Noah Cyrus ON: FOCUS ON YOURSELF, NOT OTHERS - Stop Negative Thoughts & Build SELF LOVE

When you say confident, I definitely. don't feel that word. Yeah. Majority of. the time. I actually maybe ever, but I. I'm constantly learning and constantly. growing. The best-selling author and. host. The number one health and wellness. podcast. with Jay Shetty. Hey everyone, welcome back to On. Purpose, the number one health and. wellness podcast in the world, thanks to. each and every single one of you that. come back every week to listen, learn, and grow. I'm curious about people's.

stories. I'm curious about how we find. healing. I'm curious about how. creativity and self-expression. can sometimes be the best medicine for. what we're going through in life. And I. want you to hear from people of. different backgrounds and different. walks of life so that you can find. similarities, connection, your story and. their story so that it can feel like an. emotional connection that we often miss. and we often feel so lonely and. isolated, but hopefully this podcast. makes you feel heard and hopefully it.

makes you feel seen and hopefully it. makes you feel understood. Uh today's. guest is none other than Noah Cyrus who. grabbed the reins in her own life during. some of the most difficult moments, took. control of it, and told her story like. never before. The Grammy Award nominated. multi-platinum, Nashville-born, and. LA-based singer and songwriter uncovered. the kind of strength you only find. within. Noah has stepped into herself on. her 2022 full-length debut album The.

Hardest Part. Emerging at the age of 16, she immediately captivated audiences. with platinum singles Make Me Cry and. Again, the end of everything EP yielded. the triple-platinum July and gold. Lonely. In between earning a Grammy. Award in the category of Best New. Artist, Noah has performed at Coachella. twice and Billboard named her among its. 21 under 21 for three straight years. Please welcome to the show Noah Cyrus.

Noah. Woah. Okay. Hi. Thank you for being here. That was quite. a intro. Woah. Thank you. I always say to I It's so funny. Like. every time I intro someone, that is. always the reaction. I'm like I say the. same thing. I'm like, "Well, you did. that. Like you lived that. Like you. actually had to You actually had to. experience all of that and work for it. and earn it and go through the ups and. downs that come with doing all of that.". So, I We all do, right? Everybody It's. hard like woah. That was.

Thanks for that intro. Thank you. Thank. you for having me. It's nice like we. were just saying nice to meet you in. person. Yes. We got to meet over Zoom 2 years ago. We. just talked about it briefly, but like. you're so nice. Like it's so nice to. meet you and like this was not on. camera, but you ran out so. quick as soon as I was here to give me a. hug. You're like so nice. It's great to. be in a room with you, actually. Aw, thank you. Finally. No, well, the feeling's very. mutual. I was saying to you off camera.

as well that when my team and I were. were talking about having you on the. show and we were so excited about that, I had such a wonderful experience with. you a couple of years ago when you. interviewed me on your podcast even. though it was digitally, I just really felt like you were so. great at talking about so many important. meaningful things to give me a voice, to. give me a platform. I felt so humbled. and grateful and. same with you. Like meeting you today, I'm like this is so warm. Like you. allowed me to just give you a big hug. and I was like I don't know if I was. going to wreck your makeup or your.

outfit. I don't know. I was just like. totally not conscious. I felt terrible. I don't even. Whatever about that. No, I. I was so happy whenever I heard that. your team had reached out for us to get. in the room and talk. I know it took us. a bit for us to schedule everything, but. I'm so happy to finally be here with you. and also like I the last time I we. spoke, I feel like I was in a much. darker, different place and I'm doing so.

much better now. So it's great to really. be here and be present with you and get. to really experience you and how great. you are. Well, first of all, I want to. congratulate you on that transformation. and transition. I think that to. acknowledge. you even just saying that and how much. work you've had to do to get there, to. feel that way and like I said to you, I. had a positive experience with you even. then. And so I'm very grateful to. experience you, as you said, in what you. feel is. the best version of yourself at the. moment, which is so beautiful and I.

loved a video I saw on your TikTok. Okay. Oh, which is you and your dad. Okay. And it was so beautiful and it was like, I think you said something like, you. know, I wish these days never end. Like, tell me about what was so special about. that. I mean, just watching it, it was. it just it was so joyful and it was so. special. Honestly, that's a common. feeling I get whenever I'm with him or. with my family. Honestly, with life in. general, I just wish the days were. longer. Ah, you've caught me on like an. emotional day. So if I cry during this.

podcast, guys, this is like a normal. thing for me, kind of, but um. that's just a common feeling I get, especially when I'm home in Nashville. Just wishing I had more time, but that. trip was great. I hadn't seen my dad. in a long time and lately I've been able. to since that TikTok, actually, which. was posted last year, I think, or. Was it? or earlier than really earlier. this year, it had to have been, but it's. an older TikTok. I've been able to see. him much more frequently, but when I had.

been writing for this album, actually, the the album's out on September 16th. and I had written about that specific. feeling, actually, like a couple years. ago. And it's actually the title track. of my record, Hardest Part, and I wrote. about that with my dad cuz I just, you. know, growing up, he would be in. Nashville, I would be in LA or. back and forth, and there was a lot of. missing him, and I guess it's really.

no. secret that my family had been going. through a hard times and within their. marriage and things like that. And so, there was a lot that was unsaid between. us, and I. wanted to write about it in my music, and my music is really an outlet for me. and my emotions, and. I don't know, we had a really beautiful. day a few years ago, which wasn't when I. made that Tik Tok, but I wrote about it. in my in my record just because. I wish I could get more of those days,

and there's just not enough time, and. yeah. Yeah, I know. It was It was. beautiful to see. And yeah, I know I. think I think you pinned it. That's why. Yeah, it's a very new. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But the Yeah, the Tik Tok's old, but the. song's about an even older story. But. that Yeah, there was a Trends are cool. like that with Tik Tok. I'll see. something on Tik Tok, and I'm like, "Oh, that actually really means something. Like we should do that." And my friend. Amari was like, "You have to do this. with your dad." I love that. No, it was. so special. It was It was really.

joyful and special to watch. And. speaking about what you're talking. about, you were saying You've said that. your goal is really to current goal is. to like really heal your inner child. And I think that's such a beautiful goal. to have first of all, and I think a lot. of our community, a lot of our listeners. have that same goal as well. I think. we're all going through this experience. of realizing that we've neglected our. inner child, we haven't listened to that. inner child, we haven't acknowledged it. How did you even discover that that was. a goal you had? Like, how did you even.

come to that point of acknowledging that. that was something you wanted to pursue? Identifying my emotions and what was. causing a lot of my problems, and and. then can making that connection to. childhood was first of all the start. Um and with that I probably wouldn't. have even been able to make that. connection had it not been for my. therapist and really really really. trying with therapy. Cuz even I feel. like when we spoke, I I had a. relationship with my therapist that I. would kind of.

try to reschedule our sessions and I. wouldn't keep up with it and I would. fall behind. It's actually a lot of work. to keep up with it. Um because, you. know, some days you're going to feel. really good and for me it's hard for me. on those good days to want to keep up or. maybe I don't want to start feeling sad. feelings or bring anything up and but. it's actually really important to keep. working. And so once I identified that. like. I had a lot of sadness involved with my. inner child and I had a lot I needed to.

heal, but I really really owe that to. therapy and I and I. really highly suggest just an outlet of. being able to get your emotions out. somewhere where regardless of what that. outlet is for you. Yeah, I I I think. that's beautifully said and what what. were some of those emotions that you. felt as a child or that you experienced. that became so important for you to. heal? Like what were some of those. experiences that stayed with you? One. major one was self-love and and body.

image um love and and body dysmorphia. I. developed that at such a young age and. it's been really hard for me to reframe. my mind to to be able to even look at my. younger self and love that version of. me. And now that I've begun to get there I'm. I'm now there and you know, for me that. was so heartbreaking that I couldn't I. felt like I couldn't even really love a. child, myself as a child. I felt like I.

wasn't even loving that version of. myself and I could never imagine not. loving a child. You know what I mean? But I and and so that was where I knew I. needed to start. And now of course I. want to protect that version of myself. so much because I just see this fragile. child who is like every child in the. world that just needs love and and to be. cared for. And of course I was. I have. an amazing family, but there's just some. things that especially I mean in my in.

my personal experience with body image. that just some things people just can't. see, that people just can't feel cuz. it's your body, your mind, your eyes, you know? And it's hard and it feels. like you're alone in those times. And in. your brain it's just you in there with. that inner voice and it and it gets. really dark and it gets really lonely. especially I mean it certainly in my. experience. Yeah, and how does it feel when everyone. around you is saying, "Oh, but you're. beautiful or you're this or you're. that." Like walk us through a bit of.

that because I think a lot of people. have that challenge where like. everyone's telling you you're great, but. then there's still this voice inside of. you that feels that way. What were some. of those. What's been some of the work behind the. scenes that you've been doing in therapy. and for yourself to kind of get to that. place of self-acceptance and self-love. as you said earlier? That's very much. still a work in progress for me and. something my therapist and I talk about. is how progress is. kind of in you're going up, but it's.

circular motions. And in a circle you. still go down and then you go up and you. go down. And so I'm going through that. very much with self-love and with my. body image. My personal experience was. online and in other places. I was bullied over the way I looked so. terribly. Like the word the words that were used. are still so scarring to me where I'm. almost embarrassed to bring it up or. talk about it. Like it it was very.

traumatizing for me. So, it was very hard for me to believe. what people in my life was saying. So, it gave me actually a lot of trust. issues that weren't there with people in. my life because I felt as if everybody. was lying to me, which is still actually. something I work on now. Still is my. trust with people and and going with. things and just being okay with this is. me. This is my body. This is who I am. This is what God gave me. This is This. is who I am. There's nothing I can do to.

change it and and you know, while I'm. here, I've got to accept it and I'm. really working hard to do so. You know, it gives me comfort if to if it gives. anybody else comfort that it gives me. comfort that you tell me other people. feel that way when other people are. saying you are this, you are beautiful, you are that cuz. when you feel the opposite in your body, in your mind, in your soul, you're not you're never going to hear it. from anybody else. And it's the same with, you know, loving.

yourself and and, you know, you have to. truly love yourself and and and it's and. it's hard to get there if you don't. It's so encouraging though to hear that. you went through this experience earlier. on, yet you've still found a way. of expressing how you feel in the public. eye and still being open to. people's opinions and their reaction to. you and that's takes incredible like.

confidence and and self-assurance. because a lot of people would just say, all right, I'm done with this. I'm just. going to go and hide. Like I just don't. want to. that way every day. Yeah. Every day. So, again, it's like. kind of a battle with myself, but I feel. that way all the time. When you say. confident, I definitely don't feel that. word. Yeah. majority of the time. Actually, maybe ever, but I I'm constantly. learning and constantly growing. Yes. So. And those are the two best things.

Like that to me, that's what I. where I use that word. It was like. people don't usually feel confident or. they're not confident, but the way they. act actually displays confidence. And I. think that's what's so interesting about. confidence is that no one who ever is. confident feels it. It's just that. people from the outside go, "Wow, that. takes a lot of guts." Or like that still. takes a lot of resilience. And And. that's what I'm noticing that, you know, to to still be in the public eye, but. walk us through, you know, we're talking.

about the hardest part, which is, you. know, incredible to see you putting your. challenges, stress, pain into music. When did when did music start to become. that healing for you? And what was. beautiful about the process behind this. album? Like what did you experience in. the making of this album? Music's always. been extremely healing, but especially. with this album, the process of finishing it up on the. production side with Mike Crossey, he.

executive produced the entire album. We. spent a couple months together, just him. and I and Steven, his engineer, and a. couple days towards the end we'd have. musicians in, but just locked in, focused on the music. It was the first. time. ever in my life. or in my career, I should say, that I. felt really in touch with my own. musicianship.

and myself as like an actual artist, not. just a singer and a writer. It came at a time where. I was about 6 months into. my recovery process. I really needed. some structure, something to focus on, something to put my energy towards, an. outlet for my emotions. Even if I wasn't. writing, I had written a few songs that. actually just had to go on to the album. Like, My Side of the Bed is one of my.

favorites on the whole album, or I Burn. LA Down, which was the first single off. of the record. Occasionally, I would get. to lyrically make that get that outlet. for my emotions, but musically, I really. found a way to do so, and it really. shows in the record, and it was that's. what made it such a healing process was. I feel like I really found myself. sonically, lyrically, and emotionally and. spiritually on this record. That's. incredible. I I love what you pointed. out then. It came out It flowed.

naturally from you, but for everyone. who's listening, I just want to capture. this. You said that. during your recovery process, 6 months. in, you found structure, focus, and an. outlet. And I think all of those things. are such beautiful takeaways. Everyone. who's listening may not be a musician or. a writer or a or a singer, but the idea. that we all need when we're going. through our own recovery, structure, a. focus, and an outlet. And those are such. practical ways that we can shift where.

we are. Walk us through some of that. What was your structure like? Like, what. what were you What was your focus? Like, were you thinking about something when. you woke up in the morning when you were. writing the song? Like, what was your. daily routine like, and what were your. habits like at that time? So, at the. time of recording the album, we had. which I loved the whiteboard. We had a. whiteboard in the studio. But, it had our week out, and every. single week on Fridays, we'd sit and. plan out what we were going to do for. the next week. So, for example,

one week would be vocals week, and we'd. do each song like in a day, and then um. we'd also have like, okay, this next. week we're going to be recording bass. guitar, strings, whatever. I'd go in after I'd. have therapy in the morning, wake up, walk my dogs, do therapy, go to the. studio, record whatever. instruments we were doing that day,

whatever vocals, and. really get to experiment with this new. elevated sound that I was making. Um and so really we just had like this. strict schedule that like every day I. was in at a certain time and by the end. of the day we both had Mike has two. kids, so bedtimes 8:00. He needs to. leave at 6:00. We just had our daily. routine, which I think saved me so much. because. without a daily routine, I'm very the.

type that can easily just slip into my. room and not turn the lights on or get. out of bed for like weeks. And I've. actually been having a bit of a. back-and-forth with kind of doing that. now and just self-isolation because I'm. so used to doing so. So really just. having, even if it was just, you know, a. studio routine where it was this day. we're recording this and this day we're.

tracking this or this day we're zooming. this person or they're coming in here, it really like saved me and falling in. love with music again saved me because I. think it's all so easy to alienate. yourself or get alienated by things you. love whenever whenever you're doing it. such a long time or, you know, things. get tough and, you know, things don't go. your way and then they do go your way so. suddenly. So I guess the point is just. keep going and never give up and, you.

know, but it's it gets hard. Yeah, I. love that point you made. It's so. interesting how we can. fall out of love with something that. we're so deeply in love with. I I can so. relate to that in so many ways. Let's. Let's talk about that a bit because I. think that's just a fascinating idea, I. think we think that when you're in love. with a thing, an idea, a person, a. place, a home, we expect that once. you're in love, you just stay in love.

And like you were saying earlier with. your therapist, it's more like the other. way, like you fall in, you fall out, it. changes, it grows, it moves, you fall. in, you fall out, it changes, it grows. How have you learned to fall in love. with music again? Structure was a part. of that. Was there something else that. helped you fall back in love with. something that you'd fallen out of love. with? Or what made Actually, a better. question is what made you fall out of. love with music and then what helped you. fall back in love? I'm not sure if I. ever completely fell out of love. I. think after.

doing this since I was 16 years old, there's been a lot of times where I felt. really encouraged to keep going, but. there's also a little. discouragement at times. It's hard. whenever there's a lot of people in your. ears and people wanting you to be a. certain way and do a certain thing and. so I think for a long time, I didn't. trust my own vision because I felt as if. other people didn't either. And so I almost just kind of wanted to. give up and didn't really have a vision.

at all, but being able to go and. experiment and. find who I am sonically and what that. sounds like to me and you know, there's. so much of me on that track. I'm playing. piano on that track. I'm playing sub, I'm playing percussion, I'm playing the. just even if they were just little bits. of sounds, like it was me and I was. inside of it. All the instruments are. live. I got to, you know, I. for so long, piano was my favorite. instrument for so long, but now it's. pedal steel.

And you know, and I just I've fallen in. love with instruments again and Um, ignited so much excitement for me and it. ignited so much excitement with the. album campaign and performing and and. everything that comes with music and and. being able to experience what it's like. once it's out of the studio. And so that. really ignited a lot of excitement in me. again. Yeah. And then again, like again, the writing process was also amazing. A. lot of it was painful at the time. A lot.

of it was maybe. in bits and pieces and different. timelines of where I was personally, but. I think that's also what makes it. special. The album definitely is very. dynamic with with the sounds and the. instruments. Sonically, there's a lot of. emotions, a lot of conversations, but to. your point really quick about the. falling in and out of love. Weirdly. enough, Friday or tonight actually at 9:00 p.m., I have a song coming out with Ben.

Gibbard of Death Cab for Cutie and it's. one of my favorite bands of all time. He's one of my favorite artist ever. And our song is about that feeling of. "It's not you, genuinely. It's not me, genuinely. We're just falling out of. love. Like that's just we're not the. same anymore. We're we've grown. We've we've we've. we're drifting apart and I think that. really does happen with people. I know. both people from personal experience and.

from witnessing others. have to be fully invested in one another. and both have to want to light that fire. again. And if just one of you don't, then. it really it's. nearly I think impossible to get that. back. Yeah. And I couldn't agree that's. so that's so beautifully said. I. couldn't agree with you more that I. think that's what often is the truth. that we don't want to accept is that. someone doesn't want to.

try again. No. We don't even want to accept that. because it's so painful to accept what. we're like we want to try again, but. that person doesn't want to try again. And and that's the hardest part. Like. that that's really tough because you're. like, but I'm still in this. But then. what I find interesting about what you. just said there, yeah, it's also that. person realizing, well, I'm still in. this because I still think that person's. the same as who they were, but now using. your words, you're like, but we've just. outgrown each other. Like Do you think. people change? Like do people change? I.

put out this EP, right? And I titled it. people don't change because a lot of in. my personal experience. Yeah. I set out to want to change, and I. think I'm in the process of changing my. life. I don't know if I can exactly. change who I am at the core. What do you. What do you think about that? That's such a great question. Because I I go back and forth. I don't. And if somebody asked me, I wouldn't. know, but I I want to know your take on. it. Yeah, I would say I do believe that.

transformation and change. is possible. But. it's not very probable. The probability. is low, but the possibility is high. And. what I mean by that is everyone has the. opportunity to change, but the path is long, hard, and often. requires. big amounts of tragedy, stress, and.

turmoil to even get someone to have that. opportunity to take that path. And so I. don't think I would ever write off I. genuinely believe in real transformation. and change, and I believe in the. possibility of it. I think the. probability and the expectation and the. speed we want it to happen at is. unlikely. I also believe that people. don't change for people. And I think that's often when we say. people will change, it's often us the. real full sentence is.

people will change for me. Right? And I think that's really what. we're saying and that I don't agree. with. I don't think someone changes for. someone else. I think people change for. themselves when they realize that if I. don't change, then that's not good for. me. But the probability of that happening is. low until something massively painful or. drastic happens in their life. And I. agree with you on the core thing. Like I. look at I went through a huge change. externally in terms of I became a monk. I left my time as a monk that I lived.

for 3 years in India and then I. lived the life I do today and but I'm. still the same person I always was at. the core. Like what you just said. Like. at the core I'm the same person. I I was. raised by my mom. She told me to be. polite. I I like people. I'm kind. I'm. These are things I learned from my mom. when I was a kid. And I'm still all. those things. And I've grown, but I'm. still the same person at the core. And. so. I think that people can I've seen. amazing changes in people. I've seen.

people who've gone from doing the worst. things to doing the best things. I've. seen people go from but the probability. is not as high and it won't happen for a. person. So, I don't know if that helps. or answers your question, but. it does. Yeah. Yeah, because I mean, it's kind of exactly. how I feel about it, too. But yeah, no, I mean, I agree. Like and you know, from. experience of seeing that, I mean, even. in positive ways, you don't have to look. at it as a negative way. Not losing. yourself and who you are at the core.

Like I mean, I feel like I lost that for a long time. and in a positive way I got it back. Um. and again, that was a lot to do with who. I am. and who I was as a younger. child. Yeah. Um. because I also felt that change and. shift in myself at such a young age. I. mean, I still look at 17 and 18 years. old as. a child to me and and very very young. and and lived on my own at 17 and.

thought I had the whole thing figured. out and. you know, very quickly after everything. shifted very drastically and you know, until I was. maybe just a year ago I started feeling. like who I was. when I put my very first single out. Maybe or. maybe even way way way before. I don't really remember when I truly. lost or. started disconnecting from who I really.

am or started disliking or. not loving who I really was, you know. Yeah. Yeah, and actually I think you've. just answered it like I think ultimately. when we're both talking about change, we're talking about growth. Yeah, absolutely. And it's like what you've been saying. this whole interview so far, it's like. you're like it's an everyday thing. It's. a work in progress. I'm still working on. it. Like that's what growth is and I. think when we look at growth in. ourselves, we realize it's a daily. process, but when we look at change in. someone else, we want it to be drastic.

and tomorrow. Absolutely. Right? It's different expectations we. have of change if that makes sense. No, that was a really good way to put. it. Yeah, like you know, it's like I know if. I need to change it's going to take a. few years, but I'm hoping this person. changes tomorrow and yeah, yeah. And. that's where I think our expectations. and change kind of get too mixed up. So, change is possible, our expectation is a. slightly messy, I think. What's a big. change you think you've made in your. life that is. had a big change externally? Like.

internally, what is a change that you've. made, even a simple thing that you feel. has I mean, the most major change for me. was was stop taking Xanax. That. completely I was ruining my life. It. It was the scariest. most alone I had ever felt except. it made me feel as if I had comfort. whenever I was on.

Yeah. the substances I was taking at. which time. That was, you know, the poison that I. really had to get out of my life and um. make that change. Had I not done that, I. touch on it on the album, but I'm not. 100% sure I would have been able to be. sitting here having this conversation. with you because I didn't really want to. be alive anymore. You know, when I did have this moment.

of clarity, even if it was for a second, I did not want to forget that I had one. thought that like maybe I could turn. this around. I called who I needed to. call and I made that change. So, absolutely without a doubt. I mean, that's just the first thing that comes. to mind because had I not done done. that, like I I it saved my life getting. off of off of Xanax. So. That's That's. amazing. Thank you so much for being so. open and vulnerable with us. I can tell.

that obviously it's not an easy thing to. talk about, especially when it's. been a part of your life in that way. So, thank you so much. And and even more. so just that's incredible. Like that's. amazing. And and you know, I think. there's so many people listening and. watching who I'm sure. their family members, they've been in. that position. You know, I think. it's incredible, isn't it, how lonely. you can be made to feel when actually. it's a hugely collective experience. Um. and and I think that's going to help a. lot of people you sharing that and and. that making that change in your life.

Thank you. and and being with you today, I'm like. that's that's amazing. It's it's truly. incredible. you. Yeah, I think I think we need to. uh acknowledge and celebrate that more. because again it takes so much strength. to do that. Thank you. Yeah. I just hope honestly I. think my goal with all of this and being. open about it is I do know that. um. I'm not trying to be an example for. anybody. Totally. Totally. trying to share my experience because I.

also had a lot of people, I mean, we did. a podcast years ago. I have I had a. music career since I was 16 years old. Had a lot of people looking in since I. was. a baby just due to the family I was born. in and with Instagram and social media. and things like that, interviews, I felt. that a part of me was seen that, you. know, I allowed out there, but I really. wanted an explanation for I think a lot.

of like the things I had posted on my. Instagram and I felt like there were a. lot of things like, you know, friends. reaching out worried about me after I. would post an Instagram story and, you. know, just the look in my eyes was scary. to a lot of people. And there's a few. interviews and particularly when I just. hear the way I was talking where I feel. so ashamed and so guilty and I think. that's another thing. is like the shame and the guilt and the. regret. is inevitable when going through this.

So for anyone listening to know that. that's normal. Um, and that's something I experience. every single day even though I know I. probably shouldn't. It's. it's just something you experience and. it's it's something I'm going through. and go through and sometimes it's better. and sometimes it's worse, but I it's. just all part of the process. Yes. Yeah, again, I think that also goes. back to just learning to love yourself.

and and look out for yourself and. nurture yourself whenever you're. being so hard on yourself for completely. changing your life, you know, but I go. hard on myself about before and what it. was like 2 years ago or 3 years ago. And. that's just something I'm processing and. dealing with Yeah. as of now. Yeah, and. and I think that that's that's I love. where you said that. It's it's not about. being an example, it's just encouraging. to to hear that that is what you go. through. I think it's so interesting.

that every day we feel hot and we feel. cold. and we feel. maybe sweaty, we feel really cold, we. feel like we're freezing. Like we go. through so many different body changes. every day and we would never judge. ourselves for that. We wouldn't be like, "Oh, I'm the worst. I should have worn a. longer sleeve t-shirt." Like you just go. and put a sweater on or whatever. And. and I think it's the same with our. emotions. Like we're experiencing so. many emotions throughout the day, but we. don't give ourselves the permission to. say, "Oh, I'm allowed to feel cold and.

then get a sweater to feel warm." Like. we don't do that with our emotions if. that makes sense in saying, "Hey, I do. feel a bit of. shame, but then maybe I need to feel a. bit of this to to help, you know, even. it out." And so I love that that's the. process you're on and. I agree with you. It's a daily thing. I. don't think there's anyone who never. Just like there's no one in the world. who never feels hot or cold. There's no. one who doesn't feel sad or down or. happy or unhappy. Like we're all feeling.

all of them at different spectrums and. different extremes. So, learning our own. patterns and learning our own thoughts. is is pretty much, you know, what we all need to focus on. So, I I wanted to pick something that. This was a lyric from I Bend Down Burn. LA Down. And you said, and obviously it's about feeling like. you have to burn LA down to get. someone you're dating's attention, but. this is the lyric that I thought was. really beautiful. You I'm I'm going to I can't sing, so.

please do not expect anything. I'm just. going to read it out. Okay. I waste my breath on a prayer you don't. care. I was never part of the plan. You. can't make a god of somebody who's not. even half of half a decent man. Like. that lyric is just It's a pretty cold. lyric, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But but it's also just like a a very raw. emotion and I thought it was it's it's. cold but it's poetically put together. So, it's it's it's powerful and I think.

a lot of people could relate to that. I. think that I wanted to pick a few. moments if you don't mind of it if that. lyric. The you can't make a god of. somebody. I find that such an. interesting concept. I think so many of. us are looking for god in the people we. idolize, the people we follow, the. sports teams, the the musicians, the. actors, the even parents and people in. our lives. Like we're all looking for. that god figure in so many ways and you. know, you rightly say in that lyric you. can't make a god of somebody. Like where. did where did that that come from? I.

wanted to hear that idea cuz I thought. that was really powerful concept. My. poetic way of always just completely. falling into people and how much I. completely rely and give myself to. people. I think obviously I've been very. open that it's been hard to rely on. myself in the past. I always looked in. that for other people in in other. people. At the time especially of. COVID and everybody's isolation.

It was just me and that one other person. and so my entire life revolved around. that one other person every single day. whether they were happy, they were sad, if they were comfortable, uncomfortable, if they were mad or not mad, if they. loved me or didn't love me, my entire. life became would. would revolved around somebody else. I've definitely done that in the past. and like you said again, people with uh.

are like that can be with many different. things. It's finding the right things to. do that with and then and with me it was. my album and worshipping music and. actually finding myself and who I am and. loving myself. But that was where that. lyric came from is just. it felt like worship. The way that I admired this person. And. then you had to redirect that worship. towards your music and your craft and.

your creativity. Would you say that's. correct or Absolutely. And I think also. I've been thinking a lot about my. spirituality lately and I think that's a. huge different conversation for a whole. other time, but you know, I just. falling in love with other things and. the world's so interesting and. the universe so interesting and energy. is such a powerful thing and I just I. want to learn more about it and and and. God and and what that is to me and other. people and who and and just it's all.

so interesting and I just want to know I. want to learn more. I want to grow more. again like I said this all goes back to. growing instead of using the word change. going going going to the word going. growing I think is good. Yeah. Yeah. No, I I I can relate to a. lot of that in the sense of like I feel. I was always in love with love growing. up. Yeah, me too. I I fantasized that. majorly. Same and and all of it was based on. romantic songs and movies and none of it.

was based on reality. It was all based. on. pop culture and media and you know, and. and I for a long time I. I really pursued that type of love and. that was that love that was based on. idolizing someone else, worshipping. someone else, wanting also to be. idolized back and and recognizing that. there was a part of me that was really. seeking that importance through that. other individual. in the guise of loving them.

And I think when I. came to the conclusion that. similarly to what you're saying. actually, like you can't make a god of. somebody. So, you can't make a god of. yourself either, you know? And that that. was a a really beautiful reflection, but. it's it's a painful one because. we get so trained in. wired to believe certain things. What's. a. What's a belief that you think you have. now about yourself that is healthy and.

putting you in the right direction and. helping you grow? Uh you talked about some of the beliefs. in the past that have held you back. What's a belief now that you have about. yourself that. that is helping you move forward in in. this positive direction? That I can just. I can do what I. set my mind to do, whether that's. with recovery or. other things. I used to just say I can't. and or I won't or.

but I actually have. shown to myself so many times what I can. do. And I think that's something that. like I repeat to myself every day. I. also have you will be tatted on my on my. wrist, which I kind of think is kind of. the same thing. Just that. I will be what I set my mind to or what. I set my goals to or who I want to. become or who I want to work on being. and I hope that's kind of enough. But.

it's just that I just that I I I had so. much doubt in myself, and that's. something that has held me back for so. long. So, I think. knowing that and believing that and. believing that truly into my core is. new for me. uh and something I can truly honestly. say I feel about myself. I also have a. hard time. you know, even when you say that like I. may. back to the confidence thing. I sound. like I really believe in myself, but at.

the same time I have battles where I. actually have a hard time doing so. Totally. Um or saying kind things about. myself or you know, so it's kind of a. hard battle. So that was kind of the. first thing that came to. mind. I thought it was a beautiful. answer because I'm like, isn't that just. such a great thought to repeat that if I. want to change something I can. Like I. can with this journey I'm going through. therapy, this journey I'm going through. recovery. Like that's that's such an. empowering thought and I think it's so.

amazing how we quickly believe negative. thoughts about ourselves, but we doubt. the positive thoughts. And it's like. every day if I told myself, which I have. at times like I'm not good enough, I'm. not good enough, I'm not good enough. I don't ever question that thought. I'm. so cool with accepting that that's just. the truth and I don't think about. whether I say every day or not. I just. keep saying it. Whereas when I say I. can, then we're like, oh wait, wait, wait, did I say that too early? Maybe I. don't. Maybe I don't believe it. And and. so I actually love that that was your. answer because I think that is the.

beginning of all change and growth is. saying I can do anything I put my mind. to and and I have control over what I. put my mind to. And so I I actually. think it's a it's a really great answer. and. I'm I'm hoping that everyone who's. listening to that can start making that. shift in their life. I had a mentor who. would always repeat Napoleon Hill to me. And so he'd always say to me, you become. what you think about. And then he'd get. me to repeat it. He'd be like, keep. saying that. You become what you think. about. You become what you think about. And then he'd catch me off guard.

randomly when he'd see me and he'd look. at me and be like, Jay, what are you. thinking about? I'd be like, nothing. And he goes, well, you become what you. think about. See, what? You're going to. become nothing? Like and he'd just play. with that. And then it was I was like, oh, interesting. What am I thinking. about? What do I obsess over? Like, what. do I keep repeating in my mind?" And it. was just something as simple as that. that started me to be like, "Okay, well, I'm thinking about my purpose. I'm. thinking about my service. I'm thinking. about how to have an impact in the. world." I'm think And then I just. started see my life change, and it is. that simple in the beginning. And so, I.

actually think that was a beautiful. answer, sir. Thank you for sharing it. Uh Noah, I could honestly, and I hope I. do get to have that conversation with. you another time. As you said, there's a. whole separate conversation about. spirituality. discovery, but we end every episode uh. with a new segment that we started. recently, which I love, uh called the. many sides to us. Okay. Uh and this is. where you're using words or phrases to. talk about yourself through different. perspectives. So, I'm going to ask you. the questions and and you can answer. them. So, the first one is, "What's a.

word or phrase that someone would say. about you meeting you for the first time. now, today?" I don't know. I think this. is hard. Can I give you one? Yes, you give me one, cuz I can't. for the first. So, I met you today for the first time. in person, and. I the word that came to my mind was. sincere. Okay. Really sincere. Okay. Uh you were so sincere and genuine. uh in your initial words to me and what.

we were talking about when you first. came in, and there was just so much. sincerity and genuineness there. So, that's how I think you came across as. one. right. Thank you. Thank So, I did that. for you, sir. You, that's good. I I'm. hopefully not going to have a hard time. with this. I know, the the rest will be. easy. Uh what is a word that you use. that someone would describe you at that. knows you well? A word or a phrase that. someone who knows you really deeply. would use to describe you. Sensitive. Mm. Yeah. Sensitive. In good and bad ways. I. think sensitive can be taken as like a.

bad thing. Absolutely. actually. I'm I'm a very sensitive person, and I. think the person I'm thinking of would. be my mom. If you were to I think that. was my mom telling me that. I'm very sensitive. I love though that. what you've been doing today, you've. done it twice now. It's like you're. always looking at how each quality and. value can actually be. negative but also positive. Like, you. know, it can be healthy, too. Yeah. And I think often, like you said, like I. initially oh, sensitive. Yeah, people. are so sensitive. And it's like, well,

no, no, no, being sensitive can actually. be one of the healthiest things. So, I. love that. you a lot of compassion towards other. people as well. It's not like how you. said, like, "Oh, you're so sensitive.". You know, actually, I'll take it the. wrong way sometimes, too. Yeah, but I'm like, "What do you. mean?" So, but I think maybe if she had. my mom had said that on a different day, I probably wouldn't take it the wrong. way. All right. Question number three. What's. a word or phrase you'd use to describe. yourself? Sensitive. Um I'm very loving towards other people.

and other things and like, so towards. myself, but I mean, so I've whenever. people. we actually I have We talked about this. in therapy. I have a hard time talking. about my I It's very evident talking. about myself personally, but whenever I. do talk about things about myself, I. think it's the way that I give to other. people. So, I'm a extremely loving and. giving. person. Thank you for having the cards. to compliment compliment yourself. I. love that. yeah. No, it's yeah, that's great. I.

love that. That's a great answer. All. right. Last two questions. What's a word. or phrase you'd use to describe the. hardest part of the album? Honest is such a vague answer. Um. but I mean, it's just extremely honest. and open and it touches on so many. parts of my life. Um like I said, in so. many different situations. I also use the word personal a lot, too, just because literally the first song on. my album is called Noah. And so, I think.

in a way, I was nervous at first like, how are these how are people going to. hear this and make it relate to. themselves? But I think honestly by. being so honest is where people will be. like, "Oh, I actually do feel that, too." Because if you're not, then other. people aren't going to be able to relate. to this. I think every feeling sometimes. sometimes my thoughts feel like I'm the. only person that's ever had this thought. in the world. And then I like go on. Instagram or TikTok and I see people. talking about their feelings and they're. like, "I feel that feeling." You know,

so. probably that, I would say. Very a vague. word, but. a vague It may be a common word, but the. description that you just gave of like, yeah, that feeling of connectivity, I. think is really powerful. Like I think. I think that's why it is important to. talk about how we feel and what we're. going through, so we realize we're not. the only ones, you know? I mean. I I think a lot of people suffer in. silence and and suffer in a place. because they do feel isolated and alone. because they they don't check with.

someone because they didn't feel. comfortable to. Yeah. Uh you know, I I have a very minor. totally minor surgery tomorrow and it's. like I I. a very minor totally not not not complex. or deep or anything anyway. But the. reason I'm bringing it up is even. something so minor when I told my. friends about it, I found out 25% of my. friends had all male friends had all had. that surgery. And I was like it's a. hernia and it and and I was like, "Why. didn't you ever tell me?" Like right? And that's a really basic example, but. it's the same thought process of like.

how. when I when I first heard I had a. hernia, I was like, "I'm too young to. have that. Why do I have one?" And then. when I started talking to my friends, so. many of my friends under 30 had one and. I was like, "Oh, why didn't I know about. this?" Right? So, it's something as. simple as that. So, I think the honesty. it connected. Uh and fifth and final. question, what's a word or phrase that. you're trying to embody? Again, extremely cliche because it's a. title on my album. Um but I also have it tattooed on my.

body is stand still. It's a phrase my dad said since I was. really young and I felt like I forgot to. use it for quite a long time. But when. you don't know what to do, just stand. still. It's okay to take your time and take a. moment and reevaluate everything. That. has saved me so many times in my life. and a lot recently. Um, and so to. practice for me it's really hard for me. to stay still and stand still and be. still. And so to practice that more, I.

really live by those words and I really. look up to my dad and admire him and his. strength so much. So That's such a. powerful powerful answer. I love that. advice. Stand still. Uh, everyone who's been listening and. watching, I want you to go stream The. Hardest Part right now. It's available. as we're speaking. Go and listen to it. Go and share it. Go and feel with it. Go. and experience the honesty that Noah's. putting out there. I hope it's extremely. healing and connecting for you and also. please feel free to share. I think there.

were so many incredible things that Noah. shared today. Please tag us both on. Instagram, on Twitter, on TikTok if. you're sharing a reflection from this. podcast. Please tag us both because I. love seeing how you put into practice. what our guest share and I'm sure Noah. would love to see that too. So please. please please do that. And Noah, I hope. this is the first of many times I get to. sit down with you like this way. do too. Um, but you uh, I just I want you to know that. everything you shared today is going to. stay with me for a long time. Thank you.

And uh, there are so many parts that I. know I'm going to re-listen to and. re-watch. And I'm just so grateful. glad we got to talk because I even was. having. anxiety and had been I mean, with my. grandmother just passing had been having. so many different conflicting feelings. and like even today Nick was like, "Oh, well, maybe this is just talking with. Jay and you know, talking about your. feelings and stuff is really going to. help you and I was so This has been. amazing. I'm so grateful we got to be in. a room together and finally meet. Thank.

you so much for having me. No, thank. you. I hope you feel you got to share. everything you wanted to share. No, I I I feel I feel great. Thank you. That makes me happy. Amazing. Thank you. so much. Thanks, Noah. If you want even. more videos just like this one, make. sure you subscribe and click on the. boxes over here. I'm also excited to let. you know that you can now get my book. Think Like a Monk from. thinklikeamonkbook.com. Check below in the description to make. sure you order today.