#ABtalks with Nancy Ajram | Chapter 243

It's not a nice feeling. to miss someone you love. Do you get me? My audience is from age 5 to 90. and I have gone. into every home. Is Nancy on stage. the same Nancy off stage? my dad would always tell me. “Be careful”. “Be careful”. So this “be careful”. is still with me. Did you compare your life. with your siblings? with your siblings? They were living. a normal child's life. but you were not? Have you you ever been embarrassed on stage?

This person. and I love them. How do you feel. when you see your daughters? this is the best achievement I have done in my life. Better than music and all. the awards? It's a nice answer. Honest. What are you afraid of? Of death. If today. were the last night of your life. Who is the person. you would be the saddest. about not being able to talk to? You cannot do anything about it. I hope they don't hear it now.

After struggling for 65 years. I finally sat down with Nancy. So anyway, we waited for a good amount of time. 65 years? I said 65. and none of us is 65 actually. The meeting was supposed to happen. a long time ago. but we waited. and I know, as an audience. you've been asking for this interview for a long time. So finally, as Nancy said, everything is beautiful in its time. True. So, I hope you like the episode. and I hope you will see.

maybe new sides of Nancy. Because we talked for a long time. and there were many questions. - I hope you - Right. you liked it. It was very different. I really enjoyed it. Because you're someone different. and I like. to be with someone different. Someone smart. I like smart people. - And you're smart - And the nosy. And nosy, most importantly. I am very nosy. Yes, but. - Your curiosity has increased now - I feel it's important. - It increased - Because me and you. both of us are nosy.

- So come on, let’s go - True. I hope you like the episode. guys and girls. Always support us. so we can bring you the best guests. and the best stories. Those who love Nancy. I hope you'll love her even more. after the interview. Those who don't know Nancy. find her everywhere. Enjoy the music she has presented. for years and years. It's not easy for someone to continue. successfully for years and years. There are many artists. few around the world. who managed to remain present. for this long period. and until now. generations after generations.

love them. So, thank you. Thank you, Anas.

Okay. At last. but not least. True. We'll sit down with my mother. soon, God willing. without cameras. To begin, Hello, Nancy. How are you really doing? How am I really doing? Now, how I'm doing. has many. different aspects. but in general. I’m very good.

Tell me. one of the aspects. What are they? what are the factors that when added altogether. make the result ''good''. Because. I feel that. there isn't always. in life. I mean, life. is not always. you can’t always say. in absolute terms, I. am not happy with my life. or I am happy. Life is made up of. happy moments. and happy memories, I mean.

beautiful memories. good times. As much as you can. collect and create them in your life. the result is. the more you multiply them. the result is that you. You have a happy life. Your life is happy. in general. I mean, because. If I wake up from sleep every day. and say that. I have this and that. and think about them all day, no. Happiness in life.

is a decision. You decide whether. you want to live happily or not. and there are things you can do in your life. that make you feel happiness. things that make you happy when you do them. Then, you're collecting beautiful moments. and the more. these beautiful moments are. the more. your life will be. closer to happiness. than to unhappiness. What makes Nancy happy? Some of the things. Many things. and very simple things. A nice gathering.

with people I love. a nice visit. a cup of coffee with someone. I love. a nice trip. Maybe some nice words you come across. and I reciprocate those words later. a nice concert. a nice success. a new success. There are many things in life. when I think. that make me happy. A dish that is delicious. that I eat. with a lot of appetite. For me this. is happiness.

Sitting in a cosy place with my kids. Going out into nature, there are many things. Do you maintain these things? You make sure. they're there. so you don’t burn out. and not feel. that that’s it. I really preserve. these things. and now more than before. I mean, even though. now I. work a lot. and travel a lot. but I keep saying. I keep thinking.

that I. want to find time. even though my work is happiness. for me, honestly. It is meditation. I love to sing. I love to meet people. who love me and I love them. There is this mutual feeling. of love and joy. But I also find. other times. for me to also be. I do things. that make me even happier. Things that. increase the things that make me happy.

Okay. And who are you, Nancy? Who am I? Now we want, Up until now, honestly. I'm still discovering myself. Until now. I can't say now “I am complete”. “This is who I am”. Because a person truly keeps discovering themselves. at every stage. I discover a new me. I discover. a new Nancy.

I discover. what I love. and what I do not love. who I like to be with. who I don't like to be with. What are the things. that upset me. so that I don't do them. or don't let. anyone do them. to me. and the things that make me happy. That's it, I mean. every stage has. a new Nancy, I can't say who I am now. Now I am someone. definitely.

better than yesterday. Today I'm better than yesterday. and tomorrow I will be better than today. And how do you make sure? that you become better? A decision. You decide every day. to be better than yesterday? Right, of course. And this is what, in my opinion. makes me. At least. between me and myself. feel better than yesterday. My feeling tells me. I know myself.

And Nancy who. What? Why did you laugh? Nothing. What did you think? I just wanted to make you laugh. It's easy to make me laugh. Is Nancy on stage. the same Nancy off stage? At heart, yes. In my heart I am always myself. on stage.

how I look at people. how my love. for people is. How I see people. I'm the same. on a human level. But of course on stage. I am. I mean, a star. I'm standing. on a stage singing. it is different from how you see me in. everyday life. not in my heart. but in my behavior. Of course. there are different things. Okay.

But usually. On stage. I really. I observe people a lot. I like to observe. I remember many faces. Now, I don't. always remember names. but I remember many faces. And I know very well. while I'm singing. who is happy. who is. less happy. I get closer to them. I like. it to be. I mean, I like to have. good energy. at my concerts. And I saw this.

because when I saw you in El Gouna. Look, I have been to a lot of concerts. There are concerts where. the artist. sings and leaves. but maybe they don’t have... You feel it's the same like in the album. They don't do anything different. And there are. singers and artists. who have a presence. they know. how to play with the audience. and read the audience. I mean, even. one of my friends. who is a DJ. said that the DJ has to. not only play the playlist in his head.

He must live the music. To see... Is there a positive reaction from the audience? Are they liking this style? Okay, I’ll go more with this style. True. So he plays. based on emotion. and plays based on excitement. So, I noticed that you. you know. you know. how to control the whole place. you make people have fun. some get up and dance. and enjoy it with you. You greet this and talk to that. So I noticed that. you have this thing. This also comes more with experience.

and it also depends more on. the person. how high their EQ is. I feel the people around me a lot. That is an important skill. It is important. but tiring sometimes. True. You know, I was telling. the therapist I talk to. I told him, awareness.

I mean, awareness. has consequences. When you are very aware. it is exhausting. So much. He told me, yes. but with the mind that you have. The way. your mind works, it cannot tolerate. being naive. or foolish. You have to search and learn. But sometimes I feel like that’s it. once you know, you cannot unknow. once you are aware, you cannot be unaware. Exactly, 100%. You know? It is exhausting. and the more you know. the more you get tired.

Especially when. your nature is to dig into things. to find out more. When you dig, you get tired. - Because sometimes - I wanted to say that. because sometimes. you're expecting something. and you end up with something else. It leaves you with. disappointment sometimes. So sometimes I tell myself. Stop. digging more. That's it. Look at the picture from the outside. don't go into details anymore. because they exhaust you.

But you're curious. - But I can't - Curiosity is important. I can't. I understand. Okay, let's go back. Your childhood in three words. Summarize your childhood in three words. Take out. the word childhood. Okay, so the absence of. of childhood is one. A big responsibility.

Exhaustion. Let's describe each one. Why did you answer. so quickly and said. ''Remove the word childhood'' Why? Because I didn't live a childhood. I mean, it was not there. I lived a childhood. before I. became aware. of life. before I became aware of the world. Maybe. I was three years old. four years old. five years old. I think as far as I remember. I think that. from the photos that I see. I did live a childhood.

but after that. My youngest daughter. is six now. I was seven years old. the first time. I went on stage and sang. at seven years old. Now, when I look at my daughter. I say to myself. that. she is so young. How? So, the responsibility. was much bigger than me. Not. it was not my place.

Like someone eating food that does not suit them. not for their body. It was like that. It was hard. because... I would sit with people who weren't my age. listen to conversations that didn't suit my age. I mean, I would go. sing on stages. stay up late at night. also not for my age. I was supposed to sleep early.

I would memorize songs. also not for my age. I wouldn't understand their meanings, I just memorized them. and it was hard. for me to memorize them. Egyptian songs, old songs. long ones, I mean. I remember, I used to write them down. My mom used to write them for me. because. the Arabic lyrics were difficult. but I used to memorize. them by ear. and read. as much as I could. That's how it was, that's it.

And you said exhausting? Staying up late. Memorizing. along with school. I would go to school. come back and study my lessons. I would crave sometimes. you know, to have. for example, my dad used to. really love, his dream. that I would be someone. famous and all that. and he achieved his dream. I mean, I achieved his dream for him. For example, if I had. let's say I was going to sing on Saturday.

Starting Monday. I get scared. I mean, not on Saturday. or an hour before. Starting Monday. I start to worry, When he'd tell me I have a concert on Saturday. Starting Monday. I start feeling anxious. about how I will sing. Every time I think about it. I feel like. this pain of it. like someone who has an exam. This, this exhaustion. at a young age.

seven years old, eight years old. And does this plant. anger? No, no. Towards your parents? No. It did not plant anger. Did it not plant anger. because it's the only life you lived. and didn't know to compare it to anything else? You know? This is the life I knew, Anas. I didn't know any other life. I used to see my friends. they were living a different. life. and my siblings. were living a different life. Right. but it didn't.

Now, at the time. of course I was not happy. I was not happy. I mean, I was. not really not happy. but I was always. feeling that. even playing. even when I just wanted to go have fun. if I went. I felt I had a burden. a responsibility. that could possibly not be there. but it was there. All the time. as if. you're always thinking. that tomorrow. You have something weighing on you.

I mean, I was always living in tomorrow. Tomorrow I will do well. I will not do well, I will. That is it, especially since he told my dad that. I have to. people have to be. happy at the party. and mistakes are forbidden. You have to memorize. the songs. Don't you dare make a mistake. It is forbidden. You have to create an atmosphere. and these words. Now, at the time. my dad maybe didn't know that these. were things I wasn't ready for.

but I didn't have a choice. Little by little, I became ready. Right. I reached this point. where you're telling me that. I can feel people. So, that is why I don't have anger. On the contrary, no. instead, I understand. I understand my dad a lot. that he was. he wasn't doing it. to hurt me. He was doing it. because. he wanted something to come out of me.

and he knew that. I have a beautiful voice. and he believed in me. until the last minute, until now. He was persistent. and he did this. and now my life is good. thanks to him, I mean. Did you come from a modest family? Was there a huge need? Moderate. No, no, there was no need. My dad. used to go and pay money. to people to let me sing. only to strengthen my personality. and to make me.

Yes, to practice. To make me stand more on. stages and get more used to standing on stage. and to the people. and create an atmosphere. No, on the contrary, Even around us in the area. He would know. there's a party here or there. He would call his friends. Saying, ''I want to bring Nancy''. and sometimes even. he had to pay money. No, not for. not for the money. No, I am comparing. Your story, of course. it's not apples to apples.

but when I see, for example. The Jackson Five. since their childhood. they were a band. and then Michael Jackson went off on his own. but later. he always used to complain that he didn't. live his childhood. Then he tried to live his childhood. and make amusement parks, etc. There is a football player. called Thierry Henry. Thierry Henry. his father was very strict with him. and he tried to make his son a striker. until he grew up. and became professional. in football. When he scored goals. he wouldn't smile. Why? But when he did anything else. he was happy.

When he gave a pass to his teammate. and his teammate scored, he was happy. But when he scored a goal. he was always angry. serious. So, when he went into psychology. The psychologist told him. You have. a kind of resentment. that your father was always telling you. that you must score. you must score a goal. so when you scored a goal it felt like homework. and you don't like it. You do not like homework. But when you do anything else on the pitch. you are happy, but still Thierry. used to say that. in the end my father made me. play in the World Cup.

I reached and won the World Cup. I played with Zinedine Zidane. and others. Thanks to my father. who was hard on me. Right. So, the relationship was strange. between him and his father. There was. anger that you were strict with me. when I was young. but at the same time, thank you. Same thing, right. You know, it's hard. The same thing. For example, I. now. there is no way I'd be. that strict with any of my daughters. in this way. There is no way, maybe not strict. but I cannot. force them that much. I can't.

But maybe he is stronger than me. Maybe he is stronger than me. He had the ability to. Even though I was cute. when I was little. I mean, he should have. felt sorry for me. Spoil you more. How was your relationship with your mom and dad? In what way? I don't know, closeness. Are you close. to both, is it formal? Or not? No. Of course it's not formal. with my mom and dad.

No, but. I was close to. my dad, with news. with news. with stories and such. like. like secrets. My mom. I was close to her through food. Food. She liked to feed us. so much. Like. she was close to me in. I mean, she raised us. with a certain discipline. That's why.

we felt. like now, I mean. contributing with 50%. not to say more. 50% of mothers now. raise their children with discipline. before anything, what time we sleep, what time we eat. Honestly, I feel it's 10%, not 50. I feel it's 10%. Honestly, the other day someone told me. You know what, Nancy? He said to me, do you know that most children. today are orphans? I said, ''What do you mean?''. He said, if children. are raised on iPads and maids.

they are orphans. Where are the parents? And today you walk. in the malls. and you walk in the market. in the street. The mother is distracted. the mother who sleeps. and wakes up late. the mother who doesn't pick them up from school. and the child who's glued to the iPad. 24/7. No 24 hours. fine, six hours a day. and the one who. feeds him. or gives him his food. is the nanny. So, where is mom? Where is dad? So, when you said 50%. I thought, ''No, I see it''. ''as even less''. There is not much discipline.

not much upbringing, unfortunately. Now, we. are living through a very difficult era. from every aspect. I mean, an era. the era of social media is. I mean. it has good sides. it has positives. it has negatives. not only for our children. on us as parents too. There's a huge impact. on. on. all generations.

whether adults or children. Of course, children need. much more. attention. before a certain age. they should not be given. up till a certain age. the child should not be given. an iPad unless. the parents are. meaning, they tell him. for example, you have 20 minutes a day. Now you're not allowed. and they shouldn't give him a mobile. except at a certain age. But, we're not living alone. children go.

to school. they see their friends. they see. people around them. they talk to people around them. They start to see. every parent raises their children in a different way. some children. at the same age. have a phone. some don't. They start coming to complain to their parents. my friend has one, I do not. She has it and I don't. Here, it's the parents' duty. they need to be. how much they need to be. in the way they deal with their children.

how much they're friends. and parents at the same time. how much they advise them that. it's not you who's wrong. they are wrong. that you're right. and they show them that they're right. and they explain why. and not. No, with punishment. I said no, to punish you. This generation doesn't understand this way. Right. This generation understands, Our children's generation, not our own. they understand through dialogue. They understand. when things are explained to them.

through explanation. if you explain it to them. They'd act stubborn once. twice. then they understand. that no, and they might go. and also defend themselves. ''No, we should not have phones now''. Now this, needs a lot of effort. from the parents, mothers and fathers. That's why I was telling you. that it also affects us as well. Also, parents nowadays. are also on social media. - Right - Unfortunately. They follow. their jobs, half of it.

has become on social media. meetings have all become. half of them online. Zoom calls. Zoom meetings, Zoom everything. life and technology have taken us to a place. where we were forced to be. we can no longer go back. and hopefully it will not be. worse ahead. Hopefully it will not. I hope we don't destroy. - AI is coming - a generation. all by itself. But what can we do? We cannot.

be unfair to parents. because they also have circumstances. True. Some parents work, and those who don't. might be putting in more effort. on our children. on the kids so that. they focus more. This is a big topic. Because, honestly. social media. and screens. take away focus. I notice. sometimes. sometimes when. I see that Lea. my daughter is sitting.

for longer than usual. on the iPad. I see that. her concentration has become less. than on other days. So, I notice this. To go back to the question. your relationship with your mom and dad. you said your mother used to teach you discipline. Yes, like all moms. there was a rule at home. what time we wake up. we eat, we sleep. We finish our plate. There is no. There's one dish at home. not a hundred.

not a hotel. There is. There's Sunday. There is. a lunch with the family. I mean, normal. Mom did not work. she was at home. She raised us. Dad used to work. He would go and come. naturally. A man. because he spends all day at work. he comes back and spoils his children more.

Whereas the mother. has been there all day. spending it with them. and she sees the mistakes. that happen every second. and every minute. and there's always. misunderstanding. and constant yelling. Dad comes at night. life is beautiful and happy. He spoils us a lot. Right. Because he sees us. for this half or one hour. before we sleep. So, I mean. our life was. very normal. Did you compare your life. with your siblings?

Because. They were living. a normal child's life. but you were not? Yes. You would you get upset, like why. is it that they don't have to and I do? Yes. I did. but still, I would not say. I mean, I wouldn't tell anyone. not even my mom. Maybe I would tell mom. but not to my dad, because I felt when I was young. that there was nothing that would make him change. Nothing could change. anything about him.

I mean, sometimes we'd have visitors. that I didn't know. People from his work. Dad works in real estate. people would come. to the living room. He would call me to sing songs. and I found that very. very difficult. I mean, usually now. if. imagine, when they called us. we used to feel shy to even greet them. We were shy to say hi. we were shy to say. bonjour or bonsoir.

let alone sing. and by nature I wasn't. I was shy. I was shy by nature. not. I wouldn't quickly. not that kind of personality that would enter. with a loud voice. bonjour, yes, I sing, No, not like that at all. So, it was hard. That's why I didn't. Even when I was little. I knew there was no room for discussion. with him.

What is your best childhood memory? The best memory. Something nice. Yes. I mean, when we. would go. we would go out. on Sunday. all of us together. our outings.

Me and my siblings. and dad and mom in one car. We have fun. we play. We play riddles. they make us guess riddles. and who wants to. who wants to say the first riddle. who will figure it out, know it. The nice days like those. when we would. feel that life. is beautiful, all of us gathered like that. We would go to the snow.

we would go to. the mountains. to areas. of Lebanon. We would go around on Sunday. because dad didn't have work. as soon as he woke up in the morning. we would have breakfast at home. and he would take us on a trip. Sometimes we would also go to our relatives. it was nice. I used to be happy when I went to. my maternal and paternal cousins. we would go because. They wouldn't ask me to sing there. I would play with my cousins.

the adults were on their own and we were on our own. See, look how. the nice day was the one with no singing. and there was childhood. Yes. What's the hardest memory? from your childhood. The hardest memory.

Now we're a bit of a war generation. and we lived through some. we lived through a few years of war. and life was not nice. when there was war. back in the days, I mean. but. and you know, in war sometimes. there is stress on the whole family. and so on. So, there were many. in the difficult times.

misunderstandings would happen. between my father and my mother. We used to get upset. and on top of that, there was war. we wouldn't hide at home because. the shelling was close. to us, to our house. we would split up. I would go. with dad. me and my brother or my sister. and someone with mom. and we wouldn't stay together. we would go hide somewhere. and my mother and my sister. and my brother would hide somewhere else.

Very strange. I feel that it's hard. If I try. to imagine how. because there is the pressure of war. and the pressure of war. puts pressure on the home. And then you see a conflict. between your father and mother. So you see. a lot of pressure, and then you have to separate. because.

you're afraid of the bombing. It's definitely not a normal situation. No, because there is no safety. I mean, safety. in the parents. the safety between the parents. and the safety. in the home and the safety in the country. give us a sense of security. as children, I mean. Just as we are living now, This is something. that keeps repeating. A child needs safety.

what makes him feel. safe the most is. that his parents give him safety. firstly between each other. then towards him. then. in the country he lives in. Did you remember something specific. when I asked you the question? No. This no. Is it real? Or No, let it slide, Anas? No, seriously, I didn't really remember. details, no. I just answered you.

I went back in my mind until I could answer you. because it's the first time, someone asks me this question. and I give this answer, thus. I went back and remembered. I answered you. Thank you. When you. see. your siblings living a normal life. does this affect your relationship with your siblings? Or you can. I mean, you can. resolve it in your head. and say, no, it doesn't concern them.

or does it start. to create jealousy or sensitivity? Why am I the one responsible. and they are not responsible? Does it affect. the relationship? as you're growing up. Maybe at some point. in time, it affected a little. later on, no. Now, no. So how did it not affect? How were you able. to get around it? Okay, so let me explain it to you. I had this. conversation with. my mom, I would tell her. ''Why me?''. Now I knew that I was the only one.

who had a nice voice. But I used to. ask my mom, why me, now? I have to keep going back and forth. and look at them. But when we grew up a bit. my siblings started blaming. my dad, because. he stayed with me. he started caring about me a lot. and in their opinion. were a bit affected. in terms of the time. He would take me to the concert. and bring me back, take me to. rehearsals.

and bring me back. take me to practice. I mean, there was. my dand and I. spent more time together. So my siblings. at a certain age. there would be. a clash, like. between him and my siblings. they would tell him that. you don't even know, You were not with us. You were with. Nancy. This was hard for them, I understand them. But I hope they understand me.

because at the time. I didn't want what was happening. I didn't want. It was not my fault. I didn't tell him to do so. nor did I force him. On the contrary, the decision. was his, not mine. But now they understand. the situation. for a long time, not just now. Right. This happened. during my very first period. maybe even before I became famous. not maybe, for sure. before I became famous. That's normal.

What is funny in all of this. is that you wish you had their life. and they are upset about your life. That's it. You know, they think, no, you have. the bonding time with your father. the priority; you say. No, this is not the bonding that I want. I want to go on a Sunday trip. 100%. We needed someone. just to explain to me. and explain to them. Art. Was it your dream or your father's dream? At first it was my father's dream. then.

it became. it shifted to become my dream, my dream and my dream. and they became dreams. There is a video. that I saw. Karim. Give me. When I conducted my research about you. I found a video, I remembered. Give me the big iPhone. Can I have water please? Okay, when I was doing. the research. before seeing you today. I found. a video when you were. thirteen years old. Do you know the video? No, there are many. videos of me at thirteen.

Do you know this one? No, this is not thirteen. - One moment - Younger. I was younger there. Less than thirteen. - It is written in the title - I was eleven. thirteen. anyway, eleven. And there is a woman called Madeleine Tabar? Madeleine Tabar, yes. An actress. Madeleine Tabar. Do you remember what she told you? Yes. What do you think of what she told you? Shall I play it for you or do you remember? No, she told me that. My dear, you are too young.

to sing and stay up late. - Yes, she said - Right? She said, first I will kiss you. She said, don't get upset at me. and hug you. so she kissed you and hugged you. and then she went and sat down. and she was, very frank. What I liked about her is that she said her personal opinion. she said, maybe I don't understand. she said, first of all. something along the lines of. she said, I am against. any child. anywhere in the world entering the field of. art or any job. too early. So she said, and you sing songs. that maybe. you don't understand yet. about love and romance.

and “my love” and so on. she even said, you. the way you're dressed is not. I wish you would. just wear jeans. and a T-shirt. that suits your age. Then she said, maybe I don't understand. She was realistic. She said that. there is another side to what I'm saying. This is practice. and that you're putting in the hours. and hours. so that in the end. I think she even mentioned. the name of another singer. George, maybe. George Wassouf. Yes, and she said. He also started. Is it true he started early? Of course. - She said, look He started. - at these examples - very early. that in the end.

when they reach the age of fifteen or eighteen. they have already put. the work into it. So this is what she was saying. She is saying. So I wanted to ask you. What do you think. now that you are older, about what she said. Now that you have daughters. No, I told you, for me, regarding this topic. I told you. my daughters now. I cannot imagine that I'm making them. live. that I'm burning. stages of their life. and their age. I cannot imagine it. I also don't want to.

Every age has. every stage of life. and every age has its own time. that a person must live. You cannot get ahead of time. He cannot. When he is ten. he shouldn't live as if he is twenty. Otherwise a baby would be born. already an adult. At once. Why are we born. and there are things we learn. little by little. There are things we shouldn't learn quickly. Time has. its own lust. and its own stages.

and they must be lived. because later. you feel a sense of loss. You regret it later. You say, oh. I didn't live through all of that. It doesn't mean that you're not happy. in your life now. but you will still have. this idea that. Of I didn't live through them. so that's why with my children now. I like. them to live every stage. of their life without missing anything. And I explain to them.

I talk to them about this. We talk a lot. especially me and the older ones. Mila and Ella. We talk a lot about. They sometimes ask me about things. Let me give you an example, for instance. for example. Either. silly things. things related to their clothes. things related to their hair. things, for example. about nail polish. For example, places they want to go to. a trip they want to take.

I tell them, ''It's not the right time''. On the contrary, now. you have to enjoy what you have now. now you can. live this beautiful stage. and then. if you don't live it. you won't live it later. It will not be the right time. to live this stage then. Can we put on nail polish. at the age of ten. or eleven years old? Mommy, it doesn't look nice. It is not nice, it does not suit you. and it is not nice. You won't feel.

Why, you've got time. there is a time coming. when you can put whatever you want. but now it is not nice. think of something else. that suits your age now. that will make you happy. try to enjoy it. try to love. the things that are right for your age. I mean, you guide them. You make them. think that. No, this is what's right. this is how we should act. Because. sometimes the child. if you tell him.

Yes, do everything as you like. They don't feel secure. They need to hear the word ''No''. They have to hear. his mother's opinion. his father's opinion. So they feel that. No, thankfully. I'm at ease, there is someone. who tells me what to do. They feel safe and relaxed. until they reach. a stage. and a time when they can decide. Parents start giving him. authority gradually. You decide about this. You decide about that. What do you like? We help you with what you like to do.

We are by your side. we support you. There comes a time when. parents need to know that, no. You cannot decide for them at this age. you cannot decide on their behalf now. They should do something they love. True. That's how I see it. That's it. We're moving through a lot of topics. No, I'm with you. Stay. Rely on me. If you could. edit your life. and choose. the beginning of.

practicing music. and singing. not to be. the beginning that you had. but you postpone it till. around the age of sixteen. or let's say eighteen. - Would you edit it? - Maybe I would have not. reach where I am now. But would you? If you had. If you had some device. that lets you edit the past. at the stage I'm in now. with where I am? I wouldn't edit anything. You'd leave it as it is? As it is. Even if you lose a phase. Of course. I wouldn't edit or change anything. because I believe.

that everything that happened. is what brought me to where I am now. and I really love where I am now. and I am really, I mean, proud. of it. Do you feel that. that. most children cannot handle. the approach that you followed? It takes a certain type of personality? Correct. Not everyone can. handle it, of course. First of all, not everyone can handle responsibility.

There are even adults who cannot handle responsibility. It depends on temperament. and on character. also. what they lived through. but. all three together. not only what they lived through. their personality and temperament. also play a big role. It's a package. I feel that. Maybe someone else. who lived my childhood.

I don't know. maybe would not have reached. what I have reached now. and maybe would have reached. different places. but surely everything plays a role. and every person is different from the other. No one is identical. I feel that your father saw this. I feel that your father noticed that. In what sense? He knew that this girl can do it. even if the girl is upset and complaining.

but this girl has the qualities. to be able to endure and carry on. Maybe, but his faith. is what made him come all the way here. his way of thinking got him here. because. I feel that. his dreams. and his thinking. and he visualized me. before seeing me in reality. He imagined me. and he kept thinking. about this thing.

and he made it happen. I believe in this too. Yes, but I feel that your father. if he had tried it on. any of his other children. or let's say hypothetically. a different daughter. from the girls. We can call her whatever. Leila. If he had. a girl called Leila. One of my siblings? No, we're just imagining. a character. He had a daughter. called Leila. and he had those dreams. but he noticed. that after six months or a year. the girl cannot handle it, he cannot continue, even if.

there is a conflict between his dreams. and this personality, it cannot handle it. - You - Right. He said, ''She can do it''. You know? even if she does not like it. No, if I push a little. She can do it. Right. So, he continued. Right. He saw that. the dream. is in this girl. Right. I feel it's like that. Right. Otherwise it would be a life shock. but he would accept it. because had he felt that. I'm not accepting it. maybe he would have. felt that.

his dreams are turning into sorrow. He wouldn't have continued. Right. but maybe he felt there was a response. and that there was. Right. There was a spark. There was a spark, right. Do you like fame? Now I do. Why now? Because now I'm in it. I'm talking to you about now. in the present, of course I love it. Do you feel that fame. brings loneliness?

It reduces. privacy. You cannot live the way you want. You don't have. I mean. this is the least I can say. that I don't have. privacy in my life. but. There are advantages. theres's, as I told you. there are many advantages to it. and there are things like that. that. do not let you. at all times.

do whatever you want. go wherever you want. be happy wherever you want to be. A hoodie and sunglasses. They recognize me. Right. For example, you. if you are wearing a hoodie. and if you are wearing. - My nose - Sunglasses. my nose reveals me. and if your nose is covered. I know you from your laugh. because your laugh is nice. Thank you, bless you.

You said. you are happy. in your life. and you choose happiness. Have you been depressed at any stage of your life? “Depressed” is a big word. Right. Depression is a big word. No. and I don't like people who belittle the word. ''I was just sad, and depressed''. Depression. it is an illness. Some people need medication. That's why I told you, ''No, never''. It has to do with everything. Sometimes I meet a person.

I don't meet often. for example, or me and her. She tells me, I miss you. I feel that. I miss you. is a big word. Missing. for someone to miss another. there has to be memories. and things in common. and other stuff. we talk. but. I don't know. I feel that. there are words. that should not be said unless it is. coming from inside, not from your mouth. from your heart. So, no, depression. is a big word and I'm not depressed.

Thank God. Thank God. I talk a lot about depression. because I know a lot of people suffer from it. I ask them a lot how. they get through it. because I don't like my show. to be only about. They tell me, I was depressed. and I stop there, no. you got depressed, but how. did you treat it? How did you work on it? What did you do? because I know people are watching. and maybe someone who is. deep in depression. and sees that maybe. sports helped this person. it was a psychologist for someone else.

so I am giving. them ideas. that no, there is treatment, That's why. I like to get into these topics. with solutions. Not just a story. What does love mean. to you? It depends on which love you're talking about. tell me. what's on your mind. I mean, love. for a person, or love for things? or love for work. or love for what? Let's talk about love. First of all, in general. First, for example. love of children.

love of children is the most beautiful thing in the world. the love of children themselves. it makes you live. it renews your life. It makes. I don't know. there is a feeling. even my children. and even the children. all the children who. who come to my concerts. and I see them. because my audience is from age 5 to 90. and I have gone. into every home. I mean.

into the family. So, I see. only seeing. children around me. being happy. and wearing clothes that are new. and cute, and they come. to attend my concerts. I feel happy. As if. you brought me back to life again. this is the love of children. What about romantic love? Romantic love. Do you know Fairuz's song? I know some. When you are.

when. When you feel that. you want to say that. If I come back to you, I'll get mad. and if I leave you, I'll suffer. I can neither leave. nor can I stay. This is love. Love for a person. very. very deep. actually not deep, very.

Contradictory? Contradictory, of course. Messed up, for sure. otherwise it wouldn't be. this love that has. fast heartbeats. What do you feel are. the components of love? What is it that makes love? between two people? I don't know. Do you think it's respect, for example? Trust? Attraction. Chemistry? No, these come with time. but love. first of all.

no one knows how to explain it. It cannot be explained. at first. it cannot be explained. The first. half hour or hour. It cannot be explained. Later, you start to explain it. Correct. Now, sometimes you explain it. sometimes. its explanation drives you far away. and it sometimes brings you closer. getting you even closer. It depends. I mean, it depends. on how the two of you are.

How much they have. together. how much there is. I'm not going to tell you, respect and trust. those things, of course. those have to come. otherwise it becomes. There starts to be. That's it, I mean. but. before those. the closeness. and before we reach. understanding. and dialogue. and respect. before we get to those. there's love. you asked me about love. This is love. the contradictions. Where you are.

not knowing whether you're hungry or full. not knowing whether you feel hot. or cold. not knowing whether you are happy. or upset. or you have an emotion. whether you want to cry or laugh. This is love. It's all about those confusions. And marriage? Is marriage hard? It can be hard. and it can also not be hard. Both are possible. There are marriages. that are hard.

and there are sweet marriages. What do you think makes it a sweet one? It differs from one person to another. It differs. from the very beginning. It differs. based on treatment, here. after love. here comes. understanding. then comes respect. then comes. today, to be able to live in the same house. with a person. I mean. If you're not one.

if both of you are not one. you. you cannot. I mean, you cannot. you cannot live with someone when you keep. not feeling that you are them. and they are you. and that you two. are not on the same wavelength. not on the same. way of thinking. on the same goal. on the same dreams. If there's no understanding. If there's no dialogue. dialogue is very important to me.

dialogue and understanding. marriage doesn't last without them. because marriage is love. of course. with all of those things. Sometimes, love increases after marriage. the two people become very. close to each other. more than before. Not that they understand each other more. It becomes. with marriage there is. not only that. he is my husband.

but my love. which is more important than him being my husband. My love. because he can be. he can be my husband. but not be my love. My friend. There are many. there are. here love splits into types. Sometimes, I want to love him. like my son. I want to love him like my friend. I want to love him like my husband. I want to love him like my lover. I want to love him like. my brother, I don't know. I want to see in him all kinds of love. and of course, plus understanding.

and respect. this is how I see it. in my humble opinion. A beautiful answer. It's a very, very. nice answer. In your opinion, what do you see as. the most important three things. in a healthy marriage relationship? The three most important things? I told you. Let's simplify them. Simplify them? - You've got into philosophy - You felt that the answer was...

I should write a book about this point. Let's sum them up. three things you find necessary. for any happy and healthy marriage. you would say, these are. the most important components. there are other things, but these three. I feel that. one thing is. always. I feel that. if both people have it. they will last. they will live. in agreement. of course apart from. dialogue and understanding. and love. and shared life. I feel there should be no “I”.

You mean ego. I mean, the word. “I” disappears between them. they become one. they become. I mean. Careful, this answer is a bit. it has. also. different aspects. because I. don't really like. the woman being above the man.

I don't really like that. My personality, I mean. because this thing leads. to many things. that have a negative effect. both on the woman. and the man. This is just my opinion. but what I mean. is not from that angle. that there shouldn't be any ego. It doesn't mean. that the woman is like the man. No. but that they should be one state. for them to be one soul. that they are. one person in two people.

I mean, and the most important thing also is that. each one. cares about the other’s feelings. Today, when I care about. the feelings. of my husband. I don't hurt him with words. automatically. I respect him. I do the things that. make him comfortable and that he loves. and when I make him comfortable. then he shows me the version. of himself that I love.

Right. That's it. It's a cycle. It keeps going. I saw a video, it said. that the thing that. starts love is not the thing that keeps love. How? It was trying to explain. He said it in a nicer way. He said. the beginning of love. and how you. fall in love. is not what. makes love last. the beginning is simple. chemistry over chemistry, as you said. - attraction - Right. We liked each other.

Right. but what makes it last for years. is something else. something different. not the thing you started with. Exactly. Of course it's not what you started with. I told you. the love of. if I come back to you, I'll get mad. and if I leave you, I'll suffer. Then, I told you. for love to last. if we want. to think about marriage. we get to the other aspects. alongside love. He said. what makes marriage last. is if there's goodness in people.

It's a nice way. his answer is nice. He said, if there is goodness in you. towards each other. it's almost close to what you said. you said if he cares about you feeling. and you care about his feelings. you fear for his feelings. and you're kind. You know, kindness. is huge. I mean, the magnitude. of kindness in a relationship. kindness doesn't mean. you're kind when you're relaxed and refreshed. No, kindness is when you are upset. and you want to be rude. but you say. No.

He doesn't deserve it. for example. Nice. your words are nice. If I just sit and hurt. This is nice. words hurt. 100%. You are right. but. Sometimes I. for example, sometimes. I hear. a couple, for example. who say that we. are always making an effort. to keep the relationship going. but I don't agree with that. because if the relationship only continues with effort. it becomes like.

an obligation. or it becomes like duties. or you become. you're working. How do you go to a job you don't love? So, I prefer that. things are spontaneous. and for the feelings. should be spontaneous. that we do not need effort. to live together. Life is naturally easy. we love life together. That's a nice point. but. effort means.

you have something. you're not convinced about. or do not like. but you're putting effort. so it continues and you live. How long will you be able to go on? It becomes homework. Homework. I can maybe understand. that someone says, for example. we must go on a date once a week together. He and his wife. for example, every Saturday. They pick a restaurant. Maybe this is the effort. or the work. But you have to be. excited for the outing. not like. I have to go out now.

You don't want that. - It's not nice, you know - Of course not. No. So, I don't know. I understand when they say. there has to be effort. rather than a lazy person. for example, I don't like it when. married couples. He has a belly. and her, I don't know what happened to her. even in appearance, they aren't nice anymore. Their bodies used to look good. before marriage. after marriage, biryani. and what now. That's it. They don't look good together. - I say - Biryani. What happened? What changed? but it's nice that you care about your looks.

and she cares about how she looks. and you still. - You must find each other attractive - Be careful. you are a third party watching. maybe they are comfortable and happy. Maybe they really love biryani. I don't know. and they love each other. with the biryani. They even eat each other up. Eat, my love, eat. I made biryani for you at 3 a.m. Come. Before you sleep. But I mean. I feel there is something. there is a word in English. maybe in Arabic it's negligence. there are a lot of people. after they get married, they become complacent.

which is maybe complacency. That's it, she is mine. I put the ring on. That's it, I don't need to put in effort. I never need to be romantic. I don't need to flirt with her like before. That's it, she's mine. and this is very dangerous. in any relationship. to think, I've secured her. or she thinks I secured him. That's why I said there has to be dialogue. Dialogue is very important. I mean, if. if one of them. starts feeling this. there is a conversation, there is. they have to talk. She tells him I'm not happy with this. and I feel such and such.

and he tells her, I feel such and such. when there's communication and understanding. maybe. Things will change. Now, but if. there was a conversation. and it didn't work. and then there was a conversation again. and it still didn't work. then that means they are. these two people are not meant for each other. It's not. not that one person. I mean, then it's not that he wants to. That is it. we got married, we are obliged. No, but there are times. when there are things.

that pass. some things are normal. and some things, no, that are not normal. especially if they keep repeating. and get bigger. there's a part that stays upset. and it didn't work. and they didn't fix it. It keeps recurring. then there will be a separation. What is this obsession people have. with you. about Nancy and divorce. I was upset when I saw in the research.

I feel they ask you that question a lot. Where? Nancy and divorce. Why is the audience obsessed? Like, by force. I feel they want you to divorce by force. This rumor. I don't know. how it started. I feel some people are obsessed. they like to see people divorced. like by force. even if things are going fine. they don't want to divorce. No, by force. maybe some people don't like to see. two people getting along. or two people together. It has become very common now. it has become rare. to see.

a couple. together and getting along. and they don't have problems. God bless. Yes, it's rare. They don't have problems. that picture has become rare. as if it were a discovery. or as if it were something new. to them. They are not seeing. much of it. So that's why they imagine. and they think that. No, like we're seeing many people like that. It's impossible that. they would be an exception there.

So, they try to drag us into. but it is just. with the majority but it is just. with the majority. But, I mean. It's just talk. Why do you feel that a lot? See how hard fame is? back to the topic of fame. If I weren't famous. who would have brought it up? They wouldn't care. Why do you feel that divorce nowadays. is very high? very. because there is no longer the ability. the ability to tolerate. neither with words. nor with actions.

There is no, no one. no one tolerates a word. no one. sacrifices. sacrifice has become very rare. I don't know. This is what I'm seeing. I mean. What I am seeing. in the people around me. that I know. who are getting divorced. I feel that, you know, divorce is happening over very silly things. more than over deep things. and important things.

I mean. one argument. no one can put up with it. Even though. you argue with your mother. with your father or brother. What does it mean if you argued. with your husband. or if you argued with your wife. immediately, we want to separate. I mean, there is no longer. any value to the family. and to the union. and to the child, there is none. the silly things. are what drive me crazy. not the deep things.

There are many people who do not get along. That's it. We couldn't agree. but there are people who, no, like. Right. Over simple things, I mean. They did not wait to see how it would develop. maybe it would develop for the better. you talk and understand each other. but there is no. there is no patience. Right. like everything nowadays. we cannot. kids cannot. watch a video. on TikTok.

for more than a minute. they cannot. True. There is no focus. our kids are not focusing. They cannot be patient. there is neither patience. nor focus. Right. but. the world. is currently designed. for impatience. today if you order food. on the app. If it's a bit late. - late by two minutes - They call a hundred times. Before, if he brought. you the pizza, even if it was cold. you would still be happy.

it finally arrived. Thank God, even after an hour. Today if changes from 14 minutes to 16 minutes. You get upset. I don't know, right. Before, we used to get bored. today you don't get bored. if you stop at the traffic light. you're on the phone. You are driving. You stop at the light. You do not get bored. You take out the phone. Oh, green light. before, if you stopped at the light. I'm bored, come on. When will it turn green? Now you get excited if you stop. Oh, I have a chance to check the phone. Do you know what makes me laugh? In the elevator.

Originally. you'll stay for only 18 seconds. as soon as the door closes in the elevator. What do people do? On their phones. - Even though there isn't - Ten seconds. network in the elevator. They are forced. but they cannot, like for example. No one stands like this. I always stand like this. in the elevator, I stand like this. I'm the weirdo in the lift. Staring like this. You know? And people. What's happening, man? Why are you in a rush? What will you get to do? in this quarter of a second. in which you arrive.

Weird, it's a weird world. No one gets bored. Boredom is what makes you creative. it makes you think of nice things. That is happening. with me. with my kids sometimes. and surely with other kids, and surely now if. mothers are watching me. They know how much. we suffer from. that we take our kids. on a very nice outing. to nice places. and they have fun all day. we go back home. for the first half hour. they tell me.

''There is nothing to do''. ''We are bored''. So, the word “I am bored”. not only for. our kids. even for adults. Do you know what I feel about it? I feel it's shameful. Shameful. Now, I understand our kids. a little, maybe they are. saying it. just like that, quickly. I don't know. Even though. surely if. you let a child. all day. do one activity. maximum one or two.

only the things he likes. and the rest. of his time should be. at home. not doing anything. so that he has time. to invent something to entertain himself with. to create, to dream. to develop. to expand. his imagination. This time of boredom is what makes him develop. Right. but when an adult. says “I am bored”. I feel it is shameful. you're not supposed to get bored at this age. you should, even you.

when you are sitting alone. your mind. should not be, like. empty. your mind alone. without the phone. should stop you from getting bored. your thoughts, your dreams. your imagination. I don't know. Take a book to read. Watch a movie. let your thoughts take you somewhere else. but just “I am bored”. is also a big word, like “depressed”. Right. “I am bored” is the same. The word “I am bored”. is not nice at all.

How do you feel. when you see your daughters? All three? How I feel? I feel that. this is the best achievement I have done in my life. Better than music and all. the awards? And the fame? And everything? With them. With them. It's a nice answer. Honest. a real answer, because truly, with them. of course I have done many achievements that I love. before I got married and had kids. Right. Big achievements.

and dreams I have achieved. I'm still dreaming until now. and I want to achieve many things. and among. My daughters. are among the achievements that I. also consider. very beautiful in my life. Are their personalities different? Each one is different from the other. Nice, you never get bored. No, no. We don't have boredom at home. Which one is the main character? I have a lot. I have two. generations, I mean. I have a six year old.

who is. I watch Netflix. I watch Disney. I play. with Barbie and so on. and with the grown ups. our games are different. and our conversations are different. our outings are different. Nice. Have you heard about. the cube test? The test? The cube test. - No - Nice. Today we will play the cube game. This is a really nice question.

but I need. imagination. You're an artist. so your imagination should go far. Okay. So, close your eyes for me please. Nancy. Okay, now imagine with me. It has been a long time since I asked this, nice. Imagine. a barren empty desert. completely empty. not even you are there. just a desert. There's nothing at all. and all of a sudden. You only see a cube. Describe the cube to me. What do you mean by cube?

- A cube - Okay. Describe the cube for me. I didn't understand the question. Cube? A desert. How should I describe it? A desert. If you keep your eyes closed. you and I are imagining. an empty desert. and suddenly you see a cube appear. A cube. Now when you said cube. - Describe it - It's a cube. Describe it to me. - I imagined a cube - Big or small? No, not very big. How big? Not this small. The size of a chair. Meaning I can sit on it.

Okay, is it transparent? Do you see inside it or not? No, it's not transparent. Okay, is it on the surface. of the desert, floating? Or inside the sand? On the surface of the desert. On the surface of the desert, okay. Should I keep my eyes closed? Yes, keep them, better. Why, there is nothing I can read? No, no, I know. but it depends on your imagination. If it's better with your eyes closed, keep them closed. Then you said. Okay, after.

the cube, Nancy. all of a sudden you see a ladder. a ladder. Where is the ladder? According to the cube? Far from it. Far from it, okay. Taller or shorter? Taller. New or old? Old. Okay. After the ladder. If you would please. Is the ladder more than twelve steps or less? Six. Six steps.

Okay, God bless. You're precise. Okay, after the ladder. You see a horse. Where is the horse? The ladder is here. The cube is here. The horse is here. Is the horse moving or not? It is moving, but not its body. It's moving its head like this. constantly looking up and turning. Waiting for something. Okay, does it have a saddle or not? The thing.

Where you sit? The thing you hold. Is there a saddle or not? Yes, there is. There is, okay. And it has the place we sit on. The seat, okay nice. What does the horse look like? Brown. Its color is brown. A bit dark. Its hair is long like this. Beautiful. Okay. Its tail is moving like this. and it has a lot of hair.

After that, now we have. the cube. the ladder. the horse. Then, you see flowers. Where are the flowers? I actually see. the desert basically. not really flat. I see it flat. But I can see somewhere with. a kind of hill. in the desert. the ladder is leaning on this hill. Okay? The flowers start from its edge. and they end. at a place I cannot see. As if I see. that flowers are starting.

and maybe. all the way down is full of flowers. Close to the ladder? Yes, close to the ladder. Where is the horse in relation to the flowers? Here. The cube is here. The flowers start here and end there. The ladder is here. What is the condition of the flowers? Pink in color. Healthy or unhealthy? Wilted or alive? No, alive. Okay. The last thing. you see a storm. Where is the storm? Up in the sky. - Far? - Far away. And does. the storm affect any.

of the other elements? No, it's. it's. turning on its own. Okay. Now open your eyes. Let me explain to you. They call it the Kokology cube test. By a Japanese psychologist. It talks about. the subconscious mind. The unconscious. Okay. Nancy. The cube, you said. Was not very small and not very big.

almost medium, you said. roughly the size of the chair. A big cube. means you are a person. who is more self confident. bold, strong, and eager to be seen. If it's small, you might be the type who is. more modest or shy. and sometimes introverted. who prefers blending more than. standing out and being distinguished, You are in between. You have. an introverted side. and a social side maybe. It stands on the surface. of the desert. This indicates stability. You are rational and precise. and you probably know.

what you want from life. and you work hard to get it. We have finished this. a solid cube. You said it wasn't transparent, right? You know who you are. You are confident in yourself. and it's not easy to manipulate you. Oh wow. Go on! Good. Now the ladder. I don't want to go. The ladder. is far from the cube. means that you. probably solve most of your problems. without help. from family and friends.

Okay, and a separate ladder. indicates that you're a person. who is more self confident and independent. They just said that if it is big. it means you have a lot of confidence. and if it's medium. you are less confident. There's a contradiction. What? No. This is the ladder. the ladder is separate. Now we moved to the ladder. After the ladder. You said it was higher than the cube. Right? Yes, the ladder is higher. You value your friends and family. and care about them.

Then you said. a six-step ladder. six means. It says between 3 and 5, you prefer to have. a small number of friends. Then, the horse. is the partner. the ideal partner. You said, cube. ladder, horse. you said. it depends on its distance. the horse moving away from the cube.

means. No. If it is close, it means a close relationship. and far means insecurity in the relationship. The horse that is moving. beside the cube. a relationship. Is a sign of a relationship. The words are difficult. - Many 'A' Sounds - A sign. of a new relationship. and strengthening the bonds of an old relationship. Interesting. but you said it didn't move much. so it was still. If it has a saddle. You feel safe with your life partner.

If his physique is strong. this means. that you trust your partner. and that he has the qualities you want. Thank you, Nancy's husband. The flowers are. the children. The number of flowers. indicates the number of children you want to have. and have around you. In general, you love children. So there are many. A flourishing, vibrant garden that reflects. the health of your children. their prosperity, and also your relationship. with them.

If they're in good health. What is nice is that. you said the flowers were. The cube. ladder, horse, flowers. So, If the flowers were very close to the cube. It does not always reflect. a strong relationship. Sometimes it means. a dependent relationship. meaning your children are a bit too much. I wouldn't call them spoiled. but they don't know. They do not have their own independence. People think that if the flowers are on the cube. That's the best, no.

It means there's a lot of dependence. You can't separate. yourself from your children. nor do they know how to separate themselves. So they are between the three elements. between you and your husband. and between family and friends. because the ladder is family and friends. So they're surrounded. - Yes, that's interesting - Nice. - Yes - Of course. Its position. I will not over philosophize. but it's interesting. What else? The storm. is the fears and pressures that you have. in life.

The storm. that is far away. means you are calmer. but the closer the storm gets. the more threat there is. but it was far away. And then I asked you. whether it affected anything, you told me. the storm passes over the elements. without affecting them. You have the ability. to overcome difficulties. and you have the ability to solve problems. Yes. That's it. You wanted to ask me. whether every question was right or wrong. Now you tell me. If you feel it's accurate or not.

But it is hard for someone to lie. about this question. It's hard. No. - He is not aware - Why would he lie? No, he is not aware while he is answering. No, no. Why would he lie? If he doesn't know. - What it meant - Right. You cannot. what it meant. Right. That's why I like this question. Sometimes. When do I like to ask it? is after they talk about love. after they talk. I see if there is a contradiction or not. But it's always an interesting question. Now, these questions. I loved when it mentioned safety. The saddle.

by the way. also when. you asked me about marriage as well. this is also. an important point I forgot to tell you about. that feeling safe is very important. in marriage. Safety. Right. Especially when a woman feels safe. - with her husband - I was just going to say that. A woman. Sometimes. when I talk. to any of the women. or ladies. They tell me. Anas, sometimes. a woman needs to mirror the energy. that the man gives her. If the man is making her feel tense at home. Don't expect the woman. to be in.

her femininity. She will be in masculine energy. pushy and strong. and not. emotionally open. not vulnerable. but if the man makes her feel stable and safe. you'll see her become a little girl. Right. It becomes. It becomes playful. Yes. Okay, these are. maybe simpler questions. What attracts you most in a person?

Body language. It's the first time. I hear this answer. and. I mean. From the very first time. the greeting and interaction. with the person. Do you know how to read all these things easily? I read. Not that I read everything. but what attracts me at first. Either I feel attracted and it makes me. curious. to discover more. to learn more about him. Or not, straightaway.

I'm not interested, If you didn't know your age. How old would you be? I don't have an idea. If you didn't know your biological age. How old would you feel? Based on my life experience, I am 100 years old. From the inside? I have several ages. sometimes you'll find me six years old. I go back to my childhood. and sometimes you'll find me. as if I am 100. and sometimes.

- Nice - In between. What do you spend most of your money on? Now, this is an answer. I want to answer a bit logically. according to what I like and what I don't. Well, Of course I spend on. on. my outer appearance. since I am. a public figure. I mean, of course. I need to. always be. dressed nicely.

but what I mostly. love to spend. spend my money on. is having fun, travel and food. and cuisines. like. new cuisines, like discovering. for example. a really good restaurant. in a certain country. while I'm there. The first thing I think about is. where to go, to which restaurant. to go out, explore the country.

but not alone, surrounded by my team. my people, my friends. I like to have fun with them. so that is where. I feel the happiest. When I'm. with people I love. we are discovering. or we are having fun together. over food, an outing. and so on. So you're a foodie? - Like me - I love to discover. I'm crazy about food. Tell me about any place. I have a full list. You're crazy about food? I love food a lot. but you don't eat. I swear, I eat.

but I work out every day. Like me. six times a week. I eat a bit of Nutella. but not a lot, moderately. Just to taste. I enjoy it. but that's it, thank you. The most embarrassing situation. you have ever been through. I told you that I memorize. faces, not names. So, many times. I end up. meeting people.

I am supposed to know. I am supposed to know their names. I want to introduce them to Fadi, for example. to someone. who is with me. I know them very well. but I forgot their names. - Me too - I forget names. Have you you ever been embarrassed on stage? Like something went wrong. or the mic broke. or you sang wrong. No. The mic broke. maybe the sound cuts out sometimes. but that's not embarrassing for me. these are normal things. that happen.

I handle them very. spontaneously and naturally. but no. some embarrassing moments are. for example, I want to welcome. I want to welcome someone. and I don't know their name. This person. and I love them. I really like them. I know them. I like them. But I don't know their name. Go ahead. Do you find yourself beautiful?

Very. Of course. Are you for cosmetic surgeries. or against them? If there is a need, yes. but not for my face to change. I do not like to change my looks. In general? I don't like to change. my features. there are things I love about myself. I don't want them to change. now, small things. if something simple needs fixing. I don't mind. I am not against. fixing myself. For any woman.

are you for cosmetic surgeries? or against them? Yes, if there is a need. - I don't support - If needed. someone doing something extra that they don't need. and their face changes, for example. like. they lose. they lose. their natural features. Do you think cosmetic surgery. should require approval from a psychologist. before they do the procedure? And if they get the approval.

what happens? To know if the person is addicted. to cosmetic surgeries. or that they have mental stability. If he gets it. and if then. it shows that the person is not addicted. they go and do the cosmetic surgery. and their features change. What happens? because I see people who get addicted. and it becomes a cycle. They change everything. then change this or that. It becomes. The insecurity never stops. it increases. This is what needs a doctor. a psychologist. not the cosmetic procedure itself. because a person. who is insecure.

it's not just about. cosmetic surgery. there are many things. - they do in their lives - which they don't solve. Their life won't be free. from problems. True. Something that used to make you happy. but doesn't make you happy now. What's this question? I want to think. Something that used to make me happy before. but doesn't make me happy anymore.

Maybe. spending time with people. spending time with people. I thought that. being with them was nice. Then, I realized that. I wish I hadn't spent time with them. An insecurity you've had for years. An insecurity I have? Like an insecurity. you've had all of your life. Look, We are at a point. There is always.

sometimes we. feel insecure in certain areas. That's normal. the circumstances we lived through. the fear we lived through. like I said, from war. from lack of safety sometimes. This creates in us. things we can. discover in ourselves. with age. I mean, but. Either it affects us very negatively. very negatively. or we can. overcome it. but as for an insecurity.

No. I cannot call it an insecurity. maybe there are things. I don't like about myself. but not an insecurity. not an insecurity. Something you cannot forgive. I cannot forgive. someone who. who fooled me. I mean who lied to me. and I later found out that.

all of those. expressions. the sincere ones. that I saw. were lies. I feel that. I do not want to. talk to him or her again. The hardest truth. you learned about yourself. The hardest? Something not nice?

It's not a must. The hardest. thing you didn't expect about yourself. but discovered about your personality. or in yourself. Well, I am a person. who analyzes a lot. this is something I don't like about myself. I analyze and analyze. constant analysis. like. I hear a word. I want to analyze it. Why was it said. and at which time. Should it have not been said? and if it was said. I dig and analyze. this really exhausts me. and I don't like it about myself. I'm getting tired.

and I'm not always. reaching a conclusion that I like. Sometimes it makes me reach conclusions. I say. Why did I do this? To get here? I could have not done it. in the first place. and I overthink a lot too. I think a lot. about things. that I could. not think about. but I cannot. What does your inner voice sound like?

My inner voice? Inside your brain. and what does it say to you? Everyone has. a voice in their head. it talks to you. Go to the gym, no. What's the voice like? that's on Nancy's mind. I think. a lot about tomorrow. There is a voice. the voice of the future. Is that voice. motivating or negative? or complaining? Not negative. It is nice, but.

it scares me. I mean, because. it's unknown to me. I get scared. Even though I think positively. but I still have this. fear or question mark. “Be careful”. Yes. Be careful. I was raised. to be aware since I was little. because I became aware very early. I became aware. I don't mean waking up from sleep. I became aware. I was always.

my dad would always tell me. “Be careful”. So this “be careful”. is still with me. I hear its echo sometimes. that I. always have to be. aware. I cannot. ignore things. I always have to be aware. and always. have my mind clear. and always be alert. I mean. his words. and how he. raised me to be.

constantly aware. I feel that even when I'm asleep. my head keeps working all the time. There is awareness even in sleep. I never. imagined that. for example, I can sit. sitting with my friends. in a way where. I say whatever I want. for example. or, for example, act however I want. No, there is no. such thing as “whatever I want”. There is contradiction in my personality. I am someone very natural and genuine.

but. alert. inside me. I cannot control this. I'm someone who is always alert. someone who is aware. more than. just awareness, I mean. I understand. I don't know how to explain it further. but I'm sure. - No, I understand - you understood. But is there any. - not fear of - person. - something or another person - I understand. I am someone. who has to always stay cautious. Only that.

Was there a time you weren't cautious? I mean. maybe with your daughters. I don't know. with your husband. or with yourself. maybe with no one. where you are, for example, silly and goofy. laughing and doing whatever you love to do. With my awareness. by a decision from me. That's it. This is the struggle that I'm in. I am telling you that. I mean. it is not spontaneous.

Of course, I am spontaneous. but. by a decision. I decide to be spontaneous. You scare me. because I sometimes think. the same way. What does Lebanon mean to you? So many beautiful things. My family. Beirut, Lebanon. is my family. My family and my people.

I told you, I feel it. like a soul. I cannot live without. I cannot live without. I cannot live without Lebanon. I can only live in Lebanon. ''I cannot live without you''. Do you know this song of mine? No. - ''I can only be yours'' - I should listen to it. Oh, ''''I cannot live''. I recognized it, see? Thank God, I recognized it. I mean, even. in the hardest circumstances. I always think that if. my dad is sick or my mom is sick.

would I leave them and go? I cannot imagine that. I mean, I never imagined I could do that. with everything. we have gone through. Am I not able to leave? I am able to leave, of course. Financially, I am able. to be realistic. I am able to take my children. and tell my husband. ''Please, let's leave''. but I really cannot at all. I mean I cannot live without. I have. I have a sense of belonging.

to my country. to my home, to my people, to my memories, These are the things. I cannot get out of. nor away from. My heart won't let me. So, that's why I feel that. in the difficult times. when I most have to stay. next to. the one I love. Lebanon is. someone, a soul that I love so much. I want to stay with it.

in the difficult times. Now, I'm not saying. unless something happens. where we are all forced to leave. and obliged to. but as long as there is a choice. and even when there is difficulty. in staying. I want to stay. I just can't. If you could. Nancy, teach. every child in the world. one lesson. What would you teach them? Curiosity.

Nice. Because. When someone is curious. since they're little. They learn so many things. Right. They discover. True. and when they have curiosity. and they ask. I love the child who asks. ''Why?''. ''How?''. Because they learn. so many things. they grow. they mature.

their ideas grow. their mind. expands. They discover, they know. they are taught. Even if sometimes. they say wrong things in front of them. and they ask. but a time comes when they know. that. This is right. This is wrong. I love a curious child. It shows. Now, we will ask. a question from the card game. I will give you a copy later.

You can play it with the family. Shuffle them for me, please. We will pick one for you. Mix. Can we cheat or not? What does that mean? Like this? We cheat. You look? No, we'll pick one by chance. Choose one. and I will ask you. any card.

Okay, alright. Oh, nice question. Okay. I will ask you the question. this is the style of the answer. So I'll ask. then you throw this. this is the style. If you had information. that could harm your friend's relationship. with their partner. Would you tell them about it? Throw it. What's this question? Throw it. Nice question.

In one word. A single word. - Yes or No? - Yes or No. If you had information. that could harm a friend's relationship. with their partner. Repeat the question slowly. English or Arabic? Arabic. If you had. information. that could harm. a friend's relationship. with their partner. Would you tell them? No. Okay, I want to know why. Why? It says ''one word''.

but I want to ask. What? It says ''one word''. but I want to ask why. Oh! You! You have no right to ask why. I'm the one who made the game. Why wouldn't you say it? Sometimes. I feel. Sometimes if you tell. about something not nice. that is happening. and there is someone. from the couple.

who does not know. First of all, you are. I mean, and especially. Let's say, for example. You mean there's a couple, right? - Yes - A couple. You are. ruining a family. ruining a home. ruining the children. you might be ruining the children's future. You might be destroying. an entire family. and I don't know what the outcome will be. Maybe I come. and tell her.

and her reaction is. Okay, it is fine, I already know. or maybe, for example. I tell her and something. very big happens. that leads to. something worse. than the news itself. So, I don't put. I don't take this responsibility. That's my answer. What are you afraid of? What am I afraid of? Of death.

Why? I am afraid of death. I am afraid of the idea of death. Honestly. I am very attached to things. and to people. and to life. and I don't like to lose. someone I love. and if something happens to me. I don't like. the people who love me to suffer. or to miss me. and cannot see me.

Have you lost someone you love? Thank God. I have not lost people. who are very close to me. But I have lost people I love. Of course. Friends, relatives. If. we could take you back, Nancy. and you see. little Nancy. who. takes on responsibilities. this little girl,

you know the picture better than I do. If you could see little Nancy. and you could hug her. and whisper only one thing in her ear. What do you feel. she needs to hear? Bravo. Why? Because... bravo. that I am. I'm proud of myself. I did many beautiful things.

And even if there are people. who helped me in life. a person cannot do. everything alone. But they cannot. help me if I do not want to. and if I'm not able to. and if I don't have the ability. and if I don't have the determination. and if I do not have. You know. the will. I want it. On the contrary, I. I have reached a very beautiful place.

and it cost me exhaustion. It was exhausting. I mean, I. maybe 25 years. of fame and art. along with the family I built. and over time, coordinating. between being successful. in both. and I achieved many. dreams I had. since I was little. and I achieved them. and still.

I have more dreams. I reached a place that I really love. Of course, I'd tell her. bravo, because. she is the reason. What is the most hurtful thing. someone has ever said to you? that you haven't forgotten? More than hurtful. words. There are some behaviors.

I feel that. it's a person trying to tell me. "So what if you are Nancy Ajram?". So, those are people I cannot get close to. I cannot talk to them again. That's it, only once. As soon as I see them. I know, I feel there is. resentment in their hearts. and hatred. I don't like to get close to them. Moreover, I feel that they. have no self-confidence. because when.

a person wants to. break. the person in front of them. it means they have an inferiority complex. Right So, I don't get close to. those people because it's toxic. So, I don't like that. I leave. May God grant you a long life. Nancy. God willing. If today. were the last night of your life. and you could not.

reach anyone. Who is the person. you would be the saddest. about not being able to talk to? I can't answer. Not one person. There are many people. who love me. and they will be upset. if I don't talk to them. I would be upset to upset them.

There isn't just one person. Who are the most. important people you must talk to? or that you. wish you had talked to. My first answer. my parents, children and husband. That's the first answer. and everyone. around me. I used to feel. always.

how loyal they were. their affection. their love for me. and how they worry about me. I consider them also like someone. close to me. like someone. I would talk to them too. I would talk to everyone I work with. my team. I would call them because. I know how much they love me. and how much they worry about me.

Do you express a lot. to your children. about how much you love them? To your daughters? May I tell you who else? Go ahead. If there were. like. in one word or one shout. To all the people who love me. because I have a huge audience. They need to hear a word from me. before I go. Okay. Let's say, God willing. you have a long life. God willing. with good health. and with achievements. and you saw your daughters grow up.

each one with her own personality. with her own life. one gets married. the other wants to... you saw that. and then you left. I left, you mean I died? You passed away. And then. Your three daughters. know about this interview. but mom is not here anymore. But they know that in every period. they go through that's difficult. or a challenge. they can go on YouTube. and they can skip.

to this moment. until this minute. because they're going through a tough situation. But they know about this. the clip they always need to hear. in any challenge in their lives. So, they come and skip. What do you feel your daughters. must hear from their mom? After you're gone. You're asking me something. that's not letting me think, because. it's affecting my emotions. I mean. You know, it's not. I can't.

really. think. this way. about this situation. You know what I mean? They will hear that. that life has to go on. with all its circumstances. I mean, they must be. and if. they want to let me be at peace. where I am. they have to carry on. carry on and not think. not think about anything.

that makes them sad. In order to put them. more at ease, they can think that. we're all going to the same place. This idea is a bit. God willing. there will be. there will be a reunion. But the question is heavy. it is not really. a nice. question to answer.

Why does it tire you? Why does thinking about this exhaust you? No, because. There are things. in life that you. cannot really. talk about and express so much. Emotionally, you cannot. You know, I think a lot. about the relationship between me and them. I mean, but when I go. I worry about them. You know? I mean.

I'm afraid they will miss me. It's not a nice feeling. to miss someone you love. Do you get me? I know the difficulty. of longing. You cannot do anything about it. I hope they don't hear it now. Okay. That's it.

May God protect your daughters. Thank you. You too. Your children as well. Amen. May I leave before them. This. this. I don't want any change. This. it's how it should naturally be.

We must go before them, of course. and it will break them. but. But I prefer it that way. I don't think any mother or father. should bury their children. It's not how life is meant to be. No, it's not. not the natural order of life. Right. I was going to ask you. Are you. because you. had talked about awareness. and that even when you want. to be. spontaneous,

spontaneity comes as a decision. So, you are a person. who is very much. in control of your life. A person who's very. in control of their life. is afraid of the things they cannot control. Right. because they are used. to being able to control. Right. I'm afraid of the things I cannot control. I don't make myself. reach that point. Are you. very protective of your feelings? Do you shut down your emotions? I mean, very. much in control of your emotions? You don't show. too much happiness. too much sadness or crying.

Or are you vulnerable? I cannot always control. my emotions. No. I cannot. always. control, and not. in every place. There are places you're forced to control. your emotions at. in other places, you don't. you feel that. I mean. there's something stronger than you. Look, I, I am someone who. is emotional.

I told you, I am natural. I mean there are things. that happen to me naturally. but most of the time. I. can. I can control. the situations. I let. myself. be. in full awareness. that I need to be in. I notice. even when I talk to you. about something sensitive. you compose yourself. and you adjust yourself. Yes, because I told you. You don't go deep.

You're afraid. You try to pull yourself back. but. I didn't tell you something. that wasn't accurate. I want. my heart to say it. before my mouth. I didn't tell you anything wrong. I'd prefer not to say. I know this, I am aware of that. So, if I can take Nancy's heart. and remove it. and keep it outside. No, no, it is busy now. you cannot take it. No, hypothetically. Okay.

psychologically. we take Nancy's heart. and put it outside. What would Nancy's heart say to Nancy? Today. What would my heart tell me? What my heart would say to someone. without a heart? No, I mean. think about it. as a question, I can separate. the logic and mind. from the heart. as much as you have lived. and have been through hardships. and you have seen. and loved and everything. I take your heart. What does your heart need? What does your heart want to convey to you?

If your heart could speak. What would it say to Nancy? Look, I have become better. I became better when I started. in the beginning. it was only my heart that worked. All my decisions and all. and all. my stories. they were dictated only by my heart.

But the more a person. grows older. the more. their mind starts to work more. I mean. Wisdom comes with age. So, now when. my heart. and my mind started to coordinate. I became better. because the heart is weaker than the mind. And when I. used to. let only my heart work. I was weaker than now.

Now I can. even my heart. sometimes has a mind of its own. So, my heart can. say to Nancy. that. It's good that. you're not using me alone. Nice. It's better that. my mind is also. working with me. they're teaming up. so you can. make the right decisions. Sometimes, you know. the decisions that. come only. from your heart. are very often right. and I. I follow my feelings.

and I follow. what my intuition. tells me. very often it turns out to be right. But when my mind works. I feel that. there is. more. balance, and more. rightness. So, that's what it would say. And this thing, with every. I mean, every year. there is more wisdom.

Last question. Nancy, in one word. Nancy. What does it mean? Nancy. What does Nancy mean? This person. If we removed your name. this person in one word. Impossible. there is no word. there is only one Nancy for me. That's it. But what does it mean? There is no word that can equal Nancy. There is nothing you can say. about Nancy. Nancy is Nancy. In everything.

with the good and bad. and in everything, Nancy. But okay, let me change. the question. If you and I are walking. and I tell you. You know this girl, Nancy. and Nancy is walking. You're someone else. Nancy is walking, and I tell you. This friend of yours. Nancy. Who is she, in one word? What do you feel you'd say about her? If we saw her from afar. but you know her well.

What would I say about her? Describe this person for me. who's walking there on the street. Who is she? In one word. I love her. I know that you love her. Describe her for me. as a stranger. I should describe her to you in one word? One word? That's not an easy question. I mean, We have to summarize. your whole being as a person. in one word. Human. What does that mean? There is a good person. and a bad person.

No, there is a person. who is a human being. and has humanity. and a person who doesn't have humanity. But I do not know. you said “human”. I don't know what kind of human. I want one word. No. I am explaining to you the type. I'm telling you. there is a humane person. - when someone is - I understand. a humane person. it means. there are so many things in them. They feel for people. a person who doesn't. - does not do - Oh, humane. Not human. Who has humanity. A humane person. Humane, with ''E''.

Right? Yes. Humane. Humane. Or humanity. I actually had another word. What? Curious. I'm curious? - We're done - Nice, nice. Your answer is nice. Thank you, Nancy. Thank you. Thank you!