World's Worst Coworkers | Reading Reddit Stories

- Hello and welcome back to some crazy "Reddit Stories.". I'm Shayne, and today I'm joined by Courtney, and visiting us, our former coworker, Sarah Whittle is here. - Hello. - Woohoo! - Honey, I'm home! - Welcome back. - Thank you. - [Shayne] Yeah. - You voice cracked at the beginning of that. - [Shayne] A little tiny bit. - Do we need to take that again? - Okay, you're no longer in charge, okay? - You sounded like you were gonna cry. - He is. - And welcome back to "Reddit Stories.".

I'm Shayne. - No, I'm very excited to be back. You guys know I love visiting you guys. And can you believe it's almost been three years. since I left? - Whoa. - Three whole years. Soon I can't visit back. 'cause no one will know who the (beep) I am. (everyone laughs). - [Courtney] Oh my gosh. - Who? Who are you? - Aw. - Wow. Well, in honor of you being here, we're doing work drama. - Oh. - All this is gonna be about work. Work bullshit. - Water cooler tea.

- Here we go. "Am I the asshole for pretending to get fired. "when customers get a temper with me?". (Courtney laughs). Pretty awesome. - Okay. - Okay, here we go. "I am a high schooler with a weekend job at a coffee shop. "My coworkers who work weekends are James, the owner's son. "He goes to my school. "He's a shift manager, but it's not a real formal thing. "He's a friendly guy. "Danielle, a college student. "who sometimes works weekends too. "So sometimes customers will come in. "and just be angry about such little stuff.

"Like, literally blowing up about nothing. "I don't know if they're in a bad mood already. "and looking for someone to take it out on or what, "but it's a lot. "Like, how sad do you have to be to be a grown ass man. "taking your anger out on a high school and college kids. "So James and I were joking. "about having a little fun with them. "and hopefully getting them off our backs. "So one day I was at work and some guy was having a temper. "about how we don't make the coffee hot enough, "which I couldn't do a thing about. "because I gave it to him right outta the machine. "So James came in, "and I was like, 'Sir, is there a problem here?'.

"And the guy started ranting at him too. "So he was just like, 'OP, this is unacceptable. "'You're fired.'. "I started acting really sad, "like, 'No, please don't fire me. "'My family needs the money. "'I need this job, please.'. "And he played up being a hard ass, "telling me to take off my apron and leave. "The angry guy started to backtrack like, "'It isn't that big of a deal. "'You don't need to fire her over it. "'I didn't mean it.'. "And James was like, "'No, we pride ourselves on the best customer service.'. "Of course, after all that drama, I still had my job. "We were just acting, and we've done it a couple times.

"Whenever a customer will lose their temper at Danielle. "or I, James will storm in and fire us. "And almost every time the person. "who had come in angry will apologize. "and say they didn't mean it. "It's kind of satisfying making people realize their actions. "might actually have consequences. "Anyway, I was telling my friends from school about this. "and a few of them thought it was a mean prank. "to let someone go away thinking they'd gotten someone. "who desperately needs the money fired. "Am I the asshole for this joke?". - Hmm. - Hmm.

First of all, it's a little funny. It's funny. - I think it's really funny. - I think it's super funny. - I think they could take it up further. - I think if they can pull the acting off, 'cause I think if I were to do it in my real life, I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face of like, "No, please. "I need this job.". So the fact that the acting is convincing enough. to make these customers feel bad for being kind of a Karen. - Yeah. - I think this is like good chaos. This is good chaos. - Oh, yeah. Because what are people expecting or hoping for.

when they come in with that energy of like, "My coffee's not hot enough.". Because like a lot of like, like if this was a Karen, it's like it's a superiority thing, and you think like getting someone fired. is like their dream, but-. - And maybe it's a good lesson for them to learn. Like, little complainy things. Like, make your coffee at home. if you're really gonna be that fricking particular, Garrett Palm. Like, if you're gonna-. (everyone laughs). - Throwing shade at Garrett?

- I'm just kidding. But like he's a very nice person I'm sure at coffee shops. But if you're gonna be that particular, make it at home. - [Shayne] Right. - Or just like deal with it. Also like coffee hot, like McDonald's got sued for that stuff, so, also coffee's not that good like super hot. I'm an iced coffee girl. - Same. - Yeah. No. - Yeah. I wonder like what happens. if one of those customers comes back another weekend-. - And they're still there. - But maybe they feel good about it 'cause they're like, "Oh yay.

"Like, the person didn't get fired.". - And they're like, "Wait. "Oh right, I forgot to fire him. "You're fired again!". (everyone laughs). - I also think when you see young people working, like clearly high school, college, like sometimes this is like a side gig. Most of the time it's a side gig. to either have like extra money or help at home or whatever. Like, you're really gonna come in being like a Karen. over like, this is not like a corporate environment. where it's like we strive for excellence. or like anything like that. It's a coffee shop.

Like, chill the (beep) out. - Yeah, I'm trying to see the validity. in saying that OP's an asshole for this. I don't think he's an asshole. - No, I don't think so either. - Or she. I don't think they're an asshole. - They're just saying like, "Oh, it's a mean prank.". It's like, well... - Yeah, 'cause it's opposed Karen. - Don't be mean to the-. - The Karen can be mean? But we can't be mean? - That's true. I also think it's really funny. - I think it's really funny. - It is funny. I really wish I could see. that scene. - I would love. to see a performance. - Yes. - The verdict was not the asshole. Yeah, I mean, for sure.

"Not the asshole. "Customers can be (beep) dicks. "Usually people are pretty respectful and reasonable. "even when they have a legit complaint, "but every now and then there's the one guy or gal. "that comes in and just can't be made happy. "They're the worst.". Someone else said, "Not the asshole. "Fun fact, Harrods actually hires people for this. "If a customer is upset in the store, "the manager will call back the offender and fire them. "in front of the customer to satiate them. "Then the guy whose job it is to be fired. "just goes back to the back room. "and waits for another customer to get angry.

"so he can be fired again. "I think it's even better that you're using it. "to make people think twice about being a-holes. "in the store.". - Wait, they have in-house actors at Harrods? - In-house like people that get fired. (Sarah laughs). - I love it. - How do you write that on a resume? - I actually want that job. - [Sarah] That's amazing. - It says here you've been fired 5,000 times? - Like, I didn't know we had a coffee shop theater. Like, wow. - Yeah, this is so good. - Yeah. Someone said, "Everyone sucks here. "The customers are obviously assholes.

"for being assholes for no reason. "Yes, you are a little bit of an asshole. "Is it justified? Absolutely. "Are you still an asshole? Yes. "Unfortunately, in a customer service role, "you are always going to have to deal with people. "who are angry over absolutely nothing. "It's part of the job. "Is it fair? No. "In a perfect world, those customers would not exist. "But we live in a reality that is part of the reality, "especially for that job.". - Eh. That's kind of giving the customer's always right vibes. - Yeah, I'm like, you're not actually doing anything wrong. to the customer.

You're technically giving into what we would assume is like, what do you want? - Right. - And I know this is not a hot take at all, but like you know how some countries. have like mandatory military service. I think like mandatory customer service jobs. would be a thing, like it's good character building. - For real. - You know, I've worked in retail stores. That was whole character building. I've worked in so many restaurants, character building. But then it's like you really understand like Karens. - Totally. - You get a grip. Get a grip here.

- Yeah, you had to deal with a lot of nightmare customers. - Yeah, yeah. And like one time I worked at a beer garden in Phoenix, and it was mostly a beer garden, and the kitchen was like probably smaller. than like the one toilet bathroom here. - Wow. - Like, that's how big the kitchen was. 'cause it was just like sausage and fries. And so when the whole restaurant was filled. with like 50 tables of people wanting food, like obviously the one cook in that tiny ass kitchen. was like shelling out all that food. And I remember one customer, he ordered a beer,

I gave him the beer, and the food wasn't coming out in like 20, 30 minutes. because the whole restaurant was full. And I went to his table. I was like, "So sorry for the delay. "Like, it's coming soon.". And he goes, "My beer is warm.". And I was like, "Yeah, 'cause it's been sitting there for like 20 minutes. "You can chug it right now.". And he was like, "No, I'm waiting for my food.". - Okay. What? - He wants to-. - You're at a beer garden, sir. Like (groans). And then one time at an Italian restaurant, I forgot to give like the people the appetizer.

or something like that. It was like my very first serving job. And so at the end of the meal, I was like, "I'm so sorry.". And I didn't know you could comp. I was like 16 or something. So I was like, "I'm so sorry. "Like, here are the rolls to go. "You can take 'em.". And he's like, "We don't want them anymore.". They never reminded me either that these were like late. And then on the tip receipt, he put like "rolls" on the tip line. - I don't understand it. - So it was just like, you know, I was just like 16 years old, and they were being so mean.

- Oh yeah. The weight of the world is on teenagers at their first jobs. (Sarah laughs). - Yeah. - Yeah, I worked at a play place as my first job. And it was a lot of rich mean moms. - Oh boy. - Yeah, so, you know. - [Shayne] Rough. - Danger zone. - All right, moving on. Here we go. This comes from Malicious Compliance. - [Sarah] Oh. - "Cameras have to be on no matter what. "Fine by me, don't mind the pump.".

- Is this a poetry thing? (crew laughs). - [Shayne] Maybe. (Sarah laughs). "I'm a project manager and data scientist. "I manage lots of different public health related projects. "There is one project in particular. "that includes a really demanding team. "from a federal government department. "I recently returned back to work from maternity leave. "I work in my office three days a week. "On those days, "I have to pump breast milk at regular intervals. "for my baby. "Luckily I have my own private office. "and can usually just keep on working,

"emails, reports, et cetera, while I pump. "I have a hands-free wearable pump, which is convenient. "but still definitely obvious if I am wearing it. "It pokes out about my shirt and is not exactly silent. "Recently we have a Zoom call scheduled. "during one of the times I needed to pump. "Instead of missing the meeting, "I figured I would just keep my camera off. "so I could wear my pump and still participate and listen. "Heck, I was even in my office and not working from home. "I felt like I was being a pretty committed employee. "Meeting starts, and a few people have their cameras off.

"The lead makes the announcement, "'I just wanna remind everyone that our expectation. "'is that you'll have your cameras on. "'because this is not a virtual meeting. "'It is a simulated in-person meeting.'. "Whatever that means. "I sent a quick private message. "to explain I was paying attention but pumping. "No response to me, just instead a, "'Again, the expectation is that all cameras will be on.'. "So fine. "I turned my camera on for this meeting for about 20 people. "The camera isn't aimed at my chest, "but certainly the top of the pump is clearly visible.

"I unmuted myself so you could also clearly hear the pump.". - Oh my goodness. - "And just said, 'Thank you for your patience. "'I was adjusting my breast pump.'. "The meeting continued awkwardly. "with several other team managers letting me know privately. "it was fine to turn my camera off. "But at that point, "there really was no point in turning it off.". - [Courtney] Dang. - "At the most recent meeting, the announcement was, "'Please turn on your cameras. "'if you are comfortable doing so.'". - Aha! - Well.

- I do miss virtual meetings, like constant virtual meetings. We had so many over the course of the pandemic, and they were so silly sometimes. - Yeah. - I remember we had like our Christmas-. - Our Christmas party, like our virtual Christmas party. for 2020 is like the, it's the funniest thing. - It was so insane. - Yeah, like Santa joined. - Yeah, we got a Santa impersonator. - Oh my god, that's right. - Remember how hard Brittany went? Like, Brittany was like (laughs). - Didn't someone like ask if he believed in God.

or something? (Shayne laughs). - We started asking Santa crazy shit. - Brittany asked, "If Santa gives gifts. "to all the children of the world, "why do the poor children get worse gifts?". - Oh my god. I knew it was some (beep) up-. - And the Santa gave like a generic answer, and I was like, "This is brutal.". But then also we FaceTimed with a sheep in England. - Yeah, we got a sheep. - That had like a crazy name like Daisy or something.

- Yeah, that's a crazy name. - It was pretty cool. - And then we did Secret Santa over the Zoom call too. So everyone unwrapped their gifts. - Yeah, we did our best. - We really did. - And not a single breast pump in sight. - No breast pump in sight. - I will admit now that years have passed, there were definitely plenty of times. where I was in a meeting, my camera was off, and I would just be doing shit in my apartment. I would just have it there. I'd be listening. But I'm like, "I'm not speaking in this meeting, "so I'm just gonna be, I'm doing dishes and stuff.".

- I don't like the like mandated be on camera thing. - No, that's weird. - I think that's super weird. However, I'm a vibes person, so like during the pandemic. and then even with my like new job, I would like make a point to like be on camera, just to like give the vibe of like, hey, let's like be engaged and present if we can be here, especially like as a leader in the group. But I think like the peer pressure thing is too much.

I think like this mom in particular, not an asshole, I think in my opinion, 'cause it's a little bit of like, what is it like... Kinda like breaking the rules but to make a very good point. - Yeah, what was the title? It was malicious compliance, right? - It was malicious compliance. - Exactly, yeah. So I think it's like, you made your point, but like ooh, uncomfortable for everyone involved. I feel uncomfortable for everyone involved, except for the asshole. that was saying you have to be on camera.

- Right. Just a weird policy. - Yeah. - They had to learn the hard way it sounded like, 'cause she tried to let them know that she-. - She's like, "Hey, I'm in this situation here.". - Yeah, they didn't understand. And so-. - What's the point? Like, what are you winning. by like forcing these people to be on camera? - It's just a control thing probably. - Yeah, exactly. It's a control thing. Whereas I think it's like. if you're having remote calls still, being on camera is like to me I think. is more of like a vibe thing.

And if you can do it, you can do it. If you can't, you can't. That's okay. - True. - Right. Some comments here. "This is not a virtual meeting. "It is a simulated in-person meeting. "My head hurts. "trying to figure this out." - I hate that. - Someone else said, "I work at a university, and all of the faculty complain. "that their students don't turn on their cameras, "and then we have a department meeting. "and none of those (beep) turn their cameras on.". - I am in person simulating, - Simulating person meeting. - Good evening. - Guys, we're simulating a voice call meeting right now. - That's the vibe.

- How's everyone doing? - Simulating a chat. - How are we today? (everyone laughs). Lastly, someone said, "I read a similar story about a student undergoing chemo. "who was told they had to have their camera on. "They had also privately messaged the professor. "to ask for a dispensation explaining why. "No response. "Just a group message, "'Cameras on or you'll be marked as failing.'. "Okay, then camera on, "cue shocked Pikachu face from the professor. "who insisted on camera being on. "People are just ugh.".

- People are just ugh. - I think it's like those, you know those people, like those professors, those bosses. who just like they wanna have. that like little bit of control, and it's like super toxic. It's like this is obviously a very easy ask, turn your camera on, but like if you put human into it, if you put empathy into it, like it's really just them trying to control, and that's when it gets like really icky. - Yeah, and I think a lot of 'em have this element. of distrust for their employees. - [Courtney] Yeah. - Where they're like, "She's probably lying, "so no, you gotta have it on.". And it's like, "Oh shit, you weren't lying to me.".

- [Courtney] Yeah. - It's like, well maybe just trust 'em in the first. - Exactly. I'm the type of person. who's like what you give is what you get in the universe. So it's like if you're giving out distrusting vibes, like then you're not gonna have the respect. and the trust back. - Right. I agree. - Kudos to her for deciding to keep it on. despite being told that she could turn it back off. - I mean, shout out to moms. Like, that shit takes balls. - Oh yeah. - Like, that is like so vulnerable. That's supposed to be a private health thing. Like, moms go back to work so early. while they're still making milk.

- [Shayne] Yeah. - (beep) badass. Like, every mom's a (beep) badass. And this mom's a badass. - Definitely. - And she's a scientist. - What the hell? - And a scientist. - Smart, hot, and pumping? Let's (beep) go. - Smart, hot, and pumping. - Pretty cool. (Sarah laughs). All right, next story. "Am I the asshole. "if I don't want my husband shadowing me at work?". Okay. This is recent. This is from like a couple days ago. (Sarah laughs).

- Wow. - "This is going to sound complicated, so stick with me. "My husband, who's 44, and I, 39, "have been married for 20 years, "but the last few years have been incredibly rough. "due to multiple issues. "such as our sons both going through major health issues. "One issue is that I feel like he's smothering me. "And when I tried to explain that to him, "he became furious and started telling me how awful I am.". - Oh. - "Our entire lives together. "we have worked together the majority of the time. "Almost always. "That means separate departments and little interaction. "When I say this, I don't mean all in one place.

"I mean, I started working at a major retail store, "and a few months later he started there.". - Oh. - "I started my degree, "and the next semester he started his identical to mine. "This went through two degrees. "I am now in grad school, and sure enough, "he's asking me to start the process. "of going to get him enrolled. "When I gained my bachelor's. "and began working at a museum career, "he began volunteering there on his days off, "but would take over tours and conversations. "When I told him to stop, "he blew up and said I'd embarrassed him.

"When I took a second job at a factory, "he also wanted to work at the factory. "I quit the factory as planned last month. "because I just wanted extra Christmas money. "He got mad because he said I abandoned him there. "He's since quit and gone back to the retail job. "But all he does is complain. "The manager at the factory and I still talk, "and she said they'd accept me back anytime, "but pretty much said they don't want him back. "I am still working at the museum. "and have started substitute teaching a couple days a week. "I love it. "Now he wants me to help him get started subbing,

"and I'm trying to avoid it. "He asked if he could shadow me one day, "and I told him no due to security. "He messaged the principal and got permission easily. "and was pissed that I hadn't even asked. "I am trying to avoid it. "And he's saying I'm an a-hole for not taking him with me. "Is he right?". Oh, what the (beep) is going on here? - This is brutal. - I've never heard of anything like this before. - I mean, wow. - Where he just literally follows her to every job.

and gets her job also. - It's been happening for 20 years. - They've been married 20 years. - That's so interesting. I don't think she's the asshole at all. Like, what the hell is he doing? - No, I mean, she's expressing her boundaries. - But this, I'm, that's... - It's like definitely giving like younger brother energy. Like, it's like if you had like a younger sibling. that like when growing up. when you're like seven, eight, nine like-. - Yeah, they just-. - My little brother would like copy everything I did. - Right.

- And that's like, you know, at that age you're trying to like define yourself. and, you know, find yourself, and you don't want this like little kid copying you. But now that they're like in their 40s, married 20 years, like, oof, that's like, that's tough. And I think it's like, you know, and maybe it's like just different attachment styles, but like I've been married for five years now, and it's very important to have two separate lives. outside of the marriage. because it's like you're still two very different people.

and like I think that's like always a tough thing. is like when you're married you feel like, oh, we have to do everything together. We're building this life together, right? This like big thing together. But like ultimately it's two separate people. that need to find their own happiness. within the umbrella of marriage. And so for me, if I had to like work with the person, eat with the person, sleep with the person, then vacation with the person, then weekend with the person, like, for some people that might work, but like for my marriage, that wouldn't work.

because I still have things I wanna do on my own. and like, you know, you need a little time apart. Like, too much time with one person, that's a lot. - And it's not even just like they're in the same place. It's like, "I started my degree, "and the next semester he started his identical to mine.". Like, it's like what does he want out of life? - I can't help but like feel like it comes. from a controlling place. - That's what I was gonna say, but I don't have no psychology degree from ASU online, but-.

- Doesn't do anything. - But it really does. It feels like because, to get to the point where OP is taking museum tours, giving tours, and him going there and like taking over, and then for her to fully within her right express. that she doesn't want him to do that. and him blowing up at her. - Or like emailing the principal. when she's like substitute teaching. - Going behind her back. - That is controlling behavior. - So rude, yeah.

It's super controlling. - No, it's disrespectful to her. It's like he doesn't want her to have her own life. - Yeah, and I can understand like, she feels like the asshole because she's like, "Ugh, I like kind of want like a distance from my husband.". I think that's like not naturally. what you think you should think. But like it's just feeling very clingy. - Yeah, I had a friend. who was in a really tough relationship, and she had like basically a full-time job. at a retail store, and it got to the point.

where this partner would drive her to work, wait for her at that mall, and take her home. Like, just needed to be around. and aware of her at all times. And it was really scary. - It probably comes out of insecurity, right? But it's very much like, you know, sometimes when you hold onto something tighter it runs away. Like cats. Like, you know-. - Yeah. - You're trying to be like, "Cat, I love you.". And it's like, "I wanna get the (beep) outta here.". So like you gotta let the cat come to you. and like that kind of thing. So I think this might be a situation.

where he might be thinking like, "No, I need to be in every part of her life. "because we're married.". But it's actually like creating more tension and distance. - Yeah, it's interesting too, they have like no official agreement on this. It's just something he's done forever. - Yeah, and he's gotten comfortable. with that envelope being pushed over 20 years. Like, and it sounds like she's over time. a little bit tried to set a boundary. and he's just exploded at her, which that's what a person will do if they're narcissistic.

or if they have any kind of issues like that. They will make it a horrible experience. when you try and set your boundary. so that you'll never try and set a boundary again. And like it can be really tough. And for that to be going on for 20 years. and she just like doesn't know what to do anymore, it sounds like it's getting to a wild level already. - Yeah, for sure. - Well, the verdict was not the asshole. Some comments. "You don't need to ask him to go to therapy with you.

"Just start going yourself and he will follow you. "and volunteer to go- - Funny! - "Like he has done with everything else.". - Hell yeah. - Yep. - That's very true. - That's a very good piece of advice. - I just, yeah, I don't know. - That's messy. - These are big things. Like, he's willing to work anywhere. - This is work and personal drama all in one. - Yeah, that's everything. - This is a full Sunday. - All of it. Okay. Next story here. "Am I the asshole for telling this college guy's mom. "that her coming into his interview cost him the job?".

- Oh. He brought his mom to the interview? - Mommy says I can do this job. - Here's my recommendation. Yes, he's a very sweet boy. (Sarah laughs). And he's good at everything. You know, when he was in second grade, he drew the most incredible picture of a horse. - He started walking at 10 months. That's like a couple months before all the other kids. - He can ride a bike. Oh, and you should hear him sing. Sing, Mikey. (everyone laughs). Mom, stop.

God, she's the worst. "I am a hiring manager at a tech company, "and I was hiring for summer internships. "a little while ago.". - Oh. - "We had a guy about 19 years old applying. "for a summer internship between his freshman. "and sophomore years of college. "It was a virtual interview over Zoom because of COVID. "A minute or two in when I was introducing myself, "his mom came in and introduced herself. "and started talking about her son's work ethic. "I thought it was a little strange. "I said something polite about wanting to hear from him. "She just didn't get the hint. "and kept coming into the camera frame during the interview.

"and interrupting her son to answer questions for him. "I asked a few technical questions, "which he seemed to answer well, "and then cut the interview fairly short. "I thought that that was all over and done with. "until I'd gotten an email from a woman a month later. "asking about her son's application. "She seemed offended he hadn't gotten an acceptance. "or rejection. "It bothered me. "I felt bad for the kid, honestly. "Way back when I was a teenager, "my mom used to pull the same shit. "But luckily she only did that when I was 15.

"and working for a day camp, "not when I was an adult applying for engineering jobs. "But I felt like this poor kid. "was getting his chances ruined. "because his mom wasn't giving him the chance. "to apply on his own. "I sent an email back saying I was not at liberty. "to send information about an application. "to anyone but the applicant. "I also asked HR to send an email to the kid. "saying sorry, but we were not making him an offer. "It is something we usually do, "but his rejection email must have slipped. "through the cracks with all the COVID craziness. "Anyway, after we sent that, "I got a phone call from his mom.".

(Courtney gasps). "She had a forwarded copy of the email, "and she was demanding answers. "I said that I could not comment on the guy's performance. "in the interview with her as she was not the applicant. "If he wanted to reach out to me, "I was happy to give him some feedback. "However, I could say that regardless of his performance, "her presence in the interview took him. "out of the consideration for the position. "We were looking for an independent. "and self-driven person for the position. "And for that reason, "it is important to see an applicant speak for themselves, "follow up themselves, et cetera. "I also said that as a piece of advice,

"every hiring manager I've met in my career. "who sees someone other than the applicant. "answering questions during an interview, "following up on the applicant's behalf, et cetera, "would also put their resume in the do not hire pile. "Since while the applicant may be skilled and motivated, "they need the ability. "to demonstrate those traits themselves. "She (beep) blew up at me over that, "kind of cussing me out to the point where I hung up. "Am I the asshole for how I handled this? "Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut way earlier.".

No, I mean, I don't think he's the asshole for that. - No. - No. I'm actually surprised that like he replied to the mom. - I know. - The way I would've like deleted that. - He was actually being kind. I wish there was a way for him to say that stuff to the son. - It's like the scene in "Stepbrothers". when they're like both interviewing the position. - Yes! Oh my god. I'm sure he would've preferred that. - Yeah. - That's gotta be so tough to be in that son's position. because like imagine, well, like, I don't know.

It just seems like he's living at home, can't get any privacy. This manager, OP, did that like very well. and very technically explained. why that wasn't the way to do it. And I applaud them. - Yeah, I think OP went above and beyond. - Oh, absolutely. - Maybe there's a lesson there to learn of, you know, not all good deeds go unpunished type of thing.

So I think this person was like, "Yeah, I really wanna like help the guy and give feedback.". But like I think we've all experienced. like a unselfaware mom. - Yeah. - Yeah. - And like, this is exactly what this situation sounds like. - Yeah, not worth his energy. - This poor kid. - Yeah, I feel for the kid. - His mom is just like not giving him a break. - [Sarah] Yeah. - What I hope this guy does in the, like, if for some reason this ever happens again.

is during the interview be like, "I'm sorry, nobody else is allowed. "to answer these questions.". - Ah, I see, I see, I see. - Like, "I'm sorry, this is a job.". It's no different than if you were. in a job interview in person. and someone else walked into the job interview, you'd be like, "I'm sorry, this applicant has to be by themselves.". - [Sarah] Yeah, yeah, yeah. - He's 19. - Yeah, rough for the kid. - I'm sure the kid's upset about it too. - [Sarah] Probably so embarrassed. - But doesn't-. - I think it's like a tough age. because yeah, he's super young. and trying to get his own footing in his life,

but he is still living at home with his mom, and his mom is clearly very controlling, and like that's not normal behavior in any sense. Not healthy behavior as well. - No. - To be emailing on an adult. This guy's an adult man. - But he is being treated like a kid. And like there's that self-fulfilling prophecy of like, when you treat someone that way, like you're his parent and you're treating him that way. But don't you want him to grow up and be an adult,

but you're treating him like a kid. - Push him outta the nest at some point and let him fly. - Like, respect him. - Yes, exactly. - And be like, "Oh yeah, you're gonna go kill that interview. "I don't need to be in there.". - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - But she's not doing that, and that's gonna make him feel insecure. I'd feel so insecure. - Like, do you think that mom shows up on dates too? Like, he's out on dates, and she's like-. - "Why won't you date my Timmy?". - "My son is so sexy.". And you're like, "What the (beep). "What the (beep) dude?" - Oh Jesus. - Like, what the hell? - Yeah. - Try to move out if you can get a job. - Yeah. Oh. - I mean, just let him get a job.

- Yeah, just let him alone. - It's not even about moving out. Just like let him live his life. - And it's not even like for like an ice cream shop. It's an engineering job. - I know. And they asked him technical questions, and he knew 'em. He's clearly capable. - Sucks. - The verdict was not the asshole. One of the comments here, "Not the asshole. "It's probably better for the kid you told her directly, "seeing as she clearly does not respect him enough. "to believe him if he disclosed she cost him the job. "She snapped at you because you gave her feedback. "that painted her in a poor light, "and she thought she did her son a wonderful favor.

"You're probably the first person in a while. "to stand up to her.". Someone else said, "Not the asshole. "Helicopter mom needed to be put in her place. "Hopefully she learns. "Sadly, while I think it's shitty someone gets put. "in the do not hire pile for something like that, "I can completely understand why. "Hopefully the young man can solve that issue. "and get hired somewhere.". Lastly, someone said, "Bruh, not the asshole. "I feel so bad for that poor guy. "Not for the job per se, but for his controlling mom. "But you just did your job, and she deserved the cold shower.

"and a reasonable dose of humility.". I just don't know if she's gonna learn. - I don't know if she sounds like a mom. that's like gotten feedback. - I don't think she's ever gonna change though. is my just like-. - And if this was like, they said it was during COVID time, right? So it's like if she's interrupting the interview, she's gonna be interrupting every meeting going forward. - That's true. - Oh my god. - You're hiring her. - Yeah, you really are. - That's awful. - Who knows? Like, this manager giving her that feedback. that she may or may not have received, made her blow up.

Odds are he heard that phone call, seems like they're near each other quite a bit. But like hopefully that could have been some kind. of catalyst between the mom and the son. to like change the rhythm of things. - All right, moving on. "Am I the asshole for telling someone that his achievement. "just meant that he had rich parents?". - Oh no. - Uh-oh. - Here we go. "I, a 23-year-old man have been with my current company. "for a year now. "Recently a new guy, Jack, "joined our team fresh out of college.

"Last Friday, my manager invited everyone. "to a bar after work. "There, Jack told everyone about an achievement. "that he obtained over spring break. "He visited his 150th country, Cambodia. "In contrast to everyone else who were asking things. "such as what was the best/worst/strangest thing you ate, "which countries were your favorite, and any cool stories, "I just said, 'Good for you,' and went back to my drink. "Jack noticed me being quiet. "and asked why I wasn't joining in.

"I said, 'Don't worry about me.'. "But Jack kept pressing the issue. "I finally said, "'Jack, visiting 150 countries is cool and all, "'but it doesn't anything about you as a person. "'It just means you had rich parents. "'who could afford to travel internationally. "'several times a year.'. "I grew up poor, literally, "worked my ass off in high school, "got a full ride merit scholarship, "and did everything humanly possible. "to land my current six figure job. "Rich people who think they're better than everyone else. "just because they had rich parents. "is a huge pet peeve of mine.

"But my coworkers don't know any of that. "since I like to keep work and my personal life. "as separated as possible. "Jack got really quiet after that and left soon afterwards. "Now it's Monday morning, and I'm wondering. "if I should have just kept my mouth shut.". I have two thoughts here. One is, yeah, the reality is he definitely. only visited 150 countries 'cause he grew up rich. But also it's not like he was sitting there... - Just checked a box and went back home.

- He doesn't say that Jack was going, "Yeah, I visited 150 countries. "and I'm better than all of you and I did it all by myself.". - [Sarah] Yeah. - Like, this does read as like resentment and just like-. - Yeah, the way he's like kind of saying the story. is it felt like Jack was like, "Ask me anything. "I went to 150 countries,". and everyone's like kind of like fawning over Jack. for like making this accomplishment. when maybe that could be the vibe, or maybe it is people like, "Oh my god, what is the craziest thing you ate? "Or what is the like-".

- Yeah, it sounds like people-. - Your favorite place, 'cause those would be questions I would ask. - The way he's stating is like, "Everyone else just started asking those things.". He just stated, "I visited 150 countries.". - Yeah, but then the OP was like, "Cool, man,". or something like that. - [Sarah] Yeah, and drank his beer. - Sounds cool. And then was like, "I don't give a shit.". - It's interesting. He's like, "I've been here for a year,". and like this is me definitely. like plugging in my own assumptions, filling in the gaps, of being like, maybe he's no longer the new guy. and there's this other person who's so cool and interesting.

'cause like just, I know, listen, rich parents, when you boil it down to it, that is probably likely the reality. I also like, you know, Garrett has been all over the world. and like has so many stories. and that's really shaped who he is as a person. And when it's a new guy, like how else are they gonna get to know this guy? - Right. It just doesn't seem like he was... At no point does he say that Jack was saying like-.

- Boasting. - He wasn't boasting. He just was saying, "Hey, this is a thing that I did.". And regardless of how he got it, like it could be he, and maybe Jack would even be like, "Yeah, I had rich parents and we travel a lot.". Either way, like traveling 150 countries. is not something many people do. - Yeah, yeah, that's a lot. - I've only been to a handful, and I would be fascinated to talk. to someone who's traveled to that many. regardless of how they did it. - And maybe that is, I'm sure it's probably like money. and fortune have some sort of play in it,

but it's like, I lived all around the world. and I'm a military kid, so it's like also too to like make the assumption. just because you're rich. It's like, I lived in Germany. I would go to the Netherlands for dinner. We were not rich. We were on like, you know, like a pretty low salary. at the time. I lived in Korea. I've like been to a lot of places, but that doesn't necessarily mean I was well off too. So I think it's like the OP seems to be like jumping. to a lot of conclusions.

and maybe bringing their own little like, you know, baggage and animosity. So I think like if you're all coworkers. kind of having a drink and the person's like, "Hey, what's wrong? "Like, your vibe's off,". like maybe not the time and place. to like kind of let that come out. - He seems like he's jumping to ways. to make Jack feel not good. - Exactly. And I think if you felt icky in the moment. or you're like, "Ugh, this is like,". I'm a type of person that's like if your hater's coming out,

like maybe remove yourself from the situation. - [Shayne] Yeah. - Like, if I'm scrolling on social media. and someone I'm following like brings out a hater in me, I'm like, "You know what? "Maybe that's something I need to work on. "Maybe I can unfollow this person. "'cause I don't wanna be a hater.". - [Shayne] That's fair. - 'Cause I don't know people's situations. - Yeah. And I'm going based on what information he's got here, and he just doesn't give us any quotes from Jack. that make it sound like Jack was trying to rub it.

in anyone's face. He was just like... - I also hate fun facts, when it's like, "Let's go around the room and everybody say your name. "and like a fun fact about yourself.". Like, I never know what to say. - Yeah. - Even three truths, one lie. And, you know, I worked here, we had to do games like that, and I hate playing those games in real life. - [Shayne] Right. - Yeah, I also think it's tough, like when you grow up in a low income situation, like a lot of people do. kind of have a like a bitter feeling. Like, you know, and it can affect like your relationships.

with people. And it's sad 'cause like that could have been a friend, that could have been a potential friend. - Yeah, man. - They definitely are getting off on the wrong foot. And yeah, like his feelings are real. Like, I don't know if he's just bummed. that he hasn't been able to do those things, or there could be many reasons why he had that reaction. I like the hater-. - The hater thing. Yeah, if it brings out your hater, maybe get away from it. - It's also just like, for OP, I'm like, what are you getting out of this?

What's gonna-. - It's just like bumming yourself out. - What's gonna happen? Like, okay? - Yeah, now you're sipping a beer by yourself. - And now you have like tension with that person at work. So it's like something with like, what is it like mandatory fun events with work. And it's so funny because I'm like, I'm friends with so many coworkers, but then you have like a work happy hour, and the conversation just turns like very stiff and weird. It's like, "Oh yeah, how was your day?". "Yeah, it was very good. "Yes, like mandatory fun at work.". So it's like-. - Simulated fun.

- Yeah. Person. - Person simulating fun meeting. - So I think like while, you know, you should go to happy hours or some work kind of function, you can kind of just show face and then dip out. Like, that's kind of all you need to do, 'cause some of it is like a little bit. of like a self PR thing. So it's like if you're feeling, you know, you're on this mandatory fun thing, you're feeling the hater come out, you can like finish your beer, check out, and Irish goodbye. Most of the time you don't even have to say goodbye. And then, you know, write in your diary or on Reddit.

how much you don't like this rich kid. (laughs). - Facts. - The verdict was asshole. - Wow. Okay. - "You're the asshole. "So? "Visiting 150 countries is really cool. "There was no need to shit all over it and make a stink. "He never said he was better than anyone else. "You just assumed that because of your own insecurities.". 25,000 up votes. - Wow. - Someone else said, "Going to 150 countries is an achievement like it or not.". And OP responded to that saying, "An achievement should be something. "that you worked hard for,

"not something that just falls into your lap.". - Oh. - 1,400 down votes. So also, hold on. He's 23 and says he-. - Making six figures. - Six figures. I'm like, dude, you did great. Like, you're doing-. - That's insane. - You're killing it. - [Sarah] Yeah. - That's insane. - Yeah. - You can visit 150 countries over the course of your life. - And also like if this 23-year-old's career. is gonna keep going in this like pretty sweet path-.

- [Shayne] Oh my god. - Your kid's gonna be the spoiled little kid. and then full circle. - And then you're gonna hate him! - And then you're gonna hate him. - Oh no. - Lastly, we have a comment here that says, "Not the asshole. "You tried to disengage. "You said congrats. "He wanted to press the issue. "I don't know why he cared so much. "about what you thought about it. "and why he kept pressing it. "Maybe he could sense you didn't care. "and his ego couldn't handle it. "Just spit balling here. "But you're not wrong. "Going to 150 countries. "by the time you reach your early 20s.

"does just mean he has rich parents. "And I mean good for him. "That must be sick.". (Sarah laughs). - That was sick. I wish that was me. - That would be freaking sick. Yeah, you know, I can see where this person is coming from, but this is all based on how things were said. and what was said at this event. If I was there and hearing this, my opinion would probably be-. - Oh, 100%. - [Shayne] Different based on that. - The truth is somewhere in the middle. - I'm going based on what he wrote here, and based on this, it just doesn't sound to me like Jack was being...

- And it's actually curious to me. that Jack asked like, "Hey, man, you okay? "Like, what's going on?". - Yeah, he probably was being pissed off. - Probably sense, yeah, definitely like could see the energy shift, and then-. - 'Cause I'm the type of person that's like, if there's a group of 10 of us. and one person's like clearly not vibing, I'd be like, "Hey, are you okay? "Like, what's going on? "Do you wanna talk about it or something?". - Yeah. Weird. - Bummer town. - Yeah. Bummer. Here's our next one.

"Am I the asshole for demanding my coworker pay me. "for a ride to work. "after many months of giving her a free ride?". - Oh. - [Shayne] All right. - Okay. - "For the last 14 months, "I've been driving one of my coworkers to and from work. "She only lives a mile up the road from me. "and is on the way, so I've never asked her for a dime. "or accepted when she's offered me money. "From my perspective, I'm going there either way, "and her overall household expenses are higher than my own, "so it felt like the thing to do. "Over the weekend, my car went to the shop.

"I told my coworker that I wouldn't be available. "to give her a ride either Monday or Tuesday. "She said it wasn't a problem. "because her boyfriend is off this week. "and would give her a ride. "I asked if I could bum a ride as well. "I even offered to walk to her home. "so they wouldn't have to drive backwards. "She asked her boyfriend about it, "and he said he would, but he wanted $20 for the two days.". - Oh. - "I know it's just 20 bucks, but that set me off. "I declined the offer and said I'd find my own ride. "At work yesterday she asked about my car.

"I told her I'd be getting my car Tuesday night after work, "but that going forward I'd like $30 a week, "a third of my gas costs, if she wanted to ride with me. "She was upset about this. "and said her boyfriend had only wanted money from me. "because by having me in the car, "he was being forced to drive straight home. "when he picked me up. "I pointed out that I've been happy to drive straight home. "to help her out for over a year. "and that it probably wouldn't have killed him. "to show me at least some level of appreciation. "Today she said she'd no longer be riding with me.

"after talking about it with her boyfriend. "She said she felt disappointed with me. "for holding his actions against her. "and that I was being petty. "A couple other coworkers told me throughout the day. "that her boyfriend's just an asshole. "and she doesn't really have a say at home, "but overall agreed with me that it was a dick move. "From my perspective, this dude directly benefits from me. "thanks to his girlfriend not needing a car of her own. "or spending a dime in travel. "and my coworker should have defended me. "Do you all think I'm being petty about this?".

- That's a little bit like wild. - I think it's a little wild. I think like girlfriend, girl should have maybe talked with her boyfriend about it, like, "Hey, he never charges me for like a ride, so like-". - Yeah, like, "He's been doing me a solid for a year.". - "For a long time. "I've offered money, he won't get it. "So like it's just one weekend. "Like, I'll give you the money or whatever. "if it's that big of a deal.". So I think like the girlfriend's not totally like.

in the clear in the situation here. And then I think like OP understandably was frustrated, but the like, "Okay, now you have to give $30 a week,". that's like a little, it feels a little dramatic. - I would've just been like, "I can't give you rides anymore.". - Yeah. Yeah. What sucks ultimately is that her boyfriend. is a huge douche. - Yeah. - He seems-. - Yeah. - Like, that's what sucks here is like-. - [Sarah] Yeah, that's what it is. - His car was in the shop. It was just like, "Can you just like,".

yeah, like you said, just having her, if she had been like, "Hey, would you be able to?". And I wonder if she did, and he was like, (beep). - Is the boyfriend and the coworker. like directly talking to each other? And he was just like, "Give me a $20," or like what-. - A few days of driving one mile is like kind of-. - And it's 'cause his car was in the shop. His car was in the shop, so he told her like, "I can't give you a ride.". - [Sarah] Yeah. - And she said, "Fine, my boyfriend's giving me a ride.". - Yeah. - And then he was just like, "Great. "Can I bum a ride as well?". And then the boyfriend's like, "20 bucks.".

I'm like, Jesus. Like, he sounds like an '80s like jock-. - I need a car and cigarettes. Come on, $20. - Yeah, and I get that he's pissed. I guess what I see is like, he's pissed but he's taking it out on her. - Yeah. Yeah. - And that's where I'm a little like, okay, but-. - I will say like OP being like, "He should show me appreciation.". He's like, "No, I'm not involved in that situation at all. "Why should I appreciate you?". But OP's been doing his girlfriend a solid. - Yeah. - And like boyfriend hasn't been having to worry.

about anything. - Yeah, there's all this conversation. of like showing me appreciation and stuff. I'm like, to me it's not that deep. It's just a matter of like, come on, guys. Like, just be cool. - Yeah, just be cool. - Just give people a ride when they ask for it. - One mile. - Like, even if he hadn't been giving her a ride, and he was just a coworker of hers, and then she was like, "Oh, my coworker, "his car's in the shop. "Do you mind if we give him a ride?". - Yeah. - I'd be like, "Yeah.". - [Sarah] Exactly. - That's just a nice thing to do. - Yep, yep, yep.

Especially when you're like carpooling together. - [Shayne] Yeah, just do that. - OP offered to walk to their house. - Yeah. - [Shayne] Yeah. - And was still being asked to pay. - It sucks. - I think like instead of like the $30 surcharge. all of a sudden, I think it'd be like, "Hey, like I think like what happened with your boyfriend's. "like a little awkward for me, "so I think I just prefer to like drive on my own. "Sorry, man.". - [Shayne] Yeah. - Like, no hard feelings. - Yeah, that's totally fair, I think, to just-.

- Instead of being like, "$30 now a week.". It's like-. - Yeah, I feel bad for her in that situation. - But she should have kind of. like facilitated the negotiation. - [Shayne] Yeah. - 'Cause it's two people doing her solids. - Right. Let's see. The verdict was not the asshole. That he wasn't an asshole for how he went about all of this. - Sure. - Comments. "Petty. Yes. "Asshole. No.". (Sarah laughs). "While she can blame her boyfriend, she went along with it.

"She should have explained to him. "how for over a year you gave her free rides. "and asking for money was tacky for him. "But she didn't. "She just went along with it. "She showed you what she thought of your kindness. "and friendship. "You're just showing her the same. "Not the asshole.". Someone else said, "Not the asshole. "This is truly wild. "It sounds like it's her boyfriend who is the A. "and not really her.". That's how I kind of feel. - [Sarah] Yeah. - "But if my boyfriend made such a request. "after a year of little free rides, "I would be mortified and would never repeat it to you. "Maybe she has some alarming relationship dynamics,

"but either way you are not doing anything wrong, "and I would argue that you weren't even really that petty.". Yeah. - Yeah, I think it's like, it's like you're saying, like just be cool. Like, not everything needs to be transactual. Transactional. - Transactional. - Trans-actually. Transactionally. And also it doesn't need to... Yeah, it just sucks when it becomes like a one-two punch. - It just like blew up. - Now I'm gonna screw you back. - It's just douchey. When someone's in a situation like that where it's like,

"Hey, I don't have a ride to work,". it's like, just give someone a ride. You know they're a good person. They're someone who has helped out someone you care about. Just do them a solid. - Yep. - It's not that hard. - Yeah. - All right. Next up. "Am I the asshole for telling my coworker. "to stop using my personal belongings?". - Oh. - Love stories like this. - What is the personal belonging. - Hmm. - Hmm. - A tampon. - Oh. (laughs). - You done with that? (Courtney laughs). - Sisterhood of the traveling tampon. (laughs).

- Sorry. - "So I, a 28-year-old woman, "have been working at this small software company. "for about three years now, and I genuinely love my job. "I have great coworkers, "and the work environment is generally positive. "However, there is this one coworker, "let's call her Sarah.". - Oh - Oh. - "A 32-year-old woman, "who has been increasingly crossing boundaries.". - I don't work at software. - It's not you. It's not her. It's not her. - "A bit of background. "Sarah joined the company around a year ago, "and we were initially friendly. "We would have lunch together occasionally.

"and chat about random things. "I didn't think much of it, "and it seemed like a normal office friendship.". - Sarah sounds awesome. (everyone laughs). - "However, over time I noticed. "that Sarah had started to use my belongings. "without asking for permission.". - Damn it, Sarah. - "For example, she would take my stapler, pens, "or even my phone charger without asking. "At first, I brushed it off as her just being forgetful. "and not realizing that these were my personal items. "I tried to be understanding and not let it bother me, "but then things started to escalate. "One day I brought in a special lunch I had prepared.

"as a treat for myself. "It was a dish that my grandmother used to make for me, "and it had a lot of sentimental value. "I had placed it in the fridge. "with a note clearly stating it was mine. "When lunchtime came around, "I discovered that Sarah had taken and eaten my lunch.". (Courtney gasps). "I confronted her, and she apologized, "claiming that she thought it was meant. "for the whole office to share. "I didn't buy it, but I let it go to avoid causing a scene.". I thought it was for the whole office-. - How big was the-. - I ate the whole thing. - [Shayne] It was for the whole office, so I ate it. - Whole crockpot into the fridge. - Wow, this is for the whole office, right?

Well, I am the whole office. (everyone laughs). But then, let's see. "Over the next few months, "Sarah's behavior continued to worsen. "She began using my personal laptop without asking, "even though we all have our own work computers. "She would also use my coffee mug and other personal items, "despite me having my name on them. "I tried to address it politely and asked her to stop, "but she would just laugh it off. "and say she didn't mean any harm. "Finally, I reached my breaking point last week. "I had bought a new expensive pair of headphones. "to use at work, and I had left them on my desk overnight.

"When I arrived the next day, "I found Sarah using them at her desk. "I was furious and asked her to hand them over immediately. "She tried to play it off as a joke, but I had enough. "I told her that it was not funny. "and that she needed to stop using my personal belongings. "without permission. "I said it was disrespectful and a violation of my privacy. "The rest of the office heard the commotion. "and some of my coworkers agreed with me. "while others said I was overreacting and should let it go. "Sarah hasn't spoken to me since, "and the atmosphere has become tense. "A few coworkers have even suggested. "that I owe Sarah an apology.

"for embarrassing her in front of everyone. "So am I the asshole for telling my coworker. "to stop using my personal belongings?". - Nah. Sarah's the asshole. - Oh. - Yeah, Sarah's a huge asshole. - Sarah's the biggest asshole. - I feel bad for OP because like they did try. and gently say, "Hey, stop.". And then for Sarah to just be like, "Ah, it's okay. "It's just all good and fun," is tough. But I like, I would-. - That was a great Sarah impression. (everyone laughs).

- It's okay. It's okay. - It's okay. It's all good. - I thought it was mine. - Oh, is that for the whole office? (Shayne grumbles and yells). (everyone laughs). - Okay, but like what I would've done in OP's position. is like maybe go to HR, and then HR could make like a grand statement. to everybody of like, "Hey, everyone has their own personal belongings. "for their job. "Please respect, and everybody use your own.

"so that we can keep track of who has what.". - This is definitely like an HR offense. - 'Cause she's not the asshole for how she went about it, but there is a way to do it while protecting yourself. in a workplace. - [Sarah] Yeah. - I mean, I think she's fine. - It's always so embarrassing though. Like, the lunch thing's like out of control. - That's crazy. - And I'm like, where do you get the audacity to do that? Like, that is crazy. And like your point, if it was for the whole office, why are you heating up the whole thing. and eating it yourself?

But to me it's like, it's always so confusing to me. when people act this crazy in a professional environment. where it's like, I know you have a job, I know your job, and like you are acting like this is just like the wild. and you can just kind of like claim your territory. That's always been like so bizarre to me. when like I hear stories like this. - [Shayne] It's really bizarre. - I've personally never had, knock on wood, I've never had my lunch stolen by like a coworker.

- That's the most comical-. - I'd be so sad. - Like, invasion of privacy I've ever, whenever I've heard those stories online or in TV shows, I'm just like, that's insane to me. - And the audacity of people too, the entitlement, because there's been a lot of stories we've read. where people are having their lunch stolen. and then they like add a bunch of spiciness to it. or something. - Oh yeah. - And the person like tries to sue them. or like gets upset at them, and they're like, "This is your fault.". It's like you are taking shit from them. - You're taking my food. - I don't understand, like respect people's shit.

- And office supplies like a laptop. Like, that's serious to me. - Or the headphones too. - Yes. - Like, that's crazy. - Like, final straw. Reasonably so. - And then the way I'd be label making every single thing. to say Sarah, but not that Sarah on my shit. - I am that Sarah, but I am not that Sarah. - That Sarah. - Yeah. - Does Sarah have an H or no H? - No H. Wait. - [Sarah] See, they're-. - No, there's an H. There's an H. - Damn it!

- It's just like you. It's just like you. - Dang it! - It's just like you, and this is what you were like. - It's giving Sarahs a bad name. - Comments. "Not the asshole, but you need to go to HR.". - [Sarah] Yes. - 19,000 up votes. - When you're lucky and you got a great HR situation, like that's awesome. HR period would've so much helped in this. I also feel bad. Like, literally nothing was able to be sacred to OP. Like, the only way that this per person. could have continued to protect their piece. would've been to like get a safe or something.

- Yeah, like lock it away. - That's insane. - But also, yeah, you go to HR too to cover your ass. 'cause then you can say, "I went to HR about this.". - Exactly, yeah. - And then if something isn't handled, then it's like, hey-. - [Sarah] Get that paper trail. - I can now show that this didn't happen, and my company let me down. - 100%. - Or if you weren't ready, if they weren't comfortable to get HR involved, email Sarah and be like, "Hey, I understand, like, I love that you're comfortable.". - "As discussed today in the office, "like, I'd appreciate it if you didn't like eat my lunch.". - Yeah.

(Shayne laughs). - "You know, my name was clearly labeled.". - "Hey (beep)". - "Hey, bitch.". - Yeah, don't do that. (laughs). - [Shayne] Right, right. - Okay. - No, it's smart. That's smart thinking. Someone else said, "Not the asshole. "The headphones/lunch were yours and not hers. "While I would argue using a stapler isn't harmful, "it just adds to everything else.". - It's my stapler. - "What is most irritating about her. "seems to be she tries to just laugh it off. "and carry on like she hasn't done anything wrong. "Don't apologize. "Wait for her to do that.". Someone else said, "Worked in an office once.

"where the coworker's lunch was repeatedly stolen. "despite his name on the container. "His lunch was kept behind my container. "with a sign that read, "'Eat someone else's food, expect a writeup.'. "Got to the point where he'd just put a slice of moldy bread. "in the container, and I packed lunch for two.". - Oh. - [Shayne] Damn. - Aw. - I don't, that's crazy. - So that person kept getting stolen from no matter what, to the point where they had to rely on somebody else. - That's personal. - I would bring my like own cooler. if the communal fridge was unsafe.

- But that sucks if the communal fridge. is like to that degree. - I know. - I can't believe people do that. - You gotta do what I do, and my lunch is just really shitty and gross. - I would rather someone take $5 from my wallet. than to take my meal, you know? Food is precious to me. That's my personal priority. - I don't like stuff getting stolen from me. - Stealing period, wrong, period. But food is sacred to me and it's special to me. And that's like really intimate. - Sometimes that's like the highlight. of my workday honestly. - Dare I say highlight of everyday, period.

- I meal prep, so, you know, I would know, like if someone was stealing my lunch, I would know. because they'd get really (beep) jacked, and I'd be like, "Hey.". I'd be like, "Hey, Brennan, you're looking pretty buff. "Like, I think you've been eating my chicken. "and rice every day.". - And he'd be like, "What are you talking about, boy?". - He'd be like, "What?". He grabs a camera and breaks it in his hands. I'd be like, "Hey, you need to stop, Brennan." (laughs). - What is like a typical lunch for you then. that you meal prep? - I'm not kidding. It's chicken and rice.

- But like grilled chicken and white rice? - I roast the chicken. I actually throw a ton of seasoning in it. I just throw the whole cabinet at it. So I'm throwing soy sauce in there, soy paste. I'm throwing oyster sauce in there. - [Sarah] Oh, okay. - I'm throwing pepper into there. I'm putting some Korean chili flakes in there. - So it's not as boring. I would take that food. - It's not boring, it's just-. - Me Sarah would steal that food. (everyone laughs). - It's just chicken and then white rice. It's just that. - [Sarah] Got it. - Like, if someone's stealing that, it's like, dude, you can get that easily.

- I want Shayne to cook for me. - Yeah. - He hasn't cooked for me yet, and we've always talked about cooking. - I love cooking. - Cooking. - I know. No, my goal for this year is to try. to make soup dumplings at some point. - What happened to the splits? - I failed. - Oh, you've just given up? - Not fully. - [Sarah] Interesting. - I'd still love to do it someday. - I'm pretty close. - I know you actually started around the same time I set-. - If I had balls, they'd touch the ground. - Wow.

- That's how close I am. - That's awesome. - Isn't it awesome? - I love that for you. - If I had little tiny balls. - If I had little tiny balls, they'd touch the ground. (laughs). - All right. Whoa. Okay. Here's our final story. - This one's beefy? - So this comes from Pro Revenge. "My boss stole my Super Bowl tickets, "so I made him lose a major client.". (Sarah gasps). - What year is this from? - This is from 2023. - Okay. - Whoa. - So this is the Chiefs/Eagles Super Bowl.

All right. - You just knew that? - Yeah, he likes football, remember? - It was a year ago. - Football guy. Okay. - I told you how I was supposed to date Travis Kelce, right? - She was supposed to. She was legally supposed to. - I just had to sign a paperwork and I wouldn't. - [Shayne] You did tell me about that. You could have dated Travis Kelce. - This close. - You could have been doing your Eras tour right now. - Sarah is the Taylor Swift of LinkedIn. (everyone laughs). - That's so gross. (laughs).

- That's so messed up. "With the NFL playoffs back on, "I thought you all might enjoy. "this football-related revenge story. "I'm a huge 49ers fan. "The rabid all day tailgate in the parking lot type. "A few years ago we made it back to the Super Bowl. "I was working at a consulting firm. "with a handful of accounts I would interact with directly.". I just wanna point out, this is from a couple years ago. where it was the 49ers versus the Chiefs, but not this recent 49ers versus Chiefs. - Wow. - Oh. (crew laughs).

(Shayne sighs). - I'm gonna go. (everyone laughs). "One client in particular. "knew how big of a Niners fan I was. "I was the day-to-day lead on his account. "He really liked working with me, and we became friends, "often grabbing drinks or dinner after our meetings. "He had access to a pair of extra company seats to the game, "and as a thank you wanted to give them to me as a gift. "He passed the tickets over to the partner on that account. "who I'll refer to as Dickhead Partner. "to be given to me as a surprise. "The game came and went. "We lost. It sucked.

"The next time we met, we went to drinks afterwards, "and he mentioned, "'Hey, by the way, why didn't you go to the game? "'I heard someone else was in your seats.'. "I asked, 'What game?'. "He said, 'The Super Bowl.'. "Confused I answered, "'I didn't have seats to the Super Bowl.'. "He told me that he gave Dickhead Partner a pair. "of his company tickets for me as a gift so I could attend. "I had zero idea what he was talking about. "He looked shocked. "He told me to quietly ask around about it. "and get back to him. "When I was back in the office the next week, "I found out through one of the secretaries.

"that Dickhead Partner had given a pair. "of Super Bowl tickets to another one of his clients. "as a gift from our company.". - Interesting. - "I might have let this sort of thing go. "to keep the peace under different circumstances, "but these were seats on the 30 yard line. "to see the (beep) 49ers play in the Super Bowl. "I was pissed. "I considered confronting Dickhead Partner myself, "but realized it was the client. "who had noticed I wasn't there in the first place, "so if I let him handle it, "there would be no blow back on me. "So I texted him, 'Hey, I just wanna thank you so much.

"'for thinking of me with those seats. "'It appears that they were given. "'to another one of our firm's clients.'. "He texted back right away in all caps, "'Are you shitting me?'. "And then, 'Pretend I never told you. "'Let me handle.'. "He followed up with me about formulating a plan. "A few days later we were asked to come down. "for a meeting in their office. "The client requested the partner be present, "not entirely unusual. "So Dickhead Partner and I hopped on a flight the next week. "and headed over to their office. "Little did Dickhead Partner know, "my client had orchestrated.

"a wonderfully awkward little show to catch him red handed. "When we entered the conference room, "it was all the usual suspects. "along with a woman in her 30s we didn't recognize. "My client immediately introduces, "'Dickhead Partner, this is Stephanie such-and-such, "'VP from other department. "'She wanted sit in on this meeting. "'Hey, OP, you guys must already know her. "'from the Super Bowl.'. "She then responds as she goes to shake my hand, "'Oh, I don't think so. "'Did we meet there? "'I'm sorry if I forgot.'. "Client responds, "'Geez, Steph, how much did you have to drink?

"'They were sitting right next to you.'. "Client looked at me and I say, 'Sorry, client, I wasn't there. "'Are you thinking of someone else?'. "At this point, "Dickhead Partner is looking visibly uncomfortable, "probably trying to come up with an excuse. "He starts in with an, 'Um...'. "When Stephanie says over to him, "'No, so-and-so from other company were in the other seats. "'By the way, I was wondering why we gave company seats. "'to those guys. "'Is there a project we're working with them on. "'that I don't know about?'.

"Obviously not. "They were in completely different industries. "It would be like Coca-Cola partnering with John Deere.". (Sarah laughs). - Honestly. - That'd be sick as (beep). - Lit. (laughs). - This is a Coke tractor. (everyone laughs). - Honestly. (laughs). - "Dickhead Partner lets out an, 'Uh,' again, "and the client immediately speaks over him asking, "'Dickhead Partner, I gave you those tickets for OP.'. "At this point, Dickhead Partner is turning bright red. "He responds, 'Oh, uh...

"'Well, he wasn't able to make it, "'so he must have given the seats away to someone else,'. "and turns to me looking for me to cover for him.". (Courtney gasps). - Yikes. - "Client smirks at me. "I responded, 'What are you talking about? "'Client, you gave me tickets to the Super Bowl?'. "Client suddenly raises his voice, 'Dickhead Partner, "'those tickets were a personal thank you gift. "'from me to OP. "'Did you give them away to someone else?'. "Pause. "'Was it another client?'. "Dickhead Partner butts in with,

"'Oh, um, maybe something got mixed up in the office?'. "Client went quiet for what probably seemed like an eternity. "to Dickhead Partner. "He then looked down, grabbed his portfolio and iPad, "put them into his briefcase, and said, "'I think this meeting is over. "'OP, it seems as if I owe you a thank you gift. "'Let's go to lunch. "'Stephanie, you're welcome to come join. "'Dickhead Partner, I need to reevaluate our relationship. "'Please go back home and expect to hear from us next week.'. "Dickhead Partner suggests he would like to join,

"presumably to do damage control. "And Stephanie sternly tells him, "'I don't think that's a good idea.'. "And asks the front desk to see Dickhead Partner out. "As soon as he's in the elevator, "we all break out laughing hysterically. "Stephanie wasn't really a VP, "just an employee at the company client had drafted. "into helping with this pre-planned meeting skit. "But she did end up coming to the lunch with us. "and was a fellow Niners fan. "and a total blast to hang out with.". (Sarah laughs). - Fun fact. - "On our way to the restaurant, "I got a desperate text from partner. "saying I needed to cover for the firm.

"and that we could discuss things when I got back. "I replied, 'Yes, we need to talk, "'but I'll see what I can do.'. "Client told me to wait a couple hours. "and then respond to him. "One, to expect invoices for the resale value. "of the Super Bowl tickets. "Resell is way above face value. "It was over $10,000. "As well as our lunch. "He picked a pricey spot and made a big show of overspending. "and that he expected them to be paid immediately. "Two, expected I be given a direct apology. "Three, expected a written apology to his company. "for what he considered theft.

"And four, he will only interact with me. "or another one of our firm's partners, "never Dickhead Partner. "This whole thing caused a stir with the other partners. "And I actually came off looking great. "because it appeared that I had made a good faith effort. "to save the client for the firms. "despite being the victim in this situation. "The client would transfer to another partner, "which meant Dickhead Partner lost his profit share. "on any work with them. "Oh, and the other partners in the firm. "made Dickhead Partner pay the invoices back. "out of his own salary.". - Ooh. - Ooh.

- "In retrospect, "I really have no idea what the hell the guy was thinking. "Did he seriously believe the client. "would just not notice me not thanking him. "for the Super Bowl tickets? "Anyway, the well was kind of poisoned. "for me there long term. "because Dickhead Partner wasn't going anywhere. "I left the firm a few months later. "for a much better position. "Client ultimately terminated their relationship. "with that firm a year later. "He actually now works with a good friend of mine. "at a competing firm. "I'm still pissed I missed out on the Super Bowl, "even though we lost.". (Sarah laughs). "Hoping we make it back this year. "so I can finally go to one in person.

"Go Niners.". - Go Niners. - We are filming this like three days before the Super Bowl. So hope this guy's having a good time. - This whole story is giving "Oceans 11" yards. - Yeah, yeah. (crew laughs). - [Brennan] Shit. - This is like-. - Got him. I got Brennan. - This is like the coffee shop high school kid. but like grown up. - Yeah. - This is like the whole-. - Yes.

- Yeah, exactly. - Okay, so Stephanie pretended to be the VP of the client. and was like, "Yeah, I was at the game. "Why weren't you there?" - "Where were you?". - [Shayne] Yeah. - Okay. Wow. - Pretty, pretty, pretty awesome. That's some "Oceans 11.". - That's gotta be devastating. to learn about an incredible gift that you almost had. and then was literally taken from you. and given to another client. - Huge gift. - But also this is like a huge, yeah, it's like-. - Expensive. - Super Bowl tickets as far as I always assume too,

it's not just that they're expensive, it's like they're impossible to get. - They're impossible to get. I think the Super Bowl this year just to walk on the field. because they have like standing room only I guess. for the Super Bowl, just to walk into the stadium is $8,000. That's what I heard. But like it's like that kind of thing. But I just like don't understand. where Dickhead Partner really thought like he was that slick. that he was like gonna get away with it, 'cause it's one thing to be like a bottle of wine. or something like that, but like this is so big. - I wonder if it's that he just thought like,

"I'm so powerful. "What the (beep) are they gonna even do about it?". - Yeah. - Or maybe there was a lack of thinking. because they were just like, "Oh, a gift like this will make me look really good. "to my other client and solidify my relationship. "with that client.". - I guess we got some information here. The OP is in the ticket queue for this year's Super Bowl. - Aw. Yay. - Yay. - 49ers. - Some comments. "Imagine what sort of human being you have to be. "to essentially steal a $10,000 ticket from a worker.

"Disgusting to say the least. "Level of orchestration and execution on this revenge. "was so perfect though. "Suck it, Dickhead Partner. "The worst part is that had OP actually been at the game, "the 49ers probably would've won.". (everyone laughs). "That's how it works, as every-". - [Courtney] Okay, sarcasm. - "As every football fan knows. "deep in their heart of hearts.". - Yeah, that's funny. - "Holy crap. "I can't imagine the logic in giving the tickets. "to another client. "when the gifting company would likely have other staff. "in attendance.". - Yeah, 'cause they probably have like a box there.

So it's always like the same few people. with maybe a few guests that show up. So like you probably become friends. with like the area that you have. But back to like, you know, what you put out there is what you give. Like, I had a friend, a coworker many years ago say like, you know, what money you lose will come back. And then the same way, like the money you steal will go away. So I think like this is the exact kind of scenario of like, he kind of stole those tickets. and now he's having to like reimburse them.

with his own money. I really believe in that stuff. What you put out there is like what you get back. - Yeah, and like company gifting stuff. Like, it makes sense that it is grounds. of like company theft because like that was like, that company spent money or, you know, there's no such thing as a free lunch. Gave those tickets and, dude, it was fricking-. - And a lot of companies, like I don't know about firms. and like legal stuff like that, but a lot of companies have like anti-bribery. and anti-gift clauses too.

that you have to like watch and sign with HR. So like taking these large gifts, you know, depending on your company's policy can really be. against company policy. 'cause it's kind of like a way to influence it. - Interesting. - Yeah, 'cause so if I had a lawyer and I gave them a gift, you know, like, "Thank you for negotiating. "for me all these years. "You've done great work for me.". But for a lawyer to give me a gift feels different. - That's where it gets a little like shady. - [Shayne] Interesting.

- I don't know. - Have you ever gotten revenge on a coworker? - No. I don't think... - Didn't you find that bag of shit under your chair. that she put? - No, I've just left it there. (Sarah laughs). - That was like a gift. That wasn't revenge. No, I don't think I've ever. had like a very, very bad experience with a coworker. - No. - I wasn't there when all the like crazy stuff. with Defy happened. - I once had a coworker who kept trying to set me up.

with customers at our job. - Oh, uncomfy. - And it was very like, yeah, it was very assertive. And it was uncomfy. And I was super young, so I didn't have like tact yet, and I was like, "You need to stop trying to set me up with men! "Stop it!". And she was like... Never happened again. - "You need to stop setting me up on dates with men!". (everyone laughs). - Damn. - Shayne, I would never get in trouble with anything. - Shayne is, yeah. - So it's like, Shayne's just like...

- Shayne's that guy. Shayne's that Sarah. I mean, but not that Sarah. - Not that Sarah. - I'm not that Sarah. You are that Sarah. - No. - Before we go, Sarah, do you have a favorite Smosh work story at all? - Ooh. - [Shayne] Any sort of favorite thing? - You just want me to, hmm... - Or if anybody does. - Yeah, we've had so many memories together. - Everything. Everything. - I remember, sorry, I'm gonna steamroll. - Okay. Go. - I remember when Smosh had been abandoned,

and then Mythical bought it, and then we literally were so happy. that we got you back on the team. that we literally went out and partied. - We did, we did. That was really nice. It was really nice to come back. That was so nice. Yeah, 'cause it was like, it was a moment. where we really didn't know the future of Smosh, and so it really was like a moment where we were all like, "You know, we gotta do this together. "'cause like we're better together. "So like let's just genuinely, "like, we don't know where the (beep) this is gonna go.

"If it's gonna be around four years later. "or five years later. "Like, let's just band together and like do our best.". And like it's amazing. Like, I am so proud of what you guys have done, and Anthony's back, and-. - I know, man. - It's like, it's come full circle and so, yeah, I think that was a really, really nice memory. And I still watch videos. I still go back. I like watch it fondly. I forget the shit that I've said. (everyone laughs). - I know. - And I'm like, oh, I was in that video? I was in that video? But like-.

- I was waxing people when they got words wrong? - I feel so grateful. that I still can very much like look back on this place. as like my home, and like I miss you guys so much, but I'm so happy for you guys too. Like, I really did what I set to do three years ago. was to become a fan and so like, so proud of you guys. - Aw. - Hell yeah. - I don't wanna cry. - Don't. - Don't cry. - That's other Sarah behavior. (everyone laughs). - All right, well, Courtney, Sarah,

thank you for being here. - Thank you for having me. - Sarah, where can people find you now? - In the fridge. Stealing food. (everyone laughs). - Moldy bread. - No, I'm in the same place I've always been. RudeUnicorns on Instagram and TikTok. I don't post a lot, but I do post sometimes. - Okay. - You know, you wanna see my cats? You miss my cats? They're still around. - Hell yeah. All right, well thank you guys for being here. and thank you for watching. Let us know what other themes. and subreddits you want us to cover on the show, and we'll see you later.

Goodbye! Don't be a Sarah. (everyone laughs).