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- Hello and welcome to "Reddit Stories.". I'm Shayne, and today's theme is overreacting. Am I overreacting? I don't know. I'm joined by two people who (scoffs). frankly do give us some of the best reactions on this show. - What? - What? What? - How could you? - Courtney and Arasha are here. (Courtney and Arasha squeal and groan). - Those are some of the great reactions. - We're gonna be seeing more of that. - Yeah, you are. Yeah, you are. - What do you think the chances are. of something giving you the type of reaction.

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- I know. - [Courtney] Huh? - Throughout. - He said what? There, you can use that at any point in the video. (everyone laughs). - Yeah, let's just like back order a few reactions. up at the top. - Yes. - Let's go for it. - He said what? - Wait, can I hear that again? - Mm-hmm. - Okay, um... - For real? - Shayne, why would you say that horrible word? (crew laughs). - I got one, I got one. - [Shayne] Okay. - Please, please have an update.

- Okay. - These are good. (crew applauds). You're ready. - Yeah, and if you put those only at the beginning, it'll be really embarrassing. So don't do that. - We'll switch those around. - Yeah, yeah. No, they got our back. - All right, our first story. Comes from Am I Overreacting. Posted in January of this year, 2026. "Am I overreacting if I end my relationship. "because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me. "before leaving for work in the morning?". - Wait, what? - I thought that sentence was going different places.

- He said what? - And then it ended up being super sweet. - Yeah, let's get that one more time. - "Am I overreacting if I end my relationship. "because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me. "before leaving for work in the morning?". - You wanna end it 'cause of that? - All right. I hate that my boyfriend loves me. - Yeah. - Gross. - He's a monster. - All right. "My boyfriend, who's 39, and I, a 30-year-old woman, "have different work schedules. "Most days of the week, boyfriend has to be outta the house. "by 7:00 AM.

"As a grad student, I am often up late working, "but try to sleep in, "so I still get at least eight hours of sleep. "Fortunately, my partner and I have separate bedrooms, "so in theory this should be perfectly manageable. "But despite repeatedly asking him not to, "he always comes into my room to kiss me. "and tell me he loves me before he leaves, "which wakes me up every time. "I have an Oura ring, so I am also able to see. "that this often takes place when I am in deep sleep, "which in addition to lost sleep hours. "leaves me incredibly groggy throughout the day.

"I know it's sweet, "but I've suggested if he wants to be cute, "to please leave a note or a nice text I can wake up to. "I remind him not to wake me up in the morning. "the night before and will even tape notes to my door. "that say 'please don't wake me up,'. "and he still does anyway. "Otherwise, our relationship is great, "so maybe it's the sleep deprivation talking, "but I'm really feeling at my wits end with this. "Please help me find some clarity on what to do, Reddit.". - Oh gosh. - Okay, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. - This is so interesting. - This is tough.

Yeah, yeah. Or it's not tough, but it's an interesting scenario. - It is. - Yeah. - Yeah, at first I was like really mad at her, and I was like, "No, he's being sweet, and that's adorable.". But then it's kind of like you think about it further. and it is kind of like, okay, she's kind of being as clear as possible. - Yeah. With the notes and everything. - With the notes. It's like, please don't wake me up. Then it feels a little like, okay, king, just leave a cutie note. - Right. - I wish she had said like what his responses were. to what she's asking.

- I know, it's just like, but yeah, if he's lying to her. - Like, is he going, "Okay.". - He's like, "For sure.". - And then like does it. Like, I wanna know that. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - I will not kiss you. - [Courtney] Challenge accepted. - Yeah. I wonder why. I want, like-. - Do you think he's trying like, after she's like, "Please don't kiss me in the morning,". he's like, "For sure.". And then he like tries to be extra sneaky. - Aw. - He's like... Mah. - [Arasha] Yeah. - 'Cause like my mind goes to imagine, like some people it's like existential.

or like where it's like, I wanna see my person. and say I love you and kiss you before I leave. 'cause what if I never get to do that again? Like, some people it's that deep. - Yeah. - But then also it's like she's asking for the text and-. - She's asking for something. - Yeah. - I also think some people can fall asleep faster. I'm someone that I can be woken up. and I'll just be like, "Okay, sick.". - Nope. Me. Yeah, yeah, exactly. - Truly. - I want the goodbyes 'cause then I'm about to, sorry, sayonara, I go right back to bed.

- I can pass right back out. - Exactly. And then I'll be like, "Did you say goodbye to me?". - Yeah. Exactly. - And they were like, "Yeah, and we talked. "You made lunch.". - You made lunch. - We talked. Yeah, yeah, yeah. If it became a regular scheduled thing, it probably would be something. that I don't consciously wake up for. - Yeah. - My body would start being like, "Okay, you're heading out. "See you later.". (everyone laughs). - The eyes just at 50%. - You're heading out. Sick. - Yeah. - All right, I'll see you later. (everyone laughs). - That's exactly how it goes.

- It's so interesting with the Oura ring too. because I know my Oura, 'cause I've been trying to track my stress and stuff too. When your alarm goes off, I wake up and I go back to sleep. and my heart rate gets actually. to the lowest it is the entire night. I don't know if it's like, ah, he's just getting up. I have some time. And I sleep like the best I've ever slept in that next hour. - I'm scouting the place. - I'm like, I feel, I don't know. My body feels extra safe after that. - I wake up and grab my spear. I'm like, "Okay, don't worry.

"I've got watch.". - Yeah, heart rate lowered. - And so he wakes her up at 7:00? - Yeah, he's leaving around 7:00. - Yeah. He has to be outta the house by 7:00 AM. And she's a grad student. She's often up late working. - [Arasha] Totally. - So she's on an opposite schedule than him. - Yeah. - Not fully, but it just sounds like-. - Yeah, yeah. - To a degree. She's probably sleeping until 9:00, 10:00? - I mean, it depends on how late she's staying up. - 'Cause if her for deep sleep is... I don't know. I don't know. I'm not a sleep scientist. - Totally. - But she's mad about being woken up at 7:00 AM.

- Which makes sense 'cause sleep, you know, it's precious for a lot of people. It's of course needed for all of us. So it makes sense that it is, like, you're disrupting something that is so vital. to this person being able to actually follow through. and be themselves throughout all day. - And clearly she's the type. that she likes her space and her time. - Totally. - They have separate rooms. - Yes. - I mean, it's super way more common now, but it says a lot. - It shows like, you know, setting boundaries, it doesn't matter if the act is a very sweet act. - Yeah. - If someone's saying, "Hey, please don't do that,".

kinda doesn't matter how sweet it is. and how sweet the intentions are. - Totally. - The sweetest thing is to listen to them. - Yeah. I mean, a note. Come on. - Say goodbye when you go to sleep or say like-. - Wake his ass up. I'm going to bed now. - Yeah. - You know? - I'm going to bed now. - I'm going to bed now. See you in the morning. - It could be a normal thing I think for people to be like, all right, we're going to bed. Like, I'll be up, I'll be gone by the time you wake up. - Yeah. - So as you're going to bed, it's just like, all right, well good luck tomorrow, whatever, blah, blah, blah. - Totally. - Yeah. - Okay, last thing I'll say before we get into comments is,

'cause I, like, I prefer a goodbye and things like-. - Me too. - I am the type that when my partner is already asleep. and when I'm getting into bed, I'm like, oh, I'm saying goodnight to myself. Or in the morning when you leave earlier than me, you say goodbye. I'm like, I don't care what little cost it is to me. I feel sad when I don't see them. - I agree. I agree. Yeah, 'cause I don't wanna wake... Why are you guys smiling? - I'm laughing 'cause like sometimes I'll go up to bed. and I'll start reading. and then I'll like fall asleep while I'm reading. - Yeah, book like-.

- And then I'll wake up to Courtney being like, "Oh, you're already asleep.". And then I'm like, "Well, now I'm awake.". (everyone laughs). I'll be like... - I know. - But I don't care 'cause I fall right back asleep. - Exactly. Exactly. No, I do the same thing. Like, if I'm getting into bed like late, I will be like, "Oh, you're asleep.". (everyone laughs). - Oh, you're asleep. - Oh, you're asleep! - You're asleep! - Oh! - Oh! - Oh, look at that! - Oh! You're asleep!

- Oh, you're asleep! (everyone laughs). - And these are the reactions you guys come here for. - Totally, totally, totally. - Then at 4:00 AM if I'm not in the right sleep position, my cat will get up and come right up to my face. and just go, "Meh!". - Yeah. - And then I have to like lay in the right way, and he's like, "All right, sick.". And then he like curls in here. - Totally. Totally. - Yeah. So I'm used to it. - Yeah, so she's wrong. - So anyway, she sucks. - No. - No. He needs to just listen to her. - Yes. - The verdict is not overreacting. Comments.

"Not overreacting. "Please help me find some clarity on what to do, Reddit.". And then they put a picture of someone opening a door. with the bucket of water on the door sill. - The bucket prank. - Someone said, "Not overreacting. "If he really just won't stop. "but you don't want to end the relationship, "I would start waking him up to say goodnight. "and you love him when you go to bed, "so he can see the effects of his actions. "Less drastic. "I'm also a big fan of a rubber doorstopper. "to keep him out.". OP said, "Solid ideas. Thank you.". - Okay, yeah, that's crazy.

- Like the like anti-break in. How about men can just stop? - [Arasha] Just stop. Yeah. - How about we listen to each other? - It's just wild too. 'cause it's like it's not like it's uncontrollable. He's choosing-. - [Shayne] It's a choice. - To walk into this door, walk into this room. and wake her up after being asked not to. It's just a clear boundary. - The fact that she has her own, she wants her own space. and that they have their own bedrooms. It's just like when people are able to do that, that's awesome. But clearly like she's not, like it's pointless. She's getting woken up.

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(crew laughs). - She never woke up. - And she went to sleep forever. - And she's super happy about it. - She's thriving. - "Some added context to paint a better picture here, "but the TLDR, when my boyfriend came home for lunch, "we talked it out. "He had kept the lights off to be minimally disruptive. "when making his morning coffee. "and didn't see the sign on the door. "He forgot I mentioned I would be up late, "but did kind of remember me asking him not to wake me up. "But it is our anniversary, "and for him it's about the worry that if something happened.

"to either one of us. "and that not being the last thing he did. "He's a complete sweetheart. "Okay, I know.". Crying emoji. "Plus, plus, plus points for all the commenters. "that think I'm an absolute monster.". - Oh. - Okay. I'm curious. Like, okay, so for this one night he did it. 'cause it's their anniversary, but she's saying that this happens all the time. - Right. - Maybe she's just started to stop him. and maybe it was like the note was just so big for her. where she's like, "I put a note and you're ignoring that?".

Like, that feels really big and intentional. And I have to say like sometimes when... Sometimes you can be really in the moment. with like what happened, like with the boundary being crossed. and like really stewing over it 'cause it sounds, 'cause yeah, it sounded like in the Reddit post. like this is something that's been going on for weeks. But it honestly sounds like she only has started. to put the boundary recently. I'm very much filling in gaps. - I don't know the timeline here, but-. - Yeah. - Anyways, she goes on to say, "He promised he would take it more seriously moving forward.

"And I take him at his word for all of it. "A big thank you to all of the sincere responses. "with suggestions. "because from all of that came a great solution. "He is a wonderful illustrator, "so I'm going to mount a dry erase board. "on the back of my door for him to easily leave me messages. "But after more thought too, "I'm going to tell him later he can come in. "and kiss me goodbye. "and just ask him to do it somewhere less sensitive. "like the top of my head. "and not whisper directly in my ear.". - Oh yeah, that can be scary. - I'm going to work. - [Shayne] He's kissing her goodbye.

Is he kissing her on-. (Courtney whispering). If he's kissing her goodbye, was he kissing her on the lips while she's asleep? - Ooh. Sleeping Beauty. - Mwah. - I hate that. - Shutting the jaw to make the lips together. - Me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me. - Come together. - Do you love me? I love you so much. (laughs). - She's like, "Babe, we talked about this.". - I love you so much. - That's horrible. - Did you stay up all night? - Give me a kiss goodbye. (everyone laughs).

All right. "The responses to this post. "have given me a lot of perspective. "as I have also many times found myself scrolling. "Am I Overreacting and Am I The Asshole posts thinking, "'May this love never find me.'. "All of the comments of which I've only been able. "to read a fraction both telling me I should ditch him. "and those saying he should ditch or cheat on me. "have helped me appreciate how little of a window. "into a person's relationship these posts really give. "Honestly, the relationship I have is truly wonderful. "We have fun together every day, work together as a team, "and I am so glad this love found me.

"It's weird how many of y'all took issue. "with the separate rooms thing. "We still sleep over and hang out. "in each other's rooms all the time, "but it's awesome to not be completely beholden. "to the other person's sleep schedule. "or compromised closet space. "I consider it a privilege. LOL. "Wild.". Yeah. - Whoa. - I think that's valuable stuff said at the end there. I mean, I think with most Am I The Asshole. and Am I Overreacting stories. we get the like weirdest single aspect of a relationship. - Yes. - And we judge their entire relationship off of that.

Whereas everything contains multitudes. - It sounds like these comments were overreacting. a little bit. - The comments were the overreacting. - And let's not forget, a lot of times on these comments could be a 12-year-old. We don't know. - In fact it definitely is. - All Redditors are 12. - Right. - Anyways. - [Arasha] Wow. - It's a good start. - Yeah. Yeah. I think that's great. I think we solved that. - I think we solved that too. - I think we fixed it. - Yeah, we fixed it. - Really tough dilemma there. - Yeah. - Yeah. - You're welcome.

- All right. - Would you guys be separate bedroom people. if you had the choice? - I don't think so. I mean, I'm definitely separate closet people. because I'm like, we need room. - Yeah. - But I don't think so. Again, mostly because I'm like Shayne, where I'm like, I can sleep through, I was about to say the Dust Bowl. - Hello? (laughs). - I don't know why that came in. - I will sleep through the Dust Bowl. - I will sleep through the Dust Bowl. - I would've slept through the Great Depression, I think. (everyone laughs). - Yeah. - I would've been like, "Man, this sucks. "I'm gonna go to bed.".

- Guys sound off in the comments if you slept through COVID. or... (everyone laughs). But I think I would. I really, I just, I think I'm such a deep sleeper. I'm a deep sleeper, but I'm also just like able to be woken up. and then go back to bed. So I think that is a lot of the times the reason. - [Shayne] Totally. - But also, yeah, people just wanting generally some like boundary. or some space. For me it always is like, I think any relationship can take on any sort. of like unconventional aspect. and it doesn't have to be a big deal.

It's just great, you guys are doing what makes sense. for you two. - Yeah. - Then we support it. It doesn't have to be like, oh well most couples actually sleep in the same bed. It's like, well, awesome. We don't, and we're actually really happy together. - Yeah. I think there's a lot of strength. to a couple making a decision that is outside of the norm. because the two of them are like, "Oh, we want this.". - Yes. - And we don't care that it's conventional. or it's traditional or whatever. We're doing our own thing. I think that shows strength. - [Arasha] I agree. - I don't judge people for that at all. I don't really think too much about it. I think that it makes sense for some people.

- I feel like I like the idea. of having like everybody gets their own like space. to make whatever they want of the space, but I would for sure be having a slumber party every night. I can't do that. - Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Do you wanna come over? - You'd be at the doorway with a blanket. (everyone laughs). - I have a little walkie talkie. (Shayne laughs). Please come over. - Please. - What are you doing? (everyone laughs). - Please, Arasha, come to my room. - Oh. Okay. - All right. Our next story comes from Am I Overreacting. This comes from March 21st, 2026.

"A package from an adult toy company arrived at my house. "addressed to another woman. "Am I overreacting?". - Whoo! ♪ How does she know it's a sex toy ♪. ♪ She broke a federal law ♪. (everyone laughs). - "I need an outside perspective. "because I genuinely can't tell anymore. "if my instincts are off. "or if I'm being gaslit into thinking they are. "A package arrived at our house recently. "Right address, wrong name. "A woman I've never heard of.

"I looked up the return address out of curiosity. "It's Adam and Eve, an adult toy company. "I brought it to my husband calmly, "no accusations, no yelling, "just showed him and asked if he knew anything about it. "His response was immediate and defensive. "Instead of being confused. "or trying to figure it out with me, he turned it on me, "started questioning me about why something like that. "would show up here. "I was so caught off guard I almost started apologizing.". - What? - What? (crew laughs). - "Here's where it gets harder to dismiss as coincidence.

"I looked up the name on the package. "She works in the same professional world as my husband, "in the same area he frequents, "same field, specific enough that when I saw it, "my stomach dropped. "He has a history of being dishonest. "when confronted about things that are hurtful. "This isn't the first time I've felt like I was being made. "to feel crazy for asking a reasonable question. "So I'm asking strangers on the internet. "Is this nothing? "Is there some totally logical explanation I'm missing? "Because from where I'm standing, "it feels like a lot of dots connecting in one direction.

"Am I overreacting?". - Whoa. Okay. Okay. Okay, I'm jumping. I'm already five steps ahead. I'll wait. - Jump. - What if guy is like, you know, trying to cheat, and girly, this is a hey girly, but as a package. - Oh. - The hey girly message. - You're saying that the woman that he's cheating on. or cheating with-.

- Or that we think he is-. - Yeah, that is maybe having an affair with-. - Sent that package. - She sent that package. - Find my name. Find me. That's what she did with Adam and Eve. - Like, if she didn't know he was married, she found out he was married and was like, oh. - I'm gonna send some shit to his house. - Yes, yes, yes. That's so it. That's so it. - That's a very, very, out of all the horrible scenarios that this could be, that's probably one of the more positive ones. The best case scenario. is that this is just somehow a complete mistake. But it's the right address. So it's not like a neighbor, right? It's not like you go to your neighbor's house.

and you're like, "Hey.". They're like, "Hey.". - Him being defensive. - Oh, the defensive is the worst part of this, right? - Yeah. That's it. - Everything about it is one thing. It's the defensive thing. - Yeah. And I also just wanna flag, I hated the sentence of, "He's been dishonest with things like this before.". - Bro. Whenever OP writes something like that, it's like, okay, he has a history. of being the worst boyfriend in the world, but... - But, you guys, he's hot. Right. It's like, well, we're gonna lean on the side. of this is probably a pattern.

And this is the day that we're calling it out. - Right. - I was hoping that it's like, oh, like, you know, everybody accidentally sends a thing. to their old address when it's, especially like a website like that. you're not ordering from often 'cause stuff, you know, it be lasting. - It be lasting. - If it's good quality product-. - Then all you need is a good wash. - Less is more. A good wash. - A good wash. (everyone laughs). - So, you know, when you're like, okay, six months later or however, like you've moved, that's one of those random websites.

where you forgot to change the website or the address. And then she, like this is possible that it's a coincidence, but it's also possible it's a coincidence. and he's being unfaithful. regardless of whether it's with the coincidence or not. - Yeah. I don't know. - Yeah. Suspicious altogether. - The fact that it's a woman. who just so happens to work in the same field. in the same area as him. It's a crazy coincidence. - Yeah. - 'Tis.

- But he could be helping the case. if he were to just respond with that kind of argument. - The immediate defensiveness. and turning it on her where she's like, "I felt like I need to apologize.". I was like, that's the suspicious thing about all of this. - Yeah. - 'Cause that is what people. who are guilty tend to do sometimes. - Totally. - And this is a physical thing. It's not like a, oh, I saw that you were looking at, I think I saw you looking at a woman for a long time. Like, this is a physical thing that arrived at your house. - Yeah. - How can that be turned on her? - Right.

- Like, how can that be turned on her? - Of just like, you know, oh, how could you doubt me? Why would you think that I would possibly cheat on us? Like, this is crazy. Why would you bring me this box? And then it makes you feel like, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to like shuffle that up. - And it's a very common thing. to get a wrong package sent to your place. - Yeah. - There's not a good scenario where he's being defensive. - Yeah. - But let's see. - Yeah. - The verdict is not overreacting. Comments. "Not overreacting. "If he immediately gets defensive. "and has a history of being dishonest, "does she work or live in a town he travels to?".

OP says, "It's about 30 to 40 minutes from where we live.". So the name on the address works so far away. from where they live so-. - So far away. - Why would she order a package-. - To her coworker's-. - To a person who works in the same field as her. - Oh, oh, I see. Yeah. - Not even the same, yeah, not even coworkers. - Just same field. But it's a very specific field. - Yeah. - Someone said, "The defensiveness is the real issue. "If this happened to me and I showed it to my husband,

"he'd be having quite a laugh. "And unless you were like some kind of super religious prude. "who thought these were like the devil's toys or something, "I think most people would react that way.". OP said, "I'm no prude.". - I'm no prude. - Period, queen. - Okay. - Period, queen. - Period. - Someone said, "You're not overreacting. "Your cheating moron of a husband ordered adult items. "for him and his girlfriend and auto-filled his own address. "Mail them to her and say, "'These were delivered to mine and my husband's home,'. "and see what happens after that.". OP said, "I like your thought.

"Maybe I take it to her work and give it to her. "I'm considering sending her an email. "Due to her field, the info is public. "I'm pissed at him for his choices. "I don't know what she knows or what he told her. "I don't wanna ruin her life, "but I want to know how long it's been going on.". - Oof. - Yeah, to be clear-. - Don't show up to a workplace. - Yeah, don't put this on her. - That is an HR issue if you have to show, like, don't bring this personal issue to her workplace. We don't know how involved she is. - Or if she's aware. - Put the blame on the husband, right? Put the pressure there.

- Yeah. Yeah, definitely. I mean, I feel like maybe I'm coming at it too. from like a communicative standpoint, but I feel like maybe I would try to give the information. that she found about the woman being in the same field. and bring that back to the husband first too. Like, I think the email is more productive too. to like try to get that line of communication started. But also just like, I don't know, I guess I'm also just thinking about it in my standpoint. of like, if I were to bring something up like this, the natural reaction would be like, let's have a conversation.

about how this possibly could have happened, and just see how he treats that information. Like, does he also try to like tangle that up. and make it something that doesn't make sense? Or is he like shocked by that and, you know? - Yeah. - I don't know. It's like the whole like sleuth of it all, it feels like it's a little scary. - Because I mean, at the start we were like, oh, is she being a girl's girl, this other woman, and trying to like throw her a hint? Like, could she reach out to her? And it's like, hey, what's going on here? To get some clarity. 'Cause I don't know if she's gonna get the truth.

out of her husband who is famously dishonest. - Right. - If you're writing a post and you're going, "Yeah, my partner who is dishonest with me all the time,". then I'm like, that is a little bit of me being a Redditor. where I'm like, why are you with this person? - [Arasha] Right. - That you cannot trust? - The writing's on the wall. - It is. - Update. ♪ Yeah, yeah, yeah ♪ ♪ Yeah ♪. - What do we think? - Harmony. - Do we think that this is all a big misunderstanding. or do we think he's cheating on her? - I mean, like, my heart wants to be like,

it's a misunderstanding. - Totally. - You know? And like the sex toys were for him. (crew laughs). - And that's his alias. - Yeah. - What if it was his drag name? You know, we don't know. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Okay. - That's what we're going with is he's in drag. - I'm scared. - All right. "As it turns out, "I put two and two together and I was wrong. "I had a burner email and reached out to her. "I had receipts metaphorically. "She emailed me back. "She's been staying at her mother's house down the street.

"and fat fingered the address. "It was one number off. "The package was for her and her husband. "who are reconciling. "I had essentially asked an innocent woman. "if she was sleeping with my husband. "via a carefully crafted email from a secret account. "while she was out here just trying to spice things up. "with her spouse. "She apologized. "I told her it wasn't necessary, and I apologized. "I invited her for coffee. "because I clearly have no survival instincts. "My husband was defensive because that's just who he is, "which is it's own fun problem.".

(Courtney laughs). "So am I overreacting? "Technically, yes. "But also our marriage needs work, "so maybe a stranger's typo was the universe's way. "of handing me a wake up call. "wrapped in a very awkward package. "Literally.". Wow. - Okay. Okay. Okay. But here's the thing. - All right. - There is a lesson that she needs to learn. Stop blaming yourself for all these things. that are happening at you. Girly, you don't have to be apologizing to this other woman. Like, I messaged an innocent girl.

You're an innocent girl! You're also an innocent girl. - Yeah. Yeah. - We're all innocent girls. - Yes. Yes. - Okay? - Yes. Say it, Shayne. - I'm an innocent girl. - Yes. - We are all innocent girls. - We are all innocent girls. - Like, I feel bad that this person is so used to going, "Ah, dang it, I can't believe I did that.". No, you were so reasonable for it. No need to apologize, you know? And when you have a defensive partner. who just is defensive as a treat. What? - Yes. Yes. You're so right. Like, truly let us validate this person.

and that like anybody, if that pattern had lined up would be like, like, what is going on? Like, this is a crazy situation. And she didn't like bring it to him being like, "This is over.". Or anything like that. She was like, "Do you have an explanation?". Like, she opened up a conversation. You did the right thing. And then also again, didn't storm into the workplace. Just in her words, sent a carefully crafted email. - Yes. - Like, you handled things right, girly. - Yes. - You're good. - But I'm glad she is acknowledging.

that there's stuff to work on in her relationship. - Yes. - 'Cause clearly there is. Can we talk about the fact. that someone sent by accident sex toys to her place. and she asked them out to coffee? - Yeah. - It's just like, hey man, if someone sent, if someone accidentally sent sex toys to my apartment, I'd be like, what's the quickest way I can give this to you? - Oh yeah. - And simply not make eye contact. - Oh, I'm in a gilly suit throwing it to your porch. - What? You guys wouldn't... What? I'd be like, "Matcha?".

- Unboxing in front of me. - Are we getting matcha? - Matcha? - What do you like? The roast? - Me in a paraglider dropping it off. - Yeah. - Yeah, yeah. And me like moving in. - Yeah, yeah. She's like, "All right, let's hang out.". - Yeah. - Moving on. - Okay. - Okay. - Okay. - It's a good one. It's a good one. Nobody's overreacted yet. - No. - But we've had misunderstandings. - Yes. - Our next post comes from the subreddit Nanny. (Arasha gasps). I think this is a first.

- Oh, this is gonna get good. - Ooh. - I'm scared. I'm scared. - This is gonna be so good. - This is gonna be nuts. - No, this is gonna be good. I used to be in like a Facebook page of like babysitters. and like families and stuff like that. And people would just fully post screenshots. of the obscene things that families would ask. I can't wait for this. - I'm ready. - Oh God. - I don't nanny anymore, but I used to nanny. So you nannied as well. - I nannied. - It's so fun. - I love to nanny. - I nannied these two sisters, and my favorite part was every morning. I'd go help them pick out their outfits. and then drive them to school. - I used to nanny like a little baby too.

And my favorite thing like in the mornings. is you would like walk into the crib and you go, "Good morning,". (Courtney laughs). - [Shayne] You're sobbing. (everyone laughs). (Shayne mock sobs). - Okay, I'm not overreacting. It's good. - All right. Ready? - Okay. - Let's do it. Nanny. - Nanny. - This was posted in October of 2025. "Am I overreacting about my nanny family having sex. "during the day?".

(Shayne sighs). - Okay. - Okay, nanny fanny. - They're making more work for her. - Yeah. (everyone laughs). - Which is great. - [Shayne] Give me more of 'em. - Creating job stability. (everyone laughs). - Hey, we're working here. - Yeah. "Hi, everyone. "I'm a full-time nanny for a stay-at-home mom. "with an eight-month-old baby. "The baby is honestly perfect. "So sweet and happy. "Naps great. "I've been with the family for about seven months now. "The mom and dad are both amazing employers. "They're super nice to me.

"The mom gets me Starbucks and acai bowls, "even makes me lunch sometimes. "I make $32 an hour with great benefits in a MCOL, "medium cost of living area. "So overall, this is a dream job. "Here's my only issue. "I'm pretty sure the parents are having sex. "during the dad's lunch break. "maybe every day or every other day.". - Damn. - "They go to their room. "and I never see anything inappropriate, "but sometimes I hear what I think might be the bed moving. "It's not loud or anything,

"just enough to make me realize what's going on. "Afterward, her hair is messy, clothes changed, "that kind of thing. "Today I asked the mom what she was up to. "when she came outta the room. "and she didn't really say much. "I kind of jokingly said, 'Oh, were you napping?'. "And she got a little red and awkward. "That pretty much confirmed it for me.". - Oh. - "I know they're married adults and it's their house, "but it still makes me a little uncomfortable. "since I'm there taking care of their baby. "They're not being disrespectful or obvious, "but it just feels weird. "Would it be totally out of line to ask them not to do that.

"while I'm working? "Or am I overreacting and should just let it go? "They really are such a great family. "and I don't wanna make things awkward. "if this is just me being overly sensitive. "What would you do?". - Whoa. - That's tough. - [Arasha] Yes. - To go back. - [Arasha] Yep. - She's saying, "I think they're having sex. "They go to the room. "I don't hear much. "I think I hear the bed moving. "I think.". And then when they come out, she's maybe changed clothes. It's just whatever. And so she's thinking this is happening.

and she's uncomfortable with the thought of them having sex. - Yeah. It's almost like her own hypervigilance. has like brought her to like, well, now she can't unknow it now. - But she's also like paying attention. Like, she's really like... And when they're coming out, she's like, "What were you up to?". - Right. - It's like, oh, were you napping? - Yeah. - I'm just kinda like, what? - Right, right. It's like, what do you think they would tell you? - She does not have confirmation of what's happening. - Right. - And yeah, she's also like, they're a married couple. - They're a married adult couple. - They're shutting the door. They're going to another room.

- Every day. I'm impressed. - Or every other day. - Good for them. - Wow. - After a baby too. - Seriously. - I do think, like I'm thinking about roommate life, you know what I mean? And how it's like when you got roommates. and like life is happening, it's just kind of happening and you don't, you can't really put rules on that kind of stuff. when it's like... - Yeah. - Like you can, and I think since this nanny is like aware. that it's happening, but not so much so that it's a problem. It's just the fact that now she knows that it's her problem. - Sure.

- It's like maybe she just needs to like put some music on. and then maybe then they'll be like, "Wait, does she know?". And then like, then it's like this unspoken, okay, we're aware and maybe we need to. either be a little more discreet. or be more conscious of when or-. - Totally. - I don't know. - And I don't necessarily fault her. for feeling a little weird about it. - Yeah. No, that's valid. - That's totally valid. and fine. - For sure. - But she's at a place like, I'm like, don't like push when they come out of the room. Don't be like, "What were you doing?". - Like, in the hall, I'm just picturing in the hallway like...

This is me. - Yeah. Yeah. - [Courtney] I'm gonna go all the way over here. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - What were you doing? (everyone laughs). Were you napping? - Yeah. Like, actually looking for answers. And it's like the parents would not-. - I fwowed up. - Just even further into the dark. Just... What were you doing? (everyone laughs). - Listen. Bouncing up and down. - I think it's also-. - Bouncing up and down. - We just like to jump on the bed. - Yeah, we're jumping on the bed. - Just feng shuing.

- I can only assume too, I mean, I feel like in order to afford, $32 an hour, this nanny's a full-time nanny, has been there for months, getting paid $32 an hour, I can only assume this is a bigger house. - A full-time nanny, is she living there? - I don't think she's living there. - Yeah, she would've said live-in, I think. - "I'm a full-time nanny.". I don't think she's a live-in nanny, but I think she's a full-time nanny. So it's gotta be a nice house. - Truly, truly. - I'm also trying to picture, 'cause I'm picturing, I'm like, this is at least a house. I'm like, how close proximity is all of this also?

- Yeah. - There's a few layers, but I mean ultimately I'm just like, you're getting paid $32 an hour. There is a degree to which I would be like, yes, there is a line that can be crossed here. - Yeah, I think that's like definitely like just. how you view it. Like, how you look at it, 'cause it's like depending on where you stand. and like if you're more conservative and you're like, oh, like it kind of gives clutching my pearls a little bit. how this is written where it's like, I don't know. Maybe if I was in that situation,

I'd start to go like, oh, lunch is gonna be soon. I'm gonna like hang out with the baby. on the other side of the house so I don't hear it. Or it's just like, get it, girl. Good job. Good on them that their love is alive. and this baby hasn't slowed things down. - Yeah. - Just kind of now you know when it happens. and you can just go hang out with the baby in the backyard. - Yeah, yeah. Like, the way I think about it too, right, is like with these nanny situations, it's so often now that we have work from home. that so many parents are just staying home, but somebody is still coming. to specifically take care of the child.

And when that's the case, the parents are allowed to do whatever. So like if they were taking like a work meeting, you wouldn't jump in there and be like, "Hey, you can't be doing that right now.". - What are you doing? - What are you doing? - Yeah. - Like, napping. - Are you working? - Yeah. It's like, they kind of have this ability. to just like be around. You're getting paid to specifically watch the kid, and the parents are free to do whatever in their own house. - Yeah. Yeah, they're shutting the door. She's not hearing a lot. - Just the bed moving.

- If she wants, like she could, I don't know if they got a stroller situation, like maybe she just goes for a nice little stroll. - Yeah. Totally. - Yeah. It's been seven months working with them. - Yeah. And I don't know how recent it is. I'm assuming this can't have been for that long, but... - Yeah. - Let's see. So the verdict is overreacting. - [Courtney] Okay. - [Arasha] Good. - I think overwhelmingly so. Comments. "You were way out of line confronting the mom boss. "because you suspect the married adults. "may have taken advantage of what they expected.

"to be private time to do private things. "Really, OP, the kids are napping. "Instead of taking a break or focusing on cleaning up. "or preparing for nanny kids activities, "you are being creepy, "eavesdropping, listening for bed creaks, "generating offense that they might have/probably did. "enjoy a private, intimate mutual activity. "in the most private space in their private home. "You're the problem. "The whole problem.". Someone said, "Oh girl, LMAO. "At $32 an hour I would just put on headphones. "while baby naps and mind my business.

"Personally, I would let it go. "Maybe that's the reason you're paid so well. "in the first place. "Let mama lay it down on him so you can make $64 an hour.". - Hey. - Someone said, "You are overreacting. "I don't think you should make comments to them. "about what they're doing behind closed doors. "I personally feel you should not ask them not to do that. "You're overstepping and making it an issue. "You said they aren't loud nor making it obvious. "Adults do adult things.". OP said-. - Oh. - [Shayne] In response.

- Uh-oh. - "But I'm working. "You don't think it's disrespectful to (beep). "while someone's taking care of your kids under your roof? "It's making me uncomfortable. "They both go into the bedroom. "and come out with messy hair and smiley faces. "It makes me feel weird.". - Okay. - I don't know what to tell OP. - Ew that they're happy and blissful and happy. - Right. I think it goes back to what you were saying, is like it's how you're viewing this. If you're kind of treating it like hee, hee, hee, or like, ew, oh my god, sex? - I don't know what to say.

'cause I'm like, I understand if, like, if people, it's like, oh, what boundary of yours are they crossing? What are they doing to you? It's like they're not doing anything to her. - Right. - They're going to another place. They're closing the door. You're not hearing anything. And then you're upset that they're coming out. with a different vibe. - With their hair unruly. - That's not really a problem. - [Arasha] Right. - I guess I'm trying to understand her perspective and like, okay, we talked about roommates, we've talked about neighbors. Now let's talk about the workplace, you know?

- [Arasha] Sure, sure. - And like how you'd be weirded out if your coworker. in their office was like watching adult content-. - Sure. - During the workday. - [Arasha] Okay. - So that would feel like if you caught them. or even saw them that you like report it to HR. and be like, "Hey, this is making me uncomfortable.". - Yeah. - But it's purely that she was so like checking in. and is suspicious. - She's really seeking it out. - Really seeking it out, and like, it's a really great job.

She maybe... 'Cause I'm trying to understand like the parallels of like. how this could feel like sexual harassment for some reason, but it's not like-. - Totally. - But it really feels like they need her now more than ever. Like, they're trying to maintain a household, a marriage, and like what does she want them to be doing all day. while she's working? Does she want them to also be working the whole day? - 'Cause if she's a full-time nanny, when she's done working, she leaves, they're now in charge of the kids. - [Courtney] Right. - They're probably not,

this might actually be the only time. where they're not worried about the kid and they get this. And they're together. I can't relate too much to this. because I've only worked in shared workspaces like this, which is a very different beast than like this, you're working in a private home. - Yeah. - Like, I don't know. It's a little different. And so much of this is not, I am hearing this, I am seeing this. It's, I think you guys are doing this. - Right. - And I'm uncomfortable by the idea of it. And it's like, I don't know what to tell you, man.

- Has she ever had roommates? - But if you're also uncomfortable, then like what are you seeking from getting your answers? Why are you going to the door being like, "What were you up to in there?". - I know. Like, you're pushing it. - Hearing from them, "Oh, we were having sex.". Would that make you more comfortable? - Yeah. - No 'cause she wants to ask them to stop at that point. And it's like, do you understand the impact you have. on other people when you like are trying. to police their lives like that? - Yeah. - No, it's so true. Like, that's probably the only time.

where they feel like they can have that time. - Yeah. Yeah. It's interesting. - It is. - We have an update. - Oh! - Update. Thunder. - Update, update, update. We're being fed. - Yes, we are. - We are fed. - We are fed. - As we are reading this, apparently it is thundering and lightning-ing outside. - Yeah. - So cool. - I'm sad I'm not outside. - The power gonna go out again? - Should we continue from outside? - Cut to us outside. - Just we somehow bring the whole set out there too.

- Yeah. Yeah. We know OP is gonna push more. - I can't wait. I can't wait. - OP's gotta push more. - And I hope they push more to each other. (everyone laughs). - "That Friday morning, I told my mom boss I wanted to talk. "during the baby's nap.". - Mom boss. - Mom boss. - "I brought up how uncomfortable I felt. "about what I thought was going on. "and mentioned how I could sometimes hear or notice things. "that made me think they were having sex while I was there. "I told her it made me uncomfortable, "and that's when everything went downhill.".

Yeah. "She was very direct with me. "She said my only job was to take care of the baby. "Not to worry about what she and her husband were doing. "She told me if I had downtime, "I could watch TV or read a book. "I told her it just seemed weird that she'd come out. "with messy hair or different clothes.". - What is with the hair being a mess? - Messy hair, messy, messy hair. - Like, just get her a hairbrush. - Jesus. "And she explained that sometimes they do workout videos. "in their room, "sometimes it's sex, sometimes cuddling,

"and sometimes she's just napping. "She said whatever happens in her bedroom. "is none of my business.". - Period! (Courtney barking). - "After that, things got really quiet. "She wasn't mean, "but I could tell she was uncomfortable and hurt. "Then she told me I could go home for the day, "and I just knew that meant I was done. "Later she texted saying they were going. "to move in another direction, and that was it. "I feel horrible. "I know I crossed a boundary, "and I regret bringing it up so much. "I miss them terribly. "The money was amazing. "My mom boss was so kind,

"and their baby was absolutely perfect. "I really wish I could fix this and somehow get my job back. "How do I get my job back?". - Oh girl. - How do I get my job back? Go to a different Reddit. - Enough questions! - Different Reddit for that one. - This is really a case of like, look, I do sometimes disagree with the majority on Reddit, but you went to Reddit for a response. and you got an overwhelming reaction. And it sounds like you didn't take it into consideration. at all. - Yeah. You actually like doubled down. - Yeah, I'm like, what were you coming here for? - I'm so proud of the mom boss.

- Yes, mom boss. - No, mom boss actually. To send somebody who's already working the job. that you're moving in another direction is so tough. - Brutal. - 'Cause you already have this job, you're working it, and now it's like, and we're going elsewhere. - I love that she responded being like, "Sometimes we do workout videos,". which I'm like, oh, that makes a lot of sense. Like, P90X would sound like that or whatever. - Totally. - But it's like, and then she's like, and sometimes we'd be (beep). - And sometimes I'd be bouncing up and down on that (beep). (everyone laughs).

And how does that make you feel? - How does that make you feel? - Okay, we're moving in another direction. - And I just style my hair this way. This is how I like my hair. - Yeah. - The hair has nothing to do with it. I tie my hair back every time. - That's just how my hair is. Sometimes I have a crazy nap. - That's crazy. - Yeah. And I don't think there's any coming back from that. - No. - 'Cause it's so uncomfortable, right? - You shattered a wall that cannot be fixed. - I think you guys brought it up earlier, and I think it's true that it's like,

oh, if something's happening. and you're like, "Oh, I'm a little uncomfortable by this,". it's like, what's the most subtle way? Like, oh, you turn on a little bit of music. Like, some way that it's just like, oh, I know about it, but I'm not saying that I know about it. - Yeah. Or just freaking change your perspective on it, guy. Like, this isn't... We've heard stories of worse things. - Oh my god. - There's a world. where there's a couple doing crazy loud activities. - Also, I would guess that nine out 10 times on subreddits. about nannies that the mom boss is the bad person.

- Right. - This is just one of the rare occasions where I'm like, I'm not on the nanny side as much. But nannies get treated awfully so often that-. - The boundaries can feel rough. Yeah. - It sucks too 'cause it's like, it sounds like she really does realize all of that now. - Yeah. - It sounds like after the fact she's like, "Well, I shouldn't have brought it up. "and I shouldn't have done this.". Which is of course, frustrating. because everybody told her not to. - Yeah. - But she's now broken the seal. where they can't have her there.

'cause they're like, "Well, she now is thinking, "she's paying so much attention. "She's caring about how my hair looks. "when I come outta the bedroom.". - You should be using that energy toward the kid. that we have hired you to care about. - Yeah. - No, like, what does she think was gonna happen? What did she think was gonna happen, that the mom was gonna go, "Oh, sorry. "Okay, we won't anymore.". - Yeah. She reminds me of Jesse Plemon's character. from "Game Night.". Just like, "What were you guys doing in there?". - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - Oh yeah. - Just like creating your own problems.

Not solving anything. - Perceiving a little too much. - [Arasha] Rough. - Update number two. - Whoa! - She's back. She got the job again. - Let's see if she... Do we think she got the job again? - No (beep) way. - [Shayne] Okay. (everyone laughs). "I sent a text message to my mom boss on Sunday morning, "and she responded this morning saying she forgives me. "and that she hopes I take this as a learning experience, "but they will not hire me back.". (Courtney gasps). - Whoa. - I love mom boss. - Mom boss is indeed capital M, capital B. - I wanna hear about pop boss.

- She continues, "I miss her so much. "She said she talked to her husband about everything, "and they decided to give me a month's pay. "until I find a new job. "I honestly didn't expect that. "It was really kind of them. "even after everything that happened. "I miss my unicorn family so much. "I was completely in the wrong, "and I take full responsibility for that. "I know I hurt people who trusted me, "and that's something I have to live with and learn from.". - Aw. - "I will not be filing any sexual harassment report. "The people who were telling me to do that. "were not giving me good advice, "and I will be keeping my distance from them from now on.

"I miss my nanny baby so much. "I can't believe I won't be going back. "It breaks my heart. "because they were such a big part of my life. "I keep replaying everything in my head. "and wondering if there's anything I could say. "or do to make things right. "I know trust once broken is hard to fix, "but I wish I could show them how much I've grown. "and how truly sorry I am. "I'm trying to find a new job now. "And honestly, everyone's been so rude. "It's really been hard. "I can't believe my old employers still paid me $5,200. "after letting me go. "That was so generous of them.

"I really didn't deserve it after everything that happened. "To be honest, maybe part of the problem. "was that I was a little jealous of her.". - I knew it! I knew it! I was about to say that! - Uh-oh! - I knew it! Show us pop boss! - We need to see the bosses. - I need to see the bosses. I knew it, I knew it, I knew it. Her hair is messy because he a sexy man. that's messing it up. I need it. - I feel like, I don't know how old OP is, but they give, like this situation, like how the rest of the frontal lobe of their brain,

they went, oh, and then she like realized all. of the consequences and all-. - She had her Grinch moment, but it was with her brain. - Yeah. Like, oh no, the consequences of my actions. - I knew it! - Jealous! - See, that's... I'm telling you, man, I do think... Okay. This is gonna sound a little... I don't know if it'll sound crazy. I think Reddit can be a good place for advice, but you need, it's anonymous, so you need to be so honest. about all the aspects you think are going on.

If she had written that in the initial post, it would have added so much more of just like, and yeah, I'm a little jealous of this person. It's like, all right, now we can all work a little bit more. - You just want him to not have sex with anybody. - [Shayne] The amount of times... (Courtney laughs). The amount of times the update OP is like, "All right, so here's actually what's going on.". - Yeah. - I'm like, God damn. - Seriously. - You can hear so much regret in that update. I feel really bad for them 'cause they really are like, it was I think a really like a moment of ego and like-.

- Totally. - That just totally clouded her. Like, I wish she could have just Doctor Strange. of what could have happened. and just chosen not to burp the bubble? - Yeah. - And look, and here's the thing. Here's the thing. I do think it shows like what this mom boss is doing. is so important for people to do of like, hey man, sometimes it is important. to like bring the (beep) hammer down on people. when they cross a boundary. - Yeah. - Yeah. - So that they have to like learn. 'cause now this is huge for OP.

- [Arasha] Totally. - I hope OP finds a job. - [Arasha] Me too. - 'Cause it sounds like they needed a wake up call. to be like, okay, I need to respect people. I need to like tune in with myself a little bit more. - Yes. Yes. - They will be a better person for this. - Yeah. And they're being accountable, which is awesome. Like, that's just always like the best case scenario. is you hear somebody doing something. that you're like (groans) and then they come around. I also wanna say too, it sounds like maybe what was going on. because of the jealousy thing, maybe they knew what they wanted to do, which was try to make it stop.

So despite there being an overwhelming amount. of comments telling them, "Don't do it, don't do it,". they probably were weeding out the ones that were like-. - Oh, absolutely. - You're right, girl. - 'Cause they were like, oh, the sexual harassment ones. It's like the verdict was so overwhelming. Now they continue on. They go, "To be honest, maybe part of the problem. "was that I was a little jealous of her. "She's a stay-at-home mom, beautiful, only 28, rich, "has a gorgeous home, "and she and her husband are truly happy. "She's such a good mom, "and it just felt like she had this perfect life, "her dream life. "And I'm the same age, and I think that made me feel small.

"in ways I didn't even realize at the time. "I hate admitting that, but it's true. "Now I just feel so lost. "I miss them so much. "I keep wishing I could go back and do things differently. "I know I can't, "but I still hope one day I can find a family. "even half as good as them. "I don't know if I should try reaching out again. "down the road or just accept that it's over and move on. "Part of me wants to hold on to hope, "but part of me knows I need to respect their decision.". - Yes. - "Any advice on what I can do to maybe get them back? "Or should I just leave it and start fresh?

"I'm really debating and feeling lost. "about what the right thing to do is. "Learn from my mistakes, guys. "Don't leave a good family. "Let everything go. "Don't let jealousy or pride get in the way. "of something real. "Some things just aren't worth losing the people. "who truly care about you. "Appreciate what you have before it's gone.". Okay, so she's 28, and the mom is 28. - Yeah. - Yeah. - And not that it matters. For some reason I picture nannies, I guess I picture any age, right? But I think I was picturing OP being younger than the mom.

- Me too. - [Shayne] For some reason I was. - Like 16. - I didn't have that. But it kind of adds another layer to like, when this 28-year-old walks out of a room. and another 28-year-old's like, "What were you doing in there?". I'm just like-. - Oh! - We're adults. - I was picturing like a, a 22-year-old. and like a 30-year-old mom, and the 22-year-old's just like young. and still just like feeling weird about things. But now we know it's a 28-year-old. who's jealous of the 28-year-old. - Which is precisely the reason. that you should not reach back out.

- No. - They are feelings associated. So even though it was a perfect situation, which by the way, shout out to that family. for being so wonderful, paying her after the fact too, like forgiving her. All of that stuff is just showing green flags. for this family. So she is right, she did leave a perfect situation, but she should. - And I think OP is learning a lot, but I don't like that they're like, "How can I get them back? "Is there any advice?". I'm like, no, this is... Stop. But it sucks. It sucks. It is so awful when you mess up a good thing.

And you have to let it go. - Yeah. - You have to go, okay, I did this. I have learned from it. I'm not the same person anymore. - Yeah. - But I can't have that thing back. - Yeah, it's like, I don't know how long OP has been nannying, but it's like really assessing your situation. and being like, okay, how much worse could this be? And how much better could this possibly be? - I would be uncomfortable. if I could like hear them audibly. - Yeah. Well, when you brought up roommates, that's what I was thinking too of like, you know, we've all heard like a roommate.

and their partner doing it in another room. - Yep. - And it's like, you're gonna hear some bumping. You're gonna hear some (slaps hands). - See what she could also done is when they come out, she could have just been like-. - Nice. - Sick, dude. - Like, get it, girl. - Okay. - All right, how was it? Who came first? Yeah. (everyone laughs). - She lights cigarettes for them. You guys need these? - Two cigarettes. - Towels. And they're like, "Where's the baby?". - Oh shit! - The baby-. - Oh! - The baby's already lit up. Yeah.

- She looks over at the dog door. She's like, "Oh!". (everyone laughs). - She had every opportunity to make this funny and awesome. - You could've made this so funny. You could've made this so funny. - No, while they're in the bedroom, she messes up her hair and changes clothes. - Guys, me too. - And they come out, she goes, "Guys, I had some crazy sex.". - Guys, Adam and Eve package came in. (everyone laughs). - That's so good. - All right. - Yeah, but she (beep) it up. - Our next story comes from Am I Overreacting. This was posted in...

Oh, April of 2026. - Oh. - Oh. That's now. - That's recent. - "Am I overreacting for ending things with my date. "after he accidentally texted me this?". (Courtney gasps). - This. - A screenshot? - Okay. Oh, I love this. Also, I think you're allowed to end a date. for whatever reason you want. - Yeah. - Oh yeah. - I'm bored. (everyone laughs). - No. - I'm bored. - Yeah, so what I was talking about with my family-. - I'm bored, I'm bored, I'm bored. - Okay. (everyone laughs).

- All right. "I, a 22-year-old woman, went on a first date with this guy, "who's 22, I met on Hinge. "The date was amazing. "He's super attractive, and we had great chemistry. "At the end of the night, he dropped me home and we kissed.". - Oh. - "A bit later after I got home, we were texting. "and suddenly things got weird. "He sent me a pic of myself and I was confused.". - No. - "Then these texts followed. "He sounded like a totally different person, "and I was puzzled.". Here are the texts. Okay. So he sends a photo of her.

- No, no. - Oh no. Oh yes, oh yes. - Oh no. - Oh no, oh no, oh no! What could it be? What could it be? I have literally no idea. - He sends the photo of her. - I'm already crying. - And then he writes, "11 outta 10, bro. "Soft skin, big titties, smells good. "She's got that mommy aura for real.". (Courtney yells). "LMFAO. "I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed, LOL.". - Oh!

Huh? (crew laughs). - I mean, like a little bit like, period. (everyone laughs). A little bit I'd be like, "Wait, 11 outta 10, big titties?". (everyone laughs). Okay. But mostly that, mostly this. - No, 11 outta 10, bro, I'm like, aw. Like soft skin, I'm like, aw. And big titties, it's like, ah! (Courtney screams). - No mommy aura is ah! - "She's got that mommy aura for real.".

- Ew! - Not mommy! - "LMFAO, I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed.". - Ew! - No, no, no! - Who are you texting that to? - Well... - His mommy. - Clearly he thought he was texting a friend, a bro. And then he sent it to her. - I'm appalled. - So she writes back, "Excuse me?". And he goes, "WDYM?". What do you mean? Question mark, question mark, question mark, question mark.

- Still don't realize who you're texting? - And then he writes in all caps, "Holy! "I can explain this. "It's not what you think it is.". - No, yes, it is! - I think it's exactly-. - It's exactly- - It's exactly. - It's exactly that. - And then he says, "I must begin by offering my most sincere. "and profound apologies for the profoundly unfortunate. "and embarrassing incident. "that occurred earlier this evening. "Through an egregious error on my part, "I have inadvertently exposed you.

"to a series of private, highly inappropriate, "and frankly, juvenile remarks. "that were never meant for your eyes. "The fault lies entirely with me. "And I take full responsibility for this lapse in judgment. "and basic etiquette. "Please allow me to express how deeply mortified. "and ashamed I feel at this moment. "The content of those messages, "while never intended to reach you, "was crude, disrespectful and objectifying. "in ways that no woman deserves to encounter, "particularly following what I had hoped. "was a pleasant evening-" - Jesus Christ. - "Spent in your company.

"Referring to you in such reductive. "and objectifying terms reflects poorly, "not only on my manners, but on my character as well. "Furthermore, the tone and immaturity-". - I'm gonna jump somewhere far! (everyone laughs). - "Furthermore, the tone and immaturity displayed. "in those texts do not align. "with the respect I genuinely wish to extend toward you. "The line regarding the kiss in particularly. "was entirely exaggerated. "I did not experience it.". It was actually awful. - Bruh! Unironically? - "It was not my intention to make you feel objectified,

"sexualized, and in an unwelcome manner, "or disrespected in any way. "Yet the reality is that my careless action. "has likely done exactly that. "And for that I am truly sorry. "I want you to know that our date-". - Wrap it up! - "Was genuinely enjoyable. "for me. "I was excited, perhaps overly so, "and allowed that excitement to manifest. "in the most inappropriate. "and childish private outlet imaginable. "That does not justify it, "but I hope it provides some small context for my lapse.". - Lapse? - "In no way. "does it excuse the disrespect inherent in those words.

"I ask you to give me a second chance. "That is all I am asking for.". Chapter two. (Courtney laughs). - [Courtney] No, no, no. - Just kidding. - Oh my god. - I'm kidding. - Oh my god. - What? - She continues to write, now just in the post, "He immediately apologized, "but I'm really frustrated and upset. "I was really into him and looked forward to our next date, "but now I don't want to continue anymore. "I just feel like he has no respect for me whatsoever. "and doesn't even see me as a human being. "I cried a little to my friend,

"and she said I'm being dramatic. "and that he's just really attracted to me. "and he is hot so I shouldn't take it seriously. "because that's how guys talk.". - Oh! - Not any guys I hang out with! - No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. - There is a version of that text. that he sends to his friend that is fine. I think. Not this. I'm saying like, if he had actually sent her. and he is texting his buddy and he is like, "Dude, she's so hot. "She's amazing." - Sure, sure, sure. - It's just the way he was like talking about her. - [Courtney] Who was he talking to? - But what's worse...

Probably a friend. - Grok. - Was talking to Grok. What is worse? His initial text to his buddy. or the ChatGPT apology that goes on. for quite literally pages? - I think it's just embarrassing the stark difference. in the language. - Oh my god. - Who is the real you? Who is the real you? A person you're texting. who is your friend who's known you a lot longer. that you're talking to like that. or this insane paragraph. that just feels like a thesaurus on wheels? - Well, and the apology,

it's clearly AI 'cause it gives no more details. It's just running in a circle over and over again. 'cause it has no information to play off of. - If you actually wanted to give a lengthy apology, it could have been like, when we were laughing about this on our date, I remember thinking that you were the like whatever. But instead it's just like, my lapse in judgment actually indicated. that you are upset by me. - Yeah. It's like he could've been like, "I'm so sorry. "Like, me and my friends, like I said, inside joke. "to just be outrageous.". And like he didn't, yeah, like you're right about like no new info at all.

- Yeah, bro. - Yeah. (groans). - Okay. - Stupid, stupid, stupid. - Verdict- - That is (groans). Verdict was what? - Verdict's not overreacting. - Yeah, and also the friend is the asshole in this too. for being like, "That's just how guys talk, girl. "Like, get it.". - Yes. Absolutely. - Fucking awful. He's hot, so let him be the worst person ever. - 'Cause I've always said, as long as I've been in the dating world, which was a brief time, but I had a while there. where I cared a lot about seeing how that person acted. with their friends and with other people that weren't me.

'cause that's where you really learn about that person. because it's so common for people. to like treat their baby like different. than like the rest of the world, you know? - And she even described I think in the original post. that he was texting and it sounded nothing like him. And that's also just such a red flag. of like he can clearly manipulate his personality. to be like, oh, I'm the perfect guy. that's gonna make you think we have so much in common. and all this great chemistry, but then I'm gonna go home. and actually be myself around my friends,

and that was revealed to her. - Right. - This is insulting her intelligence so much. - Oh yeah. - He objectified her and then he insulted her brain. as much as possible after that. by sending that and thinking she'd fall for it. - But I understand her like not, I get her kind of being like, "Is there any hope?". 'Cause it's like, if it was an amazing date. and like the context of-. - I get it. - When you're dating, you're wanting it to be working out. and this guy did work out, but now this weird situation, you're like, "I definitely should stop, right?".

- It sucks so much. I feel like first dates, first few dates, you really don't know the person at all. People are putting on a show. I can't imagine too 'cause I feel like. from what I've heard about the dating scene, especially the LA dating scene, is like dudes put on such an act, right? And it sucks. - Yeah. - It's like, what can you do? - 'Cause it doesn't take much to just be like, "Yeah, I love that too.". - Yeah. I agree. - And now knowing like the switch between how he spoke. and what we can maybe likely assume was a ChatGPT.

of some kind, like... All the messages leading up to the date, does she know like who she's talking to? - Yeah. I mean, it's looking at it, reading this, it's so obviously ChatGPT. 'cause it is just one massive (beep) paragraph. And it's literally broken up into paragraphs. within the text. And I know people text in all sorts of different ways, but when he texted his friend it was singular sentence text.

And then his entire style changes so much. - Yeah. No, he's just, you know, he's stupid. (Courtney laughs). - You know-. - And you know what's the problem is he's stupid. - I think I've got it. He's stupid. Because he thinks just a lengthy response. is going to be a better apology. than him actually just owning up to it. He like quickly went to ChatGPT or something and was like, "I fucked up and I really need help. "And it has to just include so many details.

"and show how apologetic I am.". - He went from saying, "Mommy aura for real," with an fr. to writing, "Please allow me to express my deeply mortified. "and ashamed feeling at this moment.". - It literally felt like we switched. to "Pride and Prejudice.". - [Shayne] Totally. - Suddenly. - I must begin my profound apology. by profoundly apologizing. - By profoundly apologizing. - Shut up. Shut up. You're stupid. - Shut up. You're stupid. - Comments. "Is that an AI generated apology?". Someone said, "Absolutely. "Went from jizzing his shorts to egregious error.".

(Courtney laughs). Someone said, "Never underestimate the power of post-nut clarity.". Someone said, "Not overreacting. "Guy here. "This is not at all just how guys talk, LOL. "Some guys, sure. "But this is not how me or my friends. "have ever talked about a woman we were interested in. "It is in no way a most guys thing. "It's a some young assholes. "and dudes that never grew out of being a shitbag thing.". Someone said, "I unironically jizzed when we kissed. "as opposed to an ironic jizz? "How does that work?".

- Yeah. Wait. - Whoa. Yeah, dude. - I don't think he's using unironically correct. - Yo, like no joke, I jizzed. - No, no. We figured this one out already. He's stupid. - Right, right, right, right, right. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - All right. It's time for our final story. (Courtney sighs). Nothing more to say about that one. - Damn. - We got it. - I wanted an update. - We got it. - All right. - This last post comes from Am I Overreacting, posted only a few days ago. "Am I overreacting? "I'm mad that my boyfriend, who's 20, "wished me happy birthday 25 minutes late.".

- Oh. - Okay, 25 minutes late. Does that mean it was the next day? Like midnight? - Oh, oh, oh. You're right, you're right, you're right. Uh-oh, Shayne's getting sassy. - Uh-oh! - [Arasha] Guys, if you're listening, switch to YouTube. You need to see this. (everyone laughs). - Here we go. "I, 19, overreact about my birthday, "and it's important to me. "I keep posting about my birthday month. "on my private Instagram. "It just has like 15 close people. "And I think everyone knows my birthday is important to me,

"including my boyfriend. "We've been dating for four to five months. "He's sweet and caring. "His cousins are visiting from London, "so he's been busy with them and that's okay. "I don't mind it. "But how much time does it take. "to drop a text saying happy birthday at 12:00.". - Okay. - "10 people wished me between 12:00 AM to 12:15 AM, "including people I haven't even talked to in months. "Most of my closest friends wished me a bit later, "by the way. "And I don't mind that. "because they were planning something else.

"I wasn't even mad in the first place, "so even if they hadn't planned something, "I wouldn't be mad at them for not wishing me at 12:00. "But me and my boyfriend can't meet on my b-day. "because of the said cousins. "He could have at least dropped a text. "Even that was 25 minutes late. "Then he called, but I declined. "He called again and I didn't pick up. "And that's all I got for my birthday. "To be fair, we do plan to meet this weekend, "and he asked me what I'd like as a gift and such. "But even then, a birthday is a birthday. "My boyfriend doesn't take his birthday very seriously,

"by the way. "He doesn't even like to celebrate. "and gets kind of annoyed if his friends celebrate for him. "He texted me twice in the morning too. "wishing me a happy birthday. "But I had to get ready for my party so I didn't reply. "I did call him and talk to him for a while though. "because my mood was better because I looked pretty.". - I gotta go. (Shayne laughs). I gotta go. - I mean, that's... Sorry. That's relatable. - No, totally. I looked pretty. - No, but I felt a little better. 'cause I was looking really good. - I was looking pretty, so I talked to him. - And that's real. That's real.

But (sighs). - "Then all day radio silence. "He had sent one meme to me all day. "I was out the entire day with my friends, "but I had to get back home around 9:00 to 10:00 PM. "to celebrate with my family. "He knew that. "Even then no texts asking if I'm home or what I'm doing. "I think he would've asked that if he wanted to talk. "You know what I mean? "Especially since I'd definitely be drinking at home. "with my family when we celebrate. "So he could've dropped a text to talk. "before all that started. "Then I was drunk, but I was home in my comfy clothes, "so I was texting in this mutual group chat we have.

"He could see those texts too. "Then my friend called me, "he wasn't there with me on my b-day, "and we talked while I was drunk, "but my boyfriend didn't even bother with a single text. "He called me at 1:00 AM. "I had been home for 3.5 hours at this point, "and I answered. "I was really mad, "and I had sobered up for the most part too. "He asked why I'm upset and I just said, "'I don't want to talk about it.'. "Then he went to sleep. "We were on a call for about 20 minutes. "with him just asking me why I'm upset and trying to talk, "and I wasn't saying much.

"because I didn't wanna ruin my day. "In the morning today I woke up to three reels sent to me. "He did ask two to three times over text why I'm upset. "But a lot of it is like buttering me up. "by saying I'm so pretty and all that. "I don't know if I'm overreacting about this or not. "Some guy friend of mine. "said he'd order me a cake at midnight. "when I said my boyfriend hasn't even wished me. "and that he does it for his friends too. "It's not that he's doing it because he likes me, "but to be honest, he does hit on me, "so I didn't agree to that. "I already have three cakes, so it's not like I needed it.

"But then-" - Oh my god. - "It makes sense too- - This is not AI, let's be clear. - "Because my other friends. "got me a cake.". Yeah, she's spelling because with a bcs. "But it makes sense too. "because my other friends got me a cake and flowers and such. "to surprise me, "and my boyfriend couldn't even drop a single (beep) text. "Am I overreacting about all this?". - Yeah. - Broken heart emoji. "He wasn't sleeping. "He sleeps later than I do.". - Oh, so still going. - "He was up till like 3:00 AM. "He isn't working. "He doesn't have a 9:00 to 5:00. "He has generational wealth. That's it.". Edit.

"I think there could be some cultural difference. "because I posted this in subs in my country. "and they're telling me to dump him, LOL.". - Okay. - I think people are telling her to dump him. to just save us all from the agony. - To save this man. - No, save us. - Guys, to be 19. and for this to be what's going on, you know? You're in high school. Like, you're still, all your memories are back there. It is all-. - And I know that it varies. - Yeah. - But this 19-year-old, 19 going on 13.

- I felt like I was watching a episode. of "Buffy the Vampire Slayer". and like Cordelia is just going off. (Shayne laughs). - A modern day Cordelia who can't spell. - That was a lot. - Yeah, I cannot stand her. (Courtney laughs). I cannot hear that. - I cannot. - I cannot. - I think this is funny though. - It's hilarious. - It's so funny. It's funny in the way that like I wanna kill you.

Like, I can't believe we're hearing, like... It's just, it's so angering to hear like, "And he can't even drop a single text.". - After he called her-. - In the same breath we've gotten, "And he called me twice and he texted me at this time, "but then he can't even send one text.". Like, nothing would have satisfied her. unless it was like this huge grand gesture. But even then she would've been like, "But it wasn't right at midnight, and it wasn't here.". - You know, we're talking a lot about her being 19, but I will also say I have heard stories.

from people I know about their moms going on, who are single going on dates and acting this same way. Like, there's a very real possibility. that 30 years from now she is the same person. - Yeah. Which again, there's some merit. to like whatever is important to you. can be important to you. That's totally fine. - Sure. - It's then putting that on other people. and expecting them to know that and embrace it.

and just express it at the highest value. That's what feels so inappropriate. And you've been dating for she said four to five months. Like, that's still pretty early in a relationship. to expect somebody to just show up, know exactly what they're saying. I'm gonna take a wild guess. and say that she hasn't expressed. how important her birthday is to this person. because he's over here like, "Are you upset? "Did I do something wrong? "Like, is there something that you wanna talk about?". - Oh my god.

- And she doesn't want to say it. - Right. - That's not helping anybody in this situation. if you're gonna refuse to talk about your feelings, even if they are a little unreasonable. - Yeah, like all the pieces were right in front of her. where she's like, "Some people don't care about their birthdays.". It's like, yes. Yeah. She's like, "But I care about mine.". - Yeah. - If somebody was texting me at midnight happy birthday, I'd be like, damn. Like, why? - Whoa. - Why you obsessed with me? - Why are you obsessed with me? - I will say, I think that was, I remember when I was 19 I felt like it was more common. for people to do that.

- The midnight text. - At 30, I'm like, what the (beep)? - You're waking up at midnight. - What the (beep)? Dude, the paragraph where she's like, "Some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake. "at midnight, and I was like, I don't even need that. "I already have three cakes. "I don't even need anymore.". I'm like, what is happening? - Right. - I do think, my theory is I think she's drunk writing this. - She might be. - She sounds drunk to me. - But sometimes when you're 19 and you're just like, I remember being on Tumblr and just going. - Yeah, it's also true. - And you're sober as the day. - She's just free writing. - Yeah, yeah. As the day.

- Sober as the day. - This is an exercise. So verdict, overreacting. "You declined his calls at 12:25, "didn't reply to his morning text, "and then complained about radio silence. "for the rest of the day. "You were self-sabotaging. "You effectively shut down his attempts to celebrate you. "and then got mad. "that he stopped trying to shout into a void.". Someone said, "You're overreacting. "I wouldn't even talk to you after this. "It's 12:00 in the morning. "and you need everyone to say happy birthday. "to you immediately. "and then leave everyone who doesn't on read? "You refuse to talk to him for hours. "over such a minor issue.

"His feelings are probably hurt, and you sound so entitled.". Someone said, "You're overreacting. "He didn't wish you a happy birthday late. "He wished you a happy birthday 25 minutes. "into a 24 hour day. "I sincerely hope this is rage bait. "and not actually how you treat your partner.". OP said, "Wow, this is real," crying emojis. - Wow. - I knew people like this when I was 19. - Right. - And a lot of people are shaking their, or like nodding their heads in here. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I think a lot of people know someone like this. - Totally. - At some point in their life.

- And listen, hopefully the goal. is that you get that insight and are suddenly like, oh my gosh, I've been so hollow. - Yes. Yes. I knew people who were like this extremely so. who then cut to 10 years later, you would never have guessed they were like that. Like, people evolve so much. - Totally. - And some people don't at all. - [Arasha] Absolutely. - And some people get worse. - Yep. (everyone laughs). And some people go good and then back. - And then back. It's actually, by the time you're in your 30s, it's crazy.

- Right. - The amount of like fluctuation you will see in people. - Totally. Humans are fallible. Like, but we grow, we change. Like you said, we evolve, we're gonna be in different versions, so it's like it's easy for us to critique and be like, oh my god, girl. - Totally. - But yeah, at the same time, it's like for me, as long as I hear eventually like a sense of responsibility. or like, oh my gosh, of course. Like, you know what, guys? I was being entitled. For me it's always like, great, awesome. We've moved on. You have caught up to date. Like, we're good.

- Yeah. - Yeah. Absolutely. - I personally have never cared. about the happy birthday texts. because I'm really bad at them myself, so I could never expect. - I'm so bad at it. - But if people, I'm like, if you are in the first hour. or even by like 9:00 AM I'm like, wow, that's really sweet. - Yeah. - Especially if she did communicate that. I think a 30 minute grace is valid. - I would say 30 minute grace is valid for sure. - In the most minimal sense. - Okay. - Totally. Totally. - I could unpack that for days. - Yeah. A lot to unpack from today. - Yes.

- Thank you both for joining me. - You're welcome. - You're welcome. - And thank you all for watching. Let us know what your reactions were to these stories. in the comments down below. And we will see you next Saturday. - Goodnight. Bye. - Bye. Next Saturday.