Jay & Radhi Answer Questions About Productivity, Using Your Energy Effectively & Positive Self-Talk

Join Radhi and I for a part two of our. special on purpose episode today with. BMW. Today Radhi and I switch roles and. I go grocery shopping in Radhi's place. Tune in for the road trip with the all. electric BMW iX. Yeah, super nice. It's. pretty spacious. Let's go. So Radhi, what's the challenge today? Okay, so you. remember. a couple of years ago we did this. YouTube video where you made something. for. Yeah, I've been trying to block it out. ever since. Okay, so you at that time made me What.

did you make me? I made you So this is. the one and only time in our entire life. that I think I've cooked. One time, one time only. And I promised it would be one time. only. I cooked you a stuffed pepper and. it was the best rice stuffed pepper. you'd ever had in your entire life. was. It actually made it into my. cookbook. I don't know whether I've ever. even told you this, but there is a. recipe Everything you of all people have. a recipe in my cookbook. No, it's really. you if I wanted to be a chef I'd I'd be, you know, I was asked if if you've ever cooked. with Is there any recipes that remind me.

of you and there was one. It was either. that or beans on toast. They said I. couldn't put beans on toast. Beans on toast? That would have been the. best with cheese sprinkled on top. That's not in my cookbook. What made it into my book just because. stuffed pepper didn't feel fun enough, Right. it's a one pot Mexican rice. Wait, why did the stuffed pepper not. feel good enough? It just was like a bit. basic, honestly. The actual Mexican rice. has made it. It's like a one pot Mexican. rice dish. So, you already kind of know. how to do this. It's a. I don't I don't have no idea. cheating a bit. I don't have no idea.

to do is you're going to going to the. grocery store or the supermarket as we. like to call it and we are you're going. to you're going to buy all the. ingredients. This is my worst nightmare. But on top of that, just to make it a. little bit spicy, we are going to get. you making some guacamole. and some healthy sour cream to be able. to dollop on top and then I will. joyfully eat it for lunch. While we're on the way to the grocery. store, let's answer some questions. All right, let's do it. So you've got them next to you cuz I. can't I can't read questions and drive.

at the same time. I don't think that. would be very safe. If we were doing. carpool karaoke right now, what would. what would it be? Mine would be Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Or it would be Baby come down, come. down. Okay, come. Don't tell me no, no, no. You always make fun of me because he. makes fun of me in my music choice. because he says a lot of it there isn't. actual words. It's either mumble or it's. sounds.

Um so, that would be mine and if it was. Jay, it would be. Don't never stop. What What is it? It'd be a Drake song, yeah. Yeah, Drake song. Everybody. obviously got that I was doing Drake. Right, that's exactly what they got. All. right, so what are the questions? What's the biggest difference between. drivers in LA and drivers in London? Oh, I don't know. say, I do find LA drivers a little bit. more impatient. Just putting that out. Really? Really? Yeah. Hm. I do find. there's a lot more beeping. No one wants. to give you way, whereas you know what? In London, I'd say people do let you.

into things. Really? Yeah, for sure. I feel like. One thing I really love about driving in. LA as a driver myself is I love the palm. trees. I like I feel like look at this. I feel like I'm on a constant vacation. because. about drivers though. Right, right, right. Like drive but I agree I do find the. highways scary in LA. because you have people switching lanes. Yeah, when people are switching lanes. and obviously everything's the other way. around for us. So, you're driving on a. different side of the road and the the. steering wheel's on a different side of. the car. Yeah. So, especially I find when I come.

back from London, I find it even scarier. and I find myself too much on one side. or the other. Oh, I do that all the time. Yeah, and I think I mean, I think. drivers pretty much everywhere in the. world are pretty impatient, aren't they? Yeah, I am too, to be fair. Um do you believe you are. Do you believe you're a backseat driver? Okay, I'm a proud backseat driver. You. know why? Because my line every time I. do a backseat driver thing like watch. out or don't go that close is imagine I. didn't say that I could have just saved. your life and somebody else's. The.

difference is every time you say it I'm. like the way you say it is more likely. to cause an accident. Yeah, exactly. Yes, yeah, exactly then save me. Like I'm. like literally I have a shock. Like I. literally have a shock every time you. say it and I'm like what happened? Like. what happened? Did something something. happen? And you're like no, just I was. making sure. oh my gosh? It's mommy. Yeah, mommy. It's like what's mommy going to do? I. would say I am more of a backseat driver. than Jay is, yes. I'm not a backseat. driver at all. Maybe that just shows I. care. Most of all I'm a backseat driver. in life. Ooh, line dropped. No, no, but.

it's it's a it's an interesting. question, right? Like This is like you. know what? Jay Shetty getting Jay Shetty. on me. It's a actually you know what? Let's go deeper into that. What does it. mean to be a backseat driver in your. life? It's a good question then. What does it mean Jay to be a backseat. driver? Please do tell us. No, I just I. just think that some of us, you know, grab life by the steering wheel Mhm. and. navigate and take the journey ourselves. and some of us sit in the backseat and. criticize and judge and complain about. whatever everyone else is doing.

we need both backseat drivers and people. who want to take the steering wheel and. too many of steering wheel people would. actually be not impact not good? That was that was an amazing question. That was an amazing question. Uh no, I I believe that when you're. driving you should drive safely and. securely and responsibly and when you're. in the backseat you should be obedient. I'm talking about that that what? In. life, in life.

Oh, in life. Yeah, in life. Okay, next question. people. Next question. If you could pick. three people to fill your car with Oh, good question. Oh, just to remind. everyone these were questions that my. team came up with so we had no idea what. we were asked. If you could pick three people to fill. your car with on a road trip, who would. they be? Go on. Let's try one each. Go. on. people in the whole entire world? Yeah. Okay, I I know who. Yours are easy. Go on. Yeah, mine are. quite easy. Go on. Mine would be Okay, people alive.

would be my grandma, my niece, and my. nephew. Yeah. Funta. Yeah, they didn't they didn't. make it. So much fun. No, but that would be like it would be. so funny because. Three in the back. Three in the back. We'll put three in the back. They're not. going. Three in the back. They're not going. be in the car, too. But not alive, I. would love to have a car full of like my. grandma and then her grandma and like my. ancestors. One, I love driving around. old people. I do it for my grandma and. her friends all the time and it is so. much fun cuz they're hilarious. You know.

one thing I found, my dad opens up on. road trips. Like if it's just me and. him, he's driving me to the airport or. he's My sister told me yesterday that he. was driving her to the airport and he. starts telling stories about himself. Like it creates this time and space. where people can open up a little bit. And so, with that in mind, I think I. would want that with people that I. really wish I had got to know but. wouldn't have the chance to. What. questions would you ask or what game. would you play with these people in the. car on a long trip? I would definitely play well, our.

version, Indian version of carpool. karaoke, Antakshari, where you all just. sing like old Indian songs. But I. imagine my grandma and her ancestors. would probably sing like devotional. songs. or god songs, which is amazing. But then. to actually ask them questions, oh, I. love word association. I think it tells. a lot about people. Right. to like understand when they hear. something, what they relate it to. Right, right, right. So yeah, that's. what I think. What about you? Who would. your three people be? Oh, gosh. All. right. So,

if it was living, it would be you, my sister, Mhm. my mom. Yeah. And. that would be like my family trip. Yeah. If it was people who weren't alive. or like people I don't know, I'd want it. to be Steve Jobs, Martin Luther King, and. Einstein. Oh, wow. wouldn't say anything. I would just. listen. It'll be all of them in one car. because I would have no I would just.

listen. I would have nothing to say. I. would just I would just sit there and. think about what they would say. You. know who else is so fun in the car that. we've done a few a few random car trips. with him together is rather than us all. making it awkward cuz I feel like he. really brings up such good conversation. and also does the same thing my dad does. where there's so many stories that come. out during those trips. Totally. I love those trips. Actually, I I take. you out and put him into mine, so. Got it. Got it. With your bun in your. hair and your glasses. my niece, my nephew. Yeah, I'm not sure he'd I'm not sure. he'd enjoy that.

going to say the other person you love. having in the car is Adil. Oh, yeah. That's a good carpool karaoke. friend. you and Adil are always singing in the. car. true. That's good good answer. That'll. be a really interesting conversation to. have. Yeah. if it was possible. Who is more likely to leave the car. lights on overnight? I literally did. that yesterday. Not overnight. Not. overnight, no. You leave the car lights. on. You can leave the car unlocked. You. forget to charge the car. I leave my. like little. Like we're so lucky that we have. electric cars like right now this. electric car. hair band, a spare drink, a spare some.

pair of sunglasses, some snacks. There's. always something here lingering. Right. Right. Really a blessing. Um So then yeah, I wouldn't be me. I'll. take that. I find that I go through periods where. the car is immaculate and then when I. have too many clothes and shoes in the. car. There are there are times I will. literally come to the car and it's like. he's been living out of his car for a. long period of. Because because I've started to realize. like it happened the other night, right? Like. I needed a suit cuz I had an event to go. to and I've started to realize so I keep.

my pickleball stuff in the car. I need. my I need a suit in the car. I need a. suitcase in the car potentially. Like I. find like so much of my life is so like. last minute. I jump on a plane, do this, do that, that I've started to realize. that I need to be more prepared. I feel. like you weren't prepared for this road. trip, because where are my beverages? Oh, no, but we're going to buy some. junior when we get there. Okay, fine. Who? Who's most likely to get carsick in a. car that they're not driving? Me, too, yeah. I get carsick so much. I still. I still figure that out, though, that. kind of like.

Let's just go a little bit deep into. this, shall we? Let's Let's dive into. it, Jay. Come on. I don't know. I'm trying to figure out. this whole carsick situation. Like why. is it It's an imbalance in the ear, babe. There's nothing to figure out. No, but then how do we solve our. imbalance? Cuz we've had this for a. while. Yeah, no, it's an imbalance in like your. eardrum. Right. So, there are different. ways. You can use peppermint. All that. really helps me. Right. Um so, why. didn't you bring peppermint? Chewing on. ginger, that's really helpful. And then. if you are reading, read upwards, not up. Got it. Go on. What's the next question? Okay, the next question is, would you. need maps to get from our house to go to.

a grocery store? Yes. I think Google Maps has really ruined my. ability to absorb in things around me. and like I I don't know what I would be. without Google Maps. I don't Well, no, I. know what I would be. I don't know where. I would be. If I was Yeah, if I'm in London, I can. really get around, but I feel like ever. since we moved to the States, very. reliant. so reliant on maps and Yeah, so. in conclusion, we both would need maps. to get anywhere. I'm assuming this is a question from you.

to me. Go on. Do you not answer texts from me. because you're playing hard to get? I. told the team that sometimes you don't. respond. I have to explain this to our. friends as well, because our friends. will be like, "Is Raddy upset with me? Like is Raddy okay?" Like cuz I'm like. I'm like she doesn't reply to her own. husband for like seven messages. Like I. have to ask you the same question. You're quite. You're quite You're someone who like is. not You're not so succinct, though. I am. succinct. Okay, fine. I send short messages. It is. me, honestly, but I also think, you know.

what I really do think and this is this. is I'm going to have a Joey Tribbiani. moment now. Okay. I believe that we have. this terrible habit of wanting people to. reply within like a day or. two. And I'm like, what if I want to. reply within a week? But what if we lived together? Yeah. if I need to make a decision? me when you see me. Right. And I just. think that there's this I don't I I find. that the reason I get distracted so fast. is because this need of oh my gosh, I. have to reply to this person because I. have to reply to this email within this. amount of time. I have to And sometimes.

I just want the freedom. Like today I. replied back to my email 3 days later. Was anybody hurt by it? No. Well, if. they were, I'm sorry, but or like text. messages. Someone messaged me and I. remembered it this morning. So I was. like, oh, 4 days later. And I don't even feel like I should have. to apologize for a late reply because. late is relative. Got it. Late is. relative. But yes, I I am bad at I'm actually. No, no, you've got really good at it. I've gotten so much better. I just find. sometimes I need to make a decision. Totally. Call me. I am not a messenger. I am so good with calls. And I'm the opposite. I'm a Message me.

Don't. Yeah, don't always call me cuz I'll be. in meetings or something. if you call me, I will pick up and we. can talk. I'm more than happy to do. that, but because I have to type so much. for work and I'm on my phone all the. time for that, communication via phone. becomes so tedious for me. It's not fun. So call me, beep me if you want to reach. me. One of the times I do take calls, which. I do love, is when I'm driving. That is. usually my time to take a phone call. It. speeds up any journey. Except LA has such bad reception. Fair. What would each other's first line be if. you met now at a party? Ah, interesting.

Mine would be something like, "Did you. try the vegan tacos?". Are you vegan? Are you vegan? Ah, what would mine be? Mine would be We never met at a party, so I don't know if I'd have that kind of. conversation. maybe you'd say you'd probably get into. like a. group convo with with people, and then. you'd say something intellectual, and. then I'd have a I'd ask you something, and Oh, so I'd use my intellect. Yeah, I think you'd use your intellect. What's the first song.

No, but you know what? Let's not. Let's get into this. No, no, no. I. really feel for everyone who's like. dating right now online and stuff. It's. really hard. Like I'm like you have to. be interesting on your profile, you have. to be interesting on your pictures, then. you have to be interesting on text, then. you have to be interesting on a voice. note, then you have to be interesting in. real life. the real life. It's because you're forced to have to be. interesting at every tiny point of. connection. No, sometimes I just want to not talk. and just be silent. You can't do that on.

dates. You can't just be yourself. You. always feel like you have to you have to. show up as. a really excitable, interesting person. with a lot that you do in life. Uh. what's your screen time? Oh my gosh. Well, it's really bad. tell you mine later. I don't even want to tell you. Tell me. 7 hours 30 minutes. That makes sense. Is. it during the work day? Let's see what. it should we see what it is though. Most. used WhatsApp. So like yesterday Mhm.

was WhatsApp for 3 hours. That's. messaging and calls. Talking to your mom. Yeah. Instagram for 1 hour 10. Not bad. Internet surfing for 1 hour. Notes section 42 minutes cuz I write on. that. write your quotes. I write my quotes on. there. I write my little reminders, reflections. Google Maps 30 minutes. Messages 26 minutes and Google Calendar. 23 minutes. That's not too bad. Honestly, that's probably one of my own. Google Mail 20 minutes. That was. replying back to that one email. Great. If our relationship had a theme.

song, what would it be? Pop star. Yeah. I'm a pop star, not a doctor. Yeah, I'd go with that. think that describes our relationship. Oh, yeah, it's great. Uh do you have an ick about me? Uh Where. to start? Yeah, I know, literally. I think it used. to be when you used to run late. Okay, tell you mine. What? Mine is because you know you have like. photographic memory. I know you remember everything. Sometimes, even if I know I'm in the. right, I question myself. You know you're right. I am though.

There are sometimes where you actually. get it wrong. I don't. You do. And this this is my. itch. This part. You're the stubborn one. get anything wrong. No, you're I do get stuff wrong. I'm. actually the first to say I'm sorry or. first to say I've got something wrong. You are. You're the stubborn one. I am. stubborn. So it's your stubbornness. Okay, great. It's going to start a fight. All right, so we're here. Yeah. Made it. Made it. Enjoyed that conversation with. you. Me, too. It was really great. I'm really excited to get a little. beverage. Yeah.

And for the challenge, I am not ready. Are you ready? Are you ready? Come on, let's go. Let's go get some booze. Come make me. some dinner. It's Friday. I need some I. need a break, okay? Let's do it. How do I open this? Oh, yeah. Amazing. Oh, you're not opening my door for me. now? Oh, sorry. Did you say sorry? Is there anything here? Yeah.

Let's go. Okay, so I'm going to give you the. recipe. All right. It's right here. Yeah. I'm going to. leave it to you. You have to find the. ingredients. And let's start, mate. Here. you go. I'm happy to help you here and. there. Okay. I need I need I'm going to. need you to push this. Yeah. do that. Okay, go. All right. One cup of. short grain brown rice. Now, what. section do you think that might be in? Well, in the rice section. Correct. But. there is. But there is Right now, I don't see any. signs. Wait, right now we're in the. beverage section. Oh, obviously. Oh, wait. Wait. Wait.

Let's grab Here we go. Let's grab some juice. Which one? Which flavor do you want? Raspberry. You do lemon. That deserves a little sip. Yeah. Thank. you. Thank you. Take some. for the team. Thank you. Thank you. you want one as well, Emma? Which. flavor? Raspberry, tropical too? We've. got two dollars. Yeah, we've got two. dollars. All right, good. Okay. What. else do you need? Avocados. Okay, but. how do you know how are you going to. pick this avocado? Wait, I think the darker they are, the.

better. Darker they are, but yes, definitely if. you want to eat them today. So, feel it. Like, do you think that one's right? It's soft. Does it feel right? Yeah, cuz it's soft. Yeah, you're. bruising it right now. Okay. But yes, around the So, that one feels like too. soft. Find another. This one. Well, that's a really good one. Well. done. Let's take four for good, just in. case. Um all right, bell pepper is going to be. here. It doesn't say a color. Oh, pick a. color that you'd like. red. Pick a good one. I'm trying to.

That was fine. Thank you, man. Thank you for. understanding. That's exactly why I. never bring him shopping. what she wanted. There we go. Well done. Is that all right? Yeah. Okay. Perfect. All right, now these ones. Here. we go. Uh-huh, uh-huh. So, You can grab like. two. Yeah? Yeah. Cool. All right. You're doing really really good. About half a small head of cabbage. Where's our thing? You've left our Our.

trolley. Yeah, you left our trolley. You left it parked outside. left our trolley. What if we What if. someone else takes it? All right, now I. need one bay leaf. There we go. Nice. All right. So proud. Look what I found, kiwi. berries. All right, so now we're looking. for canned diced tomatoes. I think. they'll be in here. Oh, sorry. Maybe use this one. You're so sweet for helping me out. I've. been looking down here the whole time. She's like, just look up. I'm like, okay. the CSA one. To the left. To the left. To the left. Mild or spicy? Spicy.

Spicy. Just one? Yeah. Organic black. beans? Yeah. Give me the good stuff. Yeah? All right. You might find the sweet corn. somewhere. One cup short grain brown. rice. Long grain, short grain, brown. There we go. Hey. All right. Short grain brown rice, yeah? Look at all the different types of rices. there are in the world. It's amazing. Too many. All right. This is a mistake I used to. make back in London all the time. My mom. would send me out to get.

coriander, and I'd end up coming back. with parsley. Can never tell the. difference. How do you tell the. difference? You You missed out something in the that. area. Huh? Oh, lime. No, it says what I've got to. do is doing fresh lime juice. Yeah, lime. So, you you get it from a lime. No, you buy lime juice. Stefan, you're making me scared about my. recipes. You know this Do you know what that. reminded me of? Huh? It reminded me of that scene in The. Break-Up where Jennifer Aniston asked. Vince Vaughn to get lemons for the.

table. And he's like, "Why do we need lemons. for the table?" Oh, yeah. And they have. a full-blown argument about why lemons. are a good table decoration or not. All. right, I'm going to get the unsweetened. yogurt. Please, get small ones. Well, lucky for you, I have some at home. Okay. Yeah. All right, thank you for. your help. Thanks so much. I have some. at home. You see how I was misled? She has some at home. It's on the list, but it's not at this store. Look at the. canned diced tomatoes. This is honestly my dream. Like, my. dream. few hours fair to spend is in a grocery.

store is probably his night. You can't. ask questions. I had to. I had to. Look at Look at. them. One cup canned diced tomatoes. So, this. is Great. I had to ask for help for some. things. I mean, who's going to look down. there? Be honest. Are you going to see. that? Tomato paste. Uh-huh. I need to find. that. I've no idea what. tomato paste looks like. It might be in. the similar area, babe. Yeah. No, you're you're facing the right. way. Here we go.

Double concentrated tomato paste. All right. Okay, the only one I have left is sweet. corn kernels. I'm going to look for them. myself. There's my friendly helper. Huh? Oh. I mean, this way, this way. Do you do. sweet corn in a can? Like sweet corn. kernels. Perfect. All right. Wait, let me check. Brown rice, check. Canned diced tomatoes, check. Two tablespoons sunflower oil or avocado. oil, you have that at home. Bell pepper, got it. Cabbage, got it. Bay leaf, got it. Canned black beans,

jalapeno peppers, sweet corn kernels, taco seasoning, tomato paste, sugar, salt, asafoetida, fresh lime juice, chopped fresh cilantro, five avocados, unsweetened yogurt, we didn't have. But you have some at home. Vegan mayo, oh, we need two cilantros, not just one. I only got one. Yeah. No, you're good. Okay. Or frozen, it does say that, good. I did. it. That was not bad. That was like record. time. How long was that? That was not.

bad. That was for one recipe. Why didn't anyone time me? It's fine. We'll Why didn't anyone time. me? You did a great job. I reckon I was. quicker than you are. You get distracted. by like chopped cilantro and like so I. actually was far more efficient than. people give me credit for. I'm more. excited. now what? Let's go. Oh, you got to pay. for it now. Do you want to go grab some. food for yourself? No, but do you think. I'm allowed to open something before I. pay for it? If I'm going to pay for it. Oh, wait, look, she's just added up the stuff that. wasn't on the list. I did. I'm just about to pay for it though. That was fun. That was so fun.

You know what? I know you're hungry. I'm. going to go home and cook. I'm going to. go home and make lunch for you. How does. it feel when someone makes your own food. for you? Honestly, great, because you know what. the what the amazing thing about cooking. and recipes is that you can I like when. I cook my mom's food, I can literally cook the. same thing with the same recipe. and um it will never taste the same. Mhm. In a good way? In a great way. Like.

everything is so different. So when I make your recipe, it will have. its own flavor. Yeah. Yeah. But, because. it will be made with love for you. Yeah, we'll just be using different. hands, different amount like even if. you're measuring things out, somehow. things always taste different. That's. what's so amazing about food. Right. I'm just not a person to speak to when. I'm not fed. Right. I don't know whether. you're like that. Is that how you feel. right now? That's how I feel right now. I get what you're saying though. I get. quite angry as well. Do you? Can you? You do you get upset. get upset. Or like hungry Yeah, upset. I.

get agitated. Agitated, right. Agitated. Agitated. Mhm. So, what do we do? What do I do when. you're agitated? Ideally, not talk to. me, but we can't do that right now. No, we. Cuz we're recording a podcast. Let's keep this going. Can you give me the ticket, please? I don't have it. handed it to you like 2 seconds ago. Which one's which? What do you do to keep yourself like. Cuz you're someone who expends so much.

energy during the day. I feel like. you're probably one of the most What's. like the word for a person who uses. their time really well? Just organized. No, no, no. You are one. of the most productive people. Right. that I know, and you really don't. you know, you're not a time waster. You. really use your energy and your time so. efficiently. But, I always wonder and I feel like I. get asked this a lot like how do you. manage to maintain that energy level. throughout the day? I don't. There are times when I feel. tired. But, secondary part to that.

question is when you do like right now, I feel like I just want to get into bed. and do nothing for the rest of the day, but like one can't do that often. So, what would one do if one was feeling. that way and actually, you know, how do. you keep motivated and then pick your. energy back up? I think first of all, I do love what I. do, and I really and I'm really grateful. to get to do what I do. I I feel I feel. like I appreciate that. I get to do what I love every day and I. don't take that for granted. I've noticed that about you. You really.

even if you are feeling that way, you. self-soothe a lot in the sense that you. you self-talk to motivate your like you. don't really rely on other people No, I. actually. you. you you give me encouragement. No, but what I'm saying is you find ways. I know even when you're feeling tired, you're like no, you know, I may be tired but this is. something that I love doing or you're. you're constantly talking to yourself in. a positive language to motivate yourself. or energize yourself. Yeah. And I've.

noticed that by you where even if you. are tired and even if you're yeah, I'm. exhausted but I've had such like the. best week and it's been so productive. and I got this done and what an amazing. thing to be able to do this or this and. so I've noticed that with you where even. and and so I think that language really. makes a difference to. Yeah, how we talk to ourselves, yeah. Yeah. And I always say to myself. I am tired so I'm accepting Yeah, accepting. and then I add an action to solve that. So, I am tired and I'll go to sleep.

tonight. I'll sleep early tonight, yeah. So, yeah, I'll go to sleep early tonight. or I am tired and tomorrow I'm going to. sleep on the plane. So, I've got to fly. tomorrow in the morning. telling you you know what it is? It's. your body reacts to how you're feeling. and what you're saying to it. Yeah, and you're not lying to it. You. can't just be like, oh I feel I feel. energized. No, cuz it knows you're lying. Yeah, yeah, exactly. it's one of those things where you are. almost giving it that hope and that. something to look forward to where it's. like let's just put in that last amount. of effort and then just know that I also. know you are struggling and I know that.

this is happening in my in your in in my. body. So, I'm telling you body that we. are going to do this and it's going to. it's going to make us feel better. And. also planning recoup, right? Like I know. that like last weekend when you planned. a little spa day for us. Yeah. Like I was looking forward to that. Yeah. the whole week. We knew we had a tough. couple of weeks before that and now I. know I've got another quite intense like. 7 days ahead. And then I'm hoping to. have a bit of couple of days of rest. And so I think it's also balancing that.

out and saying, "Okay, I know I've got a. busy period. When am I going to plan. some deep rest?". Totally. Rather than going, "Okay, I'm. just going to rely on that energy.". I think people and by people I mean. people like me, we live moment to moment. rather than like there's a lot of people. and I'm not saying whether that's good. or bad, but there are people who live. moment to moment and react according to. how they're feeling in the moment. And. then there are people who and I think. there's a training element to it where. you know, you can't always act on how. you're feeling because often how you're.

feeling may not be. may not be the right way to do what you. need to do. Like I feel a certain way. right now, but do I have things to do. and do I need to get them done? Yes. Whereas if I went with how I was feeling. and I didn't train myself to push. through that sometimes, I wouldn't be. able to get done what I need to do. So I. think it takes an element of training. I. think that's every single time you're. feeling that way having that talk and. and and pushing yourself to do. Yeah. That's really smart. There you go. There you go. Um Solved it. What was.

that last question on the page? It was what kind of party person are. you? Oh, introvert, extrovert. What was. the option? No, it was kind of like the So I know I. Who is that? I'm the person yawning at. the party, but also the person who I. find one person to talk to the whole. night usually. That's right. And I stick with that person. No, you're. like a full-on social butterfly. No, I'm not. Trying to get you out of a. party. No, no, this is this is this is. So okay, look. I find Jeremy at any. party. No, no, this is true. When Humble.

lived here, I would find Humble or. Jeremy at any party and we would sit and. have a philosophical conversation. For. now and off, that's fact. That's fact. No, that's fact. No. I was Humble or. Jeremy. person. This is that stubbornness coming out in. you. I know why you do. I know because. I'm always waiting by the door waiting. to leave. happened in a million years. Are you. joking? Are you joking? Name one place that we went to and. going to ask all my friends, all of our. friends tonight when we see them, what. usually happens at the end of the night. It's you talking to everybody saying bye. for about an hour. cuz they guest at our home or our.

our event. out. Even when we're out and about, you're talking to people and I'm waiting. to go to the next shop and you're just. having a You just You just chatter, you. are. Definitely not. You are. You love socializing. You know what though, we went to some. really beautiful things lately. So, we. were really fortunate to go to Kristen. Bell was being honored by UN Women Yeah. and for the World Peace Humanitarian. Fund. And it was a gala, the first ever gala. It was absolutely incredible. I think we. were both moved by Sharon Stone who.

spoke. Sharon Stone gave such an incredible. about. so much that I just didn't know about. And you know one thing that's made me. that that situation made me think it was. about um there was some women who uh. you know, advocating for a lot of peace. around the world and this was a woman. that came from Afghanistan. And she was. talking about the amount that's. happening in Afghanistan and it made me. realize that there is so much happening. around the world that we don't hear. about. And what makes it to us is based.

on what the media decides to show us. And I find that so interesting because. when I then was thinking about other. things that I've heard through my. friends or, you know, depending on where. you're from originally, you may hear. more to do with that country, right? And. so I was thinking about the other areas. of the world that we just don't hear. about and there is so much happening. around the world that we just don't know. about. And we we can't even We can't, yeah. so difficult and and it's obviously. what's close to you and what what's. meaningful, but it is so interesting.

that we do kind of live in a our own. bubble even though you think we have so. much access to the other parts of the. world. Like they were talking about. what's happening in Afghanistan and how, you know, how women are treated. Yeah, refugee camps and how the women there. were treated and um how they're not. allowed to go out into even walk by. themselves on the street. They're not. allowed education. There's so much. Yeah, I was really. blown away. I think we were both blown. away by when Sharon Stone was saying. that the average refugee spends 11 years. in a refugee camp. and there's no access to toilets and.

showers for that much time. Yeah, but. you know what? I was thinking about this. and my my parents were in refugee camps. Well, my mom was for a long time. So was. my dad for years of their teenage life. and their refugee camps, my mom was. saying was actually it was in London. It. was in Scotland, sorry. And they were. saying they did have those facilities. there, but I think maybe in different. parts of the world they didn't. But. I think it's more collective showers, collective toilets and you just think.

about how different people's lives can. be. Like my parents went through that. for their teenage years. They spent it. in refugee camps. They see it as a place. that saved their life. Like they see the. refugee camps as we were able to leave. unsafe place to come and take refuge. Because they were able to get out. Yeah, exactly. And so they were so. grateful to even have that. someone that actually took them in and. and they were given that opportunity to. start over and start a new life. Yeah. And then the other event we went to that.

I think was. really beautiful and special this week. was the celebration event for Clarence. and Jackie Avant. That was just spectacular. We were so so. grateful. We both were invited by Nicole. Avant to celebrate her parents and even. though we didn't know her parents, I. definitely felt Yeah, just it was such a. beautifully organized event. I felt so. moved and touched because I walked away. going. wow, if only I could even try to serve.

my community and live in the way her. parents did. like. that much impact on whether it's impact. online, offline, the people closest to. you, the people that you meet in a shop, whatever it is, to have that effect. where people are so touched by who you. are as a person and how you've gone. above and beyond to them, I think it was. incredible. The number of people in so. many different areas, so many different. walks of life, I was blown away. It was.

It was incredible. Yeah, it was. unbelievable to have that. experience and just. Yeah, just to hear about how. Yeah, how someone for that many years as. well could continue to support and serve. their community. I know, I feel like it was from his. pretty much like teenage years or both. their teenage years all the way up till. 90. Yeah. And still there were people. who had met him at 90 and were.

sharing how much even within a couple of. months they had completely changed their. perspective on. Yeah, it was really, really special. Yeah. Yeah, it was incredible. And then. obviously we got to watch this. beautiful performance by. uh Stevie Wonder, which I thought was. just spectacular. literally made me cry. What a legendary. human. Yeah. And then to be able to I think. more than anybody that I've seen in real. life. Like we went to Beyoncé's concert, we went to so many things, but I don't. know, there's something for me I've got. a personal.

kind of nostalgia with Stevie Wonder. It. was played My dad used to play it all. the time in the car when I was growing. up and. just an amazing, amazing artist. Yeah, really fun events. So, those are two special events you. didn't have to drive me out. There you. go. Mhm. Yeah, no, really really love attending. these events that almost remind you of. humanity. Yeah. Like I walked away in different ways. One was what we can do to serve, what we. can do to help, the other one about how. we can celebrate humans as well. I felt.

I walked away thinking, "How do I want. to celebrate my parents?". Totally. How do I want to celebrate what. they gave me? Yeah, it made me walk away. thinking I because there was so many. amazing stories that they were telling. And it made me walk away thinking, and. this is what I'm planning to do for. Christmas, is. there's these amazing games you can buy. and journals that you ask your parents. to fill in and to talk about their life. before you and even their life. throughout you, but it's a year-long. journal. I don't even know what it's.

called, but I'm going to try and find it. again. I saw it. And it asks questions. that you would never normally ask your. parents. And I realized I want to and. and I want to go back and got all these. pictures and and um things from when. they were younger to actually ask the. stories behind the pictures and write. them down in the album. Cuz there's one. thing about having like footage of and. be like, "Oh, this is a nice picture.". But when you have the depth in the story. behind it, it makes it so much more. meaningful. So, I'm going to do that with my grandma. and my parents. I was going to tell you. to do that with your mom as well. Remember when you tried to interview. your grandma?

I did try to interview my grandma. I wish there was a way of doing it where. she doesn't realize. My grandma gets. into like performer mode when the. camera's out or she gets really serious. But I still think I learned so much from. that. to do it in a way when it's you're just. sitting in a room and just have the. camera there, yeah. But I do think it's important. I follow. this page on Instagram that's all about. the questions you should ask your. parents. Oh my god, look, this car does. hand gestures. What is that? Like. to change things on the screen. Oh, yeah. You use Yeah, it is. What is it? I've seen them on BMWs. I.

forgot. You can change songs and stuff. like this. Okay, but what are you doing right now? That's the hand gesture. I don't know. what I'm doing right now, but that would. be like if a song is playing. Yeah, I think it's so nice getting to. know. your parents before you to be able to. understand them and how they are with. you now. I definitely want to invest time in. doing that. Yeah, definitely. It was. really beautiful, really, really. special. And her book is amazing. It's. It's um Think You'll Be Happy. Mhm. It's. really, really special. It's really. grateful to have her as a guest on the.

podcast. Uh and then we're both excited for. Christmas. Oh, I was going to say, my. sister's wedding was one of those times. that I feel like I really got to. celebrate her. Yeah. think it's so interesting. You get very. few opportunities to celebrate the. people that you love. And you almost have to take all of them. and create more. Mhm. Because people. don't take that much time to celebrate. their own lives and we don't take time. to celebrate the people's people's lives. that we love. Yeah, so true. Birthdays. are a good opportunity to do that if you.

do it properly. Yeah. So, who are you. wearing? No, no. Come on, good luck. Okay, rather. I love how you have energy for stuff. like that. I do. I do. Okay. No, I was just saying that my sister's. wedding was honestly just so much fun. Talking about spending time with family. and talking about doing amazing things. So, my sister had five events across. seven days. a proper Indian wedding. average attendance of over 300 people at.

every single event. a small Indian wedding. And that was a small Indian wedding. But it was insane and I was like more. run down from her wedding. than I was From your tour. from my tour. And I think the reason is. because it was so emotional as well. Oh. my god, this was so much crying. I must have cried like. every day. I must have cried. Every day, every hour, the whole. ceremony. You were crying as well. He looked. across he I would look across at him and. he'd be crying and then naturally when. people cry I cry. Obviously, I just also.

love their relationship. It's so sweet. It's it's one of the sweetest. brother-sister relationships I've ever. come across. And there was one time. where he turned to me and he just. stopped crying and then suddenly look. over he's crying again. He looks at me. he goes, "She was saying her vows. She's so. well-spoken.". I was like, "Okay, great. Yeah, she's. she She a good speeches. Like she went. to elocution classes when she was. younger. And she was it was just really he was. welling up at her speaking so. beautifully. I think she said like one. line. But you were crying as well. Of course I.

was crying. We love her. She's She's. like She's a baby. Yeah, she's your kid. Yeah, it was really cute. It was really. cute. And then I cried throughout my. whole speech. Cried throughout the whole. speech, blubbering away. It was really sweet though. I don't think Do you know what it was? Actually the the speech was half sweet. and half sassy. Yeah. The first half was legendary. First half. Normally, you know in speeches people. have a bit of banter. Jay took it all. the way bantering. it was a full-on comedy set. It was.

Yeah. Who knew you were funny? I did. You did. I think what it was, right, about the wedding was I actually. realized just how much my sister loves. me. And I realized how much I love her. Like. it was like that was what I was feeling. I You How How you didn't know how much. your sister loved you? You are literally. the epitome of like you're just. everything to her. There is nothing you. could do wrong in her eyes. And even if. you do, she's forgiven it within like 5. seconds. Well, I think it's also You. know what it is? But she knows how much.

you love her, that's why. Well, I think. because we live far, I think sometimes I. have to put some of my feelings aside to. get on with my focus and my drive. And there's an element of where I have. to. I don't get to express those emotions. all year round. Yeah. But I am carrying. them internally, and then they all come. out in that moment. Because I don't you. know, I don't get to see my sister every. week. I don't get to talk to her all the. time. And when I do even I've never found. phone conversations to be as fulfilling.

and as deep as being in person. Yeah. And so I feel like I carry that. love around, and then it was all all had. to come out. You were so wonderful. You. helped her with the wedding so much. I. love you. was so grateful to you. And you did so. much for the wedding. It was amazing. And she did an amazing job planning an. epic wedding. I was like I don't know. how someone plans five events in seven. days. In such in so much detail. Yeah, it was insane. Oh, is that the sound of the car? Yeah. Sounds like a spaceship. It does. Feels like a spaceship. It. does.

Exactly. I'm so hungry. I know. You excited for some Mexican. rice? Yeah, honestly I am. Are you. excited for some stuffed pepper? What. Oh, we're not doing that. Are you excited for some cabbage? Yeah. excited excited for some cilantro? Yeah, are you? Are you excited for some. avocados? Oh my god, fresh guac. Are you. excited for some taco seasoning? Yeah. Are you excited for some bell peppers?

Yeah. Are you excited for some. veganaise? Mhm. Are you excited for some. sour cream? Yeah. There you go, see? Everything on the list. I actually remembered your recipe. have you played that game that's like I. went to the store and I bought. but that's usually an update from what. it was, but I went to the store and I. bought. beans. Asafoetida. Uh got you there, didn't I? I went to. the store and I bought asafoetida and. beans. I went to the store and got some. asafoetida, beans, and canned tomatoes. This is There's no reason for this to be. in the actual cart. There is. This is.

great. I went to the store and I bought. asafoetida, beans. What did you say? Canned tomatoes. Canned tomatoes and. dried oregano. Okay. So? So? That was good. That was fun. Now. we're going to cook and then eat. Let's do it. All right. If everyone. wants to see me try and cook this recipe. from Radhi's book for Radhi, tune in to YouTube. Yes, please. Mhm. Let's go.

If you loved this episode, you'll really. enjoy my episode with Selena Gomez on. befriending your inner critic and how to. speak to yourself with more compassion. My fears are only going to continue to. show me what I'm capable of. The more. that I face my fears, the more that I. feel I'm gaining strength, I'm gaining. wisdom, and I just want to keep doing. that.