Middle Schoolers Should Not Date

middle schoolers should not date let's. talk about that hey I'm Christa from. Ventura California Good Mythical. [Music]. Morning Good Mythical Morning this. episode is brought to you by the r link. Community go to R link.com click on. beast and take your relationship with us. to the next level wow it's intense. speaking of taking relationship to the.

next level uh we are going to continue. to talk about our experience uh in the. dating world you keep talking about. dating your girlfriends why do you guys. keep talking about your girlfriends is. that is that your commenter voice. commenter voice I hijacked it well the. reason we're going to talk about our. girlfriends is because it's we like to. talk about stuff that happened in the. past that's funny just get over it no. just go with it I come through that. camera hopefully you enjoy you enjoy. this you know and if you don't you'll. you'll comment accordingly yeah so.

anyway we talked about in previous. episodes about how we uh we had the same. first girlfriend that was Leslie y y and. uh well we alluded to the fact that we. also had a same second girlfriend and. the same second girlfriend was Amber and. I'm going to tell you about not the rock. an actual person I'm going to that's. good link I'm going to tell you about uh. amber. and and I'm going to do this how. everything everything that happened in. e8th grade this was my eighth grade year.

now first of all I was riding high in. sixth grade cuz I was like I I got. Leslie you know you know I can't outdo. myself from here and then seventh grade. I come in there and I'm just like who. but who's next and I'm like well I was. with Leslie then so and I was like what. do I do and and and Amber at the time. was with Matt McKenna remember that they. did all that year yeah so I was like w I. don't like anybody else then he went to. the prom in high school dressed as a. woman he did but we won't talk about. that no we won't he was just making a he.

was making a statement it was little. statement made and then in eighth grade. they had they had broken up over the. summer or whatever so I was like Amber. she's a goodlooking girl well maybe I. should try to go with her sweet. personality too and of course I wasn't. man enough to actually approach her so I. was like well that also also that's not. how things are done right yeah you got. establish that intermediary but I was. like you know what you know what I'm. going to do I'm going to talk to Mt. about this ex-boyfriend yeah okay he. knows her well you know they were dated. a whole year yeah so I go to Matt I'm.

like hey Matt you think you could talk. to Amber for me you're kidding me no I. went through the ex-boyfriend he was. like sure whatever I don't have any. interest. anymore and so he talked to Amber and we. established uh interest through Matt and. then somehow that is funny somehow you. know I'm not laughing externally but. internally I'm just labeling that funny. in the process of pursuing Amber as my. girlfriend I quit using Matt and I began. using Adam Nicholson Adam.

Nicholson that's he's an unlikely. intermediary well he was a nice guy he. was like a he was like a he's like teddy. bear kind of a guy friendly guy girls. like him as a friend yeah well I for. some reason he had established this. dialogue with the ladies and I was like. well okay this this will work and so I. remember telling Adam I was like I'm. interested in Amber and I know and and. she knows now because I told her. ex-boyfriend that I'm interested in her. and I remember very distinctly all these. mories are very Vivid for me she was a.

cheerleading practice it was the buoy. Creek demons remember our mascot was a. demon yeah kind of crazy and little. conservative little town where the demon. mascot he was friendly not really though. not really he had a pitchfork he would. you know pull you into sin just at any. moment had flame in his eyes I think. people were burning in his eyes and so. she's out there doing the little well my. name is Amber and I'm here to say that. I'm really really cool and I like you. any it whatever it was you know which. she wasn't cheerleading to you no well. that's I thought that's what I she's.

cheering directly at me and so Adam. somehow like Adam goes into the. cheerleading practice talks talk talks. locker room no they're out there on the. gymnasium hello ladies that's not how it. works I'm in here to deliver a message. and then he comes back out and and he's. like she said yes she said yes and I. remember this is the beginning of 8th. grade I was like this is going to be a. good. year yeah I I was very excited now did. you immediately go up and talk to her or.

was it like still intermediary I think I. talked to her you go back in and say I'm. glad no when first the thing that I. understood that I don't think you ever. understood is once it's official is you. get rid of the intermediary because then. it becomes really awkward if you're. conducting a relationship through. someone another man right of all people. so anyway so I was like well I you know. I got a call or I get a phone number and. and we had discussed your system so I. was like well I'm going to call her and. Link apparently had some Su even though. you had no success it sounded like a. good system of course we talked about.

link system last week and that was the. idea down your questions you had like a. outline that you were going to take into. your conversation and you know it's not. like we're doing FaceTime they didn't. have that bag then so you can't see me. reading my little notebook paper yeah. yeah yeah so I specifically remember I. was watching an episode of The Wonder. Years remember a great show with Fred. Savage and I remember specifically never. watched it that's so sad sorry so anyway. um I'm watching an episode of The Wonder. Years and of course it's a great show so. I don't want to stop but Comm this is. before DVR of course course and the.

commercial break comes I'm like well I'm. going to I'm going to call Amber and I'm. going to take my little I got my my. thing I was nervous first of all but I. had my system I had like my my system. three or your system three or four. things I was going to talk to I get her. on the phone I don't remember what my. system entailed I don't remember what. the four things were all I remember is. that I was done with the conversation. and back watching Wonder Years by the. end of the commercial. break commercial breaks are about 4. minutes you know so this was a short. conversation relationship building.

length of time there but I will tell you. that within one month cuz we ended up. dating for eight months basically the. entire 8th grade year not only were we. talking for four minutes we were we it. was so pathetic when I think about it. now we were talking for hours you. weren't one of those couples that one of. you would be you'd both be on the phone. but You' just be doing stuff no but not. actually talking to each other she might. have been doing something I was just. laying. there listen to a brief I don't recall. that but I was got any new cheers to.

tell me about no it my is Amber I like. that one tell me that one again my name. is Amber I don't remember holding my. mouth like that either like a horse you. had a horse mouth no but listen eth. grade I'm being I'm going to be. vulnerable here I would say things like. yeah be vulnerable I miss you I just. seen her at school I was seeing her the. next day it it's not like I'm in the. frontier somewhere did you mean it I. think so I don't know it was so pathetic. and and I only that and and I'm getting.

to a bigger Point here that we made in. the in the teaser I miss you and and. that is I had to. experience you know we went through. several holidays together I specifically. remember Christmas you know coming that. that year I was like baby I'm going to. go to my girlfriend's house on Christmas. Day M and give her a present as an. eighth grader it's it listen let me tell. you what I wore to her house I wore a. red sweater I remember this a red. sweater you dress up like Santa and a.

white turtleneck oh no I had a red. sweater and a white turtleneck in a. present I was like you know my parents. have to drive me over there of course. and drop me off and I go to the door. like is Amber here you know and and I go. in there I just remember we sat on this. little sofa in her living room like. little sitting area and I had my present. and I and the thing that we I talked. about with Leslie this thing here grasp. my right grasp my hand this and put your. arm around me come on let's demonstrate.

Gizmo and so I was just. like in my Christmas outfit I don't. remember what she had on but I know what. I had on I had on a red sweater and a. white turtleneck she looked like this. and we just sat there like this on. Christmas Day I missed you I missed you. okay it's starting to get weird now but. starting to get weird and then I. remember Valentine's Day came and I got. her I got her a pink ice ring you. remember all the girls like pink ice. back in like the early 90s I heard about. that and I was like oh I got to get her. this pink ice ring now.

that's like the plastic version of a. rock it's not it isn't real it's like. they make it in like a a a factory in. Irwin that seems appropriate for middle. school but the what doesn't seem. appropriate and this is where we're. going is the whole premise yeah I this. is what I want to say I I think that. what was actually happening here in this. relationship was that I was mimicking. what I saw on television and I was. mimicking what I saw older people do and. I was. entirely too young emotionally to have.

this sort of like committed relationship. like she's my girlfriend and I get her. things on the thing when it's a holiday. and I wear my red this is actually how I. talked I didn't know my. voicey but if you think about it and. this is my advice to those of you who. are in middle school and I think that. honestly you might you know I think the. argument could be made for high. schoolers. too but you take it how how you will. preach this teenage time is just not a. time to into this like faux committed.

relationship because trust me it's Foe. and foe means false means fake okay it's. not real but there's an ones it confus I. don't need to say that you don't have. real feelings or whatever but so many. things are happening with you right now. if you're in middle school that you're. going and when you get to be older. you're going to look back and you're. going to be like man I didn't know. anything about anything that's it's just. a fact I I really like you using the. term the verb mimic because I think that.

really captures it that it's it's it's. not a yeah it's like all the puzzle. pieces aren't even there and you're. trying to build something just based. well this is supposed to look you know. just enjoy your life what I think the. question is what can be learned what can. be learned from a relationship at that. point you know and we're going really. serious here you know because we I got I. got a daughter and I'm thinking I'm. thinking she might need to watch this. one what what do they have to gain. middle schoolers what do you have to.

gain being in a relationship at that age. you know it's just you have a lot to. lose you have a lot to lose a lot to. lose you don't have anything to gain. just be friends and re and start to. learn very slowly that men and women are. are are very different and it's very. difficult to do this keep your dist but. I would say that the the thing that I'm. trying to communicate is. that and we should be able to do this at. every point in our lives because even. now as I'm I'm about to turn 35 in a. couple weeks okay I'm old I'm getting.

old especially to most of the people who. watch October 11th mail him a Christmas. present for his birthday but you know. what I need to be able to understand. that my parents who are you know in. their late 60s mid 60s late 60s they. know more about life than I do and I. need to and I have you have to like stop. and be like okay theyve experienced this. they're telling me things about what I'm. experiencing right now you have to trust. so what I'm telling you is somebody. who's been through it just hold off hold. those emotions a little bit tighter you.

don't need to have some serious. relationship in middle school this has. turned into like a public service. announcement but I feel good about it I. mean now you will be if you have a show. one day you might be able to tell a. funny story about it I will say that. that's cool you can exploit it later for. for whatever you can squeeze out of it. here we go win the. lottery hey I uh listen I uh I got this. ticket like a lottery ticket maybe I. think they they called a scratcher okay.

and they just said the they just came on. the the TV and they said that the. numbers were should I scratch it I. paused it no I've already scratched it. okay uh 10 if it itches. 14. 76. 32. 17 is that an 11 oh we won the. lottery we won the lottery. I bought no I bought this we want what.

are we going to spend it on we're going. to spend it on equipment we're going to. spend it on dating advice tapes we can. make dating advice VHS tapes for middle. schoolers and think about how many we. can make a lot we want the ladder. [Music].