sure if. they have been tailing me for a year and. a half. Have they been following me for. a year and a half? Were they aware of. where I was the whole time? I I I didn't. I didn't have any of the information.

So, it was a. it was a very weird meetup. But I was. also. what I thought the way that I would feel. about seeing them was completely erased. by how happy I was to see my brothers. And I didn't realize in that year and a. half. how gut-wrenching leaving my brothers. was going to be in my life and um so.

that kind of overwhelmed everything and. they let me know that they were in. Florida and yeah just hop in. >> Were they looking for you or did they. just happen to drive past you? >> It's the state they went to. So we find out later on that when I. leave that day, they leave the same day. >> They moved as well. Oh, because the. police were coming. >> So they moved the whole family that same. day.

>> to Florida. >> So it never looked to my family or. people that loved me. It never looked. like I had left home. It looked like the. family had moved. And because they were. missionaries, people thought that was perfectly. understandable. So, they tell you to hop. in the car. Presumably, you get in the. car. >> And is there a conversation that you. have with your parents at that time? Is. there a hug or. >> No, but they're so I know they're glad. to see me for some reason.

And I I didn't leave on that note. Um, but everybody is overjoyed to see me, >> you know, cuz when you objectively. describe these situations, when you say. things to me like, I realized that. nobody was looking for me and nobody. missed me. These are um these are very. difficult things for me to hear because. it it's it's it's heartbreaking to hear. a child say that about their parents, but you're able to say it in a way. that's quite matter of fact. And that.

makes me wonder like how you've. processed the emotions of all of this. through your life. And have you at all. been able to sort of like. compartmentalize maybe is the word or. maybe just generally sort of numb. yourself. to be able to process and move forward. in life without you know thank you. That's kind of a compliment if that's. what's going on. But yeah, I wasn't. getting what it was I was expecting from. these two individuals. But I was getting so much from places I.

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back to the US. Um, you worked in a. carnival, I believe, around that time. >> Yeah. >> When does your first standup show. happen? >> So, now we're back from Haiti. I'm. trying to figure out. what my life holds. >> You're still living with your parents at. this time? You're back living with them? >> No. If it's not for going to Haiti, the. whole come live with them thing already.

wasn't going to work. Um, I was already. grown past my years. Like, I got this. whole grown man life that just wouldn't. couldn't be put in a child's box again. Um, but as I'm out there in this world where. they have this city where the carnival. people come to when there is no. carnival, I'm in that area. And um. there's five or six people that are part.

of this business where they sell. flowers. And um one night they weren't. going home after work. They were going. to go to this um little club. this. little bar. >> And these are all adults, 21 year olds. >> Well, >> and you're 16, >> I think. Maybe the oldest person might. be 21, but everybody else is 18 and 19. And I'm just 16, you know, >> and I only have dress clothes. So, you.

know, everybody just assumes that I'm a. of age young man. But as we're in this. line, there's somebody IDing people and. I realize that this is getting ready to. be a situation because nobody here knows. how old I really am. And right as I'm. trying to process what to do, I see that some people aren't getting in. this line with us. Certain people are. walking around the line and going up to. the bouncer and saying something and. he's letting them right in. No ID, no.

money exchange, nothing. So, I'm paying. attention to that and I'm noticing, oh, they're going over there and telling. them they're a comedian and getting in. That's the first time I even know that. comedy is taking place here. It turns. out they're having a comedy competition. I'm able to get in without an ID because. I tell him I'm a comedian. He lets me. in, lets me know I'm number five. I'm. thinking when we get in this place, I'll. be able to just go back where my friends.

are. And um but when we get in there, it. probably only seated like 30 people the. whole venue. So there was nowhere to. hide. I was literally comedian number. five. They explain that you're just. getting up there and you have whatever. it was 3 to 5 minutes and you go up. there and when everybody's done they'll. pick who they like the best. And so that. was my first foray into comedy of any. kind. and uh.

>> you win the competition, >> right? But at evidence that I had no. idea what was going on because I if I. was up there for four or five minutes, I. only told one joke. I didn't have. multiple topics or anything. I I. literally got on stage and I talked. about one subject the entire time. It. was just they liked the subject. And you. didn't do comedy again for years after.

that night. >> Yeah, I don't I don't do comedy again. for another 5 years just because um I. still didn't understand this was a job. you could do. >> Did you know you were funny? >> I knew that you needed a certain bit of. intelligence to be funny. I knew that it. was uh more difficult than it seemed. But. I just assumed that it had my success. had more to do with the subject matter. that I had chosen at that particular.

time. And it paid $25 for 5 minutes. Although I could appreciate, huh, that's. pretty decent money just for talking. It. still didn't seem like a job. opportunity. >> If I'd asked you at that age, 16 years. old, what you want to be in the future, what would you have said to me? I wanted. to be a soldier and. die for this country. >> And you applied to become a marine at 16. years old. You did all the tests. You. passed easily. And then one of the.

clerks reviewed a file and realized you. were 4 months too young to join. You say. in the book, "My dream died before I. even laced up my boots.". >> Yeah. Because this isn't happening at. the time that I'm talking to you. This. is happening a year earlier. >> I had already Yeah. So I was 15. >> [laughter]. >> I was 15, but I was I was crushed. because I. >> I don't know if you are old enough to. remember how the Marine Corps.

commercials were at that time, you know, with the pulling the sword out of the. rock. >> Yeah. >> You end up being a salesman for the next. sort of five years, selling a bunch of. different things. >> Correct. And eventually. you became a pimp. [laughter]. Is that true? >> Yeah. All All circumstantial. >> Circumstantial. >> Yeah. All circumstantial. So I am. introduced to doortodoor sales, right?

And I'm thinking, well, I kind of. already have a leg up in this particular. industry because I find that what stops. most people from being really good at. doortodoor sales is not feeling. comfortable talking to people or talking. to people that you don't know or you. know and I I have been doing that my. whole life. So, I didn't have that. particular trepidation. And all of the things that I was selling.

were such good things and so useful to. you as a person that I felt really good. about being the person bringing them to. you. Like I initially was selling books. and magazines, you know, and I was a. reader and I wanted people to do more. reading and I get a commission. It was a. great a perfect thing for me. Um, as far. as the um. pimping part, I didn't sign up for that.

I just knocked on a door where some. ladies of the night resided and they had. just lost their guy in a tragic. incident that was on the news and um. yeah, their pimp had been killed out. there on the streets. because I was in. control of my life. If I really wanted. to, I could quit what I was doing and. help them.

>> And these women trained you on how to do. the job, >> right? >> And you you say also showed him what it. was like to be a man. >> Remember as I explained to you that I. hadn't um grown up with women in my. family really. So. [clears throat] whatever. conceptions I had about these ladies. because of what they. did for a living, they quickly dispelled all of that for.

me in very. matterof fact ways. And they would have. conversations on a nightly basis. that. I know for a fact are responsible for me. becoming a better man. like the things. that they taught me, I needed to know. I. needed to know how important hygiene is. for a man. And I needed to know um the. things that women don't like.

about men and how easily fixable most of. these things are. And that was their. discussion 24 hours a day is just how. terrible men were and how awful they. were. And I was just determined that I. was going to do my best to not be in. those um situations, but they were. [sighs] they were beyond helpful for me.

>> Do you think God brought you back to. comedy? you're sort of 20 years old at. this point, but I I've heard you talk a. lot about how prayer and God played a. role in you coming back to comedy and. really sort of orientating your career. towards comedy. >> because I needed to know which lane had. potential for me. Um because my. situations were so desperate that I was. willing to try almost anything cuz I had. the heart for it. You know what I mean? So I I just realized how weak I was.

morally if. if I could make a fast buck. So I I I I. was disappointed in myself that if. somebody showed me the opportunity to. sell drugs that I would even entertain. it. I needed him to deliver me from me. I needed a opportunity for my life that. would allow me to be a single parent, would allow me to be at home all day,

work at night, something that I could do. without having to look over my shoulder. and. and I asked for these things. specifically when I didn't have any idea. where to go next or which direction to. head And that is at the point where I'm. asking God to please just send me. something. that meets all of this criteria. And if.

you do it, I will immediately show you. how grateful I am based upon how hard I. go at this thing, whatever it is. >> How did you know this is what he sent. you? Um, I mean, I've got um. I've got a [laughter] little recreation. of something that I heard you did in. your bedroom. I read that you wrote down. the names of 300 comedians. and you made the decision that you were. going to study all of them so that you.

could become the best. >> If I had this list, this would have been. what I was trying to go for. on my list. was not the comedians who were already. household names and were what I deemed. famous and out of there already. This. was the 300 comedians. that were working already and in my. time, place, and era. And so, you know,

there was. hundreds of comedians that never. progressed past Comic View or never made. it to Def Jam. These were the. competition and I was trying to figure. out how do I get past these 300 names to. even get my name considered with these. guys that are already up here. That was. um what I was trying to do. >> And you obsessed about it. >> Well, because they were funnier than me.

and that's what I had to fix. >> This is what I'm curious about is what. it takes to become great. People don't see that. They don't see. you writing 300 names down. They see you. on stage now. And so when they struggle, sometimes they take that as evidence of. their own inadequacy. So in your mind, from what you learned. through this period, what does it take. to become great? people look at you and. think maybe he was always just great, maybe he was born that way. >> I often tell the story that um one of.

the first. lessons that I learned was what. separates an American from. wonderful people from around the world. We believe that tomorrow can be better. than today was. And that if you can find. a situation. or a lane or a path, the only thing that never fails is if. you outwork the people you're in.

competition with. You can beat them in. this country. >> Did you do that? >> Yes. >> How? >> Yes. because everything that I had read. and studied and seen led me to believe. that that was the case. Like even as a. kid entering the landscaping business, I. only got this one lawnmower. But nothing. stops me from getting 26 clients. I can. get 26 clients. And even though you as a.

grown man, you don't have 26 contracts, me as a kid, I can outwork you. I can do. more yards for cheaper and make those. type of decisions guaranteeing me more. work. And every time I tested this out, it worked. It worked for cutting grass. It worked for shoveling snow. It worked. for selling doortodoor. As soon as I. found out it takes me 300 nos to get 30.

yeses, I no longer was bothered by the. nos. My job is now to get more nos than. you. And I know I'm going to be more. successful than you because my goal. today is to make 900 people tell me no. because I want 90 sales. So no, even in. standup, like I'm not judging these comedians.

on their background or their delivery or. any of that. I'm watching their comedy. and I'm counting how many times the. people laugh. So, everybody has a. 15minute set. I'm counting and. tabulating how that went for you. Maybe you don't even have this. information, but I know that in a. 15minute. standup, your name is good for nine.

laughs. And I know that I'm trying to come in at. 16 and 17 for the same amount of time. And so I'm not crossing your name off. the list until I am out producing you. >> And you work 7 days a week. >> 8 hours a day. >> 8 hours a day doing comedy or. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because I thought that. was the shortcut to getting better. If I. treat this like a real job because I.

expect from it the things you get from a. real job. If I spend 8 hours a day on. this, there's no way. my competition can keep up with me. I I. it seems a no-brainer that if I work. harder, better things will happen. How. many years did you spend before you got. a quote, you know, they call it like a. big break, a moment where you kind of. notice that things are shifting? How. many years of repetitions did you put in.

before you had a a moment where you go, "Fucking hell, this is I think I might. be. able to really live off this and provide. myself for this. And I think I might be. different. I think I might have broken. out.". >> Six years. >> Six years. >> Six years. So there was six years in. between. Huh. Okay. I'm a stand-up. comedian because remember when I won the. competition, part of the prize for the. competition was that you got to open for. a tour that was already happening.

[snorts] So as soon as I won. >> the competition at 20, >> right? >> Yeah. In Oklahoma, >> immediately it was I'm the fivem minute. opener to this particular show. So I'm. immediately going in as a professional. comedian, but it is. 6 years from that point before the first. milestone. In the meantime of that 6. years,

because I believe that the big break is. inevitable because I believe that that's. how it works for everyone. I'm just. trying to make sure that I'm in the best. possible. position when that happens. So that's. what. makes me move to Sacramento initially. for 2 years because they've got four or. five comedy places and um white. audiences that pack into these comedy.

rooms and um I need to be as funny as I. possibly can for these white audiences. I don't want to have to have a different. set when I go to a all-white audience. I. don't want to have to be another part of. me. I want to do a better job at. being funny, you know? >> So, by the time I. achieve some modicum of that,

now Def Jam is on and comic view and I'm. realizing, oh, I'm not that funny to my people. Like. I'm doing really well at white clubs, but as far as a black comedian goes, I'm. bottom tier. Like these other people are. way far ahead of me. but just because I. I hadn't been in front of black. audiences, you know, and so then I go to.

Oakland and I spend 2 and 1/2 years. there where it's all black audiences and. audiences with a high comedy IQ where. they're seeing comedians from Los. Angeles on a weekly basis. And so that. gave me another. ground to break until by the time I. leave Oakland now I'm at least. not that I'm as funny as I need to be, but I'm at least equally funny if the.

audience is white. predominantly as I am if it's black. predominantly. And I found that at all. times you can find the pattern to. success. The quicker you find it, the. quicker you can put it in action so that. you know that it's the case. So from my. first special to my 14th special, I have. been doing exactly everything the same. way. I'm writing them the same way. I'm.

thinking about them in the same way. And. I'm turning them over in the same. fashion as I was then because my job is. to keep doing it till it doesn't work. As long as it continues to work, as long. as I can tour the hundred cities, be. better at this hour of comedy because I. tried it out with people in the west and. the east and the north and the south.

I've traveled it. I know which parts to. add. I've taken out things that weren't. funny enough and refixed them. And I now. know that at the end of that 100 once. I've done a 100 cities, I know that this. can now go worldwide and this will be. funny for the masses and do that. And. then immediately after I've done that, I. have already written the next hour and I. am now on the road again doing that 100.

cities in the next part of this. conversation. And so I have done that. the entire time. uh that I've been going. >> And you end up getting your first. standup special at 35 years old called. Cat Williams Live, which I I recall. seeing many many times. This is what I. find fascinating about all the people I. interview is your first comedy show was. 16. >> Yeah. >> You go back to comedy at 20 years old. and from 20 to your first special is 15. years. >> Now, most people don't realize things.

take this long because we, you know, we're on Instagram and we see just the. sort of end result and we assume you. must have been always funny. So, we sort. of discount the hard work and the. repetitions and the you figuring out, okay, you'd finally cracked white. audiences, but [ __ ] you're not funny. with black audiences. So that's a whole. another sort of transformation that. needs to take place. And I just tend to. think that when we think about success, for whatever reason, we think it's. quick. And because of that, again, when. it's not quick for us, we go, well, it.

must not be for me or this industry must. not be for me. And that's what I I love. when I, you know, hear stories like. yours, cuz if I told any, I think, well, if I told a lot of young people, by the. way, it's going to take you 15 years. to get your special. I'm not sure how. many people might sign up for that. >> If we're being honest, if you'd have. told me that, I probably wouldn't have. continued. I didn't see it like, "Oh, I'm just getting into this at 25 and. it's going to be 35 before I even.

qualify. Every time I would come to God. and say specifically, I need something to happen,". it would happen. That was probably the. most surprising part of the book is you. can literally see that I'm not doing. anything special in these circumstances. Something unseen is taking me out of. this situation and putting me over here. And if I do a good job, so be it. But if.

that doesn't work, I'm being put in. another situation and given another. opportunity. And um yeah, I've just been. handled with such great care. It it it. looks like, yeah, you did this 15 years. before you made it. No, I was being. successful every day. Every day that I. was able to be a comedian and somehow. make enough to live for today and then. go on to the next show. I was more sure.

this was part of my destiny because I'm. hitting the milestones sometimes so. fast. Like I moved to Los Angeles. and New Year's that just happened for. 1999. We're going into the year 2000 and. I'm saying, "All right, I'm going to. move to LA. I'm going to get on TV. Um, I'm going to make myself a real. actor and I'm going to start going on. these auditions and I'm going to get a. movie. >> And did you get rejected?

>> No, all of it happened the first year. I'm there. The first year I'm in LA, I'm. on Comic View and so I'm on TV and then. I'm a legitimate actor on sitcoms when I. get there. And then my first audition is. Friday after next and I get the first. audition. Like everything just kept. happening in a positive way and. specifically what I had privately been.

asking for. >> Did you think you were going to be. great? You moved to LA, you start. getting these opportunities. In your. head, were you manifesting greatness? Did you think of yourself as being a. great or were you just so focused on the. pedals? >> I would have never said great. You never. would have. >> said great. No. Still to this day, like. I don't I don't view myself. like that. Like we're all special. Like. we all have the potential of greatness.

And some people are cheated out of it. just because of their circumstance or. because of whatever, you know. But I. believe that we all have the same. potential. My job was trying to find out. what it was for me. >> Were you scared of losing what you had? Sometimes people that come from the. places you come from have a bit of a. scarcity bias once they've seen the. bottom. They either kind of go two ways. often. They they're not scared of the. bottom anymore or they have a scarcity.

bias where they work so hard because. they realize it could all be taken away. I'm wondering what what camp you're in. in that regard. >> Yeah. I never saw anything got get taken. away. I always saw that um to the victor. goes the spoils. And in my research, it. was always the person who had worked the. hardest while people weren't looking, who had been planning when they didn't. know they were planning, when they had.

acted like the practice was as important. as the work itself. It seemed to me like. those were the people that progressed no. matter. what we were discussing. And so, um, I. knew who the comedy greats were. And I. didn't envision ever being with them. I. just knew who the middle of the road and. the mediocre people were, and I was.

determined to not be one of them. through that period up until your first. special, you become a father. Lots of. things happen in your life. You know, I. was reading about how many times you got. arrested. It says you went to jail 30. times in total in your life roughly for. gun charges, for drug marijuana charges. Um, you get this special at 35 years. old. Who paid for that special? >> I did. >> You paid for it yourself? >> Yeah, I paid for the next eight. >> Is that typical that you pay for your.

own specials? I thought you'd be given some sort of. advance or. >> I had met uh Prince Rogers Nelson. before I ever had any type of job or. knew what it was I was going to do for a. living. And he was instrumental in my. life just because he always wanted to. discuss business. He always talked about. business, uh, how important it was. And.

there were certain things he ingrained. in me long before I knew I was going to. be in entertainment. And part of that. was his lesson was. the thing that you're going to be most. proud of yourself if you maintain, right? Is the thing that you already are before. you get started. So what he told me was every artist, no. matter how successful they are at any.

given point, what they really wish they. could be is independent. And the problem is you started off 100%. independent. You were the only person that believed. in you and then you auctioned off parts. of your independence and let other. people take ownership in this thing. because they believe in it more than you.

do and they'll put up the money and so. on and so forth. So already before I had. entered, I was determined. that I would do a good enough job that. if no one was beating down my door for. these specials that they would still be. worth something. And by me paying for. it, I could make sure that we hired the. right director, the right producer, that. the venue was right. So many things that.

um sometimes aren't perfect in standup. I could make those things perfect with. the production and then just shoot. myself. So when we did the first one, that's where when we were introduced. into the world of licensing. So here was. this situation where I could do it. myself. I could license it to a HBO or a. Comedy Central. They would pay me for it.

and I had already shot it. So I already. am making a profit and then they were. going to put it on their platform for a. month and after a month it then reverts. back to me and I could sell it in DVDs. I was so thankful that no one believed. in me. I was so thankful that nobody. wanted my product because it gave me the. opportunity to have it. When someone. becomes hot, the vultures show up in.

entertainment, in business, in, you. know, in lots of different industries. And the vultures come in and they they. try and tell you things. And as you were. describing there, it can sometimes. change your incentives. It can make you. more short-term. It can mean that they. take your IP away or whatever it might. be. for people that are maybe earlier in. their career and are potentially going. to, you know, encounter the the. vultures, the vultures that are in. Hollywood or in business or whatever. that are going to come in and promise. them something, you know, give them a. carrot now, but that might take. something from them later. What what.

advice would you give to those people? You know, you've just given a wonderful. piece of advice about maintaining. independence as much as you can, betting. on yourself. I heard that in there as. well. Is there anything else people need. to know about the way that sort of. success plays out? And maybe maybe a. mistake you made in this regard. Maybe. I'm asking this for myself because you. know I'm 34 and I now live in Los. Angeles. People are giving me lots of. opportunities, >> right? One of the most. important things for my life is is.

selfworth. And I I would urge. all artists. to check your self-worth with yourself. If you're an artist of any kind, I want to know what are you worth. And I want you to be able to show me. with your peer group.

what you're worth. Uh this is how it. works. If you're a football player, you. play this particular uh position and the. people who play this position are. getting these type of contracts. That's. what the contract looks like for a guy. who's a running back. And you you have. that because you need to know. what your self-worth is. >> I have to ask you a question here. >> Yeah. This kid, this kid was not someone from everything.

you've described to me that would one. would assume had much selfworth because. you were in an environment where you. were treated in such a way where one. might conclude that they're they're not. worthy but but it seems like you. understood your selfworth as an adult. And I say this because there'll be many. people who have had their self-worth. removed from them in their early. experiences. It could have been a. teacher that said something, a. circumstance. So, they're listening now. and going, "Yeah, but Cat, um, I don't.

think I'm worth much and I don't know. how to pretend that I am.". >> Yeah. I never. I never I never spent one moment like. that. And I would suggest you at home, um, don't allow yourself to think that. anymore. Your brain is not. as smart as you think it is. Even if you. have to lie to yourself about what your. selfworth is, that's what you should do.

You are in control of what your. selfworth is. And there are no worthless. people. There are no worthless. endeavors. And if you read more, you. would know that you are more than. qualified for what it is you're trying. to do. And people far less qualified. than you. People with far less talent, people with. far less opportunity,

have all been able to do this one thing. I was a in a better position than most. because I wasn't basing my self-worth on. myself. I was. putting all of that on the God that I. serve and putting in him in a position. to where it was, yeah, if you're real and you love me and. you know I love you too, then I don't. think you're going to let me.

just get tossed about on the waves out. here. I think that if I. [sighs and gasps] um do my best to. become a better person and to make. better decisions, I think that that's. going to be reciprocated. And I'm only asking that if I should. ever get to a point where I don't know. what to do, that I would be able to call. on you, hey, you'll help me figure this. thing out. And um [gasps and sighs].

otherwise I personally wouldn't feel. like God was real if it wasn't for the. fact that I'm having these. conversations. I'm asking for the things. that I need and I'm getting answers to. them and I'm following what I think the. answer is saying. So you're able to see. that all the mistakes were me. Like I. thought the wrong thing. I was thinking. the wrong thing. I wasn't aware of and I. would just make the decisions. But.

you're not out here alone and you. shouldn't feel that. >> You definitely don't have a victim. mindset. >> Cuz I haven't I haven't been victimized. Like you you you. can't do that and be winning all the. time. And I'm literally winning all the. time. >> Some people be thinking, Cat, listen. You described your childhood, a. circumstance where you were born into a. family where your parents didn't appear. to care about you. Some might say you.

have ample opportunity to have a victim. mindset. >> You were not the best of cards in the. earliest context. >> Right? But remind yourself, I'm basing. everything on these books I'm reading. And in these books that I'm reading, nobody did. I didn't read not one book. of hey this person had everything and it. was all given to them and everything was. fine and uh there was never any turmoil. or strife in their life and boy they.

turned out great. I never read that. book. I've seen it go the opposite way. I've seen stories where this man is. raised as a prince his whole life and. feels like he has a great understanding. of how the world is and then later finds. out with the prince and the popper how. circumstantial. everything is that if you were in this. situation what would you be then? Um.

yeah I had I had seen too much of that. I refuse to. um look at the negative when the. positive is so overwhelming. There should be a button just down below. here. And if it says subscribed, you're. already subscribed. If it says. subscriber, that means you're not yet. And if you're not subscribed, please. could you do us a favor and hit that. button? It helps the show more than you. know. And according to the algorithm, you're someone that watches our show, but you haven't yet hit that button. Thank you so much. One of the things.

that was sprung to my mind as you're. describing your relationship with God is. when I reflect on that early experience. where. >> many of the beatings that you said you. got from your parents originated from. you having a a dispute with the. religious teachings that they were sort. of projecting onto you. One might. assume, and I think I assumed that that. would mean you turned away from religion. and God as an as an adult, but you're. sat here with a massive uh cross around. your neck talking about how God has. guided you throughout your life. How do.

you how do I square those two things? >> Well, I I early on in my life. [clears throat] made a separation. between God and a relationship with him. from religious practices completely. So. I made a separation between religion. >> Yeah. >> and a relationship with God. And I. assumed that for whatever nationality or. creed or race that the person was, their.

personal religion was their way of. explaining and handling and dealing with. a relationship with God. And um even as. an adult, I found for the most part that. um regardless of what someone's religion. is, um the key thing is that in their. religion, they are attempting to get the. people that follow them to be better.

people. And I I learned from studying. other religions, I I I just learned how much. different religions are really agreeing. with one another. There's not all of. that much disagreement. as far as what the goal is in religion. It it's really just. acknowledging the fact that you have. free will to make terrible decisions and.

to be an awful person and to do awful. things to other people. But you would. live a much better life if you had a. list of things that you don't do that. lines that you won't cross. And if you. feel an obligation to your creator, then. there are ways that you show that giving. back to others and a heightened level of. humanity is what all religious people.

are after. So I I respect that even. though I don't join the religion. >> Are you religious? Do you are you part. you're not part of a religion? >> No. >> Okay, makes sense. No, just because. after studying. the religions, there's parts I agree. with with all of them. At the end of the. day, these are people and most of these. people are just trying to be better. people. And religion is what they're. using to do that. But I I couldn't.

imagine where the world would be if we. didn't have that, if there weren't. people actively trying to be better. So, no, I separate that. Yeah, that's been. helpful for me. How do you think about. risk? Taking risks with your creativity. There's this video that I literally sent. before we sat down to my team um where I. sat here with Rick Rubin and it talks. about risk and I wanted to get your. perspective on whether you agree. >> I think the risk and the success go hand. in hand. It's only through the risk that.

the greatness is shown. So, it's not possible to sort of produce. more of the same and still be considered. a great. I don't think so. I don't know. It It doesn't seem right. to me. It feels like there's this edge. There's a tight rope and you're walking. on the tight rope and if you make it, it's really good. >> So factual. Such a gem. In my particular.

case, I found that. the only risk is betting on something. where I'm not involved. So, there's a risk in me betting on the. Dallas Cowboys versus the Green Bay. Packers because I have no bearing on. what the Packers are going to do and I. have no bearing on what the Cowboys are. going to do and I can't influence it in.

any way. That's risky. Betting on myself, zero risk. Zero risk. Whatever I need him to do in the. situation, that's what he's going to do. He's going. to come through. If he's got to outwork, he's going to outwork. If he's got to. apologize, he'll apologize. If he's got. to be vicious, he'll be vicious. If he's. got to maneuver, he'll maneuver.

I. only have one betting on myself and my. God. I don't consider it a risk if what. I'm betting on is myself. >> Have you always been like that or has. that confidence grown and compounded. through time, experience, and evidence? >> I'm only basing it on the evidence. I. didn't just agree that I have to get 300. nos to get 30 yeses. I That wasn't what.

I agreed upon. It was me going as far as. I can to find out how many nos does it. take. I learned from the losses far more. than I learn from the victories. But. again, that's what makes it not a risk. because I found that regardless of how. it turns out. I'm curious if I sat. 20-year-old cat here that just won that. comedy show at in Oklahoma, whether that. cat would have had the aura and the.

confidence of this one. And I think the. reason I care about that question is. because that shows me what the journey. has given you. And the journey changes. people. It reinforces things in them. Ideas that were like made of polyarene. become principles that are like made of. titanium. >> No, they'll they'll tell you that I I. always acted like this. >> Okay. >> Like that's the whole thing. Like I. haven't changed anything. Like later on. they would say, "Yeah, he started. wearing suits because you know people. were wearing big suits at the No, no,

no. I can show you me at five if I had. on a suit. It's the same guy. Same look. on the face, same everything like like. Yeah. I made. very little personal growth where it was. unnecessary. I thought there was a lot of wonderful. things about myself even younger and I. wanted to maintain those things. I. wanted to keep my curiosity. I wanted to. keep the fact that I didn't just believe. something just because I heard it. That.

I thought that research was the answer. You know, I promise you 20year-old cat. was um outwardly just as confident. like. I had security as a comedian. when I was making less than $10,000 a. year doing standup. [laughter]. I'm saying I was never the guy that. didn't believe. I always believed. But. what I'm saying is that that confidence.

was based on what I believed in, not. based upon what I was. When you look. back on key moments in your career, do. you see how a cat without the confidence. might have ended up in a different. place? No. I say that because it's so obvious. to me. I don't even, you know, I wasn't. there, but I go, someone with that level. of confidence and belief is going to. open doors that would have otherwise. appeared to be concrete walls to someone. else. >> Right. Yeah. No. And I I understand that. it it might look like confidence, but um.

fear of failure should not be confused. with confidence. I had an overwhelming fear of failure. I. I thought failure is what happens when. you don't work hard enough. I was going. to be a rudderless ship if this doesn't. work. So, this has to work. Like every. >> there was no plan B. >> Everything is counting on this. And this. is the best thing that's ever presented.

itself in my life. I know from these. books that you don't get unlimited. chances. >> Did you take holidays? >> I was never in a position to. vacay. >> But you got special after special after. special, >> right? But I went 10, 15 years before. the first milestone. So, as soon as you cross into the part. where, oh, I'm really in this business. Now, it becomes a whole different set of. criteria, now I'm guaranteed 15 minutes.

of fame. Nobody gets a chance to decide. when they're going to be on and when. they're washed. It just happens. And so, my job is to see if I can get as much. time out of this 15 minutes as possible. And there are certain things that I. can't afford to do. I can't afford to. tell my whole story in my first few. years of standup. Or else if I actually. become something, what story am I even. going to have to tell? There's nothing.

wonderful or complimentary or edifying. about 35 arrests and going to jail 35. times. But if I told you at the end that all. the charges were gonna be dropped for. everything and you would never. be in prison after 35 like they will all. go away. Well then I'm in then. But. again,

you don't know till the end. But I was. cognizant that whether we like it or. not, we're all leaving a story. I had. just read so many of them that it was in. my head. No, every everybody's life is a. story. Like somebody's later on going to. be looking at you to see what you did in. certain circumstances and how it went. for you. There's something really. powerful that um reminds me of um part. of my earlier journey when I was left. university and I was shoplifting uh. pizzas to feed myself and I remember.

recording this video on this old smashed. up phone of like my objective disperse. So, I'd open the fridge and go, "Look, there's nothing in it." And then I'd. record it and then I'd show these baiff. letters that I had on my desk and I was. recording it because and then when you. look at my diary, which I kept on these. Facebook notes, >> I am telling myself. I'm telling myself that I've been asked. to record this because there's a. documentary crew that are going to make. a story about this someday. And when I. look back on that, it wasn't true, but. that's what I'd said to myself. And when. you look back on that moment um and you. describe the objective nature of like. this is a shitty situation. Objectively.

you being in the back of that park with. several homeless people objectively a. shitty situation. You um you realize that there's two ways. you can take a shitty situation. You can. see it as the destination or part of a. story. >> And if it's part of a story, it exists. on an arc. And that I think can be. liberating and allow you to act in such. a way where you don't fall into despair. or victimhood. And that's kind of what. I've heard through the lines of what.

you're saying is because you read so. many books, you understood narrative and. that the most objectively difficult. parts of your life were actually just. part of a narrative. You can make hell. out of heaven or heaven out of hell. based on the narrative in your own head. >> Yep. And and I had there were these. books. I'm not sure what they were. called, but they were these like. destination books where they would give. you the story of the characters, right? And they would get to a crossroads and. they would say, "Okay, so it's set up.

He can either go south. and do this or he can go north and make. this decision, but he can't do both.". Mhm. >> And I that was a great joy for me is to. pick one, see where that ended up and. then go back and read it again with the. different decisions to see how, you. know, and I got so much out of that that. I started incorporating that into my.

decision making process. I never want to. make a move unless I know what is the. best case scenario for this situation so. that if I get there I can know that. that's what that is and what's the worst. possible thing that could happen in this. situation and if I can know both of. those going in I feel much better about. any of the undertakings. So, um, in. order to keep myself honest in these.

decision making processes, because. sometimes you just are human and weak. and you make the wrong decision. If it ever was in my head and I didn't. know what decision to make, I would just. immediately go, okay, what does the. black superhero do in this case? And. whatever that answer is, do that. Does. he go into it with his head up as if. it's going to work out fine and then. it's able to look like his faith was a.

reward? Yeah, >> it's good life advice for everybody. listening. >> Yeah, it works. >> What would the superhero do right now if. this was a movie? >> I did it. >> I did it already. >> And you are someone clearly that. believes they're holding the pencil and. writing their own story. >> Mhm. >> Again, this is this is not necessarily. typical. Some people believe they're on. a roller coaster and they're strapped in. with a seat belt and it's going up and. then down and left and right. And then. some people believe they can author. their story and that's quite clearly.

what you've done throughout your career. cuz you've been the author, right? How important are the people you. choose to work with? It's the family you. do get to pick. With your family, you. don't really get any say so. You just. come into this world and then you're. introduced to the people that make up. your family. And in our business, that. behind the scenes family can be the. agency used to take you out of the.

equation or what is used to help. solidify you. You know, we all know you. don't want Yes, men. You don't want Are. they Are you being threatened? Um, I. still have some time to go, but I'm. being told your PR team are going to. come and pull you out. >> No, don't worry about that. >> They're saying five minutes. >> We're almost done. Yeah. Yeah, we know. the time. We got the time. >> You're being threatened. [laughter]. >> I saw you blink twice. I know.

[laughter]. >> So, >> right. >> Just a gun came around the [laughter]. >> Right. Yeah. I I'm just just know I'm I'm. appreciative to be here with you and and. you having me and I and I know how. difficult what it is you do is so I'm. I'm grateful. >> What I think about is representing your. story in the best possible way that I. can in all of its shades. So that's why.

I like uh that's why we take the time. cuz you know I think you know you all. know good stories take time and they. need space. Yeah. >> So, it's I'm always at a bit of a my. style of interviewing is always at a bit. of a a challenge when there's not enough. space, >> you know, like because you said you've. watched, so I like to listen seriously. >> Right. But the the superhero would tell. you take all the space you need. [laughter]. >> Do what you do. Don't don't don't let. these people pressure you [laughter] by. this schedule of mine. Has no bearing on.

anything. This is it. >> Right. You know what I'm trying to just. leave the audience with is there's lots. of people and there's specifically lots. of young black men and young black women. that I know will listen to the show. because they they can relate and. relatability is a huge part of. inspiration. That's what the science. says and what we you all know. >> And I want to I want to give them sort. of an understanding of how to navigate. from where they are now. The obstacles. that they're going to experience in. their hero's journey which is going to.

be rejection. It's going to be. accidentally working with the wrong. co-founder or agent or person. It is. going to be we talked a lot when we've. covered that part which is it's going to. be a bit of patience. You're going to. have to become a master at something and. that's going to take time and sacrifice. What else do they need cat as they go on. their own hero's journey? >> I'm just so proud of um anybody that can. take something out of this. It means it. means you're doing a good job if you can. find inspiration.

anywhere. Like I said, find you. something to believe in. that isn't you. Find something that you. can uh count on. And I I found that. early and I'm thankful that I found it. early. Like everything that I learned. about the universe and our planet and. everything I learned. made me believe that we were created by.

an entity that was smarter than us, cared about us, and that looked way far. in the future to make sure that our. personal needs were met. I don't think. that they've. found a location in the universe. that's better for people than Earth is. And I don't think anything is. coincidence. I don't even believe in.

coincidence because I've not seen the. evidence of coincidence. And I I would. suggest that you not believe in. coincidence either. I I believe that. everything is part of a greater plan. The blessing of it is the more you. believe it, the realer it becomes. And. you can really track that in your own. life. So that's about all I have. >> John and Brenda, >> they're still alive.

>> Yes, absolutely. >> They've seen you become. a global success story. >> Has there ever been a conversation with. John and Brenda, your parents? about. your success. Are you in touch with. them? How do you feel about them today? >> Well, as I said, I've um I've forgiven. them and they didn't ask for that. >> They didn't ask for the forgiveness. >> Correct. >> You gave it to them. >> Yes. Because forgiving people makes. things easier for you, not easier for.

the people. Um Yeah. Forgiveness is. something that you're allowed to do. selfishly. Um, you're allowed to forgive. people that have hurt you. Just. understanding that we all make mistakes. and we all heir. Now that I'm older, I. see how much pressure must have been on. them and how easy it would be to make a. bad decision. >> What do they think of your success? >> I don't I don't uh.

I don't care, honestly. Um, I did I didn't I didn't think they. shouldn't be beating a celebrity. I. thought they shouldn't have been. treating a kid like that. Just a kid, you know. So, had nothing to. do with where what I've achieved. And I. didn't I haven't been needing their. approval on anything. And I don't need.

for them to be proud of me or any of. that. I'm I'm thankful that, you know, I. got brought into this world. >> And you're not in contact with them even. though you have forgiven them. >> We we've been in contact uh throughout. my life. I've been available if they. needed me. And I still have kids and now. they they're grandparents and now I'm a. grandfather as well. So I couldn't com. them completely out of my life. But um.

my decision at 13. uh is the same as my decision at 55. >> Your demeanor is different today versus. other interviews I've seen you in. You. seem a little bit more stoic. >> Um I'm not a fan of the subject matter. >> Which subject matter? >> Like I'm not my I'm not my biggest fan. Like I don't I'm not head over heels. about Cat Williams and love to talk. about him and see pictures of him and.

>> and you knew that was happen today. >> Well, I'm saying that's not my preferred. subject matter. Generally, when you see. me, I'm talking about other things. [laughter]. This this is this is painful primarily, you know, and um yeah, because I don't I. need to tell my story, but I don't need. a young person. hearing this to think that any of these. were smart decisions. Um, we certainly.

don't live in a world where anyone as a. teenager could afford to leave home and. just be out in the world hoping God is. [laughter]. blessing you. Like it's a terrible situ. all of the decisions horrible. Um, but. I'm telling the story so that you. understand that if you didn't have. anything in the world except your belief. in God, you could still make it,

>> you know. So, again, I I yeah, I have to. be kind of stoic because I'm not I don't. enjoy bashing. my family members even if they are. deserving of it. I don't get anything. out of that. >> And does it still hurt? You use the word painful. >> I just want to say nice things about him. and I would if that were possible.

>> Cat, we have a closing tradition on this. podcast where the last guest leaves a. question for the next not knowing who. they're leaving it for. >> Got it. And the question left for you is. what is the most important piece of. advice that you would offer to the young. time. Time is the most. important thing in your journey. The. fact that you don't know how much time. you've been allotted in this life. You.

don't know how many years that equals. out to. Um, you are only in charge of. what you do with your time and you can. reset this life as many times as you. need to. That is in your control. You. can restart. You can go a different. direction. You can try things. I found. that. the only regret you have later in life. is the things you didn't give a chance,

the opportunities you didn't go for, the. things you didn't try. And then there's. a chance that you'll never find out what. you were meant to do. You never find. your purpose in life. And I found that. those are the only people that end up. unhappy, not people who might have. chosen the wrong path or any of that. And I in the reading of books, I found. out that you can make it at odd times in.

your life. There are hundreds of stories. of people that never did one wonderful. or notable thing in their life until. they were 65 years old. And I tried to. find what kept them going all the way. being a failure all the way through 64. and then at 65 now you finally find out. because time is all you got and you have. nothing better to do than to find out.

your real selfworth and where your life. should go. So by all means treat every. day as close to the last one as you can. Um, if that means the interview has to. go two hours longer than scheduled, so. what? You deal with that as you're in. there. And if it's time to do healing, do it even if it's painful. >> Okay. >> Thank you. The book, um, I'm going to. link it below. Highly recommend you read. it because it is it's confronting and.

vulnerable and inspiring in all the same. measures and it really is truly a hero's. journey. Um, so please do go and buy the. book. I'm going to link it below. Uh, I. I'm can't wait for you to sign this to. me because it's one of my favorites. But. also, Cat has a podcast called According. to Cat, which is launching. Um, and I'm. going to put a link to that below as. well, which is really really exciting. Um, I don't need the competition in this. medium. >> And I and I shall not be, don't worry. >> But it's I've heard I've heard some. things about it. It sounds amazing, as. is the book. So, Cat, thank you so much. for your generosity. I really really. appreciate it.

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