Big Sean Exclusive: ‘’Anyone Can Become a Star, As Long as You Understand This..’’

You know how many people told me it was. impossible? I remember one of my. teachers told me I was throwing my life. away when I told her that I was thinking. about turning down my full scholarship. to rap. He's a chart-topper. A cultural. icon and a Grammy nominated artist. Please give it up for Big Sean. Thank you so much. What's the difference between wishing. for something and manifesting something? Wishing is one thing, but when you put. your attention on the intention and add. strategy to it, that is how you get to. manifest it.

If someone in the audience is feeling a. low sense of confidence, what's the. first step to building that confidence? Everyone comes from different walks of. life. There is no real right or wrong in. this life. There's only a perspective. Things can hurt you when you understand. yourself more and you appreciate. everything you have, you start to. understand and you don't take things. personally. You've always been so open about. depression and anxiety in a culture and. in a art form that may not always allow.

for it. How did you find a safe space in. doing the career you had and being Big. Sean the rapper? The commitment I made. to myself to being authentic and. sharing. When I started to go to therapy. as a black man, I didn't know it was. such a taboo thing. What do you define success as? Whatever. you're doing on purpose is your purpose. as long as it's with a purpose. The number one health and wellness. podcast. Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty. The.

one, the only Jay Shetty. I am so pumped to finally share the live. interviews from my very first podcast. tour presented by Chase Sapphire. Reserve. This next one features a. powerful conversation with Big Sean at. the Met in Philadelphia, one of the most. thoughtful and inspiring voices in. music. I am so excited to be here. tonight live at the Met in Philadelphia. with the one and only Big Sean. Uh Sean.

and I have been friends for quite a. while now. >> Yeah. And I'm so grateful that he's here. today to be part of my first ever On. Purpose tour. And I was so grateful that. he let me write the forward to his. beautiful book. >> Yes. >> Go Higher. Uh I saw some in the in the. audience. If you haven't got a copy, I'd. love to see it. I'd love to see it. No, thank you. >> If you haven't got a copy, make sure you. go and grab one. Uh it's it's truly a. beautiful book. And. you know, when I first met Sean, I was. shocked as to how much self-work,

healing he'd done from the beginning of. his journey. This wasn't something he'd. come into. It was something he'd. inherited and started so much earlier. And it touched me so deeply. But Sean, before we get into that, I wanted to. start with what we've been talking about. tonight. And I know you were watching. backstage. But we've been talking about. this idea about how we're all limited by. what we think people think of us. Mhm. And and I wanted to share I wanted you. to share if there was a time in your. life where you used to be worried about.

what you thought people thought about. you and how that blocked your creativity. and your spirit. You know, I used to let. the things I can't control control me. You know what I mean? And it was very. conditional. It was something that it's. impossible to be successful in the. business of pleasing everybody. Like. there's something that you might as well. let go of now. And if you do please. everybody, you're probably not going to. be pleasing yourself. You know what I. mean? So I do feel that. especially in entertainment and when you.

get an opportunity to be you you got to. understand like since I was 10, 11 years. old, all I wanted to do was like be a. rapper. That was like the only thing. that I like wanted. Um and I did super. good in school. I come from like a. family of scholars. My mom is an English. and social studies teacher. My grandma. First of all, my grandma was like one of. the first female black captains in World. War II. So, she was um yeah. RIP. And um she was like in that uh the.

688 what the Tyler Perry made a movie. about. She was like in a part of the. 688. So, it was quite a. you know, I had quite a grandmother, but. she she to her education was the way to. a better life, you know what I mean? And. my granddad was also in World War II. And so, I was somebody who always did. good in school, you know what I mean? Like just out of respect. And but I. always knew that music was what I wanted. to do. And I had an opportunity to like. go to school or to pursue music. I go to.

school on a full scholarship as well. And I chose the music thing and the the. beautiful thing though about my. grandmother, my family is that even. though I did the opposite, they still. supported me. And as a dad now, I see how it important. it is to not control your kids or in. that case grandkids, but to support them. and to you know, give them the fuel to. to say, "Hey, you could do anything you. want to do." Like you know how many.

people told me it was impossible. I. remember one of my teachers told me I. was throwing my life away. When I told. her that I was thinking about turning. down my full scholarship to rap, she was. like, "No.". She was like, "Do not blow it." Like you. know, and it took so much faith and so. much trust. And you know, that trust. it's like you the letter U is right in. the middle of trust. And you have to. trust yourself. It's like you are the. one that is like right in the middle of. that trust. And.

it was just. I can go on and on about the story, but. to fast forward a little bit. And that's. what this book is. Like honestly, I'm. not trying to sell my book to you guys. that like. not doing me a shameless plug, but this. book is like the wisdom of like my whole. family, the whole I was lucky enough to. have like family members like my mom who. introduced me to meditation, introduced. me to strategizing, told me like, "Look, if you really want to make this happen, visualize it, meditate, close your eyes,

like you write it down, journal it out.". You know, and it really. I mean, it really made the world of. difference. I would not be sitting here. talking to Jay Shetty if it wasn't for. that. And that's the whole point of. writing the book. And when I did my. first interview with him, he was like, "Yo, you got to write a book." And I was. like, "I mean, that's something I want. to do later on." And. you realize how fleeting and how. not promised life is. And that when you. have the wanting.

of something, when you have the desire, I don't even like using want that much. because it acknowledges that I don't. have it. I like to think that I already. have it. When you have a desire, when. you have a passion for something, just. do it as soon as you can because nothing. is promised. We think we have this. concept of time like, "Oh, I got to like. I'm old." Like, that's not all all the. way true. And that's not a bad thing. It's really not a bad thing. It's just. it's as it's actually beauty in that. So, for me, that's what this book is.

It's just kind of like for people who. may not be clear enough to how to get to. the next part of their lives, people who. may feel stuck, people who, you know, we. all go through the ups and downs of. life. And I feel like this book is a. great book of strategy to just, you. know, something that I can't wait for my. son to read or pass on to people, you. know, so I'm really thankful for you for. helping me do that, man. It means a lot. >> Yeah. I I felt it. I felt it immediately when we first. spoke. And I wanted to ask you the. difference because I think Oh, sorry,

but I didn't answer your question about. controlling, so. My bad. I went off a little bit. Let me. answer that real quick quickly, too. I. won't take like too much time. Yes, there are times where I did feel very. controlled and trying to. do, you know, the idea of what people. wanted me to do and it was very. depressing sometimes and sometimes it. worked out. Sometimes it was like, oh, thank God I listened to you. But at the. same time it doesn't feel the same as. when you just listen to yourself. You. got to let go of the idea of succeeding.

and not succeeding. You got to. understand that it's all just a part of. the the same journey. It's all like. you know, you may learn more about. winning by losing. You know what I mean? It's like if the sun was sunny every day. you wouldn't even appreciate it. It's. the storms that make the sunshine so. much more. It's the yin and yang of it. But uh. it's something that you should. definitely keep in mind, you know. >> Yeah, I was thinking about it as you. were talking. You know, we were talking.

about dreams earlier and you know, everyone in this audience got dreams, got ideas, got visions of what their. better life looks like. >> Mhm. And I wanted to ask you the. difference between wishing. >> Mhm. and manifesting. >> Yeah. >> What's the difference? Because I think a. lot of people are trying to manifest but. then they're not seeing it. >> Mhm. And a lot of people might be. wishing. So what's the difference. between wishing for something, wanting. for something, and manifesting. something? Wow, that's a very good. question. I think the difference between. wishing something and manifesting.

something is one is an idea, one is a. dream, one is a concept. The other one. is everything that you've accumulated in. action. When you manifest something. you are in the middle of it. You may not. even realize it's happening, but I. always like to think of uh the energy of. already having it. It's like to me. that's the that's already manifesting. It's like it's the difference between. being like, you know, I really want that.

car. That's like wishing it to being. like, man, what like the steer like you. you can like smell it. You know what I. mean? When you when you psych yourself. out because your subconscious mind. doesn't know the difference between. what's real and what you are feeding it. Or what's real to you. So, that meaning. that being said, when you meditate and. you visualize yourself on a beach with. your feet in the sand, your subconscious. mind, which to me is the relationship.

between you and God or the universe or. whatever you believe in, of manifesting. I read one of these books I read a long. time ago and it was talking about how. when you speak there's these like. crystals in water and when you speak to. it positively, the crystals become these. beautiful looking like snowflakes and. when you speak to it negatively, when. you say all these like you suck, you. know, all these things like that, it. like the crystals like look like damaged. rocks. So, you got to understand if it.

has that effect on water, what are we. 70% made of? Water, right? So, it's really the power, you know, when. you manifest something it's like the. power of your subconscious is so. important to really focus and feed that. Even if you don't even if you. technically your logical mind doesn't. believe it. If you just keep feeding it, you'll see that you're a walking magnet. and it's going to show up in your life. one way or another, I promise you. Yeah. I love that. I love that I love that. insight and. I was thinking about it as well. I feel.

like manifesting is being in love with. the process Mhm. and wishing is being in. love with the result. Ooh. I love that. >> manifesting, right? Like when when. you're manifesting, it's what you said. You can smell the car. >> Mhm. You're thinking about the work. you're going to have to do to get it. You're dreaming about waking up every. day and putting in the time because you. know where it's going, but you're. obsessed with the process. >> The process. >> And and wishing is just like I can't. wait till I have it. I wish I had it.

Why did they have it? I don't have it. They don't deserve it. And it becomes. all about the end. And the problem with. that is it just feels further and. further and further away and out of. reach, right? >> Yeah, especially when you don't put a. strategy to the wishing. And I think. once you put the strategy. to the wishing and the attention on your. intention, that's what turns it from. wishing to manifesting. >> Mhm. Yeah. Say that again. That was. good. That was good. That was You said. it too fast like a rapper. >> I forgot what I said. I don't know. >> You were rapping it. Yeah, I know.

Attention and the intention. >> Yeah, I was saying you know, wishing is. one thing, but when you put your. attention on the intention and add. strategy to it, that is how you get to. manifesting. That's the process. I love. that. Yeah. Yeah. That's Everyone write. that down. Intention, attention, and. strategy or action. Like adding those. three things together, that's. manifesting. Intention, attention, and. strategy and action, that's manifesting. if you're trying to build something in.

your life. Sometimes when you're in a. relationship, you lose parts of yourself. and you guys kind of become this one. thing together. You shut off certain. parts of yourself and like this gets. shut down and that gets shut down and. you're kind of just a fraction maybe of. like the person you were. When you. recognize that and you split from. someone and you turn on all these other. parts of yourself and you're like the. full version of you, I think that is the. best version to bring to a relationship. You know, it shouldn't be.

one half make a whole. It should be two. wholes make something greater. Shawn, what I love about you is that you've. always been so open about depression and. anxiety. >> Mhm. in a culture and in a art form that. may not always allow for it. Like. generally you think of hip-hop and rap. and music in general to be like on your. side to be tough, to be strong. >> Right. >> You know, you're battle rapping. It's. It's bravado. It's You know, and I love. hip hop, you know that. >> Yeah, of course. >> But there's that energy to it because a.

lot of people here are also looking for. their voice to have a space to feel. vulnerable. Like a lot of people earlier. were saying we're so grateful that this. is a space we can be vulnerable. Sometimes when you go to work, sometimes. when you go to your family, you don't. have a space Right. >> vulnerable. So what was How did you find. a safe space when it wasn't easy in. doing the career you had and being Big. Sean the rapper? How did you do that? Where did you find that space? How did. you. >> think it was a safe space. I just looked.

at it as like. it was like for me it was just. the commitment I made to myself to being. real, to just like being authentic and. sharing. you know, when someone asked me about it. and you know, when I was going through. those ups and downs, like expressing. that on a song, you know, especially the. song I have deep reverence with me and. Nipsey Hussle, to the late great Nipsey. Hussle, RIP. Um. Just being open about it and I didn't. know it was such a taboo thing as a. black man, as like any of that, like.

talk even talking about like therapy. Um. my dad, so my dad. he's from Monroe, Louisiana and he used. to get caught on the wrong Yeah, shout. out to Louisiana, okay, yeah. He would get caught on the wrong side of. the train tracks and get beat bad for it. sometimes, you know, it was in the. around the civil rights time, like real. bad times down there for him sometimes. And he even had a speech impediment, like he had a stutter when he was. growing up that he was able to overcome,

but my point being is that when I. started to go to therapy. it inspired him to go to therapy and he. was like, I didn't know. no one told me. You know, one of the. things he said and I didn't really it. means so much. He was like, man, I love. learning from It's awesome when I can. learn from my son. And now that I have a son, he teaches me. He's only 2 years old, but I learn so. much from him. I just I just feel like that. That's how. the natural progression of it goes, you. know what I mean? But when I initially. shared like how I was feeling, I don't.

know if it was what a quote-unquote a. safe space. It just It's just the the. route I chose to go, you know? Yeah, it. just needs to come out. >> Yeah, it just needs to come out. >> Sometimes sometimes what you're saying. is don't wait for a safe space. >> Mhm. because it may never come. >> It may never come. >> And so you just got to kind of create a. space where you can start talking about. it. Who was the first person you opened. up to deeply about it? Do you remember. that? Was it a therapist or was it. someone else? It was my mom. It was my.

mom. Um cuz we. as close as I am to her, like me and. her's relationship. like started taking a real terrible dive. when I was. um. just of some like overdoing it with my. career, meaning that like I gave up all. my hobbies. I was just like strictly. working because the concept when you. come from a city like Philadelphia or. like or a city like Detroit, it's like. oh you got to stay on their necks. You.

got to stay hot. Can't let the opportunity slip away. You. can't be one of those people that. almost, you know? And even though it was. like oh you have a number one album, another number one album, this, that, like. it just never felt like. it was all the way locked in and I think. that's because I was looking at it the. wrong way and I'll come back to that. But I remember just burning myself out. and I was on tour in Europe. I'm not. going to say who, but somebody came up. to me and was like man you should try. Adderall, right? And I was like okay, I.

never wasn't really familiar with. Adderall like that. He's like oh you. know college students do it like he was. lying I'm a very smart person too and he. was like it's just some like salts and. things. I'm like I wanted to believe him. and I took it and you know I'm not. prescribed it like I don't need it uh. per se, and I was able to get more work. done though. I was like able to get more. and I was pushing myself more and I. noticed that it was like really tearing. my insides up, like. I looked like I was on drugs, you know.

what I'm saying? Like hardcore, like I. looked like just not myself. And anyway, I kept doing it because it was working. I was seeing results. I was getting the. work done. I had another number one. album. I was able to finish it and do. another project with. you know, with Jhené and we did a side. project and then another album and I was. just like and then I did another album. in that same year with Metro Boomin and. it was just like. all of these things, but. I really paid the price when I hit like. rock bottom and I went to the studio.

and I realized when I didn't have. Adderall, I felt like I couldn't do it. I couldn't make music without it. And. that's when I realized I have a problem. I was like I have a huge problem and I. stopped it immediately. and I couldn't think of anything and the. depression, you know, I didn't realize. that the synthetic dopamine that was. being created in my brain from that, when you shut it off, when you have a. synthetic version of it, your your brain. starts stops making natural dopamine.

So, you're totally screwed. I'm talking. about you are like I like had a gun to. my head. I was like ready to blow, you. know, I had like my dream house in. Beverly Hills. I had all these things, like beautiful a beautiful life, um. unimaginable. And I wanted to take it. away because my mind was really playing. tricks on me and had me thinking that I. was someone that I wasn't. And that's. when. I opened up to my mom and I had not been. talking to her because I feel like I.

didn't deserve I feel like I didn't. deserve to talk to my family. It was the. weirdest psychological twisted games I. was playing with myself. And I remember she suggested all these. things, like you know a good mom does. and she ended up coming out and spending. time with me and like helped building me. back up and that's when I really started. realizing how connected the body is with. the spirit and with the mind and you. know I started working out I started. seeing a therapist I started slowly. getting back into music I had to I had.

to literally let go of everything I was. doing because. just taking a phone call just taking a. meeting was just too much for me and I. crashed out. That was when I realized. how. bad I needed to change my life and I. think we all kind of come to a point in. our lives. where. we go through that in our in our own. ways it's like late 20s early 30s maybe. late 30s and you probably probably a few. times in your life where this happens to.

where it feels like you're going to a. wall is going to fall on you and you. either have to climb over it or you're. going to get crushed by it you know and. it really feels that life or death and. therapy helped me so much being able to. talk through with someone and unload. that amount of emotion and that amount. of reality helped because sometimes when. you do it with your friend or your. family member it stays between y'all and. then it's like what they're going. through their own stuff you know what. I'm saying and.

it's kind of awkward you know when you. get to like spilling your deepest. secrets or like mom I had a gun to my. head you know I don't want to like. talk to her about that and. it took me some time but you know what I. believed I had faith in myself I trusted. myself and I was that was. one of the deepest time where I had to. connect with my my spiritual self my. faith. and I have a great relationship with. Jesus Christ and with the with God and. and a great relationship with myself you.

know I rediscovered myself I tried new. hobbies I was like jumping out of. airplanes and like. going to the gun range and just trying. all new things that I hadn't tried. before and really watching anime. Like. I'm a huge like anime lover. And I just connected back with myself, you know? Thank you for going there with. the depths of Yeah, go for it. Absolutely. >> Yeah. Thank you. Go for it. You don't need to be silent. I love doing this with you. I feel like. I should do every podcast with a live.

audience. This is. This is I just want to take a moment to. say how much this means to me because. usually I spend my time with a camera or. when we're in the studio and we've. recorded multiple times in our studio. together, but sharing this with all of. you and having all of your energy here. is giving me energy. So, I just want to. say thank you to you all for. >> Yeah. for some love, clap, cry, whatever. you want. Like that's what this is for. Yeah. Uh uh you're you're a part of this. and You know, one thing I do want to. say, not to cut you off, Jay, is that, you know, I I was just looking at your.

mic and it's on purpose. And one of the. things. people always ask me, and I want to ask. you this question, too. How do I find my purpose? I love. you, Jay. I love you, too, Jay. I love you, too. >> How do I find my purpose? How would you. answer that? I'm going to share a. meditation later that I believe will do. that. Mhm. But in order to give a a a. spoken answer, that doesn't come through. within, I would say that. your passion is for you.

and service is for others. And so, when you use your passion in the. service of others, it becomes a purpose. Mhm. So, when you have something that. you're passionate about, >> Mhm. right? When you have something you're. passionate about, could be anything. When you have something that you're. deeply passionate about and then you use. it to improve other people's lives, >> Mhm. that's what a purpose is. But a. purpose doesn't have to be your job. Mhm. It doesn't have to be what you do.

every day. It doesn't have to make you. money. it doesn't have to make you. famous, it doesn't have to get you. followers. Your purpose can be something. you do on the evenings and weekends. Your purpose can be something to do that. you do take care of your children. Your. Your purpose can be so many things. And. I think we limit ourselves because the. world today, you think about this for a. second. Maybe like 50 to 100 years ago, no one. would have asked the question, "What do. you do?" as the main question of. conversation.

>> Right. >> Today that's the number one question. because who we are defines our worth. We. live at a time where you say your career. and it defines who you are and what your. worth is in society, but that's not how. God designed us. That's not how the. community designed us. In the past you'd. be a farmer and a storyteller. >> Yeah, that's right. Right. You'd be a. mom and an and a doctor. You'd be a. carer and you'd be a whatever else it. is. And so I think we need to look at. our purposes and this and that. And stop.

thinking of our purpose as a job title. Stop thinking of our purpose as a. promotion. Stop thinking of our purpose as, you. know, what does our biography say on. Instagram like because. I I really don't like it when everyone's. like, "So what are you doing?" I'm like, "I don't want to say podcaster. There's. a million podcasters doing different. things.". I'm an author, but that's not who I am. That's not my purpose. Same as you. You're an author, you're a rapper, you're an entrepreneur, you're a father. Yeah, so when people ask me like, "What's your How do you find your.

purpose?" It took me a while to answer. it That was a amazing answer by the way, man. That's like right on. And I think a lot of people. tie their purpose in with their career, right? They'll be like, "Well, I got to. find my purpose cuz I got to find my. way. I got to find out how to. you know what I mean?" And I realized. that your purpose is. what you're doing on purpose, with. purpose. It doesn't have to be you like.

you say your job. That's a it can be. there's no outlines to it. It can be. your job can be your purpose. Your hobby. can be your purpose. In fact I feel like. one of my purposes is to be in a a son. One of my purposes is to be a father. Whatever it is because it's whatever I'm. doing on purpose is my purpose. You feel. what I'm saying? Like it doesn't have to. be so defined. And that's that's one of the things that. >> Absolutely. I'm so glad you brought that.

up because I feel like there's a lot of. pressure around that word as well now. >> It is. >> Because it's got linked to our careers. It's got linked to our jobs. >> of pressure around purpose, huh? >> There's a lot of pressure around purpose. and and it shouldn't be that way because. you're absolutely right that your. purpose today could just be to be. present. It could just be to be present. >> today. Whatever makes you happy. Whatever you doing. that you feeling your heart. Whatever. makes you smile. Whether you know, going. to the movies could be your Who knows.

like whatever it is that that does it. for you. That Whatever you doing on. purpose is your purpose. As long as it's. with a purpose. Sure. I was thinking. about as we were talking about that. you've been talking about being a. father. Mhm. And I wanted to ask you it. feels like it's had a big healing impact. on you. >> Mhm. And I feel like it's got you to. uplevel. >> of impacts on me. Yeah, for sure. You. know, I have a two and a half year old. So I don't know if anyone knows what. that's like. He's the sweetest and most amazing kid.

He's like an enlightened being. You know. what I mean? So he teaches me all these. things without trying. Uh so I'm just. I'm appreciative of him. I'm embracing. the unknown because as he keeps growing. he keeps surprising me. So I don't know. what it's going to be like. He's only two I can't believe we're only. two and a half years in. It seems like. he's I can't even hardly remember what. it was like without him at this point, so Yeah. you know, that's how much of a. presence he is in all our lives, for. sure. I want to shift the question that.

people usually ask, especially young. kids, going back to our previous. conversation about purpose. People. always like, "Oh, what do you want him. to be when he grows up? What do you want. him to do?" And I want to shift it. I. want to ask you the question, what. quality, if you could choose one. quality, do you really want to know him. to have when he grows up? What would you. want that quality to be? >> His confidence. He has so much. confidence. That's something that I had to gain. along the way. You know, my parents. came from two families that.

they didn't really have the confidence. growing up. They didn't give me the. confidence cuz they didn't have it. They would always like I'm confident. that. I will always have whatever it is I need. to be the person that I strive to be. I. will always have enough. It's abund-. It's enough for all of us. And that was. a concept where growing up my mom and my. dad both were like, "Oh, you got to work. real hard. You know, money Oh, money doesn't grow. on trees. You know, it's It's not fair.

out here. You know, these are the type. of things that they would tell me." And. that's not true. That is an experience, and they have also learned that that is. actually not true. I know all these. sayings sometimes. like stick with us, right? Like money. doesn't grow on trees, this and that, and you know, I saw my mom crying over. these bills, and you know, me crying, you know, growing up, and it motivated. me, but. one of the things they would always tell. me like even when I got my license, my. mom was like, "Make sure like you take.

your hat off. Make sure you wear your hat to the um. front, you know, when the police officer. if you get pulled over, make sure you. have both hands on the wheel, you know.". And these are things that a mother. should tell a black man in America, especially in a city like Detroit, you. know. And so I understood it. And there's a lot that comes with that, but I think that I had to gain my. confidence. And one thing that he has is. his confidence, and I'm just so proud of. him for that. And like he is literally. the evolution. That's why it's important.

for you to work on yourselves. for your family members. even whether you have kids or not, your. energy is contagious. It's going to. spread to your group of friends, your. work group, your family, your kids. And. especially. when you have a family, it's like your. DNA is like a computer chip. It like has. all this information in it, right? So. it's like. it's important to heal your trauma cuz. you passing it on. It's important to. heal your gut and your liver and all.

these things because you're passing your. genetically passing everything on. They're the they're parts of you and. your partner combined, right? So. I always looked at that, and it taught. That's one of the things my son taught. me is that, okay, he'll smile like my. grandmother or he'll smile like Janay, his grand You know, it's like little. things like that, and I realized that. my grandparents. I always One of the things with having a.

kid, I was like, man, I wish I could. talk to my granddad and like ask him for. advice. I wish I could talk to my grand. You know, all these people that aren't. here anymore, and I realize I can. because the information is in my DNA. I. just have to go within. and really lock in, and the answer is. there. You know, and that's something to always. remember that we always think that the. answers are out there, but really the. answers most of the time are right where. you are. That's what That's actually the. concept of The Alchemist, one of my.

favorite books as well. Yeah, that's. real. >> that. Yeah. That's real. That's so. powerful. Mhm. You just gave me chills. when you said that. That idea that. we always wish we could talk to this. person or that person, but their history. lives within us. Yeah. a really, really. powerful idea. >> That's why when you when people say, "Well, I'm living through you." You. know, that's what my dad always says. He. really that's for real talk that's real. talk. >> People are living with us and living. through us at all times. And that's why. we got to be so mindful as to what we. pass on. If someone in the audience is.

feeling. a low sense of confidence, low sense of self-esteem, a low sense of even self-worth, maybe. they've been told they're not worth. anything, maybe they've been made to. feel like they're not enough. What's the. first step to building that confidence. as an adult? Like you said with your. child, he he already has it. Noah. already has it. You had to build it over. time. I had to build it over time, too. What was that first step in building. real, true, deep confidence? The first.

step was to understand that everyone is. going through something. Everyone has a. story. Everyone has a condition. So, I. remember when I was 19 years old and it. was a transitional time where I decided. to do music and turned down my. scholarship, right? And a year had have. gone by. And I was a depressed person. It was my. first. battle of depression because things. weren't going my way yet. It was God's. timing, but you know, you try and. control the timing of life and it's like.

good luck with that. So, anyway, I remember I stopped to pump some gas at. a place my mom told me never to stop. And I was visiting my girlfriend at the. time that went to Michigan State. And on. the way from Detroit to Michigan State, there's a place called Howell, Michigan. and it's like one of the KKK like. it's like one of their headquarters. Like not too far from Detroit, which is. the one of the blackest cities in It's. like crazy, right? Juxtaposition. I saw. that the exit. I had to get gas and it.

was like, you know, when you see the gas. station right off the freeway and it's. like I can I'll be straight if I just go. right here. and pump gas and. I got immediately I got off and I pulled. up to the gas station and like this. pickup truck pulls up and they're like, "You You nigger." I was like, "What?" Like I I was like it it had me. like super. just like, "Damn, like for real? Like. that that's where we at? Like. this 2000 and whatever, you know? So,

I'm like, "For real?" Like I thought it. was like a joke almost. And later on as I was learning more. about myself, I'm like, "I don't know. what type what type of stuff they had. going on, like what their upbringing was. like, what their parents are like, what. they could have been abused, they could. have just not understood the concept. and understood who I am as a person, right? So, it takes a lot of growth, but. my point is to say how do you build. confidence in yourself? Because that's a.

moment where my confidence got. beat to the ground. I felt like. crazy, inferior almost, you know? How you build your confidence up is you. start to understand and you don't take. things personal. Don't take things. personal, you don't let things Things. can hurt you. You can see obviously I'm like still. emotional about that time because it was. such a pivotal moment for me. It's not. because it's hurtful to me, it's because. it was a pivotal moment in my. development as a man.

that nothing like that could ever affect. me anymore because. I understand that everyone comes from. different walks of life, you feel me? They don't think they're wrong, they. think they're right. As wrong as it is. to me. I had to realize that there is no real. right or wrong in this life, there's. only a perspective. You know what I'm saying? So. in my perspective, I think it's wrong, right? But. not from theirs, but point is when you.

understand yourself more and you. appreciate everything you have and you. start building up yourself mentally. When you start to understand that okay, some people will just talk smack about. you for retweets or for whatever or for. to be funny. you don't take things as personal and. that builds up your confidence when you. get to know yourself more and more and. when you know that you are unstoppable. We have the power of a whole universe in. us. I say that because when you look at.

it you think of all the stars in the. sky, that's exactly how all our atoms. are in our. cells and our bodies. They make up this. like magical type of miracle that's. going on in us, right? That we have like. completely taken for granted. But it's. like we have what it takes to create. anything. We're like products of God. God is in all of us, right? So just. remember that that you do you can. you will. You know, if that's what you. believe you will make it happen whatever.

it is, whatever. Nothing is off limits. If it if it was. off limits, you wouldn't even think it. You wouldn't even it wouldn't even be a. thought to you. Just want to get that. out there. >> Yeah, I love that. I love that take on. confidence because. I believe confidence comes from noticing. how many hard things you've done. And how many hard things you've been. through like that moment you just spoke. about. That's not an easy moment to live. through. >> Mhm. And and like you said, I can see. the emotion in your eyes and I think.

everyone can feel it, but it's like when. you notice that see since we were young. we were only taught in school to notice. what you did well. What you got right. You weren't taught to notice how you did. hard things. And I promise you in this room each and. every one of you has already done. ridiculously hard things. Maybe you. lived through the death of a loved one. Maybe you lived through a divorce. Maybe. you found yourself after a breakup.

Maybe you were broke and found yourself. out of that, or maybe you're in it right. now, in one of those transition moments. And I've found that those moments of. pain unlock your greatest potential. Because when you can see yourself at. that moment and you can see that you've. lived through it, so start collecting, start noticing how many difficult, hard. things you've done. I remember. Uh I don't think I've talked about this. before. I remember my mom saying. something crazy to me. I was going.

through a really hard time in my early. 30s. And a really, really tough time. And I. was on the phone to her. And my mom does. not say motivational things to me. My mom doesn't say demotivational things. to me, but she doesn't say motivational. things to me. And my mom doesn't give me. advice. I don't go to my mom for advice. I I love my mom and I tell her I love. her and she tells me she loves me and. she just wants to know what I ate for. dinner, right? Like that's that's my. relationship with my mom. Well, that's a. way of her saying she loves you, right? >> Yeah, and she loves me to bits. Like she. loves me. Her love has been a shield in.

my life. But I'm on the phone to her and. she's like, "How's things going?" And. I'm like, you know, barely vulnerable. with my mom. And I was like, "Mom, you. know, what? It's just a tough time, you. know, but I've got my head down. I'm. working hard.". And she said to me, "Well, you Well, you're used to dealing with stress." And. I said, "What do you mean? Like, you've never said this to me before. Like, when did you become a motivational. speaker? Like, what do you mean?". And And she goes She goes, "You've been. used to dealing with stress." And I was. like, "What do you mean? Like, you've. never said that to me before." And I. never share my stresses with my mom. Like you said, like, she's not the.

person I'm talking to. And she goes, "Well, you You dealt with. so much stress even when you were in my. womb." Like, cuz of what I was living. through at the time. She said that to me. and I was like I was half in tears. The. other half was like full of like. confidence. It was like one of these moments of just. like as if like my whole self were just. like locked back in together. And. obviously I don't have any memory of. that. I was a Right, of course, yeah. Right? And it's like but what's really.

fascinating is you've done hard things. even when you don't remember them and. you don't know that. Mhm. And it's so. important to remind yourself and it's so. important to remind the people you love. that they've done hard things because. when you realize you've done hard things. you can do harder things in the future. You find confidence within them. So. please today look back at the. things you've broken through, things. you've worked on, the hardships you've. been through and and celebrate your. resilience as a human. You don't need to. wait to become strong. You already are.

>> Yeah, embrace it. Embrace it. >> yeah. Embrace it. Embrace it. I want to. uh Thank you. I want to pivot slightly. This is. something we've been trialing and it's. been beautiful. And this is a real opportunity. So only. say yes, only raise your hand if if you. really want to honor this opportunity. We've been talking about stop caring. what people think. We've been talking. about doing hard things. We've been. talking about becoming more confident. We've been talking about taking your. moment.

Seeing as we have one of the greatest of. all time, one of the best, Big Sean on. the stage. I wanted to ask you all if there's and I. mean this for real, if you truly truly. mean it, if there's a spoken word. artist, a poet, a rapper in the audience. who wants to come on stage for 60. seconds and spit some bars for us so. that we can experience their greatness. If you really want this opportunity to. be your moment, I want you to raise your. hand if there's truly. a poet or spoken word artist. I'm. looking at the back. Is there anyone at.

the back? Stand up if you're at the. back. >> hi. I'm just looking around. Stand up at the back. Anyone at the. back? There's one there. Anyone else? I just. want to make sure. >> see someone up there who is standing up. >> get someone from the top who has Is. there someone back there? >> top, yeah. Only if you're going to honor. the Don't Don't steal the opportunity. from anyone. You pointing at him? Come on down. Come on down. Yeah. You know, Philly has like some of the. best musicians.

>> That's what I thought. That's what I thought. >> Of all time. I wanted to. >> Okay. Um. this is about being in a bad. relationship. So. a real bad one. Okay, here we go. All. right. Why do I still love you when you. throw beer in my face? When I feel like. you don't listen or care what I have to. say. Why do I still want you even though you. blame it all on me? When you send me. brutal messages and constantly threaten.

to leave. Why is it I miss you when all we seem to. do is fight? Why is it still you I want. laying next to me at night? Why do you. come to me with your issues when I can't. come to you with mine? It's because you. listen to idiots all day with their. preoccupations and whining. This was a. therapist. Um. Why is it always my fault when I know. you play a role, too? Why am I always begging and why can't. for once it just be you? Often times I want to give up and just.

throw the towel in. But I don't and I. love you, but not enough to wish I. didn't. Aw. Thank you. Give it up for Morgan, everyone. So, what does she want one more song. for? I'm feeling good. I'm feeling good. Yeah? Just very nervous. Of course. That's understandable. That's okay. I. listen to your podcast, so.

I also I like to motivate people. Woo! Okay. Thank you so much. Cuz in life we're. supposed to inspire those that need to. be inspired and everybody needs to be. inspired. You know, we all go through. life having problems and trauma and. issue, but deep down inside God is. there. And I'm nervous on stage, but. every time I used to get on stage, there. was always nervousness. And someone that deals with ADHD and. bipolar,

and you know, that's a survivor of many. things, every single one of y'all out. there are special, and y'all have. something inside of you. And I also rap. I got a little bit something. Stay focused, I'm never hopeless. Everything I do, I move with motion. Should have bought a ocean, pills and. potions. What's all the commotion? Thought we were moving. Let's go, this. is past tense. This is my medicine,

Mesto, like Michelangelo. I said, "Hello.". Picture me, I said, "Sit down by the. lake.". Plant me by the sea, deeply loving the. rain from above, so my mom and dad, I. love you. We had some fallouts, but I had no. doubts that this is the light that God. has called me to. I'm making new revenue with the old and. the new. Yeah.

Way up, I feel blessed. Yes. Uh amazing courage to come up here and. and go through that. It's It's. nerve-wracking when you actually get up. here and you see everyone and Yeah. you. look around and. you know, you can't find it in your. phone, and that's that's the reality. Yeah, yeah. >> the reason why I wanted to do that, and. we've done it at a couple of shows this. week is it's the reality, because.

the first time you do it, it's never. going to be perfect. >> Mhm. You know, like you're going to be. shaking, you're going to have your phone. where you can't find it, you're going to. be scared of the mic, you're going to be. worried. Like, that's the reality and. the beauty is. people just feel your spirit. Mhm. Right? People just feel your energy. I. think you felt that when you heard. Morgan, you could relate to what she was. doing. It was beautiful. >> Mhm. And and even. >> love I really love this concept she was. saying, too. Like, first of all, you.

wrote a whole book on, you know, relationships and love and pertaining to. that and I wanted to ask you, when you. are per se in a relationship with. someone, right, that isn't beneficial. for you, right? And it could be. abusive in some ways, depending on how. you look at it. Like, you know, how. Morgan was describing her poem. Like, what advice would you give to anyone who. is dealing with a relationship of that. that they just can't seem to shake. And. you know, the funny thing about that is. like she even said it in her poem that.

as bad as it is and you separate, it's. like you keep craving it back and I. wonder why that is. Like, why do you. keep craving it? Why do you only. remember the good things? Why do you. kind of like put all the red flags to. the side and you know, I feel like. that's a great question to ask you. Yeah. Thanks for that, Shawn. I appreciate it. Not in that Not in me like that, you. know. >> No, no, no. You know, when I think it comes to love. the hard part is.

we all want to be seen. Sometimes the tough part is This is the. truth, actually. I'm going to I'm going. to go a bit deep on this cuz I I feel. you deserve it and I feel you all crave. it and want it from me. And so, I'm. going to going to say how I really see. it. The moment you recognize. that no human. can truly see you. the way God. and you can see yourself. you're free.

Because that was never their job. It was. God's job. Like when you recognize that you're the. only person, you and God are the only. people that really know. everything you've been through. Mhm. Everything you've lived through, every. emotion, every breath, every. moment you spoke, every moment in. silence, every single moment. The only. person who's documented that is you and. God. Mhm. And so when you free people of.

the expectation to understand you, fully. see you, fully comprehend you, you free. yourself of having to do that for. everyone as well. Because you know you. don't have the capacity either. So what. it does is it creates greater trust and. faith. in the divine and yourself. And it creates greater compassion for. others. And I think that's what we're all really. looking for. We just all want a bit of. grace Mhm. from the people that we love. that we can't understand perfectly.

We all want a bit of compassion for not. always showing up as our best selves. even when we try because we know we're. all trying. But we don't always meet that mark. And. so if we can offer more grace and. compassion to others, and we can offer more trust and. surrender to ourselves and God, Mhm. I. think that's where real love starts. Yeah. That's where real love. >> Yeah, honoring yourself too, right? You. got to really honor yourself in that. like the strength it takes sometimes to. drastically change your life. It's. nothing more drastic than when you have.

to change someone you spend so much time. with by choice. Not because they passed. away, not because of anything else, but. because you need to better yourself. And. the strength that that takes. is nothing to like downplay or anything. So. I think that comes from all It all comes. back from working on yourself, right? And like really being confident enough. in yourself and all these things we've. been talking about to be strong enough. to be you because sometimes.

when you're in a relationship, you lose. parts of yourself and you guys kind of. become this one thing together. Um it's kind of like a factory when all. the lights are on and sometimes you shut. off certain parts of yourself and like. this gets shut down and that gets shut. down and you're kind of just a fraction. maybe of like the person you were. So. the beautiful thing is is when you. recognize that and you split from. someone and you turn on all these other. parts of yourself and you're like the. full version of you, I think that is the.

best version to bring to a relationship. and that is how. you know, it shouldn't be. one half make a whole, it should be two. wholes make. something greater, you know what I mean? So Absolutely, well said. Thank you. Shawn, you've done. the final five before on the podcast. So. I want to end with one last segment with. you. Mhm. We call it past, present, future and behind you you're going to. see a picture. pop up in a second. Can we get the. first, please? That's back. Oh, that's.

that's young Shawn right there. That's. little Shawn. Yeah, I was I was a point. guard on the. for my school and we we actually won a. championship in the eighth grade in our. league. And you know. everyone thought like all the parents. would be like he doesn't look like he's. in eighth grade, but I look like I'm in. eighth grade to me. Yeah, that was man, that was some good. times right there. What advice would you. give to that younger past self of yours. in eighth grade? Just have fun. Quick.

get out your head so much. Just have fun and like. you don't realize how young you are when. you that young, you know what I'm. saying? Of. just being carefree, no bills, no like I. would just say have more fun. Have more. fun, man. I love that. >> Yeah, quit being so hard on yourself. All right, let's get the second picture. This is you today. Oh, yeah. I want to ask you what what do you need. to hear right now? What are the words. you need to hear right now in your heart.

and mind? The thing that popped in my. head, which I like to go with naturally, as simple as it is, is that it's going. to be fine. As a as a man, we always I don't want to characterize. all men. And I don't And I don't want to. say this doesn't apply to women as well, it does. Um I can only speak from a man's. perspective, though, that. we try and be the head of the household. and like provide and all these things. and it puts a level of um. responsibility,

which is something that I am embrace. It in turn always has to have me. do the self-work I know to like not let. it turn into anxiety and to not let that. turn into depression, cuz I can't afford. that, you know, I don't That's something. that I'm keeping far away from my good. energy and vibes. But the thing that. starts is the worry. And it's kind of. what I would tell my younger self, is. what I would tell myself now, is to. it's going to be fine. No matter what.

happens, it's going to be fine. This one. I've been doing for all my friends this. week. Woah. With the help of AI With the help. of AI, I've been surprising all my. surprising all my friends this week. Wow. So, Jeez. how old do you think you are. there, Sean? Wow. I would say like my dad's age, like. 70. two, three. My dad looks good for his. age, so I would say like around that.

>> Your dad looks great. >> Yeah. When you're that age, what do you hope you define success as? Fun. Fun. Having fun. You got to have fun. with it and that's one of the biggest. pieces of advice I could give to anyone. is whatever you're doing, just you can. make it fun. You got a job you hate, you. got things that are the worst part of. your day, quote-unquote the worst part, you can make it. how you approach something literally. changes the whole experience of it. And.

that is one of the things like when you. are like we were talking about going. through hard times, like embrace that. Like not only embrace. it, celebrate it because. that is just proof that. you are experiencing parts that are. growing pains, that you're growing into. something, right? And that. you not in alignment with whatever it is. you going through. So just appreciate. that because that like I said, I said. this before, like that's just an. indication that you're meant for. something greater, you're some.

different, some more. And that's. exciting, you know, life isn't all. figured out for you. I mean, how boring. would that be, you know what I'm saying, if everything was just right in front of. you and you knew exactly how to how it. was going to go. Like embrace that. unknowing. Don't let it tear you down. Don't let it be a fear-based way of. thinking, you know, remember fear is. just false evidence appearing real. Don't feed into it, you know what I'm. saying? Like have fun, make it fun, and.

know that anywhere you are on Earth, that's where you meant to be at. And you. can you can have a good time. With all. the money, with no money, with all the. with whatever. With all the friends, no. friends, like there are there's always a. way. to have a good time. So that's what I. feel like that's what older me. that's probably what would be on my. heart. And you know, if I'm lucky enough. to make it to that. Give it up for Big. Sean, everyone. Yeah. If this is the year that you're trying.

to get creative, you're trying to build. more, I need you to listen to this. episode with Rick Rubin on how to break. into your most creative self, how to to. unconventional methods that lead to. success and the secret to genuinely. loving what you do. If you're trying to. find your passion and your lane, Rick. Rubin's episode is the one for you. Just. because I like it, that doesn't give it. any value. Like, as an artist, if you. like it, that's all of the value. That's. the success comes when you say, "I like.

this enough for other people to see it.".