Red Flag or Overthinking?

Hello Daddy Gang, welcome back to. another Sunday session. We have so much. to catch up on. It is going to be such a. good good Sunday. So, I just recorded a. full solo episode about my pregnancy. journey and that comes out very very. soon. Maybe even this week, I don't. know, we'll see. But, I'm really excited to share. everything that has been going on in my. life because girl, it's been a lot,

okay? But, one thing I can tell you about my. pregnancy right now, it is giving me the. most perfect excuse to lie down, kick my. feet up, lean into my 12 different. pregnancy pillows, and watch Love Island. all summer long. Every single night. except for, of course, Wednesday because. no new Love Island episodes on. Wednesdays. And also, Wednesday is Call. Her Daddy day, which kind of works out.

perfectly. But, every other night of the. week, you will find me on the couch with. my heating pad cranked up, surrounded by. all of my pregnancy favorite snacks, getting hype the minute I hear "Tonight, a hot new bombshell enters the villa.". Boom! I'm like, "Yeah, Matt walks in the. door." I'm like, "Get out. Get. [laughter] out." He's like, "Wait." Matt. is low-key getting like already invested. even though he said he wasn't going to. watch it with me this year. He's already.

invested. I love it so much, you guys, and I love it even more now that I am. pregnant because it's not like I am just. watching TV, right? I am taking care of. myself. This is self-care through and. through. So, let's talk. a little Love Island season 8, shall we? Oh my god, okay. I Where do I begin? I. feel like this season is.

it's already a lot, right? I mean, before episode 1 even dropped, the. internet was, you know, being the internet, stalking the cast, canceling the cast. It was just like. chaos before night 1 even aired. That's. such a testament to the fandom. Um, and I will say the past two seasons, and. I think we can all collectively agree, the past two seasons of Love Island have. been top-tier reality television. There. is no denying that. I don't care if you. didn't like the cast or you didn't like. certain.

It was a cultural phenomenon both. season, and each season individually, they broke the internet, right? And so, now, I can't help but be so fascinated. to see if this new season, season 8, will be able to not only maintain that. level of hype and traction, but maybe even top it. Cuz I feel like. last year everyone said like, "Oh, this. isn't going to be, you know, season 6.". And then all of a sudden, it was as big, right? So, let's see what season 8 can.

do. Regardless, I'm going to be. watching. Um, wow. Okay, I just remember when I had, let's do a little throwback, when I had. Robin Leanne from season 6, >> [sighs]. >> I will never forget Rob showing up in. those overalls, his fresh tan, Leanne. coming straight from Fiji, showing up. looking like the most gorgeous woman I'd. ever seen in that black corset. Remember. her like perfect posture the entire. episode?

That was incredible. And then fast. forward a year later, and obviously, I. had on Amaia and Huda last season for. season 7, and. that was even more dramatic, I feel. like, than the previous year. And I will. say that was the first time, guys, that. I had ever recorded two episodes of Call. Her Daddy in one day back-to-back. Like. I wrote them both back-to-back, recorded. them both back-to-back. My brain was. mush, but I also like loved it. The.

adrenaline was so high because that is. the thrill and just the rush of it, right? Like everything moves so freaking. fast on the internet. Um. and to kind of give you like some. behind-the-scenes of the thought process. for Call Her Daddy, basically throughout. each season of Love Island so far, my. team and I tried to predict who was. going to be the noisiest and the most. dramatic of that specific season so I. could invite them on the show and start. prepping their interview. But last.

season was truly so up and down all the. way until the very end. So, this year I am definitely, without a. doubt, going to be following along on. Polymarket. I am going to be refreshing. and checking the Love Island odds every. single day. That's all I've been doing. every single day, and it's only been a. week. It's only been a week, but here I. am. Um I'm going to be checking it. multiple times a day. just so that I can be up-to-date with.

what the public is feeling about this. cast and this season. Um. by the time this comes out, we're what, five episodes in? 30 more to go. Everyone's like, "Oh, it's almost 30. more to go." Plus, people on Polymarket. already are trading on who they think. are going to win. Like. I bet I bet I bet it's different than. when I last looked. Okay, are you ready? So, the woman that they think is going. to win currently, oh my god, literally, guys, the numbers are changing as I'm.

watching it. So, Bea is number one, but. it keeps slipping with Anaya. Bea and. Anaya are like tied almost. It's going. from 49 to 50%. Okay. Then, Trinity and. Kenzie. I love Trinity and Kenzie so much. The. two of them have my heart. Kenzi, we. love you and we love the drama. This is. my life. Me just like refreshing, refreshing, refreshing. Honestly, I. really love the commitment that we don't. even know who is going to last as. couples, okay? And these people don't.

even know each other yet, guys. It is. still, as they say, early days on Love. Island, but the internet and poly market. will always have an opinion, which I. love to see. So, I'll be updating myself every single. day. Um to all the ladies and gentlemen out. there who are about to sell their soul. and indulge in a Love Island summer, disclaimer, I am not saying this is. going to become a Love Island podcast. Don't worry. Don't worry. Just like I. said, this isn't a pet pregnancy. podcast, right? Right, right, right. We've got a lot of different topics to.

cover. But you can definitely count on your. girl to be closely following along. Belly out, snacks on deck, and getting really, really, really into. it. I would love to know who you guys. think currently is going to come on Call. Her Daddy cuz I have no clue. Um okay. So, that's a little life update. Guys, I. feel like there's that's going to. It's pregnancy and Love Island. Oh, and. I also am rereading Throne of Glass, so.

that's kind of my entire summer. And I. don't know where to fit any other thing. in other than those three things, so. I'll keep you updated. Um but without. further ado, I think we should get into. some questions of the week. Call Her. Daddy is brought to you by Häagen-Dazs. Daddy gang, I think we all deserve a. little more me time, whether it's work, school, or whatever is bringing you. down. It's so important to take a second. to slow down and [music] treat yourself. And lately, my favorite way to do this.

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honestly really [ __ ] up. So, we need. to discuss this. Hi Daddy, so my best. friend posted a photo of us and I. thought I looked weird. So, I compared. the posted photo to the one I have and. she FaceTuned it, which is all fine and. dandy, but she made herself look. skinnier and me look fatter. I am so. unbelievably upset because why would my. best friend since elementary school make. me look bad? I just don't know how to. address this. I understand society makes. women feel like we have to be perfect,

but why FaceTune me to look worse? I. just don't get it. >> [gasps]. >> Girl, your best friend is literally an. op. Hold on. So, when I read this, I was like, there's just no way. There's just no. way. And knowing the ins and outs of. FaceTune, I like I had to believe for a. second. I'm like, maybe she did the. thing where like she's pulling in her. rib cage. Do you know what I mean? And. she's kind of like slicing herself in on.

all angles and she's editing herself so. focused. She's like, okay, and then. bring my hip to here, hip to here, and. then bring this here, this here, here. And she has no concept of what's. happening to the right, which happens to. just be your glorious body. And you just. got like the [ __ ] end of it. Um you've. seen people sometimes when they're. FaceTuning, and then all of a sudden if. they're moving like the back wall just. completely they forgot to like fix that. or something. But I have to believe. I have to believe that your best friend.

did not then be like settings approved, make myself look like a Victoria's. Secret model. Now let's turn to this. [ __ ] And then she was like Expando. Patronum, Expando Patronum. Like I. refuse. I refuse to I I believe in. girlhood. I believe in humanity that. I just I can't I can't. I can't accept it for you, and I can't. accept it for all of us. So, I think.

what you could do is you could text her. and cuz you guys have We've all seen. that kind of on the internet. Have you. guys ever seen those trends where you. FaceTune someone, or you like make their. forehead look huge, and then they send. it to the person be like, "Do you care. if I post this?" And then the person has. a mental breakdown. They're like, "Wait, bro. Like that's not what I look. like." And they're like, "What do you. mean?" And like, "Look at my forehead. Like I have a 12 head. Like the fuck?". I don't think your friend is playing a.

prank on you, but I do think you have. the right to just text her and be like, "Wait, girl. I've been like sick over. this, and I just have to acknowledge it. My body is fully distorted in the. picture, and I've gone so crazy, and. I've looked at the original. Like. what happened here? You have to have to. have to ask her what happened, and I. you have to tell us what her answer is. Okay, next question. Dude,

FaceTune? Like. you can just get so carried away, especially when you're own in your own. world with it. And you're like, "Do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do do do do do. do do do do do do do do do And it gets. scary. So, you should usually if you're.

going to use that kind of equipment, you. should check with people and be like, "What do you think of this photo?" And. then hopefully one of your friends is. like, "It's awesome, if it wasn't 15. times edited way too far.". Okay. I am dating a guy who's 31 and on. paper, basically perfect. Great job, emotionally intelligent, close to his. family, has a solid group of friends, genuinely seems like a good person. But. he recently told me he's never had a. relationship longer than maybe 6 months.

He says he was focused on working for a. long time and just hadn't met the right. person. Is this actually not that weird. and I'm over-analyzing or is getting to. your mid-30s with zero long-term. relationship experience a legitimate red. flag? >> [sighs]. >> I love and hate these questions where. I'm like, there's so. Oh, there's like almost like too much to. say. I'm trying to put myself in your shoes.

because when I met Matt, I loved that he had long-term. relationships, had experience, um. you know, wasn't I wasn't going to be like the. first to really be like, "Let's move in. together." And he's like, "I've never. lived with a woman." Like, that kind of. freaked me out in previous relationships. because I felt like there wasn't a. maturity to it even if it wasn't either. of our fault. It's just you're going.

through things in a way that like it's. nice when you both have done it before. to a capacity cuz then you just get to. be better versions of yourself at doing. it. I do think men in their mid-30s. only having 6-month relationship, I. would say isn't wouldn't have probably. been for me. However, I don't think it's. a complete 100% right off red flag. I. like anything I usually say on this. podcast, I do think that you need to. have context clues like they teach us in. school. And you know what? Every [ __ ].

time a teacher told me back when I was. young and trying to not fail out, it's. like just look for the context clues, Alex. When I would go up and be like, "Can you help me?" And they're like, "Just look at the context clues." Like, [ __ ] you and your context clues. Give me. the [ __ ] answer, [ __ ] But now I. happen to be that annoying [ __ ]. teacher that's like, "Just look at the. context clues.". Um but it's true. Especially when it. comes to dating men because I think when. you're dating a man, there's so much in dating that can be.

misconstrued. because of our past, because of things. that have, you know, triggered us in the. past or or not worked in the past or. worked in the past, right? And so, if he. has had this one thing and you're so. focused on it, but what if What about. this? His apartment is spectacular. He's. clean. He's organized. He is on time for. everything. He's so respectful of you. He is making an effort. He has a great. job. The way he talks about his.

relationships in the past is not like, "She was a crazy [ __ ] bitch." Like, all You know what I'm saying? It's like, what is the full picture? And I always. feel like whenever someone's writing in. cuz I feel like I would have done this. in the past, when you're writing. something like this in it, I can't help. but wonder. if there's other things that he's doing. in this relationship with you that is. alluding. or that is making you feel like [ __ ]. And he's And he's only ever had a. relationship like the longest being 6.

months. You know what I mean? It's like. that is the tipping point and the. biggest thing you can use to kind of. call out this feeling of unease when if. that really was just the If If I had met. Matt and Matt had every quality he had. when I met him, but his one thing was he. had only had 6-month relationships, I. would have read the room a little bit. and like been like, "Okay, I don't love. it, but let's see if everything else is. perfect and like really working, then. [ __ ] that [ __ ] I'll be the Like I'm.

down to be the first long-term one cuz. everything else is great." So, context clues. But, I don't love it. And I could get [ __ ] for that, but I. >> [sighs]. >> I don't love it. Because, you know what? I look back at one of my relationships. that was one of my. more stable. potential relationships where like I was. in love and this and it wasn't toxic, but he had not really had long-term.

relationships, and there was just a. different feeling. And maybe it's like a guy thing, I don't. know, but like I could just feel. that when we like our the building. towards a future just felt kind of like. this not even a factor. Um whereas. meeting someone like a Matt, it's like. he had a foundation, he had goals, he. had a vision for what he wanted his life. to look like, and he talked about that. very openly, talked about things he.

didn't like in previous relationships, was very open about things he loved in. previous relationships that he respected. of the people. So, like I think I need. someone who has the ability to talk. about their past in a way that's not. hiding or um fearful of it, and someone. I needed someone who was like very. honest and open and was mature. And so my fear is 6 months gives like. what the [ __ ] is 6 months? Sorry, but.

like 6 months means like you're just. getting close and then it ends. Cuz 6. months is like low-key. it's a little short. Like at least if it. was a year, I'd be like all right, bro. got close to like it always ended right. before they moved in together kind of. vibe. >> [sighs and gasps]. >> Girl, I'm sorry. That's tough. When you. use the context clues, you're going to. know without a doubt oh, well, yeah, you're right. Alex said I was just like. avoiding acknowledging the fact that the. 6-month thing is also like he and his he. has multiple roommates and he hasn't had.

the same job. Um he changes jobs every. also 6 months and his room smells like. cat litter and he doesn't have a cat. You know. Okay, next. Call Her Daddy is brought to. you by Depop. I feel like we all have. that one chair in our bedroom that. becomes the I'll deal with it later. pile. Well, for me. >> [laughter]. >> that pile has slowly taken over my. entire chair and the whole floor and the.

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changing his or us doing something. hyphenated. We are planning on starting. a family, and I feel annoyed that I'm. the one that's expected to bend on this. just because I'm the woman. Any advice. on this would be super appreciated. Oh, yikes. Yikes. Yikes. >> [sighs]. >> There's so many feelings I have towards. this topic because. I feel like men.

are so traditional with this point. because they have truly never had to. even conceptualize. what it would feel like if. we went with the woman's side. >> [laughter]. >> How. how classic is that in the world? Like, men have never had to question their. name and their. lineage and the history behind that last.

name and forfeiting it for a new one. Um. they've never had to think about that. >> [laughter]. >> The privilege, it just oozes privilege. How nice. Rule. number 955 of why it's great to have a. [ __ ] penis. And so, I think because. historically, and I'm not giving them. any [ __ ] grace on this. I'm just. talking it through with us as women. Because men have never had to even think. of this concept,

the minute it's brought up by if they. are with who is a little bit more. progressive or liberal or whatever it. be, I think it stops them in their. tracks because again, they've never. thought about it. And so, when you have. never thought about something and on top. of never thinking about something, when. something has just been a prerequisite. in your life, like, "Duh, of course.". It's like, "Oh, and and my name is John. Like, my name is John and my last name.

is Smith and of course my name is going. to be John Smith for the rest of my. life. Why wouldn't it be?". And as young women we grow up and there. is a concept of like, "Oh my gosh, my. name is Alex Cooper, but one day would I. change my name? Will I change my name. for a man?" And and and we all go. through it too in the fun way of like, "Oh my god, what if you met a guy named. like Larry McCarlson Personwatterman?". And you're like, "How would Alex. McCarlson Personwatterman sound?". How do you even spell that? And like,

"Would I want that on. on my ID? And like, would I want that as. my presentation?" Like, cuz Cooper. sounds kind of better than that. You. know what I mean? We go through that in. our [ __ ] head and men don't have to. ever think about that until recently. Until recently, we as women, in a. beautiful way, have started to wake the. [ __ ] up and be like, "Huh.". Let's have a Even even if you're so down. to take his last name, you're like, "But. we should have a conversation about it,

right?". Cuz like, I'm an individual, you're an. individual, and we're merging. our lives, and like we want to change If. you want to change your last names and. have the same last name, whether it's. just because you're in love and you want. to do that, or it is traditional and you. like that tradition, or you want to have. the same last name for your children, whatever it be, we should talk about it, right? And when a man is unwilling to. talk about it, that is where the. turn-off begins for me. And it sounds. like what you're saying is your. boyfriend is kind of you're kind of.

having this conversation by yourself. And that's why you're writing into me. You're like, "Hey, girl. Uh mind if I. just talk this one through with you. right now, cuz I don't know where else. to go, cuz Rico is basically shutting me. out." Uh this is really complicated, because. I think that there's a lot of angles. here that you need to consider. Number. one being, and I hate even saying this, and you. just have to be honest with yourself, does your boyfriend respect women?

And I know that actually sounds so crazy. that I'm even asking that, cuz it. actually sounds like uh people would be. like, "Of course he does." But like, no, no, no, no. Like, does he respect women in the sense that. like you are truly equal to him? Does he. respect women in the sense that like if. you brought this up, is his rebuttal. going to be. "I would never take your [ __ ] last. name. That's That's literally not how. this goes. That is That would never. happen. A A man doesn't take a woman's.

name. You take my la." And it's all this. like very. um sexist speech, essentially. That is my biggest fear for a lot of us. when we get into these dynamics, because. when you are in a hetero dynamic, there's a lot of dynamics where. sometimes that like undertone of. misogyny and sexism doesn't have to boil. to the surface, cuz. a lot of times, just in your day-to-day. life, like he's lovely, he opens the. door for you, but da, but really likes.

his masculine position in your life and. the minute and you've never really had. to clash and question it. You've never. had to ask him, "Well, what if I took a. little bit of the masculinity and you. are in your femininity?" And what the. minute that happens, if it's like get. the [ __ ] away from me, I feel like. that's a red flag. I remember when Matt and I had met, so. much of what I now in hindsight was. doing, aside from like wanting to.

protect my independence and my identity, was like I was constantly. temperature checking with him to be. like, "I don't know if I ever want to. get married.". And he was like, "Okay.". Like so what? Like you're like but. you're down for like life partner or. what it like and he was like interested. in what I was saying and I was like, "Yeah, I think I'm down for a life. partner. I just like and I would be. committed and all of that, but like I. don't know if I like legally need the. binding agreement." He was like, "That. is completely fine with me." And then we. would talk through kids and like how we.

would want to raise kids in that. dynamic. Like he went there with me. And. then I was the one after almost like two. years of dating. where I was like, "I want to move in. together now." After he had asked me and. I had said, "No." Poor Matt. He had. asked me to move in and I was like, "No." Then like I eventually turned. around and was like, "I'm ready." And. everything had to be on my own terms, I. think because I was just super. hyper-sensitive to the fact of like as. women, it's hard not to and I know this. is not for everyone, it's just really. for me. I needed to make sure that I was.

asserting some form of power in all of. the guys that I've ever dated and a lot. of them when I did any form of this, it. was like pushback, resistance and if. anything, maybe even a breakup. And with. Matt, everything I tested it was like, "Oh my god, wait, this is the dream the. way he's responding." When it came to. our names and everything, that was a. conversation that Matt was like, I would. never ever ever ask you to change your. name. And I was like, I'm not like 100%. opposed, actually, weirdly.

Um it's a do a hyphenated thing or I. just want to think about it one from the. standpoint of my public situation and. two for our kids. And so we had a lot of. conversations about that. I know this is kind of long-winded. I. think I think it's like it's too hard to. just give you a quick answer, though. I. think you are someone who clearly is. having a adverse reaction to your. boyfriend is giving you clearly not the. response you want and not even just. that. The fact that you're writing like, I'm expected.

I don't love that for you. And so I. think that my advice is like you need to. sit him down and you need to be honest. Because if this is actually the person. that you are going to spend the rest of. your life with, you clearly are a very. smart person and you seem. um. like you have boundaries and you respect. yourself, right? And so you're like, wait a second. You're asking the right. questions. I'm not even if you take his. last name, you should be asking, well, wait a second, like why do I have to do.

that? And then everyone's rebuttal, I love it. when everyone's rebuttal is, well, every. single one of us has a man's last name. and isn't that [ __ ] ironic? Well, your last name Cooper is from a. man I know. And isn't that ironic? That all of us just have men's last. names. I know. >> [laughter]. >> That can just start the book. If we're. writing like a misogyny patriarchy book,

that's it, right? Like, boom. Cuz it's. like, what the [ __ ] And now we're all. waking up to it. So I you you're you. have every right to be asking that. question. I also want to clarify if. there's any woman watching this that's. like, I didn't ask, I want to take his. last name, that is so your decision and. I so respect you for that. That's so so. fair and I totally get it. Also, there's. really lovely things about tradition, right? And sometimes we don't need to think too. much into it. But as a woman, this this. is something that it is fair to ask the.

question about because guess what? I'm. about to push a baby out of my [ __ ]. vagina. And all these women and then we just I. do all this work work and then we put. the man's last name on the baby? Like. there it begs to have some questions and. some conversations. So, have the conversation with him and if he. completely shuts you down and he's a. misogynistic pig and he's like, I don't. really give a [ __ ] probably not your. husband. >> [sighs]. >> Girl, that just [ __ ] riled me up.

But I do think that's the point is like. what what we're missing is like it is so. okay to. go with tradition, but you have to make. sure that you're doing it because you're. like, oh yeah, like that's fun and nice. and like I I I'm down, yeah, but we had. the conversation and I know you respect. me and this is a mutual decision that. we've both made and we've talked through. incessantly and we both feel really good. about it. You didn't just get to make.

the decision and be like, if not, like. I'll go find another [ __ ] [ __ ] that. will do it. Like I'm not going to put up. with this and then you just have to like. scurry and chase after him and like go. along with it. That's not how you have. to live your life. Okay. How should I. think about it when my long-term. boyfriend is invited to weddings without. me in general, but specifically when the. person knows me and is connected to his. family? I don't like this. I don't like this at all.

And I don't like this because I hate. doing this, but my first question is. like, what have you been up to? I don't like looking at the daddy gang. with suspicious eyes, but I'm like, what's going on? What's going on over. there? Because to not be getting that invite. multiple times. multiple times. It's one thing if it's one. you know, like they're keeping it tight. or budget's tight or something and like. they didn't give plus ones.

Multiple weddings. Frennie's getting left behind. What's Frennie been up to? Cuz. my gut. worries and says. cuz don't people don't want you there. And I hate that answer cuz I'm defensive. of you already cuz I'm like you're Daddy. Gang, you're writing in, but then I'm. like, okay, so let's talk it through. Why the [ __ ] would people be inviting. your boyfriend to all these different. weddings and you've been in long-term.

relationship with this person. These are. people you also know and he's the one. getting the invite? Okay, two things. Number one. Either. This is like these are really extremes. and I hope I'm wrong on both of them, but I this is the only context I have. So. spare me. Um, number one. you would be really upset to find out. how your boyfriend talks about you. And what I mean by that is there's a. potential that all of these people. aren't inviting you because behind the.

scenes, the way he speaks about you and. he. is close enough with these people that. he has an understanding that you're not. getting invited and that's for a reason. and then he goes and he lives his best. life at these weddings and like. this may not be. this may be a relationship that doesn't. have. a foundation of honesty. Like I don't. know. I'm not saying he's [ __ ]. [ __ ] at these weddings, but like. Okay, that's like my [ __ ] up pregnancy. brain going like, oh my god, this is.

bad. Then the other way that oh my god, this is bad is like. you drink too much, you talk over. everyone, you're loud, you're ruining. nights where everyone's trying to have a. good time. You're rude, you're mean, you're not self-aware. Like, again, I'm. not actually saying this about you, but. I'm just trying to rack my brain of. like, what would warrant no invite? The. only thing I also think I I hate I'm not. going to name this episode context. clues, but honestly context clues. Um. How does your boyfriend respond when you. don't get invited? That interests me.

That would tickle my brain to know the. answer to that because if he's I'm. picturing it, you're in the kitchen. The save the date comes in. He opens it. Babe, what's that? Oh, uh. Nothing. You're like, no, what is it? Oh, um. M- M- Marty and Fern are getting married. this summer. Oh my god, wait, I'm so. excited for them. Where is it? Where are. we going?

N- uh not we. Me. And you're like, huh? And he's like, it. uh it's for me. I didn't get a plus one. And then you're like, What? What do you mean, Todd? Like. I'm your girl. I'm Franny. Like, come. on, Todd. Like. We go everywhere together, Todd. And. he's like, I'm so sorry, babe. Like, yeah, you didn't get the invite this. time. And then he just walks off. Then Todd's in on it, Franny, okay?

Because what the appropriate reaction. would be. What the [ __ ] Like, I don't know. They. know we've been together for so long. That's [ __ ] up I didn't get a plus. one. Like, should I call and ask? Like, I don't want to be rude, but like, obviously I'm not going to go without. you. That's just like [ __ ] up. So, like, I I don't know. If like, if. they're close enough, he'll talk to the. person. If they're not close enough, maybe I'm not going. Like, I don't know. There would be back and forth of you. guys trying to dissect why the [ __ ] am I. not getting invited? And that doesn't.

seem like it's happening. And you're. just kind of like sitting in the corner. like, "Have fun at the wedding, Todd." And. he's like, "I'll be back, Franny.". That's [ __ ] crazy. If when Matt and I. were dating and we're like 5 years in. and he's going off to these weddings and. I wasn't getting invited, >> [sighs and gasps]. >> oh my god. I think there's something going on and. you really need to get to the bottom of. it, but I don't think I have enough. I don't have enough information to. answer this one for you, but it's one of.

I think it could be one of the two that. I just offered. And I don't like either of those for. you, so I'm here for you, and please. write in what the [ __ ] happened because. mhm, I don't like that, Franny. I don't. like that at all. Okay, Call Her Daddy. is brought to you by Starbucks. Daddy. gang, this year has already been. non-stop. We've launched beverages, produced TV shows, dropped new merch, and put out some of my favorite Call Her. Daddy episodes to date, and it is only. about to get crazier this summer when. suddenly every weekend there's a trip,

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>> [clears throat]. >> The signs were there for a long time, but now I don't think I can look past it. anymore. He has an appointment for a new. tattoo soon and told me that he's. worried his mom will notice the large. charge on his his on his bank account. Babe, it's glorious. It's not his. Um, and she. will criticize for him both the money. and the tattoo. I think it's time for. him to grow up and be more independent. of his mom and get his own [ __ ] bank.

account. How do I have a serious. conversation with him about this? This is bad. This is really bad. This is really bad. And I don't like this at all. Let's talk. First of all, sharing a bank account with your mother. at 32 years old as a grown man and. and it not being like he's sending his. mom money um, and helping her out or. even like she's helping him out cuz he.

was going through a hard time. Sharing a. bank account, I want to know what else. they're sharing. Mhm. I want to know what else is going on. I want to know. what. Fred and Gloria's relationship is like. because I have a feeling Fred and Gloria. I don't like this. And I don't like this for you. specifically because let's put Fred and. Gloria over here. Son and mommy. What I don't like for you, Patricia, is.

that. Patricia is we're already seeing a. little dynamic that's being created that. What's his name? Fred? Fred. That's also my dead dog's name from. childhood. Shout out. He was a good one. I don't like for you, Patricia, that. there's already a a mommy son dynamic. that seems um, no bueno. Unhealthy. Mother son dynamics like that where. there it's just a little like crank of.

the head like. you just you got to be careful when. you're the girlfriend coming in because. there's a couple things going on. Number. one, it could be really [ __ ] good. like you're just like I literally I'm. dating a mama's boy and this is just. [ __ ] crazy and she would literally. take him till the end with their bank. accounts merged um, as long as he's like. still sucking off the teat. Or number. two, when he does disengage and dislodge. from said mother's bank account, which I. would love to know what the actual ratio. of their money is together because why. do I feel like he's just. it's it's Gloria's bank account. And and.

Fred is living off Gloria. You know what. I mean? Cuz how do you how do you how. would we divide the assets when the time. comes if all of it's merged together? That's [ __ ] crazy. Think about that. I merge my bank account with my dad. What what the [ __ ] would you what the. how the [ __ ] what? But if he disengages and it's like, "Okay, goodbye, Gloria." Why do I feel. like now it's just your [ __ ] problem? It really does feel like this is [ __ ]. weird. I I mean, again, people may come.

for me and my immediate response will. just be like pregnancy brain, I don't. know. Maybe but I really think I could. be right on this one. >> [gasps and laughter]. >> Guys, times are crazy. I think that any. man that has a merged bank account with. his mother and if it is not for him to. be helping his mother, this is a red. flag through and [ __ ] through. And the fact that he is worried that his. mother is going to get upset with his. financial spending on his new big-ass. fuck-ass tattoo, who the [ __ ] is this.

man? His name is not Fred. Fred sounds. honestly intelligent and a little too. [ __ ] with it. He Fred is a. stockbroker or is in some type of tech. This guy's name, what the [ __ ] is this. guy's name? His name is like. [ __ ] I've got it. I've got it. Justin. Justin. Sorry, Fred. Justin. Uh uh also, RIP. Sorry, Fred. My dog was way better than.

this, okay? Justin and Gloria, it is so. not your problem. And so, again, I think. you need to look at your life. This man. is 32 years old. What else has been. going on? Do you pay for every meal or. is Justin putting on his mommy's card? What happens when mommy's card goes. away? Have you asked Justin this? My gut. says. sit him down if you want. But you could also run. >> [laughter].

[gasps]. >> You could also hightail it the [ __ ] out. of there, you know? You could also pivot. so quickly. and just get yourself a guy that you. don't even have to have to send this. kind of question in. Cuz I don't know. I. just don't like it. I just feel like men. and their mothers, if there's any weird. [ __ ] like that, it really freaks me out. I had dated a mama's boy before and let. me just tell you, I have nightmares. about some of those interactions,

stories, and um like things that I was. like, this feels. You know what I mean? I don't even need. to end the statement. So, I guess my the. moral of the story is if you ever date a. mama's boy and it is verging on. that like question mark phase where. you're like, >> [sighs]. >> I just don't know if I'm seeing this. right. You are. You're seeing it right. It's him and his. mom and they're [ __ ] weird and you.

need to excuse yourself from the dinner. table and get up and leave and never. come back even if you leave some of your. stuff there. Um. But maybe he's like such a good guy and. honestly, I'm being dramatic. That'll. like save it in case I have like any of. these like type of people online that. are like, that's so crazy, Alex. That. that will kind of cushion it. But maybe. Justin's such a good guy and maybe it's. just a one-off and he just wanted the. new tab. And then everything's going to. go back to normal and you're totally. fine. But I do agree, he should.

eventually split ties with his mom. I. would love to know, like, well, Justin, like, how would that work? Why don't you. ask him? Like, what's the um. uh percentage of like your finances and. hers in there? Like who how would you. how do you how do you how do you keep. track? Walk me through that. Do you want. to go to a financial planner together? Let's talk about it. Whip out your. finances before you whip out your dick. and we have sex one more time. Let's. pause on our sexual relationship. Let's. go whip out our finances. Let's have a. little chat, Justin. Let let's have that.

transparency. And you know what? Bring. Gloria. Bring Gloria down and let's do the. thing. >> [sighs]. >> But like maybe it's just like too. [ __ ] messy. Like are you obsessed. with this guy or you're just like uh. I've been like kind of dating him. I don't [ __ ] know. Honestly, men are weird and if anything gives you. weird vibes, just. I sometimes I think you have to run. Okay, that is it for this week's. episode. I am so excited because a new. episode of Love Island is on tonight. So.

that's what I will be doing. And ooh, what else is going on? Um oh, I am going. on a trip with my girlfriends coming up. which is very very exciting. So I have a. lot of packing to do, a lot of planning. to do, a lot of work to get ahead on. Um maybe going to get some new. extensions put in my head. Ooh, it's. going to hurt. It's going to feel so. good. But when in doubt, if you're. feeling like [ __ ] about yourself, pop in. a couple extensions and then all of a. sudden you're like uh we're so back. Um.

and I kind of feel like that's that's. where I need to leave you guys for this. Sunday. It was fun. It was weird. We. used our context clues and. I want to check Polymarket one more. time. Dude. What? Now Melanie is this frontrunner. You guys literally I started this. [ __ ] episode and it was Bea. and Anaya were at the top and now.

Melanie is expected to win. Let me tell Let me tell you something. about Melanie. Melanie. It's hard with Love Island because. drama is drama. Okay? And love or hate any of these. people, drama is drama, and that is. what's entertaining. So, it's too soon. to judge any of these women. We can. judge the men a little bit. It's too. soon to judge these women, but I do. think we have some really, really good. television and good eggs on our hands,

and it's so early in, and there's. already a lot going on. So, I'm. personally ooh. >> [snorts]. >> I'm going to get my Sour Patch, my. donuts, my In-N-Out, my ice cream, could have put my compression socks on, and I'm going to. have the day have have the night of my. life. Okay, I love you guys so much. Um. look out for a very, very, very, very, very exciting Wednesday episode this. week, and I will see you [ __ ] then. Goodbye.

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