8 Things To Tell Yourself Every Morning

What if I told you the only thing. keeping you from waking up tomorrow and. feeling incredible is eight things to. tell yourself in the morning that will. reprogram your mind, boost your mood, and help you have a great day. The first. one is you need to tell yourself today. is going to be a great day because you. can still make it a great day based on. your attitude. No matter what it is. that's going to happen. That second. sentence is something cool is going to.

happen for me today. You're probably. assuming that something bad's going to. happen. No, no, no. Let's do the. opposite. Sentence number three. No. matter what happens today, I can handle. it. You are telling your brain to look. for the good. You're telling your brain. that all that stuff that I normally. freak out about, uh-uh, I can handle it. The fourth mantra, an exciting new. chapter in my life is starting today. You are intentionally turning the page. and ending the chapter. I need to give.

myself more credit for how hard I'm. trying. I'm allowed to be a work in. progress. If I keep showing up, life. will reward me. And the final sentence. that I love. Oh, I love this one for. you. I have Let's get into it. Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to. the Mel Robbins podcast. It's always. such an honor to be together and to get. to spend this time with you. And if. you're a new listener or you're here. because somebody shared this episode. with you, well, first of all, I just. wanted to take a moment and personally. welcome you to the Mel Robbins Podcast.

family, I'm so glad that you're here and. that you chose to listen to this episode. because today I am going to share the. eight things you should tell yourself. every morning. And the first one is you. need to tell yourself today is going to. be a great day. And this is something. you should say the moment you wake up. Today is going to be a great day. And. you should say that even if things have. been going bad, even if you got a lot. going on today, because you can still.

make it a great day based on your. attitude, no matter what it is that's. going to happen. And I promise you, even. when you're going through a challenging. time, starting your day by saying, "Well, today is going to be a great day. I'm going to make it a great day today.". I promise you that when you start your. day with this first sentence, today is. going to be a great day, that there will. be something great that can happen. And. I wanted to start with this one as the. first one because just this morning, for. example, we were getting ready to tape. this episode and to talk to you today.

and the team was going back and forth in. texts because we were figuring out what. kind of coffee you were going to get and. I of course had to text Ben and say, "Oh, Ben, when you pick up my coffee, could you get a ham and cheese croissant. for me, too?" because I really love the. ham and cheese croissants at the place. that you're going. And Ben texted back, "Yeah, absolutely. I'll pick up that ham. and cheese croissant with you, Melan. I'm going to be to the studio in about a. half an hour." And then he ended the. text with, "And it's going to be a great. day.". Just reading that, I was like, "You're. right, Ben. It is going to be a great.

day." You want to know why? Because you. said it's going to be a great day, and. now I'm feeling that it's going to be a. great day, and we're going to make it a. great day. And by the way, this isn't. just like some empty platitude. This has so much research and we're. going to unpack it throughout our. conversation today. For example, I'm. going to start with Dr. Daniel Aean. So, Dr. Aean has been a guest on the Mel. Robbins podcast. He's made a big. difference in my life. He is a. psychiatrist. He runs the Aean clinics. He is a world-renowned expert on the. brain. In fact, he has scanned nearly.

300,000 brains. And you want to know. what the first thing Dr. Daniel Aemon. says to himself every single morning. Can you guess what is the sentence you. think Dr. Aean says to himself? You're. right. He wakes up every day and says, "Today is going to be a great day." Now, why does Dr. Aean say that? I'll tell. you why. Because Dr. Aean says you have. to program your brain. And one way you. can do it is by repeating simple. sentences to yourself. And so that's how.

I want you to start your day. In fact, he even takes it a step further. Once he. says, "Today's going to be a great day,". he will often add in, "Huh, well, why do. you think today's going to be a great. day for you?" And the reason why he kind. of prompts himself that way with that. simple sentence is because you're doing. something that Dr. Aean calls directing. your mind. See, your mind only knows. what you put into it. Your mind will. seek what you tell it to seek. Directing. your mind with that sentence, "Today is. going to be a great day." Why might.

today be a great day? It puts your brain. in a positive state and it makes your. brain start to look for reasons why it. could be a great day. And so we're. starting these eight simple sentences. with the sentence that Dr. Aean starts. with. Boy, I want to say the sentence. that the world's leading expert on the. brain says every morning, don't you? And. let me just address something because. the conversation we're having today is. not this sort of like throwaway positive. advice. There's deep science here. And I. want to acknowledge something. You may. be going through a really challenging. moment in your life right now. You may.

be waking up and you've got a really. difficult thing that you've got to do. today. Maybe you're going to a funeral. And so when you wake up in a challenging. moment, when you wake up in a day where. you got something really hard to do and. you say, "Today is going to be a great. day." That's not denying what's. happening. It's you taking a positive. step to direct your mind so that your. mind can help you have a good day even. though you're going to go through. something hard. So, if you wake up and.

you're going to a funeral today and you. say, "Today is going to be a great day. even though I have to go to this. funeral." And then you ask yourself, "Why is today going to be a great day?". You'll be surprised because you'll be. able to answer that question. I mean, you could hug everyone a little tighter. at the funeral to make it a great day. You could make a point to talk about all. of the positive memories that you love. about that person to bring their spirit.

to the moment as you're talking to their. loved ones and that could make it a. great day. You could go for a hike. afterwards or go spend some time with. your dog or go sit in your favorite spot. and have a amazing cup of tea and that. could make it a great day. And so you. might be wondering why does this work, Mel? And why does it work in the. morning? like why does it matter to do. this in the morning? Because I do think. that these meaningful simple sentences. that you're going to say in the morning, it really does matter that you do it.

first thing. And here's what I want to. ask you. When was the last time that you. expected something good to happen? I. want you to be honest with yourself. I. mean, aren't you always bracing for the. worst? Don't you wake up and you are. just bracing for what's going to happen. at work or you're worried about how. things are going to go at school or. you're thinking about something that. happened yesterday. It's almost like. your brain is always looking for a. disaster. And the problem is is if your. brain is always bracing and your brain. is always looking for reasons to worry.

and if your brain is always thinking. that today's going to be a bad day or. how is this thing going to go, you're. going to walk right past all of the good. stuff that's actually there. And your. brain will find exactly what you've been. bracing for, which is the bad things, the disaster, the hard stuff. Because if. you're not looking for the ways to make. your day great, you're going to miss. them. And I've talked to so many experts. who have done research for their entire. careers to back this up. I mean, I've. already mentioned Dr. Daniel Aean, the.

board certified psychiatrist and. award-winning researcher and New York. Times bestselling author. He calls this. directing your mind on purpose. But I. also want to bring into this. conversation the late and marvelous. Stanford neuroscientist and neurosurgeon. Dr. Jim Dodie who says you can literally. change your brain when you use simple. sentences like these and the next seven. I'm going to give to you to change your. brain and change the way you experience. about life. And before I tell you. sentence number two, I really want you.

to think about something at a common. sense level. Okay? If you're not. programming your brain on purpose, it's. still getting programmed. I'm g say that again. If you're not. programming your brain on purpose, it's. still getting programmed. And if you're sitting go, "Well, by. what, Mel?" I'll tell you what, by the. headlines? By your past? By everything you're. worried about? By your to-do list, by.

that mean voice that's in your head that. was probably the voice of your parents. or somebody else from your past? That. stuff has been going on repeat since you. could talk. See, your brain doesn't care. where the programming comes from. It. just runs the programming. Have you ever. heard that coding term in engineering. with computers, garbage in, garbage out? Well, you've had a lot of garbage in. your brain that's been running on. repeat, and it's time to get that. garbage out of your brain. And the only. way that we're going to do that is if. you wake up and take control of the. programming in your mind. That's what. these eight sentences are about. And I.

want you to say these eight sentences. every morning because it's going to be. the first thing your brain hears. Because when you have beauty in, you. have beauty out. When you have. positivity in, you get positivity out. When you have optimism and hope and. excitement in, that's what comes out. So, we've already said, "Today's going. to be a great day." Good job. Now, we're. going to move on to the second thing. And that second sentence is something. cool is going to happen for me today. Now, here's what I love about this. The.

first sentence you just said is, "Today's going to be a great day." Which. is lifted you up, right? And you're. like, "Okay, yeah, today's going to be a. great day. Let's make today a great. day." I love starting the day like that. When you say this second thing, something cool is going to happen for me. today. You know what I love about this? We have gone from now lifting ourselves. up and really putting positivity in our. brain. This second sentence, it creates. anticipation. You know, when you have something cool. that's in your calendar, you know.

something cool is going to happen. But. what if you said this sentence, "Something cool is going to happen for. me today." It's almost like you turn the. day into an adventure. And you're not. doing that right now, are you? Oh, no, no, no, no. You are turning your day. into a nightmare because what are you. doing? You're waking up and you're. bracing for bad news. You're probably. assuming that something bad's going to. happen. No, no, no. Let's do the. opposite. Let's assume something cool is. going to happen to you today. And you. don't even know what it has to be. because this is like a surprise. The. sentence, "Something cool is going to.

happen for me today," creates this. mental scavenger hunt for good things in. your life. And here's a really relatable. example. What if you just bumped into an. old friend at the grocery store who. tells you about a job opening, you've. been looking for a job? I mean, that's a. cool thing that happened to you today. What if a college roommate that you. haven't talked to in a while suddenly. texts you something funny? This actually. happened to me the other day. My college. roommate whose daughter is getting. married was visiting her mother. I know. this is like a long- winded story. I'm.

going to make it short. I swear to God. She lives in New York. She was visiting. her mother in Chicago. And she texted me. and all of her bridesmaids from 30 years. ago out of the blue wearing this silk. thing. It was like a It was like this. thing that she made us wear where we had. to wear this like garter necklace that. had this big silk flower on it on her. neck like a giant tumor and it became. this this hilarious joke among us for. the last 30 years. Now her daughter's.

getting married, so she finds this. thing, texts all of her old bridesmaid. page this thing, and then it created. this hilarious string of photos where I. made one out of like paper from a. notebook and held it in place with my. shoulder, texted it. That was a really. cool thing that happened. I wasn't. expecting that to happen, but I believe. when you say something cool is going to. happen to me today, when cool things. happen, you actually notice them and. enjoy them more because you primed your. brain to look for them. And here's one.

other thing that I want to just unpack. If we go a little deeper into these. eight sentences, one of the single best. skills that you need to develop in life. is to have a good attitude for no. reason. I want you to stop and really. consider that it is a skill in life to. have a good attitude or to be in a good. mood for no reason. I mean, most people. are pretty good at being in a bad mood. and having a bad attitude for no reason, right? And we give people with a bad.

attitude a pass. I mean, it's almost. like, okay, well, they're in a bad. attitude. They're always in a bad mood. I want you to flip that. What if you. could train yourself to be in a good. mood and to have a good attitude for no. reason at all? That is the single best skill that you. can develop because it helps you go. through life. I think we've trained. ourselves to have a bad attitude or to. be negative for no reason at all. We. kind of expect it to happen even though. we might not have evidence that it's. going to happen. I want you to learn how. to do the opposite. Wake up and train.

yourself to be in a good mood and to. have a good attitude for no reason. Just. assume that good things are going to. happen. And I fundamentally believe that. when you assume good things are going to. happen and you have a good attitude, good things do happen. Because based on. all this research, you are training your. brain to believe and to look for good. things. So you see more good things, which mean you experience good things. This is a skill. Just stop and ask. yourself honestly,

do I default to kind of a negative. attitude? Do I easily slip into a bad. mood? Like, is it super easy for me to. scan the world and find tons of reasons. to be in a bad mood and to have a bad. attitude? Well, if you're like 99.9% of human. beings, the answer is yes. That the. default is to just slip into a bad. attitude, to slip into negativity. And. I'm here to tell you, it is a skill to.

train yourself and to train your brain. to default to having a good attitude and. to being in a good mood for no reason. You deserve to be in a good mood for no. reason. I want that to be your natural. setting. I am tired of defaulting to. negativity. I'm tired of being in a bad. or negative mood. Aren't you? And the. reason why I'm saying this is because. some of the most accomplished scientists. and researchers in the world have come. on the Mel Robbins podcast and talked. extensively about how your brain has.

been programmed by your past. Your brain. can seek negativity by default if you're. not careful. And you and I got to wake. up and recognize that you can learn how. to be in a good mood and have a good. attitude as a skill. That could be your. need default. Wouldn't that be awesome? In fact, a lot of this comes from Dr. Paul Kanti who is a renowned. psychiatrist trained at Stanford and. Harvard. He gave us a master class on. the Mel Robbins podcast on how you talk. to yourself matters. And I want to read.

a quote from him that really illuminates. how your negative selft talk. So the. negative sentences that you say to. yourself on repeat that it is. programming yourself to default to a bad. mood to default to a bad attitude. negative sentences negative selft talk. Dr. Paul Kanti says, so just an example. of negative selft talk can be what do. you say to yourself in the quiet. moments?

What do you say to yourself if you do. something wrong? What do you say to yourself if you drop. something? What do you say to yourself if you. approach a new social situation or a new. challenge? You probably are like, "I'm an idiot. I. never do anything right. I'm not good. enough. Why do I always screw things up? Oh god, this is going to be terrible. On repeat, you are defaulting. to a negative attitude and negative. sentences. We've all been trained to do.

this. And I'm here to tell you, it is a. skill to train yourself. to have a good attitude and a be in a. good mood for just no reason at all. because this is just what you've. programmed into your mind. And that's. why these eight sentences matter. That's. why I believe the single best skill that. you can develop is to be in a good. attitude in the absence of a reason to. have one. Right? I mean, you can be in a. bad mood in the absence of a reason to. be in one. We all know people like that. We don't want to be near them. So, today.

we're using these eight sentences every. single morning so that you can train. your brain to have a good attitude and. be in a good mood for no reason at all. and to have a good attitude even when. challenging things are happening. Why? Because it helps you to rise to these. moments in your life. That's why this. matters. When you train your mind to be. in a good state, it changes the way you. filter the world. It changes what you.

see. It changes how you handle stress. And I'm not making this up. Literally, expert after expert on this podcast has. told you and me that when you change the. words, you feed into your mind. you. change your entire life. And so that's. what these eight sentences are about. These are the same things that I tell. myself in the morning. This is how I. have developed the skill of being in a. good attitude and a good mo mood no. matter what's happening in my life. Because why do I need to let the outside. world change the programming in my mind?

The the answer is you don't. And I. actually wrote a extensively about this. in my best-selling book, The High-5. Habit. I I actually want to read to you. from it. Chapter 7 is all about how you. can use what I call meaningful mantras, which are basically these eight. sentences to program your mind. But. here's the truth. I'm reading to you. from page 75, chapter 6. Everyone has a. negative mantra or belief about. themselves. I screw everything up. I'm a. bad person. I'm ugly. I'm a failure.

Blah blah blah blah blah. And look, maybe you have failed. Maybe you have. royally screwed things up right now. Maybe your life is a mess. Maybe you. aren't winning any beauty pageantss. Maybe you are the shortest one of all. your friends. Maybe you did lose your. job. Maybe all of that is true. But. here's the question I want to ask you. Is thinking. these negative things helping you? You know the answer, don't you? Of.

course it's not. I mean, isn't it time. to feel better about yourself? Of course. it is. Do you think that feeling better about. yourself is going to happen by mistake? No. It happens on purpose. It happens. when you program your mind. And that. brings me to this statement, this fact, this truth. This is the single best. skill that I have in life. I have. trained myself to have a good attitude. for no reason. I'm teaching you how to. develop the skill for yourself, to learn.

how to have a good attitude and be in a. good mood for no reason at all. You're. training yourself that this is just who. you are. You You are the kind of person. that is in a resting state where you. have a good attitude. No matter what is. happening, and these eight sentences. help. And if you're a worrier, oh my. gosh, you're going to love this third. sentence. No matter what happens today, I can handle it. No matter what happens. today, I can handle it. This sentence. packs such a powerful punch. If you're a.

worrier, if you get anxious easily, this. is an anchor. And let me tell you why. I. believe that anxiety is a moment of. uncertainty where you doubt your. capacity to handle something. That's. what anxiety is. Something is about to. happen in the future and now you start. doubting your capacity to handle it. That's why this sentence, no matter what. happens today, I can handle it, is such.

a gamecher if you're a worrier or you're. anxious because it goes right to the. heart of the crisis in those moments. In. those moments, you are doubting. yourself. You are doubting your ability. to handle what is going to happen, whether it's at school or at work or at. the funeral that you're about to attend. or the fact that you're going to a party. tonight and your ex is going to be. there. So, now you start worrying about. it. What is the worrying? The worrying. is anchored in this belief that you. can't handle seeing your ex. And you.

want to know what? It's complete garbage. because you're going to tell yourself, "Hey, look, no matter what happens. today, I can handle it. No matter what. happens at that party tonight, I can. handle it. No matter if this ex of mine. brings in the most fabulous new person. that they're I can handle it. I can. handle it because you are now. challenging the core belief of somebody. who worries and who is anxious." the. subconscious belief that you cannot. handle it and you are hitting it. It's. like it's like a hand-tohand combat with.

your own brain. You're like, "Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. I am not going to. believe that lie that I can't handle. this stuff. I am not going to allow. myself to get anxious because here's the. deal. No matter what happens today, I. can handle it." And if you begin the day. with this sentence every single day, no. matter what happens at work today, I can. handle it. No matter what happens at. family dinner tonight, I can handle it. No matter what happens, when I open up. my bank account and I see that it's. really a lot lower than I thought it, I. can handle it. When you say that, you are summoning up.

resilience. You are telling your brain, look, I'm not worrying. I'm not going to. let you take me down the anxiety train. like you have for 57 years. Because no. matter what happens today, I can handle. it. And here's a relatable example. Let's say you wake up and you get an. email from your boss that says, "I need. to talk to you today.". No specifics. What did your brain just do? Your brain. just went, that's what your brain did.

Your brain was like, it just immediately. jumps to the negative. No, no, no, no, no. That's the old you. That's the you. that raced ahead. And your brain now, because garbage in, negativity breeds. garbage out. Now you're thinking out. into the future and oh my gosh, this is. a disaster. I'm gonna get fired. This is. the worst. No, no, no, no, no. Today, I can handle it. I don't know. what the conversation's about. So why. would I torture myself and assume.

it's going to be bad for no reason? Because you don't have the reason yet, do you? And if you're going to assume, why not assume that no matter what. happens, you can handle it? Why not. assume that maybe something good can. happen? This is what I'm talking about. when I say you can train yourself to be. in a good mood and to have a good. attitude even when it feels like. something bad might happen. and that.

good mood and that good attitude. It not. only changes how you experience life up. to that meeting, but it also ensures. that you're not going to hijack yourself. by worrying and being anxious because. the meeting's going to be the meeting. Whatever is going to happen is going to. happen. And if you have a good attitude, you are going to be able to weather that. meeting better. Why? Well, sentence. number three, no matter what happens. today, I can handle it. And I want to. dig a little deeper into the research as.

to why I keep recommending that these. eight sentences are things you say first. thing in the morning. If you're a. worrier, if you're anxious and or if you. have somebody in your life that you love. that is a worrier or anxious and they're. always bracing for the worst and they're. always like doubting their ability to. handle something and you look at them. and you're like, why are you worried. about that? Like you're so much stronger. than you think. Like stop wor and they. just can't get it. send them this. conversation because they need these. eight sentences. Because here's some.

research about morning anxiety. Morning. anxiety is this feeling when you open. your eyes in the morning and your heart. is already pounding. Your mind is. already spinning. And maybe that was. this morning for you. You know, like it. happens a lot. And here's the reason why. anxiety can be worse in the morning for. a lot of people. And maybe it's worse. for you or it's worse for somebody that. you love. It comes from the fact that. your brain is scanning for threats and. negativity. before you even get out of bed. And some.

common symptoms of morning anxiety are. racing heart, tight chest, tense. muscles, headaches. Now, I'm explaining. this because I struggled with morning. anxiety for decades. I would literally. wake up and feel like I was pinned to. that bed with this sense of dread. Why? Well, because I was pretty used to being. in a bad mood and being pretty negative. and doubting my capacity to handle. things for a long time. And so I would.

just think it and think it. I basically. trained my brain to do this. And the. research also says that there's several. factors that contribute to morning. anxiety. It might be your circadian. rhythm. It might be the amount of stress. that you've got. It might have to do. with sleep problems or your diet. It. might have to do with past trauma. It. might have to do with the fact that you. went on a bender last night and now. you're waking up hung over. And one of. the biggest symptoms of a hangover is. anxiety because as you're processing.

alcohol overnight, all of the hormones. and sugar levels and everything else in. your body goes all haywire and it screws. with your cortisol. And that is why. you're starting to experience anxiety. It's not because you're supposed to. brace for something. It's because your. body is trying to process all the. alcohol that you drink. I didn't know. this, by the way, until I was about 50, which explains a lot of my 20s, 30s, and. 40s. And so, even the way you start your. day, really matters. And I found. something very interesting when I was.

researching this. There's something. called the cortisol awakening response. And this is when the body's stress. hormone, cortisol, it rises sharply. within the first 30 to 45 minutes of. waking up. Again, the word, if you want. to Google it, cortisol awakening. response or the C. This is a normal. process in your body that's designed to. increase alertness and create energy for. the day. But here's how this can. backfire. Like the cortisol awakening. response is supposed to like organize.

the hormone cortisol to get your butt. out of bed. But here's the problem. If. you're somebody that's prone to. worrying, if you're somebody who doubts. your capability of handling things for. no reason, this is just kind of your. natural state, that was Mel Robbins for. a long time, that cortisol surge can. feel like real panic. It can feel like a. real threat. It can truly feel, you. know, as you have an elevated heart rate. or racing thoughts or this sense of. dread that something actually is about.

to happen. And then, of course, what do. you do? You doubt your ability to handle. it. Mhm. That was me. Like I never said, "No matter what happens, I can handle. it." I said, "I need to sleep all day. because I can't handle this. I can't. handle school. I can't handle the. conversation. I can't handle seeing so. and so. I can't handle the text that I. sent last night that I now regret. I. can't handle anything." And if that. sounds familiar, I do have good news. Because without understanding this, you're going to feel like you don't have. power. You do have power.

Because when you start to understand, oh, wait a minute. First thing in the. morning, I've got this cortisol. awakening response. I got these racing. thoughts because I've literally trained. myself to have a bad attitude or to feel. anxious for no reason or to train my. brain to just search out into the future. and find a bazillion reasons to convince. myself that I'm not capable of getting. through the day. But your friend Mel. Robbins is here to tell you that you are. capable of facing no matter what. happens. And you are capable of doing. simple things like grounding yourself in.

the morning and reminding yourself. intentionally that today's going to be a. great day because I'm going to make it a. great day and something cool is going to. happen to me. And by the way, no matter. what happens, I can handle it. You are telling your brain to look for. the good. You're telling your brain that. get excited cuz something cool is going. to happen. And you're telling your brain. that all that stuff that I normally. freak out about despite the cortisol. awakening response, uh-uh, no matter. what happens, I can handle it. You're.

signaling to your brain, stop looking. for all the crap that's going to go. wrong and start reminding me that no. matter what happens, I can handle it. That is gamechanging. If you double down. on what you're capable of doing, you are. so much more capable than you know. You're so much more capable than you. believe. And it's time to start training. your brain to help you believe that. I. mean, that's why you're here, isn't it? You want to look for what's possible. That's why you listen to this podcast.

instead of listening to something. mindless. You want more out of your. life. You don't want to just go through. life with a bad attitude or being in a. bad mood or bracing for the worst. You. want to feel capable. You want to wake. up and feel empowered. And I want that. for you as your friend. I want you to. feel like you can handle it because you. can. And that's where these sentences. come in. Now, let's move on to the. fourth mantra. Oo, I love this one. You. ready? This is a good one. Oo, you. ready? You got to really be ready for.

this one because this is a really good. one. Okay. An exciting new chapter in my life is. starting today. I love this because it. really makes your brain look for a fresh. start. It's it's it's almost like when. you say, "An exciting new chapter in my. life is starting today." You are. intentionally. turning the page and ending the chapter, right? Yeah. Why not live each day as a. chapter? Who cares? We're making this.

stuff up so we can make it up and feel. empowered. If you feel stuck in the same. old routine, this is going to shake. things up. Because when you say, "An. exciting new chapter in my life is. starting today." It signals to your. brain that you're ready. Oh boy, we are. ready for what's next. I am ready for. change. I am ready for a sh a fresh. start. And you might find yourself if. you say, "An exciting new chapter in my. life is starting today." When you tell. your brain that today's the day we're. going to sign up for the class I've been.

thinking about for months. Today is the. day I'm going to update the resume. Why? Because an exciting new chapter is. starting today. Today's the day I'm. going to call that friend that I've been. meaning to reconnect with. Today's the. day that I'm going to go home from work. a different way. I'm going to commute. home differently. I'm going to start a. new chapter in my life. Today's the day. I'm going to go for that walk. I'm not. going to have a drink tonight after. work. Holy cow. And next thing you know, you see a new chapter starting. You see. yourself journaling. You have different. ideas. You look at yourself differently. You find a new coffee shop where all of.

a sudden you're talking to somebody next. to you instead of sitting there alone. feeling like a loser and thinking. negative thoughts. Oh, no, no, no. Because you are not the kind of person. that just is in a bad mood and has. negative thoughts for no reason. You're. the kind of person who is waking up. today saying, "Today an exciting new. chapter is starting." Let me ask you a. question. Why do you only think about starting a. new chapter once something horrible has. happened? Like why do you have to wait. for something to end? You can create a.

new beginning anytime you want. Wouldn't. today be the perfect day to create a new. beginning? I mean, your brain would love. one. I want you to stop for a minute and. see how actually waiting waiting for. something to slow down, waiting for this. chapter to end, waiting for this. relationship to be over, waiting for the. semester to be over, how that delays the. good stuff. You get to start a new chapter any day. you decide to. So why not do it today? And here's the thing I want you to. understand. Your brain looks for.

whatever you tell it to expect and look. for. It does. This is simply what the. research says that your brain is. neutral. Your brain has to be programmed. by what you tell it to do. So if you. expect an exciting new chapter to start. today, if you expect things to be good, you're training your brain to find it. There's so much research around this. In. fact, I I write about it extensively in. the high- five habit. There is something. called in your brain. There's this.

filtering system in your brain called. the reticular activating system. I like. to call it the RA. The RA, the reticular. activating system. It's a filter. I want. you to think about it. It's almost like. a hairet that sits over your head. It's. a network of neurons in the brains that. acts as a filter. And this sucker has a. big job. The RA has to filter all the. information in the world and they have. to decide what is the tiny fraction of.

information, the headlines, the emails, the cars passing by, the music playing. in the background, the 15 pastries in. front of you, you know, at at the at. the, you know, cafe that you're at right. now. Like, there's so much insane. information coming at you, you don't. even realize it. If all that information. got into your conscious mind, you know. what would happen? your head would. explode into a million pieces right off. your shoulder. You'd be dead. I I swear. to God, it'd be like a car engine. burning up. So, the RA is protecting you.

from information overload. And so, it. only allows a tiny fraction of. information to come in to reach your. conscious awareness. In fact, there's. only four things that it allows into. your mind. You ready? What it is? Your. name. Have you ever been in a crowded. area and you're like, "Wait, did. somebody just call my name?" And you. turn around. That was your RA saying, "Oh, come on in. Let's make sure you. hear that." Another one, any threat to. your safety. Haven't you ever noticed.

that you are literally a first. responder? If somebody's like, and. you're like, that's the RA, letting all of that. information in so you don't die. Another. one. When you think somebody is. interested in you, you pick up on those. signals pretty quickly, don't you? and. we just like have you ever the rest of. the bar just disappears. You could be at. a party and all of a sudden you think. somebody else is like interested in you. There's nobody else in that room. That's. your RA. Laser focusing on that. And.

here's the holy grail. You ready? This. is why these eight sentences work. The RA, this filter in your brain allows. in anything that your brain believes is. important to you. And here's why this is a gold man. I'm. going to give you an example that will. really illustrate what I'm talking about. in terms of how powerful this is and why.

it is essential that you stop just. allowing your brain to be a negative. space and you get serious about. programming it with what's important to. you that's positive. This filter, the. RA, it is working in real time 247. It. never takes a break. and it updates in. real time based on what you focus on and. based on what you think is important. I. want to give you an example of how this. works so you really understand how. powerful this is. Have you ever been. interested in buying a new car? Let's.

say that you're interested in buying, I. don't know, like a green pickup truck. What's interesting is the second that. you're interested in buying a green. pickup truck and I just noticed Ben. looked at our senior producer Amy. because I have a feeling that he's been. thinking about buy Are you thinking. about buying a green? No Really? >> Yesterday I went to a dealership. >> Oh my Are you kidding? >> What? >> Freaking me out right now. >> Okay. It's freaking me out too. But we. are brain meldding. Ben, see this is. what happens everybody. When you have.

positive programming in your mind, all. kinds of wacky stuff starts to happen. because your thoughts are energy. They. are like there's physics around this. I. must have just picked up on that, Ben. I. don't know what his RA by the way. So, so let me tell you this. So, let's say. you are like Ben. You're like, I want a. green pickup truck. Okay. What's. interesting is before you get interested. in green pickup trucks. You never see them.

You see all kinds of cars. You never. think about green pickup trucks. You. don't see green pickup trucks. And then. you start thinking, maybe I'm going to. get a green pickup truck because that's. a unique co color and I don't think. there's a lot of green pickup trucks. Green pickup trucks just got important. to you. Your brain is paying attention. And the second you said, "I think I I. think I'm interested in green pickup. trucks." Guess what your brain did? Oh, the filter changes and is like, "Ben is. interested in green pickup trucks. Let's.

let the green pickup trucks in." Next. thing you know, Ben is driving another. one. He's like, "Does everybody have a. green pickup truck?" Because now he sees. them everywhere. When he walks into the. dealership to go test drive one, guess. what? The brain is now getting. programmed. Oh, he's really serious. about this because he's now taking steps. to do this. Ben is going to see even. more green pickup trucks. So much so he. might now question whether or not he. wants the color green. Now he's laughing. because it's true. Now here's the really. interesting thing. Those green pickup.

trucks were always there. You. just hadn't told your brain they were. important to you. So you in the past because you didn't. tell your brain this was important to. you, your brain just blocked them out. because your brain only lets these four. things in to the conscious mind. When you tell your brain that something. is important to you, what are you doing? You're deliberately programming it. That's what you're doing. You're telling. that filter in your mind, this matters.

to me. And one of the ways that you. program your mind is that you repeat. your interest in something, which is why. these sentences are so important. If you. start waking up every day and you say, "Today's going to be a great day." your. brain and your ara start going, "Oh, okay. This is important. I got to now. change the filter and look for reasons. for this to be a great day." If you wake. up and you tell yourself, "Something. cool's going to happen to me today.". Your brain's like, "Oh, this is.

important. I got to look for something. cool to happen." If you wake up every. day and you say to yourself, "No matter. what happens today, I can handle it. Oh, okay." Doubling down on your capacity to. handle things. Really important to keep. reminding you and showing you examples. of that. I got it. I got it. This is. important. And if you tell yourself an. exciting new chapter is beginning today, your brain is like new beginnings. Let's. go. Let's try some new things. Just like. the car. All of a sudden, because of the. science that I'm explaining to you and.

the reticular activating system, I know. I call it the hairet. That's not that. sexy, but then you can see it, right? It's sort of like you work in fast food. and you got to wear that ugly hairet. thing. Gh. I hated that when I worked in. a restaurant. That is like that. It's. like only four things are getting in. here. That's why this works. And repeating it. is how you program it because the. repetition is telling your brain, "This. is important. It's important to me to. see green pickup trucks. It is important.

to me to see reasons to have a great. day. It is important to me to expect. something cool to happen. It is. important to me to remind myself that no. matter what happens, I can handle it. Isn't that cool? That there's hard, amazing science that explains why these. sentences work. This is the kind of. sentence that I would say to you as your. friend. I'm telling you right now, and. this is why you need to say this to. yourself. Here it is. I need to give.

myself more credit for how hard I'm. trying. Let's be honest, you are trying. hard. You wake up every you you have no. idea how much you do every day and you. don't give yourself credit for it. Like. do you know how hard it is to get. through the day in today's world with a. good attitude for no reason? And yet. you're doing it. You get up, you do your. best with your morning routine. You get. yourself to work or to school. You are. doing your best. You're answering the. emails. You're responding to the texts. You're pouring your brain power into.

those things. You're trying to take care. of yourself. Trying to stay connected to. people. You're trying to have fun. You're trying to do make more money. Like, my god, do you know how hard. you're working? How hard you're trying? You need to give yourself more credit. for how hard you're trying instead of. constantly scanning the world for the. one thing you didn't do. I mean, isn't. it kind of amazing that you can get. through your entire to-do list except. for one thing? And that one thing that. you didn't get to is the thing that.

you're going to focus on. You can do 115. things correct at work today, but you. know what you're going to focus on? You're going to focus on the one thing. that you said in that meeting. that nobody chimed in about. That's what. you're going to focus on. Why? Because. you've trained yourself to have a bad. attitude and to be in a bad mood for no. reason. You've trained yourself to see. the things you're not doing instead of. giving yourself credit for all the. things you are doing. It's time to stop. that. If your inner critic is louder.

than that inner cheerleader or coach or. friend, this sentence is what you need. to say. See, effort counts even when the. results aren't coming as fast as you. would like them to. And it's important. that you double down and give yourself. credit for how hard you're trying. Otherwise, you're going to stop. Like, why would you continue to push through. the hard periods of your life if you're. constantly bashing yourself and pointing. out the one thing you didn't do well? Like sometimes the hardest work you're. doing is invisible. It's invisible to.

the people around you. Do not make it. invisible to yourself. Your own acknowledgement matters the. most. Like if there's one thing that I. do other than developing the skill of. being in a good mood and having a good. attitude for really no reason. It's like. my resting default. I have consciously. programmed myself to think this way. One other thing that I have done is I. have trained myself to stop constantly. criticizing myself and to triple down on. the things that I'm doing well. Not out.

of arrogance, but because it creates. this like flywheel. If you are your own. cheerleader, that's what the entire. book, The High Five Habit, is all about. It's all about the science of. programming yourself for celebration and. for positivity and for really cheering. yourself on because you need that in. life. Life is hard enough without you. dragging yourself down. If you only feel. proud of yourself when somebody else. notices, then you're going to spend your. entire life waiting for validation from.

other people and it might never come. You got to give yourself a gold star. right now because you've deserved it. You're the one that's putting in the. late nights. You're the one that makes. the hard choices. You're the one who is. plowing through the emails and the to-do. list. You're the one who keeps going. when no one's watching. You're the one. who may have a bad week, but then oh, you pick yourself back up and you get. back to the gym and you restart the. morning routine. That's worth. acknowledging. I mean, I'm always here. acknowledging you, but you got to you. got to pick up the slack, man. You got. to help me out with this. You got to.

recognize your own effort and fill your. own tank up so you can keep going. It's. easy to see the big wins, but oh wow, you want to start truly winning, you got. to start clapping for the little things. every single day. You got out of bed. Good job. Excellent. Nice. I love that. You You answered some emails today. You're winning. I see you. I You did. that. Mhm. You spoke up at work today. even though you were a little ner Oh, yes. All right. You can handle it. I. love that. You did school drop off. You. held it together through back-toback.

meetings. You checked in on your mom and. dad who are aging. You still managed to. shove some food in your mouth and have. dinner and be present with your f. Holy. cow. As far as I'm concerned, you're. winning at life. Period. And here's one. of the other reasons why this sentence. matters. I got to give myself more. credit for how hard I'm trying. I want. you to stop looking outside yourself for. validation. Because when you do that, you give other people power over you. Like if other people aren't. acknowledging what you're doing, let. them. We got to focus on the let me.

part. Let me give myself credit for. everything I do do. I'm good. I'm I'm. working hard. I know my intentions are. good. I know I'm a good person. So, repeat after me. I need to give myself. more credit for how hard I'm trying. Mhm. You start repeating that every. single morning. And guess what? You're. going to feel like you're giving. yourself credit for how hard you're. trying. And that feels really good. And. it also fuels your desire to keep going. That's the secret. I love that. All. right. I bet you're sitting there going,

"Okay, Mel, couple questions. Couple. questions for you, Mel. Do I have to say. them out loud?". Do I have to truly wake up and be like, "Today is going to be a great day." Yes. Yes. Because it engages more of your. brain. And if you're a little shy or. you're next to somebody or you feel a. little embarrassed, I got you. It's. okay. Let's just start by thinking them. Here's another way you can boost it. Write it down. Writing it down is even. more effective. Why? Because when you.

grab that pen and you start to write. these down, today's going to be a great. day. Something cool is going to happen. for me today. I no matter what happens, I'm capable of handling it. Today's the. beginning of an exciting new chapter. I. deserve more credit for how hard I'm. trying. When you write that down, you. grab the pen, it engages your senses. And the more senses you involve, guess. what? Your brain's like, "Oh, shoot.

She's really serious about this right. now." Because she got the pen. I'm. feeling her write this thing. I'm I'm. like, she's sitting down. Like, she's. putting pen to paper. She means. business. I better pay attention. This. is important. Let's add this to the. list. It's not just the green pickup. truck that we got to let in. We got to. let in for how hard you're working. You. may also be wondering, Mel, how long do. I have to do this? Hm. Like, how long before I'm going to. like actually feel different? Well, I.

research that, too. Here's what I want. you to do. I want you to do this for 30. to 60 days. Did you notice he just went. 30 to 60 days? That's too long. You know. what that is? That kind of reaction, that is a example of the fact that. you've programmed your mind to have a. bad attitude for no reason. You got 30. to 60 days. You're going to live 30 to. 60 days regardless of what you do. So, how about we develop the skill together. of being in a good mood and having a.

good attitude for no reason? And we're. going to do that by programming your. brain. See, when you rewire your brain, rewiring takes repetition. You know how. many times you got to think about a. green truck before you see them. everywhere? Probably 30 to 60 times. And. then all of a sudden, they're. everywhere. You're kind of thinking. about it and noticing. And then boom, it's like it's everywhere. How long did. it take you to learn how to worry as. your default? Your whole life. How long. did it take you to learn to be anxious?

Your whole life. How long did it take. you to learn how to doubt yourself at. every turn? Oh, you've been doing that. your whole life. So, if you've been programming. negativity and self-doubt for years and. years and years, I think you should give. me a lousy 30 to 60 days, don't you? I. think a positive reprogramming is worth. a little experiment for 30 to 60 days. How about you stop doubting your. capacity to have the programming take. hold and doubting your capacity to do.

this for 30 60 days and you start. saying, "No matter what happens, I'm. capable of handling this for 30 to 60. days." Ever think about that? I mean, you do have to override the programming. So, if you keep saying it out loud in. the morning until you don't have to. remember to say it out loud, guess what? Your brain just automatically does it. So does my family. Everyone's like, "Hey, it's going to be a great day. Have. a great day, everybody." Yeah. You know. what? Come to think of it, I might just. have a great day. Thank you for. reminding my brain that I get to choose. whether or not I'm going to have a great.

attitude or I'm going to have a great. day or I'm going to look for reasons to. have a great day. See, you wake up in a. highly suggestible state. That's why I. also want you to tell yourself these. things in the morning. We've talked. about a lot of this. Your cortisol is. high. Your prefrontal cortex is clear. Your subconscious wide open. Whatever. you put into your brain first thing is. going to echo all day. I'm going to give. you an example. Ever wake up and make. the horrible mistake of checking texts. or email first thing. You know what you. just did? Programmed your brain. Whatever is in the text messages.

programmed your brain. Whatever is in. email programmed your brain. Do not do. that. I want the first thing in your. mind to be that first sentence. Today's. going to be a great day. Something cool. is going to happen. You're getting the. drift, aren't you? All right, let's get. to the next sentence. This is the sixth. one. I'm allowed to be a work in. progress. I love this. I love this because. you probably struggle with trying to. make things perfect or looking for the. perfect time or putting things off.

because you don't think you're ready. That is an attitude that got programmed. in a long time ago based on negativity. and fear. When you start to repeat, I'm. allowed to be a work in progress. What. you're basically saying is you're. saying, "Hey, brain, we're going to grow. here. We're going to make mistakes. We're a work in progress. So, let's do. this thing." You're giving yourself. permission to not have it all together. You know, if you feel like you don't.

have your act together in any area of. your life, just say, "I'm not going to. worry about that right now." First of. all, because no matter what happens, I'm. capable of handling it. But second, I'm. allowed to be a work in progress. I. don't have to have all the answers. I. don't have to have it all figured out. My desk can be messy. My kids can be. fighting. I that big meeting later, you. know, I don't have to have all the. answers. I'm allowed to be a work in. progress. You know, this podcast, it's. always a work in progress. The Let Them.

Theory book, it was a work in progress. that lasted two years. It still is. Do. you know, just this morning, I was on. email before we were taping and I was. answering an email. Do you know how many. mistakes are in the Let Them Theory book. that got published. Oh my gosh, you guys. keep catching them. It's a work in. progress. In fact, a lot of the. editions, it's coming out in 63. languages, which just blows my mind, has. the wrong URL for the free downloads in. the back. Why? It's a work in progress.

Oops. We We sent the wrong uh version of. the man. Oops. We're sorting it out. because it's a work in progress. Before. these sentences, if I had read an email. like that at the beginning of the day, I. would have thought, I'm. And you would too. You would too because. you default to the negative. You know. why? There's so many things to feel are. great. Why not focus on the fact that 6.

million copies of that book have been. bought and read by people around the. world? Why not focus on the fact that. the let them theory and saying let them. and let me is helping your. relationships. It's helping you feel. peace and power. You know, when you say, "I'm a work in progress. No matter what. happens, we'll figure it out." Now, you. ride the wave and a single email doesn't. take you down or put you in one of those. stress tunnels. Why? Because you have. developed a skill of being in a good. mood and having a good attitude. Not.

only for no reason, but in despite of. what may happen. Because you know that. you can figure it out. You know that. you're a work in progress. You know that. this is an exciting new chapter of your. life. And so, let me hit you with the. next sentence because this one's a. really good one because it creates. momentum and it creates this sense that. something awesome is coming. You ready. for the sentence? If I keep showing up, life will reward me. Let's say that one. again. If I just keep showing up, life.

will reward me. It is so easy in life to put your head. down and do what I call the reps. The. reps are like those little annoying. painful things that you have to do every. day at school or in your business or. with your health or you know writing the. song or writing the book. Just the. little boring work doing the reps. Oh my. god, it's the worst. And the results that you want are. coming. It is so easy to quit. You know,

in life it's you against you. I personally believe there's that famous. Jay-Z quote. it goes something I'm going. to get it wrong and feel free to write. in and tell me what the right one is but. it's something like the genius thing. that we did is we didn't quit like I. really do believe that you can. achieve the things that you want and. look it may not look like you thought it. would look it may not occur on the. timeline that you think it's supposed to. occur on but if you wake up every.

morning and just say to yourself the. truth if I just keep showing up life. will reward me and I love this because. you're telling your brain, I'm not a. quitter. You know what we are? We just. keep showing up. And we know that at. some point life will reward me if I just. keep showing up. That's the game. The. game isn't achieving. The game is. showing up. The game is not quitting. And so you can train your brain with. this mantra. If I just keep showing up, if I just keep doing the reps, if I just.

keep my head down and I just keep. putting in the work day by day, week by. week, month by month, year by year, if I. just keep showing up, life will. eventually reward me. It is true. Every. single person that you admire, everybody. that has everything that you've ever. wanted, whether it is the love story. that you want or it's the health that. you want or the body that you want or. the career that you want or the success. or the music career, whatever it may be. I promise you, if you dig into their.

story, you will see they didn't quit. They just kept showing up. And in those. moments when you want to quit, it is so. easy to have a bad attitude or be in a. bad mood because it hasn't happened on. your timeline and then you quit. Do not. do that. Do not do that. There is a. reason to keep going. And the reason is. the simple truth that if you just keep. showing up, life will reward you. And. that is how you program your brain to. have stamina. That's how you program. your drain brain for hope. That is how.

you program your brain to move through. obstacles. Because. even if it hasn't happened, it just. means it hasn't happened yet. If I just. keep showing up, life will reward me. And as your friend, I'm going to tell. you, it's true. Life will. It's you. against you. Don't quit. And that. sentence is how you program your brain. to not quit on you, okay? Because I. don't want you to quit. I want you to. keep showing up so that life will reward.

you. And the final sentence that I love. Oh, I love this one for you. I love. this. I love this. I love this. I love. this. I have an important contribution. to make to the world. Just let that one. sit for a minute. I have an important contribution to make. to the world. You do. And we're friends. You can be honest. with me. You know deep down that there's. something greater that's meant for you.

That there's something awesome that. you're meant to contribute. You might. not know what it is, but you know. that it's true that you do. And I want. to tell you as your friend, if you've. ever felt invisible. or if you've wondered if what you do. matters, if you've wondered if who you. are matters, here's what I love about. this phrase. I have an important contribution to make.

to the world. It affirms that deep belief that you. have that you hold quietly on your own. that you do have an important. contribution to make to the world. Your presence, your ideas, your stories, the experiences that you've had in your. life, the lessons that you have to. share, the actions that you take, the. way that you move through the world, being in a good mood, being kind to.

people. These things have a powerful. ripple effect on the world around you. Saying something kind to the barista. might be the only nice thing that they. hear all day. You know, out of 8 billion people on. this planet, how many people do you. suppose have your exact voice, your. exact story, your exact way of seeing. the world, your DNA, your irises, your. fingerprint? Do you know how many.

people? One out of eight billion. One you. that's why you have something unique and. amazing to give to the world. That's why. your life matters. That's why your hopes. and your dreams and your energy matter. So, I want you to repeat with me. I have. an important contribution to make to the. world. And I'm going to share something. with you. I believe that my important contribution.

is, yes, this podcast is a big thing, but I actually believe it's the way I. move through my day-to-day life. I. believe it's the positivity that I. bring. I believe it's the warmth that I. just lead with with other people that. the contribution that I'm making person. to person, energy to energy, really. seeing people, being kind to people, acknowledging people, that that's the. contribution and we all have the ability.

to do that. And when you say this. sentence to yourself every morning, you. write this sucker down in your journal. I have an important contribution to make. to the world. Start where you are. Start. with your energy. Be in a good mood for. no reason. And make that good mood your. contribution to the world today. Have a. good attitude. just because you've trained yourself to. have a good attitude. And take that good. attitude to the funeral. You're going to.

take it to work, take it to your to-do. list, take it into your family dinner. That is a important contribution that. you can make in the world today. Another. one, you can share this conversation. with people that you care about so that. they have these amazing eight sentences. that they can use to program their mind. for positivity, their mind for. resilience, their mind for stamina.

Everybody deserves that. And it's a way. that you can make an important. contribution today to people that you. care about. How cool is that? Do you. see? It's just like right in front of. you. But you have to get intentional. about programming your mind to help you. move through the world like this. You. have to get intentional about developing. this skill of being in a good mood and. having a good attitude simply because. you do. And so here are these eight. sentences that I want you to say every.

day. Say them out loud. Write them in. your journal. Repeat them for 30 to 60. days. And you are going to notice. something crazy happen. You're going to. notice that you have developed the. ability to have a good attitude. You're. going to notice that your mind is. helping you. You're going to notice that. you spot opportunities. You're going to. make more money. You're going to be in a. better mood. You're going to be more. resilient. You're going to feel your. worry and your anxiety start to lower. because you have been intentionally. programming your mind to double down on.

the fact that you're capable. You got a. huge contribution to make. That no. matter what, you're going to just keep. showing up and doing your thing because. you know the world is going to reward. you. You know people like this. In fact, I'm a person like this. And you can teach yourself and program. yourself to be a person like this. because number one, it's going to be a. great day. Something cool is going to happen to you. today. No matter what happens, you can. handle it. An exciting new chapter in. your life is beginning. You need to give.

yourself more credit for how hard you're. trying. Cuz boy oh boy are you trying. hard. You're allowed to be a work in. progress. And if you just keep showing. up, life will reward you. I promise you. And you do have something important to. contribute to the world. And you can do. it today. And in case no one else tells. you today, I want to be sure to tell you. as your friend that I love you. And I. want to say something about that. The. reason why I tell you that is because. love is not this big like blown out. thing. Love is so simple. Love is.

consideration and admiration. That's all. that love is. It's admiring something. about someone and having them in mind. Love is making a cup of coffee for. somebody. And you know, I admire you, by the way, for taking the time to listen to. something that is going to help you. deliberately program your mind and. create a better life. I really admire. that about you and I have you in mind. You know, I I I'm thinking about you. right now. I'm talking directly to you.

I'm showing up here with a level of. certainty and and like passion for this. topic because I know this works. This is. how I went from anxietyridden, negative. for no reason, always in a bad mood, bracing to one of the most positive, optimistic, resilient, and supportive. person that you probably know, and you. can do it, too. And so, that's why I. tell you that I love you, because I. actually mean it. I admire you for. making the time to listen to this and. investing in yourself. I admire you for.

being generous with the things that. you're learning and sharing these. episodes with everybody that you care. about. And I have you in mind. And so. that's why I tell you that because it. matters to tell people that. And I hope. you use everything that you learn today. to not only create a better life, but to. program your mind. Because when you. program your mind the way that I've. taught you to do today, and you. understand the deeper reasons why this. works based on the research and the. science, there is no doubt in my mind.

your life is going to be so much better. And you deserve that. All righty. I will. be waiting for you in the very next. episode. I'm going to welcome you in the. moment you hit play. I'll see you there. And thank you for being here with me on. YouTube. Thank you for watching all the. way to the end. I love this. conversation. I also love that you are. sharing this with people that you care. about. So, thanks for being generous. All right, I know you're thinking, "All. right, Mel, I want to know the next best. video to watch." I'm going to tell you. in a second. Hit subscribe. Please hit. subscribe because it is a way that you.

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