TOM HOLLAND: How Tom Overcame Social Anxiety- The Mindset That Changed Everything!

I just felt like I was so addicted to. this kind of false version of my life. that it was just taking over. And the. thing that really upset me is the press. ran with that. They were saying, "Oh, look, he's not the perfect. happy-go-lucky kid you think he is. He's. having a nervous breakdown in New York.". If I was having a mental breakdown, that's not for you to report on. They. took the story in the wrong direction, and they kind of painted people looking. for help in the wrong light. author and host. The number one health and wellness. podcast. On Purpose with Jay Shetty.

A lot of studies show that how we were. loved or unloved between the ages of. zero to five impact the next 15, 25, 50. years of our life Wow. and how we give love to ourselves and. how we give love to others. And so, I was thinking, do you have a. core memory or an experience with your. family from childhood that kind of. embodies the feeling you have about them. now or that keeps you tied close to. them? I'd say sort of more than a memory. is just a feeling that we I could say.

all of my brothers and I had was that. because our dad's a comedian. his job. only ever existed once we had gone to. bed. And our mom worked from home, she. was a photographer. So, to us as kids, our parents didn't really work. They. just were always home. So, we had this. amazing foundation where. no matter any time of the day, either. mom or dad would be at the house, and we. felt so kind of solid as a family, which. is why like I kind of have this dream of.

one day having kids and putting my work. to bed and just kind of being there as a. dad, cuz I really admire how my dad was. round, you know, being a comedian is a. very, very volatile job. The The highs. and lows are so extreme, and as kids, we. never saw that. The only version of my. dad I ever saw was the happy dad, let's. go to the park. We used to play this. game called golf goals, where we would. go down to the park, there's like this. big blue metal goal, and we would just. fire golf balls into that goal every.

day, and he would give us 10p every time. a ball went in the goal, and that was. kind of the foundation of our golf and. and all that sort of stuff. So, for me, broader than a core memory was the idea. of always feeling connected and safe. within my family unit, and I think a. large portion of that is that my mom and. dad have always been such a solid team, and they've always been there for us. Yeah, wow. Have they, as you've grown. older, have they kind of opened up about. some of the challenges that they were. going through that they obviously didn't.

show you and your family when you were. kids? Because I can imagine we always. talk about this, right? Like being a. comedian's extremely difficult because. you're making everyone else laugh. At. the same time, it's it's a career path. that, like you said, is completely. volatile. Sure. Have Have they opened up as time's gone. on, and how is that felt when you've. gone from like seeing your parents. always being happy to being like, "Oh, wait, there was all this other stuff. going on."? Absolutely, they have. And. And it's not even sometimes things that. they've told us. It's just things that. we've grown up to recognize. As a young. kid, you know, you're not looking to. How's my mom feeling? How's my dad.

feeling? And now, as an as an older. person, you know, those are things I. care about. I want to call my mom cuz I. know it will brighten her day. So, that's all part of growing up, I guess. So, seeing. the way in which my dad's job affects. him or my dad's job affects my mom is. something we've all. sort of come to terms with, and he's. amazing at it. I mean, to be honest, I. say affect, it doesn't really affect. anyone. He's so good at handling it. Um. which is a lot of why I feel like I am. the way I am. For example, The Crowded.

Room's come out, the critics absolutely. hated it. They thought it was the worst. thing they've ever seen, and it doesn't. really upset me. And I think a large. part of my feeling towards that has come. from my dad being able to do a gig, the. gig not going well, him brushing it off. his shoulder, and just right onto the. next one. Yeah, well, and and first of. all, I want to point out as as So, I've. been watching The Crowded Room, right? And me and my wife have been watching it. together and we are actually really. enjoying it. And so like we're actually loving it. because I love a show that has mystery.

that's trying to like get me to figure. it out and get me to think about it. I'm. kind of confused and I love stuff like. that. Like I'm a massive. Christopher Nolan fan. So, all my. favorite movies are Nolan movies and the. reason why I love them is cuz I've no. idea what's going on. And that's what. And you got to figure it out and I love. puzzles and I love escape rooms and I. love anything that Yeah, I love anything. that's got me thinking what is going on. here and why can't I figure it out. Mate, do you know what you should watch? I I admittedly watch it to go to sleep. if I'm ever feeling stressed or like. overstimulated,

I watch this guy called Chris Ramsay. He's like a YouTube guy. He's a. magician, but I just watch him solve. puzzles. He like buys these Japanese. like handcrafted. puzzle boxes and he just solves them and. I've started buying them and they come. to the house and you sit down for. 4 hours, put it down, pick it up, and. try and solve this puzzle and it's. amazing. Are you any good at them? No, I'm terrible at them. I'm absolutely. terrible. I've had an unsolved Rubik's. Cube since I was like 11. But I am But.

yeah, so I watch these videos cuz. there's just something about like the. sound of the wood. I'm a carpenter, so I. love like craftsmanship and that sort of. stuff. So, I love the way that these. pieces are put together. So, watching. him solve the puzzles, I find so. relaxing. Yeah, I think for so many of us, you. know, getting bad. reviews, perceptions, people talking about us, whatever that. may be, whatever scale we live at, can. actually affect us. And you saying that. actually seeing your dad.

letting him seeing him shrug it off and. seeing him move on actually really. helped him. Do you think that you've. been able to. create a bit more of a skill around that. now or is it something that happens. naturally for you because I'm guessing. that there's a lot of people who are. listening and watching going, "Tom, that's pretty amazing that you you do. that at your scale and your level, but. you know, I'm still affected by that or. I really struggle when my mate says. something. Like I don't The number one. thing I hear is like most people don't. chase their dreams because they're. scared of what their mates will say, let. alone what the world will say.

Yeah, like I had this late I was I was. flying back last night as I was telling. you. So I was on a plane from DC to. London last night and the air hostess, she was wonderful, her name was Janette. She said to me, she was like, "Jay, I. really want to start a YouTube channel, but you know, you just got to block out. what your friends are going to say, right?" was just worried about it. So. that it's a very real thing. So I guess. have you kind of figured out a little. formula for it or is it just natural. because you saw your dad and it's become. easier that way? I think it's a little. bit of both, really. You know, I think. it's something you definitely get better. at. I'm really lucky that I have an.

incredibly strong group of friends. Like. one of my best mates just called me up. earlier to say he'd seen the fifth. episode and he's like, "I know what. happens in the show and I'm still loving. it. The people I'm watching it with have. no idea what's going on, but they can't. wait for the next one." Yeah. So, you. know, I really, really hold high the. opinions of people that I really care. about. I'm also really lucky to have an. amazing group of fans who are so. supportive. They are die-hard. They are. there day one. And that makes me feel really good. But.

I I do think a lot of my lessons in life. have come from my dad and the ways that. he can deal with things, things that he. hasn't done very well in the past that. he's passed on to me. And. I sort of. I live by this really I don't actually. know if Christian Bale did say this, but. apparently. I love Christian Bale. I love Christian. Bale. We'll say he said it. Yeah. We'll. say We'll say he said it. Yeah. But I. think. the quote is, "If you have a problem. with me, text me and if you don't have. my number, you don't know me well enough. to have a problem with me." That's so.

good. And I think that that is such a great. piece of advice because as a celebrity, you live on this stage. You live out. there. You kind of give out a version of. of that you want people to see Mhm. and. that can be the version of yourself that. they can have a problem with or they can. love. And there is a you know, I feel. like I'm quite authentic in my. public persona, but I just try to really. care about what my family thinks, what. my friends think, what the people in my local community.

think. I live in Kingston, I know. everyone that lives there. I can't walk. 5 ft without bumping into one of my. mom's friends. So yeah, so it's. something I've been working on. I try my best to not let that stuff. affect me. It does. Yeah, of course. I'm not cold-hearted or. anything like that. It does affect me, but I just try to to move on and focus. on the positives. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. What what. was uh Did you ever see your dad deal. with everything and you thought, "Wow, that was incredible." Like was there. anything specific that you remember that. like seeing him like tackle something. and you thought, "Wow, that really.

impressed me." Even if it was something. really small in hindsight? I think the. thing I admire most about my dad is his. resilience. You know, he's someone who. has had an incredibly successful career. in his earlier life and then later in. life his career sort of plateaued and he. struggled. And he's never stopped. He's. never given up. He's still gigging to. this day. He's still writing books. He. has a patron. He has a podcast. He's. constantly grafting to get to where he. wants to be. And I think being a young kid and seeing.

your dad continually working as hard as. he can to kind of put his best foot. forward for me has been a huge drive for. my work ethic. I'll give it 100% or I'll. give it nothing. And I think a lot of. that has come from my dad and seeing him. deal with that. The funny thing about my. dad is you talk about doing a bad gig, I. must have seen him 20 times, I've never. seen him do a bad gig. He always seems. to absolutely rip it. Um but maybe. that's just cuz we're in the audience. But he um but no, I I I owe a lot to my. dad and a lot of the teachings are.

things he's told me and things I've just. witnessed him do. Yeah. And was there ever a piece of. feedback or a rumor or something you saw. that did affect you where you actually. thought well or at least made you stop. and go God I'm trying to see the. positives but this one's tough like like. this actually. made me have to pause and figure it out. Something that did really upset me. I was in New York. I was shooting the. crowning crowded room. and I was having a really hard time with. the job just because of how taxing it. was the emotional capacity that I was.

having to get to every day. and. I decided to delete my Instagram because. I just felt like I was so addicted to. this kind of false version of my life. that it was just taking over. I would be. on set working. I'd come and sit in my. chair and just scroll scroll scroll. scroll scroll and it was. it was becoming. a problem. I was just obsessed with it. and I was obsessed to find out what. people were saying and how people what. they thought about me. So I decided to. make an announcement which unfortunately.

we have to do and say that I'm taking a. break from social media and I and I. tried to position myself and say like. I'm taking a break from social media. because I feel like my mental health. will benefit from it. And the thing that. really upset me is the press ran with. that and they tried to make out that I. was having this mental breakdown and. what upset me was. if I was having a mental breakdown. that's not for you to report on. They. they they took the story in the wrong. direction and they try they painted. again this negative light on mental. health rather than saying.

oh he's doing it. It's okay that he's. doing it so we should all feel okay to. do it too. They were saying oh look he's. not the perfect happy-go-lucky kid you. think he is. He's having a nervous. breakdown in New York. And I think that. that was a really unfair line of. journalism let's say because I just. think it again kind of painted. people. looking for help in the wrong light if. you know what I mean. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Absolutely. It. almost sounds like you were. actually preemptively.

going I'm doing this so that I don't. Right. go in that direction.". Totally. at least I'm not trying to put. words in your mouth, but. Absolutely. it's almost like I'm proactively seeing. that I could end up in a position where. Sure. I might have a breakdown. I don't. want to be in that position, and so I'm. responsibly saying, "Guys, I'm taking a. break. Right. in order to protect myself." 100%. Yeah, which makes a lot of sense, and. actually is quite admirable again. Totally. And that's kind of what the. message of the show is about. Like the. the message of our show is that asking. for help should be something that we.

celebrate. If you're struggling, if you. need help, if you feel bad, and you wake up, and. and you go to a friend, a therapist, a. teacher, an employee, or a colleague, and say, "I'm really struggling. I need. some help." That should be something. that we give you a pat on the back. Like. I would love to help you. That I'm I'm. delighted that you asked me. And that. for me, that announcement was kind of my. olive branch, and the press ran with it. how they ran with it. But to be fair, it. kind of gave me a great drive to finish.

The Crowded Room in the way that we did. To like, if you're not going to listen. to my personal message, then you have to. listen to the message of my show. Yeah. So it kind of went hand in hand. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. You've You've. reminded me actually when when you said. that, because I think we naturally today. think of therapists or or doctors, but. you you mentioned teacher there, and I. was thinking when I was going through a. really rough time at school once, I. remember my walk to school from the bus. stop, I'd see a teacher every day that I. was really close with at school, but you. never talk to your teachers. No. walking to school, right?

person. Yeah. But I was so lonely at the time that I. remember like almost thinking like, "Well, he's the only person I can talk. to because of other stuff that I was. going through at school." And I remember. I started talking to him on the way to. school. His name is Mr. Buckridge. He. knows I go on about him everywhere, and. he avoids it because. And but it was it was that exact feeling. where it was like he was someone that I. felt I could open to it that open up to. it at that point in my life without. feeling judged, without feeling like he. was going to see me through another. lens. And just having that space to be.

seen for as a human who was going. through stuff by a teacher was a huge. huge win. And so, you know, it's you are. right that that help can come in all. different forms and it does it doesn't. have to come in the ways that we expect. it to come in. Yeah, it doesn't have to. be a professional. Yeah. I go to my friends a lot and and. you know, some friends are better than. others in certain situations. I've got. some friends that are very much like. pull your socks up and get on with it. and then other friends who are like come. here and have a cry on my shoulder, but. like it it varies. So, I I I just really.

hope that that's what the show can do. It's it's sort of paint this positive. picture of asking for help is something. to be proud of. Well, that's a great. message and and I think we all we all. need to hear it. And I want to go back a. little bit because there's a lot of. interviews that you've done and I've and. I've watched a lot of stuff over the. time, but like we're talking about a lot. of it's soundbites because it's quick. and short and like these entertainment, you know, interviews and that's why I. was really grateful that you took out. the time to do this, but you were. diagnosed as far as I read with dyslexia. at age seven. Yes. And I was wondering how, you know, a lot.

of our community and our audience is. diagnosed as well or some of them are. not, but they're finding out later on in. life. How did that affect you or how. were you set up for success with that. from the because as an actor you've got. to learn lines, you've got to read. lines, you there's a lot of activities. that people would assume are quite. challenging. Sure. But you found a way and and walk us. through that a little bit. I don't know. I had my mom has always been really. hands-on with our education. Mhm. She. you know, really wanted us to just do. our best. Our dad always said like look, I don't care what grades you get as long.

as you try your best, you try your best. and that's all that we can ask for. But yeah, my dyslexia. it's really just my spelling. I mean, honestly. It's just that, yeah. You know, like those sort of games that. you play at Christmas. Have you ever. played um the one where you have to. write down the answers that you it's I. it's such a good game. Is it Balderdash? I don't know. Balderdash. Is it uh It's basically a. game where someone will read out a. scenario or um Right. ask a question and. then you have to answer the question to. the best of your ability, but you can. also bluff and lie.

never played this game. you write somewhat of a believing answer. and people vote for your answer, you. win. Oh, cool. Okay, I've never played. it. Which is great, but when I play it, everyone's like. What does that say? That is definitely not spelled right. Good one. But yeah, so my spelling was. really the biggest hurdle. Um I worked. really hard at school. I didn't do. particularly well, but. again, my parents said as long as you. try your best and that's all we can ask. for. Yeah. And acting you started early, too, age nine, right? Like that was. something that you started pursuing.

really early on in life and I feel Was. that something that you were always sure. about? There's that There's that famous. viral Tik Tok that always goes around of. you. you know, I can't I don't know how old. you were being asked you know, what. superhero would you play All right. Yeah. older and you say, "Oh, maybe. Spider-Man." Right? And it's like And. And I wonder like how much of your. acting career do you feel like you've. manifested or there was a vision or a. focus or is it more just like this was. naturally what you were into and it And. it grew. Where Where did that come from? I do believe in manifesting, actually. I.

really do. I think what's interesting. about my career is this was never. something I wanted. I just was a young kid. I loved dancing. My mom would take me to a dance class. every Saturday. And I got spotted through that dance. class to to audition for a show on the. West End. I ended up doing the show. I. loved it. Billy Elliot was the time of. my life. I you know, it was such a cool. experience. I mean. just by complete fluke, an agent came to. see the show the night that I was on. She signed me. She sent me to an.

audition for a film. I was lucky enough. to get the part. All of a sudden I was. on set with Ewan McGregor and Naomi. Watts and we made The Impossible. And to be perfectly honest with you, it. was it was just a hobby. It was. something that my mom would let me do on. the summer holidays. She was very keen. that I kept my schooling up. And there. sort of came that time in England where. you were in between GCSEs and A levels, and you're trying to figure out my when. I was going through that, you could. still drop out at A levels. Obviously, now you have to do A levels. And.

I had that moment where I was like, "What do I want to do? I could try and. stay at school and figure out what I. want to do, or this thing that's been a. hobby, but my sort of summer holiday. activity, which is acting, I could try. and do that for a living.". And I've been so lucky that I've been, you know, offered jobs and all that sort. of stuff. I decided to go with it. I I I joined. the BRIT school because, you know, my. mom was keen that I didn't go for school. for an education, but went to school. to expand my social skills and meet kids. my own age. All my friends when I was 15.

were like 30-year-old people, cuz. they're all adults from the business. Um so, I think my mom was keen that I. had some friends that are my age, who. are now my best friends today. So, I. never really wanted this. I just sort of. never stopped doing it. And I love it. I. absolutely love it. I love the. creativity. I love the building blocks. that are required to put a film. together. I love the collaboration on. set between people from all different. walks of life. You know, a film set is a. melting pot of all sorts of different. people.

Um. so, I love it. I absolutely love it. Yeah. Wow. And And I I read something. that you said you were bullied for like. doing ballet early which obviously got. you into the playing the role of Billy. Elliot cuz it's ballet and tap, right? It's both. So, was Was that Was that. tough at the time? Or like were you. trying to hide it? And then you end up. on, you know, you end up at the West End. and you're on the main stage and. everyone's seeing it? Or was it kind of. easy to navigate? And how did that go. down? Because I feel like as a kid doing. ballet and tap must have been. a little challenging. Yeah, I mean, it.

was it wasn't easy, but it also wasn't. tough, you know? I went to a rugby. school, so you can imagine like the one. kid in the school that does ballet. There's going to be comments here and. there. It wasn't the easiest thing in. the world. There were kids that didn't. understand why I was doing it or what I. was doing it for. No matter how many. times I explained like I'm the only guy. in a class of 30 girls in tights. I was. like, "Guys, this is what you want to be. doing. Like rugby is not it.". But I No, it was tough. But again, like. it goes back to what we were saying. about resilience and and keeping your.

head down and Crowded Room was the. hardest job I've ever had for all sorts. of different reasons and there was a. point in time where we were talking. about. do we shut this down and walk away from. it because of how challenging it was and. you know, I dug my heels in, I put my. head down and was like, "No, I'm going. to finish this. I'm going to see it. through." And I think, you know, you. learn from past experiences like that. So, I really am proud of the way we. everyone handled the Crowded Room and I. think that stems from my childhood, my. dad's experiences and all that sort of.

stuff. Yeah. Well, so I've got a. confession as well to make. Go on. So, I went to rugby school as. well. Okay. And I I I I. I played Yeah, I played for my A team. and I was I was pretty I was pretty I. was pretty good. I was pretty good. Okay. What position did you play? Blindside flanker. Okay. Wow. Yeah. So, I was I was really into rugby. cuz I went to rugby school and I loved. football, but my school didn't play. football and so I was like, "No, I've. got to be on the school's main team.". So, I worked really hard to get on the team. But after we played rugby on a Saturday, my mom forced me to go to dance class.

and part of it was ballet and tap as. well. Although I did not end up at the. West End and play Billy Elliot cuz I. don't think Billy Elliot was brown. So, that wasn't going to happen. So, it. wasn't the same path. But but I also had that experience. That's why I had to ask you about it. enjoy it? I really enjoyed it for the. community aspect of it. Like I love all. the lads that I was there with and they. were just they were just a great laugh. and it was really interesting because. we'd go from I'd literally go from. playing rugby. straight to class on a Saturday and I'd. go in there with all my bruises, exhausted and all the rest of it. But. everyone was just so much fun and it's.

almost like the rugby pitch was more. stressful cuz everyone was like, you. know, trying to be intense and trying to. be this and that, whereas everyone's. just having a laugh at the dance class. We do everything from hip-hop to street. to whatever, but yeah, I remember never. telling I I think this is the first time. I've ever spoken about it. It's been a safe space with you. But it's interesting cuz rugby's. regimented, isn't it? Yeah. I love. rugby, by the way. You play a position that is as specific. as saying the blindside flanker. You. know, when you're a dancer, you're just. a dancer. You know, you.

you can fit in however you want to fit. in. The teacher can ask you how you're. feeling about that rather than like you. need to get your head down to the left. to make a proper tackle. I did love. playing rugby when I was smaller. Yeah. When all the Well, not when I was. smaller, when all the kids were smaller. And then there was that time where I. came back to school after Billy Elliot. and everyone had just become a man and I. was still very much a child. I remember we played this school called. Trinity College. And it was my first. game back and I was playing scrum-half. I came on the second half and it was a.

violent game. It was not It was not a. gentleman's game of rugby. And. I was standing there, we're kicking to. us, we're receiving. And I remember. thinking, as long as the ball doesn't. come to me off of the kick, I'll be. fine. I need the game to get going and. then I'll be fine. I'm scrum-half, relatively safe position, a good. playmaker. As soon as he kicked the ball, it's. coming straight towards me. I I'm trying to catch it. I can hear the. boots running towards me. I fumble it, knock-on. The game goes on. I start. playing well. I assisted a try.

And then I don't remember what happened. or how it happened. But there was a a really tough kid on. our team who will remain nameless. I. haven't spoken to him since. I don't. know what he's doing. But he got into a. fight with some kid on the opposing team. and it was really quite ugly. And then the kid's dad came on the pitch. to tell off this boy that was on my team. and the kid on my team knocked out his. dad. No. Like proper Like it's the first time. I've ever seen someone hit someone. And. I couldn't believe that a kid who was.

How old are you, yeah? He must have been. 16 at the time. He's one of those. 16-year-olds that would look older than. I do now when he was 16 and I just. remember hearing the noise. He like. cracked this dad on the jaw, hit the. floor, then this whole big fight broke. out. I'm not a fighter. I stepped away. and was sort of like, "What's going on?". Yeah, it was wild. That was the last. game of rugby I ever played. It was. against Trinity College. Oh my gosh. Yeah, it was really intense. Wow, that that is intense. Yeah, that's. how intense it got. I my last game was similar, but not not.

watching a fight. So, someone ran. I had it was a big game and it was like. I was playing really well that season. and everything was going really well and. someone ran into a rock, but with their. elbow, which is obviously illegal. totally. They ran in and they elbowed me. right there, like right below and it's. on this side and right below there. And. then next thing I know, I get up and I'm. like kind of feeling a bit aggressive. Are you cut as well? Well, I didn't. notice and then blood starts to drip and. I was like, that's when you freak out.

Mhm. Oh god, I'm I'm like I can And. there's a lot of blood just dripping. So, I get subbed off and the nurse on. the side just puts a bit of glue there, like to stick it together. Mhm. And at the at that time you don't. really notice and you think you're all. right. And then literally an hour later, it's just getting thicker and thicker. and thicker and I ended up with this. Run to the hospital on the way home. because my coach was just like, "Suck it. up. It's fine.". fine, yeah. Run there. They're like, "If you were. any later, you would have had nerve. damage." And like personally potentially. lost your eyesight or whatever it was. and they had to like glue it and a.

little bit of stitches or whatever it. was. And I for the for the rest of the. month, I walked around with my like, you. know, eye literally hanging over and I. looked like I'd got into like the worst. fight. Like I walked into a store and. everyone would kind of back off and. stuff and it was just really. uncomfortable. That was my last game of. rugby. That's why I just remembered. that. But yeah, it was it was it was it. was intense, but it was great. Like you. said, it was great regimented discipline. training. I loved training with my. mates. I loved playing. I loved as a. young man as well like having a outlet. to. release the energy that I had I felt was.

good in in obviously in a way that. wasn't trying to hurt others. what's so great about boxing. It's like. boxing is such a great release. You. know, you see these young kids like. young kids who are angry who need to let. something go like go and punch a bag for. an hour. Like that will make you that. will calm you down. I love how boxing is. such a great thing for young for young. people to to release that sort of. energy. boxing? Do you box? boxing. It's been a few years since I've. I've done any sort of training. I used. to go to this great gym in in New York. called Church Street Boxing. Used to.

love it there. Had a great pro. You. could sort of spar with him cuz you know. that he wouldn't batter you cuz he could. control himself. I went to one sparring. session just. a general session and I got absolutely. battered. Yeah, it was tough but I love it. I love. the sport. I'm a little bit sad as to. like how the sport is being run right. now. But I do love the sport and I admire the. athletes. Yeah. What's your take on. YouTubers boxing and all that kind of. stuff and because it's obviously. bringing a lot of attention to the.

sport. To be perfectly honest with you. mate, I don't really mind it. I think. it's quite fun. I think if you're doing. it for the right reasons, you know, it's. just a great opportunity to raise some. money for amazing charities and I think. a few of them have done a lot for. charity. I think it's really great. I. think yeah, you know, my brother Paddy. would never have been watching boxing. and now Yeah. he loves it because of his. favorite YouTubers are boxing. So, if. it's good for the sport, it's good for. the sport. I sort of don't really mind. I think it's funny to be honest. Yeah, cuz you sit at home watching it you're. like I could do that. I could get in.

there and do that. You're like well, why. don't you? You're like well, I don't. really want to do that. So, we we might see you in Creed 4 then. That's yeah, we'll do the we'll do the. acting boxing. I'd love to do a boxing. movie. I think it would be cool to do a boxing. movie but where the fighting is real. Walk me through that. I wouldn't necessarily be in that film, right? But I do think that you could make a. really interesting film where the. outcome of the film is determined on. the outcome of the real fight. Has. anything like that ever been done? Like.

racing or any Can you I'm just trying to. Not that I know of. Yeah, not that I know of. That's what. I'm trying to think. It could be really. cool. Yeah, wow. But yeah, I love I love. boxing movies. I'm a sucker for it. Yeah, yeah. Which ones Which Which one's. your favorite? I think Rocky II is. probably my favorite. I remember in when. we were in Billy Elliot, we had this. room called the Billy room and there was. always a Billy backstage while the show. was going on because the show was so. labor intensive. It was very dangerous. There's lots of moving parts. There's. lots of acrobatics. It wasn't too. uncommon for a Billy to get injured and.

then there would be someone upstairs who. would replace that Billy. And we would just hang out upstairs and. there was an Xbox and a television and. and all that sort of stuff. And one of. the DVDs that we had The two DVDs we had. were Step Up to the Streets, my favorite. film of all time, and Rocky II. And I. must have seen that film 40 times. I. love that. times did you practice the dance in the. mirror? I've got the whole dance down, but Can we see it? Yeah, no, I love that film. I absolutely. love that film. Yeah, I tell I tell my. favorite So, Rocky was my favorite cuz. I'd watch it with my dad. And Rocky.

I I struggle between Rocky and Rocky I. loved Mr. T and I III That's III. And I. loved Ivan Drago as well, which was. And they were both just such great. movies. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just yeah, it's such great. entertainment even though it's nothing. like real boxing. Yeah, nothing at all. Nothing at all. real boxing. But then I remember. watching real boxing when I was growing. up, it was Prince Naseem. So, I didn't. Yeah, yeah, my dad was a big fan of his, so I'd remember watching him a lot. I. love his style. There's a video of him.

working with the. I guess he's just It's like a swinging. bag and he is so effortless. Cuz. Canelo's got great head movement, but. but he looks like he's thinking about. it. Whereas Naseem is just. living the dream. Just he's so fluid and. I love the way he used to move. Yeah. Yeah. And I love how he would enter the ring. Me, I would over rotate and slam on my. face or something. Yeah, he was. brilliant. Yeah, it's like wrestling meets boxing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. He must. have been a nightmare to fight. It must. have been like, he's beating me and he's.

embarrassing me. This is really tough. Terrible. What do you think of. Lomachenko? Did you see his last fight? No, I didn't see it. I didn't see it. That's an interesting one. Go and tell me. I I didn't see it at. all. Well, I think the general consensus. is that he won. Oh. But it was given the. other way. Right. Right. Yeah. my favorite boxer because of his. history, his background in dance. He was. like, I guess, a really talented boxer. and then I get I don't know if this is. true, but his dad sent him to go and. study dance for sort of 5 years or. something like that. For his boxing. For his boxing, which is why his.

footwork is like on another planet. There's loads of examples of where he's. fighting people and they look up and. he's just gone. He's behind them. So, I I really admire him, but his most. recent fight he lost. How did it go against him? Was it a. vote? It was a vote. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, right, right. It went against him. So, I wonder whether they'll fight. again. Yeah. That I guess they'll have. to if there's It seems like this isn't a. conspiracy theory from you. with boxing, though. Like, will they. fight again? You know, because it's it's. a tricky it's a tricky business. Unlike. the UFC where, you know, if they want to.

fight, they'll fight. That's what I love. about it. I took my brother and my. cousin to the UFC the other night. And. that is such a savage sport. It is. That is. Yeah, it's terrifying. Really don't want that to be a movie in. a real one. Have you seen The Warrior? I was just. about to say I was going to talk about. my favorite movie. That movie. That The Warrior is one of the most. underrated movies. It's so good. Yeah. It's it's a little ridiculous, the idea. that they have like six fights a night. getting ready for one final, but I do. love that film. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a really good. movie. It's a really good movie. Oh,

well. Okay. All right. So, we know. there's a boxing movie coming somewhere. down the line. be one down the line. There's got to be one down the line. Absolutely. Yeah. And we want to see you work your. way up and. think you I mean, we we're see you like, you know, actually go do it for real. Sounds like. Yeah, imagine. For charity, maybe. One of the things. that you mentioned recently was that you. gave up drinking about a year and a half. ago. Yes. And you said it was the hardest thing. you ever did. Yes. And I wanted to know what was so hard. about it for you. Why was it so hard? It's interesting. I I didn't one day.

wake up and say, "I'm giving up. drinking.". I just. like many Brits had had a very, very. boozy December. Christmas time, I was on. vacation. I was drinking a lot. And I've. always been able to drink a lot. I think I get my genes from my mom's. side in that thing. Like, I can I can. drink. And I decided to just give up for. January. I just wanted to do Dry. January. And. all I could think about was having a. drink. It's all I could think about. I I was. waking up thinking about it. I was.

checking the clock, "When's it 12?". And it just really scared me. I just was. like, "Wow, maybe. maybe I have a little bit of an alcohol. thing." So, I sort of decided to punish. myself and say, "I'll do February as. well. I'll do 2 months off.". If I can do 2 months off, then I can. prove to myself I don't have a problem. 2 months go by. And I was still really struggling. I felt like I couldn't be social. I felt. like I couldn't go to the pub and have a. lime soda. I couldn't go out for dinner. I was. really, really struggling. And I started.

to really worry that maybe I had an. alcohol problem. Um so, I decided that I would wait until. my birthday, which is June 1st. I said. to myself, "If I can do 6 months without. alcohol, then I can prove to myself that. I don't have a problem." And by the time. I had got to June 1st, I was the. happiest I'd ever been in my life. I could sleep better. I could handle. problems better. Things that would go wrong on set that. would normally set me off, I could take. in my stride. I had so much such better.

mental clarity. I felt healthier. I felt. fitter. And I just sort of said to myself like. why why am I. enslaved this drink? Why am I so. obsessed by the idea of having this. drink? And I would look back and. recognize that I would go to events for. for work and you know, I can't enjoy. myself until I've had a few beers. And I just. felt so much pressure and this is one of. the things why I've sort of distanced. myself from the rugby community cuz so.

much of it is about how much can you. drink? Let's get you as drunk as. possible. And it's honestly been the best thing. I've ever done. I'm a year and a half. into it now. It doesn't even cross my mind. I found. amazing replacements that I think are. fantastic. Ones that are also really. healthy. I found this one beer that. it's full of electrolytes and it's you. know, the carbohydrates in it are. long-lasting energy. So like having a. beer is now actually like a really. healthy thing. I'm really lucky that all. my friends are super supportive about. it. I've never run into that scenario.

where my friends are like, "Oh, go on. Just have a beer. Like you're fine.". They've always sort of really supported. me and I don't want to be that person. that's saying to people, "You should get. sober. You should get sober." If I could. encourage someone to drink less, then that's great. But I I don't want to. start getting into the world of you need. to stop drinking because I just it's. it's not for me to say. I went on my own. little journey. I'm really enjoying it. I'm delighted that my mom's all has also. given up. She's loving it. And it's been. amazing. I can't believe the difference. that I feel from not drinking. Yeah. I.

feel amazing. That's amazing, man. I love hearing. that. And and I love hearing that it's. been great for you, right? I think. that's That's the point. Not everything. has to be like, "Look what I did. You. can do it, too." It's kind of like, "No, this is just what's been great for me.". Do you think it was partly that attitude. for you at least in the beginning where. it's like, "Well, look. I can drink. I. drink a lot. It comes from my mom's. genes and it doesn't affect me." And. then all of a sudden you realize, "Well, wait a minute. It's more than that.". Because I think there is that like I was. like that as a young man as well. Like. for me it was it was easy to drink. I I. didn't drink daily. For me I drank a lot. more socially. And I I playing drinking.

games with my mates. And that that was. really what I enjoyed the most probably. And for me, when I quit, I could just. quickly see how it just got me into. doing things I would never do if I. wasn't drunk. So, for me it was For me. it was more that. But yeah, I wonder for. you, did you find that it's there's a. really fine line between like, "Oh, I. know I can drink a lot." And then all of. a sudden, you're kind of addict- not. addicted beyond that. mate. I'm happy to say that I was. definitely addicted to alcohol. Not. shying away from that at all. I think. anyone that wakes up and has a Not wakes. up. Anyone that has a beer every day is.

probably got a little bit of a problem. But yeah, you're right. I would drink and drink and drink and. drink, and then you would just reach. that moment where you're like, "Wow, I. shouldn't have had that last beer." And. you wake up the next day and you have a. terrible headache and you're suffering. I I bought one of those rings that will. tell you about your sleep. And it was amazing cuz I couldn't sleep. I was like, "Why can't I sleep? I'm. working 14 hours a day. I'm doing 2. hours in the gym. I'm eating really. healthily, and I can't sleep. What's. wrong with me?" I bought this ring, and. it was booze. It just It was a. completely affecting my sleep, and since.

I've given it up, I can sleep anywhere. You know? It's also interesting as well. going on nights out. and having a great time as the sober. person, and then getting to that point. in the night where people start, you. know, spitting in your ear, and. everyone's like, "I love you, man. I. love you so much." And you're like, "Yeah, brilliant. I love you, too. I'll. see you tomorrow. I'm going to bed.". But I love being that person now. I love. seeing my friends on the golf course at. 8:00 a.m. in the morning feeling fresh. and ready to go. And they're sort of. crawling out their car and So, yeah. So,

I I I'm. over the moon to be sober. I love it. Yeah. For anyone who is listening right. now and is going, "Tom, I love that for you. I want to do. it, too." Like they're listening going, "I'm having too much every day. I can. notice some of those things, but I'm. just stuck." And it's hard because we. know that addiction's that way. We know. that this is heavy. It's not easy. But. if someone is watching going, "Tom, tell. me like what What did you do to even get. started? How did you have that courage. to say, 'I'm going to do January. I'm. going to stick at it. Were there any. moments where you actually fell back and. then had to get back on the horse again?

Like, just walk us through that a little. bit more for anyone who is watching. going, "Tom, mate, I I want to be in. your position in like 6 months." I. didn't fall back on it. I have done in. the past. Like, I've had. periods of my life where I'd given up. drinking and then gone back to drinking. Um but this time. I don't know. It was just different. I. really worked to sort of change my. mindset. I really asked myself like, "Why do you drink? Why are you. drinking?" And a lot of the time my. answer would be to feel more comfortable.

in the social environment. Yeah. And I just put myself. in those environments and just would. force myself to be there. I'd force. myself to hang out and and go to a club. or go to a bar or go to a dinner. Yeah, so you weren't avoiding those places. I. was at the beginning because I didn't. feel like I could go and not have a. drink because of the stress of it. But. then after a while I sort of was like, "Mate, you've got to pull your socks up. here and you can't just live in your. house all the time. You've got to go out. and enjoy yourself. And And if you're. only enjoying because you're drinking, then you really do have a problem." But. I just changed my mindset. I just I.

found really good replacements. Things that I could sort of attribute to. having a beer. I often found with me, most of it is just the ritual of. cracking something open and sharing it. with friends and drinking it. Whether. it's sparkling water or a beer, I now. can't I don't associate like I don't see. a difference. Yeah. I don't think it's. different for everyone. I had a great. support system. Jack is one of my best. mates and we travel all over the world. He doesn't drink and doing it with him. was was a really. helpful experience for me. My brother is.

always on the road with me. He was very. supportive. And yeah, I just really set my mind to. it. I was like, "I really want to do. this. I want to prove to myself I can do. it.". Yeah. And then once I'd felt the health. benefits and started really feeling like. my full self, I was like, "Oh my god, this is this is the best." But do you. not drink? I haven't drank for 17 years. No way. Congratulations. That's amazing. Yeah, it's it's incredible. Wow. one of the. Like worry when I was about to quit was. like how am I going to hang out with my.

mates? That was my biggest worry. That was me back. Like. Like a guy. I was like crap. Like. Like. Like. Like. Sure.

Sure. Yeah. Sure. Sure. Right. Sure.

Right. Yeah. Of course.

There is a way community of people and I. love it. I love being a part of that. community. I'm really proud to be a part. of it. I hope that, you know, I can meet. other people and chat to them about it. because it's really nice. It's lovely to.

be like, let's go get a lime soda. together, you know? Yeah, let's get a. juice. Yeah, let's get a smoothie. Yeah. Yeah, no, it it it is true. It's true. and it's really interesting because they. I can't remember I I'm trying to. remember there was this blog that came. out years ago. I can't even remember it. now and there was this girl on Instagram. who was getting a lot of likes and a lot. of comments and a lot of attention. And one day she just disappeared. Like. she stopped posting. And everyone was just like all the. comments were like, where are you? What.

happened? Are you okay? Like what. happened to you? You know, everyone was. frantic trying to figure out what. happened to her because they loved her, they were following her and all the rest. of it. And. what they didn't know is that it was. built by a team that was trying to show. that what people didn't notice is that. in every picture she posted she was. drinking. And it was a made-up it was. almost like original AI that was made up. to prove the point that you can love. someone and you can think you're really. close to them and you you can think. their lifestyle looks amazing but. actually they've got a drink in every. picture they post and you didn't realize. they had an alcohol problem. So there.

was no real person who died but the. point was that this your friends could. be struggling even when they're posting. these beautiful lifestyle pictures but. are you aware? Wow. And are you conscious of how much. it affects you? And I can't can't. remember who built that page. I I think that's one of the problems. with alcohol is that if you came out. with alcohol right now, if alcohol. wasn't a thing and you like I've. invented this drink that is going to. make you like either really happy or. really aggressive or really stupid and. we're going to just sell it to the. masses.

People would be like, nah, mate, keep your funky juice. Like. we don't want that. That sounds. terrible. And it's one of those things. cuz it is so socially acceptable that. the addiction side of it, the bad sides. of it really do fly under the radar. Yeah. And that's really interesting. I'll tell you something I do love about. being a non-drinker. I love being the. designated driver. Yeah. I love being that person that makes sure. that everyone gets home. I don't know. I just I like being a. dependable person. I I think I'm quite. dependable and I really like that that. um thing and I saw this crazy YouTube.

video once. This was years ago of a guy. that went to a bar, he got drunk, and he. drove home, and he crashed his car. And I don't know if this is real. It. could have been fake, but it's really. impactful. Basically, what his friend. had done was. set up the room as if he had been in a. coma for like 10 years. And his friend wakes up hours after the. crash. and his friend is there and he had all. like old makeup on to make him look. older. And now I'm thinking about it, there's.

no way this could have been real because. how would they have been able to pull. that off? But he basically is saying to. him like, "You've been asleep for 10 years. Everyone's missed you. Like we can't. believe you're awake. This is amazing.". And it shows like how a stupid decision. like driving drunk can affect the future. of your life. So I do love being the designated. driver. That is something I enjoy. Seeing my friends have a good time and. being like, "Don't worry, Tom will take. you home." Yeah. I I I used to love being the designated. driver until I realized that my next. girlfriend just had me do that because I. was the one who didn't drink.

That wasn't a fun designated driver job, but I've always been that guy since. because so I I lived as a monk for 3. years. Yeah, amazing. And when I came back after that, obviously I never went back to drinking. alcohol and everything. And so but I. went back into the workplace and I. remember everyone would always open up. to me and give me advice. But it's what. you're saying, when someone was drunk, they'd tell me their whole life story. Yeah. Next day they'd wake up and go, "Jay, you don't actually remember what I. said, right?" And I'm like, "I remember. everything." They're like, "Please don't. tell anyone.". You know, and I loved I loved that part. where I was like I was able to be there. for people. Totally. Just hear their stories.

100%. that had context the next day cuz if. they told someone else who was drunk, you'd both not remember and it'd be. gone. No, I I think the benefits that. you've just pointed out of good sleep, good health, great mental clarity, they're huge. But, there's a couple of. things I want to point out for everyone. who's listening just as takeaways cuz. Tom makes it. so seamless when you're talking about. it. It's really beautiful as well. But, one of the things you mentioned was. finding alternatives. And during my monk. life, we always talked about how there. was there was something that we called. the higher taste. And it was saying you. can never give up a lower taste unless.

you had a higher taste. Sure. And so, there has to be a switch. There. has to be a replacement. be a replacement. 100% the fact that you. found alternatives, I think that's half. the battle. Cuz most of us are trying to. take something out of our lives, and. then you're just trying to fill it. Yeah. And then you have to go back to. what you had before because you're not. finding a replacement. So, that was. beautiful. And the second thing you said. which I loved which was having this. conversation and dialogue with other. people. Someone who's 1 year ahead of. you, someone who's 10 years ahead, someone who's 20 years ahead who's gone. through that process, and they're open. and honest and vulnerable about, "You.

know what? I did have a weak moment.". Or, "You know what? This was really. tough for me." And I think having those. communities where you can talk about. these things makes a massive difference. So, if anyone's struggling, I hope that. those two things can kind of, you know, give you the support you need. And. again, it goes back to the message of of. the show is that like you should ask for. help. And you should feel empowered to. do so. Yeah. But, tell me about your. monk life. Like, that must have been. amazing. It was special. I've always been so tempted to go away. and do one of those retreats where, you know, you go to somewhere like India. and you go to those places where you.

don't speak for a month or something. like that. Like, that must have just. been the most enlightening experience. Mate, now that you've said that, when. you when you want to go, I'm going to. take you. Please. Cuz I would. absolutely love to go. I met a guy I was. on holiday earlier this year, and he had. just got back from a retreat. He had 2. weeks where he didn't make a sound. Mhm. And was just explaining to me how. eye-opening it was. Yeah. Yeah, no. I I mean, to me it was. one of the best experiences of my life. because even the stuff that I did then, I was 22 years old when I did it.

Even the stuff that I did then, I don't. even know if I'd be able to do it. anymore now, but there was such a like. energy you had as a 22-year-old where. you're just open to any experience and. wanting to try it all out. Amazing. And I think for me it was. because and it comes back to the people. that have done things. When I was 18 was. when I first met a monk. I I never. really knew what monks did or. any of their practices, but I met a monk. who I write about in my book who just. blew my mind because he was the first. person I met that I felt was at ease.

with himself. And when I was 18 I'd met. people who were like rich and famous and. you know, beautiful and powerful and all. this type of stuff, but I don't think. I'd met anyone who was truly happy and. content with themselves. Not happy like, "Oh, I'm so happy. Life's amazing." I. mean more like happy with who they. with who they are. with who they were. yeah, totally. And for some reason at 18. that kind of like was an arrow straight. to my heart where I was like, "That's. that's real. Like I want that." And it. just it's so hard to explain because.

everyone's like, "Well, how did you know. that at 18?" I was like, "I don't know. It must have been how powerful he was.". It's kind of like it's kind of like you. wake up when when the sun's out and the. light's out and you just wake up because. you feel that energy. And I felt it. through him and then I I went to. university and I'd talk to him and I'd. meet him in the summers and Christmases, but I just decided I was like, "I want. to do this because I'd met someone who I. felt had emotional and mental mastery in. a way that I'd never seen before." Wow. And so when I went out there and whether. it was the meditation training or.

whether it was the simplicity training. of the lifestyle or whether it was the. the the teachings and the values that. you had to live by, I just got so I got so much from it that. I honestly believe that anything that. I'm good at doing today is because of. what I learned during that time. And so. anything I'm good at today is because of. that. Do you think that you found what. he had? Yeah, I believe so and I would. say that. Or has he. still got it? right. Yeah, Yeah, I still see him every year. Amazing. And he still has it. Like. yeah, it's like swag. Like it doesn't go.

away. He still has it. And yeah, definitely, definitely. I got a glimpse. into it. Obviously, he's been doing it. for, you know, nearly 30 years and I. only did it for three, but you still get. to a glimpse of it and you get an. experience of it, so you know that it. exists. And I think that's half the. battle, too. Like even with your. sobriety, it's like you just need to. know it exists. Totally. And then you're like, "Wow, there's this other side.". 100%. though it's a challenge and even though. I'm still trying to be more mindful. every day and I'm still working on. myself because it's Of course. It's an.

endless. Yeah, it's endless. ongoing thing. Yeah, I know I know it. And and I take a lot. of friends and and people I know on. retreats there because just a couple of. years ago I took someone that I love to. one of the caves in Rishikesh. So, one. of the things I love about caves is that. they're equally dark and silent. Yeah. So, it's almost like the first time that. we could be silent in this room and it. would be silent, but the silence of a. cave Yeah, yeah, yeah. Different level. And so, when you go in there, you can't. see anything either. So, you can't even. see yourself. So, you're so deep into the cave that.

there's no light from the mouth of the. cave anyway. There's no light from the. mouth mouth of the cave. Oh, I don't know about that. That's. really stressing me. No, you hold hands. No, you don't hold hands, but it's it's just. it's one of those experiences that you. actually get to experience real. stillness and real silence and real real. disconnection. from everything around you. And then you. can actually listen to yourself. Yeah, it's interesting. I would love to. do something like that. Something that I. find myself doing a lot.

is. if I see. a beautiful landscape or something. I will try and. see if I can find an angle of it where. there's nothing man-made in the view. Cuz you know what it's like? Like you. see a beautiful hill or something and. there's a telephone pole in the middle. of it or a lamp post or something. So, doing something like that where there is. nothing but just. mother nature and the silence and being. with yourself. I'm obsessed with nature. It's like one.

of my biggest passions. I'm absolutely. like this new our planet show has just. come out. One sitting I've done the. whole thing. Um so I would love to do something like. that. So next time you go in let me. know. I'll come with you. yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Oh, I love Bali. it was unbelievable. We went white water. rafting and it almost felt like Jurassic. Park. I was just waiting for a dinosaur. head to pop out. And it was just. beautiful. It was so lush. It was so. natural. There was these waterfalls. everywhere and another place that I've.

loved nature wise India of course we we. mentioned but Iceland. I'd love to go to. Iceland. a few years ago and my friend was. filming a documentary out there. Mhm. And so I got to experience it with the. documentary travelers and we went to a. real glacier and we went to you know and. and it was incredible to just it was the. first time I felt like I'd landed on. another planet. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It was just I literally I was like this. looks like nothing I've ever seen before. in my life. Like I'm on another like I I. could have Yeah. I could have gone into. outer space and landed on another.

planet. There's a reason why every single space. film Iceland is the first on the list. for locations. Oh, is that the I didn't know that. Yeah. I'm think Interstellar probably shot in. Iceland. So. yeah, so I'm sure all of those films, you know, cuz you could do you could do. Mars, you could do Venus all in you. know, in Iceland. I would love to go. I don't know we were thinking about. doing some climbing and I'm not sure. about how I feel about. glaciers and walking across them and. just falling and never being found.

Yeah, we we walked across them and. obviously there were teams there. but and then they had an expert and they. went down into the glacier like they. went into one like and it was and it was. really scary because while we were. walking on the glacier and we've got the. I forgot what those little boots are. called the ones with the kind of like. The little prongs. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I forgot what. they're called, but anyway, we had those. on and uh Crampons. Crampons. Crampons. Crampons, crampons, okay, crampons. Thank you for that, Jack. And so, we. were wearing these crampons and and. literally it was like three steps. further and you you would have fallen.

and you don't see it. And you would never be found. you would never be found. You would. never know and it would be like that. movie, what's it, 126 Hours? Where the. guy had to saw off his own arms. 126 Hours, mate, in 10 minutes the ice. would just. Yeah, no, I That's a bit too far for me. Well, if you went with a group of, you. know, experts and all the rest of it, I. think Yeah, but you've seen the. documentary. Sometimes the experts go. out and it's a one it's a one-way story. They don't ever come back, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, you got you got to. be careful. I agree. I agree. I'll show. you some videos later then because it. was pretty. love to. Yeah, please. It was pretty.

spectacular. It was really amazing. No, I I love I love that with your journey. with Sub Zero and again, the other thing. we were talking about this earlier, going back to it was you. decided to take a break from acting. Yeah. because you were doing this role, it it. was really tough and challenging. Mhm. and and you were like you need some. time and again, you were saying that. that was misconstrued. And I just before. we dive into why you needed to take a. break and and what was challenging about. it, I just wanted to just if you wanted. to give context to that and you don't. have to, but if you wanted to just.

to clarify. what you meant and what was going on. there. It's only a break from acting. because I'm an actor. Yeah. It's not. like the acting itself. I just have been. so lucky that in my life I've been. working so much. I just wanted to take a. break. I just wanted to be in one place. for a while. I wanted to be with my. friends, be with my family, move into my. house. So, it wasn't necessarily. oh my god, I need to have a break from. acting cuz it's too much. I just needed. to have a break from traveling and and.

working and and also, I've done so much. of my growing up on the road. I needed. to do a lot of growing up at home. Paying my water bill, paying my. council tax and sorting out my bins and. all that sort of stuff that they don't. teach you at school, which I think there. should be a lesson. I think there should. be a lesson at school that's called. life. Which is like laundry, basic cooking, like. I didn't realize you have to pay for. your water. I just thought that was a. luxury of living in England. That water. comes out the sky, and then it comes out. your tap. I'm so behind on my water.

bill. I didn't realize. I'm up to date now, don't worry. So, yeah, I just wanted to take this. break, and it's a shame again talking. about the press and how they can spin. things. It's a shame that this year off. has come after this incredibly hard job, and that they kind of ran with this idea. that yes, the show did break me, and. yes, it was difficult, but I could have. gone back to work. I was always planning. on taking this break after this job. So, thank you for giving me the time to sort. of clarify that. I am loving having time. off, and going back to work is. something that isn't really on my radar.

yet. I'm just loving being with my. family and my friends, and and enjoying, you know, the fruits of my labor a. little bit, and and traveling and seeing. the world. Cuz, you know, we get to see the world. for work, but it's different. Yeah. You know, going off of your own. accord and and and seeing these places. and meeting people is is what I love. I'm very social, which is one of the things I found so. difficult about giving up alcohol is. because I was like, that's my key to my. social life. And then I realized, I was. like, no, you're just actually. naturally a really social person. The.

alcohol is a just an additive to that. Yeah. So, get rid of it. So, yeah, so my. my my year off has been amazing. I'm. loving it. I'm six months, seven months. into it now. I have a job to go to, but. you know, obviously we're going through. this writer's strike right now. We're. unsure as to where we are. Um I'm hoping. that, you know, the writers can make a. deal and we'll be looked after as they. should be, because it'd be great to get. back to work, but I'm in no rush. I'm. really loving some time at home. Yeah, cuz how old are you now? 27. Yeah, and so if you've been working since you. were nine, or at least, you know, later.

on into your teens, I think I mean, people forget that. And I I coach. personally a a of musicians and who go. on tour a lot. Sure. And I just finished a 40-city. world tour for my second book. And we. did like 40 cities maybe in like 75, 80. days maybe. Like it was intense. We went. all over the world. So we did like. I've never done anything like that. Yeah. Did 15 cities in the US and then. 25 cities around the world. Wow. And so we did everywhere from Paris, Amsterdam, Berlin, Melbourne. We did. three shows at the Sydney Opera House,

Brisbane. Did Singapore. Did five shows. in India. Did Dubai. Wow. But it was And it was amazing. I. had one of the best experiences of my. life. At the same time. I was reflecting on. my music clients who have to do 100, 150. shows. Mhm. A lot of them pull out of doing. their tours. A lot of them announce, kind of like you're saying I took a. break. A lot of them will announce and. say, you know what guys, I can't I can't. finish. I can't do it anymore. And it's really interesting because I. messaged some of them straight away. saying, I always could understand why. you needed that. Now I actually have.

actual empathy for you because now I'm. on the road. And I can see how. displacing it is. Sure. And I'm older. and I have a certain set of skills that. help me with that based on my monk life. and all the rest of it. But I got I can. imagine if you've been touring since you. were 15 years old, which is what a lot. of these artists have done. Yeah. You've like you just said, you. grow up on the road. Sure. And then all of a sudden you're. like, well, who am I and who are my. friends and and what is my life? And now. everyone that I pay is my friend and.

that's the only friends I have. And you. know, and so it's really interesting how. when you get a little glimpse into. someone's life. And then on my the last. show I had was in Barcelona. I know. Barcelona. Yeah, it was amazing. And the. night before my last show, Live Nation. who was doing my show there, they also. do uh Coldplay's tour. And they were. like, do you want to come to Coldplay. watch Coldplay? I was like, I'd love to. watch Coldplay. So I went the night. before to watch Coldplay. It was. unbelievable. They did four sold-out. shows of 65,000 people each night in. Barcelona. And Chris I went to watch the. fourth night and Chris Martin and the. crew were just unbelievable.

Yeah. And then I found out it was their. 89th show. And I was thinking, gosh, like it is so hard. Like it's just so. hard and all their families are with. them and traveling with them and all the. rest of it. And so, I want to touch on. that with you as well that walk us. through because. I've talked about this with actors. offline and I don't think I've fully. done it online. And so, if you're. willing to go there, I'd really. appreciate it. When you're playing a. role, I think as a viewer we massively. underestimate. how hard acting is, especially when the.

role is the kind of role that you're. playing in The Crowded Room. Yeah. I think we just underestimate as a. viewer and I'm fortunate enough to know. enough actors offline where I've had. these conversations before, whether. whether it's people who do method acting. or whether it's people who you know, really try and get into character. Like. you always hear about the stories of. like how Jared Leto, when he was. becoming the Joker, was sending people. rats and human feces in their mail. Like. literally live rats. if you send me human feces in my mail, there'll be trouble. I wouldn't be putting up with that.

Yeah, you you and Jared Leto in a boxing. match. be a boxing movie then. But but you know, that idea of like I. think I think as viewers we don't It's. what I'm saying is like when I went on. tour, I was like, I get it. I get it. now. As viewers, we don't get it because. we don't really hear about the deep. process that actors go through of. getting into a role, playing someone. with. multiple personalities. Like you know, that I don't know. It is that Is that. tough or is it actually Or is that not. as Am I getting it wrong and that's not. actually the tough part? You're definitely not getting it wrong.

I think it's just different. It's. case-by-case, you know? There are people. like Jared who who dive into their roles. and they do things like sending people. dead rats and stuff like that. And they. think that that's what they need to do. I've always been really good at. separating my onset emotions from my. personal life emotions. As a young kid, I used to really heavily. rely on my personal emotions to get them. to come across on screen. And And just. found it really unhealthy. I just found. that like the line between my life and. my character's life would be blurred.

And ultimately at the end of the. experience of making the film, I would. be a very different person, but not. because of my experiences as Tom, it. would be because of my experiences as my. character. So I decided very early on to. find certain techniques and certain ways. to get into those emotions from a sort. of technical point of view. I never sit. on set and think about my my mom getting. sick or my or never speaking to my. brothers again or something like that. I. never blur the lines with my personal.

life and my work life. I always leave. work at work. There are jobs like The. Crowded Room that are particularly. taxing. Getting to those emotions on a. daily basis is really difficult and. really tiring. But, you know, it's probably somewhat. like Coldplay on their 80th night show. You just dig your heels in, you realize. you've got a job to do. We're all. wonderfully well-paid. There are people. that work far harder for far less. I. recognize how lucky I am, so I'm like, if I need to cry today and tomorrow and. the next 50 days in a row, I'll do so.

Yes, it's difficult, but. I think your question, I'm probably the. worst person to ask that cuz I think I. have like a really healthy. outlook on how I achieve my emotions on. set. Yeah. Um but I have worked with. people that. shut their bedroom door and just dive. into the character and are pouring. through the script every night and and. are in character all the time and I. admire them. I don't necessarily think. it's the healthiest way to go about it. But yeah, I've always been really strict. on myself to leave my work at work.

Obviously, I come home and read the. script and do all of my prep work, but. I'm not I'm leaving the character at. work because it's too it's too much. Especially when you're playing a. character like like Danny from The. Crowded Room, like you can't bring that. into your personal life. It's tough. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that but I'm actually glad I asked it to. you the way because what I'm actually. hearing is you did it early on and you. saw it wasn't healthy. Sure. And so you. actually found another way. Yeah. And. and it's really interesting because a. lot of people may not have found another.

way or that is their way and that is. their method. And so it actually is. interesting hearing it from your. perspective because you're actually. saying, "Yeah, I could have gone down. that road. I could see the dangers with. it.". Right. And and obviously it depends on. the roles, too. Sorry, you were going to. say No, it's just it was my acting. coach, Ben Perkins was my acting coach. on my first film. And that film was really, really. emotionally intense. And we started off. by doing things like, "Can you imagine, you know, your mom passing?" Or can you. imagine things like that? And I would. cry instantly. Yeah. And he was the one.

that actually recognized at a point, "This is too much for this young kid to. kind of take." So he devised these. exercises where him and I could kind of. have. these fake arguments where I was as a. 12-year-old, oh, maybe I was older than. that, 13-year-old could recognize that. they were exercises and I would allow. the emotion to kind of come from these. kind of acting. techniques, let's call it. So it was. actually Ben that was the one that. switched my. my mindset. I can't take credit for.

that. Yeah. So you you live in LA? Yeah, so I. moved to. LA 5 years ago. Yeah. moved to the States 7 years ago. So I. was in New York for the first two. Whereabouts in New York were you? I was. on 23rd Street near Flatiron. Okay, nice. So yeah, it was good in in. Manhattan. And moved with my wife. We've. been married for 7 years. Amazing. Together for 10. Fantastic. And. yeah, it's just been really interesting, mate. It's like, did you ever end up. moving? Did you ever live in LA at all. or in the US at all or have you always. been in London? Sort of what we were.

talking about earlier, I've kind of. lived all over the place. I've lived in. LA, I've lived in New York, I've lived. in Atlanta, you know, I've lived in. Cleveland, which was amazing. Um so I. I really like spending time in the. States. Yeah. We just obviously created a room, we did a year in New York. Yeah. We moved to Tribeca, we started off in. Midtown. And Midtown for me was a bit of. a nightmare. It's where all the schools. are. So, I'd come home from work and I'd. come outside and it's like all the. biggest Spider-Man fans you've ever seen. in your life. Yeah, it's like the worst panic in the. world. We moved out to TriBeCa to this.

amazing apartment which was really. lovely. We were very lucky to be down. there. But, um. But, where So, how do you find LA? I So, you know what? It's really interesting. because when I I moved to New York first. Yeah. and I loved it. I found New York. to be just a bigger, crazier London. Sure. more intense. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and I love London. I'm a I'm a London boy through and. through. I went to university here. My. My family's still here. Mhm. My wife's. family's here. Everyone's amazing. And. so, but but I enjoyed New York. My wife. didn't love New York. And.

also at the same time I I started. spending more time in LA for work. And. my wife and I just like fell more in. love with each other when we were there. And so, that's what it was that drew us. there. It wasn't really Everyone's. always like, "Oh, was it career?" I was. like, to be honest, we went there for a month. for work. And we rented an apartment. because we're going to be there for a. month. Mhm. And we're living together there and. we just loved living with each other. there. Home is where the heart is. really. And so, we were like, "All. right, we love it here. Why don't we. pack our bags and move across?" And so, we went back to New York 2 months later.

We moved over to LA. So, it wasn't even, you know. And now we've been there for 5. years. And the truth is that I I was. really intentional. when I move somewhere. So, while I'm. building my purpose and my work and my. career, which I absolutely love what I. get to do every day, and. I I I could never have dreamed of doing. what I do. I'm super grateful. But, at the same time I was really. intentional about building community and. family. Mhm. And it was like an actual like. thought process. Sure. Where I was like, as well as you're always building the. people you know at work, you're always. building relationships, you're hiring.

employees and team members and. everything. At the same time I've got to. think about actually making friendships. because in London I got all my mates. I. got the my best man at my wedding. I've. been mates with Raj for like 17 years. Like, I've got people around me, but in. LA I don't have that. I don't have any. family, any friends. I don't know. anyone. And so, I really made an effort. And now, after 5 years, I can honestly. say, you know, obviously not in a. wonderful way, but the pandemic did help. deepen some of those friendships because. I was stuck with those people. So, only. could go deeper. Made some really good. friends.

Nice. And so, I feel happy there, and I. feel really connected to my purpose. there. And at the same time, I love. coming back to London. Right. and hanging out with my mates. And so, I And me and my wife made a. decision. when we moved that we would never say we. lived anywhere. We would just. be allowed to go wherever we wanted to. go. So, whenever my wife misses London, she's back on a flight to London. She'll. come live here for 2 months and come. back whenever she wants. Amazing. And And it's the same for me. And that. kind of like not having a rule around, you know, obviously we're lucky to have. that. It's an amazing luxury to have.

course. Yeah. And but yeah, I I I'm I share the same. kind of outlook on it, you know. I I. couldn't really say I live anywhere. I. sort of live where the work is, and when. I'm not working, I'm either here or in. LA. Yeah. And And I'm so lucky to be. able to sort of call the world my home. I just go wherever the the wind takes. me. I can. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. But that's. glorious, man. Yeah, man. Yeah, it's been good It's. been good for me. It's been good to me. And And I think with because of the work. I do, it very clearly lets people know. whether I'd connect to them or not. I. feel like my work is so obviously one.

way Sure. that it's very easy cuz not. everyone wants this in their life. So, it's kind of easy for people to be like, "No, I'm not going to make any effort. with Jay. Or I'm going to make lots of. effort with Jay." And so, it kind of. makes it very easy cuz my work is me. Do. you find because of what you do and your. skill set and your experiences and your. life as a monk that people unload on you. a lot? Yes. Like Like you might meet a new. person and they're sort of saying, "Well, I'm I'm feeling this way, and I I. would love to try and get to a place of. enlightenment." Like, that must happen. to you a lot.

Yes, yeah, a lot. It can It can happen. at the train station. It can happen on a. plane. It can happen anywhere in the. world, yeah. And do you welcome those conversations? Do you like having those sorts of. conversations? So I think it depends. where we are and and it depends who it. is and I always say to people as a. disclaimer that I don't want to give you. the. belief. that I can solve your life in 30 seconds. or that I could ever solve your life for. you. Totally. Just to be really clear that. I'm and I always say that to people. because people are like, "Jay, tell me.

what I need to do." and I'll be like, "Look, I just want you to be fully aware. that I'm happy to share some insights. with you. but I don't have the power or gift or. magical ability. Right, right, right. to transform your life and nothing I can. say in 30 seconds. I don't even want to take that. responsibility on because. we should really think about this. Like. you should reflect on your life. Like. especially when people are making big. decisions where it's like, "Jay, should. I break up? Should I move country? Should I do this?" and I'm like, "We're. not solving this in 30 seconds." Like. please don't. is a bigger conversation.

yeah, and and I like people that takes. the pressure off me but it also takes. the pressure off them. Yeah. Cuz a lot it's not even about me. This. is about the fact that that person needs. to make a really important decision and. they're putting all the pressure of. their life on that moment and actually. I'm saying, "Well, let's just take it. off." and here's a few things I want you. to reflect and think about and I know. that will help you and you'll figure it. out. And so yeah, I I welcome them. because I appreciate that. I don't feel that I'm the one holding. space Mhm. and I don't believe that I'm. the one who has the power to hold space.

I believe that the universe holds space. I believe that energetically that space. is held. Totally. by others and I don't feel I'm. this powerful human being who's. who's the one that everything rests on. Sure. and has the answer to everything. and I think that's what allows me to be. liberated from it where I'm not like I. also don't put the pressure on myself. going, "God, I better say the most. perfect thing to this I better change. this person's life. life." Yeah, and I. can't and I don't and I and I think once. upon a time I probably did feel that. way. Like when you're when you're. immature and you're an amateur in your.

work, you almost feel like you have to. have all the answers, and now I'm like, you know what? I don't, and it's fine, and actually people really appreciate it. where you just chat to them, and you. know. And so, yeah, and and again, you. know, I'm I'm always happy to listen to. someone when I can. Obviously, there's. sometimes when I'm like rushing late for. a plane or Yeah, yeah, yeah. trying to. get into a car or whatever, and I can't. I can't do it. But, I always stop and. say hello, give someone a hug, and all. those things. Yeah. So, I don't know if. that answers your question, but No, absolutely it does. I guess what's what you're saying about. making decisions, something that I am.

constantly battling with myself is the. inner battle between my gut and my. brain. Mhm. I know that sounds really. weird. No, it's real. I go with my gut a. lot. I'm very, very I think a lot of the. decisions I make in life are very sort. of instinctual. I don't like to be. bombarded with. evidence and facts and all that sort of. stuff. I just like to feel a certain way. about how. I would like something to sort of. transpire. Can be taking a film, accepting a script, doing a business. deal, buying a house. Like, it's all. sorts of different things.

Through your monk life, did you feel. like. you would rely on your. kind of inner instincts rather than like. getting the evidence of this is going to. make you this much money, or if you do. that, these are the risks. How do you. Where do you stand with that sort of. thing? That was the most poorly worded. question, but you know what I mean. Mate, mate, I think both I think this. has been such a conversation that that. is what a question sounds like in a. conversation, and and I've I think I've. asked you fairly poorly worded questions. today as well, but I think that's what.

real communication is. Yeah. Yeah, rather than like, mate, I've got. question one. Uh but, no, I I I think I. get what you're saying, and if I go on. the wrong track, let me know. But, living as a monk, you're trained to. understand that everything exists in a. certain mode. And so, I'll explain what. that means. And so, in the monk philosophy, there are three. modes. And the modes are the mode of. ignorance, the mode of passion, and the. mode of goodness. And it's said that. every decision, every thought, every. action, every intention, every.

relationship can be in the mode of. ignorance, mode of passion, or mode of. goodness. And the mode of ignorance is. where your relationships or any act is. based on insecurity or fear. Okay. doing something out of fear, or you're. doing it out of insecurity, or you're. doing it out of pressure, that's. considered the mode of ignorance. And. energetically, we all feel that, right? You know whether you. I would know whether you were being. forced to do this interview today Sure. out of out of some sort of fear or some. sort of whatever it may be. The mode of passion is where you're.

doing something because you want a. certain result. You're doing it just for. the reward. You're doing it just because. it's going to get what you want you. want. It's going to get you to the goal. Okay. And so, that's considered the mode of. passion. And again, energetically, you. can tell that when someone has an agenda. or Right, right, right. someone wants something out of you. I've come here to get my point across on. something or right. Totally. And then, finally, the mode of. goodness is the energy of like, I feel. really at peace. I feel really at ease. This feels. aligned with my values, and therefore it.

feels like the right decision. And so, we were trained to sense energetically. whether things felt like the mode of. ignorance, mode of passion, or mode of. goodness, which was a really helpful. framework because sometimes things were. really hard to. just sense without knowing where it sat. in terms of a characteristic. That's so interesting. And so, that was really, really helpful. at the time. And so, I find that I'm I'm. the same as you where I make decisions. energetically. Yeah. But I think having moved into the. real world again, I felt that I had to.

start getting used to understanding. other elements. Kind of what you. mentioned earlier, which I loved, which. was like, I wish they had a class on. life at school. Because it's like you. haven't paid your bill, and you know, you you know, there's football players. not paying their taxes, or whatever it. may be, and like uh that may be for. different reasons. But anyway, you get. the point that that there's some things. that you just don't know, and so what. I've started to do, and I've said this a. few times, and that's where it's a. little formula that I use. When I sit. down with someone, whether it's. business, whether it's relationships,

whether it's work, even whether it's. this, the first thing is always energy. That's my first gate that I that I want. to get through. And if I don't feel. energetically aligned with someone, then. already there's no future here. Like. it's not going anywhere. Really, wow. And then the next thing I. look at is strategically, if it's. business, so if it's personal, it's only. energy. But if it's business, I look at, well, I like this person energetically, do I think they're strategically aligned. with where this has to go? Like do I. think they can actually implement this? Do I believe because a lot of people.

have great energy, but then they don't. know how to implement anything. And then finally, I look at, well, does. the money align? Does the monetary value. align with the energy and strategy? Sure. That's been my business version of. what I learned learned as a monk. So. what you're saying then, that is a. combination of both. Correct. Allowing like your gut, your energy, to kind of allow yourself to pursue. further the opportunity, and then you. take a sort of mental look at it to be. like, I'm accepting the opportunity from a.

emotional point of view, now I need to. see if it makes sort of logical sense. Correct. And if it doesn't, then we're. going to stop there again. Yeah, yeah, exactly. So I've I've found that more. useful for me because I found that. energetically I I can get excited about. a lot of stuff. Yeah. I'm the same. Yeah, and I'm and I'm that kind of. person, and again, I never want to block. that. At the same time, I think. we have to become more selective with. our opportunities, and know when to say. no, and know how to manage stuff, and. that's at least helped me. Sure. So. again, I'm not saying anyone has to live. like that. I'm just No, it's. interesting. It's really interesting. I.

I'm very much like go off my gut. I'll. tell you about my mom. is an unbelievable judge of character. Wow. And I think she might have, without. knowing what you're talking about, where. she can pick up on people's energies. Yeah. Because we can meet a new person. as a family. We've met this new person. The three of us could love this new. person and another three could not like. this new person. And my mom will be. like, "No. Why? No. Don't like that person." And then. within 6 months, all of us like, "Do you. remember that person that we were really.

good friends with for a little bit?". She's really got a keen eye for people. that we would get along with. She's. amazing like that. Moms are like that. Now that you say. that, all my mates who let me down when. I was a teenager But your mom could have. pointed out every. time. Every time. I was like, "Mom, no. They're my friend. I'm never going to. leave them. They're like a brother to. me." And then like 7 months later, the. person stabbed you in the back and then. you're like, "Oh, Mom." Like, you know. But the good thing about moms is they. wouldn't judge you for it. You know, they're like, "Look, I told you, but you. have to make your own mistakes.". Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Exactly. But.

I It's interesting that you've been able. to hold on to that and I love that. Do. you feel like you were asking me about. moving to LA and I I think What have you. felt and there's a part of you that's. obviously wanting to be back in. Kingston, be back to who you are. Have. you felt that there's been parts of. yourself that have been challenged? I. don't feel sitting with you today that. you know, I I don't know you before. I. don't know you after. I've only met you. today, so I I can't judge who you are or. what you enjoy. I All I can say is that. when I'm sitting with you today, I feel. like I'm sitting with an authentic.

individual and your energy comes across. very easily. Thank you. Do you feel like you've had. to hold on to that at times with. opportunities, challenges, the industry. or or is that all stuff that we kind of. make up in our heads and it's actually. just be yourself and you're fine? I. really don't know the answer to that. question. I I I've definitely walked. away from a lot. Mhm. And I think had I. not walked away from certain situations, let's just put it at that, I would be a. very different person today. Mhm. I've. been really good at keeping in touch. with my friends, keeping my family.

close, listening to the lessons, not getting caught up in the Hollywood. hype. Like I really am a massive fan of. making movies, but I really do not like. Hollywood. It is not for me. The The. business really scares me. I I. understand that I'm a part of that. business and I enjoy my kind of. interactions with it, but that said, I am always looking for ways to kind of. remove myself from it, to kind of just. live as normal a life as possible. Today, doing this is a very rare thing.

for me to do. Like, in London, to come in and speak to. someone about my life is something I. would not typically do, but because I'm. a fan of yours and I was keen to kind of. hear what you had to say and and chat to. you today, I felt. like this would be a safe space for me. to do that. Um. but yeah, I definitely think it has been. an ongoing thought, which is don't lose yourself. I've seen. so many people come before me and lose. themselves and I've had friends that. I've grown up with that aren't friends.

of mine anymore because they've lost. themselves to this business and I just. I'm really, really keen to focus on what. makes me happy, which is my family, it's. my friends, it's my carpentry, my golf, um the charity that my mom runs. Like, that is the stuff that makes me really. happy and that's the stuff that I should. protect. My relationship is the thing. that I keep most sacred. I don't talk. about it. I try my best to keep it as private as. possible. We both feel very strongly. that that is the healthiest way for us. to to move on as a couple.

Um so, I do try to keep as removed from. it as possible. Like, you'll never see. me at an award show that I don't have to. be at. I'm never going to a red carpet. event that I'm not in the film of, you. know? I don't want the attention when I. don't need it. I love the spotlight. I. love the pressure that comes with it. Just watch that tennis documentary, Breaking Point. I haven't seen it yet. I love tennis. it. It's amazing. I never realized how. brutal tennis was. I've always been a. huge tennis lover. I'm now absolutely in. awe of what those athletes go through.

But there's a quote from Billie Jean. King that's on the um. stand at her stadium in New York that. says pressure is a privilege. Mhm. And. that is so true. Like, oh my god, feeling pressure on a daily basis in the. capacity that we feel is such a. privilege. I love feeling pressure. I. feel like I thrive under pressure. The. best golf I've ever played in my life is. when there are cameras around and people. are watching. I just think that that is. a really amazing thing to be able to. experience. So, I enjoy it while I can,

and then when it becomes a bit much, I. kind of become a bit of a recluse and I. disappear and I come back to Kingston, I. play golf, I play tennis, I hang out. with my friends and my family, do the. pub quiz, and and all that sort of. stuff. Yeah. Um so, yeah. So, it is. something I actively try to do. As I get. older, it only gets easier. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah, and and I. I can I can relate to that where in in. my in my small way or in my world where. a lot of my friends think like I'm in LA. like always at events, always at. parties. I'm not I'm not I'm like in bed.

by 9:30 p.m. Right. And I only live there because it. works for me in in the world that I do. in what I do, and Sure. Sure. and and I. enjoy living in LA, but it's it I don't. live there for Hollywood, and I think. that's often the perception as well. Everyone's like, "Oh, you're all. Hollywood now." And I'm like, "Well, no, not really. Like, I I don't really I. don't really go to all the events and. gatherings and stuff unless I need to be. there or Sure. or I'm connected to a. project. So, so I relate to that. What. what You mentioned a few things there, but if I had to ask you as Tom, when do. you feel most yourself? Like, when do. you feel most connected or and what are.

you trying to reconnect to if you're. like, "Well, I know what it is, but I'm. still figuring it out again." I think. when I feel most myself is to do with my. relationships, so I'm going to leave. that and not talk about that. Absolutely. But, I think the other. thing, and this is such a stupid thing, but it's when I'm playing good golf. Like, there's something about how golf. golf is the most humbling sport in the. world. It doesn't matter who you are, doesn't matter how much money you've. got, how successful you are, golf will batter you no matter who you. are. And I love that's what I love about. it, you know, you it's such a leveling.

sport. I love going to a golf course and. meeting new people that I've never. played with before. Playing around of. golf. I struggle when I don't play. badly. Like I've got a bit of a temper. and like you're supposed to have 14. clubs in your bag. I currently have nine. and you can probably guess why. Um but I. I just love being outside. I've always. been an outdoorsy person. I love being on the golf course. I love. my mates. They all love playing golf. There's just something about the. challenge of shooting lower than your. lowest score that really.

kind of takes my mind off of the work. The interesting thing about golf is that. you could be having a terrible day. You. could be really upset about something. and if you play really well, you. completely forget about it. If you play. really badly, you then are playing badly. because of what's happening outside of. golf. It's like a really weird kind of. catch-22, I guess. Yeah. Um but I love it. I think when I'm. playing good golf is when I feel most. like myself. Yeah. Wow, that's that's that's a unique. concept, but I get it. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, yeah. I've only ever played. golf like twice in my life. Right. And I. totally get the point of how humbling it. is. It's horrendous. No matter how. quickly you pick up other things in. life, golf is not one of those things. that you pick up that easily. Oh mate, you can sign the biggest deal of your. life and go out to play golf to. celebrate and it'll ruin your day. Like absolutely ruin your day. Don't go out to play golf to celebrate. never go out to celebrate. No, crazy. Do. you play Do you still play any sport? I. love playing football when I'm back.

here. So that's one of the things. My. mates know that when I'm back in London, we're going to play a game of football. play? Well, we just We We will just play. on like a seven-a-side pitch or a. five-a-side pitch like close to. Northwest London, which is where most my. mates are. So like Nice. Stanmore, Edgeware, Watford. That's like. where all my main mates are. And so we. just go rent a pitch, kick a ball about. I'm not any good anymore. Sure. got the full kit and the socks and you. know all that kind of stuff. look dressed to impress, bro. I've. actually got Neymar's kit like from him. So, you best believe I'll show up to.

five-a-side in his full kit. I love it. I love it. Is it signed by. him, too? No, it's not signed by him. That's just Yeah, that's just his kit. We went on a lads' holiday to Portugal. recently to play golf. And at the resort. we were staying at, the the people were. so nice. They said, "Let's have an. England versus Portugal football match.". There was like, I think there was eight. of us, and there was a bunch of Brits that were. working at the resort, so they kind of. joined our team, and we literally did. England versus Portugal. It's a full-size pitch. We did 60 minutes, 30 minutes each way. I'm fit. I train every day. I absolutely.

love my fitness. I really, really like. I'm into it. By the end, I could not. make five paces without my legs cramping. up. They are so fit, these football. players. It's unbelievable. And we won. And it's so funny how the first 10. minutes of the game was really friendly, like soft fouls, sorry, mate, like your. free kick. And by the end, it was. savage. It was really intense. Wow. At. least you won. We won. I got an assist. It was actually a glorious assist as. well, actually. I just I pinged the ball.

over the top. My brother made a run, and. it bounced, and he managed to get his. foot to it, and he chipped the keeper. and scored. It was But there's no. footage. There's no footage. No proof. Yeah, no proof. Yeah, no. proof. think when the whole no proof thing, like we had the craziest experience of. my life the other day. I'll tell you. about it. Because our lives are so crazy, like. there's no Why would I lie? But the other day, we went swimming with. killer whales in Mexico. I said the. other day, it was last year. And it was one of the most humbling. experiences of my life. There's no proof.

of it. There's no evidence, cuz it was. so off the cuff. We weren't planning on. doing it. So, most people I tell are. like, "You definitely didn't do that.". But we we were in we were in Mexico, and. we were on a boat, and we just so. happened to see this pod of orca. Jack, my security guard, thought it'd be. a good idea to jump in. He jumped. straight in, flippers on, goggles on. And we were driving to keep up with the. whales cuz they were kind of following. our boat. So, by the time Jack had. jumped in, he was like this. He was like.

100 m away, and you could see him, and. the whales were like swimming around. him. So, I'm just starting to freak out cuz. he's a good friend of mine. And he's a. security guy. he's my security. I'm like, "Jack, we. got to get back to the hotel, bro.". Um so, I said to the guy, like, "Excuse. me, sir, can you turn around and go and. get my friend cuz we now can't see him. anymore? Like, he's gone." We found him, we got him back in the boat, and he sort. of said, like, "Lads, you have to get. in. There is It's unlike anything you've. ever seen before.". My brother Harry's like Googling whether. or not it's safe to swim with them, and.

it's sort of the general consensus. online is don't go swimming with killer. whales. You can, there's never been a. recorded attack in the wild, but they are wild animals. They're. They're big as a bus. And also, Jack's. giving it like, "Don't worry, Tom, I'll. be there. I'll look after you." I'm. like, "Jack, what are you going to do, bro? Like, what's this this whale the. size to eat me?". So, anyway, we put the flippers on, put the goggles on, we find the whales. They're sort of. interacting with the back of the boat. They're clearly curious. And I just thought, like, I guess it.

goes back to what you're saying, the. mode of ignorance. I just was like, "I'm. going to try it and see what happens." I. jumped in, my brother jumped in, Jack jumped in. We. kind of came together. We're 30 mi out of the coast, so it's. literally like. dark blue water, nothing below us. And. to my relief, the whales had gone. We couldn't see. them. So, I'm sort of thinking, "Oh, well, that's actually a bit of a touch. At. least I can say I jumped in, and they. have gone.". But then Jack said, "Look down." And we.

looked down, and it came from beneath. us. And what has been such an interesting. experience for me was as soon as I saw. the whale, I wasn't scared anymore. because I could just tell. that it wasn't going to eat me. You. could don't know I don't know how to. explain it, but you could just see from. its body language. I remember it so. vividly. It swam up to us. It was maybe. 10 m below us, and it was kind of. motionlessly sort of just looking at us, and then it kind of rolled on its back. It did this weird thing where it kind of.

put its head like this, and you could. see its eye. Like we were having this. crazy like moment. And then it just swam. off, and it was gone. And then for 3 hours afterwards, I. couldn't speak. I had the biggest. adrenaline dump. I just. basically was. asleep. But it was such an amazing. experience to sort of. meet the apex predator of the world, and. it kind of look at you and just swim. away. Mhm. Most people don't believe me. because. you. there's no evidence, but it was I.

think about it now. And then you know. what's so funny as well? I see these I. see like our planet. There's there's. more footage of orcas hunting, and. another way in which they hunt. There is. no way I would do that again. Yeah, there's no way I'd get in there again. But yeah, it was amazing. Hearing. hearing you explain it is like You're so. present. Yeah. Like you can tell that you just you were. so present in that moment. Like you. stopped thinking about like, "Oh, well, you know, if I tell this after, then no. one's going to believe me." Or whatever. it is. You're just like, "Wait a. minute." Yeah. You know, nature makes. you present like that. And and that's.

what I love about nature is it's. completely unbiased as well. Like if. that whale wanted to have a snack, then, you know, it's not looking at you going, "Oh, no, but that's a famous person. I. got to leave him alone." Or it just you. are at one with Mother Nature. We're in. the middle of the ocean. There's nothing. we could do. And we just were able to enjoy somewhat. maybe like being in the cave, like you. were saying. It was just about us and this whale. My. brother and I were holding hands, but. then as soon as it presented itself to. us, any stress just dissipated. And it.

was just this unbelievable experience, and it was so leveling. It was so. humbling that it makes me feel like I. can take on certain things. So it's was a honestly, even thinking. about the experience now, my heart is. racing. Yeah, I can imagine. Yeah, it was it was wild, yeah. It was a. cool experience. That's that's an incredible experience. And it is different from the cave. though, because I do think it's it's. different when you're with another. living being. Sure. And so, that's what. I found like my my closest experience to. what you're talking about is I went.

trekking with well, looking for mountain. gorilla in Rwanda last year. that's on the top of my list. I would. love to go. Okay, yeah, we we should do it. I would. do that again any day because it was. unbelievable. So, you're not again, these gorillas are not like in a park or. something. They're they're mountain. gorilla. They're in their world. And you. go and look for them and there's no. tagging devices or any tech. There's. people who have watched the gorilla for. so many years that they know where their. droppings are. They know where families.

hang out. They know what their routines. are. So, depending on what time you're. going out, there's someone who's just. around them who's calling their friend. calling your guide saying walk this way. you got to go. Exactly. Just just to. make it very very clear that, you know, the the gorilla is being treated very. well. Uh. so, you're literally looking around and. you could be on the lookout for them for. like two to six hours. You may not find. them. You're just hiking. See, I love that though. You might not. find them. Yeah, you might not find them. So, we. found them in two hours. One group that. we heard about cuz you go in smaller. groups of like 10. The other group that.

we were friends with, they took eight. hours to find gorillas, but they saw. them, too. And when I went, I was kind. of like, "Oh, we're going to see one. gorilla, whatever. Like, they're going. to be far away." Like, I was a bit. skeptical. Sure. I didn't know how it was going to. be. And it was incredible because we. looked around for two hours. And I'll. show you the video afterwards, but we. got and we just saw them like hanging. out kind of like how I'm looking at. everyone here, just hanging out still. And then all of a sudden, they all. started walking together. There was a. family of 20 gorillas. Wow. two silverbacks that are like, you know, they're like their fists are like, you.

know, just huge. They'll zap you and. you're gone. Yeah, exactly. And and it was really. interesting because the guides who were. there with us, they said to us that when you go close. to them, kind of like and this is why I. remembered it and why I'm telling you, it's because when you were talking about. the way the whale looked at you, and it. was kind of like you knew it wasn't. going to eat you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And. so they were saying that when you get. close to these gorillas, the only thing. you can't do is you can't touch their. kids and you can't touch them. And so. you can't drop something near their kids. and then try get it back because they'll. think you're trying to harm their kids. Told you. But what they recommended was.

they said you had to make this sound. when you see them, and this sound means. we come in peace. And so the sound was. So that's you have to make that sound. I. was all right, this is some Disneyland. stuff. I was like I was like, yeah, I'm not. believing this stuff. Like whatever. Like I was all right, I'm going to play. around with it. Yeah. And so I'm walking around. So we. go to the gorilla and we get close to. them and I made that sound cuz we were. told them to make that sound. And then. the gorilla did it back. And it was just unbelievable. And then. there was this one moment where we were.

walking and we were literally surrounded. by gorillas. Now I was getting a And. that's when I was like a bit scared. because they were like all around us. And like literally if they run at you, like I'm done, right? You know? you can do. Nothing, nothing you can do. And so. we're walking, they're walking around us. and this massive silverback came up. So. I'm my business manager was with me as. well. And so he's there. He's like my. godfather in LA. Like he really takes. care of me. Very close to him. And so. this big. this big gorilla walks behind him and.

I'm looking at him going, "Oh man." Like. he stopped. And we're all looking at him. cuz he's got this massive silverback. behind him. And I'm And we're all like, "How do we tell him to move?" And the. guy's like, "Just be still. Like just, you know, be really present. Like you. can't freak out." And the gorilla just. went. Wow. behind him and he moved out the way and. just walked past. And it was just It was. that same presence that you were feeling. that I felt with them. And that's what I. mean, the living being with another. living being. is is spectacular. So Do you think that.

level of ease comes from. the helpless nature of being in the. presence of an animal that could do to. you whatever they want to. Like I think. part of the reason why I felt so calm. when the whale had come up was because. there was nothing we could do. should it go sideways. Yeah. And I think. being almost finding that kind of inner. peace of like I've made my mind this is. the choices I've made. I'm here now. There's nothing I can do. It's almost like you should make peace.

with your choices, I guess. Yeah. I. don't know. No, no, no. I think that's I think. you've actually taken it somewhere. really beautiful, mate. I I think for me. as well, it's humility. Yeah, that's. what And like when you when you meet. someone new, rarely are we humble. Sure. We we often feel the pressure to be like. or look at who I am or like, you know, or we're trying to create even if it's. not of ego, there's a certain sense of. like wanting to gain people's like and. respect. Yeah, and you want to impress people. No. matter what I do, this whale or gorilla. is not going to like or respect me. Sure. So I better just be humble about.

it and at peace as you said. And it levels you. And it levels you and it and it allows. that human being that that being also, of course, it's not, you know, of course, we're not record there's no. we're not recommending that you just go. into these places on our. Oh, yeah. Yeah, but the idea being that. I do think there's something magical. about nature where. humility is kind of nature's way. Mhm. And it is that what you're saying that. when you're at peace with your choices. and you're at peace with here we are, here I am. I can't do anything and guess. what? It's okay.

Right, that's what I'm saying. Yeah. It's somewhat sort of like I've made a. decision. If the decision is a mistake, you got to live with it cuz you made it, I guess. I want to talk about sports cuz. I was thinking so I I play a lot of. tennis, play a lot of football. I play a. lot of pickleball now. You play a lot of. pickleball because that's that's a. become a thing in LA. But but I'm massively more into paddle. I don't think you've ever I love paddle. tennis. paddle. Paddle tennis is so fun. I want. that to blow up in the US, but it's not. going to. So when I went to Dubai and I. went to Miami and I went to Madrid cuz. they're big in Spain. Mate. Are they. playing it here? Yeah? My local tennis.

club has got two courts. And like you. can't book them. They're so sold out. All right. Honestly, paddle tennis, I. love tennis. Yeah. I think tennis is one of the best. sports in the world. And I think that, you know, they are the highest. performing athletes, some of in the. world. But it's really hard, tennis. Like I. find unless I'm playing with someone. who's much better than me, I don't play. well. Like I really I I need to be chasing. someone. Yeah. Paddle tennis is so. social. It's it's easy to have great.

rallies. You still get the the. the satisfaction of really smacking a. ball. Cuz pickle is. it's all about placement and and trying. to kind of one up your opponent. Whereas. at the kitchen and just doing the dink. Yeah. Why is it called a kitchen? no idea. And I That's So, I play pickle. like paddle. Right. Cuz I'm I'm like, no. I'm going to play yeah. It's like, why? I do like pickle. Um but. paddle tennis now. Paddle's amazing. Next time, yeah, yeah. Paddle's Paddle's one of my favorite. favorite. I was in Dubai with a client.

for work for months a couple of years. back. I played it every day for 3. months. It's great exercise. Yeah, it's the best workout, the most. fun. Like time just flew. It's amazing. But I was bringing it back to sports. because I was saying I was saying, you. know, you you personally tried to. recruit Mbappé for Tottenham. I did, yeah. And and I just thought that. was amazing because I was like, I've. never seen this ever happen before. where, you know, someone is using their. clout in the right way. Listen, I saw. him. I'm a mad Tottenham fan. And I just.

thought now's my chance. And he said, "No.". The deal didn't go through. No signing. bonus for myself. That was a crazy trip that going to the. Ballon d'Or. Yeah. We were there for. Spider-Man. Spider-Man was coming out. I'm not really sure how that was promo. for Spider-Man, but like it was part of. our trip for some reason. But it was. amazing meeting these players. And and I. admire them so much. when you can notice. other athletes athletes and other. greatness. And I see that at the top. We. talk We've talked a lot today about and. and you're really good at this. Like you. really I feel like.

I feel like you're quite tuned in to. like. admiring and observing greatness and. like the 1% and and trying to figure out. what they're doing differently. And I. think that's one of the things I've. definitely seen of the 1% is that. there's a humility in that they have the. ability to appreciate other people's. greatness and skills and values and. purpose. Like they're not looking at it. going I'm the best of all time. Sure. There's a part of that They They may. have to say that for the cameras or they. may have to say that before they go on. the pitch. But actually if you talk to. them and you ask them about someone.

else, they'll be like, "Yeah, best best. player I've ever seen. Like they're. incredible." And so who did you admire. growing up in acting? Who do you admire. today? Like who have been the people. that And maybe on a mindset level or. maybe on a. or or a performance level as well. There. are definitely performances of people. that I look up to. There are There are. the types of careers of certain actors. that I really admire. There are also. like. the the types of lives that certain. people lead that I really admire and. that I really aspire to sort of be like. Um. I tend to.

let all of my admiration go towards. athletes. I'm just so blown away by what. they can do under the pressure that. they're under. Me as an actor, I realize. that my job is a high-pressure job. because it. reaches millions of people. But that said, there are so many people. that help me get to where I need to be. I get picked up. Someone makes me. breakfast. Someone writes the words that. I'm supposed to say. Someone chooses my. costume. Someone does my hair and. makeup. Someone sets the camera up.

Ultimately, I walk onto set and I do my. bit. But I'm a small part in a massive. machine. But when you look at someone like. Djokovic or Federer or, you know, this. new Alcaraz. or the golfers or or Lewis. Lewis is slightly different because. Formula 1 is so much about the team and. the car and all that sort of stuff. They have to do it themselves at a. certain point. There's only so much help. they can get, but then when they walk. onto that court for the first time, when. they walk into the ring or into the.

octagon, it's them by themselves. They're under. that amount of pressure. It's up to them. whether they deliver or not. And I just. have always been admiring of. seeing some of the greats lose their win. streak and come back even stronger. I've. always really been an admirer of people. that are able to do that. I think it's a. folly when you see these win streaks of. 50 and 0 and all that sort of stuff and. you're like, well, that to me isn't what a champion is. A. champion is someone who had it all, lost. it all, and got it right back again. Tyson Fury's story is a crazy one. I'd.

love to see AJ come back and be on top. again because I'd love to be alive to. witness that legacy that he would leave. behind, you know? I feel sorry for him. what happened to him when he sort of. seemed to really lose it a little bit in. the ring when he took the microphone, and I'd love to see him back on top and. to to have some clarity and and to be a. champion again because I admire him as. an athlete. So, I save most of my. admiration for athletes. Yeah. And musicians. I love musicians. I. see someone like Ed Sheeran Yeah, Ed. Sheeran.

people in the palm of his hand. I think. comedians are. equally as talented. The ability that. they can just go on stage and make. people laugh. That is terrifying. Actors for me, because it's what I do, Yeah, yeah. it's like, meh. You know what I Yeah, yeah. I get I get. what you're saying. I get what you're. saying. And and. at the end of the day, it's just it's. it's taking what you can from from what. you aspire for, all right? Like you you. can take something from all these. people. And and what I love about it, some of these people, you know, some of. these people you don't, but I always say. to people who are listening and watching.

that you can be mentored by people. you've never met. You're right. Totally. I think that's a really important skill. to gain because I think we live in a. world right now where somewhat access. has come easier, and we always think we. need access to people directly in order. to learn from them, but you don't know. everyone you've just mentioned, even. though you may know a couple of them. closely. And And same with me, like I. was really fortunate, you know, growing. up as a teenager, I got introduced to. like Martin Luther King's work and. Malcolm X's work, and. I was reading crazy stuff at that age, but it had a massive impact on my.

mindset. I never met all these people, and obviously would never have got the. opportunity to do that, but I feel. mentored by them. Yeah, wow. without ever having sat in the same room. as them, because you study like how they. made decisions, and you study what they. said and what they wrote. for. What they stood for, and how and and and. the parts that you don't hear through. history, the parts that were actually. more difficult, and the parts where they. weren't the perfect hero. Right. And so, all of that kind of stuff. But, Tom, before we go to the final five, you've been so gracious with your time. today. I have to ask you if if you want.

to clarify the Harry Kane situation, because I'll tell you why. The reason. why I say this is I had the dream. So, I'm a Manchester United supporter. Everyone in my community knows that very. well. Right. I have always had the dream that Harry. Kane, when Wayne Rooney retired, Harry. Kane was going to come to Manchester. United. Okay. was going to follow in the footsteps of. all the great England forwards that have. played at Manchester United. That didn't happen. Right. still holding on to that dream. But, you. want him to go somewhere else. Well, listen.

Listen. Let me just clarify, right? I. love Harry Kane. I love Heung-Min Son. Heung-Min Son is my favorite football. player. He is a hero. I love Tottenham. I'm a big Tottenham. fan. But, I just I know that those. players could thrive and have. the best careers ever. don't. I just want to see I want to see Harry. lifting a trophy, and I want to see Son. there by him, and and and I just don't. think Tottenham. Yeah, you're rooting for the individual. Yeah. Yeah. I'll always be a Tottenham fan. I you. know, I love being a Spurs fan. My.

brother Harry and I, you know, we've. really bonded over it. But, I I just, you know, Harry Kane's one of the best. strikers in the world. And um, he would. fit into almost any team, and I'd love. to see him on top. And I interesting. question, do you think he would have had a similar. season to Haaland had he gone to City? Ooh. Ooh, that's uh. I I personally think. Cuz I think Haaland's amazing. I think Haaland with his age, his. strength, and his mentality, you know.

what's crazy about Haaland is I saw this. interview. and you know, obviously I hate it hurts. me to say it, but. City and all, but. when Haaland did this interview, he just. scored like I can't remember which game. it was. He's unbelievable. He scored like five goals that game, and. he was like, "I should have had seven.". And and the interviewer was like, "Come. on, though. Take some credit. Like you. scored five goals." And he was like, "Yeah, I'm I'm happy with that, but he. goes, you know, there were a couple of. assists that should have gone in." And I. thought that mentality. Mhm. Yeah, that's what I mean his. mindset. when his mindset, I was like he was he. knew exactly which opportunities he.

missed, and I was like so I think it's. an age thing. I think it's a strength. thing. I feel like Haaland's kind of. like I've always compared Haaland to. like Ivan Drago. Like he was made in a. lab. Right, right, right, right. Like he was made. Like he was. manufactured to be this incredible. talent. And I think City's good with. like he he admits like he scores a lot. of tap-ins, and I think that's his game. Yeah, but mate, there's no pictures on a. scorecard, you know? a good way. I'm saying I'm saying like. he's been built in that way, and City. play that way. I don't know if Kane's a. tapping guy. Like he's he's he's scored. his goals have generally been a bit more. diverse in that sense.

Magic. Yeah. Magic is the way I would. describe Kane. Yeah. No, I love I love. him. And obviously it's a typical thing. of like the press are out saying, "Oh, Tom Holland's begging Kane to leave.". I'm not begging him to leave. I love. that he's at our club because I'd be. terrified to see where we'd be without. him. But I just love to see him have the. career I know he can have. What do you. think of Jude Bellingham to Madrid? I. think that's a great move. I love that. He just wants everyone to do that. that. And what's he What's interesting. is that all of my friends in Spain are. from Barcelona. I have one friend from. Madrid. I've always been a big Barca.

supporter because I used to go to. Barcelona all the time as a kid. I had a. few weekends where I'd say to my mom and. dad, "I'm going to my friend's house.". and I would go to Barcelona. How did you pull that off, mate? Just. sneaky, mate. If I told my Indian. parents that, I was like they they know. the dial tone straight away. Mate, I got. caught. My mom called me up and was. like, "Where are you?" I was I was. trying to say I was at my friend's. house. She said, "No, you're not cuz I'm. here." And I was in Las Ramblas in. Barcelona. Um but I just I just love. players I think Griezmann is amazing and.

you know, I just love to see what he. could do there. I think it's The thing. for me is I love legacy. I love seeing. what players can do. I'm less about the. teams. It's what I love about tennis or. golf, you know, it's not about the team. It's about the player. So, I would just. love to see what he could do there. And. you know, I'm sure one day we'll see. England raise a trophy and and I we've. got such a great young team and and um. I admire them all, but yeah, I think. it's a great move for him. And he's only. 19 or something like that. It's insane. Yeah, he's 19. That's wild. He's a year older than my.

brother, Paddy. That's mental. Mate, you've been amazing today, honestly. Like this is. Yeah, this has been some of the most fun. I've had in a long time. So, thank you. you. I appreciate it. But I want to ask. We ask everyone the final five and so. these are the fast five questions, which. means answers have to be one word to one. sentence maximum. No more than that. Okay. Uh and you don't have to write or. spell them out. So, no no no problem. So, no no no. none of that. All right, so Tom Holland, these are your final five. Uh question one, what is the best advice.

you've ever received? It's to turn your. nerves into excitement. I like that. That would never happen on the show. I. love that. All right, second question. What is the worst advice you've ever. received? Move to LA, get a marijuana. license and buy a hot tub. Who told you. that? Mark Wahlberg. That's brilliant. No, he told me that on a chat show, so I. don't know if that was legit advice, but. I didn't take his advice. Okay, good. Well, who would you have been if you took that. advice? Who knows? Who knows? All right, question number three. What's the first.

thing you do every morning and the last. thing you do every night? Make my bed. It's the first thing I do. And the last. thing I do before I go to bed, admittedly, is I check my emails, which. I shouldn't do. But that is what I do. Yeah, it's bad. Yeah, we asked that just to make you. aware of what you need to change. I do need to change that. Making my bed. is a good start. I used to never do. that. And now, like, my first thing I do. is I make my bed. That's like my first. challenge of the day. It's a good It's. an easy one to get done. Question four, what's something you're trying to learn. at the moment?

I'm currently taking golf lessons. And uh We see a trend here. It's not going very well. All right, where where are you at at the moment? Thing is with golf is that the golf. swing is a very, very particular. thing. So, in order to get better, you. do have to take quite a few steps. backwards. I've taken maybe 25 steps. backwards, but I will I will benefit. from it eventually. Are you doing it. every day? Every day. Not lessons every day, but I. practice every day. I've always said. that to my wife. I was like, "I want to. go away for a month and I want to get a.

trainer. I'm going to play golf every. single day." I mean, I know a great. teacher. That's the only way I'd Yeah, that's the only way I had a really So, one of my clients took me to PXG in. Arizona, which is like this beautiful. place, Bob Parsons' place. And I had a coach there for 2 days. And. I was like half decent after 2 days cuz. the coach was so good. Yeah, mate. And when I got back to LA, I. tried to get a coach and I couldn't find. a good one. And then I had a coach that. literally He came highly recommended, but it didn't work out for me. He He. didn't let me take like 0.7 of a swing. before he gave me feedback. And I was. like, "I just need to hit a few. Like, I. need to kind of just" And it was like.

every time I was about to hit the ball, but I was like, "Nope." "Sure, sure, sure." And I was like, "I just need to. kind of like get a feel for it." And so. The guy I go to is a guy called James. Heath. Okay. And he. does most of his teachings off of feel. So, it's not about numbers. It's not. about results. It's more about how do. you feel? I I he he calls it the feels. So, like, I'm working on twisting my. hips more in my backswing. And he will. say to me, "How does that make you feel? Like physically, where do you feel the. stretch? Where do you feel the pain? Where do you feel the pinch?" That's. what I need you to feel. And I, coming.

from a dancer's background, that's a. really great way for me to learn because. everything in dancing is about feel. Yeah. Um so, if you need a great teacher. in London, James Heath is your guy. Thank you. Shout out James Heath. Yeah, shout out James Heath. Fifth and final question, if you could. create one law that everyone else in the. world had to follow, what would it be? Um I don't know. I. don't know what one law would solve the. most amount of problems. What would you say? Curious. I'd. probably go to something you said. earlier. If if I'm giving a genuine.

answer, like a real answer, is I really. wish there was a life school. Oh, mate. Like I I that would be it because I'm. not saying that would solve all the. problems in the world, No. but it would set people up. And when. I say life school, I mean emotional. mastery. I mean 100%. ego mastery. I mean the ability to be. kind and empathetic and vulnerable and. compassionate and create safe spaces. I. think a life school that taught you how. to be non-judgmental. Sure. and non-critical of others without. understanding them. I think sure.

That's what I mean by life school. So, not just the like paying taxes and bills. and stuff, Yeah. but the life school of like, well, what if what if we didn't have to live. in a world where we just said everything. we wanted to and did everything we. wanted to and got away with it and you. know. Well, I think life the life lesson. for me should be basic. health and CPR and basic first aid. training. It should be like you said, creating an environment at school where. young people feel more comfortable. talking about themselves, what they're.

going through, you know, things that. might be happening at home or things. that are happening at school. Like I. think that that would be an amazing way. for us. to be more expressive and more. comfortable expressing. And again, like. I know I keep going back to it, but it's. about what my show is about, which is. you should feel empowered when asking. for help. It should be something that. you're proud of, like you're recognizing. that you have an issue. It might be an. internal issue, it might be an external. issue, but you are seeking help, which I. think is very admirable. Yeah,

absolutely. Yeah. I do encourage and. recommend everyone go watch The Crowded. Room. I personally loving it with my. wife, honestly, like I. I barely watch TV shows, if I'm. completely honest, and uh it's because I. I like something that makes me think and. reflect and you know. and entertain me at the same time. Sure, great. And I and I think it does a. brilliant job of doing all three. Like. it's gripping. I'm like trying to figure. out what's going on next. At the same. time, I'm like it's it's amazing. watching you. being able to be this very different.

character to what we know you as. Sure. And that's really impressive. So even on. like even on a performance level, I'm. like I'm forgetting that you are. Spider-Man. Nice. Right? Like and that's that's how I. watch movies where I'm like can I forget. Right. who this person is and or are they. playing a caricature of themselves, obviously. Sure, sure, sure. you, I'm like I don't even think to. think it's you. Right, right, right. Like right now I'm talking to you and. I've been watching the show, I'm like oh. it's not even the same person. Sure. And and that is really really impressive. on a performance standpoint. So Well, thank you so much.

Great show. It's been an honor, yeah. Thank you, mate. Thank you. If you loved. this episode, you'll love my interview. with Kobe Bryant on how to be strategic. and obsessive to find your purpose. Our. children have become less imaginative. about how to problem solve, and parents. and coaches have become more directive. in trying to tell them how to behave. versus teaching them how to behave.