Tay Lautner: The Realities of Pregnancy

What is up daddy gang? It is your. founding father Alex Cooper with Call. Her Daddy. >> Tay Lner, welcome to Caller Daddy. >> Thank you. >> We both just start crying. >> I don't know, guys. We just got in the. room together and like the pregnancy. hormones, we both were like, I feel so. safe. >> Yeah. I know that if one of us has to. pee during this. Yeah. >> Because right now I last um time I was.

with my doctor, she was like, "Oh, girl, like that baby is right on your. bladder." And I was like, "Perfect." So, it's a safe space. Whatever you need, >> I will let you know. >> I realized. >> last time we were together, >> you and your husband came on. You guys. were newly weds. And Matt and I weren't. even married. >> That's kind of crazy. >> And now we're pregnant. >> We were like in like completely. different stages of life, >> right? >> Yeah. And now look at us. I remember. when you announced and I was obviously. so excited for you and Taylor and my.

first thought was, "Oh my god, I'm so. happy for them." And then my second. thought was, "Oh my god, are our kids. going to be like friends at the lake. together?" Okay, that's. she's crying. No, literally. >> Oh, stop. >> I know. >> They're going to be like little in the. little life little vest jacket thing. Okay. Yep. Okay, next point. Keep going. So, I just was like, "Oh my god." So, for anyone that doesn't know, Taye and I. have lake houses like right basically. next to each other. And I just couldn't.

help but think like, "Oh my god, it's. going to be great." So, >> summer, you're going to be by the lake. Talk to me about what an ideal lake day. looks like for you as my pregnant. friend. >> Oh my gosh. I mean, I'm I feel like I'm. kind of turning into more of a lake girl. than a beach girl. >> 100%. >> Like, I'm really enjoying the lake. I. honestly think like a really nice I love. a Sprite. So either like a crisp little. Sprite with lime or like a cute little. mocktail. >> My mocktail game I have been thriving. I.

said the other day to someone I was like. I just miss a spicy margarita. And. they're like you can make it without the. alcohol, Alex. And I was like you're so. right. On the rim like. >> Taylor just made it's a luchi mocktail. I don't know. He looked it up, but it's. literally like a luchi soda thing, like. soda water and then it's pineapple. concentrate and frozen pineapples with a. taheen rim. >> I also, and I don't know about you, I've. been like loving not drinking. >> Yeah. >> I will say though, being around people.

that are drinking, I'm a little bit more. like, okay, this is going to remind me. never to drink again in my life. >> Tolerance is like the whole thing. Okay, if you're by the lake, is Taylor. cooking? Are you cooking? Like, who's. the chef? Taylor's definitely cooking. Honestly, Taylor, there's hot dogs on. the grill because I've hot dog has been. my new hot dogs and hamburgers. >> The hamburgers. >> Yeah. >> Okay. What are some like random cravings. you've been having recently? >> Yeah. I think the most recent one has.

been Girl Scout cookies because I just. got Girl Scout cookies and it's kind. >> I can't even The Samoas, the one with. the peanut butter thing in them. >> Any Girl Scout cookie is going to hit. right where we need it. Another thing. that Matt said, and I thought it was so. cute, is when I told him that you guys. were pregnant, he was like, "Oh my god, I feel like me and Taylor are really. going to bond cuz I feel like we're both. going to be really good with kids and. activities." And I was like, "Why are. they so giving like camp counselor like. Taylor's out there getting the boat?".

Like, I feel like that's going to be the. vibe. >> They I feel like they will will. completely thrive in that. >> What kind of dad do you think Taylor is. going to be? We always say he's going to. be the parent that gives the kids what. they want. Like I say no and he says. yes. >> Really? >> Yeah. So I'm really curious to see like. how that plays out if that actually. happens. >> That's actually interesting cuz Matt and. I have talked about that and I'm like I. think in the younger years I'm going to. say yes and Matt's going to say no. But. then the minute they get into like.

socializing in terms of like middle. school to high school, I'm going to be. the one that's like psychologically. analyzing like you're not going to the. party because of this. And then Matt's. going to be like I don't care. do. whatever you want. So, we'll it will. flip at one point, but for now, you. think you're going to be a little bit. more of the hard. >> I think so. >> Okay. >> Yeah, I think so. >> Why do I also feel like Taylor is going. to teach my child how to do a backflip? >> Probably. >> Let's start with a cartwheel. >> I know. >> Okay. Tell me everything like when you. found out, what was your reaction? >> Um, yeah. So we it was honestly special.

because so I guess before like rewinding. to finding out I was pregnant. Um we. weren't trying I mean we weren't doing. anything to like prevent it and had it. honestly for a while and I was just like. you know I wasn't at the place where I. was like I'm ready. I wasn't tracking my. ovulation anything like that. Um and I. have PCOS which is now PMOS but PCOS. Um, and so my periods have been. irregular for a long time. So my cycle.

before I got pregnant was 40 days long. So like I literally went 40 days without. a period. And then this next one. happened and I was on day like 36. So I. wasn't technically like late and I. wasn't really feeling anything uh like. weird. Uh but I had a micro needling. appointment and you can't do that if. you're pregnant. >> You cannot. >> And I was just like let me just take a. test just to be sure. I was like, I'm. not going to tell Taylor. I'm not going. to like cuz I had a pregnancy scare last. January. Like I fully thought I was.

pregnant and like cried to Taylor after. a podcast taping. I was like holding it. in for like two weeks. I was like, if I. don't get my period by this date, then. I'm telling Taylor and we had to go to. CVS. I ended up not being pregnant. But. that showed me that the next morning I. woke up and I wasn't pregnant. I was. like, oh, I'm actually like sad that I'm. not pregnant. I think I'm ready. Took me. a whole year. Fast forward to the. following January. Um, but anyways, I. didn't tell him and he like went to go, he's the chef, so he went to the our.

butcher shop to go pick up meats for. dinner and I took the test while he was. gone. Pee on the stick. I go do my whole. like skin care routine of like the face. like just like very indepth like. everything. I I like forget that the. test is there. Like I'm not thinking. about it because I don't think I'm. pregnant, but I'm like let me just make. sure because we got our micro needling. Yeah, there could always be a chance. Um, and it said pregnant and I was like, interesting. No, I literally like froze. for like 5 seconds and I was like, okay.

And then I Google like, "Can you have a. false positive?" And it basically was. like, "No." And I was like, "Okay." So, I took another one. And then it also. said pregnant. This whole time Taylor's. gone. I'm not texting him cuz I'm not. going to text him and tell him. And so. I'm just like standing there just kind. of in shock and like obviously excited. because I know that's we're married and. that's what we want. So, but I'm. literally just like frozen. And he gets. home. I literally he brings like the.

groceries in. I throw everything in the. fridge and I just pull the test out and. hand it to him. And he's just standing. there and he's like, "What is this?" And. I was like, "Uh-huh." He goes, "How did. this happen?" And I was like, "Okay, well, you know how that happened, honey.". >> That's such a man. He's like, "Wait, how. did this happen?" You're like, "How do. you think it happened, Taylor?". >> Like, "Well, this one day." Um, so we. didn't get to experience finding out. together, which like after the fact, you.

know, telling him it was like we still. got to like celebrate and have like, you. know, 4 days of us just kind of like. being in shock and being like, "Okay, like we're doing this." So, when it came. to the gender reveal, I was so excited. to get to like do that together. And it. truly was like the most like the most. fun thing to get to do. I love going to. gender reveal parties, but I literally. could never like have one for me. That. pressure is just like, >> okay, so how did you do it?

>> So, we literally just looked online on. the test. We got the tests. We actually. had it for probably like. probably like a week. >> Oh, man. You didn't look. We did. >> We Why? The minute The minute I got. mine, I was like, "I want to know.". >> I think it was just cuz like. I don't I don't even know. I feel like. we were both kind of just like not. scared, but we were just like, "Oh my. gosh." Like it was just going to make it. so much more real. >> That's so true. >> I think um but finding out and like.

seeing girl on there, it was Taylor. really wants girls. Like he's like girl. dad. He wants all girls. I was kind of I. didn't really care. Um, but it was like. truly the sweetest moment ever. Like it. was like the most like the coolest thing. I think we're ever going to get to do. Obviously when I birth the baby that's. going to be very special and probably. even more special, but it's the coolest. thing. >> It makes me emo when you're talking. about this because I agree with you. There's something.

so nerve-wracking when you're going to. find out the sex and I was similar to. you. I found out without Matt and so I. was in the bathroom same thing like took. the test like wasn't really sure didn't. think it was going to and then when it. happened I had that same thing where. you're like it's a little bit of mix of. shock and I think it doesn't take it. takes a second to like set in. >> Yeah. >> Um but the gender makes it so real and I. cannot believe you sat on that for a. week when I tell you my doctor was like.

somewhere that there wasn't good service. and she's like Alex I tried to call you. to talk cuz I told her like just call. me. Yeah. And she's like, "I I feel bad. Like, I don't want to just text it to. you." And I was like, "Text it." And. she's like, "No, Alex." Like, she's. like, "Text me back." Like, "No, no, no. I can call you in about 20." I was like, "Text it like I was like And so I'm. laying there and I remember I got the. document.". >> Yeah. >> And I'm like, "Okay, breathe, breathe, breathe, breathe, breathe." Click on the. document. I see the sex and Matt's in a. meeting and I text Matt and I'm like,

"Come home." And he's like, "I've got a. couple more meetings." And I was like, "Do you want to know the gender of your. baby?" And he calls me immediately and. he's like, >> "What?" I'm in the middle of a meeting. There's like 20 people in the room. And. I was like, "Do you want to know the. gender? You better get in the car." He. leaves the meeting like racing home. Cuz. I was like, "I'm not telling you over. text." So the fact that you guys got to. be together, that's so, >> oh my god, I'm so happy for you. That's. really exciting. Oh my god. Oh my god. Oh god. Um, after you and Taylor found.

out about the pregnancy, who did you. tell first? We told We first we told two of our like. couple best friends. Um, we were. actually going on a birthday trip for. Taylor and I was like very much in first. trimester trenches. Um, so we kind of. had to tell them. We were also going. somewhere where there was like wine. So. like I then I wouldn't be drinking. So.

we kind of had to tell them. But I also. did want to tell them because I've. walked through miscarriage with like. multiple of my friends and both sides of. like not knowing they were pregnant and. them having to tell me that they lost. they were pregnant and lost the baby. And then the other side of finding out. they were pregnant and then them like. getting to like have that together and. then them having to tell me. So after. kind of like walking through those, both. Taylor and I decided I was like, I need.

to just tell like a couple of my close. friends because God forbid like, you. know, anything does happen. I don't want. to have to deliver like the happy and. sad news at the same time. >> So we were going to tell them anyways, but that's who we told first. >> Isn't that so it's so crazy just the. emotional aspect? And I think everyone. has to do it at their own time. I think. it's so crazy when people are like you. you should not tell people before the x. amount mark and it's like I think anyone. should do whatever they want to do when. it comes to that. Um because I'm also.

similar to you like if something bad was. going to happen like I would want the. people closest to me to know. So I'm not. going to like hide it in case something. does. But like just being open with the. people you love I think for me was also. similar like of just like a mindset. >> Yeah. Your pregnancy announcement back. in April was beyond gorgeous. And you. captioned it, "What's better than two. Taylor LNER?" I screamed when I read. that caption. Who came up with that? >> Taylor. So,

like on day five of knowing we were. pregnant, he was like, I have the best. caption. And I was like, great. You. obviously don't have to share, but do. you have a name picked out? >> There are definitely some. >> You've got some in the works. >> Yeah. >> Okay. And is it like you've got like 20. or are you like in that like 10 to five. category? Like three? >> Yeah, like three to five. >> Okay. Yeah. Was there any consideration. of naming your child Taylor? >> It may be in the mix. We will find out. when the baby comes. It's also just like. so much pressure naming a human.

>> Like this is like the name of this. human's going to have for the rest of. their life. >> And there's like so much public like. conversation already around it for you. guys. It's like, "No, I feel like if I. don't name my baby Taylor, the. internet's literally going to cancel me. I'm going to get cancelled.". >> I feel like you had the perfect. opportunity. >> But I'm like, "Guys, are they really. going to want that name?" I think it get. a little confusing cuz it's already. confusing, >> right? Like, do we have Taylor and then. we have Tay?

Taye Jr. Baby T. >> We used to always joke that if we were. having a boy, we'd name him Taylor and. call him TJ. I'm I'm so stressed for you guys. honestly in that. Um, what did it feel. like. >> finally announcing and sharing your. pregnancy to the world cuz friends is. one thing, girl. >> Yeah. >> And then hitting upload on that. Talk to. me. It was truly like a weight lifted. off my shoulders. I think I was just so. stressed someone was going to like leak.

it. Honestly, I think I was a little. scarred from our wedding because our. like first look someone was like. photographed us having our first look. >> No. >> And like I didn't know that. >> Yeah. And it came out like the day after. the wedding and it was like that was the. first time I'd ever experienced. obviously you know paparazzi and stuff. has followed us around before but that. was the first time it was really. something that was so intimate. >> and so personal. So that was like. >> that was not fun for me. Um, so I think.

that kind of was like. >> understand, right? >> It was making me nervous like every time. I go see my OB like I, you know, a. Taylor has come with me to every. appointment and I'm like there's. obviously like girls my age in the. office. And so I'm so happy that you. were able to control the narrative and. do it that way because I agree with you. like you have having an experience that. is. >> it's an invasion of privacy, right? That. was like a moment between the two of you.

that you and also a first look. Like. >> it's not even like a shot into like the. the afterparty. It's like your first. look between the two of you. So. pregnancy and that. Oh my god. I'm I'm. so happy that it didn't get leaked for. you. >> Um let's talk about the first trimester. because I don't know about you, but no. one could have prepared me. >> No. And there's like almost. give me one word to describe your first. trimester. It's horrific trauma.

literally just anything bad. >> Tough. Yeah. One symptom I know you have. talked about on your podcast is your. nausea. >> Mhm. >> And I also had. >> I don't even like to talk about it. almost because it just brings it back. um that nausea was so traumatizing truly. like it felt hard to live my life while. experiencing that. Um can you talk to me. a little bit about how it impacted your. dayto-day and just overall the first. trimester? >> Oh yeah. I think that and I honestly.

feel like since I've been pregnant I've. kind of been on pregnancy, but. I think that's just because I had such a. skewed view of pregnancy from what I saw. online. Like I just feel like it's. supposed to be what I what I saw and. what I was thinking it was going to be. the, you know, this most beautiful thing. and I'm going to be glowing and I'm. going to feel the best I've ever felt. and be so confident and blah blah blah. like all that. I have not felt any of. those things. And it took me a while to.

like feel comfortable to say that. But I. really think cuz the internet is just so. quick to be like, "Oh, you're not. grateful you're pregnant. Do you know. how many women would like kill to be. pregnant?" And I completely understand. that. But I think two things can be. true. Like obviously I'm so grateful and. excited to be having this baby with like. my favorite human in the world, but I. don't like what it's doing to my body. Like it's not an enjoyable experience. I. feel like in my life, I've seen so many. women obviously be pregnant, right? And. you see them on the street, you have. friends, you have family, but nothing.

prepares you. And now I look at. pregnancy so differently. Like when I. see a woman on the street now, I'm like, I need to do something for her. immediately. It just changes your. perspective. And I agree with you. There's so many hardships that come with. it. Um and it feels weird to talk about. I agree. Because of how many women. struggle to even get pregnant, so to be. pregnant, there's like this pressure to. just shut up and be grateful. >> Yeah. >> Um talking about the nausea because I I.

also was like, I don't know how women. work in their first trimester. No, I'm. like, can the Matt leave needs to be. there needs to be like a first Matt. leave and then maybe there's like 3. months where you could do stuff in the. middle and then the Matt leave needs to. like Yeah, cuz it's like hard to do. anything. No, my my best friend is a. labor and delivery nurse and I like I. mean I couldn't imagine still like. working in the hospital having my. nursing job doing this and I'm like. she's like my my best friend's literally. holding like women's legs up as they're. pushing a baby and she worked until like.

>> maybe like 2 weeks before she came and. superhero but the whole time she was in. her first trimester she was dying in the. hospital and like she's throwing up in. between like seeing her patients and I'm. like how. >> how does this work? you um you talked. about cuz yes, there's the nausea, but. then there's the hunger. You shared that. you would wake up starving in the middle. of the night. What meals were you able. to have during your first trimester? And. then what were you also like repulsed. by? >> Yeah, I feel like there was a good 3.

weeks where I had like food aversions to. literally just everything and all I. could eat was carbs. It was just like. crackers, a grilled cheese, toast, and. watermelon was my That was like the. refreshing like I needed cold. I also. never drink ice water, but my first. trimester like I just I just like pour a. glass of water. I've never been like I. need ice. I was like so much ice. everywhere. >> I would even chew on ice at times. I was.

like this slaps so hard. >> No, I lived in my migraine c. It was. just like I just was not you're you're. not present. Like you're literally just. trying to get like through the day and. then it's like you can't even think. about the next day. >> What pregnancy symptoms have surprised. you? >> Skin tags. The little things. I have like a couple. on my neck but they're like tiny. Like. you can't see them but I can feel them. >> I feel one like I was feeling one on my. side today and I'm like what is that? Good to know. >> Mhm. No, that's apparently something. They are supposed to go away after that.

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that moment? >> Yeah, I'm kind of like on a mission to. talk about this more because. I obviously share so much about my. mental health and everything I've walked. through and having PTSD and depression. and everything I've gone through that. And when I talked about this, and I. honestly didn't even like really share. much. It was the most like DMs and. messages from women I've ever received. in my like entire time doing the. internet. Like truly, it was so crazy.

how many women really feel that same. way. And I think it's because we're not. expecting our bodies to change as. quickly. Especially for me. So like. first trimester I have amophobia and I. hate throwing up. Like I have a fear of. throwing up. So every time I would get. nauseous I would eat. So I never threw. up in my first trimester. But every time. I was nauseous I would eat. And so I. gained like 12 to 15 lbs in like 3 weeks. maybe. And so nothing fit so early on.

And I was just felt. just like I I mean I cried. I was like. literally standing naked in front of the. mirror. I think I was like about to get. in the shower and Taylor was in the. bathroom with me and I literally just. like started crying. So, you just don't. recognize yourself. And I think we don't. talk about this because we're not. supposed to talk about the first. trimester because you're not supposed to. talk about it till you know everything. is safe and fine, but then you kind of. have amnesia and forget that that even. happened because you're just have the. pregnancy brain and you're thinking.

about the future. But I mean it's it. continues to happen to me even now. Like. I now that I fully like have a bump, it. feels better, which sounds like funny, but I think for so long it was just kind. of like fluff and I just like could not. recognize my body. Like it was just. everything. Thank you for sharing that. because I agree with you that like. again no one I don't I my whole. algorithm I feel like right now is. pregnancy. and there's so much that is so beautiful.

that I'm seeing but I'm also like oh my. god like I I'm not seeing any of the. more honest that I'm talking about. with my girlfriends who have had. children or are pregnant right now and. that reality of looking yourself in the. mirror and being like honestly like. scared because you're like and I'm not. saying you're thinking again like I'm. prefacing it because it's like we're. grateful but it's like I'm not saying. that you're not saying like. >> oh my god I don't want to be pregnant.

but you have that feeling where you're. like what did I do like this is so scary. like what is happening to me and you're. so it's so you're so out of control of. your body and you really are out of. control with your emotions and like your. mental health and everything that's. going on and it's hard. Like my. husband's been amazing. It sounds like. Taylor's been so amazing, but there's. also only so much that like a man and. also just someone who's not in your body. can do for you. Like how has he been. supportive during this time?

>> Yeah. No, I mean, you know, Taylor, he's. literally just like the nicest human and. is so It's been It's honestly been so. cool to walk through this time together. cuz I'm I think similar to you, like we. are both like very independent people. And even even my therapist is like, "You. should rely on Taylor more." But I'm. like I'm just like only child. I'm like. hardworking. I'm like very driven. I'm. like, "No, like I if I can do it, I'm. going to do it. like I don't want to. even if you know I should have Taylor do.

it I'm going to do it. So it really made. me because I I just could not I I. couldn't move for a while. It really. made me have to rely on him to do stuff. for me and it was the first time like. obviously you know he we have a great. partnership but I just I just do things. on my own. >> and it was really special to get to do. that. with him. It was sweet. It is beautiful. to like watch your partnership evolve in. a way that you could have never.

anticipated because you didn't know you. were going to be laid up and like down. bad and then all of a sudden you're. looking at him in a different light. It. really makes you just so appreciate the. partner that you choose in life. Oh my. god. I think that's like the one of the. biggest things I would scream and Kylie. Kelsey talked about this on her podcast. and I heard it like sometime last year. and she was just like your husband is. the only person in your family you. choose. Like you don't choose your. siblings. You don't choose your parents.

You don't choose your kids. Like you. choose who you're going to marry. And I. always say like when I married Taylor, I. married him because I know he's going to. be great with kids and I know like he's. going to be like that's like I see that. >> Right. I want to talk about body image a. little bit more because something I was. thinking about is and I saw a woman post. about this I think on Tik Tok and it. made me just have an aha moment where it. was like she basically said I have never. had more people comment on my body so. freely than when you're pregnant. And.

it's either like oh you're carrying well. or like oh my gosh don't worry like I. gained 20 lbs in my first trimester. So. you're like so are you calling me fat? Oh, your oh, your face doesn't look as. like there's such a commentary that. people feel so comfortable. Oh, the bump. is this or that. And you're like, wait. And so it it's such an odd feeling where. everyone feels entitled to kind of. comment on how a woman is carrying. >> and it's very strange. Not that we don't.

already do that to non-pregant women, but it feels heightened when you are. pregnant. And so, um, I want to talk. about, I know you were just kind of like. alluding to like, you know, when you. were looking in the mirror and. everything, but like did you have. expectations of your body and your. pregnancy that ended up going very. differently and like what are some. examples of that for you? >> Oh, yeah. Everything. I didn't think I. was I mean I've already gained 35. pounds. So I'm like I didn't think I was. going to gain that much weight which I. don't even I think also just because my.

mom she was one of those people that you. could not even tell she was pregnant and. had a great pregnancy and just like from. the back she was just like I wear. dresses she wore when she was pregnant. with me like not pregnant like in before. pregnancy. >> You're comparing. >> Yeah. No, there's I think there's so. much comparison and I still do it now. I. mean, obviously I have a better. relationship with it because the more. I've been open and talking about it, the. more I feel better about it, but still. like I just was not I wasn't expecting. to like almost not even fit in Taylor's.

jeans. Like it's just it's. Yeah, it's just a really interesting. thing. My girlfriend and I were just. talking about she's also pregnant. I'm. so thankful. I have a few girlfriends. that are pregnant and we're like right. around the same time and so it's been. really special to like be able to like. text each other like how we're feeling. Can we eat this? Like is does anyone. have this happening yet? So, I'm so. thankful for it. But she was telling me. how she which is something me and our. other friend have both experienced of.

people telling her like, "Oh my gosh, I. knew you like when like after she. announced, "Oh my gosh, I knew you were. pregnant." And like she's like, "Oh, like how?" And they're like, "I could. just tell like and not get and like just. commenting that she'd gained weight." So. I was like, "Okay, so you're you're. telling me that you thought I like look. fat?" Yeah. And it was just like so many. people and I've the more I've talked. about this with some of my girlfriends, the more it actually like really does. cuz when you start to tell people your. clothes are snug on you. So it's just.

like why why are we like give another. like give another example like I thought. me and my girlfriend Natasha we both we. both knew had a feeling the other was. pregnant because of the symptoms we were. having. We would hang out and we were. both just like but like not telling the. other one yet or like it was just very. similar vibes of what we were doing or. we were texting about bloating but we. hadn't told each other we were pregnant. So we're like give an example of like.

don't just say I I just had a feeling. like you looked you looked pregnant. I. also am kind of struggling with the. glowing thing. I feel better with it. now, >> but when someone's like, "You're. glowing." I'm like, "No, I just have. gained 30 pounds and my face is fuller.". >> No, no, no. Thank you. But the glowing. cuz I'm like I know my skin doesn't look. great. She does not look. >> like I woke up this morning and I was. like, I think there's like five lbs of. makeup on this one just giant situation. to the right here. And I'm like, I know. it's not. I'm actually physically.

glowing. Yeah. >> So, explain to me what you mean by that. What do you mean by glowing? Why? >> Let's get into that. No, that's such a. good point. And it's it is so crazy. because I also understand to anyone. that's watching that isn't pregnant is. like, "Oh my god, you're you're probably. thinking like and maybe I don't know. I've never I've never made a comment. about a woman's like pregnant body. before, but I'm looking back before I. experienced pregnancy. I don't think I. had an appreciation for the amount that.

a woman is going through with her body. And so I now look at those comments as a. pregnant woman and before I would have. been like, "Oh, she just said you're. glowing." Like, "It's f like," but now. I'm like, "No, no, no, no. What you. don't understand about a woman who's. pregnant is like everything is in. turmoil in her head and in her body.". And so for you to say anything about her. physical appearance, it's just even if. you say like, "She's looking great and. she's not feeling great, just shut up.". But it's hard for people to not comment. I feel like it's kind of like, you know,

how people don't really know what to say. if someone's grieving, if there's been a. loss or something. I honestly feel like. there's some similarity of if you. haven't walked through it. I also have. been getting really stressed out when. people are like, "It's going to go by so. fast. Enjoy every moment." Cuz I had a. full-blown panic attack the night before. our wedding because so many people like. had told me they were like, "Tomorrow's. going to go by so quick. It's going to. be over." And I was like so panicked. because I was like I don't want it to go. by like I wanted to I want to remember.

all of these moments. And so when people. have been telling me that I'm like like. I told I think it was probably like a. couple months ago I I now have like I'm. normally a very chill. It takes a lot to. make me mad. I'm like so even keel like. nothing pisses me off. And now the. hormones I'm like I'm done like goodbye. I snapped at Taylor for the first time. last week and I felt so bad over what? Literally nothing. Literally nothing. It's just It's No,

literally, we were leaving my OB's. office and I hadn't had enough food, I. think, was partially the problem. And. he's just like so sweet. He drops me off. and I run in and like grab the food and. then I run back out to the car because. it's a busy street. Don't worry. everyone, he would get the he would be. getting the food if it wasn't a busy. street. So, I run in and grab it and. then I run back out and the door is. locked and he rolls the window down and. I'm like standing there trying to open. the door and he's like, "You're going to. need to grab your Teslas." I was like, "I did." And I was like, "We got in the. car." And I was like, "Oh my gosh." And. he was like, "For the rest of the ride,

I'm your chauffeur. We're not going to. talk." And 5 minutes go by. I was like, "I'm sorry." Wait. Also, I love that. that's your version of snapping at him. I did. No, I I'm not I'm like so I'm the. most You asked Taylor and I have never. like been in an argu like we don't like. I'm just like we just like talk through. things. It takes a lot to piss me off. >> You gave him the demon eyes. >> I know I did. He and it like I like he. was like I am your Uber today. >> He made a shocked face. >> I was thinking about that too. I know. And I remember when I interviewed you. guys Taylor has publicly talked about.

his own body image struggles. Has he. been able I know it's not comparable, but like has he been able at all to talk. to you and and relate with you in any. capacity that's been helpful in that. realm? Yeah. No, I think there's. definitely a level of relatability. there, even though it is something. that's completely different. Um, but it. is something that I've struggled with, you know, posting my body publicly or. like how I go about that. But it's. really sweet. I was talking about laying.

out at the lake and I was saying how I'm. just I I said something along the lines. of like I'm just going to be a big. pregnant lady laying out there and he. goes no you're just a pregnant lady and. I was like oh that's really nice. I was. like I need to talk to myself that way. more. I think that's honestly the. biggest thing and that's something I. keep trying to tell myself and every. time I don't I just like smack myself on. the wrist. But when I see other pregnant. women, I've actually never thought some. like a pregnant woman was fat. I've.

never been like, "Look at her arms. Look. at the cellulite." Like, I've never. thought that. And that's all I see in. myself. Like, so it's I'm really trying. to like talk to me about the negative. self-t talk and like some of the darker. thoughts and then how you've been able. to pull yourself out of them. >> Yeah. Um, yeah. I I just I think it's. hard to because you're so hormonal and. you can talk with people obviously. I. think having my girlfriends that are. pregnant too has been nice to be able to. talk about, but there's so many things.

that I notice more now and it's. something that I've never really. struggled with. Um, so like to this. degree and so it's been just a really. unique experience to try to walk through. it and try to also walk through it. somewhat rationally. because there's no rationale with. hormones. >> No, no, no. I went through a phase where. like I really like was not wanting to. look in the mirror and I would be like.

if I was unchanging to like change for. bed or something like in the past maybe. I'd be like naked brushing my teeth and. I was like avoiding it and I remember. like I was also like really not wanting. to look at my boobs like it was freaking. me out just like everything that's. happening and I was and it was almost. like subconsciously happening and I. wasn't aware. And then I remember one night I was like. in the bathroom with Matt and he was. coming in and I was naked and then I was.

like, "Oh my god, I want to go put a. shirt on." And Matt was like, "What's. wrong?" And I was like, "Oh my god." I. was about to like cover up. >> Yeah. >> Because I don't know, like I just don't. feel confident or sexy at all right now. >> Yeah. >> And Matt was like, "Oh my Alex, like you. are pregnant. Like you look so. beautiful. like why are you not and I. and in that moment obviously started. crying um and to have my husband just be. like similar to that Taylor comment of. like you're a pregnant woman that was so.

helpful but I need to do that more for. myself is what I guess we're saying. towards. >> and I also think I think to the more. I've been trying to like I had that same. thing and I've been trying to be naked. more in front of Taylor cuz I'm like I. need to just like I need to like accept. it cuz I think it's also hard to and. thank god my girlfriend like I texted. remember I texted my girlfriends in the. first trimester when we were like maybe. starting to feel better but not and I. was like is anyone having sex because. I'm like I remember one of my friends.

saying to me like oh my god first. trimester. like it's going to be hard to have sex. because you want to vomit on them and. you can't even think about anything. literally sorry but going inside of you. while you're like everything wants to. come out like the whole thing. >> but I've had women be like but that. second trimester you will be so back. You'll be so And I'm like, I'm like I. don't know if that's how I'm feeling. And also then getting comfortable I felt. like with when I was then like in the. mood. >> Yeah.

>> Getting comfortable with being pregnant. and having sex and you're like. >> you're like also how does this work? I. don't know. It's tough. It's a weird. psychologically. >> aside from the body actually and like. all the things that we're going through. psychologically it feels like you're. trying to like reattach your brain to. your old brain to be like no we're still. here this we are the same person it's. just going to feel very different and. for me that's been like a journey of. like I I felt a little bit like my brain. was over here looking at myself almost.

from like a third POV and I'm like whoa. whoa whoa we got to realign here. >> I just have to remind myself of Taylor, which I'm sure Matt is like the most. like reassuring of everything. So, I I. honestly just have to be like brain shut. up like Taylor loves me and. doesn't think these thoughts that I. think about myself. That is why cuz I. want to talk about parenting now, but. again that is why I think having a. partner in your life that can be the.

light in your dark moments like that has. been so eye opening to me of like Matt's. always been supportive and and similar. to Taylor like but it's that like added. level I feel like they're stepping up in. a way that is just making me be like. okay I always knew Matt was going to be. a phenomenal father but like I'm not. even focused on that right now. like, wo, you are such a supportive partner to. me. >> Yeah. >> And that has been. instrumental in keeping my mental health.

where I need it to be. Okay, let's talk. parenting. >> Yes. >> As you are getting closer to meeting. your baby, have you found yourself just. thinking more about the type of parent. that you want to be? >> Yeah. I I feel like I've thought about. this for like even before I was pregnant. because I'm like I want like I don't. want to be best friends with my kids, but I want to be able to have like a. close relationship with them and them to. feel like they can come to me for. anything and as they're older even the.

same thing. So I always like think about. all the time or I talk about like. Taylor and I will be like which parent. do you think they're going to be like. annoyed at more? Who's going to like do. that? Like we always just talk about. that. So, I feel like it's good to kind. of like I've always been like thinking. about it, being aware, but I mean I I. think I think I'm just excited to be a. parent. I mean, I've always wanted to be. a mom growing up. I'm an only child. So, growing up, I was like, I want to be a. mom. I want five kids. I don't want five. kids anymore. Now, honestly, once I went.

through nursing school and I watched a. vaginal birth, I was like I literally. went home and I told Taylor, I was like, I we're not having children until I. forget what that looked like because. this is the only angle I ever want to. see. the receiving end is like as a. 22year-old I think I was in school like. seeing that like I was like I was like. oh my gosh. >> no no no it's it's eye opening you're. like I I didn't need to see that I want. to live it and like just like pretend I. yeah but I want to see it. >> um I feel like I agree with you that as. you get closer like you start to for me.

I've also started to think about like. what did my parents get right that I. want to emulate and then what are things. that I want to do differently like is. there anything from you and Taylor's. childhoods that you guys are like, "Oh, we really loved how our parents did. that." Or like, "Ooh, we want to like. try to like change it up on this angle.". >> Yeah. I mean, I think just putting our. kids in as many like sports activities. as possible. I was just talking with my. mom cuz I both my parents worked like my. whole life and so I went to after school.

daycare for until like I was in high. school, junior high. Um, and Taylor. didn't have Well, I mean, granted, he. also started working. We just had very. different childhood obvious. so he wasn't going to after school. daycare but my mom was talking about it. She was like you know obviously we were. working but also we didn't want to just. put you home with a babysitter cuz you. were like you were an only child so you. had exposure to playing with kids and. having all those interactions and I did. like every sport under the sun and I.

think that's something that we really. like want to just introduce our kids to. like everything and. >> I completely agree with you. I also. think with the rise of like technology. for kids, I have never felt more adamant. of like we need to put our kids in. sports cuz I think there was so much. that it taught me like even if you're. not good at the sport like there's. community and there's um resilience and. grit and determination and like just. there's so much that a kid is taught. through that experience that I feel like.

I am very grateful to look back on the. amount that my parents but it's also a. sacrifice from the parents right like I. remember parents parents that I grew up. with would be like, "Oh my god, why do. you have your kids in that sport? That. means you have to like travel for it or. that means you have to like you can't go. away for the whole summer." And my mom. was like, "Well, my kid loves it." And. there were certain parents that were. like, "No, no, we wouldn't do that. Like. we want to go to the beach house or like. we want to go to the beach for the. summer and so that means kids don't have. a summer sport." And I to every to each. their own. But I think that's where I.

want to knowing how much my parents. invested in us as kids to do what we. loved. I feel so fortunate that I'm like. I want to be there on that sideline with. the cooler. Yeah. Cheering like a. psychopath. >> No. Someone the other day I had like. packed I don't even remember what it was. for. Oh, golfing. Um I had like packed a. bag with like all of my snacks and stuff. for Taylor and a friend we were with was. like u he was like you're going to be. such a great soccer mom. And I was like. oh that's like the best compliment I've.

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And now I want to play parenting edition. and you're going to either say mom. Taylor or dad Taylor. Who is more likely. to be down to go all out for a family. Halloween costume? Dad. Taylor. Do you. think you could ever convince Taylor to. do a family Twilight costume? It's a good question. I mean, honestly, if I would I probably Oh my gosh. We. would just would not We wouldn't post. it. It would be like a I could convince. him to do it in private for sure and.

share with our close friends. >> Honestly, I love that. >> You're like, "Let me know when you do. like let me know. Okay. Who is more. likely to be more calm during delivery? Ooh, I would say me, Monte, because I'm very. calm in high stress situations, but also. I could see it being the complete. opposite. And Taylor just really like. calmed me. I was like, we got to like. figure out like some breathing. Like I. have he has to figure out how to like.

how do you figure there? I have I still. have so many questions. so much to go. >> Like, how do we practice that? Like, how. does how is he equipped? I don't know. >> I'm also picturing Taylor, to anyone. that doesn't know this, and I remember. when we were at the lake and we were. talking and I literally pointed this out. and he was like, "Oh my god, you. remembered it. Taylor has this tendency. to stretch when he's like, what do you. say?" Like, not anxious, but like just. like it's like he's thinking. It's. either when he's nervous or he's like.

thinking cuz I had put him on the spot. to tell you about his show and he then. just like spread I can't tell you that's. actually one of my favorite moments to. ever exist. Like it's so sweet that you. even remembered that and when you were. like oh my god he's doing it and I was. like wait he actually is doing it. It. was like the first time I ever. interviewed you guys. It was like after. the interview basically Taylor was like. or Taye you were like he like does this. thing when he gets a little anxious that. he like stretches like a year later I.

see you guys again and I'm like watching. this man stretch like on deck and and. I'm like you're stretching right now and. his leg was up on the like ledge and I'm. like Taylor Lner put your leg down and. calm down and he literally was like how. did you notice that and how did you. remember that? And I'm like, "Well, first of all, your groin is up. Your. groin up. Leg is up." He's so funny. Why. can I see him doing that in the delivery. room? He's like stretching. >> Have to like pay. Oh my gosh. I'll let. you know if that happens. That would be. so funny. Um, okay. Who is more likely.

to spoil the kids? >> Dad. Taylor. >> Okay. Who is more likely to document. every milestone? >> Mom. >> Cute. >> Yeah. Who is more likely to be the first. person to volunteer to change a diaper? Oh, I have mom. I've changed diapers. before, so I think that's I have a leg. up. Who's more likely to cheer the. loudest at your kids activities? Dad, Taylor, is there a specific sport.

or activity you guys like really want. them to try? I mean, I obviously. want to put them in dance because that. was like my main thing, but also Taylor. was telling me cuz he's Do you know that. he's like a world champion martial. artist? >> Of course. I That's why I said he's. going to teach my kid to do a back flip. >> I like forget that was a thing, but he. was like, "We could put our kids in. martial arts and that I was like them in. like the little white." So, yeah, probably. >> Running around in her little outfit. No, all of all of my girlfriends are like. we're putting our kids like cuz they're.

they're all going to be so close in age. So, we're just going to like put them in. the little sports and soccer too. I. think that was I did soccer for like. that was I had I did both at the same. time and then I had to pick one so I. picked dance. But I think just like. seeing them like run around seeing your. child at a martial arts class with. Taylor Lner. Oh my god. And then one day them like. doing the Bye. Yeah. Um, who is more. likely to splurge on unnecessary things? Like, are you buying a lot right now? >> Mom, yes and no. Because everyone's.

like, just don't don't stress because. you're going to honestly I haven't had. one person told me like to buy every. like everyone's been like, you're going. to use a quarter of the stuff you. actually have. It's actually weird. because I feel like I'm such I'm so type. A planner, but with this, I've been so. like not doing research and not like. doing stuff. I finally went into Baby. List and like if you haven't got you. it's like actually getting to like see a. stroller cuz I'm like I don't know where. to start and I'm reading the stuff.

online. I'm like this is so confusing. I. don't know what I want. I don't know. what I want. >> And then also like there's that and then. also like I'm having I'm fully preparing. to like I'm going to try to breastfeed. but I'm fully like I'm going into it. thinking that it this may not work. because everyone that may may not work. So I'm having formula just like ready. So I'm I'm prepping for both. I love. that you just said that because from. what I've understood and obviously we're. not there yet, but everyone talks about. how there is this enormous pressure to. breastfeed and I have had friends who.

are like the nurse that I was working. with even pressured me when I was like. it just doesn't feel right and they're. like you have to do it. you have to do. it for 6 months. And I just feel so. passionate of not even being there yet, but knowing that you need to do whatever. your body is telling you to do. That's. where I think it's like why do we do. that to women? It's like we're already. going to be going through so much. >> postpartum that to then put that. pressure and like shame on a woman of. like I've had friends that are like,

"Oh, I would like go to mom groups." And. they're like, "Oh, are you. breastfeeding?" They're like, "No." And. they're like, "Oh, yeah. That that. pisses it makes me so mad because it's. like it's also I was talking with. someone about this recently. It's like. you your baby will benefit from a mom. who is present and mentally well in the. head. And if breastfeeding is has is. having a negative effect on your mental. health then you need to listen to your. body. >> Then you got Yeah. um marriage in terms. of bringing a child into this world. I.

think there's a lot of changes that a. relationship can go through. Have you. and Taylor just talked about the impact. on your marriage of like, okay, we're. bringing this baby into the world. How. are we going to still prioritize. ourselves? Like, what do you think? >> Yeah. No, I definitely think that's. something we're trying to implement cuz. that's been a really big thing that a. lot of my friends have told me is like. your like people say like say goodbye to. your marriage. say goodbye to whatever. And I'm like, no. Like actually, like. Taylor and I have been together for 8.

and a half years. Like I I like hanging. out with just him. Like we do everything. together. So that's something that we're. definitely preparing for. I think too. we're also just talking about it more. Like we have good communication, but I. definitely just like hold things. I'm. like a pusher downer with things. And. it's actually funny because before I got. pregnant, I was telling my therapist. that I want to get better at bringing. things up when I'm even, it's weird. because I'll bring things up if I'm. struggling mentally with something, but. if it's something that I want to like.

something that Taylor and I need to talk. about or something that like something. deeper, I really struggle with like. bringing it up. I don't know why. Like I. didn't come from a family of like. conflict, so I think that's why. But he. was like, my therapist was like, "This. is a muscle and you can work through. this." and like we're going to start. working on it. And now with the. pregnancy hormones, I'm like great, this. is like I just going to like say. whatever's on my mind because I feel. like more like I just I don't have as. much patience or I'm just like I feel. not I don't think I feel more confident.

saying it, but I'm like there's less of. the like me being scared to say it. So I. feel like we're having a lot of just. like we're just talking openly about. what things will look like and we're. have like we're just talking so much. more and I think it's bringing us even. closer. before the baby comes, which is. gonna be special. And I want my kids to. like see see a marriage that is like a. healthy marriage and see like I see, you. know, my parents are high school. sweethearts too. So like it's cool. Like. I want them to see a marriage that it's.

the husband and wife like and the kids. like it's not just us not together and. us just giving everything to the kids. >> Such a good point. Like it's almost like. that's why parenting is so crazy because. when you are young and you have a or. you're having a young child in your head. people understandably could be like we. need to pour into this kid and then you. can lose sight of your partner right but. then the kid grows up and is like I. didn't really have an example of love in. my household. It was like my parents.

were very present but like they were a. little disconnected and so it's like. everything affects the child at. different stages of life. And so you're. so right, like seeing love in a home, especially when this kid is high school, college, out of college, searching for a. life partner, like you talking about. your parents, I feel so fortunate. I. have a similar situation. They weren't. high school sweethearts, but they're. still together. They're so in love. And. I know that's a rarity. And I hold on to. that and cherish that. And I Matt and I.

talk about that all the time that we're. so fortunate to have both of our parents. still together, but with that comes a. lot of work and a lot of. communication. And so like I love that. your hormones are making you be like and. another thing like that's great. >> Taylor loves it too cuz you know it took. us a while cuz when we first started. dating he's just someone that knows what. he wants and he's very confident in what. he wants to say and wants to talk about. it. know the first time that ever. happened, which I also didn't have. conflict in my previous even dating. relationships. I was like, "Oh, like.

it's the end of like it's just the brain. turns off. It's the end of the world. I. can't even process a thought. Like I'm. just frozen in shock and I need 24. hours." And when Taylor and I first. started dating, he took my silence as. like, "Oh, so you like don't care about. what I'm saying?" And really, it's just. quite the opposite. Like I can't even. really process what he's saying. And now. now it's really sweet because he'll like. he'll talk to me and be like, "Okay, do. you like need a minute? Like I'm going. to go take a shower and we can come back. down and finish. You want to talk about. it now? What do you like?" It's just. it's really cool and we have such an.

amazing relationship where we can. communicate how we're feeling. That is. the best and I hope for everyone. watching and listening that you get to. that point where like you know you're in. a really positive healthy relationship. when you learn each other's patterns. essentially and you learn how each other. copes and how you process things and I. was the same with Matt where like I. needed a minute and he would be like. let's talk it through and I'd be like I. can't talk about this right now and that. in the beginning of our relationship was.

our like thing and now we do the same. exact thing that you guys are saying. where he's like, "Okay, like let's give. it a second." And I feel like I've had a. lot of people write in that will always. say like, "We just can't seem to like. make it work in that category." And I. think a lot of that just comes from. genuine respect and willingness to see. the other person and recognize that in. order to actually progress and get over. this argument or whatever it was, you. need to respect the other person and how. they process and you have to meet in the.

middle to some degree. And sometimes. that also means you need to be the one. that is a little bit more lenient and. the other per because when you look at. it as like wins. >> and you can't go into it being like. wanting to like dig the dagger in deeper. and t I'm so thankful Taylor and I have. never like I we just we just want we. want to be heard. We want the other to. hear us and I'm not trying to make him. feel bad for something. And even if one. of us does something that the other. doesn't like, it's like like this you. did this like I don't want to make you. feel bad, but this is how it made me. feel like just like like productive.

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>> My dogs have been very extra needy. Do. you think your dogs know you're. pregnant? That's a really good question and that's. not a rapidfire answer. I think they. knew that I was really struggling in my. first trimester because they were really. cuddly because I was not leaving the. couch and they were like really chill. But I am trying to figure out if they do. >> if they do know. >> Yeah. One of my dogs definitely wouldn't. know cuz she's like a house cat and I. feel like she's not that with it. The. other one probably would. >> Yeah. Okay. What is something you cried. over while pregnant that you can laugh. about now?

>> Oh god. Um, like everything. Oh god, just like even. the smallest things. Honestly, probably. me crying for the first time seeing. myself in the mirror. Like I'm just I I. can I can laugh about it now cuz even. though I'm still there, it's just like. I'm just laughing through the pain. Okay, perfect. What is something you. wish people would stop asking pregnant. women? I was going to say, how are you. feeling? But I don't know what a better. question. >> Honestly, it's good. Like, how do you. think I'm feeling?

I have had some people that I don't know. touch my belly though and I'm like. >> and God bless my I my close friends like. even my mom every time before she. touches she's like can I touch your. belly I'm like thanks mom. >> like and I'm fine like my girlfriends. know like I have like my close friends. I'm fine if they're they touch my belly. but. no you. >> being like you're like. >> that is that is such a good one. It's. similar to like how people feel so. comfortable to talk about our bodies. when we're pregnant. The touching is.

crazy. You're like, "Do you want. to touch my tits, too?". >> I'm just realizing this. I actually can. relate to Taylor now because women would. just come up and literally touch his. abs. >> You're going to go home be like, "Babe, another thing we relate on that we're. going to connect.". >> Completely different body shapes. >> They're touching your abs and my abs. that are like now separated. Have yours. separated yet? I had my legs up on the. wall the other night and I like sat up. to grab something and right here goes. down but this is like squishy in the.

middle. >> That has not happened to me. But when I. tell you my ribs I feel Have you had. heartburn? >> Oh yeah. >> The heartburn that I'm experiencing. under like my tits. >> Yeah. Here. >> Oh my god. Like I've been like rubbing. my rib this episode cuz I'm literally. like it's happening right here and I'm. like I don't like the way that this. feels. Um, what has been your experience. with pregnancy brain? >> It's been a struggle. I actually was. even going to ask you this cuz I feel.

like it's hard for me. Obviously, one. being someone who's so driven, I've. really had to I like pride myself on. being able to do like five things at. once and like remember all of these. things and do all this stuff. And when. that stopped happening, I was like, "Oh, okay." Like, it really made me have to. like sit down and just accept it. I. think that's probably something I cried. over and now I'm like okay with it and I. think it's good that I'm it's making me. chill a little more because I need to. But even like with a podcast like how.

every time and I feel like it's harder. for you cuz you have the paper. I have. my laptop so I will erase a question if. I ask it because I then can't remember. if I ask a question. And I was just. doing an event yesterday with Q cards. and I was like moderating these two. panels and I was like you bouncing. around you know like if there's if I. bring up something then you go to that. topic and I was doing that and I was. like wait I actually can't remember if I. asked this who said what like no no no I. will say like I I love that you brought.

that up because it's almost like I. haven't wanted to admit it to myself. Yeah, >> I remember like two specific interviews. I had. >> I was so frustrated with myself because. I was like trying so hard to lock in and. I couldn't lock in the way that I'm used. to. And so every day is different for. me. Like yesterday I did an interview. and I was like, "Oh my god, I'm so. locked in." Today I'm more relaxed cuz. I'm like I knew I could slip up. I know. I could be like, "Can we just sit here. in silence? Like I feel so comfortable.

with you." But it is frustrating. And I. I agree with you. I'm not there yet and. I need to get there of like giving. myself more grace because I love my job. so much, but also my job is weird where. like my whole goal is to make people. feel comfortable and make it feel. seamless and flow and not have them even. feel like I'm interviewing them. So that. has if anything been something where. it's like when I have interviews now I'm. trying to make my days less of like I. had meetings in the morning and meetings.

after the interview so that I can just. the whole day is focused on the person. sitting in this chair and giving them. all of the brain power I humanly. possibly have cuz the minute after I. finish interviews now I'm like goodbye. everyone. Anyone need anything from me? Okay, perfect. It makes me feel I'm like. I am paying attention but it's like I. just like can't. >> it's not there. It's it's hard and part. of me, you know, I used to at the. beginning doing stuff in first trimester. like it's easy cuz like you know this. this is our job like this it's this it's. sitting like we're not like my best.

friend you know delivering babies for a. living. So like that's something I'm so. grateful for but then it's like oh like. I actually like this does require a lot. of brain power and I never actually. >> the mental like no we are doing ping. pong right now. >> and I feel like we're doing okay as two. pregnant ladies sitting here. >> Great. I I mean so they we may look over. and everyone seemed to like. >> I mean. >> we're like in our own world of. productions in the back like uh. >> me already forgetting I was supposed to. be doing rapid fire with you. I'm like. wait my fault. What was it? Okay.

What has been the most recommended. pregnancy item to you by friends? I. think the I mean my biggest one of my. biggest saviors has been like the. migraine cap cuz I had the worst. headaches in my first trimester and even. now I'll like do it if I'm feeling. overwhelmed or just like I would sleep. with it every night even if I didn't. have a migraine cuz I was so warm. I. just would like sleep on it that I have. like a little nausea stick that's like a. scent thing which I actually originally. got from boating on the lake because I.

would get like seasick but not on the. boat. It was weird. It's like the after. when you have like the sea legs. That's. what would get me. >> And so I had it for motion sickness and. I literally have one in like every bag. everywhere. It's the best thing. A. little portable fan. >> Oo, >> I like that. >> Yeah. >> Is any part of you nesting yet? And like. what are some things that you're. preparing? I finally cleaned out the. room that's going to be the nursery, which um I that took me that took me a. minute to to finally do, but then I was. like, you know, people like, does the.

baby even really use the nursery like in. the beginning? So, I'm like, if it's a. little late, it's fine. Um yeah, no, definitely nesting, but then also part. of me is like I'm always nesting because. I that's what I do when I'm stressed is. I clean and organize and do that kind of. stuff. >> Of course. um you have your podcast a. squeeze and I know you said that not all. of your episodes will be pregnancy. related but also that is the reality of. what you are going through. How are you. going to continue to like share your. journey? Yeah, I think yeah I mean it.

definitely is starting to be more. pregnancy heavy than I was expecting, but also that's I think that's honestly. where a lot of my audience is at too, ironically. Um, so no, I'm just I think. it's so special and I haven't enjoyed. sharing about my struggles this much. ever before cuz it's just it's it's such. a unique experience and it's so special. and um kind of like how we were talking. about earlier like I just did like you.

don't know what to expect and I even say. now like I was I was such a bad friend. to my friends that have been pregnant. and our moms cuz like you just like you. truly don't know and I used to roll my. eyes all the time with my My mom would. say that to me like as a kid and now I'm. like oh no there's actually like truth. to that. I will never be able to unsee. it and unfeill it. It's like wo this is. so much more than I ever understood. again because the glamorization we think. a woman just oh she's pregnant she looks.

great pops out. when you get underneath the hood of it. and the amount that goes into living the. experience. >> Damn. Um, last question to anyone who is. just finding out they're pregnant this. week, last week, whatever it is, they're. entering this first trimester. What. advice do you have for them? >> Honestly, just go into it prepared. I. think I just wasn't prepared. I was. expecting it to be a lot less worse than. it was. And I think if I was better.

prepared, then I would have been able to. maybe mentally handle it a little. better. And I would I would also add to. that and to give you some grace like. again I think the mental and physical. toll it takes. I also think that there's. only so much preparing you can do and. >> I as women I we are so incredible. because our bodies we we we just forget. and we keep it moving to survive. And I. believe that like when women talk about.

birth and they're like right after like. that was the hardest thing in the world. and then you ask them a couple months. later and they're like it wasn't that. bad. Yeah, we. >> there's an amnesia part of it that. during the first trimester, it's. literally just like day by day, but when. I got to like my halfway point, I like. forgot I had to do like vaginal. progesterone for the first month, which. was just weird. I did not like having to. do that. Um, I had like a weird heart. thing. Like I had so many things. happening that I'm like, "Oh, I like I. forgot I wore a heart monitor for 2. weeks." Like I'm like there's just so.

many little things that I like forget. now. And I don't say that to like. minimize how anyone's feeling, but. >> it helps get through. >> Yeah. Just you gotta you gotta just hold. on. >> I can't thank you enough for coming on. I We didn't cry. >> Go us. >> We I love how we sat down and we almost. started crying just by talking like we. were like, "Hi." And then by the end. we're like we were so strong. >> We were so on it. >> But seriously, thank you so much for. coming on. I'm so happy for you. I just.

oh my god, your little girl is going to. be the cutest ever. And I'm just so. happy for you and Taylor and just all. the good vibes and energy to you on this. next chapter of your guys life. >> Oh my gosh. Same. I can't wait for our. little lake babies. So fun. >> Love you. Love you.