If You Want To Find & Build The Perfect Relationship, WATCH THIS! | Jay & Radhi Shetty

You're never going to be the same person. you were a year ago, and if we're not. watching each other grow, you can lose. this like spark. We change so much and. so you're kind of falling in love with a. different person regularly if you're. paying attention. Then this is one of your talking points. that you want us to talk about was our. red table talk experience. So, I'm getting ready. I'm trying to. figure out what I'm going to wear. Oh, yeah. And and what's going on. And then, shall I tell this one? Okay. And then Radi says, she's like, "So, so what should I wear?". Right? Very good question. No more.

questions. I was cook Yeah, I was cooking. I was. like making something and then I was. running really, really late and I was. like to you, "Oh, like what should I. wear? Like, you know, what should I. wear? What should I wear right now?" And. you were like, "Oh, it doesn't matter. because you're not going to be on. camera. Like, just wear anything that. you want. Just be comfortable. Wear. wherever you want." So, I had like 5. seconds to get ready. So, I threw on. like a T-shirt and jeans. and then you tell the rest. And so No, no, no, but she skipped the. detail. She's being nice to me. I I. literally said to her, I was like,

I was just like, "Wear anything. Like, it doesn't matter what you wear. You're. not even going to be on camera.". Yeah. Right? Like, that's literally what I. said to her because it was meant to be. an interview with me and it was one of. those moments that you live to regret as. a husband and a partner because I was. literally like, "Yeah, it doesn't matter. what you wear. Like, wear anything you. feel comfortable in. You're not even. going to be on camera." Next thing you. know, we get out of the car when we get. there, we're both on camera from the. moment we get out. Yeah. Uh Jada turns up to greet us and. welcome us and just, you know, makes us. feel so comfortable and welcomed and. happy and she's sitting with both of us. and literally after 5 minutes, her and.

her team are like, "We think Radi should. be on the episode as well." And and the. only thing I can think of is, "Why did I. say that? Why did I say that? Why did I say that?". And and then they're like, "Radi, would. you feel comfortable doing it?" How did. that feel for you? It's like, you know, a few months before you'd been on my. podcast with me and that was a big step. out of your comfort zone. Literally, I. think it was like 2 months later you're. on this or maybe 3 months later, but how. did that feel for you? Um well, when she asked me, there was. already cameras around us. So, I was. like, I can't really say no.

Um, and I think I was just scared. because I also, you know, when you need. to mentally prepare for something? Um, and I take I feel like I take a lot. to mentally prepare for things that I'm. doing or like going on. Um, and so, yeah, as soon as she asked me, I. literally just felt like my whole body. go into immense anxiety. And um, and I. can't remember, I think I said no, okay. With it like this space of 2 seconds. Um, but it was a such a good experience. because it really pushed me to do stuff.

that I would have never ever like if. they'd asked me separately, I would have. probably said no. Like if they'd asked. me beforehand and I had even time to. think about it, I would have probably. said no just because of my anxiety about. it. But um, it was so nice to be kind of. pushed and like completely shoved out of. my comfort zone uh, because then when I. watched it back, I was like, "God, I. didn't even Don't even Like I have no. recollection of that moment that I was. on there." I don't know what I was. saying. I feel like I wasn't even very. present at the time because I was so. nervous, but it really taught me like. afterwards and I was looking back, I was.

like, "It's actually really so nice to. be able to share things that you've. learned and um, be part of something so. special." And so, yeah, it was it was a. really good experience for me. Yeah. Scary, but good. And there was the part where. So, I went on first and we'd been having. a conversation for about an hour. And. then they bring Riley to the table and. that's when you were like, I could see. you behind the scenes and tell tell us a. bit about that. like pacing back and forth. I think I've. never been so like my whole hands were. like so sweaty. I was like so I I just I.

can't even describe it. I don't think. I've been that anxious or nervous for a. very long time. Um, and then as soon as they said it's. time for you to go on, I just had to. completely drop, smile, and like walk on. as if I was completely okay. So, um, but no, it was it was again like. such a great experience. And they they. make it so easy because they make it so. you make they They you feel so. comfortable when you're sitting with. them, so Yeah, it was good. So, what we're going to do, as I said. before, is we're going to go through. these topics. So, that was one of the. themes and topics that people wanted to. hear about. Here are a few more that I.

want to check out that we want to dive. into. Hit me. Let's start with this one. So, this one was, "After the honeymoon phase. ends, how do you keep your attraction. level high for each other and your. relationship moving forward?" Ooh. It's. a good question. Yeah. When does. honeymoon period end? Like, what what. what do people say that normally is? I don't know. I guess for most people. it's like 6 months, a year. Into. marriage or into relationship? I think. into a relationship, but I think it also. can happen in marriage, too, I guess,

because I guess like I think when you're. getting married, like it's such a fun. moment, right? Yeah. It's like So, we know dating. We know. that in dating 6 to 12 months. But then. when you get married, it's like you have. all your family and you have all these. events and then you have this big high. and then you get married and obviously. for us, after we got married, we moved. in together and and everything else that. came from that. So, I guess let's talk. about marriage because I guess that's. what we're. That's That's more recent for us both. I feel like for us, we had to make a. really conscious effort to go above and. beyond for the other person and really.

understand how the other person likes to. have fun and how the other person really. likes to. um. express their emotions. So, then we try. and facilitate our time together in a. way that it allows us to both do that. we went to a football match together, a. soccer match. It was in the US. It was. at LA Galaxy Stadium and we left at half. time. Like, that's That's all Radhi. could do watching a football match. because now you go with people who enjoy. that with you. Yeah, and and I think.

that's part of it. Like, I actually like. going to watch football or basketball. Radhi likes basketball. We love going to. watch basketball together, but if if I'm. going to watch football, it's like I. also want to watch it with someone who's. going to get into it with me and get. excited and be motivated. And so, I. don't feel like, "Oh, she doesn't want. to go with me so then she doesn't care. about what I care about because it's the. same way as I wouldn't want to go to. something particularly that maybe I'm. not interested in whatever that is even. though I seem to go with you to get. pedicures and manicures. loves that. He loves a good foot.

massage, loves a good pedicure. Um you. like you like getting groomed. both love spas. That works well. Uh but we we found that we liked doing. experiences together and she's very We. went to This is more my kind of. experience but this last Christmas we. went to Disney World. Oh yeah. And I've been wanting to go to. Disney World for like ages. I haven't. been back to Disney World. big kid. Like he absolutely I think for. three, four, I can't remember how many. months before, six months. It probably.

like six months he's been so excited to. go to Disneyland and to Universal. Um and every single week he would. probably mention it about his excitement. for it. And uh and I think just through. your excitement I got excited about it. Yeah. So we end up at Disney World in. Orlando and Universal and it was just I. was epic. Like it was amazing. I loved. it. It was so good. Like Especially at. Christmas. Yeah, what I love about it is the. experience that those places create and.

a feeling and because I'm a creator and. a content creator and I'm always like. how can I create experiences that make. people feel certain things and make. people you know just how do you create. something that makes people feel. something and makes them feel excited. and makes them feel passion and all of. that and I feel like they do it with. such ease. And Raleigh actually fell unwell just. before we went and when we got there and. she soldiered through. Like she was the. sweetest person ever because I knew that. A it was more for me than it was for her.

but she does get into it too and second. of all she she fell unwell and she got. pretty unwell at that time but she. soldiered through and she was just. been waiting for this for six months and. imagine I was like "Mhm, going to stay. here and I'm going to watch a film and. just get a bit better." No, there was. like I could not do that to him. You. could have. I could have, but I didn't. want to. Yeah, I really appreciated it. You like pushed. through. So, what do you think? What How do we do. the excite How do we keep excitement. like through it after honeymoon period? I think experiences is a big one. Like.

really prioritizing experiences. We're. not just like, "Oh, we'll find You know, I don't think you can make. attraction or chemistry or. compatibility. I don't think you can. take any of that for granted. I think. that's a big one. Uh. you know, for for men, get your hair cut. regularly. You know, get your beard. trimmed. That definitely. thinks that He really really believes. that he's got a new haircut. I don't. know whether you guys have noticed, but. um he's changed his hairstyle and he. genuinely thinks that his hairstyle has. changed the way that I look at him. It.

works, guys. If you the men's groomer on. Instagram. it. Jason, you are the man. I love you. You're amazing. You tell this story way too much. It's a good story. you love it. Um but but no, I I mean let let Okay, let's get to it. So, the experiences are. a big one. I think getting to know each. other more and more, Joe, as months go. on and how we're changing as well. I. think that makes a difference because. you're never going to be the same person. you were a year ago. And if we're not. watching each other grow and watching. each other. uh like mold into different people and.

observing that, then actually that can. also be something that can you can lose. this like spark because. actually we change so much and so you're. kind of falling in love with a different. person regularly if you're paying. attention, um which I think that's that's quite. cool. Yeah, and I think that's a really. good point actually that you've got to. be open to the fact that the person's. becoming different. Yeah. And you've got to want to be able. to fall in love with the new person. rather than trying to keep them the. same. Exactly. Rather than being like, "Oh, wait a minute, you weren't like this. when I married you. Like you were like. this." Or you know, you were less like.

this when I married you and now you've. changed or all of that kind of language. that often comes in relationships. Like, I feel like we are actually very. different people. Mhm. Right? Like, we're very different people. Like, I. think you really ground me, you center. me, you remind me of what's really. important. You. are more energetic than me. In different ways. Yeah, and and just. like, I feel like we're actually very. different and people will be like, well,

how do you But, we have the same deeper. values. Like, our spiritual values are. the same. But, also, not just our spiritual. values, I feel like we both are able I I. feel this is it. I feel like we're both. able to love each other for who we are. rather than who we want the other person. to become for us. Yeah, for sure. And I think we. we've kind of had that from the. beginning or at least for most of our. relationship we established that. And I. think it was good because we did those. like those rules of things that we knew.

we didn't want to change about ourselves. or that we really felt were important to. each other. Um. but yeah, no, I agree. I think I think. that's a really good point. Okay, let's. take the next one. The next one is, when. your partner is fully committed to a. priority or project and you're feeling. unseen, how do you help yourself? Ooh. What's that film where they go, I see. you? I don't know. Anybody know? Isn't that just Didn't we just do that? No, no, it's like a couple thing where. they're like, I see you, which means. like, you know, I love you. Okay.

Anyway, if you know, then comment below. and tell us. I feel like I'm really, really good at. balancing like he has a really, really. crazy schedule. Like, I don't think I've. seen anybody with a crazier schedule. than than him. And the way that he's. able to. really balance his work, but then still. always prioritize me. Like, I never feel. like I'm not a priority. And I think. it's. I mean, I don't know whether we spoke. about this in the last one about We did, didn't we? About quality over quantity.

But, he really lives that and he's like. that with everybody around him. And so, like, you get a good He's so focused, so. attentive. Um, so even in the time that. we do spend together, even if he has a. crazy like week, 2 weeks, a month, or if. I do, um, then the time that we are. actually able to spend together, you're. so attentive and focused. And actually, if I ever need you or anything needs to. like I need you to do anything for me, or if something's urgent for me, or if. you just feel that my emotions are even. changing or I'm feeling like a little. bit sad or anything, like you're always.

of that attentive to pick up on it, and. you always change everything around to. just be there for me in those times. And. so, I feel like. I can't really say that I feel like I've. been unseen by you. I think we've. learned how to pick up on each other's. emotions and know when to show up for. the other person, which I feel like. maybe we didn't have at the beginning of. our marriage, but I think that we've. really learned to understand that from. one another. And it's And it's. definitely changed the way that we feel. loved by one another. I just miss her every day. Like, this.

year she was in London for like. a long time. She was with her family. She was with. the restaurant she's been working on. She was got like we didn't spend time. together, I think, over a period of I'd. probably say like they're like 6 weeks. we didn't actually properly see each. other. Yeah, probably. We weren't not. There were probably like 6 weeks that we. didn't see each other. We weren't in the. same country for a lot of that. I was in. LA, and she was in London. And on top of. that, we weren't talking all the time. But, with Ryland, she's really good at.

sending me voice notes, which are. hilarious, sending me funny selfies, which I absolutely love like getting. I. just. pulling like the funniest faces ever. And then, her trying to call me as much. as she can. And that's how I I am on the. same way. Like, I don't feel like we've. set rules about when we are apart. We. just get on with stuff. So, like, the. way I deal with it if she's busy with a. project is. I book out my whole schedule, whether. that's spending time with myself, which. I really enjoy. And And I think that's a.

really important one that when I know. she's busy and she's really focused and. she can't like be on a phone call all. the time or talking and our time. difference. For me, it's like that's my. time alone. Like that's an opportunity. for me to really invest in my. relationship with myself and how I feel. and what I'm doing for myself. So, this. year I started playing more tennis. I. started prioritizing my exercise. I. started spending more time at the gym. Like I was just thinking about like what. can I do to invest in myself during this. time? I was spending more time with. friends. I was catching up with people I.

haven't seen in a long time. And it's. not that she's not available for a phone. call or to talk or to message. It's not. that. It's just, "Hey, here's my time to. spend a bit of quality time with. myself." And I think that's such an. important thing. And I know you do it as. well when I'm traveling for work and. stuff. And I think we've both built that. independence up and at the same time. then I was just so excited to see her. I. couldn't wait for the day she was coming. back. And I remember that hug that we. had when you the day you came back. Like. it was just like I was so happy to have. you back. And so I actually loved that. feeling of missing her. And I also loved.

that feeling of having time to really. invest in my relationship with myself. And how about when you like Do you ever. felt a time when you felt unseen by me? No. I think we had I think. about that last year like when there. were times but not not in the past 12. months. Yeah, I think we really learned to. detect when each other needs you. last year we talked about a lot of the. times when we've made that mistake but I. think in the last 12 months no. All. right, let's do the next one. Okay, so. what would you say annoys you the most.

about your partner? All right, I'm going to go first cuz. it's easy. Okay, go on. Okay, so for me. it is my chargers and my tech. gosh. Like what? Look, so so No, wait. I'm going to go. first. Okay, so. I have chargers. I know. Go on. Carry on. I have chargers placed in every key. location in the home. I have one by my. bed, I have one in my study, I have one. in the corner of where the TV is. Like I. just have charges everywhere because I.

use my phone a lot, I'm in lots of. different locations, I have one in the. car, and so I like to be able to charge. it. I don't like being moving around, so. then charges stay where they are. Often, I will find. charges have moved locations. Charges. are no longer in those locations. going to get well happy with this. because I do this to him when I go home. as well, and she says the same thing to. me. Yeah, charge is missing. So, what I. decided to do because because the worst. thing is when I notice this and I'm. like, "Rady, that's my charger." She's. like, "No, it's not.". She's like, "No, I I bought this." Like. I'm like, "No, that is my charger." And.

she will like, "No, no, no.". to be clear, iPhone chargers all look. the same. So, so I went a step further and got a. different colored cable. So, I was like, "This is it, right?" Like I've got this. bright pink cable. I was like, "There's. no chance that she bought the same. bright pink. bought it for me. No. Yeah, exactly. And. then that happens with that, too. So, that is probably the most annoying. thing. I I do see the annoyance come out. fiercely when he can't find a charger. Last night. Yeah, last night I was. sleeping, and he was like, "Rady,

where's my charger?" I was like, "It's. in my bag." "Why is it in your bag?". Yeah. Okay, so that's probably my number one. thing, I think. I got I'm trying to. think of other stuff, but that's. definitely. What's the thing that annoys me about. you? Hmm. Oh, I know. Well, I don't know whether. this is actually a thing that Yeah, okay. about my shoes last time, so we're good. No, I'm not talking about shoes. Um. the one thing that annoys me is that Oh, because he has this really annoying. photographic weird memory where he can.

actually remember every single thing. And so, even if I'm right, and even if I. know I did something, because I know. he's got this memory, I then question. myself. Because like, I know for a fact. like something has happened, and I say. that to him, or I know I've told him. something, but because I know how good. his memory and how like weird his brain. is, I then question myself because I'm. like he does have that like he does know. how to remember every single thing that. someone possibly says. So then I question my my memory. abilities because of your like genius.

brain. That's not nice. So yeah, that's just been annoying. Five. almonds a day guys. My mom trained me. Five almonds a day. Apparently yeah, Ayurvedic remedy. Is. it? No. Oh. But almonds do have that. quality, yeah. Really? Yeah, and they're. meant to be good for brainpower. What. other What other nuts are good for. brainpower? Walnuts. That's why they're. shaped like a brain. Did you know that? Yeah, you you told me that before. Oh yeah. Um. All nuts really, nuts and seeds. They. have really good um. good um ingredients that are meant to be. good for brainpower. Okay. Yeah. All.

right, next question is what's something. your partner has said to you that really. hurt you but served as a valuable. lesson? Um oh, I know what mine is. You always. tell me that I don't know how to like. utilize my time well, which didn't hurt. which it No, in in like in like in a. good way though. In terms of like I have. I've never said that to you. No, you do. As in not not in a bad way, but you always say that I need to learn. how to you know, use my time in a way. that's efficient because I know I don't. like I'm a big procrastinator. It's. never come like in a rude way from you.

It's when I've been talking about what. I'm struggling with. Um whether it's to. do with things that I want to get done. or um how I feel like time just gets. away from me through and a whole day. goes by and I feel like I've hardly got. anything done. And um I have this really. bad habit of just either procrastinating. or not knowing how to prioritize things. and so I'll end up having a list of to. do and I'll end up doing everything. that's completely not on my list like. reorganizing a kitchen cupboard instead. of what's actually on my list of things.

to do. So you get you you you talk about. this a lot. It wasn't just that line, but when you tell me that about myself, I know it's definitely true cuz it hits. home. Mhm. So not I don't think you we don't. really I feel like we don't often we. have never been in a situation where we. don't feel to what we say to each other. Like even if we're really upset with one. another or even if we're angry or. whatever it is, I don't feel like we. burst out like words that we don't mean. Yeah, I don't think I don't think we've. ever really done that. I don't think. we've been so harsh with our words in in.

arguments or when we felt upset with one. another. Yeah, I I just feel like with. that type of stuff you have to be. careful about that with your partner. because. you've got to look at this person like. every night before you go to bed, you. have to see them every morning when you. wake up. And if you say stuff you don't mean too. often, either it becomes real. or. that person feels like just like a joke. has an element of truth.

Even if you say something you don't mean. that's extreme, there's still an element. of truth. And now that person has that. with them. Yeah. And I know one thing that I used to say. that I stopped saying in our. relationship was for a long time I used. to say things like. oh, you know, like we don't I don't. really I can live without you if I. needed to. Oh, yeah. And I used to see. that as a sign of strength to say that. And that came from me just being. detached and you know, being. independent. But then I started to see. like that type of language in a. relationship. But I never said it in a. mean way or a extreme way. But just that.

statement, what those words actually. mean, you end up pushing your partner. away. And so you've got to be so careful with. your words that you say to your partner. because if you're saying something just. to get a reaction out of them or you're. saying something to It's like being 16. again, you know, like when you would. when you say something to your friend. just to get a reaction out of them. Yeah, yeah. But it's like you can't live. like that with your partner because. you're just with them so much of the day. Yeah. that you've got to be so. intentional and focused on how you speak. to people. So, yeah. Uh what's the one that you.

So, what's my thing? What would you What. if your partner said to you that really. hurt you but served as a valuable. lesson? I don't think you've ever said. anything hurtful to me. What about What about when I said I. didn't like your hair? There are Oh, okay. Yeah, I mean, there. are times when like I've worked really. hard on something. Oh, yeah. Like Oh, yeah, yeah. This is it. This is. it. There are times when I've worked. really hard on something, like a video, or I've been on a photo shoot, or we've. designed the podcast logo, or whatever.

I've worked really hard on something, and I'll show Radhi to get a feedback, and Radhi is just so honest. Like she is. just honest. Like she does not hold. back. Like she would just say it as it. is. And in the beginning, and even there. are sometimes now where like my ego gets. hurt, or when my emotions get hurt, but. then I'm like, "Actually, I'm so lucky. that I have someone who's so honest.". And that's become a valuable lesson for. me because. if she wasn't like that, and she just. said, "Yes, yes, yes." to everything I.

did, then I would never know whether if. I was doing something was good or not. Whereas, I know now if I show her a. video, and she's like, "I don't like that. I. don't like that. I don't like that.". Then I'm like, "Oh, at least she cares. to be honest with me, rather than just. be like, 'Oh, yeah, that's the best. video I've ever seen.'" And then we put. it up, and then no one likes it. And so, for me, like I've learned to value her. honesty. And she's just raw sometimes. Like she'll straight up be like, "Nah, that's terrible." Right? But it's not. It's in a loving way, because it's out. of care ultimately in terms of getting. the right thing. So, for me, I've take I.

think that's the one. That's the one it. is for me. So, I actually value Radhi. being honest with me, as opposed to. either lying to me, or just saying yes. for the sake of it, or just to make me. feel better. So, that's mine. Okay. Fair. Yeah? I agree. I agree with that. All right. Okay. So, here we go. What's. the next one? Okay. How do you decide. what you guys show to the public, and. what you keep private? Good question. We've I've been talking. to you about this a lot, haven't I? Um, I find I get asked a lot why I don't.

share like so much of mine and Jay's. relationship on my page. whether it's like pictures or whatever. it is and I find. like you're so sweet and you're so. expressive on your page and I feel. you're like that whether it's with me or. whether it's with your friends or like. whoever comes on your podcast like you. genuinely want to show appreciation and. love on your page and I think that's. such a wonderful thing but I think it's. really good for people to know that. there can be different types of people. in relationships and so that is him and.

that's how he likes to express himself. along with being so expressive in person. that's how he is whereas for me I just. um. I don't know there's a part of me that. just likes keeping that to ourselves but. also I find generally and especially for. women a lot of. like post online of of people who look. very very happy together and you know. that have. a lot of relationship post it can. actually agitate a lot of people who are. feeling quite sad about that area of. their life and unfortunately that is. really prominent in society at the.

moment like a lot of people are really. upset in their relationships or. not dating and finding it really. difficult and so I often try and just. avoid posting things that I think might. just agitate people in that way. especially because love is the one thing. that people are searching for so much. and so. I do post things and I do post fun stuff. with us but. I like to leave some of the stuff for. just us to. for me to be able to say to you. privately and. yeah not online.

that's just yeah that's just how how I. feel and I feel it's sometimes I've. actually felt like oh maybe I should. like write a really sweet post online. and you know say to him and I'm like oh. but maybe I just want to write in his. card and then I write it all out and. then I just delete it and I write what I. actually feel like writing which is. something just sweet light and like just. relaxed rather than you know having that. emotional outpouring online which I find. a bit difficult to do so. and I think that's okay like it's it's. okay to be both people and I think that. there's beauty in what how you are. online and how you express yourself, but.

I feel like I just want to protect that. part of me a little bit and not have. that have that so much out there. Yeah, and I and I think for me it's I'm always. thinking about like what can I share. with you that's going to be useful to. you. So, if you're listening or watching. right now, I want to make sure that. anything I'm sharing in our relationship. is actually helpful to you, is useful to. you, is real for you as well. Like why. are we doing this conversation? Because. we get to talk about what goes wrong, what we don't like about each other, what what doesn't work or not what we. don't like about each other, but what. annoys each other, you know, all of the.

things that we're talking about already. right now. To me, I want you to see. that. Mhm. I I want you to hear that because I. want you to hear that people can be. different, people can have different. opinions, they can have different. priorities, but they can still love each. other and they can still be together. And so, for me, sometimes the reason why. I share those messages is just because. I'm like this may be relevant to someone. out there and that's why we did last. year's podcast, that's why we're doing. this one because I'm hoping when you. hear it, you'll be like, "Oh wait a. minute, that's me and my Yeah. boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, whatever. it is. Like that's me and my friend.". Like I want you to hear that and.

recognize that you can work through this. stuff, that with work, with effort, you. can actually get there. So, yeah, that's. what how I decide what I'm going to. share. Okay, next one. Have you ever. felt pressurized by your partner in any. way? Um. I have I have to be honest and say no. with this one in the sense that. I feel like you've been really great at. coaching me through my growth in areas. that you're more advanced. So, when it.

comes to health, Radhi. is far more health conscious in what she. eats and her exercise routine and it's. it's it's beautiful for her wellness and. how she sees wellness as this wholesome. thing. And she's been that way since. we've been together and I have always. focused on my mental health, but not as. much on my physical health. And I've. never felt forced by Radhi or. pressurized by her to become someone I'm. not when it comes to my physical health.

I've always felt coached and guided by. her. So, I remember when we first moved. to LA, she was the one like looking for. a personal trainer for me because she. was like, "I know that you know, I told. her that that was the only way I would. be able to get into that rhythm." And. so, she was doing that research for me. And then when it comes to my food, she's. always making sure that whatever she. cooks is right and even though the spicy. food because spicy food is not good for. me, she makes sure that the food she. cooks for both of us is not spicy. And. so, I've always felt like very. encouraged. And now that I'm at like. feeling like the best I've felt ever,

it's like I feel so happy about that. because I I feel like I did it in my own. time, I did it for myself, and I have a practice and a ways of. doing it that are right for me. And often when things are pressurized, it's very much like, "Well, this is how. I do it. This is how you should do it. And this is what you need to do.". Whereas for me, it's like I'm doing it. for myself. I found my way of doing it. and I did it in my time. And to me, having someone, especially your partner,

who wants you to be healthy but not. doing it in a way that makes you feel. bad about yourself. Like. I Yeah, at one point I was probably. eating too much sugar or eating too much. chocolate or whatever it was and. Radhi never made me feel bad about it, but she would educate me as to why it. could be better. And I feel like being. educated in that way. is is a much smaller way of helping your. partner actually grow. And be like, "Did. you know that that granola you're eating. is the same as That is literally how. you speak. the same amount of sugar in. this as this." And you'd be like, "Oh my.

gosh, I had no idea." Yeah, it's so much. about education. Um I think with. pressure, actually one thing that I. thought of when I had that question was. I also don't feel like you've ever. pressured me. And one of the main things. for me was when we actually met, you. just you know, you were recently a monk. before that. And so, in my eyes, I was. like, "Oh my gosh." And I was just kind. of starting my meditation practice at. that time. And so, for me, it was. yeah, I always thought, "Oh my gosh, am. I like going to feel really, really.

pressured by the by the knowledge that. he has and by the way that his. meditation practice must be so deep and. powerful and um all of that, you know, I. thought I would feel that way." But. actually, you were just such a wonderful. guide and teacher in allowing me to. explore myself because just like you. said, I don't feel like anybody will. want any Nobody is going to feel happy. about doing something that they're. pressured into. And also, just the. conviction with which someone wants to. do something, if it's done out of. pressure, actually, it's not going to be.

that much. And so, they're not going to. want to stick to it anyway. Um and so, yeah, I felt like that was such a. beautiful journey that I went through by. observing how you were in your um. day-to-day life and then how your. meditation practice and how your. spiritual journey is what took you to. become that person. And so, for me, that. was the greatest motivation for me to. continue my journey in it um without you. saying anything or. making me feel a certain way about it. Um and again, the other thing I think of. is how.

um yeah, anything that I wanted to do or. I've said I wanted to do, you've always. given me advice on it and always given. me the best advice that I could have. asked for. But yeah, you've never forced. me to do the things that you've told me. that I should be doing. Like if we've. you've given me advice, yeah, you're not. regimental about it. Like you've given. me advice on so many different things. and a lot of the times I haven't taken. the advice or I've heard it, but I. haven't been able to um put it into. practice. But you just really allow me. to find that journey myself and you're. always there to support me, which is. what I think a partner should be like in.

that way. But you don't Yeah, you don't. get annoyed if I don't do it and you. don't pressure me into doing it if if. I'm not ready for it. So, yes, no, I don't feel pressured by you. Except for when um you don't want to eat. sugar and I want to eat like chocolate. cake and ice cream and you're like I'm. not eating sugar right now. Then I feel sad. And a little bit pressured to also have. to not have sugar. Which started from you. I know it started from me, but I like I. like having sugar sometimes. He's like a all or nothing. So that's.

another thing like Yeah. about our. characters which are so different. I can. have a small bit of like chocolate every. day or like a small amount of something. every day and I will be fine. I would. will never have to finish it. I can just. have a small amount and be very happy. Here if we're having sugar it'll be like. we go to the ice cream place, Coco Bella. Creamery, the best vegan ice cream place. ever. So we'll go there and he'll be. like okay, could I please have a. chocolate fudge ice cream with triple or. quadruple chocolate sauce, triple. chocolate chips, triple sprinkles.

That's. That's a good a chocolate brownie that's. heated up and basically he goes he has. the same amount of sugar for like. a month. He should have in like one day. Um. Well, remember my order. he's remembering everything. We went there the other day and they. were like oh you've got 600 points. Which he got all while I was away. I'm saving them. I'm saving them. Saving them. One day I want to walk in. there and use all my points and like. feed everyone in the store. Um but yeah no so he's a all or nothing. whereas I feel like I'm quite like I.

will have a little often. Um but you're really good like when he. says no to having something we will go. anywhere and they'll be like the most. incredible stuff around us to eat and. you'll just be like no, I'll have fruit. I'm like oh fine, don't share my cake. with me. I think we've also felt it with like. ambition. Yeah. sense of like I feel like I've always. been really driven like since since I. remember in my teenage years I've always. been really driven. I've always been. really focused and motivated and.

inspired and I've always been ambitious. and chasing my dreams whatever they may. be and when we met, I was very clear. about that as well. That's who I was. But I feel like I've I work. I work harder on my purpose now than I. ever have. Yeah. So, in one sense, I've changed a. lot since we met because when we met, I. still wasn't working as hard as I am now. on my purpose. But I've never felt the. pressure to slow down. from you. Or I've never felt the. pressure to have to detach from those. dreams or disconnect from those dreams.

And I think that really helps me because. I'm not worried about feeling like I'm. letting her down because she doesn't let. me She doesn't make me feel that way. because she doesn't feel that way, I. feel. I got I think I've been asked this. before because of the speed that you. work at and like how. uh focused you are, whether that makes. me feel like pressured into being that. way. And I actually like I feel like. that we we that never really happens. I. feel like I watch you do it and I'm so. amazed by it and in awe of it. But um I.

feel like I still work at the same. speed. I'm just like just chilling along. and doing things at my own pace. But I. think that also shows that like I never. feel you're putting that onto me. It's. always just you doing you and I get to. do me at the same time, but we can just. kind of work on parallel. Yeah, which is quite nice. Okay, awesome. Let's do the next subject. That's over here. The next one is. Give us a fun one. Uh what can only your. partner do that really makes you feel. loved and special?

I mean, that's more you rather than fun. Um. what do you do that makes me feel really. special? Yeah, loved and special. Loved and special. Should I say what you. say to me? Well, I don't know. I. So, basically, I don't know. I don't. know where this came from. I'm going to. share this because this is really funny. I don't know where this came from, but. one day he came and he like whispered in. my ear. Was it like while I was. sleeping, which also could have been a. bit creepy. But um he came and whispered.

in my ear. He was like, "You are loved. You are cherished. You are No, it. wasn't. No, you are loved. You are cared for. You are cherished. like a little cherub.". Um. so, and then since then I know he says. it as a joke, but really he he feels. like I I actually makes me feel a bit. cute. Like I like it. Um so, since then. every time I feel like I'm getting. stressed out or he sees me getting a bit. worked up like if I'm cooking in the. kitchen for like 50 people, um. he'll come up to me, hug me, and say, "You are loved. You are cared for. You. are cherished like a little cherub.".

So, that makes me feel kind of cared for. and loved. Um. and what else do you do that I feel. loved and cared for? Just every day he's. just uh like I've said this before, but. it's just an ongoing thing with him. Like he's just always very loving and. caring on a daily basis that um. there's never really a need for like. special gestures or like crazy stuff. because I feel like it's just stable and. he's just always I always feel supported. and loved and cared for by him because. that's just how he is. Yeah, for me it's we talked about this. last year where we talked about like.

love languages and things like that. But, it's interesting how even the love. languages are so much deeper than just. the way they're spoken about. So, I was. always a gift person growing up which I. spoke about last year. But, we both live a life where we both don't. live for gifts anymore. Like if I want. something I buy it for myself because I. need it at that time. If Rothy wants. something, she buys it. So, we don't. give each other gifts at all anymore as. in physical objects or gifts because we. know that if we want something we'll get. it for ourselves or we don't really have.

a need for a lot of stuff. Like we don't. have a lot of things in that way in our. life I feel. But, for me the biggest one. has been the. way Rothy has understood my love. language in the deepest way. So, in the. last 2 years and we spoke about one of. them last year, but Rothy has thrown me. two of the biggest surprise parties. I. have. And one was for my birthday which. is when we first moved to LA. Yeah. But, last year it was after my live show. Yeah. And so I I I want to talk about.

this for a moment because it was so. important. So, I did my first ever live show in LA. Nearly 2,000 of you showed up. It was. packed. It was at the Ace Theater. My. team and I had worked for 6 weeks to. prepare this incredible show that we. were absolutely so proud of and in love. with to put on stage. I'd been. practicing with my team for like 8. hours, 9 hours a day for a week. beforehand. And then you're on stage. I was on stage. for about 2 and 1/2 hours. We had this.

incredible show. People traveled from. like Japan and Australia and London and. from all over the world and people. really had this phenomenal experience. And then you experience something really. unique. So, just think about that for a moment. You've got. you've you've put all this effort in. building this thing. You then experience. it with thousands of people. And then you're grabbing your bags, you're grabbing your clothes, and you're. getting into the back of an Uber on your. own. It's It's like the It's like one of the. weirdest experiences ever where you go.

from this real high to then almost being. in completely the opposite scenario. And. on my way home, I was thinking. I was. like, "Wow, now I realize so many of the. people I coach, so many people I work. with, so many people I know who live. these much more extreme highs than I do. Like they have like 80,000 people, 100,000 people in you know, their. audiences or whatever. And then all of a sudden they're. spending time alone without that buzz. and rush.". And I was thinking, "There's so many people that get. dissatisfied by not having that all the.

time and feel lost and confused." And I. was thinking about the most important. people in my life and I was like, "Well, I'm going back to my wife who loves me.". And you know, that's such a such a. fulfilling feeling. And I was like, "I have friends, but. anyway, I'm going home.". And when I get home, I walk through the door and there's like. everyone I care about is in that room. Literally, all my closest friends are at. my house. There's this big surprise. Rothy has. always has cooked like this incredible.

meal. She's got like these amazing. balloons that spell out JS Live. She's. got this amazing chocolate cake. Uh and. it was just like this really fulfilling. feeling that I'm so fortunate to have an. incredible group of people around me. that love me, that really care for me, that are going to stay at my house till. midnight on a work night to celebrate my. day with me that I've done this event. And. Rothy's just figured out a way of giving. me the gifts that I can't buy myself.

And and I think that's what a gift. really is. Whether it's an object, whether it's a thing, whether it's an. experience, a real gift is giving. someone something they can't give. themselves. And I you can't organize a surprise. party for yourself. You can't organize a party for yourself. or you tell all your friends to come and. surprise you if you know it's happening. And she's really figured out the depth. of the lung love language of the. definition of gift in my gift in my.

opinion. but don't be expecting this like every. year. I'm expecting every year now. It's. happened the last 2 years in a row. a nightmare. happens around November. You know, there's something about November. 2. months after my birthday gives a bit of. time to I cannot explain how much I. dislike organizing surprise birthday. them really well. Like you're really. good at it. Yeah, cuz I've done like two for you. now. Look, if you want to hire me to. um throw your. party, then I'm available and I have all. the contacts because I've done it twice. for him now and it took all the energy.

that I could possibly imagine that I. had. They were amazing, man. Thank you. But yeah, no, that was also like for me. going out of my comfort zone to do. something I know that he would have been. really happy about because. I'm not an organized person and I find. those things really difficult and. stressful, but it was definitely worth. it because you came in and you were. actually so surprised. I thought you. knew, but all made all of his friends. and us like all rushed out of the event. like okay cool peace see you later I'm a. bit tired I'm going to go to bed. And then everybody waited here for a.

really long time for you to come back. And it was really sweet. It's really special. Thank you so much. And and that's one of the things that. you want to talk about that for a. moment. This. is that. when we first moved to LA from New York, literally everyone who heard that we. were moving would say to us, you know. what people are like in LA. Yeah, that's so true. Like they're like. you know that everyone in LA is. superficial. You know everyone in LA. doesn't really care. And we heard that so much. And I've. always had this rule in life for myself.

that no matter what I hear from someone. about something, someone, or anywhere. I won't trust it or base my opinion on. it until I've experienced it myself. And. I've always had that rule. So if someone. tells me this is an amazing holiday. destination. until I've been to that place, I will. not agree with that. If someone tells me. this person is not nice or is nice, I. will not agree or disagree with that. until I've met and experienced that.

person. And also actually spend time. with them not just spend time with them. in an elevator or something like that. Like actually spend quality time with. them. And so for me. I was like well if you think that about. LA or loads of people think that about. LA, I'm not going to let that define LA. for me. I'm going to define LA for. myself. And I have to be completely honest like. we have met some of our closest deepest. friends and so many of you I know. listening and watching right now. some of our deepest and closest friends.

we found and made in LA. Definitely. And. I know Roly feels that. That's what she. feels at home here. I know I feel that. That's what I feel at home here. You. know who you are. And that's such a special thing that. these stereotypes and these broad. generalizations we make about people or. places. are not true. They become what you want. them to be. And I really feel in our. life that LA's been such a beautiful. place for both of us to find our purpose. and create our purpose and live our. purpose.

And you know, you can't really define a. place just based you can't just say that. a place has a reputation or anything. like that because. you you find the people where they are. So for me, the people that I've met here. and the friends I've met here have just. been absolutely incredible. Yeah. And. and for me, what we've really tried to. do and I think this is important too is. we've tried to build the conscious. spiritual community that we want. So. rather than expecting that what you want. should exist anyway, why don't create.

yourself? So we started hosting these. events at our home last year. We did two. of them. We're doing another one coming. up soon. We invite our friends to them and. they're spiritual events, community. events that we used to have in London. and in New York a little bit, but. definitely in London. And we wanted our. friends to experience meditation in the. way we meditate. We wanted our friends. to experience wisdom from the people. that we learn from. And so we started. organizing these events and now they're. not parties in the same way. Like we. don't have any alcohol at these events. Like no one's getting you know, it's not. it's not that kind of an event. It's um. it's an event where people feel that.

they can connect with themselves, a. place where people feel they can connect. with their consciousness and have a. deeper experience. And that was the. experience we wanted to offer our. friends. Mhm. And thankfully our friends love. that kind of stuff. So it's worked out, but I just think it's so important that. we don't expect things in a place, but. you go and create for yourself. Yeah, I love Cool. All right. Okay. Next. one that is on the list. What are some. telltale signs that your partner is. upset? Yeah, he's pretty obvious. Um. if he's mad, he'll sound mad.

If he's sad, he'll sound sad. I'm but I'm pretty. If he needs chocolate, he'll sound like. he needs chocolate. Um yeah, I feel like you kind of just. if he's upset he'll just be like, "Look, when I like I need to tell you this is. upset me." Or yeah, you're like that, right? Kind of think of the last time. you were upset. Oh, yesterday night when. he was mad about his chargers, I knew he. was mad. I heard it in his voice. Um yeah, I don't think we're very hidden. with it. I think I'm probably a little. bit more hidden than you are about it.

He just goes quiet. Yeah, I go quiet. Or. I'll see her on the balcony crying. Yes. Literally, literally that. I'll just see. her outside like obviously she wakes up. earlier than me so I woke up and she's. outside and I just see her next to the. table. I I cry sometimes during my meditations. in the morning. It's like my time and. then suddenly I'll realize I'm sad about. something and then I'll just start. crying and then he catches me at that. time. Or yeah, my quietness. I need to I. we spoke about this last night but I. need time to process so. But you also. tell me when you're sad about something.

Yeah, sometimes I'll be like, "I'm sad. It's not about you but I'm sad." That's. also very useful. This happens a lot. This is a. good note because I get so, you know, I. think we're all in one sense we're all. so self-centered that we always feel. like people are sad because of something. we did. Like it's a self-centered ego. trick where like if she's sad it must be. something I did even though I know I. didn't do anything wrong. And so then I. but her telling me, "I'm sad but it's. nothing to do with you." It's like You. know, it's actually a useful technique. in relationships. right now and I don't. know why. I've done this a lot. I feel. really irritated. I don't know why but I.

just want you to know that I'm feeling. that way so. It's really good to hear. Yeah, it's just really useful to. communicate that to your partner rather. than expecting them. Like no one's a. mind reader. Like no one is a mind. reader and I think one of the biggest. challenges in relationships is you just. expect the other person to know what. you're thinking. Yeah. Awesome. Cool. All right, that was. a quick one. Cool. Okay, this one is. Do you still try to impress each other? Yeah, probably. I feel like it's just. like a subcon like an unconscious thing. that you do where it's unconscious?

Subconscious? One of the consciouses. It's something conscious. Thing that you do where it's like. whether it's your outfit or whether it's. like something you you've like done or. made or like if I've cooked something. I. think there's always always an element. of wanting the other person to approve. or to like it. Yeah. Um I think that's natural. Yeah. Yeah, I like it too. Yeah, definitely. like if I'm wearing something or. I've achieved something or whatever it. may be. Like yeah, I I.

I love that. I think it's an important. thing to have. Like I feel like you. should feel like that, right? Yeah, it's like. if an impressing the sense of it's not. about getting the other person's. validation. You want your partner to. like. Be excited. acknowledge excited for you, recognize you. And I I I love that. feeling. Like I don't And I think if I. didn't feel that way about her, then. you're going to find other people to. impress. And you're going to want to. impress other people. Yeah. And so I feel as like it's an. important quality to have. And I feel. like you you lose that energy and the. spark if you. Or the excess.

stop trying to do that to each other. because that's how you were when you. first met. Mhm. Like that's what you tried to do. when you first met. And if you stop. doing that, it's yeah, it's just it's. not about validation. That's not the ego. one. It's about. knowing that you love someone and always. like. And knowing that the other person's. excited when you're excited, too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. All right, cool. Next. You don't want. anything? Oh. No. Okay. All right, okay. Power through. So, what. do you like most about your partner's. sense of humor? Oh my gosh, guys. So, I feel like most.

of you only realized this when he went. on stage at the live show if you were. there, but he is actually really Well, okay, no. He's become really funny. Actually, you were funny-ish before, but. like you had a lot of dad jokes. But. now, oh my gosh, he's taking his humor. to another level. I don't know where. it's come from. Um but like at the live show, you were. on fire. I was laughing so hard. And. most of the time I'm like, "Mhm, this is. funny." Um but was actually crying with. laughter. Like, you were really good on. stage. And I feel like when you're in.

your element, all like different sides. of you come out and you really like you. come into who you like fully are on. stage. And that was really cool for us. to see. And I had so many people message. me about the how funny you are on stage. and that they had no idea that you had. humor in you. Um, but that was really cool to see. Mhm. Um, what was the question again? What do you like most about your. partner's sense of humor? Oh, yeah, now he really knows how to. make me laugh. Like, even if it's really. silly stuff. I can't even think of it. right now, but you definitely know how. to make me from my belly laugh, not just.

um, that was cute. But I still take it too far sometimes. Yeah, sometimes it's like I'm laughing. really hard and then it keeps going. because like he thinks he's going to. make me keep laughing, but then he kind. of ruins it. But that's also quite. funny. I do that a lot. I do that a lot where. she's like, "Okay, you went too far.". It's like I feel like I'm just going to. get one more laugh and. Yeah, that happens a lot. Yeah, no, my. on stage is where I feel like I'm at my. most. myself in terms of what I'm sharing and. I I feel like yeah, I feel like I'm at.

my best on stage. So I I love being with. the audience and I love the energy that. everyone gave me that day as well. And. you know, when when I'll be touring soon. as well, I can't wait to meet so many. more of you. So it'll be fun. But yeah, okay, about you, what's my. favorite thing? Rally is literally. exactly who she is on her Instagram. Like I just whenever anyone tells me. like, "I love her posts. Like I love the. light she is." Like that is her. Like. that's just her all the time. Like I. wake up and she'll be doing a dance like. when I walk into the living room. Or or.

like I come home and she's just like. smiling and laughing and she'll make. jokes about everything. Like Rally. doesn't take life seriously, I feel, and. that's what I love about you so much. And what I mean by that is she takes her. spiritual life seriously, but then she. doesn't take her day seriously. Like. she's happy to laugh at herself. She's. happy to laugh at what's going on. We. can both be like talking about something. really serious at one point and then. both start laughing because she's able. to laugh at it. And and I just think. she's always got this childlike energy, and it's not childish because we don't,

you know, we don't want people to act. childish, but when people are childlike. and Riley really has that. Like, she. always makes everyone laugh. She's Yeah, she just says funny stuff throughout the. day, and her dances are the best, and uh. My my no rhythm dance is And they're the. best. I'm just so happy that I get to. experience them all the time. Like, I'm. really really happy. Like, you've made. you've brought You are literally the. comedian of our lives. I mean, you're. you're catching up, though. Yeah. You. are catching up with your jokes. I have.

to I'll give you that. You're definitely. becoming more funnier with age. I like. your sense of humor is playful and not. like contrived. It's not like she tells. knock-knock jokes and stuff like that. It's like it's just playful. It's. childlike. It's abundant. Like, it's. just there. It's who she is. It's like. It's the best thing about you. Oh, thanks. Yeah. And I love seeing you. laugh. That's the best thing because she laughs. her own jokes the most. laugh at my own jokes all the time. her laugh her own jokes because she just. Because I feel like, look, if there's. ever a time when you need to laugh and.

there's nobody around, you need to be. able to be at a point where you can make. yourself laugh. Mhm. If you're having a. bad day, make yourself laugh. Don't. leave it on to somebody else. It's good. advice. Thanks. All right, we've only got a few more. left to go. Okay, I'm ready. Okay. All right, the also does I I want to add. this. Riley also does some. funny stuff that makes me laugh a lot. So, we went to this. Halloween party. And it was a fancy dress party, obviously, as Halloween is. And Riley.

came up with this idea about a month. before that we should go as a Rajasthani. prince and princess based on this movie. called Padmavati for those of you who. watch Bollywood. And so, Riley came up with that idea. I'm, you know, I would probably have. gone as Batman or something average. So, I was like, "Okay, yeah, that's cool. Like, it's different. Let's do it.". You tell the rest of the story. So, I I. thought of the idea, and then obviously. you either have to do it fully, or you. just end up looking just odd. So, I.

thought, "Okay, let's go the full way.". So, that meant having pretty much like a. bridal Indian outfit on. Um and he was. wearing basically a groom's outfit for a. wedding. And in theory, it looked really. cool in my head, which it did, but it. was so heavy. Like, my headpiece, the skirt, I he had. to one push me into the car. It was so. big. Like, he had to lift my dress into the.

car. Then, I lasted about 30 minutes at. the event, and I was like, "I have to go. home. I literally cannot lift this. anymore." My head was hurting. Um the skirt was too heavy to like move. about in. So, I lasted at that party for. 30 minutes, came home, undressed, got. into my PJs. So, I walked around the party for the. rest of the night as a as a single. Indian prince in this hat with my sword. wearing an Indian outfit. And in fact, I only looked good when I.

was with her. Like, it only looked good. as an ensemble, like together. But, me. on my own, I was not cool. Everyone was. like, It was horrendous. It was so. horrendous. I don't know. I don't know. how I didn't think about that part. Yeah. That I I found that stuff so funny. about you though. Yeah, that was that. was not one of my best moments. Okay, so this question is, what are you. proudest of your partner from the last. 12 months since the first since the. first podcast? Oh, okay. So, definitely. the live event was one of them because. you also showed people that you made.

them laugh, so that was cool for me. And. then the other thing was obviously your. book because I've been watching him work. on this book for Gosh, how long have you. been writing it for? 12 months. 12. months, yeah. He's been writing it for. 12 months and I've only read bits of it, but from what I have seen it's just been. so amazing once to see his dedication to. the book, how authentic he's trying to. make it and. um also just how you get to see and hear. a different side of him. Like I feel. like this podcast you you know you you.

show yourself in a certain way and um on. your videos you have another like. another part of you and this book I feel. like is a completely different side of. you as well that people are going to be. able to experience and just the amount. of energy and time and effort you've. gone into really make sure it is like. the best quality stuff in the book. Um and the bits that I've read I just. think it's going to be so what I love. about it is that it's literally made. just to really help people like find.

their purpose and that's the thing about. you like you I I know you've said I. think you said this the other day that. like your worst fear and like your worst. nightmare up is for people not to live. their potential. Whatever that potential. is big, small, um whatever it is for. them like for them to live their. potential that's your that's your like. dream for everybody and so I really. think that this book is like almost your. first step in like serving those people. to really help them find their find. their potential and I think it's just. such a beautiful book and. yeah just seeing you go through that.

process was really really interesting. cuz it's hard work and uh The hardest. thing excited for it to come out though. and like see everyone's reaction and. feedback and how it's helped people. So. yeah, that's definitely another huge. highlight. Yeah, it was definitely the. hardest thing I've ever done. So I. appreciate that. Thanks. I love you. Yeah, that's it. But uh. for Radi she is one exam away from being. an Ayurvedic health counselor. If I pass, yeah. Which is amazing. She. will pass. I know she's been working. really really hard. Like I see her.

revising and I always think like I'm so. happy I no longer have to revise. Like. work is hard but revising for exams was. so stressful, like it wasn't a fun. feeling. Like now I'm like what my work. is my work life is fun, obviously. I. love it, but and it's challenging, but. it's not an exam. Like there's something. about exams that just So Radi still does. exams because she's amazing and wants to. learn and what I love about her desire. to learn, it's not just to get a. qualification or to get a title. It's. like she really has this belief that she. wants to know.

and learn and deeply understand. something before she teaches it. And I. love her integrity for that. I love her. authenticity for that. I think it's a. beautiful quality that she has that she. never wants to mislead anyone. She never. wants to give someone a little bit of. information. She really wants to feel. like she has a full grasp of something. before she tells someone else to do it. And I think that that is such a. beautiful quality to have and I really. really respect it. So that's been. amazing to watch you do. And watching you create a full menu for. a restaurant in London that we both.

tasted and went to check out together. and the food tasted amazing. And Radi designed the whole menu and I. know she'd been testing recipes. She'd. been working on this project for like. three, four years. Forget the last 12. months. Like she's turned up at food. events. She's turned up at food. festivals where she's like. making food for like hundreds and. thousands of people that are coming to. eat. Like she's done that time and time. again to test her recipes. Like the. amount of effort that goes into creating. a recipe, like one recipe. It's like thousands of people have had.

to eat that before she knows if it's. right. It's not just like oh yeah, Jay. likes it. Gets on the menu. It's like. she's, you know, cooking for so many. people to test it and to finally have. that menu and to taste that with her and. just to be so impressed by what she did. It was just amazing. Like what an. amazing achievement. Yeah, that was a. And it was so challenging in so many. different ways, you know, working across. time zones, you know, having to travel. back constantly, like cooking in our. parents' home, cooking at Vance. Like. there's there's so much to it that I.

just respect you for just how amazing. you are at being dedicated to wanting. people to eat healthy, tasty, nutritious. food. Yeah. That was a fun shoot. Yeah, really proud of you for that. And. so many amazing people involved in it, too. Yeah. That was fun. I'm really. proud of you. Thanks. Yeah. Yeah, it's it's fun to see. it unravel and actually open. Yeah. And. uh okay, so we're now at the final. section Okay. have asked us to fill in the blanks. Fill in the blanks. Which means I have. to say these sentences, which I've never.

seen before, and apart from when I. looked at this just now, and we have to. end with the word that we both think. So, we'll do one word each at the end. Does that make sense? Yes, makes. complete sense. The first one is love is. best when. Love is best when shared. I was going to. say the same thing. I was going to say. when it's mutual or shared. I was going. to say shared first, and then when it's. mutual. Okay, cool. Love is never. Mm. ego-filled. Ooh. That's not a word.

there. No, but that's good. That's good. Ego-tistical? Yeah, that's really good. I was going to say boring. Or boring. Yeah, love is never boring. It's always exciting. It's always full. of growth. But, your answer's better. You win that one, okay? Uh commitment. means. Um commitment means. Cuz commitment means dedication, so. commitment can't mean dedication. Mm. Is it commitment means. Mm. I think commitment means. Understanding? No, commitment means. that sounds good. Yeah. As in, whatever.

There's no right or wrong answer. commitment? I think commitment means. every day, anywhere, anytime. Like, that's commitment. Three words, but. fine, we'll give it to you. Yeah. Yeah. I like that. Okay. Uh I knew I loved you. when. Like time? Or like when you did this? No, when you did something. Yeah. And it. can be more than one word. Okay, I knew I loved. I knew I loved you when you first cooked. for me. Um. And you You this like. You made a chocolate croissant for me. I. didn't make that one. Oh, you didn't?

Yeah. That wasn't me. But the rest was. How do you know? You. made all the She made It wasn't someone. else. It was She had asked. I'd asked someone to make it because I. didn't know how to make pastries at the. time. no, I That wasn't it. That was a. wonderful moment though, but I loved you. when you were my like when you. Well, I I was I always loved the teacher. side of you. Like I felt feel like I I. really um appreciated and valued you and. loved you when you. were my teacher and guide. A successful. marriage means sacrificing.

What? Say that one Sorry, say that one. more time. A successful marriage. Marriage means sacrificing. We don't like the word sacrifice, do we? No, we don't. So, nothing. I don't like the word sacrifice. I don't. think I've sacrificed anything. No. Yeah, no, I'm missing that one. Sugar. Okay. Okay, fair. All right. Uh building a family with you makes me. like excited. I don't think there's anything better. than excited. I'd say grateful.

Yes, that's a good one. Yeah, I feel. grateful. I take that. I just I just know that having a little. you in my life. with you guiding them will be really Oh, that's going to be drama. Okay, go next. Okay, so this is your. final five. Okay. I'll answer them as well. So, who. is your favorite family member? Mhm, my. grandma. Okay. Bah. Yeah, mine. Everyone loves her. Yeah, mine has to be. my sister. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. For sure. Okay, top. We love her. Top two favorite.

restaurants. Top two favorite. restaurants in the world? Yeah. My mom's. house. Won't give her address. Um but definitely my mom's house. And. the second one, um. My All of mine are in New York, actually. Divya's Kitchen, ABCV, Hangawi. No, that's it. Okay, fine. I'd say our house Yeah. and AB CTV. Okay, yeah. Actually, I've got a few. more, too, but yeah. Yeah, that's good. All right, okay, awesome. Uh. What song song does your partner have on.

repeat? Right now? I guess so, yeah. Oh, um I think Roddy's song on repeat right. now is. is probably some like soccer song or. like some sort of like some like. reggaeton song or something like that. Yes. But also Jahnavi. Oh, yeah, okay. Uh I have. Meditation music. As in yeah, just Jahnavi's voice is. amazing. Jahnavi. Roddy's Roddy's YouTube. My YouTube is like a little. It would You know when it goes like. recommended for, it'll be like.

meditation music, kirtan songs, and then. like soccer music, and like. Girl, you're a party animal. Yeah. Like literally shows where my mind's at. most of the time. But Jahnavi Harrison. is literally one of my favorite artists. She's Actually, people ask me about this. a lot. Um she does the most incredible. meditation music, but also just the way. that she puts instruments together and. everything. Like it's just amazing. So, definitely her. Soccer music. Um and. actually right now Justin Bieber's new. song. Yeah. What about mine?

You're Oh, we aren't talking about each. other? No, just yeah. Oh. What song do you have on repeat. right now? Have I heard you listening to. music lately? So, for a while it was. that Rhythm of the Night track from the. Bad Boys 2 soundtrack. Oh, yeah. Ritmo, I think it's called, with J Balvin and and. will.i.am. And then there's a lot of. Drake. I listen to a ton of Drake, yeah. Got Drake. I can listen to a lot of Drake. Okay. Cool. What was the last kind thing your. partner did for you? Um the last kind thing you did for me.

You packed my suitcases on the way there. and back when I was rushing and I was. busy. Usually, I pack my own suitcases, but you helped me out with that. Yes, I. did. big. What did you do for me lately? Hmm. This morning This morning Oh, you. ordered me juice. Ruler, thanks for. that. Yes, and not you. So, no, not. today. Yesterday, what did you do for me. that was nice?

Oh my god. Joking. Um you always give my I get like. tension in my head and so you always. give me a really good head massage. Not sure you did that yesterday, but. most days. I did. We were watching the. movie. Yes, you did. Yes. Yeah. Said that next. Okay. And the final. question, what is your partner's biggest. goal for 2020? So, what goal did you. 2020? Feels like it has to be a big year. with 2020, doesn't it? Um What's yours? What's your biggest goal?

Oh, we're not answering for each other. Okay. My biggest goal for 2020 is to. figure out exactly what I want to do. Nice. Because I don't know yet. Um I love it when you get so cute. This has been my goal every year. But this year, 2020, feels like it's. going to be really special. I said this. is the year I'm going to launch my blog, that's for sure. Soon. I'm going to figure out exactly what I. want to do. And I'm going to be really productive.

And your goal for 2020 is My goal is the. year of the book. Yes. me, I've spent so much time writing this. book that. I just want as many people as possible. to read this book because. yeah, I've just put everything into it. So. So cool that you have like everything. down of like what your focus is and I'm. like, we'll see. I love you for it. No, I know. I'm just. saying it's just really different. Okay, cool. That Amazing. That's it. Is that. it? Yeah, that's it. We did it. number two. High five.

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