Ciara: Don’t Let Him Waste Your Time (Full Episode)

Serious transformation. [Music]. Mama or dad. Love believes all things. Love hopes all things. Baby, I'm a. [Music]. daddy gang. I am so excited for today's.

guest. Are you ready? Sierra is here. She is a Grammy award-winning, triple. platinum musician. She's also an. entrepreneur, cover model, fashion icon, wife, mother. I mean, god damn, is there. anything that she doesn't do? I cannot. wait to sit down with her and get to. know her today. I remember being so. obsessed with her music when I was. younger. fully had a dance routine to. one two step. I still remember the. choreography to this day. Maybe I will.

have to show her my dance moves. She. like fully leaves and walks out. She's. like, "You're so bad." Um, no. But in. all honesty, you guys, if you think. about it, in her two decade long career, Sierra has seen ups and downs, but our. girls always come out on top. And Daddy. Gang, we're getting into it today. We. are going to discuss toxic. relationships, knowing your worth, leveling up in all aspects of life. This. episode is going to be, I already know.

it, full of wisdom and advice and just. things that are going to make you feel. good. Okay, so come hang out with me and. Sierra. Sierra, this beef is She's like, I'm not. coming in now. Let's go. [Music]. What is up, daddy gang? It is your. founding father, Alex Cooper, with Call. Her Daddy. [Music].

Sierra, welcome to Call Her Daddy. Thank. you for having me. I am so happy you're. here. First of all, congrats on your. pregnancy. Talk to me. How far along are. you? Oh my gosh. I don't say how far. along I am cuz I'm kind of funny in. marking the time cuz the most important. wish is a healthy baby and desire. And I. feel like when you mark time, it kind of. puts pressure on the time marker. Totally. But I am I am the bump is. bumping. I'm feeling good. I'm feeling a. little I would say big and slow, but you.

know, I'm feeling good. I'm feeling. grateful. So this is baby number four. Number four. Did you always want a big. family? I did. I'm an only child. So I. think because of that, like I used to. always beg my mom and dad for a brother. or sister like please, please, please, can you have another baby? and they. would be like, "It's not happening." Um, and then I kind of like being a only. child as I got into my teens. I'm like, "This actually works out. It's all about. me. I like. it." Call Her Daddy is brought to you by. Airbnb. Daddy Gang. I have so much.

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your debut album, Goodies. Yes, it is. crazy because it's like you've just done. so much in your career, but those days. I'm wondering what does it make you feel. when you know that people 20 years later. are still so obsessed, so in love with. the original hits. Oh my goodness, I. feel grateful. Um it's actually this is. the 19th year. The 20th year is coming. up. Coming up. Okay. Yeah. So, but. knowing that I'm about to enter that. year, um I feel a heart full of. gratitude. Um it makes me feel.

motivated. you know, um, so funny because it also. just reminds you why you just keep on. going, like why you don't stop, why you. don't stop believing and you say. committed to your vision because when I. was young, I was like I spoke so much. into like the things that I saw. happening for myself and it's kind of. crazy like I actually I had a goal. sheet. So my goal sheet I was um like 14. years old when I wrote it down before I. got discovered. I had three goals. I. said the first goal was to get. discovered, okay? And I wrote on how I. was going to get discovered in talent. shows and all this kind of stuff. And.

then my second goal was once I got. discovered to sold 3 to 4 million albums. and I did five which was a blessing. So. check off one and check off two and. three was longevity. So it was broad but. I was still like envisioning like. long-term success. So to know that. having a vision as a young girl dreaming. big and it actually happens, dude. It's. kind of crazy. That's kind of the story. of my life. Like I speak a lot of life. into like a lot that happens to me. Um,

and I envision it before it happens. And. it's crazy that we're sitting here. almost 20 years in. It's also crazy to. hear you at 14 putting that goal list. together. I'm like, what the [ __ ] was I. doing at 14? Like picking my nose and. like getting on Accutane. I was like, oh. [ __ ] Like damn. Like were you always. that ambitious? And were your parents. like go Sierra or were there ever like. oh my god slow down like chill. You. don't need to be doing all this at this. young of an age. Yeah. Well, my dad was. My mom and my dad were supportive. And I. always say the one thing I can say I'm. truly thankful for is that they allowed.

me to do what I wanted to do. Like they. didn't stop me. My mom was more, you. know, she had more reservations than my. dad did about the music industry cuz she. watched all those VH1 like true story. I. forget what they call the show. What was. the show called? Do you remember? Um, yeah. Something like true Hollywood. Story or Yeah, something like that. We're a little good. Yeah, basically. it's like all the bad stuff. So, you. watch those shows and you're like, "Fuck." Yeah, it's a little scary. Like, is that what my daughter's getting into?

My mom was thinking that way. So, I. think she was a little like, "What's. that music industry world about?" Um, and um, but she still allowed me to do. it and she was super supportive. My mom. and dad were my dad would travel late. nights to the studio with me, sleep on. the sofa while I'm recording in the. booth, drive me back home, get ready for. school, all I mean, he was in it. They. both were supportive. So, um, you know, I'm glad they let me do that, right? I'm. glad they allowed me that opportunity. and I will never forget that for my. babies. Like, I got to like let them. pursue their dreams and what they're.

passionate about. So, I took a I've. taken a note from that. Couple notes. from your parents. I love that. Just a. couple. You've done so much in your. career. When you reflect on your career, and I know this is kind of hard to. answer, but like what is the most iconic. moment in your mind of your career? Oh. my goodness. That's hard. I know. Um, you know, I I do I will say I think. Goodies was very special for me because. it put me on the map. My first single. was number one for 8 weeks long. We were.

breaking records and all this cool stuff. then, which was really amazing. Um, and. it was kind of that moment of like where. my identity was established like right. away, but it was clear on like who this. girl was. Like Sierra from Atlanta, Cece. from Atlanta. Um, but here to stay kind. of energy I feel. And I think even the. imagery of things that we did like the. swimsuit with the jeans and I wear my. tall boxer boots. Um I I mean I couldn't. go anywhere without the high top. High. tops are still my thing to this day. But. the boxer boots were like my jam. I.

needed my wrestling boots actually. Yeah. I feel like it was something that. like everyone will always remember like. it fashion wise, music-wise, like as a. woman like it was just so iconic. I. remember when it came out. I like still. listen to it to this day. I remember. making up also like oh my god. about it. And then when One Two Step came out and. I was like making up the like most. awkward dances like with my friends. thinking we're like hot [ __ ] Like it. wasn't hot. Just to clarify, Sierra, it. was not as hot as you. I know it was. cute. No. Okay. But um I I just think. about you at that young age though and.

I'm curious like if you can take me back. a little bit to like what was life like? You're coming out with music, you're. rising to fame and you're only 18 years. old. Like what was your life like at. that time? So, I was always super super. focused, super driven, you know, very. very um headstrong, you know. I remember. when I was like put my vision together. for the project. I'm like, I want to do. like this and I'm going do like that and. I'm do this and it's going to be this. like and I was very clear on my vision. Like no one could tell me anything. different. Um and I was very opinionated.

at a young age. I relate in some ways to. that of just being like so. yeah like headstrong and like I know. what I'm doing like I'm going to make. it. I'm gonna make this happen. Sometimes I've experienced though, you. almost struggle to pause and be happy. for yourself in a moment of like, oh. [ __ ] like I did this. Do you have a. moment in your career at that young age. where you were able to stop and be like, oh damn, like I made it. Like that one I. made it moment. Do you remember that?

I think maybe a small blip of that was. winning a Grammy. Oh, just. that was a very special moment for me. because I'd always dreamed of something. as like that's like the Super Bowl for. music, right? It's like it doesn't get. any higher than that award. So, for me, that was super special and significant. But to be honest with you, my world was. going so fast. So, as you can imagine, it literally was like the first 10 songs. of my career, whether it was my song or. collaboration, they were all top 10, top.

five, top three records or number one. records. So, I don't think I really. allowed myself until a little bit later. to stop and like really realize where I. was. And I think you realize it even. more when you have a challenge, when you. when you face adversity, that's when you. go, oh, you start to realize like, okay, exactly where things were. Um, you know, and then when you're determined, you. stay at it, you fight through it, you. battle through your challenges, and you. keep it moving and you keep on staying. on the track because that's all a part. of it. But my my true made it moment.

though I will say if I could pick a. moment where I'm like oh like was. definitely winning a Grammy. Yeah. Yeah. Damn. Damn. I think a lot of people are. like I hope that's my oh I made it. moment where I win a Grammy. Here we go. Hearing you obviously like you're such a. savvy businesswoman and I'm just sitting. here like thinking of you because your. career started so young. Like what was. the hardest business lesson that you had. to learn early on? Oo you got to leave. your emotions at the door. like, you know, there's a time and a. place for um sincerity and and being.

emotional, especially as a woman. So, I. think early on I learned that, you know, I'm like in business there's no there's. no gray. It's only black and white, right? So, if you can, you know, find a. way to manage your emotions, you know, that's it's gamechanging because you. also realize that a lot of people in our. industry don't really care for your. emotions. A lot of people don't really. care in general. It's like what can you. do for me in this moment? What can you. do for me in general? That's kind of the. mentality from a lot of people, a lot of.

my experiences. And then when you know. the good ones, you hold on to them and. you value them. But I think being a. young woman, being determined, um, you. know, and all that good stuff and having. to like manage my stuff. Like mind you, my parents weren't like, you know, navigating this world for me. I was a. young girl like hiring and firing and do. I mean like everything. So the emotions. I had to learn early, take them, leave. them at the door. Yeah. Yeah. Do you. think that like on a personal level like.

how did you stay grounded while you're. getting like famous and pictures and. everything like where did you find your. center core? I'll be honest with you. I'm a spiritual girl, right? I think I. think a lot of people know that. But so. for me, my foundation was that I had. faith. I for me I know who God and Jesus. is. Like that's important for me, right? Everybody has their thing. But I think. that kind of helped to keep me like. level set. The people around me like to. this day I still call my boy Jasper who. I met when I was like 14 years old. recorded my first song. Like he was.

there in the booth with me. So mind you. that's 20 plus years of relationship. My. best friend and makeup artist who's been. in my career since I was 16. My first. professional shoot as a solo artist. actually my first professional shoot in. general. She did that. So we're 20 plus. years of friendship and she's my matron. of honor. Um, my team I stay pretty. consistent. I try to keep it like I'm a. creature of habit. I think consistency. is key. But I do believe having people. having that consistent group of people. and circle of people I can trust and.

know they got my back. I think that was. a big part that um really helped me to. stay like levelheaded and to be able to. reset or have a place to go to because I. always say I don't care how strong you. are. I don't care how capable you are. You have to have somebody you can talk. to. Like that is so important because. the one thing that is very detrimental. to can be detrimental to a person is. when you bottle stuff in and you don't. have a place to go. Yep. So for me, I. think having a place to go has always.

been a great thing for me or someone I. can trust and talk to. Even if it's just. one person, everybody doesn't have to. know your stuff like you know, but just. one person. If you have one, you have. enough for me personally. And then of. course I pray and all that good stuff. I. appreciate you sharing that because. again obviously most people that are. going to listen like they can't relate. to maybe some parts of your life, but. that's some of the most relatable [ __ ]. is like making sure that you have good. people around you and actually people. that you trust. And it doesn't have to. be a lot of people, but I think if you.

don't have good people, you can lose. your way because if you're then you're. potentially hanging out with people that. could sway you or you don't trust and. then you have trust issues. It's like. making sure you know people are there. for the right reasons which sometimes. you can't. You have to just trust and. sometimes you get screwed over 100%. You. got to have people that you know are. going to be honest with you that will. you know hold you accountable but it's. also how they hold how do they hold. themsel like how do they live their. lives too right you can't have the wrong. people people feeding you like you said. like that's when it is dangerous right.

and one thing I have learned is that. when you're vulnerable that is the most. crucial spot that you to listen to the. right person because you can listen to. the wrong person when you're vulnerable. and they can send you completely left. right like that's the thing about life. it's like amazing how one decision can. change your life for better or for. worse, one decision, right? So, who's. feeding you when you're vulnerable? Like, that's so important. You even see. some celebrities and you can tell like. the people that maybe don't have people. with the right intentions in their camp. because it's like of course like you.

guys at some point can be just reduced. to like an object of like go here, go. here, go here. We're all making money. off of you and at some point you have to. decide like you're the one that keeps it. all moving. So you have to advocate for. yourself in some capacity. Keep those. people that actually have the right. intentions and the right like they want. the best for you and that's hard though. That's hard. It's hard. But you know my. thing is is like there's a line in the. Bible that talks about what good is it. for a man to gain the world and lose his. soul. One of the my one of my greatest.

fears is to have a certain amount of. success. It's like the highest level but. to not know who I am. And I'm very very. f I'm very intentional about that. like. making sure I'm checking myself too. Like I gotta check myself sometimes, too. And it's like I want to be. incredibly successful, but I don't want. it that much. I'm like lost in the end, right? Imagine it all comes down. You. get We pray we all get to 8090 and. you're like, I did it for all what I got. no one around me. I got nothing that I I.

don't even know who the hell I am. I'm. glad I got the Grammys and the awards. and the albums, but like who am I? Empty. that. I'm so terrified of that. And I. see it happen so often in my industry. Like a lot of the great that I respected. and admired a lot of their. stories. Like it's not that beautiful. story that you saw and why you fell in. love with what they do. And I'm just. like man like that's not truly living to. me. Like it can't my life my the success. of my life can also be based off of the. materialistic stuff and the awards and.

all those great things. like that's that. just can't be enough to fill my cup. because honestly sometimes those things. don't happen for you when you want them. to happen anyways. Like there's still. things that I wish I, you know, could do. or I'm hoping to do and it may not. happen. So I've got to make sure I have. a level set and understanding of like. what is my definition of success? when. you're so young, you look so far ahead. like and you should you should look far. ahead and you should dream big, but. you're like sometimes so honed in on.

like, you know, all these things that. you have so much time to get to and it's. like, you know, you got to have. perspective, right? You got to like stay. rooted within yourself and know who you. are along the way cuz you can lose. yourself. It's so true. And I appreciate. you saying that cuz it's like I feel. like we right now our culture is very. like go go go. You want more. We want. the coolest fashion. We want money. We. want success. We want the big cars and. the houses and the cool things. And if. you don't have it, then you're a loser. and you're not as cool. It's like. there's just so much comparison right. now. And especially for women, it's just.

like the aging aspect and like we're not. good enough. If we don't get the there's. just so much. What is something that you. learned in your 20s that you still carry. with you to this day that you can share. with us? patience. I I really that's one. of my favorite words. Well, actually. perspective is one of my favorite words, but also patience. I would say patience. um is everything. You know, sometimes, like I say, you want things to happen at. a certain marker for you and they may. not happen until you're 50 or 60 years. You just don't know, right? So, to me,

you got to have patience in the process. Like, trust the timing that's meant for. you. Things are going to happen for you. when they're supposed to. Even for me, I. have to remind myself when stuff is. ugly, I'm like, "This is a part of. life." Yeah. Right. This is you're. supposed to have a little bit of the. ugly. Like I say, sometimes you have to. go through the ugly to get to the. pretty. Yeah. Right. Even also you. saying earlier you were like, I didn't. even stop in moments cuz like when. everything's going well, you just keep. moving. And the hardest moments are the. moments that you actually are hip. checked within yourself to be like,

whoa, first of all, so grateful for the. good times cuz this shit's rough right. now. And you then gain that perspective. I also think what you're saying about. patience is really important too, especially with people in this young. generation. I feel it of like the. patience of like the comparison is, "Oh. my god, that person got that job and I. didn't get the job or I didn't get the. thing I wanted." And it's like we're. comparing ourselves to the person around. us or our friends around us. Everything. moves at a different pace. It does. And. the reason you didn't get that job is. for a reason cuz you're going to get.

another thing. I tell you, it's hard. though. Yeah. And sometimes too, things. look pretty on the outside, but you. don't know what somebody's going. through. When you're like looking at. what they have going and you want what. they have, you don't know what they're. going through. No clue, right? So, it's. like you got to trust your own timing. Like, you know, it's it's it's so much. better that way. Like, do you know. what's crazy for me is I remember like. in the days of me, you know, being. signed to tra traditional labels and I. look I would look up and I watch other. artists like I'm like I've been around. the block for like a long time but she.

just coming and she like looking like. she rolling two times faster than what I. just like and I'm busting my butt. Like. I'm like I know I work harder than she. works. Like I know she ain't showing up. how I show and it looks like the world. is just going so taken off for them. It's like you know what like that's for. them. like and and celebrate it too. Actually, I think there's something. really good about celebrating the. success of others because when it's your. time, it's going to happen for you. Things take time. Yeah. Right. It's so. true. And it's also like like you said, like if someone pops off so fast and.

it's so different like we don't know. what they're going through, maybe. they're also really struggling. Like who. the hell has popped off so fast and been. like mental health is at 100. Like it's. not a thing. It gets crazy. And. sometimes too, I think when you go so. fast in the beginning, you don't have. much to look forward to or you don't. appreciate it. Like I appreciate every. step of the way for myself because of. what I've gone through. And I know for a. fact I wouldn't appreciate it if I had.

everything given to me, the world given. to me when I wanted it, you know, when I. wanted it. Basically, it's like me. telling my kids like, you can't have. everything at, you know, can you imagine. how crazy the world would be if we had. everything we wanted when we wanted it? Like that would be nuts. nuts. We'd all. be miserable. Crazy. Like crazy. Like. we'd be running around like crazy town. All of that. I'm telling you, everybody. be lost. Like, you know, like losing it, too. So true. So, there's something to. like, you know, the struggle. There's. something to adversity. There's. something to getting knocked down and.

getting back up. There's something to. like all of that good stuff, right? And. just like trust the process. Like if. it's meant for you, it's going to happen. for you when it's supposed to, how it's. supposed to, and it's going to be so. great. It is kind of about the process. of like letting things play out. Then. you appreciate it more. You have more. understanding of who you are as a human. being. When you go through more [ __ ]. like you come out on top cuz you have. learned experiences rather than just. getting it all. You're like, "Oh, this. was easy." Speaking of relationships,

um I want to talk to you about love and. relationships. Obviously, you're married. to Russell Wilson, the Denver Broncos. quarterback. We love that for you. It's. so cute to see like it seems like you. guys have such a healthy and loving. relationship. Um I see online people. commenting like Sierra like where do I. find my Russell like where do I find. like my couple goals? And obviously in. order to get to a healthy relationship. you got to go through things before you. get to that point. And I want to talk to. you a little bit about growing and.

learning and how you got to where you. are now. around the time that you met. Russell, you were going through a really. public and what looked like painful. breakup. And I think about like leaving. a relationship is so hard to make that. decision, especially I'm assuming as you. when you have a child. How did you know. for yourself it was time to leave? Oh my. goodness. When you know you're supposed. to make a make a super defined decision. in your life, you know it from like the.

head to your feet. from your feet to. your head and your soul and your body, you know it. And it's almost like your. taste buds change, right? You have a. taste bud for a certain kind of thing. and then the taste buds just go. You got. to sometimes also look in the mirror and. reflect on yourself, too, right? Like, okay, what are things that I could be. doing differently in my life? Or, you. know, what's a part of what I'm I'm. looking for change, but what does that. mean? So you have to kind of define. everything about making changes in your.

life that are very critical. And you. know I've talked about before obviously. when you have a child it's very. important to me like now it's no time to. play around like the whole like. experimentation kind of phase is out the. door. It's like I am now responsible for. another life right? So what am I doing. like how am I thinking that through? So, you know, and then when you tired, you. tired. You tired, you know. And so, we get tired and we. don't want to be tired all the time.

Like, you know, I'm like, I want to I. want joy. I want to make sure my cup is. full. Like, how am I living my life? Like, I always say, don't let nobody. waste your time. Mh. Like that's one. thing like we talk about like you know. you know life and the trajectory of life. and what you know it's like I don't care. if it's relationship or friendship. business whatever it is like don't let. it waste your time. It's just not worth. it. Yeah. Right. So yeah I mean those. are those are things that come to my. mind how I process when I'm making a. pivotal when it there's a pivotal moment.

in my life and in in any aspect of my. life. When you hear people talk about. it, it does seem like, "Oh, that's so. simple." But when you're in it, it is. like it's really hard to collect. yourself when you're trying to leave. something and you're like, you're so. used to something, even if it's toxic. Like I have women write into me, Sierra, that are like it the fear of being alone. sometimes is worse than the fear of. staying in something toxic. Yeah. And I. wonder like what advice you have because.

the thing is is that what you do learn. is toxicity will it can kill you. Like. toxicity putting toxic things into your. body is not good. It's not like so I think it's like we. have to be real with ourselves, right? It's like what do you want out of life. for yourself? You have to be a little. selfish in your thought process and. whatever is around you needs to align. with that, right? Like, you know, that's. important. Like, but that whole like. that toxic, like it's like there's.

nothing fun about, you know, being. confused all the time or someone taking. you on like the ring around. Like, that's not that's not fun. It's not fun. And I feel like from my personal. experience, like I've been in some toxic. relationships where it almost you can. normalize it like when you're in it for. long enough. And I like that you spoke. about it like there is a moment and and. I pray for a lot of women listening like. you catch that moment before it gets. really detrimental to your own health.

But like there's that moment you know. but for a while you can like have full. blinders on and just not see it because. it becomes so normalized. I'm wondering. like when you were younger like what is. something that you now recognize is a. red flag but at the time you would. either like ignore or maybe like turn. away from? Well, yes. It's like how is a. person talking to you? How do they treat. others? How do they what you know you do ignore. a lot of stuff like when you just want. to see what you want to see? But again,

when you start thinking holistically, it's like you know, no one's going to be. perfect, but you do want the one that's. perfect for you. Like, and how many. boxes can they check off for you that. fits like what your desire is? And it. should be both ways, right? Me and Russ, we always talk about being equally. yolked. Like for us from day one, like. honestly, I think it was a, you know, healthy place. And I thank God because. we always saw, we we kind of saw a lot. of things the same way. So I think. that's more than half the battle when. you're kind of aligned. Yes. It's. definitely like how someone talks to.

you. What's their track record, girl? What's the track record? And. sometimes too, like listen, you know, you don't you again, you see things how. you see them. Like sometimes you do. overlook things because of your. perspective of and again it's like. you're trying to see things like the. glass half full like you're trying to. see it from a positive lens but again. like what's a person doing? I think more. than anything it's like they can tell. you everything. A person can be like oh. I've changed and I'm doing and I've.

heard those stories before I've heard. that song before. Um but what are they. doing right? And I think sometimes you. tend to put the words before the. actions. Right? You listen. You listen more. versus like just watching like how are. they showing up or not showing up like. and then sometimes you don't realize. like they're telling you it's like. they're telling you the same thing in a. different way. It's like but wait a. minute what you told me last time you. told me the same thing again and you're.

doing the same thing again. So like what. the [ __ ] You know what I'm saying? Like. Yeah. And Yeah. And I love what you said. about you and Russell is like we're very. similar in the way that we think and. what we like and what we believe in. And. like of course everyone's different, but. when you find yourself trying to make. something work so hard and you're the. one that's constantly forgiving or. coming back, full stop. Red flag. Red flag. Red flag.

Yeah, for sure. It's like takes two. Yeah. You know, and like how are you. showing up? Like you ain't showing up. Mhm. So, I ain't showing up either. I'm. actually going I'm out. Like, yeah, I. ain't showing up. No, I'm cool. Like, you ain't going to exhaust me to the. Because honestly, you can lose yourself. in those moments. Like, and like I said, it's one of my greatest fears. And I've. been there before. I'm looking to. someone. I'm like, you ain't going to. waste my life. I'm sorry. Like, that's. not an option. Like, it's so scary. though, right? It is scary. It is scary.

But, you know, you got to like put your. foot down for what you want and what you. deserve. All the girlies are taking. notes right now. They're like, "Fuck. yes, Sierra." Like, "Yes." But um don't. be afraid. No. Yeah, you're right. Don't. be afraid of like the best part is. leaving. The best part is getting out. The best part is finding yourself. without that person. And obviously, you. now are in such a healthy relationship. It looks and I'm so happy for you. You. just like even when you talk about him, I can just tell like Yeah. Like you're.

happy. And so I also wonder like when. you go into a healthy relationship, I. think sometimes it's so annoying, but. like sometimes we can't help but bring. our baggage and our habits from our past. relationships that we've had in our. life. Like was there anything that you. had to unlearn essentially when you got. into your relationship with Russell? Leave it at the door. Leave it at the. door. that I think that's so important. for yourself and your own sanity, but. it's also not fair to your partner to. bring old baggage that is from the past.

because then I think you don't give. yourself an opportunity to fully be in. that love and be engulfed in that love. and to create something fresh for. yourself. Before Russ came into my life, like I didn't think he was going to come. into my life that fast, to be honest. with you. Um, but before he came into my. life, the the place that I was at. mentally when I decided like, you know, I I'm I I'm desiring something different. and I'm I was clear on like I was very. intentional in that that phase of my. life and obviously having my baby um in. my life, my my first born. um you know I.

took that moment for myself because I. think sometimes too like if we go back. to back you know in relationships you. also aren't having a chance to like make. peace with yourself and to really like. tap into you in a way that you maybe. don't know you need to but you need to. sometimes pause like take a break and. just like love on yourself reset get. clarity you know the past is the past. where you trying to where you want to. and really truly look ahead like and be.

clear and intentional with that. So, I. think I will say the the moment before. Ross came into my life, I said I thought. I was going to be single for like four. years at least. I was like, I'm not. doing this. No, I'm tired. Like, I'm. like it's what's going on. And I'm also. I'm it's self-reflecting. It's. everything going on, right? So, I had. like to go through that phase and that. process and that journey. um you know and so in that moment when. you're resetting the things that are of.

the past are they're starting to become. of the past to you right so it's like. you're already clearing up your mind. just in general for yourself like not. even for someone to come into my life. but just me doing this self-cleansed. thing I need to do with myself like get. really find myself like who am I like. what's this woman want to feel like when. she walks throughout the world like what. does she talk like what does she think. like I mean it's all these things that. are about myself I'm like, "This is what. I need for me, right?" And then of.

course, like, who's going to be in her. life? Like, I'm thinking about these. things and I'm like, I mean, my mind is. as vivid as it can be. I'm like, he's. going to be a man of God. Like, he's. going to love kids cuz I have a child. now. I'm like, he's going to love to. like travel the world. Like, I mean, all. these things like I'm envisioning it so. much that I can taste. So, you talk. about those taste buds. That taste bud. starts to have a palette that's all it's. like fit for all that stuff. So, I'm. thinking that way, you know, already. So, when I see it, I know it. And when I. saw my honey, my my husband, like, I've.

never seen anything like that. Yeah. Never. Not I haven't talked to anyone. like that. Like, I haven't felt anything. like that, but I felt everything that I. like I'm almost going to cry. My. hormones, but maybe it's not my. hormones, but but I could like see like. it was exactly what I was seeing right. in front of me. Like, it's crazy. Oh my. god. like crazy. How when when did you. meet him? Like what was the situation? How did you meet? In our hectic, fast-paced lives, we could use some.

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Oh gosh. 2015. Okay. We met in 2015. Okay. Um where were you? We were. actually in California. And the crazy. thing is we started talking early at. first. Um, we were chatting a little bit. and then we had our first in-person. meeting before we so before we met in. person, we were chatting a little bit. and when he met in person was the. craziest thing because I was trying to. make sure I'm doing this right cuz mind. you I hadn't met a guy at this point. I. hadn't talked to a guy or anything at.

this point. So I'm like this is like you. know it's a guy in general. And then and. he always post he was like well cuz I'm. like well when we were meeting I'm like. I also was looking at it from a. friendship perspective you know Sierra. I'm just saying like you know the build. up before you get there and he was like. what friendship he's like I want look. for no you know so we joke about that I. love it because I want to be like really. like and like [ __ ] out of here. Yeah. What you talking about? I mean, but he. was cute though, you know. You know, but.

you know, we we going to start we going. to go on phases kind of thing. But when. we met in person, um the first time in. person we talked um was actually at my. place. Oh. And you know the it was kind. of the not kind of but it it was the. best thing for the both of us. We felt. because even though we were you know. meeting as friends and all that stuff. even it's not a thing you know he my son. was there and my dad was there so see.

the friendship perspective oh yeah you. really were like meet my he's probably. like oh my god I'm meeting the dad and. you're like no you're just a homie no no. no no no we actually talked about it and. you know what did he say to me he was. like well I'm going to have to meet him. anyways like Wes was very like I love it. confident very so I'm like you know so. we meet and again that's not that's not. like a traditional way I'm not telling. someone to do that but because it's he. and I you know you're public figures in. our world unfortunately often times I.

think if you jump you put the cart. before the horse before you are. officially together the world puts this. pressure on you and this it's just. becomes something else that it it kind. of like gets in the way of what you know. the true like the true um thing is. that's there could be. So we just were. being private basically. We were going. to go out to eat dinner and then we kind. of like we just let's keep it in. What. did you guys do? So we just talked and. we were supposed to have dinner. Food. was like belly was like content. Even.

though it was hungry, it was content. like you know cuz we were like talking. and talking and talking and it was crazy. everything that we talked about like we. were aligned on like and I'm not going. to lie to you. It was one point in time. we were talking and he was talking to me. and I wasn't hear nothing he was saying. because I was like he's so beautiful. Like I'm looking at him I'm like he's. like gorgeous. Like cuz I didn't like. look I didn't look him up. I didn't want. to know anything about like him before. we met. So I'm just like wow. Yeah. No,

I was I was literally just sitting there. like he's talking. I'm like oh wait but. just friends just runs. But the words. are going like this over my head and so. yes. You know he's like do you agree? You're like Uhhuh. Ex that part. Uh, what' you say? Yeah, I love that for. sure. I mean, I'm hearing what he's. saying. I'm in the conversation, but I. can't remember all that we were saying, you know. So, you're looking great. It. was. So, we just sat and talked and. I knew, and I said this the other day, when I when I was talking to him, I was.

like, "This is something different." I. knew like that I had never felt what I. felt in that moment. I knew this was a. different man that I was talking to. than, you know, I just knew like I just. it was different. Like so much to the. point that I called Yoli, my best. friend. I called her after and I said, "Yol, I was like, I don't want to jinx. anything." I was like, "But I think he's. goes the one." And I go, "Yes." Like I. And I've never said that in my life.

Never said that in my life. So, it was. meant to be. Without a doubt, without a doubt. What was it about him. that really impressed you that day? It. was, you know what, his conversation, how he talked about life. It's also a. feeling, too. You know, it's kind of. hard to put in words, but I know I know. what I'm talking to. Like I said, those. taste buds are activated. Like I'm. talking to like every sensor, everything. that I had on the palette was like stim.

it was stimulated. it was like clear. like um you know and so I just knew like. even how he talked to my dad you know. and my son was like moving around and at. some point of time like there he's. holding him like there was actually this. funny thing y'all think we ever told. this but where there's this chair that's. like in my living in my um kitchen and. the chair is like about to fall over and. future is literally my son is he's right. there and literally Russ like slides and.

the socks catch catches the chair. It. honestly no is this may sound but no. lie. He slides over, catches a chair and. I'm like, "Okay, okay, Superman. We got a Superman. in the I was like, "No, but you know, you were literally sitting there like, no, it was just everything." No, everything about everything. Like there. wasn't one thing that wasn't something. like, do you know what I mean? I know. what you're saying, too. And I think. it's important because obviously like.

you said, which I love that you're. explaining after a breakup of what you. know you don't want anymore and you have. that moment within yourself, you quickly. align of like, whoa, I got to get my. [ __ ] together. Like, I didn't like how I. felt. I didn't like this, this, this, this, or I liked this and I want to. bring this into my next relationship, whatever it is. But then when you meet. that person, especially when you've had. maybe not like the healthiest of. relationships before, it's a feeling of. like you still have those like giddy. butterflies like we said, like you're. drooling in the corner, but it's but.

it's you there's a sense of like. calmness and I remember I felt it with. my fiance because I it was like. he is kept it keeps me on my toes and. it's so exciting but it's like safe and. calm and I'm not insecure and I'm not. like there's still that feeling of like. oh you want impress them and have fun, but it's a different level of connection. where you feel like you've known them. for a long time. You know what I mean? Like there's something there that you're. like, "Wo, like your souls almost This. is like corny, but like it's like almost.

like you knew you were supposed to. meet." No. 100%. No, no, no, no, no. 100%. Like cuz that's what And also too. like and I I think I've said this but. just in case it's like literally the. conversation we're having is so aligned. like you're going back and forth and. you're like you're going like yes like. everything you're saying it's like a. fiery kind of feeling to it because. you're like almost talking to yourself a. little bit right um but there's. something he made me think about um hold. on wait let me see oh with the giddy. thing right what's so amazing and I feel. so blessed um because now we are in year.

seven of marriage eight years of being a. together. F baby on my way. Love it. No. Is that I still get the giddy feeling. I. think it's so important. We always talk. about that, right? Is that you still. want to like Russ always says, you know, I believe his dad would say to him like. you got to always compete or it's kind. of one of his things that he came up. with, but you got to always compete. So, it is that thing where it's like even. though you do build a comfort over time, you still want to like, you know, you.

still want to make sure you keep it like. cute. You want to keep it sexy. You want. to keep it spicy, you want to keep it. fun. Like we still we do date nights. every Friday. Oh wow. Cuz in football. that's the off day. So we do date nights. every Friday and we stay committed to. that and we like look forward it's. something I look forward to and the. fires they burn like you know and you. still feel like dating all over. the. other night we played Uno at dinner and. I was like and I said babe can we take. the Uno cars and he was like yeah you. know but and he played Uno but it was. the little things and I was like I had.

so much I literally told him the next. morning I'm like I had so much fun like. that's so so I think it's like you know. it's it's all that you know it's like. you know do you do you have someone in. your life that's also down to try new. things with you like do they accept you. at your lowest of your low points right. like every day is not perfect like I've. had moments where I look up you know and. I'm going through a challenging time and. he's the one person the only person I. can look to in that moment and he has. always has the right words to say like. you know all those things are important. too like how does a person speak to you.

when you're at your low right in your. relationship cuz that's key like it's. really you two like so true when it's. all said and done like it's you two and. you have your kids of course too but. like it's the two of you even hearing. you two like when he came over it wasn't. just you like you had a son like you. have a son you're like you're bringing. someone into your life that now is not. just going to be a relationship with. yourself. You need to also have a. relationship with my son. Like, how did. he take on being a stepfather? Oh, he. jumped right in. Changing the diapers.

right away. Um, no hesitation. He's an. amazing father. Like, watching him with. all of our kids is like, it is one of. the sweetest things. It's one of the. sexiest things to be honest with you. I'm I'm just saying ladies, when a man. jumps in and changes the diapers and he. be pulling up to the teacher parent. conferences and he be you know. it's like he surprised CeCe at the. dentist the other day and she was like. daddy and I was like daddy I would say. the same thing too.

like yeah I'm like okay. but it is that's what you want like that. feels good you know it's like it it. feels it feels good when you know. there's something about a man turning on. that part of them. Like, you know, they're manning for you. They're they're. being a man for you, but they're also. being a man for your family. Like, there's no better feeling than knowing. that when we all look up and we if we. look at him, like, he's got us. Like, I. know he's going to wrap his arms around.

me and my babies fully. Like, there's no. depth that he won't go to go, you know, go to for us or to make sure things are. like right for us like that. that it's. it's kind of hard to put that in words, but that feels good. Call Her Daddy is. brought to you by Neutrogena. Summer is. here and the sun is shining. You need. powerful sun protection that feels light. on your skin. Meet Neutrogena Ultra. Sheer Sunscreen. This SPF 70 lotion.

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gosh. Um, you know, it's crazy. I love. football before he came into my life. like I'm a tomboy so I watched the game. with my my dad growing up. Um but you. know I mean I I I think I say that. because I think that you really enjoy I. really enjoy the journey with him. I. enjoy the highs and the lows with him. I. enjoy his competitive nature. Like I. really respect it. Like one thing about. Russ is like when it comes to football. he is so dedicated to football. It's.

like football and family. Football. family. like I mean he's really. dedicated to his game and I really. admire that. So obviously doing what I. do I feel like I get so much of a. motivational dose like every day on his. journey and what I do like I get really. inspired like you know um you know you. would think that I'm in the huddle with. him when he's in the huddle. You would. think that cuz like I'm in this thing. like um but we have so much fun like. sports you know sports are such a it's.

such a powerful force. music is a is a. powerful force. So, it's such a blessing. to have sports and music in our. household. Um, but I do enjoy like the. the the the joy that we get even, you. know, like I say, the highs and the lows. getting ready for each Sunday or if it's. a Monday night or a Thursday night, you. know, the drum up in our in our. household with the kids like also being. excited and being a it's just a whole. like it's it's a blessing. I was about. to say like tell us what's the vibe of. the house on game day like what are we.

doing? Okay, game day. Okay, so Russ is. a creature of habit. Okay, so he's he's. like very consistent. So it's very. routine. Um you know he does his body. work, his treatment work and all that. good stuff. Um and he's in his peace. then. And typically when he does it I'm. with him. So mommy's like okay kids like. I'll be right back like but I got to be. there like in that zen moment. Um, and. then he goes through his motion to. prepare for the game. And then the kids. are definitely upstairs running around.

like chaos turned stuff, excited. You. know, it's not that serious for them at. this age. Um, although I will say Future. is getting more serious. He's also into. sports, too. So, he can feel a little. bit of the journey too. Sienna is like, "Go daddy, you know." Yeah. And W's. like, "Go." I mean, it's just this. different levels, right? But, um, we. have that flow and then, um, he gets. ready. We do we he gets ready to roll. out the door. We do prayer every every. time before a game as a family. He goes. off to do his thing and then it's me and.

the babies. We're getting ourselves. together. We ride to the car. We jam. out. I'm DJ Mama. The kids are DJs, too. They all want to pick their own songs. It's all the good energy rolling up to. the stadium. And um and then we roll. into the suite and then you know when. you sit down I'm not going to lie to you. guys especially being pregnant. The. emotional roller coaster is. like oh lord I be talking to myself like. I'm I mean it's just a journey. I'm like. gez heart stop pumping so fast.

sometimes. Like it's crazy. I love it. though. Like it's crazy cuz you feel. like I said I'm in the huddle too. I'm. out there like, you. know, you know, I'm I'm I'm wanting, you. know, always the best outcome. So, um. it's so good, but it's fun. And after. the game, we eat dinner together, you. know, um or whatnot. And it's but it's. pretty chill. It's it's exciting, but. it's pretty chill, right? Cuz it's. super, you know, Russ is really serious. about what he does. And I think it's. important that we respect that journey, that process for him, you know, on the.

daily basis. So, we try to make sure we. kind of, you know, we we It's a. combination of all that stuff. Um, I. love it. But it's fun. I'm thinking of. you saying you're also in the car with. your babies. I'm like, do you play them. your music? Do they know mom's music? Okay. When it's new. Okay. I don't like. playing my music back to me. I just feel. like I get it. That's kind of weird. sometimes. But I'm not going to lie to. you. Oh, tell me. When I have a song. that I really love, I might listen to myself a little bit,

you know, just a little bit. Um, you. know, and my kids, they may pick my. songs. Like when I put up Level Up, they. love that song. Um, I'm honestly, I'm. not saying because it's my record, but I. really love my song How We Roll. That's. my jam. And I ain't going to lie, I put. it on the other day and played it back. about seven times. I'm like, "This song. just feels so good." Like eats me up, you know? Also, same with like Loki and. BRB. I was like, "Okay." Like, it's it's. it's a vibe. And I I wonder if Russell. plays it in the car for the kids while. you're not there. He's like, "Guys, this.

is mommy." He will, you know, he's. really big on like, "Guys, you got to. listen to mommy's music." He will make. sure they know my music or or hear it. and listen to it, but he'll definitely. make sure the kids like, you know, support mommy, which is sweet. Like they. I think one day it was like the kids. were having to pick between one song or. the other. I don't remember what the. songs were, but one of them was mine and. one wasn't. And he was like, "You better. pick your mom's song." You know? So, like, let's keep it real. You know who. we support in this family? Let's make. sure we, you know, I love it. It's. really cute to cuz I'm sitting here and.

I'm like you've won a Grammy, he's won a. Super Bowl. Like you guys are the. ultimate power couple and I think a lot. of people look at you guys and envy you. obviously and it's like wo their life is. so amazing. Like when you do go through. the hard moments like how do you guys. level set each other? Like what is the. process of keeping each other grounded. and keeping each other like being able. to be honest and communicate I think has. been gamechanging for us. Um, and even. when it's ugly, sometimes it's got to. get a little ugly. Like I said, get a. little ugly before we get to the pretty.

Um, but I just think some like there's. nothing better for me than knowing like. I was able to say what I felt fully and. he heard me. Yeah. And don't you like it. too? It's different in that type of. relationship where you know like you're. you're both trying to come back together. and like you both have the same goal. like no one's winning. No, we actually. just have to hear each other understand. it where in other relationships I've had. it's like oh this is just an ego thing. like I'm never going to win cuz you. aren't even listening to what I'm. saying. When you say the word toxic, it. kind of rings a certain way for me cuz.

like I said you earlier, I'm like toxic. things can do damage to you and can be. harmful to you. So the glorifying of. things that are harmful to you will. never be cool to me. Never be cool. Like. never be fly, never be the way of, you. know, um it's just that's just not it to. me personally. So you have this great. relationship now knowing the. relationships you've had in the past of. like sometimes you got to go through the. bad to get to the good like we said. So. it is exciting for I think for women.

listening of like oh like even if you're. in the trenches right now listening to. this and you're not in a healthy. relationship or you're not feeling good. about yourself or it's an abusive. situation whatever you're in like you. can get out and you can find happiness. and you can find what you deserve. But. again patience like give yourself some. grace. It can't happen overnight. 100%. But it is nice to hear from you of like. it can happen. It can happen, baby. Let's talk about your music though. because like I said, we were all jamming. to it in the office today. We were just. like laughing. We were blasting it. We're like how creepy if she like rolls.

up and we're just like screaming your. music. But now I'm like I think you. would have liked it. It would have been. kind of fun. I might jump in and dance. with you. Hey, your EP CC I need to. understand. Yeah. Who is Cece? Who is. Sierra? Talk about the two. So Cece and. Sierra connected. It's not an alter ego, but there is an energy that comes out. when you say Cece. Like I turn my lip up. a little bit. She get a little stank. with it. I'm from Atlanta, so you know, there's a lot of soul in what we do. there. And um you know, when I came up,

it was obviously my nickname, but people. would be like, you know, when they say. go CC, go CC, go CC, go see, like. there's an energy that comes with that. There's a feeling that comes with that. And it's, you know, it's I would say um. I just I really on this project I wanted. to make sure I had those core elements. of what that is cuz that's something. special for me from a music standpoint. Like when you say go CC when you say go. CC go like there's something about that. that's just like a little it's a little.

salty, you know? And so um you know that. that's kind of it. It's not an ultra ego. though. Yeah. It's just like a little. bit more of like. Yeah. like a little sassy vibe. She got. a little more sass to her. See, Sierra, you know, if you talk to me and I'm in. my like Sierra mode. Um, and it depends. on the situation. I try to like, you. know, like Michelle say, when they go. low, you go high. Yeah. You know, that. kind of thing. CeCe might she might snap. back a little bit. She might bite back a.

little bit. Just a little bit. You know, I love it. I love it. Just a little. more. You know, what do you want people. to like feel when they're listening to. this music? Like is there a specific. place you envision people listening to. it? What's the vibe? I feel like this. music on this project is kind of like. that perfect house party energy. Um. where you can like kick back if you want. to. It's feel good. It's a little it's a. it's a sexy record, but it's also if you. want to like chill back people if you.

want to roll up roll up on the skates or. roll up literally if you want to you. know put to toast up to it if you want. to. My song two in love. It's a slower. record. That's a moment where I'm trying. to remember was like one night Russ and. I like had a little bit of a. disagreement. and I'm like gosh like the truth is I'm. just too in love. You know. when I was listening to it I was like oh. my gosh like this is like really like. all about how in love you are and I love. it. So sweet. Well, you know, it's that.

feeling on that record where it's like. you're upset. Like, you know, I watched. this Tik Tok or something someone was. doing. and they were like mad at each other. It's like this is how couples do when. you're mad like but you still love each. other and like you slam the car and you. let them in the car but you slam the. door hard or you like got to get them. food but you open the fridge with. attitude and you close the fridge with. attitude. Like that kind of energy. So. like on Two in Love, I'm like like you. he always put his arms around me a. certain way and like if he doesn't do it. I'm like like with when we're sleeping.

I'm like I feel that like but I mean I. want to be mad too but I want you to put. your arm on me like you know I'm like. it's like all those kind of feelings. So. before I put this project out it's. exactly like what I wanted it to be and. there's no better feeling than that. Yeah. you now being able to do things on. your own and figure out what you want to. continue to sound like as your career. continues to grow and expand. Um, it's. just truly was such an honor sitting. with you today because like you are such.

an accomplished woman and and sitting. with you and getting any of the wisdom. we can get from you today, Sierra. I. know I'm like I'm taking it in note. I'm. like everyone's writing notes. Like. you're just such an inspiration and it's. really surreal for me to sit down with. you today because I'm such a fan and. thank you. Thank you. Thank you and. congrats on your baby. So happy you're. expanding the family. Maybe we'll see a. number five at one point. You sound like. Russ. Look, don't get crazy now. Okay, let's just go one baby at a time. But. thank you. I had so much fun and.

congratulations to you. You are like. killing it. Like I think there was this. new article on about you on Forbes and. um you know I mean keep on doing what. you're doing. You're obviously doing um. you're obviously giving a platform for. women. You've created a platform for. women that is very important and. critical and your personality is. incredible. So, keep on shining your. light. Thank you. Thank you. Cheers. Woo! Woohoo! We did it, Kyler. Daddy. Woo!

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