Conan Is Coming Between A Fan And His Wife | Conan O'Brien Needs A Fan

Congratulations on your on your. marriage. How long have you been married. for? It's almost 2 and 1/2 years. Good. for you. I like that. I like young. people getting married. I'm I'm. >> Thanks, granddad. >> Well, I'm sorry. But I like it, I tell. you, I like it, I do. Um I'm happy for you. Tell me a little. bit about your marriage. What's your. wife's name and how's the marriage. going? Uh the. my wife's name is uh Priya and uh the. marriage is going great. Uh it's the.

relationship with you that is uh you. know, a cause of sometimes. a bit of a you know. >> wait a minute. You're saying that. >> understanding. You How am I a cause of. friction in your marriage, Ankur? I. mean, it has come a long way. You have. to pay me. I've been a great advocate. for you. But at the start, when I used. to listen to you with my headphones on. and you know, laughing, so my wife would. you, you know, ask me like who is this. guy and you're constantly listening to. him and it's not a good at the start of. your marriage, right? Oh. So,

actually, she listened to one of your. podcasts as well. Yeah. Not great. reviews. So, so Ankur, let me let me get to the crux. of the matter here, okay? Not great. reviews. I have a thick skin. I've been in this. business a long time. >> Yeah, you do. Um Ankur, to summarize, you are recently married, you're a. newlywed, you're a big fan of my. podcast, your wife, Priya, not so much,

not a fan. Is that correct? >> Yeah, I mean, it started with a disdain. and now it's okay, whatever. Okay, so wait a minute. This. >> Because I love you so much. Wait a. minute, Ankur. We moved from disdain to. indifference and that's improvement. If. I can get her to mild contempt, I think we're getting somewhere, don't. you? It sounds like she views you as a. third wheel in the relationship. >> Yes. Yeah. Does she feel I think what's. I know what's happening here, Priya. I. think she feels threatened because you.

and I have a very close relationship. You're a big fan of my comedy. You're. there, you're glued to every word I say. and she feels threatened by this Conan. figure. Is that possible? No, that's not. true. The only reason that you are right. now at okay, whatever state is because. she loves me. So, I love you. So, I. initially thought, you know, A is equal. to B, B is equal to C, so A should be. equal to C, but not that case here. So, you need to do some work, Conan, as if.

you have very less fans already. >> I will um do what I can. This is now. going to be my mission in life, Ankur. Uh to um to improve. uh my comedy or tailor it more towards. Priya so that Priya is happy, okay? Does. that make you Does that please you? Absolutely. So, would you say. um that you guys have a you guys have a. good relationship other than her disdain. for this Conan O'Brien fellow that. you're constantly listening to, um.

everything's good? Yeah, I mean, I call. her my Liza, you know, so that's what I. call her. After Liza Minnelli or my. Liza? No, Liza Powell O'Brien. >> Okay, oh, that's sweet. That's sweet. Well, I very much love my wife and how. is it um are are there similarities. between cuz I talk about my wife. sometimes. I think we have a very strong. marriage. Uh she's uh beautiful, she's. highly intelligent, uh she's better than. me in many ways. >> Yeah. It does that You take it easy, Sona.

Does that. Does that sound familiar to you? Does. that resonate with you in your marriage? Absolutely. All the checkboxes are. ticked, you know, I'm incredibly lucky. Sometimes I feel like how how the hell I. she said yes to me and I mean, I'm not. at your level, but I also, you know, have different voices in my bathroom. I. would be singing certain songs, you. know, not doing some bits to annoy her. and more importantly, you know, I am. very, you know, hyperactive. I'll be. very happy or very sad and she's the.

anchor. She she kind of grounds me and. she's like, okay, you know, behave. yourself. So, in that ways, I just. imagine uh that relationship of us and I. really admire both of you. I almost saw. all the interviews that you both are. featured in. So, I always tell her, you. know, that that is the kind of dynamics. because how to explain why am I so. crazy? Yeah. Yeah, so Well, first of. all, you sound insane. and I think I'm perfectly normal. Uh so,

yes, do I mutter and do voices and bits. in the bathroom when I'm all alone? Sure. Uh but what you described actually. sounds exactly like what I do. Um you're. you're an energetic guy. um and tell me a little bit about I'm. told you have some kind of weekly. practice that you have. Uh tell me a little bit about that. So, uh my wife is not very expressive, so. it's like always I need to kind of. figure out where she is. She loves me a. lot, but she's a different way to show. it. So, to do that, I have this weekly.

heart-to-heart talks where I say that, you know, whatever is in your heart, you. have to let it out. If I have done. something that, you know, annoys you or, you know, anything, so you just say it. So, we have different categories in. life. I feel like happiness is the. ultimate goal that all of us are. searching and I feel there are seven or. eight factors. If you are, you know, good or average above average in that, we would be happy. So, that is how my. brain works. So, I've compartmentalized. into these things. She does not like she.

likes organic, you know, talk. >> let's walk through this. She just wants. to have a regular chat. You say you've. compartmentalized into these things. You. mean you've drawn up a chart? >> Yeah, yeah. I have an Excel sheet. You. have an Excel sheet and what are the. categories in your Excel sheet that you. talk about every week? Uh first is. health. Uh we talk about our parents, siblings, finances, uh career, our current job, uh love, where we talk just with each. other, how we are, uh friends, hobbies,

and. uh yeah, that is pretty much it. Like. work, career together. Yeah, these are. the categories. >> put all of these onto a Excel. spreadsheet and you walk her through and. discuss each category with her once a. week? Yeah. I I have to I have to tip my. hat to you. You're trying to quantify. the unquantifiable and that's admirable. and insane and I I tip my hat. >> Yeah. It's a check-in. It's a weekly. check which is nice. I think I like the. idea of it. >> nice, but you say that Priya, your wife, is a little unsure that because she.

would just rather you maybe take a walk. and talk about whatever comes to mind. Yeah, so we have a segment called walk. and talk that we do on a daily basis. Okay, listen, Ankur, I don't mean I mean. really take a walk with her and talk, not. not not have walk and talk on an Excel. spreadsheet. That's what I'm saying. No, no, no. Walk and talk is without Excel. Oh. That's just PowerPoint. No, no. That's a pie chart. >> A pie chart, okay. Um.

Ankur, okay, so. >> just we we go around the society. Even. for Excel, she didn't like this. algorithmic and noting it down. So, I. what I do is that, you know, we talk. normally just to check in and then if. needed, we refer the Excel sheet. But. the point what Sona mentioned is right. Like it's like, you know, okay, how you. have progressed over the period. Like if. your health issues are there or if, you. know, there's something that. finance-wise you are not. So, I think. this really helps us. Okay. I I Listen,

if it works for you guys, then fine. I. get the sense that maybe you like this. method more than your wife does. Is that. true? Yes. Are you entering into the. spreadsheet a a number qualifier so that. you can look at trends and things like. that? No, no, not that much. >> I'm sorry. I didn't. Wait a minute. Well, maybe we're hearing. more about your spreadsheet now. >> just want to know how this works.