How To Leave a Bitchboy

Sunday morning fight this call. Every Sunday's fire this day. What the [ __ ] That was pretty good, right? Is this thing on? Okay, Daddy gang. I know it's a Sunday. It's a. little disorienting. You're probably. like, "What? Wait, it's not when Wait, hold on. I thought you abandoned that.". Have no fear. On Father's Day, I thought.

it is time to return to my children. Now, here's the thing. I have a Father's. Day gift for you. I think that's. actually completely backwards because as. the children, you're supposed to give. your father a gift, but I'm not in need. I don't need a [ __ ] six-pack. I don't. need, you know, a new grill or a. [ __ ] A [ __ ] would be nice, but. it's okay. I'm going to give you a gift. And the gift that I'm giving today is. Sunday sessions are officially making a.

[ __ ] comeback. Boom. See, let. me explain why they went away. Because I. have seen a lot of you in my DMs. Where. are you? Where are you, [ __ ] The. interviews are great, but like let's. hear a little bit more of you and from. you and give us some advice. And it's. been hurting me in my soul. I feel like. a sinner. I feel disgusting. I've felt. horrible about myself. Don't worry, it's. been eating me alive. Matt has to listen. to it almost every night. The Sunday. sessions. Just sh Okay, then go and do. the Sunday sessions. This is why I.

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needed to make sure that I was capable. of giving it my all. Now that these. beautiful shows on SiriusXM are up and. running, you guys are loving them. One. is advice, one is pop culture, boom, boom, boom. I figured now that it's up. and running, I can finally return to the homeland, aka this [ __ ] couch, and I can. give you guys advice. I can tell you. about my life. We can gossip. We can. talk [ __ ] And it's a safe space. So, happy [ __ ] Father's Day. Sunday.

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so you can be on your way to what. matters most to you. Uber on our way. Now, I thought, what better way to kick. off a Sunday session than take a little. trip. than take a little trip. Cover your ears if you don't want to be. a part of this because you little. brownnosers, some of you have said. you've missed taking a little trip. A. little trip. A little trip that I like. to call little little just little. Very,

very small, but it's just a little quick. trip. Little quick trip. Would a little. thing I like to call. of the mother. I don't know if that's. going to sound okay. Of the mother. [ __ ] week questions of the mother. The mother [ __ ] week questions of the. [ __ ] week, [ __ ] Dan Dakota,

Dan, we made it. We're in [ __ ]. France, [ __ ] Questions of the. [ __ ] week. You [ __ ] are in. [ __ ] need. You guys are like things. have been not going well. We're kind of. regressing, Daddy Gang. And I was. reading these being like, "Bitch, he did. what?" And you stayed. [ __ ] he [ __ ]. who? But you [ __ ] who too who? Yeah. No, we got to get together. Okay, question. one. Hey, daddy. So, I have a boyfriend. who keeps a diary. Well, that's already. [ __ ] weird. I love the shade of like my boyfriend.

It's a diary. Like, you could have. called it a journal, but the shade. What. man has a diary? Is it pink? Then you. have your answer. You need to break up. with him. Okay. Hey, daddy. So, I have a. boyfriend who keeps a diary. Recently, I. read it and found that he writes about. how he gets off to girls. I confronted him about it and he just. got angry saying that it was an invasion. of privacy. I love a gaslighter. We. recovered from that. But now, about nine. months later, I have found the diary. again and he is still writing about.

getting off to other girls and now. questioning if he loves me. Help. I. don't know what I should do now. We have. been together for over two years and I. am so heartbroken right now. Okay. Um, the toxic in me needs to just like. quickly give you a little hint. When you. snoop, never reveal your source. You. know what I mean? Cuz obviously you said. you found it again. He clearly took the. diary, hid it in another cubby somewhere. he didn't think you were going to find. it. And then one day you were doing the. dishes and it was next to the [ __ ].

dish soap and you were like, "The diary. still [ __ ] exists." So, one, never. reveal your sources because when you. find some shade, you got to know it's. going to keep going. So, gather. information, right? Never reveal. Secondly, if we're not being toxic, um. I'm concerned. on this Father's Day, I feel like I can. be a little extra honest, right? Like, you guys don't want me to cradle you and. pretend you're young toddlers. We're. [ __ ] adults here, okay? So, I can be. honest. We can crack a coat in a cold. one and have a [ __ ] beer with your.

father and I can be like, "So, he hates. you. Maybe doesn't he hate you, but he. doesn't love you?" Men are so [ __ ]. lazy. Think about this. They're so. [ __ ] lazy. The fact that this man. takes the energy, picks up pen, puts pen. to paper, and is writing about other. women, and then in the [ __ ] second. paragraph is like, "Also, I don't know. if I love my girlfriend. It's It's got. to end. you deserve so much [ __ ]. better. The fact that he's still writing. about these women and now he's adding.

you into it. I think you have your. answer, but I will empathize with you a. little bit. There is nothing worse. honestly than finding something out. about your relationship, not just by the source of the person. you're in the relationship with, right? Like whether you find out they were. cheating through X or you find a diary. Sus in general. Sus. But if you find a. diary and they're writing things, no, that was an invasion of privacy. I'm. sorry. He's writing about wanting to. [ __ ] 10 other women and that he doesn't. love you anymore. Like, yeah, I think.

you're privy to that information, you. [ __ ] [ __ ] Not you. Him. Last thing. also is when you are engaging in a. healthy relationship, you won't have the. overwhelming feeling that you need to. look through their things. Snooping. isn't something that feels like, okay, he's finally asleep or he's finally in. the shower. Like, let's go for it. So, um, case closed. You deserve better. Let's keep it [ __ ] moving. Okay, question number two. Hi, Daddy. I'm 34.

and single, and I feel like my friends. are always with their significant. others. A holiday weekend is coming up, and not one of them invited me anywhere. I just feel like I keep being the one to. make all the plans. They make comments. like, "I'm so glad I don't have to go. out anymore. And honestly, that makes me. feel bad because if I had a partner, I'd. obviously love a Netflix night, too. Anyways, I just feel incredibly lonely. Do I need to make a whole new friend. group?" First of all, completely sorry. that you're feeling this way because.

especially I think as you get to the. later half of your 20s, early 30s, later. 30s, 40s, I think anyone that's in their. single era and they're around all their. friends that are in relationships, if. that's the case, you just feel like [ __ ]. sometimes. Not to say it's all the time, but sometimes you're just like, "Fuck, I. just wish I was on the same wavelength. as my friends. That's life. That's. completely normal. So, I want to. validate you." I don't think you need to. get a whole new friend group. But I. would say, have you expressed this to. them in a way that is positive and not.

like nagging? Like instead of being. like, "You guys are always with your. partners and I never get to hang out. with you." What if you go to them and be. like, "Guys, I love that you're all in. such happy, healthy relationships. I you. guys know that's what I'm also looking. for, but I miss you guys." And so I'm. wondering if we could start to do more. regular hangs or obviously I know your. guys schedule may be a little bit better. busier than mine with date nights and. stuff. So like you let me know whenever. and like I'll be there but I love you. guys. So that's first is just like.

acknowledging it to your friends so that. they don't think that you are holding. this resentment. have the open. communication and then if they're. [ __ ] obviously sure get new friends. cuz whether you're in a romantic. relationship or not your friendships. shouldn't just become like completely. irrelevant. Like those are like the core. foundations of probably how you found. this great relationship and who you are. today. So you can't just completely. neglect your friends. But what I would. say is I don't think it would hurt to. get some new friends. And something that.

I've been talking with my single friends. about recently is they've all been. saying something they love about their. friend group is everyone knows a single. girl. Especially in your 30s I feel like. there's this beautiful camaraderie. Women who are single in their 30s you. want to hang out together cuz let's be. honest in your 20s it's a little hard to. make friends weirdly because everyone's. kind of like you're kind of. transitioning out of college. You're. trying to figure your [ __ ] out. You're. trying to figure out your job. By 30, people are a little bit more confident.

in who they are and they know what they. want. And I feel like so many women are. like, "Wait, you're single, too? Oh my. god, let's go out for drinks." And so, one of my friends who is single asked. some of her friends in relationships, "Do you guys have any single friends?". And they were like, "Wait, yes, this. girl from my work is single. I'll. connect you two." They've now connected. on text and they go out every weekend. together. And it's a fun dynamic that. they have because they have this shared. experience. And so I think you need to. put yourself out there and recognize. sometimes you need to build.

relationships with people that are at. the same place as you. Doesn't mean you. can't have people that aren't, but why. not have a good single friend? So that. way on a Friday if everyone's at date. night, you're hitting up Bridget and. being like, "Bridget, you ready to go. downtown and suck some dick?" And then. Bridget's like, "Yeah, [ __ ] I want to. get [ __ ] tag teamed with you." That. is the kind of relationship that you're. looking for. Something's in the air. today. We're so [ __ ] back. Okay, this. one is so this is a tough one. All. right. I'm currently dating my best guy.

and happier than ever. We've been. friends for three years and recently. started dating a few months ago. I'm so. beyond happy, but is it normal to. sometimes feel like we're just friends? He was in a relationship previously, so. I was constantly having to suppress any. feelings until he was single and we. would have a chance to date. I don't. always feel comfortable being outwardly. affectionate or romantic with him. Help. Okay, this is tough because I'll be. honest, I.

have never in my life dated someone that. I was first friends with. I've always. just gone from it's an attraction and. then romantic. So, I'm I want to just. like put that out there that I don't. have complete experience with this, but. I know my friends do. My first thought. for you is I would assume it's. completely normal that to transition. from being friends, you have had a. completely platonic relationship the. entire time you've known him your entire. life. And so to now be able to like.

openly be at a bar with your friends and. be able to like hold his hand and kiss. him, that's going to take some like. almost like learning new muscle memory. And I would encourage you, you can even. say it to him like, "Oh my god, I feel. like sometimes when we're in public, we. still almost go back to like being. friends." And I want to feel like we are. in this relationship. I love you. This. is so fun. So I'm okay if we like ramp. up a tiny bit on the PDA. And so maybe. you are holding hands on your way to. dinner and you are having a quick kiss.

at the bar. Obviously, don't be that. annoying couple that's [ __ ] tongue. down throat, but you know what I mean. I. think feel comfortable to lean into the. things that you're clearly wanting, but. again, I would let him know you're. missing out on that. Now, not to be a. skeptic, but I have to be honest. My. biggest concern of all of this is, sure, try the PDA, see if it works. I do think it's a little bit of a red. flag that you're like, have you ever. been in a relationship with someone you. just feel like you're friends with? No.

And again, that's just my experience. But what I'm worried for you with is. were you so. attracted to this person because it was. this forbidden thing, right? You just. said he had a girlfriend, you couldn't. be with him, finally you're together. Like, was this someone that you were at. an arms length? Like, you're so close to. him, but you can't have him. So, there's. this forbidden nature that has almost. been your entire relationship with him.

you can't have him, but you know you're. in love with him and he's always giving. you eyes at the bar and you always kind. of knew there was something but he's in. rel like that's intoxicating. That's. addicting actually. And so all of a. sudden I'm worried that are you now at. this place in your relationship where. you finally gotten the guy that was. always forbidden and it's kind of like. it was kind of more fun when it was. forbidden and now we're here and I'm. like you kind of do still feel just like. my friend. Like that's Do you know what. I'm saying? cuz you he's always been. your friend and now that he's supposed. to be more and he still feels like your.

friend. Like you should have been. finally you're able to be together. Let's rip each other's clothes off. Let's [ __ ] go for it. Oh my god, I. love you so much. It feels like you're. kind of like, huh? So, I think you need. to look at yourself and be honest with. yourself about how much of a narrative. did you create in the buildup to this? This is a really random note, but it's. almost similar, I feel like, to work. relationships, like when it's this. forbidden thing and someone's gonna. either have an affair or it's not an. affair, but it's so forbidden and you're.

not allowed to be together and then you. like [ __ ] once, but then it's like, now. let's go into reality. Now, let's live. together and you have to know that I'm. [ __ ] and there's bodily things and. it's not as sexy. It's like life is not. constantly sexy, but when you're in a. forbidden situation, it's only. mysterious and sexy. And that doesn't. last very long. I know I kind of left. you with a lot there, but I think you. have to figure it out for yourself. And. either one is going to be fine, but. don't live in this limbo in a lie. You.

don't want to be just like with a best. friend. You need to be physically and. romantically connected to someone. Um, in order, in my opinion, to maintain a. romantic long-term relationship. Hi, Alex. I have been with my boyfriend. for four years on and off. He has. cheated on me about five times, sweetie, with random women. Each time he. was drunk. This last time I caught him.

and he bought me a ring after and. promised he was going to settle down and. propose to me. So, I stayed with him. It's now been 5 months and the ring is. still on his nightstand. I know I should. leave, but I've lost hope in myself to. set boundaries. I don't think I'll find. better. He's rich and good-looking. And. I feel like even the poor guy I feel. like even the poor ugly guys cheat. So. true. So, what do I do? Oh my god, it's. so annoying when they're like actually. [ __ ] ugly and busted and like below.

you and you're like and you're still. cheating. It's a it's an insecurity. thing. Don't get upset about it. Um, okay. Holy [ __ ] Let's talk about this. I have been in situations where I'm in a. relationship and the guy is successful. and good-looking and all the things and. I have just completely lost my. self-worth and I have completely lost. myself and I'm convinced in those. moments even as shitty as he's treating. me, as much as he's cheating on me, I.

don't know if I can leave because. there's going to be nothing else out. there and I've already invested so much. time into this person. Like maybe it's. going to get better. Maybe it's going to. get better. When you are asking yourself. in a relationship, it's got to get better, right? Like it's. going to get better eventually. It's. going to get better. It's literally only. going to get worse unless it is mutually. agreed upon and there's therapy and. there's like actual. genuine effort from both sides equally,

which is so [ __ ] rare. If you keep. asking yourself this, it's probably. never going to get better. What I would. say to you is it's so much less lonely. actually just being alone because you. have this straight path forward. You. know yourself. You know what you want. You start to build your confidence and. you're one step away from just finding. that right person. When you're in a. [ __ ] up situation and they're cheating. on you every [ __ ] day you it is like. you're just trying to remember who the. [ __ ] you are. You're just trying not to. have a pit in your stomach. You're just. trying to get yourself to like even be.

at [ __ ] baseline. Not even happy. just like awake and okay and not crying. that [ __ ] day. There's so much energy. I think that we don't recognize that we. have to put into these situations and it. completely depletes you. It's almost the. point is that people don't leave because. it's so exhausting because you're. already so emotionally drained that he's. hurt you so much. How am I even going to. be on my own? Like how am I going to do. it? No, your life will be better the. minute you leave. My advice to you is.

a man who buys a ring as an apology, it's actually just going to get worse. A. man buying a ring because he cheated, he. didn't buy that ring cuz he wanted to. give it to you. He didn't buy that ring. because you guys had this beautiful. foundation that you worked so [ __ ]. hard to get and you're both ready to. make the next step. No, he bought the. ring cuz he's like, "Hopefully this will. [ __ ] hold her over until the next. time I cheat and she'll forget and then. I don't actually have to give her the. ring, but this will hold her over. Don't. be the girl that's just getting held. over by him [ __ ] up and then.

apologizing and then the flowers and the. girl. You deserve so much [ __ ]. better. You are writing this in. You. know your answer. Five other women the. minute you accept a ring from someone. It is going to make it harder to leave. I'm not saying you can't because daddy. gang, you know, I would tell you even if. you have a ring, even if it is the. [ __ ] day of your wedding, I'd rather. you lose all that [ __ ] money than go. down that aisle if it's not what you. genuinely [ __ ] want. But each step,

moving in together, getting the ring, planning the wedding, kids, all of it, each step towards a more formalized and. finalized relationship makes it harder. to leave. So let him keep that [ __ ]. ring on that nightstand and get out. while you can. And. once he gives you that ring and if you. put it on your finger, this man is going to feel so relaxed. This man is going to be like,

I'm cracking open a [ __ ] bottle. I'm. going to the bar tonight. I got this. [ __ ] on lock. I'm about to go [ __ ] and. get sucked and have the time of my life. tonight because I know now she's never. leaving. Now I got her right where I. need her. She's going to stay here. She's going to be my [ __ ] and I'm. [ __ ] living. That cannot be you, Daddy Gang. Don't let it be you. He has. shown you exactly who he is. Imagine if. you reward his behavior by taking the. [ __ ] ring. He's going to be like,

"I've got the [ __ ] best of both. worlds. I got a wife and I get to go. cheat on her and she always takes me. back. Don't let it be you. That's. something that I feel like when I'm. sitting here on the couch giving advice, I will admit like. I always want to bring myself back to. the moment I found out one of my more. serious boyfriends was cheating on me. And the way. you. you kind of almost can't.

like listen to anyone in those moments. because understandably everyone's coming. at you to get you out and at first you. just want someone to be like, I know you. love him so [ __ ] much. Like two. minutes ago before you knew he was. cheating, you loved him and you thought. that he was the love of your life. I so. get that. So you're so disoriented. So. you almost need to unpack like yes. there's love on your side but he is. showing you actively he doesn't respect. you therefore he doesn't love you and I.

think you want to be with someone that. loves you. How fun how amazing to get to. be with someone that respects you and. loves you. And so it's like validating. that what you brought to the. relationship is real. What you feel is. real. The love you brought is real. But. at some point, you got to stand up and. be like, "Okay, I would like to feel loved. I would like. to feel what I give to someone. I want. them to give it back to me.". Empathizing, it's not easy to leave, but. eventually it's all within yourself. No.

friend, no family member, that's also to. friends and family listening. Like, you. can't make someone leave. They've got to. do it on their own. You can be. supportive, but to a point like you're. gonna, maybe it is going to take him 10. times to cheat. But I hope the fifth was. enough. [Music]. [Music].

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Check out shopify.comdaddy. That's shopify.com/daddy. My co-worker and I have been friends for. a year now, but we just admitted to each. other that we have real feelings. We. constantly flirt at work. We're very. touchyfey, and I was so excited finally. to lay our feelings out in the open. But. the issue is he confessed to me that he. has a girlfriend. Guys, this is like actually turning into.

like a really sad Father's Day. He told. me verbatim, "I really like you, but I. do love her." Now, I'm so confused about. what to do next. Why? What? Like, girl, come on. No, I'm so confused about what. to do next. I really care about him and. he makes comments about our future after. his girlfriend. But it's just been. months now, and nothing has changed. He. gets mad at me, though, whenever I talk. to another guy or go on a date. I'm sad. he's stringing me along, but I feel even. worse for his girlfriend. Do I tell her.

what's happening? If they break up, do I. go for it? Oh my god. Okay. My first. question is, why would you want to be. with a man who flirts this much with. other girls when he's in a relationship? Like you saying, once if he leaves her, should I go for it? Uh, yeah. To then be. the [ __ ] main [ __ ] and know he's. going to have a side. He clearly likes. the main course. He's clearly going for. more. You're never going to be the only. I'm a little worried that you're. interested in this. And I get I kind of.

mentioned it earlier. I get the. workplace dynamic for people apparently. is like you know there's this sexual. tension. There's this mystery around it. You don't you know have to bring your. baggage to work. It's fun. It's like. it's I guess [ __ ] hot. And you're. seeing him in an environment that's kind. of high stakes. And so it's forbidden. But the forbiddenness goes too far when. you tell me he has a [ __ ] girlfriend. and he's honest about the girlfriend and.

he says he loves her but he likes you. girl. Okay, here's my advice. I feel I'm. worried for you that you're not seeing. how manipulative this is. Like he is. telling you exactly what you want to. hear. He's keeping you at bay. He tells. you things about your future, but then. he keeps mentioning the girl the. girlfriend so you don't get a little too. comfortable being like, "Okay, when's. the end date?" like let's pick this [ __ ]. up. So, he's very, very good. strategically about making you feel. insecure, making you feel good, and then.

pulling it away really quickly. That is. extremely toxic behavior. So, you don't. deserve that. But this man is never. going to leave his relationship for you. because let's say it was true love and. the minute you guys started hitting it. off, then he was like, I have to go. home. I have to tell my girlfriend I'm. done with her. Like, I want to pursue. this. Maybe the fact that this has been. two [ __ ] years and he's just like. meeting you at the fax machine and he's.

like, "Hey, Becky." And then he's like, "God, my girlfriend was so good in bed. last night. I had the most romantic. dinner, but I really like you. H, you. would look so good in red lingerie.". Like the [ __ ] What the [ __ ] Okay. And. I don't think you need to tell this. girlfriend you, how do I say this. kindly? Well, I said we're going to be a. little bit more like rough around the. edge. you've been being a piece of [ __ ]. right? Like I think we can start. normalizing hating the guy that's. cheating, but then also like holding the.

woman accountable and being like, "But. you know this guy's in a relationship or. you know he's married or you know he's. taking, you know what I mean? Like you. as a human being shouldn't want to be. the other woman, right? Like we have. respect for ourselves. We want to feel. like we are in control of our life and. we're being positive and we're not like. [ __ ] [ __ ] up, right? So, I do think. you reaching out to her, it's like, [ __ ]. off. Two years you've been basically. having an emotional relationship with my. boyfriend. Yeah, I don't need to hear.

that from you. It feels almost the way. that you're writing it a little. manipulative because it's you also write. in your question, well, if he leaves. her, should I take him? No, I don't. think you need to engage with this. girlfriend. I think you need to put an. end to this and she will figure out he's. a piece of [ __ ] on her time. Okay? she. doesn't need to hear it from the woman. that wants to [ __ ] her boyfriend. My. biggest advice to you is you need to cut. this off. And how you're going to do. that is a little bit different than what.

I would usually say because it's in a. work environment. So, you have to see. this man every single day. And I don't. know how close quarters you guys are, but it sounds like you potentially also. have to work with him like physically in. person. So, my advice to you is this. week you're going to go into work and. when he comes over to your desk or. whatever the [ __ ] maybe you have a. standing desk, maybe you have a sitting. desk, maybe you're in a conference room, maybe you're in a [ __ ] cubicle, I. don't know the [ __ ] you are, but he. comes over and you're going to say, "Hey, I have been thinking about it a. lot lately and I wanted to let you know.

that this isn't working for me anymore. I've thought about it and I feel I. honestly feel really horrible and. disgusting and I don't like this dynamic. of going behind your girlfriend's back. and being the other woman. And I I. honestly can't explain why I've been. going along with it for so long. I. obviously like you, but not enough to. feel dirty and weird. And I'm removing. myself from the situation. and I ask. that you respect that and my boundaries.

and we can keep it professional at work. and let's be done with it and let's both. move on. And I think that is how you. have to handle it. But again, really. making sure you're like, respect my. boundaries cuz if he [ __ ] doesn't and. then he comes on harder, yeah, you're. probably going to have to [ __ ] go to. HR or some [ __ ] But right back in if. that happens. end of day, don't be the. other woman because you never get out of. it what you want and you never you're.

always feeling like you're this special. prize. You're always feeling like uh he. likes me so much he's willing to go. outside of his marriage or outside of. his relationship. No, he doesn't. He. actually has you compartmentalized in a. part of his brain as this like fun thing. that's like this secret. And the minute. if he had to actualize it, he's probably. going to pick his wife or his girlfriend. over you. Because most of the time with. mistresses, there is something that.

they're not getting in their main. relationship that you're filling, but. it's one part of it. You probably don't. have everything else that the girlfriend. has that that's why he's in the. relationship with her. You know what I. mean? And I'm not putting you down. I'm. just saying the reality is being a. mistress is really [ __ ] complicated. And you don't want to get yourself in. that situation because you build this. thing up only if not 99% of the time to. be brought back down and feel like [ __ ]. about yourself. You deserve better. The mother, okay, my boyfriend has a.

very big issue with my past. He found my. list of people I have been with and he. was pissed. He actually broke up with me. initially, but after a while, we got. back together. The issue now is I feel. like he is constantly making judgmental. comments about me being easy or having a. high body count. He always says he's. just kidding, but how can I get him to. stop caring that I was with guys before. him? We I'm obsessed. I feel like every. single girl has a list of the guys she's. ever been with. Like, how fun. I just.

think it's so fun. Like, I think mine I. have mine written in a book somewhere. and then I also think I have one in my. notes app. It's fun, you know? It's a. fun little conversation starter when. you're with your girls and you're like, "Wait, how many?" Wait, what? It's fun. It's life. Okay, I remember the men that. have been inside of me and I have a. husband. And that's okay. Like, I had a. past. When I was with them, I didn't. know my husband existed. Okay, my first. note to you is this sounds like a really. insecure or possessive man. Um, I don't.

have enough information to know, but. overall, that's not the move. I think. insecure men have a really hard time. wrapping their head around that you were. with someone else. And that's like. really [ __ ] crazy to me. Like we've. all lived, we've all had a good time. And if anything, everyone we've been. with prior to has helped us become the. person we are today, right? Even the bad. [ __ ] shitty boyfriends or the bad. hookups, they've let you know what you.

don't like, right? And so I think. someone that's incapable of recognizing. a past is a past for a reason. It's. really immature. My other worry is the. possessiveness when you're saying he's. making rude comments like you're easy. I. feel like that's a really manipulative. thing to be saying to you. I always go. back to what my dad used to tell me if. someone was bullying me when I was. younger. Like I think your answer next. time he says that if you were just being.

caddyy is like what's your point? I was so easy. What's your point? Do you. not want to be with me anymore? He's. like well no. I'm just saying like I'm. really [ __ ] shocked like how easy you. were. What's your point? What's your point? Are you trying to put. me down right now or do you want me to. get upset? Do you want me to defend. myself? Like you let me know what what's. your point? What do you want me to do? You want me to leave? You want me to. call them? Do you want me to detail. everyone for you? Do you want me to. pretend you're the first person I've.

ever had sex with? Like, what do you. want? What will make you feel better? You little [ __ ] [ __ ] boy with a. micro and a [ __ ] halfchub. Shut the. [ __ ] up. Like, it's so weak loser. energy. Uh, I'm honestly, if anything, it's like, oh, I can't even imagine. [ __ ] you anymore because it's like. you're so insecure. How many people have. you had sex with? Rod, I don't know what. his name is, but it sounds he sounds. like he's a Ben or a Rod. Like, how many.

people have you had sex with? Should we. compare notes? Like, it's so immature. Anyways, um my advice to you would be I. think if this man is not willing to let. this go and he's willing to ruin your. relationship because of your past, this. is not the person that you need to be. with. I think it is completely normal in. a relationship to talk about your past. with your partner. Obviously not in a. way that you're like, "H, me and Gerard. used to [ __ ] do that together on. Saturdays. This reminds me of that.".

Like, no, you're not bringing fun, positive things from previous. relationships into your new. relationship. But without a doubt with. Matt, I have absolutely probably talked. about every single ex serious ex that he. and I have both had. And we've talked a. lot about the things we learned from. those relationships or the triggers that. we had from those relationships or. things that we didn't like about those. relationships because. I can say this just coming from my own. perspective and I don't know if this is.

obviously for everyone but Matt and I. from pretty early on in our relationship. agreed that being super open about our. past and our exes and our just like. experience with them in those ways. allowed us to get to know each other. more and grow with each other and be. more aware of like, oh, I know this. thing upsets Matt because this happened. to him in a previous relationship or he. knows certain triggers of mine because. of previous relationships. That I think.

is really healthy to be aware of where. we've come from and what has created us. into the person we are in a relationship. today. So, what I do think you could do. is have a conversation with him. Sorry, I had to like call him a little [ __ ]. boy nine times, but if you were being. healthy, you could say this to him. Hey, I have been thinking a lot about how you. keep making these comments about my body. count and it's every single time been in.

a really. degrading, derogatory manner. It's not coming from. a place of even if you're pretending to. joke, it's very obvious. It's it doesn't. feel good and it feels like there's. anger honestly underneath it and. judgment and I am not ashamed of my past. and I also am not hiding anything from. my past. So I am more than open if you. want to sit down and ask me anything.

about my previous relationships. I am. here. I want to be open with you. However, I refuse to feel like I should. be ashamed of things I did or people I. was with before I met you because. emphasis on it all happened before I met. you. And I can't continue this. relationship if you're going to hold. something over my head that has nothing. to do with you. And if he is like, I'm. so [ __ ] sorry. I'm if I'm trying to. get underneath why I was doing that,

like maybe it's cuz I'm insecure. Amazing first step. And then you say, "But babe, I'm like literally here. Like. I will talk about things with you. I. also don't want to like rub things in. your face, nor that I would want to hear. you rub it in my face of your previous. relationships.". Unfortunately, the way that he's being. so childish and immature in the way he's. jabbing at you. I don't know if that's. going to be his response. And what I can. tell you is sometimes it takes leaving. someone to sure let him go grow up and.

one day maybe a woman will meet him when. he's grown up but you shouldn't have to. [ __ ] train a man to grow up. That's. not on you. Okay? We only have one. [ __ ] life. Like he can handle his. business and you should yours. Don't. stay with a man that is going to make. you feel smaller or less than and. ashamed of something that at the time. either was a great memory in your life. or not a great memory in your life. Regardless, it happened to you. You. can't take it back. You want a partner. that loves you for who you are.

Men are so [ __ ] lame. Like, I can't. Are you kidding me? Okay, next. Father, I've been really struggling with. adjusting to so many big changes at. once. getting engaged, moving out, buying a home, trying to balance work, staying healthy, nurturing. relationships, and being present in. friendships and family relationships. It's a lot. I'm in the thick of it right. now, and honestly, I'm struggling. Some. days I feel like I'm barely keeping up. Like, I'm constantly behind and letting.

something drop. I know this is supposed. to be an exciting chapter, but it's also. really overwhelming. Did you ever feel. this way? And how did you get through. it? Okay, I can definitely relate to. this. I feel like. something I connect with you on is when. so many things are going well in your. life and your relationships and the. things and they're thriving and a blah. blah blah and you're doing a million. things and everything like on paper. looks like you're thriving. Sometimes.

that's actually when you feel. not as happy almost because you're. wearing a million different hats. you're. having to kind of spread yourself thin. and even though it looks like you got it. all going on, you're only able to pour. so much into every little bucket that. you actually are just like, I I can't. take this anymore. And you almost feel. like you're at a breaking point. So, yes, I get it. Work and life and. relationships and friendships. It's so. [ __ ] much. And sometimes I will admit.

like sometimes I feel like I only have. the capacity for friendship and work or. work and my romantic relationship or my. romantic relationship and family and. then I'm like [ __ ] I'm slipping on work. Like I don't know if you can do it all, you know? Like I don't know if it's. possible because in order to do. something and feel fulfilled and be. happy and doing it to your 100% like a. lot of times something else has to. suffer a little bit. not in a negative, it's just you have to prioritize. So my.

advice to you would be recognizing that. there needs to be a give and take and a. balance. And sometimes I look at my life. and again everyone's different depending. on their work and everything, but like I. look at my life in months sometimes. I. always joke to my assistant, I'm like, I. have to see the month view on Google um. calendar. Like please do not show me the. week. I need to visualize my month. because what am I doing? Am I lighter on. work? Great. I'm probably gonna schedule. a bunch of stuff with my family. I'm.

gonna have either go visit friends or. they'll visit me. Like, I'm going to do. more date nights with Matt. Like, give. pour into my personal. If I know how I. have an insane work month, I'm probably. going to pour into my husband and make. sure that we're good in the midst of. chaos of work. So, it's like being okay. when you feel like you're kind of. letting. things go because really what you're. doing is allowing other things to soar. and to be 100% on your mind and give.

your 100% too. It doesn't mean it's. [ __ ] easy though. Sometimes I'm. literally like, "Oh my god, am I being a. bad friend? I haven't called Lauren. I. haven't called Chris and I. I haven't. called Jackie in two weeks." And it's. like, "No, cuz guess what? They're doing. the same exact [ __ ] thing. because if. they needed me, they would call me or. text me. But they're busy with work, they're busy with their relationships, they're busy with their friendships. So. everyone's every month in my head, we're. all playing like who's up, who's down, what's your priority, and that's okay. Also, I think we have to be a little bit.

more lenient with ourselves. Like, and I. am definitely victim of it when you get. so in your head if you miss out on. something, whether it was you had to. cancel a date night cuz you were working. late or you weren't able to go to a work. thing because you had a family thing or. all of your girlfriends went out but you. have plans with your partner and you're. like, "Fuck, I'm missing out on girls. night." I think we get this anxiety that. comes over us that feels allconsuming. and it almost feels like everything else.

you don't care about, but oh my god, I'm. not getting to go to my girls dinner and. they're all I'm going to get pushed out. of the group and I'm going to miss out. on inside jokes and they're going to. not, you know what I mean? Like you feel. like you're losing and you're slipping. away when you don't 100% prioritize. something. And I'm here to tell you, if. you have the right friends, if you have. the right relationship, it's going to be. okay. And I think sometimes it also. comes down to where you at in your life. Like I recently just said on my solo.

episode, work right now for me is. the most important thing in my life and. so is my husband. And now my family just. moved to LA. And now I'm like, "Oh my. god, I'm juggling." Wait, Matt, I just. dropped the ball. I forgot that we had a. date night cuz I told my mom that she. could come over for I'm like [ __ ] And. my friends know I'm going through so. much [ __ ] in LA right now that I'm I. don't need to be like up in my friend's.

[ __ ] this month and they know that. So, it's like it feels overwhelming. It. feels like you want to do it all, but. when you try to do it all, you're. actually just hurting yourself. And when. you have the right support system around. you, even if you don't prioritize. something, it will be there when you're. ready to prioritize it. And it doesn't. mean it will be worse. It doesn't mean. you're going to lose it. It just means. for a couple days, weeks, or a month, or. a year, that thing is on the back burner. because you're putting all of your. energy into X. Gorgeous. You can't do it.

all. And this is something I write about. in my journal every week. I don't have a. journal, but I have my notes app. And. I'm like, don't stress. Life is going to. be okay. Your mother-in-law doesn't need. to come over for dinner on Friday. because you and Matt need to have a date. night cuz you haven't had a date night. in three weeks. Like, you just got to. prioritize. And listen, I feel like I've. gotten to this place in I hate saying.

like turning 30, but I don't know. You. have to like use excuses in life to be. like this was a milestone. I feel like. I've gotten a lot better at. not being so. stressed if I'm missing out on things or. if I'm maybe not a part of something. that I wish I was because I again know. like I'm really really invested in my. work right now. And when I look back, I.

know I'm going to be really happy that I. invested so much of my time there. And I. have beautiful friendships in a. relationship that I know can withstand. me putting pressure on myself to push it. and go and go hard these whatever many. years. And I don't think that I should. feel guilty about that. But I get as. women, we do feel guilty. And it just. takes communication. Like Matt always. knows you're super busy this week. Matt. knows on certain days he's like, "Oh, I'm definitely not getting laid because.

I know my wife is so [ __ ] stressed. What can I do?" He makes me a bubble. bath. There's candles. There's wine. And. sometimes Matt's like, "I'm gonna get. downstairs and watch the Dodgers. I made. you a bath, babe. Love you so much." And. I'll be like, "Matt, that was so sweet.". And sometimes I take the bath. And then. there's nights where I'm like, "I'm. actually not as stressed. I'm going to. come down and we're going to eat. together." Like, it's a give and take. So, I don't know, but it's [ __ ] hard. So, happy Father's Day. I hope you guys. enjoyed this episode. We're so [ __ ]. back. DM me or I always post the.

questionnaire on my story and it links. you to where you can write in. Happy. [ __ ] Father's Day. And go give. your dads a kiss and a hug for me. And. if you don't have a dad, look, we just. hang out. Have fun. I love you guys and. I will see you in two Sundays from now. Goodbye. [Music]. Everywhere I.

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