How SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE Think & FOCUS To Achieve HIGH PERFORMANCE | Brendon Burchard & Jay Shetty

and what i'm here to tell people is high. performers reset every hour it's crazy. every hour. figure out the questions you're going to. ask to evaluate your life mind where did. i live i love do i matter yours might be. was i a great brother was a great mom. did i build a movement did i everyone's. going to evaluate it differently i don't. have the answer for anybody i don't know. their purpose but i say. just think if you're 90 on the rocking. chair or you're 105 on the rock interior. you're. 200 in the hospice you know however. older you are if you have a. monocognition you're evaluating life. how do you know if you lived a good one.

now wake up every day. with the intention to do that live good. so you're happy with the answers at the. end. [Music]. and today's guest is none other than. brendon burchard now i know a lot of you. are gonna be excited for this episode. brendan is. one of the top coaches in the world an. incredible speaker an incredible author. but most importantly i want to share. something with you i was just telling. him literally two seconds ago when i. joined social media in 2014 not as a. creator but as a user. i was always looking for people who are. doing good on social media because i.

wanted to follow people that were. empowering. and i could pretty much on facebook. memories on this day you know you can. type it in. i could pretty much find at least one. brendan quote per day. that i used to share with whoever used. to follow me that time and i think my. post at that time should get two to four. likes. uh so brendan i'll take credit for the. two to four people. but honestly it was just such a his work. was so refreshing to me and the post. that he was writing was so sincere and. so genuine. and when i had the opportunity to meet.

brendan i think it was. late last year or earlier this year when. we had the opportunity to connect. i i waited around after a keynote i was. giving because i really wanted to meet. him because. i was just so impressed by what he had. done but more importantly the way in. which he did it and he's just not. disappointed he's been. really kind really supportive and. someone who's really been there for me. in this journey as well so i want to. you know open up your minds but also. open up your hearts to a very very. special human being brendan welcome to. the show thank you for being here. man i love you i mean every single word.

that i've just said thank you uh and i. wanted you to hear from my. from my mouth and for this i'm just. going to go for the audio brendan. burchard is a highly recognized. as the world's leading high performance. coach he's a magnificent writer. public speaker and his books have been. on plenty bestseller list including the. new york times wall street journal. and more he's coached and worked with. everyone ranging from ceos of massive. companies. to celebrities brendan's personal. development trainings have more than. 300 million views over 2 million. students have completed his online.

courses. and video series oprah.com named him one. of the most successful online trainers. in history and he's also had 28. seven-figure online launches. his list of accomplishments goes on and. on and on but the most important thing. is. he's a true man of service and living an. incredible life. trying to help others brendan thank you. brother thank you i appreciate that. no i mean it you're you're truly you. know i think. we always have this feeling of you you. want to meet people and i'm sure you had.

them too. and you're always hoping that when you. meet someone. they don't let you down yes right and. i'm an optimistic person so when i meet. someone that i've been aspiring to me. yeah i'm always hoping that they're. going to blow me away even more that's. my hope and when i met you it felt that. way so i just want to say thank you. thank you you too yeah you too it was so. so funny because we were running so many. similar circles and our friends were. like. you guys don't know each other you. should meet up and and thank you shout. out to lewis. for introducing us and making sure that. connection happened and. same thing i was hoping i'm like he's a.

monk i hope he's like. calm i hope he's centered i hope he's. got good vibrancy and his. and joy in his heart and his eyes and. you did even though. you and i both were kind of road warrior. a little bit that moment we were. we were out on the road we were and that. was late at night. and we just were chatting and just you. know when you meet people. and just your vibrant and enthusiastic. part of you that comes. out right because you and i already do. that for life in a job. but then when you meet somebody who it. draws you out more i was energized that.

night so really i thought you were just. always like that i think you are always. like that you have great ideas. yeah i'm i'm happy yeah you know i'm. living my second chance at life. yeah so for me you know after a big car. accident when i was younger every day is. like bonus day. so i'm already reverence for life i'm. happy-go-lucky. but there are people who have an aura. and a vibrancy and everyone's listening. they know that. there's those times there's just some. people who you're around it kind of. makes you pop and come alive and did you. smile a little more and you were that.

and i was like oh that's what i wanted. from meeting jay shetty i wanted to be. like that anywhere so. thank you man let's actually start there. i wasn't going to start there but now. that you've mentioned it i want to start. there i want my audience to hear that. story from you. yeah because i think that everyone's. either. had one of those moments or they're. going to have one of those moments. and i want everyone who's listening and. watching right now to either be prepared. if they're about to have one or maybe. not even wait for that to happen. yeah and for those who have had it to. really use it to the advantage so let's. start with that.

accident that that changed your mindset. that changed the urgency of life for you. yeah um i'll give the takeaway because. it's a little bit of a long story i know. it is. um you know the takeaway is at at the. end of our lives. if we have a moment of cognition we're. going to lay there in bed. and we're going to ask questions about. our life. to evaluate whether or not we were happy. with it. and what i've always suggested to people. is. maybe don't pretend you're living your. purpose unless you know.

the questions you're going to ask at the. end of your life how do you evaluate it. because otherwise you're kind of living. randomly but when you know oh i'm gonna. evaluate my life. this way at the very end now every day. you can wake up with intention. now every day you get to wake up with. purpose which is why i love the name of. your show because that's. my thing too it's like this this deep. connection to some type of purpose so. that at the end of our life we're happy. there's no regrets. there there's no sadness there's no oh. my gosh why was i this way or why did i. wait to do that.

and i my unique story is that. i got that gift at 19 years old. um the story is my my girlfriend and i. from high school were high school. sweethearts. and like the super annoying kind like we. were they. we became like high school sweethearts. and we were the make out of locker and. you know. stop it you never have that couple who. stops hanging out with their friends. because they get so much. that was us we just so fell in love with. each other we stopped hanging out with. friends stopped doing anything else.

fell in love um she wanted to go to. college. i was just gonna do like landscaping i. mean i was gonna do like. art projects on this i had no i didn't. have a real ambition to go to college. yet. we went to college together shared a. u-haul on the way over. live in the same dorm sign up for the. same classes had the same friends like. the whole nine yards like literally. our life was completely intertwined and. then at the end of that or. in that first semester of school she. discovered uh. beer and other men.

uh and cheated on me wow and. i don't remember this way but if when. your whole identity is wrapped up in a. relationship. and then the relationship falls apart. you fall apart 100 that's what happened. i felt i fell apart. i fell mentally emotionally spiritually. completely apart. um couldn't get out of bed. stop going to classes friends deeply. concerned about me coming over trying to. move let's go out let's go out and i was. like i can't. i just would lay there and like cry.

basically. um and i like two things really changed. my life which i didn't realize till. later. one was i was always a reader like i'm. really happy about all the accolades. i've gotten everything else but. the thing that has driven my life is i. love books. when i meet with people i want to talk. about books i love books i love books. and so i'm still reading so here i am. depressed in bed. um and i remember this is like several. days after. i'd planned suicide full on not like.

thinking about it wrote the letter. made a couple calls and had planned to. end my life. laying in bed super sad open the school. newspaper. and there was an ad in the school. newspaper so i'm reading. second thing to change my life is. marketing here's this ad. full page ad white sandy beach turquoise. water. blue sky green palm tree and across the. top like the best headline. ever for a young man in pain the. headline across the top said.

escape and i was like. yeah you know summertime. job students needed dominican republic. wow now i'm in montana at the time at. the university of montana i don't know. i've been to montana oh yeah yeah. i don't even know where dominican. republic is but i know she's not there. so i'm like so i'm like i'm going so. take the job. uh we basically become glorified tour. guides for an entrepreneur who works. down there who we knew. and my friend kevin and i we hop in the. car one night.

and we go to return where we're staying. and we're going down the shore to 85. miles an hour and kevin is driving and. we came upon the corner that. you know here in the us especially la. would you know u-turn-shaped. yellow sign slow down 15 miles an hour. but developing country new road no sign. so we go around the corner and kevin. immediately like grabs and go brain hold. on. and he cranks it and i just. i mean i didn't know then was it you.

know. what happened was emotional spiritual. mental you know make-believe who knows. in my. mind of what happened the next couple of. minutes but. when you're sliding in this death's. doorway. you have questions about life it comes. through as a feeling. like because at first like that brace. that terror. in a car accident there's a piece of. that if you ever think you're like you. know you don't want to die. and if you've ever been in a car. accident that weird slow motion thing. happens so that's why i said i don't.

know where it was because like this. super slow motion. and i felt this brace and i really felt. and sensed this like. did i live did i live my life. uh you know later i can think about like. you know because of course we want to. know do we live vibrant and free. and and a lot you know our life but at. that point you know i lived her life. i'd live my parents and professors lives. and i really hadn't been living and been. thinking about taking. my life um. we went to the the car slid sideways off.

the road. and we hit this little retainer wall and. it popped us up into the air. and i hit the side of my head um and i. started seeing all these images. of these times in my life when i was. surrounded by people that i loved. and it was like these scenes it's just. beautiful. just beautiful it wasn't omniscient it. wasn't like a near-death experience per. se. it was just these beautiful scenes when. i could see family members and everybody. else and. because at the end of your life you. think about who you're going to miss and. who's going to miss you which triggers.

this other question of did i love. and you know you talk about it too and. like we want to know that we really love. fully and completely and. free not not from terror or fear or need. i hadn't loved my heart had been shut. down and i always say to people it's. like. you have to be careful we've been hurt. because we build up these walls to. protect ourselves we put on the mask or. we get. you know serious and stiff but when you. build up that wall to give out the bad. guys. you also block out the good guys and in.

our own self-protection we block out the. very things we really desperately desire. which is connection. um car hit the ground rolled several. times i got knocked out completely when. i came to kevin. is next to me in driver's seat screaming. at the top of his. just terrified his eyes are wild like an. animal and a huge chunk of his head is. open. and there's just blood everywhere this. fear is like what's going on but i'm. like in shock he crawls outside the. driver's side window.

i go to get outside mine but i can't the. car smashed on me. and all i have is this hole that used to. be in the windshield i push myself. through. and i stand up on the hood of the car. he's screaming screaming screaming but. i'm in this thud hollow i don't know how. to describe the shock. and i look down and i saw on my body i'm. covered in blood. and this just terror hits me remember. 19 and i feel life draining literally.

physically out of me. and um i just remember life. feeling like it's draining away and i. just remember looking at at my feet. which was covered in blood and i just. thought. did i even matter you know did i even. make a difference was there a reason i. was here. and oh man it was the worst because i. didn't feel like i did. and then uh i looked down and the blood. was going off the hood of the car and. there was a glint there was a sparkle in.

the blood. and i didn't know what it was it was. reflection so made me look up and. there's this bright big beautiful moon. that night. that i didn't even see earlier. and it was like this arresting. connection. i just felt this connection and i felt. like. you know i was almost an immediate. sense of grace i was like i'm gonna be. okay. i almost felt like i was told i was. gonna be okay and so i call that. like my life's golden ticket moment.

because i felt like the big guy upstairs. because i believe in god reach down and. hand me like life's golden ticket here. you go kid. you're still alive you can still love. you can still matter. but now you know the clock is ticking. you're lucky young man you're still. alive and my whole life i was just like. in that moment. i remember literally looking up this. moon and i didn't know it was so. i didn't know what the feelings were at. the time because i've had a lot of time. to think about this obviously. 23 years ago and i just remember.

thinking. i will earn this. and i felt that next breath is like i'm. gonna be okay. kevin and i i don't mean to ruin the. story for everybody but i survived. it's like i'm okay i'm alive kevin. survived lots of cuts bruising broken. bones terrified kids. but for me what i took away with it was. both the reverence for life the.

appreciation for life. the timing of life that the clock is. ticking on all of us. but also this desire to i want to earn. it. like i felt so blessed i felt like i got. away with it you know i mean like. how did i skirt death i want to earn. this. so in the hospital later i was thinking. about those feelings and i was like oh. wow. i kind of asked myself did i live did i. love.

and did i matter and it really hit me i. thought. that that that's a gift right there. those are the questions i'm gonna ask if. i'm ever to die. did i really live my life did i love. others and did i make a difference. did i matter and so i decided. remember i'm 19. i. i decided at 19 i said every night i'm. gonna go to bed i'm gonna ask those. three questions. about my day so i've asked those for 23.

tonight. i'll go home and i'll ask that same. question 23 years every night. people how do you do so much i go when. you live your life with intention and. purpose. you can get a lot done because the. nights that i can't say yes to those. questions. it's not like i'm i hate myself or i'm. sad right but. the nights i can say yes i sleep. well and so i just i've had this simple. mission like i love your mission make. wisdom go viral. mine has been maybe more depressive to. tell people. to tell people you're going to die so.

how about this figure out the questions. you're going to ask to evaluate your. life mine were did i lived i love. do i matter yours might be was i a great. brother. was a great mom did i build a movement. did i. everyone's gonna evaluate it differently. i don't have the answer for anybody i. don't know their purpose but i say. just think if you're 90 on the rocking. chair or you're 105 on the rock interior. you're. 200 in the hospice you know however. older you are if you have a moment of. cognition you're evaluating life. how do you know if you lived a good one.

now wake up every day. with the intention to do that live good. so you're happy with the answers at the. end it's awesome that's so beautiful. thank you for sharing that. yeah in such a profound and moving way. as well and. what i love about that and how you've. translated that into what you do now. is that i think a lot of us are gifted. like you said the golden ticket a gifted. with golden ticket moment. yes some are more extreme or less. extreme than what you described yeah and. it doesn't really matter where on the. spectrum it is we we all have those.

moments. and i think what's fascinating is that. so many of us have that. glimpse but then we struggle to. translate that glimpse. into real transformation yes or we. struggle to translate this emotive. inspiring deep personal moment. into something very practical active and. tangible yeah and i think anyone who's. watched a motivational video or been. through a life-changing accident. will say they've felt that where they've. had a moment where like oh i felt yeah. in my body that i was meant to do this. but then.

the next day i just didn't feel like. getting up tell me how you started to. form the habits that were needed. yeah for you to live this every day and. you've already taught us one beautiful. one just like the one you just said but. how did you how were you able to really. take that through. and start developing a world and a life. to live up to those questions yeah. i mean stage one was i was honest. that i was a hot mess like i came back. from the accident and i'm like.

i'm a mess i've been depressed i was. gonna kill myself. i'm sad my grades suck my friends are. kind of like. losers uh you know not in a judgmental. way to. them but in how i wanted to feel they. made me feel bad about myself. and that's why i think a loser isn't. what they've accomplished it's how they. make other people feel. two different things they made me feel. bad and i thought i. i don't have it together and that began.

my great and long-term committed search. to studying psychology because i'm like. why do i think so dumb. why do i feel so bad about myself how do. you overcome. you know depression how do i deal with. this sadness. why do i still have so much hatred in my. heart about something that happened so. long ago. like just all this like people say. forgiveness how do you do that. so i started reading everything in. psychology first. then i came into personal development. and then i got into spirituality.

then i got into leadership development. then i got into business it was. every single thing of like how do i. change myself. so much so you and i have this shared. history we've both worked at a. consulting company absolutely i was a. change management consultant. because i spent literally from that. moment for the next six. years studying change. in some way or another studying. psychology studying political science. studying organizational communications. and management to say how do. people change and so i became infatuated.

so in personal development i studied. like. dale carnegie and napoleon hill and earl. nightingale and zig ziglar and jim rohn. and marianne williamson. debbie ford and louise hay and wayne. dyer and uh you know. tony robbins and and just brian tracy. and anyone getting my hands on there. in psychology i got carl rogers and. abraham maslow and alfred ayler. you know in political science i was you. know. studying this person in philosophy i was. going down. the rabbit hole and i was just eating.

and absorbing it. and asking the questions every day and. trying to live it and the most important. thing with that my. that at my time i said you know what i. want to learn to be. confident i want to learn how to. communicate well. and i want to learn to have great. relationships. so i studied those things really. intensely and i just tried them. and i tried them and i just i literally. i was so good about making little goal. sheets. and trying and that was the year i also. began my monthly goals.

so on the first of every month to this. day i write. a personal goal and a professional goal. um. that is the outside of all the things. that project i'm trying to achieve. the personal goal is something like. be more patient this month and every day. i look out on the way out i put on the. door. i'd walk out and be patient no matter. what my other goals or. objectives were that was like the. defining personal theme so i created. monthly challenge themes for 23 years. you know patients have come up a lot of.

times. it's like joy has come up a lot of times. yes you know. uh uh staying centered has come up a lot. of times it's not like i've ever. achieved i've. no one achieves personal development i. agree or purpose. it is like an intention and a dedication. and so that's where it started and by. studying all that. it gave me the edge i really believe. when you are a student of life. especially in psychology and philosophy. you get the edge because when people are. having problems you can see perspective.

around it. and once you have perspective you got. super powers because most people are. trapped in their problems and if you. have perspective how. people have solved or managed these. things in the past. you have superpowers to people they. can't believe like how did you know to. say that or that i'm like oh i read that. in a personal development book 10 years. ago. and that made the big difference for me. wow it made a big difference so. it's just reading i mean i read a book a. week. for 23 years i love that never missed um.

that's not true four times in my life i. missed most two of them were in the. hospital so that's it. oh wow i'm a reader and then i try to. apply it. yeah try to apply and then the ultimate. challenge. is i made my career about it that forced. me to develop skill. when i was a consultant first then. became a coach. then decided to become a researcher and. writer in this field. i had to prove my chops there was no. just talk about it wasn't posting on you. know instagram because i didn't have.

that it was. can i sit in a room with an executive. and change yes. can i get the change can can i sit with. a high-profile athlete who's in trouble. with their behavior can i get the change. can i sit down with a person who wants. to start a business and give them that. confidence they need like whatever it. was. it was real-time challenges for so long. that fortunately that experience helped. me yeah. absolutely and i love what you're. talking about because i think we have. such a. answer obsession today like we're all.

looking for the answers we're all trying. to find the answer yeah. and actually what you're saying is the. emphasis should be on the questions. finding the right questions to us that's. it and then finding. where to find the answers to those. questions which led you into. psychology and led you into political. science and led you into philosophy and. led you to all these players yes. because you were answering asking the. right questions yeah and and i think. there's such an answer obsession today. with. we want the answer we want to know how. this works and why it works. but we've just got to go deeper into. asking that question more sincerely more.

genuinely and so much more comes from. that because. you just feel inspired by that question. i feel and what you mean by student of. life like when you're a student of life. it means you're questioning that's it. right that's what it means like what. else does it mean talk about questioning. like i. i had been doing seminars and coaching. for. six seven years at a really high level. but i was wondering like is my stuff. right is it true am i one of these guys. who just talked like let me. super test it so we did research i. teamed up with a researcher. from university of pennsylvania's.

positive psychology department and. uh researchers at uc santa barbara we. conducted the world's largest study of. high performers of all time. like no other study has been this big. this comprehensive this deep down 190. countries. 190 countries i mean millions of data. points. and and the reason because no one would. spend the money on it i was like oh. i'll kick this let's figure this out. because i want to know that what i'm. doing. is precise and academically validated. but i only bring that up because. the first habit that we discovered of.

high performers worldwide and high. performers tend to be the top 15 percent. of. successful people in whatever field that. is um. and usually you know and that's the. broad 190 countries in the us it's the. top three percent. uh hands down the habit that. really changed their trajectory was this. habit called. seek clarity notice. it doesn't say get clarity yeah high. performers seek clarity i'll give an. example. like with with oprah i've had blessings. working with oprah.

if you have a meeting with oprah when. she walks that meeting her first thing. she asks is. what's our intention for this meeting. now lots of executives walk in meetings. they just start the meetings she's. seeking clarity. of what is this about and you take a. underperformer in the work world or at. your job. they just bumble in and they're like. okay let's just do it high performers go. what is this about where does it fit in. what's the priority they're asking. themselves. questions constantly and not questions.

of self-doubt questions of clarity. like like who could i be what's my best. self look in this situation. you know that's a question i performers. ask they they want to know how can i be. of most service in this situation. a lot of people just go through the. motions high performers see clearly they. ask the questions. and because they get clarity and seek. clarity throughout the process. they get ahead faster because a lot of. people just and they're good. but a lot of people are just brunt force. workers they'll just go and do it and.

they'll just apply. force and will and hope and fire and. hours at something. but often they're running in the wrong. direction yeah absolutely high. performers. you know it's like in directions some. people will drive for 50 minutes. other people will pull aside in five and. go hey where do i go. that's the high performer and they're. gonna get there faster and succeed in. life that's seeking clarity and that. sometimes feels scarier to do. because you have to open up yourself to. vulnerability. not knowing you feel like you're not. intelligent now or the other person may.

perceive you as. different like how do you break that. that that barrier of like. being okay with saying you know i don't. know and i want to find out how do you. break that because i think for so many. people even raising their hand at an. event. or going up and really asking you a. question i used to say to people all the. time i was like. when you see someone you admire stop. asking for a picture ask for a question. you know it's like oh i love that you. know what i mean like. you get asked for pictures all the time. and i'm like why if if you had a moment. like let's just imagine let's take oprah. you have a moment with oprah you can ask. a picture or you can ask her a question.

yeah you know it's like it's that there. and if i meet you it's like. gonna ask for a picture i'm gonna ask. brendan for a question yeah you studied. 190 countries in the top performers yeah. i'm hoping i would ask you a question. yeah and and i think so how do you get. there how do you get to a point where. you. you wire your brain in such a way that. you're you break the fear of. i'm scared of looking silly i'm scared. of looking stupid i'm scared of looking. like i don't know and actually. recognizing that's a strength. yeah i would say maybe not the most. popular answer i go to the fear.

how are you gonna look silly or stupid. you're not going to ask questions and. you're going to end up in the wrong. place. and people are like why don't you just. ask like follow the fear if the fear. says. i'm scared i'm looking stupid by asking. questions like well let's flip that. because if you don't ask questions. you're definitely going to look stupid. you're definitely going to end up in the. wrong place yeah you're definitely i. mean. you're you're manifesting the very thing. you fear by not doing the thing. that you're scared and being bare you. know you don't want to be vulnerable.

about yeah so i think one. first i'm always a guy i'm like pay. attention to research if the research. clearly says. like i'm a little bit scientific in my. mind that way i'm like if the research. says clearly across 190 countries and. some of the most successful people on. the planet they ask more questions. and they're intentional and thoughtful. about that then start monitoring your. questions. because what most people will do and you. know this a lot of their questions are. horrible. why do i suck why don't i fit in why.

don't i have what she has. what's wrong with me this is what people. do ask if people listen to their. thoughts a lot of their thoughts are. negative questions. what's wrong with me oh yeah wow you're. already asking questions it's just. the quality of your questions are. probably pretty low great. so now we need to first more actively. seek ask questions be vulnerable about. it pay attention to the quality of. questions you're already asking. and what we found in the research was. was really easy for people if they want. to draw the circle out yeah or draw. these circles out. it's specifically we wanted the research.

and i interviewed 300 of the top high. performers in the world. not for podcasts but like in real like. structured academic style. and here's what they tend to be more. clear about. they are more clear about self social. skill and service and here's the. breakdown of that. self is they have an intention of who. they want to be. and they're clear about that you're like. if you could describe your ideal self we. do this in the research it's actually on. video it's. interesting if you ask an underperformer.

or a high performer. on video could you describe your ideal. self drop. three or four words to describe your. ideal self high performers. the answers like fall right on their. mouth underperformers like. it's almost like they never thought. about it yeah so they didn't have the. intention about who they wanted to be so. what i have people do. is in their phone i have them program. their alarm. to describe their best self in three. words and make that alarm. pop up throughout the day so you're. walking because you always look at your. phone with buzzes it buzz the alarm.

and it says bold dynamic confident great. says that over and over or. kind loving thoughtful you know or. generous. empathetic you know uh whatever when. that pops up over and over and over it. starts to set the intention in the mind. a little bit that's why people. should use affirmations to on the social. side they were incredibly intentional. about how they wanted other people to. feel. yes you and i just talked about this out. there about what i love about you. is you want people to feel like they are. your friend. and you want to feel like a friend to.

them that's a social intention. you're clear about that and you even. said when you got clear about that. something changed for you. yeah massive it was huge and i think. what what i love about what you're. saying right now is this. we always get lost in the confusion of. who we are. even at the most basic things yeah so. what i say to people. like how many times have you ever stayed. up and struggled to find something to. watch on netflix. it sounds like a stupid example but my. point is i'm guessing a high performer. knows exactly what type of movies they.

like that's right they know what type of. food they like in the morning for. breakfast lunch and dinner. and when you ask people they'll say oh. no no but i like being spontaneous. and and often i think that that's answer. means i don't know. or i don't really think about these. things yes and so if you are asking. what kind of movies do you like they'll. be able to say these are my favorite. movies yeah i found that when i could. have more self awareness about what. movies are like. yeah i had more self awareness about how. i wanted to be in social situations yes. and self yes and and i think it starts. with the small things and the big things. yeah uh everything from what you want to. eat for breakfast.

all the way through to how are you gonna. serve and impact the world this is the. superpower you have because you meditate. because you journal you write you. reflect. that reflective process of our lives has. gotten. kind of stolen away by the distractions. so people don't know and you could see. you could see a video they're like ah. they don't know the other element is. skill. so they like high performing you say. what's two or three skills you're. working on in your life right now that. you're actively learning or training on.

they're like bop bop bop underperformers. like i don't know. like they're almost hoping to get better. and you're like oh no you you you need. to decide. these are skills like for me i sucked on. video. sucked i got my video guy travis here. right here he could tell you 10 years. ago. i was kind of horrible really travis yes. oh wow. it was a nod and i couldn't believe it. it was awful. i mean even before him i had the. remember flip video cameras. no one knows what i'm talking about oh.

yeah then i remember the flip video. camera it was like. just a stick and i had a button on it. and i would i was broke living in an. apartment at the time and i duct tape it. around. this box and press the button and i had. my shirt was all. open and my hair was like all over and i. was like i'm brand new because i didn't. know how to talk to camera i didn't know. how to be myself yeah i was. video was really awkward for me yeah. like in all the. personality tests believe it or not i'm. half introvert. i'm right down the line between. introvert and next word so i need. my personal time so camera was super.

awkward for me. and i was like okay but if i want to. change the world. guess what is necessary communication. skills. i'm going to have to learn that i i was. not i didn't wasn't raised in a place i. was raised in montana where men. didn't really communicate except with. looks glances and fists you know. so it's like if a guy lifted it wasn't. like. we like we're gesturing right now yeah. where i'm from if their hand came up. you're getting punched in the face man. that was it oh uh. so i had to learn emotional intelligence. that's a skill.

uh so communication emotional. intelligence when i got into our. business. i had to learn copywriting i know what. that was email marketing i didn't know i. had to learn coding. i don't none of that i knew what it was. but i was always confident. and i think real confidence is your. belief in your ability to figure things. out. i believe in my ability to figure things. out give me enough time energy resources. study books mentors. i will figure out hey you want me to go. to the moon i'll figure it out. even though i have no idea today i can. learn and get mentors so that's a deep.

part of my life high performers have. that. they just believe they'll figure things. out that confidence is what ties. a lot of their habits and their. abilities together so. skill set oh i better learn copywriting. and video so i practiced video. a bajillion times i forced myself to do. it a bajillion times. and now i have 28 online courses and. travis has been there. i shoot all of them extemp literally. i'll do a two-hour video with the flip. chart five. words on a page and i don't i don't need.

a script or anything. going from a kid who's like but you know. i couldn't get it out to just. flowing do four day seminars. by myself for 10 hours a day on stage. speaking. like you know artists lose their voice. sometimes singing for three hours i go. ten hours a day for four days. i had to learn vocal control i had no. idea how to do that that was a skill. but that's the important thing everyone. listening please write down what are the. top skills you would need to master.

to succeed in your purpose. in your life in your career and the last. element there was service. yeah high performers they kind of know. the service they want. to bring to the world that's why i was. like jay's going to smash this. because i mean you were so humble you're. like i've only been doing this x amount. of time brendan. but you already knew you want to make. wisdom go viral and you knew what was. true to you. you knew the type of purpose you wanted. to make and you were and you're still. seeking that out and clarifying like we. all are.

but high performers know the service. they want to give to the world. and they don't know it exactly or. perfectly but. they're intentionally moving towards. that and so for those who are like i. don't know if i have clarity i'm like. okay get clarity about yourself a little. more yeah about how you want to treat. people and be with people. about what you need to develop and how. you want to give or serve. and if you focus on that like every day. every week you're conscious of those. four things one day you're just so much. more confident and clear. absolutely yeah and what i love about.

that is just this. sometimes it's just what you're. fascinated with right now. that's right because i think sometimes. we make it too big and we're like oh. well. what's my big purpose or what's my big. service to the world and it's like well. what moves you right now like what are. you interested in right now when. i mean mine was totally the opposite way. i grew up as a really shy kid i'm right. down the middle of intro and next word. too. and my parents forced me to go to public. speaking and drama school when i was 14. years old oh my god because they were. scared that i was too shy and i was too. much of an introvert. and i didn't know how to communicate so.

my parents forced me to go from my. school it's an extracurricular activity. i went three times a week three hours. every week from ages 14 to 18. wow the practice the exams that we were. examined. on reading a paragraph from a book with. tonality and. being able to bring a story to life just. through. words and visuals and then being able to. there was this thing called. impromptu presentations where you got a. subject five minutes before you had to. go in and talk about it. and you'd be able to talk about it and.

you couldn't say anything that wasn't. true. so you had to make sure that it was all. factual and whatever you did research in. those five to 10 15 minutes. was right and and i remember doing that. and. i get to the end of that and i was like. oh well i've got this skill now but i. don't know what to use it for. because that's basically what i was like. at 18. yeah oh so i've learned how to do. public speaking i'm now. four years into my london academy of. music drama and arts and i've got you. know gold medal in this this this but i. was like what do i do with this because. i had nothing to talk about. and then when i started studying. philosophy from the eastern perspective. of the vedas and the bhagavad gita i was.

like. oh this is what i was meant to learn it. for. like it almost like was i had a skill. with no service. sure and and i don't that's what i'm. saying if you're listening to this right. now and you have a skill with no service. don't worry. or if you have a service with no skill. don't worry that's right you know just. go and find the missing piece of the. jigsaw you just gave us yes this four. piece jigsaw you just gave us. chances are you probably have one of. them yeah and then you can go and build. the other three. but don't worry about having all of them. now right and i think yeah i love that. yeah.

i love that and you you followed those. interests and develop them or develop. skills without even knowing how. so many people want the path to be. completely clear now and you and i were. just talking about this is like. you you you have to have faith. in the timing of the path you have to. believe that serendipity will appear. when it's supposed to appear. that purpose will reveal itself. sometimes. in one battle and sometimes in another. battle. sometimes in this game or that game or.

this thought or that activity. and you know i think people stress way. too much. about getting clarity and that's why i. love the phrase seeking clarity which. came from research. but no they're just they're actively. seeking it's not like a 60 year old high. performer. has everything figured out more than a. 30 year old high performer by definition. what's making them high performers. they're both still seeking. to dial it in like you and i are going. to be dialing it in our whole life. sometimes it'll be a shift. sometimes it'll be a total break.

sometimes but that doesn't stop for. anybody no it just doesn't yeah i love. that i love that differentiation between. getting and seeking clarity. the other thing that fascinates me that. you've written about high performers. is this strive for perfection where high. performance can often be hard on. themselves. and and i'd love to hear your. perspective on this it's this difference. between. the pressure that we place on ourselves. versus complacency. yeah because i think right now we're. hearing a bit of both out there on.

social media and everywhere a lot of. people are confused it's like. do i really go hard on myself and am i. really disciplined and am i really harsh. to myself. or actually do i just let it go and just. let it flow and let it happen and you. know i want to hear what your. research on the high performer said yeah. they came into perfection versus. progress yeah there's. there's no question they're more into. progress than perfection there's no. question. there's like zero question that they. are working on the things that move the. needle in their life so they're focused. on. the the the things that matter most so. they're good at wheeling out.

distractions. but you know what i was telling people. was like if you think you're a. perfectionist. you're probably lying and and the reason. that is. and that people hate when i say that but. if you look it up in the book. in the dictionary it's like perfection. like if you actually look at perfection. or to perfect it comes from that root. word. to perfect to perfect does not mean it's. done. to perfect means like two things happen. in in that connotation of two perfect.

first. it has to be an iteration or a start it. has to be done in like first draft to. perfect it means take it from. being done being released being out. there being com. you know where you feel like it's a. start and then. to perfect it to keep working on it to. keep. iterating on it and what perfection. i what perfectionists always say here's. what they really say. well i haven't started yet because i'm a. perfectionist and i'm only going to do.

it if i can get it completely right. no you're lying there's a difference. between want there's a difference. between. perfecting and being fearful yes and. what most perfectionists are is they're. scared. they're scared to start and scared not. to get it right. so they don't even begin yeah a real. perfectionist. is so in friggin motion they are they're. perfecting they're beating it up they're. iterating they're. they're dialing it in and they are. active at it to perfect. requires an active improvement.

and most people who say their. perfectionists are actually dead stop. fear. yeah and so i'm just like be clear about. where you're at. yeah absolutely no i think that's great. advice i love that advice because i've. always had a rule since i started that. all my videos. are 70 complete so that's my rule yes. it's 70 that's all you're getting yeah. there's words that i say wrong there's. fumbles there may be a few mistakes here. and there the editing may be slow. but it's like my rule was 70 because. that journey from 70 or 75 to 99.

could take decades yeah you can never. it could i would never release something. and i remember in 2016 after my first. ever video one of my first videos that. went viral. i actually got so scared because it was. almost like oh i have to live up to that. now. so i remember not creating yeah and so i. went from creating one video a week to. creating one video a month. and guess what i learned less i was. engaging less to connect with my. audience to understand what they needed. and what i was giving. yeah and i was trying less ideas which.

meant that i wasn't learning. learning i wasn't growing at all i. wasn't progressing and the world was. being taken from. getting more beauty from which came from. a place of not thinking like that. which came from a place of not trying to. be perfect exactly the original video. that did well came from a genuine place. of just wanting to serve. and trying to figure it out and then all. of a sudden we're not serving anymore. and so i was like okay this doesn't make. any sense and i was like actually and. then last year when we started making. more videos. i can honestly handle my heart say that. when we started doing three videos a. week.

i started to learn so much more yeah i. was like oh i really like it when i. write like this and i really like it. when i create like this and. the audience really responds when i. share it this way and i was learning so. much more. yeah and i was feeling more fulfilled by. making more mistakes but learning more. and so my mistakes increased. yeah but your learning increases which. which was a much more. fulfilling place to be even though it. was tough at times but it was fulfilling. i love that yeah i love that if you guys. are listening you're thinking oh there's. just two podcast guys jamming about how. it's so easy to get started. let me let me share with you this one of.

the higher performers in the world jeff. bezos. who started a little company called. amazon tiny he. talks about this idea that he an. executive team. makes decisions when they have about. sixty percent of the information. uh so i'm ten percent above jeff bezos. so yeah i should. yeah actually think about that for a. minute like wait a minute. a person and a team that could get all. the information in the world. they what they do is they're moving.

forward even when they don't have. everything and what perfectionists do. what they don't realize is there's a. difference between perfection remember. perfection is. to perfect in motion iterative moving. it's active. what they also can't admit sometimes is. the real struggle is they're indecisive. most perfectionists they actually know. the next moves and i'm like go. swat team make it happen release it drop. it do it. go and i'm cheering them on i'm like go. like for everyone listening. you need to know high performers are.

decisive not because they are like. i know everything and i've got clarity i. know. they know if they don't drop it if they. don't release it if they don't do it. they can't iterate and make it better. they can't learn just as you said. and worse they can't be of service. because when you're in silence in your. life and you're in silence because of. fear in your. life not silence like the way you and i. talk about in positive way. being still and silent inside that's a. positive thing but when you are in. silence in a way in which you are. suffering because of fear.

you are not going to be able to serve. you have to be in motion to serve you. have to. release things to perfect it you've got. to be decisive. almost everybody listening i i did this. course with oprah winfrey network called. your next bold move. and that language of being bolder. everybody listening probably should do. that and not because i'm saying. you know carte blanche ever should be. bolder i'm just saying carte blanche. everyone should be bolder. like they should like be bold like for.

me. bold is we just did the influencer event. i i think you were sitting there and i i. was travis was sitting there. and they were like why don't you just. ask your friends you have. all these people who they've learned. their careers from the. help just ask them to come and speak and. being bold is asking sometimes not just. taking some huge action it's asking for. help. i wish as a 19 year old kid i could look. back and say hey kid man you're going to. kill yourself.

ask someone for help tell someone what's. going on your head. raise your hand like admit it be. vulnerable. and i didn't i didn't know that that. would have been bold i've been bold. been vulnerable and i so it bold doesn't. have to be. swat team take down the world sometimes. ask for help. put yourself out there and know you'll. figure out you'll catch that clip you'll. figure it out you'll get it going on. you'll improve but move yeah. like the world needs action takers right. now it desperately needs it we have a.

lot of sideline. you know conversationalists a lot of. sideline. you know judgment we have a lot of. people not in the arena. and we need more people in the arena in. play we can't keep. pointing and blaming and saying this is. wrong that sucks and everything but. we're not moving our feet forward. and demanding change creating change. fighting for the change that we want. because we think well i don't have the. perfect plan it's not anything to fight. for oh no. you have values you have passion.

you have interests fight for those you. have a project you believe in. at work talk about it stop waiting for. the perfect time to bring it up. there's not gonna be perfect time bring. it up you believe in someone and you. wanna. help lift them up do it now don't wait. for the perfect time it's like. we've gotten too sedentary in. not just in our physiology but in our. actual actions. a tweet is not an action like you you. gotta move. you gotta make things happen and i think.

that's what high performance really. inspired in me. because if it sounds like if it sounds. at all like i'm being preachy. i'm literally just sharing what i. learned from these high performers. because the truth is they were more bold. than me doing the research i was like oh. okay i got up they were more clear than. me they were more energized. than me they were more productive. everyone thinks well brandon's got it. all figured out or whatever i'm like. no i'm a student and i'm just reporting. what i heard. from the field y'all and i want you to. take some of this stuff in.

there they had habits that allowed them. to succeed beyond normal people. but here's what's beautiful about high. performance and this is really important. there's success but in the way we. measured high performance high. performance means. you succeed beyond standard norms over. the long term. while maintaining well-being and. positive relationships. that's the hardest part that's the. hardest part that's why i love your. podcast. because so much of what you come back to. is relationships but high performers.

don't burn out relationships they don't. take people for granted. in fact you know it's like booker t. washington taught us you know there's. two ways to exert strength one is. pushing down. the other is pulling up and high. performers they're the pulling up kind. that's why high performers also don't. report being lonely at the top. one of my mentors brian tracy said if. you're lonely at the top you did it. wrong. but high performers because you're. lifting people up it's almost like. you have a chorus of people right you. got a tribe you lifted people up along.

you were generous with people as euros. and that's what that our research what. became so famous about iform's habits. was. we could measurely prove long-term. success and say. wait you can have long-term success and. maintain your health and your. relationships that's possible. because most people think you have to. compromise you got to become a jerk. or you can't work out yeah that's not. you can't be married or you can't have a. long-term relationship you can't have. kids. well you tell ourselves these stupid. stories or you have to come from a. certain thing the other thing that was. really pioneering the goddess in a lot.

of academics and. corporate is we measurably showed high. performance. is not strongly correlated with age. gender nationality i love that. personality. competency years on the job or. compensation and every time someone. wants to argue with me i just go to. basic common sense i'm like. okay they're like well of course rich. people or. highly compensated people work harder. i'm like oh no have you ever worked for. a lazy butt. boss they were getting paid more but.

they were lazy yeah like. payment doesn't mean high performance no. 100 either more does age. you know we we got time like we got old. people out performing young people young. people out performing old people. uh where you're from there's high. performers in every given culture. and it's not because their personality. because you have introverts. and extroverts people who are open. people who are neurotic people who have. no anxiety people have tons of anxiety. but it's the habits. that they are following the robot and. high performance habits that is.

that's what it was because we measured. 100 different performance variables. and it came down to these six. high-performance habits and uh and and. i loved it too because i was wrong yeah. about like if you asked me what i. thought. i was going to ask you oh my god. literally just about to ask oh you were. what was one that surprised you i was. literally just about to ask you that. that's crazy. uh one of them that didn't make or like. something that yeah tell me about that. yeah. something because me personally you know. i identify as as. you know an author speaker coach creator. online trainer thought leader hopefully.

social media guy. whatever um creator uh. creativity not in the top six. wasn't no yeah and it floored me because. that's me. but i i interviewed this guy he was a. chief technology officer for. uh you know a fortune probably 10 to. fortune 10 company. he's got tens of thousands employees and. he said well brendan. i'm not particularly creative i don't. think my team is particularly creative. but we are incredibly intentional and.

disciplined. and we are incredibly collaborative. those things which for him was his style. of productivity. made him a high performer even though. they really weren't that creative. but so for those who don't feel like. that's really important because in this. modern social media world. if you don't identify as a creative. person which a lot of people do not. they don't feel like they have that gift. even though they do. that's okay and it what's interesting. about the research it doesn't say. creativity is not important.

it says that these six habits and high. performance habits are more important. because in you know research you do. correlations and so it's like. clarity energy necessity. productivity influence and courage. are all just more important in this. particular research. than some of these other things and. these are all things anyone can have. that's what anybody can do it's so. amazing about the research. i'm hearing those and i'm going there is. there's no excuses basically your. research tells us there's no excuse.

for the dorks who are listening like me. the geeks and the data hounds. the way that you do that is we all the. 100 performance variables we. codified and we also took from academic. research um. and my own experience in training people. for a decade was. we put it through a filter are these. habits. something that are observable learnable. malleable which means you can change it. improve it. um and uh can happen across domains so i. mean the ceo can do it but so can the.

person at the front desk. yeah so can the mom at home so can the. student so can the athlete. meaning these hat that's how he i'd. identify him otherwise what they were. were that person's personality or it was. you know that person had a natural. strength or skill there. but also for those who are interesting. and you're so worried about your. strengths because a lot of people. listening. like me maybe when the whole strengths. movement started i was like i'm screwed. i ain't got none. the good news is high performers don't. report working on their strengths.

any more than underperformers or anybody. else. because high performers less often ask. what am i good at what are my unique. strengths. then they tend to ask what is needed. here. and how can i be of service. so for example if i had said is my. strength video. i would have never done video instead i. said how do i be of service to more. people i'm gonna have to reach more. people. how to use video same thing right so.

people. don't get trapped in thinking if you. don't have a strength right now. that a you can't develop it and b. that that's necessary we need less. people kind of gazing at their navels. and and and being like what am i like. and and i love the self-awareness and. the deep introspection. but we also need people who just show up. and. provide service even if they're not. comfortable with that. even if they're not good at that like. most of the things that we do.

we weren't good at but we said oh that. would help me be of more service. let me do it let me figure it out yeah. there's a difference between. inexperience and weakness. yeah there's a difference right like so. it's not really you've not really. explored. something it's just an experience that's. right right if you never started a. podcast like. i didn't know how to interview before i. did my first ever podcast like you just. don't know right you don't. you know practice interviews at home or. your parents never interviewed you and. you do your first interview. oh okay i like that i learned that i got. that wrong we. maybe should have put the mic closer to.

him and maybe the camera was in the. wrong angle and then and then you change. it right and i i think you're spot on. that. it don't yeah do not accept inexperience. for weakness. do not do not just sit there and go i. don't have that as a natural gift. yes and this is one of the reasons why. i'm going into soccer analogy here sorry. but. it was why i admire so many uh a player. named cristiano ronaldo a great soccer. player incredible because he's. worked on things and often people say to. him oh it's not god-given for him or. it's not a gift he was given. but it's like for me that's what makes.

it more incredible it's that he's. worked on every single part of his game. to become this complete player. that's it and and to demonstrate that. that the work ethic and the. not just the work ethic but the seeking. clarity and that tell me about the. energy piece i'm fascinated by that. because i feel like i want to hear the. definition of energy that you explored. yeah. and also just how people were able to. bring energy even when they didn't feel. like it too because that seems like a. big. thing for a high performer to be able to. do is bring it when they don't feel i'm.

so glad i did this because i you know. energy to me is just like a feeling or a. sense but in the research we had to. codify. three separate kinds of energy one is. mental energy. which is straight up your mental focus. and stamina. right to do activities right. right without just like tuning off right. because that's hard. yeah i mean i'm sure some people have. started writing a paper and you have to. page one and a half and your lan your. brain went somewhere else totally. um you're just tired the other one is. emotional energy.

which is the quality of positive versus. negative emotion and the last one. was a spiritual energy a sensation that. they were in flow or not. and what we found out is high performers. have incredibly intentional habits. to protect that energy. um you know when we were on tour with. her oprah she. uh when oprah was on tour she tells this. great story about how. she was so moved by someone who's on her. show who went into a green room and was. telling over the story of.

she saw this sign that said please be. responsible for the energy you bring. into this space. and i'm always saying please be. responsible for the energy you project. into the world. yes high performers are so critically. aware. of what their energy is their feeling. and how they're treating other people. it's profound and the way that they do. that is they have a lot of habits that. protect their well-being so. they're truly seeking to optimize health. they care about nutrition um on the.

world's largest study on productivity. that's ever been done. found out that on average the world's. most productive. one percent of people take a break every. 52 minutes. every 52 minutes they take a break now. if you ask them did you need the break. they're like. no they could power through all day. they have the mental energy and stamina. they could go but they take the break. like a pit stop. like in like a nascar right the car the. cars actually don't need to stop right. then.

they stop to change things out and. optimize things so they can keep going. faster. yes we have to do that in our own lives. so some of them that's meditation. um one that's incredibly important for. everybody here. especially the united states right now. in the united states of america 72 of. americans are overweight or obese. and that has incredible health. repercussions that is you're sicker. longer you die. earlier you report less happiness. throughout the majority of your life you. pass some of that behavior onto children.

like it's a very big deal and it's not a. judgment of a. of a body shaming thing it is a your. quality of life in every measurable way. that they have in science shows. it's not as good and we want you to feel. okay. well high performers they work. out five times per week. 40 percent more likely than an. underperformer. now that workout might be literally like. you take a 45-minute walk. at after dinner sure it doesn't mean. you're climbing around the mountain it.

doesn't mean you have to have a six-pack. or anything you move every day. and so they're protecting that you know. i think that's what's really important. there they have active lifestyles. not because it's easy because they know. the alternative of. burnout and fatigue will hurt their. performance yes. exactly every new nba guy i've ever. worked with they want to party they want. to rip it up they just got that check. they're a superstar now they're on the. phone with me brandon and i'm like.

don't you you got a game in three days. dude yeah. this is this is an easy thing if you. care about how you show up in three days. and that's what i always tell people how. you feel right now. is going to ripple into three days yeah. like we know that from research. like your nutrition today actually. affects three days of behavior. that's profound we we don't get that no. and and then when you measure it out. over longevity studies no it affects. your whole lifespan.

so it's wildly important and the most. research and you you're more even more. familiar than that research than i am is. is the absolute importance of having a. mental game. in which you meditate pray. nap or just close your eyes for a few. minutes every day. to recenter a little bit a lot of. fatigue. and headaches are actually visual and so. what i tell people. to do and what we teach in our seminars. high performance academy is i.

teach the audience all these things to. do at the 52-minute mark one of them. stand up from your desk or stand up no. matter where you're at every 52 minutes. even if you're driving pull over every. 52 minutes. and what i tell people stand in place. bounce in place not jumping up and down. just kind of bouncing lightly from the. knees. close your eyes because visual fatigue. is a real thing. they've shown visual fatigue also hurts. creativity so. close your eyes bounce and take ten deep. breaths in through the nose as one. out of the mouth 10 times.

while bouncing in place the bounce is. moving the lymph around your body. circulating the blood refreshing your. brain most. brain fatigue is also tied to blood flow. so we just got to move. dancing in place breath is tied to all. chi. all energy all life force closing the. eyes. lets the brain literally reset it's. unless profound. that's why meditators don't do with. their eyes open like. it's like there's a whole other level.

that happens and i mean you're way more. familiar with the research no no it's. beautiful. it it is what i'm telling people is it. is. necessary yes if meditation is your. thing. pray praying your thing close your eyes. close your eyes anything take the. afternoon nap because why in the blue. zones they tend to take a nap after. lunch. they live longer that is a. reset tension in my mind release. attention my body and then when i sit. back down i go. what's my intention and what is the. absolute best use of my time.

by the end of the day reset. go back to work i do that every hour. that's why i'm so annoyingly productive. i love that we should do it right now if. you want to do it yeah you need some. water. so first we just start with it reset. which were. this is what i mean by bouncing yeah. we're just gonna do this we're gonna. sway our arms forward and back. close our eyes ten deep breaths go.

notice his breath is getting longer. because that's what happens.

ah. one more. okay now just shake it out all right. that's just the breathing i love it all. right you're coming back great all right. all right. now we're gonna do chigong okay which is. a cupping activity they call it a. cupping for casual. and all we're going to do is we're going. to activate the meridians of our body. for those who don't believe in meridians. of your body. all science shows that there's nerve. endings on your skin. right so if you don't believe in oh this. is chi then. you believe in nerves and we're just.

gonna open up our body it's like if you. tap your arm you feel that. energy 100 right we're gonna do that to. our whole body amazing okay so qigong. yeah so we're gonna start with our. our fingertips so cupping means you take. positive intent. and energy a lot of the the master's. don't teach like put a color. like blue or green or a vibrant color. for you here. and we're going to cup what means we're. going to lightly tap and we're going to. go from here. all the way up okay and then we're gonna. do we're gonna do here. and we'll do here we'll do here we'll do.

here. and then we're just gonna do one right. here which is a huge meridian in the. back right here everyone's gonna know. that. yep so we're just gonna start here like. this. and the intention is take a nice breath. in. nice without this is where everyone. outside your studio is going what are. they doing. like richard shows up like what is. happening. so we do this i do this every 50 minutes. in a plane i love it you release your. shoulder release all the tension in your. shoulder and really. strong okay now from your waist we're.

going to move up you're just moving up. one inch at a time. take a nice deep breath in right when. you get below your armpit. next hand going up. and just breathing just putting energy. positivity joy into your arms. most people have really strong to drop. your shoulder. most people carry so much tension their. shoulders just releases the tension the. shoulder.

right here now we're going to bend. slightly at the waist and right on your. lower back. you're going to take five breaths here. stand close your eyes bounce five more. breaths. sway your arms.

open your eyes jump in place feel great. and now just release. i feel great that was awesome and you're. a loss that's amazing. we can show in brain scans that that. decreases blood flow you decrease blood. flow you decrease oxidation. which your body and your brain needs for. activity. like your mitochondria everything in. your body counts on do we get some blood. flow. are we are we like and so what people. don't know is their brain is off half. the day.

and they think because they're tired and. breath is the way back in. this activation which people are like. think is so weird it's like oh no just. like if you're like i'm. if you're watching this and you didn't. try it or you're listening like. literally. just tap your forearm five times and. you're like. you're like and then notice the energy. you're like oh the energy. just changed right there like it really. changed. well when you do that your whole body. chi gong actually goes ankle up. ankle around here and the whole body and. then they'll also often put tapping in.

yes yes and all of a sudden you're like. isaac now now i'm going to bang out like. 10 chapters in my book. now i'm going to finish the presentation. now i feel good to call my. coaching client yeah because sometimes. i'll do you know i'll let you know i'm. i'm extremely lucky to coach some of the. top performers in the world. in athletics and business right before i. came over here i had the blessing of. coaching a billionaire. literally on the way over uh uh uh af. this meeting this morning and what i. have found is. if you want to be a high former you've. got to learn to turn yourself on.

right don't take that weird but no no. you have to how do you turn your. brain on how do you turn your spirit on. how to turn your heart on like you've. had that too where you're. you also you got to sit down you had a. long day we both had long days before we. did this if you can't turn your heart. your mind your spirit your body on. there is no chance for you to sustain. long-term performance. 100 i love that that was amazing that. was awesome no the reason why i love it. so much is because. what you just said about turning.

yourself on it so it's like when you're. living for. so for me it was when i spent my time as. a monk i focused so much on the mind and. we really pushed our bodies. to extreme lengths and then when i came. back and i was having to live in this. body i was like. i want to serve and that's why i want to. take care of my body and mind yes. right like that became the intention i. was like i'm going to have. incredible habits for what i eat and how. much i work out and what i do with my. body because i want to serve for the. rest of my life it is. i don't want to die early because i was. neglectful i don't want to die early. because. i was neglectful and not caring and.

complacent because. i felt i was still 22 when when you. still feel all of this you can't have. the feet on the beard yeah. and and so the soul is the soul is. motivated by. service like the soul gets energy from. service but the body. needs activity like this movement yeah. to feel energized right every measurable. outcome yeah in your life improves with. more quality of exercise yeah. and i always tell people even at a. spiritual level. you know i ask people you know would you.

go to the house next door. and spray paint it and break all the. windows and throw a bunch of garbage in. it. and yet you're so willing to vandalize. the temple. that god has given to house your soul. that's your house. so if you wouldn't go vandalize your. neighbor's house why are you vandalizing. your house. your gift it's very important you know. garbage in garbage out pay attention. and i'm not here to say everyone has to. you know eat perfectly and work out a. million percent.

i'm here to share the research that is. unequivocal yeah. mental health and exercise and. protecting both of those. diet nutrition meditation all of these. things. sleep all of these impact. how good of a job you do tomorrow how. long you live. you know how good you feel and i'm like. everyone wants to be happy. so this that's what i was happy about i. was so happy that made it into the. research that like. generate energy that's the chapter.

generating energy how do high performers. generate energy and sustain it. and all these things we talk about in. our industry it. came up in the research i was like yes. i'm so happy about that yeah yeah. it's amazing i love it this all the and. again it's accessible to anyone. we didn't we didn't pay for gym. membership just now right right we we. didn't have to have fancy clothes on. yeah for the gym membership. i feel like great i genuinely do podcast. yeah literally we get. fired up that's the i feel like i've and. i'm not and i'm not saying this just for. the cameras like i mean this i actually.

feel. how i felt when we first started yeah. right it's it's got that you know it's. like yeah it's it's great and so 100. works i love recharge yeah 100. every 50 minutes and he's been with trav. has been backstage with me for 10 years. or he's. he's been setting up video in the other. room and he hears that like. i always do it and it's like because. when you watch. the volume of online video i've done. whether it's youtube or our online. courses where most of my video is. it's like so i mean it's we.

literally i don't even know how many. hundreds of hours are there. and he's never seen me in the middle of. a video like. you know because of these practices um. and. it wasn't natural to me because i listen. netflix and chill. let's go brother i can chill like the. best of them i got no problem. but i want to make an impact i want to. help people. you know what the worst thing is when. you're trying to help someone and your. mind is kind of blinking out. yeah because you didn't take care of.

yourself you didn't eat good. you didn't care about your sleep you. know i work with athletes. high performers business people who who. they regret those moments in those days. where they allowed themselves to burn. out. or they didn't care for themselves. because it shows up on the scoreboard. it shows up in your bank account and but. mostly it shows up in how you treat. people i always tell people. if you won't take care of yourself for. yourself take care of yourself so you're. less rude to other people. yeah because guess when you're tired.

science shows you're more irritable. you're more short and you're faster to. conflict tolerance is low. right 100 and so it's like if you want. to take care of yourself yourself do it. for the poor people around you who. probably get some of that irritability. you know i love it brendan you're. amazing this was so much fun honestly. this is this has been so much fun yeah. this is great and. i'm glad you had us do that activity i. wanted to yeah me too too. i feel better yeah i feel better but. also i just i want everyone listening. and watching to know that.

you know you can pick up such simple. beautiful tips and insights. yeah just by watching now you can play. that part of the video over again and. again and again yeah. we'll turn it into a little instagram. video that'll be fun. but it's just such an easy thing that. anyone can pick up. and literally refocus get back in the. zone. and and like you said it's like when you. want to serve you want to be at your. best. you don't want to be at your worst and. you're trying to push yourself and i. genuinely hear this from so many people. who i know are genuinely trying to give. their best.

and serve yeah but they feel drained at. the end of the day. yes because they're just giving and. outpouring and serving and. loving and caring and supporting and. they're just going for it. and at the end of their day and i've. been in that place before where you just. feel drained. yes and i started to realize i didn't. want to feel that way anymore because. that wasn't the badge of honor of. service. no that wasn't the badge of honor that. i've really given today. and if you believe in associations if i. do if. if if you drain yourself every day in.

service which a lot of people do. at the end of the day you're burned out. and you're tired at some point. your body and your brain your spirit and. your soul you don't mean to. starts associating your purpose with. that feeling. wow wow and one day. you go maybe your psychology goes maybe. the purpose is wrong. and it forgets no it's it's the behavior. that's leading to a feeling doesn't feel. good. but your brain doesn't know sometimes. and it puts them together.

and now you question your purpose when. really you're tired. and so let's do that yes and now you do. the math. okay because we've all done that. everyone listening has done that brunt. force. because the human body is unbelievable. we we can go. years of burnout it's unbelievable other. animals would not put up with this. nonsense. but we convince ourselves that it's okay. no other animal does that. which is i mean i mean well salmon they. say i'm gonna do it they swim till they. die okay i'm sorry some animals do. but but humans were super unique that we.

psych ourselves into this. but here's the issue a you will probably. burn out your service because you won't. feel good about it. but think about high performers they go. so much longer providing great service. but here's the trick if you do the math. on what i talked about. break every hour take an eight hour work. day. high performers they're not smarter than. you they're not. better than you they aren't more lucky. than you it's not their age their. nationality but one of the things they. did during an eight hour workday. they took eight more breaks than you did.

they took eight more breaks than you did. today that's why tomorrow. they show up more clear that's why next. week. when you're in the meeting and it's time. to brainstorm and you're fried you come. up with nothing. it's that gallop on the whiteboard who. wrote down 20 ideas because she's still. fresh. that's not because her disposition she's. probably a high performer who took more. breaks than you. we think breaking and pausing and. refreshing is. failure sharpening yeah it's the only oh.

i love that sharpener. i've never used that i love that. sharpening it is sharpening it is the. nascar at the pit stop. to make it go faster to make it win the. race and so it's it's. it's it's so funny when you say high. performance everyone goes. well they must they just out work out. hustle outward actually i'm like oh no. they actually seek harmony more than. everybody else. they act they look for that they're. trying to optimize their time. their harmony to manage their energy so. they can perform longer i want to do.

this. until i'm dead yeah me too i'm one of. those guys like. i found my purpose me too i want to help. people live love and matter. to get there they got to achieve their. goals faster they got to use their voice. they got to help other people. they got to live an authentic vibrant. life and they. that that's what i want to help people. do i'll do that until i'm done i'll. tell you so i got to manage myself yeah. you know i do those four-day seminars by. myself on stage for 10 hours i was like. how they just think well brenda's an. energizer bunny if you saw me backstage. i'm doing that chigong. i'm protein shaking it you know i'm.

stretching out every night i'm doing the. ice baths. yes i'm changing my behavior from heavy. lifting to more cardio to get the lung. capacity two weeks in advance. i'm diligent about exactly what i eat at. the four day events. i sleep at the same schedule like. everything is. literally set up for me to perform 10. hours a day on stage for four days by. myself. that's not luck that is because i care. i love it brendan we end every interview.

with the final five. quick five rapid fire around so this is. five questions. one word answers maximum one sentence. maximum one sentence okay so that's good. the first question is. what was the last kind thing you did for. a stranger. uh one word oh gosh. well one said no i had it just came into. my mind because a dear friend had. somebody a big loss. in their life um and i just sent them a. voice text. and said if you need me on a plane if.

you need an hour to to have a. conversation. um you're the type of person who's. always the giver and always striving. and caretaker is very rarely asked. for care 100 so i'm here i love it. okay question number two i'm sorry the. answer was sent the voice text. but i sent it one seven days in a row. okay same one do a different ones do. voice text.

for seven days a lot of people say i'm. here for you i was like i hound them. yeah i love that okay question number. two what's a lesson you find hard to. teach others. patience ah nice okay question number. three what's the one question you ask. yourself the most. you've told us a bit about this man. outside of did i live. did i love yeah i matter i ask. what level of presence and energy. am i holding and creating right now it's. a we call it line trigger yeah in high. performance like any time i wait in line.

like starbucks or remaining line i. always what level of presence and energy. am i right now it makes me qn. i love that okay question number four. the one belief that took you the longest. to really put into practice the one. belief that took you the longest to put. into practice. trust on others wow powerful we'll have. to unpack that next time yeah. question final five your fifth one is. and i and i kind of know the answer to. this but i'm going to ask you anyway. because you can you can change it up is.

how do you know if you've lived a good. life the answer is to did i live that i. loved it i matter. no i love that um but most importantly. did i earn this. um you know did i did i earn that second. chance. i love it brendon bashad everyone you're. the man you're amazing man. this is amazing been an honor you're. awesome thank you brother you are so. incredible i can't wait to have you back. on. i can't wait yeah you're going to come. back and do a part two and a part three. times. if the audience asks yeah we need to do. this again i would love to man this is.

so funny we have so much to unpack we. have so much. so much more so much love your purpose. and your mission thank you and how you. are. learning and adjusting and giving and. serving and i i wish anyone listening i. wish. you knew how hard this guy works for you. thank you man it's. yeah it's just the beginning it's you. know that's how i feel every day it's. just the beginning i. start from scratch again i still feel. every single day we're just getting. warmed up. yeah absolutely man because her. disposition. she's probably a high performer who took. more breaks than you we think breaking.

and pausing and refreshing is failure. it's the only i love that sharpener i've. never used that i love that sharpening. it is sharpening it is the nascar at the. pit stop. to make it go faster to make it win the. race and so it's it's. it's it's so funny when you say high. performance everyone goes. well they must they just out work out. hustle outward actually i'm like oh no. they actually see harmony more than. everybody else. they act they look for that they're. trying to optimize their time. their harmony to manage their energy so.

they can. perform longer i want to do this until. i'm dead yeah me too i'm one of those. guys. like i found my purpose me too i want to. help people live. love and matter to get there they got to. achieve their goals faster. they got to use their voice they got to. help other people they got to live an. authentic vibrant life. and they that's what i want to help. people do i'm i'll do that until i'm. done. i'll tell you so i got to manage myself. yeah you know i do those four day. seminars by myself on stage for 10 hours. i was like. how they just think well brent is an.

energizer bunny if you saw me backstage. i'm doing that qigong. i'm protein shaking it you know i'm. stretching out every night i'm doing the. ice baths. yes i'm changing my behavior from heavy. lifting to more cardio to get the lung. capacity two weeks in advance. i'm diligent about exactly what i eat at. the four-day events. i sleep at the same schedule like. everything is. literally set up for me to perform 10. hours a day. on stage for four days by myself that's. not luck. that is because i care i love it.

brendan we end every interview with the. final five quick. five rapid fire around so this is five. questions. one word answers maximum one sentence. maximum one second okay so that's good. the first question is. what was the last kind thing you did for. a stranger. uh one word oh gosh. or one said no i had it just came to my. mind because a dear friend had somebody. a big loss. in their life um and i just sent them a.

voice text. and said if you need me on a plane if. you need an hour to have a conversation. um you're the type of person who's. always the giver and always striving. and caretaker is very rarely asked. for care 100 so i'm here. i love it okay question number two oh. i'm sorry the answer was. sent the voice text but i sent it one. seven days in a row okay same one.

different one voice text for seven days. a lot of people say i'm here for you i. was like. i hound them yeah i love that okay. question number two what's the lesson. you find hard to teach others. patience ah nice okay question number. three what's the one question you. ask yourself the most you've told us a. bit about this man. outside of did i live did i love yeah. matter. i ask what level of presence and energy. am i holding and creating right now it's.

a. we call it line trigger yeah in high. performance like any time i wait in line. like starbucks or reading line i always. what level of presence and energy am i. right now it makes me q in. i love that okay question number four. the one belief that took you the longest. to really put into practice the one. belief that took you the longest to put. into practice. trust in others wow powerful we'll have. to unpack that next time yeah. question final five your fifth one is. and i and i kind of know the answer to.

this but i'm going to ask you anyway. because you can you can change it up is. how do you know if you've lived a good. life the answer is to did i live that i. loved it i matter. no i love that um but most importantly. did i earn this. hmm you know did i did i earn that. second chance. that's the only one brendon bashad. everyone. you're the man you're amazing man this. is amazing it's been an honor you're. awesome thank you brother you are so. incredible i can't wait to have you back. on. i can't wait yeah you're gonna come back. and do a part two and a part three time.

if the audience asks yeah we need to do. this again this is so funny we have so. much unpacking we have so much. comments so much more so much love your. purpose and your mission. thank you and how you are learning and. adjusting and giving and serving and. i i wish anyone listening i wish you. knew how hard this guy works for you. thank you man it's yeah it's just the. beginning it's you know that's how i. feel every day it's just the beginning i. start from scratch again i still listen. every single day we're just getting. warmed up. yeah absolutely man if you want even. more videos.

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