Husband KILLS Wife For Denying Sex During Her Period

Bada bing, bada boom. >> Estre is going to be the next to die. That is the most likely reasonable. conclusion that everybody in his life is. coming to. He's going to be next. He's. going to be the next one to die. Especially right now because he's just. wandering around this empty strong. disinfectant chemicals scented hallways. of the morg. Everybody that knows SJ is. growing concerned. They're getting. nervous. Somebody needs to stay with.

him. Hurry. I'm worried he's going to. die, too. I'm anxious. This is a direct. quote from one of his family members. Wherever SJ goes, there is an anxious. family member sitting next to him. If. he's in the hallway outside the room, there is a family member sitting right. next to him, also exhausted, leaned back. against the chair and staring into the. abyss of the bright office backroom. lighting morg hallway. And it's very. understandable that SJ is distraught. SJ's wife is laying on a steel table in.

the room right behind him, right next to. all of his family members, and they're. about to cut her open to see how she was. killed inside of their house, inside of. their newly wed home after they had been. married for only 3 months. She is killed. in the middle of the night. And because. SJ is drunk and passed out on the couch, he has no clue what happened to his wife. inside the master bedroom, the primary. bedroom. It could have been an intruder. It could have been a medical anomaly. I. mean, that's highly unlikely, but we.

don't know. SJ is sitting next to his. wife's sister. [music]. So, this is his sister-in-law. I mean, she's also grieving. She would more so. be in a state of shock staring at the. hallway in front of them. She's probably. in more pain about losing her sister. than SJ is about losing his wife. They've only been together for like a. year and a half. But still, the whole. family is worried for SJ. He probably. feels all this guilt of not having been. in the room with her, but outside on the. couch, leaving for work in the morning,

thinking she's asleep in the bedroom. when in reality she was dead in the. bedroom. He's probably hit the hardest, at least right now. I mean, it's his. wife after all. And then SJ turns to his. sister-in-law. So this is the deceased. sister, you know. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> The wife's sister, and she just. distinctly remembers how odd this was. He turns to her in the hallway in the. morg when they're performing this. autopsy. And he states, "You know, I'm. someone with really strong sexual.

desires.". >> What? >> She's tilting her head. She's looking at. him like this is unsolicited, unprompted. information that she doesn't even know. if she heard this correctly. What do you. mean? I'm a person with strong desires, you know, but your sister would never. let me touch her. She's sitting there. trying to understand what he's telling. her. Her sister is dead, most likely. murdered, and being autopsied in the.

room right there. And her sister's. husband is telling her that he has a lot. of needs. What the hell is going on. right now? [music]. [music]. We would like to thank today's sponsors.

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place in South Korea. We had our. wonderful Korean translators help us. with this case. However, if anything. ever gets lost in translation, just. please let us know in the comments. And. with that being said, let's get started. How do you know Satan's not your. neighbor? I think it's a good question, okay? Perhaps one that is never asked. and only ever answered in typically a. life-threatening manner. There is this. tradition though in South Korea where if. you live in a big apartment building. every now and then you will get a ring. on your doorbell. You look at the.

intercom screen cuz a lot of these. apartments will have a screen even if. someone's right outside your door or. sometimes you look through the tiny. little peepphole and you have one eye. open and you'll usually see one or two. people that you have never seen in your. entire life standing outside your. apartment door very awkwardly. You don't. know how they got access into the. building, let alone why are they. standing at your door. You don't know. But you look down and they're holding a. paper bag with stripes. It looks. festive. It looks like a gift bag. You. look back up and they're now staring. directly into the peepphole with this.

awkward polite half smile. They know. you're on the other side staring at. them. You know that they know. And so. now you've got to open the door. So. that's what you do. And they let you. know, "Hi, we're the new neighbors. upstairs. We just moved in. We wanted to. bring you rice cakes. The tradition. lives on. It's not as big as it used to. be. I will say the apartment buildings. in Korea have gotten much larger. It. would just not be fiscally responsible. to buy rice cakes for all 132 neighbors.

of the building. But in smaller. communities, people have stopped doing. it, too. I mean, it's a shame because. the tradition isn't just about meeting. your neighbors and being cute and being. polite and bringing them rice cakes. It's to drive out evil spirits. That's. the symbolism behind the rice cakes. If. Satan were to live next door to you, you. drive them out the building like a mass. exorcism via a red bean rice cake. >> That's the meaning. Satan notoriously. doesn't like rice cakes. Who would have.

known? I mean, obviously, it's an. exaggeration of a tradition, but you get. what I mean. There is a meaning behind. it. And so that's why December 2024, Hayong [music] and her husband SJ, they. are distributing rice cakes [music] to. everyone in their building. They just. got married. Neighbors in the building. are actually kind of [music] stunned cuz. usually it's high schoolers who will. come distribute the rice cakes because. their parents are forcing them to do it. or it's elderly couples. But you never. get two young couples who willingly on. their own accord decide that they're.

going to pass out rice cakes. It's a. tradition that's dying in the younger. generations. So, it's actually very. cute. Hi and her new husband are doing. this. And if you [music] ask anybody. about Hayong, if you ask anybody about. Estre, they're going to say, "If. anyone's going to pass out rice cakes to. their neighbors, it's going to be them.". Hi and SJ got married December 2024. One. of Hayong's friends had stood up during. their wedding to make this toast. And. this is verbatim. Finally, a man worthy, a man with a big heart to embrace our.

Hiang. Seeing the way you look at Hang, the way you talk to her, your tone of. voice, the way you take care of her so. attentively, I think as friends, we. realized maybe it's okay to let Hang get. married now. I hope you guys live. happily. Maybe it has to do with the. fact that they're 34 when they get. married. It just feels like they were. waiting for the right person. And. because they're more established, they. know what they want in life, they find. the partner that fits perfectly. [music]. Hi's older sister, Mimi, this is a.

pseudonym. She's very happy because she. says, I mean, it was it was the wedding. that Hayong always wanted. It was her. dream day. It's her dream wedding venue. It's her dream wedding dress. I She was. just so happy. I was just so happy. And. her husband Estray is calling our. parents mom and dad. And it's just like. one of those wholesome relationships. They kind of stand as an example for. maybe why people should wait until their. 30s to get married because it feels like. that's the time that you find your.

partner and everything is just kind of. working out. They're both incredibly. polite. They're diligent with work. They're very traditional when it comes. to following customs. Example, the whole. rice cake thing. Hiong's friends say, "Okay, sometimes it's awkward when. you're hanging out with couples and then. a wife or a husband snaps at the other. party and now the whole entire table is. uncomfortable and it just feels like, ooh, someone's ego is getting hurt. Someone's going to get into a fight. It's a whole thing." But they say with. SJ, he would just make it less awkward.

even for the whole friend group. He. would just talk back lovingly even when. she's snappy and say things like, "See, are you guys seeing this? She has me. totally wrapped around her finger. These. are real messages between the couple. Hayong is asking [music]. about a gift that SJ had given her. And. she says, "What is this? Thank you, heart." He says, "It's from my heart. Heart [music] emoji. I love you, my. woman. I love you, too. Heart emoji. I. miss you already. Me, too." Like, it's. just very They text like they're still. in the honeymoon phase. It's like.

they're obsessed with each other. And. then two months into being what people. would call maybe even Jinx the perfect. marriage. >> So like February 2025, >> February 19th, Hang texts Est. I think. divorce is the answer. Let's get divorce. papers in the morning when we wake up. Exactly a month later. So now 3 months. into their marriage, they are still not. divorced. And Hong's mom gets a phone. call from SJ. Hello. She just hears him.

crying on the other end. And this is. again verbatim. Hello. What's going on? Why? Why? What happened to Hang? He's. not responding. He's just dry heaving, sobbing. Talk to me. Tell me what. happened. Another man clearly takes the. phone and his voice, I mean, this is a. stranger, at least to Hong's mom. She's. never heard this man's voice before in. her life. Ma'am. Ma'am, what happened to. my Hong? What's going on? I'm a police. officer. Your daughter passed away.

between early yesterday morning and this. afternoon. What? What is What is my. son-in-law doing right now? Can I talk. to him? He's completely out of it right. now, but you guys will need to discuss. having Hayong's body moved to a morg to. potentially be autopsied. Hi's mom hears SJ in the background, and. he's just like asking in a small voice, "What do I do? What do I do?" And as. she's listening to SJ [music] and this. man have a conversation, she starts. coming down. A lot of that earlier. hysteria starts slipping away because.

this is not happening right now. I mean, none of this is real. And she's not. disassociating, at least not in this. moment. She thinks this whole thing is. ridiculous. She's thinking they're. getting soing good at this. >> Like a prank. >> I mean, she's heard all of the news. about it. >> Oh, >> yeah. And she has to go from her. hometown to Seoul to see Hayong. And she. says, quote, "I thought it was a voice. fishing scam. Really? I didn't shed a. single tear until I got to Soul because.

I couldn't believe it. >> Wow. >> People are getting calls that their. elderly parents have been kidnapped and. the hostage taker needs $500 to set them. free, which is an insanely little amount. of money for, I don't know, your. mother-in-law dying. And so, a lot of. people will pay it. Or older parents are. posting $9,000 bail amounts for their. 20some yearear-old collegeage child who. somehow landed themselves in jail. Except they didn't. they're actually. just at a frat party and they're not. picking up their phone. Others are a bit.

more unsettling. Parents will tuck their. 10-year-old kid into bed for the night. and an hour later they get a phone call. that their kid has been kidnapped. And. naturally, they will rush into the room. to check up on their kid who is. blissfully unaware and asleep in this. little bed. But you can hear their exact. screams through the phone. The child is. asleep. You can see that with your own. two eyes, but you can also hear someone. who sounds exactly like your child. screaming through the phone. >> H. But with all these phone calls, there. is a pattern. Everybody wants money. That's it. Money. There was not a single.

mention of money in the phone call. [music] that Hayong's mom received. Hayong's older sister, Mimi, and her. mom, they start rushing to the apartment. that Hayong had just moved in with her. husband, the newlywed apartment where. they just passed out rice cakes. And. it's not a scam. Her daughter Hayong is. dead. And nobody knows why. I mean, it. doesn't make sense. She's 34 years old. She's healthy. She has no prior medical. condition. She has no ailments. She just. dies in her sleep in her bed. What about. SJ? He says he was sleeping outside on.

the couch outside of their bedroom and. then left for work in the morning. He. had no clue what happened. Just 3 months. into their marriage, he's a widowerower. The most important role at a Korean. funeral is the chief mourner. This is. the person closest to the deceased. They. will wear the white armbands and this is. the one that everyone sends their. condolences to. The chief mourner has to. greet guests. They have to lead all of. these various ceremonies and they just. have to make all the hard decisions. [music] and creates a huge emotional.

burden. Everyone is throwing their. sadness at you. >> and you have to make sure that. everything is done perfectly to make. sure that your loved one passes on to. the other side peacefully. So everything. has to be in order and you have to. almost put your own sadness to the side. I mean, it's such a laborous position. that a lot of funeral homes will have a. small resting room for the chief mourner. because it's like a multi-day affair. There's it's just all day long. People.

will go to funerals and there's food. served at funerals. I guess kind of like. a wake in America and people will bow. and you have to stand right next to the. casket as people are bowing and saying. their goodbyes. It's just emotionally. draining. People will walk into Korean. funerals and before even saying. anything, giving condolences, they will. ask first, "Who is the chief mourner?". You're getting all of this exhaustion. and emotions thrown at you. And Hayong's. older sister, Mimi, again, this is a.

fake name. Mimi is at the funeral. She's. not the chief mourner. SJ is the. husband. But she's just distraught. because she's like, "I saw my younger. sister a few hours before she died in. bed." It doesn't make sense. If they go. by the time of death on the autopsy, which is like maybe 6:00 in the morning, she saw her at like 3:00 in the morning. So, it doesn't make any sense. Hang, her. husband Estre, they had met up with. Hang's older sister, Mimi, and Mimi's.

friend. So, it's the four of them. They're out at a restaurant drinking. until 3:00 in the morning and she's. explaining to everybody, asking. questions. She's like, "Just a few hours. earlier, we were having such a good time. drinking together. So, when I heard the. news, I couldn't believe it." Well, did. she notice anything weird about Hong the. night before? Like, she can't just be. happy, healthy, and then suddenly pass. away, right? Her sister says, quote, I. was sitting right in front of her face. to face. If there had been any sort of. injury or anything that seemed like she.

was sick, I would have asked her about. it. She didn't even seem ill. She just. said that night, "Oh, I'm tired. I'm on. my period, but it's really heavy. So, my. body feels just exhausted and tired, and. this is like a really weird period. That's it." Which again is not like the. most alarming thing. Lots of people will. say, "Oh, I don't know what's I mean, I've said that a million times. I don't. know what's going on, but my cramps are. like the worst this month." She did look. tired, but not not abnormally tired. nothing that would be alarming where.

Hayong's older sister would say, "Oh, don't like go home early. Don't even. drink with us." It was just, "Oh, I'm. just a little under the weather.". >> So, at this point, there's no cause of. death. >> No. >> Okay. >> And SJ, I guess, is trying to lighten. the mood that night and make his wife. feel better because he's like, "Okay, well, everyone, let's eat. Let's drink.". Interestingly, he's not particularly a. big drinker or someone who likes to stay. out and get drunk, so it's rather. surprising. But they did stay out for. three rounds of drinks. They don't get.

back home. So Mimi and her friend. actually drop off Hiang and SJ. >> Uh-huh. >> Cuz Mimi's friend was the DD. She's the. designated driver. >> Okay. >> Hi and her husband, they get home at. 3:10 a.m. Hi's sister says, "I was too. drunk to even remember getting home. My. friend was the DD. We dropped off Hayong. and SJ first. And then around 4:00 a.m. I know this, you know, cuz the next day. Hong had sent me a bunch of text. messages." So Hayong is joking. kind of. joking. Okay. It's like very sibling, which he's texting her a picture of.

Mimi, the older sister, passed out on. the street and with a message. You're so. annoying. Exclamation. Get some sleep and just get. to work safely tomorrow. Still, you're. so annoying. It's likely that people. asked Mimi about SJ, too, who is. obviously the chief mourner at the. funeral. But how was he? How is SJ. handling all of this? Well, when I went. to my sister's apartment, he was just. sitting in the living room staring. blankly. I kept asking him, "What.

happened? What happened?" And he wasn't. in a state to talk. He just kept crying. and saying, "I don't know. I don't know. I don't know." In the midst of the. funeral, a group of men walk in and they. take SJ, the chief mourner, to the. corner, which is kind of odd. Okay. Usually you say your condolences just. like where the chief mourner is. standing, which is typically right next. to all the flowers and the casket, but. they take him to the side and someone. out of the the like five guys. surrounding the chief mourner. Someone. out of that group reaches into their.

pocket and takes out handcuffs and. handcuffs SJ in front of his wife's. family, his friends, his wife's casket. I mean, the minute it registers, everybody jumps up and they're just. staring. They're not really sure what to. do because also this is reminiscent of a. very famous Kdrama, Marry My Husband, where after the wife is deceased, the. husband gets arrested at her funeral, >> right? >> Before she's reincarnated. So, I mean, I. don't know, but everyone is just I mean, this is a thing that is said in.

hindsight by a lot of people. >> So, everybody is jumping up. They're. staring. They don't really know what to. do, but they're panicked. These are. detectives. You're being arrested on. suspicion of murdering your wife, Hayong. The people interviewed at Hayong's. funeral would say it felt unreal. It. felt disconnected from reality. It. almost felt theatrical in a weird way. because Estre instantly as he's being. dragged out of the funeral home, he's. screaming, "It's not me, mother-in-law.".

Like, "Oman, you have to believe me. It's not me." And then with his hands. cuffed behind his back, he does a 90°. bow to Hong's father and he's like, "I'll be back. I'll be back. It's not. me." And then his eyes are wide open. He. looks hysterical. He looks bugeyed. And. then Hong's sister, Mimi, and her. friends notice the corner of his lips. lift up. like he can't help but smile.

>> What? There is a website that talks. about how to have the perfect marriage, how to satisfy both partners in the. union, and it reads, "A wife cannot. flatly refuse her husband. She may only ask for a rain check, and. then she needs to make good on that rain. check as quickly as possible. A husband. has the right to confront his wife's. sexual refusal as a sin, not only. against him, but also against God. A. husband ought not to feel guilty for. having sex with his wife when she is not.

in the mood. if she yields even. grudgingly. A husband needs to use. prayerful discernment to discover if her. reasons for quote not being in the mood. are for legitimate physical or mental. health reasons or if the problem is. wrong thinking and wrong attitude on the. part of his wife. Listen, I'm not a. religious person, nor do I think the. blog author of this website is a. religious person either. However, with. an appropriate amount of common sense, I. can easily tell you that if you have to. ask God why your wife doesn't want to.

sleep with you, the problem is within. But because this man knows how to write. words and string together somewhat. grammatically correct sentences, he. wants the world to see and applaud his. very mediocre grasp of the English. language. He continues, "If her reasons. are legitimate, then she needs to seek. medical or psychological help as soon as. possible. Most people think of sexual. immorality as only someone having sex. outside of marriage. But remember that. when something is immoral, that means it.

is a sin. And we know that sexual denial. in marriage is a sin. Therefore, it is. accurate to call willful sexual denial. in marriage an act of sexual immorality. Intelligence is not a requirement to. have access to a working keyboard to. clickity clack. And unfortunately, stupidity is something that some people. like this author can work towards being. the best at, you know, truly excel at. After all, it is a man's prerogative, right? He continues, "Biblically.

speaking, the husband is the spiritual. authority in his home, and he has the. biblical obligation to first attempt to. discipline his wife as she is his. responsibility. Only when he has. exhausted all forms of discipline and. she remains defiant and divorce is. looming should he approach a counselor. to act as a witness to her sin. It goes. on to say the forms of discipline a. husband should use if the wife does not. want to have intimate relations with the. husband is not to take a shower to take.

a self-help class not to get your own. ducks in order because something's. probably wrong with you. They say stop. taking her on dates or trips. Another step includes, you know, those. dinners that you cook or the vacuuming. you do. You know, just like basic chores. of someone who lives in a place of. shelter and they should be doing, you. know, those things that really she. should be doing, but you have simply. been trying to be nice and doing for. her. Stop doing them. Stop giving her.

those nice back and shoulder massages. she loves so much. And then it says, "If. she is financially dependent on you, remove all funding for her aside from. food and shelter. And if she still. doesn't listen, the last few steps are, rebuke her before witnesses and bring. her before the church.". They end it with a good old, "Why buy. the cow when you can get the milk for. free?" Well, once you bought the cow, you are supposed to get the milk for. free. I fear that this website is not.

reflective of Christian values or. Christian husbands or happy husbands. However, it is reflective of people who. do exist in the ether. There are married. partners out there who firmly believe. that after marriage they are entitled to. There is a whole subreddit that you can. go on called r/changemy view. And we've. talked about this forum before, but. people go there to never change their. view. Like nobody ever changes their. view on there. they go to get off on the. arguments in the comments. I don't know. why this sub even exists. Okay, but it.

it is interesting to read. So, I get the. appeal. However, views are never. changed. And the way that the posts are. written, I mean, you start thinking, I. mean, how could you have a separate view. out aside from this one? That doesn't. make sense. One Reddit post reads, "Change my view. Marriage does not. entitle anyone to sex. In the old days, men were legally allowed to rword women. within marriage. It was not considered. our word at all. It goes on to continue. and argue that in order for our word.

culture to be undone, we are going to. have to reconceive marriage utterly in. such a way that nobody will ever be. under pressure to give up their rights. to their body and let their bodies be. taken in marriage, which I don't really. think is a hot take. I mean, there were. some arguments for like semantic. interpretation of the post, but one. person, probably a guy, responds, "How. far does your view extend? Does it say. extend to marriage doesn't guarantee you. access to a man's wealth or resources?". I love when people just like have. imaginary money that they're hoarding.

from like potential gold diggers. What. are we talking about right now? Just. like makeelief stuff, but they go on, or. is it just your view that sex is the. only place you get a choice? Another. person has a less polarizing yet. differing viewpoint. Writing depends on. what you consider entitled to. Everyone. is entitled to be in a relationship that. meets their emotional and physical. needs. This [music] includes sex. If the. relationship doesn't meet said needs, whatever they may be, then a person has. the right to complain, to discuss it, to.

work it out, or to leave if the needs. cannot be met. So, while you are correct. that marriage does not give you the. right to arword someone by forcing them. to have sex, you are entitled to have. your emotional and physical needs for. intimacy and sex met by your spouse and. to be disgruntled if they're not doing. so. Another one responds very weirdly. I. agree, but I must ask, why the hell. would you marry or stay married to. someone who doesn't want to have sex. with you? Another person writes, I would. say is basically part of the marital.

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change my view. A woman who expects her. husband to completely devote himself. sexually to her yet refuses to have sex. with him is both selfish and cruel. If a. woman refuses to have intimate relations. with her husband, the husband then has. every moral right to check out women, flirt, view videos, and even in certain. cases cheat. A woman has every right to. refuse sex if she doesn't want it. But. freedom to choose also means a. prohibition on a man from having any. sexual outlet whatsoever is very wrong.

Cheating is a violation of exclusive. sexual intimacy. But in [music] a. sexless marriage, there is no sexual. intimacy had. I will say that aside from. people having medical conditions or some. sort of psychological reasoning of not. wanting to be intimate with their. partner, typically your partner not. wanting to be intimate with you is. usually something wrong with you, if. that makes sense. Like these husbands, I. would say that this is not the majority.

of married couples or reflective of. husbands or anything like that. It's. just such an odd thing. It's weird, but. there are people that are very serious. about it. Not even just on r/angemy. view. There are people that will write. things on Reddit like, "If you get. married, you are essentially signing. away your sexual consent in exchange for. financial and emotional and relationship. stability." If neither party is ready to. give up on their autonomy, then they. shouldn't get married because breaking. those technically voids the marriage.

contract. Saying no to a husband simply. isn't an option unless you're physically. incapable, which might be the case after. an argument or if you're sick or. whatever. With a boyfriend, all bets are. off. You didn't say any vows. Do what. you want. Remember when honey, I have a. headache used to be something people. joked about? That was back when the. marriage commitment was taken more. seriously. And that was only 10ish years. ago. Nowadays, you don't even need an. excuse to turn your husband down. And. it's disgusting that this has become. acceptable in society after people have. made marriage vows stating the opposite.

The more alarming part is there are a. lot of women who agree with this. viewpoint and there is a Reddit thread. where one woman writes, "I told my. friends I never say no to intimate. relations except for serious illness or. injury, which my husband wouldn't ask. for intimate relations if that were. actually painful or dangerous, but there. are times when I'm tired and technically. not in the mood. Sure, but I would never. say no. My friends felt like that was. horrible and degrading.". I think a lot of couples are in the. never say no camp, not because they're. not allowed to say no, but just because.

like people have good times with their. partners and usually your partner will. know when to initiate and by that point. everybody's in the mood. Everyone's. excited, so you don't really end up. saying no. But the reasoning that she. gives for never saying no, this is her. life. It's her dream. But it's. interesting. She writes, "The way I see. it is before marrying my husband, he. could have sex with so many women. He. made the choice to marry me and just be. with me. As a good wife, I want him to. feel I'm available to him whenever he. wants and needs. Even if I'm tired, I. put in effort. If he's in the sauna and.

the other men are complaining about. their sexless marriages, I want him to. be able to say, "Oh, my wife never says. no.". A fake, imaginary, steamy, hot, sweaty. sauna session between a bunch of dudes. is like the strangest thing to revolve. your life around as a wife. But like, here we are. Unfortunately, this seems. to be a much bigger sentiment than I. thought. SJ falls directly into this. group. His friends say SJ had some.

unique outlooks on marriage. relationships. He would say to us all. the time, "If I can't have sex with my. wife, where am I supposed to get it? Should I go pay for it?". But like, he was drunk, you know? Or he. would say things like, "Look, if I want. to, she needs to do it. But that's what. marriage is. But again, he was drunk, so. maybe he was he didn't mean it. 4 months. before getting married, Hayong and SJ. are on their way back from a big group.

friend vacation in Vietnam. This is. August of 2024. They land touchdown at. Inchan Airport in South Korea. Hi feels. [music] odd. She goes to the restroom. and within minutes there are ambulances. outside of the airport. She is being. rushed out. There is blood everywhere. It is so much blood to make any sense. because it doesn't make sense because. she is she's misarrying. 6 months into dating Hayong, SJ and Hong. had gotten pregnant. They actually found.

out a few days before going to Vietnam, this is like a trip that they had. planned for weeks with their friends. But Hayong, who has always wanted to. start a family, she's so happy about. being pregnant. She even immediately. asked, "So, in Korea, you get like the. pregnant woman badge and you can use it. at subway stations or like on the train. or in public transport because a lot of. women don't show immediately or during. winter, you don't see it." And it's in. Korea, it's a big deal. You do not sit. in the pregnant woman section if you're. not pregnant. So, that's why they hand.

out these badges. She even got that. She. got all these pamphlets about her. pregnancy and she keeps asking her. doctor like, "Are you sure I'm safe to. travel?" Just to give you some context, I think she found out a week before, like a few days before she's set to go. to Vietnam. The doctor is like, "You're going to be. fine. I mean, everybody is different. [music]. However, you're going to be fine. You're. cleared for travel. This should not be. alarming. You're very early into your. pregnancy. You're going to be okay. It's.

not even that long of a flight." Hang. dots all of her eyes. She crosses all of. her tees. And then when she touches back. in soul, the baby that she had wanted so. badly, she ends up misarrying. But this. is the part where it's just like odd. There is a text message from SJ to Hang. the day after she miscarries. And it. reads, "It's fine as long as you and I. are healthy. We can make another baby. [music] I feel so inadequate and. foolish. I'm so sorry." Why would he. need to apologize? Is he just apologizing because she's.

going through something so traumatic? >> Right. Hiong's friends say when she was. pregnant, he wanted to do it. They did it [music] once after she found. out she was pregnant and there was a. little bit of blood and so she was. really worried for the baby. So she kept. refusing to have intimate relations. after that. They fought about it and she. told us that [music] she ended up having. sex again even though she didn't want to. and then she ended up misaring. Nurses see a lot. That's an.

understatement. nurses have probably. seen more of me than my own husband, which sounds crazy, but my husband has. never pried my mouth open, shoved a. flashlight down my throat to see if. there is like a foreign body lodged in. my throat after a particularly. intense meal. Okay, so the these nurses, they see a lot and they see a lot about. people's personalities, especially. couples. One Reddit thread from a nurse. writes, "Husbands in the delivery room. often do more harm than good. In my. view, the husband in the delivery room.

often can't provide meaningful support. and may even create more stress. Many. people frame fathers being in the. delivery room as a romantic or heroic. act, as if witnessing every moment is. required to be a good dad. In reality, the practical benefits of the mother is. often minimal. A husband who stays. outside handling logistics, communicating with family members can. actually provide more meaningful. support. Would you have a lot of people. disagreeing? I would also disagree. saying that women are the most safe in. medical situations, especially child. birth, when they're relaxed and. comfortable and feel supported. However,

there are a lot of nurses fighting back. saying, "Yeah, in a perfect world, in a. perfect world." But most husbands, they're on their phones the entire time. while their wife is in labor. or. sometimes they're causing more distress, making their wives feel more pressure, or they're not being helpful with other. family members that areounding, giving. their 10 cents to the wife about how. they should approach child birth. One. woman writes, "My husband went. downstairs to charge his phone and call. his mom from the car when I called him.

an hour later because I was 9 cm. dilated. He said that he was at Sam's. buying Tupperware.". >> What? >> Tupperware. Another wife writes, "My. husband asked if um he could borrow one. of my pillows because his back hurt and. I had too many. The nurses see it all.". And for Hayang, it's not just a. miscarriage, which is already very. traumatizing. Hi actually suffers from a very rare. condition that only one in 30,000 women. have where she has a miscarriage which a.

miscarriage is when you have a. fertilized egg in the uterus. and the pregnancy is not going to come. full term so you misaryry right she also. has an ectopic pregnancy [music] at the. same time so Hong's ectopic pregnancy. goes unnoticed for a while because this. is really rare so if you don't know an. ectopic pregnancy is when you have a. fertilized egg, [music] but it doesn't. end in the uterus. It's outside the. uterus. A lot of the times it's in the. fallopian tube. And this is very.

dangerous. The you can die. You can very. easily die if you have an ectopic. pregnancy because that fertilized egg is. going to start growing. And a fallopian. tube is not like a uterus where it's. meant to bear a child. It's not going to. stretch. So what it'll do is it'll burst. and then you will be heavily internally. bleeding until probably you die unless. you get emergency help. It's very. dangerous. So she has an ectopic. pregnancy outside of the uterus and she. had a miscarriage inside the uterus. So.

with all of that, a lot of the symptoms. of the ectopic pregnancy, she thought. that it was from the miscarriage. So it. goes for a very long time that she. doesn't realize that she has this. life-threatening condition and. eventually once it is realized there has. been so much damage done that the the. doctors tell her that they need to have. emergency surgery and remove that. fallopian tube. >> When was that surgery or. >> this is before the wedding? So this is. like a month after so around September.

There's so much happening like they came. back from Vietnam. She miscarried and. then the the surgery and then the. wedding. Yeah. >> And then three months later, this is. just like. >> in 6 months. So Hayong is texting her. sister about what's going on. I had. surgery with one fallopian tube removed. There were also two uterine cysts when. they opened it up and they were black. and about to burst. So in Korea it's not. as common in the United States. I think. in the US um. I mean they'll probably charge you $5. billion for it but a lot of the times.

the nurse's duty to feed patients who. cannot eat by themselves. In South Korea. unless you're in very specific like. intensive care units a lot of the times. it's up to the family members to feed. the patient. So the nurses they will. bring all the nutritious hospital meals. that have all of the requirements and. they'll make sure that you're eating and. they'll check up on you. A lot of the. times, unless you're in like the ICU, a. lot of the nurses depend on the family. members to provide care. So, family. members will do shifts. If you've got.

work, then someone's doing like a. breakfast shift. If someone's doing a. lunch shift, someone's doing a dinner. shift. It's just a thing that happens in. Korea. I don't know if it's embedded in. the healthcare system or if it's just. like a societal thing that is built into. the communities and the families. I. don't know, but it's a thing. So, every. time Hang is recovering from the. surgery, she's laying there. Every time. the nurses bring food, Hang doesn't want. to eat. She has no appetite. She doesn't. want to do this. She's exhausted. And. it's up to the family member to airplane.

that spoon to beg, to plead, to. negotiate that your loved one eat the. hospital food. SJ is supposed to be. spoonfeeding her, but because she. doesn't want to eat, he is sitting there. eating every single meal that gets. delivered. And every single nurse that. walks by is judging the [ __ ] out of him. Hi has no appetite. She feels too weak. to eat. And eventually she's getting. annoyed by him. She's sick of seeing his. face and she tells him, "You know what? Go home and just feed the dogs." He ends. up going home. She checks the home. camera and he's not just feeding the.

dogs. He ordered himself a pizza, plopped on the couch, and is watching TV. and munching while she's recovering from. this ectopic pregnancy, which he got her. pregnant, and he's just at home eating. pizza. >> Mhm. So understandably with all of this. like trauma and pain and the emotions, Hayong tells her friends she just feels. really disappointed in him. Like she. just doesn't like this. But worse is. that one month after this, so this is. again still before the marriage. One. month after there are text messages.

between the two where Hong is telling. him, "Ever since the pregnancy and the. miscarriage, my body has been so weak. Everything changed suddenly. It's been. hard to adjust. There's just I'm just. exhausted." He responds, "When we're. tired, we should support and lean on. each other." Yeah, what you're saying is. right, but you only want one form of. affection expression, and I only have. one body. So, he's saying, "You and I. are both tired, and when couples are. tired, we need to depend on each other.". And she's like, "The only way that you.

think you can depend on me is for sex, and I can't have sex right now.". >> That's crazy. So, he's asking for sex, basically. One month after the surgery, she texts him, "If we tried it once and. it hurts, shouldn't you think that maybe. my body hasn't recovered yet? It hasn't. even been a month yet. The scar on the. outside of my body hasn't healed. How. could the wound inside my uterus be. healed?" [music] SJ responds, "Well, the. doctor said we should return to daily. life in a month.". >> That is crazy.

>> Which, by the way, that is a suggestion. Doctors are all over the place. Some. doctors, I was on Reddit of women who. were recovering from similar surgeries. They say their doctor said two weeks you. can return to normal life. Some people. said a month, 6 weeks. And these are. guidelines. Usually the rule of thumb is. when you want to return to normal life, especially when it comes to sex because. it's not like, oh, my arm broke. I can't. have sex for a month. It's like you're. talking about the exact same body parts.

Hong feels like this is happening. because of an act we did together, but. alone I have to suffer and yet my body. is still an object of desire for you. Like it doesn't make sense. She's. texting her friends in frustration. After the miscarriage and the fallopian. tube removal, it hasn't even been a. month, but the doctor said it was okay. to have intercourse after a month. She. keeps whining and we did it. And I I. didn't say anything, but it just really. hurts my feelings. Her friends are. upset. Why didn't you say anything?

Someone else is responding. God, this. must be really hard for you. Hey, text. estin. And like this, I will say it's like. it's like um okay, usually there are. different Korean words. Sometimes. there's not like the exact word that you. can use in English. When you have. someone who is complaining, like a. husband who's complaining, it's very. different vibe. But the word she uses is. like ting.

is like very much like like when kids. are like ting ting like like I want to. do this, I want to do like that's. >> that was his energy. >> That's the word she uses. Otherwise, you. could use stop complaining, stop. nagging. Like there's other words you. could use, but is very infantile. It's. like what kids do. Like you really only. use I would say that my parents treat me. like a giant child still but they still. don't tell me don't because it's such a.

specific thing. >> like Yeah. Stop being a baby. >> Yeah. It's very like it's not just. whining. It's like. >> very uh. >> Yeah, that's so weird. >> It's like that rhythmic tantrum usually. >> cuz ding ding it's almost like an. anamanopia. It's like a sound. and he responds, "If I don't initiate. skinship first, we never have skinship. Skinship, by the way, is like the Korean. term for touch andual activities. They. call it skinship. I'm just asking you to.

love me as much as I love you or even. just a little." There's a famous Pilates. studio in South Korea called Diana. Pilates. It's a 6,000 square foot. It. uses the entire 9inth floor of a glass. down building. I mean, you see the whole. view of the other buildings, the. mountains in the back. It's beautiful. A. lot of good Kdramas were filmed inside. of this studio. I feel like it was. really popular during the Pilates hype. during co and then they started doing. some reinvention. Once the reformer. Pilates started slowing down, they went.

into flying Pilates, which is when you. put on the bungee cord and you just. >> Oh, yeah. The one that you hop around. >> Yeah. I mean, I I don't know. I think um. it was really popular in Korea. I think. that it's probably not a tried andrue. tested form of working out in the sense. of I'm sure you get a lot of results but. it becomes like a thing where people. don't know about it or they have to find. out about it. It almost feels like a. trend. >> You know how there's always trends for. workouts. So they switch to this a lot.

of the flying Pilates and eventually the. membership does take a dive with Diana. Pilates and then this definitely makes. it worse. There's a new notice on the. front door that reads, "Following the. traffic accident, the director, SJ, his spouse has passed away and SJ. remains in critical condition in the. ICU. The current owner of the building. who knows of the director's sincerity. has arranged it so that the members can. continue using the facilities without.

any inconvenience or charge. Members may. rest assured and continue using the. premises as usual. We will continue to. repay you with a better environment and. service. We ask for your attention and. your support. >> Wait, is he the owner or he's dead? >> Yes. Estre is the owner of this Pilates. branch. >> Interesting. >> Yeah. And this notice goes up after Hong. dies, but there was no car accident. Hong did not die in a car accident. SJ. is not in the ICU. In fact, he's getting.

arrested as the main suspect for. Hayong's murder. >> Oh, so they're trying to hide it. Hide. the fact. I see. SJ is defensive. He's. asking the officer, "What are you saying. that I did this? We didn't say that, but. was Hong sick?" And this these are. direct quotes. Why are you asking me? What did I do wrong? SJ tells the. police, "I I have no idea what happened. that night." He explains they came home. after drinking and even with drinking, Hayong has really intense insomnia. So,

the typical routine is that he sleeps. outside on the couch until she can fall. asleep inside the bedroom, and then. he'll quietly go into the bedroom and. sleep. She has trouble falling asleep, but once she's asleep, she's not a light. sleeper. He goes into the room a few. hours later, and he knows for certain. she's knocked out. He's like, which by. the way, I'm not like awake for all of. this. I fell asleep with the TV on. outside in the sofa. I woke up early in. the morning to go use the restroom. And. that's when I was like, "Oh, she's. definitely asleep. Let me go sleep in. the bedroom." I moved back into the. bedroom. I lay down next to Hang. And.

then I wake back up to go to work, and. she's still asleep, so I'm letting her. sleep in. He explains that when he gets. to work, however, normally Hong will. wake up a little bit after that, even if. she had been drinking the night before, but she doesn't text. He calls her four. times around 2:00 p.m. She doesn't pick. up. How are you still asleep till 2. p.m.? He's like, "This is weird." He. runs home. She's dead on the bed. He. calls emergency services. And that's all. he knows. He doesn't know anything else. I mean, to some degree, this is all very.

trackable. Well, there is CCTV footage. of him leaving the apartment to go to. work at around 10:00 a.m. in the. morning. His body language looks. nonchalant. >> 10:00 a.m. in the morning. He goes to. work. >> Yeah. >> But she was um you know, she has passed. since 6:00. >> Yeah. >> Right. Okay. >> And he looks really relaxed. He starts. walking in the direction that work is. But when the police ask his employees if. he got there as he normally does, they. say, "Well, no, March 13th was weird. He. didn't come in. He usually comes into. the studio by 11:00, but he wasn't.

there. He did text me though. So, one of. the Pilates instructors is like, he. texted me around like 1:30 asking me. about my paycheck. It was just like a. normal conversation about the pay stop. That was it. Then he calls his wife four. times. She doesn't pick up. He rushes. home and then calls emergency services. Hi's friends have problems with this. because it's very nonsensical. What do. you mean? A completely healthy. 30-year-old woman who, by the way, she's. been very health consscious. She's not. the type to notice something wrong with. her body and hope for the best. She's.

getting a checkup. What do you mean she. just passes away in her sleep? She. didn't drink heavily the night before. and when she I it's not like she threw. up. There's no evidence of throw up. There's no evidence that she was so. drunk she couldn't get up and she choked. on her vomit, which is a very real. concern. She just passes away. peacefully. There there's just no way. Looking at the autopsy results, she has. a bruise on her upper lip on the left. side, a faint, very faint bite on her. lower lip. So again, these are all. things that she could have. self-inflicted as maybe she's choking or.

esphixxiating. But one thing you can. explain is this very faint red line. around her neck. Are we supposed to. believe that she was wearing a scarf. when she went to sleep? Or that there. was a random string on the bed that she. laid in, rolled over, somehow tied it. around her neck to esphixxiate on by. herself? It doesn't make sense. One of the neighbors in the building, the one right below Hong and SJ, they. say that night they did hear something.

weird. So much so that they even reached. out to Hong the next day to make sure. everything was okay. What did you hear? We're light sleepers, pretty sensitive. So, we normally. actually just block out normal life. sounds. So, if we hear someone thumping. or someone, it sounds like someone. dropped their phone or stomping. You. kind of learn to disregard it living in. an apartment. But that night, it was a. strange and unfamiliar sound. It felt. like something dragging, like heavy, like if you were to drag furniture, but. it doesn't make like the, you know, how.

legs furniture legs will make like the. squeaky sounds. >> It's not that. It's like if you were to. drag a mattress. It's like fabric or. like just something heavy and soft. >> What? >> And then we heard this really weird. flapping sound. It was kind of like. um. like like it like a bird. Okay. So, the. word is like like the bird wings trying.

to flap, but you're holding on to the. bird. That's kind of the feeling. >> H. >> it's like a flapping noise. It's not. like a thumping noise. It's like a. flapping noise. It's like a very. specific noise and like that that you. just don't expect that to hear from a. neighbor in the middle of soul. And then. a strange like gh [sighs]. noise like gh almost as if someone is. like breathing out like. >> that's really like clear. They can hear. very clearly. >> And it sounded like a woman. It didn't. sound like a man. And that lasted maybe.

about like 30 seconds. They didn't think much of it. They might. have thought if it was something else. maybe. But the next morning they see a. bunch of police officers. So they start. freaking out and that's when they text. Hang and they find out that she's gone. >> The flapping noise. How long did you say. it lasted? >> That they don't know, but they said it. lasted a while like all of this. And. then the sounded like choking for like. 30 seconds. >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> This is where it gets weird. There are.

home cameras inside the house, which is. typically odd. People don't really like. to have home cameras inside, especially. with um a lot of recent developments. So, this was earlier in 2025, but recent. developments of a lot of South Korean. home cameras getting hacked for intimate. websites, like illegal websites, but. Hong had these two dogs [music]. and they were 15. She's had them for 15. years. So, she just wanted to make sure. they're okay when she's out at work. Her. family is like, "We got to look at the. house cameras. If we don't know what.

happened in the house, just look at the. house cameras." They get Hong's phone. Not only is the footage gone, the app. for the house camera is gone. It's like. if someone has a Ring camera, you get. their phone and the Ring app has been. deleted. >> Wow. >> What do you mean? So, eventually SJ. changes his story because none of this. is adding up. The esphyxiation, the way. that she died, the evidence, there's no. evidence that an intruder had entered. the home. the home cameras had been. deleted. He is the only one that could. have done something. He changes his.

story and he says, "Fine, I killed my. wife, but it was an accident.". He says that they had gotten into a. drunk fight and all he did was push her. because she was trying to get physical. and that led to her hitting her head and. passing away. The injuries don't line up. with that story. She doesn't have any. lacerations on the back of her head. How. do you explain the marking around her. neck? How do you explain the fact that. her cause of death was manual. asphyxiation? And what's crazy is he. starts blaming Hong. He says that she. was looking down on his family. So he.

actually got upset not because he is a. volatile, violent man, but because he. had to defend his family. This is like. family honor. He had to stand up for. them. SJ will later try to claim that he. had read messages on Hayong's phone. where she is talking to her girlfriends. about his disabled mother and that. because of his disabled mother, Hayong. did not want to have kids with him. because she was concerned this is a. condition that could be passed down to. their child. Authorities go through. their chat logs. This is what they find.

Hong texts her friends. So, he's saying. she's like a filthy person. She's evil. She was shit-talking my disabled mother. She texts her friends. My mother-in-law. can hardly speak or walk. When I go. there, I just end up sitting with her. for a while before coming back. But. Esther says he's happy that I talked to. her and I make her smile. Then later in. the group chat, Hong texts her friends, "Why did I marry this piece of shit?". So, it's like no one really responds. And then she texts this. >> Yeah,

>> he's trying to argue it's because of his. disabled mother. She's texting that. But. just listen to the rest of the messages. Why? What happened? I'm not getting. pregnant by this [ __ ] I'm not. going to have his baby. Huh? Actually, I. would rather get pregnant and not have. to have sex with him for a whole year. He actually argued with me saying, "You. promise twice a week. Why aren't you. keeping your word?" Wait, but it's not. like you guys aren't doing it. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. It's not like I. refused for a whole month or anything. We did it. And then the next day, the.

[ __ ] head just keeps starting again. He's just completely obsessed with sex. I feel like he's lost his mind. Why did. you even marry him then? Another friend. chimes in. I mean, you must have married. him because there was something good. about him, right? I thought he would be. a good husband. I didn't know he was sex. obsessed. Clearly, she still wants to have. children with him, though, because later. she writes, "The doctor said it would be. better to remove my other fallopian. tube, too. But they told me that they. could go ahead in the surgery and get. rid of both, but I told them I would.

discuss it with my husband first and. then get discharged. Either way, I think. I'm going to try IVF. But as the police. go further down into their text logs, they find more messages from Hayong to. SJ because I mean, none of these motives. make any sense. It's clear that he did. not accidentally kill her in a drunken. fight, which not that that would absolve. anything, but it just doesn't make any. sense. Hang's messages to SJ read, "But. we always end up fighting because of. physical contact." He responds, "I want.

to be close to you because I love you. If two people love each other and feel. good together, isn't it natural to have. sex? I don't want to right now. If this. keeps happening, we really can't keep. seeing each other." Okay, I won't push. you anymore. Then, right before they get. married, SJ texts Hang, "Why do it if. I'm the only one who enjoys it? It. should be something that we both want. Fine. From now on, we're not going to. fight about sex anymore." Hang is upset. by this. She's like, "We already had. this conversation before about the same.

exact thing." Then another from SJ to. Hang. Don't say that you want to break. up. There's nothing wrong between us. Hang is agitated. You know, this is the. first time I've ever told you that I. want to break up, right? It's because I. don't respond to your physical affection. the way you want, and I can't match the. level of affection that you expect. Let's just stop here. Honestly, it would. be better for you to meet someone who. fits your needs because I can't do it. anymore. The police investigate and they find. that in the toxicology reports there. were sleeping drugs in Hong's system.

when she died. She would never take. these drugs, these sleeping medications. after drinking. She was really big on. that. She thought that any sort of. medication mixed with alcohol was like a. surefire way to die. She would tell her. sister like if you drink and take. anything like any sort of medication, you will die. The prosecutors believe. that SJ approached Hayang in the. morning, asked for intimate relations. She is having a very heavy period. So, it's kind of complicated in the sense of.

she was not actively misarrying when she. passes away, but it seems like there are. lots of complications that were. occurring after the miscarriage, after. the ectopic pregnancy, after the. surgery. And this period, it wasn't just. like a, oh, I'm just having a rough. menstrual cycle this month. It seems. like this is the after effects of. everything that's happened. She's having. really heavy bleeding. She's feeling. unwell. He approaches her in the.

morning, asks for intimate relations. She denies it. And then he decides that. he is going to impulsively kill her. That's how he describes it. But that. impulsion [music] lasts 12 hours later. So that's in the morning, she denies. having intimate relations. >> That's after the the night out. >> Mhm. >> No. So earlier before the night out, he. asks for intimate relations. >> She says no. >> Yeah. >> So then they go out, they have a good.

time, and then. >> he's very upset. He ends up killing her. that night. >> She come back, fell asleep that night. >> Yeah. >> This is premeditated. >> Yeah. So is that what they. >> that's what the police come to and there. is a whole like a behavioral. psychologist that works for the police. They stated I don't think this is a. matter of sexual desire. So a lot of. people are saying okay is this like a. sex addict that is mixed with someone.

who has murderous tendencies. Not that. we're finding excuses, but we're just. trying to understand the concept of this. because how does somebody how does a. husband murder his wife because she. doesn't want to have intimate relations. Usually, you hear of husbands who are. having affairs. You hear of husbands for. ABC and DE reasons. This feels a little. out of the norm. The behavioral. psychologist says, "I don't think this. was a matter of desire. If it's just. really high sex desire, he could have. been sex obsessed with other women as.

well. But that doesn't seem to be the. case. This seems to be about control. >> always. >> Yeah. They found other messages where he. would text Hayong like, "Don't you ever. think about cheating on me because I. will track you down and I will kill. you." Now, I know a lot of people love. to victim blame and they're going to be. like, "Oh, well, she should have left. and not gotten married if he threatened. to kill her." But I will also say that. even in English, I think that there's. miscommunication of like I'll kill you. like.

like I'll kill you if you do something. Like I guess some people could think it. as cute, but in Korean it's even more so. because um like the term is like. >> Yeah. Or like. it's like people say that a lot. Like if. someone is late for something, it's very. common for family members to be like, "Oh, it's like I'm gonna kill them.". >> Like, "I'm gonna kill them." It's very. like it's very um. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> So, it was probably texted in that.

format. >> Mhm. >> But I mean, there were some alarming. things about him. And I again, this is. not me saying like, "Oh, she should have. left. He's the problem clearly." But. there is one time where Hayang's friends. said they were in the car driving and. this is in Soul. They get into a fight. He just stops the car in the middle of. the road. There's cars honking behind. him. And if you've ever driven in Soul, if you've taken a taxi in Soul, I mean, it's like New York City. People don't. play. >> Yeah. >> They're honking and he will not stop. He.

just stopped and will not stop fighting. The psychiatrist comments from the. perspective of someone like the. perpetrator. The victim leaving and. becoming another man's wife was. unimaginable. So it seems like she had brought up. divorce in February. They don't end up getting the divorce, but things are progressing worse and. worse. She rejects his advances. He. decides, "Okay, she's definitely going. to leave me then." and then decides with.

the lack of control, the anger and his. bizarre. feelings towards having intimate. relations with his wife, he kills his. wife. >> Mhm. >> And they write, you know, in other. words, if I can't have her, I will. destroy her. The case goes to trial. He's sentenced to 25 years in prison. cuz it's Korea. A lot of people think that there could. be more to the case um in terms of he. was alone with his deceased wife's body.

for hours. People are suspicious of. >> what he could have done. >> Yeah. >> What are those sounds? >> Him choking her. And I don't know where. the dragging noises though. If she was. fighting and then she ended up on the. ground and they're dragging in a tussle. I don't know if maybe he choked her. somewhere else and then dragged her to. the bed, >> but Hong's mom still [music] keeps.

photos from the wedding day in her. house, but she has cut out SJ out of all. of them. And Hong's friends say it's. been really hard. And also, this is the. thing with SJ. We don't know his name. We don't know what he looks like. >> because of the identity protection rules. in South Korea. In fact, we weren't. really supposed to know who Hayong is, what she looks like, or anything about. her. But her parents wanted her to be. revealed because they said, "You will. never understand what was taken from us.

if you don't see [music] like the beauty. in our girl if you don't know who she. is.". >> That's so rare. >> Yeah. And I think a lot of um a lot of. Hong's friends see this as a way to. [music]. prevent. I think it's different. So I think. everywhere but especially in places like. East Asia, marriage is seen as like you. have to get married. [music] It's the. next step of your life. And so a lot of. people are using this case amongst other. cases to be like, hey, you really don't.

have to get married because if you marry. the wrong person, you could also be. dead. Hong's friends say, "Whenever I'm. struggling or I'm [music] frustrated or. I'm happy, I want to call Hong and I. can't call her. and I think about her. every single day of my life. And that [music] is the case that. recently went viral on Instagram where. it was just like a headline of like. husband in South Korea kills wife.

because she said no to sex during her. period, but it's just so there's so much. going on aside from that. >> What are your thoughts in this case? Let. me know in the comments. Be safe and I. will see you in the next one. >> [music].