EXCLUSIVE: Liam Payne’s Girlfriend Kate Cassidy REVEALS Their FINAL Conversation

[Music]. It's just so hard to process that. He. thought we had all this time and it was. just taken away. Breaking news. Former. One Direction singer Liam Payne has been. found dead at a hotel in Buenazeres in. Argentina. I wanted to ask you why you. felt that you wanted to come here to. speak about this and why right. now I want to talk about how you found. out on the day that we sadly lost Liam. The day I left Argentina was the last.

day I was able to touch Liam to hug. Liam. In that moment, I still didn't. believe it to be true. I was supposed to. be trying on my wedding dress. I wasn't. supposed to be wearing a black dress. What was the last conversation you'd had. with Liam? One thing that really helps me dayto-day. is reading letters that Liam's left me. And I believe you brought one of those. letters that you thought could share. Yeah.

[Music]. The number one health and wellness. podcast. J Shetty. J Shetty. The one, the only J Shetty. Kate, welcome to On Purpose. I want to. start by just checking with you and. asking you how you doing today. Thanks. for having me. I think that's the. hardest question to answer. There's. really no right answer to that. I think. the best thing I can say to that is I'm. doing okay. I have my harder days and I.

have my better days. I think each day it. doesn't get so much better, but each day. I'm just trying my best. And I think. even just trying my best makes me feel. that little bit better. This has just. been such a roller coaster of emotions. and I'm really. just really trying my best. I don't like. I said that's the hardest question to. really put into words to answer. No. And. I wanted I wanted to start off by and I. was sharing this with you when you first.

arrived, but I wanted to share my. prayers, my condolences to yourself, to. Liam, his family, friends, the fans all. across the world. like just my prayers. for him and and for everyone who loves. him because it's such a loss that you. feel. I remember the day it happened and. me and my whole team there was it was it. was something that impacted everyone and. I wanted to ask you why you felt that. you wanted to come here to speak about. this and why right now and why this was.

appropriate timing for you to want to. share some of this story. It's been just. like I said a roller coaster and you. give this such a sense of comfort and I. do want to be able to use my voice and. be able to share my story as this has. impacted me so much and change my life. forever and you give this sense of. comfort and sincerity that I genuinely. feel like I would be just you know and I. am so comfortable speaking and sharing. my story with you and if there's any. opportunity and chance for me to help.

other people that are dealing with grief. mental health, anything like that. I. really want to be able to be able to. help. And even though right now I'm not. I'm not an expert. I don't think anybody. can really be an expert at that. But I'm. going through this day by day and I'm. teaching and learning, you know, teaching myself how to better myself. And I think if there's if I could give. anybody advice and help other people, then I would love to be able to be able. to do that. Well, I want to acknowledge. how brave that is and how commendable. that is. And again, I'm grateful that.

you're here and giving us the. opportunity to hopefully help so many. people as well and hopefully do it from. a place of peace for yourself. So, the. last few months for. you have been drastically different and. changed your life as you mentioned just. now. But before we dive into that, I. wanted to focus on who Kate was before. Liam, before this so that we can. understand you a bit more and your. journey. So, talk to me about Kate. So, grew up in New Jersey. Um, I actually am.

half British. My mom's from England, so. I do have a ton of family in England. Where in England? Um, she grew up in a. town called Edmonton. Um, I'm not too. familiar. That is so close to where I. grew up. Really? Yeah. If if we're. talking about the same Edmonton. Yeah. I. do have some family in England. Um, on. my mom's side. Grew up in New Jersey. After I graduated high school, I kind of. immediately moved out of the house. pretty much. I went to a college in. South Carolina called um Coastal. Carolina University. Graduated there.

after 4 years, moved to Charleston, South Carolina. I think after college, I. wasn't too sure what I wanted to do with. work or with even my life. I think it. was still kind of that, you know, I went. to college, I had such a great. experience. I met so many great people. I'm so glad I have a degree. And I. didn't know though what I wanted to do. Some people obviously go to college for, you know, law school, medical school. they kind of know what path they're. taking. I kind of went to college just. saying, "Okay, I know at some point I'm. going to it's going to click like I know. what I want to do." But I still didn't.

really understand what I wanted to do in. life. So moved to Charleston with a. bunch of my friends. My friends were all. kind of in the same boat, too. We were. all just kind of like, "All right, let's. just take one day at a time. We all. graduated college. We're all kind of. almost in a way like lost. We still we. don't know what to do. College is over. Now what? Now it's like the real life, the real big girl life." And moved to. Charleston alto together and took some. time there just to focus on myself. And. I ended up a couple months later getting. this waitressing job at this restaurant, lounge, bar place. And that's where on.

my second week of working, I met Lamb. And that day is, you know, has changed. my life forever. And it was, you know, I'm such a believer in everything. happens for a reason. And it's I've. talked about this previously in the. past, but it's very, it's just so weird. how sometimes the dots all connect. because I tried so hard to get off work. already my second week. I told my friend. cuz my friend was the one who owned the. restaurant and I told her I honestly. want to I wanted to balance my social. life with work life. So I just said to. her I want to work every other weekend. cuz it was only a weekend shift. It was.

Thursday to Sunday. So I told her I want. to work every other weekend. And then. week two came about and she put my name. on the schedule. And I remember calling. her and I was like wait I thought I. wasn't working backtoback weekends. And. she was like we really need you. Like. it's just our second week of opening. It. was brand new. I tried so hard to get. off. And I was like you know what okay. fine. So I went in and I met Liam that. same night. And it's just crazy because. if I did get off that night, I never. would have met him. So yeah, met him. that night. I was his server and it all. started from there. Thank you for. sharing that. I wanted people to have.

context of, you know, where you've come. from as well. And I can't believe me and. your mom have Edmonton in common. That's. that's still blowing my mind. Uh, I read. somewhere that you said that you had a. crush on Liam ever since you were 10. years old and that you even felt that. you would definitely meet at some point. like there was that sense you had. I. think a woman always has a strong. intuition and I think for me I I was a. One Direction fan and specifically Liam. I remember even a couple years ago like. a fan dug up this old Facebook post and.

it was of me from like 2010 and it was I. think it said like for Zayn comment for. Liam and I commented on my own post Liam. with an exclamation point. And I really. just feel like even the way that me and. Liam met, I just think that the fact. that it was my second week of work, Liam. is in town in this kind of random city. like just randomly and that, you know, I. tried to get off work and I happened to. be his server and then we just clicked.

immediately and just the fact that even. I have all this background and I'm. familiar with England with London and. just we just hit it off the bat. immediately and I really do believe that. people are meant to meet in this life. And I do believe that we were we were. like soul connections. We had that. connection cuz instantly as soon as we. started talking, we had this connection. where it was just so easy. I mean, I'm. not going to lie, of course I was. nervous. I was a fan, so I of course was. so nervous to meet him. I remember. walking up to his table. My heart was. pounding and I was kind of just like, what am I doing? Like this is.

terrifying. Like, hi, I'm Kate. Nice to. meet you. It was terrifying. But he was. just such a humble, kind person. You. would you would never even know that he. was this huge worldwide pop star. You. would never know. And he just had this. sort of spark to him. And he was just so. kind, just so humble, so different than. anybody I've ever met. And just. immediately it was just like just a. spark that we were just a conversation. just flowed so easily and it's just but.

I didn't think of course that oh. conversation's going great. I'm going to. have a future with this man. I didn't. think anything of that. I just thought, "This guy's really great. I this is so. cool to meet him." I had his posters on. my wall when I was 10 years old. I, you. know, drew photos of him when I was 10. years old. So, I didn't know it was. going to go anywhere and then obviously. it did. Kate, thank you so much for. sharing that. And I want to hear a bit. about how did that evolve into this. beautiful relationship. I've seen videos. of both of you dancing together and. attending events together and whatever.

else it may be. like talk to me about. those early months of dating and how. were you managing to spend time together. with his busy schedule where you were. living? How did that all work? He did. end up extending his flight a couple. days in Charleston. I think he was. supposed to leave the ne the following. day and he ended up extending it for. three nights. So he was there for a. couple days. We spent day and night. together immediately. Like immediately. just clicked so well. We would go to the. beach, go to dinners, lunches. We went. bowling. We would do all these. Charleston tours. We just had this click.

and it was just so normal, you know, and. it was nice. I felt like I was his tour. guide. He's never been to Charleston. before. I was able to show him around. He's been all over the world to all. these different places and it was like I. was able to show him the one place he. hasn't been to. So, it kind of gave me. that upper hand. I was like, "Oh, I feel. kind of this is cool that I'm able to. show him these this new place." And he. loved it. He loved Charleston. I ended. up going flying out to England to London. um about like a week later and once. again just inseparable. I mean, hit it. off where it's like we were obviously I.

was staying with him, but we just the. minute we'd wake up, we would just plan. all these things throughout the day to. do all these things and it just felt. right is how I would describe it. Um, it. was just something that it was so fun. and I I could tell like I brought out. this light in him where he was just so. like he was just happy and I think that. I s I saw that in him and we both. brought out this light in each other. I. was happy. He showed me this type of. fairy tale life. And I showed him a. sense of normality, which I think is,

you know, balance is a key in a lot of. relationships. And I think that it was. just so cool to experience so many. things I never would have thought I. would experience or places I never. thought I'd be able to go to in the. world that he took me after being with. him for 2 months, not even. And it's. just, it was crazy. It was insane. And I. was so grateful and blessed to be able. to, you know, experience that with. somebody that I loved and love. How did. it feel like going from I have a crush. on this person to oh my gosh, he's my. boyfriend. Like what was that. realization like? At first it was so.

surreal. I would wake up every day and. just I would even say it to him. I'm I'm. not really a shy person. So I would say. to him, I I can't even believe me and. you are together right now. Like I was a. fan. I was a fan. I would always say. these things to him. It's not like I. would run into my closet and like like. scream out of excitement. I I was honest. with I just was always, you know, saying. to him, "I can't even believe it." But I. think that it got to a point where it. just became so normal and it just felt. so normal. Like you just put all of that.

past you and you know it's still of. course I would always say to him you are. the coolest person I've ever met in my. life and it's just such an honor to be a. part of your life. It's he was the best. person I've ever met and I think that. one day just kind of okay this is. reality. It doesn't you know fame. doesn't change somebody or you know in. his it didn't change him. So it just. felt so normal and just felt so right. Yeah, that's so beautiful to hear. And. what was it like with the media. attention on your relationship in those.

early days? How did you experience that? It. was something I've never experienced. before in my life of course and it was. definitely difficult I'd say in the. beginning. I think also with boy bands. and you know guy like male pop stars I. think they have this fan base that of. course so many girls are so protective. over and I understand that. I mean, this. was One Direction was a part of so many, you know, people's childhoods and I me.

me being one of those. So, I totally. understand that. But I think when we. first kind of were spotted out in public. and I think it might have been maybe our. first Instagram post together or. something, I was just getting flooded. with hate just like you're like, you. know, just just being the new. girlfriend. Kind of like this isn't. going to last. Who even are you? Where. do you come from? Like just nitpicking. everything about me. Just my appearance. down to everything. Just, you know,

people would dig up all these old photos. of me from like 2020, you know, and just. be like, "She looks so different than. she looks now." Comparing photos and it. was just it was just hard to see that. And Liam, you know, Liam would say to me. like, "I'm I'm so like" like he would. feel at fault. be like, "I feel so bad. that you're that you have to put up with. this and deal with this like this, you. know, like if this isn't for you." And I. was like, "I don't care what people. think at all because I love you." So if. people think that our relationship is.

fake or staged or if they think I wear. too much makeup or look 10 times older. like or just have have these little. nitpicking opinions about me. Like at. the end of the day, nobody knows our. relationship like me and Liam. So I. never let it get to me. He never let it. get to him. and he he showed me that. it's not don't let people's opinions get. to you. It doesn't matter. It's always. going to be behind a computer screen and. it shouldn't let it affect your day or. your life. And I completely agree with. that. And I try, you know, I try to have.

the thickest, strongest skin. But I will. say sometimes like one negative comment. will weigh out 10 positive comments. No. matter how strong you are, you see that. one really negative comment, but then. you see 10 really kind, beautiful. comments on top of that. The only one. you're gonna think about all of that day. is the one negative one. You're not. gonna think about like the kind ones. No, it's so true. And it's even harder. when it's almost like a life that you. came into because it wasn't the life. that you had. Yeah. It's extremely thick. skinned for you to be able to say, "I.

love you, so I don't care about it." But. like you said, sometimes things got. through. How did you navigate that. together? How did you navigate that. personally? Because like you said, there's always that one comment that. kind of squeezes through that thick skin. that we have that does affect us and we. all go through it. I know I go through. it. How did you navigate that? How did. you navigate that together? That was. definitely all Liam for me. He almost. like guided me into this way. He he just. built me up. He made me feel like this. amazing human and this he grew up in the.

limelight of fame since the young age of. 14 15 years old. So he's had over at the. time, you know, almost 15 years of. experience of this. And he just. completely always said, "You're going to. get hate no matter what. You're going to. get negativity. It doesn't matter what. you do." He just always said, and I. would see it because people wouldn't. always be so nice to him. And I would. see him just brushing it off. And he. really, you know, sometimes I could see. that one comment that would get to him, but barely. He would just brush it off. and just who cares? And he really taught.

me that it's not important this one. comment. And he really did train me in a. way to realize that life is more than. that and not to let one negative comment. affect your entire day or your life. That's amazing. And to focus on the good. things, focus on the positivity from it, not the negativity. That's that's. incredible to hear. I mean, about his. character and just how comforting and. loving he was and supportive he was. Was. as you just mentioned there that he. sometimes received it too. You know, obviously from my outside perspective,

it's like you look at someone like him. who's so beloved, so uh appreciated, admired. What was he experiencing? What. was he what was he going through? I. think a lot of the negativity and it. always comes with fame like I said. before but he he would just almost it. got to a point where a lot of the things. that he would do he was getting this. negativity brought towards him and it. was just so uncalled for and it's just. so mean and ridiculing and cyber. bullying and he could be out somewhere.

wearing something and people would say. he's trying too hard or he could post. something and people would say oh like. you know he thinks he's all that just. such mean things that and like I said. before he was the most humble person, you know, and I that's how I would say. to him, too. Like these people are just. behind a computer screen. Don't let this. affect you. And he didn't need to hear. that from me. I mean, he's been dealing. with this 15 years. But yeah, he just. for pretty much anything that he did, he. was living under this microscope. People. would love it, people would hate it. He.

would wear something specific and people. would say, "Oh my god, he's dressed. great." But then people would be like, "What the hell is he wearing? He looks. so whatever. And anything he did pretty. much he'd get that mixture of love and. hate. And I think that's with a lot of. people that are living in the limelight. I think no matter what they do will get. that mixture of love and hate. No matter. what. Doesn't matter who you are, what. you do, they will always get that. But I. think he did such a good job of being. able to just push that negativity aside. and just focus on the good and the.

positivity. I mean, he was so talented. and he he knew that and he knew that and. he should know that and just not let. those comments, those hurtful comments. ruin his day because there's no point. The videos of seeing of seeing him happy. and with a smile and just good memories. and good moments made me more sad. because I realized like he's never going. to smile again. And I think ever since. October 16th, I live in a fear of I. don't know what tomorrow will bring. ever. But I think for me, one thing that.

really has helped me so much and that. makes me feel so full of light and love. is seeing signs. And. I see so many signs of Liam. He seems. like a humble, wonderful, kind, giving. human being. And at the same time, was. he already struggling with addiction and. mental health challenges when you both. met, or was that something that you saw. develop? He's been pretty open about his. mental health and I think it's something.

he struggled with for definitely a good. amount of time. Um, even before we were. together, um, it was no secret and I. think that, you know, with mental health. and addiction, it really is, you just. never really know what way it's going to. go and it's just a flip that can switch. I think that for him, yeah, he. experienced struggles with mental health. for years before. um dating me as well. And I think that.

he did struggle with addiction. Um and I. think again he was pretty open about. that. And like I said with mental. health, it's kind of the same thing. where it's like you addiction is. something where obviously you don't want. to have that addiction. And it's. something, you know, if he could have. chose to just be sober the rest of his. life, he would have been. It's just. something. that I at first I think didn't fully. understand. I don't have addiction that.

runs in my family. Um, I didn't really. understand it at first. So, to be. completely honest, I think in the. beginning of our relationship when he. was struggling a little bit, I think. that I remember just kind of being like. in my head like, "Well, can't you just. not do that?" But, it's not that easy. It's not easy at all. And they don't. want an addict doesn't want to do that. He doesn't want to pick up a drink. He. doesn't want to take a certain.

substance. like they don't want to do. that, but they it's almost like their. brain is wired to pick up that beer, to. do that thing. And that's when I started. to realize like this is a this addiction. is a serious thing. Yeah. I I think that. makes so much sense. I feel for all of. us if you haven't seen someone with an. addiction close up, you actually don't. realize how deeply conditioned and wired. it is for that person. And it's so easy. from afar to say, "Oh, why can't you. just stop?" or why can't you just quit.

or why can't why can't you just not do. that? And that's a natural feeling. people have. But as you move closer to. someone who has an addiction, you. recognize it's actually them acting. against their own will. It can be really. something that just pulls them towards. it even when they really don't want it. And you know, whenever I've met or seen. people with addiction, I've I've seen. that to be the case. And I really. appreciate you being so honest about it. because I think when you're new to it, when you don't have an experience of it,

that is how we process it. How did you. start to notice it? When was it that you. started to notice that this wasn't. something that just goes away or that he. can stop? And how did you adapt and. change and show up for him in those. times? I think it was I finally. realized, you know, that this is. something he did not choose, you know, something that he does not want to. choose. um when he would like I said. prior it's we would have the best day we. would have such a great day and then.

later on that night it was just. something would just tick in his brain. where he couldn't help himself and I. think that's a huge factor with. addiction in our relationship balance. was definitely a huge key I really tried. to do what I could to help him and. better him and distract his mind for me. I'm really not a home buddy at all and. Liam was a home buddy And that's okay. But for me, I didn't want to be at home. from the minute I wake up to the minute. I go to sleep. And one thing I remember.

closer to the beginning of our. relationship was that I remember Liam. would always order us um coffee from. Starbucks um on Uber Eats every morning. And I eventually said to him, I was. like, this is before I got my, you know, I was able to drive and learn how to. drive on the other side of the road in. England, as you know. And I remember. saying to him, I was like, you know, you. have a car. Why don't we just go out and. grab a coffee? Like, why do we have to. order one every single morning from. Starbucks? And he just would always say,

I just I don't really want to get out of. bed. Like, I don't want to get out of. bed yet. I just want to have like a lazy. morning and then we'll go do something. later on. And for me, I prefer to. actually wake up early, go grab a cup of. coffee, go on a Starbucks drive-thru, sit on the drive-thru. I know it's. something so small, but it makes my day. feel 10 times more productive, just. getting out of bed rather than sitting. in your bed and waiting for a coffee to. show up right at your doorstep. So, for. me, I think balance was a huge key. factor in helping Liam with his mental. health. You know, I tried to make sure. that we weren't busy 24/7 because he.

wouldn't have liked that. That's like. him trying to keep me at home 24/7. I. wouldn't have liked that. So, I think a. balance was great. You know, some nights. we would go out to a nice dinner and. then go watch a movie after and then. play mini golf or something or go. bowling and then come home, but then. other nights we would cook dinner at. home, watch a movie at home in bed and. then play we bowling, you know, like we. didn't have to be out all the time, but. I think balance is so good, especially. when you do struggle with mental health.

to help get that person kind of out of. their shell and out of the house. And. that's something that I really tried to. and some days, you know, he wouldn't. really want to leave the house. And I. would just kind of say to him, "Come on, like, we're getting out of the house. I. have I found this cool museum. We're. going to go here." And just at the end. of the day, everything that we did, we. would never regret it because I knew in. a way we succeeded the day. I got him. through his mental health that day. I. got him out of that headsp space. And I.

remember um in Greece a couple months. ago before um Liam passed away, we were. in Greece and he was posting on his. Snapchat and he was having one of those. days where he woke up and he wasn't in. the best headsp space. And I said to. him, "All right, get dressed. We're. going to the beach. It's we're in. Greece. It's 80° 90° weather. Why are we. in the hotel room? We're going to the. beach." He didn't want to go to the. beach. He said to me, "I don't want to. I want to stay in the hotel room. And I.

remember saying to him, "No, we're going. to the beach. It's a 5-minute walk and. then if you want to come back to the. hotel room, we'll come back to the hotel. room after. Let's just get out for even. 30 minutes. Let's go." So, we go to the. beach and he's posting these Snapchat. stories and in a way he's kind of. joking. He's posting these videos and. pictures. He's kind of joking saying. like, you know, my girlfriend dragged me. to the beach. I don't want to be here. But part of him was being serious. And I. remember when he put that out, I was I. actually the next day received a lot of. hate from that because the fan base.

don't know what goes on behind closed. doors. So they took it as in I I I force. Liam out of the house. I force him to do. things he doesn't want to do. Like he. didn't want to go to the beach, but his. girlfriend's dragging him to the beach. But I just did it to help better his. headsp space that day. And at the end of. the day, we had a great time at the. beach. We we did. And we ended up. getting lunch after. We made a whole day. out of it instead of just sitting in the. hotel room all day. And once again, I. knew that day we succeeded. It was at. times a lot for me and um I am not a.

professional. I never was and I you know. am so young and I was so young at the. time and I really just tried to do. everything that I could and I just I. think one thing that people need to. realize is that you cannot fix somebody. and you cannot cure somebody. they could. really only do it themselves. Um, I. think that's one thing back to what I. was saying earlier that I just kind of. was like, why can't, you know, why does. he have to do this? Like, can't he just. stop? Or, oh, I'm going to run in and be.

the big hero. He's going to, you know, he's going to I'm going to save the day. But at the end of the day, you cannot. cure somebody, but you can you can help. them. You can support them through their. better days, their worst days, always, but you can't cure somebody. And I think. that's one thing that a lot of people. don't realize in addiction that you and. mental health you can't cure somebody. Yeah. Absolutely. And it and it's a lot. to try even beyond this situation. I. think it's it's so hard and I'm. empathizing with so many people who are. probably listening and watching to this. right now who are trying to support a.

partner through something like this or a. friend or a family member. And it can be. really hard on you because you take on. this responsibility, you take on this. role and every day it changes, right? It's not linear. I think a lot of people. think it gets better every day, but you. could get better for 3 days and then. feel like you move back four steps. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Shifting every. single day. And it's very challenging. for both people because the person who's.

suffering doesn't want to put that on. the other person and the person who's. trying to help wants to let go of that. suffering. And so it's heavy for both. people. It's also not just a one-way. thing. Yeah. It's both sides. I've I've. I've seen people through addiction and. having mental health disorders that are. just feeling so bad for their caretaker. or their partner or friend who's trying. to help them through it. Yeah. Yeah. And. I think something like that too, you. have to in order to help and care for. somebody else, you have to not forget to. care about yourself. And that's one.

thing I think I at times was kind of. forgetting to do or, you know, a lot of. people could probably relate to that if. they're in a similar situation. And you. have to be able to care and better. yourself as well. You can't just let. yourself forget about yourself. You need. to make sure that you care about. yourself as well and that other person, of course. Both. Yeah. Did you overall. feel like things were getting better? Did you feel that he was moving in the. right direction? Like what was your. thoughts about how that progress was. happening for him? It was more so.

positive than it was negative. I think. he made you know like you said before a. lot of you know he would take five steps. forwards and then three steps backwards. It would be kind of one of those things. Um he was a very strong strong person. So he had a strong mindset where he. could really he could better himself at. times, but it's just that flip that that. switch that just flips. where you wake up one morning and it's. almost like he doesn't have a choice, but he feels a certain type of way. So.

Kate, I want to talk about how you found. out on the day that we sadly lost Liam. and what happened that day. Where were. you and how did you find out? I was in Florida and it was about 3 days. after I got back from Argentina. Um, I. was in the house alone with our dog. Nala. And I remember just being on the. couch. I feel like that whole day was.

kind of a blur for me. Um, well, not the. day, but that moment in time. I was on. the couch and I got a phone call from. one of Liam's friends and he called me. and said, "Is Liam okay?" I heard he. fell from a. balcony. And I said, "What? That must be. a rumor." I was like, "That's not true. at all." Like, there's no way. This this. isn't true. And when his friend first. called me, too, he didn't mention. anything about death. So, the first. thing that went to my mind was either it.

was a rumor, just something for. clickbait, or he fell off a balcony and. he broke a rib, like he's okay. Um, so. I'm making all these phone calls and. nobody's. answering the call. And eventually I. call the friend back. At this point, I'm. like starting to freak out, but I didn't. think the worst. So, I'm not even like. panicking too too much and I'm starting.

to get a little bit panicky. I call his. friend back and I say, "Um, have you heard any updates? I'm. really confused. Like, what's going on?". And he was like, "The only update I've. heard is that Liam's Liam's um Liam's. dead." And. um in that. moment I um in that moment I still. didn't believe it to be true. There was. just no way. But there was just that one.

little part of me in the back of my head. that was like why would somebody make. this up? You know, I'm just starting to. panic at this point. At at this point, I'm thinking of okay, this this must be. true. And I'm pacing around the house. I. couldn't even sit still. Like I was. genuinely there was like sweat dripping. down me and I've never experienced that. before. And I was just I just I couldn't. stop fidgeting with my hands. I couldn't. be on my phone. At this point, my phone.

was getting blown up. So, this news, whether it be the r this rumor that. wasn't true cuz I didn't have. confirmation yet or this true news that. I was I just found out 2 minutes ago, my. phone was completely getting blown up by. my friends, my family, people that I. haven't spoken to in years. I was. getting missed calls from. And I'm just. staring at my phone and I'm. like, not even looking at my messages, but just I knew exactly what these calls. were for. I'm I'm pacing around the.

house freaking out. Um, and. eventually his friend called me. back and. he said that Liam's not here anymore and. he's not he's he's dead and he fell to. his death. And I I still I still didn't. really believe it. I I just I kept. saying, "No, no, no. He's are Are you. sure? He's he's probably just He broke. He broke a bone. He broke a rib. He. broke something like he's not dead. He's.

not dead. There's there's no way he's. dead. There's no way. And his friend. said, "He's dead." He was like, "I can't. really talk for I can't talk. I I I just. need to let you know the news. I'll call. you back later." And at this point, I. just lost it. I I just even talking. about it, it brings all these emotions. back where it's just still doesn't even. feel true talking about it. Sometimes I. can talk about it without crying. And. then other times I can't really even.

speak because it's just so the way that. I found out it's just something that I. never would have thought would have. happened. And I'm sitting in my house. I'm all alone with my dog. I didn't want. to be on my phone because like I said, it was getting blown up. And. um our housekeeper pulled in the. driveway and our housekeeper left. earlier that day and she. um she you know. I we got along really well and I guess.

as soon as she pulled in the driveway I. looked out out you know I looked out the. front door I saw a car pull in the. driveway. She put in the garage code ran. in the house and just literally fell on. the ground and just hugged me and just. said I am so sorry I just got home. The. first thing I did, I put on the news and. it was the first thing after getting. back from your house and it was just me. and her and she was so comforting and. brought me water, brought me tissues and. eventually this is when all of my my. friends came over um to support me.

Obviously, my mom and dad are in New. Jersey. So, my mom got on a flight the. next day. Three of my best friends from. uh childhood all got on a flight the. next day. All flew down to be with me. It was hard and it just it just still it. was just something I never thought I. would ever get that phone call. Yeah. People talk about phone calls you never. want to receive in life and that's. definitely one of them. I can't imagine. the the shock, the lack of power, control, ability to change anything in.

that moment. The lack of feeling. helpless and con confirmation not. confirmation. I mean there's so many. emotions that are running there. I again. so sorry to even hear about it that way. and you know the courage that you have. to share it right now I'm sure it's not. easy at all. What was the last. conversation you'd had with Liam? Is. that something that you were thinking. about then? Did you remember that? I. think when I think about the last day.

and the last words that we said to each. other, I it brings me this mixture of. pain and peace and it brings me pain. because I can't fully still process that. that day was the day I left Argentina. was the last day I was able to touch. Liam, to hug Liam, to speak to him, to. be in the same room as him. But it. brings me peace because it was such a. beautiful last moment we had together. On our last day, we woke up. We had an.

amazing breakfast. We were in the. countryside. We went horseback riding. and I had a later on evening flight. And. um me and Liam had this almost I don't. even know what other word to describe it. but we had this clinginess to us where. even how we met we kind of just met. instant spark and our relationship moved. very quickly and some people might say. it's too quick you know people are going. to say what they want to say but I would. never change anything about it and if I.

even went away for one night to go spend. the night at my girlfriend's house or. even go to dinner with my girlfriends. the way me and Liam would say goodbye to. each other wasn't just like oh I'll see. you. majority of the time it was this. heartfelt long goodbye for at least 5. minutes of just hugging. I'm going to. miss you. I love you. And on the last. day in Argentina, my car was in the. driveway and we went back into the guest. house, grabbed my suitcase and we were. sitting on the couch and I just kept.

going on and on and on about how much I. love him and how much he means to me and. how much I'm going to miss him and that. I can't wait for him to already be back. in Florida because we were starting this. new chapter of our life. We just bought. a new house. We just got a dog. We just. moved to America as well. I mean, I was. living in England with him for 2 years. We just moved to, you know, my country. It was just all these new beginnings and. it was in just such a positive light. So, I remember sitting there with him. and I was going on and on and on and.

saying to Liam how much I love him and. he laughed and he interrupted me and he. just said, "Kate, like, you're going to. miss your flight. Your car's in the. driveway. You're acting like this is the. last time you're ever going to see me. again." Wow. I just laughed back. I was. just like, I know I'm being silly. I I. need to get in the car. I can't miss my. flight. Just to even look back at in. time and just know that really was the. last the last time I was able to see him. again is just so.

chilling. But in a way, I think that the. way that we said goodbye to each other, I'm so blessed. And this is where I get. that piece from it that it was that. heartfelt beautiful. I didn't know of. it, but obviously our last goodbye. I. wouldn't have wanted it to be any. differently if it was just if I just. said, "All right, I'll see you in a. couple days." Like, "Love you." I'm so. glad that we had that last beautiful. moment together and shared that. I can.

see how much you're holding back and how. hard this is for you. just, you know, I. think when people lose people and you. know, a family member sick, there's a. it's never easy ever. Mhm. But there's a. preparation. There's there's time to. process with a tragic moment like this, which you're not expecting at all, and. then to have the shock of it. Did you. want to fly to Argentina? Like, what was. even going through your mind? I think my. first thought definitely was yes to get.

on a flight to Argentina. But then after. all my friends and my mom came to. Florida, I just realized there would be. no point. And it's just better to not be. in a foreign like foreign country. I. don't know anybody in Argentina. I don't. have family or friends there. So just to. be in a home where I feel comfortable. being and being surrounded by such a. great support system is just going to be. so much better for my mental health. I.

knew of course if I had to be there I. would have been there but there was. almost no point in me going there. I. think obviously being in Florida for. those couple of days after finding out. the news and then being in England was. definitely where I needed to be was. being in England. I think a lot of us. when we lose someone when we lose. someone a lot of us focus on the moment. we find out but we don't often ask. people how they felt the morning after. because it's almost like when you wake.

up and the news is still true and you. realize it's real it almost feels. heavier. What was that next day and that. next morning like? It was a mixture of. this numbness where I didn't sleep at. all that night. The first night I. couldn't sleep at all. I remember just. because of also the time difference and. obviously England I was just on the. phone back and forth with a lot of. family and friends in England. My. friends um who were with me stayed up. all night with me. I don't think any of. us could sleep. I mean Liam was even you.

know he made such an effort with my. friends and they looked at Liam as a. friend as well. So we all lost they lost. a friend. I lost the love of my life. I. remember one thing my friends. immediately they said to me after. obviously the news the first night they. basically took my phone and deleted. social media. They were like don't. redownload this. You don't want to see. anything because there were a lot of. um images and things that were coming. out on the web that they were protecting.

me that I shouldn't have seen. So, I. didn't have social media for a couple. days, honestly. Maybe 3 days, which is. no time at all. And I'm ashamed to even. say that I redownloaded Tik Tok. I think. after 3 days, it was everywhere in the. media. It was, you know, I would just. scroll on TikTok and it was my entire. video after video. Liam and just I think. the videos of seeing of seeing him happy. and with a smile and just good memories. and good moments made me more sad.

because I realized like he's never going. to smile again and he's never it's just. an end to creating any future memories. It was harder for me to see those. videos. But yeah, the morning after was. just numb. I think with grief it comes. in so many different emotions. I've. never lost anybody extremely close to. me. I've never been to a funeral before. And the fact that I'm 25 years old and. the first funeral that I have to attend. is my partner's funeral just still.

doesn't sit right with me. And it's just. mindboggling to even think that. I. remember when I was trying on my funeral. dress. Um, I remember just trying it on, looking in the mirror, and I just. remember thinking in my head, I just. started balling cuz I was like, I was. supposed to be trying on my wedding. dress. I wasn't supposed to be wearing a. black dress. I was supposed to be. wearing a white dress, and Liam was. supposed to be here with me, you know? So, it was really hard to accept this. reality of knowing he's not here.

anymore. I mean, when I'm hearing. that, I feel like losing someone is hard. enough. And then losing someone when. they're in the public eye and they have. fans all over the world. And then when. you're every post you see is about that. person and what's happened. It's it's a. different thing to deal with. And where. everyone knows who thinks they know or. knows who that person was, it's it's a. very different thing to go through. And.

I find that you're not only grieving the. loss of someone you loved, um, but. you're also grieving the life that you. were going to build together. It sounds. like when you talk about getting. married, was that something that you. both had spoken about and talked about? I mean, for me, I think that most. couples, of course, why would you be. with somebody if you don't expect to. have a future with them? It's something. we definitely spoke about and something. that we knew when the time was right. that we wanted to develop and build this. life together. And I think we were.

really on our way of doing that by. moving to America, getting this new. house. I was starting to think of buying. some new decorations and all the all. these things. And you know, having a dog. and we were just kind of on our way. there. And to have that ripped from you. is just in one day. I mean, you really. never know what tomorrow will bring. And. I think ever since October 16th, I live. in a fear of I don't know what tomorrow. will bring ever. But everything just got. completely ripped away from me in that.

one day. I know it hasn't been very. long, but what has helped you with the. grieving process over the last few. months? And as you're in that process. and journey still, what's been useful to. you? What was helpful to you? And and. what was unhelpful as well? Because I. think so many people listening or. watching whether they've lost someone. close to them or I think people struggle. to know what to say. People struggle to. know what to do themselves when they've.

lost someone. What what worked for you. I think at the end of the day, you need. to listen and trust your heart because. grief comes in so many waves, so many. different emotions. You're going to wake. up, you're going to feel numb. You're. gonna wake up, you're gonna feel sad, you're gonna feel angry, you're going to. feel one day, you're gonna wake up and. you're gonna laugh and you're going to. just think of good moments you had and. then you're gonna find yourself just. this laugh turning into this hysterical. cry. And I think that grief is something. that you never know what to. expect and it hits everybody so.

differently. So I think the best, you. know, some advice that I would give just. some general advice would be to always. trust your gut. Some things for me might. not work for other people. I think. keeping a consistent, of course, schedule routine. And I'm not saying. waking up in the morning from 9:00 a.m. having a strategic plan throughout the. day, and then not getting home until. 8:00 p.m. Of course not. Your mind needs. time to rest and think and heal. But. even just if you take one activity per.

day, it could just be walking, baking, going to the gym, going to applies. class, just any type of small thing, it. just helps so much with your headsp. space. But I think for me, one thing. that really has helped me so much and. that makes me feel so full of light and. love is seeing signs. And. I see so many signs of Liam and I'm such. a believer in signs. I believe in.

manifesting and I know that he's with me. and I feel him all the time. And I. remember at first when he passed away, I. didn't feel him for I'd say the first 5. days. And I know that's not a long. amount of time, but obviously five days. when you're not with somebody after. being with them 247, it feels like, you. know, five years. So I remember getting. kind of angry and just being like. talking to Liam and just saying, "Why.

haven't you shown me any signs?" And I. remember one day, it was before I flew. out to England, so I was still in our. house in Florida. I sat on his the floor. of his closet and I started crying. hysterically and I was so angry with. him. I said, "Show me a sign. This is so. unfair. Like, are you here with me? Show. me a sign. And this is a stage of grief. that also I want people to know it's. okay to be angry and it's okay to cry. and it's okay to say things. It's okay.". And I was crying and I was just saying, "I'm so disappointed. I love you so.

much, but I need you to show me a sign. cuz I don't feel you." And I remember I. went back downstairs and it's just it. was such a simple thing, but my friends. asked me, "Do you want anything from. McDonald's?" And at this point, it was. so hard for me to even hold down food. I. was barely eating. And for me, me and. Liam, we loved McDonald's. It was. something that we would probably get. like twice a week, which I know is not. the healthiest option. It was just a. part of like just kind of our childlike.

things to do. And we would always get. the Happy Meal toy. We always would get. the Happy Meal toy. It was always also. Liam's idea to do that. He was such a. kid at heart and he would always get the. Happy Meals toy. And I said to my. friends, "You know what? Get me a kids. meal. I'm not even hungry. I really. don't want to eat, but I'll try to I'll. try to eat something, but I just want to. see what the Happy Meal toy is. I really. just I want to see what it is." So, they. came back. They brought me the the Happy. Meal. And it came in this like because. it was around Halloween, it came in this. trickor treat bin. Instead of the.

cardboard McDonald's like happy mail box. and I remember when they gave it to me, I was I was annoyed because I was like, "This is the happy meal toy." I thought. I was going to get like a little cute. thing that maybe would have been a. symbol of Liam or something that Liam. would have liked or something like cute. that could just make me feel a little. lifted. I was just my head was. everywhere. Just even thinking that I. could get any sort of positivity and. light from a happy meal kids meal toy. That was just where my head space was. And I was so angry. I didn't get any.

type of toy. I just got a trick-or-. treat bin that obviously I'm not going. trick-or-treating. So then I open the I. opened the lid to try to eat some of the. food and I noticed there's this maze on. the back of the lid. And it was kind of. one of those mazes where it's like count. how many black cats, count how many. ghosts, count how many pumpkins you can. find. And I obviously I didn't try to. even do the maze. Why would I? And on. the back of it, it said the answers in. small little letters so you can I guess. match it up to see if you won the.

puzzle. And our angel numbers have. always been four. Any sequence of four. And the answers on the back of it were. four, four, four. And that was. immediately the first sign I got from. Liam. And the number four symbolizes. guidance and support from your angels. And this has been such a big part of our. relationship. I mean, he had the number. four initial on his finger. I ended up. getting it after he passed away. And I. think that four was such a big part of. our every single letter he's written me,

he has ended it with you're 444. It's. just it was always our thing. So, the. fact that I got these this happy meal. toy and the answer said four for four, that was Liam listening to me and he was. giving me a sign saying, "I know I am. here. I am here. You're not alone. Like, I am here." And it made me feel so just. my I just lit up. I remember. And I. still I still kept the little map. I. have it folded up and it's in my bedside. drawer. And it sounds like you've seen. so many other signs after that as well. Yeah, I have. And I see so many signs.

And I came to LA obviously to be here. I. came to LA and I've never been to LA. with without Liam before. I've only been. with Liam. We've went a handful of times. together and we've created so many. memories here. And when I landed in LA, I felt like part of me was missing. I. just even getting on the plane, just. sitting alone, you know, not next to. Liam, just felt so wrong. And I just. still, you know, everything that I do, I'm I'm missing Liam. I'm thinking of. Liam.

being in this city that I love and I. have this connection with LA. I love it. so much without the person that I love. who brought me here and showed me around. LA and introduced me to this wonderful. city. It just felt so empty. And I think. on my second or third night here, me and. my friend went to a basketball game and. we were on our way to the basketball. game. We were in an Uber and everywhere. we were just seeing fours everywhere. on. license plates. We are seeing it on. billboards, phone numbers, like on.

billboard everywhere. Just the number. four. And then we get into the. basketball game. We go into a suite and. every suite's like, I'm assuming. decorated differently. That's normally. how it is. It has like a different type. of interior design, especially at this. arena. And we walk in and the wallpaper. is the exact same wallpaper as me and. Liam's bathroom wallpaper in England. And it's so unique. I've never seen a. wallpaper like this before. It's lion. heads with this floral design. It's.

something that's not just a color or not. this sort of design that you would see. shopping for, you know, a painting at TJ. Maxx. It's just this design that I've. never seen before moving into this house. in London with Liam. And the fact that. that was in the suite, I immediately, that's the first thing. I walked into. the suite and I just stopped. I turned. to my friend. I said, "This is the same. wallpaper that me and Liam had in our. bathroom in London." And then we leave. the basketball game. At this point, it's. kind of late and we just want to get. some food in us. So, we go to this quick.

little restaurant for a bite to eat. We. were the only ones in the restaurant cuz. I think their kitchen was about to close. within 5 minutes. We walk into the. restaurant and the song that's playing. as we're walking in is Night Changes by. One Direction. And the first place my. eyes go to is the TV screen behind um. the booths. And it was Liam on the. screen. They were playing the music. video and it was just three sign three. big signs in a row being here in LA and. I just knew Liam was with me that night.

and Liam was there at that basketball. game with us. Liam was there that night. eating tacos with us. He was there with. us and seeing those signs make me feel. so much more connected and close to him. and that I know he's here and he's. listening to me and he's he's far but. he's not too far. Yeah. I had the. pleasure of interviewing Laura Lynn. Jackson who wrote the book Signs. Yeah. And I love that book. For anyone who. loves learning about signs, loves. knowing about signs, that that book is.

speaking so closely to I don't know if. you've ever seen it or ever met Laura. Lynn, but she speaks so beautifully. about how all of us have different. whether it's numbers, whether it's. emblems, symbols, things that we can see. anywhere that points to us that we're. moving in the right direction. And uh. yeah, me and my team have had some. pretty crazy experiences when we were. preparing for that interview and met her. and everything else as well. And so, thank you for sharing those because it's. amazing to see how Liam's so alive in. your life and so so present in your.

life. And I can imagine that's hard too. I'm curious to know what's been the. hardest part of the last few months for. you because as much as it's wonderful to. see Liam being present in all these. places, I'm sure it's hard as well. I. think the hardest thing that this has of. course brought me is this loneliness. feeling and it you go from being with. somebody 24/7 to knowing and facing the. reality that you're never going to see. this person again in this life. And that.

for me is something that I still just. cannot fully process in my mind. And I. think that is always in the back of my. mind. I think going places to everything. reminds me of Liam. I could be having a. specific coffee flavor from Starbucks. and I'm just thinking, Liam, love this. coffee. I bring, you know, I bring up. Liam in almost every conversation I have. because everything reminds me of him. And at the end of the day, I'm thinking. about him every second of every single. day. I could be having a full convers. full-blown conversation with somebody.

about something completely off topic, something just completely not involving. me, involving Liam, and always in the. back of my head, I'm just thinking, Liam, Liam, Liam. And then even some of. the things that I don't connect with. with Liam, things that we haven't done, mo memories that we haven't made yet or. moments that we haven't shared together. remind me of him because I I'll think to. myself, Liam would have loved this or I. wish Liam was able to experience this or. I wish we were able to try this. together. So everything reminds me of. him in one way or another. You know, I.

think we often think of grief as a. almost as if we're waiting to wake up. one day and we don't feel what we felt. anymore. And that's for anyone who's. tried to grieve knows that's not true. And it doesn't happen like that. And. it's almost like this very dayto-day. thing. Dayto-day we can feel different. things, feel different. emotions. One day we can be an absolute. wreck. one day we can speak with love. about the person that we've lost. What's.

been helping you dayto-day? One thing. that really helps me dayto-day is. reading letters that Liam has left me. And I think in today's generation, it's. not as common to leave letters. And I'm. not talking just about birthday letters, a birthday card or a Christmas card, just letters that are heartfelt and that. in the moment you want to surprise and. leave your loved one this letter. And. throughout me and Liam's relationship, he has written me, I mean, he was he was.

a songwriter. He was he was so good with. his words. He was almost like a poet in. a way. And one of his love languages was. to put his thoughts and words on paper. And he would leave me these notes all. around the house. And I have every. single note that he's left me ever since. the very beginning to the very end. And. we could be at a diner and he'll write. me a small little I love you on a napkin. and I'll fold it up and put it in my. purse. I keep everything that he's given. me. And honestly, if it weren't for. these notes and letters that he's. written me, I don't even know where my.

headsp space would really be at because. I think when you're reading a letter in. somebody else's handwriting, you. genuinely when you're reading it to. yourself, in your mind, you hear this. person. You hear his voice. And it's. just this connection that means so much. more than something on text or a. compliment in person. And that's so. important, too, of course. But it's. something about just a letter just. speaks so much volume. It just means so. much. And I believe you brought one of.

those letters with you there, that you. thought could share. Yeah. When was this. letter written? This letter was um more. towards the beginning of our. relationship. Another part of his love. language was to, you know, give gifts. and sentimental gifts that would last a. lifetime. something that maybe even I. could pass down to my future children. And any single gift he's given me has. always comes with a card and or a. letter. And this letter here um.

says, "The reason I picked this watch. out for you is because it doesn't have. any numbers on it. And my love for you. is. endless. It literally means eternity. So now, every time you look down at your. wrist, you can know and remember that my. love for you is. timeless. We have all the time in the. world to learn our love language for. each other. And I hope and pray that I. get this right for you with every tick. and every talk this watch makes. From.

this second onwards, I love you with all. my heart, Kaitlyn, and I won't lose you. You're 444. Sorry, but just sometimes reading it out. loud. just it's just so hard to process that. It's like we thought we had all this. time and he thought we had all this time. and it was just taken. away and it's this is the watch and it's.

so it's so special to me and I just you. know this is something that I will. always everything he's given me but this. watch I will always cherish and. especially ever since he's passed away I. I read this note so often and I look. down and I I just like he he you know he. wants me to look down at my wrist and. remember him and you know it's not in. the way that we thought but this this. watch is so special and it's even the.

way he gave me this watch it was I. remember he came home one day and he. said I got you a gift and I said you. didn't have to what okay like that's so. kind what is it and Liam would always. bring me gifts and they weren't always. these luxurious items. Sometimes he'd. bring me McDonald's Happy Meal toy that. he got earlier that day after work or he. would bring me a coffee or just a card. or a note or flowers. It was always.

something different. And he said, "You're going to have to go find it. It's in the backyard." And I was like, "What do you mean?" He was like, "I just. thought we'd make fun out of it. I want. you to remember this gift." So I hid it. in the backyard. We're going to have a. scavenger hunt. And I'm just in the. backyard running around everywhere and. he's kind of just saying, "Warmer, colder." And finally, I look behind this. chair bench thing we had in our backyard. and I see this box and this card on top.

of it. And every gift he's given me has. a story to it. And I think that's. something that's so important, too. And. so important with me, too. I have not. only these cards that I can read, but. these gifts, small or big, doesn't. matter. That I they each have a story. and a memory to it. They're not they. weren't just given to me like, "Oh, I. picked this up today. I thought of you. Thought you'd like it. Okay, I'm going. to go shower now." The every single. thing he's given me has such a story. behind it. And I'll cherish this watch. for the rest of my life and everything. he's given me. Thank you for sharing.

that with us and letting us into, you. know, the beautiful love that you both. shared and also knowing how powerful it. is for the people we love and the people. that love us to have these memories that. we can hold on to so deeply, especially. as you said so wonderfully in the form. of letters. I think it's such a. beautiful message for you to share with. everyone that what's helping you. dayto-day is these cards, these letters, these moments in time that you've kind.

of kept as this capsule that you can. turn to and experience that love even if. it is challenging, but to reconnect with. it and feel closer again to Liam as. well. So, thank you so much for for. sharing that with us. as as I've been. listening to you today, I think you're. really brave and courageous to to share. the journey that you both went on, the. journey that you've been on can be very. hard. with anyone who's beloved by so many.

people all over the world. Like I said, you know, everyone in my life when we. found out the news, there were messages. being shared and people who didn't know. him. So I can't imagine you know. yourself, his family, everyone else. who's actually gone through this loss. and had to process it publicly as well. What's something that you think this. outpouring from the fans? I mean the. response from the online world was so. beautiful to see and it's always this is.

something that I find so difficult that. when people are alive they rarely get to. see how much everyone loves them and we. deal with this back and forth. of criticism challenge whatever else it. may be and then when we lose. someone we all. realize how we actually felt about that. person and how they made us feel. And we. remember the first time we saw that. person on screen or the first time we.

met them, if we got that, or the first. time we went to a concert for someone. like Liam, or you you start seeing all. of these stories and memories pour out. And so when you look at that outpouring, what would you have loved for Liam to. have experienced? I think I just would. have loved for Liam to know how loved he. really was. And I think he knew that to. an extent, but with any type of. criticism he was receiving, he didn't. have that validation of knowing how much. of an impact and how much the world. loved him and, you know, loves him, you.

know, still every single day for the. rest of his life. I mean, Liam is going. to be spoken about forever. He was he. made such a mark on people's lives and. impacted so many. And I really do wish. he was here to see the love and support. he's received from everybody worldwide. because it's it's really nothing but. beautiful and the memorials that people. have put together, the tributes, and. it's just he deserved it. And as time. goes by, he's going to get this. recognition and this love and support.

And I couldn't be more proud of him. And. I do wish he was here to be able to see. the tremendous legacy that he's left. behind. and it's something he deserves. And I think this is just another message. to be kind to people, especially online. And it's one thing, people weren't. always so kind to Liam. And especially, like I said before, with so many other. celebrities, so many people aren't kind. online. But then when something tragic.

like this happens, everyone turns and. everyone just sits there and talks about. the good. And he deserves only to be. spoken in such a highly positive matter. This should be just a message to just be. kind. And you know, we're never going to. live in a world where people are always. going to be kind. There's always going. to be that one out of 10 comments or. three out of 10 comments that are going. to be hateful, always. And it's. something we can't control. But I think. the fact that we can't control that, then why are we letting it get to us so. much? We can't control what people's.

opinions are, what people think. We. can't control it. So there's no point in. trying to, you know, in letting that. ruin your day. How do you think he would. have reacted if he did have a chance to. feel and experience the outpouring of. love? If he saw all of this, I think he. would feel just so grateful and just he. would just know that would just be his. confirmation of how important he was in. this life. And I mean to me, he was the. most important person in my life. To so. many he was. But he just maybe didn't.

fully feel that confirmation. I'm not. sure. But if he saw this, he would have. that confirmation of, "Wow, I really. left this legacy. I impacted so many. people's lives." And that's what he. would want. And that's he would just be. he would be proud of himself. But he. would be right now if he was able to see. everything. He'd be so proud. Yeah. Absolutely. Hearing about him from you. has made me appreciate him even more, respect him even more and feel so much, you know, love for him through you and.

and through all the beautiful memories. and things that I read about when we. found out the news. Just to see him. being honored and appreciated in that. way. It's really beautiful to see. Whenever we lose someone that's. important to us, I feel like we find a. new part of ourselves because we lose an. old part of ourselves and there's part. that of course always stays. But for. you, what perspectives have changed? What's shifted for you through this.

journey that you've been on for him? What what's kind of what's a lesson. that's kind of risen to the surface? I. think just like you said, I think that. when you do lose somebody so close to. you, you do lose a part of yourself. And. I do feel like I lost half of me. And if. Liam were here, he would want me to be. strong. He would want me to be brave and. do things that make me happy and do. things to honor his legacy and honor his. name and to help other people. And I. think for me, one of the things I just. keep thinking about is what else can I. lose in life now when I already lost the.

best thing in my life? Like what more is. there to lose? Like how could it get. worse? So, in my mind, it's like, take. the risk, do things, be brave, be. strong, don't lay in bed all day, get. out of bed, live your life. And I have. to live my life for Liam because I'm 25. He would never want me to be in bed all. day depressed. And I have those days, don't get me wrong. I'm sad all the. time, but I'm happy sometimes because I. just think about all the memories we. have. And there was like there's never. going to be a love in my life that Liam.

was one of a kind. The love that we. experienced is going to be one of a. kind. I'm never going to experience that. type of love again in the future. Whatever is meant for me, it's going to. be so different than what I experienced. with Liam. And it's something that, you. know, I'm so I wouldn't change any part. of it. And I don't regret anything. And. it's something that it's like out of a. movie. And I I love him so much and I. will continue to for the rest of my. life. I just think that for me, just.

doing things that make me happy and that. I know would make him happy. I'm just. trying to do those things and be strong. and just realize that life's short and. take the risks, take the opportunities, take do what makes you happy cuz you. don't have much to lose. Okay. I want to. thank you. for taking the risk, being so. courageous. So, I'm hoping that everyone. who's been listening today has. felt through you a a deeper sense of. love for Liam and the beautiful words.

you shared about him, which I really do. believe honor him. And I really hope for. anyone who's listening who's lost. someone near and dear to them, someone. who's close to them feels a sense of. peace and healing through you sharing. your journey of grief and loss and. everything that you're still going. through. And I think you've left us with. some really beautiful reminders that I. know I'm going to hold on to of whether. that's leaving the people we love. letters, whether it's making sure that.

we do what's right for us when we're. going through loss because no one really. knows what else we're going through. And. ultimately what you're really sharing. with all of us that it's the oldest. lesson in the world, but it's the one we. need again and again and more and more. in this world today is that we have no. idea what someone's going through. You. have no idea what's going on in. someone's mind. And it doesn't take. anything and it doesn't cost anything to. be kind and to be loving and to be. supportive. And I'm I'm walking away.

from this. conversation. feeling inspired and touched and and. closer to Liam in a way that I feel. grateful that I didn't have the. opportunity to before. So, thank you so. much genuinely. Thank you for having me. And I think opening up and talking about. it really, really helps me with my. grief. This conversation has really just. done a lot for me. I feel before walking. into this room, I it's sometimes hard.

for me to talk about it. But I think. leaving this room, I'm going to feel. just addressing the good memories about. Liam and just thinking about those, putting them out there for to share with. you, to share with your viewers. I think. it's just so important and it's made me. feel so much better. So, thank you for. having me. I'm glad. No, thank you. That. means the world to me and it's it's. another lesson in that that when. someone's ready to talk about it and. when they feel comfortable, it can. actually help with their healing. So, thank you. If you love this episode, you'll love my interview with Dr. Gabbor.

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