Jimmy Kimmel REVEALS: I Got Fired So Many Times Because of My Behavior..

It's feels selfish sometimes to be. happy. It's hard to figure out to be. happy. There's no logical reason why we. shouldn't be happy. It doesn't make. sense. Jimmy Kimmel's been hosting his late. night show for over 20 years. Jimmy, you don't do a lot of interviews. What does it feel like to be on the. other side? >> Putting yourself out there is hard. I. started in radio. You're already halfway. hidden and nobody sees you. You don't. have an audience there to not laugh if. you're not funny. >> When everyone's firing you, letting go.

of you, telling you this isn't a great. idea, how do you hold on to an idea when. everyone's telling you it's terrible? >> Pure delusion. Has talking about your emotions always. been something that you found. challenging? >> And I feel like I've matured a lot. thanks to my wife. >> In what way? No, don't ask her. Oh, she's standing. She wants to be. asked. All right, before she gets up here, Jay, I should just say. You've been very open about your son's. heart condition. Yeah.

>> And that's been something that I imagine. is extremely difficult. To stop and. think about someone else and their. child. The number one health and wellness. podcast. Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty. The one. the only Jay Shetty. I am so excited to be here tonight at. the Greek Theatre in LA with the one and. only Jimmy Kimmel. Make some noise, everyone. Thank you.

Thank you for having me, Jay. I want you. to know that my first question as it. always is because I'm never I'm. interested I was watching you and when. you had people stand up and you said. stand up if you've ever worried about. what how you looked. And I was thinking. I was wondering cuz I couldn't see the. audience if anyone didn't stand because. I think everybody and if there was a. person who's never worried about how. they looked, that's the person I want to. hang out with after the show. But I said, "What is the dress You know,

what is the Cuz I want to know I want to. fit in." They said it's elevated casual. I was like, "All right. Well, okay. I'll. find something that seems to fit that. category." And then I come here and you. are dressed like Adam Sandler. I'm not wearing shorts. I'm not wearing. shorts. >> elevated? What is it elevated from? >> I don't know what this is, but I assume. you wear. >> to go to 7-Eleven. There's nothing This is just casual. This is not This is just level casual.

That's what it is. >> Jimmy, this is not the roast of Jay. Shetty. I think you're at the wrong I was told. differently. I think you're at the wrong. event. I think we're going to see you at. Stand up if you've ever eaten a whole. pizza by yourself. All right, Jimmy, we're 3 minutes in and. you started roasting me already. I'm. Sorry, that's my It's my nature. I was. telling you I was right It was confusing. to me because you're talking to these. people and everybody's got these great.

stories and you're hypnotizing them with. your eyes. I know what you do. You know like 85% of this audience is. here in the hope they might get to have. sex with you, right? It's why I showed up. So how does this go, Jimmy? How does. that work? Between me and you. >> What, sex? Yeah, how does. Well, when a a host and his guest fall.

very much in love, they go into the dressing room and uh. and I'll show you from there. Yes, that's right. My wife would not. approve. Thank you so much. That's the. only reason. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Jimmy, you don't do a lot of interviews, but you No one wants to talk to me. You agreed to do this one. Why now, why. here, and what does it feel like to be. on the other side? First of all, my wife.

loves you. And so I become exposed to you, your. magic. We have some mutual friends, and. really I said to my wife, I said, "Hey. Jay Shetty asked me if if I would do his. show." I said, "Should you What do you. think?" She said, "Well, I'd like to. hear you on that." And I said, "All right, well, you're not listening. to me at home, so maybe. maybe we can accomplish something. tonight.". >> magic happen. Where is she? Is she here? Tonight? >> I He is here, but I don't know where. she's sitting. She may be.

>> Hello. Oh, there she is. If you guys just want to write making. this happen write on a card what you. think of her, we'll hand them to her. after. Thank you for making this happen. Uh. Jimmy, let's start there actually. You. know, tonight has been all about what we. don't do because of what people think of. us, the things we worry that people. are perceiving about us, the judgments, the criticisms that people have of us. Talk to me about a time in your life. when you really felt like imprisoned by.

that, if ever. Oh, very much so, all the. time. Not just I mean, really, honestly, like if I'm at an event and I'm not. dressed properly, I feel In fact, I went. to a wedding recently. Uh very good. friend invited me to be in his wedding. party, and he wasn't that great with the. details of the party, but again, another. dress code situation. This one was um. festive attire, which means nothing to. me. And I was in the wedding party, and I. wore what I thought was festive attire,

and I showed up and everyone else was in. a black suit. And so I'm the idiot in all these. wedding photos. And that, you know, that's I feel uncomfortable with the. simple things like that. But I, you. know, putting yourself out there is. hard. And I'm not talking about show. business necessarily. I think that there. are a lot of people that I've known over. years and years who are really good at. something. And you you try your best to. encourage them to do that thing that.

they're good at. And they're either. going to do it or they aren't. And. sometimes for them, you saying they're. good at it is enough. And that's enough. for them. And they don't want to. threaten that idea. They don't want you. ever think, "Oh, you weren't good at. that." So, they leave it and I think. that's To me, that's so sad that people. will do that because I do think that. there are so many people who know they. have this potential or this talent or.

whatever it is and they just they don't. use it because they don't want to be. proven otherwise because everyone in. their in their little circle thinks it. and they don't want to change their. minds. And I know that's an inelegant. way of saying it, but you you really. need to do it. You have to do it. And I. For me, I was fortunate because I. started in radio. And when you're on the. radio, you're already halfway hidden. And nobody sees you. You don't have an. audience there to not laugh if you're.

not funny. So, you just kind of have to. assume you were and you keep going. And. I was able to take baby steps from being. on the radio to being the sidekick on a. game show to being a partner on a comedy. show to eventually doing my own show. And I'm not sure if I would have been. able to take that big leap. I was. fortunate, really genuinely fortunate, very lucky to have been in a situation. where I could take those steps one by.

one. Oh, yeah. I mean, it's just a lot of it. is luck, you know? That's the other thing that is is a sad. truth, but a A of it is luck. Now, you. have to be ready. when you get that moment where you you. are lucky, when you have that moment of. fortune, you have to be prepared, and. you have to do whatever it is that you. need to do to accomplish whatever goal. you would like to accomplish, but. still luck is a big part of it. Yeah, I. want to I want to get to that, but I.

want to I want to go backwards a little. bit because I read somewhere that you. actually grew up wanting to be a. scientist. No. No, I don't know where you read that, but that is false. >> Okay. Was I farting into Ziploc bags and. leaving them. under my sister's pillow? Yes, if that. if that's what you consider to be. science, I wanted to be a scientist. But, uh no, science was never uh my. thing. I wanted to be an artist when I. was a kid. I like to draw. That was my. thing. I wanted to draw. >> at drawing? Yes, I like.

>> What would you draw? I draw my my. classmates, which they never liked. I would draw, yeah, anything. Uh. superheroes when I was a little kid, caricatures of people, I'd draw my. family, I'd draw David Letterman on the. television as I was watching him. Pretty. much I still to this day if I'm if I. have a pen and a piece of paper, I'll. just scribble whatever uh whoever is. sitting in front of me as we're sitting. there. Wow. And so you so you will still. do it today? I do, yeah.

>> Have you done it on the show ever? Couple of times. It's hard to be funny. and draw at the same time. They're like. they're totally different parts of your. brain. They definitely got that wrong. The The media never gets anything wrong, right? So Yeah, I know. Yeah, in this. case it's your fault. In this case it's. yours, yeah. I'm always fascinated by what people. wanted to be when they were growing up. and then what they end up becoming. because I think there's so much hidden. in childhood. And there's so many. experiences, so many things we hear, say, the the subjects we study at.

school, but you've had this history of. pranks always being a central pillar. And for most of us, maybe you did a few. pranks when you were a kid. How many of. you did some pranks when you were kids? Any pranks? Yeah, all right, a few of. you. I I did a lot of pranks when I was kids, but sometimes you leave those behind, but you actually lost jobs because you. did pranks on your colleagues. Yeah, bosses. Bosses, yeah. >> Bosses, right. Is this going to be where. I crack open this Juni and there's a. cockroach in it or something like that?

Because you planted it. The sabotage. There's a prank. Yeah, I love pranks. I. think the reason that I love pranks is. because I grew up in a family that would. scream and yell when I did something and. I got a great reaction out of it. I. mean, they really if you don't want to. be pranked, just don't react. That's the. way to go. But I grew up, my aunt Chippy. is a very loud woman. She is on my show. regularly. We are still She's 85 years. old. Most recently, I mean, I started by. putting little explosive in her.

cigarettes and. you know, tying cans to the back of her. car and she would go to work or she'd be. in the casino in Las Vegas smoking and. pow, the cigarette would blow up. And then she'd call and curse me out. over the phone and I loved it. And um. we now that I have a TV show, I'm able. to escalate. So. a couple of months ago, this has been a. dream of mine since I saw those Waymo. cars. She doesn't know about these. She. lives in Las Vegas and she's never seen.

a self-driving car. So I had a guy. pretend to be a chauffeur in a Waymo car. pick her up at the airport. He gets out of the car, he opens the. door for her, he says, "I have to You mind if I use the. restroom and then we'll go." She's like, "Yeah, no problem. Go ahead.". He closes the door of the car. and off it goes. And there was some real concern that. this might kill her because she's 85.

So I wrote to each of her daughters, my. three cousins. I said, "Listen, I here's. what I'm planning to do your mother and. I need your permission beforehand. because I don't want to kill her on TV. and. if I do, I need someone to blame.". Within seconds, they all said, "Oh, definitely do it. Definitely do it.". So, we've got a. a sick family, but a fun family. But, talk to me about when you weren't. you didn't have the resources to pull it.

off your own show and you were losing. jobs over pranking your bosses. Like, first of all, where does the audacity. come from? And second of all, how do you. keep doing it? I believe it wasn't just. once. I wouldn't call it audacity so. much as I would call it. stupidity. I thought that I was a disc jockey. I. did a morning radio show and I worked at. a lot of radio stations in a lot of. cities. If If you've lived in a city, I've probably had a job and been fired. in that city. And each time I thought.

the bosses would be on board with the. idea that the listeners would think it. was funny if I was torturing them. because then they could drive to work. and go, "I love hearing this these guys. screw with their bosses. I wish I could. do that, but I'm enjoying it through. them." And they never liked it at all. They would tell me they were going to. like it when they hired me and then when. it happened, they hated it. Just dumb. stuff. Once we were golfing and I unlatched.

their. golf bags on the back of the carts. and then forgot about it for like six. holes. and then ran over their golf clubs. Um once I completely smashed the inside. of I. I had a hot dog. It's a long story and. but there was a hot dog that he didn't. eat and he threw in the garbage and. every night I would sneak in and put it. in in his drawer in his desk. And each day he'd open his desk and. there'd be a hot dog in there and he.

didn't know why. And he'd throw in the. garbage again. And then each time I. would get in there and I'd put it back. in the desk. And then he started locking his his. office. So I climbed in over the. You know, the offices have that like. kind of. really cheap ceiling. I I lowered myself. in and as I lowered myself completely. the desk collapsed, the shelves. collapsed. It looked like the Northridge. earthquake had happened only in his.

office. I knew that I'd be fired if he found. out. So I just got out of there and. locked the door. Put the hot dog in before I left. And never mentioned it again. I don't know what he thought happened. But eventually they'd fire me. Eventually they'd have enough of my. nonsense. >> What how did that conversation go? The. firing? Was it a conversation or you. just got a message like what did that. look like? >> this. And of course there were different. situations, but generally it would go,

"So you know how you work here now? Tomorrow. you won't be working here. And in fact, we're going to get a box, we're going to go in your office, we're. going to get all your and we're. going to walk you out to the parking. lot. I have to say to this day. I hate firing people. It crushes me to. fire somebody even if they deserve it, even if they've done something bad. because I've been fired so many times. and it sounds funny. These stories are I. know I get that they're funny, but it.

wasn't funny at all at the time. You. know, I was making like $18,000 a year. and then had to go home and first of all. tell my wife at the time that I'd been. fired again for being an idiot and that. we're going to have to pack all our. stuff and move to Tucson. And. that happened over and over and over. again until eventually I found a radio. station here in LA, K Rock, that valued. my. commitment to nonsense. And.

I also grew up a little and I learned. like, okay, don't call your bosses wife. at home on the air. and dig into their personal life. Those. kind of lessons. Those important lessons. that you learn along the way. And I was able to keep that job until I. I got a job in television. I love your commitment. I I love things going on right now that. would blow your mind that I can't even. talk about because they're bubbling. But. what my thing is, my wife does not like.

when I my wife I got her a. Did you know you can get a personalized. license plate for anyone's car? No. How does that work? Explain that to. me. Well, what you do is you fill out. the forms and then you forge the. person's signature at the bottom. And you write on the thing what you. would like their personalized license. plate to be. In my wife's case, I made it We Be. Jammin. And then the license plate came in the.

mail. and I went out in the garage and I. screwed it onto the car. and I waited until she was you know, until she came out to the car and she. wasn't happy. But I've done that with a lot of people. My band leader who plays the saxophone, I made one that says Send Your Saxi. I. put that on. his car. I got the idea at a U2 concert. Somebody. had a license plate said U2 fan. I. thought, oh, okay. Maybe I'll do that in a bad way.

What's a What's a firing conversation. that went wrong? What's the worst time. you've fired someone and you're like, ah, I shouldn't have done it like that. >> Oh, well, one time it went on for like 3. and 1/2 hours. It was me talking and. them crying and just kind of going. around in circles over and over again. and until finally I was like, all right, I got to go pick up my kids. So wait, you fired them then hugged. them? Oh, yeah. Right. Yeah, there's. always some hugging involved.

Yeah, it's you know, it's not great. I. forgot fired one time and I've been. fired now so many times I knew what was. I knew it was coming because the way. that you know is they stop yelling at. you. And once they stop yelling at you, you're in trouble. They're like, ah. forget it. We don't need Why bother? We're firing him in 3 weeks. But I went in and it was me and my. partner on the radio and they sat us. down and they said, listen, you know, we're going to go in a different. direction and you know, all that. that they say to you and it's. just probably best for you guys too and.

I'm thinking no, it's not. And then and then they gave the whole. spiel and they were nervous and I said, listen, here's what we're going to do. We're going to come to work on Monday. morning. and we're going to pretend like none of. this ever happened. And there was a long moment of confused. and. terrified silence. Yeah. And then I started laughing and. gave him the finger and left, I think. We met on the show. My wife is the.

executive producer, one of the executive. producers of the show and. we made love and I asked her. So it wasn't you and your guest, it was. yeah. She was not a guest, no. Wasn't like us. Yeah, it wasn't like us. It's terrible, Jim. It won't be that. bad. I'm very gentle. Is it just me or does it suddenly smell. like toast? It does. >> It does. You're having a stroke. Oh, wouldn't you love that? >> Yeah. You know, I can write a nice letter. I'm.

good with that, but there's something. about. expressing myself in a. very honest way. that uh difficult for me. Why is it? Uh the answer's within. The answer's not. within. >> me. Only only you can answer. >> lot of stuff in there. Yeah. I'm not sure I want to go rummaging. around. >> There's a whole pizza in there.

On a serious note, what's beautiful. about that is you were able to hold on. to a really authentic part of. self-expression that was your comedy. It. was something you found funny. It was. something that you really believed. It. was something everyone would find funny. You didn't give up on that. You were. able to hold on to it and find a place. eventually that allows you to pull off. these crazy things. How did you stay. true to that when everyone's firing you, letting go of you, telling you this. isn't a great idea, or it's pushing. people the wrong way? Like, how do you. hold on to an idea when everyone's. telling you it's terrible?

>> Pure delusion. Just. Like, a lot of the things I thought were. so funny weren't even funny. Like, they. weren't funny. Like, I you know, I. wasn't that good at my job. And I think. that's an important thing, too, because. I look back at these jobs and I go, "Well, it wasn't all their fault." You. know, like, on one hand, I feel like. maybe they should have recognized that I. was always a very hard worker and that I. I did have some talent. I think every. one of them would tell you that. But, on. the other hand, like, I was kind of. crazy, you know? I was doing antisocial. things. And they didn't get it, and they.

didn't want to deal with it. They were. adults, and I was this you. know? This kid. And they didn't want to. deal with it. But, I do have this thing. where I just kind of figure like, "Well, if I think it's funny, then surely there. will be other people that think it's. funny." And it applies to other people, too. You know, one of the best things. about my job, and really about even when. I was on the radio, is I've been able to. identify and help other people who I saw. as talented and who didn't quite know. how to do it or make their way in or or.

stay there once they got in. And that to. me is very sad Even just putting my Aunt. Chippy on television, right? Now, I'm. not the. I'm not the first person to put one of. their relatives on on television, but I. just kind of looked around and go like, well, I think she's funny. And so, I. think other people will think she's. funny. And the same with my Uncle Frank, her ex-husband, who was on my security. guard on the show before Guillermo was. was there and then they were there at. the same time. He was just this weird,

very neurotic, very. anxious former cop from New York who. only arrested six people in 20 years. and. had this strange outlook on life where. he would take $200 out of his ATM at the. beginning of the week and then he wanted. to have $0 in his wallet at the end of. the week and it had to be that way. And. so, if he had any money left in his. wallet on Sunday, he'd just give it to.

people, like strangers. He'd just hand. it out to people. And he was always. doing this like weird stuff and I, you. know, I I one time, my bandleader on my. show is my best friend since I was 9. years old. We grew up across the street. from each other. And I didn't know my. relatives were funny until he thought. they were funny. I was like, oh, they're. annoying. They're always yelling at each. other. They're, you know, it's like, oh, they're coming over. He's I said, my. Aunt Chippy and Uncle Frank are coming. over. He's like, oh, can I come? I was. like, what? He's like, oh, they're. hilarious. I was like, they are?

And that clicked for me. I was like, oh, yeah, they are hilarious. And it turned. out he was right and I've just kind of. operated by that principle for my whole. life. Yeah, talking about family, you. just became a granddad, too, right? >> I did. My daughter, Katie, had a baby, a. baby girl. Probably should have gotten more. applause for that, but um. Thank you. I mean.

I feel like almost killing my Aunt. Chippy got more applause than having a. a granddaughter. But yeah, we're very. excited. She's what, like maybe like. 8 days old or something. Yeah. Yeah, smoking already, which we're we're. concerned about, but. How does that feel? What what is that. like psychologically, internally, mentally? I feel like. I don't know. People seem to. think like I I first of all, people. approach you cautiously in a way about. it, like Oh, so you're having like like.

I'm going to be upset about this. Like I. don't know. What kind of an. would be upset about having a. grandchild, but I guess people don't. want to be thought of as old. And I. don't really care that much about that. I'm just excited to have a little And. also, being a grandparent, I think it's. going to be, first of all, an incredible. way to get revenge on my children. Tell me how. What are the pranks that. are brewing? Not even pranks. Just all. the things they did to me that they're.

going to say I know they're going to go. don't give please put them to bed before. 11:00, you know, don't give them a bunch. of Reese's Pieces. And I'm going to nod. just like my parents do, and then I'm. going to do all the they don't want. me to do. And I think that's one of the great. That's where the circle of life, you. know? But it's fun and um it's exciting. and it's strange to see my daughter as a. mom. I think that for me is is the It's. not really about how I feel because I've.

always felt like the same person. I feel. like I'm the same person I was when I. was 9 years old, but um to see like your. daughter holding a baby and smiling is. it's um you know, people know it's. great. Yeah, absolutely. Give it up. It's um. It's beautiful to hear about that. because yeah, it's uh I've I have no. experience of that. I don't have. >> no grandchildren? >> have kids, no grandkids. And it's it's really fascinating. watching. someone you love grow into becoming. someone else. Like you said it was.

strange watching her do it. What what. are you noticing in her that's that. feels that way? Well, she's. breastfeeding which she'd never done. before. You know, she's um. She's seen my daughter is very funny. My. all my kids are really funny. My. daughter Katie is very funny. She's got. a very strange sense of humor. She's an. artist. She makes these funny ceramics. Her name is Katie Kimmel. You could see. her on Instagram and she you will get.

you will understand what I'm talking. about. She does Like today she sent me. like I I sent her a text this morning. and I said, "You're not posting enough. pictures of the baby on the stream.". And so she just posted a bunch of. pictures of the baby screaming and. crying. And the baby's wearing a onesie that. says, "I'm 11 years old.". So I know she's going to you know, she's. not going to be a traditional mom, but. just seeing her be a mom is is uh it's.

just funny. It's it's I think it's like. anything. Like when I try to remember. how old I am, I don't know if you ever. forget how old you are. Yeah. I have to. remember how old my sister is and add. three years. That's how I get to it. And just seeing. my kids become adults and. like both of my older kids are married. and like having to. pay rent and to and be a husband and a. wife is uh weird. It's just weird, you.

know? It's great, but it's weird. Yeah, they they obviously inherited your. comedic genius, it sounds like. I Yeah, I don't I don't I wouldn't necessarily. classify it as genius, but they are very. funny and just very good people, I think. more importantly. No, funny's more. important. They're more. Let me rank it. Hold on a second. Yeah, funny definitely more important. than good. But both important, super important, yeah. >> What What's a part of you that you. didn't want them to inherit? Um my nose.

Um I didn't want my daughter to have my. beard for sure. My anxiety maybe. With But of course, you know, kids. they inherit that whether you want them. to or not. But I think anxiety, yeah. And I think. like growing up without any money adds a. measure of anxiety, but then you realize. like, you know, my older kids, I didn't. have any money when they were growing. up, and now my younger kids I do. It's.

interesting because they somehow manage. to get to the anxiety. Like they find. different paths to it. It has nothing It. turns out it doesn't Like for me, like. when I was a kid, I loved to draw, I. told you. I I would get a like a set of. pens for Christmas, and I would never. want to use them because if I used them, they'd run out. And so I have these pens. that I never used, and eventually they. just dry out because we lived in Las. Vegas. And what a terrible thing. So now, you.

know what I do? I buy a million art supplies, and the. house is like um. a Dick Blick, you know, the my house is. just full of these art supplies, and I. know that I will never I will not live. long enough to use all this stuff, but. knowing it's there makes me feel like. I've conquered that anxiety in some way. By hoarding. By hoarding. So the reason why anyone else calling it. art supplies is Jimmy Kimmel. That's. right. Yes. Walk me through what anxiety really.

feels like at this point now in your. life, how your relationship with it's. changed over that time from going from. being anxious about not having money, not having resources, not having a job. What does that look like as the. externals change, what happens on the. inside? Well, it's a lot simpler when. you don't have any money because the. things you're thinking about are, you. know, do I have enough cash in my. checking account to have lunch today? To. to get a $20 bill out. Like it's like, "Ooh, I have $21.18.

Great, you know." And that's. significant, certainly, but. then you get. wind up in a position where a lot of. people rely on you for a lot of things. And you know, people will come to you. with very serious needs, serious. requests. Your relationship with people. changes. It's hard to navigate that. It's hard to even find people to talk. about it with. There are, as far as I.

know, no books on how to handle it. And. um you wind up having these kind of like. intimate conversations with um. famous people you don't even really know. that well. I mean, like I know a guy who. is a real like family guy who's a very. wealthy guy. He's a very famous actor. And I said, um "How many houses have you. bought for your um your family?" And he. he thought about it for a second. And he. goes, "17.". That was my reaction, too. And um.

you can't be the nephew anymore at that. point. You're the person that people go. to when they when they need something. And it can be a lot. You know, it really can. I mean, I. certain I shouldn't complain. Now it. sound like I'm complaining. Oh, Jesus. Um. We all have problems, right? I mean, some of them are just different than. others. Yeah. What What do you do about. that anxiety? What do you do with it? Just buy more houses? For the most part, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it depends, you know, but um I'm.

hopefully getting uh better about it, you know, because. it's hard to explain to people when they. want money, but your relationship with. them is more important than that money. And then sometimes you realize like, "Oh, wait, their relationship with me is. not more important that than the money.". And that's when you have to reevaluate. the relationship. That's tough. Yeah, it's hard. That's That's really really. tough. I mean, yeah. Is there someone particular or someone. specific that you think about when you. when you share that? My wife.

She's sucking me dry, Jay. How much do I get for this? Do I get. paid? No, nothing. >> No. No, she made you do this for. free. No, there's no one in particular. Just. it comes up, you know, it it happens. Yeah. In in my small journey with it, I've I've definitely experienced that as. well, losing people that you thought you. were close to. Yeah, realizing what. standard or frequency of relationship. you had with someone. Like you put them. up here and you thought you had this. bond and actually realized it was just.

based on finances or access or whatever. it may be. Yeah, then sometimes you get. an email from somebody you went to the. sixth grade with. Asking for a huge amount of money for. something nonsensical. It's not even for a charity. It's. Whatever. Whatever. It's crazy. What Any. crazy requests you can share? Uh you. know, yeah, I've had a lot of crazy. requests. I mean, you know, people think. you can wave a magic wand and make all. their problems go away and it's not.

true, you know, even if a lot of times. you give them what they want, they still. have to deal with whatever got them. there in the first place. So, you know, trying to keep that in mind, I think is. important, but these are not the kinds. of things that occur to people when. they're in a pinch. Yeah, absolutely. You've been talking about your wife a. lot tonight and um how long have you. been together now? We are celebrating. our 12th anniversary in July. We've been. together. I don't know,

like 16 years or something like that. >> That's beautiful. And I And I believe. you met on the show? I did, yes. We met. on the show. My wife is the executive. producer, one of the executive producers. of the show. And um we made love and I. asked her. So it wasn't you and your guest. It was. uh I got right to it. Yeah, no. She was. not a guest, no. Wasn't like us. Yeah, it wasn't like us. A bit different, yeah. This is terrible. This is uh.

terrible Jimmy. >> be that bad. I'm very gentle. >> This is what all my This is. This is what all my British friends. worry about LA being like. This is This. is what they all worry about. >> mean all the friends who got buggered in. boarding school are worried about? No, they're all like, "What's What are. all the parties in LA like?" And you. know, they're going to be like, "What's. Jimmy Kimmel actually like?" And I'm. going to have to show them this. Yeah. Let them know. Invite them over.

Apart from the pranks, what have been. the There's a lot of people out here who. are either looking for love who've. who're still searching, you know, everyone always says it's always hard to. date in LA. Yeah. Is that true? I think. it is. I mean, I've never really been in. that position. I've gone from one. long-term relationship to another, but I. certainly people close to me and my life. have I've seen them have a really hard. time and even like think like, "Oh, maybe I should move back to Chicago.". And that kind of thing and I go, "Well, wait a minute, but there's there's just.

people here and there, whatever." And. obviously the apps have changed that a. lot. Sometimes for the better, sometimes. for the worse, I guess, depending upon. what your intentions are. But um. yeah, sometimes I feel bad for people. because it it does seem to be hard. Yeah, what's been the secret for your. connection? What's been. the secret sauce to that 16 years and. the 12 years of marriage? Left to my own. devices, I'm not great, okay? But my. wife is very good. She will say um.

she wants to I'm just checking in with. you. And I'm like, what is this checking. in? She probably learned it from you. So, you're just checking in? >> about right. Yeah, that sounds about. right. There's four check-ins. There's. one every week, one every month, one. every quarter, and one every year. And I. get nervous. I'm like, well, what are. you checking in about? Like, what. What am I, a motel? She's like, no, just how are you? How. are you doing? I'm like, oh, I'm fine.

What did you hear? I don't know. I have a very I have tunnel vision, you. know? Like, I got stuff I need to get. done, and I want to get it done, and. sometimes I forget that there are other. human beings around me that. you know, would like to check in from. time to time. So, I've learned a lot, and I'm still. not great at it, but I I am better at it. than I was, and I feel like I've matured. a lot thanks to my wife and the many.

>> In what way have I matured? Oh, Jesus. Christ. You don't get away with saying a. statement like that. >> do this, Shay. I knew it. I knew coming in here. Um. What ways have I matured? Um. Now, when we hold hands, I don't take hers and put it behind me. and fart on it. anymore.

And that's a big step for me. All right, let me get serious here. It's. hard. I make jokes when I'm confronted. with a serious situation. Um. No, don't ask her. I don't know if she wants to be asked. Oh, she's standing. She wants to be. asked. I need a mic. All right, before she gets. up here, Jay, I should just say I. haven't matured. I was lying.

I just wanted to sound I wanted to fit. in with the podcast. Oh, this is what it was Yeah, right. I sit on my lap. Yeah. >> Not going to sit on your lap. >> I'm not going to sit on your lap. Um he. gets uncomfortable when we talk about. serious things. He's definitely maturing. in that area. >> don't see any evidence of that. >> I'd like to say first of all, I'm very. proud of you coming here and being here.

Oh, thank you. >> Because. I think that's mature of you. Oh. Um. See, okay, there's that. Jimmy is. incredibly self-deprecating if you can't. tell. And um that's his defense, which. is beautiful and wonderful and we all. get to enjoy it. But I get to tell. people how wonderful you are and I love. to do that. And I think one of the thing the most. beautiful things you've done and. evolving as a human is. sharing your story regularly on the.

show, fighting for health care for children, fighting for people. I think I think um. maybe you went from being a little more. inward to outward over the last decade. of your life. I think it's been. beautiful to witness. Oh. Well, thank. you for bringing it out of me. >> You're welcome. Thank you. >> You can You have a lot of more work to. do though, so I'll just Jimmy, Jimmy, now it's your turn. We need uh you know,

put. turn this into a session. Okay, now it's. your turn. Please. Well, first of all, is it just me or. does it suddenly smell like toast? It. does. You're having a stroke. He's having a stroke. Okay. Oh, wouldn't you love that? Um well, you know, I'm always amazed at. how easily these um kind words come out. of my wife and not just for me, but for. others. Like, you there's nobody you'd.

rather have give a toast at your. birthday dinner because she really. speaks from the heart and speaks very. beautifully and is makes people feel. really good and I don't think there's. any better quality than that. Thank you. I love you and I love you. I love you, too, Molly. Thank you so much. >> You're welcome. Your eyes really are. beautiful. >> We'll see how the night goes.

No, I love your wife, too. All right, goodbye. Give it up for Molly, everyone. >> Thank you, Molly Young. The best. Thank. you. Oh, you really put me on the spot there, Jay. Well, she saved you. She saved me. >> She saved you. I mean, you know, I would. put you on the spot, but she saved you. >> you're right. She did. >> Okay, so now we're going from couples. therapy to individual therapy again. >> Oh, okay, great. Has talking about your emotions always. been something that you found. challenging? Yes. >> Not useful? Like, where on that spectrum.

Talk talk to me about that. What what. spectrum is it? Like, what does that. look like? Like Well, I think my dad's. the same way because I hear my mother. yelling at him about it. But, um yeah, it's very You know, I can write a nice. letter. I'm good with that, but there's. something about expressing myself in a. very honest way. that uh is difficult for me. Why is it? Uh the answer's within. The answer's not.

within me. >> Only only you can answer. >> of stuff in there. Yeah. I'm not sure I want to go rummaging. around. >> There's a whole pizza in there. When when was the last time that you. feel you did. do it? That would be the best way to. look at it. When was the last time you. felt like you accessed that part without. a letter. and you were able to share that part of. yourself. >> About 86 seconds ago. Um No, but your emotions, your emotions,

not about someone else, but how you feel. about something. About someone else. Well, um. >> No, no, not how you feel about someone. else, how you feel about your own. emotions or or feeling an emotion that. may be uncomfortable or difficult or. challenging. When was the last time you feel you did. do that? With our therapist last Friday. at. 9:18 a.m. I I It's easier with the therapist. You know, I was listening to you with. Bert Kreischer. Yeah.

>> You had him on your podcast. >> Yeah. And. he said something. He said that after. after he and his wife go to therapy, he. declares a winner. Do you do the same thing? No, but I. liked that a lot. Who wins? You know, we used to I don't think. anybody wins, really. No. I think it's. just helpful. I think it's really a good. thing. I find it very uncomfortable, but. I'm never I'm never not glad I I that I.

did it afterwards. I I think it's just a. good thing to talk. I mean, maybe it's. the reason why we can talk as humans. because we're supposed to and um I think. it's good and I think a lot of guys. don't like. to go to. therapy and then they're looking for. somebody who's going to be on their side. and they're looking for a referee more. than a a therapist and that's probably. not the way to go in it. I will say for. my own personal experience uh that I I.

recommend it um both individually and. together and I think that uh it's it's. helped me a lot in my life just to sort. things out, you know. And I think what you do is is you know. is very helpful for people because. I mean obviously you know there are a. lot of people here just trying to figure. out who they are and how to go about. their lives and and how to be happy and. it's hard. It's hard to figure out to be. happy. I mean there's probably there's.

no logical reason why we should should. be happy. It doesn't make sense. There. are so many people suffering and there. are so many sad and bad things happening. and it feels selfish sometimes to be. happy. It's like. Yeah, great. Things are going great for. you but look what's you know kids don't. have lunch and I think that. it takes a lot to to remember that. that's not good for you and it's not. helping anybody. And if you really want. to do something do something. Don't just.

worry about it. And so that's that's. something that I think is important. And I also found that. like you know sometimes. people want advice and sometimes I want. advice and sometimes people who are. asking for advice don't really want to. they don't want advice they just want. something and um. I always think that when you're really. down when you're when you're feeling low. and when you're looking for answers.

helping other people is always a help. It always makes you feel better. So if. there's a situation where. you're feeling worthless or you're you. know you're feeling unloved or whatever. the best thing you can do is to help. someone else because and for yourself. not even for them. It's it's almost a. a selfish thing to do and I think it. always works. I agree. I love that. I. love that. Um.

Jimmy you've been amazing tonight. We. end every On Purpose interview with a. final five. These questions have to be. answered in one word to one sentence. maximum. So Jimmy Kimmel, these are your final. five. The first question is, what is the. best advice you've ever heard or. received? Well, it's not be yourself. We. learned that earlier. Listen. Listen. That's the best advice. Who did you hear that from?

I heard it from a priest. Yeah, friend of mine who's a priest. Yeah, I said, "What do you do when. people come to you and they say, you. know, my my son is dying and I don't. believe in God?". And he said, "I just listen to them.". Good advice. Speaking about that, you've. been very open about your son's heart. condition. Yeah. >> And that's been something that I imagine. is extremely difficult. Well, not. anymore because he's he's doing great, but it was, yeah, for sure. Yeah.

What. What helped you at that time? What What helps you in in such a. difficult, dire situation? And Well, number one, Children's Hospital here in. Los Angeles helped helped me. And the support the support from family. and strangers. And.

I'm a religious person. I grew up going. to church, Catholic, and all those. things, but and I think that the. thoughts and prayers that gets thrown. around a lot. People when they say they. pray for you, that's. to take. a moment of your day to stop and think. about someone else. and their child.

It's a. It's a small sacrifice, but it's a. meaningful one. Whether you believe. in prayer or not, it's I just think it's powerful and. meaningful. And I know that's more than. one sentence, but uh that's. that's the answer. Thank you, Jimmy. Thank you so much. That was actually just question number. one. I I just I just snuck that other.

one in there. Oh, no. Question number. two. What is the worst advice you've. ever heard or received? I I You know, I. don't really have an answer to that. I. think that the worst thing you can do, and I've done it, and it's something. that I've learned, is to. is to lash out. You got to take a beat. and think about what you're saying, because you'll wish you had. Yeah. So,

sometimes there are people that, you. know, just want you to. bring down the hammer of Thor, and um. that's that's not usually the way I go. I like that. All right, question number. three. What's the first thing you do in. the morning and the last thing you do at. night? Well, brush my teeth. Well, you mean besides pee? I guess uh. yeah. You know, we have uh you know, we have. an 8-year-old and a a 10-year-old in the. house, so he comes and our 8-year-old. and pounces on us in the morning, and it.

I just like to snuggle with him, and. then he wants us to come to bed with him. at night and put him to sleep every. night, and we know that we we shouldn't. do it every night, but we just want to. We want to get in there with him, and um. most of the time we're very easy to. convince, so. those are the, you know, the best in the. morning with the kids in the bed, and. then again at night with the kids in the. bed. I love that. All right, last two questions. Uh. question number four, what's something. that you used to value that you no.

longer value? My parents. No, I love my parents. You know what? I don't drink much. anymore. I I used to uh. you know, it was never I never like had. a problem or anything like that, but. I've just it's less interesting to me. now. Why why is that? >> Because I'm so high all the time.

We call that California sober, I. believe. All right, fifth fifth and final. question. We ask this. to every guest who's ever been on the. show. If you could create one law that. everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be? It's the golden rule. Do unto others. That's it. That's all That's the whole. thing. That's the That's all you. If we all did that, we would we'd be. doing great. Yeah. Yeah.

Jimmy, we've got one special uh. uh segment to wrap it up for you. Okay. Uh I want to show you something behind. you. If we can get the first one up. Take a look. That's me. What What advice would you. give to your younger self? To that self, that younger self. To young Jimmy Kimmel. in the seventh grade? Um play the saxophone instead of the. clarinet and you're never getting laid. I love it.

Can we get a second up? Looking very dapper. What does uh What does Jimmy Kimmel need. to hear right now? Get away from that. young boy. You mean me, right? Both of you. Uh. and then let's get the last one courtesy. of my team. >> You know, honestly, I never even thought I'd own a suit. So, I'm I'm ahead of the game right now, I.

think. Oh, was that AI me in the future? >> Yes. Oh, why is my beard the same color as it. is now? You're aging well. You're aging well. What do you What do you hope. you'll feel about yourself at that age? I hope I don't look like that, number. one. I do hope I have that much hair. I have a feeling I am going to be. replaced by an AI me at some point. in the future. I hope I wind up like my.

grandfather, and by that I don't mean. dead, I mean just somebody that. everybody thinks of and loves. Give it UP FOR JIMMY KIMMEL, EVERYONE! THANKS. Thank you so much. >> Thanks, Jay. If you loved this episode, I need you to listen to one of my. favorite conversations ever. It's with. the one and only Tom Holland on how to. overcome your social anxiety, especially. in situations where you're not drinking. and everyone else is. We talk about his. sobriety journey and so much more. He.

gets really personal. I can't wait for. you to hear it. It's going to blow your. mind. The quote is, "If you have a. problem with me, text me, and if you. don't have my number, you don't know me. well enough to have a problem with me.".