Kobe Bryant on the Mistake Parents Make That Paralyzes Kids

To say okay, it's okay to fail, cuz. you're going to be loved no matter what. I had to look at it from a long term, cuz I wasn't going to give up on the. game. So I had to say okay, this year I'm. going to get better at that. Next year, this. And then so forth and. so on. And then patiently I was able to. catch them. The first question I want to ask you. because so much of your content right. now that you're creating here at Granity. is aimed at helping young people, aimed. at helping children. And as a father of. four girls, I wanted to ask you what's.

the biggest thing you've learned about. yourself by being a father? Uh you know, it's amazing like when you. become a parent, um things become much. more, you know, life becomes, you know, it aligns things up for you a little. differently, right? Like before you have. kids, me and my wife we can travel. anytime, you know, there's work and you know, you. become very um you have a very clear. focus. When you have children, it. becomes about them. It's not about you. guys anymore. All right? And so that.

shift, it's a big one. You know, it's one of kind of. uh. selfishness together. and then to be an absolutely selfless. and doing anything you can for your. kids. And so what I'm trying to do is. create content that teach them first and. foremost. That's why I started this. whole thing is just reading stories to. them that I felt like didn't exist. You know, our kids are athletes. and uh they love reading about. princesses and all these fairy tales and. you know, they get a little sick and. tired about the man saving the princess.

every time and you know, the same old. stuff, magical wands and all that. My. kids are athletes, man. They want to. learn about soccer balls and basketballs. and volleyballs and you know, magic that. comes from that. Yeah, and I love that you're encouraging. young people to think more imaginatively. about sports. And I think that's where. you go a step deeper. You know, for me. observing you and learning about you and. hearing you speak in other interviews. and everything, what I'm fascinated by. is that you've dealt with things in life. pretty head-on. All right, you've always. gone at it. What took you a while? What.

was something in your life that you were. shy about originally or that took you a. while to go head-on with, but then. finally you got there and you figured it. out? Uh writing Dear Basketball. That That. was a hard jump, you know, because I I. had I'd written before. I mean, I I. started writing probably about 17 years. ago. So, practicing every day. A lot of. things that I that I wrote were were. ads. And so, you write an ad, you know, nobody looks up at who wrote the ad, right? You can kind of There's a certain. uh anonymity that comes along with that, right? But writing Dear Basketball was.

different. You know, it's putting it out. there for the world to see. It's trying. to create a short film. And uh I didn't know if I could do it, man. And uh you know, it was my daughter. who kind of put things in perspective. for me. Gianna, she's now 13, and she. was like, "Well, you always tell us to go for it.". So, She put you on the spot. Yeah, she put me on the spot. She was. like, "You going to talk about it? You. going to be about it?" Basically. And. you know, and that that gave me the. final push. I love that. When you started writing 17. years ago, did you envision that one day.

you would move into this storytelling. space or was it just something you. enjoyed at the time? No, man. It was just something I. enjoyed, and I enjoyed writing ads. It. was something funny about trying to. distill a message down into 30 seconds. or a minute, depending on the budget. You know what I mean? Trying to say. something important, um trying to speak. to the, you know, brand attributes, but. also speak to something that's greater. and that has a stronger message, stronger philosophical message. And how. do you connect those dots? So, putting.

that puzzle together was something that. was really intriguing. But like, you. know, I never thought I'd be writing. novels or movies and that sort of stuff. Never, man. I love that, man. I love it how. everything evolves naturally. And. actually hearing you say that, it. reminds me. So, my vision when I was. sharing earlier became very clearly. making wisdom go viral. And I was like, "How do I take these teachings that are. like so sacred, they're hidden away in. these books. And how do I make them. really relevant and accessible and. practical to the whole world? Because I. know that anyone can access them.

They're universal, right? These These. teachings can apply to anyone, but. sometimes they're just hidden away and a. young person doesn't know how to find. them. So, that inspires me hearing them. That's beautiful, too, because. especially in today's um. in today's world, there's so much. clutter. You know, it becomes harder for kids to. try to weave through a lot of the crap. that's out there and the fun uh stuff. that's actually beneficial to them. Yeah, it was I think it You reminded me. I think E.O. Wilson said we're. drowning in information starving for. wisdom. Yeah, that's sure. Especially.

That's why I think your work is cutting. through because I think what you've. managed to do with your new work is that. you're finding ways to connect with what. people care about, but you're taking it. a step deeper. Yeah. Right? You're not You're not just. settling for like let's talk about. sports. It's not just about sports. It's. about life, right? It's about the metaphor that sports has. for life. I mean, you know, sports is. the greatest greatest metaphor we have. in terms of dealing with life cuz you. know, even if you listen to music, music. could give you guidance, right? That you can then meditate on and. think about how you would apply it. In.

sports, you have to apply it in the here. and now. I mean, you're faced with. challenges moment to moment. You're. faced with pressures and anxiety and. communication or the lack thereof and. all sorts of stuff. Like it's in the. moment. So, you have to live it. And. when you practice those things, you. become better at it. But I just feel. like in this day and age, our children. have become less imaginative about how. to problem solve and parents and coaches. have become more directive. in trying to mandate or give orders or.

teach kids how to think and teach kids. how to behave versus and tell them how. to behave versus teaching them how to. behave. And so, that's why I'm creating these. stories and creating this content. Yeah, I love that. I think it's so true. When you treat people as kids, then they. always be kids even when they grow up. And for you, it was really powerful. because you've talked about this before. where your father said to you like. whether you score zero or 60, like I love you. Tell me what that. statement meant to you at that time and. and how did it actually motivate you to. continue scoring 60 rather than go oh.

I'm all right at zero. Well, it did more than that, right? So. like the basketball stuff speaks for. itself in terms of what that comment. made, you know, did for me in terms of. giving me stability and giving me. confidence to say okay, it's okay to. fail cuz you're going to be loved no. matter what. And that that doesn't just mean. basketball, that means anything in life. That means writing, that means being an. entrepreneur, that means. um having the confidence to go for it.

And um I've seen too many parents do the. exact opposite and it terrifies children. and children become paralyzed by their. own fear. uh cuz they don't have that security. blanket of love and comfort. Yeah, absolutely. How how have you been. able to in your life see past the cloud. of emotion to actually execute on. things? Because I think what we were. speaking about earlier, this challenge. that young people have today, everyone. has today of just so much information, so much cloud of emotion, so many.

feelings, so much childhood baggage that. you're bringing. Like how have you. always cut through that and execute on. that? You know, I what I try to do is just try. to be still. and understand that things come and go. Emotions come and go. The important thing is to accept them. all. to embrace them all. and then you can choose to do with them. what you want versus being. controlled by emotion. You know, a lot. of times I've seen players even myself,

you know, when I was younger being. consumed by a particular fear. um and to the point where you're saying. okay, no, it's it's not good to feel. fear. I shouldn't be nervous in this. situation. Like no. And it does nothing. but grow. versus stepping back and saying, "Yeah, I I am nervous about the situation. Yeah, I am fearful about the situation. Well, what am I afraid of?" And then you. kind of unpack it. And then it gives you. ability to look at it for really what it. is, which is nothing more than your. imagination. running its course, you know. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I love that cuz.

what you're saying is that when you're. dealing with something, it's almost like. how can I get to the root of it? Yeah. Because sometimes what we're dealing. with, like you're saying, it's an. imagination, an illusion. It's not. really. It's not It's not really a thing, you. know? Like you you think about. game-winning shots and. or game-winning free throws. And people. go to the free-throw line and they're. nervous about it. Well, what are you. really nervous about? If you unpack. that, okay, you you're nervous that. you're going to miss the shot. All. right, so you missed the shot, then what. happens? People are going to be. embarrassed. You're going to be. embarrassed because thousands of people, millions of people see you miss the. shot. All right, and then what? People. are going to talk bad about you.

Okay, right? And so you're looking at it. going Are those things even important? You know what I mean? If that If that is. my fear, like what what is You're. worried about letting your teammates. down? Okay, have you let them down. before? Oh, I'm sure in practice and. things of that nature, right? They're. still there. Yeah. You know? And so when you're able to. unpack it, you kind of look at it for. what it is, which is really nothing. Yeah, I love that. Breaking it down. I. think that's so important. I think. everyone who's listening or watching. right now, next time you're facing a. fear, next time you're going against. something, do that. Like literally. unpack it. Don't just settle for your.

first answer because the first answer is. rarely the right one. Don't hide from it, you know? You got to. be able to look at it. And you know, and. and and deal with it head-on. Mhm. Yeah, I love that, man. And and you talk. about that because you talk about, you. know, when you talk about missing uh. five throws, and you talk about uh. getting over yourself. Yeah. Right? Like getting over yourself. How. did you get that mentality of just being. like, "I need to get over this. Like I. need to get over myself.". You know, trial and error. Mhm. You know, you grow up and you make. game-winning shots and it's awesome. You.

come back the next day and miss a. game-winning shot and it's misery. And. then the next day comes and you're back. playing again, and you understand that. life has a cyclical nature where it's, you know, what you do on Monday it's. fantastic, but then Tuesday is a bad. day, but guess what? There's Wednesday. So, are we just supposed to live our. lives like this the whole time? You know, versus just staying like this. and understanding that it's really just. a journey of. evolution. Every day is just constant. improvement, constant curiosity, constantly getting better. The results. don't really matter. Uh it's the figuring out that matters.

Yeah, and we all get obsessed about the. results. Yeah. Like we get obsessed about like the. output, not the input of not figuring it. out and not like changing things. What. you said trial and error, like the. experimenting. Yeah. to do that. It's unfortunate, man. Like I've seen a. lot of players, um especially now, and. you know, in youth basketball dealing. with that. Um yeah, players that are like bigger. and faster and stronger, and you know, their coaches are just coaching them for. results. You know, we're just going to. use your size that cuz you're bigger. than every other 12-year-old out there.

to dominate today, and and but they're. not growing. Right? So, they're just based on that. result, but they're not focused on. growing this young child and becoming a. better than athlete, and through that. teaching them how to become a more. well-rounded person, and we're missing. that. Yeah, see what you've said there just it. I want to ask you this, and I'm not. saying cuz I, you know, like you know. yourself best and you know how you've. got there. So, I'm asking it from a. place of humility of learning. When I. look at you, I'm like. you know, your superpower isn't just.

your work ethic, your superpower isn't. just like figuring things out, your. superpower is that you think. strategically. That's a very strategic. thought of saying this person. could be this in the future if they were. developed as a whole individual rather. than just like let's use them for the. short term. Right. Where did you develop that from, that ability to see beyond, to think. deeper, to to reflect deeper? Where did. that come from? Well, I had to do that because, you. know, I grew up growing up in Italy. Um. when I first moved over there, it was,

you know, I didn't speak Italian, I didn't have. any friends. You know, I had the game of. basketball and through sport and playing. soccer, I was able to make friends and. build connections. But, there was a lot. of time spent alone. And and when I came. back to the States, I wasn't the most. athletic kid. You know, I was really. scrawny, like really really skinny and. had like major knee issues cuz I was. growing. So, I was the dorky kid with. high socks and big old knee pads. It's fashionable now. It's fashionable now. It wasn't then. It. wasn't then. And and so, um I had to look long-term because in.

the here and now, I couldn't compete. with these kids. I mean, there was kids. that were like 12 years old with beards. Like, I can't. I can't What am I supposed to do with. that? Like, they're they're doing. windmills and dunking backwards and I'm. happy to like tap the backboard, you. know? So, I had to look at it from a. long-term cuz I wasn't going to give up. on the game. Right. So, I had to say, "Okay, this year, I'm. going to get better at that. Mhm. Next year, this." And then so forth and. so on. And then patiently, I was able to. catch them. Yeah. That's I love hearing that because.

I think so many of us kind of you. believe like when when you see people. like yourself, it's like it's so easy as. an excuse to ourselves to just be like, "Oh, you're destined for it, right? You. were made for it.". Kind of like that kind of, you know, like, "Oh, yes." You know, but but when. you talk about saying, "Oh, actually, when I started, I didn't have the. Yeah. physicality that meant that I was going. to make it. Like, you had to figure it. out." And I love it. it out, man. It's it's just piece by. piece and it's the consistency of the. work, which. I feel like a lot of parents are missing. today because we're not teaching that to. our kids. We tend to say like kids don't.

want to do the work, but in reality, it's I mean, we're failing them because. we're not. leading them the right way and teaching. them, Yeah. you know, how to fish, you know what I. mean? And so, like the consistency of. work, Monday, get better. Tuesday, get. better. Wednesday, get better, right? And you do that over a period of time, you know, not like 1 month or 2 months. I mean, it's. 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 years and then you you. know, you can get to where you want to. go. Yeah, I I got I got I think it was Bill. Gates who was talking about that. He. talks about how like we.

we overestimate what we can do in 1 year. and underestimate what we can do in 10. years. No doubt. Right? It's like that, you know. No doubt. No doubt. Like I think everyone thinks about it. like, "What can I do right now? Like how. can I make it happen?" But like with. you, I think people always ask you also. like, you know, "How do you deal with. losing or failure?" What I'm intrigued. by is how someone like you deals with. winning. Because you've won again and again. And. like I was saying earlier, you you know, you won obviously we know you won in. basketball base as an athlete, but. you've you're winning now even in the. work you're doing here as a storyteller, as a producer, right? It's amazing to.

see so many incredible awards coming. through. How have you dealt with. winning? Like when you win, what goes. through your mind. to help you to continue winning? it's a little different. Like in. basketball, it was different because you. know, I expected to win. Mhm. You know, like I expected us to win. championships. I expected us to win. five. Quite honestly, I expected us to. win eight. Um and so when you have that vision in. sports, it's a direct competition. Like. I know how hard they're working. I know. how hard we're working. I know what.

their strategy is. I know what ours is, you know? So it's a little different. So. when we win in the NBA, it was like, yeah, we expected to do that. But now we we're going to come back and. we're going to do it again, you know? And so it's that constant like, all. right, you're churning. You win one. championship, I'm back in the gym the. next day working getting ready for the. next one. Now, uh it's different because it's not. about the awards, you know? You just. wind up trying to create something. that's that's going to inspire. uh someone. Mhm. That hopefully, you know, through that. inspiration they can inspire somebody.

else. And what I've come to learn as my. career went on is that's more. significant than any championship. It's how do you connect with somebody. that can then connect with another. Mhm. And then with whether the awards come or. not, you know, that's. for, you know, um. you know, the Academy Awards. body to decide. But you know, like for. us it's just to try to create things. Yeah, well, I guess now that's what. shifted that now the intention isn't. even expecting to win, it's expecting to. change lives.

Right. Right, like your content is really about. making a difference and an impact on. young people's lives. Sure, sure. Which I which I think is like. the biggest way of winning. I think so. I mean, you know, you're. looking at 62% of young children are. dropping out of sports. 62% and they. cite the fact that it's not fun anymore. What does that tell me? I mean, that's. telling us us as grown-ups are getting. in the way. Get out the way. Let these kids be. imaginative, which you know, like in our. stories it's important that yeah, there's a fantasy. nature to it. Right, but it's rooted in.

reality. Right, when we have. fire-breathing winged horses and things. of that nature, those are actual drills that are taking. place. We don't We don't have fire. drink, you know, fire-breathing winged. horses actually performing that, but we. do have ball machines. that are spitting balls at at tennis. players, right? And so, all of our all. of our stories are all anchored in an. element of truth so that children feel. like when they are doing these drills. with these ball machines, they can. envision maybe it's a fire-breathing.

winged horse. Yeah, to keep them excited. Yeah, yeah, they can envision Gus. throwing fireballs at them, you know. Yeah, yeah. And even the plays, like when they you. know, in in the Whizzards series when. the basket is opening up and shrinking, these are things that we experience as. athletes. Like some days I feel like I. can't make a shot, man, and the basket. feels like the size of a keyhole. Yeah. You know, and other days it looks like a. swimming pool. Yeah. You know, Yeah, well, that's. that's magic. And so, we we we root our. magic in reality so that when kids.

experience these things, particularly. the failure side of it, they can connect. it to one of our stories and say, "Okay, I've seen this before. I know how to. deal with this.". Yeah, that's beautiful, man. I love that. that analogy of like feeling the basket. bigger or smaller and being able to. vision that I can vision it right now. And I'm like, "Yeah, you're so right.". Like some days it looks huge and I love. that. That's such a great way of. thinking about it. And I guess so much. of this is from your real life vision. Yeah, this is like some days when you. play. Yeah. But I I love that because it's also. giving them the permission to say like.

be imaginative about this, right? Yes. And and that obviously gives so much I. think when we imagine. it changes the reality of Oh, I'm just. sitting out here taking shots. Yes. Right? Which can get boring and tiring. Comes mechanical. Mechanical, that's the word. And like our our job is to try to. inspire the creativity inside of our. children. So that they can think through how to. problem-solve situations. So like, you. know, when I coach my daughters' team, it's not about giving them answers.

It's about asking them questions and. getting them to process things. Right? When the game is being played, I'm not sitting there giving them. answers or barking out things on the. sideline. I sit down and I'm quiet. Assistant coach sits there, she's quiet. And the kids figure things out for. themselves or they don't. And then they. come back and they there's always. questions and then you kind of ask them. more questions and you help them figure. it out. But then you see their level of. excitement to practice every day. increase. because it's something it's a process. that they are owning. Right? They're not coming to get orders. barked at them every day.

They're coming for for for for kind of. their personal quest. to get better. Yeah. And how how does you how do you do. as feel like you coaching? I guess that. style makes them feel comfortable but. how have you been able to manage that. with the pressure of you being there? No, it's no pressure because, you know, it's it's their process to own. Like I I. have knowledge information that I've. that I've gained, you know, through. playing. So like the little details of. things, I can teach at a high level. Um. but ultimately it's it's it's them.

Yeah, you you seem you seem very still. and detached about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean it's it's, you. know, the kids love playing basketball. and so that's the anchor of it all. They. come and they play and they learn and. they have fun and you know, and they. compete, and. you know, they challenge themselves and. one another, and. um. you know, you just get better every day. Yeah. How How have you seen that with. obviously with Legacy and the Queen, you. you chose tennis. Yeah. Like what was the what was the choice of. sports about? I'm intrigued by that. Why. tennis? Yeah. So, like the first novel we did.

was was the Wiz and Oz series. It was. important that for that to be basketball. because I wanted the first story to be. one of empathy and compassion. Mhm. And in team sports, if you don't have. that, you can't win. Right? And so, it was important to tell. the tale of a basketball team. uh dealing with their own personal. fears, and how those fears and. insecurities lead to empathy and. compassion for others. Right? And with the second story, I. wanted to look more internal. individually. And And look at how do you deal with the. inner challenges, the kind of the self.

negotiation that takes place inside of. our own heads. And there was no sport better than that. than tennis. There's golf, uh but tennis you have more movement, which to me symbolizes life in general. because life is there's a lot going on. Right? There's the elements in tennis. that you have to deal with as you deal. with in golf, maybe not to the same. extent, but they're still there. And. then there's the confrontation with the. person across the net from you. Yes. Right? As well as the strengths and. weaknesses in your own movements, and.

how you feel in your own body. And because of that, it was important. for this story to be a tennis story. Mhm. I love that. That that makes. complete sense. And then give me an. example of that self negotiation. I love. that word, and I get that. Can you. expand on that a bit of a. Yeah. Like, you know, you're you're. you're out running on a track, working. out, and you start talking to yourself. saying, "Man, my my knee is really sore. right now. Maybe I'm Maybe I'm doing too much.". Sounds like me. Maybe I need to back off, you know. Man,

my lungs are burning. And my Maybe I can. just slow down here. I'll do like an. extra two sets tomorrow, you know, it'll. be okay. Yeah. Right? That sort of stuff. Yes. Like that stuff's dangerous. Yes. And that's when you just got to say, "You know what? I'm not negotiating with. myself.". Yeah. The deal was already made. The deal was. made when I set out at the beginning of. the summer and said, "This is the. training plan I'm doing.". I signed that contract with myself. I'm. doing it. Mhm. You know, throughout the that process, you'll start talking to yourself like, "Man, I got to I think I need to maybe.

if we Nope. Mhm. Nope. This is non-negotiable. Non-negotiable. Yeah. Yeah, I love that. And for you, empathy. and compassion were things that you'd. been through. Like that was that was. personally inspired work. Yeah. When did it come to your awareness that. empathy was something missing for you. and that you wanted to develop it? Um I had a teammate that that uh spoke. to me and said, "Hey Cole, you know, I. just want to feel like as a teammate, you need me.". I was like,

well, duh. I can't I can't, you know? Like. that was my immediate reaction. It was. like, "Dude, yeah, of course." But I had. to kind of think about really what he. was saying and where that was coming. from for him. Mhm. And his story and his journey and what. that meant to him. And that opened my eyes to there's a. bigger game being played. It's not just. basketball, but it's the emotions of. each individual. and the backstory that they're carrying. with them, the baggage that they're. carrying with them. And if I really want. to be a champion and be a great. teammate, I have to understand what.

those mean. to help them become better and in turn. help me. Yeah. And do you do you think this. content's going to help all the content. you're creating here at Granity? Is that. for you to help build better bonds. between parents and kids? Like are you. hoping that the podcast, for example, like kids are going to listen to on the. way to school or on the way back? Or. like how are you imagining people. consuming the work? Yeah, I I mean, I imagine it in in in. different ways, you know? But like. ultimately, people always figure out a. way to do it that's comfortable for. them. But like, you know, which is why.

um in everything that we do, we try to. create the highest quality of product. Right? Like you know, people will sit. down and tell me they'll say, "Okay, well, audiobooks. very small percentage of people listen. to audiobooks. You don't really have to. invest too much in doing audiobooks.". And. What? Excuse me? No. Because what if. that that one person just listens to. audiobooks? That one family enjoys. audiobooks. They have to get the best. experience that I can possibly give. them. So, that means using a London. orchestra. That means doing full.

symphonies. That means having Felicia. Rashad read the stories. Like it means. everything. The books themselves. I got this all the time. There's no. money in making books, man. Nobody makes. money in books. And I'm sorry, you want. to make a book with using what material? You want You know that. Yeah. Yeah. You know? I'm like, uh yeah, because. children matter. So, like I I don't know. how they're going to I I imagine how. they're going to be consuming content. Um but ultimately it's my responsibility. and our responsibility as studio to make. every single thing that we put out the.

highest quality possible. Yeah. Yeah. No, I can imagine I can imagine. parents listening to it on the way to. school. I can imagine listening on the. way back or on the way to practice. Sure. Sure. Things like that. Like I think it's. cool. I think it's. Well, the Punies for sure. Like the. Punies I was like, you know, yeah. When I first made the Punies, we were. going to release it in the summer. I. think we released it in August. Um uh. and uh I think I think it was August. Around the same time. But my mind I was. saying, "Okay, parents are going to. listen to this every Saturday morning.". Cuz I know I'm in the car driving my.

kids to soccer games and like you know, volleyball games and stuff. So, parents. can listen to this with their kids in. the car as they're driving to sporting. events. Like that was kind of what I had. in my mind. And then when it came out, it's like, you know, teachers were using it more so. than anybody in classrooms. And and. doing like classroom reports on the. Punies and. and all sorts of stuff. So, you know. You never know. It's It seems like you study life a lot, right? Like when you're talking about. all of this imagination which stems from. your own work. Like for example, like. when you're dealing with empathy and.

compassion, it's reflected in the. content. When you're going through these. visualizations of what could this look. like, it goes in the content. You study life a lot. What currently are. you studying? And what kind of gets your. imagination really growing right now? Like what keeps that moving for you? Uh. you know, there's a certain there's a. certain element of truth in everything, you know, and. um you know, the creativity generally. comes from personal experiences first. and then you kind of look on a broad. kind of on a broader scope of okay, how.

do you take something extremely personal. and then channel it in a way for masses. to understand and get their arms around. sort of thing. But it always starts in. the element of truth and then you start. unpacking that by sitting in thought. and figuring out like character and you. know, who is this person and you know, who's his family and then that's when I. start getting in trouble. You know, because it's like the. questions don't end. Yeah. You know, so I have like books and books. and books and books and books and books.

and books and books and books of. backstory because it's not good enough. just to say the character is this way. Yeah. Why are they that way? Yes. Well, the parents. Well, where did the. parents come from? You know, where did. the dad come from? Why are they raising. the kid this way? And then you know, what does it have to do with the economy. that's around them? And then and just. one thing leads to the next and then. you're just writing all kinds of stuff. It's crazy. Yeah, that's awesome because I think so. many of us get, you know, in our lives. we get stuck with imagination. because you kind of get into that. autopilot mode. Yeah. Doing the same thing every day, same.

routine, same drive to work. Yeah. And it's like I feel that what you're. sharing is. that's easy for anyone to do. It's not. like oh, because you're Kobe Bryant, you. don't feel that. Everyone gets into. that. You're able to find these creative. outlets. Yeah, well, you know, like creativity. is in everything, you know, like. even in consistent like what I found it. is is creativity a lot of time comes. from structure. I agree. I'm so glad you said that. when you have those parameters and the. structure, then within that you can be. creative. But like if you don't have the.

structure, you're just aimlessly doing. stuff. You're just like. You know, where you going? You know? So. like having a clear structure of. understanding, okay, this morning I'm. going to like when I was writing uh. wasn't our series and outlining legacy, I come in in the morning 7:00 a.m. and. I'm there. I'm writing backstory from 7:00 to. 12:00, then go pick up my kids, and then. I come right back and I'm writing again. So like within that structure, you know, my mind when I go to sleep is. already like planning of what the next.

day's going to be because I know, you. know, what it is I have to do. It's that. consistency and structure. Yeah, I couldn't agree with you more. I'm writing my first book right now. Oh, wow. And a lot of people have been asking me. like, Jay, and and I'm like that. I have. a very scheduled focus on writing and. people will be like, well, how do you. find inspiration at that time? What if. you're not inspired at that time? And. I'm like, no, the structure helps. spontaneity. Right? It's that. consistency that breeds creativity. the thing too is like, you know, people. think like it's you're just kind of just. kind of. you know, molling along and all of a.

sudden, aha! You you know? Like the the. show that we have on on ESPN now called. Detail, uh basketball, you know, sports. breakdown show. Um. that came to me when I was walking. around with my wife shopping. Yeah. And. I look at a piece of fabric and I'm. like, wow, this is really the detail. And this thing is oh my like detail. That's the name of the show. And then. everything came from there. But I had. been thinking about. a show like that for like a year. Yeah. You know, and I couldn't I couldn't. shake it loose. I'm like, what what I.

got to I got to find a sports show that. I'm going to do, but it needs to can't. just be basketball focus, has to be. broader. And I want to hear from the best minds. in the world. I want to hear from Peyton. Manning. I want to hear from What is it? What is it? For like a year. And then. all of a sudden, boom. You know, and so people think it just. comes out of nowhere. You got to like. obsess over it for a while and then it. kind of pops loose. Absolutely. Yeah, you had to plant the. seed well before to see the fruit. Yeah, and you got to water it all the. time, man. Like you got to sit down and. watch and watch other shows that are out. there and like, you know, and then.

ultimately you just find, you know, like. when the answer comes to you it's like, "My god, I could have thought of that on. the first day." Remember John Williams. told me that. He said he said he'll sit. for like 2 months to try to figure out. what the melody is. Yeah. And he'll just be playing he'll he'll be. at his piano all day. He'll say the only. day he'll take off is Sunday cuz his. wife forces him to take Sundays off. And he'll just be sitting there writing. writing writing. And then it just comes. Yeah. And he's like, "I seriously could have thought of that.

on the first day." Like why? It's just so simple. Yeah, absolutely. And And that's what. people don't realize as well. Like when. you go out there and you're shopping. with your wife and you see the detail. and you're like, "Okay, that's the. show." And then you go back into. consistency to create it. Yeah. It's like, you know, it wasn't just. like, "Oh, now I thought of them. I'm. just going to throw that idea." It's. like, "Now I'm going back to the drawing. board. I have the name now. Build around. it.". What I try to do is shoot the idea down. and figure out everything that's wrong. with the idea. Ooh, okay. Right? This show won't work because like.

detail for example is like, "This show. won't work because it's not for fans. Mhm. It's for the 1% athlete.". Yeah. All right. Well, will will it be. successful? People connect to it? Like, you know, you start unpacking every. little thing. How will we shoot it? Can. I even get Peyton Manning to do it? Can. I get, you know, and uh you start. shooting them down. Same thing with the. novels, like characters and plots and. stories. Does this make any sense? No, here's why. Pop pop pop pop pop pop pop. pop pop pop pop pop pop. And I I felt. like that really helps me. Yeah, I like that approach a lot. actually because I think sometimes,

especially right now in the world, we go. to the wishful thinking side. Yeah. You have the positive vision and. you're like, "Oh, this is how it's going. to turn out.". Right. And then you ignore the bad stuff. Yeah. Or you ignore the kind of like the the. potholes or the loopholes because you're. just like, "Oh no, I don't want to focus. on the negativity.". Yeah. But actually what you're saying is, if. you're aware of it of those known. unknowns, then you can actually break. them down yourself. Well, yeah. It's It's just like the same. thing for any great movie. You have to. have the antagonist. Yes. You know? A strong villainous character.

will really drive the narrative along. If you don't have that, you have nothing. from which your hero has to bounce off. of. Mhm. You know, that that villain could be, you know, Maleficent. It could be something inside. of you. It could be whatever, but you. have to have that clear antagonist. that's driving the narrative forward. And so, in this sense, it's the same. thing. You pick apart the negative, and. from that, you can then move. Yes. move forward. Absolutely. What I'm loving here right. now is that. what I'm hearing is like Kobe the.

storyteller. Like I'm loving it. Like. what I feel is like what I'm hearing. about is your obsession and. obsessiveness. Yeah. with stories. Yeah. And it's not just like, you know, I'm. sharing this. It's like you've really. studied stories. Like you've really. broken them down and understood it. Where tell me about where that obsession. comes from in general, like how you find. obsessiveness and how you've applied. that to story. Yeah. I You know, obsessiveness comes. from something that you love. Like you. really love it, you'll go through fire. for it. You know, you'll go through the. ups and downs with it. And you'll just.

keep at it because you love it so much, you know? And um. and story for me started a long time. ago. I mean, I had a great English. teacher at Lower Merion High School uh. named Jean Machrihana. And she explained to me the art of. storytelling my sophomore year. And. that's where I started falling in love. with it and understanding story. structure. Um. you know, how to develop compelling. characters and how this thing how. stories. um are the driving force, whether. they're inspirational or informational, that really change society.

Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, we're defined by. the stories we tell ourselves, whether. personally or or outside in the world. Absolutely. And And it seems like you. just mentioned there, just shows the. role of teachers. And now when you find. that teachers are using the work you're. creating to teach, that must be amazing. Comes full circle. Yeah. You know, and. you know, it's a it's a it's a. pretty cool feeling, man. Like I like. growing up when I was in high school, man, I didn't read much at all. Yeah. You know, cuz basketball was my thing. Now, if you give me a basketball book or. like a sports book or like a sports.

psych book, oh, I'm devouring that. You know what I mean? Cuz it was a clear. focus for me, which kind of gets me into. this market a little bit, too, cuz like. for our active children that love being. outdoors and playing all the time, they're not reading. No. But they're missing out on so much by. not reading. But they will read. if there's something that they feel like. speaks to them. So true. You know? And so now I think we get more. readers in the world because of it, hopefully. true. No, I think so. I agree with you. Like for me, and and this is why.

everyone's different and I think there's. such a need for what you're doing. because. when I was growing up, I never enjoyed. fiction. Mhm. And so I thought I didn't like reading. because all the books that the school. suggested were fiction books. And then. when I was 14, my dad handed me an. autobiography and a biography. And I devoured it. And then I started. reading because I was like, I want to. hear about real people who break and who. develop and who learn and grow and like. have been through failure and like I. want to hear about rags to riches and I. want to hear about like I want to hear. about real people who went through real. pain.

That's right. And but I grew up believing that. I didn't like reading. Right. And I think that's You're so right. I. think there's a lot of kids out there. who think they don't like reading or. they think reading is boring. It's a problem because like it what I. found in the industry, which is why we. self. publish, Mhm. cuz a lot of publishers want to publish. the same type of story. Mhm. You know, the same type of. plots. Uh. same looking characters. Not a lot of diverse characters out. there at all. And so we said, you know what? We're.

going to have to do this on our own. This way we don't have anybody in our. way telling us what the market wants to. hear. I don't care about that. We write. stories that come from the heart. And. our characters are going to look like my. daughters cuz my daughters don't have. characters out there that look like. them. It's a great point. Yeah. They're going to look like my kids. And. uh and we're going to go from there. Yeah. I think I think what you've just. raised there about diversity and. representation is huge. It's huge, man. Huge. Cuz I don't see it, man. And like, you. know, it So, like. books is just the first thing. Publishing is the first thing. Now, if.

we look at animation, animation's even. worse. It's even worse, you know, in. terms of developing characters, um. diverse characters. But, even beyond. that, the animators themselves, there's. no diversity in that industry. Right. None. And I'm talking not just racial. diversity, but gender diversity as well. And so, there's a there are a lot of. things that we need to take on that we. are taking on. And um hope to make the. world and the industry a better place. because of it. Yeah, no. I I fully agree with that. I. have I'm a British Indian, right? Born. and raised in London, and yet never seen.

any character that looked like me. anywhere. Right. Cuz they think, you know, the. mass market, they're not going to it's. not going to appeal to the mass market, so we're not going to do that. Yeah, exactly. Wait, what? What? Yeah. And and and everything's spreading. so fast now, and everything's global. now. Yeah. Right? Nearly all content is is global. now, and most global markets are growing. everywhere. So, the need for people, especially young people, being able to. see themselves in characters. And and. even and it's it's not And I think it's. a deeper point that you're making is you.

want to be able to see your story in. someone. Right. Right? Even just beyond like color and. background. It's like your story, your. experience of life. When we made Dear Basketball, we got a. lot of pushback from people. Like, oh, I. I took it to some very prominent studios. at first. And they all said, yeah, no. Um because they said basketball is too. sports specific. Nobody's going to connect with this sort. of thing cuz, you know, there's a lot of. people out there who don't watch. basketball. And I'm like, "Well, that's. not the point.".

Yeah, that's not Yeah. It's not the point. And so, it was. really a case study. Even with our. novels, everybody was like, "Sports. novels, nobody's going to read that. It's too too much of a niche market. niche market.". I'm like, "Sports is bigger than that, man." And so, we made Air Basketball to. really prove a point that you don't have. to watch basketball at all. to connect to the journey of a dream. Yes. You know? And. once we saw that connection was kind of. kind of validated our point of view. I think that's a massive point of view. And for anyone who's listening or.

watching right now who thinks. because Kobe Bryant wants to do. something, it just happens. It just. shows you have to do it yourself. sometimes because not everyone's going. to believe in you. Certainly not. Certainly not. And what. you'll see is, you know, once you start. doing it, and now people want to come. and jump in, but I'm like, you know, you. kind of forced us to go about this. ourselves. So, I think we're just going to build it. from the ground up ourselves. But, thank. you. Exactly. They saved you. Yeah, it's like, thank you. We. appreciate it because if you had signed. on, you know, we just be kind of.

going with the flow. Totally. Yeah, you can be grateful to. them. Yeah, appreciate it. Yeah, absolutely. No, I agree. It was. the same with this podcast, funny. enough. When we launched, a lot of. people were. a lot of people were considering whether. it was, you know, going to like, you. know, you do social videos. Like, is it. going to work on a podcast? And there. were a lot of people that were not sure. And then like, we launched one of the. biggest podcasts in the world in the in. in the health category, which is which. is my world. And I was just like, everyone was like, "Oh, interesting.". But, I'm like, "Thank you. Like, thank. you so much for saying no, and you. didn't think it was going to work. because now I figured out myself." And. what you said, it actually builds.

confidence and validation. Yeah. Oprah told me this when I first. decided to build the studio. And I was. asking how Harpo came to be. And she said, "Well, when she was doing. her her her deal. for The Oprah Winfrey Show, she was. re-upping her deal. And actually the. first contract she made, she she said, "Well, don't pay me up front. Just I want to. own a percentage of the show. And so they gave it to her. Now, at the. time there weren't any black women. hosting a daytime talk show, right? So.

it was really new. And uh and she said, you know, Kobe, if. they believe that the show was going to. be successful, they wouldn't have given. me that. Yeah. They wouldn't have. In their mind, they're thinking, oh, we got a steal. We. don't have to pay her. We can take this. money and move it over here. This is. great, you know, it's going to be a flop. or it will be a success. I don't know. At least we get diversity on TV. It's. fine. And all of a sudden it's, oh. Uh-oh. Uh-oh. We're in trouble. We shouldn't have given that away, yeah. Opened up Pandora's Box, right? So now.

you come back for the next day and it's. like, you got to have to give me some. more ownership. And they're like, dang. it. Here. And then ultimately she, you. know, came to owning 100% of her show. Yeah, which is amazing. Wow, that's a. great story. Yeah, that's fascinating. I. think because sometimes when you think. that, you're like, oh, they like me. That's why they're giving it. No. Yeah. No. Don't like me. Please. Here's. an idea. It's terrible. I just need you. to buy in just a little bit. Yeah. I love that one. That is awesome. How are you encouraging You've shared so. many stories of like your teacher who.

taught you about storytelling and. writing early on. You just shared the. Oprah's example like, you've had so many. incredible mentors in your life. We all. know about that. How are you encouraging. young people to find the right mentors? And how can they find the right mentors? Even through your work. I guess your. work is somewhat mentorship. Yeah, try We try to be, you know. And I. think the important thing is research. You know, in the hall here in the. office, I have a hall that I call Muse. Hall. We have all the portraits of some of our. muses here from. J. K. Rowling to, you know, Steve Jobs.

and so forth and so on. And I think it's. important to research them. And it's like putting, you know, fuel in the fire every day. You know, it's constant inspiration when. you read about them, what they were able. to accomplish, how they went about. accomplishing it. You're just. constantly, you know, feeding that flame. and in learning. And the best way to do. that is to learn from the people who. have done it. Yes. Yeah. That just made me so happy. I have a. gallery wall in my home. If we were. recording this at my place in in.

Hollywood, like I have a gallery wall, Steve Jobs is right there. Yeah, yeah. Right. And and and and Einstein's there, Martin Luther King's there, and there's. a few other people. And it's For me, it's the same thing. It's like sometimes. I'm sitting there and I'll be like, "What would that person do? Like how. would they have dealt with this. challenge?" And you're so right. I think. you can be mentored by people who aren't. alive. 100% cuz their stories still live, which. is brings us to the importance of. storytelling. Their stories still live. These muses are here. It's important to. learn from them. And and if anything, it helps you. remember that they are human just like.

us. Yeah. These great things that get accomplished. can be accomplished by others and. beyond. You know, building Walt Disney Company. is not something that, you know, people. look at and scoff at and go, "Oh, it. can't be done." Well, why not? Why not? Yeah. And the more action you take, the. more you think it's possible. Yeah, because you realize they're people. just like us. They make mistakes just. like us. And they kept going. And we can. do the same. Absolutely, man. Well, I could talk to. you for hours, but you're a busy man and.

you got loads of things to do. So, we. end every interview with what we call. the final five quick fire rapid fire. round, which means you have to answer in. one word or one sentence maximum. Got it. So, this is easy for you. So, the first. question is what brings you the most joy. right now? Family. Beautiful. Second, what do you want your. girls to think when they hear your name? Daddy. Nice. Number three, your favorite. animated film. Pinocchio. Oh, nice. Oh, I was not expecting that.

It's it's the greatest. Yeah. They they made I mean, they were in a. zone when they made that film. Absolutely. Question number four, the. book that's had the biggest impact on. you. The Alchemist. Oh, nice. Okay, great. Question number. five. Your one message to all. storytellers would be? Create from truth. It's beautiful, man. Kobe, thank you so. much. Got it, man. This has been an honor, man. Thank you. It's such a beautiful conversation. Thank you for sharing so many gems, so. many wisdom pieces. And anyone who's out.

there right now, I've got the copy of. the book right here, Legacy and the. Queen. You can go grab it and you can. also listen to the podcast, The Punies, as well, right now. So, you can go and. download that. We'll put the links to. both of them in the comment section and. in this podcast. So, you can go directly. there. Kobe, thank you so much for. allowing us into your space, man. This. is really special. Thank you. I'll remember this. Thank you, man. Thank you. If you want even more videos just like. this one, click on the boxes over here. And if you want to continue seeing these. kinds of stories, you can subscribe by.

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