What Is a Marriage?

you're a sex therapist. as as sex workers we're basically sexy I. mean I I don't have a counseling degree. I have a master's degree in education we. have an article you recently kind of. went viral uh Nick can you pull up the. article like I think New York Post. um. yeah. yeah New York Post I'm a sex therapist I. sleep with clients to save marriages. they went through this person. did you you reacted to this or are you.

almost did but I'm here you're here now. can you pull up the article really quick. yeah. uh sex therapist Olivia Bentley wait. wait takes a Hands-On approach with her. clients by Sleeping with them I've saved. marriages the Boise Idaho native told. Kennedy news calling her life her work. life changing I get physically involved. with the majority of the people I see I. think that's part of the appeal the. veteran sex worker who spent 15 years in. the industry claims that women have. asked her to demonstrate sex acts on.

their husbands while some wives grant. their eager hubbies a hall pass to pay. Bentley a visit. um. Good Times yeah is that pretty accurate. I mean so you so you save marriages. by having sex with the husband I think. the the table lights went a little crazy. you know but New York Post is known to. uh yeah okay uh they really you know. went wild with it but um I do help a lot. of couples that come in.

um one right now is asking me to to lend. a hand and he's more of a beta and she'd. like him to be more of an alpha and she. wants me to work with him on on being. more just outwardly in control and. aggressive in the bedroom things like. that. um there's there's a lot of different. psychological needs and reasons why. people would want to come and work with. professional sex worker sure uh Candace. it sounded like seemed like maybe you. had something I think it was the most.

outrageous thing I've ever heard. it's so in the realm of like dragons and. mythical creatures that it's. mythological creatures it's hard to. respond to the idea that she's saving. marriages. um it's just. they're you're in disbelief I'm I'm. actually here's another utter disbelief. that she is saving marriages here's. another example sure so like and this. has been there's multiple um clients. that do this where the wife will not.

have sex anymore she went and said look. I um you know during the when they were. recording each other she was down for. sex she was a sexual person she was all. about it then let's fast forward they're. married we're married now contract. solidified I don't want to have sex. anymore ooh oral sex is gross oh that's. demeaning if you're asking me to do that. so you're not saving marriages you're. helping people to keep up a farce that. they are in a marriage because at the. very moment that you let someone else.

into your marriage it's no longer a. marriage no yes. turned around and said I will allow you. to see a professor they are not in a. marriage. are like dying from cancer and this that. and the other if I'm dying from cancer. this one at a time. uh Kansas were you I just would like to. make the point that at the very moment. that you loan your spouse out.

especially if you're dying of cancer so. they can get you know get off you're no. longer in a marriage so it's just a. farce it's like when you it's a comical. you're pretending for people that you're. in a marriage that you're in a loving. relationship that's not what a marriage. is so to say that I help marriages no. you help destroy marriages and they can. go out and say that we're still married. because what we've done is we've. essentially said you take care of this. aspect of the marriage it's like saying. you raise the kids you have sex with him. this isn't a marriage it's the whole. thing is fake right you think that they.

should what do you think that they they. should work on their marriage together. the union between a husband and a wife. should work on their marriage together. to fix it you don't bring out an outside. person to sleep with your husband or. your wife insane I'm not down for sex. then she might be down for a divorce I. want to Outsource I want to die from. cancer and she wanted him and she. allowed him to do that because he needed. to get off somewhere while he was while. she was dying of cancer one of the last. things on her mind was this is a real.

life this is a real life this is a real. life uh yeah this was a real I'm asking. you and is that what he told you this. yeah so his wife is dying of cancer. wanted him to come have sex with you not. with me one of like this is. from what I've heard yes somebody told. me that there's that as a dying wish my. dying so how would you want to go have. sex with the prostitution I'm just gonna. call [ __ ] on that all together no I. just don't because it does happening it. happens going through locations. literally bring their guys here please. bring them on the podcast I just want to.

say go ahead okay I've ever heard in my. life there's a lot of crazy [ __ ] there's. been marriage counseling where they can. take you through Sex Therapy where you. don't have to sleep with somebody else. if it's about a woman not wanting to. have sex anymore what's the underlying. reason are hormones messed up so she's. not wanting to be sexually active is. there not enough foreplay when they're. having sex like there's other avenues. you can take for sex there normal. couples counselors yes real couples. counselors where you try to solve the. problem when you release it and you. don't just Source it out to a prostitute.

go ahead the cancer thing is crazy. thing is crazy but outside of that I. don't think that it's up to any of us. what constitutes a marriage because. every relationship is different the. Bible if a husband okay but words have. meanings. does it constitute like what do you mean. yeah okay really quick not everybody. let's talk about religion really quick. okay you have a cross necklace but then. your shirt says Made in hell yes it is.

I'm a little confused can you. I mean I'm a little confused the stone. is red so it matched you know. why are you wearing a cross on your. color coordinating with your neck. because I don't see your cross is. religious so okay I just like you don't. see a marriage as religious I don't. think that a marriage meaning. we're out of stage people are like what. is a woman because they just go well. we're going to call it a marriage but. we're going to sleep with other people. we're going to bring in prostitutes. we're going to Outsource raising the. kids where we're never gonna have kids. you're calling it a family it's not a. family and this is what it is they just. the words have no meaning right I'm.

wearing the cross why I don't know I. don't I don't think of it as religious. okay well Jesus Christ died on the cross. you think that that's what you think so. why are you wearing the process. like I was religious and I'm not anymore. I don't have to believe in what you. believe and I can say that if I didn't. say you had to leave if I asked you a. question why are you wearing the cross. okay and you're saying that the religion. the religious aspect of marriage is the. only thing that matters it's not because. people don't follow what you believe. okay I asked you why you're wearing the.

cross and you said because you thought. it was cute yeah and Abby got an answer. she's wearing the cross around her neck. because she thinks it's cute I do which. I'm not religious also wear like a star. of David it's cute because. [Music]. I wonder like my guess is that you would. think that. maybe you wouldn't wear a star of David. because you're like oh this is maybe. like disrespectful to people who are are. you making your argument maybe I mean no. I'm I'm just the second question I'm. just saying devil's advocate here. secular argument you someone might just.

say that the cross is just maybe it. maybe it's more aesthetically. pleasing pleasing even for an atheist I. don't know sure but other books are all. about like having this comments like. wondering if you can imagine things. I'm just I mean I was raised Catholic. and that's just you thought it was cute. no I wouldn't I mean a yamaka is. completely different though. the argument the argument of why it's.

different basically would come down to. like how Catholicism has been practiced. versus Judaism in the sense that like. Catholics did use the cross symbol try. to in place like an indigenous. populations tried to spread it as much. as possible and that's why in modern day. a lot of people think that's like more. okay because it was meant to be. popularized it was meant to be a symbol. that the masses should look up to and. should see in general versus Jewish. symbols okay I would argue they didn't. go through that I think we're kind of. derailing a little bit yeah yes so back.

to the interesting brothel stories I. wanted to say uh we do actually have men. coming in with their parents yeah this. actually happens so I had a time where. a guy came in with both his parents all. the way from England to come to the. Mustang Ranch because he wanted to. lose his virginity wait is this is where. we left parents I'm just not following. and his parents paid for him to have sex.

with legal prostitutes. I want your stance on that because. what's your stance on that and if I may. and wait now can I just say like that. for me I enjoyed the experience sex. workers not prostitutes. because they keep yeah yeah. she said that at the beginning she said. legal prostitute is is pro I don't want.

to offend anybody as prostituted like a. it's old school it's still on the books. like on Nevada's books but like the the. hip that's the desire way to say it is. sex workers but here's the thing with. sex workers personally me. you can call me a legal prostitute yes I. got you. um. but the the thing with the term sex. worker is that is such a broad it. includes strippers it includes women who. take uh lingerie photos who aren't naked.

um wait question Stuart is stewardess. okay because you're a flight attendant. so I'm just curious It's not it's not a. term that would you be offended if. someone referred to you as a stewardess. older older people do. it doesn't doesn't bother me no okay all. right just just want to make sure since. we're yeah okay it's not a big deal. earlier it was like talked about like. how you know sleeping or letting your. husband or wife sleep with someone else. is like irresponsible or it's not a. marriage anymore like I'd be kind of. curious of what you believe of. responsible marriage is like or I.

understand that you have a religious. view on marriage but when I think about. marriage I think like I could see. somebody saying they're married if it's. like completely romantic like you're not. allowed to do romance with anyone else. like basically what is a responsible. marriage mean to you marriage is not. just a contract like it wasn't just like. the government came up with the contract. people to get married you know they had. the history of marriage you can't. separate that from the church the. problem is people are trying to make. things cool and trying to update and. make them modern and now people are. saying you can have a polygamist. marriage and you can bring in other.

people on the outside of your marriage. what's the point of getting married. literally I'd like to ask the question. if you think that you can if if you want. to marry somebody and then Outsource the. sex you know Outsource the. responsibility Outsource what the labor. of love is actually supposed to be about. why not just stay single. so you wouldn't do a threesome with your. husband absolutely not because he's my. husband did you even have to ask that to. get the answer I mean there's couples. that want to have three and you know. what happens you should jump into those.

Reddit threads because every single time. that marriage ends in divorce there's so. many Reddit threads no they don't and a. lot of them actually regularly over five. years okay and there's some that are not. diverse do you believe atheists can get. married I think atheists get married. because they want a tax break I don't. see the point in an atheist getting. married why don't you just live with. your partner okay whatever it is that. you're dating you're at the stage you. said I don't know if you live with your. boyfriend or whatever it is why take the. next leap. if you're wearing crosses for fun and. you know I mean if you're actually.

asking a question I mean because then I. would just be pledging the fact that I. would want to be with them forever I. don't you can just be with them forever. so why what is it that you crave that. when you when you want to get married. what's that next step for you what does. it mean what's difference between dating. and marriage because it's a commitment. it's dating not a commitment it's a. commitment but it's saying it's. solidifying it okay solidifying what. because it's solidifying a bond between. two people that love each other okay but. what is solidified if you can then jump. into that next commitment which is the. exact same as dating and you can sleep.

with other people and you can put. topless photos on the internet what are. you getting married for pictures on. Instagram so say you did it I mean I'm. not sleeping with other people what's. the difference for you between dating. and marriage I just told you it's a bond. between two people you're solidifying. that by law you're literally making it. known I want to be with this person. forever it isn't just a simple breakup. oh I can go and do whatever the [ __ ] I. want and leave it's a partnership it's a. bond it's forever but there's no. difference between data there is other. than the idea in your head that it's a. bond because you're saying also it's not. an idea on paper okay it's the paper.

that's and that was supposed but it's. not a tape but I'm saying it's not a tax. break it's a legal thing connecting to. somebody for the rest of my life yeah. well I think for people that are that. think about marriage and don't think. about a cross as something funsy to wear. it's not a piece of paper. um you know it it is a union between a. man and a woman a sacred Union that. should be protected from external forces. um definitely not something that you. open up you did how I would feel. disgusting if my husband ever came to me. and said I want you to sleep with. another man or sleep with another woman.

so that I can feel my sexual fetish I. mean it's it's it's an utter perversion. of what it means to be married and it. will lead to divorces people that have. this perspective well and I'm not saying. that if you don't do it you won't get. divorced 100 but I do want to say that. there is probably a reason that a lot of. sex workers struggle to find people that. want to marry them well can I say a lot. of the perversion that comes if you are. not going to be accepted with your.

partner if he comes to you and is like. hey uh I really like getting pegged I. want you to Peg me and you're like ew. that's so disgusting like I would never. do that you want me to eat your ass I. would never do that well then okay what. are you gonna do divorce him or what are. you gonna do realistically I'm asking. you I'm asking hold on I really want to. I want to know what are you going to do. that's your husband he's like hey babe I. think one of the things about marriage. that's really beautiful is I know what. my my husband before we got married I.

think I I know who but things change and. maybe he wants to start exploring he. wants to start doing what uh so say so. he wants to start exploring and he's. like oh my gosh maybe I do want you to. like eat my ass and I kind of and I kind. of want you to Peg me like I'm kind of I. kind of want anal penetration from you. because you're my wife and you're so. beautiful and hot and we're married and. we have kids together and I'm and I'm. feeling a little bit kinky and I with. you since we have this special marriage. and bond how would you feel if we could. just try this out just this one time.

babe please I think it would probably. indicate to me that my husband was. involved in some perverse World whether. it was through pornography that. something else was happening on the side. because these aren't normal things that. people just think of when they wake up. so what's really like a strap-on dildo. okay right so what's your next one. what's the ultimatum he's gonna divorce. Meg with him crazy I would think that. that individual would probably need. therapy and not the kind that you give. okay and but but you're gonna stay with. you don't you don't immediately divorce.

okay marriage is about working through. issues and working through problems we. don't immediately divorce them and this. gets back to what she was saying about. if your husband if suddenly a woman. doesn't want to have sex which would be. another huge issue in a relationship I. would hope that my husband wouldn't. instantly divorce me but I would hope. that they would take those are terrified. of that and some guys don't even feel. like they can open up to their wives. about that. about that sounds like they need therapy. yeah you gotta work on your marriage the. thing is is that they'll come to us. talking to us about that you know what I. mean so it's just like and I I don't.

know it's unhealthy and I think that you. know the fact that sex workers exist as. this what you believe to be a solution. when in fact that's a detriment because. you're getting in the way of the wife. and the husband being able to. communicate. um and so I would much rather my husband. go if there was an issue and your wife's. not having sex I'd rather him go talk to. a priest I'd rather him go talk to. another male a male sit down and talk. about hey man you should talk to her. about this I'd rather him now let me. finish my statement I'd rather what do.

you mean Bros talking to each other. about things that's a normal I'd rather. if I have an issue in my hair it's. pretty normal I'd rather go talk to my. sisters about things that are going on. there's a lot of steps you can take. before you talk to a prostitute about. your marriage I just maybe I'm crazy. maybe I live in such a crazy one man. turn on a Taylor Swift song cry a little. bit in my room I don't know there's a. lot I would turn to Taylor Swift before. I would go to a prostitute about my. marriage I know but you're not a male so. I'm just saying men can talk to others. what are you talking about there's all.

of these. podcast of men talking you know talking. to men and being inspirational and. talking about porn addiction and talking. about the things that are are corrupting. men's Minds that's out there okay and. those are those are I would much rather. my husband listen to those men and look. for guidance or whether it's in the. church whether it's on a podcast whether. it's a spiritual leader than to turn to. a prostitute in a brothel I hear you so. there's a lot of steps that you can take. from we're having an issue in our. marriage to my husband's at a brothel. Lane next to a prostitute talking about. issues actually let me let me just step.

in really quick I do think though I I. would like to redirect the conversation. because I do think it's probably a very. small portion of people who are married. are seeking to bring in a prostitute to. for the husband it just seems like such. a small. kind of I don't know what's up really. quick uh statistically married men are. actually the highest number of clientele. four prostitutes yes and that's why I'm. saying please listen for me I'm. literally telling you guys males come to.

us and say all this stuff which is like. they're first scared of you guys because. how you might react to they feel like. they can't be honest and open with you. guys that's why they result in coming to. places I guess you guys know that. statistic doesn't mean that the majority. of married men go to prostitute so I. didn't say that no I know I'm just. letting her know because she said like. yes like it was if it was a debunk I. know. I'm just saying like to prostitutes. and they might be majority married. that's what I'm saying yeah I get that.