If You Want To MANIFEST Your Dreams In 2023, WATCH THIS! | Ed Mylett & Jay Shetty

You know one thing that occurs to me is. that often times in our life our dreams. don't show up in the package we thought. they'd show up in. Often times even who. who you end up eventually falling in. love with might not be the person you. pictured when you were 10 years old or. 14 years old. Definitely, yeah. So we're going to dive. straight in and I want to talk about. this baseball career because I feel like. every kid has a dream. Yeah. My dream was to be a soccer player. or a football player, but I don't think. I ever got serious enough to ever even. really consider it. How serious were you. and how snatched did it feel? Wow, great question. I was very serious.

I probably in my mind I was a little bit. better player than a better player than. I thought I was, but I got a chance to I. got drafted to play professionally and I. went to college to play at a a top level. program and kind of a catastrophic. injury happened. Now, I always say. things happen for you not to you. I. think probably what it did is it. prematurely ended something that might. have ended eventually anyway, but it was. a devastating to me at the time. I. really never conceived of doing anything. other than play baseball and then I was. hit by a pitch, tumor formed on my leg,

they had to take part of my leg with it. It's actually grown back. It's been in. my leg now for about 30 years, this this. new version of the tumor. I'm benign, but it it altered the direction of my. life. Like many people, my first dream. just literally died and it knocked me. back and it took me a little while. before I recovered from it for sure. I. mean now when you're talking about it, it sounds like, you know, you pushed. through it, but when you go through that. first moment of like your dream. collapsing Mhm. and you're back at that. age, how old were you? I moved back in. with my parents No, I was 23. Right, so.

you're 23 years old. Yes. And I'm sure there are people. listening and watching right now who are. having their first dream is either. dying, about to die, or has already. died. Yes. What does it take to dream a second. time? Wow. No one's ever asked me that before. cuz I felt like I I felt like my life. that I thought I was going to have was. over and I know a lot of people feel. like they go through a divorce, you. know, or they're going through a. bankruptcy or something. You think it's. over. What it took for me was to find my.

actual home, my actual passions in my. life. And I thought what I wanted was to. be rich and famous and successful and. all of those things, but a great you. know, a convergence of experiences. happened that put me in a position where. I was humbled. but I got a chance to serve other people. for really the first time. When you're. an athlete, everybody kind of caters to. you. How great you are, you know, you. move to the front of lines in life and. all that and all of a sudden I couldn't. even get in the line and I got a job at. a place called McKinley Home for Boys. That's a story we probably should tell.

them. Yes, 100%. that just altered my life. But what changed for me was finding a. path where I served others. Like. literally took my unique gifts, which I. have a couple. Every human being's born. in my opinion with a couple unique. blessings and gifts. I had a few. Ironically, they weren't being used on a. baseball field. And and frankly, you. know what? You and I have talked about. this off camera. You know what I think? I think that was not my dream. I think that was a dream I sort of. picked up somewhere from mom and dad or. TV or somewhere else that that I went,

you know, I that looks like it would be. a dream. But it really wasn't something. that was mine. It was more like modeling. someone else's. Yeah. And so I don't know that. ironically that it was my dream. It was. something that kind of got given to me. that I just sort of took and ran with. and I was decent at it and I got close. to having it but failed. Yeah, it's. crazy these adopted dreams that we have, right? Very well said. We adopt them from other. people. And and I love you putting it. that way because I think for everyone. listening and watching, just just take a. note of what Ed's saying. What he's. saying is that actually what you're.

chasing may not be what you want to. chase and it may have been planted from. someone. Actually, you may not even know. your real skills and passions and that. could start there. So I love that and. oh, go on. No, what I was going to say. was that I think I wasn't intentional. about what I really wanted. I thought, well, if I play baseball. You know what. I really wanted? I wanted to be happier. Like if you really get down to it, I I. wanted to be happier and I thought, well, if I make professional baseball, then I'll be happier. And I think a lot. of people, you know, they think they. want these things, but if you really.

strip it down, at least for me, I just. want to be happier. I want to be more. fulfilled. And I thought baseball would. get me that cuz these guys look pretty. happy. You know, and it was a childhood. dream that I carried with me into. adulthood. But as I became a little bit. older, bro, I was like, you know what. really fulfills me? You know what really. makes me happy? Not hitting a round ball. with a wooden bat over someone's head. It's actually making a difference for. another human being. And I'll be honest. with you, it shocked me. Because I. really had never even conceived that. that would be something that would.

fulfill me. You know, why would that. fulfill me? Working with kids or making. No one knows. It's not on TV. Nobody. broadcast it. You don't get a lot of. money for doing it. Why would that be a. dream? Yet, it's the thing that filled. me up more than anything I've ever done. in my life, to this day. Yeah, that's. incredible. That's That's That's. absolutely phenomenal. And you mentioned. there, and I really wanted to dive into. this, the trajectory of your life. transformed when you. helped at this home for disadvantaged. boys. Mhm. And I'm like, I'm fascinated by how. that, first of all, even came about into. your life. Because I'm thinking, as a.

young person, who who thinks about going. to help and support and serve? Tell me. about how you got there. And what you learned about the. challenges, that the patterns that you. saw in the boys and what they. experienced. Wonderful. You know, one thing that. occurs to me is that often times in our. life, our dreams don't show up in the. package we thought they'd show up in. Oh, so good. I I really I just occurred to me as you. were saying it, like, that was not a. dream that in any way I thought would be. a package I would uncover. Often times, even who who you end up eventually.

falling in love with might not be the. person you pictured when you were 10. years old or 14 years old. Definitely, yeah. Dreams show up. Even my other careers, other businesses, they they weren't. things I really thought I would be. doing, right? They show up in unique. packages, but everything happens for you. and not to you. And I just fundamentally. believe that. And I grew up, my dad's my. best friend now, but my dad was an alcoholic while I was. a child. And. ironically, my dad's drinking, in many. ways, his alcoholism happened for me and. not to me. Although it's so hard to. understand that when you're a little boy.

and you have all this chaos and anxiety. in your life and fear is what having an. alcoholic family member can do for you. But one thing I give you, give you three. things it gave me. Remember one, when my. dad would come home, when he would, I'd. have to deduce really quickly I have to. look at him and be present, which dad am. I getting? Am I getting happy sober dad. who wants to play with me, or am I. getting drunk, kind of angry, disconnected, mean dad? And so I built these skills as a young. man because of my dad's drinking, of. being present with people and assessing.

them, really. And that's that's a unique. thing that I developed because my dad. drank. Second thing that happened was my. dad got sober. He's at an AA meeting. I'm now living back at his house as a. grown man, and he comes back from the AA. meeting, first AA meeting, first. sobriety meeting, and says, "Hey, I got. you a job. You're getting off the bed. tomorrow morning. Get down to McKinley. Home for Boys." I said, "What is that?". He goes, "I don't know, but I got you a. job at six bucks an hour. Show up 6:00. a.m." I walk in the door at that 6:00. a.m. meeting. I said, "I'm here for the.

job. What is it?" I said, "I have no. idea. My dad sent me here." This is. where my life changes. Grown man, college degree, my dad sent me here. "What are you supposed to be doing. here?" I said, "I have no idea. Come. back when you know. Do you even know who. referred you?". I said, "Well, his name's Tim, I think. my dad said." I get to the door and. they're like, "Come back." And I said, "Well, I think he's an alcoholic cuz he was at. a AA meeting with my dad last night.". THEY GO, "OH, DRUNK TIM, COTTAGE EIGHT.". I'M LIKE, "Holy crap." And I walk down. to Cottage Eight, and all the boys,

there's eight There's 10 boys, they're. all eight to 10 years old getting ready. for school, and I open the door and the. whole room stops, and they all stop and. stare at me. And little did I know in that moment my. life would change. I became their. father, their big brother. I went. trick-or-treating. I was there for. Christmas. I do their homework with. them. As a young man athlete full of. ego, I was humbled that I needed to I'm. getting chills. I had to serve these. boys. And the third thing my dad's drinking. did for me is it equipped me for that. moment. Because these boys all had the. same anxiety. They were wards of the. court. Their parents were dead,

incarcerated, or had molested them. And. so although I didn't have that kind of. anxiety, I knew what it was like to be a. little 8-year-old boy and be fearful and. be scared. And I could connect with them. based on that. And so ironically, the. entire time God, the universe, life was. equipping and preparing me for that. moment. If my dad's not an alcoholic, I. don't learn to assess people. He's not. at the AA meeting that refers me and I. can't connect with these boys when I get. there. And so eventually in life, the. dots all connect if you stay vigilant.

and you stay after it. And then in that. moment, my life changed. That is. unbelievable. Yeah. Like to have that. responsibility. to be a dad, to be a friend, to be a. brother to all these kids at that age in. your life. Correct. when you're trying to find yourself. Yes. and you've just had this massive. failure. And to have the emotional intelligence I. mean, what you just said about what you. learned from your father is such a. beautiful learning point for everyone. out there. It's like the lessons you. learned just gave you emotional. intelligence.

It did. And what happened was so funny. you say that because I remember. thinking, I don't know anything about. being a big brother or a dad or those. things. And often times when our dream. starts to show up, we start saying that. to ourselves. I'm not ready. I'm not. prepared. I don't have this experience. They're going to figure out I don't even. know what I'm doing. But the truth is. there were a lot of things in my life. that equipped me for that moment that. made that moment mine. And that And the. difference was, bro, is that you know. what? When you get obsessed, I really. believe this cuz I've tried to practice. it since that time the last 30 years or. so. Like if I'll really get out of myself.

and get into the other person in total. service of them, there's a wisdom in the. universe that sort of guides you in the. right direction. You're drawing upon. previous experiences that you didn't. even know were preparing you for these. moments. And I got pretty good at it. And those boys, some of them have stayed. in my life to this day. I love Oh, I. loved it, bro. Like I loved it. When I. eventually had to leave there cuz my. financial business had taken off, I. stayed many, many months longer than I. should have financially because I just. loved being with these boys because it.

was my home. I finally found my calling. in my life, which was to kind of make a. difference in other people's lives. And. since that time, I haven't been happy. every day of my life. I've had all kinds. of trials and tribulations, but I do. kind of know my recipe to find it. And. it's always getting outside of myself. It's always making a difference. It's. why I do my show and why you do things. like this, too. so powerful, man. Listen, and now you. are a father. I am a father. a daughter called Bella. I That's right. Bella, my 16-year-old. Yes. Yeah, tell me about the last thing that.

she taught you about yourself. Oh, humility. Dad is no big deal, right? So, we uh. she's. I'll give you it. She's regularly. letting me know that I'm in a midlife. crisis. So, you're She's 16, but she's. constantly I'm like, "What do you mean. I'm in a midlife crisis?" She's like, "Come on, Dad. The beard, Instagram, you. know, all the videos, all these famous. friends.". her dad's doing really well on. Instagram. So, that's Okay, when you. When you have children, they just want. They just They just love you and they. know all your weaknesses. But what I. told her, it sounds cheesy. I said, "I.

am in a midlife crisis." But before you. were born, I was in a young life crisis. I'm in a crisis literally to get this. best version of me to the next one. When you're I My son was little, we're. at a car wash. The same man was there. every week. And he he read the newspaper. back in those days, a million years ago. And he said to me one day, he goes, "How. old's your boy?" And he I said, "He's. He's six." And he goes, "Well, enjoy the. 6-year-old because when he turns seven, the 6-year-old's gone forever. And when. he turns eight, the 7-year-old's gone.". And I remember thinking to myself, and I. didn't mean to be rude to him cuz it's.

so true if you have children. They. replace themselves every year they're a. new person, literally. And I said to. him, "Sir, when did that stop for you?". That change. And he just sort of stared. back at me and he goes, "I don't know.". I said, "You should think about that.". And it hit me that the 48-year-old me, though there should be a brand new man. at 49. And the 48-year-old should be. gone forever. The 24-year-old listening. to this, when you turn 25, that. 24-year-old should be gone just like. your 6-year-old version, your 7-year-old. version. But something happens in our. life, brother, at some age where that.

progression, that growth, begins to. become stunted when we start to get. affected with all these insecurities and. worries and just life starts, we think, happening to us. And when we believe. that, that process stops. And 25 is a lot like. 26. 26 is a lot like 29. And you wake up. and you go, "Man, it's been 5 years of. the same chapters of the same book of my. life." Right? Yeah. Yeah. That's so powerful. You've just. hit hit a light bulb for me. It's like, when we young, we actually want change.

Correct. We're excited about getting older. We're. excited about going to college. We we. we're excited about change. And as we. get older, we get scared of change. And. we start going, "I don't want to change. anymore. I want life to just stay this. way.". Yes. And I love what you're saying about the. death of the last year and the birth of. the new and the constant changing and. the crisis. Tell me about when did you. feel comfortable, like what you're. saying that these boys became your life? Mhm. But then you also realized that you. weren't stable and supported financially. and had to build. Yes. When? Because I think so many.

people are like that. They found. something that they like doing or they. love and they're passionate about it, but they don't know when to distance. How did you feel confident and. comfortable to say to yourself, "Okay, I've done this. It's always going to be. important to me, but I need to take care. of me." Very difficult decision. By the. way, I you know I'm such a giant fan of. yours and the things that you teach. And. I've told you your your content grips. me. I watch it from beginning to end. So, I think you're more eloquent about. this probably than I would be. But uh. what I realized was that there was a. recipe of things that made me happy.

Kind of a hot button thing. If. when I was younger, for you to get me to. do something, you had to link it to. significance and recognition. If you do. this, people will clap. If you do this, it'll get you money. And I realized what. moves me is contribution. Contribution. and growth is what moves me. And so, when this financial business approached. me, I was not interested in it. I'm. terrible at math. I didn't like sales. people. I was not interested in that. industry at all. And they convinced me. that I was making a difference in other. people's lives, which I was. And the one. thing all my boys had in common were.

families in financial disarray. Every. boy, this is a campus of group homes, by. the way, hundreds of boys. Every single one of them came from. families in some form of financial. disarray. And I believe to this day that. the way that I could best serve these. children long-term was to somehow begin. to serve the people that are supposed to. be raising them. And so, I decided over. time, I convinced myself that that. service was being taken to another. level. I know my formula, I know my. intention. My intention is to serve.

It's like for you, I do my show, it's. it's free. I do it because I want to. make a difference for other people, and. not because of reciprocity, as you say. so well. There's a reciprocal effect, for sure. But, I do it because I feel like that's. it's who I'm supposed to be. It's my. home is to make a difference in these. other people. So, that was a very hard. choice. To this day, if I talk too long. about it, I get a little bit emotional. because I remember the day where I told. the boys, and it was a very difficult. day. But, I do feel like since then, the. last 25 years, I've I've made a little. bit of a difference in adults' lives.

now. Absolutely, man. And if everyone's. if you haven't yet listened to Ed's. podcast, make sure you go over and. listen to Ed's phenomenal guest, and. more importantly, you get more of this. man's amazing energy. It's called the. Max Out Your Life Podcast. Make sure you. go check it out after listening to this, obviously. But, please please please go listen to. it because you'll get to see how service. is so deeply ingrained into everything. he's talking about. Tell me at like where is it that you. I've heard you say this before and I. love this statement and and I think it's.

so powerful. You talk about being. blissfully. right? Yes. dissatisfied. Correct. Yeah. That's like I love. oxymorons and I love paradoxes. And when. I hear you say blissfully dissatisfied, I'm like that's the kind of life that. sounds real. That's what Yeah, so tell. us about living a life that is. blissfully dissatisfied. Okay, sure. So I think that we all want. bliss. We all want happiness. But what a. lot of us conflate and I used to, all of. my content's for me. Number one by the. way. Everything I teach is stuff that I. need to work on or I need to learn like.

right? Like everything, right? So. blissful dissatisfaction means don't. conflate happiness and satisfaction. They're two different things. Most. people confuse them. They think they're. the same. And so I think the happiest. people I know is mistake I see people. make is they're going to delay their. happiness. I will give them my self. permission to feel bliss when I get to. the house, when I get the promotion, when I find a relationship. And they. delay it thinking that I got to wait for. this future destination. The challenge. is you're going to bring you with you to. your beach house. And I can tell you.

because I've been there. You can be in. the most beautiful places in the world, but if you don't enjoy your own company, if you don't love yourself, you are not. going to love the building that you're. housed in. You have to love yourself. The second thing is achievers, people. that really listen to a lot of your. content, too. They think, well, if I let. myself enjoy this right now, I'm going. to I'm going to lose all my drive and. ambition. Yeah. Cuz they confuse. happiness. They think, well, my formula. so far is I don't really enjoy myself. and that keeps my drive alive. Nothing. could be further from the truth. What. you're doing is you're robbing your. brain of dopamine when you don't.

celebrate your victories, when you don't. enjoy it. And you are heading right. towards a place called burnout. If you. don't celebrate and enjoy and have bliss. in your life, but a lot of achievers. wrongfully believe it and I used to. believe it. I was sort of miserable. I. was building a house. I'll tell you. where the breakthrough was. We were. building a dream home and I ended up. coming there there there were they were. inside working on it and I walked in I. was angry to stay mad about business and. mad something about the house and and. all of the men working in my home were. these beautiful Latin men. Their music's. playing they're dancing they're having a.

great time working on my home. And if. you measured life in that moment by. happiness they were beating me terribly. because although I had these external. things I was robbing myself from any. bliss in that moment. It was ironic the. man building the mansion was miserable. and the men in there working on it were. blissful. And it just struck me watching. it that day. I said shame on you. And. what I was lacking as you talked so. beautifully about was gratitude. I. didn't have sincere specific gratitude. I was grateful for being alive grateful.

for the breeze not grateful for the. specific beautiful things in my life. And you teach it better than I do. The. more specificity you give to the things. you're grateful about. the compounding effect of that emotion. has in your life. And so blissful. dissatisfaction in long version just. simply means this you can live. blissfully and still want to achieve and. have an incongruence between what you. know you're capable of and where you. are. Great answer. Great answer. That. was amazing especially what you said. about the achievers mindset because I've. been there.

So I remember that when I would do well. at school or I'd perform well my parents. wouldn't celebrate or they wouldn't get. upset. Like it would just be like oh. cool. It's very neutral. So what ended. up happening is I was always continuing. to achieve but our response was always. neutral. Now my wife comes from the opposite. where my wife's parents celebrate. everything. Like the tiniest thing in. the world they'll celebrate it for her. And I think the balance is somewhat what. I think helps because you need some. hunger but then you need that happiness. And I think you're so right that that.

just that visual you literally said it. so well that I could visualize these men. working away feeling joyous and then you. like looking from your tower and your. window just feeling be. What what a jerk I was you know? And. learning from that jerkedness of myself, you know? Us achievers get to tell us how can we, if anyone's in that achieve I think. you've touched on something really. powerful here. Anyone who's in that. achievement mindset, driving themselves. to burnout. Yes. Where and how do they practice that. happiness, that joy, or whatever it is.

that you think we should be. experiencing? How do you do it in a way. that doesn't make you complacent? Wonderful question. So, you achievers, you know what you're great at doing? You're great at getting what you want. You're great at getting what you're. intentional about. The reason you are. not happy, this is a real fact, you are. not intentional about making that a. priority in your life. Just the power of. intention, of pursuing it, of looking. for it. There's a part of your brain. called the reticular activating system. And you achievers use this system far. better than everybody else in the world. It's a filter, basically. It filters out.

all the things in your life that aren't. important to you. So, you don't feel the. blood rushing through your left ear. You're not thinking about the clothes on. your back. It filters It's why when. you're in a room and there's a hundred. people in the room and someone calls out. your name, you hear it above all the. other auditory noises. Mhm. So, or. if you're in sales, if you're really. prioritizing, you'll hear a customer. having a potential customer having a. conversation. So, when you achievers. really get intentional about pursuing. bliss, pursuing happiness, your. reticular activator begins to filter. that into your awareness. You will begin. to see, experience, hear, feel things.

that were always in your environment. that you were screening out before. because it wasn't a part of your. intention. Wow. So, intention is a huge thing. My. wife, I'll tell you a quick funny story. When you're married a long time, man, you start to see quirks in each other. You're going to learn this. You probably. are starting to learn this. I love my. wife, but she's crazy, right? And when. we She's developed this habit recently. of when she eats. a blissful meal, okay? And she usually. she'll make the meal. She started this.

thing where she moans like. in joy. So, she'll bite into a great. steak, mhm. And it's a little weird cuz she's. beautiful, right? Like, "Babe, you're. doing this in front of the kids, you. And we're at dinner for my birthday this. last year, and a couple guys were. checking my wife out. That, you know, that's okay. You can look at my wife. once, even twice, three times we may. have an issue. And we end up sitting. next to these guys, and she bites into. the steak on my birthday, and she starts. into this thing she does. It's like. orgasmic moaning she does for food.

Like, "Babe, shut it down. This is not. fair to these guys." And the kids are. like, "Mom, that's creepy." She's like, "What am I doing?" She's like, "It's so good." And she says to me in. the moment she goes, "You know, the more I enjoy it, the more. I want another bite.". That's this principle. If you're not. enjoying the bites of your success, you're not going to want to take another. one. So, any great meal you've all. bitten into, vegan or otherwise, when. that thing tastes great, you had yours. earlier today, the bliss of how great it.

tastes makes you want another bite. So, for you achievers thinking that if you. enjoy the bite, that somehow you'll be. less hungry, is absolutely not true. You. will be hungrier the more bliss you. allow yourself to experience. Dude, that. is an epic analogy. Does she know that. she's being used in this. She absolutely knows lately cuz it's. still a little weird cuz she still does. it. but that is such a powerful point. That. is so powerful and and bringing it to. life in that way is is brilliant, by the. way. It's it's awesome. And and and it. totally makes sense. It it completely.

makes completely makes sense. And and and I think that's what we. struggle with so much is that we we get. scared because I used to be like, "Okay, I need to stay curious, and I don't want. to be complacent." And then you start. living in this, and it's such a it's. such a cold, tense place to live. That's perfectly right. And you begin to. convince yourself, Jay, you're so right. You begin to convince yourself that. somehow these patterns that I have that. don't serve me are the reasons why I'm. successful. But the truth is, you're. winning in spite of these bad habits, not because of them. I used to think all.

the time, I'm winning over and over and. achieving over it cuz I don't enjoy any. of this. I'm going to stay really. neutral cuz I was raised like that, too. If I hit a home run, we expected you to. You know, really? You expected me to? I. got straight A's, you expected me to? Same exact thing. And I married someone. who is what I call very easily blissful. Simple things make my wife happy, right? Simple things. Doesn't need a mansion or. a beach or fancy clothes or anything. like that. She is easily happy, particularly if we're together. People.

make her happy, and she always taught me. when we were little cuz you know we met. when we were five and four. As a little girl, there was this wisdom. she'd always say cuz I always want. stuff, you know, I'm going to achieve, I'm going to live in a beach house, in a. mansion, in a jet, and all this stuff. And she'd always tell me, "Babe, people. matter, things don't." People matter. And this little girl would tell me this. growing up. And then when I walk into. McKinley Home for Boys, those words. start to really be true because guess. what? It was in my reticular activator. all the time, and people did start to. matter to me, and things really didn't.

And ironically, I got a lot of things. because I helped a lot of people. But it. really wasn't my intention. So, anyway, she's right and I was wrong. As usual. Now now you mentioned patterns then. You. were saying how some of the patterns we. build, we think serve us or sometimes. they're not serving us. Now one of your. patterns you've always said is a little. extra, always doing a little extra. One more. Like yeah, one more. Like tell. us about who you saw that in or how you. perceived that and how it became a. practice for you in a healthy way. So,

actually name-dropper time, but I got a. chance when I was a pretty young man, I'm in a gym and Sylvester Stallone was. in the same gym as I was. He and I, just. the two of us in this very private gym. We both still belong to the same club. So am I. I was a huge Rocky fan. And he's and he's got his shirt off cuz. it's a little private gym that I'm in. And. it it was pretty surreal experience. because in the middle of I'm like, I'm. working out with Rocky and we're doing. the Rocky workout. This is pretty cool. But every single lift we would do, if we.

had to do eight, he convinced me, let's. go do eight and I go, "Seven, eight." He. go, "One more." I'm like, "One more.". And every single rep was one more. And I. walked out when we were done, thanked. him, and we've become friends since. then. And I remember thinking to myself, that's a great metaphor for life. If. you're going to max out your life, it's. one more. And so it's one more phone. call, one more I love you to my. children, one more reach out to one of. my friends, one more. rep in the gym. So I have this adage in. my life where I just always do one more.

And ironically, I've linked my. self-confidence to keeping that one. promise. Cuz I think self-confidence is. the process of keeping promises you make. to yourself. Mhm. And that's a promise I. can control, right? I can make one more. text to a friend at night. I can reach I. can tell my wife one more time I love. her before we go to sleep. I can walk in. one more time and do my prayers and. meditation with my daughter. And that. one more in my life is sort of become. part of my identity. And I have this. weird thing in my mind that I think that. if I'm willing to do things most people.

aren't willing to do, perhaps I can. produce results that are uncommon for. most people. And that's the one more. adage. That's why I do it. love that. And I think that's such a. beautiful thing. Anyone who's listening. or watching right now, like that is. something you can start practicing right. now. And you're right. Do you know why. that's so perfect is. when you lose someone or something bad. happens, you always think of that one. moment that could have been different. That one call that could have gone. differently. That one dinner that you. could have had. Like it's always that, right? Like when you lose someone that. you love or someone dies or you you.

break up with someone, like you're. always like that one. Like it's always. one. You never go, "Oh, there were like. seven things that we wish we did.". Right? Like it's always like that. And. it's so if you're always living one. more, then you're already that step. ahead that you're actually stopping. yourself from living with regret. I I I I've told you so many times I. think there's so much wisdom from such a. young man with you. And one of One of. things ironically, when you say that. that I've started as a practice to help. myself be present because being present. is a difficult thing in today's age. I. think you'd agree for many people it's. projected. Children are great at being.

present but dreaming about the future. still and adults were not so good at. that. And it's funny but I do this thing. with the one more where I flip it a. little bit and what if this was the last. one? So, if it was the last one, the last. time I see my dad. how would I treat this engagement? Would. my phone be done? How would we talk? What would I say? What would I do? What. if it was my last wave I get to surf out. there in the ocean? What if it's my last. workout? What if it's my last meeting? Last time I saw my wife? Last time I. talked to my friend? Last round of golf?

Last whatever? Because when something. becomes scarce we give it value and we. become deluded in our life into thinking. that somehow these are going to last. forever. I'll always have one more. That's a perverted way of looking at one. more. What if it's the last one? If. we've learned anything recently with. some of these people that have affected. us all so deeply that have passed away, a Kobe or somebody like that, it's. because it occurs to us in that moment. that this could be the last one. I I was. with Kobe. the last Sunday tournament he was at. with his daughter. Our daughters played.

volleyball against each other and I. didn't know Kobe very well, not as well. as you did, but I observed him that day. and he I remember thinking when he. walked out of that gym, what if someone. had said, "Kobe, you have six days. left." What if someone would have told. him when he got in the car? Can you. imagine in that moment knowing that this. is finite? We don't have forever. And so. I do utilize that with myself. Our. conversation today, what if this is the. last time I get to do your show? I want. to make it gives it importance. It gives. it value. Scarcity means value so I use.

last ones a lot, too. Dude, that is a. great flip. Like that's awesome. Like. that is awesome. That's so cool and and. and I love that because these are all. things we can start living today. And. guys, if you are loving this. conversation so far, make sure you go. follow Ed on Instagram. I mean like he. is sharing these truths every single. day, every single morning, and he's. engaging and interacting with his. audience. The engagement that Ed gets on. Instagram is insane and through the roof. because he's so present there. And so, if you want to feel that more of it, make sure you go over to Ed Mylett on. Instagram and and follow him to to learn.

more about this. This is By the way, I. am loving this conversation so far. Like. everything you're saying is is so. practical and real, but I love how it. originates, like how it actually comes. to you. Like that's true. I mean, Sylvester Stallone, I've only met him. once in my life. Yeah. And shaking his hand was enough. for me, but it was like it's you know, he he had that power, and you see that. these greats, they have these simple. habits. it. that make a change, these simple. things that they repeat to themselves, etc., these mantras that that transform. things. Now, for you, you're now giving. speeches, inspiring tons of powerful.

people, and also not just inspiring. people, you're inspiring tons of. powerful people in the room. Like you're. on stages with leaders of their. companies and businesses and industries. But you weren't always like that. No. Right? I've heard you say before. that you actually lacked confidence and. you'd get anxious. Big time. And like I can't believe that. When I saw you coming today, like you've. got this larger-than-life personality. Tell me about that evolution. of What were the steps to building real. confidence? Yes. Okay.

Not just fake Not just the fake stuff, not just the like, "Oh, I've got muscles. and I'm cool now." It's like, what. really helped you become really. confident? Cuz you you exude real. confidence. Wow, thank you, because that is. something I certainly lacked. I think. anything you get really great at in. life, it's out of necessity. Mhm. I. mean, I needed it. I was I was such an. insecure little boy, so shy, and I would. say even into early adulthood, even into. when I walked into McKinley. That was a. very insecure, shy, um lacking. self-confidence man. And so, I had to. build these tools. So, the first thing I.

would say to you is clearly this thing I. said earlier about just beginning to. stack the pattern of keeping the. promises that I make to me. is a huge thing. Huge thing. But I'll. give you secondarily, identity is kind. of like that thermostat on the wall. right there. There's a thermostat. That. thermostat regulates the temperature of. this room. So, it's pretty cold outside. today, actually. It's still 73° in here. The external conditions don't change the. regulated temperature. Your identity, your self-worth, the values and truths. you hold to be true about yourself are.

your personal identity. They regulate. your life. They're a thermostat setting. And so, regardless of what external. things happen, you see, if it's really. cold outside there, this room turns the. heat on, heats it back up to 73. If it's. super hot outside, it will cool it back. down to 73°. It's not the external. conditions, it's the internal thermostat. that governs your life. It will govern. everything. That's why often in your. life, you'll get life going, maybe. you've got really fit for a while, or. you've made a bunch of money, and then. all of a sudden you wake up 6 months. later, and you're back at that weight. again you don't want, and you're.

financially back where you were. You've. turned the air conditioner back down to. get life comfortable where you believe. you deserve it. So, this thing regulates. everything. You can have everything else. in your life together. If you're a 73°. of fitness, or faith, or happiness, or. money, you are going to get 73°. eventually, just like this room. How do. I alter it? I believe in the power of. other human beings. So, I'm a spiritual. person, I'm a praying man, and I believe. God uses other people to alter our. thermostat. So, I became, I mean, meticulous, crazy. I've told you three.

times today, intentionally, I want to. spend more time with you. The reason is is I believe you help me. with my thermostat in certain areas. So, what I did, my recipe was keeping the. promises I made to myself and adding. people close to my proximity who could. alter those temperature settings in the. area. So, I have a lot of, forget. wealth, I have a lot of really happy. people I surround myself with cuz they. they through association raised me to 80. and 85 and 90° of happiness. If you want. to increase your faith, you all seen.

this. If you're around incredibly. faithful spiritual people, your internal. thermostat changes. Same with money. You. can't be around super fit people in your. proximity and not eventually become more. fit through proximity. So, mine has been. proximity of people that raise my. temperature set. Dude, that is such a. great analogy again. That is amazing. When you start talking about it, I was. like, yeah, wow, like that's exactly it. Like, that's the mistake we're making. We're letting the out If you just left. the doors open and you took the. thermostat off, your temperature would be based on.

what's happening outside. Today's not. the best day weather-wise. It would be. freezing in here. And that's how most. people live, bro. That is exactly how we. live. Yeah. We just leave the doors open, Yes. let the outside decide the inside, Got it. and you just let it figure out. Wow, that is such a great way of looking. at it. And for the record, I want everybody to. understand this. I only know this. because I lived the wrong way so long. I. wasn't born with This is something and. by the way, something I still navigate. I still protect, to use some of the. terminology. I protect people the. proximity of people around me. And it.

doesn't mean that I don't have people in. my life that live at lower temperatures. Of course, I do, but I manage their. proximity to me. So, if you have people. in your life that are blood and they. can't leave your life, but maybe they. don't feed you, they take your energy, you need to evaluate their existence in. your life, but most importantly, you can. evaluate their proximity. How much you. let them affect you, how regularly you. communicate with them, how close they. are to you. That's where they have. influence over you. Like kids, you said. about kids earlier, I'll just say this. Yeah, please. My children, you worry about their. teachers, right? Who their teachers are,

cuz that shapes them. But who I really. worry about with my kids, what do you. worry about? Who their friends are. Who's in their proximity? It changes. everything. You got that little time in. your life where you kind of went the. wrong way? I guarantee you there were. some people you were running with then. that moved your temperature setting in. the wrong direction. Always. And then after college, you end. up being with with the monks, right? My. gosh, did you get in the proximity of. people who live life blissfully and more. happy and more peacefully? Their. temperature setting on bliss, happiness, and peace is off the radar, and part of. it is your proximity to them, I'm sure.

absolutely. love that. You said it best. You can't. change the people, you can change the. proximity. Amen. And and that is such a great piece. of advice. Tell me now how people can go. about that. Like, do you Obviously, we. know that as you grow in your career, whether it's finance, whether it's. success, whether it's fame, whether it's. status, more things become accessible. More. people become accessible, especially. when you're a good person. And we know. that that We both know that that is the. currency, really. Because.

hey, wealthy people are not attracted by. wealth. They're attracted by people like. humanity, right? Like famous people are. not attracted by fame. They're attracted. by humanity. Yes. But how does someone who's. listening or watching today, how do they. start creating that proximity with the. greatness? With that higher temperature, with the people that can pull them up. when they're sitting there going, "Yeah, like I don't I just like, you know, do I. email people?". Right, I don't have access to walk in. and work out Sylvester Stallone. That's what I mean, yeah. That's a great. point. That's one of the powers of. digital media, number one. Let me say. one thing to everybody. Like your book.

that's out right now, my book, podcasts, those those are in extreme proximity to. you. They're they're literally in your. ear. They're in your visual awareness. So, it's guarding myself. I watch very. little television now. I keep aware of. it, but I guard myself. So, it's it's. giving the digital influence to myself. The second thing I would say is I would. ask myself, "Where do these people. congregate?" I'm not talking about. wealth. I'm talking about where do. people congregate that I could begin to. become into their proximity. And so, I'll be honest with you, one of the. places that's been great for me in my.

life has been a gym. Oh, wow. you, people think that's a very simple. thing, but in my gym, people that are. typically trying to care for their. physique and their body care more about. growth and proximity in their life. And. so, the gym's been great for me that. way. It's also actually asking somebody. And. it's bringing something to the table of. value for them. So, what I've always. tried to do without giving to those. people, without expecting something in. reciprocity, I try to think of how can I. serve this person? How can I contribute. to them? How can I make a difference? My. neighbor here is gentleman that lives. next door to me, if he ends up watching.

this. He's so generous with constantly. We're different guys. He's a uh he's a. doctor. He's a lot smarter guy than I. am. But, he's constantly always Ed, can. I help you with this? Can I can I And I. I want him around me even though we're. very different people. I don't think. naturally, Chuck, I would say that's a. dude just like me. But, he is so. generous with wanting to give I want to. be in his life and I want to give back. to him on a regular basis. And now we've. become very dear friends because I think. of his wanting to serve me and make a. difference for me. So, that would be the.

other element I would give you is think. about how you can make a difference for. those people, how you could serve them. Yeah, that's great advice. And I love. that how practical it is. Like, I don't. think when you said the gym, I'm like, no, that that's right. I've met some. amazing people in my gym. So, 100%. So, I think you're spot on like. You did it. You did it when you sought. out your spiritual part of your life by. going with the monks. You have to go. where they are. Yeah, so true. You got to go where they. are because yeah, we're expecting them. to turn up and like Right, they're not. going to just appear. Yeah, they're not. just going to appear. They're not going. to Where are they? Where are they at. somewhere where you go faith-based? Do. they go to a particular, you know, um.

social organizations? Is there a club. you could join? Where are they on social. media? Um the gym for me was a place. that just really I met a lot of positive. It's hard to be moving your body all the. time and be negative. Yeah. Cuz their. states are high. So, people that work. out have a higher physical state. Yeah. And and and and what you're saying is so. important because I think the challenge. also people have is they want to be. sitting next to Richard Branson. Or you. want to be sitting next to Jeff Bezos. So, you want to you want to be with. that. It's like, well, actually, you. don't even need that right now. No. You just need someone who's like 3°.

ahead, 5° ahead. You're just better at. that than me, brother, because you're so. right. In fact, if there's too much. separation, they have no magnetism to. alter your thermostat. If you're at 73°. and I'm at 150, our vibrations are too different. You. want someone who's at 78 or 79°, and. those people are around you all the. time. And through time, there's a. progression where that thermostat. setting keeps changing. You're 100%. right about that. Yeah, and that's why I like the places. you chose. Because you may not bump into. X person there, but you will bump into.

someone who's ahead of you. And I love. that. You talk a lot about having huge. reasons and high standards. Yes. When. you said huge reasons, when I hear you. speak about that, I love that. Cuz I. feel like most people today when you ask. them why they're doing something, you. don't really get a solid answer. And I. think we struggle with that, most of us. in And I know in my time, in my life, when I chose to become a monk, that was. the first time if someone asked me why I. was a monk, I knew exactly my reasons. I. had huge reasons for being monk. I had. huge reasons for leaving being a monk. I.

have huge reasons for the way I live. right now. But there were times in my. life where I had very weak reasons or no. reasons. Tell us about huge reasons and. high standards. Great point. So, reasons, the one thing I have found is that. people think they have reasons and. they're very general. Specificity is one. of the rarest things I can get from. people when I coach them. I don't know. if you observe this too, but it's like, "Well, why do you want to do it?" "Well, I want to be happier." "Well, why do you. want to do it?" "Cuz I want to be rich.". Really? Like, what specifically is the. reason? What's your specific emotional.

compelling reason to do something? For. example, I am relatively fit. And it's. not because I'm super disciplined. I'm a. lazy person naturally. I have massive. reasons which has caused me to create. disciplines around me. When I was 30, I had a heart attack. And most people don't know this. I've. not talked a lot about this. And I went. and saw a remarkable doctor. I could. have seen a normal doctor. What do they. do? They give you the prescription, take. your stat, and do whatever, and see you. He got reasons. So, you What happens is. you go do the scan, he does the scan,

and you go to lunch. I'll never forget. this. I literally ate a burrito at the. lunch. That's how after it. And I come. back from the scan, there's nobody in. the lobby, and the doctor comes in and. he goes, "I'm looking for Edward. Mylett." I'm like, "I'm Ed Mylett." He. knew who I was. And he looks at the. chart, and he looks back at me and he "I. can't believe those arteries are in that. young of a body.". And I went, "Oh my gosh, what's in the. scan?" He's loading me up with reasons. So, he gets back, listen to this, Jay. He says, he puts my chart down and he. goes, "Do you have children?". I said, "Yes." He says, "Do you have a. daughter?".

I said, "I do." He said, "How old is. she?" And I said, "She's a baby.". And he said, um, "Are you interested in. walking her down the aisle on her. wedding day?". I went, "What did you just say?" He. said, "I want to know if you want to be. there and walk your daughter down the. aisle on her wedding You don't talk to a. dad about his daughter. You got my. attention. I go, "What the What was in. that scan, man?" And he goes, "I want. you to listen to me right now. If you. don't change what you're doing, another. man is walking your little baby girl. down the aisle on her wedding day. Do. you got it?" And I said, "Yes, sir, I. do." And he goes, "But if you listen to. me and you do exactly what I tell you,

you'll be there for her wedding day.". I'm telling you, brother, when I don't. want to get out of bed in the morning. and it's 5:15 and I've had a long night. before, Bella's wedding day. Bella's. wedding day. Bella's wedding day. Maybe. a hun- a hundred times a year, Bella's. wedding day. So, that's what gets my. butt in the gym. My big, specific. reasons get me to take actions I. otherwise wouldn't take. So, what's your. specific reasons for the things you. want? And if you anchor and link those. to them, you'll get the standards that. you set for yourself. What a great, huge reason.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that gave me. chills. Like, hearing you say that, looking in my eyes, I'm like, literally. like. You can feel it. Woah, like, that's the. reason to stay alive. That's why I'm fit. That's the best reason I've ever heard. I don't think I've ever heard a better. reason. That's exactly why. reason's always I don't want to die by. my own fault. No, but that's a real. reason. my reason. Like, my reason's like, if. anything happens and I die, I can deal. with that because I couldn't do. anything. Have you not found that though for you. take Anyone that's been on your show or. anyone you know that achieves something. at extremely high level, they have an. extremely specific, big reason to do it.

Oh, 100%. to the extent that the reason is big and. specific. And by the way, you you may. go, "Well, I don't know what my reasons. would be." Let me give you a pathway. Almost always your reasons will be your. dreams or other people. Almost always. they'll fit one of those two categories, big dreams or other people cuz most of. you have such good hearts and are such. good human beings, you will do a. thousand times more for another human. being than you'd ever do for yourself. And so if you can link the things you. want to the people you love, to the to. the things you love, meaning the causes.

you love or the people you love, your. dreams or other people, you'll almost. always find your pathway to your reason. Ah, so good, man. So And it's also what. I love about you saying is that it's. emotionally driving. It's not just. logical. Very rarely is it logical. It's not like just a list of like, "If I. don't work out, then I will put on this. much weight. If I don't work out, then I. will That's It's not logical. It's. emotional. Human beings are emotional beings. We're emotional, yeah. Right. We What we do is we make. decisions emotionally and we rationalize. them logically. And so if you at least. know the way that you think, even if.

you're in sales, your customers buy. things emotionally and justify and. rationalize them logically. And so in. life, you're selling yourself all the. time on getting you to do the things. that you otherwise aren't normally. doing, you're going to decide it. emotionally and then rationalize it. logically. And it's love. Like love is. pulling you to your daughter's wedding. Right? Like that love is pulling you. there. It's Obviously, fear always. pushes us a little bit and that's good. We I think fear is a good push. Totally. But love is a beautiful pull.

And And when it works together, it's. just Ah, that that's just That's blown. my mind. Like I think that's the best. reason I've ever heard to staying. healthy and fit. I'm excited for Bella. Wait. Sorry, I know Bella, you're 16. years old. And by the way, take your. time, by the way. I I intend to be around a long time. You. can wait another 26 years if you want, as far as I'm concerned. I love it, man. I love it. This is incredible. I am. loving I've I've got a few more. questions for you that I want to that I. really want to throw out now. I've I've. heard you speak about when you were when. you were broke.

Mhm. When you've, you know, lost your car. You're like in like the worst day of the. you know, the water turns off at your. place, you're in like the worst place. Like I mean like. obviously sitting in your beautiful home. today and people now seeing you on your. jet and the life you live, that's hard to calibrate for a lot of. people. Like they're like, "Woah, really? Like did he actually ever have. that?" Like and not in terms of like not. believing you, it's it's just hard to. understand Sure. how bad it can get for someone. It was bad. Right. Yeah, I know. I. believe you.

Tell Tell me about. what you wish someone would have told. you at that time or what you were. telling yourself. Great. So that people can say that to each. other or themselves. Yeah, I got so. broke as you illustrated there that we. didn't just lose our power. I didn't. just lose my home, but they turned the. water off and we had to shower at the. apartment we were living in their pool. It was just shameful and and a lot of, you know, I was I was selling a dream in. my life and living a nightmare. And I. don't know that I was feeding myself. over If I could go back and tell myself,

I would say something really true that. I've learned it all through my life. And. this too will pass. This time will pass. And not everything in life is permanent, but what I what I think changed for me. at that time in my life is I really was. producing in my life what I believed I. deserved. And it was really difficult. for me to accept that. There was a part. of me deep down that really was getting. what I believed I deserved. And the. reason was I had a pattern J in my life. when I was young of anything I did. wrong, any mistakes I made, I would. carry that shame forward like kind of.

bags you carry around with you. I just was so hard on myself. So if I. made a mistake there or I wasn't. completely truthful somewhere else or I. had hurt somebody or I just failed, I. started stacking all of it like bags. that I carried and I did get to the. point in my life where I think that's. what I thought I was worth. And I had If I could go back, I would. tell myself that's not true. That you're. special. That you were born to do. something great in your life. If anyone. listening to this has carried those. bags, number one, you can decide to drop. them at any moment. They're a figment of.

your imagination. You can drop those. bags anytime you want. And if no one's. told you in a while, remember you were born to do something. great with your life. There's a purpose. for you. You're special. You're unique. You were born with two, three, four, five super special gifts that are yours. They may not be mine and yours. Maybe. they're not great orators or they can't. articulate, but they're they're. nurturing skills, their faith skills, their intellect, their humor, their. beauty, their touch, their concern.

There's all kinds of skills that you. need to identify in yourself and you. were given those skills to make a. difference in the world, to do something. great in small ways and big ways. I'll. tell you one last thing. There's people that do huge things in. life that never get credit. The person. that recruited me into that financial. company quit that company. Right? And people say, "Well, what a. failure." But because that person. reached out to me and made a difference, I've gone on in my life to really reach. millions of people. If that person. didn't have that one act of kindness, that one generosity, that one, "Hey, I.

believe in you. You'd be good at this.". They made a huge difference in their. life through me. And without that seed. they planted, there'd be no harvest. So, we all are called to do something great. and I just want everyone to hear that. today, no matter what bags you're. carrying, you were born to do something. great. I I think that's such great. advice and we see all the time and we. just don't apply it to ourselves. Like. when when you say that, the first thing. that came to my mind was the X-Men and. Avengers. And and I was thinking of like, you. know, or anything in Yeah, any Marvel,

you know, character or whatever. character it is and you think of someone. like Wolverine. Like, you know, he's got his blades. coming out of his hands and he's got. this healing body. But guess what? Cyclops got the laser beam coming out of. him. And like Captain America doesn't. have the same things as Iron Man does. and Iron Man doesn't have the same. things as Spider-Man does and Spider-Man. doesn't have the same things if you're. going to DC universe that Batman does. and I'm like, "But they're not looking at each other. going, 'Oh, I wish I could like shoot. spidy things out of'" They don't care. That's exactly right, brother. And the. funny thing about that is all of us at.

any We're playing a character. And at. any time you could decide to turn the. page and write a new chapter in your. life and become a whole new character. There just became a point where I'm. like, "You know what? I am confident. I. am stronger. I I am funnier." I just. started to step into this person. I. started to write a new character. And. along those lines, I just got to tell. you like people say, "Well, what's your. overriding belief about life?" I believe. there's a man I was born to be. I. believe there's a man or woman you were. born to be. It's the kind of the. ultimate version of you. And I have this. hallucination no matter what your faith. life is, that's completely your personal.

belief. But I think at the end of life, you're going to meet that person you. were capable of becoming. I really do. believe that. I believe you're. introduced to this person, the ultimate. version of you, the places you could. have gone, the differences you could. have made, the memories you could have. had, the moments of your life. And to. me, bliss, heaven if you will, is. meeting that person and we're identical. twins. And hell, and a typical terrible. way to die would be to never never be. anywhere near close, to be total. strangers with that person. I think. about that. Is this decision, is today, is meeting you getting me closer to.

being that man I was born to be and. capable of? And it does fill me all the. time with joy and with a little bit of. pain you said earlier, fear I'm not. going to get there. And I live every day. chasing that guy. Everyone, that is Ed. Mylett. What a What a I mean, those are. beautiful words. to to come to what's the end of our. interview. I wanted to read something to. you. We found this on your YouTube page. from a comment from one of your fans. And I wanted to share it with you. because I thought it was really, really. powerful. So, this person goes, "Being. an entrepreneur is no joke and not for. the weak. We all want to be in control.

of our life, time, and money, but are we. really strong enough to weather the. storm and believe in ourselves enough to. stick it out and win? I love the part. where Ed talks about not selling. yourself or your family out. Wow. I will. listen to this over and over and share. it with everyone on my team and everyone. I know. Thank you, Ed Mylett, for. sharing your story as it has really. touched me to the core. This is. something that I needed to hear, and I. know that so many others do as well. Wow. I mean, you know, That feels great to.

hear. Yeah, I mean, it's like, you know, I. wanted to share that with you because I. feel like, you know, our might We don't always get. to hear that from someone else, and we. don't get to hear it in a voice, because. it's a comment. Sure. wanted to share that with you because I. Yeah, I just wanted to recognize just. how powerful your work is. Well, thank. you. I believe what he said there with. or she what they were referencing was. that you're going to have to pay a price. to win in your life. There's a price. tag. And when I was poor, what do you do. when you're you don't have any money, cuz I lived a long way that way. You. negotiate prices all the time. You're.

always flipping the price tag. What's it. cost? What's it cost? What's it cost? So. many people live their life in scarcity, and they're always negotiating the. price. What am I paying? I'm suffering. so much. I've got to go through this. And they constantly are negotiating the. price in their mind. And eventually, what most people do, is they'll sell. their will to win. The price will get. too high for them to chase their dream, for them to win. There's just a point. where they just go, "Price is too high.". And they make an excuse. "Well, it. wasn't for me. Timing wasn't right." No, you sold your family's dreams. There was. a price you weren't willing to pay. And.

for me, I just decided. there's too much energy drained in. negotiating it all the time. I've. negotiated in advance. As long as it's. legal, ethical, and moral, I'll pay any. price to make. bliss and happiness for my family. And. that I'm not for sale. My will to win is. not for sale. And I would just recommend. all of you negotiate the price now. Your. family, your dreams, the people who you. love, how much are they worth to you? How important are they to you? How. important are you to you? Whatever your. faith is, how important is your God to. you? And would you ever sell the price. tag on that? And as long as you keep.

that in the front of your mind all the. time, you have a chance to achieve. anything in your life, as long as your. will to win is not for sale. I love. that, Ed. That's beautiful. We're going. to end with two last segments that we. do, that quick segments. We've got fill. in the blanks. You've got to fill in the. blanks. So, I I longer tolerate. I no longer tolerate. Whatever you want to fill in the blanks. No, I'll give it to you. I no longer. tolerate fear and worry in my life. because I was a chronic fearful and. worrying person. I no longer tolerate. that. Nice. Being average will.

destroy me. The last win I celebrated was. meeting you today. Thank you, man. The way you get out of your own way is. by. always coming back to my purpose and my. calling in service of other people. Being a leader means. service of other people, again. My. favorite question to ask someone is. Mhm. Well, the one question I ask people all. the time is what do they believe will. make them most happy in their life and.

the diversity of answer, man, sorry to. go longer. It just blows my mind of what. people tell me. I love it. I want people to be able to. use that question when they're out and. about. So, I love that. You can inspire. someone today by living. your true authentic self. Don't be. afraid to be you. My favorite self-care practice is to. meditate. Beautiful. I wasn't a good person when. my ego was in front all the time. Nice. All right, man. These are your final. five. So, these are one-word answers to.

one sentence maximum. So, you did well on that last. fill-in-the-blanks. That was really. effective, actually. You were probably. one of our best for that. So, here we. go. What's something you view as a. blessing today. that you initially resisted? My baseball. injury. Mhm. Nice. What's your current biggest contribution. to the world for you? What do you feel? I have to say, brother, what came to my. head is my children. Beautiful. I love.

that. Yeah, I love that. All right. For. question number three, what have you been chasing in your life. that you no longer pursue? Personal. recognition from other human beings. Great answer. Great answer. Okay, question number four. What's the biggest. lesson you've learned in the last 12. months? I've learned the power of kindness. and. the generosity of human beings is so.

much greater than what you might see in. the media every single day, brother. I. know that's a long answer. Human beings. are good. Human beings are kind. And. it's the exception when people aren't, not the rule. I agree. And question. number five of your final five, when do. you feel closest to God? When I'm with my children. because God gave me them, but I feel. closest to God when I am making a. difference in someone else's life. I. feel like he's kind of looking down on.

me going, "Well done." And when I'm when. I'm doing that, I feel most close to. him. Thank you so much for watching that. video. If you enjoyed it, here's another. one I think you'll love. To say, "Okay, it's okay to fail cuz you're going to be. loved no matter what." I had to look at. it from a long term cuz I wasn't going. to give up on the game. Right. So, I had. to say, "Okay, this year I'm going to. get better at that. Next year, this." And so forth and so. on. And then patiently I was able to. catch him.