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- Hi, welcome to "Smosh Reads Reddit Stories.". I'm Shayne, and today's theme is entitled. And today joining me are two. of the most entitled people I've ever known. Tommy and special guest, Sarah Whittle. - Hello. - Hi. - Hello. - We deserve it. - Yes. - Sarah, who you used to be in charge of this channel. and so much at Smosh over the years. - Yeah, I think I did over the five years I worked here, I think I did every single job. - Yeah, you ran like our socials. - Coordinator, PA, cast member for a bit,

like director, executive producer of everything. Like, literally marketing, social media. Did everything. - Yeah. And I feel like, Tommy, like when you first joined Smosh, like you were working with Sarah a ton. - It was just us two. - I brought him in. - You brought him-. - I brought him in. - You are the reason we have Tommy. - Yeah, actually, yes. 'cause like when Mythical bought Smosh, it became like we were like grabbing onto each other. like the Titanic was sinking. We were like, you and Courtney were like, "Sarah, please come back.". And I was like, "Okay, I'll come back.

"Tommy, come back.". - My body was ice cold, and Sarah was like, "Oh whoa.". - You reawakened him. - Yeah. Yeah. So we got the band back together. - Tommy descended back into the La Brea Tar Pits, and we had to get him back. (laughs). - Real talk though, like yeah, I'm so proud of you guys. And I know, Shayne, Shayne and Tommy, you guys just visited me in New York. I think we both separately cried, but like, I'll say it again, I'll say it a million times, I am so proud of what you guys have done.

since I've left in 2021. I've stayed such, I mean you guys are my best friends. Like, stayed such close friends, but like seeing the growth of the thing. that I felt so ingrained in creating. and like seeing where it is now, I genuinely think you guys are in a golden era. And I'm like proud mama, super fan. I'm watching all the content. I'm texting you guys all the time. So I am so, so proud of what you guys have done, and I'm just like, I am like the number one Smosh fan. - Thank you, Sarah. Well, I mean I think it goes without saying,

like Smosh has been in this golden era for a couple years, but so much of it is due to like all the things. that were put in place for years leading up to that. And so much of it is owed to the decisions you made. Like, I feel like you really molded a lot of the creative. that we still follow. - That's great. - Anyway, I'm waiting for my caviar. I requested it. - Okay, now you're acting. a little entitled. - You're acting entitled. - That's called a segue. - There we go.

(everyone laughs). - All right, let's get into these stories. - That was good. - Thank you. (everyone laughs). - How much do entitled people bother you? - So much! Oh my god, it rages me so much. - Yeah, and I mean look, it exists around the world, but I do feel like in America, maybe this is just because I've experienced this. more than anything, but I just feel like America can be the heartland. of entitlement. - Oh, of course it is. - Yeah, like individualism is so popular that-. - Exactly. - We're just like, yes, I-. - It just comes with it. - I have the right to everything.

- Exactly. - Yep. - All right, well let's get into these. and see what we're dealing with. Our first story comes from Am I Overreacting. This was posted only a couple months ago. "Am I overreacting? "Roommate constantly expects me to leave. "so she can sleep with guys.". - Oh. - "Hello. Posting on a different account. "This happened yesterday. "Today she ended up just going to the guy's place. "instead of bringing him to our apartment, "but she refuses to speak to me. "In the first slide, "the names I blurred out are my boyfriend's name. "and a friend of mine's name.".

So this is a text conversation I'll be reading. - Okay. - There's visual aid. - Slide. - Roommate says, "Hi, I'm having a guy over tomorrow around like 7:00. "Would you be able to stay somewhere else for a few hours?". OP says, "How long?". - [Sarah] Hours. - [Shayne] They say, "I'm not sure if he'll be spending the night yet if YGM.". - You get me. - You get me. - You get me. - I don't know if they'll be spending the night yet, you get me. OP says, "I don't really anywhere I can go. "Have anywhere.". (everyone laughs).

- We're also speaking in code. - [Shayne] Yeah. "Can you not go over to your boyfriend's place?". "He's visiting his family. "He isn't around.". "Surely there is someone's house you can go to. "Go to blank.". "I already went to blank on Tuesday. "'cause you had a different guy over. "It's not fair of me. "to keep inconveniencing people like that.". "She doesn't even care, "and you don't have to say it like that.". "What?". "You don't have to say that like I'm a whore or something.". OP says, "I didn't call you a whore.

"I just said I already went to blank's place Tuesday. "'cause you had a guy over.". "You said different guy. "like I'm sleeping with loads of different people.". Okay. - Oh no. - [Shayne] "I wasn't trying to make it seem like that. "I was just saying it's not fair. "It's my apartment too, "and this would be like the third time this week. "I've had to find somewhere else to stay. "I don't mind you bringing people over, "but when it's happening multiple times a week. "and I have to look for other places to stay over. "because of it, it's not exactly fair.". The roommate says, "Yeah, good job on not calling me a whore.".

(Tommy laughs) (Sarah groans). OP continues, "Everything I said are things that are just factual. "You are constantly bringing over guys, "and I constantly have to stay over somewhere else. "because of it. "That's not calling you a whore. "It's literally just telling the truth. "You can sleep with who you want. "I'm not judging you, but I just don't appreciate having. "to leave my apartment constantly 'cause of it.". "So you can bring blank over, "but just because I'm bringing over guys. "I'm not in a relationship with it's not okay.".

OP says, "I purposely go to blank's place. "because he lives alone, so it's easier that way. "And I don't expect you to leave the apartment. "whenever he comes over. "when we're literally just hanging out. "Blank barely comes over. "It's not even comparable. "to how often you bring people over.". Roommate says, "I don't get why it's a problem having to stay. "in your boyfriend's place for a night or for a few hours. "Like, I can understand not wanting to do that. "to our friends, "but literally why would your boyfriend mind?". OP says, "Are you forgetting. "that we share the same apartment? "He doesn't mind coming over,

"but my whole point is that we both live in that apartment. "I'm entitled to stay there when I want. "I live there. "It's not fair that you constantly expect me to just leave. "whenever you want me to. "just because I can't go to my boyfriend's place.". Roommate says, "I just don't understand why you're acting. "like this is the end of the world. "because you have to go somewhere else for a few hours. "and basically insinuating that I'm a whore. "I don't know what your problem is all of a sudden.". - [Sarah] Leaping. - [Shayne] OP says, "I asked you in the past. "to try to stop bringing over so many people. "because of this, and you agreed,

"but then just kept doing it. "We are both trying to make different points. "and you aren't understanding what I'm saying. "about this being my apartment too.". Roommate says, "Okay, let's end the drama here. "I'll figure something else out. "Jesus Christ.". (Sarah laughs). OP continues, "We were both in the kitchen at the same time today, "and she kept slamming cupboards. "and placing things down extremely aggressively. "I went to shower after her, "and my conditioner had just accidentally opened. "and spilled all over the shower floor.". - Oh, come on. - "I really don't know if I was being too harsh or not, "but at the same time, I don't feel like it's fair.

"that I'm constantly expected to stay in other places. "so she can bring people over. "I asked her to try to bring over less people in the past. "and she agreed, "but then continued to do the same shit afterwards. "Am I overreacting in this whole situation?". - No. - [Shayne] No. - No. Next story. - No, move on. (Sarah laughs). - Dear God. - I'm confused. They have their own rooms probably, right? - That's the thing. - I get that it's like, hey, in common spaces, it's just like, all right, like, hey, like I'm gonna bring a guy over.

- We're gonna have dinner. - Is it okay if we kind of hang in the kitchen? Like, whatever. - [Sarah] Give 'em a heads up. - But even then, like if I were dating someone. and I go over to their apartment, and it's like, oh, and this is my roommate. It's just like cool. Like, nice to meet you. - Very natural situation. - Respect the same contract. It's like you're gonna be, this is your space too. It's like, well have a nice dinner. They come in and they get something outta the kitchen. You don't have to go, "Hello!". You can just keep having your dinner. - You're co-living. - Yeah. - I'm gonna ask a question that feels obvious, at least to me. Are they having crazy big band mariachi loud crazy times.

in both the living room and her room? And that's why she wants-. - Oh. - Are they putting on a show? - But maybe it's just. the noise thing too on its own. Like, even if she was in the bedroom with her date, maybe she's self-conscious about the noise. But again, I go back to like, the price of community is annoyance. - Right. - If you're in a roommate situation, your roommate may hear your love making. (everyone laughs). I hate calling it that. - You did a great job. You did a great job. You did a great job. - That felt so stupid.

But like, that's just like, and then the roommate gets to decide like, oh, am I gonna like enjoy this? Am I gonna turn up music? - Enjoy it. - Am I gonna like hate it and leave the house? - Right. - You're co-living. - Her roommate could be like, "Hey look, I'm bringing some people over.". It's like, great, I'm gonna be staying here too. It's like, great, we're gonna be doing some boisterous (beep). But like-. - Right. That's what it is. - Okay, then you will. - And also like if you bring home a guy. and you're like, trying to be quiet, ain't that like, that's the little fun part too, right? - Yeah, there could be fun to that too.

- That's a little sneaky hot part. - But it does make me question what you're talking about. of like, are they using the whole space? - The whole space. - Are some of the contracts being broken? - I think so. - But every time? Every time with the new partner? Like, I'm not-. - It feels strange to like, if I was in, 'cause I've had roommates before, but if the rule was whenever we bring someone over, you can't be here. I'm like, that does not work. - That sucks. - That doesn't work. - Yeah, that sucks. - Because what if she breaks up with her boyfriend? - Exactly. - It's like, then go outside. - I need to live here. all the time. Right. - Exactly.

- Go on a three hour walk? Okay. A fun proposal for the person who's bringing people over. - Threesome! No. - Oh. - I thought we were going there. - No. - I thought we were going there. - Whoa. - No? Okay. - Whoa. - Whoa. - This is a Christian channel, I forgot. - We are a religious program. (Sarah laughs). - Yeah, we're live streaming after the rapture right now. (everyone laughs). - We are left. - If she wanted to pay for two thirds. of the other person's rent. - Period. Yeah. I think that. - It's like,

oh, you want full dominion over this space? Well, then I pay $300 a month. to sleep in my bedroom sometimes. (crew laughs). I mean, it's crazy. - Like, I had, we all know offline. that I had like a time in my life in Los Angeles. where I was having a lot of fun. Going on a lot of dates. - I think we've all had that. - And it was a really fun time. - Yeah... - It never like phased me. Not Shayne. (Sarah laughs). - But we. - But we. - We. - But you guys did. (crew laughs). (everyone laughs).

- Don't worry, Shayne, you didn't miss out on anything. - You didn't miss-. - It was a lot fun. - So much fun. - So cool. - It's so much fun. And ain't no shame in the game. - Yeah! - So I think it's also like- - No shame in the game. - If you have a roster, that is okay, but it's like if you don't live alone, you don't live alone. So you gotta navigate that as like a normal human being. And like there was no name calling in that text. There was no insinuation. - [Shayne] No. - Whoa. Did you just say whore? (Sarah laughs). - How dare you? - Whoa.

- This is a feminist program. (everyone laughs). No, I've had roommates before, and when people bring people over, I never thought anything of it. I was just like, yeah, dude. Like, we're in our 20s. - One time I had a roommate. when I lived out here in Los Angeles. and I brought a date over, and the next day, she was like an older lady, like in her 40s. I loved living with her. - That's awesome. - And she was so chill, and she was just like, she was just so happy to be living, us living together in Santa Monica. And I had a date over one night, and she was like,

"Sarah, I was hearing a little bit of last night.". (Shayne cackles). And she was like, "That was kind of hot.". And I was like, "Right? Right?". (everyone laughs). - Okay, so there you go. It's like, maybe it can be a positive experience. for everyone. - That's insane. - And I have no shame on that. - No, that's really funny. - And like there was multiple dates going in and out. of that apartment, and she never shamed me once. And so it's like, it's just a just having. that open like non-judgmental conversation. Claudio's gonna love watching this episode.

- You notice that a painting in your bedroom. has like Scooby-Doo holes cut out of the eyes. - No! No! (laughs). - That painting of that fisherman. seems to be looking around. (everyone laughs). - Keep going. - Stop it! I hate it! I hate it! (laughs). - No, no, no. No, this is just like really bad roommate like contract.

- [Tommy] For sure. - I mean, like what sucks now is she needs. to like move the boundary back to like a normal place. of like, I do not need to leave my apartment. I'm paying rent. I'm paying rent for this day that I'm here. Like, if I leave all night, then you owe me whatever that amounts to then. Like, that's not fair. - And living with a roommate is difficult. Like, it's a very, very, very hard situation. And so I think like, maybe this is a conversation. or something that's just like,

hey, whenever the lease is up, I think like, I gotta save up and prep to like-. - That feels like a given. - Not be roommates with you anymore. Yeah. - Yeah, that's a given. - It's just too hostile. - This episode of "Smosh Reads Reddit Stories". is brought to you by Zocdoc. After Thanksgiving, I'm already thinking about the new year. and all the appointments I need to book. From my dentist to my dermatologist, it can feel like a laundry list of appointments. It's easy to forget annual appointments, but this year I am ready and prepared with Zocdoc. Zocdoc is a free app and website where you can search.

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OP needs to-. - What? What? - OP is not entitled enough. - The flag is flagging. - OP needs to stand up. for themselves and not tolerate this insanity. - That's less than a week out of the month. - [Shayne] Yeah. - She should be paying $250. - Exactly. - At that point, you don't live there. - You don't live there. - You don't live there. You don't live there. - [Shayne] The heck? - Okay. - That sucks. - This is starting to, can I be honest? This is starting to, I'm questioning if this person is sleeping with people. I'm starting to be like, what are you actually doing.

that you are kicking them out of this apartment so often? - Oh, you think it's like a-. - I'm just like, I just start to be like, what are all the other options? - [Tommy] Right. - Like, you're just having me out of the apartment so much. - Well, and that roommate is probably, to go down more the conspiracy, that roommate's probably like going out on dates. with these people and being like, "Yeah, come back to my place. "Like, no one's there.". - It's empty. Yeah. - It's like sometimes go to their apartment. That's also fun to judge. (laughs). - This has become the normal for them. They're just like, "Oh, I basically have this apartment to myself.".

- [Sarah] Yeah. - While paying half the rent. - And why do you like not know. if they're gonna like sleep over or not? Maybe it's like a first date. and you don't know like how it's gonna net out, but-. - Why are you doing a first date at your apartment? - No, I'm saying like the after party at the apartment. But you don't know if you're gonna like kick 'em out. or like have the sleepover. But at that point it's like, yeah, what are you doing? All night long? - They can stay in your room. Right. - All night long. - Also, I wasn't like, with that frequency, I would be kind of worried about my stuff. - That's kind of more I think is like safety. of just like you're bringing strangers-.

- This is true too. - I don't know who these people are. - But if it was like three a month, four a month, I wouldn't be as concerned. But it's like I'm at home for six days out of the month. - I'm still that six days. Yeah. - It's like, I'm gonna be bringing my laptop with me, my passport with me. - But that's like a storage unit at that point. - It really is. - That's not a home. - Yeah. No, they're being robbed. - 100%. - Of rent. - Yeah. - Comments. "I mean, you two are adults. "Just stay home. "It's up to the guy to decide if it's weird or not.

"If she gets creeped out by it, then (beep) in his house.". Yeah. OP says-. - Then (beep) in his house. - Then (beep) in his house. OP says, "I've told her in the past. "that I don't mind just putting my AirPods on. "and listening to music. "But she says she doesn't want me there. "She rarely ever goes to their houses. "She only seems to bring them here.". - Something's going on. - Lame. - Like, sorry. - Boo. - Someone said, "The main weird thing here. "is that either of you think the other has to leave. "when you have someone over for sex.". - [Sarah] Exactly. - "You have your own private rooms. "I've never heard of roommates expecting the other to leave.

"because they have people spending the night. "Do you guys think this is normal? "Because this isn't something people usually do or expect. "Just because you're gonna have sex. "in your own separate rooms. "doesn't mean the other has to leave the apartment.". - [Sarah] Exactly. Right. - Someone says, "Not overreacting. "You were very calm and explained to her why you were upset. "with her request. "Does she always ask you these things so short notice? "It's like you said, this is your apartment too. "Sure, there's something to be said. "about offering each other a private evening. "every once in a while if there's intimate company over, "depending on the housing situation.

"But three times in one week. "regardless if it's the same person or not is a lot. "The fact that she acted like you insulted her. "and put words into your mouth. "and then acted very passive aggressively afterwards. "is not helping her case. "I agree with another commenter. "that it sounds like you need to sit down. "and talk about this. "and if not, maybe one of you needs to find another place. "if that's at all possible.". - Yeah. - [Shayne] Yeah. - Yeah. - Yeah, this is the biggest red flag. - Nightmare roommate. Yeah, and the way they responded too. It's like, hey, I'm trying to offer like a-. - What, are you calling me a whore? - Oh, you're calling me a whore?

It's just like they're just shutting down the conversation. - Exactly. - [Shayne] They know what they're doing. - Yeah. - Next story. This comes from Am I The Asshole. Also just couple months ago. "Am I the asshole for not waking up a tourist who overslept. "and missed the day trip she paid for?". - Oi. - Just a tourist. - Just a tourist. - Just one tourist. - All right. "Hi, guys. "I, a 21-year-old woman, am a Bulgarian tour guide. "who accompanies groups to Sicily. "On a recent trip, one woman who was traveling alone, "mid 30s, was consistently oversleeping.

"The first day after we arrived, "we had a day trip to Etna and Taormina. "for which we departed at 8:00 AM, "as we do all our other day tours. "I make sure that all tourists are informed. "of the departure times on the bus the day before, "and they also have my number to call in case they forget. "so I can remind them. "They also all have printed out pamphlets. "with the schedule made by the travel agency. "that I hand out that has the time for departure on it. "All of the group was on time except one woman.

"She was 10 minutes late, "which, okay, maybe she got caught up in something. "and was late. "I excused it, then mentioned to the whole bus on the mic. "that I did not tolerate lateness. "beyond 15 minutes at most in case of emergency, "like a forgotten possession, "and that I must always be called and informed. "in case someone is running late. "The trip went by okay otherwise. "The next day the same tourist was late again by 25 minutes, "almost an entire half hour. "I called her twice to no answer. "And we were just about to leave without her. "when she came out running and got on the bus.

"She got lucky as the receptionist of the hotel asked me. "about a missing piece of info on the rooming list. "and earned her some time. "I reminded everyone again. "that I will not be waiting anymore. "for late tourists in the morning. "and waking up on time is their responsibility. "When we came back that evening, "she asked me if I could make sure to wake her up on time. "I reminded her a third time. "that I'm not responsible for waking people up. "Everyone gets a printed itinerary with departure times. "and I announce everything the day before.

"She kept saying, "'No, no, just knock on my door if I'm not out by 8:15.'. "And I kept repeating, 'I really can't do that for everyone. "'Please set an alarm.'. "Well, on the day we were visiting Syracuse, "she didn't show up. "I waited 15 minutes after the supposed departure time, "called her twice to no response, "then left with the bus and the rest of the group. "She called me in a panic about an hour later. "asking where we were. "I explained the situation calmly.". - Bye. - She called me two days later. No.

(Sarah laughs). - Yeah. She's like (gasps). - She called me the next business day. - "She got angry and said that I had one job. "and that I cheated her out of the money she paid. "to go on that day trip. "She missed the whole day trip and was furious the next day. "Later she told the rest of the group that I abandoned her. "and also called my agency, leaving a bad review about me.". - No. - "Am I the asshole. "for not personally waking up a grown woman. "despite warning her multiple times I wouldn't?". No, no, just knock on my door.

- No, just knock on my door. - No, just knock on my door, dude. - If you pay the money to travel somewhere. and then do the travel guide, if you sleep past the thing, that's your decision. That's your vacation. - Yeah, exactly. - And saying, "Oh, you only have one job.". Sorry. Her job is to do the tour. - Exactly. The job is to do the tour. - Not to wake you up. - She has other people there. - She's not a concierge. She's not like-. - She's not your mommy. - She's not your mommy. - Yeah, she's not mommy. Like, she has a job and the job is not to wake you up. - [Shayne] Yeah. - And can I just... Does it not like... I have anxiety when I'm running late.

to anything. - Oh, I hate being late. - I would rather be there... I'd rather wake up so early and like hate it. and get to the thing on time 'cause I'll like wake up late. You know, you'll wake up. - You know that feeling when you're playing hide and go seek. and you're like hiding and you like have to pee? That's what feeling late feels like to me-. - Yes. - When I'm running late. - It frustrates me so much. But it's hard for me to talk on this. 'cause I'm someone who wakes up so early anyways. - [Tommy] Same. - I love to be up early so I can chill for a second. before I go do the thing.

- Yeah, I don't like being rushed. Like, I just, I feel like. that starts my day off on a bad day. But especially when I'm traveling, I'm so focused on one thing. The one focus is to be there and be on the tours and go. So I just don't understand like, these are the consequences of your own action. For you to blame someone else for you being late. when everyone else understood the assignment, like, you're not only being disrespectful to the company, you're being disrespectful to everyone else on that trip.

And so now they have to start the day. by getting a talking to about not being late. even though they were not late. - Right. - It's just so inconsiderate. And like to be like, "Oh, can you help me wake up?". It's like, no, you're an adult. Be an adult. Grow up and take the responsibility to wake up on time. If you are late, you are late, and that is the consequence. - They also give the 10 minute, oops, you had to do a morning shit block. - Exactly. Yeah, yeah. Sometimes you're late 'cause you have to shit. - Right. And that's okay.

I'll go, "Hey, Alexcina, Jonathan, "I'm gonna be about 10 minutes late today.". - Big poopy today. - We know why I'm late. (everyone laughs). It happened at home and not in the office, and that's okay. - [Shayne] Yeah. - That's okay. 10 minutes is fine. - 100%. - It's just, this woman blows me away. - 'Cause yeah, like she waited an, it was an hour and she's like, "Where are you?". - Where are you guys? - So you're expecting everyone. to lose an hour of their day trip for you. 'cause you can't wake up. - Well and it's like, I've never been on a cruise,

but cruises are similar, right? It's like when they like dock at like an island or whatever-. - Oh yeah, if you don't show back up-. - They're like, you better show up at 3:00 PM or the boat's. leaving you behind. - Or you're stranded. at the place. - I can't even imagine the logistical nightmare. I'd rather be there an hour before. than even five minutes late. - 100%. And be stranded in a place without my shit. - I don't wanna be stranded in a place. - And I also understand, like when I'm late by my own mistakes, I'm pissed off, and it's like, but you can't redirect that.

You can't justify it. You have to be like, yeah, I (beep) up and I'm mad at myself. She doesn't know how to be mad at herself. - Yeah. - She's mad, and she never, she clearly never in her life learned. how to like handle that, so she just throws it out everywhere else. - I think accountability in general is really hard. to like face when you're like, oh (beep), I (beep) up. Like, it was my fault. And so I think the natural reaction is to like force it. on someone else and be like, "No, it was your fault.".

But like, learn how to take accountability, grow up, set an alarm, set 20 alarms. - Also them calling you is them waking you up. - Exactly. And either way, if there's multiple factors. or if there's like a medical thing or like whatever, like no one forced you on this trip, on this solo trip. Like, you're also wasting your money. if you aren't like totally committed to the bit. - Right. Whatever's going on, she has to prepare herself. to work for the greater tour of everyone else.

- You have to take care of yourself. - It's like, yeah. - Comments. "This woman could have also requested a wake up call. "from her hotel.". Yes. Someone said... (Sarah laughs). Someone said, "I'm an avid traveler. "I'd be angry to sit on the bus every morning. "waiting on someone who is chronically late. "Time is money and she'd be wasting mine.". - [Sarah] Time is money. - "If she's worried about hers, she needs to set an alarm. "If she complained to other guests, "I guarantee you they weren't feeling bad for her. "Not the asshole.". Someone said, "Did anyone notice that the tardy tourist.

"was asking OP to knock on her door 15 minutes. "after the scheduled departure time? "Which would mean if they were still asleep, "even longer waiting time? "Not the asshole.". - Yeah, she's not fully clothed with a coffee in her hand. in bed, ready to go. Let's go. - A small little update. - Oh. - Oh. - "I talked to my manager today. "I was nervous at first. "because I was already tired of this whole shenanigan. "and didn't wanna spend ages defending myself. "So I went to him first. "and explained the situation before he approached me. "He told me word for word, "'Hun, I deleted that BS from my email. "'as soon as I read it.'.

"LOL, an icon. "They'll remove the bad review.". - Great. - Yes. We love a, like, customers always right not. - Yeah. Right. - You know? - Yeah. I've never been to Italy, but a tour in Italy sounds great. - Sarah's never been either. - Never, ever. - Never. - No. We're all gonna go. Oh my gosh. A dream for all of us to go to Italy together and Claudio-. - That'd be amazing. - Tour us around. Oh my god, it's gonna be so fun. - Claudio could be our Bulgarian tourist. - He has to have a Bulgarian accent the whole time.

- Yeah, he can do that. - [Shayne] He could do that. - He could do that. Anyway, I hope what's-her-face gets some good sleep. - And I will be waking up at 10:00 AM no matter what. - That's not possible for you. Don't even-. - Yeah, I can't. - Don't even joke. - I can't. - No, we'll be up at 5:30. (everyone laughs). - I'll be knocking on cafe doors, like, open up. - Hey! Hey! - And Italy does not start moving until like 10 or 11:00 AM. - I'm up way too early. - There's nothing gonna be going on. - All right, our next story comes from Relationship Advice.

It's about a year old. "My boyfriend, 32-year-old man, "threatened to break up with me. "on a 'Harry Potter' marathon night that I-". - [Tommy] Ew! - "A 29-year-old woman, planned because he was embarrassed. "and would rather drink at the club.". - At the clurb! - At the clurb. - Drink at the clurb. - "Yesterday was his birthday. "We are both 'Harry Potter' fans, but I'm more into it. "And he likes golfing and cars more than I do. "Yesterday morning I asked him. "if he wanted to go out somewhere, "and I told him that I'm planning on a surprise tonight.

"He didn't ask anything further and left for work. "During the evening, "I had set the sofas, spread the blankets, "arranged the coffee table, fluffed all the pillows, "and warmed up the place.". Damn. - Fluff the pillows. - She bought an owl. - Yeah. (laughs). Learned magic. - Yeah. - "I made pizza at home for the first time. "and made smoothies. "I brought all kinds of sweets. "and made mini Harry Potter-like candies with them. "I had got this idea from those reels. "and had always told him that I wanted to try it out.

"He didn't see my message till around 9:30 PM. "and arrived at 10:00 PM. "I didn't mind it much, "but told him that I had everything prepared. "and that we could snuggle up and watch together. "He told me that he was tired and didn't wanna do it, "so I tried requesting him to sit with me. "for at least one movie. "He somehow agreed. "He ate the pizza. "but didn't try any of those mini candied structures I made. "And then when we were comfortable enough, "the broomstick scene came on, "and I tell him how I used to have a crush on Draco. "as a kid. "He suddenly got up from there, "and I nearly hit my head on the sofa board.

"He told me it was embarrassing. "for me to be obsessing over 'Harry Potter' as an adult, "that his friends' girlfriends are more mature than me. "and are actually planning their lives ahead. "I didn't know how me liking 'Harry Potter' related to that. "'cause I barely ever talked to him. "about 'Harry Potter' much before. "He just walked away after that, and I let him. "When I don't come to bed, he tells me I have horrible taste. "for even crushing on Tom Felton. "and that he looks like a sulken cow now.". All right. - LOL. - "What hurt me most. "was that he didn't even taste the sweets I made.

"or even lie down with me for at least an hour. "I would've been okay to even change the movie. "or shut it down. "And when I tried suggesting, he just kept shaking his head. "He told me to fix my ways before he gets fed up. "and leaves me for good.". - Oh my god. - "And that he denied a really good offer. "to drink at the bar with his friends. "It's morning and I haven't talked to him yet. "He just left without even looking at me. "I might be at fault here. "for not taking his interests into much consideration. "I just thought we would like it. "because I would show him stuff like that. "and he always admired it.

"I feel kind of hurt. "The pizza I made was also his favorite, "but he didn't seem to show much for it. "I don't know if I may be overreacting. "I don't know if it's right for me. "to love this series anymore. "It had been part of my childhood and I grew up with it. "We have been together for three years now.". - Whoo. - All right. There's a lot of layers-. - There's a lot of layers. - To this. So it is the boyfriend's birthday. - [Sarah] Yes. - So she plans a "Harry Potter" marathon for his birthday.

- Just the two of them. - [Shayne] Just the two of them. - Starting at 9:30. - Starting at 9:30. - So you're going- - You'll be up till 6:00 AM. - Yeah. Watching "Harry Potter.". - And he likes golfing and cars more than I do. (laughs). - Does that mean she also likes golfing and cars? I need some red string right now. - This is a little confusing. (Sarah laughs). Yeah. - I think the gist is it feels like she's more. of a "Harry Potter" fan than he is. - So she made like a "Harry Potter" night. - Night. - For his birthday, which I could see. Now here's the thing though-. - And they live together.

- They live together. - [Tommy] Right. - So it's like, okay. But he seems to like blast off on her in ways-. - In a crazy other way. - That are confusing where he's mad at her. for liking Draco Malfoy. - Right. Now-. - And then he insults Tom Felton. It's like, hey. - Which we don't, hey. - Tom Felton. - Whoa. - Tom Felton does not need to catch a stray here. - Right. Okay. - I mean, maybe a little. (everyone laughs). - Like, if he started going after JK Rowling, I'd be like, okay, fair. - Okay, do it.

- Like, I thought that was gonna be the angle. He's like, "Well I don't like JK Rowling. "She's a piece of shit.". It's like, okay, okay, fair. - Okay, let's throw a party about that. - That's not what he said though. - No. - Right. - So we're like, what's going on? Either OP is leaving out tons of history of like, wait, what's the pattern here? - Yeah. Yeah. - I'll also say she's like, "We've been dating for three years.". You're talking about your interests. as if you're not really sure what you guys are into. - But I also think-. - Shouldn't you know-. - There's a little entitlement of her making it. like her TikTok "Harry Potter" movie night.

kind of situation. - This feels like her birthday. - Exactly. - In reading the story, I forgot that it was his birthday. and thought it was hers. - Same. - Exactly. So like especially if you're in a relationship that long, but any birthday planning, like I always ask the birthday person like-. - What do you wanna do? - What do you wanna do? You wanna go out to the clurb? - What's your ideal thing? - You wanna like stay in? Do you wanna do nothing? Do you want a small group, a big group? - Do you want me to build you candy structures? - Yeah, exactly. And if the person's like, "I'm down for whatever, "but I wanna just stay home," or whatever. Like, I think when it comes to people's birthdays, everyone approaches it in such a different manner.

for you to make a surprise like this so focused. on your interests. - [Shayne] Yeah. - It like already is a tough situation. - Yeah. It's a little bit interesting. And he did get invites to go hang out with friends, but it's like, did she ask... We don't have a lot of info. on like what was the planning process of this? - Yeah. There's a little bit of like-. - So a lot of confusing stuff. This all would've been solved. if she just made it a "Lord of the Rings" watch party. - Okay. - 'Cause it's just far, far superior.

(everyone laughs). It's just far better. Pretty much anything. Comments. "I know you feel bad, "but, sis, you practically planned a night for you, "not for his birthday.". - [Sarah] Exactly. - OP says, "I honestly wouldn't mind. "if that means spending time with him.". OP, what are... What? - No. - Does that mean she's not-. - I think she speaks in riddles. - She's like, "I just wanna spend time with him.". But maybe you could have spent time at the club. with the drinking if that's what he wanted to do.

- You can spend time with him if you make it for him. - Exactly. - Right. Bring a cloak and a scarf if you have to. - But it's also like, I'll say, okay, 'cause there's so much going on too, like him picking a fight about like multiple random things. No one's in the clear here. - I think it's, my takeaway is, oh, this communication has been so bad. for so long. You guys don't like each other. and you have not come to terms with it yet. - Exactly. - The boyfriend could be mad. because of the way this birthday was planned for her.

and not for him, but he's expressing it in horrible, just he's expressing it horribly. - I don't feel seen because this is more about you. Instead he's like, "I think you're stupid.". - I hate Tom Felton. - Draco Malfoy's ugly! He's ugly. - He's ugly. You have bad taste. - He has blonde hair. You want me to get blonde hair now? - Yeah. It's like, oh, so you're calling me a whore? (Sarah laughs). Someone else said, "Maybe he'll take you for 18 holes of golf and a car show. "for your birthday.". - That's awesome. - Got him. - Someone says, "As a 13-year-old man, he may like Harry...".

(everyone laughs). Sorry, what did I say? - You said 13-year-old man. - As a 13-year-old man. (Sarah laughs). "As a 32-year-old man, he may like 'Harry Potter,'. "but his idea of a birthday surprise. "is not a 'Harry Potter' marathon. "You sound very entitled. "He didn't even taste the sweets I made. "or even lie down with me for at least an hour. "He feels you have a different ideas. "and wants a more grownup evening. "There may be more issues at heart for him too. "I feel this is the final straw sort of incident.

"You need to sit down. "and have a calm conversation with him.". - I don't like grown up evening though. Why did that make me mad? Because I think like there's nothing wrong with having-. - None of this is wrong if it's what he wanted. - Exactly. - Like childlike joy. There's nothing wrong with like-. - A movie marathon is-. - Disney adults, like-. - Yeah. - But like-. - You're allowed to have joy. - But the communication, it's just-. - Yes, yes, yes. - We don't need to limit anything. It's just about doing what he wants. for his birthday. - Exactly. - Right. Right. And yes, the comment does point out like,

she's upset because of what he's not doing-. - Exactly. - [Shayne] On his birthday. - Yeah, exactly. - It's like, hey, this wasn't your night. - He didn't like his birthday. the way I wanted him to like it. - Yeah. All right, moving on. Our next story comes from Am I The Buttface? This is posted in 2019. - That's real? - There's another one. Am I The Buttface. There's just a bunch of-. - Is that the Christian one. 'cause they didn't wanna say asshole? - Not necessarily. They all just have slightly different rules. on like what can be posted 'cause the-.

- So what's Buttface? - What's Buttface? Shit out your mouth? - Yeah, probably. - Shit out your mouth. - Shit out your mouth. - I know the OG Am I The Asshole subreddit, it's not allowed to do with relationships. - Oh. - Like, it has weird, that has weird mod rules. So then other ones are made. - Buttfaces, no eyes, no nose? - Exactly. Well-. - [Tommy] Two cheeks? - The butthole is the nose. Which is awful. - That's new. And I've never thought of that that way. - And it just smells bad all the time. All right, this comes from Am I The Buttface 2019.

"Would I be the buttface if I demanded to know. "who reported me to HR?". - Buttface? - Buttface. - I wanna take this seriously, but buttface is so hard. - I just can't. - I know. "I am in my early 30s and male. "In our office, I am known as a bit of a jokester.". - Oh. - "Nothing mean. "And I don't go outta my way to prank someone. "or hurt anyone's feelings. "But I have plenty of jokes. "and give lots of silly nicknames.".

- I'm not buying it. I'm not buying it. - I'm kind of a jokester. - I know. - Ew, ew. - You turned into it immediately. - I give silly nicknames. - No! - "There is a newer woman in our office. "She's in her early 20s and she has a three-year-old. "They live in an RV park a few miles away from work, "and I've nicknamed her RV Reba.". - No. - No. - "I didn't see the harm. "It's just a silly nickname. "I've given silly nicknames to most of my coworkers.

"If anyone complains about it, "I just explain I don't mean anything by it. "It's just a silly thing I do. "and there was no reason for them to be offended. "RV-". - I like how he's like, "No offense.". - Yeah. - No offense, RV Reba. - RV Reba. - You shall take no offense. - Yeah. - They continue, "RV Reba wasn't thrilled with the nickname, "said it was insulting, "but I explained it wasn't intended to be. "It was just something silly I came up with. "She asked me to stop using it. "I don't use it around her much anymore, "but I think it's a silly thing to get upset about,

"so I still use it around others. "Well, someone reported me to HR. "I got called into a meeting this morning. "and given a written warning to stop harassing my coworkers. "I don't see how this is harassing at all. "They're silly nicknames. "I asked who reported me, "and they said it was not just one person, "but multiple complaints. "RV Reba and a few others were getting coffee-". - It's just like every time. - "And I wanted to know who reported me. "RV Reba said she didn't know, "but was glad they spoke to me about it. "since I wasn't listening to them asking me to stop.

"I think it was probably her. "and one of the two other coworkers. "who can never take a joke. "I wanna know exactly who it was though. "A few coworkers said I'm already the buttface. "and should let it go, "but I really wanna know who reported me. "Would I be the buttface if I demanded to know who it was?". I just love it says, "Verdict, buttface.". (everyone laughs). - Well, yes, he is the buttface. - Yeah, Fedora Fred, you are the buttface. - Yeah, you're the buttface. - I think legally you are entitled.

to know who reported you to HR. - Yeah, it doesn't matter if you're the buttface. for demanding it. Like, that's just not gonna happen. - Yeah, if multiple people are like, "You suck. Stop doing that," you should not do that. - This is very classic, like, "It's a joke. "I'm just joking.". - I'm just joking around. - That doesn't like wash you of your sins. - Yeah, it doesn't-. - Or even like how people can feel about a certain nickname. or a certain joke. - Right. - Ever heard of empathy? Ever heard of compassion? Ever heard of respect?

- It's true even for our workspace. where our job is telling jokes and being silly, right? We're expected to be silly all the time. Now, even here, if someone goes, "Hey, I don't like that joke.". - Exactly. - We go, "All right, we won't say that.". - Exactly. - Yeah. - But they're in, I'm assuming, a workspace. where telling jokes is not part of the job. - The job. - But even like-. - You're not even expected to tell jokes, man. Like, don't... Like, tell jokes, that's fine, but if someone tells you to stop, you have to. - You better stop. - You're not expected to be making people laugh.

- But even if we like drill it down to like what it is, it's not even like a badum bum tss joke. It is a nickname. And like you shouldn't give nicknames to people that-. - Have names already. (Sarah laughs). - [Shayne] It's also straight up not-. - But it's also you're not friends. - Also, if we're gonna talk about giving nicknames, horrible nickname. - [Sarah] Horrible nickname. - RV Reba? You assigned their location and then their name. - Well, she's a single mom that works two jobs. Like, come on. That's so... - That's true. - Heavy.

Like, what he's saying. - RV Reba. - And it's also like she just started a new job. She's young. She's trying to like, being a woman in the workplace is also very hard. She's trying to like make a name for herself in the place. Like, whenever you're-. - And the name is not RV Reba. - And it's not RV Reba. And I think that's just so condescending and weird. and offputting. Like, absolutely should be reported to HR. and absolutely should quit this shit. Like, you are not hired to make silly jokes on the job.

- [Shayne] Right. - Like, be a professional, be respectful, especially to women. Like, it's just so beyond me that he thinks like, "Oh, I'm just being silly.". And it's like, did anyone hire you to be silly? - No. Absolutely not. - Yeah 'cause no, your explanation makes it sound. like she's a little bit more of an RV Brockovich, you know? - We'll cut that. (everyone laughs). - But I will say like I've been lucky.

that I've worked in workplaces. that like even if I am like, there's a joke that goes too far or something like that, I am the type of person that's like, "Hey, can you like not joke about that?". And everyone's been very like nice about it. I've always worked in these like creative video fields, so sometimes the lines get blurred. And so the fact that like having to ask more than once. or even just like to explain why it's inappropriate, it's just like, it's just beyond me. Like, we're adults here. - Yeah. - Yeah. I wonder if it's because in our creative fields,

I mean, no, I hear horror stories about it. in our fields too, but I feel like working at Smosh, like inevitably we run into this so often, right? - Yeah. - Of course. I mean, it's comedy. - Not even amongst ourselves, but just in our videos. where we go like, "Oh, we did something that we, "we won't say that again.". Or like, "Oh, that didn't-". - That didn't look good or whatever. - So I feel like it's just part of our job, so we just have so much experience with it. Not to like take it so personally. when it's like, "Hey, just don't say that.". Like, learn the behavior now.

- Right. Someone saying, "I don't like that you say that,". or like, "I don't like that,". doesn't mean that like, I mean, maybe not this guy, but that doesn't mean like you're a bad person. or I hate you now. It's just like, hey, I'm drawing a line right there. for that thing and that's it. And you just go, "Great, I won't do that anymore. "Let's have fun elsewhere.". - Right. - [Tommy] It's easy. - Then I think what is he gonna do with that information? If they name names, which they're not going to. 'cause they have to protect who did the report, like and what then? - He's gonna pursue them? Corner them? - He's gonna create. a hostile interaction. He's gonna retaliate.

He's gonna like-. - [Shayne] Yeah, what're you gonna do? - Be mean to that person. Like, grow up. - Yeah. He also is clearly like lacking self-awareness. of, hey, like nicknames, jokes, it's one thing, but you are a man in your 30s, and she is a young woman in her early 20s. who is new to this job. And so like you have to understand. how this is gonna come across. Like, she's in a place where she probably feels scared. to speak up for herself. - Well, she's new too. - Right. She's new.

- Yeah, yeah, exactly. - And like the last thing you wanna do as a new person. is like ruffle the feathers and like be like, feel like it's hostile. - Yeah. - [Sarah] It's a very tough situation. - They're stuck there. - She's in hard spot. Yeah. - They're stuck there. Like, you know, like make this easy for them. - Exactly. And we've all met people that like kind of don't know. when to stop joking, even if they're not funny. - Especially. Yeah. - They just like, I wish I had that confidence. But like we've all been around those people, and I think it is a very difficult situation. to sit them down and be like,

hey, I get you think you're silly, but this is not silly goose time. This is time to be a professional. - And HR did their job here, which is to just lay something out. as straightforward as possible. It's like, "Hey stop.". - Yep. - Yep. - We're asking you to stop doing this thing. - We've had reports and end it. - Comments. "I think you know you're the buttface. "Your jokes aren't amusing to others. "This has been explicitly spelled out. "to you multiple times from the sound of it, "therefore you should have already stopped. "If others aren't laughing, it's not funny. "If it's not funny, it's not a joke.

"If it's not a joke, your continued behavior is harassment. "Stop it before you quite rightly lose your job.". Someone said, "You are the buttface massively. "You zero in on something that someone finds embarrassing. "and repeatedly point it out to all and sundry. "You say it's just a laugh, but plainly not for Reba. "I'm glad your colleagues reported you. "You sound like a horrible person to have around.". Someone said, "You're the asshole and insulting. "What's wrong with you? "You are not funny. "You don't get to demand anything. "You can request. "You can be told no.

"You do not get to decide what people want. "or like to be called. "You do not get to decide what someone feels about anything. "With multiple people complaining, "I'm shocked you're not in more trouble. "What you're doing is harassment and bullying. "You're at a place of work. "Be more mature and professional.". - [Tommy] Yep. - Damn. Yeah. - That's right. - I also think, like I've been in relationships. and dynamics mostly with like a male and me. where like if you do say your boundaries. or you're like, "Hey, that's not funny,". or, "Hey that makes," they go, "It's a joke.".

So I think it's like if your response is, "It's a joke,". like that itself needs to be like a self-reflection thing. 'cause you're also like brushing off that person's emotions. And like I've been in that situation kind of gaslit of like, "It's just a joke. "Why are you taking it so seriously?". And you're like, "Well I'm kind of like not feeling great. "after you said that thing and that's the issue.". - Yeah. And like we work in comedy, and we know like jokes do, there's like a reality to it. - Yeah, yeah, exactly.

- Like, you can't just say like, "Oh well it's just all silly and there's no implications. "There's no meaning behind it.". It's like all jokes have some reality to it. How much of it is to be determined. But it's a very privileged position as a guy. to just be like, "Oh, it's just fine. It's whatever.". It's like, yeah, because you're not threatened in this place. - Exactly. Exactly. - Whereas she's scared. She doesn't know you. - Exactly. - All right, our next story comes from Am I Overreacting. It's a new one. It's only like a month or so old. - [Sarah] Oh. - "Am I overreacting? "Girlfriend threw away the dinner I cooked.

"because she wanted pizza instead.". - Oh. (crew laughs). What shitty dish? - I cooked you dinner. - I want pizza. - Pizza! - I want pizza! Pizza! - "Girlfriend texted me earlier. "I'm too tired and frustrated to even respond. "I was trying to do something nice for her. "and surprised her with something she said she really liked, "but apparently she wasn't in the mood for it. "I feel pretty tired of trying in general. "I guess I didn't really ask her what she wanted tonight. "for dinner, but I still feel pretty angry.".

Text messages between OP and girlfriend. So the girlfriend texts him, "Hey, when is your break? "Can you pick up a pizza, "so I have something to eat tonight?". OP responds, "No, babe. "I made the wine braised short ribs. "you said last night were your favorite. "I got up early to cook them. "You just have to pull them from the pot. "There's that. "and the small s'mores cake I made for Wednesday. "since there's extra and I figured you'd want some.". Okay, so he made okay wine braised short ribs. - [Tommy] Yeah. - And there's.

s'mores cake. - And s'mores cake. Okay, Martha. - Girlfriend responds, "I don't really want that though. "Can you just grab a pizza on your break? "We can eat that stuff later.". - That stuff. - That stuff. OP says... OP says, "No, I'm locked in for the night. "What's wrong with the short ribs? "You literally just told me it was your favorite thing, "so I made it special for you. "Kind of sucks.". "Well I tried it, and it came out kind of gross anyway, "so I'm tossing it. "Can you ask to leave for a bit. "and stop by a Papa John's or something? "I just want stuffed crust.".

"What do you mean gross? "You tossed it? "As in like threw it away?". "It just tasted bad. "I don't know what to tell you, it wasn't eatable. "It's not a big deal. "I just need to eat something tonight for dinner though. "Did you ask?". "Dude, what the (beep)? "That was expensive meat. "Why would you throw it away? "I already told you I'm not leaving work.". "Well, I don't know what you expect me to do. "It's simple as (beep). "Just order a pizza then if you're busy. "Like, I have to eat something. "Hello? Places are closing soon.". "I'm busy at work. "I don't want to talk about it right now.

"Please figure it out. "We'll talk later.". She says, "Seriously, you're gonna be this much. "of an asshole over this? "I didn't ask you to cook anything. "If you can't deal with the basics. "of being a supportive partner, "then it should be something I consider. "and find someone who will support me.". (Tommy sputters). - Huh? - Dude. - [Sarah] Oh no. - Why can't she order the pizza? What's going on? - I think that's my confusion. That's my confusion. Why can't she get the Papa John's? - [Shayne] Can't, dude. - With the little pepper. - She can't. - I can't do it. I can't do it.

- Clearly she has her phone. - Yeah, you have your phone in your hands. - Yeah, literally. - You have your phone in your hands. Like, get it delivered at your workplace. and just like heat it back up or something. - Oh my god. - Stop and get like a frozen pizza. I feel like there's a lot of like problem solving. that could-. - Places are closing soon? Papa John's is open forever. (everyone laughs). If there's one thing you can get at anytime-. - It's Papa John's. - It's pizza. - You can find a pizza somewhere. I don't know where you live, but like you could probably find a pizza. And if not, there's short ribs.

She's at home. She threw the short ribs away. - I think that's a little brutal to say like over text. Like, I feel like (laughs). I don't even know where to begin with this story. There's so much. I'm like, line by line, let's go. This is a lot. This is a lot. - This is ridiculous. This is where it goes beyond like needing, like if I knew this guy, I'm like, we don't need to talk about this, man. - Yeah, I know, it's like... (everyone laughs). - I'd be like, man, look in the mirror. - Like, everybody sit down. Take a breath. - Yeah. - Did they say how long they were together for?

- No, but like we don't get much before the text messages. - So who posted this? - The boyfriend posted this, and he posted all the screenshots of the text messages. and... Yeah. The verdict's not overreacting, by the way. - Right. Of course. - We probably get some more in the comments. Let's go the comments. - Let's see that. - Yeah. - "You really shouldn't be dating a teenager. "I can't comprehend this person being an adult. "Sarcasm aside, get the hell out of this relationship.

"You wanna spend the next 40 years or whatever. "with someone who throws homemade meals in the garbage, "demands pizza from a chain restaurant, "and is seemingly incapable of ordering delivery herself. "and is rude as (beep) to you? "Dude, there's so many red flags in this exchange. "that you could open up an Etsy store selling used red flags. "and become a multimillionaire.". - Okay. Okay. - Fedora time! - Okay. Okay, standup comedian. - OP responds to that though. - Oh. - And says, "Not sure why I can't edit. "to add more information on mobile, "but I'm borrowing the top comment to answer some questions.

"She lost her card last week. "while hanging out with some friends. "and had to cancel her accounts. "She's using mine until her new one comes in the mail. "I have not gotten to eat any of the prepared food. "Cooking is my love language. "I think I mostly just feel heartbroken at this point, "and that's why I've decided to just finish work tonight. "and talk to her in the morning about it.". Dude, my god. She sounds useless. (Sarah laughs). - It's his love language? - I know, that's what my gut, like I was thinking like maybe their love languages.

are like off, and then there's also no consideration. for each other. - She threw it out though. - She threw it out. - Threw it out is crazy. - Throwing it out before even asking-. - Before he gets to eat it. - Yeah. - Yeah. - That's a breakup moment. - And I'm thinking like maybe there are, a stew or whatever. - A stew's always saveable. You add more of the other stuff, you add more of the other stuff. - I don't believe her that she tried it. - No. She wanted a pizza. - Pizza. - It's not eatable.

- Eatable. - That's all I need. It's not eatable. I mispronounce stuff all the time, but no. - And he worked quickly. She said it last night, and he cooked it this morning. Damn. - I know. "She could have at least sent a text like, "'Hey babe, I appreciate you cooking dinner, "'but it wasn't my favorite. "'Can we order something else instead?'". - [Sarah] Exactly. - "There was no appreciation shown, "and just throwing it away was rude, "especially if you liked it. "I honestly probably would've. "just ordered myself something else to eat. "and told you later that I didn't like it, et cetera. "Your feelings are valid.".

Update! - Oh! Yay. - Yes. - "After spending the morning at a friend's house, "I went ahead and just went back to our apartment. "I haven't really slept honestly with how anxious I've been. "Basically, I went back to the apartment. "She was there scrolling on her phone. "I went ahead and just came out with it. "and explained to her that I can't keep trying. "to make things work with someone. "who doesn't care about what I do for them. "She started to cry. "and told me it's just the way her brain works. "and it's not her fault.". (Tommy scoffs). "She said she's trying in therapy. "and that she feels like she doesn't deserve to be loved.

"I'm more or less-". - Oh, Jesus Christ. - Oh no. Oh no. I gotta go home now. - "I more or less followed up. "and explained to her I can't be the one to keep dealing. "with her when she treats me like garbage. "She basically got angry as hell at this point. "and told me I never cared and I never really tried. "or I wouldn't just leave over something so stupid. "She broke a glass I kept from growing up-". - No, come on. - "She broke a glass I kept from growing up. "that was sitting on our counter. "by throwing it on the ground, "at which point I just stopped talking.

"I spent an hour with her yelling and begging me. "while I grabbed things I have that are valuable. "I'm just going to disappear for a bit at my friend's. "I need to figure out what to do about the rent and stuff. "since we have a month until renewal. "I know it's not really all that crazy of an update, "but I...". - Not that crazy? She's throwing things. - "But I wanted to just get in and out and be done. "after thinking about it. "and being ready to move on from being unhappy. "I appreciate everyone's comments. "and to the people who reached out, "I'll be honest, I feel like I've wasted a ton of my life. "trying to help a broken person,

"and it's just equal parts depressing, "while also a feeling of being empty and tired. "I'm going to try my best to make things better in my life. "and only give people who appreciate me. "and the stuff that I do.". - That's the whole point, that last sentence. - You can't be down on yourself for-. - Trying. - You know, for doing that thing. of like trying to help someone. I know we all have the thing of like, you can't, you know, they have to help themselves. You can't be the person. But it's like, I feel like it's a canon event. for most people to be in a relationship with someone.

who is like this. who has probably some wonderful positive things, but then has these other things that are hard to deal with. - It's a pairing that happens I think so often. And it's because when you know the source. of someone's toxic traits-. - Exactly. - You go, "Well, I know why they're that way.". - [Tommy] Right. - But at a certain point you kinda have to be like, it doesn't matter. - It doesn't change. - Because here we are right now and you're throwing glass. - You're breaking my glass.

- You're breaking glass on the floor, and I can't be here for that. - Exactly. Exactly. - Oh God. - Geez. - I think it's also too, like you kind of like, I think I'm a natural optimist, but I think in relationships, everyone is a natural optimist. So you're just like, you know, maybe they had a bad day. You're being very compassionate. You're being very empathetic. But there is a point in relationships where you can also go, "This is just not gonna work.". - [Shayne] Right. - And it's like, I still care for the person.

- [Tommy] Of course. - There's still emotions there. Like, he's probably going through some heartbreak too. But like at some point you gotta be like, "This is not my mess to fix.". - [Shayne] Right. - And this is also not my person. that I want to like continue with. And so you kind of have to like break the cycle. So sometimes little things like this break it. where you're like, holy shit-. - When the cycle breaks-. - You're like, "Oh my god!". - I'm like, finally I'm free. - Frontal lobes are connecting and snapping and you're-.

- Yeah, it's just like, zorb. - You're like, "Oh my god.". And then like six months later when it's just a story, 'cause everything you do turns into just a story, you're like, "Holy shit. "Thank God I got out when I did.". - Exactly. - Because like that's just not a mess. that I had to clean up. - Right. - Especially when this is my life as well too. - And you look back and you go, there's no way I could have ever, like there was no chance of me ever doing that. - Exactly. Exactly. - And, you know, I've been in situations where I look back. and I go, oh, I was never gonna help this person. - Exactly. - Right. Exactly. - Like, by just-.

- Being there and supporting. - You know, being part of the toxic, they're doing their toxic things and I'm tolerating it. What's gonna happen here? No, we have to leave. - We have to leave it. - And there's guilt. I think there's like, when you're that person that's like finally making the call. and witnessing all this stuff happen, like as he's packing up and she's crying and begging, like you're feeling guilty. 'cause you're like, oh shit, I am like quitting this thing. But like some things are worth quitting,

and some things are worth walking away. And relationships are like, if you're in a bad relationship, it is so like, and not even bad, a wrong relationship, like it's painful as hell. I'd much rather be by myself figuring out. than being in like a situation like that. So like he's making a good call, not only for him, but for her as well. 'cause she has growth to do too. Saying I'm unlovable, it's like that's taking, again-. - That was a manipulation tactic. - Exactly. Taking the accountability out of it.

because it's like, you unlovable, you just crashed a glass from my childhood on the floor. - Are you trying to prove your own point? - Exactly. Like it's a self-fulfilling prophecy at that point. - Exactly. - Yeah. - God, I mean honestly-. - It's painful. I feel bad, but-. - For both of 'em in a way, you know? - But he is making the right move by getting out of there. - And sometimes the chemistry of like two people like that, it's just like a bad situation. Like, I've not been perfect in relationships either.

And just that chemistry is often-. - Sometimes you have two people that don't mix right. - It's like the volcano experiment. Like, baking soda and the vinegar. - Exactly. - It's just like, this is not my best. (laughs). - [Shayne] We don't know... - You're like, I'm not bringing my A game. I'm bringing my crazy game. - I'm bringing my hydrogen peroxide to this. - Yeah, exactly. - We don't know their ages, but I do think it sounds like, like she sounds very young. - [Sarah] Yeah. - Maybe she's not, but she's coming across-.

- [Tommy] I've met some people who are older-. - But I'm glad that she's in therapy. - Yes. - But I'm sure the therapist would probably be glad to know, like, hey, yeah, that relationship should not be happening. Like, especially if this is the type. of behavior she's eliciting. But I'm hopeful, like, you know, like if she genuinely puts work in, which it sounds like she needs to still do, but-. - You won't ever find that like answer to like, am I unlovable in another person. - Nope. - Like, you gotta like, RuPaul, what does RuPaul say?

You gotta love yourself first. - How the hell are you gonna love somebody else? - Yeah, exactly. If you don't love yourself. And like that's 100% it. - It's true. - If you don't find the reasons. why you would fall in love with you, like it's just never, it's gonna be an endless source of failed relationships. - Right. Right. Well, I hope for the best for the both of them. - Same. - And they will. - Yeah. - They will. I'm very optimistic. If they do the work, they will. - Right. All right, moving on to our last story.

- Wow. (Sarah screams). - This comes from Relationship Advice. Comes from 2022. "I, a 25-year-old woman, begged my partner, "a 28-year-old man, for an open relationship. "Eight months in, he left.". - For another woman or someone else? Oh. Cliffhanger. - So I have read so many stories on Reddit. We don't read a lot of these types of ones here, but I have read so many stories. and heard so many stories about-. - [Sarah] Poly. - People in monogamous relationships. asking for poly relationships.

and then it backfiring on them. - Yes. - I've heard about that so much. It's also similar... (Sarah giggles). There are so many stories on Reddit. about people having threesomes and then the aftermath of it. And they are crazy stories. - This is a wild one to end with. - This is nuts. "Eight months ago, I, a 25-year-old woman, "asked my partner, a 28-year-old man, "for an open relationship as I got bored with him.". - Oh. - "Nothing wrong, but he just didn't excite me much.

"And he agreed, but he proceeded to tell me there's a catch. "If he catches feelings for a partner, "he's going to leave me for her.". - Oh. - Oh. This is like a (vocalizes Western duel tune). - Yeah, it's like (vocalizes Western duel tune). ♪ Whah whah whah ♪. - Yeah, you wanna do this? - Yeah, oh, you wanna (beep)? You wanna (beep) someone else? - Yeah. And if I (beep) someone real good, I go (beep) them. (Tommy and Sarah imitating gunshots blasting). (crew laughs). - "So he said if he catches feelings for a partner, "he's going to leave me for her.".

- This is-. - "And that's exactly what happened.". - Well, he said it was gonna happen. - And she was bored with him! - And she continues, "I want him back in my arms. "He left me for his new partner. "What can I do to win the love of my life back.". - Time machine, baby. - Love of your life? - Time machine. - Love of your life? I thought he bored you? - You thought he was (beep) boring, dude. - Look, man, that's not-. - That's the whole thing? - That's not a reason to get into an open relationship. Like... Come on, man. - Wait, that's the whole thing?

- So that's... I will say there's an update. - Oh, okay. - But that's the main story. - That is the post. So she posted that being like, "Guys.". - Guys. - I was bored. - I was bored, so I wanted an open relationship. - I was bored, so I wanna open up the relationship. - He told me exactly what would happen and it happened. - And he did the thing. - Bold move on him to be like, "Well, all right.". - 'Cause I've also heard of people. like requesting an open relationship, but they have like different rules of like, you can't go on more than one date with a person.

So it's like basically like you have an open door. to do like one night stands. - From what I know of people who have open relationships. is it is like everything is an agreed upon thing. - Exactly. You have to. - You have to really lay it out. But it's also the people that I know that are, that it seems to be working with, it's like they both got into a poly relationship. - Yeah, it was like-. - To be a monogamous relationship. and then be like, "Let's open our relationship.". - That does not work usually. - Yeah.

- At least for anecdotally from everyone I know-. - Same. - Same. - I'm like, no, one of you wanted to cheat. or you were already cheating and this is your way into it. It's like, no, if you wanna be poly, I think you need to end your relationship. and go find a poly relationship. - On even grounds. - But like to go from monogamous to poly, both of you probably have different ideas of it. You're both going into a new thing like, at the same time, your ideas of it are so different probably. - You're starting a new relationship kind of.

- And then it didn't work out. This new type of relationship didn't work for you. - Yeah, I've never explored open relationship. Claudio and I are monogamous, but we've had this conversation a lot, just to like go through the exercise. - Right, just to be like, what would that be like if we did that? - Exactly. Exactly. And to me it's like, it's not even like. if we're doubling the relationship, it's double the work. I think it's like exponential. I think it's like if we were to have an open relationship, it's not double the work. It's almost like triple the work because it's like,

yeah, it just exponentially, the communication needs to go, the dynamics between all the different things, the like nights out. Like, there's a lot involved. that there's like a social responsibility in those dynamics. to put a lot of work into it. - It's a massive change. And if you're making that change, it's gotta be like, oh, this is something so deep in me-. - Yeah. - That this is who I am and this is what I want. Not just, oh, I got bored with my partner. - I think it sounds fun.

It does sound fun. In fluffy world, it's like, oh yeah, I get to smooch the cuties over there-. - And go home to my love of my life. Isn't that nice and beautiful? - Exactly. Isn't that nice and beautiful? But if you really think about it. - It's like a watch. It's complex inside. (Sarah laughs). Okay? - See, I have too much anxiety for that shit. I'm like-. - Oh, same. - Yeah. - I just think it's like what Claudio and I have. like with us being together in our love. is like I just love it so much. That is like an hour or two of playtime.

really worth all that extra hubbub. to like make that worth it. I'm like, well, no. And if I'm bored, maybe in like our sex life or whatever, that's a conversation to have with my partner first. before I go exploring. So like if she was bored in the bedroom, like talk about it. - She's also blaming, she's like, "I got bored with him.". And it's like, hey, that's a thing. - Yeah. - But this is how you're solving it. - Whapa! - It's like, you're bored with him.

That may not be just him. That's you two together. - That's the dynamic. - There was a really interesting, I forget it was in a book I read, about like, you know, when you've been together. for years upon years, like you have to find a way to continue the narrative. - Yes. - Because when you're single and like you're dating, it's like, whoa, all these exciting elements. Like, whoa. And she's looking for a rush. that she'll get from meeting new people. - [Sarah] Exactly. - But that rush will end too. - Exactly. - She's treating it like a drug. where it's like you can find that rush. - Exactly. - But you have to work on that together. - And that's the creativity, communication.

Like, maybe a sex therapist. Like, these things work. - Totally. - They take time and focus. - But she made a brash, massive decision. not considering the ramifications. - I just love that he was like, "I will leave you if I catch feelings.". - Crazy move. And he did it. - Do you think he thought like that'll get her. to not open up the relationship? - I think he, to me it feels like he almost broke up. then and there. - Yeah. - Right. - Like, he was like, "This relationship's over.". - I'll go hunting for someone else.

- Comments. Comments. "Not gonna lie, "that's the ultimate reverse card for this situation. "Big ups your ex.". OP said, "Really?". (everyone laughs). - He said exactly what he was gonna do. - Someone said, "Ha ha, good for him. "Get a therapist to help you work on yourself, "so you learn to end an unhealthy relationship. "instead of pretending to be poly.". OP said, "I've been in and out of therapy. "for at least a year now.". Someone said, "Yes really, you played yourself. "He didn't excite you, so you asked for an open relationship.

"and now you want him back when he caught feelings. "for someone else while in the open relationship. "that you asked for in the first place. "You only have yourself to blame for this one. "You should stay single for a while and grow up.". "I don't wanna be single. "I want to prove to my boyfriend I can be better now.". - [Tommy] Sure. - All right. - Okay. - It's too late. - Update. - Oh. - Oh. - "Probably nobody asked for this, but here's an update.". (Sarah laughs). - It's so aggressive. - Probably nobody asked for this. - Probably no one asked for it. - The way that this person writes. - Poly nobody asked for this.

- Hey. Nice. - "I was kicked out of his house last Sunday. "That's six days now. "And I excruciatingly miss him. "I will do anything to get him to return to me, "but he looks happy on social media with his new partner. "that I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me with.". - But you were open. - But you were in an open relationship. "Anyways, I tried calling him, no answer. "I saw him in public, "and he pretended to not even know who the (beep) I was. "He won't acknowledge my existence, "so I went to our former place just to talk, "and things got hostile. "His new girlfriend hates me for some reason.

"I didn't even know her. "And she proceeded to try and attack me. "while he tried to split us up and get me out the door. "When he had his back turned, she maced me and now he-". - What? - "And now he's trying to file a restraining order on me. "The hell did I do wrong? "She attacked me and pepper sprayed me.". - Didn't you show up at their house? - Yes, she did. - "How can I convince him he's dating a psychopath?". - What? - Uh-oh. - Jerry! - [Sarah and Tommy] Jerry, Jerry, Jerry.

- Oh my god. - That's wild. That's embarrassing. Is this real? - It's probably not, but... (Sarah laughs). I'll say this, it's probably not. But I know of these types of situations. I know of these anecdotally. Not of showing up and getting pepper sprayed, but of the open relationship turned into regret. into no, I want you back, I'm sorry. - Classic story. Turner classic. - Comments. "You got what you wanted. "And if anyone sounds like a psychopath, it's you. "who is stalking their ex.

"Seek some mental help or do some inner reflection, "but most importantly, leave the man alone and move on.". "Stalking? I previously lived at that residence.". - Oh naur. But she said kicked out. - I got kicked out six days ago. - Kicked out is not like I moved out. It's like, this feels like Joe from "You.". You know how Joe from "You" can like rationalize. every reason he like murdered every woman on that show. and every person. It's like you are like out of touch with reality. and perception. Like, you should turn actually.

to your closest friends and community. Hopefully they can call you out on your shit because like-. - Bring it back home, you know? - Yeah, if it's getting to like legal, to mace, to like separating, like that woman also in the relationship. with your ex had nothing to do with this. She was exploring a relationship. - She was just having a good time. - That I hope he was like open and honest. about being open to. There's no reason to go after her either.

- Yeah. This is a delusional person, if they're real. (Sarah laughs). "You need to leave him alone. "This isn't going to end well for you.". OP responded, "I can't walk away until this is fixed.". - Uh-oh. - Walk away. - You're gonna. - Someone said, "And if it was an open relationship, "then how was it cheating?". She says, "Because he left me within eight months. "That's way too fast.". (crew laughs). - Eight months is two quarters, two fiscal quarters. That is a very long time. (laughs). - Okay. Update number two. - Oh! - Oh!

Here we go again! - "This'll probably be the last update.". - Okay. - [Shayne] "The restraining order has been-". (Tommy cackles). - Thank you. Thank you, queen. - We love that. - "The restraining order has been filled, "and I am not allowed within 100 feet of my ex Harry. "and his new girlfriend Jess. "I'm planning to move back to my home in Arizona. "and start over. "They're happy, and I just wanna find peace with myself. "Thanks for everyone's advice and opinions. "Yes, I was already in therapy, and I am still in therapy. "Please, anyone my age or younger, listen to my advice. "TikTok is not cool. "Please delete it. "It's done me nothing but harm,

"and other people's stupidity can really poison your minds. "in living proof. "Thank you. Take care.". I'm starting to go back to thinking this is real, and this is a person who is very like, they've lost their mind. - Yeah, they lost the plot. - So OP in the comments alluded. that TikTok was the reason she wanted an open relationship. She saw some stuff talking about it. So this is a very immature-. - Wait, wait, wait. You're telling me everything on TikTok-. - Is not to be trusted. - Not to be trusted? - You're telling me that, is this some sort of misinformation?

(Sarah laughs). - You're telling me all the people. that are poly on TikTok may not be onto something. (everyone laughs). - Update number three. - Don't! - Yes, let's go! Let's go! - So this is two years later. - Can I make an assumption that she's gonna like open it up. with like negging herself about doing an update? - She's like, "Guys, I can't believe it.". - Like, literally no one asked for this, but... - "It's been two years. "I've tried to stay offline and live life, "but my ex and his now wife find new ways.

"to live in my head rent free. "I wanted an open relationship, so what? "You don't just string me along for eight months, "get some new girl who you met through me, "and then marry her. "This isn't fair. "She's living in my home. "with someone who should be my husband, "and he's been renewing the restraining order. "ever since it first expired, "and I know he's gonna keep doing it. "because for reasons beyond my knowledge, the man hates me. "FML.". - Dude, this is why she's doing it! - Two years later?

- [Shayne] Oh my god. - This is why he's doing it. - Guys, I fear this is real. I fear-. - [Tommy] 100%. - This is real. And I will also say the way this is written has me, like this person is typing this not like, they're just going off. - Oh, this is bad. Now I'm like scared for the husband and wife. in this situation. - This is beyond entitled. This is, they're in a different world. - They're living on a different planet, and it's unfortunate. Two years later? - Ooh, man. - What kind of therapy? I think the on and off,

I've been in on and off therapy for, I think that like might say it too 'cause it's like-. - On and off. Are you leaving a therapist. as soon as they call you out on something? - Exactly. - Untrustworthy narrative. - That could be a thing, - Right. - That could be a thing. Yikes. - God. - Take the hint. I don't know. - It's been two years. I don't think the hint's gonna stick. - I don't know what you would do. - Also like did she not meet anyone nice when she was open? Like, I find it so hard to be so sprung, like when he's clearly moved on.

- The story that I've heard on Reddit, that is one of my favorite stories. is a person writes in about their parents, and what happens is their parents who are in their like 50s, the dad wants an open relationship, so they begin to have an open relationship. He starts sleeping with his secretary. who he clearly had already been sleeping with. - Yeah. - And then the mom just starts sleeping with tons of dudes. - [Sarah] I love it. - And the dad loses his mind, and then the mom leaves him. And the dad like, then the secretary left him. And it just like plays out just horrendously for the dad.

- [Sarah] Yeah. Yeah. - I am always amazed. I mean, this person is, this is scary. But I'm always amazed at people who cheat. and do so much horrible stuff and then are blown away. and cannot handle when their partner leaves them. - [Tommy] Yeah. - I'm like, wait, you thought you were allowed. to just make all these mistakes. and do all these horrible things. and treat your partner so horribly? And the second that they choose themselves, you can't handle it. And they often can't handle it for years. - Yeah.

- Yeah. Yeah. 'Cause I think like when you're in that position, you're not even thinking of the consequences. or you're rationalizing why this can be totally okay. Like, Ned, Try Guys, podcast. Like, that's the kind of situation you're like looking into, and it's like, it's just already gone. once you've like disconnected. from like the reality of the situation. - Oof. Wow. - [Tommy] Yeah. - Well, that's all our stories. - Wow. - Damn.

- That was great. - That was really solid. I think we did good here. (everyone laughs). I feel really good about this. - I think we did some good work here. - Yeah. - I think we're gonna get an Emmy for this episode. (everyone laughs). - Yeah, let's get an Emmy. - We're gonna get an EGOT for this. - Yeah, if Rhett and Link can. Right? They got nominated or something. We can. - Damn. Sarah coming back and just shooting shots at other channels. All right. - Let's go! - Sarah, thank you so much for joining us again. - Thank you guys so much. These are so fun.

- You're always welcome here. - I love coming back. I love coming back. - Well, I think we'll see you on some other videos too. - Yeah. Just a few other ones today and tomorrow. - Yeah, just a little bit. - Just a couple other things. - Doing a whole tour. - Nice. And, Tommy, thank you for joining us. - Okay. Thanks. - Okay, great. - Yeah, I live here. - All right. And thank you so much for watching. Let us know what other types of stories and categories. and subreddits you wanna see on this show. And we'll see you next Saturday. Goodbye. - Goodbye. - Don't be a buttface.

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