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- We're back with more Reddit stories, and today I'm joined by my friends, Damien and Ian. - What's up, gamers? - Great to be back, Shayne. - Ian, we've actually been waiting for you. to come back on the show. because our first story here is an update. that people have been wanting us to read for a while now, but we've been waiting for you. Do you remember the story? There was a woman, a young woman who joined, she started a new job and there was a camera in her office. - Oh my god! Oh my god.

- [Damien] I watched this episode. I don't remember this. - Not the cameras. - She had a camera in her office, and she kind of questioned it, but she's like, "Maybe they're inactive.". But anytime she would like be done with her work. and had nothing to do, she would suddenly, her boss would be like, "Oh, here's some work for you to do.". And she'd be like, "I think they're actively watching me in my office.". - And she was like, "It's not like a big deal. "Like, I don't really wanna like raise a concern.". Probably outta fear of losing her job. - What have they done to us as a society. that we're just like, "It's okay.".

- [Shayne] Yeah. - I think when you're in your early 20s. and you finally land your first corporate gig, you know, you don't wanna bungle it by upsetting the boss. - And all the comments were like, "Dude, this is crazy. "You can't stand for this. "Like, talk to them about this. "Figure this out." - So scary. - So we talked about it here on the show, and now there's an update. - Yes! - [Shayne] So here we go. - Yes, yes! - "Update, I don't think my boss knows. "that I know there's a camera in my office.". Okay. "There's no HR, but the camera was removed thanks to IT.

"So as previously stated, "I still never said anything about the camera. "I wasn't really comfortable with it, "but I got used to being conscious of my actions, "so they weren't seeing anything I didn't want them to. "There also isn't some sort of HR to talk to about this. "or anything like that. "But our IT guy came in, and he asked my boss about it. "I wasn't in the room, "so I didn't hear the entire conversation, "but the first thing I heard was my boss saying. "that the camera was there before my office ever was. "Something about using it to see the front door originally. "I guess.

"That was a weird excuse to me though, "because I've been there for at least two months. "at this point, "and there's no way they could have accidentally watched me. "as much as it felt like they had been. "Hearing the conversation out loud also confirmed. "beyond a shadow of a doubt that it was a camera. "and that I wasn't paranoid. "The IT guy must have felt some type of way about it. "because I didn't hear what he said, "but I heard my boss say something about, "'Well, it's not like I was just watching her. "'in her office,' in a sort of quieter, "sheepishly defensive way. "Nobody said anything to me while they were removing it. "They took it from his side, not mine.

"But they instead put it. "where it'd be facing the front door. "This happened just over a week ago. "I haven't posted an update until now. "because I was waiting to see. "if the camera would be put back. "I really wanted to see. "if they were gonna put it back a few days after IT left. "because that would've been wild. "But it's been over a week now, "the camera is still away from me. "It'll take some time. "before I stop feeling like I'm being watched. "all the time though. "I'm really curious what the guy said to my boss, "whether he said something about it not being allowed. "or if he called it flat out creepy, haha.

"But I'm glad he did say something. "as it got resolved without me ever having to say anything. "I'd like to think he low key had my back. "I've still just been acting as if I've never known. "and haven't said anything about it. "And work carries on. "Also, it's so wild. "that this story got put in a Smosh video. "Holy shit.". (crew laughs). "I heard the news back to back, "first the hey Smosh just bought their channel back. "at the same time. "as hey, your post is in a new Smosh video.". (Ian laughs). "I made this post mostly to vent.

"because I couldn't tell if I had the right. "to feel so weird about this situation. "because everyone in my personal circle says it isn't. "that weird, so it's so nice. "that so many strangers are validating how I feel. "To hear people talk about my experience. "on a public platform was a little surreal, I won't lie. "This got so much more traction than I was ever expecting. "But it makes me feel better, so thank you, genuinely. "My experience feels validated and it feels heard, "and I feel better because of it. "I'm still going to stay at this job. "because I still like everyone here and I enjoy my field.

"But now I'll be doing it. "under a little less surveillance, LOL. "The camera comes back, I'll let you know.". - [Ian] Wow. - Yeah, so... - My boss apologized by putting a teddy bear in its place. Thankfully it's always there. (everyone laughs). - Yeah. - Sorry about that whole camera thing, but I hear you're a big fan of cameras, so we got you one right here. - Recording. What was that? It said, "I love you.". - There's one comment here. "I saw this post from the Smosh Pit channel.

"I did like the many comments on the last post, "including staring into the camera. "I hope they'll do an update video, "and we'll all be famous here. "Been watching them since 6/6 2013. "and still watching them today. "As for the OP, I'm glad the camera's gone for now. "You'll let us know if it returns. "Your boss saying, 'Well, it's not like I was. "'just watching her in her office,'. "kind of sounds like they're lying. "and could have been watching you the whole time.". - Yeah. - "Try bringing it up next time you're called. "into their office. "I want to hear the deets now.".

OP responded, "I was absolutely flabbergasted seeing it. "on the Smosh channel. "They were the OG famous YouTubers. "It was cool to see them responding to my story. "and talking about me. "I do still check the office for cameras. "because I still get paranoid, but so far so good. "If I ever bring it up to them, "I'm definitely making an update.". Yeah, if there's ever a camera, if you suspect there's a camera, watch some Smosh videos in your office. and see if your boss brings it up. - Yeah, can you put your boss on the camera real quick?

We just wanna talk to him. - You know what's funny is they're like stoked. that we read this post on this video. I'm also a little starstruck that we got mentioned. in a Reddit. - Yeah. I feel so special. I feel seen. - Yeah, it actually feels trippy, 'cause I've been a lurker on Reddit. for like years and years. So to see like, just to be mentioned on like a random subreddit, not the Smosh subreddit. Like, that makes sense.

But it's weird. - That's funny. - It's absolutely wild. It's sort of like we've reached documentary territory. where like the aspect of by observing something, you are now changing it. There's no such thing as like pure observation. You know, like being observed in your office via a camera. and how you can't work normal anymore. I don't know what y'all said on the first episode, but I do just wanna say to anybody out there. who feels like something's a little bit off. with your work situation, even if it's your first job,

you're just like, "I don't know if this is how it's supposed to be,". you gotta trust your gut and stick up for yourself. And I know it's hard. I know it's hard. But we are controlled through the fear of like, "Well, I guess we'll take your employment away.". Like, you are in the right, and there's no other way that that would be excusable, even if it was just like leftover from another office. Can you imagine like, "Oh my god, why is there this like pit of like meat slurry?". It's like, "Oh, sorry, this used to be a butcher shop, "and we changed it. "We forgot to remove that pit of meat in the corner.". Like, that doesn't apply.

- Yeah, 'cause at the very least, she didn't even feel like she could ask the question. - That sucks too. - You should be able to go and be like, "Hey, is that a camera in my office? "Am I being watched?". - And I'm sorry you felt that way. Like, it's not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. This is all... - But we gotta say, good guy IT. - Yeah, all right. - Good guy IT. - I'm glad she has a Tim. - I'll say this, neutral guy IT. Because unless you're actively working to fix the problem, like reporting the dude, you're just sort of letting things carry on. - I guess we don't know. - [Damien] Guess not.

- It's still been a couple days, but yeah. - It's just like, what a weird thing for the boss. to be like, "It's not like I was watching her or anything.". - Yeah, that's the suspicious thing. - Why'd he even have to like defend like why the camera, I don't know. It's just so weird. - There's like eight CRTVs. on the walls. He is just like, "Yeah, it's good. "Nothing, nothing, nothing!". - It's odd, it's weird. - [Shayne] It sounds-. - The camera was there before it was an office? - 'Cause they moved the front door. on account it wasn't an office before, 'cause they moved the front door, and that's why it was there. I wasn't watching her. - To all this point.

She said, "I couldn't tell if I had the right. "to feel so weird about this situation. "because everyone in my personal circle says it isn't. "that weird.". - That's insane. - Guys, that's weird. - That's insane. - if you have your own personal office somewhere, they're not allowed to record you in it, or at the very least without, look, at least without them telling you. Like, them to try to keep it a secret. makes it all super weird. No, and it's very clear from the get go of this one. and what the boss is saying, that it was weird.

It was not professional in any sort of means. I can't believe, yeah, that is sad. that her personal circle's like, "Yeah, that's not weird.". - Yeah, on that, to that end, original poster, I'm so glad that you're enjoying Smosh videos. Thank you so much. You get a snack, we wanna talk to your friends real quick. (everyone laughs). Good? If anything happens to her, it's on you. (everyone laughs). - Yeah, look, I mean, I do know a lot of people, and I can tend to be the type of person.

that like lets things slide, that I'm just like, if it's happening to me, I'll be like, "Oh yeah, whatever.". But no, it's weird. That's a weird thing, and you have to stand up for it. because, and I know it's scary, but like even if it's okay for you, then it might happen for someone else, and it's just you normalize that behavior, and you need to call it out. It is scary though. - Yeah, I'm trying to think of like a situation. where like employees would think it's okay. and like normal to be filmed. And I guess it's like, I'm guessing like,

'cause this person's young, their friends are young, they might work in service industries. where there's security cameras. - [Shayne] Right. - And like yeah, if you're working as like a cashier. or whatever, like there's oftentimes security cameras. So that's probably the context in which they're thinking. But in an office environment, there's no reason to be filming a person in their cubicle. That's freaky. - I could see if I was in my early 20s, new to the workforce, like in a new job, I wouldn't question things. Like, you wouldn't. I could see myself being that way.

But if something makes you uncomfortable, you need to feel you have the right. to at least ask about it. - I do think we'd be remiss though. if we didn't bring this up. Like, we are three cis men. The original poster is a woman, right? - [Shayne] Yes. - There is an aspect there of like power dynamic difference. And like, you know, we might not think like, "Oh, we're being watched. "It's creepy.". But like, if you're a young woman in the workplace-. - Absolutely. - There is a real possibility. that a boss could be creeping on you. - [Shayne] Oh, totally. - Like, not that it doesn't happen to men, but like it's just more of like a society.

has shown you this can already happen a bunch kind of thing. - Right. I was just saying for anyone who's young-. - Oh, for sure. - And in the work space, you just go, "Oh, this must be how this workspace is.". - Yeah. - That was more of a general comment. Not to like, "Shayne." - Of course, of course. All right. - Nice, you did it. - Next one. "Am I the asshole for trying to help my girlfriend. "without hurting her feelings?". Okay. - Good start. - [Shayne] Okay. - Nothing wrong here. - "I, a 32-year-old man, have been in a relationship. "with my girlfriend, a 24-year-old woman,

"for almost three years now. "When we first got together, she was pretty overweight. "and struggling with her self-esteem, depression, "and anxiety. "Over time, she started to work on herself, "both physically and mentally. "I've been incredibly proud of her progress. "and how far she's come. "Lately though, "I noticed that she's been putting on some weight again, "and it's been affecting her mental health. "She's mentioned feeling down about her body image, "and her struggles with anxiety. "and depression have resurfaced. "I genuinely care for her, "and I don't wanna see her suffer like this. "I thought about talking it out, "but I knew it would just evolve into asking.

"if I'm still attracted to her. "And truthfully, I have lost some attraction. "over the last month or so, "though she does still look amazing for the most part. "I thought it would be-". (Ian laughs). Yeah, I know. - Sorry. It's the "for the most part" for me. Okay. - "I thought it would be better. "to take a more subtle approach, "so I've started adding small amounts of sawdust. "to her food.". - No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no! - I've never been more caught off guard by a sentence.

I'm sorry, let me... - Oh! - "I thought I would take a more subtle approach, "so I've started adding small amounts of sawdust. "to her food. "The idea being it would help her feel fuller faster. "and encourage her to eat less without her knowing. "I was trying to prevent her from falling back. "into her previous state of depression and anxiety. "Unfortunately, my brother, a 30-year-old man, "caught me in the act, and he was shocked/angry. "He told me-". (Ian mimics saw buzzing).

(Damien exhales). (Ian laughs). "He told me I was being manipulative and abusive, "which, okay, a little shady maybe, "but abusive is a serious stretch.". (crew laughs) (Damien groans). "Now my brother is giving me an ultimatum. "He wants me to tell my girlfriend what I've been doing. "by the end of the week, or he'll tell her himself. "He believes she deserves to know the truth. "I think what I've been doing is enough to help her. "without causing her unnecessary pain. "by revealing what I've done. "She's already lost a few pounds. "I told him I would stop,

"and I believe that should be sufficient. "I don't see the point of telling her. "and potentially destroying the progress she's made. "My brother thinks I'm completely in the wrong. "and that my girlfriend deserves the truth. "But I genuinely believe I was doing. "what I thought would be best for her. "And I don't see it as a malicious act. "Am I really the jerk for trying to help my girlfriend. "in this way, or is my brother overreacting? "Should I tell my girlfriend what I've been doing. "or keep it to myself to spare her feelings? "I need honest opinions here. "Please keep in mind that telling her upfront. "that she's put on weight could seriously.

"set back her mental health.". - Okay, well first off-. - Sometimes you get a story that you're just like... - I want to go to bed. (Shayne laughs). Like, I don't know how to continue my day. - I think we're missing some serious context here. I need to know is this sawdust organic? - [Damien] That's a good point. - Yeah, is it keto? Keto sawdust. - Yeah. - Let me read this comment really quick. "You're the asshole. "You were poisoning her food.". OP responded, "It wasn't 'poison.'.

"It was sawdust. "I could see if I was adding laxatives or something, "but plenty of processed foods use sawdust as a filler. "I thought it was a safe way to reduce her caloric intake.". - So I think it's cellulose. 'Cause that was the whole thing with Subway bread. Like, people were like, "Subway bread has sawdust,". because it's cellulose. - Got it. I will say sawdust has a lot of fiber. Ha cha cha cha cha. That's (beep) bad.

- That's so insane. That's like also just like robbing her of like the agency. to like- - [Damien] Yeah. - Oh yeah. - Like (groans). - It's yet another story here. where we see like a man looking at his partner. and being like, "I love her so much. "She's so sweet. "I'm doing these crazy things to her. "because I love her so much.". Like, that's not love. That's control. And I also wanna point out like, look, sometimes age differences are fine. Sometimes it works out.

But as the age difference gets bigger, there's more of a chance for it to be like, this is a little creepy and a little controlling. So when they got together, he was 29, she was 21. It's an eight year age gap. And he's also like, "Yeah, her self-esteem was terrible. "And there's an eight year age difference.". I'm like, well, you have all the power. and control you could ever want. Good lord. - [Shayne] Yeah. - And now he's like, "Yeah, I'm feeding her secretly.". It's just, that's an unhealthy situation. - That's super creepy. - No, it's super insane. - It's horrifying. - It's insane. Look, reading these Reddit stories,

I do notice a correlation. of when dudes are dating a woman much younger than them, there's often controlling habits from these men. - Like, a "I know better.". - I do notice that they're like, "I can help her. "I can fix this.". And it's like, then that's not a relationship to be in. Like, if you believe you're superior to your partner, no, that's not good. That's not healthy. It's a bad mindset. That's controlling. - Also I guess it should be noted,

if you wanna lose weight, don't do sawdust. - [Damien] Oh my god. - [Shayne] Don't eat sawdust. - Like, don't eat sawdust. - If you're feeling like shit, don't eat sawdust. That's gonna make you feel worse. - Sawdust is not gonna make you feel better. - It's so sad because like so much is tied. to, you know, people's weight, and everybody has so much baggage tied to that. in your own personal journey. And I don't know anybody. who's ever like not questioned their own weight. And certain people have like really troubled histories. with that. So for him to basically be implementing.

what would be the result of like an eating disorder. onto this person without their knowledge, it's truly horrific on so many levels. - Yeah, I don't know if I've ever heard. of a secondary eating disorder before. - Like, Munchausen by proxy, but like-. - He literally is like Munchausen by proxying her. in a weird way. Someone commented being like, "You are the asshole. "For starters, I understand that you're trying to help her. "in your own way, but please never add things. "to people's food without their consent.". - Yeah. - "She could have been allergic," or I mean, it's sawdust.

I'm adding splinters to her oatmeal. - I mean, actually. - Someone commented saying like, "Have you made similar comments to her. "that might be making her feel this way?". And he said, "No. "I would never say something like that to her. "I know how damaging it could be. "I was trying to take a two-pronged approach, "if that makes sense. "I thought if we had healthy habits. "and she saw immediate results, "it would help her stay motivated.". Look, we only have this story-. - But sawdust and healthy are not-. - We only have this story to go off of, but he's talking a lot about like,

"Oh, but it makes her, "her mental health," and all this stuff. And I'm just like, it sounds to me like you care more. about this than her. And I think she's, I don't know, that's my assumption based on this story. from his perspective that she can, and he even admitted like, "Yeah, and it's affected my attraction for her.". I think he cares about her weight, and he's trying to use a bunch of excuses. - I think he cares about her weight a lot, and I also think not speaking to her is for him. more than her. He's like, "If I bring this up to her,". because he's afraid to admit to her that it matters to him,

which yeah, that sucks, but like he's afraid to bring it up, "then she's going to be mad at me or feel sad. "and then things are gonna get worse for me.". Like, none of this is from a place of love. It's from a place of like ownership. - [Shayne] Yeah. - And it's really gross. - It's also a crime. - It's a crime, 100%. - I think this is a full on crime. - Putting sawdust in food? - Yeah. I would imagine this, at the very least, she needs to get out of this.

I hope his brother tells her, and I hope she runs for the hills. You're right about the cellulose. But is OP using cellulose or literal sawdust? We don't know. What happens though if you eat sawdust. Sawdust is a human carcinogen. Eating sawdust can lead to intestinal blockages. as well as other gastrointestinal issues. He says she's been losing weight. I wonder if it's actually just causing-. - She's already corked up. - [Shayne] Serious issues. - Yeah, 'cause I think with the whole thing.

of like cellulose and like the Subway breads, people go like, "Cellulose. "Well, cellulose is found in sawdust.". I don't think Subway is dumping actual sawdust in. It's just like it's derived from that, I guess. - Well, these are the dangers that people have. when everyone thinks they're a doctor, right? - That's a good point. - Look, man, you don't understand this shit. He's clearly not a nutritionist, he's not a doctor, he's not even a fitness trainer or anything.

And he's trying to make all these executive decisions. over her health. - Fittin' this sawdust in your food. (Damien laughs). - And his only measurement is weight, which is not an accurate measurement of health. - That's a thing too. - He's so clearly obviously focused on, "Oh, I want my girlfriend to be hotter.". - He's just poisoning her. - He's truly a monster. - [Ian] Creepy. - Well, beyond asshole, actual terrifying man. If that woman watches these stories, run. I hope someone tells her.

God damn. - I'll do it. - All right, next story. Here we go. "Am I the asshole for taking a THC gummy. "at a Christian wedding?". Hell yeah, man. - Awesome. (everyone laughs). - Yeah! - Okay. - Praise to the most high. (everyone laughs). - Whoa. Jesus is just like... (crew laughs). - It's the one time those wafers have tasted good. - Yeah.

- Oh, do you want the rest of these? Just shoveling down the communion wafers. like hand over fist. - These are good, man. All right, here we go. "I, a 26-year-old man, was the plus one. "for a wedding that my roomie, a 27-year-old woman, "was in as a bridesmaid. "I had previously met the couple, a male and female 28, "a few times, and they seemed fine. "I brought a pack of five milligram gummies. "that I would take during the reception, "and my roomie knew I was bringing them. "The wedding was small, about 60 people. "I knew going in that not everyone was allowed plus ones, "but my roomie was as she's in the bridal party.

"The ceremony was nice, and we moved to the reception. "I was seated with three bridesmaids. "and two of the bride's college friends, "20s male female couple. "The wedding party left for pics, "and some food was brought out, so I took a gummy. "I offered some to the couple I was left with, "and they politely declined, "and I thought that was the end of that. "Some time passed and the wedding party returned. "Right away the couple engaged in a hushed conversation. "with the bridesmaid sitting opposite me.". - Oh, here we go. - "I couldn't hear over the music. "The couple's vibe changed.

"And while we were talking as a table, "they would start responding to things I was saying with, "'Oh, I wonder what other fun things you're taking,'. "and, 'Don't let the kids hear you're doing that,'. "in snarky-ish tones. "I became uncomfortable, so I excused myself.". - 'Cause he's high. - "Stepped out onto the patio. "Soon after, my roomie stepped out and joined me. "She informed me that the table started talking about me. "when I left. "And the couple was appalled to find out I brought gummies. "to the reception. "They expressed their distaste for drugs. "that aren't FDA approved and are also apparently Christian,

"which became clear when they stated. "that this was a Christian wedding. "and I should be more respectful. "in not bringing addictive drugs around a celebration. "with kids present. "My roomie thought they were overreacting, "but the other bridesmaids agreed with them. "and debated kicking me out. "I was embarrassed. "and didn't realize I would cause such a reaction. "as they had an open bar. "and plenty of the people were already buzzed, "that couple included. "We returned, and I apologized and tried to explain. "that the gummies are legal. "and not addictive like alcohol or other drugs.

"The man seemed to think that that was a jab at him. "as he was already pretty drunk. "He interrupted me and said, 'You don't get to tell others. "'how much they can drink at a wedding, "'especially when you're a plus one. "'and we were actually invited.'. "The convo died, and we were dismissed for dinner. "I could hear a couple a few people behind us. "for the buffet still talking about it. "and including others in the convo. "At that point, I felt unwelcome. "and told my roomie I was just going to wait. "in the car outside. "She opposed that, but I told her I'd be fine and left.

"I stayed in the car for three hours. "When my roomie finally came, "she told me that when the bride heard about this, "she didn't personally care, "but said I absolutely shouldn't have brought edibles. "as many of the attendees were Christian. "and equated weed to meth or cocaine.". - Okay. - Those are my favorite parts of the Bible, you know? (everyone laughs). Where they talk about weed and how it shouldn't be allowed. - Thou shall not toke. - [Shayne] That's so funny, dude. - I mean, that's crazy to me. Like, when it's so well documented that like alcoholism.

is like such a huge issue. - It's (beep) awful. - And they're like, "You brought addictive drugs." (gulps). Like, come on. - No, no, alcohol is so destructive. Like, you can't make that, yeah. - It's not, but like, you can't make that. But I will say for me, this is probably the most like eh one. that I've ever heard on this show. because like, full disclosure, like I don't think weed is that bad. Like, it is habit forming, but it's not addictive.

And as long as you're like, like anything else, using things in moderation and intelligently, like totally fine. But not everyone's on that same page, and societally like, I think we should be. I think trying to like reduce marijuana presence. does more harm than it does good. But that being said, like, this is not your wedding. And not only that, it's not even something you were invited to. You are a plus one. So like, while I wholeheartedly disagree. with them being like, "It's the same as meth,". and, "Oh, I wonder what else you're doing.". Like, that's crappy and I think wrong. But also it's not their place to be like,

"No, actually my thing is right.". It's like, well, you brought it to their wedding, and they don't want that, so oops. - And to your point, the verdict here was everyone sucks. - Yeah. - And I do agree. I do think when you're invited to a wedding, especially as a plus one, like there's a certain level of respect of like, what is this wedding? What's the vibe? - Right. - Like, and you are bringing something. that people may be uncomfortable with. Is it right that they're uncomfortable with? That's up for debate, but it's not your wedding. Like, the whole point of a wedding is kind of like,

now I do think it sucks that if the bride. and groom are fine with it, then it's like, all right, then it's fine. Like, these do sound like shitty people, but if that's the vibe of this wedding, you know? I don't know. That is tough. - If I was going to like a Christian wedding. with a bunch of people that I did not know, I would not think, "You know what? "I'm gonna get high there.". That sounds like a bad time. - It's only 60 people total, so it's also small.

- That's big too. - I also think it's a lot that he, you know, it's also one of those things too where it's like, hey, if you're gonna do this, don't like go around offering it. to other people you don't know. Like, don't blow your cover then. Like, if you're someone who can subtly do it. and nobody's gonna know... You know, you can still debate on the ethics of that, but you're going around offering it to other people. You clearly made them uncomfortable. - Or vibe check 'em first. - Yeah, vibe check for sure. - Be smarter about it. - And that does sort of bring up like the culture of alcohol. versus the culture of weed, you know,

at least how it is generally viewed nowadays. by like older generations. Like, there is a thing where like if you go to a wedding. and you don't know a lot of people, you can keep a thing of alcohol in your trunk. And like when you meet someone cool, just be like, "Hey, like, come out to my car.". And they're like, "What?". And it's like, "You know, I got stuff in the trunk,". and it's like, "Oh shoot.". And you end up having like four or five people join you. at the trunk. Like, that's a thing that people do. But like weed culture is so hit and miss. And like, again, if it's a 60 person, like if it were a 200 person wedding, it was a party venue and everyone's young,

and someone's like, "Oh, Benifer got high.". It's like, all right. - It's pretty intimate. - It's 60 people in like a church. And it's like the odds of you ending up in a conversation. with Memaw and Pap Pap is like, that's pretty high. - Yeah. - I don't think that would be fun. - [Shayne] Yeah. - It was definitely an odd choice. - Not very self-aware choice. I have a feeling, hearing how these people reacted, I feel like a quick vibe check, you'd have been like, "Oh, not my audience.".

- Yeah. - I like to think that this person actually. just got so high and nobody cared, but they were so paranoid. and they thought everyone was talking about them. And they're like, "I'm just gonna go to the car.". - They were all actually so fine with it. - They're actually like really excited. Be like, "What other fun things do you take?". Like, they really mean it. - He's like, "Oh my god, they're grilling me right now.". - I will say, when you do meet someone in that situation, like it is very rude of them to be like, "What other things are you taking? "Like, make sure you don't talk to the kids.". Like, that is pretty messed up. The way I like to interact with people.

when I like know they're really high, and like it's, you know, it doesn't bother me, but I'd like to do a little game where I just look at them. and I go, "They're coming, they're coming!". And I'm like, "Everyone's mad at you! "They're coming!". And I sort of see what they do. It's really funny to me. - You know what a fun prank. that they all could have pulled on him. is halfway through the wedding, he goes to the bathroom, they all take off their clothes, leave it on the ground, and then they all disappear. He goes, "The rapture!". (everyone laughs). - Yeah, and they all got raptured. 'cause they're good Christians. - I'm sorry. - Oh no! I took the weed.

That's why I'm still here. (everyone laughs). My point of view got overshadowed. by them bringing up like Christian beliefs of weed. And I'm like, what is this? Like, this is where it shows like... Look, this is my point of view. I've seen people talk about it. Like, American Christianism. is just not Christianity anymore. - It's just its own thing. - It's just this weird thing where we have, it's all points of view on American issues and things. that they just say are Christian. It's like there's nothing in the Bible about weed. - Well, that was funny.

- You know, this guy, it sounds like he learned his lesson. He put an edit in saying, "Thanks for the feedback. "Overall lesson learned. "I'm not gonna sweat it though since they were pretty catty, "and I'll never see any of them again.". Fair. I guess if he's never gonna see 'em again, whatever. But he won't do that again hopefully. - But it does shine bad upon his roommate. - It's true. He should care for his roommate. You know what, that's actually fair. I almost think to a degree, you know what? My take, maybe people disagree, you're the asshole only to your friend,

that you kind of like got invited to this wedding, you should only be thinking of like, "Hey, what makes them look good and bad?". - Were we aware? Was the roommate aware that this was going to happen? - Yeah, the roommate seemed all good with it. So I guess that's-. - Yeah, if it's like, "Hey, I'm gonna do this thing.". Like, you probably should be like, "Hey, by the way, my family's super like not down for-". - That's a good point, that's a good point. - But I guess the roommate was fine. The roommate stayed for the whole wedding and-. - So the roommate's the asshole! - I say the car is the asshole. Divorce the people, marry their parents.

- Yeah, yeah, yeah. All right. - [Damien] Done. - Next story. This is from Relationship Advice. - We got this. - We got this. - So good. - This is a 26-year-old woman. "I left trip early because my boyfriend, who's 28, "and his friends embarrassed me to tears.". - Oh. - Oh. - Okay. "Okay, strap in because this is the most bizarre. "and embarrassing thing that has ever happened to me. "Throwaway account, first time poster, et cetera. "So I went on a ski trip with my boyfriend and his friends. "It's their annual trip, and the first time I went.

"We've been together for two years. "The group that goes is him and five of his friends, "four guys and one girl all late 20s. "I have met two of the guys before, "but the other two and the girl I've only met briefly. "over FaceTime. "They knew I was coming on the trip, "so they VRBO this house about 10 minutes. "from the ski resort." - Oh my god. - "We are a few days in for this weekly trip, "and everything is fine. "The only problem has been the bathroom doors. "don't seem to lock. "Important for later. "There had been some near embarrassing moments, "but nothing major until day four of seven.

"I'm not a huge drinker, "especially around people I don't know well. "I wanted to just nurse a drink while we all talked. "and they drank. "We haven't been eating the best and have pizza before this. "My stomach was bothering me, "so I excused myself to the bathroom on the main floor. "I should have gone in the one upstairs, "but you know what they say about hindsight. "So I'm on the toilet, obviously taking a poop, "when the doorknob starts to move. "I am in here, but his female friend comes in anyway. "I don't know if it is because it was me. "or she was too drunk to hear or care.

"She honestly smells what's going on. "and makes a big ruckus to the rest of the group. "that I'm pooping. "I told her to please get out as calmly as I could. "because I was starting to get very upset. "She was making a big deal over a normal bodily process. "So she goes to leave the bathroom, "but basically throws open the bathroom door to do so. "Three of the four guys are there in the hallway, "and she's exposed me to them. "Now I'm very upset and mortified. "I yelled at her to get out and to shut the door behind her. "They all are standing in the doorway. "and not listening to me.

"My boyfriend notices what is going on. "and comes into the bathroom. "I think he's going to yell at his friends, "but instead the drunk asshole comments on how bad it smells. "in the bathroom. "He leaves, but doesn't take his friends with him. "They continue to point and laugh. "while I'm in a vulnerable state. "I think they were making potty jokes, "all while I'm sat on the toilet, pants at my ankles, "keeping my knees locked shut. "I start screaming at this point. "to get the (beep) outta the bathroom. "and shut the (beep) door over and over. "I am actually crying at this point because I'm so mortified. "and I've never been in such a bizarre situation.

"My crying and screaming. "finally got the drunkards' attention. "She shuts the door behind her. "Now I'm breaking down in the bathroom. "I'm still crying and trying to get sorted, "so I can be done and wash my hands. "and get the hell out of this room. "While washing my hands, "all I can think is that my boyfriend didn't help at all. "I know they're drunk, "but I don't think that's much of an excuse. "They've just been drinking beer, "and I think he'd had four so far. "I'm absolutely mortified. "and decide to just go into the bedroom. "However, when I come outta the bathroom, "still crying a bit, by the way, "all six of them start howling with laughter.

"and pointing at me. "It's like one of those crazy nightmares. "where everything seems more dramatic. "than real life should be. "I just look at my boyfriend, meet his eyes. "and everything to show how upset I am, and they don't stop. "I go upstairs to our room and pack. "I can't go three more days with these people, "and I don't wanna sleep in the same bed. "as my drunk boyfriend. "Drunk or not, "they're being incredibly disrespectful and childish. "I don't think I've ever been so embarrassed. "I finished packing, change my flight to the next morning, "and order an Uber to go to the airport hotel.

"I gather all of my things. "and walk downstairs to get my coat and leave. "They all start laughing when I come back in the room, "but boyfriend finally notices I have bags with me. "I silently put my coat on. "Boyfriend yells, 'Where the (beep) are you going?'. "'Airport,' is all I say. "Now he is yelling, and they're all yelling, "saying it was just in good fun and I should lighten up, "have another beer, et cetera. "No one apologizes, not even boyfriend. "He just seems so mad that I'm leaving. "I tell him I'll see him in a few days. "and walk out to my Uber. "Once I'm finally in my hotel room later, "I curl up in bed and cry.

"I definitely did not see this being the way my trip ended. "Once I flew home the next morning. "and got back to my apartment, I had so many texts, "missed calls, and voicemails from my boyfriend. "They ranged from apologetic to angry to accusing. "as if I did something wrong. "by going to the freaking bathroom. "I haven't responded yet, and he comes home in two days. "I haven't even read all of the texts. "because it got more upset. "How the (beep) am I supposed to face these people again? "It just seems like the most bizarre and surreal experience. "I think I'm more upset that my boyfriend did nothing, "even when I was screaming and crying. "He didn't stop me from leaving, he didn't follow me out.

"He just yelled at me. "and asked me where the (beep) I was going. "How could he not make sure I'm okay? "Even now I was upset enough to leave, "and his texts that I did read are not supportive. "No apology. "Basically, I put a damper on the trip. "I'm dramatic. "It wasn't that bad. "But I made a terrible impression with his friends. "What about their impression of me? "Because I'm having some pretty strong thoughts. "Right now, I still have a boyfriend. "That might be changing in a few days. "I love him, but I do not like his reaction to all this. "Why the (beep) am I getting blamed?

"I did not receive this type of deal breaker.". What the (beep). - I mean, like, it's so funny 'cause like I was thinking. and then she said it, like, this feels like one of those like nightmares. Like, legit. Like, "Oh, she's pooping! "Everyone look!". And everyone's like, "Hahaha.". - This truly sounds like the logic of like a sketch. that we would write. - Yeah. - Where it's like, oh yeah, this is so insane. This would never happen in real life. - It's so bizarre. Like, and also, you know, when she was like,

"Well, I love my boyfriend.". I'm like, you've never met your boyfriend. because that was your boyfriend. When you've had a few drinks. and you're laughing along with your friends, like that's your boyfriend right there. And I just... How could you ever get that trust back? - I do almost see a version. where this could have been a funny moment for everybody, but she made it very clear that it wasn't, and they didn't apologize.

And I think it's one of those like, it's almost like one of those like mob mentality moments, like, when like everybody gets on board with something, it's like hard to like shift that sort of like thinking, you know what I mean? - Yeah. - And like it's, I mean, she has every right to be angry, and like I think the boyfriend. at this point is probably embarrassed. Like, it's clear that he's like thinking more. about himself of like, "How does this look for me? "Because now my girlfriend seems ridiculous and crazy.".

But it's like, yeah, she had every right to feel embarrassed. She was exposed to a group of people. - That's the thing. Like, exposed to a bunch of people like involuntarily. Like, that's a huge violation. - Yeah! The girl like enabled it. - So like yeah, which is absolutely so rough. And on top of that, like to have the boyfriend use the, excuse me, specific phrasing of like, "Where the (beep) are you going?". That is violent language to use against someone like that.

And I don't care, like, I don't care if someone is making direct eye contact. with you and making lava plops in the middle of the floor. Like, if they're like, "I need help,". you're just like, "Got it.". Like, there needs to be a point of like, there's no more joking. Like, when you're being tickled. and you're about to throw up, you need to be like, "Stop!". And eventually someone gets it. - Right. - Wow. - And he's known her for two years. He's been in a relationship with her for two years. He should know her comfort levels on things. - Yeah. - You know, they're not on the set of "Jackass.". Like, this is real life.

And he should know that with people that she's just met. for the first time especially, like this is not okay at all. She's making it very apparent. - Yeah, I don't see this as something that like, it's like, oh, you need to dump him. But I think this is a very big learning opportunity. for this guy and the friends. - I think you need to dump him. - We got a bunch of comments here. Someone said, "(beep) that guy. "The fact that he wasn't furious. "with his asshole buddies invading your privacy.

"shows his character. "You weren't his girlfriend that night. "You were their entertainment. "Dump his ass and never look back. "He obviously does not respect you.". Someone else said, "You know this relationship is over. "He didn't have your back.". Someone else said, "Okay, so I went through a similar situation minus the poop. "with my ex at his brother's birthday. "It was a nightmare. "Everyone else was making fun of me and getting (beep) up, "and I was in the middle of nowhere stuck with these people, "and my boyfriend would only come to check on me. "to tear down more and yell at me, "which meant I would hide more and cry,

"which would piss him off more. "Repeat for three days as I had no way home. "It won't get better. "I don't know why I thought it might. "or why I didn't care more, "but that relationship almost ruined me. "Your partner should have your back, "otherwise, what's the point? "Do what I wasn't brave enough to do and forget this guy.". I do agree. This is like... It was just this such a prolonged amount of him not caring. about her, like so long. And like even the days of all the texts. and stuff not apologizing,

it's like, you've had time to think about this, you know? - Yeah, but I don't think he has. Do you know what I mean? Like, he's still with those people. that are enabling that thinking. - But that would scare me to be with someone. who I'd be like, "Oh, if you're influenced. "by the right people, you could (beep) me up.". - Oh, for sure, yeah, yeah, for sure. - So, but wait, what were we gonna say? - I was just gonna say also like, you know, if he has been with her for two years and he hasn't, like say for instance,

let's give him the benefit of the doubt, and he's like, "I really didn't know she was mad.". Like, that is a colossal problem because after two years, you should know your partner's comfort level. You should know, you know, when they're joking around. and when they're being like, "I need your help.". And if you're still after two years being like (chuckles). Like, that's not even a matter of like not having her back. Like, that is antagonistic. That is a problem. It's scary. Icky. - And at like 28, I don't know, man. - They're 28? - [Shayne] He's 28. - That's a manchild. Get him outta there.

- It is scary. - Push him in the pit. - So there is an update. - All right. - Oh god, let's see. Am I gonna like it, Shayne? - He got back. Did they fix it? - He poops too to make it up to her. - She starts, "Possible trigger warning, drug use.". - Ooh. - Okay, so... "So boyfriend came home a day after I did. "He called me before his flight. "and asked to come over to my apartment when he got back. "I agreed. "I needed a flipping explanation for their bizarre behavior. "before I could decide what to do in our relationship. "He's been wonderful and respectful for two years.

"and then that? "At that point, "I decided I didn't wanna see his friends again. "They're unimportant to me. "So he gets here, I let him in, "and right away I see he is noticeably nervous and twitchy. "He sits on my couch. "I sit separately on my recliner. "He blurts out, 'Are we over?'. "Depends on what you have to say. "unless you want it to be over. "He says 'no' before I finish. "Okay then, "so I tell him to explain what the (beep) happened. "So he and his genius friends took LSD and shrooms. "Female friend took shrooms only.

"The guys were a mix of both with alcohol. "My boyfriend said he took LSD only. "I flipped a bit. "Why the (beep) didn't he tell me? "What if one of them had a really bad reaction or trip? "Shouldn't the one person. "who didn't take drugs know they did. "to be able to keep them safe? "I've done it, and I wouldn't have judged them. "He knew I'd tried in college and had a bad time, "like nightmare fuel bad. "No real answer on that. "It is his decision to take something like that. "But I am more upset that they weren't really safe about it. "That wasn't okay to omit that.

"He agreed that was a dumb decision. "He said it's been about six years since they last tried it. "I asked him to explain his asshole behavior. "the next morning then. "He says he and guy friends didn't remember the reality. "of what happened. "But shocker, female friend B did. "The bitch that she is laughed. "when explaining it later that afternoon. "The guys were horrified. "Boyfriend is rethinking friendship with her. "I said, 'I never wanna see her again.'. "Not an ultimatum, just a fact. "So once he knew he was embarrassed. "and didn't want to apologize over phone or text, "so he came home early.

"He took the time to get his itinerary. "and thoughts sorted, he says. "He asked for my side of it, "and I just let him read my first post. "It was too hard to say. "He gave me a huge hug after, "apologizing between forehead and cheek kisses. "We agreed to work through it. "I could practically smell his relief. "He thought I was done with him. "I did too before we talked and got an explanation. "We set boundaries. "No secrets, "even if we think the other is going to be upset. "Better to talk through things than have issues later. "My main sticking point was that I didn't want that B.

"in our lives. "The fact that she acted that way when she was mostly sober. "and could recant the entire thing. "while laughing is unacceptable. "I don't know what kind of personality trait. "or disorder makes that possible, but I don't give a (beep). "She's disgusting.". - I diagnose her as a pick me. (everyone laughs). - Ding, ding, ding. - "He understood and messaged the guys in front of me. "He told them I was giving him a second chance, "and he explained what happened. "They asked if they could FaceTime us later to apologize.

"We said yes, but without B. "They understood and agreed. "Their apologies later that night were all very sweet. "and genuine. "Boyfriend spoke with B a few days later. "and then blocked her all while beside me. "These last couple of months, he has really stepped up. "and shown me how important I am to him. "and how much he loves me. "We both upheld our side of the boundary of no secrets. "It's actually been awesome. "to just talk through any issues, feelings, et cetera. "We were great before this bizarre incident, "but things are strangely better now. "I wouldn't have thought that when I wrote my first post.

"We are talking about moving in with one another next year. "B did try to reach out several times, "but more so after my post was on TikTok. "She was screaming that I needed to take it down. "It's not like anybody has any idea who she is in real life. "for (beep) sake, the drama. "Boyfriend's friend group has all shut her out. "since the trip. "Apparently she's always had an excuse. "about why a new girlfriend of theirs didn't like her. "or misheard her." - Oh. - "She's created more issues than they realize. "during their 14 year friendship. "My boyfriend knows I have no issues.

"with him having friends of any gender. "but agrees we don't need her stereotypical. "female best friend behavior in our lives. "I don't know if she has feelings for any of them. "or just likes their attention, "but whatever it is no longer my problem. "I don't know if this is the update you hoped for. "or if you are all rooting for boyfriend to get dumped hard, "but please know I'm genuinely happy with my outcome. "Thanks for taking our own crazy trip with my story. "and update. "Had to make light of it. "You all have been wonderfully sweet and supportive. "It was incredibly appreciated.".

Wow. - Yeah, okay, okay. So I don't feel so bad about my stance. I mean, they worked it out. I felt like they could. - I mean, sure. I didn't predict that this was happening. - No, I didn't, I didn't. - I went with her assumption of four beers, you know? But to be fair, I don't know a ton about like what LSD. and shrooms, you know,

how much that would affect your mental state. where this situation would be handled. I can't speak to that. - Yeah, there's some serious dumbassery there. I don't know why you wouldn't-. - I definitely do not like that they all took it. and didn't tell her. - That's what I was gonna say. - [Shayne] That's crazy to me. - This doesn't absolve anything for me. because there's a couple things. that are majorly wrong with this. One, she did not consent to being in a room. with a bunch of people. who are on a little bit more hallucinogenic. and heavy drugs. I'm not one to judge drug use.

You know, do what you gotta do safely. But like that's a lot to deal with. To be the only sober person in that scenario, like, that's a lot. - It's a big responsibility. - Huge responsibility. - And like if someone actually does get hurt. and you've gotta call medical authorities, it's like, what's going on? It's just like, "I guess he fell down.". Like, they would need to know that. And thing number two is the fact. that all of those friends together decided to do that. and he just didn't tell the girlfriend-. - It's weird. - Says a lot about the relationship to me. It's like she's a problem or a wet blanket.

or like, you know, well it's gonna be a fun thing. for we to do, but like don't tell Bethica, or like, it's just- - Super weird. - There's so much wrong with it there. And like the fact that it's like, "He apologized and gave me a forehead kiss.". I'm like, yuck, yuck, gross. Like, I wanna recoil at that. Like, I'm glad she's happy, I really am, and I'm trusting this adult to know what is best. for herself. But like it still doesn't sound safe. And just because that other girl. was a huge problematic influence on these people.

doesn't mean they didn't still like engage. in this behavior time and time again. They're like, "Yeah, it's the typical like female jealous best friend.". It's like, okay, sure, she's rough, but four people got puppeted by that I guess at best. Like... - So we got some comments here. Man. Someone said, "Good luck wasting your years with him.". Damn. - I mean, kind of. - Someone else said, "So your partner got high with his buddies. "without clueing you in, mortifyingly embarrassed you, "and pinned it all on a girl. "Sounds like a charming group of guys.".

- Yeah. - Someone else said, "OP, I've been on shrooms and LSD and let me tell you, "it doesn't wipe your memory. "They all knew what happened. "You especially remember when you are laughing hysterically. "and making a big deal about something. "Nah, he and his friends ain't it.". Last comment we have here is, "This is literally an insane update. "There is nothing in this world. "that would make me forgive anyone. "who interacted with me like that. "Do you have difficult family members. "who you are often forced to forgive. "in order to live peacefully? "If so, "analyze if this is just that behavior being repeated.

"Being alone would be better than being with a man. "who so deeply disrespected you.". Yeah, I also wanna point out in the original post, even after all of this, before this update, she still was like, "I don't know, I love him, "but I do not like this is his reaction.". So that wasn't the end of the line. before she found out about all this drug use and everything. I do think she is- - It's tough. - I don't know. I tend to kind of side with these comments. And yes, she's an adult.

She's allowed to make her own decisions. She's allowed. She has every right to go about this as she wants. But I mean this is... I agree with you that there's a lot to this. The original post was in March, the update is in July. So she's been saying for months things have felt way better. I just, maybe this is a very shitty thing to say. I am skeptical of what her idea of like, "Things are great.". I'm just like- - That's tough, yeah. - Man, like, I don't know. But we only have this story to go off of.

But it seems like all the comments are skeptical on it. - Yeah, I mean I think really, you know, our relationship advice tends. to lean towards everyone saying "dump his ass.". And most of the time, like a lot of times these stories involve some form. of abuse, in which case I'm all for being like, "That's abuse, that's an abuser. "Cut him out.". - [Shayne] Yeah. - This I'm like, this is a really shitty situation.

This was extremely disrespectful. I think you can learn from something like that. And I think you can grow from something like that. To me, and this is obviously not my life, but I think it's something you can grow from and grow past. - I have a thought on that, 'cause I think it is very valid to like talk about wanting. to learn from mistakes and grow. Like, I think not just on, you know, this format,

but like societally in general when we hear something rough, we're just like, "That's it done.". So like I understand that there probably should be a path. for redemption in a lot of cases. unless someone's safety is concerned. I think though what that requires is accountability. And you would have to look at the situation and be like, "What was actually wrong with this at its core?". And I think that was a lot of what we were saying. about like the disrespect that came. from like not telling someone, yada, yada, yada. And it seems like the resolution of this was like, "He's gonna be nicer, "and he is not hanging out with that mean girl anymore.

"He won't do drugs again.". As opposed to like, "No, you made the active choice. "to really mess with me. "and like put me in a very dangerous situation.". Like, that would've to be addressed, and you'd have to grow from that. And if that ends up happening, great. - 'Cause she doesn't list any like examples, but she just keeps saying like, "We've had full honesty for months.". They say this girl had been their friends for 14 years, so I'm assuming these are high school friends. So the excuse that I could see some people saying is like, you know, they're falling into old habits,

old high school habits. I still-. - Boys club type. - Yeah, and one girl. I think all I can say is if I was in this situation, it would be less about like, "Oh, you're bad and I need to dump you because you suck,". and more that I'd just be like, "I don't know if I can recover from this. "Like, I don't know if I can mentally.". Now that's me saying my own personal reaction. to these things. You know, and also like the under the influence excuse,

I just don't buy it. And like look, these people in the comments, like I said, I don't have personal experience, but a lot of people are saying like, "Hey look, I've done shrooms and LSD, "and you don't forget things. "Like, he's lying to you.". If he's saying you guys have full honesty. and he's lying about that still, then he's lying about you guys being. on this full honesty kick right now. And at the very least I would say to her, I'd be like, "At least, you know, "you guys are saying you have full honesty, "but if something happens now, if something happens again,

"you need to walk." - He's on notice. - [Shayne] Yeah. - For sure. Oh yeah, I mean he's gotta do a lot of work to regain trust. - Yes. - [Ian] Absolutely. - Yeah. Well anyway, that's crazy. - That's a wild one. - Bonkers. - [Shayne] That's nuts. - He sounds like a dumbass. - He really does. - He does sound stupid. He does sound very stupid. - He just sounds like a dumbass. Not that I'm excusing his behavior, but he's a dumbass. - There are a lot of stories we read where it's like, okay, is there asshole-ery exceeding their stupidity? Like, which one is leading the charge?

- This is stupid, this is stupid. - There's like that, god, a philosophical theorem. about like you should never assume malice. when I think it's like ignorance. or stupidity can like serve just as well. But then there's the addendum to that of like. at a certain point stupidity is indistinguishable. from malice. It's like yeah, you might just be stupid, but you're still messing things up. - At a certain point, it also doesn't matter. - [Damien] Yeah, that's I'm saying. - This is someone that you're supposed to be relying on. - Yeah. - And that's scary. - That's somehow worse.

It's like, "Oh, you're too stupid for me. "to have you be by my side.". - All right, next story. "Am I the asshole for ordering more food. "after I heard we were splitting the check?". Nice. - We can just skip this one. Yeah. For sure. - Okay, so, "I, a 21-year-old guy, and a few friends went. "to celebrate a mutual friend's birthday. "It was organized by his partner, "and we were planning on going. "to a kind of upscale restaurant in our city. "Think suit and tie dress code enforced. "I showed up with my girlfriend, "and we were having a good time.

"We checked the prices beforehand, "and me and my girlfriend set a budget we wouldn't go over. "since we have other priorities. "besides dumping it all on a dinner party. "We ordered the food and are having a good time. "We stay under budget. "But I notice my friend's partner continuously ordering more. "and more expensive drinks and foods. "I don't think much of it since it's his partner's birthday. "But when the bill comes, "the table of 10 is suddenly told the gifts we're expected. "to give is for us to split the check. "Now, it's my friend's birthday, "and I've known him for close to a decade.

"I would've been fine splitting his bill, "however expensive it should be. "To put it into perspective, "me and my girlfriend's bill came out to just under $200, "give or take. "The entire bill was nearing $800, "and they still wanted to get dessert. "I noticed me and my girlfriend had the least amount of food. "and didn't get multiple appetizers, drinks, et cetera. "The thing is I know I'm more financially stable. "than my friends my age. "since I really just had the cosmic luck. "of landing a decent job out of school. "So I could have contributed,

"but frankly I felt this was a trap to get me to pay more. "than we budgeted. "If they communicated prior to the dinner as an obligation, "that's one matter, but suddenly telling us. "after everyone is mostly done eating dinner seems sketchy. "at the very least. "I had a quick text conversation with my girlfriend, "and we both decided to order expensive desserts. "raising the price even more. "Now suddenly when the bill comes, "some people, especially my friend's boyfriend, "doesn't have enough money to split the bill equally. "between everyone. "They started bickering in a public restaurant, "and my friend accuses me of intentionally raising the bill. "outside of their budget.

"I counter with how it was kind of rude. "to just expect people to pay stuff for him. "And he said it's his birthday. "To keep the peace, I paid for only his meal, "but left his drink and dessert tab. "for everyone else to split. "I left with my girlfriend and paid our bills. "When we were leaving, "they were still arguing over the bill. "That was yesterday. "I woke up this morning to find on multiple social media. "how I'm such a terrible person, "how I raised the bill by ordering extra food. "Mind you, they were all planning on desserts. "while we weren't. "My girlfriend says I did the moral thing of paying.

"for my friend's food, "but I'm livid I got peer pressured into it. "Am I the asshole?". Some info here. "Decided to put the vague prices. "since I know my friends have Reddit. "Me and my girlfriend's bill came up to $200, "just entrees plus one appetizer we split.". - Wow. - "The bill was nearing $800. "at just entrees plus appetizers. "The final bill came out to 1.2K-ish. "But the crime comes in. "when you add up the additional drinks. "For 10 people, it came out to 2K plus.

"And most importantly, myself and my girlfriend didn't drink. "since we worked this morning.". - Wow, wow! - Wow. - I mean, that changes things, the drink part for sure. - Yeah, bro. - Wait, wait, wait. So they spent $1,000 on just alcohol? - They spent 2K plus. - They spent 2,000 plus. They spent 1,200 on food and over 2,000 on drinks? - So doing an even split for them, that would've total been around 600 bucks.

before tax and tip, combining their share of drinks and appetizer. - The way he wrote it out is strange. The overall bill was over $2,000. - Got it. - But they didn't have any drinks. - So they didn't share in that split of the drinks? - Yeah, I mean, regardless of the amount, it is very high. I think for most people's, you know, monetary income, if you're very wealthy, this isn't even a discussion. But for anybody who this matters to, this is a lot (laughs). This is a lot of money. - It's a lot of money. - So like I personally have an issue.

with splitting a bill usually. because I don't drink because I don't order as much. When people are like, "Appetizer, appetizer. "Well, the whole table's gonna have a bite. "Get it.". It's just like (groans). It kind of frustrates me, but like... - Especially at a really expensive place. - That's really tough. And I think there's a common thread here, 'cause we also had that other one, that other Reddit story a few episodes back. where someone was like, "I'm throwing a party for myself. "and I wanna charge my friends admission.". I don't think on your birthday it's ever a good move. to be like, "Everybody pay for this for me. "'cause it's my special day and I'm a special boy.".

- Yeah. It's weird. - I think if you're at dinner. and someone is like, you know, it's their birthday, you can like whisper to people and be like, "Shayne, man, we got this. "No, no, no, don't pull out that wallet. "We got this. "We'll split for you.". - Right. - Otherwise that sucks. - Yeah, also I will say like, good point. The birthday boy is the (beep) asshole here. because they said, "Well, everyone's gonna pay for me. "I'm gonna find the most expensive restaurant in my city,

"and they're gonna pay for me.". What? - And he didn't let. at least some of them know until they were done. - Yeah. - [Shayne] That's insane. - That's insane. - That's absolutely insane behavior. - That's like a reverse treat. Like, once everyone's eating it's just like, "Hey everyone-". - [Ian] You're paying for it. - "This meal's on me.". Like, he did it wrong. It's like, "Everyone, give me $500.". - Yeah, it's absolutely absurd. It sounds like some of the friends were in on it though. on like the split, and they were trying to like amp it up. The fact that they didn't drink, but then everyone got mad at them for having a smaller bill-.

- Order some more. - This all seems so shady and weird. - I mean, like, yeah. - Also the OP is 21. (laughs). - Oh my god, they don't have that kind of money. What? - Well, he said he got lucky and has a decent job, but it doesn't matter. Like, they were trying to budget, they were trying to do their thing. - It also like- - Dude, I'd be so-. Sorry. - Sorry no. I was just gonna say like, even if they do have the money, like (sighs). Money is like... Money's a tricky thing. Like, that is tied to so many things in life.

And regardless of whether or not someone makes money, you might wanna budget, you might wanna live below your means. Like, it doesn't mean you should. just be a huge spender all the time, right? So just because they're assuming like, "Oh, he makes good money.". Like yeah, he can help out his friend, and if he wants to help out just his friend, great. But that assumption sucks. And at first, like when you're reading the story, I was like, "Oh, you're ordering the most expensive desserts. "to ratchet up the bill. "That's kind of spiteful. "You're doing it intentionally. "You didn't even want dessert. "That sucks.". And now I'm just like, "All right, do your thing.".

- Yeah, I mean like-. - 'Cause they paid for their own food. So they didn't ratchet up the bill. They paid for their own food. They removed it from the bill. - Did they? Okay, I missed that. - Someone said, "ROFL. "If I was you, I would pay only for my own food. "along with the girlfriend. "and let the others split their food. "if that's what they wish. "It's inappropriate and rude to attend a birthday, "order food, and then say, 'We're gonna split it all.'. "That's not how birthdays work, "but it's a good way to manipulate someone. "Not the asshole.". Someone else said, "When I read the title, "I was so ready for you to be the asshole in this situation,

"but nope, I don't think you are. "I think it's really shitty behavior. "when people know that they're splitting a bill, "so they start ordering cocktails, multiple hor d'oeuvres, "expensive main courses, et cetera. "It's clear that everyone was doing this. "because they expected you to cover it. "I can't believe that your friend. "actually allowed you to pay for his meal. "after everything that happened. "If that was me, I would've been so embarrassed. "and would've insisted on paying for my own food to prove. "that I wasn't just using my friend for free food.". Yeah, I will say like, you know, yeah, a birthday's your special day to a degree.

I do think selfish people often use it as an excuse. - 100%. - Like, it's like, oh, here's my my get outta jail free card today. It's like, no man, you could still be an asshole. on your birthday. - Yeah. - Like, there's still rules, there's still etiquette, there's still respect. - It's the Purge! It's my birthday. It's the Purge. You can do whatever. - There's also like way easier ways. to just like be responsible for what you ate. at a restaurant. It's called Venmo, bro. You take a picture of the receipt and you go, "You did that, you did that, you did that, you did that.

"Tip is what? "Okay, we all split that,". and you Venmo that person the amount. - Right. - And then you don't have to like, like it always puts such a damper on the mood. of like a good night out with your friends, and you're all having a great time, you have a couple drinks, the bill comes, and it's like this mad like kind of thing of like, "Okay, who's paying for what? "Like, okay, like you got that.". It's like, bro, just take a picture of the receipt. Like, give everybody your Venmo. One person puts their credit card down.

You get some sick points and then-. - Good point. - And then, you know, you just hold people accountable. for paying you back on Venmo. - And if someone doesn't pay you back, you don't ever get dinner with that person again. - Well, you shake 'em down. (Shayne laughs). - You dangle him off a roof. - Like, if you ever have trouble, I'll be right behind you. I'll be like, "What're you trying to do?". (Shayne laughs). - No, I remember talking this one guy. that he was on this thing. with like a bunch of like rich people, and they went.

to this like nice like Michelin star restaurant, and then one of the people said like, "Oh, he's good for it," like in the middle of the dinner. And he's like, "What the (beep)". And he literally like chased down the people later. for their money. - Yeah. - I can't imagine-. - People he didn't even like know that well. - I can't imagine thinking. that way of just assuming someone's gonna cover you. I'm just glad that I don't feel like this is an issue I deal. with with my friends, so that's all I can say.

- Yeah. - I stole from you for years when we were roommates. - Well, that's all right. - Sold your blood. - Anthony did it to Ian too. - I heard about that. - Pennies, but it adds up. - I think like really the ultimate solution. for this problem is just get rich. - Get rich or die trying. - Or die trying. - Yeah. My guy. Hey, my guy. - All right, next story. Well, that was crazy. That was crazy. It can't get worse than that. "Am I the asshole for calling my eight-year-old niece ugly?". - Let's go. - Let's hear them out.

Let 'em cook. - This was posted today as of reading. - Oh really? - [Shayne] Reading this right now, it says today. - This is some alpha male shit. - So someone called their eight-year-old niece ugly today. - Great. - Okay. This is a 20-year-old dude. "My older sister, who's 32, "and her husband have an eight-year-old niece who I adore. "She's smart, extremely precocious, and very funny. "She's also simply put very unfortunate looking.". - Just such an ugo.

- I'm sorry, I'm sorry. That's so... - Look, you're smart. You're smart and stuff, but you're freaking ugo. - "Neither her parents are ugly, "but she received the worst possible combination. "of their features." - Oh no. - "Maybe in time she'll grow into it with time, "but currently she is, as I said, unfortunate looking. "My sister and her husband try to circumvent this. "by constantly calling her pretty, beautiful, "gorgeous, et cetera. "I get that every parent is going to see their kid that way, "but I don't think it's a good idea. "to constantly praise her for beauty.

"Why? "Kids are cruel, "and they'll let her know she's not beautiful. "So all praising her looks does is reinforce. "that beauty is something to be desired and praised for, "all the while with her knowing she doesn't have it. "It's much better, in my opinion, to boost her self-esteem. "off the many good traits she does have, "so she doesn't have to rely on looks for her confidence. "My sister and her husband don't seem to understand this. "or disagree with it, which is fair enough. "Their call as parents. "But they insist that I call her beautiful too. "And I said no and explained why.". (Ian laughs).

"I do praise her a lot for her intelligence, "her sense of humor, et cetera. "They say that she's beautiful, "and I need to call her beautiful so she knows it. "So I said bluntly that no, "if we're being honest, she's ugly. "And kids will let her know she's ugly. "So bringing up beauty will only make her see it. "as something worthy of praise she doesn't have. "My sister started screaming at me. "for calling her daughter ugly. "I know it can be a sensitive topic, "but she's a grown adult, "and I think she should be able to handle honesty. "on the subject. "She thinks I'm a huge asshole,

"but I'm just trying to be realistic. "and do what I think is best for my niece.". - Oh man. - I, 20, childless would like to tell my... - He didn't say to her face, she's ugly. I thought at the beginning-. - That's what I thought. - Yeah, but with those huge (beep) ears, she heard it. (everyone laughs). - Goddamn. (everyone laughs). Okay, okay. - I think there's something kind of... Like, it's not that,

like I don't think he has a point here. Like, I don't-. - We do not under any circumstances gotta hand it to him. (laughs). - No, no. But like, isn't that kind of weird. for like the parents to be like, "You have to call her beautiful.". Like, that's also like weird. But also, okay. Like, okay. - The conversation sounds like it was weird from the get go. Yeah. - It's just so funny to think of the parents like, "You have to call her beautiful.".

And he's like, "Yeah, but I mean, you've seen her, right?". (everyone laughs). - Are we looking at the same person? - Like, walking into a home improvement store, like ah, ah, and like smashing every mirror. Like, "Right this way, sweetie. "Just walk on by, it's fine. "They didn't have 'em today.". - She's never seen her reflection. I will say like beautiful. is a very like all encompassing term. That means a lot of things. And this guy is thinking entirely looks. And it's like calling someone beautiful is also like, you're a beautiful person, you are a beautiful being.

Okay, this guy, I do not agree with him at all. What I will say that I do-. - Here comes the but, which is what they say. when they see her face walking toward 'em. Am I right? Am I right? Goddamn. Got her. She got jacked. Let's go. - One of those eight-year-old bangers. - As someone who started in the acting industry very young, and I've seen it with a lot of people, like there is a point of yes, like constantly making a kid like be like, yes, you're so pretty.

Like, you're pretty. And having that be like the primary adjective. that you're giving to a kid of like. you're worthy. - Especially for women. - Yes. I will say like with my nieces and nephews, now I don't have this situation, but like I try to use so many different adjectives. to be like, yeah, like your worth is more. than your appearance. Like, but I grew up, you know, being in the acting industry, your appearance was heavily pushed on you. And it was like, "Oh, you're gorgeous.". - And you were reminded. - You got this, like you're gorgeous. And it's like, oh, so if I don't have that, I'm screwed.

And it is damaging. I do see that. But you are also, you can call your niece beautiful. Like, this guy's, this is weird. - Because I've heard that before too where like, you know, I'm not a parent, but it's a matter of like, you know, complimenting everything. Like, you're so creative, you're so smart. Like, and that makes sense, and I understand you with the acting aspect of like, I grew up and, you know, I always struggled with my weight. and if I ever lost any, it'd be like, "Oh, you're looking thin, you're looking good.". And I had really bad stomach issues in my early 20s.

to the point where like the same frame I am now, just so people are like aware of reference, I'm like 194. I was 137 at my lowest. Very sick, not doing well, looked like a skeleton. People would be like, "You're looking great.". And like, I hate that. But like the idea. that he just couldn't call his niece beautiful. 'cause that's a lie, but he just wants to say everything else. Like, his heart is in the right place for the other stuff. But he's just not following through on that aspect. Like, and also telling an eight-year-old like, "You're so smart.". It's like, no, they're not.

They can't even do long division yet. - Yeah. - I'm smart! So like it's a lie no matter what. - Yeah. (Ian laughs). Yeah. - Eight-year-olds are great. - Some comments here. "You're the asshole. "Everything you said about it not being good. "to put beauty on a pedestal. "and act like that's what's important is true. "You're right about the overall attitude, "but saying to her parents. "that she's ugly is completely unnecessary. "and incredibly rude asshole behavior.". - Yeah. - Yeah, yeah. - Yes, exactly. Someone else said, "You're right to wanna compliment other things. "to balance out the perception.

"that physical beauty is most important, "but why do the two need to be mutually exclusive? "What benefit is there to calling her ugly? "Why not, I don't know, "do what you can to make her feel less ugly. "while also highlighting all her other great qualities? "And you're right that she'll run into her fair share. "of bullies in her life. "My heart breaks for her that her own uncle. "is her first one.". - There we go. - [Shayne] Yeah, that's true. - It's based off of his judgment that he's like, "Well, I know she's ugly.". It's like she's eight. - Yeah, I feel like he's like almost there, you know?

Like, he's like almost there, and he's just gotta just-. - And I know a lot of people from this industry. that dealt with that too where yes, teens and your peers. when you're growing up are gonna be awful to you, but there's nothing more devastating. than your own authority figures. backing that shit up. - That sucks. - That makes you feel like you have no support system, that no one in life. Like, you know, like I do think to agree. like it's great to have parents or authority figures. in your life that you look up to.

who are like they believe in me. and they see it even if I don't. and the people around me don't. And that's huge to have, and he's just not seeing that. So that's sad, but hopefully he'll learn. Here we go. Last story. "Today I (beep) up by accidentally pantsing myself. "on a first date.". - Okay. - This is Mr. Bean. (everyone laughs). - I hope it had some like cartoonish sound to it. - Yeah. Okay. So, "I, a 20-year-old man, was preparing to go. "on a first date with a girl, 19, that I met on Bumble.

"I have not been on many dates before and was quite nervous. "I also didn't have much date appropriate clothing. "Procrastinating like usual, "I didn't start trying things on until 30 minutes. "before I was supposed to pick her up. "Freaking out and needing to find anything presentable, "my roommate was kind enough to lend me his nice khaki pants. "and a flannel. "So I just threw on the pants figuring it'd be good enough. "He's a bit bigger than me, "but I didn't realize how much bigger. "until I was walking to her door. "I was damn near holding my pants up with one hand. "in the pocket but played it off. "with the world's most awkward side hug,

"afraid to take my hand out of my pocket. "Gravity was not my friend tonight. "Whole date was just sitting down at dinner, great. "Pants can't hurt you when you're sitting down. "She's really nice, and we had a great time. "Everything changed when we walked outta the restaurant. "and drove back to her house. "We were saying goodbye at the door. "And gaining courage, I went in for a full hug instead. "Immediate regret. "I tried to widen my stance, "but gravity is a heartless bitch. "I immediately felt a cool breeze in my nethers. "and my pants around my knees. "I tried to reach around still embracing.

"and pull them up to respectable levels, "but it was too late. "My face was beet red. "She looked down and saw my underwear. "She stepped back very concerned. "I tried to explain everything, "and she ended up just laughing hysterically saying-". - That's great. - "All it takes to get your pants off is one hug? "Apparently her sister as well was watching. "through the window and was also laughing and confirmed I. "at least didn't intentionally de-pants myself. "Anyway, we're going on a second date, "and I'm getting a belt.". - That's cute. - I think that's, I mean that's a great first date. - That is a pretty good first date.

- Like, I don't think it could have gone better than that. - And his roommate was like, "How'd it go?". (everyone laughs). "Yeah, did the pants come off?". - [Damien] I got you, bud. - [Shayne] I got you, dude. - I was afraid she was gonna think. he like did it intentionally, and it was gonna be like scary. - Oh yeah, I thought for a second too. - But I mean that's great. - I'll also say like that's a better outcome. than like him successfully hugging her. with like extremely wide stance. Like, 'cause that's at least a laugh. Like, if she walks away, and he's just like this far spread, she's just like, "What are you doing?".

- Also how sus would it be for a guy to walk up like this? - Yeah. - Hey. (everyone laughs). - It literally sounds like a cartoon situation. of like two kids in a trench coat, it's falling off. Just like, "Oh hey.". - She's like, "Goodbye hug?". And he goes like this, he goes. (everyone laughs). - Yeah. - Oy! (everyone laughs). - Zangy. - Let's go. Bring it in. Some comments. "You're 20, never owned a belt in your life,

"and this is only the first time this has happened to you?". He said, "Well, I buy pants that fit. "These weren't my pants.". Okay, fine. Someone else said, "If you end up dating for a while, "this will be something funny for you to share. "It's all good.". He responded, "Definitely could have ended worse, "but she responded great, which has made it much funnier. "Never living it down though.". Super funny. This is young Mr. Bean. - I really wanted him to like keep going on the description. He's like, "Her sister was in the window watching. "as was her elderly nun of a grandmother and youth pastor.

"and a baby that just happened to be there.". - And a Christian couple who were upset. 'cause they saw some edibles fall outta my pants. - Meanwhile they had an ugly daughter. (everyone laughs). - Ugly niece. - Wow, this has been a rollercoaster. of Reddit stories. - It really has. - A lot of insane things. Well, I don't know if we learned anything today, but, you know. - It made me feel good about myself. to hear about all these shitty people for sure. - Yeah, I think so. And I'm gonna try that belt trick with somebody.

I think that'll be like fun comic relief, you know? - Oh no, I didn't have a belt. - I don't think if you're older than 20-. - Planning for it? - I don't think anyone older than 20. you're gonna get away with it. Like, you drive a very nice car. You can't be like, "I don't have a belt.". - But it is a way to get out of a split bill. If it's like, "Can we split the bill?". And you stand up in your pants come off, they're not gonna believe you can split the bill. - Yeah, be like, "I gotta go to bed.". (everyone laughs). It's past my bed time. - Oh god. - My diaper's full.

(everyone laughs). Sorry. - Thank you guys for being here. This has been a lot. We've been through a lot today. And thank you all for watching. You know how it is. Let us know. if there's other subreddits we should be looking at. or other stories. You can go over to the Smosh Reddit and send them there. Also, if you're ever watching these. and you see your story on here, make an update and let us know that you saw it. And hey, we'll read it here. - There's a camera behind here. - What?

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