Jane Fonda Gives Conan Advice On Turning 60 | Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend

I read some I think it was a quote you. said once that it was Ted Turner who. told you you don't make friends after. your 60s and you have completely proven. him wrong yeah he also said you don't. change after 60. and I said I think I. think you're in big trouble if you don't. change after 60. right yeah I mean 60 is. when you start where you're I'm a few. months shy of becoming 60. yeah well 60. in the way I look at it is the beginning. of your third act yeah and in order to. do a good third Act.

in order to know how to go forward in. your third act you have to know where. you've been so you have to spend a lot. of time thinking about the first two. acts and even more important your. parents why are they the way they are. yeah were they are your parents my. parents are my dad is 94 my mom is 91. uh-huh and they're out in the clubs. every night. how long have they been married I think. uh wow good lord they're the only people. that got married it's a very I think at.

the very close of the Civil War. um I uh I mean I I wish I could tell you. exactly but I want to say it was 1958. okay so they've only been married to. each other oh yes yeah yeah that was it. that's how strict Irish Catholics you. marry and then that is yeah no matter. what there were many times I'm still. trying to get my mom to divorce my dad. um I call them I call her every day and. say it's time go but uh she's sticking. it out you're trying to get her on the.

apps. she keeps showing the wrong way that's. what's ruining it yeah we're finding out. I mean you know fight you're lucky that. they're still alive yes I am very lucky. well the mine were gone by the time I. started my sixth my third act but. um finding out why they are the way they. are how were their parents what were. your grandparents like how did they. treat you know yeah what you end up when. it's called doing a Life review and you. end up realizing that whatever was. up had nothing to do with you.

yeah yeah you know I turned my Life. review Into My memoir. and in the course of doing it I. discovered why my mother was the way she. was and it had nothing to do with me had. to do with Early Childhood sexual abuse. and so I could forgive yeah you know and. that's such a beautiful thing I think. it's one out of every four women in this. country have experienced sexual abuse. and it's interesting to try to. tease that out if that's part of your.

family history which means that you have. to interview your parents separately I. think the other thing too is. um there was such a reticence about. talking about anything I mean I come. from a very Irish Catholic culture as. you can imagine and it's the same thing. you unpleasant things are not discussed. you don't talk about them so laughter is. allowed uh and and food is allowed sex. is discouraged and talking about. anything that might hurt somebody's. feelings is discouraged so you get this.

strange ecosystem sometimes and I'm just. not my family is all so much I just. watched the Banshees events yeah I was. going to ask you I watched the Banshees. of Anna Sharon you identified and and. it's crazy it's takes place in you know. I think 1920 or something and it it's on. this island and it's in Ireland and I. grew up in uh Boston and my parents are. very educated people and I watch that. movie with miniature donkeys and people. cutting off their fingers and absolute. Madness and and not just me but other. Irish people that I know other Irish.

Americans I know go oh yeah that makes. sense because we're an insular crazy. people with a Gift of Gab and we can be. quite funny uh and we get quite. depressed but uh we come from this. island and there's stuff in our DNA. that's batshit crazy yeah I was married. to one my second husband Irish Catholic. how'd that go. beautifully and fabulously for much of.

the time and I'm really really grateful. and we named our son Troy O'Donovan oh. there you go that's too Irish that's a. very Irish name the Garrison it'll. either be a playwright or a bartender. he's an actor those are the only two. choices I'm afraid.