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Would you love a poly relationship where. it's like you and maybe like three. girlfriends? >> Oh, hell yeah. That's like your dream. Are you kidding me? Oh, yeah. >> And they're also by So, they also like. love each other and it's like a. >> That's like That's That would be the. dream scenario. >> And you have to manifest. >> Should I? >> Yeah. You should manifest that. Yeah. You should like this. This is my life. This is what I want. Yeah. >> Banging out. >> Guys, we got new merch. >> This is legit. >> Banging out university. >> No, that's sick.

This one. This one. This one. This one. This one. >> Yeah, that's fire. I love the yellow. >> Wow. This is sick. >> The purple is really cute. >> This looks so fire. >> Like you go to Banging Out University. >> It says Los Angeles, California. Banging. since 2025. >> That's going to feel old one day. >> Yeah, that's crazy. >> So, if you guys get these, that's like a. collector's piece. And all those are out. now on bangingout.com. >> Banging out. >> Welcome back to the Banging Out podcast. I'm your host, Big Jay. and I'm your. host tight gay.

>> This episode warning is all about and if. that is a topic that you are not. comfortable with, join us next week. It. gets insane. >> And if you want to hear everything. uncensored, the actual most insane you. will probably ever hear on a podcast. Um. the uncensored full version is on. bangingout.com. Um but prepare yourself. for this. This is the most insane. episode we've ever filmed. >> I don't know if I'll ever be the same. >> Enjoy. Let's go. We're here with um Dr. Tara.

>> Yes. >> Tara. Tara. >> Tara. >> Tara. I was right the first time. >> Yeah, you were right the first time. That That's the thing with sex. You got. to go in for it. Yeah. You can't be. like, is it Tara or Terra? Like pull out. halfway. >> No. No. No. >> I can tell that's what he does, though. >> Oh my god. >> All right. All right. All right. >> Those questions, actually. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But it's it's cool to. have you here. Uh, I've never talked to. somebody, I guess, like you that works. in this space before. I'm a I'm a pretty.

awkward guy. Uh, Kayla's like more. outgoing, so this will be a fun. conversation. >> I'm really excited. Yeah, we have to. just learn more. >> I I agree. I agree. I think I'm the. go-to. sexyologist for Gen Z's. >> Okay. >> Yeah. >> So, you actually are a sex therapist, a. licensed therapist. >> No, I'm not a licensed therapist. I'm a. certified sexologist. And here's the. difference. When you're a licensed. therapist, there is a license to adhere. to. So like there there are many things.

that you wouldn't be able to do. Like me. making content on social media and the. things I say that wouldn't have been. allowed. >> Um cuz like think of you a therapist. It's like it's so contained within that. license. I prefer to not have that license. But. I'm certified psychologist and I'm a. college professor at Cal State. Fullerton. >> Wow. Still to this day? >> Yeah. Yeah. Oh, that's awesome. >> Yeah. Just taught. We just started this. week. >> Oh, wow. That's so exciting. >> I've been a professor for the last now.

14 years. >> Wow. >> Yeah, I know I look young, but I'm not. I'm actually really old. >> You look like you're 22. >> See, that's good. That's good. >> I see you. Right. >> Um, here's my number. >> I'll get it after the podcast. >> Do Do you like older women? >> Yes, absolutely. Do you Do you like. younger men that look like 13? >> Absolutely. >> Oh, wow. Oh my god. Oh my god. >> You know, you know my celebrity crush is. Timothy Chalamé. >> Really? >> Yeah.

>> Jacob's. >> related to him. >> Yeah. That's actually my third cousin. >> Third? >> Yeah. Third cousin. >> Okay. >> I don't even know. No. >> Lucy Lou is my third cousin. >> Oh, really? Yeah. >> Who's that? >> You don't know? >> I don't know. >> She's a mil, though. >> Is she? >> Yeah. Like, I'm trying to find myself a. cougar, but it's a tough journey, you. know. It's a very tough journey, >> especially when you look like me. I'm. about to be 23 years old, but I But how. old? >> Wow, you look 13. >> All right. >> That's what That's what they all say.

So, that's a tough journey for somebody. like me, right? >> You're 23. >> About to be. I'm 22. About to be 23. >> Wow. What about you? >> Wait, guess. >> 22? >> 20. >> You're 20. >> I'm 20. He's older than he. >> You guys are baby. Yeah. >> Oh my. I literally can could have like. birthed you. >> Yeah. >> But you look like you're in your 20s. Well, if I was a teen mom, I could have. birthed you. >> Yeah. Yeah, exactly. >> I'm 36. >> No way. You look amazing. >> Oh, thank you. Thank you. >> A lot of facials. >> Well, I Well, you look great.

>> Lucy Lou. Okay, here we go. >> Is this I love her. >> Is she a movie star? >> She's really She was in Charlie's. Angels. >> Oh, nice. I've heard of that, but I. never watched it. >> No, cuz you were a fetus. You were a. fetus. Yeah. So how did you like start getting into. this line of work? >> Yeah, so um my background is an. academic. Uh so I started with going to. get my masters. >> and um when I was getting my masters, I.

really wanted to study romantic. relationships because I read a study in. Harvard. It's and it was a a. longitudinal study in Harvard that. showed that the most important thing in. life for your happiness. >> is your relationship. >> Really? >> Yeah. It's. >> so I've been single for quite a while. Some would say I'm in a drought. >> Um so that's not good for my mental. health. It's not. >> like I need somebody. >> Well, I mean one would say you don't. need anybody. You came into this world. by yourself. But in terms of life's.

satisfaction and happiness Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. your relationship and if you. if you look into um like let's say Bill. Gates uh interviews or um what's his. name? The guy that was like the second. richest person in the world for a long. time. >> He's in investments. No. Uh he's really. really old. Yeah. >> Oh, that was good. >> Very good. >> That was really good. Want to be like. that. >> He's he's racking up points. Um. >> Oh, thank you. >> An intellectual answer. That's good. Uh. Warren Buffett said that the most.

important investment you will ever do in. this life. >> is your relationship. >> Wow. >> So I I was just so inspired by all these. successful people like I was always you. know looking up to successful business. people because my parents are very. successful business people. So. >> when I look looked that out I just. thought like yeah I then I should study. what's the most important thing in life. So then I went to get my masters loved. it started teaching as a TA. I have a. PhD. >> Wow. >> Aka Dr. Tara. Um because the doctor is.

not. >> Well, that's my fault. >> Yeah. Good. Wow. You're a very. self-aware young man. >> Yeah. Very good. Very good. >> I think I'm just so. >> Are you guys dating? >> No, I was going to say that you teach. him so well cuz you know, >> you know, men need to be taught by. women. >> Need to be taught. Yes. Absolutely. >> Yeah. >> So, yeah. Then I I finished my masters. Uh got into all the PhD programs that I. applied to. Um selected Arizona State. because it's fun. um went to Arizona. State for 4 years and got my master's uh.

got my PhD became Dr. Tara and then got. a professor job at Cal State University. Fullerton. So uh I have been a professor. at Cal State Fullerton for nine years. now. >> Wow. >> Wow. >> Yeah. >> And so how like how so you said you were. fascinated by these very successful. people saying that like one of the most. important things in life is. relationships. Mhm. >> At what point in your life were you like. I'm going to dedicate my time to this. like this is this is what I'm passionate.

about. This is what I'm going to do. >> in my PhD program. >> Okay. >> So that's long time ago now. Um that's. yeah 12 years ago. >> I started studying uh relationships and. you know what when I started digging. into romantic relationships and like. reading all the research out there about. successful romantic relationship and you. know those that bring fulfillment not. just like one night stands or like you. know I mean I'm all for casual sex but. like I was looking into meaningful. relationships and.

>> I found that there is one universal. problem that everyone in this world. experiences regardless of their age, gender, ethnicity, how much money they. make or who their parents are or what. their religion is. And that one. universal problem is a sex problem. >> Wow. >> Oh my god. >> At some point in your life, you will. experience if you have or not already. had. >> I have many problems.

>> Story of my life. >> It's a universal problem. Like everyone. in this room will or already have had a. sex issue. >> Absolutely. >> Yeah. So then that was my light bulb. moment of like why not contribute to a. solution to such a big universal problem. that everyone experiences? It's like an. epidemic. >> Yeah. >> Damn. >> Damn. Wait, that's insane. >> So, okay. I'm just curious. What are So, do you do like do you actually meet with. clients? >> Yeah, I have a private practice for the.

last 5 years. Wow. >> It's packed. There's a wait list. No. way. Congratulations. >> Congratulations. >> Thank you. Thank you. Yeah, it's uh I. think there are a few um misunders. misunderstandings. um within like what my private practice. is. >> Um but it's full. >> No. Yeah. You said before we started. filming, I don't know if we actually did. if we were, but how people will book it. thinking that you're going to like have. sex with it. >> Like what the [ __ ] What the [ __ ] how.

lit that would be to just like book a. therapy appointment. >> Yeah. And then you're just I come in. naked. Oh, I thought you knew. >> No, that's crazy. What are the age of. these people? Do you find that most. people are experiencing this in their. early 20s? Are they in their 50s? Like. what is the what's the most common age. bracket for people that are experiencing. these problems? I think that I think. everyone experiences sex problems. starting from 18 years old. However, the.

people that are aware enough that it's a. problem and they need to work on it are. usually in their 30s. >> So, my clients are typically men and. women in their like 30s and 40s. >> Do you think that's because there's a. pressure during that time maybe to get. married or find that partner for life? >> Yeah. like get your [ __ ] together kind. of vibe like you know you're in your 30s. like. >> like it's time to settle down but. there's no pressure for that. >> I hate that word by the way I hate. settling down. >> let's settle up then. >> you know. >> don't say sorry don't ever apologize.

>> sorry no I'm not sorry. >> no I stand on that [ __ ]. >> don't ever apologize. >> I stand on that [ __ ] I'm not sorry. >> I don't ever say sorry. >> okay yeah no no I take that back. actually so I'm not sorry. >> good. >> that's good that was really good. >> I kind of saved myself. >> um Damn do you have any questions Okay. I have a lot of. >> I love your t-shirt. >> Thank you. Yeah. Nipples make me smile. They do. >> They make me smile, too. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Any particular set? >> Smile. >> Um, have you ever had nipplegasm? >> I don't know what that is.

>> When you stimulate your nipples so much. that you come. >> No. >> Wait, can guys come from like, >> is that a real thing? >> Yeah. You have Men also, same as women, have a ton of nerve endings around their. nipples and areola. So they can have. nipplegasm, too. >> What? >> I feel like you got to be trained in. that. That sounds like something like a. a nipple gazm expert, you know? You got. to know how to do it the right way. Is. it one of these things? Like a car wash. >> What is What is this?

>> I don't know. Just rubbing a little bit. I don't know. I've never even heard of. this. Richie, >> he's like trying to. >> What do you do? How do you stimulate. your Richie? >> Man, that is an interesting question. I. think I would just sort of. Do you go like up and down? Do you go. like. >> circular motion? >> Circular. Oh, >> circular. I think. >> wax on, wax off. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Wow. >> Yeah. So, one of these days I think he.

will experiment and then with his. >> Oh, he's going to. Can you tell me when when you finally. have nipplegasm? >> Can I have you on my TikTok to talk. about it? Okay, great. >> This is amazing. This is the best thing. ever. >> I didn't know that. I'm like, >> yeah, I didn't either. >> I like touching my boyfriend's to like. piss him off, but I didn't know that. something could come from it. >> He doesn't like he says, >> "You don't like your nipples being. touched?" Not yet. >> Yes. Not yet. >> Wow.

>> Yeah. >> Oh my god. So, I guess one question I. have just right off the bat, not really. correlated to what we were just talking. about. Have you found that what you do, you know, you're Dr. Tara, do people. feel intimidated? I mean, that would be. a scary like in romantic relationships. in your life, like wouldn't people be. scared because they'd be like, "Oh my. gosh, she's going to judge me. She's the. pro on this." Like, she knows everything. about this. >> The CEO of sex. >> literally like, "Oh my god, beauty of. sex.". >> Wow, you guys you guys are so good at.

hyping me up. I feel like I'm I'm. getting really turned on. Uh I have a. praise kink, you know. Uh keep keep it. coming. Um and then I might be, so who. knows? Jacob's really excited about No, I'm. not. What? >> I'm not sorry. >> Oh, >> wait. That was no sorryries. >> And no, I don't think people are. intimidated. Uh, I do I do go on dates. because my husband and I are ENM. >> Oh, you're married? >> Yes. Yeah. >> Oh,

>> yeah. I have a husband, but we're ENM. >> What does that mean? >> Ethical non- monogamous. >> So, that means it's like a open. relationship. >> Oh, that Yeah. Yeah. We've always been. open. How do you. >> So, I date other people. So, when I go. on dates, Yeah. people are are there you. go. >> So a relationship approach where all. involved parties openly consent to. having multiple romantic or sexual. partners. >> Oh wow. >> Okay. I didn't know about this. >> Yeah. Yeah. So my husband dates other. people. I. >> How are you like so in the beginning was. it that way? Has it always been set up. that way?

>> Uh we started it that way. Okay. >> And then we became monogous uh which is. like one partner for a bit to like. establish a foundation and then we um. >> went back. >> go Yeah. We were like, "We're trying to. have some fun.". >> Wait, that party? >> That is so cool. >> Yeah. Yeah. It's in our personality to. be ENM. >> Wow. >> And does that have an effect on your. guys' relationship? Like are. >> it's amazing. >> I know this might be too much of a. personal question, but I mean, this is. like your like you're the pro at this. Does that have an effect on your guys'.

sexual relationship or no? >> Going on dates with other people, possibly hooking up with other partners. or. >> a positive relationship. Yeah. A. positive effect. >> Really? Wow. >> It just makes it more exciting than what. you guys think. >> Yeah. And so much trust. >> Like I know this is my person. Like this. is my life partner. We're like ride or. die because if we can do that and do. this like we can do anything. >> Oh yeah. That takes so much like. >> so much trust. Yeah. A lot of trust. I. trust him like truly like he will die.

for me. >> How long have you guys been married for? >> We've been together uh almost 6 years. and we've been married almost three. That's awesome. Like damn. >> Yeah, it's it's really great. Like I. person this is not a propaganda because. again. >> uh I think it's a personality thing. Like. >> could that also be referred to as open. relationship. >> or is that a different thing? I just. hear I've never heard. >> that's a really good question and I. actually should explain it so that you. know your listeners like understand.

more. So the term ENM is an umbrella. term for all kinds of non-traditional. relationships. Okay. Uh the traditional. relationship is called monogamous. relationship which means you have one. partner and you're not allowed to have. sex with anyone else like not a. threesome not like if you have a you're. now non- monogamous. >> really. >> because monogamous means one sexual. partner. >> for the rest of your life. >> so. >> damn. >> actually a lot of people are like not. monogamous but they just don't know it.

>> but they still call it that because they. don't know. >> they don't know yeah so when you are. non- monogamous we call enm ethical go. non- monogamy and the reason why we say. ethical is because we are upfront about. everything. We communicate about. everything. Don't tell them. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Last night this. >> Well, not the details. >> Okay. >> Not the details. Uh but yes, I do say. like I'm seeing this guy like this is. what he does. Like Yeah. >> This is crazy. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And he tells me the.

same thing. He just told me about like. seeing a woman. No, no, no. This woman. seems really cool. We're going to see. all we're all going to hang out on. Sunday. So, >> does that mean like hang out? Hang out. >> Depends. >> Oh, wait. Oh my god. Wait. This is the. coolest [ __ ] I've ever heard. >> Oh my god. So cool. >> Well, and I mean he he told me about. her. She sounds super cool. Like I Yeah. Um. >> Wow. >> But also I'm bisexual. >> Okay. So, you know, a lot of times I. have capacity to enjoy like spending.

time with women. Mhm. >> Um, and I'm not saying that this is like. for everybody cuz you know whenever I go. on a podcast and they're like, "Would. you say everyone should try ENM?" I'm. like, "No.". >> Because if it's not a part of your. personality to be able to enjoy. something like this, like don't do it. Then it would be really hard for you. >> Yeah. >> Uh, if you have like extreme jealousy or. like then it would be really hard for. you, then it's not for you. >> But for those that are curious, it it. can actually be like super healthy. This. is the healthiest relationship I have. ever had in my whole life. And I have. had a lot of boyfriends. Um, wow. It's.

It's the best relationship really. >> You ever wondered what the [ __ ] gets cut. from these episodes, man? [ __ ]. >> Nah, you're tweeting. Nah, nah. Nah, >> chill the out. >> Everybody's favorite influencer is But. y'all want to know what I saw him doing? >> Yo, dead ass, chill the out. >> You know who I found out that's dating? >> Nah, you're [ __ ] Tweaking. >> Yo, dead ass, chill. Chill. Stop. banging out.com.

>> And yeah, so ENM is an umbrella term. within ENM. There's open relationship, swinging relationship, polyamorous. relationship. >> Used to be. >> Oh my god. >> You are a Wait, what? >> My dad used to be a swinger. He'd go on. cruises and. >> Oh, really? >> She's like, that's amazing. >> Maybe I've seen him. Maybe we hooked up. >> You look a little Asian. >> Damn. >> I love that.

>> But no, I have never had a baby from my. I'm preserving my that way. But. >> do you plan to have kids with No. >> No. Yeah, I don't. Yeah. My I think my. baby for this life is sex positivity and. like helping the world becoming more sex. positive and that like that's going to. be my legacy, you know? Like I only I'm. only starting like I'm 36. I mean. considering if I'll die at maybe 90 like. I have so many more. >> There you go. >> Why not? >> Optimism, >> right?

>> Very a very bright young man. >> Thank you so much. >> If I have a son, I would want him to be. like you. >> A thank you so much. That's very sweet. Thank you. >> So yeah, I mean I I feel like that's my. baby. Like another, you know, 50 years. of this. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> I love that. >> Yeah. This is my calling. But yeah, so. within the the ENM. >> umbrella, there's many different types. of relationships. And I can see myself. >> and my husband going into polyamorous. relationship where you actually have.

loving relationships with multiple. people together. >> Oh yeah. So that's. >> because I think we have that capacity, but we're not there yet. >> So then if you're in a relationship, let's say it's called polymerase. >> So mine is not, mine is ENM. We have. separate things. But I'm saying if you. were to go together. >> So let's say you bring in another. partner then it would be cheating if. somebody outside of that relationship. entered. Right. >> Okay. I'm just making sure I understand. >> Correct. Yeah. Because like when you're. poly like that's your group. relationship. Anyone outside of that is.

not a part of the agreement. Yeah. >> So that becomes the relationship. >> The group. >> Yeah. Yeah. It's called It's called. kitchen table. Like. >> uh the reason why we call it or not we. but it's the literature like the. research is called kitchen table poly is. because we like you all live together. and you all like raise kids together, pay bills together, like just in a. little community. Yeah, >> that's awesome. >> I can see going into that at some point. maybe like in the next 10 years. But for.

now, ENM works for us. It's it's hot. It's spicy. It makes I I love life. I. love him. I love them. Can I ask were. you. >> were you raised in an environment where. this was happening around you or was. this something that you discovered on. your own because I was raised like. you're one of the first people I've ever. met in my life. This is opening up my. eyes cuz where I'm from I've never seen. people in open relationships or ENF. >> Yeah. Jacob learned the word polyamory. on last week's episode. >> Yeah. >> What was Oh, did you have someone poly.

on? No, we I just I just used the term. like as a joke, but I didn't but just. saying like that's like what I want to. do. >> But I got to find at least one to even. get on the road for that to happen. >> Would you love a poly relationship where. it's like you and maybe like three. girlfriends? >> Oh, hell yeah. Dream. Are you kidding me? Oh, yeah. >> And they're also by so they also like. love each other and it's like a. >> That's like That's That would be the. dream scenario. >> And you have to manifest.

>> Should I? Yeah, you should. Yeah, you. should like this. This is my life. This. is what I want. Yeah, >> for sure. But so, so, but how did you. discover this? Cuz I was asking, were. you like raised in an environment where. this was normal or how did you discover. this? And when were you like this might. be what I want to do? >> I was raised very religious. >> Okay. Yeah. My parents are Buddhists and. very religious. Like, we used to go to. the temple like three times a week, pray. and meditate. I went to an all girls. Catholic school. >> No way. Yeah. So, in the name of the.

Father and of the Son and of the Holy. Spirit, [ __ ] me. >> That's crazy. >> But I love that t-shirt. >> Yeah, exactly. >> Jesus loves it. >> Um, anyways, >> he does. I mean, >> yeah. So, it's pleasure. Like, of of. course, who wouldn't? Um, he's a smart. man. Um, he knows. >> Yeah. >> Uh, but anyways, no, I grew up very. religious going to like religious. school. Well, um, actually my first you. went to a public school like that,

right? >> No, I went to public school, but I did. do CCD. So, it's kind of like uh like. it's like learning church for an hour. after. It's kind of like it was like a. class like once a week or something. >> Was that when you started playing with. your nipples? >> That's about the time it started. That. is probably right around that age. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> When I learned my Bible nipples, Bible. nipples, why not, you know, similar? >> Yeah. Yeah. I can I can see that. Well, I can I can tell that you're a little. bit freaky.

>> Also, you know what they say about. skinny guys. >> What? >> Skinny guys, big dick. >> Oh, [Applause]. >> that's what they say. Google it right now. Google it. Skinny. guy.com. >> It's a thing. It's a thing. >> Hanging out.com. >> Skinny guy. Big big theory. I feel like. that's a thing. >> No, I've heard of this, right? >> Oh my god. And it's like, "No, no, don't.". >> Why do skinny dudes have.

>> They always have ridiculously bigger. days. >> Your blood pressure has to go somewhere. That's what they're saying. >> It's a thing. >> Is this real? >> Yeah. From my personal experience. Yeah. >> Wow. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. The skinny tall guys, they always. they're packing. >> Talking about I'm so sorry. This is a. long day. >> I have I have a sex question. Okay. I I. really have been thinking a lot because. I I have so many questions with but. >> yeah, let's do it. Let's let's answer. all of them cuz I think you know what. you guys have you guys had sex ed in.

school? >> Yes. >> What kind of ed? >> Like basic [ __ ] like wear a condom or. >> Oh, so they didn't talk about like. G-spot or. no anal. It was it was just like wear a. condom. >> Um oral yoni massage. No. >> What? What was the last one? >> Yoni massage. >> What is that? Yeah, it's. >> sounds like I would enjoy one. >> It's a massage. >> What does that mean? >> What? >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Which is a part of. >> Oh, I don't have a I don't qualify. >> Y Well, you can give one.

>> Oh. Oh, >> but you probably have to train to do. this. >> Oh, you got to train somehow. >> You can train. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Wait, that So, a yoni massage is a type. of massage that focuses on the female. genital area. The word yoni is a. word that means sacred place or source. of life. >> Wow. >> True that. Right. >> True that. >> I love one of those. >> Oh yeah. Is that boyfriend? >> Yoni massage.

>> I'm listening. >> Yeah. >> We listen and we don't judge. >> An educational episode. >> Yeah. Yoni massage is all about um it's. it's a part of the tantric practice and. tantric is this like um eastern. philosophy is is a huge thing. It's not. just about it's about energy. >> Okay. >> Um energy passion and like how to live. your life passionately. >> Um and in tantra tantric a form of. sexual practice rooted in ancient Indian.

tantric traditions. >> Wow. So in Tantra, one practice is is. the yoni massage, aka we usually call it. like the [ __ ] worshipping practice. Um. >> that's damn near my whole life, >> bro. If I could take periods away from. y'all, man. Like that's just like type. that the type of guy I am. And. >> just a really sweet boy. >> He's so. >> like bro like that I think about that. every night before I go to bed. I'm like. I can't believe that man. >> We got to do something about this.

>> Yeah. You you pray to God that women. would. >> I pray something. I don't know what it. is. The universe. >> Yeah. You want to end the. >> end suffering. >> Yes. Absolutely. >> He's the Jesus. >> So what am I want to end suffering for. all? >> So tantric is like a spiritual thing but. it's but it's like mindfulness and. >> connection. Do you think it's like it's. a spiritual thing? >> It's it's through modalities like breath. work, meditation. Yep. Yumming.

>> What is yumming? >> Um, I can show you guys. You. >> I don't know. See? Wait, what is this? >> Yep. Yum. >> Um, so, well, I'm not wearing pants and. I'm not wearing underwear, so I probably. can't do it, but um, you guys can try. Like, it's a man sitting cross-legged on. the floor and then the woman sits on him. with her legs wrapped around him. >> I think we should hold off. >> So, you. so you It's like through clothing. though. So your connect and that like.

that energy through the through the and. through your chakras through through. your chakras then go from root chakra to. sacro chakra which is basically your. like genital area and then it goes. through like your body and that's how. you like manifest to like. >> is this just like horny energy going. through everybody or what happened? >> Have you seen this happen? >> You and your boyfriend. his lips right now tonight Kayla. >> Yes. Yeah. Yep. Yummy. It really will. like connect you and it it will be such.

a beautiful experience. >> Wow. Oh my god. >> So, you've experienced this? >> Oh, a lot. >> Oh, >> yeah. Yeah. I I love like tantric and. and losing energy and. >> so it's like your minds are justing each. other. >> Mind [ __ ]. >> mind [ __ ]. >> really? And do people orgasm from this? People are just creaming their pants. from this. >> Why is this not talked about in the. mainstream? Like why do we not see this. on the news? Why do we not see this on. the news as in like ABC news?

>> I didn't even know that this is a thing. >> Um I think you know my theory is that. because when you discover something like. this, >> yeah, >> you will have such a fulfilling life. >> that you won't be spending money on a. lot of the bad things that people do. now. Because when your life is so. fulfilling, you won't be doing a lot of. shitty things that you spend money to do. like binge drinking. Um like. >> yeah, I can't relate.

>> Binge drinking or buying a lot of stuff. like retail therapy or um you know going. through uh a bad relationship and. staying in it and being in a toxic. relationship. I just think it will bring. a lot of enlightenment so that. mainstream or you know the people out. there like they don't want you to figure. out like the secret to a fulfilling life. and this is a fulfilling life like. people ask me all the time like how what. should I buy to like improve my life and. I said the very first thing that you.

need to do is you need to understand how. your sexual energy works within your. relationship and that is free. >> wow. >> that's I never heard of this philosophy. before. >> So, see, I would be like, buy a. vibrator. And. >> I am a big fan to CVS and buy a rose. You know, I am a big fan of a vibrator. >> Should. >> Should I should I get another one? >> Yeah. >> I used to let like I used to just be in. middle school using a pocket. >> All my friends would come over after.

>> That's so advanced. >> I was ahead of my time. >> Yeah. Like, >> that's what I thought. >> Middle school boys are like dry or using. like conditioner. spiritual energy. >> Wow. How did you like did you just save. up money? >> Yeah. No, I used my mom's credit card. >> No, you're lying. >> No, I swear on everything. >> Does she like. >> I'm the tantric gods. >> What? Like, how do you use your mom's. credit card to buy a pocket. >> out of her wallet? And I I was like, >> did she not check? And was she like,

"Oh, Jacob, what's this?". Well, she did end up finding it cuz I. would keep it in the pots and pans in. the basement and I had a bottle of lube. with it and my friends would come over. after school after in middle school. >> Yeah, I was you are an advanced man. >> Oh, thank you. That's what I've been. trying to tell people. And everyone's. like, damn, bro, you're so behind the. times. I'm like, bro, I'm I'm like. futuristic. >> I'm ahead of AI. >> I'm speechless. >> Yeah, >> I'm speechless that you're. >> somebody understands me. in middle.

school using lube using a pocket. >> Oh, yeah. All of that. >> Middle school kids are like dried off or. using like hair conditioner. >> Yeah. No, I've tried that too. >> Yeah. Burns. >> But that burned your. >> Yeah. Do you get a UTI from that? Is. that You can. >> Yeah, that's probably what happened. >> Yeah. >> Wow. I am so surprised you don't look. like that. >> Well, I'm glad. >> Looks can be deceiving. You never judge. a book by its cover. You like you like. if Renee rap was like a butch lesbian.

>> That's crazy, >> bro. I got to go home. >> This is insane. >> Oh my god. >> I need a break. >> Wow. >> Okay, I'll take it. She's beautiful. >> Yeah, you you look similar. You guys. don't agree. >> I know. I. look at him. >> You want Renee? >> Am I? >> Yes. Call me Renee. >> for the rest of the episode. >> Yo, that's like your kink. You're like,

"Hey, you got to call me Renee if we're. [ __ ]. >> Call me Renee.". >> God damn. Okay. Wow. This is a lot for. my brain to process. >> Yeah. I think we really we touched on. like a lot of topics. >> Yeah. I mean, where do we go from here? Actually, you I did tell my friends that. I was going to be talking to you today. >> Okay. >> And they have some questions. >> Let's do it. >> I'm so excited. And um I'm going to say, okay, my friend. Dempsey said, "Should I be worried my. girl's going to leave me because I keep.

saying 67 when I'm hitting it from the. back?". >> I don't know that joke. >> I think he's being serious. >> Wait, >> explain. >> Like I think every time according to him. when he's hitting it from the back, he. keeps saying 67. >> Why would you say that? >> I don't know. >> Someone explain. >> I don't know. >> Can you Google this? >> Why would you say that? Yeah. >> Well, why would he say that? That's so. crazy. >> Six can refer to a biblical passage.

>> Oh, >> a person. Wait, what? >> I don't know. >> Oh, it's a. >> 67. >> What? >> I don't know. All right, next question. Hey, next question. Next question. My. friend Adam wants to know, does waiting. a little to have change the dynamic of a. relationship? And if so, how? >> It shouldn't. If you have a solid. relationship, if you have a solid. emotional connection, then it shouldn't. Um, but it depends on what school of. thought you subscribe to.

>> Uh, when it comes to having early in. your dating life, there are two school. thoughts. >> One is sexual compatibility model. Meaning if you subscribe to this school, you want to have on the first date or. like very early on because. >> So you think he's kind of like kind of. just like waiting too long. Is there a. period where you could wait too long? >> No. Cuz the second school of thought is. sexual restraint model and that's where. you want to restrain like you want to. wait and develop a strong emotional.

connection. So when you do have sex, >> it could be even more orgasmic. But it. there's no right or wrong. >> cuz there's built-up sexual tension. >> I cannot remember the last time I didn't. on the first date. >> I period. I love that. >> Period. >> My friend, >> did you guys [ __ ] on the first date? >> Oh, yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I love that. >> Was it amazing? >> It was. It was really good. Miami drunk. It was It was great. >> Oh, so the energy was there. >> It was there. Yeah. >> So you So you guys probably subscribe to. the compatibility model, which means. that you want to know immediately if you.

guys are compatible. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. They have the monthly subscription. to that. My friend Lucas wants to know, um, if I. go a day without busting and I start to. shake and sweat, but I think it's just. cuz I'm excited to bust. >> Should I be concerned about this or is. he just con committed to the art of. gooning? >> I think you should bust every day. >> Really, >> agree, Lucas? >> Yeah. Like in terms of like just sexual. health advice, >> orgasming every day is really good for.

your health. >> Really? is really. >> for for both men and women. >> So, you know, if you're single, like. masturbate and it's there's no shame in. the game. You should be able to come. every day. >> That's what I've been telling people. >> Everyone's like, "Yo, you got to meet. somebody in person." I'm like, >> I know myself better than anyone. >> You know, >> what are the names? >> Tomato tomato. >> I thought I would do. um my friend Fordo. And this is like I.

just have two more. Um, my friend Forto. says, "If she says deeper and I'm. already maxed out, what do I. [Laughter]. >> um, use a extender?". >> What is that? >> Yeah. So, there's a a prosthetic that. you can like get at a toy shop and you. can wear that and it adds like inches to. your. >> Oh, wow. Yeah. >> Where do they sell these things? You. know, like people will wear like that.

hidden heels in their sneakers to look. taller is the same thing. So like you. wear extender. >> Thanks for tap in. >> Mhm. >> Um my friend Omar says. >> that guy's like I don't need it. >> My friend Omar asks if he's giving. himself self-pleasure and one of his. friends calls but he starts going. harder, >> what does that mean? >> He's probably subconsciously attracted. to that person. >> Wow. Yeah, >> that's a I. >> Was it you? Did you call him? >> Uh, it could have been me.

>> Yeah. >> Omar, uh, you need to, uh, let me know. because we hang out a lot, dude. >> He's into Renee rap. >> Yeah. >> He wants you to put on a wig. Yeah. >> Do I really look like her? Can we. picture one more time? >> Yeah. I mean, you really. >> kind of Yeah. >> Do do another picture of her in with her. lesbian partner. That one. >> Oh, okay. Wait. Up there on the left. Right there. Is that. >> Look, >> wait. >> Look at the face. Okay, smile with your. teeth out. Look.

>> Wow. That Jacob, >> you need you need to meet them. >> Yeah, >> that would be dope. >> They need to be on the show. >> We should make that happen. >> Yeah, >> you guys all look. really related. >> Oh, awesome. This is news to me, but. this is honestly a huge compliment. >> Yeah. >> Um, and thank you for saying that. I'm going to go home and just be so. happy. >> Master. >> Yes. Oh, yeah. I'm going to go home and.

master. >> Do you master every day? >> Uh, sometimes it's more like six, seven, >> but like. >> times a day. >> Yeah. No, I'm just kidding. >> No, no, no, no, no. >> Oh. Oh, your poor pizza. Six, seven. times a day. It just be raw. >> It's just flesh. Yeah. >> You know, um, no. Uh, probably like at. least like four times a week. >> Oh, okay. Normal. Yeah, that's that's.

Yeah, that's. >> Is there too much? Is there ever a point. where like, yo, you need to chill the. out? Your going to fall off? >> I think six times a day is too much. >> Really? >> Yeah. >> And what about for having sex? >> Kayla wanted to know. >> Yeah, I was I was going to ask, is there. like an average amount to have sex or. like a too much amount of having sex in. a day? >> Per day? >> Yeah, >> per day. I would say when it starts to. like hurt. >> Oh. >> Then you want to. >> I think that's your body saying like, "Hey, we've had enough.". >> Yeah. There's. >> But what if you're still horned up? >> Yeah. >> And you just want.

>> Do other things. Do other things. >> Like what? Like the mentaling. >> Yeah. Or yoni massage. Do the yoni. massage. >> Oh, a good yon massage. >> Uh oral. Like have him lick your. >> Oh. >> So you can Yeah. Go there. >> Have him lick your instead of. penetrating. Just. >> really say it. >> Yeah. Yeah. Like hold back. If like he. can lick your massage your butthole and. like you would just have combo orgasm. like you would have goosebumps. >> Do you think. >> Oh my god. >> I should try to get my boyfriend to let. me eat as. >> Yeah.

>> Do you think that's something that a lot. of guys should experience? >> Yeah. >> I would I. really cuz the G-spot's like for a guy. in the in the ass, right? >> Yeah. Like about one and a half inch. inside his bowl. Isn't what the gu like. in between the. >> well that so the prostate is internal so. you can activate it by massage massaging. the paranium which is like the area. >> but you would massage really hard. So. you would use both of your thumbs and.

maybe coconut oil so it heats up and. then you would massage like this for. like 5 minutes and then he could come. from that. Um that is truly. >> Saturn you guys need to try this or. something. That's what it sounds like. But then also like putting your finger. in the but then you can't just like. insert like you have to massage the. >> Wow. >> for all the blood to pull there. So that. like. >> guys I need to go to the bathroom. Go. throw up. I mean. >> we're talking about his um. >> I guess he really got excited. He's.

about to. >> Guys, I'm about to go. >> We support that. >> Oh my god. >> Yeah. So once you massage a place like. wherever it is, the blood flow will go. there which is then more arousing. That's so a lot of times people make. mistakes of like oh I'm just going to. like have fun and like put stuff in. there. Like of course it's like yes. that's what I do. >> He knows about that John. >> Some people put like a little toy truck. in there. >> A toy truck? >> Yeah. Like I've so a friend of mine who.

is uh the Hollywood big doctor um he has. a practice in West Hollywood and people. will come in with like stuff that's like. stuck in their like people put up their. ass all the time just experimenting. A. toy truck. >> Who the. >> Why would you do that? >> A toy. >> Yeah. I'm uh I don't know. But yeah, basically you have to massage it first. so blood pulls there. Once there's blood. flow there's more uh arousal then. Enter. >> Oh, I I one of my dreams is to to peg. I.

want to I want to. >> so empowering. >> Have you done it? >> Yeah. >> Oh my god. >> It's like one of the most empowering. thing ever. >> I feel like I'd have a good stroke game. >> I love having a. >> I that's the thing. I feel like I would. be able to hit that [ __ ] from the back. so good. >> Yeah. Yeah. I've been practicing my hips. like Right. >> Doing squats like Yeah. making sure I. have hip power. >> I would get a six-pack from. Yeah. Yeah, you look you look good. Let. me let me see. Yeah. Yeah.

>> See, I I I just want to strap him. >> I feel like. >> I feel like you would be really good at. that. >> What are you talking about, man? >> Pegging. Pegging. >> Oh, >> yeah. >> This is. >> on a different kind of subject. >> Okay. >> So, I feel like society nowadays is. like, man, you got to have a [ __ ]. punisher, you know? M. >> like this is how they make you feel like. it's supposed to be, you know, and. realistically I could show you.

>> Are you going to pull your pants down? >> I'm not. >> I'm like, is this that kind of show? >> Only on the exclusive website. >> I didn't do my research well enough. >> I thought this was about pop culture. >> I've had that are like probably 10 in if. not more. And then I've had like average. size. >> You have had a 10 in clap it up. I mean, how. >> was it a Is it him? He's like on me. >> You have had a 10 in. >> Yeah. >> Who? >> He was. >> Was it a star? >> He No, he was like 6'5 though. He was.

like in his late 20s. >> Jason in love. >> Is it? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Is it? >> No. >> Oh, >> imagine. >> 10 in. I've never even seen it in real. life. >> Yeah. You know, like a. >> really. >> No. The biggest I've seen is 8 in and. it's like way too big. >> Yeah. No, it was probably the biggest. dick I've ever seen in my life. And it. was really scary. It was. >> Did it fit? >> It hurt so bad. I think it permanently. scarred me. >> No, no. See, like women don't want to. date men with 8 in. Women want boyfriend.

dick. >> One time a girl back, she was like, "You. have like boyfriend.". >> So there is too big. >> Oh yeah. >> Is there a hookup dick and then. boyfriend? >> So hookup dick is like that. Like. sometimes every once in a while it's. like it's like a night when you're on a. bender just drinking too much. >> and and you're and you're like not I'm. not dating this person. Like this is a. one time. This is like a novelty gift. >> Wow. >> An experience. Like going on a roller. coaster. You don't do that every day, >> right? >> Yeah. No. Right. >> 100%. >> Yeah. Sometimes you just want to go to.

Whole Foods, >> right? >> Yeah. Literally, >> you want to go walk around the grocery. store with a $30 smoothie. You want a. good Whole Foods shake for four bucks. 30 bucks. >> Four bucks. Have you been to Whole. Foods? >> Nothing. Whole Foods is four bucks. No, I had uh. >> like homemade ones, you know, like the. >> Yes, we we want boyfriend dicks. >> Yeah. Yeah. Is that So that's what. people want. >> 5 in is about average. Um hard, not. flaccid, it's about average in the. United States. I remember being like 16.

year old and like went into a sauna. >> in in in Scandinavia in Finland and like. all the dudes were right cuz in. Scandinavia they don't wear. >> they're just they're just. >> they go to sauna's name. So I went in. and I'm like, "Whoa." They all have like. tiny cuz you know when it's really when. it's really really hot your just kind of. like shrink or. >> super cold. >> Yeah. Or super cold. >> And it's like this literally. >> it's like you can put it like inward and. it would be. >> like a little artichoke. >> Yeah. >> It's like a manggina.

>> Yeah, it is. And I was like, "Wow." Like. they all have really small. But then I. had a boyfriend there and I'm like, "Oh, no, never mind. They grow.". >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. But some people have there are. showers and. >> so it's just the same soft as it is. hard. >> Now there's people like. >> like like this much different. >> like like it would be like soft like. this and then hard like this. >> Dude, that would be so dope. >> Insane. >> Oh my god. Walking around in your pants. >> Yeah. No, I love I I I prefer a grower. >> It's like a little surprise. It's like. opening up a. >> Yeah, cuz that you also do. I don't.

know. You you can also really see the. arousal. >> like when he's turned off it goes like. this. >> Yeah, exactly. >> So, speaking of this, I wanted to ask. this question. I had it earlier. Um, what do you think about like enhancing. drugs like Viagra or a blue or a honey. pack? Honey packs are like really trendy. right now amongst I guess college-aged. people like myself or people in their. early 20s. Do you think this stuff. works? Does it actually harm you in the. long run? What are like the side.

effects? Does it affect your performance. after taking something like that if. you're trying to do it natural? What's. your take on it? >> So, a lot of questions there. Um, >> all right. Yeah. Yeah. No, just in. general, what do you think about this? >> So, does it work? It works because it's. pharmaceutical, right? It's like taking. a migraine drug like it takes away your. migraine. Same thing if you have ED, erectile dysfunction, uh, and you take. these drugs, it will work because again, it's pharmaceutical. So, does it work? It does. Um, >> like I've had people touch my arms and.

I'm on something like I'm just like, >> "What were you on?". >> Uh, I took uh honey pack. >> and it's like a. >> honey that just comes in the package and. uh I was like hard for like two days. after that. >> Oh, so it's like a blue chew but it's in. a honey pack. Okay. Um. >> like over the counter. >> They prescription store. I got that at a. store. >> Oh my god. Legit. >> Super legit. >> So that's so sketchy. Um, >> yeah. Royal Honey, that's what it is.

called. Like, I don't even know what's. in it. I probably shouldn't have. >> So, it's not FDA approved. >> So, I'm [ __ ] I'm going to die. >> You shouldn't take anything that's not. FDA approved. >> Damn. >> Yeah. >> I also have taken sealis. >> Yeah, that's that's pharmaceutical. >> Yeah, that stuff. Oh my god, >> that works forever. say a good story and. I mean just like. >> yeah but at the same time I do want to. say you know um. >> it doesn't hurt there's no negative side. effects.

>> however in a long-term relationship or. in your life like longevity like you. don't want to always rely on something. right it's like you want to be good on. your own. >> and a lot of people's sexual confidence. like showing up confidently in bed is. knowing you are capable without without. external help. >> So I think training your penis or. training yourself to. >> sorry. >> training your to become reliant on your. own.

>> Mhm. >> I think it's more powerful than relying. on a drug. >> Do you think. >> cuz also like you're 23 like are you. going to take it for the next 70 years? >> Hell no. I don't take it every I've. taken it I've tried both of them one. time in my life and it worked. >> Yeah. Like from time to time I think. it's completely fine. I support it. There's no shame. >> Three time thing. Do you think it could. be compared to like socializing only. when you're drunk? Like drinking to go. to a party and that becomes to be around. other people. Exactly. >> You got to be able to do it without. drinking. >> Yeah. You should be able to socialize. with people without drinking. Same with.

you should be able to have sex without. taking any drugs. However, it doesn't. mean from time to time you want to. party. From time to time you want to. take a pill, it's okay, >> right? >> Yeah. Like if you go to a sex party like. parties are very. >> Have you been to a diddy party? >> No. That was a long. >> No. >> No. >> No. >> So, you stand on that? >> No. >> What? >> No. No. Are you picking up on that? >> I am not. >> Okay. Okay. >> But you've been to sex parties.

>> a lot. >> A lot. >> Yeah. I've been to a lot of sex. >> What do they look like? >> Is it like after a certain time they're. just like, "Let's get it.". >> Yeah. >> Really? >> Well, there are many different types. So, what type do you want to. >> Well, every I don't even know anything. about this. >> Kayla said that one time she was at a. party and it turned into a like invited. to a party that. >> See, they don't even invite me. >> Like, what the hell? >> Cuz they think you're 13. >> They think I'm Renee rap. >> You should like tattoo your ID on your.

face. >> Tattoo 23. >> Yeah. So people know they think you're. fan. What can I say? >> They don't want to invite you because. you're underage. >> Yeah. >> Damn. Yeah. >> But so you went to a party? >> Yeah. This YouTuber, he was invited me. to a party and right before I was about. to say yes to go, all my friends were. like, "Well, he brings each girl in one. at a time and we all [ __ ] him and then. walk out and I. >> So that's not his party, right? That's. just him wanting.". >> Yeah. No, that's not a sex party on a. train. Yeah. >> That's crazy.

>> And girls do that. >> Oh, they were all really excited to go. They were they were. >> See, that's fascinating to me because. like a party is so different like that. >> What is the vibe of. >> that sounds like a bit sketchy, >> right? Like Yeah. >> Yeah. It sounds like a bit like he's. filming it. >> Oh, and I did that vibe. I didn't go. I. did not go. Too [ __ ] scared. >> I wouldn't advise. Yeah. No, that. doesn't sound. >> How does this go down? Like what is a. sex party?

>> God, there's so many different types. Let's see. >> But what do you mean different types? Like how would. >> Okay, let's start with types. So when. you when people say party or or actually. in our field we say play party because. >> sorry play party. >> You don't always have. >> Oh no I didn't say sorry. I'm not sorry. >> You're not. >> It's a play party. >> Yeah it's a play party. So when you go. to a play party there are different. types. So. >> the first type is sort of more artsy. It's um people that are in the community. aka like non- monogous people like get. together and it's organized at someone's.

like mansion and it's like a more lowkey. sort of like Burning Man vibe like you. know people hanging out. >> just like outside. >> like. >> isn't Burning Man outside? >> No, like Burning Man people. >> Okay. >> Yeah. That people that go to like or. >> psychedelics. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like. hanging out like in in a in the house. like in a mansion. there's like a DJ. playing like tribal house music and it's. like a vibe, right? Like you wear. lingerie to go and then you um at some. point then like take your clothes off.

and start like participating. >> Everyone's just naked. >> Everyone Yeah. >> No. >> Yeah. Yeah. But you don't have to have. You don't have to have Here's the number. one myth. >> Wait, you can just watch. >> party. Here's a number one myth that. people have about sex party is like. everyone just And it's not true. A lot. of people don't ever [ __ ] anybody at a. sex party. You can just be naked, look. around, go in a corner. Like there's. this there's this famous guy. He He's a. jerk off guy and he's at like every. party in a corner like off.

>> Really? >> We all know him. >> Probably. >> Wow. >> No, maybe not cuz you're young. He's. older. >> Wow. >> He's probably in his like 50s and he's. just jerking off and at every party. >> Yeah. Yeah. He's just in a corner off. But it's his thing like watching and. like. >> Yeah. that that is. >> But so that's that's the first type of. party which is more artistic and it's. people in the community. >> You have to pay to go. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Everyone has to pay. You have to submit your tests. So you. have to get an STD test. >> You have to submit your test and um and.

then you have to apply. So you can't. just show up. >> You have to submit an application like. college. It's like going to college. Yeah. You have to submit an application, submit photos. You have to have a like. reference letter. You have to have a. referral. What? >> Then they interview you. >> like actually. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Like the people that run. >> like on Zoom. Yeah. Yeah. >> Be like, "What are your intentions? What?". >> Yeah. They don't want creeps. Like. >> parties are like the best parties ever. Like in terms of night life, it's much.

better. >> Got to get John to. >> It's so much better than clubbing cuz. it's like everyone's there consensually. Everyone has got gotten tested. >> Yeah. Uh, and everyone sort of. good-looking because it's you apply to. go. Um, and they curate the people. >> and it's usually like a couple hundred. people. There's like a show so like. bondage show. Um, there are games like. they had games where like there's a. woman um that has like a butt pluck on. her that like lays on the table and the. butt pluck is also like a stick up. So.

then you like throw you know those those. games at the fair where you throw like. >> butt plug. Yeah. Rings. The rings. Like. you throw the rings. Yeah. >> What? >> Yeah. So, like they have games. Uh. there's like a naked painting where you. like get naked, have paint on your body, and go like roll around on the canvas. together with other people. There's this. woman that like squirt it on the canvas. Um it's it's like it's. >> No, this is incredible. >> It's.

>> Is it like a lot of rich people that go. to these? Well, this one I think is more. democratized, I think, cuz this one is. like only I think um like $150 to $300. per person. >> God damn. >> But then there's also another one that I. go to with my husband and it's um. $1,500. >> What? >> Yeah. Uh and that one. >> paying rent. >> How many hours do you have to be there? >> $1,500? >> Oh, we're there all night. Um. >> all night like till the sun's up. >> Till five. Yeah.

>> Oh, wow. >> Yeah. cuz people start playing like. having sex at around like midnight. >> You sound like you have one of the most. fun lives. >> It does. It's quite good. This is it's. it's quite good. It's a fun life and we. are very safe. Here's the thing about. >> 12k a year. >> Yeah. Here's the thing about like. parties. It's it's extremely consensual. >> Like no one touches anyone. >> until you verbally ask like may I touch. you? >> Then you can do it. Like there's no.

nonverbal consent. There's no like make. eye contact and go grope her. Like no. Everything is verbal and upfront. That's. why I I love it. I think it's so safe. It feels like the safest place ever cuz. everyone's vetted. >> Okay. >> Wow. >> Yeah. Like clubs I don't go anymore cuz. I think it's so creepy. And then like. there's always guys are like, "Oh, I've. seen you on TikTok." And it touch his. penis. >> Oh, ew ew ew ew. >> Yeah. No, sex parties are like where. it's at. And everyone's vetted. Everyone. applied. Everyone got tested. And also. my favorite part. No phones.

>> No one has a phone. >> They lock your phones up out front. >> Wow. >> Yeah. So, it's like all the secrets that. happen there. Like that's the first time. I went to um one of these $1,500. parties. Uh I literally had with my. husband next to like a really big. Hollywood star and I like squirted and. it like got on his face a little bit and. he turned around and I said, "You're. welcome.". >> Oh my god. Wait, what? What? >> Yeah, it that was fun for us. Like we.

that So that was our New Year's party. So we went there for like the New Year's. countdown. >> I mean, happy new year. >> Yeah, that was really fun. >> That was really fun. But then here's the. thing, it's so normal cuz like after we. did that, put our clothes on, went to. like eat some cake pops, >> got an Uber home, um and then my my my. husband made me a made me ramen. We ate. ramen together and then went to bed. >> Wholesome. >> Yeah. Wait. >> Is Is squirting something that only some. people can do? >> No, everyone can.

>> Really? >> Yeah. >> I don't know. >> Everyone can squirt. >> Is there like a certain way to get. somebody to squirt? Like is is there. like a a way to really? >> Yeah. Yeah. You have to be really good. at fingering. >> It's from fingering mostly. >> Easier. >> Really? >> Yeah. You can squirt some like you can. squirt through oral like if they like. lick your [ __ ] and and you get like so. turned on you could also like ejaculate. >> Does it feel like you're about to piss? >> Yeah.

>> That's what squirt it feels like. >> Yeah. So you felt that before but you. stop right? >> Yeah. If you let go you would then. squirt. >> I'm sorry John. I'm sorry. >> No no no. This is I love it. I love. Jacob looks a little scared but I'm. terrified. >> I I also how how do you get into sucking. balls? Cuz that's something I learned. recently. That guy's like, "And I want. to learn how to suck balls." And that's. something I am trying to get passionate. about. I'm very serious. >> I'm really good at sucking balls. >> What do you do? Like, cuz how do you How. do you, guys? I'm being so [ __ ].

serious right now. How. >> My husband like tells me every time. >> like you're good at. >> like when we're done, like when he. comes, he's like, "Oh, you're so good at. this. >> How do you suck? Like, do you just like. like swish it in like. >> you want to start?" So, you want to. start with fondling. So like you want to. start with using your hands, but also if. you have long nails, you don't have long. nails, you have to be careful cuz you. can like you snag it and it hurts a lot. Like I've done that before and like he. like screamed. >> Um you you start with fondling. So like. you know again like you want blood to. pull to a to a place like we talked.

about this before. Um anatomy. Yes. >> Um so you want to fondle it first and. then you want to move into like going. down there and like start licking it up. and down. Um once you start licking the. balls up and down it will sort of like. become more firm. And when it becomes. more firm, it's ready. Then you want to. like start having one side of it in your. mouth. >> And you don't want to it right away. because it would hurt. >> You want to just have it in your mouth. and like like move your tongue around. it. >> Okay. Okay. >> Yeah. And then and then it will get even.

more firm and then you can put both in. your mouth. >> and then you can start doing like baby. sucks. You go. Do you eat popsicles? >> Yes. >> Yeah. Okay. So, you know how like. sometimes you'll suck really hard to get. the juice out, but sometimes you'll just. kind of like suck a little bit and lick. it a little bit. It's like suck a little. bit. Get a little bit. >> I'm really excited to start. >> Yeah, it's supposed to be like orgasmic. I mean, I've I've made my husband come. from just like sucking his balls. >> This is I found out recently that guys. like they're being even touched. So, I'm. I mean. >> I saw from you where you were like you.

have to tickle the balls. >> You have to. >> This is I was going to ask like what do. you mean by that? >> Play with the balls cuz like it's a part. of the whole G, right? Like if it's like. it's like if you just play with the. shaft, it's fine. Like he can he. definitely comes from playing with the. shaft. But like then you're missing out. on all these parts. You guys are young. so it's okay to like play with the shaft. for the next 10 years. But then you get. to your 30s and then what? You've done. the same thing for the last 15 years. Then. >> yeah, >> but so like hooking up. >> you guys start playing with balls,

eating ass like peg and you got to. explore. >> Oh. >> But so if I'm hooking up with somebody, do I just tell them like yo, tickle the. balls? I think there are sexier ways to say. that. >> Yeah. Yeah, of course. All right. Sorry. Let me practice. >> Let's role play. >> Okay. Here we go. >> Oh my god. Okay. >> I'm so scared. >> Okay. So, we just met, >> but I'm very scared of you. >> We're Okay. Like, let's say we're on a. date. Let's say we're on a date. Okay. We're. >> very nice. >> We're at um. >> Okay. We're at. >> Where do kids go nowadays?

>> Um um Barney. You're at Barney. >> We're at Barney's Beanery. Bar. >> Barney. >> Okay. Let's say Go. >> Is it like a cartoon thing? It's a bar. It's a bar. >> Wait, how young are you? >> Barney is like the purples. I don't. know. >> It's It's a bar in West Hollywood. It's. like a bar. >> It's a dive bar. >> Okay. >> Gotcha. Okay. So, we're there and you're. like, "Play my play with my phone.". >> No, I would never say that there. What. the hell? >> You could That would You could. >> What What would I say then? >> I think it would be so sexy when guys.

start dirty talking on a date, >> right? Wouldn't you say so if you're on. a date with your boyfriend and he goes. like, "I can't wait to touch you. I I um I'd get naked right there. >> Yeah, >> exactly. I think men are missing out. They They need to start dirty talking on. a date. >> I' I've always said guys who talk during. sex and they like say so hot when they. say things. >> Now, this was the craziest episode we've. ever done. >> This is. >> And I'm scared for my parents and all of. our fans to watch. >> No, I think this is I if I was just a.

viewer, this is this helped me even. sitting here listening. Yeah. >> I think my my whole goal in life is just. that. >> for people to know there's no shame in. sex. There's no shame in talking about. sex. >> Yeah. >> There's no shame in experimenting. There's no shame in making mistakes. There's no shame in farting during sex. There's no shame in, you know. >> Is that called quefing? >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> Good. I'm learning. >> Yeah. I thought you don't have sex. >> I don't. No, I don't. I just have heard. that term.

>> Yeah. So, so yeah, I hope that this. episode helps people feel like, yeah, sex is just normal, man. >> Get out there and just start being a. dog. Like, just start [ __ ]. >> No, no, that took away. >> Jacob, you got the wrong lesson for. >> I think you start nothing. >> You start being a freak. I think like. when you meet that woman, you're like. >> when I find the right one. >> Yes. I think you. >> then Okay. >> Yeah. >> Well, I really appreciate you coming on. here. This was awesome. I'm sorry if I. was like a little bit squirmy or you.

know. >> Yeah. Why did you go to the bathroom. three times? >> Yeah. I. >> like why. >> you know gota I I. >> You got a little too excited. >> I had to pee. >> Diarrhea. >> No, I had to pee. >> I had to uh take care of business, you. know. Seriously, thank you so much. You're welcome. >> Everyone can follow you. What's your. username on all social media? Dr. Tara. >> No, it's Love Bites. L U V B I T E S. >> On Instagram, Tik Tok.co. Yeah, but if you just Google like Dr. Tara sex, it will come up.

>> This is Yeah, I'm very excited. I hope. maybe in a year we can meet again and. then we I can be like. >> maybe you guys will like meet at a sex. party. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I'm like I'm suddenly. >> I can write you a reference letter. >> Oh my god. >> You'll be able to get in. >> Yeah. >> Oh, hell yeah. >> You need a reference letter. >> Oh my god. I This is like Yeah. Hopefully next time I see you, I'm a. ball sucker. >> Yeah. Hopefully, next time you see me, you would have uh had sex with my song. >> Yes. Yeah, I suck balls to the song.

>> And I'll be able to say I masturbated, too. >> I used your Yeah, exactly. I need to get. another one. I'm actually going to order. one today. >> Make me proud. >> I will. >> Yeah. >> Thank you so much. Yeah. Thank you. >> Send me a photo. I will. >> Not your penis. The the pocket [ __ ]. >> Oh, I was like, I I'm done. I'll send. you a picture of my penis. >> Send me a picture of your pocket [ __ ]. >> She's like, oo, it was a micro. >> Yeah. She's like, "Wait, I thought that. was a joke.". >> Thank you so much. That was like. actually the best episode. >> Thank you so much.

>> So much fun. Thank you. >> Thank you. Oh my god. >> We love you guys. Subscribe, like, comment down below. And I'm sure. everybody here learned something new. today. >> I did. I'm going to have fun tonight. >> Be safe. Be safe. >> Lucky guy. You can wear my sweatshirt. and you can tell your friends we'll be. together till the end. Girl, you can. wear my sweatshirt.

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