Give Me 37 Minutes... I'll Save You 20+ Years Of A Wasted Life | Ed Mylett

You know, I think most people think Jay, everyone else is going to die. I'll get. around to being happy. I'll get around. to my dreams and then it's another day. and another day and they keep it in the. distance. You only understand the power. of one day when you're threatened with. never having another one. Best selling author and host The number. one health and wellness podcast. On purpose with Jay Shetty. This quote by Thomas Edison said, when. you feel you've exhausted all options, remember this,

you haven't. I love that. That's the power of one more. one more. And so I have lived this book. in my life. Like I have lived this. mindset and it has changed my life. because I've always been just one step. away, one habit away, one mindset away. from this amazing life that I'm grateful. and blessed to live. the truth, right? You're right. And I. think the great lie in life is that I. think you know, some scriptures say, well, where there's no vision the people. will perish. Whatever your scriptures are. Really, do. you have no vision? If you ask the.

average person, do you want to be happy. or sad? What's your vision? They'd say, I want to be happy. Do you want to be. rich or poor? Most people say, I'd like. to be rich. Do you want to contribute or. make no difference in the world? I want. to contribute. Do you want beautiful. memories or no memories? I want. memories. So there's a vision. Our issue. is depth perception. We think it's further away than it is. And because we think it's so far away. Jay, we create patterns and behaviors in. our life that perpetually keep it there. Ooh. And that's what we do in our life. But what if that's the great lie of. life? And what if the truth is.

that you're one relationship away, one. meeting away, one conversation, one. podcast, one interview, one new thought, one new emotion, one new tactic or. strategy away from completely changing. the trajectory of your life? Oh. And everyone that you and I know. that we both work with that we're. blessed to work with in our lives, the. truth is it was one decision, one. meeting, one extra rep, one more phone. call, one thing they did that changed. their trajectory, then the question then. becomes.

how do I do it? And so the strategies. are in the book, but conceptually, that's 100% how you change your life. Yeah, and you're you're so right. I I. was thinking about this this morning. Last year I had uh double hernia surgery. on the front. Like so I couldn't walk. for about a month. And when I say I. couldn't walk, I mean like I literally. couldn't move. It was like I was like I. felt like I was teaching myself to walk. again. Like that's how it felt. It's. really interesting what you just said. about how we perpetually push it far.

away. I would wake up every morning. and my mind or my initial mindset was. like it will be gone today. Yeah. It. must have gone today. Like today it will. be fully healed. I'll be fine today. And. I would wake up and I wouldn't be. Mhm. And I would feel like healing was so far. away. Yes. It would be like 80% away. that I was missing out on the 1% change. since yesterday. You got it. Since yesterday I made 1%. change. I was I wasn't feeling the same.

pain in my nerves. I was able to be. flexible by 1% more. And I was missing out on all of that. because I was so obsessed with how far I. was. That's the journey. And the thing And. what happens is when you live with an. expectation that these one mores exist, the reticular activating system in your. mind filters them into your awareness. I. call it the matrix in the second chapter. of the book. When you wake up believing, "Hey, I'm one decision away. I'm one. meeting away. One relationship away.". That's not hokey. Your mind begins to. filter the people, places, and things.

into your awareness. You develop. something called sensory acuity. You. hear conversations you weren't hearing. We've all had that experience where. we're on an airplane, "I can't stop. hearing these people over here." Or. you're walking a loud room, but you can. hear your own name auditorily over all. the other names in the room. That's. because it's important to you and it. matters. You see things. And so when. something becomes important to you, and. you believe it to be true, the RAS goes. to proving it for you. And where I. learned this, ironically, I talk about. it in the book, is my father was an.

alcoholic. and he tried to get sober many, many. times. And I'll never forget it, Jay, we. were driving to a baseball game of mine, and my dad started crying. I'd never. seen my dad cry before. And he pulls the car over, and he still. isn't looking at me, but he's crying, and he says, "Eddie." And then he turns. to me, and he goes, "I'm going to try to get sober.". And I'm I'll never forget this, brother. He goes, "One more time.". Wow. And I said, "Really, Daddy?" He goes, "I'm going to give it one more try." And.

I said to him, I said, "Why would this. be any different this time?". And he said, never said this to me. before, he goes, "Because I I love you, and you deserve a father you can be. proud of, and you can't be proud of me. right now.". And I think every great thing we do in. life is one away, but it's also born. from love. To talk about your book, when you love. people, or you love something so deeply, if that love is greater than what the. obstacles might be, now you got a shot. to do it. Then my dad gets sober, he. comes home from rehab. I say, "Daddy,

are you never going to drink again?". And he said, "I can't promise you that. I can promise you I'm not going to drink. for one more day at a time.". Wow. lasted the rest of his life stacking. those one more days up. And so, I know. the power of one more, and Jay, the. other thing I also know humans can. change. I watched my hero do it. I. watched my dad live my first 15 years. so I'm in a lot of fights. Wow. of lying, a lot of difficult times. And. then I saw this man transform. And in life, we're most qualified to.

help the person we used to be. Mhm. And. what we think in life, and I hope. everybody gets this, we think the things. we're most ashamed of, embarrassed by, our divorce, our bankruptcy, or maybe. we've just always been average and. ordinary. This disqualifies me from being. successful and happy. Mhm. What if. that's not true? What if the hardest. things of your life are the very things. that qualify you? I'll give you an. example. You know when my dad got sober, somebody helped him. My dad was going to take his life or. lose his family, and I didn't know who. it was till months ago. Some precious. human being whom I didn't know, in my.

dad's darkest hour of his life, Jay, said, "I'll help you.". "I'll help you." Little did that person. know I'd be his son. And I'd help millions of people, and I'd. be on Jay Shetty's show, and we both. help millions of people. And the more. ironic thing that this person helped my. dad is what qualified them to help my. dad. They were a drunk. They were an alcoholic. They at one time. were a drug addict. They at one time. were lying and stealing and living in. the shadows. The very thing that person. probably figured. that disqualifies me from having a.

successful life was the one thing that. did qualify them to help my dad. So, if. you're listening to this and you've had. something you're ashamed of or a failure. or a setback, you're most qualified to. help the people you used to be. And that. person, that alcoholism they suffered. with, their drug addiction, helped my. dad live those one more days forever. Uh. that that is the best explanation I've. heard of how pain turns into purpose. The thing that brought you down, that. broke you down, that made you feel like.

you were losing everything That's right. gave you back everything when you used. that to serve the people that were. struggling with it. there's then there's a purpose. And you. know, if you can survive the temporary. pain in your life, and all pain is. temporary. I watched my father pass away. last year. He was in tremendous pain. Even our bodies are temporary. Only our. souls are permanent. If you can survive. the temporary, on the other side of. temporary pain, you meet another version. of yourself, another insight about. yourself. And that's why it's so. important to grow as a person, because. the more we grow and become a new.

person, we can help those that used to. be like us. And that's why you and I are. so addicted to growing and learning, and. we're curious, because if you used to be. a broken person, and you you longer are. quite as broken, you can help broken. people. If you used to be broke. financially and you no longer are, you. can help people. Whatever you do for a. living, at one time you didn't know. about it and now you do, you can help. those who need to know about it. And so, you're immensely qualified if you. understand the power of doing one more. Oh, I love it. I love it. Tell me about. So, let's say and you've probably come.

up against this all the time, a lot of. the people say, "Okay, I'm going to. practice that. I'm with you, Ed. I love. you and Jay. I'm I'm listening and I go, yes, I'm going to practice the power of. one more.". Now, what I find and this is why you're. so great at teaching this because you're. not teaching it as. a a gimmick, a glitch, a like a little a. little affirmation. This is like real It. makes sense. Like it works. People get so tied to the result that. when they try it the next day and the.

sales meeting doesn't go their way or. the pitch doesn't go their way, they go, "Ah, it doesn't work. It doesn't work. Why didn't it work and how should we. respond when we fail or get rejected in. the moment?". Well, it didn't work because you're so. attached to the outcome. I coach a lot. of athletes, I know you do as well and. one of the things that's a really. nuanced thing in life, it's great to. have goals. You should have goals. I. want to do this or that. But, in the. moment of execution, you have to. separate from outcome in the moment that. you're executing and just be present and. exist. I talk about this in the book.

Here's what I would say, if you're going. to win long-term, 95%. of people have a operating system in. their mind where they operate out of. history and memory. Oh, I like that. And about 5% of humans. operate out of vision and imagination. So, the reason we're so much happier, I. believe, when we're children is we have. no history and memory. So, we operate of. imagination and dreams and vision. But, at some age, some people it's 5 years. old, some it's 8, some it's 18, some. it's 28, they create a history and that.

history then becomes the operating. system. So, even if they take on a new. behavior or tactic, they're operating. out of a pattern of thought and belief. that's historic and memory-based. And. so, the number one thing I would say is. begin to operate out of your imagination. again, out of your vision again. Create. from that place. If you create from that. place, now you're not tied to the result. in that moment. You're giving yourself. space to imagine and create something. new in your life. That I've never heard that in that. language, man. That is so powerful. I.

you're so right about as kids that we. don't have any memory or history. So, we. don't have any blocks, we don't have any. limits. And begin to listen to the. people around you. People say, "Hey, you're the product of who you hang. around." How do I know if they serve me. or not? Here's way that one way to just. deduce this because they could be. beautiful people who care about you, and. they might even support you. But when you're with them, what are you. You ever have those friends you're with. them you're like, "You remember when? You remember? You remember You remember. Remember that party? Remember that. thing?" And if your friends are. constantly bringing you to the.

filtration system of memory and history. all the time, think this through. How. often are those friends saying, "Hey, what are you working on now? Where are. you going? What's your vision? What do. you want to create?" And maybe that. sounds hokey, but you and I have some of. the Some of our both our friends have. the most amazing histories, and you. can't get them to talk about them. You. have to work cuz what are they still. doing? They're talking about now and. where they're going. Their viewpoint in. their life is being present and having a. vision for the future. Yeah. A formula for misery, a formula for lack.

of creativity, lack of productivity is. constantly being history and memory. Even if it's good, it doesn't serve us. And for most of what it is not good, and. we keep living from it or trying to move. away from it. Create a new future. Don't. move away from the past. Create a. brilliant, imaginative, curious, vibrant. vision for your life. I love that. Yeah, we're always trying. to create the same past as opposed to a. new future. And I find that what's.

really interesting about that all the. studies show that nostalgia makes us. believe that the past was more. phenomenal than it actually was. If you. remember that party you went to a. college, it's better in your memory than. it actually was. If you actually could. have gone back and remembered how you. felt hungover and what you broke a bone. or whatever happened, but now in your. memory it's beautiful. Right? So, our. memory also is slightly warped of the. past. It can make things feel much. better or much worse sometimes.

But, what's what's really coming out for. me right now is this idea that it's it's. something you said a couple of moments. ago and and it sparked a thought for me. I remembered a story that Vanessa Bryant. told about Kobe Bryant after he passed. away. I was fortunate enough to interview him. about 3 months before it before his. tragic passing. And she told this story and she said. that Kobe would play through every. injury. He would play through every. pain. He'd play through everything even. when the doctors and his coaches would.

say stop playing. And she asked him, she said once why he. still plays. Right? Again, going back to our. curiosity. Not assuming you know your. partner. She asked him, "Why do you still play?" And this is. just her and him. There's no cameras, there's no She's telling this story, but. at the time it was just them two. He said it's because there's someone. who's paid for a ticket today. They. saved up and this is the only time. they're ever going to be able to come.

Maybe a son's Maybe a dad's brought his. kid. Maybe someone's come to the game. They're a lifelong fan and they came. today and today's the only day they're. going to get to see me. And if I say I'm. injured, Yes. they won't get to see me. So awesome. So, I'm going to play so that that. person. That one person gets to see me play. And. then he goes and wins. Yes. And it's like that's love. Right? That's. what you were saying that. Love for something is in the present. moment also, right? Love is not just for. the past. And it's funny how important.

one day is man. When my dad got sick, my. dad got cancer. When he first got sick, he goes, "Hey." My dad was a dude. He. goes, "Look, I'll fight this one time.". Okay? I'll do your little chemo and your. surgery, but I'm not going to pour. poison into my body. I'm not going to. lose my hair. I'm not going to. deteriorate. I'll give this thing a shot. once, but if it doesn't work, I'm out. That led to eight years of him fighting. it. Wow. Chemo, radiation, proton therapy, surgery, surgery, chemo, experimental. chemo. And he did lose his hair, and he. was in pain. And I'd say to my dad, I'd.

say, "Dad, you're suffering so much. You. said you wouldn't suffer." He said, "No, Eddie, I'm in pain, but I'm not. suffering.". I I choose not to suffer. And I'm not. suffering because I get to see my. grandkids again. And I said And I just. said, "Dad, why are you doing this?" And. he said, "You only understand the power. of one day when you're threatened with. never having another one.". "I'll do anything for one more day. Get. to be with you one more time. Give your mom a kiss one more time. Maybe I'll see one of my granddaughters. get married.". And he goes, "I'll do anything for one.

more day." The beautiful thing is I was. actually with Kobe a week before he. passed away. We were in the same gym. Our daughters. played volleyball. And I ironically that day. I watched Kobe walk out of the gym. There was only a couple dads left. It. was late at night. He stayed and I. stayed. And he had his. youngest daughter in his arm, and he was. rubbing his other daughter's back. And I. remember taking note of it cuz I was. with Bella at the other end of the gym, and I remember thinking, "I don't hug Bella enough.

I need to hug I'm No joke, bro. It's in. the book. I went, "I got to hug Bella. one more time every day. Not just once a. day. Plus one more time every day." My. daughter's going to get extra hugs cuz. Kobe does that. What if I could have said to Kobe when. he got in his car? Kobe, you have one more week, brother. Tell those that you love love them. Get. it right. Whoever matters to you, make. it right. Call your dad, make it right. Call your mom, call your family.

What if the day before you could have. said, "Kobe, you have one day left.". And my dad, same thing. I was with my. dad when he had one day left. I was with. my dad when he had one hour left. I was. with my dad when he had one breath left. And then when we begin to think of our. life that way, the power of right now. and having one more moment and one more. minute is so beautiful. It's so blessed. It's so big. It's so amazing. Why would. we spend that minute in history? Why. would we spend that minute in the past.

when we could be fully present and. creating a future? And so, you know, I. think most people think, "Jay, everyone. else is going to die.". I think they just they just I'm never. I'm not going to die. Or they go, "I'll. get around to being happy. I'll get. around to making my masterpiece of my. life. I'll get around to my dreams. I'm. going to get around to fixing this. relationship that's broken. I'm going to. get around to feeling those emotions.". And then it's another day and another. day and they keep it in the distance. until there are no more days. And I.

don't care if you're 18 years old. listening to this, 28 or 48. We don't. know if we have one more day. or 100 more days or 1,000 more days. But. we know this, there'll eventually be a. time where we don't have any more days. And so, why would we spend the ones that. are coming looking at the past? And so, my dad really taught me those lessons. and watching him pass away and that's. why I have so I have a whole thing in. there of how to get 21 days a week. Run. many days. I get 21 days a week. We. still measure time, bro, like it's 1900.

Think about 1900. If I wanted to get you. a note, I'd have to write a letter out, stick it on the back of a horse's butt. in 1850. 30 days later, you get it. That. was a 24-hour day. Now I can text you in. 2 seconds. We measure time the same way. So I teach you how to change your time. so that you can make that day it's. maximum bliss, it's maximum. productivity. What's what's one more. that you're working on right now? Right now, I'm actually it's a. interesting season of my life. I have a. TV show that you know that I did with. NBC that's called change that I think.

is, you know, has a chance of getting. picked up. But my one more that I'm. working on right now for me and my life. is my peace. And so there's this guy Jay Shetty. that's a friend of mine that uh. introduced me and my family to. meditation. And I'm giving myself the gift um of I. don't just do it in the morning now. I've given myself the gift of one more. time every single day of just emptying. my mind and trying to be fully present. And it's been work for me. I've got that. busy type of a mind, but um I have found.

that my peace. in my life Most of us, Jay, have all. these goals of things we want to do. And. they're wonderful, and I believe in. doing that. I think standards are more. important than goals because and I teach. you in this in the book how to set the. standards that'll get those goals. Mhm. But we really don't But we really don't. want the jet. We don't want the hit. song. We don't want the amazing. relationship. We don't want the million. dollars. We don't want the We want how. we think it'll make us feel. Mhm. And what if we began to become more. intentional and outcome-oriented about.

the things we feel in our life? And it. took me a while, but now that I'm older, when I feel strong, when I feel. blissful, when I feel peaceful, is when. I produce the physical things that I. want, not the other way around. Ooh. It's all My one mores are more. emotional focus. Most of us, then I'll. come up for air here, have an emotional. home. There's three or four or five. emotions we experience on a regular. basis. I write about it in the book. And. no matter what happens, we find a way, even if they don't serve us, to get. those emotions. If your emotional home.

is fear, anxiety, worry, depression, anger, you find a way every week to get. that emotion. But what if that emotional home could. become bliss and peace and joy and. creativity, and ecstasy. And so, I'm. working on one more beautiful emotion. for my emotional moment. For me, it's. peace. I love that. I love that answer, man. It's It's good to hear about what. you've been saying like we're not living. in the past and you're like in the. present, but to have you answer that. question that peace is your presence.

Like that's what you're looking for. Like that's that's the present and it. shows that you're using this like it. works. You're doing it time and time. again and I love what you said it moves. from the physical things into the. subtle, into the emotional, into the the. deeper. I I think that's so profound. What was that one more that if you. didn't do it, you wouldn't be here. today? What was What was one of those. ones that like ah, like that was the one. that convinced me apart from obviously. your father that you were like ah, if I. didn't do that, I wouldn't be here in my. life today. I wouldn't be maxed out. life.

My first The first business I built was. a financial business and I had had some. success, Jay. Like a lot of people do in life and then. it went backwards. And sometimes you get up the flagpole. just a little bit and you come back. down. That's an emotional difficulty. Could be a relationship that was good. that's gone or maybe it saved some money. it's gone. Maybe you lost a bunch of. weight and got fit and you gained it. back. For me, it was my business and I. called my dad. He was a pretty wise guy. now that he was sober. And um cuz I. could tell you, man, I do one more rep. in the gym. I haven't done 10 reps on a. bench press in 30 years. I've done 10.

plus one more a lot though. I haven't. done 45 minutes on a treadmill, but I've. done 45 plus one more minute. 10 contacts a day, never. 10 plus one. more. But the biggest one more was. actually something else. I called my dad. and I said, "Hey dad, it's not going. It. It's the business is crashing. And I'm. I'm running out of money. Our power was. turned off. Our water was turned off, Jay. I had to take my wife every morning. We'd lost our house. We're living in an apartment now. Then. the water got turned off. You can't. cook. You can't bathe.

There was a apartment building we had an. outdoor shower at the swimming pool. And I'd have to We were newlyweds and. I'd have get up every morning, walk down. there, and I'd hold a towel up while my. wife took her shower every day outdoors, and brush your teeth. And then she'd. switch and hold the towel up for me. And I'd walk back up to the apartment, and I was so emasculated, so ashamed, so. embarrassed, and. I was living a nightmare, selling a dream to everybody every day.

We can do this. A lot of entrepreneurs. and people can relate in their life, and. anyway, I called my dad that night, and. I said, "I I think I need to pack it in. I need to go get a job, and just I'm. this success thing is not. it's not for people like us.". And my dad goes, "Eddie, you don't have. to decide you're never going to quit.". He goes, "Just don't quit for one more day. See how you feel tomorrow.". I go, "Well, Dad." He goes, "Just Just. don't do it for one more day." And I got.

the next day, and I still wanted to. quit, but not quite as much. And then I. went one more day, and one more day, and. I found myself about 30 days later, I. didn't want to quit anymore. And thank. God the one more I did was I went one. more day without quitting. And I'm so grateful I didn't quit on my. dream. Oh, Ed, wow, that is like Oh my. gosh, man, like you just everything. you're just dropping right now, I'm just. like I hope everyone is taking notes. If. you haven't been taking notes, you want. to take a screenshot right now of where. we're at right now, cuz that's what. you're going to have to listen to again. So, take a screenshot, share it, tell.

everyone to go to this segment, listen. to that over again, because. I think what I'm hearing, you know, is. that this is this is a lifestyle. Like. this is a mindset, it's a lifestyle, it's a everyday, every moment way to. live. This isn't just in the big. business you're building. This is me. telling my wife I love her one more. time. This is me making sure I message. my mom one more time. It's me making. sure that when I'm sitting here with. you, I'm always going to have to ask you. one more question, because you keep.

giving so much No, but you keep giving. so Well, that's what you just said. It. would never end. I think a people feel. like they tried a lot and then they. start building up resentment and like. pain and bitterness towards that path. And a lot of people also that I know, they just think that there are some. people who are meant to be. I agree with this. And then there are some people that are. not meant to be. That's correct. And they carry that with them and it. comes from this like, "Oh, yeah, you.

were meant to be this or that person was. meant to have it, but for me this is. where" and I heard that kind of come up. in what you were saying to your dad. like, "Doesn't happen to people like. us." How does this rule, how does this. principle apply to someone who's in that. Brother, best question ever. Because I. grew up with no We have an alcoholic dad. or a drug addict or maybe you come from. divorce or maybe your parents just. didn't love you enough, whatever it was, didn't tell you they loved you enough. It's hard to have self-confidence. I was. a little guy, I got bullied in school. and. I just Even at this age now, bro, I I if.

I'm being completely honest, self-confidence. we all teach that it's, you know, part. of keeping the promises you make to. yourself. But what if you raise the. standard a little higher? You keep the. promises you make to yourself, plus one. more. Because for me, self-confidence. didn't come easy. I think in life, ultimately you're going to get what you. believe you deserve. And if you're wound. up, wired like me, I didn't think I deserved a lot. I didn't even have a dad who could stop. drinking. Right? I wasn't 6'4".

I don't have an incredibly high IQ. There's nothing really that impressive. about me, nor were people very impressed. with me most of my life. So, that was my pattern. That was my. history. That was my memory. And so, the only I could wait around. until I develop tremendous. self-confidence or I could begin to do. things. every day that were small. They're not. major. And over time, when I did those. one more calls, that one more meeting, that one more book I read, that one more.

podcast, not only am I doing more reps, so the likelihood of me being successful. is bigger, but I started to convince. myself I'm doing things other people. aren't willing to do. Maybe I deserve. things other people aren't going to get. And slowly but surely, I started to. convince myself I did deserve it based. on what I was doing, not necessarily the. caliber of my talent. Yeah, yeah, yeah. difference. Yeah, you you just There's a. thought I've been having recently and. it's that. comfort creates self-care, Mhm. but.

discomfort creates self-respect. Ooh, boy, I love that. Right? Like it's what you're saying. That the one more discomfort every day, that's where self-respect comes from. Yes. You don't. Great term. You Yeah, you don't you don't start to. trust yourself or build self-esteem or. believe in yourself because you just say. it to yourself. Mhm. It's coming what you just said. You. got to then take one more meeting and. see what you learn. You go out there and. take one more risk, one more discomfort. And I guarantee you if you have a.

successful or happy friend, whichever. how you determine that, and you ask them. this, they'd tell you that we're right. They would tell you, "Gosh, that's. right. It's right." And the difference. between winning and losing, happiness. and sadness, is so small it's almost. it's almost scary to talk about. But the. good news is I think I kind of know what. it is and it's this one more. Absolutely. The people that I know that. are the most successful and happy. Mhm. have more uncomfortable. conversations. Agreed. uncomfortable days. Mhm. They have more. discomfort in their lives.

Yes, totally hear you there. But. selected discomfort. But. one of the other things that I'm asking. from now, I'm like going into like the. people that I know that that I'm I'm. thinking about, I can see their faces, and and I want them to know that I'm. asking for them, a lot of the time one more in the wrong. direction That's right. can also be. really misguided. Mhm. Sometimes uh. people and I know you're a person of. faith too and so so we can touch on. this. Sometimes we're climbing the.

mountain and we keep doing one more, but we're actually going further away. from who we are, who we want to be, our. faith, our partners, right? We we know. people who built. multi-billion dollar companies, but lost. their kids. That's right. Or they've become famous. and rich, but they've. uh their partner cheated on them or you. know like really tough and you know. people who didn't do all of that and. that's happened too. Like it's it's both. ways. How does one use one more and make.

sure it's in the right direction? Such a great question. I I'm doing this. now regularly cuz I've made some of. those mistakes of just. and what I do is I check in with myself. one more time. Meaning, it's important. to ask yourself what matters to me now. See, if you we had this conversation 20. years ago, the things that mattered to. me then are so different than what. mattered to me now, but a lot of us keep. operating out of what used to Maybe. you've achieved or are pursuing a dream. and it's really truly no longer your.

dream. It's no longer your dream. It's. When I was young, listen, if we're going. to do a podcast, you say, "Hey, I need. you on the show. People are going to. love you. You're going to get. recognition. You're going to get You're. going to get all this acknowledgement.". And that would have been my hot button, my need. You know, I believe in the six. human needs. My need was significance. and recognition and there's nothing. wrong with that. It's wonderful. And so. that's the button to get me to move. would be significance, recognition. Well, I've been blessed the last 30. years or so of my life to have a.

beautiful abundance of significance and. recognition. It's no longer what fills. me. Now, you get me to do an interview, you. go, "Hey, I really think we could help. some people." My big button in my life. now is contribution. There was another. stage in my life, it's still there, but. hey, if you go there, you'll grow. I. still want to grow, but I know me now. Right now, I'm in a season of my life. that's contribution. It's giving. It's. what fills my heart. And I think it's. checking in with yourself one more time. What matters to me now? What do I want.

now? What's important to me now? What. season I Maybe you're in a season where. you need to rest. Maybe your spirit and everything about. you is telling you, "Hey, it's time to. feed you again. It's time to recharge.". If that's the season, then answer that. call. Don't play out of a past playbook. And so, for me, that's the season I'm in. now, and I'm sure that in 5 or 8 more. years, you know, there'll be something. else, but I regularly, on a monthly. basis, you recommend it in your book so. beautifully about your relationship, checking in. You have these strategies.

you teach about weekly and monthly and. quarterly and yearly with your partner. of checking in with them. I also. recommend you check in with yourself and. what matters to you now. And so, for me, it's a matter of checking in now so that. I don't lose my family in the pursuit of. my business or lose me. Yeah. Lose me. Who am I anymore? And I've had. times where I'm like, I I This doesn't feel like me anymore. Yeah. And I had the at least the ability to at. least acknowledge that and and make a. change. Yeah, and I love that you. brought up seasons because I feel like.

no one and on planet Earth, we don't. have the power to change the season. Yeah. But you have the power to live the. season well, right? You can either be in. the Right now, it's been raining, right? Wherever we are. It's been like pouring down with rain. There's all this effort. You could carry. an umbrella. Well, you can tell how I'm. dressed. I'm definitely not dressed in. my usual gear. Right. because I'm dressed for the rain. I'm I'm prepared. Yes. Because that's all I can do. I. can't make the rain switch off. I can't. stop it, right? Like I I can't do that.

And so, I love hearing that you're just. learning how to thrive in the season. And so, if your season's telling you to. rest, you can't force the season. And. you you have You have it through. You. have to experience it. I think you have to remember one thing, man. I think it's just easy as a person. to forget this. And I just would love to. say this because you have such an. amazing reach. Each of you, you and I. included, we were born to do something great with. our life. We were born to do something great with. our life. And it's important to check in. from time to time of what that current.

great thing is. And may And sometimes we. think it's the big things. It's the. people that are on both our shows. They've made this big movie. They've got. this big song. They're this big thing. What. You know, who's greater? The man who. helped my dad get sober. or the fact that maybe I've helped some. people because my dad got sober. That. one act was greatness in his life. That. kind moment with another person that. says, I can help you. Let me connect. with you. And so, don't discount your. own greatness, your own call to do. something great. And it doesn't have to.

be a script or a play or a book or a. speech or on social media. It's just. doing something great. And you matter. I. don't I don't mean this hokey. I'm. telling you the truth about you. You. matter. You were born to do something. awesome with your life. Your family's. supposed to do something great as a. family. And if maybe it's just checking. in and reminding yourself of that and. then asking yourself, what is that thing. right now in my life? And so, I just. think that reminder's so important that,

you know, it's great to voyeuristically. look in on successful people or what we. think are successful people. It's also. important that the camera turn back on. you and go, you matter. You matter. You are great. And that's probably the most important. thing we'd say today. Oh, gosh, man. Yeah, and. you know, one thing you just clarified. beautifully is that. great doesn't have to be big and big. doesn't mean great, right? And I think. we're so obsessed today. We are. in that to do something great,

it has to be big, it has to be bold. You. know, when I think about myself, honestly, Ed, and and I can say this to you because I. think I think. in these sessions and when we spend time. together, you've heard my heart. I was one of those people who actually. never believed I could do any of this. stuff I've done. I never set out when I. started and I was like, "Oh, one day I'm. going to be I I didn't have any of. that." That's not how I'm wired. I was. wired in like, "I want to serve. I want.

to serve whoever comes, whether it's. five people, 10 people. I'm happy. I'll. serve them." And as I started to do. that, I got more confidence. Like, "Okay, now I want to serve larger. groups. Okay, let me serve them." And. then it was like, "And I never believed. at any point that there were these. arbitrary, abstract goals of like number. one this or like those weren't how I set. out. And so when I'm listening to you speak, I hope someone's out there thinking, "Jay, I'm like Jay and Ed, I'm like you. guys where it's like I don't vibe with.

all that like like motivation this like. I just vibe with the fact that I want to. have a great impact like the person that. helped your father.". Yeah, and you know what we've both found. in our life, too? Just to give you. insight from someone called me seasoned. today. You know this is that you know the. universe or God really prepares you to. step into the next room when you step in. with some faith. And so maybe it does. start with five or six people and maybe. that's enough, but perhaps. in that space you're in, there'll be a. little door open. And if you step into.

that one, you'll you'll find I think we. think I have to have it all figured out. Wozniak's a good buddy of mine who. started Apple. They didn't They were a. board company. They didn't know they'd. be doing this someday. They stepped into. the next space. And one thing I think we. also want is an immediate result. And I. talk about this in the book. Maybe this. be the last little thing I'll share with. you, but I went to a birthday party as I. was writing the book and it was for a a. young boy. And um they had a piñata. We've all been to a especially living in. California. You have the piñata. And so.

what they did is they took. each of these little guys, they. blindfolded them, and spun them around, and they're all dizzy, and they're. swinging, and they're not even near the. piñata. That's life. A lot of times you. feel like, "Man, I'm blind. I don't even. know where I'm swinging right now, but. I'm swinging." And so, each kid hit the. piñata, and the candy didn't come out. And so, they'd take the blindfold off, that kid got tired, the next little boy. came up, spun him around. So, like seven. of them hit this piñata. No candy came. out. The last boy, the smallest boy, the. youngest boy there, they put the. blindfold on him, they spin him around,

he's swinging, too. That's life. You're. just sort of swinging, right? They. finally point him at the piñata. He hits. the piñata just once. Bam! All the candy. comes out. And all the kids jump on and. celebrate. And I'm watching that, and. I'm going, "Now, who broke the piñata? Was it the. last shot, or was it the cumulative. blows of each of the shots on the. piñata?" Well, we all know the answer. It was the cumulative shots. Life's a. lot like that, man. That we're taking. shots, but we don't see any physical.

progress, but every one more we're doing. is compound pounding progress. And in. life, you have to be willing to buy into. what is invisible progress. Most people. quit on their dream, quit on their. vision before the candy comes out. And. what you and I didn't do was quit. We. just kept swinging. And eventually, the. candy comes out. The candy could be your. bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety, your contribution. But. most people are hitting the piñata of.

their life, and there's no evidence it's. working. But the truth is, there's a compound. pounding effect in life that if you keep. hitting your life's piñata, if you'll. stick around, there'll be some candy. come out. Uh, the power of one more, everyone. Ed Mylett. Go and grab this. book if you haven't already. It's going. to be a life changer. I mean, I mean, you can just feel the energy coming off. this human being. Honestly, uh, I want. you to go read this book. I want you to. go listen to the podcast if you don't. already. The first book was called Max.

Out Your Life as well. The Max Out. podcast. Uh Ed, you are just I mean, your energy is infectious. I don't know. how anyone can't listen to you, read. from you, hear from you, and not feel. like they need to change their life. Like, you've just given me a list of. number ones that I'm going to do. One. more. Uh I hope that we keep coming back on. the show. I hope that we keep getting to. connect offline. Uh I I hope that we get to, you know, keep spending one more day, one more. phone call, one more time together. because. So grateful for you, bro. I love you. Really grateful, man. Thank you so much.

Thank you. Everyone grab the copy of the. book. I'll put it in the link. I'll put. it in the comment section in the. caption. The power of one more. This is the book. Love it, brother. Thanks, brother. That. was That was good. That was good. good. If you loved this episode, you'll love. my interview with Kobe Bryant on how to. be strategic and obsessive to find your. purpose.