Jay & His Wife Radhi OPEN UP About Their SECRET To Real Love That LASTS!

Join Radhi and I for a special on. purpose episode today with BMW. Radhi. and I love taking road trips together. and today we get to take you on a drive. in the all electric BMW iX. First ever. episode in a car together. I know, how. fun. going on road trips and I thought today. we'd just do a little spin. little chats. Yeah. Find a nice lookout point, enjoy. the sunset. Mhm. You know, uh you know I'm a. romantic, hopeless romantic. You've got questions next to you. Amazing. The team chose these questions.

Let's dive in. What is something you. would ask my opinion of? I would ask. your opinion of. what's good for my health. Like I'm. like, "Okay, I want a dessert. What. should I eat that's healthy?". Mhm. I would ask your feedback on, "I've. been doing this workout. I'm not sure. I'm feeling good from it or bad from it. Like, how should I change it up?". Uh-huh. I would ask for your opinion of, "I want to feel like this in the morning. or this in the night or I've got a.

headache. What should I do that's. natural and a remedy that's going to. help straight away? My gut's not feeling. so well. What's a change I can make that. will make me feel better?" You know, I. think I ask your opinion of of me. sometimes as a person. Like I I find it. really reassuring and it means the world. to me when I know that you love me and. you appreciate me and that you value me. I think that means a lot to me because I. really value your opinion because I. think that you are an amazing person and. I think that you. have a really good moral character and.

are a very honest, genuine person. And. so when you think good things of me, I. think that if I have a choice or a. decision I'm making or if I'm sharing. something or writing something or. thinking about something, I always like. getting your opinion because I feel that. if I've checked it through with you, then it'll be authentic and deep. Aw, thanks. Those are like a good amount of. stuff. There's more. There's so much. more I'd ask your opinion of. I would. ask you for advice on people. Like if. I've got some sort of discrepancy with. people or I'm feeling a certain way.

about someone, I know you'll give me a. really honest opinion about both sides. Like you're someone who doesn't really. take sides about things, which I really. appreciate. You see it as the actual. situation versus who's involved. I ask. you about some of my fashion things, even though sometimes we don't see eye. to eye. I'll get your opinion. Cuz I may. not take it all the time, but I will. still get the opinion. Got it. I would. ask you about Every time I need any. motivation or I'm feeling like I'm. lacking in trying to get through my day. or figure out what I should do next.

You're so good at figuring out step by. step of turning something that feels so. big into manageable. steps and achievable things. So I. appreciate that. That's really great for. me cuz I feel like I always make things. really big in my mind, and you really. help to break it down. You're like, "Actually, let's strip it all back, and this is. actually what you need to do." I would. ask your opinion about. Oh, work stuff. Like it's just such a. beast. in terms of work and constantly. reminding.

me to go back to a deeper intention, and. I think that's what's so important. It's. less about You're obviously so good at. what you do, but on but even deeper than. that, I feel like the motivation and the. intention behind it is what you always. remind me of. And so I definitely ask. your opinion on whether something feels. right or wrong cuz I think you're always. quite aligned with intention. Those are. just a few that come to mind. so much. I really appreciate that. What. is something you wouldn't ask my opinion. of? I think what I avoid now asking your. opinion of, sometimes, is my fashion.

choices. Because I think I've been I've. become quite adventurous. You have. And. I quite enjoy like pushing the. boundaries, trying new silhouettes and. shapes. And to me, it's all about like I. feel like I get to express myself. I. feel like I get to I feel like. creatively I also get to push my own. limits. When I'm like, "Oh, that's what. I thought worked and now I'm able to. open my mind up to a new shape, a new. color, a new space and I enjoy that not. just in fashion but in all areas of life.

and I think I get scared sometimes cuz I. I do also want you to think I look cool. but obviously some of the stuff I try. sometimes is pretty out there. Yeah, and. I want to be honest but I still think. you should do everything. Like for me. it's more you should do whatever makes. you feel happy. Which is why I still do. that you want to do but then I'm not. going to tell you I like something if I. don't. Sorry, it's going to be which I. appreciate so that the the no asking is. probably the best route to go with. Because because I'm using so much of my. confidence to pull it off that then if.

some if I ask your opinion and then you. don't like it's like that's really hard. cuz I already know. cuz it's already had to push me out of. my comfort zone. But I always say I. don't like it but you should wear what. you like. Like you should wear what you. you feel comfortable in. You should wear. what you makes you happy because if you. don't feel comfortable or happy in what. you're wearing then it doesn't matter. who likes it. Who really likes it. No. difference. So I think it should be a. personal expression. I think it's so. cool that you express yourself in that. way and I think it's cool that you feel. free to do that. I believe like you have. to have separate people for different. things. I completely agree. And I. recommend everyone does this activity. where. you write down every need you have in. your life, you match that to a person in. your life and if you have a gap, often what ends up happening is you. expect that of your partner or you.

expect that of your sibling or you. expect of your parent rather than going. well let me be proactive and take. responsibility for finding the person. that solves this gap. So let's say. you're like, oh, I don't have someone to. go roller skating with for some for. example cuz I know you love roller. skating. It's like, okay, well let me go and find. that person because I'm horrific at. roller skating and it's it's an acquired. taste, right? And so it's a specific. interest that other people may not be. talented or skilled at just like I like.

It's a specific interest that other. people may not be talented or skilled. at. Just like I like playing football. and you don't. And so I think finding. that person is really important. You're using You know what I really like. about this car? It does this You can use. hand gestures to do things. what?

But so you're moving your hands around. cuz you're an expressive talker, but. you're basically it does everything from. like you can use So which is kind of. cool because you don't have to press. buttons. But it does it to change songs. and stuff, see? But because you're so. expressive, it's doing things without. you even knowing. Right. So tone it. down. Yeah, so yeah, what was your thing. that you would. come ask your opinion of. I know you're. good with like solutions, so if I don't. want a solution and I just want to vent, I'm going to probably won't come to you. That's so good. I probably. I want you to feel comfortable with me.

No, not like that. I was just half. joking, but yeah, I know that sometimes. if I don't want a solution, I just want. to like Well, I know you can always tell. me that, you know that. Yeah, I know. that. always come to me and say, "Look, I. don't want to vent.". Totally. What else would I not ask your. opinion on? I probably wouldn't ask your. opinion about food. Definitely not. I. like sometimes asking other people to. pick for me, but then you don't enjoy. doing that either, so. I don't. Um yeah, I think that's a good good good. selection, really. What is there in your. life do you think that you have a need. that you haven't found the person yet?

Like what what is it that you would. think you need on a weekly, monthly. basis in your life and you're like, "You. know what? I don't have that friend. yet." Or like I haven't built that. relationship. I haven't proactively. figured that out. to work out with. I have friends that I. can call just to pass time with. I have friends to have meaningful. conversations with. I have friends to do. sports and activities with. Not. necessarily as much here as I do in. London, but still. Yeah, that's for me. as well. Um I have my mom for a lot of. stuff. She ticks a lot of boxes. You.

tick a lot of boxes. My friends I I. don't know. I. I feel like anything. that's a complete life. That's good. I. feel like my sister ticks a lot of boxes. for me. No, but that's good. That's a. good place to be. and nephew for some fun and silly. converse. I've been looking for a. competitive FIFA friend. Oh, yeah. You. have. a competitive FIFA friend. Like someone. who really gets me to become better. Maybe you know what I miss having a like. a friend that just comes in like sits. and does nothing with me. I like having. friends like that sometimes. We just.

exist together. Maybe we take naps. together. Maybe just like watch. something but you don't have to talk. together. Right. Got it. Yeah. Like a lot is said. but just like nothing is actually said. Got it. I like friends like that. Next question. Oh, and a friend who really likes. watching reality TV show because I. that's my like little secret indulgent. pleasure thing where I just like. switching off. And I haven't quite found. a friend who likes sitting and. binge-watching reality TV. If we had to. switch roles for a day, what's the first. thing you'd do as me? Meditate and work.

out. Those are the fact Those are the. two non-negotiables in Radi's life. I. will be late for everything. 10 years. But I will not be late for that. Never. be late for is a workout and meditation. She's always there. Yeah. That's amazing. It's really impressive. It's impressive. not mentally. It's impressive though. Like I I think. it takes a lot of dedication to have a. non-negotiable. Yeah. And I think it's amazing that your. non-negotiable habits are so important. because they set you up for the rest of. the day. And it's like if you compromise on those.

two things, could you imagine what life. would be like? No, I think I'd really struggle going. through the day without it. And I think what's really amazing is. that you having those non-negotiables. has inspired me to have similar. non-negotiables, especially with working. out, in a way that I don't think I would. have had if someone forced me to, if. someone preached to me to do it, if. someone made me do it. Like when I see. you dedicated every single day to your. workout, whether it's a weekday, whether. it's a weekend, whether it's two. workouts a day, I look at that and go, "Okay, got it." Like that's a really.

great discipline. Yeah, it's nice having things that you. really appreciate in your life that you. don't feel like you need breaks from? I. feel like they're few and far between. cuz it doesn't ever seem like you're. working. It's just like part of your. being and it's the person that you are. on screen, off screen, with friends, with family. Like I don't see a. difference in that because that is just. what you absolutely love doing. It's. like your full nature to be that. And so. those non-negotiables come because you. just feel and see the deep impact that.

it has on you. And then you kind of. can't like you just know that I just. know I'm not going to have a great day. Even if it's not crazy workouts, even if. it's just a walk or movement, it's just. so important. And I always see movement. as mind movement, body movement, both. equally. so important. And I think meditation is. great mind movement. And walking or. workouts is great body movement, but. both of them help with your emotional. well-being, your physical well-being, um. your communication, just get things.

flowing. Yeah, there's an amazing Zen. teacher that says. what movement does for your body, mindfulness does for your mind or. meditation does for your mind and I love. that. What was the question now? If it's. just roles for the what was the first. thing you do as me? As you, I would I would go on a Facebook live. Facebook? Or like an Instagram live, whatever, and. I would fully start acting out. Like. just things you wouldn't say, things you. wouldn't do. Yeah, it's more This is.

more like Freaky Friday. That's the. point. Yeah, I would dress crazy. and I would Oh, you know what I'd do? I'd get people to just realize how wacky. and like fun you are cuz sometimes. people don't see that. Got it. You know what? You'd go into work and. I'd be like, "You know what today guys? We're not going to work today. We're. just going to sit around, cook. something, Right. have a little chat.". I then I want to answer that question. back for you cuz that's a fun one. Yeah. So beautiful here. Look at this. Unbelievable. I love these lookout. points in LA.

They're really special. They're really special. Just open up the. mind and I love how you can just. pull up and find a spot and. Yeah. really take it all in. It's really. so beautiful. It's so nice. Okay, go on. Ask the. question for me then. Well, what would I. do as you? So, I like your answer for. me. So, if I woke up as you, Freaky. Friday, what would I do? I think I'd go do I'd. test out all the things I think you have. so much talent. I think you have just so. much potential. I think you're one of. the most entertaining people in the. world not singing. Everything about. singing and. Not dancing. Everything about from.

singing and Like sleeping. Yeah, you're. good at sleeping. I'm Korean. Everything about from. singing and dancing and I would. literally just. that's what I would do. I would just go. and do everything that I think I know. you have the hidden potential for. That's fun. Cuz you're just You're so talented. You're so gifted. I can't wait to see. you host a TV show. I can't wait to see. you write more books. I can't wait to. see you I'll let you write a book for. me. I would do that as you. But, I just. see you like traveling across the world, studying cultures, teaching that. culture, passing it on.

would be really fun. through TV, through. film, through movies. You could act. You. could do whatever you wanted. Like, you're so talented. So, I'd I'd try and. do all of those things. On a hard day, what is the thing you will do to make. each other start laughing immediately? That's a good question. I'll start doing. my Indian accent or dancing or. something. Dancing. You You. I still remember that video. Do you. remember? I don't know which one. Do the bacon. Do the bacon. Do the. bacon. Yeah, I do remember. It was so. good. Like, one day This is before Rothy.

ever made content and people were. unaware. She randomly started doing this. dance and I filmed it for fun. And I was. like, "You have to post this because it. is just pure joy." And you posted it and. I remember everyone loving it, too. And. it was just like, "Yeah, you you can. literally burst out into dance or make a. funny face." You can make me laugh very. easily. Very easily. If I was trying to. make you laugh, I'd put on an outfit I. love. I I would. laugh at you. try and help you cook. I wouldn't laugh. at you. Yeah. I would What else would I.

do to make you laugh? I mean, you're. really good at finding funny TikToks. You are. Wow, that's my luck skill. No, you do though. You find really good. quality Right. funny TikToks. Oh, you. know what you do sometimes? When you're. like gassing yourself up, that makes me. laugh a lot. To make you laugh, I do. that. Yeah. You're good at banter. Next question. Do you have any fun. memories when it comes to driving? Oh, moments spent with family, friends, driving off to university. I do. I have such fun memories in cars with my.

dad. I feel like when he was dropping me. to university or when. even now when he's dropping me to the. airport, they're really special times. where I feel like it gives space to just. open up and we'll just share stories. about his like youth where that I didn't. know about. We'll just talk about random. things and I'll just find so much out. about him and he's usually quite a quiet. person. And so it feels like the car. journeys are when things are changing. and even when we go back to where his. family lives in Norwich, it's like a 2. and 1/2 hour 3 hour drive and I always.

think along the way we're like this is. where this happened, this is where this. happened or yeah, there's always little. moments where he'll just suddenly start. reminiscing in journeys and I think that. cuz you're going on a journey, your mind. kind of goes back to journeys in your. life and yeah, definitely enjoy that. And then also with my grandma because I. drive her and her friends around. sometimes to like take them to different. places. So imagine like four 90-year-old. women in the car that are just laughing. and hanging out and so I love doing Uber.

service for them. That's fun. And singing along Singing along with my. nephew in the car, that is a good one. That's always fun. We've done so many. fun road trips as well. I just I love being out and about on the. road. Videos of you and Arjan singing in. the car. They're so fun. I love a good karaoke moment in the car. Yeah, he's like singing his heart out. Singing his heart out Adele. I think for. me, I actually love. car time as a space for reflection. I. don't know what it is about cars for me. You do that a lot. I I will.

play music. I I don't. I I drive in silence a lot of. the time. I will listen to my own. thoughts. I'll reprogram them. I'll take. a moment to I find sometimes when I'm in. the car I talk to God the most. Yeah. know what it is about that, but I find. it a really easy way. to talk out loud and just listen and. pray and reflect. Like I do that a lot. if I'm driving alone. I think my favorite memories of road. trips also include all of our road. trips, like our weekend trips. Whenever. we're like doing a playlist, when we're.

you know, just hanging out having. conversations like this. I always find. that when we find like our. Even when we do road trips with friends. and stuff, I feel like we play good. games. Yeah. Cracking jokes. It was so fun. fun. It was so fun. And then I think. when I was young, I remember cuz my. parents would drive from London to. Europe. So, we wouldn't get a plane. We'd drive. We'd get the ferry. from Dover to Calais and then drive. through Europe. And I always found that. to be so incredible because. we'd go through you'd get to see like.

every country in a really intimate way. Like now when you fly, it's almost like. you don't get to see the roads and the. streets and everything. Where do you. drive to when you miss home when you're. in LA? When I really miss home, it's. weird because what I really miss is this. might sound really odd, but seeing. Indian people and being around Indians. and seeing like grandmas with saris on. and I feel like in LA you don't we see. people, but I would say I see a lot less. brown people than I do when I'm in.

London. Right. on a daily basis. So, as you. know, especially during festivals or. like Indian festivals, I want to go to. Artesia. Cerritos. Cerritos. And eat Indian food, buy. Indian clothes. food, buy Indian clothes, be like in a. place where there are just so many. people that feel like my community. Yeah. And um there's something about. that that makes me feel nostalgic. So. sometimes I'll go to an Indian like at. this like veggie Indian restaurant that. I really like here. Yeah. If usually my missing home is like. missing my mom's food because when I'm.

feeling sad or I feel like I need. comfort, it's usually Food. mom my mom's specifically my mom's food. that brings me that comfort. And if I. can't get that, then I have to go see. some like old Indian women in saris. So. it feels Yeah. like around my grandma. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. So yeah, that's probably. it. If I think about it, it's either. that or I'll sit just by myself and eat. ice cream and watch a Bollywood movie or. something. Nice. I think for me. I drive to places I can make new. memories. So if I miss home, I'm always.

thinking, "Well, what's a new cool fun. thing I can do. to create and build a new memory?" I. think it's very easy for me sometimes to. think. if I miss something that I have to. recreate it or sometimes we think if you. miss something, you have to. remake it. For me, I just like to think, "Okay, well, what opportunity do I have. or what possibility do I have Yeah. to. just build something fresh?" So I think. that's what I do. What is the thing you. were most scared of going into this past.

year that you ended up doing? Literally. a month before my world tour, I was so close to pulling out because I. was really worried about whether I'd be. able to stay healthy and fit. traveling to all those countries. And I. was concerned about my well-being. I was. thinking about work. I was thinking. about all the things I had to put on. hold. It was like I wasn't going to see. you for months. I wasn't going to see. most of my team for months. I wasn't. going to be able to do. so much of the work that I'm used to. doing every single year. We had to tape.

meditations in advance. We had to tape. podcasts in advance. There was so much. work. And like a month before, I was. like, "Okay, I don't think I can go on. tour." And the thing that kept me going. was Nicole and Annie had worked so hard. on putting the tour together and the. team had worked so hard on putting the. tour together and I was like, I can't. let them down. Like if I cancel it, it's. going to let down all these people who. worked so hard putting it all together. and I can't just pull out and I never. told them that till afterwards.

And I think I think they were relieved. But it was just one of those things of. just like when you're doing something. new, what I've learned is it's so. natural to feel scared and it's so. natural to feel fear and what I've. realized is before I used to think you. have to wait to get over the fear to do. something or you have to wait till you. don't feel scared so you can do. something. So you spend all your energy. going, "Okay, well how do I take care of. my fear? How do I control my fear? How. do I move past what I'm scared of?" And. the truth is you have to be fearful and.

do it anyway. Like you're going to be. scared anyway, so why not accept that. you're scared, accept that you're. fearful, create a plan, and then do it. Like when I went on my. tour, I remember after finishing the US. leg, I was exhausted. And then when I. went international, we started in. Australia. Again, there were some crazy. highs and lows on tour when it came to. like health and wellness, fitness. We. were literally in a city for a max 1 and. 1/2 days. And so for me.

Yeah, that was intense. For me though, I. mean you came with me for a week and it. was exhausting. Why am I getting a. massage in my car? Guys, I just found out that there is a massage. feature in in this car and I am. I just activated it. While I was. answering my question. Yeah, for While I was opening my heart. For some relaxation. This is what Roddy is like. So this is. how Roddy makes me laugh. I'll be having. a really vulnerable, deep, open, heartfelt conversation and then you'll. do something like this. Can you feel it? Yes, I can feel it. Ooh. That's really amazing. Who doesn't want.

a bit of a back massage when you're. driving around? going on. I've never seen that in a car. All right, um no, that is true. yours? Oh, yeah, that's what you would. do. You'd totally detract away from my. deep meaningful point and be like, "Oh, yeah, that was really No, you are No, I'm so sorry, but tell me that feature's. not worth being distracted for. It was. worth it. Um, what was the thing? Oh my. god, this was the year. that I literally did so many things that. I would normally say no to or was scared. of. I spoke on stage. Oh, yeah, how was. that? Explain that process for you.

because I think you put it up on. Instagram and I remember everyone that. week being like, "Oh my god, that's. amazing." It was such a big thing for. you. Walk us through that. It was such a. big thing to me. Um Why was it such a. big thing for you? So, you were invited. to give a speech for I was invited to. give a speech for an organization that. had like, what was it, 3,000 people? Right, in the audience, which is huge. yeah, it was. spoken to more than like, what, 300. people maybe? I've never really spoken. to people like that on stage. I've maybe. done one panel or something back in the. day, but I remember freezing and not. even talking to.

And this was a keynote. This was not a. panel. a keynote where it was a full like, what, 30 minutes speaking to the crowd. and then like 15 minutes of Q&A. But it was I was practicing for months. Like I was going over and over again, writing it, practicing. It made me. realize how. when you write something, it's so. different to when you're speaking. Like. things when you write and then when you. say it can feel so cheesy. Yeah, yeah. It was just such an such an. weird experience cuz I was literally. getting to the day of and I was like, "I'm I have to cancel." Like No, the the.

night before, well, you know, it really. helped practicing in front of a mirror, that was really great. But it still. didn't take away my fear and I have to. say it wasn't something where I did it. and I was like, "Yeah, I can't wait to. do it again." It was like "Okay, I'm so. glad I did it." And it's so nice to know. that I can overcome a fear of being in. front of so many people and worried. about not sounding smart or not sounding. like I know what I'm even talking about. or getting words wrong or not see You. always want to feel like an expert. before you do something. I always have.

felt like an amateur in things that do, and so that's always stopped me from. doing things where I've been too scared. of being seen as someone who's not doing. things really well or doesn't know it, and so then I'd hide away from it. And so it was just interesting for me to. do it, and even though I wouldn't say I. was an expert at it at all, I still gave. it a go and was okay with getting things. wrong and maybe not being perfect at it. And so even more than feeling. successful, I just felt liberated. Mhm.

Of like getting over that fear. What do. you think it is? Cuz I feel like when we. feel fear or we feel scared, we feel. fearful and scared of so many different. things, but really there's a root to. where that comes from. Mine, if I'm. completely honest, roots from always. feeling like I've never been smart. enough because of grades or people in my. family being smarter than me. And by the. way, I'm not like, "Oh, that's so sad.". I'm just saying that is where it roots. from. Because I've always had that, and so and. I've told myself that for so long, and.

I've always turned to other people to. fix things or make things better or to. tell me whether what I'm doing is right. or wrong that I never believed me start. standing by myself doing something was. going to be as good as other people. doing it with me. That's incredible. So it definitely. roots from that, and then I've just. realized that. just get over it. There are. worse things that happen in life, and. you don't have to be an expert to do. things. That's why I started trying to. do things that I'm really not good at. because.

sometimes I really enjoy things that I'm. not good at, but I stop myself from. doing them because I just think that I. shouldn't because I'm not good at it. And I think that we're just trained to. feel that way when not everything has to. be about being really good at things. It. can just be because you want to try or. that you you want a new experience. I. mean, it is about being really good at. things. Yeah, for people who are good at things. No, no, I think I really appreciate your. resilience. I remember when What was it. that you tried when we were on vacation. a couple of years ago? Was it. wakeboarding? It's wakeboarding. I think.

it might be, yeah. Anyway, that was like. watching you do that and I remember the. next day you felt like you'd had. whiplash. But you just kept getting back. up and trying it even though you'd stand. up for like 3 seconds and fall over. I. remember timing it. And it was just. amazing. You're so you're resilient to. like keep trying something even when. it's so difficult. Like you do love. that, too. I do love trying it. But. yeah, I really enjoyed trying all those. things this year. Um and recognizing. that that you know, lots of people are. like, "Oh, I tried this thing and.

you know, I tried it once and then I. just got that" You know, people kept. asking me. They were like, "Once you. start actually speaking in public, you're going to get this bug for it and. you're going to want to do it." And I. was like, "I have not got that bug for. it and it's not something that I'm. craving to do again.". shows how different we are. I love it. Yeah, you do, of course. I mean, just. And And the thing is, you're so good at. it, but it's taken so many tries and. doing it from a group of five people to. 50 people to 100 people to 1,000 people. to, you know, however many people came. to your show. Like you really built.

that. Why are you laughing? Cuz that's so. funny. Why is that funny? Yeah, cuz like so many endless, countless people came to your show and. you did that over and over again. And I just think that it's something. which you see your comfort on stage. I do not feel my comfort on stage. I. feel my comfort in other areas, yeah. Which is nice to see. Well, I thought you did amazing. Thank. you. Incredible. Um what is the biggest. lesson you have learned this year? The. biggest lesson that I've learned this. year is This is going to sound so lame.

because the only thing I can think of. right now cuz I'm tired, but like how. important sleep is. Especially because. I've stepped up in what I actually do in. my day. What I've realized is how important one, conserving your energy and being able to. have alone time is, and also how. important like relationships are in. terms of what you gain from human. connection and how energetic that can. feel and also how draining that can feel. and knowing the difference between both. and who gives you both of those things. Who are the people you spend time with. that actually help feed your energy? I.

think I've had to really learn that in. the time that I'm expending with people. because I feel so drained and then how. important sleep is, not in a superficial. way, but in the way that it affects your. mood, your energy levels, your ability. to wake up and even meditate in the. morning, your ability to work during the. day. It just affects so much of your. life. What you want to eat, what you. crave. Like it just impacts everything. And so I've really been trying to. prioritize sleep lately of like at least. sleeping earlier and that's that's that.

That's good. I really think the biggest. thing I've learned this year, which I. feel like the universe keeps reminding. me of this, but it's a big one, is don't. judge an emotion in others that you've. never felt because the universe will. make you experience it. gosh, yes. So often we look at other people's lives. and we go, "Why are they so stressed. about that? That's so minor. Like why. are they so anxious about that? There's. nothing to do with that. Like why are. they so mad about that? I wouldn't be. mad about that." And then all of a. sudden the same thing happens to you. and all of a sudden you're like broken.

And I've seen that happen so many times. to friends. I've seen that happen so. many times to myself where you're. judging someone else's pain thinking you. could deal with that pain. Mhm. And then you go, "When I'm actually. going through that pain, I don't want to. feel it anymore.". Yeah. And so whenever I find myself. thinking, "Oh, I could handle that. better or that's not a big deal or can't. believe they're struggling with that.". I've started to realize just don't have. that feeling because you have no idea. how that person's navigating it, what.

their trigger is, what their trauma is, what their pain is. And it's so easy to. be like, "Oh, well I find that easy.". And when you actually go through it, it's another ball game. And so I. remember, you know, like it's it's kind. of like when people are like, "Oh, you. know, and not that I say this, but a lot. of people will say like, "Oh, there's no. such thing as depression. There's no. such thing as anxiety. Like, it's just. all in your head." Like, things like. that. It's not actually helpful. And I. think everyone goes through something. like that in life that really breaks. them down. And when I go through that,

like when I feel like I've judged. something and then I'm going through it. myself, I go, "Ah, got it. This is. making me more compassionate now. for that. for other people's pain. And I hope that. I can keep this feeling when I'm feeling. confident that even if I haven't. experienced someone's pain, I can still. be compassionate towards it because I. recognize that I don't understand all. types of pain just because I think I do. mentally. It's so interesting how we. think because we understand something. theoretically, it should be easy practically. When.

we're not going through that challenge. right now, we underplay it and undermine it. And. then as soon as we're going for our own. challenge, we overhype it. Yeah. The next question is, what is. something you want to work on for next. year? Oh, nice. Yeah. I think my thing is I. think that it's easy when, and I'm sure. many people have felt this in. relationships or even when friendships, where you see someone with a specific. purpose and like they know what they're. doing and you can almost either jump on.

the bandwagon of their purpose or. intention and try and mimic it without. actually feeling it or doing the work it. requires to maintain it. And I've been. thinking about that a lot because I. think seeing you have your purpose and. have seen you do that for a long time, I. think I've kept trying to create the. same purpose for myself or. jump onto your purpose and make it my. own, but the problem was I didn't have. the deep-rooted feeling that you have. with what you are doing. And so, that's.

why my energy and my desire for it would. run out so fast and I'd have to keep. motivating myself to do it. Keep. motivating myself, but it there wasn't. an actual motivation because the. motivation was coming from you. I think. for me next year it's about actually. figuring out what my deep-rooted purpose. and intention is behind what I'm doing. and everything I'm doing to feel like it. is mine versus. one, what other people think my purpose. is, and two, trying to jump onto someone.

else's because it seems so amazing. because you're so connected to it, but. it's not mine and therefore don't have. that connection. It's interesting how. our mind does that even when we know. purpose is individual. It's It's unique. It's not adopted. Like we always talk. about that famous line in the Bhagavad. Gita which says that it's better to do. your own purpose imperfectly than to try. to do someone's perfectly. Yeah. Because the point is doing your. thing is way better than trying to do.

someone else's. And also the other verse. that I love about purpose is when you. protect your purpose, your purpose. protects you. When we try to imitate or. project someone's purpose onto ourself, it doesn't work because we actually have. to protect the the diamond of our. purpose that we're holding onto. And we. have to care for it as if it's a rare. gem. What's something you want to work on for. next year? It's been a few things I've. been thinking about. One is that I. really believe that my best work for me.

at this point in my career comes when. I'm when I have space. And there was a time in my life where. being productive and efficient was what. helped me achieve. And I feel like I'm at a place in my. life where I feel like the more I'm. reflecting, reading, being thoughtful, I feel like a better. version of myself. And so I think I've. been reprioritizing. from being productive. to almost. zooming out and gaining more.

perspective. And that requires a lot of restructuring. of my life. I have I have of. commitments. I have lots of. responsibilities. There's so many things. I have to think about in order to do. that, but I'm realizing that I'm better. with more time than less time. It's not. about more socialized. Like I'm not. trying to create more of a social life. That's not really what will make me. happy, but I'm trying to create more of. space to be more curious. and be more even more reflective and. thoughtful than I believe I already give.

myself time to. I find that. I'm often putting myself in a lot of. discomfort to operate at a high level, and I want to give myself some mental. comfort. And I believe that will really. create some fascinating projects and. vision for what I want to do in the. world. I think that. there's points in your career where you. just have to like put your head down and. work really hard, and then you get to. points in your career where you have to. look up and take a step back. And I. think I'm at a point in my career where. I want to do that because I want to.

really think about the impact I want to. have in the world. I want to really. think about. the work I want to do, the the pathways. I think are going to really shift. culture in the world, and I want to give. myself time and space. That's not going. to come from productivity. That's going. to come from perspective. What is. something you valued this past year in. our relationship that you did not value. in the past? Ooh, that's such a great question. I'd say maybe for me is I think in the. past because I wasn't You're always. ready to give help, and I wasn't ready.

to necessarily receive it because I. wasn't ready to do the work it took to. do it. And you're always someone who. wants to help, and you always have the. time and space to help, no matter what. you have going on. And I think in the. past, I didn't value it because. I almost wasn't ready to. I didn't want to waste your time because. I knew I wasn't ready to put in the work. to actually take it on. No, but you know. what I mean? Like it was more me not. being in a place to do the stuff. required because I'd get your advice,

and then I wouldn't implement, and then. it didn't, you know, it didn't make. sense and it made me feel bad about it. Whereas I feel like this year because I. made a decision to really try and. understand what my potential was and to. push myself to. to see and and explore that, I was able. to take on a lot of your really great. like advice and time and I value that. advice a lot more now because I was. ready I'm ready to actually receive it. I think for me, there's a couple of.

things. I think I learned to revalue. every year. just how much you do love me by your. choice to. you know, as we've always talked about, it's been so hard for you to move away. from family, move to New York and then. move to LA and then. and I know you go back often when it's. nice, but you still base yourself here. and I I think I learned to revalue that. every year as a sign of how much you. love me. because I realize that that is the. reason that makes you do it. Like you. wouldn't do it if it wasn't for that. Mhm. And I think that that is something.

I have to revalue. I get a new found. value for it every year because I. realize it more and more. And I think the other thing that I value. that maybe I didn't value before was how. much again, I think it's a revalue too. of how much you're so. flexible and adaptable. Like if I said. to you, I've got this amazing. opportunity, I need to get on a plane. tomorrow, you never make me feel guilty. or bad about it. And that is just.

I've thought about it a lot and I'm like. that is really hard and yes, we're both. like that with each other. but I think it takes a lot to just be. flexible and adaptable. Life hasn't got. less busy, it's got more busy. So, I. think that's a new found value again. that I renew every year of like, wait a. minute, you're more flexible and. adaptable. I went on a world tour this. year. Like I was gone for, you know. You're really good at that. I feel like. you're all your state of mind and I'm. not just saying this, you're very in. gratitude. You're a very in gratitude.

person on a daily basis with not just. me, but literally every single person. around you, and I think that that just. pours into everything that you do. Uh what is the change you have made this. past year that impacted your daily life? Putting in the work it takes to complete. things cuz I'd have the. I do the work it takes to start things, but I didn't do the work it takes to. complete things till this year, and so I. see how hard that is for people. I have. a newfound appreciation for people who.

actually get things done. My goodness. What a life to live. I just want to say that basically. because I've completed things this year, I do feel like I feel more confident in. myself, and I think that it's impacted. my daily life because I've started. making little decisions by myself, and. I've started trusting in my own voice, and I've started being more sure about. the things that I actually think I. should do in a situation versus asking a. thousand people or or trying to. second-guess myself, and so. with committing to completing things in.

my life, it has come with a boost of. confidence in my own voice, and that has impacted my daily life in. so many ways because yeah, it's just. made me a bit more secure in who I am. Definitely not fully there, but it's. like I feel like the beginning of the. journey of really understanding myself a. little bit more, and it's all come from. consistency and trying to commit to. things for myself, and I actually really.

have appreciated that this year. I think for me it's. having an amazing team. Your team is just literally just. And it's not cuz they're going to hear. it or are hearing it. I feel like being. surrounded by people. you actually enjoy spending time with. and as people, not just at work, and being surrounded by people that you. trust and that trust you and that being. surrounded by people that you feel There. was a quote that I read the other day. that said, "A great relationship is when.

both people feel lucky." You so have. that in your team. feel like having that in your personal. life, your professional life, in every. area of your life, like that's what. makes life special. So, that has made a. big change, like being surrounded by. people who just have wonderful values. and qualities. I feel like you've. attracted each other because, honestly, I don't know how your team is so as as. special as they are. Like, every single. person has different personalities, but. the same care, attention,

desire, and it and and what's beautiful. is there's like you feel no competition. there, which is really difficult to. create in a work environment. Everybody. feels so secure in their roles and how. they see it as collaborative thing, like. they all feel like part of a puzzle, and. they all work so well together to do. that. It's so beautiful. I just I I I. appreciate seeing you so happy finally. because I think that you've worked so. hard to get to this point to have people.

who. feel the same way. It's nice being. surrounded by people who feel the same. desire and excitement as you do every. single day. Yeah, it's been really. special. And on that note, I want to say. a big thank you to all of you because. I think it's been amazing just the. amount of love and support that On. Purpose has had in the last 12 months, the incredible guests we've had are. because of all of you that watch, that. like, that share, that recommend this. podcast to your friends, the amazing. conversations I've been having, the solo. episodes that I've been recording. Just. thank you for all your love and support.

because I couldn't do any of it without. you, and it's amazing to see the growth. that we're having, and it's. unbelievable, and so grateful to you. all. Genuinely, thank you so much. And. thank you, Radhi, for doing this with. me. Of course. Going on this little road trip. like these conversations. They bring so. much out. You're such a good. conversationalist. You are. If that's a. word. It is a word. Oh, thanks. Love it. Love you guys. If you love this episode, you'll love my interview with Kobe. Bryant on how to be strategic and.

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