9 Lessons for Lasting Change: Do THIS for 30 Days & Become Unrecognizable! @DrChatterjeeRangan

all behaviors either come from the. energy of Love or the energy of fear the. more powerful question is not which. expert should I trust it's why do I no. longer trust myself UK based physician. over a million people listen to his. podcast every week Dr Ran chatter you. say that when you went to medical school. 50% of what you were learning was going. to be wrong at some point we just don't. know which 50% what would you say is the. number one advice for someone who says I. want to break a bad habit it just can't.

[Music]. happen the number one Health and. Wellness podcast J shett J shett he won. the only. J hey everyone welcome back to on. purpose I'm so grateful that you come. back every week to become happier. healthier and more healed today's guests. is one of your favorites Dr rangan chaty. a uk- based physician an author Wellness. expert and podcast host known for.

empowering people to take control of. their health through simple lifestyle. changes to rethink it his sixth and. latest book make change that lasts. offers a personalized approach to simple. nine strategies for lasting change in. daily life to unlock long-lasting health. and happiness this I truly believe is. rang's best book yet and that's saying a. lot he's had some incredible books out. the last few years go and grab your copy. right now you won't regret it and make.

these nine strategies a part of your. daily life Welcome to on purpose Dr. rangan chaty rangan it's great to have. you back Jay I love coming on your show. you're such a wonderful host and uh I'm. looking forward to our conversation no. it's so great to have you here always. rangan like I I really enjoy our. conversations I enjoy our interactions. offline as much as I do online and I. remember when you were talking about. this book with me when you were first I. think putting it together and there was. this excit that you had and this look in.

your eye where it was like this was the. first time it was like a medical doctor. was writing somewhat of a philosophical. spiritual book yeah but with a. scientific lens and I think it's come. together brilliantly so congrats on. trying to mesh those things together. yeah thanks it's the book that my heart. wanted to write I would say more than. anything I've ever done before this has. come out to me it had to come out of me. and I'm in that funny position Jay where. I feel that I've already had the Success.

Through writing the book yes I hope it. lands with people but even if it doesn't. like I've won by writing it and it's. been a really authentic process and. frankly it's about something I'm super. passionate about which is helping people. make change that lasts I think the title. says it all we can all make change but. often it's only for a few weeks or a few. months how many people can make change. that truly lasts how many people can. truly transform their lives for for good.

it's not as many as we would like M and. this book is my attempt to help people. solve that problem yeah it's brilliant I. mean talking about change I want to go. back to something you say in the book so. you say that when you went to medical. school 50% of what you were learning was. going to be wrong at some point you just. didn't know which 50% and so I wanted to. ask you what's something that you. learned at Medical School that today you. believe to be untrue and you've. discovered new truths about well we were. actually taught that it was a professor.

at edor medical school he said to us I. can remember being in the anatomy. lecture theater and he said guys 50% of. what you learn is going to turn out to. be wrong we just don't know which 50%. and I think that has huge relevance for. all of us actually and I'll come to that. shortly but in terms of one thing that I. learned that I now believe not to be. true I'd almost flip it the other way in. the sense that.

I was never taught how much our. lifestyle can impact our health I was. taught that actually people coming to. see you and they have a set of problems. we need to hear what those problems are. collect them give them a label and then. give them a Pharmacy's good treatment. whereas the more I practice medicine and. I've been a doctor for 23 years now I. realize wow that only helps us for a. small fraction of people and if you flip. it it's like no our lifestyles the way.

we eat the way we move the way we sleep. but also the way that we think and the. way we approach. adversity those things all combin. together to create our health and Jay I. think you're resonate with this one of. the things I've realized over the past. couple years of really reflecting on the. way we're trained in Western medicine. and this is not me saying I'm. anti-western medicine I think Western. medicine is exceptionally good at many. things.

but unfortunately for most of the things. we now see The Chronic lifestyle driven. illness it's just not as helpful right. and fundamentally Western medicine. teaches us that things go wrong in the. body right we get taught to diagnose. disease and treat. disease we don't get taught how to. create Health how do you create Vitality. what are the factors in someone's life. that allows them to live their best life.

and you know with our culture with our. Indian background iting medicine for. many years has been talking about this. traditional Chinese medicine has been. talking about this so for me it's not a. battle of Eastern medicine versus. Western medicine it's what is the best. of Western what is the best of East and. how do we blend them together and I'd. like to think that I've done that. throughout my career and hopefully in. this book give people a real practical. toolkit mhm yeah and that and that. definitely res resonates and I wanted.

the one thing that caught my eye when I. was reading the book I wanted to ask you. why have you never told a patient to. quit smoking to just quit smoking why. have you never said that I've never told. a patient that they must give up. smoking because I don't think that's my. role and I think this is where we go. wrong in medicine and frankly in any. relationship because what is the the. relationship I have with my patients. it's a doctor patient relationship but. this principle kind of works.

parent child husband wife boyfriend. girlfriend these are just Human. Relationships nobody wants to be told. what to do by somebody else at some. point if you're going to make. transformative change it's got to come. from within so one of the things I've. always rebelled against in my career as. a doctor is this rather paternalistic. approach that we get taught medical. school that doctor knows best patient. comes in you tell me what the issue is. then I'll tell what's wrong with you and.

what you need to do some people may be. able to make that approach work I. couldn't and I'll tell you why I. couldn't if a patient comes in and asks. for my opinion that's very important one. thing I've tried to change in my life. over the past few years is never to give. unsolicited advice right so if the. patient's in in front of me and says Dr. Chancey listen I'm not feeling good what. impact is smoking having on my. health I feel that my role as a fellow. human.

being is to explain to them what impact. I think smoking is having on their. health now if at the end of that. conversation if I'm confident that. they've understood me and that they've. retained the information and they say. hey Dr chaty I understand what you're. saying but I get so much enjoyment out. of smoking that I'm prepared to put it. with the. consequences I don't feel that's my job. to change their minds I feel it's a deep. respect that I have for my patients if. they understand it and they want to do.

it I'm okay with that and I'll tell you. Jay what I've learned over the years is. that by taking that. approach I feel I've had really good. compliance with my patients like really. good compliance like a lot of doctors. will say I I have this course called. prescribing lifestyle medicine that I. created with a Royal College of GPS with. a friend of mine with a with a colleague. and we have trained thousands of. healthcare professionals around the. world in the principles that I talk. about in this book and my previous books. and one of the things people would say.

to me doctors would say hey do Chie. listen I get all this but patients don't. listen to what we tell them and even the. way that they phrase that is really. interesting to me I don't tell my. patients what to do it's not my. role I want to connect with my patients. I want to then educate and Empower them. but I always want to connect first so. going back to your initial question why. do I why have I never told a patient. that they must give up spoking. it's not my role to do that and here's.

what happens when you treat people like. an equal you don't look down at them you. don't think that you know better than. them what will often happen they may say. I I want to smoke right I understand but. I enjoy this they'll come back two. months later they'll be like hey Dr. chass you know I said I wanted to keep. smoking because I enjoy it so much. actually I've been thinking can you help. me start to change that but often if you. say You must give up smoking it's going.

to give you cancer it's going to. increase your risk of heart attacks I. just don't think that works in the. long-term you make short-term change but. as for the title of this book you don't. make change that lasts and that. principle frankly as I say applies far. beyond the doctor patient relationship. yeah I mean I I love hearing that. because I think there's such a Humanity. to it and also a big part of making. change that lasts is someone making. change for themselves exactly they. believe that this change will help them.

be a better parent a better professional. a better person a. better functioning human and if I feel. pressured into making change or if I. feel pushed into making change then. chances are I'm going to fall right back. into that habit so if someone does come. up to you and say Dr chaty how do I. break a bad habit what would you say is. the number one advice for someone who. says I want to break a bad habit it just.

can't happen it's just never happened. there's many ways of tackling bad habits. but if you're asking me for the number. one tip it would be related to our. environment right so we don't realize. how much our environment influences our. Behavior I feel that being here in La. I've been here for a week. now the people I've been hanging out. with over the past week are really into. health and wellness right so everyone. around who I'm interacting with wants to.

eat well they want to go to bed early. they want to look after themselves so. even though I'm away from home when I'm. in this exciting City I naturally. respond right it's been really telling. for me and it really gave me an Insight. is that if you live in an environment. where your family where your friends. where the things you have in your house. are encouraging unhelpful. behaviors you're going to be struggling. right you're going to be constantly. fighting your environment so what does.

that mean for an individual who's trying. to say to me I want to eat less sugar. for example which is very common right. especially at New Year I have said to my. patients for years if you don't want to. eat it don't bring it into your house. don't exercise willpower in your house. because you have to exercise it as soon. as you walk out the front door now. that's been very very helpful for so. many of my patients and it's kind of. what I do in my own life even though I.

really understand my internal triggers. these days which I think is really. important I just don't make life more. difficult for myself that I need to that. I won't bring into my house the potato. chips the chocolates the biscuits. whatever it might be because I know I'm. human just like everyone else at some. point I'll come back stressed and tired. and I'll want to open the cupboard and. see what's there nothing wrong with that. if people are doing that I don't want. them to feel feel guilt or.

shame but I think they need to. understand that if you have it there. it's going to be harder for you now. related to that example I have a I have. a an exercise here that I'd love to. share with you audience if that's okay. please I love it as a. doctor many people will say Dr chassi I. know that excess sugar is not helping me. but I can't stop right I'm really good. in the day but at 9:00 p.m. um do you do. you recognize s j I used to I've worked.

really hard at this but yes I I. empathize it's really common right where. people have been you know in invert Comm. is good during the day but at night. their kids are in bed or they're sitting. on the sofa there's a box set on I. really feel like ice cream so I have. this exercise that I created for my. patients that has been so helpful that. I've used with myself called the three. FS okay the three FS are feel feed and. find okay so if someone's listening J. and they have this issue which I suspect.

will be quite a lot of people I would. say okay you're sitting on your sofa. you're craving the ice cream okay just. take a pause just for a second take a. pause and ask yourself the first F feel. what am I. feeling is it physical hunger or is it. emotional hunger okay ah well you know. what I'm actually not physically hungry. I had a huge meal 1 hour ago oh I feel a. bit stressed I feel a bit lonely. whatever it might be then go ahead and. have it. okay I just want you to start building.

in some selfawareness which is the. missing piece in Behavior change of. people if you ask me the the big thing. that we're. missing the next time you're on the sofa. and you're you can do this All in One go. if you want but you know some people. find it difficult so the next time. you're on the sofa I would say do the. first F again what am I feeling then go. to the second F which is feed how does. food feed that feeling ah oh I was. feeling stressed I have ice scream at.

least in the short term I feel less. stressed okay cool now you're developing. a bit of an understanding as to why I'm. engaging with this Behavior okay great. if you want to eat it go ahead and eat. it with no guilt and no shame go and. enjoy it and then the next. time go through those FS what are my. feeling how does food uh feed the. feeling which is the second F and then. the third f is f now that I know what. the feeding is now that I know how food. feeds that feeling can I find an.

alternative Behavior to feed that. feeling so it could be oh I feel. stressed that's why I go to Sugar what. else could I do instead of sugar oh I. really like yoga maybe I'll go on. YouTube and do a 10-minute yoga sequence. maybe you feel lonely you've been on. Zoom calls all day you haven't seen your. friends or your partner and it's a bit. of a treat to yourself in the evening. that's very common you know people.

aren't hungry but they just it's a. little treat to themselves okay how else. could you nourish yourself oh well maybe. I could run myself a bath I'd have a 10. 15 minute bath to myself maybe I'm. feeling lonely I could phone a friend or. a parent or whatever it might be every. single Behavior we engage with serves a. role in our life you'll only change the. behavior in the long term if you. understand the role it's playing so that. is it's a very simple exercise I've. described through the lens of sugar but.

the truth is you can apply that to. anything you can apply that to alcohol. uh 3 hours Doom scrolling on Instagram. online pornography online shopping. whatever you want it's a simple exercise. which are my favorite kinds of exercises. that can be very very powerful once you. start engaging with it yeah I think it's. spot on I think if you think about it. we're constantly. chasing a feeling an emotional fix and. we usually turn turn to physical. tangible things that we think are going.

to make us feel that way right as you. said like really what I'm trying to do. is lower stress and I've just created. the mechanism to think if I want to. lower stress I need to indulge in ice. cream and that's the connection we've. made whereas like you're saying there's. so many other ways and actually could be. a natural source of sugar it could be a. low sugar product if that's what you're. after it could be as you said uh a yoga. session breath work whatever it may be. now what I find though is that when you. first try and make that change it.

literally feels like you're fighting. against yourself right it almost feels. like there's this internal battle and. I'm I'm at the point now having worked. on some of these things for a while I'm. at a point now where I believe my taste. buds have actually changed exactly the. feeling and the desire is evolved and. I'm able to deal with it in a healthier. way but there's that middle part where. you feel like you're just like come on. I've got to give in I've got to give in. yeah you said two key words there for me.

and these are the two missing words I. think in Behavior change internal. struggle this is really what I'm trying. to get across to people every single. behavior is Downstream usually from. something inside you and we're living in. a world where we want to consume more. and more information get more and more. knowledge which is helpful up to a point. now I'll come back to that point because. I think it's a really important one I. just want to address what you said about.

it feeling. difficult out of those three. FS the most important f is the first one. why because it suddenly just breaks you. out of your repetitive cycle I feel. stressed I want some ice cream I go to. the freezer and before I know it I've. had half the tub that is very very. common you think that's who you are it's. not who you are it's who you've become. and you can unbe it if you start to do.

that first f it is simply the knowledge. that I can take a pause there is a gap. between the stimulus and the response. when you are repeating your behaviors. dayto day when they they become habits. whether the good habits or or unhealthy. habits there's no Gap there's a feeling. there's a stimulus and there's a. response usually an unhealthy response. in this current climate right for many. people so that first f creates a gap now. people will often say yes that's.

actuallyy but you know and now that I'm. aware so what what can I do I'm like. wait a minute 90% of change in my. experience is that first f is. understanding oh this is why I'm going. to it sure it may take a few weeks it. may take a few months to really work on. that relationship and start to tweak it. because how long did it take you to. develop this relationship maybe you've. been using sugar to manage stress for 20. years you're not going to change that in.

one week in January just because you. wake up thinking I want to make this. year the best year of my life you're not. going to it is a process of change but. what people Miss Jay for me is that that. process where you learn what this. behavior is doing for. you you struggle you sometimes can't. make the change that you want other. times you can that process is where the. gold is that's when you're learning. about your yourself that's when you get.

the Mastery about yourself oh I always. when I have a r with my partner I don't. feel good so yeah I want sugar or when. I'm alone or I'm traveling for work and. I'm away from my wife and my kids that's. when I just want to spend three hours on. Instagram because I'm I'm looking for. connection that's where the gold lies. and and for me Jay the most important. chapter in this book is chapter one. which is called trust. yourself and I don't think we're talking. about this enough in the health and.

wellness. space people are getting confused right. you must get this on your show like I do. on M podcast right this idea that. despite our best efforts at trying to. navigate the complexity what I often. find Jay is people will say to me not. not often but it happens enough that I. know that this is an issue Dr chat you. know two months ago you had this. credential expert from Harvard and they. said this diet is really good like a. ketogen is is really good for mental. health and they they sound really.

trustworthy they've got all the. credentials and they've quoted four or. five research studies to back up what. they think and I thought okay amazing. and then last week you spoke to another. doctor also well credentialed who said. no a vegan diet or a whole food. plant-based diet is best for mental. health and presented five studies to. support what they have to say and people. would contact me and say Dr CH I'm. really confused right both of those. experts they sound great um they've all.

got research to back at what they're. saying I don't know which expert to. trust and Jay what I've realized is. that's the wrong question the more. helpful question the more powerful. question is not which expert should I. trust it's why do I no longer trust. myself yeah that is the magic to. behavior change you have to start tuning. into the signals your body is giving you. so using that example I would say to.

someone hey I tell you. what why do you have to choose which. one's right maybe they're both right for. certain people but they're not right for. anyone right so I would say okay try. this expert's diet for four weeks and. whilst you're trying it pay attention. pay attention to what's going on what's. your energy like What's Your vitality. how are your relationships how's your. sleep how's your focus how's your. concentration pay attention go okay I.

tried that for four weeks now let me try. this other person's diet for four weeks. and again pay attention I promise if you. start paying attention you will very. quickly find out what is the right diet. for you at that moment in your life and. I feel that we're not talking about this. enough we're still we we've we've got to. a point. Jay where we've outsourced our own inner. expert teas to external experts I'm not.

saying ignore external experts right you. have some great experts on your show. each week I have some great experts on. my podcast each. week but you should listen to their. advice and put it through your own. filter and then you figure out what. works for you and honestly if you would. say what is the key thing you've learned. in 23 years of seeing patients I've seen. tens of thousands of patients I've. learned many things but I would say no. one approach works for everyone. it just doesn't and when we try and make.

it work for everyone it's a problem. because people feel like failures yeah. right people feel oh I'm following the. expert's advice I'm doing what they said. to do it's not working there must be. something wrong with me they start to. feel guilty they start to feel like. they're a loser they start to have shame. those things never lead to long-term. Behavior change and you know the other. thing uh Jay I've learned and I love. your view on this because I think it. probably resonates with the way you see.

the. world I think we focus too much on the. behavior for me it's the energy behind. the behavior that's the most important. thing you need to go what's behind the. behavior and I've realized that in life. all behaviors either come from the. energy of Love or the energy of. fear if it's coming from the energy of. fear so guilt shame I'm not good enough. those changes will not last in the long.

term I've been doing this a long time I. have seen it it lasts for January it. lasts for a few months it doesn't lead. to long-term transformation because your. behaviors are in conflict with the way. that you see. yourself if it's coming from an energy. of love that I like who I am I want to. improve my life that I'm going to be. compassionate to myself those changes it. can be the same behaviors working out. eating well going to bed on time getting. 8 hour sleep whatever it might be it can.

be the same behavior but if the energy. behind it is from the energy of love. that's when the changes start to become. longterm and I really get I don't get. frustrated nothing frustrates me anymore. um really if I'm completely honest. because I've been doing the inner work. for many years I just I can stay quite. detached from things and just see them. for what they are but as a doctor I. guess I believe we made Behavior change. so difficult. I don't even say it's hard anymore and I.

tell you why I don't say that I used to. say you know I know it can feel hard I. know it's hard as a way trying to. empathize with. people but if we say if we constantly. say oh it's difficult oh it's going to. be hard we're prejudging the experience. for people sure it may feel challenging. but it doesn't always have to and I've. experienced that myself so 5 years ago. Jay I would have a very hard very harsh. inner voice so on January first I would. be very much I'm going to meditate this.

year like 20 minutes a day and I do it. for 14 days and I'm I feel like I'm. rocking yeah this is a I've got. meditation down this year then I miss a. day that the selft talk would start man. you couldn't do it you couldn't do it. wrong and could you you know you were. loser whatever I used to have a really. harsh negative voice not that long ago. but I have completely changed it through. all the things that I share in this book. right I've completely changed it back. then Behavior change felt difficult. because it was in conflict with how I.

saw. myself now that I like myself dare I say. talking to a fellow Brit that I love. myself right can you imagine in the UK. is saying that you know I do though not. in a narcissistic way but I like who I. am I think I'm a nice guy I'm kind I'm. compassionate I help people I'm no. longer competitive as I've talked you. about on a previous episode on on your. show like I just want to raise people P. up when you feel like that and everyone.

can feel like that if they know which. leav us to turn Behavior change becomes. so much easier because you're not trying. to fight yourself does that all make. sense it makes a lot of sense I mean two. things came to mind as you were speaking. the first was you can't change something. you hate you can only change something. you love and that includes yourself. because if you hate something how much. energy will you give it how much Focus. will you give it how how much direction. will you give it whereas when you love.

something you'll be present with it. you'll be right there with it and I feel. we're trying to hate ourselves into. change and you're so right I remember. years ago as well like having a very. very harsh negative inner voice and it. did all the things you said I would. shame myself I would guilt myself I. would judge myself and none of that. helped me change if anything it took. longer for me to get back to where I. wanted to get to because when you fall. off after 14 days of meditation now when.

you're judging and guilting and shaming. yourself you feel like you can't do the. thing unless you can be perfect and then. you go to more unhelpful behaviors and. in some ways I realized you you would. have been better off never doing those. 14 days in the first place because you. feel like a failure and you know it's. interesting someone once asked me about. what are your non-negotiables wrong in. and I realized J I no longer have any. because a non-negotiable to me feels. like a harsh rule so let's use that. through the lens of this meditation.

practice where I tried for 14 days I. miss one day I beat myself up now yeah I. meditate most mornings but not every. morning and if I miss I'm like okay yeah. sure I didn't do it today oh I'm a. better person I'm a bit calmer when I do. meditate yeah I must make sure I do that. tomorrow it's a very different. relationship that energy behind the. behavior is completely different so I. was like you J I want make it practical. for people so I have these three.

questions I ask myself every morning but. one of those questions I think really. applies. here so you teach your audience Jay on a. consistent basis about living an. intentional life a purposeful life right. and I think a lot of people don't. realize how powerful the mornings are we. all have a morning routine whether we. think we do or not the question is are. we intentional about it have we thought. about the consequences of how we start. each day cuz some of you say oh they're.

not for me you know it's a bit cliche. this idea of a morning routine whatever. it might be and I'm like no no you've. got a routine you just may not have. thought about it so what I've learned. Jay over the years is that so many of. our thoughts our feelings our behaviors. are. Downstream from the content we consume. so if you wake up and the first thing. you do is going onto your phone and go. on the news news and see the negativity.

that the news is telling us from all. over the world you go onto your work. emails and see the backlog that you. didn't complete or whatever it might be. you go into social media and get caught. up in an argument or whatever it might. be does it really surprise you that half. an hour later you may be a little. reactive with your kids or your partner. or you may feel a little negative about. the state of the world when you look at. it like that I think it's quite obvious. if if that's what you're inputting into. your brain think about it as software. that's what you're inputting in of.

course the output straight after that. for many people is going to be negative. as well if you have a more intentional. start to your day with a bit more. positivity I don't I'm not talking about. toxic positivity or fake positivity just. intentionally going whether it's. gratitude I mean one of the questions I. ask is a gratitude question what is one. thing I deeply appreciate about my life. it helps shift your mindset and where. you're going to place your attention but. where I finish my morning routine is. with this what I consider to be a very.

powerful question what quality would I. like to Showcase to the world today it's. a simple question but it's very very. powerful because it forces you okay let. me rephrase that I don't even like using. the word Force anymore it feels a bit of. an aggressive word right it doesn't it. feels like it's coming from the energy. of fear rather than the energy of. love I have the opportunity each morning. with that question. to set the intention of how I wish to.

show up so often it will be I wish to. showcase the quality of patience today. or compassion and you write it down I. write it down in my journal and I think. about it what would it look like today. to show the quality of patience or. compassion ah you know if I get caught. up in a in a in a traffic I'm not going. to stop berating people I'm just going. to smile and be kind if I get an email I. maybe don't like I'm going to just take. a breath and actually not respond in the.

moment if my wife says this to me or. whatever about the dishes or whatever. I'm just going to go hey it's cool you. know maybe she's having a bad day and. I'm just going to smile and be. compassionate it sounds too simple to. work this is transformative it really. works now just by setting the intention. it doesn't mean that you're going to be. perfect so I have a couple of questions. I as myself in the evening which helps. balance this. what went well today and what can I do.

differently tomorrow so what went well. today could be again it's a form of. gratitude it could be that you know what. I had a really busy day I didn't take a. lunch break I got home late but I still. found 20 minutes to make my family a. home-cooked meal instead of ordering. takeout or whatever it might be okay. you're just going because we have a. negativity bias instead of focusing on. all the things that you didn't get done. and the stress in your day and what you. know how you behaved or whatever you're. putting your attention on what you did.

do which I think is very powerful but. then the second part of that question. Jay is really interesting what can I do. differently tomorrow so it could be that. you say you know what this. morning I said I was going to be show. the world qualityy of compassion but at. lunchtime or at 400 p.m. I was really. tired I didn't like the email that my. colleague sent me and I quickly sent an. annoyed email back okay no worries again. we're looking for love not fear so you. can say ah what I can do differently.

tomorrow is I can try harder tomorrow if. that same situation arrives I'm going to. respond differently and I tell you sure. doing this for one day may not do much. you do that for seven days or dare I say. even 30 days the way you experience the. world will be completely different you. will have made this small like one. degree shift each day that in the moment. doesn't feel like anything 30 days later. you will be like a different person I've.

been doing this sub J for maybe 5 years. now and like I was sharing with you. before the mics were. rolling I've never felt this good like I. have this deep sense. of Peace these days and inner. calm and I've worked at it some of the. things I've shared. already many things I haven't shared. that I put in this book. this is available to everyone Jay like.

I'm I absolutely believe that I have. seen throughout my career people in the. darkest of places suicidal patients who. through these kind of practices have. managed to completely turn their lives. around it is possible to everyone but I. think we're going about change a lot of. the time in the wrong. places right we talk about creating. healthy habits it's important and I've. written a book about that in the past I. know the rules of healthy habit. formation you know make it easy stick on.

the new Behavior onto an existing habit. those things are very very helpful but. they still don't get to the root and my. attempt with this book is to help people. go no no no there are things that you. don't know that are driving you in your. life a lot of people don't realize Jay. that their behaviors are driven by their. beliefs so if you believe that somebody. out there knows. what is best for you more than you that.

is going to dictate your behaviors your. belief is that someone else knows better. so you're going to be every few months. looking for a new expert to follow every. January you're going to buy a new health. book to say oh you need to go on a 30day. sugar detox you need to cut out alcohol. you need to cut out Ultra processed. foods these things are all well and good. but I submit to you Jay that many people. dare I say most people who are listening. to show shows like yours or mine kind of.

already know that excess sugar is not. helping them or excess alcohol is not. helping them I don't think they need. more external knowledge of oh alcohol. will do this to your liver or sugar will. do this to your teeth people know that. they need more internal knowledge they. need Insight intuition and in my view. the way you develop that is with some. intentional Time Each Day these. questions meditation journaling if. you're constantly in your life you never.

step out of it to reflect on it it's not. about the behavior it's about the energy. behind the behavior yeah it resonates. very strongly with me and to kind of. encapsulate what you're saying what I'm. hearing and what I found to be true is. that if you really want to make a change. it comes down to your most repeated. thought your most repeated words and. your most repeated actions. and what you find is you already have a.

most repeated thought I'm not good. enough I can't do it that life's not for. me and this goes back to your point. that's what your beliefs are your. beliefs are just your most repeated. thoughts and now it feels like that's. who you are and then naturally those. become your words so when someone says. to you like oh how's that new habit. going or you know how's the workout. going or whatever you go oh you know I. can't I can't keep up with it exact and. now you keep repeating that everyone you. meet you go oh yeah I gave up after 7. days and now that's your language and.

then that naturally leads on to your. actions and so what you're talking about. which I really appreciate because it is. harder to talk about which is what is. the root but for all of us anyone who's. had a lasting change it's been a root. issue that's been solved always and and. this is why I'm so passionate Jay about. this idea you know I've been in this. health and wellness space publicly for. 10 years now. and for all the benefits of this.

increase in information and of course. there are many like people a better. educated now than ever before about. health and wellness and what we can do. but we have to confront a very. uncomfortable truth which is despite all. of this increasing. information people are getting. physically and mentally more sick so I. was trying to solve this problem I was. trying to go I don't want to just write. another book with more information on. what you should do I want to help. understand why they are doing it and.

again talking to root causes and maybe. feeding back to what you've just. said this I think is the most under. taught aspect this is the most. underappreciated aspect of Health for. me let me make it really practical for. people many of us are trying to change. our behaviors and I know I've used sugar. and alcohol a few times just because I. think they're quite common and quite. relatable for people people don't. understand that the way they interact. with other people. directly affects that behavior so for.

example you're driving to work in the. morning and there's a bit of traffic and. someone cuts in front of you okay we've. all seen it maybe we've experienced it. where we start to create all this mental. noise oh my God stupid driver they. shouldn't have done that they need their. eyes checked whatever it might be and we. think that we're entitled to do that and. we are right I'm not here to change. anyone right you've got to change. yourself right you're entitled to react. like that just know that there's a. consequence one of the themes that.

underpins every chapter in this book is. that emotional stress is not. neutral so we think about physical. stress but we don't think about. emotional stress so a driver Cuts in. front of you there are many ways to. react to that situation if you take a. disempowering narrative and create all. of this anger and stress and noise in. your head you've generated emotional. stress. you will need to neutralize that.

emotional stress in some way or another. now you could do it in a healthy way by. going for a walk or going to the gym. usually what people do when they get to. the office is they need an extra coffee. they need to go to the vending machine. and get some sugar they need an extra. drink after work and then they think oh. I'm drinking too much in the evening or. I'm eating too much sugar I need to. change that but they don't. realize that actually the way they dealt. with that driver on the road that day.

because it's not just that that's the. pattern they they use for everything in. their life I say this with an open heart. we almost make ourselves a victim to. life we think that the way we. feel is down to the way other people. treat us and I understand that we like. other people to treat us well but you. can cultivate the skill of not having. your inner State as dependent on the. world around you so you can develop the. skill and I share how to in this book. with practice you can basically go wow.

what other story could I create here oh. maybe that. mother has had a sick child up all night. with earache and they're just rushing. maybe she's on her last warning with her. boss and actually if she's late one more. time she's going to lose her job and. that's how she feeds her family right. the truth doesn't matter for your inner. well-being it really doesn't and you can. choose to start looking at the world.

this way and what you will find yes it. might feel challenging at first so you. have to consciously think about it maybe. not in the moment maybe in the evening. and I'll share a practice that can help. people with that but over time it. becomes your default whereas now you. know I've been in LA traffic this week. I've heard you guys talk about it all. the time oh I've experienced it I'm. running late for some interviews I'm. just I'm totally chilled I'm like I. can't do anything about this nothing I. can do you can train that response and I. think last time I came on your podcast.

Jay I think I shared the story of Edith. eager The 93y Old Lady Who Was an Al. schwitz when she was 16 and I shared the. powerful narrative she would use in her. mind to reframe her existence there and. I won't tell that story again but I'll. remind people of the final thing that. Edith eager told me when she came on my. podcast she said to me Dr CH G I have. lived in. alwiz and I can tell you the greatest. prison you will ever live.

inside is the prison you create inside. your own mind and the penny dropped from. me Jay in that conversation literally I. thought that's it that's what we're all. doing we're interacting with the world. with other people we're creating these. disempowering narratives we're making. ourselves a victim to the world around. us without realizing that we have the. power to shape the narrative on every. single situation most situations in life. you could even say all but that gets a.

bit triggering for people so I say most. situations in life are neutral it's the. perspective we take on that situation. that determines its impact you want to. change your behaviors if you're someone. who has been trying to make changes in. January for the last 10 years and you. keep buying a new book and you keep. trying a new detox plan or whatever and. you're still ending up where you were. the year before you have to actually the. question am I taking the right approach.

is there something I'm missing is it. more external information I need or more. internal information MH yeah and I and I. really appreciate the direction of. getting people to trust themselves I. mean I've seen that time and time again. I remember a couple of months ago I was. trying a really high protein diet the. amount that's recommended and I just it. didn't work for me it just didn't work. for me like trying to eat my body weight. in protein was far too much for me. personally and I didn't feel good I was.

feeling more tired I was feeling. actually more bloated I was it just. didn't work and and it was like well. this is all the studies say this is all. the reset says even within those studies. that are done right yeah we think the. studies show this when you look into. most scientific studies right let me try. and make it um super simple to. understand for people let's say there. was a study done where a hundred people. will put on one diet and 100 people put. on another diet which one is better and.

then on balance we'll say oh this one. this one statistically was better but it. doesn't mean that 100% of the people. were better on that one there would have. been some people who were better on the. other one but overall we say that one. word what we're saying is that that one. works for the most people in that study. it doesn't mean it will for you and this. is where I think the differences between. researchers and. clinicians you know I.

I I feel one thing I'm really good at. and again I don't say this with any. arrogance I feel I'm really good at. connecting with my patients and I'm I've. managed to help them make transformative. change many of them throughout their. careers and I've as you know I even. showcase what I do on BBC 1 and back in. 2015 and 2017 where families who were. sick were under GPS were under. Specialists with type 2 diabetes panic. attacks fibromyalgia menopausal symptoms.

irritable bound syndrome I either helped. everyone fully reverse their conditions. or get them significantly better like. 80% better in just 6 weeks using. nutrition lifestyle and. mindsets that's not blaming. people it's showing people educating. them that oh the way you do things. matters how you live each day the. choices you make the way you talk to. each other right these things really.

play a role and Jay I I often think you. know I was thinking about this on the. plane over to La this time wrong and why. do you have such a I don't know if I can. call it unique perspective on health but. it's not the normal perspective I would. say that most medical doctors would you. agree with that yeah most yeah compared. to most absolutely and I think one of. the reasons why and there's many reasons. including my cultural upbringing. probably similar to yours where we grow. up with this more holistic approach. these ideas that food is medicine all. those kind of.

ideas but I think my filming that BBC. documentary series over two or three. years I think it gave me an Insight that. very few doctors ever get even if you're. a disenchanted doctor and you think 10. minutes is not enough which it isn't and. you figure out a way to spend one hour. with your patients what I learned on. filming that series when I would live. alongside families for four to 6 weeks. sometimes I'd stay overnight in the. house okay I got to see stuff that.

people rarely get to see I got to see oh. wow they've got these symptoms but I'm. noticing how the husband and wife are. talking to each other in the evening oh. I wonder how that relationship is. impacting their physical health and I. would do this with all kinds of families. in all different areas of the UK so it. gave me a rather unique Insight where. this idea is that literally 99% of what. happens to your health I know this. sounds really obvious it's it's outside.

the doctor's surgery it's how you live. your life it's how you approach. adversity and so I think it's it's kind. of given me this rather unique uh view I. think my my 23 years of clinical. practice has also taught me that there's. no one right approach so you as you say. you can hear all the experts online you. want telling you about the high protein. that you. need and you could keep trying it or you. go wait well you know what I don't think. that's the right approach for me at this.

point in my life and that's that. secondary bit is another key piece yeah. it might be later but right now for the. state of your life and your health it's. not working for you and we need to learn. to trust ourselves more yeah absolutely. I like that addition as well what's your. take we've talked a lot about. self-awareness and the importance of it. obviously right now everyone's getting. really excited about fitness trackers. what's your take on them there's a. section on this actually in the book. because I think it's a.

really important thing to think about so. I currently have one on I've been slow. to adopt fitness trackers and I'll tell. you why a key theme in this book is. about Reliance and that we're overly. reliant on things outside of ourself on. people treating us well on all kinds of. things expert knowledge whatever it. might be and we need to become what I. say in the book is minimally Reliant not. zero Reliance but less Reliance I think. trackers Health trackers fitness. trackers can be good and they can also.

be bad it depends on who you are so. we've got all these you know new fitness. trackers but let's talk about another. kind of tracker that's been around for a. while a blood pressure monitor right. they've been around for 30 40 years. something like that that's a form of. health tracker maybe it's not as. high-tech as some of these new ones but. it's a form of Health tracking what I. would notice Jay in my practice for. years is that many people would say Dr. actually should I buy one from the. pharmacy and use it at home and.

initially I would say yeah great idea. then you can check what your blood. pressure is doing and then what I. noticed that oh wow maybe 50% of people. this is a rough guess it's not a. scientific study half of my patients. would use regular blood pressure checks. at home to empower them right so they'd. be like oh wow okay it's going a bit. high now what's going on and they'd use. it in a very helpful way to get to know. themselves better and make positive. changes the other half I think it was.

harmful for them they would get stressed. out they would check it four times a day. they would get health anxiety and that. would paralyze them so I thought wow. it's not the tracker itself that's the. that's the issue it's our relationship. to the tracker that's the theme. throughout this conversation it's our. relationship to it so if you're someone. who can look at that tracker whether. it's an app watch or a a woop band or an. aing or whatever what you know whatever.

you've got a Garin you know if you're. able to use it to help you get to know. yourself better and it helps you make. positive changes I think they can be. very very helpful in fact I'm on a. two-month experiment at the moment with. with this one that I've got on and it's. really helping me understand myself. better oh this is what my heart rate. variability is like when I eat a bit. later at night or you know when I've. been on a transatlantic flight whatever. it might I'm like I'm learning about.

myself I'm getting a deeper. understanding of myself through this now. I think it could be very helpful but. some people have got a very unhealthy. relationship with them they're obsessed. with them if it the battery is not. working they start to stress out oh I. don't know how to exist and the truth is. there are some scientific studies which. show us that they can be. problematic so there was one study which. I write about in the book where in. essence a simp ified way of describing. it. is they took these groups of people and.

put them in the lab one group were only. allowed to sleep for 5 hours the other. group were allowed to sleep for8 hours. right but there's no clocks anywhere and. then they told the group who slept for 5. hours that they slept for eight hours. and the group that slept for eight hours. that they'd only slept for 5 hours and. that impacted their energy levs through. the day and it impacted their physiology. right so that's a really powerful study.

and there's many more like that which. all that does for me again let's not get. let's not use that study to disempower. us that's interesting what does it show. it shows that some people can have an. unhealthy relationship with these. devices some people can have a helpful. one and if I think about that through. the lens of me and my wife right I love. getting data I can be very detached from. it it doesn't affect me if I see a low. Readiness score in the morning I can be. detached from that and go wow I can.

still perform even with that right I. will often not check for days right or. once a day once every two days I'll go. on and check my data I don't want to. become dependent or. Reliant that's the key so I can't tell. you Jay are these good or bad it depends. on who you are and what's your. relationship to that device and only you. will be able to answer that question for. yourself yeah it's a great answer it's a. great answer and I and I and fully agree. I think it goes back to what the common. theme is as you said it's our.

interpretation of the event of the data. of the. information and I guess then going back. to what you said earlier your only. non-negotiable has become being kinder. to yourself like that is your. non-negotiable like the ability to. always turn towards not judging not. shaming not guilting but giving yourself. that space and Grace to just operate and. think it's through yeah it's funny that. words are interesting aren't they I.

guess the word non-negotiable for me. these days maybe because I used to have. such a Negative voice in my heads I kind. of feel that everything's negotiable in. life right so I don't know let's take an. example um violence right I could say. that I'm a calm person and I would never. be violent right but hold on there's. always a situation in life that might. challenge that what if I was on a street. with my two beautiful children and. someone was trying to attack me or.

attack them would I turn to violence to. protect them yeah I think I would right. I wouldn't intentionally want to do that. so I could say that being kind and. compassionate and nonviolent is a. non-negotiable or I could be a bit more. realistic and go well I think in 99.9%. of situations in. life I'm going to be kind and. compassionate or I'm going to certainly. have the intention to be but I can. foresee situation whereby yeah maybe I. would turn to violence do you know what.

I mean I think it's that complexity and. Nuance so for me if I say it's a. non-negotiable again it may for someone. else they may like the term but for me. it's not so program me with this harsh. task master I must always do this I can. never I can never fall from this so for. me I personally don't use that term but. I to I totally welcome other people like. if they want to use that term I think it. completely fine and I think it's all. highly highly individual we have to find.

what works for us I don't I don't. believe. anymore that anything for me is. non-negotiable I think I set an. intention about how I want to live but. always knowing that the situation could. change now Jay I'm here in LA right. maybe two weeks after the election and. it's remarkable for me to see certainly. online the division right and I remember. maybe six or nine months ago when your. current US Surgeon General vivec m he. was in London he came on my podcast we. had a wonderful conversation and he said.

to me back. then one in six Americans are currently. not talking to a family member because. of their political views and I supect. that's even higher now from what I can. tell now I'm not trying to wait into. politics here I'm trying to take a step. back and go to me and I'm not American. right so I I acknowledge that put that. out there. to me it seems like Madness right.

there's a chapter in this book called. take less offense which is an over. Reliance on being right our need to be. right and I explained in that chapter. that nothing in life is inherently. offensive if it was we'd all get. offended to the same thing if it was. that thing that was offensive all of us. would find it offensive if we don't all. find something. offensive it means that thing isn't. offensive there's something inside of us. that's being activated or being.

triggered so that whole chapter is about. helping people understand that you don't. need to take offense to everything you. can choose not to you can choose to go. wowow why has that person got a. different view to me why does that. person see the world so differently from. me you know I think I might have shared. this last time I was on your show Jay. but the one of the phrases that has been. transformative for me is if I was that. other. person I'd be behaving in exactly the.

same way as them and what I mean by that. is if I was that other person with their. parents with their childhood with the. bullying they experienced with the. friends they had at school with the. first boss who bullied them on the. workplace whatever it might be if I had. their. life I would probably see the world in. the same way as them and I probably act. in the same way as them now this doesn't. mean I'm saying this excuse is Behavior. no I'm not saying that what I'm saying. is instead of jumping to Judgment of.

other people which I think is a toxic. Behavior I think it's a behavior that. won't help you make change you I used to. be judgmental I'm not anymore you can. change this we said before how our. behaviors are driven by our beliefs none. of us came out of our mother's womb with. these beliefs right we didn't we. developed them based upon what we. experienced throughout our life. it's a much lighter way of interacting.

with the world when you go wow why do. they think in the way that they do now. you don't have to choose that approach. to life but if you're someone who's. walking around taking offense to. everything okay and I say this I promise. you I say this with compassion Jay if. there's anyone listening who's thinks. that they they're a person who's. constantly berating the drivers on the. freeway um taking offense to everything. they see on social media my invitation. to that individual is hey that approach.

to life may not be serving you you may. have an overreliance on being right and. in that chapter I made the case. actually thinking that everyone in the. world is going to see the world in the. same way as us in a world of 8 billion. people is actually quite an arrogant way. to think and I'm not judging when I say. that I used to think like this Jay right. so I'm why I sh that is because I want. people to know I know what that feels. like and I know you can change that if.

you choose to not take offense and. interact with compassion why does that. person think the way in which they do. you will naturally make better choices. because you're not generating that. emotional stress you go on Instagram or. Twitter or X and find a comment really. irritating or someone's Viewpoint really. offensive and start to get involved with. them of course you can do that that. might be why you struggle to reduce your.

alcohol intake or your sugar intake. because you're getting addicted to that. noise that emotional stress and let's. relate that back to what I said about. Edith eager before this lady who. survived alitz and at. 93 is full of compassion and forgiveness. and even said that she's forgiven. Hitler right let that land for a minutes. it doesn't mean that what Hitler did was. right she's not saying that. what she's saying is I'm no longer going. to allow what he did to affect me and my.

life and how I interact there's a big. difference people get there's a whole. section on forgiveness in the book and. people really misunderstand forgiveness. they think it means that I'm saying that. that was right and it was okay it's not. that at all one of the uh daily. practices I did after my conversation. with Edith which is still probably one. of the most powerful episodes I've ever. had on my podcast. is every evening because as I say you. often can't do it in the moment every.

evening once my kids were in bed when. they were a bit younger I sit down and I. ask myself rongan where did you get. emotionally triggered. today when did an email piss you off. right when did you react to someone. whilst you were driving and instead of. putting the blame on the other person on. something outside of myself I ask myself. a. question what is it within me that's. been activated by that external action. why did that email bother me oh it.

reminds me of something my parents said. to me when I was a kid oh it reminds me. of a boss I had a few years ago oh it's. highlighted in an insecurity like. criticism right we both exist in the. public domain we we have to you know we. get positive comments we also get. negative comments right that is just. part and parcel of life not everyone is. going to like how I put across my. messages that's okay they don't have to. some people people will say I'm the. greatest podcast host in the on the. planet some people say I'm the worst and.

I talk over my guests and whatever do. you know what they're both right for. them right do you know what I mean it's. really important so I've what I've. learned about criticism because. criticism generally doesn't bother me. anymore because I've learned to be. emotionally. detached I've come to the realization. Jay that criticism only bothers. us to the degree we believe it about. ourselves I don't know your relationship. with criticism but certainly for me I. realized oh the reason that bothers me.

is because it triggers an internal. insecurity now I can get annoyed at the. person delivering the criticism or and. maybe it's out of fored maybe they. shouldn't but I'm not sure how much that. helps you you can't control whether. someone is or is not going to criticize. you what I can control and what I can. work on is my internal State oh I'm. insecure about that let me write down. why let me think about that maybe if you. have access to a therapist sure go and. see one talk about it that is the secret.

to long-term change day it's not looking. outside for the answers it's going what. is going on inside of me that. exercise like if people take nothing. else from this conversation Jay I would. say that is one of the most powerful. things you can do it will take you maybe. five minutes every evening and you don't. realize people do not realize how. quickly their lives will start to change. when they take full responsibility for. their reactions you're no longer.

dependent on everyone around you acting. a certain way to feel good you become. like a master in yourself like in. martial arts we want to be black belts. this is your way of becoming a black. belt in. yourself and I love it and and going. back to what I said before about the. process of change if you commit to doing. this you will learn so much about. yourself you will learn why certain. things trigger you why you go to Sugar. why you go to alcohol why you can't stop.

scrolling Instagram for 4 hours every. evening you will learn about yourself. and I promise you that is much more. powerful than any expert ever telling. you that and I say that as a so-called. expert myself make change that lasts. rangan uh it's been really a joy talking. to you today I mean the thing that's. staying with me and resonating with me. most deeply about what you just shared. is this idea of taking accountability. taking responsibility for ourselves for.

our feelings for our health I think it's. very easy to say I did this because this. person told me oh I feel this way. because that person did that to me oh. that person's diet didn't work and. you're so right we've been trying to. Outsource our health our emotional. health our physical health and I love. the. ownership and the empowerment that. you're offering everyone through this. book. because that's really what's missing. that's really what the struggle is is. that we haven't taken ownership of our.

own life and that's what I feel you're. encouraging us to do yeah I really am. because Jay not only have I experienced. it myself because what I say at the end. at the end of the introduction is I say. effortless change actually is available. to you once you work on this stuff. change doesn't become as hard as you. think I think the reason we think it's. so hard. hard is because we're going about it in. the wrong.

way and I think I mean certainly we we. spoke out this beforehand I think I. think what I've stumbled. across through my career and through my. own lived experience are I think some. Universal human truths right I think for. me at least what's exciting about this. book for people is that you're going to. learn. Concepts that you're not used to. learning about from a medical doctor MH. mhm there's like elements of philosophy.

spirituality yes physical health and. habit formation it's all there and I. think from the bottom of my heart that. this is the most important book I've. ever written I think it's going to have. the most impact on people you're very. kind enough to give a quote for the book. um but I remember one of the first. people outside my team to read was Dr. Gabel mate and Gabel read every single. word and he sent me the most wonderful. email and he goes wrong and this is just. wonderful this is your most insightful. book yet this is going to help so many.

people and coming from someone I really. respect that I love him yeah he's. amazing I was so touched I was so. touched and so I think this is the only. Journey that's worth taking is. understand your inner World Stop relying. on those external experts so much I'm. not saying ignore I'm not saying ignore. the science I'm not saying ignore. external experts I think we've gone too. far it's all about what does the experts. say now I'm like no let's just bring it. back it's too head focused and not.

enough heart focused so let's just wind. it back let's use our head but let's. also use our hearts I love that everyone. the book is called make change that last. nine simple ways to break free from the. habits that hold you back go and grab. your copy right now and rangan thank you. so much for always coming with so much. energy enthusiasm and counterintuitive. thinking which I think is going to. benefit a lot of people and start their. new year just right so thank you so much. my friend it's uh it's great to have you.

here Jay thanks for having me back on. your show I appreciate it amazing if you. love this episode you will enjoy my. interview with Dr Daniel aan on how to. change your life by changing your brain. if we want a healthy mind it actually. starts with a healthy brain you know. I've had the blessing or the curse to. scan over a thousand convicted felons. and over over 100 murderers and their. brains are very damaged.