Breakups And Brush Offs | Reading Reddit Stories

- We are back with more absolutely insane Reddit stories. I'm Shayne Topp, and I'm joined today by Ian Hecox and Courtney Miller. Hey, thanks for being here. Yeah. - This is our first time on "Reddit Stories" together. - I know. - That's crazy. - I know. It is. - [Shayne] It's weird. - It is actually (beep) bullshit. - I agree. Really quick, I see a lot of comments making fun of my cuffed jeans. on this show. I wanna point out, Darren, can we get a shot of Brennan. and his cuffed jeans? 'Cause look at those. Like, you know.

- [Courtney] And Ian. - [Shayne] Ian's cuffed his cords. - [Ian] They're not jeans though, but they are-. - [Shayne] Cuffed his cords. - [Courtney] Cuffed cords. - I'm just saying that other people. also cut their jeans. - He's not the only. bisexual person here. (everyone laughs). - All right, let's get into this. The theme today is breakups and brush offs. - Ooh. - Ooh. - And I also think there might be a few updates. (Ian and Courtney gasp). - An update or two per say? - Wow. - All right, let's get into it.

First story, this comes from the subreddit Am I Wrong? So similar to Am I The Asshole, but they're not necessarily asking if they're an asshole, just if they're in the wrong. - Okay. - Basically same premise. - Okay. - "Am I wrong for telling my girlfriend. "to reign in her daddy issues. "while we're visiting my family?". Okay. This is from two days ago as of reading this. - Whoa. - [Shayne] This was recent. - [Courtney] Fresh. - "Throwaway because my cousins know my actual account. "My girlfriend, Shay, who's 27,

"and I, a man 26, are on a small vacation to my hometown. "She's only ever met my dad and extended family, "aunt, uncle, cousins over the phone, "so I thought this would be a great opportunity. "to introduce everyone properly. "But since we've arrived, Shay's behavior towards my dad. "has been seriously off-putting. "For example, I thought it would be fun. "if we all went horseback riding. "My younger cousins do it as a hobby, "so I thought it would be nice. "to do an activity we'd all like. "But Shay wouldn't even get on the horse. "because she said she was scared.

"It's been years since I've been on a horse, "but they were so calm and honestly not a problem at all. "I offered to stay with her. "while the others enjoyed themselves, but she insisted I go. "because my dad already offered to stay behind. "He doesn't usually go horseback riding either. "It was weird that she didn't want me there too, "but I left it be. "There have been other instances too, "like how she asked my dad to show her around town. "instead of staying with me. "and meeting my old friend from high school. "It was an impromptu meetup. "We literally ran into him while we were looking. "for somewhere to get lunch with my dad.

"But it would've been nice if she made the effort. "to get to know him instead of going with my dad. "The final straw was when we were all at my aunt's house. "for dinner. "Shay made cupcakes. "Baking is kind of her thing. "And she made some chocolate and peanut butter ones. "specifically because they're my dad's favorite. "She made a few different types of cupcakes, "but none of the others. "were my other relatives' favorite flavors. "When we got back to our Airbnb, I confronted her. "I know Shay's dad left when she was a teen. "and they're no contact, "so I figured she might be clinging to my dad. "because it's nice to have a fatherly presence.

"and not something she's used to. "I asked her jokingly to reign in her daddy issues. "and to stop being so clingy with my dad. "She blew up at me, "telling me that she's trying her best to fit in. "and that I've put no effort in making her feel welcome. "Neither of us were willing to compromise, "and I ended up sleeping somewhere else for the night. "I need to talk things out with her today, "but before I do, I wanna make sure I'm not in the wrong.".

- Oh man. I feel like... I don't know, I'd almost say like he has daddy issues. (everyone laughs). Like, he's got issues with like his girlfriend. like paying any sort of attention to his dad. and like finding all these like instances. where like, "Yeah, yeah, but you,". but like I'm sure she did stuff. for like his mom maybe as well. - Yeah, I didn't hear much about his mom in this. - His mom is not mentioned once. In fact, I don't even know if he mentions the existence.

- [Courtney] Yeah. - If his mom is in the picture, 'cause he mentions aunts and uncles and cousins. - [Courtney] Right. - Yeah, I mean, to me this all just kind of like makes sense. to me of like, yeah, you wanna impress someone's parents, you want to get to know someone's parents. And yeah, I mean in what he's saying, I think there's some validity to that of like yeah, if she doesn't have a father, like-. - Yeah. - And his dad might be a really nice guy and-. - Sounds like it. - But none of it sounded problematic to me.

- No, I think like nothing bad happened. for him to like need to call out anything. Like, it seemed like he was noticing a pattern. and just didn't like the pattern. - [Shayne] Right. - Where yeah, when you're the first time. you're meeting your significant other's parents, some people can feel like it's a really big deal. They wanna make a really good impression, or maybe she had questions about her partner. and like wanted to talk to him. And yes, of course she has like a past. with not having a father in her life. So like she's... And also I think the horse thing's just unrelated.

- Yeah. - Like, he's like, "She's obsessed with my dad, "also she's scared of horses.". - Like, horses are huge, dude. - Oh, I totally-. - Doesn't matter how chill they are, they can be jumpy. - I totally get being scared of horses. - Yeah. - Also like with that all aside, like maybe she just wanted to (beep) his dad. (everyone laughs). Like, you know? Maybe we should just normalize that. (everyone laughs). - Damn it. - That crossed my mind. I was like, well, she is making him cookies and things.

- Yeah, yeah, I mean like the fact (laughs). I mean, it's like... I mean, like I don't know. Like, I wanna give her the benefit of the doubt, but like it was really funny that he was like, "Yeah, I was like hanging out with my friends. "and she went off with my dad. "so he could show her around town.". I'm like, that's kind of weird. But I wouldn't- - I get that. - Like, I wouldn't say that's daddy issues. And who (beep) cares? Like, yeah, a lot of people do like yearn. for like a close relationship.

with like, you know, a fatherly figure. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. And it's like, yeah, okay, so she might have daddy issues, whatever. - Yeah, I think he's kind of picking up on things. that aren't really, just genuinely aren't connected, like the horse thing, but also like how she didn't, like the dad offered to stay behind, and she sounded like she wanted him, her significant other, to enjoy horseback riding with his cousins, and she maybe just didn't wanna be home alone,

and so the dad offered to stay there. And then I think it's like her first time meeting them, life is fleeting, she's trying to get to know this father. who is going to be an important role should things continue. - Yeah. Also the friend, that wasn't like a planned thing. He ran into his friend, just happened to run into him. So maybe she thought like, "Oh, I'll just let you guys hang and I'll go.". - Yeah. - She sounds very considerate. - It may not be that she's choosing the dad. It may be that these situations are like, she's letting him enjoy his family time.

or times with friends and she's-. - I can totally relate to that. - These instances sound so like nitpicked. - Sounds so nonchalant. Like, it doesn't seem like a big deal. - Sounds like he has the daddy issues. - That's what I'm saying. I feel like he's like got like this weird possessive feeling. towards like his girlfriend. And it's like, hey, if she's like trying. to be a closer part of the family, like 'cause most relationships start going that direction, like then she should have a close relationship.

with the parents. - [Courtney] Yep. - So we have some comments here. "It's kind of odd that you scheduled horseback riding, "but she was scared. "Did you check with her. "before throwing this activity on her? "You seem to be upset. "when she's doing something she wants to do. "that doesn't involve you.". OP responded, "I thought it would be a cool surprise. "because she loves the game 'Red Dead Redemption,'. "which has a lot of horseback riding in it. "I was just trying to be a good boyfriend. "and organize an activity we would all enjoy, "but I got it wrong.". - Okay.

- [Ian] Fair. - Yeah. - That's thoughtful. - I hope that someday someone rents me a car. that I can drive around Los Angeles and crash into shit. - Yeah. - Like "GTA." (laughs). - I hope someone gives me a diamond block. - Or it's like, Ian, Ian, you love "Call of Duty.". I enlisted you. (everyone laughs). - Dude, thank you! (everyone laughs). Dude, straight from the bottom of my heart, thank you. - Thank you so much. This is in regards to OP's mom.

who's not mentioned that I saw. OP said, "My aunt and uncle are just as important. "and so are my cousins. "My mom isn't around anymore, "so my aunt is the biggest female influence I have. "in my life. "Shay knows this, but hasn't put in any thought. "to spending more time with her. "Maybe I'm wrong, but I thought bonding with her. "would have been more of a prime focus.". Huh. That doesn't make sense. - 'Cause she's a woman? - Yeah, that seems to be-. - That's weird. I mean, if the mom's not in the picture, I, as a partner in hopes of understanding my partner better,

would want to like get to know that parent. And like if that dad is actually being like open. and like willing to spend that time and talk, that's great. - Yeah, that clarifies even more. of like maybe she was doing this. because she cares about him. She was doing this about him. - Oh, maybe she's hoping. that she could like "Parent Trap" their parents. - Yeah. - You know? Like, she doesn't have a dad. He doesn't have a mom. - Oh.

Maybe they can be siblings. - Maybe they can-. - Oh, that would be weird, right? - Someone else said, "When she leaves you and you date someone. "who makes no effort with your parents altogether, "they'll miss her.". Someone else said to that, "Right? "Been with my husband for seven years, "four of those married, "and I still make an effort to fit into his family. "and bring his father. "and mother food/treats I know they will like. "and aren't commonly found where we live. "I live in my husband's home country and I'm from Canada.". Someone else said, "This should be titled. "'I was an asshole to my girlfriend who was being kind.

"'and normal to my family.'". (Courtney laughs). And we have a comment from OP here. "We always joke around, so I thought it would go down better. "if I tried to keep it lighthearted. "I made my point in a serious way too. "by telling her to stop being clingy. "and listing out the examples I mentioned in my post. "I just thought it wouldn't end in an argument. "if I made a joke or two. "Obviously that didn't work.". Someone responded to that saying, "Sorry, bud, "I think you are the one with the daddy issues. "I don't see anything sexual about the way she was acting. "towards your dad based on what you described. "So you are mad because your girlfriend was too nice.

"to your dad and was trying too hard to fit in. "and be friendly? "Makes absolutely no sense.". - Yep. - Yes, sir. - That's right, and we have an update. (Courtney gasps). - Oh. No. Kiana, you're so good at hiding that. I was like this is it and this is that and that's the story. - I love these types of updates. "Okay, I get it. "I'm wrong.". (Courtney laughs). "Even though a lot of you were really harsh. "in the comments of my last post, "I appreciate the honesty and think I needed it.

"I read every comment. "I understand it was wrong of me. "to joke about a potentially triggering topic. "around my girlfriend. "Me joking about it was an asshole thing to do. "and any concerns I had, "I should have said in a much better way. "I went back to the Airbnb today, "and you'll never guess who was there with my girlfriend. "Yes, it was my father. "He was in the kitchen cleaning up. "what looked like leftovers from breakfast. "He said he stopped by a cafe. "that's at the end of the street and bought us breakfast, "but I wasn't there when he arrived. "By that point Shay told him everything about our argument, "and he wasn't happy. "Where was Shay when I arrived back?

"My dad said she was in the shower/getting ready. "and that they were going to my aunt's house looking for me. "They both presumed that's where I was. "considering I wasn't at the Airbnb nor I was with my dad. "We talked and I helped him clean up their breakfast. "While I did, I saw the receipt in the to-go bag. "Considering the cafe he bought the breakfast in. "is literally five to 10 minutes away. "and he came straight from there to the Airbnb, "it's safe to assume he spent at least two hours, "maybe two and a half hours at the Airbnb before I arrived.

"But sure, that's normal. "I didn't bring this up or even question it. "I've learned my lesson about bringing up stupid. "and immature concerns. "My dad reiterated a lot of things people said in my post. "like how Shay didn't want me to miss out. "on horseback riding, "that she wanted to give me time with my friend. "without being the third wheel, "and he said that his favorite cupcake flavor came up. "while they were walking around town together. "It was an embarrassing conversation, "and while we didn't discuss everything I wanted, "it's a start. "When my dad left, I spoke with Shay and apologized. "She was really quiet, "and when we talked about it further, she was crying a lot.

"The only thing she really said. "is that we have underlying issues from before this vacation. "and that this whole ordeal just adds to it. "We were supposed to go to a games night. "at my aunt's tonight, but Shay said she isn't going. "and that she wants some time to think. "I respect that. "I don't know if Shay wants me. "to stay at the Airbnb tonight or not, "but I'm glad she didn't immediately break up with me. "like some of you suggested. "Edit, we broke up.". - Oh. - "She's staying at a hotel tonight. "and then leaving tomorrow.". - Oh.

Whoa. - That sucks, 'cause like I feel like he like learned his lesson. - Did he? - No? - It seems like, at first, he goes, "I get it, I'm wrong.". And then he's all sarcastic in the middle. - He's like, "And I was embarrassed.". - And yeah, but no, I know I shouldn't be questioning things. I don't think he's really that sorry. I think he still thinks, I'm getting the sense and maybe I'm wrong. I'm okay with that. but I'm getting the sense that he's still-.

- Yeah, well I wish the best for the girlfriend and the dad. (Courtney laughs). They sound like they're-. - They're a good couple. - Good couple. - This makes sense to me, I think, like 'cause the two hours thing, it seems suss, and him being there with breakfast sounded suss. But I will say he only brushed on it, which was like, oh there was some apparently underlying issues. before this trip. Seems like he came, he like, 'cause I feel like sometimes people do this. where they'll like have like a reset of like, it doesn't matter if we were having issues, now we're going on a family trip. and you're meeting my family and this is a new experience.

and whatever we had going on before, it doesn't matter 'cause it's about this now. And so like it makes sense that if they were having problems. and it doesn't sound like he's very intuitive to her needs. and like and stuff, so her having extensive conversations. with his dad kind of makes sense. Like, she's like, "I don't know.". But who knows, man. - Comments on this one. "OP: I think my girl has daddy issues. "Also OP: proceeds to project a myriad of daddy issues.

"Dude, get a grip.". - Yeah. - Someone said, "I can see why you are worried. "about your girlfriend falling for your dad. "He seems like a gentleman. "It's a pity the apple fell so far from the tree.". Someone else said, "This apple is in another freaking orchard.". - Oh. (Ian laughs). - Someone said, "Wow, you are petty and passive aggressive. "I suggest losing that before you embark. "on another relationship.". - Yeah, I think he let a good one go. - It sounds like it. - I mean, obviously like we only have a snapshot. of a very small amount of this relationship,

but like it sounds like she was like very considerate. and like invested in his family, and he couldn't get over this like one thing. But obviously like there's so much more to a relationship. than what we know here. - The underlying issues though. that she's bringing up makes me wonder. if like this is a pattern behavior. Like, he's constantly criticizing her. for like things that are kind of out of her control. - That's what I feel too. It feels like he's kind of picking up on a confirmation bias. or his own insecurities and like it just, yeah, it sucks.

It's also very interesting like, and I think it makes even more sense. that the dad was there for as long as he was, 'cause if the story is true, which I think it is, the dad showed up with breakfast for his son. and his son's partner. He's gone. And she's like, oh yeah, he didn't sleep here last night, and they have no idea where he is. Like, that's alarming. That's a red flag. - Right. - And so it makes sense that the dad would be like-. - And we don't even know where he went. He doesn't say. - Yeah, he never clarifies where he went. Did he go to a hotel?

Did he go to a hotel and then to a Panera Bread? - Oh. Callback. It's a good callback. - Is that where love happens? - It's where cheating happens. - Oh shit. - It's where cheating happens. Panera Bread. (Courtney laughs). - Panera Bread, where cheating happens. - All right, next story. This comes from Relationship Advice a couple days ago, also recent. - [Courtney] Fresh. - "I, 21-year-old woman, knitted a blanket. "for a friend, 22-year-old woman, "and she sold it without me knowing.".

(Ian laughs). Another knitting story. We've learned here on "Reddit Stories". that when you knit someone something-. - Bad things are afoot. - Bad stuff. "Throwaway because I use my main account for my artwork. "and knit projects. "I knitted a blanket with a very distinguishable design. "It was my friend's favorite anime character. "and gave it as a gift. "This was about a year ago. "Today, I went to a classmate's flat. "to finish an art project we were working on for a class. "Confusingly, I see the blanket on his bed.

"I know this is the blanket I made. "because I spent like seven months with it, "and the design is so specific because it's my own pattern. "And I still ask him where he got it, "and he said he bought it off of Facebook marketplace. "My jaw literally drops, "and I can feel the tears forming in my eyes. "I was really upset. "because not only did she give it away like it was nothing, "but she also found a way to profit from my own hard work. "I talked to my friend about this, "and she admitted to it and apologized. "She then told me it was out of desperation.

"because her dog needed emergency surgery.". - Aw. - "I felt bad for her hearing that, "but it was also hard for me. "to set aside my own frustrations. "I'm at a loss for words to describe my emotions right now, "and I can't begin to process. "how to go about from this situation. "What would you guys do if you were in my shoes? "How would you feel? "I just need advice or some sort of validation if ever.". So luckily Kiana knows knitting very well. A project like OP is describing can easily take months,

and creating your own pattern. is literally like taking an image down to the pixel level, doing a lot of math, switching yarn, et cetera. This is a labor of love. So this person, like they said, they spent seven months on something. Man... - That's a tough situation. - That's tough. That's one of those gifts where it's like, man, you better know that friend is there forever. because that's a lot of pressure.

if someone does something like that for you. - And I wonder how much money that blanket went for, because like it sounds like a very unique, very special-. - Facebook marketplace, 75 bucks. - No! - I know. - I see it as like street wear. I'm like 450 at least. - Facebook marketplace typically is like-. - Yeah, 'cause I think when you sell something. that's like handmade like that, like obviously it doesn't compare. to like mass produced items.

We're so used to having everything, like this, I don't know, like a machine made this. and it's probably like 15 bucks or something. But if like a person made this by hand, or there's probably a better example, like this, I guess. - A machine definitely made that. - Like, a machine made this. If a person made this it would take them hours? - [Kiana] Yeah. - It would take them hours, and that would be labor that you'd have to pay for. - Yeah. - But it's like, you know, like, would anybody pay?

I mean, would people want to pay like 100 bucks for this? - I think they're so popular. because they're so cheap and so-. - Yeah. - [Shayne] Yeah. - Yeah, I will say like, 'cause this is a couple, right? They didn't clarify how long. - Friends. - [Courtney] Friends. Okay. - They're friends. - So they're friends. I think that OP has a right to feel both things. Like, they can be upset but also feel bad. that this person needed the money for their pet, 'cause like if that's true, that sucks. It's heartbreaking on all sides.

- [Shayne] Yeah. - And maybe when things are better, perhaps since that's still within like their world, they could get the blanket back or something. - Yeah, I mean it's one of those things, it's so tough and it wouldn't have gone well I think, but like the communication of like calling up that friend. and being like, "Hey, like my dog needs emergency surgery. "I'm desperate. "I'm letting you know like, "I'm selling that thing you made for me.". Like I said, that conversation would not go well, but would that be better than this crazy off chance.

that she managed to run into the person. who bought it off Facebook marketplace? - Yeah, I mean, it just also doesn't take that long. to notice like, hey, that-. - Thing is gone. - That blanket I made you isn't in your apartment anywhere. - Yeah, yeah. It's all very strange. I almost like think like this, part of me thinks like, and I don't usually, I always assume these are real, but like part of me is like, man, like you would notice that. Like, if you were like good friends with somebody, you would kind of be like, "Oh, where's that blanket?".

But also if I was that friend that sold the blanket, I would feel so much shame. that I would be afraid to tell them. - I would totally be afraid. - Because it's like, yeah, you can't quantify the value. of something like that. - Yeah. We don't know the locations of these friends. If they're maybe like hometown college situation, whatever. They're very young. It does suck, you know? Let's see here. Some comments. "I would feel hurt. "Your feelings are valid regardless of her reasoning. "behind why she sold it. "This was a thoughtful gift that took you a lot of time,

"and that shouldn't be diminished. "If there's any comfort in knowing it went to a good home, "to someone who is enjoying it and displaying it proudly, "I would focus on that. "I've had to give away things that are sentimental, "but I try to make sure they go to a good second home. "where they will be appreciated. "Maybe she did that in this case.". Someone said, "If the sick dog is true, "forgive her if you want, but never knit for her again. "If you can't forgive her, it's okay to move on.". Someone said, "So I knit and I'm also a pet owner. "I think you have the right to be hurt.

"But if the thing with her dog was a life. "or death situation, which is what I'm assuming it was. "if the dog needed emergency surgery, "then I can't blame her for selling it. "Once you give someone a gift, "it's theirs to do with as they please. "I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision. "for your friend to make.". - I think everything everybody said is true. - [Shayne] Yeah, I think all of that's valid. - Yeah, like no assholes here maybe. I mean, there's still like the lack of communication. of like, hey, like, I don't know. I don't know how close these friends are. - Nobody is an asshole in this situation.

because she's just saying how she's feeling, and her feelings are valid here. I think if she went out of her way. and said her friend's like the worst person on the planet, I'd be like, "Now you're maybe a bit of an asshole.". Like, this is just a shitty situation. But there is an update. - Ooh. - Uh-oh. - The dog's dead. - Stop. (laughs). - Sorry. - Okay, I need to know what character this is. That's important to me. - Yeah, I wanna know the anime. - Yeah. But she never mentions, yeah, 'cause if she mentions what character,

it's gonna be too obvious to identify her. - [Courtney] True. - I think it's Light from "Death Note.". - Yeah? Okay. - I think it's Light from "Death Note.". "Thank you all for the overwhelming response. "I don't have the time to respond. "to each and every one of you, "but please know I have read almost all of them. "and I appreciate the time you guys took. "to share your thoughts. "To those asking, she did briefly mention to me. "that her dog went into surgery months ago. "Obviously she did not mention the cost. "or if she was strapped for cash. "She just told me that everything thankfully went well. "However, I will also not question the validity of this.

"as I assume veterinary surgeries can cost a fortune. "She's my friend, "and I choose to believe she did act out of desperation. "because she loves her dog, "and I can't imagine her using him almost dying. "as a coverup. "If she did, then that is now between her and her maker, "I suppose. "It was all still fresh yesterday, "but after I've gotten the time to sleep, "I have a much clearer mind. "Some of you think I had no empathy for her, "which is honestly crazy. "I initially thought she had profited from my work. "and just took the cash, "but when we talked and she explained the situation, "I obviously felt sorry that it had come to that,

"and I couldn't expect her to react in any other way. "However, pardon me, I guess for being human. "and trying to process how I also felt. "At the time, I also couldn't help but think the blanket. "that I worked so hard on had no value to her so much so. "that it was easy for her to let go first. "amongst other things that she had probably kept. "But many of you have helped me look at this. "in another perspective. "and made me realize that she did see value in it somehow. "to know it would be worth enough to save her dog.

"TLDR, I've decided to just let this go. "I find solace in the thought. "that my work indirectly helped my friend. "get a second chance to be with her beloved dog. "And now that same blanket sits pre-loved. "in someone else's home for them to enjoy. "PS, yes, what a small world, LOL. "But I'm from a big city. "where the inside joke is somebody knows somebody, "considering we all go to the only arts uni in our city.". All right. - [Ian] All right. - Yeah, that's a pretty good ending. - I was expecting a really bad turn. - [Shayne] Yeah. - I'm glad that it was like, okay, we're good.

- I feel like an interesting topic is like how much effort. to put into gifts for people sometimes. because that's a lot of pressure too. If someone's like, "Hey, I put seven months of hard work into this,". I'd be like, "Okay, holy shit. "I have to keep this forever.". - Yeah, and I would say I love, like that's kind of one of my love languages. is like getting stuff for other people, and you're sometimes just not always gonna get the response. that you want, and that's kind of for you to kind of have to process.

and deal with. And like, honestly, this sounds like the, not the best case 'cause it sucks. that that was happening with a dog, but it's like, if there was ever a reason to sell a gift, you know? - My argument has always been the best gifts, consumables. - [Courtney] Yep. - Like, some sort of food, drink, candles. Candles. - Candles. - Incredible gift, because that way if it's gone, you don't know if they used it or if they gave it away. You never know. You just never know. What's more pressure someone spending a ton of money.

on a gift or spending a ton of time on a gift? And it's relative to how much money they have, right? Like, it's not like if you have a millionaire friend. - Relatively expensive to the person. - Yeah, like, holy shit-. - Like, if the gift sucks? - I feel a pressure because I've received gifts. that it was like, "Whoa, this is really nice. "It's like not something I would wear, "but, okay, thank you.". And I keep it and I still have it somewhere.

- I enjoy getting gifts for people, but I do know that, and there's sometimes I'm like, "Oh, this is the perfect gift for this person.". But I also, in my head, I get in my head of like, I don't want them to feel pressured. that they now have to get me a gift. And it starts this weird, I'm like, it's not supposed to be transactional. It's supposed to be a gift. It's supposed to be, hey, I'm giving you this thing. and then I don't care about the response. But there's a weird, you know, trade off. for a lot of people with gifts.

and that's a lot of politics for that. - [Courtney] That's true. That's true. - Next story. This comes from True Off My Chest. "My fiancee is reconsidering our marriage. "after visiting my home country.". Interesting. "To start-". - Did they visit America. (everyone laughs). - "To start, I come from a small island in the Caribbean, "part of the US. "I moved to the US five years ago. "just after graduating university and landed a job here. "Since day one, my fiancee has been romanticizing what it is.

"to live in a tropical paradise that is my country. "I love my country, and I was raised there, "but it's not even close to a paradise. "Of course it has its charms, but not close to that level. "Well, we were planning our honeymoon, "and she wants to stay there for two weeks. "and travel around the island. "I'm not fond of that idea because I have seen it all, "and she wants to visit unsafe areas around the island. "Her main point of attraction is a place. "that is in a huge musical video, "but it's not a safe place for tourists. "So I said, fine, let's just do a quick visit. "before our wedding so we can see what's going on.

"She immediately accepted, "and one month later we traveled to my home country. "She wasn't impressed, but I kept my mouth shut. "We arrived at the place, "and I already know today is a hot day to be there. "I try to convince her, but she insists on going in. "The locals are eyeing us, "and my mind is screaming we should not be here. "Not even three feet in and two guys confronted us. "She started talking, and her broken Spanish,". parenthesis, "sorry babe, just made things worse. "I tried to calm down the situation, and we left soon after.

"I kept my mouth shut, "even though I just wanted to tell her I told you so, "because this was stupid from the start. "On our way back home, she didn't say a thing. "even after I tried to open the conversation. "Well, today, one week after we arrived, "she left her ring at the nightstand. "with a note telling me she needs some time. "I fear this might be the end of it all. "She never does this kind of thing.". - Is this Puerto Rico? - Hold on, really quick. The top comment is, "She built her future based on 'Despacito'?". - Yeah, yeah. - No! - For real, for real.

Yeah, he was like, "It's part of the US, "it's like Caribbean Island.". I was like, "This is Puerto Rico.". Then it was like, "She saw it in a music video,". I was like (beep). - She tried saying the lyrics to "Despacito". to the locals to make good. Oh no. - Or Bad Bunny. It's either "Despacito" or Bad Bunny. - What fantasy world are you living in? - And someone responded to that saying, "Hold up. "This was in Puerto Rico? "She bypassed all the beaches, the mountains, old San Juan, "the food, Culebra, and...".

- [Kiana] Vieques. - "Vieques, and other islands, the food, "and dumped him over the location of that video? "Nah man. "OP needs to block her on everything from now to eternity. "She only loved the idea of him, "having an exotic boyfriend.". - Oh! - Yeah, ooh. - You know what I also just wanna point out like, what an awful pitch for a honeymoon. It's like, "Hey, for our honeymoon, let's go to your hometown.". (crew laughs). - She was romanticizing. - This place I grew up in, I don't want to go back. And he's saying, "I don't wanna go back.".

- Yeah, I mean, like on a lot of those, like everyone has these like romantic ideas. of like Caribbean islands, like vacations, but there's like so much poverty in most of those areas. And a lot of times, like people are relegated to the resorts. where it's like intentionally kept nice. because the locals are kept out of there. - Also music videos like is not real. (Ian laughs). - [Shayne] I know. - It's like, bro, there's lights, there's color editing.

It is not what you think it is. I also think it's really messed up. that like he literally was born there. and she just was not valuing his insight. Like (groans). - No, she didn't trust him, which is-. - She's like, "No, no, no. "'Despacito' knows.". - Daddy Yankee would not do me wrong. - You know, though, it brings up a good point, which is like, you know, is social media, travel culture kind of creating false expectations. for certain countries? 'Cause as you've pointed out, and I've heard this from other people too,

and also just reading about it, of like, yeah, a lot of those islands we think. of like the tourist parts of it, which are pretty much like, you know, yeah, it's this glamorized small sections, and we think that's the whole place, and it's not true. And I feel like social media always gives a false idea. of anything. - Yeah, Bali. Bali's a big one. - [Shayne] Really? - Yeah, well, I mean, I guess I shouldn't generalize. But yeah, yeah. We all have like this false sense,

and it's not like, look, everywhere is dangerous. We're not saying like, "Oh, if you go to an island, "it's like scary and there's crime.". There's crime everywhere. There's violence everywhere. - No, but they're not exactly advertising every aspect. of a place. - Right. You just have to be smart about it. Like, it's not like a fantasy island. Like, there's poverty, there's-. - [Shayne] Right. - And I think the social media aspect is true, but I think this person, I think she's just not on, like she's on another planet.

- [Shayne] Oh yeah. - Like, the fact that she was like ignoring OP's, like, "Hey, this is not a good idea. "Okay, fine.". Walking up to this area, and locals are immediately having a problem with it. And her being like, "No, no, no, no,". and like trying to speak the language. - I know. - Is like, so you really have like no regard. for like what reality might be outside. of what's serving you. - She has no respect for her fiance. - Yeah, no. - Like, this is where he's from, and she's like, "No, I'll handle this.".

- Yeah. - It's giving Valentina. It's giving, "I want my fantasy. "This is not serving my fantasy.". Like, I don't know, yeah. The comment with the exotic boyfriend is wild, but probably not inaccurate. - Yeah, someone else said, "Sounds like she was fetishizing you and your home country. "Either way, it's not your fault. "You did what you were supposed to do.". Someone else responded to that saying, "Absolutely she was fetishizing him. "and also clearly has no clue that life in the Caribbean. "is nothing like an all-inclusive resort.".

Someone else said, "Let her go. "It looks like she was in love with the romanticized idea. "of having the potential to live on a tropical island or so, "then her idea busted. "If she was really loving you, "this experience would not affect the personal relationship. "with you.". There's a tweet here, "Proof that Instagram influencers have ruined everything. "My hopes and dreams were shattered. "when I found out the water at the Gates of Heaven. "is actually just a piece of glass under an iPhone.". Yeah. So...

- [Courtney] Oh. - I've heard some like sketch stuff about Bali, but I mean like whatever, man. - Well, I think the thing is this, don't trust what you see on Instagram. - Yeah. - People fake all sorts of shit. Not only are people touching up their faces. and their bodies, they're touching up the environment. - [Ian] Yeah. - They're making shit not what it is. And the reality is, like what we're talking about. is whenever we think of something as a paradise, it's like, no, it's a country. A country includes everything. - [Courtney] Yeah. - Every country in the world includes something. of everything. There's no such thing as a paradise.

- Otherwise everyone would be living there. - Yeah. It'd be like, let's go there. No, it does exist. It's called Tallahassee, Florida. (Courtney laughs). - Okay. - There's an update very quick. - Oh. - Okay. - "She called off the engagement. "I don't know what to do. "Probably just drink while I play some 'Halo' with the boys. "before crying myself to sleep. "See ya." - Let's go. - Yeah, no, that's a happy ending for that guy. Happy ending for that guy. - Slayer. (everyone laughs).

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to get 10% off your first month. This one's gonna be good. It's from Am I The Asshole. and was reposted on Am I The Devil, the place where all the worst ones go. - Hell yeah. - Apparently I have heard. that these people should break up is what I'm hearing. - Okay. - I'll be the judge of that. - That's usually the consensus on all of these. - Usually. "Am I the asshole for asking my wife. "to think about the long-term implications. "of her birth plan?

"Throwaway because my friends know my main. "I know dudes get ripped in here. "for posting their opinions about birth, "but I think this is an important opportunity for my wife, "and I'm posting because I believe the situation is nuanced. "and she's not hearing me out.". This is a 34-year-old man. "My wife Beth, 28, is 33 weeks pregnant. "We're both very ready for this baby to come. "My mom is super hands-on with my entire family. "My two brothers' wives are very close with her, "but Beth has just never really clicked.

"the way the other two did. "I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me. "that my wife seems disinterested. "in getting closer with my mom and my sister-in-laws. "For all five of the births of my sister-in-laws, "my mom's three births, they were all unmedicated. "It is clearly a point of pride for all of them. "at having done it naturally. "My mom said she chose to do it. "because she didn't want me and my brothers born doped up. "and she wanted to experience the full spectrum. "of becoming a mother. "Beth, on the other hand, is very fearful of birth. "and has talked to our doctor about being medicated. "I didn't love the idea of the mother.

"of my child being loopy and out of it. "at such a critical moment. "But those concerns fell on deaf ears when I raised them. "I felt very excluded during the discussion. "around pain management, "and neither Beth nor our doctor were receptive to my ideas. "My mom was asking me about our birth plan the other day, "and I don't know why I did this, "but I just sort of panicked and told her. "that Beth was going for it the all natural way. "like she and my sister-in-laws have. "To say my mom freaked out. "with happiness is an understatement. "She was thrilled that Beth was open.

"to experiencing the full range of motherhood. "And this might sound crazy, "but I think if Beth shared this rite of passage. "with my mom and sister-in-laws, they might finally gel. "I told Beth about my slipup. "to see if she'd be open to changing her mind, "given how this could serve as a critical bonding experience. "for them to share, and she lost her mind, "yelling about how she wasn't going to compete with my mom. "and sister-in-laws during her birth. "She emphasized that it was her birth again and again, "which I don't think is fair. "because it will be an experience we both go through.".

- (beep) off! - "Just differently. "I was just trying to get her to see. "that there was an opportunity. "for her to create some sisterhood. "with the women of my family. "I wasn't dictating or even pressuring her. "I just thought she would want to know. "how happy it made my mom. "She told me she didn't give a (beep) about sisterhood, "which was very intense because Beth does not swear. "I wasn't trying-". (Courtney laughs). - It's almost like this is important to her. (Courtney groans). - "I wasn't trying to upset her. "I just think she would be wise. "to see the potential long-term implications.

"of not having this shared experience. "with my mom and sister-in-laws. "But Beth has been furious to the point. "of not speaking to me for several days, "and I'm starting to wonder if I'm in the wrong, "even if I was trying to help. "Am I the asshole?". - You know, it's almost like, you know, maybe having the child would be something. that they could bond over, not the pain of having one. - Yeah. - I don't understand like why he thinks. that like the pain is necessary? - Well, his (beep) is getting ripped open too. - I know. The poor guy has to suffer so much.

- Babe, listen. Beth, sit down. (Courtney laughs). - Don't swear. - Please don't swear. I know that you're going through a lot, but I want you to know like my emotional (beep). is getting ripped open. - Getting ripped. (everyone laughs). My emotional (beep) is just getting gaped. - My emotional (beep). - He's like, "I'm doing it the natural way.". - Yeah. Remember, we are pregnant. - You know what's interesting though, something I just wanna point out like, this isn't the first time in "Reddit Stories". that a family has a tradition.

that is just kind of confusing for me. - It's so odd that it's a family tradition. being put on in-laws who are not connected to this family. outside of their relationship with someone in the family. - It's like the wife test one. - [Courtney] Right. - Do you remember that? Where it's like, well, this is a tradition my family has. It's like, well, cool, I'm not technically... That's their tradition. That's fine. - And when it gets down to the nitty gritty,

bodily autonomy, my guy. Like, her body, her pregnancy, her birth. And also I'm a little hung up on like the mom. is like fixated on the idea of this baby being loopy. when they're born and like oh my god, that's such a big deal. Like, that baby's not gonna remember that. - Also like what even is like natural birth? Like, are you going out to the (beep) woods.

to like push this thing out. and you're gonna rip the umbilical cord off with your teeth? Does the mom have like some (beep) degree? Does she know that like giving the mother drugs. is gonna drug the baby? - No, he points out that the doctor is clearly. on his wife's side. - [Courtney] Right. - And he's like, "This freaking dumb doctor's not receptive either.". - Well, also like emotions are not facts. This story is him saying, "I lied to my mom about what my partner is doing.

"and then tried to convince my partner. "to go along with a lie.". That's not just like going along with a lie. It's putting your body through a very significantly. more painful experience. - Or like there could be an even more insidious intention. here where he told the mom she was gonna do it naturally. so that they can both gang up on her. and be like, "You're gonna be natural, right? "It's gonna be natural, right?". - [Courtney] Like, yeah. - It's such a strange, he keeps saying like feeling the full range of motherhood.

- [Courtney] Yeah. - It's just a lot of weird-. - An epidural or whatever you need in a pregnancy. does not invalidate the experience at all. Like, you are still very much a mother. if you have a c-section, if you get the epidural, like if you have a surrogate that is still your baby, obviously the pregnancy situation is different. with the surrogate, but like you're a mother no matter what. Like, that is your baby. She could have lied and said, "Yeah, all natural babe. "I'm gonna be all natural.". And then she had the epidural. Like, what's the good in that poor communication?

- It's, I don't know. I feel like I hear people talk a lot about like motherhood. and parenting and they just refer to like that first like, the birth and the first couple years of raising a baby. of being a parent. I'm like being a parent's a lifetime thing. Like, whether you're gonna be a good mom or dad, that's that child's whole life into adulthood. and how you are a parent throughout their entire life. is determining that. That's the full range of motherhood.

- Yeah, yeah. To say like, oh you have to have pain during, you have to like go through this like traumatic, like horrible pain in order to like bond. with other women on motherhood, it's crazy. There's so much before and after the actual like event-. - Exactly. - That like women have to deal with. - I feel like, and this is probably a little bit of a spicy take. where like I feel like people put so much on the pregnancy. and having a baby.

and then like postpartum depression is really tough. and it's like we put too much pressure on women. in a lot of those situations. And yeah, it's not just having a baby. You are raising a human. That is a blip in the situation. And also I'm pretty sure there's a scientific fact. of like women tend to forget like the physical pain, like their body does not remember. how painful it was to give birth. because like when a species is reproducing, they don't want your body to remember the pain.

because they want you to keep reproducing. - What I will also say is like, I think this also falls in line with a lot of people. Kind of this whole thought where we forget. that we're in a modern society where we've like kind of... Like, childbirth is super dangerous, and I think they have this thought of like, yeah, it's like you go about it naturally. and everything's gonna work out 'cause that's nature. It's like no naturally women (beep) died a lot. in childbirth historically. - This mom is fixated on the idea of all of this.

- It's like, "I wish I was born another time.". It's like, well if you were born another time, you might've died before you were one years old. - A Krispy Kreme donut would've killed you. (Shayne laughs). That's the reality. - Hearing "Despacito" would've blown your mind open. So I think we know how the comments are gonna go here. "You're the asshole. "Your complete and utter selfishness is so overwhelming. "that I had to take a break while reading this post. "You and your wife. "will be experiencing this birth differently. "because you'll be sitting on your judgmental ass. "while your wife's body is forever transformed. "You are a full partner in parenting,

"but regardless of what mommy told you, "the hours you spend laboring aren't even close. "to the full range of motherhood, so take a seat.". OP responded, "I appreciate that we will have very different roles. "and experiences of the birth. "All I meant was I'm seeing the holistic experience. "as something we create together. "because we made this child together. "and we'll love this child together. "Certainly we have different roles in the process. "She's more the quarterback and I'm more the coach.". (Courtney screams). "So I know she-". - You (beep) bro. You (beep). - [Ian] You (beep). - That's what you did.

- Yeah, you're more like the recruiter. You are the recruiter. You got the sperm and then that's it. She did everything else. - "So I know she's the one working. "while I'm the one strategizing.". Oh god. - Ew. - [Shayne] Holy shit. - Stop. There's already enough like objectification in football. Like, these guys are just stats and numbers. that are being subjected to concussions all the time. You're not the (beep) coach of your wife. - For football fans, he's the Urban Meyer of dad coaches.

(everyone laughs). Someone's gonna get it. He's a really shitty coach. - Okay. - "You're the asshole. "This is akin to her saying you should go. "through major surgery without any anesthesia. "She is giving birth. "Not you. "You are not equal partners in this. "You are a spectator while she is doing all of the work, "so you get zero say in how she chooses to do it. "At this point, you should consider yourself lucky. "if she allows you to be in the hospital room at all.". OP responded. (Courtney gags). By the way, that earlier one negative or minus 690,

690 down votes. - The OP's? - Reply. - [Shayne] OP's response. - Got it. - Hilarious. - OP responded to this comment, "I don't think that's an accurate analogy. "Women have been giving birth. "for thousands of years unmedicated. "Pain management for surgery accounts. "for something unnatural occurring, "ie, cutting open a chest cavity. "I know she's the one doing the work. "I just feel like we are better off approaching. "as a team effort, so we should be aligned.". 3,121 down votes. - [Courtney] Yeah. - [Shayne] That's some of the most down votes. I think I've ever seen. - Women were burned at the stake. because we thought they were witches.

They should be able to handle pain. - I'm not a historian. I think a historian would say that is actually incorrect. For thousands of years they were finding ways to probably-. - Yeah, they probably like gave women like brandy, like, you know, they did all sorts of-. - Dude, they were doing way worse stuff. They would stick their thumb in the whiskey bottle. and put the thumb in the baby's mouth. Like, shit was different then. - I think like this is, and I also don't agree with the take. like we shouldn't let stupid people reproduce,

but like this is what happens. when stupid people say shit online. It's just like, you literally have like no idea. like what a traditional birth is. and like the dangers that come with it. You have this, like we said already, the romanticized idea of like a natural birth. - It's also very clear. that his kids are gonna (beep) hate him. I know it already. - He's like, "I'm going to prom too. "I'm going to prom just as much as you are, son.".

(everyone laughs). - Someone else said, "You're the asshole. "Birth mortality is high enough. "Why do you wanna risk making your wife a statistic?". OP responded, "I would never. "I would do anything in the world to make sure she. "and my soon-to-be son are well. "That's why I started this convo with her to begin with.". 206 down votes. So OP was responding a lot. We have a bunch of responses. No context. - Let's hear 'em. Line-o-rama. Let's go. - We get the idea of what's probably happening. "I have done extensive reading. "on natural ways to control pain. "and ensure the baby makes it out. "with minimal damage to my wife,

"so I don't think it's fair to suggest I have no value. "to bring to the experience.". - Jesus. - 1,330 down votes. That's somehow very Chosen. - With minimal damage done to my wife. - [Shayne] Studied. - I rolled a d20 on birth. (everyone laughs). - I studied many ways to ensure zero pain. - How do you do minimal damage during childbirth? - I'm just picturing like it's a diagram of like a baby. in the womb, and he's got like lines with like X's. - Yeah, he's doing the coach, he's doing the playbook. - It's like you will never know.

And one thing I'll say really quick is like, he's like, "I never wanna make my wife a statistic.". He is by making her take part in a tradition. because of the idea of it, simply because of these previous people. who have done it too. - [Shayne] Yeah. - Like, it is all ego here. It is so much ego. - It's control too. He's super controlling and shitty. Another one. This is all from him. "I know death is dangerous, "but it's the physical aspect of the birth that's dangerous, "not the experience of the pain.

"I'm confused why you're equating pain with danger.". 1,919 down votes. - Chosen. - "She is the patient, but so is my child. "Doesn't that at least give me a 50% say?". - [Ian] Ew. - 50%? - This guy is wild. - The baby has more say than you do! - "I have definitely done the homework. "I feel like I could deliver this baby myself. "at this point, LOL." - Oh god. - Okay. - Okay. - All right, I'm like, is this a troll at this point? - Is this a troll at this point? - No, I think he's just showing his ass more and more.

- I think he's getting madder and he's just like-. - And he's letting the mask slip. - Here's the last one. "I'm not a doctor, but at this point I've read enough. "and watched enough YouTube videos. "that I could deliver this child myself. "I did not make this suggestion without doing my homework. "on the pain mitigation techniques of meditation, breathing, "aromatherapy, massage, and affirmations. "I have a variety of pain management techniques. "that do not require medication.". Just about 3,000 down votes.

Holy shit. Look, guys, I'm telling you and I keep telling my wife, I have learned ways to make sure my (beep) does not hurt. (Courtney laughs). And she just will not listen to me. - Bro, just breathe. - Mine never hurts. - Just breathe. (breathes). That's it. (Shayne laughs). - This is the worst guy. - I would agree with that. - [Ian] It's up there. - It's definitely up there. - It's definitely leaderboard for sure. - Yeah, this is up there. - It got worse. The mask slipped like. as he started rapid fire replying to people.

Like, he showed his ass. - This guy's 34. - [Shayne] That's true. - He's set in his way. - Dude, do you know how many pictures. of a diagram of the vagina he probably looked at. before he had sex for the first time, and he's like, "I will know where the clitoris is.". (everyone laughs). - Moving on from that guy. - Please. - Yeah. "Am I the asshole for breaking up with my boyfriend. "over the Barbie movie?". (Courtney gasps). - Let's go! - [Shayne] We know it-. - Angela, Amanda, I hope you're watching this!

(Shayne laughs). - We know it had to happen out there. "I literally don't know what to do right now, "and I feel so helpless turning to Reddit. "for advice/validation, but three days ago my boyfriend. "and I went to go see the Barbie movie. "I've been really excited as I'm a huge Greta Gerwig fan. "and my boyfriend likes Ryan Reynolds.". Okay, I think that's a typo. I don't think. that they actually think Ryan Reynolds is in the movie. I think she meant to say Ryan Gosling. - Ryan Gosling, yeah. - Okay, but that is a funny thought. Mid movie and you're just like-. - He's like, "I'm just Ken. "Great.". - Where's Deadpool?

(Courtney laughs). - Ken. Great. "Other than him being in the movie, "my boyfriend didn't know anything else about it. "I, on the other hand, was aware of its feminist themes. "and was secretly hoping my boyfriend would get the message. "Over the duration of the movie, "I could tell he was getting. "more and more uncomfortable/upset, "and I was getting really sad, "both from the movie and his reaction. "And I knew we would end up having a conversation. "about it afterwards. "He didn't talk to me until we got in the car. "He then told me that he was really offended by the movie. "and said that it was the kind of thing. "I should have watched with my girl friends and not him.

"I understood where he was coming from, "but I'm not going to even start explaining why I disagreed. "We have been having problems. "with his weird comments about women, the LGBTQ community, "and other stuff. "He would deem it bitch shit.". - Yeah, dude! Yeah, dude! - I feel like why wasn't that the line for you? - Bitch shit? - Oh, this dude's red pilled. - If he's saying that, oh, this guy is red pilled so hard.

- [Courtney] Okay. - "Maybe it was a long time coming, "but this was the straw that broke the camel's back. "I was tired of having to always deal with his attitude. "and disrespect and was also maybe on this girl power high. "So I told him it was over. "The complicated part is this, he lives, lived, with me. "He has been in between serving jobs, "and since he was my freaking boyfriend, "I let him move in with me six months ago. "Living with him is a whole other story, "but I couldn't take it anymore. "and I had him leave my apartment the next day. "I stayed at my friend's house while he packed up his stuff. "He said he understood and that he didn't wanna live.

"with me another second anyways. "I assumed he had a place to go, but apparently he didn't. "His brother called me a few hours ago saying he's MIA. "His friends are blowing up my phone saying the same thing. "I feel like this is all my fault. "No one has heard from him in 24 hours. "I did think it was weird when I came home. "and all the food in the fridge was gone, "all the batteries in our electronics drawers were gone. "He took my phone charger and half the blankets. "I know now he did not in fact have anywhere to go or a car. "He had been using mine since his engine busted last month. "The worst part is we still have his location,

"and it's saying he is two states away. "I don't know how he got there. "I can't believe. "this is all because of a freaking Barbie movie.". - Okay, there's something really funny. about like he does what like every like, what like children do, like, "I'm running away from home.". - No, he's being Ken. - Oh, is that what Ken does? I haven't seen it. - Yeah, so Ian unfortunately. has not seen the Barbie movie at this point. - In my defense, I also haven't seen "Oppenheimer.". - Okay. - [Courtney] Yeah, polar opposites.

- Also I don't watch that bitch shit. (everyone laughs). - So he's literally being Ken. He's having a Ken moment. And that's very clear to me. - I would be like scared. - Yeah. - For him or her? - For her. - I'm scared for her. I'm also scared for him. He just seems off the rails. - I feel like he's like doing his like going out. to the woods kind of thing. - Doing that red pill shit. - Nature. - Yeah, I mean taking batteries is like,

I'm sorry but that's weird. Like, remember we've heard stories of people. who like sell batteries for quick cash. Maybe he got a bus ticket or a train ticket. - I know there's still stamps. - My interpretation is he probably got on a bus, and he's just like going. He's doing the Incredible Hulk thing. He's just like hitchhiking down the road. - Yeah, he's on a journey. - He's all emotion. Just he is truly doing the Ken thing. - [Courtney] Yeah. - Some comments here. "Ryan Reynolds isn't in 'Barbie.'". (Ian laughs). - Yeah, yeah.

- Someone said, "You can break up for any reason you want to. "and he's a big boy who can take care of himself.". Someone said, "He's MIA by choice. "You got his location so his phone is working. "He's just refusing to answer. "I doubt he had nowhere to go. "Sounds as if a lot of people are texting you. "If he got two states away. "with all the things taken from your place, "someone had to pick him up. "I don't see anyone stopping for a man holding his thumb up. "for a ride carrying loads of crap with him.". Update. - Oh.

- Yeah, the update, "I broke up with my boyfriend over the Barbie movie.". Yeah, it wasn't over the Barbie movie. It sounds like this guy was a lot of problems. - I don't know. He seems like a pretty like well-rounded guy. - Yeah, he seems pretty chill. "Hi, everyone. "I know everyone says this, "but I really didn't expect this to blow up. "I'm a little embarrassed, "but in light of everything I've learned. "over the past 24 hours, "I'm once again oversharing on Reddit. "Before anything else, "I wrote that post in a frenzy of panic and guilt. "With a clearer head, I can recognize. "that yes, we broke up because we were incompatible. "and I was at my limit not because of a movie.

"Some people were saying I maybe needed the Barbie movie. "more than he did since I was clearly dating a bigot, "and to that I agree. "I was convinced I loved him, "but I think I just didn't really understand. "my value/feel deserving of someone better. "I've learned my lesson, "and as a woman of color will never let myself be treated. "like that again. "My biggest regret is that my loved ones. "had to endure him as well. "Well, I've been cheated on before, "but I usually find out and then we break up. "Since I found out about my ex's cheating. "after I broke up with him, "I'm not exactly torn up about it.

"I feel like I skipped the questioning and sadness. "and went straight to the over it. "But since I have everyone's attention, "I'm just gonna put him on blast right now.". - Ooh. - "I can confidently say his beliefs. "were the worst part about him. "and I'm not extremely surprised. "that he didn't respect me enough to be loyal. "But the way I found out was actually kind of funny. "His brother has been keeping me semi updated. "on the missing Ken situation.". (everyone laughs). "But I haven't really been asking any questions. "other than how he and his family are doing. "They're not mad at me as they're aware of the situation.

"His brother even thanked me for taking care of him. "for as long as I did. "He texted me this morning around 9:00, "saying we don't need to worry anymore. "because he's at their cousin's house in Colorado Springs. "Then around 12:00 in the afternoon, "I got multiple calls from a friend of his. "saying that he heard from my ex. "This friend sucks so much, I'm not even gonna get into it. "I supremely regret giving him my number. "He was obviously under the influence of some sort, "not to judge but literally 12:00 PM at this point, "and he is telling me stuff like, "'He is literally so much happier now that you let him go,'.

"and that he just felt bad for me. "and that I was charity work. "And then he said now he can be with his man for real, "his name getting some real (beep) now. "Literally pause. "I asked him to clarify and he gave me that, "oh shit, laughing guy thing they do. "when they say something they weren't supposed to. "Then he said (beep) me and hung up. "The potentially craziest part that's been getting to me. "is that he is definitely at his cousin's house. "His brother confirmed. "I think I'm going crazy 'cause I've seen his cousin.

"on his Insta feed before, and she's literally stunning. "He said she's his second cousin, "and I don't really know how related they are. "If this is real, I can't even comprehend what this means. "Maybe it's not real, I don't know. "But I think it's the perfect ending to this story. "I'm not gonna update anymore after this. "because I feel like I'm already gonna regret this update. "But final notes, he must have taken all this stuff. "from the house outta spite. "I found out he took the batteries from the remotes. "and my hair blow dryer too. "I don't know how he got to his cousin's house,

"I didn't ask, or what happened to my Dyson air wrap, "but maybe his cousin/girlfriend is using it now. "In the spirit of Barbie, she can have it, I guess. "And yes, I know I said Ryan Reynolds. "when it was Ryan Gosling. "Like that one comment said, facial blindness is real. "That's all.". - Wow. - I mean, yeah, I guess he just needed to find somebody. that he had more in common with. - Like DNA? - DNA. - Yeah. Holy crap. - Wow. - I don't think that's an epic Ken moment,

'cause Ken would not (beep) his cousin. - This guy's worse than Ken. Top comment, "Did not see this coming. "What a ken-undrum.". Spelled with a K. - Oh. Funny. - Someone else said, "What in the Alabama?". - Yeah. - Someone said, "So he's a bigot, thief, "and potentially a cousin (beep). "You didn't dodge a bullet." (Courtney screams). "You dodged a cannonball.". - A ken-non ball. - A ken-non ball. Someone said, "Girl, you better file a police report over that Dyson.

"Those things are $600.". - Yeah. He's definitely not blow drying his nards with it, I'll tell you that. - Some good callbacks. - Wow. That's a lot, bro. - Yeah, I truly think it's actually an insult to Ken. to compare this guy to Ken. - Yeah. - Ken is naive, but he's not evil. - But he's got a good heart, yeah. - He's not evil on this level. - I think it's great. that like a movie can like show people's like true colors. - Yes. - Oh, the Barbie movie is absolutely a-.

- The Barbie test. - It's a great like litmus test for like-. - It truly is. - We're not a fan of the wife test, but we are a fan of the-. - I think the Barbie test is valid. I think if you are a woman dating a man. and you question whether he is a good guy or not, whether it could work, go see the Barbie movie. or watch it at home together and be like-. - What'd you think? - What'd you think? - Yeah. - I mean, I feel like there's a lot of stuff now. where like if you see somebody get triggered by some media.

and like, you know, use the W word, you're like, oh... - Yeah. - Yeah, it's gotta be a challenge. for women to avoid like the red pill stuff, 'cause I mean-. - I mean, at least he gets right out there in the front, you know? - Oh, it sucks. - Usually spot a red flag. - Yeah, I don't know why people are like, I when I was really young had a boyfriend. that like gave like 'merica vibes. And I was just like, yeah, it's just like,

oh, I guess it's just like his thing. And like women sometimes feel like they have. to just accept their partner's beliefs. because of whatever reason. It's like, no, we need some critical thinking, we need some few steps ahead thinking of like, do you wanna spend the rest of your life hearing that? - Well, her mistake was, I mean, she was going to this movie thinking like, oh, maybe this will kind of change him. It's like, no, he is who he is. That's not gonna change. If he's saying bitch shit,

that is 100% who that guy is. - Bitch shit. (laughs). - And you need to accept that. I do believe people change, but in a relationship, you cannot expect that to happen, and you certainly can't do it to someone. - [Courtney] No. - And change can take a long ass time. Look, maybe 30 years from now, this guy might be different. He might go, "Yeah, I was a horrible person when I was young,". but we don't know that, and you can't bank on that. You need to move on. And thank thankfully she has moved way the hell on. - Yeah, maybe when him and his cousin have kids.

or nieces and nephews or whatever you call them, maybe then he'll learn. (Shayne laughs). - Would "Little Women" have been a better Greta Gerwig movie. for her to send him to or that would've been worse? - She would've figured it out quicker probably. - Yeah. - All right, last story. - Okay. - This one's a little lighter than these previous ones. "Today I (beep) up by accepting an invitation to a concert. "This morning a cute girl invited me to a concert saying, "'My brother and I have an extra ticket. "'to this concert tonight.'.

"I have hung out with them a few times, "and I've been meaning to ask her out, "so I was totally on board. "That being said, "I don't like the band or even the genre of music, "but it was worth it to hang out with her for several hours. "I talked to the brother to confirm details, "and we decided to carpool. "since the venue is two hours away. "When he picked me up, there was only him. "and a random dude I didn't know in the car. "Turns out she had a date elsewhere tonight. "and was trying to get someone to take her ticket, "and I didn't find this out until I was too late. "to bail without being an asshole.". - [Ian] No.

- "TLDR, spent 12 hours going to a concert. "of a band I don't like for a girl. "because she pawned ticket off on me, "so she was free to go on a date. "Her brother was chill though. "Edit, for those asking the brother and I are both straight. "Sorry to disappoint. "It was a country concert, Jellyroll. - Jellyroll. - [Shayne] Jellyroll. - Sounds like it'd be like country rap. - Yeah, the only, look, this is light. This shit happens. If the phrasing is what she said of. "my brother and I have an extra ticket. "to this concert tonight,".

then he definitely assumed he was going with her and him. - Yeah. - That sucks for him. But she also probably doesn't know that he's into her. - I mean, the way she queued it up, it sounded dishonest, 'cause like Angela sometimes has extra tickets to stuff, but she's very clear like, "Hey, these are my friends' or whoever's tickets. "Do you want them to take somebody else?". Like, you gotta be clear on those plans. - [Shayne] That's true. - I don't think there's anything wrong. with like not being a fan of the music. and wanting to go to something. because you're interested in this person's interests.

and you are interested in them. I don't think that's dishonest to an alarming degree, but that sounds like she was way more dishonest. - So someone said, "No way. "That's rude. "As soon as I found out I would've left the car.". OP responded, "I should mention that the brother is chill. "but doesn't have many friends and he wasn't complicit. "He thought I knew I was taking her ticket, "so I didn't wanna bail on him at the last minute.". Someone else said, "Did you have to pay for the ticket?".

He said, "Luckily no. "It only cost me my Saturday.". Someone said, "Is the brother single? "Totally thought it was going to turn out. "that it was the brother that had a crush on him.". And then someone else said, "Who is to say that that still isn't the case?". - I think OP's kind of a chill dude. Like, he seems like really nice. - Yeah, seems like a nice guy. - Hanging out with this girl and her brother. I'm like, I kind of love that. - Yeah. That's too bad. I mean, especially to get, like, to get switcheroo'd. and then also find out that she did that. to go on a date with somebody else.

- [Courtney] Yeah. - [Shayne] That's pretty rough. Pretty devastating. - Yeah. - [Courtney] Crash and burn. - [Ian] That hurts. - Rough. I wonder if Jellyroll has a song about that. - Yeah, maybe he heard a song that he really resonated. that was called like, "When Your Lady Lies to You and Sends You to a Concert. "with Her Brother.". - Yeah. ♪ When you send your brother to a concert with a guy ♪. ♪ That you like ♪. ♪ When you're giving birth unmedicated ♪. ♪ When you're (beep) your cousin in Colorado ♪.

(everyone laughs). ♪ When you don't wanna watch that bitch shit, Barbie ♪. ♪ Barbie. ♪. ♪ When you cover a football in your own shit ♪. ♪ And you throw it at kids on the other side ♪. - That's a... - That's a good banger. - That was quite a callback. - Thanks for being here. - Hey. - [Shayne] Hey. - Hey, thank you. - Hey, flannel boys. - Look by the time-. - Dude, flannels. We flannels stick together. - By the time this comes out, you need to watch the Barbie movie. - Yeah, I wanna see the Barbie movie.

But like right now it's like available, but you have to buy it. You can't rent it. - Ian, you watched "Twitches". before you watched the Barbie movie. - Yeah, but I didn't pay for that. If we review "Barbie" on the "We Watched,". then I, yeah, 'cause Smosh will pay for it. - It's too good to criticize. - Like, I'm not gonna pirate, I'm not gonna steal money outta Greta Gerwig's pocket. That wouldn't be very feminist of me. - Let us know-. (Courtney laughs). What other subreddits and themes you'd like us to cover.

on this show, and we will see you next Saturday. for more unhinged bullshit. Bye. - Bye. ♪ Bye ♪.